I feel I cannot not comment after listening to this story of Namhla . I'll try and summarize my own ordeal I've bn with my husband at the tender age of 18yrs was still in high school hw was working . He wasn't that abusive in the beginning but extremely possessive I tried yo end the relationship many times but he would go to my workplace make a scene even threatened tk kill himself and me . Deep down I knew there is some loose screws in his head . He promised to change his possessiveness and we got married all went well until it came back again and again I was afraid to leave him coz I ddnt know where to go . After my 4th child I left and quietly never gave a sign I was about to live my son was 1yr few months the older ones I left them with him with intentions to come get them when am stable got a job. He looked for me until he found me in another town King Williams town and we were satying in PE . To cut short coz it's long story we went gor counseling all of them Sychologist ,sychaiatrics you name them. But later in 2001 it got worse now I started planning my exit quietly and my daughter was in Matric the others were still young . I stashed money small small in an account he ddnt know and I hide the card. In 2003 I did my exit planned everything to the T with my older daughter I was 40yrs then 22yrs in the drama. What I want to emphasize it's never late to start over it doesn't matter the time frame . I took my kids hired a taxi and ran away to train station strate to Jozi and I ddnt know any1 but God made a way . To sum it up I like the fact that you guys emphasized plan your exit quietly then boom you're gone relocate guys don't be afraid to start over iif it's what it takes for your safety and no posting about your location on any social platforms until you're hundred percent sure live a low profile life mawungaziwa muntu ukuphi . Goodluck ladies am 19yrs free from horror this December I celebrated 🍾 ♥️ my 59th birthday as a free woman never remarried never stayed with a man full time again the trauma I couldn't relive it 🙏🙏❤❤
Thank you so much my dear ,One thing we need to know the world and those people who come to us and say i love you can reject us but our God will never ever for sake us am a mother of one getting married at 30 to the abuse who told me that he is going to give R100 to people so that they can kill me but God was faith to me and my son the moment i went to visit my parents ,I told myself that this is the end of this abusive marriage and i quit that marriage now it's 4 Yrs leaving alone taking good care of myself and my son luckily am working he even threatened my boss which they endup firing me at work it breaks my heart so so much. Women let us not stay with the abusive husband/boyfriend and to our parents please welcome us back home we are your children let us not die in the hands of these socalled boyfriend thanks and again May she Rest In Peace.
@@joyedward45 yhooo Namhla story is really touching my heart. I can't get the real thing that made this young man 2 do all this. He married while Namhla was already in his life. Now my question, did he love her in the 1st place? Does he love his wife? He behaves like sum1 who's doing certain rituals abt these women. Uthwele lo mfana. Girls,girls pls b vigilant. I know u don't believe what I'll b saying now. Pls pray n askcGod 2 provide genuine husbands 4 u. God knows the heart of every individual in this world coz He created us.
Ladies never tell the abuser you are about to leave or divorce them, just plan your exit quietly. Never go to back or agree to meet them after leaving. Never accept their sorry. Don't fall for their lies nor tell them where you are. Be vigilant at all times. Remove yourself from social media, phone contact they can track you. Money isn't everything when your life is in danger from your abuser.
Apply for a job if you ca even out pf the country and leave.problem the ego bruised one's at times tend to find a way to hurt you if they don't find you to go after your family.Get a restraining order then leave the country
I met a guy who was in a circle of friends with this man and that was the last time he ever saw me. Could never date anyone who is associated with him. Birds of the same feather flock together.. RIP Namhla 💔
I always leave when l m not happy l have done it 4 times l m very happy l understand that not all of us have to be married .l enjoy my life and l don't blame myself l know l m beautiful l don't tolerate an abuse .Family members give me names but l dont care if l m sad l leave
One day I'm going to create a program that helps abused woman escape abusive relationships. Instead of questioning why they don't I'm going to help them leave
One lesson I have learned from this story is to NEVER DATE in your young age. Wait till you are at least 25 years when you know your worth and value. She was young when they got together and he was very older than her so he knew his ways around manipulation
I don't think there is anything wrong dating young, when it is done right its a great too to break social barriers and makes you get used to rejection, heartbreak etc. As long as the relationship doesn't involve sexual intercourse and you are dating your age. I am not victim shaming but problem with girls and women is how they are naturally attracted to older men or someone older than them.
Thank you for translating the message for the native English speakers. Your channel is amazing and allows non SA people to know your true crime stories. Praying for the family 🙏
Absolutely I just listened to aka’s story and I felt inluv with her channel and the fact that she translates for ppl like us to understand every thing is just another level of smartness on her part. I immediately subscribed and got my sister to too🙌🏾
I’m so glad she was able to finally see through the nonsense and leave. So many women stay for all the wrong reasons (time spent in the relationship being one of them). She did it , it didn’t end well, but you know what? She did it and that’s all that matters ❤️. May her beautiful soul rest in peace
My heart breaks listening to this and I’m not even halfway through. I’ve heard about this story but I get shocked everytime. I didn’t even know that she met him at 17? She was a child. She was a minor and he was a grown man. I didn’t even know he married his wife while with her. From the things we heard on social media, we were led to believe she was a home wrecker. My heart breaks for what this young lady had to endure💔 She was just a child, groomed from when she barely even knew herself enough to make any wise decisions.
He despised her so much yet wouldn't let her go, whyyy???? Ladies don't be afraid to kill your abusers, jail is better than this hell this woman was living. God will forgive you that's all that matters. May she rip
The pain in your voice especially when you got to her final day. That monster groomed someone's child, treated her like a possession. Then took her life because "he owned her". Someone's child vele
This case is more spiritual than anything. Only he knows what he was benefiting from Namhla spiritually...This is why he didnt want her to leave him, but at the same time he didnt love her. May her precious soul rest in Gods perfect peace!♡
I agree with you, why was he doing all these horrible things to Namhla only not to his wife? for the fact that he didnt want her to carry his bloodline and genes, it rang a bell..
There was a spiritual connection here, he used her for some sort of benefit. He didn't want her having his kids, carry his bloodline but he knew what he was using her for. But he took her life, I'm certain his life with come trembling down bit by bit.
I can't believe no one has been arrested yet. Really dreaful situation. The guy had overall control of this girl, total horror! I pray her family gets justice one way or the other. She seemed such a bubbly and bright person. May she rest in perfect peace💔💔
Even if u can have financial independence.... A man will abuse a woman because he feels emasculated by a strong independent woman.... There's no win win for a woman..... Whether u have Ur own or u don't.... An abusive man will always feel entitled to u!!!! 😢😢😢😢😢 This story has scarred me for life..... I will never ever forget this woman.... She is embedded in my mind...... For life 😭😭😭😭
I used to say if someone is in an abusive relationship they should just leave, but now I know how hard and complicated it is especially with a narcissist
Yesterday I listened to this story....I could not comment because of the pain I went thru....I was crying all the way....My prayer is someday the family will have closure....And those of us who came across her even when she passed on can close this chapter....
I've heard/watched countless GBV, DV & emotional abuse BUT dis one is d HIGHEST. Dis guy had 150% control over dis girl. In Nigeria we'd say "Her MUMU no get part 2". She b Ewu Gambia. Tufiakwa !
I am beyond shocked at how deep this abuse was. Yho this man was pure evil. I feel so sorry for Namhla that she was groomed into this and she felt like she couldn't get out. Yho, what a life she lived. I paused, as my heart was shattering. I wept when her sister said that she had to experienced a time when her Namhla was being beaten and she had to wipe off her blood HAYKE 😢 how awful that must have been.
I am very sensitive to cases that involve abuse, because I myself was in a situtation with someone who put me through some similar situations, ie; left me on the freeway almost 2 hours from home, of course being beat up randomly and getting a beating on my birthday for doing absolutely nothing. And you know what was even more shocking was that when i finally left, it wasn't planned, I got a spiritual message from my late gran, in that moment I JUST KNEW I had to GO, I got into a hired car and just left with what I could. However even when I had left, he knew where i went and but he didnt have an exact address, of course I was in hiding. He would bomb my phone at every and all hours of the day and threaten me with all kinds of things. It was hard, having to look over my shoulder not sleeping at night, worried about him coming to kill me. Very hard! I even suffered from panic and anxiety attacks! What was worse is that after leaving, I got a call from one of his female friends who knew about the problems I was facing in the relationship and she offered to buy me a flight ticket back to him!!!?! 😤Although I must admit there were times I thought I might go back to him(Stockholm Syndrome), but thank God those plans never materialised. Long story short, it's been a few years now and I am past all of that but you know , you never really get over the abuse, it stays with you and scars you.😣 Point is, I too could have been another Namhla, she thought she was safe with family but his need to control her was just so twisted and deep he just managed to catch up to her and ultimately finished her off. 😞😞😞I really feel for this young woman. It was such a hard and horrible situation to be in, very hard, she definately endured ALOT, but I can see, for me, if I stayed just a little while longer, I too; would have been a statistic. So if there is anyone reading this right now that is looking for a way out and feels paralyzed by their abuser, please know this "there is life after this misery" Don't wait till you become another case! Leave and HIDE. It may seem hopeless you might not know where to go or where to start, but start by walking out that front door and don't look back!!!!
The more im on this podcast..the more i realise the true sickness in society..us..men...we've gone beyond insanity...as a society..lets normalise mob justice against abusers and rapists...ladies normalise reporting your abuser to your parents..siblings..and police..shame them on social media as well..do not die silence..you can be saved.
It's never easy. As someone who was once in a relationship with an abusive and narcissistic man, I can tell you that it's difficult. I used to feel ashamed coz I couldn't believe that this was happening to me. My self esteem was extremely low and I was broken during this relationship. He broke me down. I felt paralyzed to do anything about it or to even tell anyone. I would even go as far as to making up stories about how I sustained injuries. Whenever I tried to break up with him, he would emotionally manipulate me, he would even cry and beg me to take him back. He would promise to go for counseling and that he would change but the change would only last for a few months. The thing about such men is that when things are good, they are really good. They have the ability to make you feel like you are the only woman on earth, like you are in cloud 9, if there's even such a thing. However, when it gets bad, it gets really bad. It's a roller coaster ride, you hold on hoping that they would change the bad and only give you the good, but it never happens. I was so mad at myself for a long time after the relationship ended, wondering how I even allowed myself to be in such a situation but I've learned my lesson. It's been 16 years now since I got away from him.
I felt so sorry for her.. May her soul rest in enternal peace. He has an Obsessive personality..Narsasistic ways Monster!! Thank you so much for translating for those who don't understand❤️. Much appreciated keep up the good work!
Soooo emotional I literally shed a year. Just when she was about to start enjoying her freedom then booom... May her beautiful soul rest in eternal peace 🕊️
I just found your channel and i’m binge watching your videos. I have been in an abusive marriage and listen: ITS VERY IMPORTANT TO CAREFULLY PLAN YOUR EXIT! My late abusive husband took his own life a few days after my exit because i was not there anymore and he couldn’t believe it as he was actually planning to kill me and our kids
My goodness 😳 Your spirit tild you to leave & thank God you did. I truly hope you don't blame yourself for what he did. That's on him. I'm so glad you're safe. I sincerely wish you and your children all the best 🙏🏽 💖 from 🇺🇸
I had a serious argument with my hubby this other day I saw. How he was so angry , i told him straight if you think you can beat me I will have you arrested and I will leave you n I wont wait for you to do it again b4 I act. The day you think you can just know I will do it. And I will know that you stopped loving me. The way he looked at me In Disbelief I assured him that be assured I can do that.
I'm looking at how bubbly and friendly face he has. People generally fall for friendly faces because they don't know what parameters to use to evaluate a person. You usually get a sign in the first days of a relationship. Also, I'm surprised that there's no one, in all her family, who decided to be "gangster" against the guy. We need to bring back those days of uncles who get into a bakkie and deal with an abuser. From the day, we feared attending to people like him, abuse like this one has skyrocketed. Back in the day, many guys knew which ladies to not mess with. The absence of uncles, boy cousins, fathers etc causes all this.
I have never heard a domestic violence this viciously evil. I was physically ill I had to pause to go vomit amd cl.e amd continue. To know there is no justice yet after getting to the end made me even more sick
This is why it is very important for women to have financial independence. When you witness red flags(especially aggression)in a relationship, leave!!! Remember that staying is also a choice. It enrages me that GBV is something we talk about everyday.🤧 Every single time we watch the news, it's expected to hear a case on GBV. Ppl know an abuser, whether be neighbors, friends or family and when they don't stand against it, they are equally responsible for the murder of the victim in my opinion. Ppl(men in specific) don't have to be taught that they don't have entitlement over another person's body! Murders are walking freely amongst our communities and police can't help us. I'm afraid that violence is the only way to deal with these evil ppl and bring justice for the victims. LORD WE ARE TIRED! WE ARE TIRED AND ITS ENOUGH!😭🇿🇦
If women abandoned men the sameway they abandon themselvs r ther support system we would get far…its 2023 we all hav access to education n help & as much as i lov women we can no longer play the victim card..comfort is 1 of out problems..RIP stop dying for men! Do the work dont b lazy
I know of a married woman who is financially independent and loaded but got married to a monster. So when dealing with an abuser whether you have money or not it's not easy. It involves way more than finances
I wonder what this young girl did to this man for such hatred? This men never loved Namhla. Its hurting 💔 to be a mother, seeing your child dying like that....😭
Thank you for your story. My sister survived because the first sign of aggressiveness my father bless his soul, as he is now late. My father went all out to look for the guy himself and the guy escaped. My sister was free and now married to a husband who truly loves her.
The level of abuse this monster exerted on this poor girl will never cease to amaze me. Namhla was more scared of leaving Major because she knew the repercussions would be dire, not knowing that at the same time being with him would unfortunately be her untimely demise. I hope Namhla is a peace. Rest well angel ❤️
If there is anyone out there who believed Major didn't kill Namhla I hope they starting to see the light. Nalo Major was something else kodwa seriously uzoshaya umuntu phambi kufamily yakhe and le yokumshiya in the middle of nowhere i cant think what kind of the life Namhla lived bakithi kwanzima. Maybe nonkosikazi wakhe ubeshaywa nje. Thank you for covering the story gal. The man is crazy ,he will have his day and I can't wait. I love your recommendations you need to her a plan if you planning on leaving them. He just wanted her out of her family house one way on the other he is a cold hearted animal😳😳 Uthini u Bheki Cele yini innocent death? I don't think imurder can be labelled as innocent. I will share this video with a lot of people I am happy you did this video because I had forgotten about Namhla because no one talked about her anymore and the only way people will remember that her family still needs to get justice is we need to say her name often and I applaud her sister for sharing the story of Namhla as gruesome and distasteful as those pics and videos they were an eye opening moment to someone who is in a similar situation.
Lol this woman is crazy why u let a man do this to me an ur entire family is stupid too if it was may sister u do ntn to help her than when she die u shedding tears for what stupid ppl if it was me this man would be burry longtime
And here we are as society being told Namhla was just a gold digger who was having an affair with a married man, trying to justify what happened. Thank u for this perspective. Our society is sick. One day there will be justice for Namhla.
I think that when narcissists get money, respect or elevated status, they need subjects to boss around and exert pressure on. They want people to praise them / glorify them and when they don’t get it, they lose it. A sad story indeed. She was way too young when it began, groomed indeed. Glad to have you back though!❤️
Especially because those are the most insecure, victim mind setted pieces of crap ever, they can't win people over with their personality so they use what you mentioned to target people who have less than them. They literally have nothing to offer anyone but money, that's it, that's all they can offer, soulless
Nailed it 😢people need to learn about narcissistic personality disorder....to protect themselves from such people...learn about love bombing etc..also learn about sociopathy and psychopathy...the moment you understand this information life gets easier.....
I love the honor and power you bring to the victims. Keep up the good work!! May her soul rest in eternal peace. She lived a tumultuous life 😢😢. This guy was a narcissistic manipulative son of a **** . I pray that oneday justice prevails.
Father lord have mercy o ,🙏🏽🙏🏽 please protect us from people that think that they own our life. Nawa o baba God abeg. I'm South African watching from naija 🇳🇬
Accepting gifts and continue being with a narcissist is a trap. She needed a protection order and to move to a new province or even country for a couple of years.
This is so dehumanizing and heartbreaking. What monstrous behaviour is this by this man. It is clear that he conditioned her from the very beginning. Such a sad life that Namhla endured at the hands of this guy.
Guys the death penalty must come back discussing this nor campaigning against GBV will not help us as a nation we need to be picketing for the death penalty to return with immediate effect
What a sad story n a waist of life. This story breaks my heart. All I can say to anyone experiencing abuse is, " Never b afraid to loose anything, especially a man ' ...anything you loose was never yours or permanent. Always believe the red flags..run....he was a core, dangerous Narcissist 💔💔
Yoh I'm so mad and disturbed with this whole thing. I hope Namhla's sister finds healing from this and other family members. This man is a devil himself shuuuu
I hope people will vote the goverment of ANC out so this GBV problems in SA can be tackled, with ANC goverment nothing works.....May Her soul rest in peace Hopefully the courts will do what's right
I remember how there were people victim blaming Namhla forgetting the initial psychological grooming that took place prior to the abuse…the fear an abuser instills in a person is in most cases the reason it’s hard for them to leave
I could hear you get emotional in your voice towards the end, i felt that and a tear jst rolled down my cheek... This ia deep, but I know God will deal with this man. As long as he does not repent, come clean and ask for forgiveness, he will definitely endure the pain of suffering. GOD ans karma will deal with this man, let him enjoy this while he still can, but it will not end well for him, his day too shall come. You live by the gun, you die by the gun!
17 years of a nightmare! Lo sisi didn’t even get to experience a normal adult life, and just as she was starting to he ended her life. May she continue to rest in peace💔
I have never cried like this 😭😭😭 I have never been in an abusive relationship and I don’t know how it feels but what I just watched is painful to the core I can only wonder what this poor girl went thru for most of her life 😭😭😭yho I can’t …💔💔💔
Everybody talks about leaving but let's talk about how these things start. Ladies (and gents)...if ANYone comes into your life and makes you feel uneasy in your self. Take note. Everyone thinks it won't happen to them until someone slick enough is able to manipulate them into doing things they wouldn't normally do. And that's a key. Don't ignore the feeling of "something is wrong". In the same way, don't ignore the feeling of "this is too good to be true!" That is how they reel you in. The quickest way to get trapped in these situations is via feeling sorry for someone or getting "swept off your feet!" Gifts are great and can be beautiful but remember that nothing in life is free. And there's nothing more costly than that which is given for "free". You cannot be bought. You are precious treasure in the eyes of God. No other human being deserves to hold dominion over you. Let's start seeing the signs and running at the first red flag! This story is heartbreaking. Thank you for making this video and bringing awareness to Namhla's story I pray for her and for her loved ones who have to survive with this 🙏🏼
I am a walking example. I lived and breathed this. I adviced patients,helped those who needed money, anyone in a DV situation I advocated for. Then I met my ex,the D*vil. Left a week and a half ago,he even refused releasing my property,had to sleep on strangers floors,with a big infected wound from where a burnt me, loosing blood from a miscarriage as a result of months of beatings, and having lost 9 teeth . These days, I'm worn out,at half my body weight,heart throbbed but in peace, I can sleep like a baby n do what I want. Three miscarriages from severe bearings n serious mental n physical trauma later, I'm alive, I survived
I'm a HARD-CORE crime watcher but this...her torture for hours, sending her to shower, then continue with the abuse? I can fully understand how indoctrinated she was being with this man since she was 17 years old. I am so, so sorry she ever met this bastard. 💟
I can't help but notice that Major has similar character traits as Philani Ntuli ( Siam's killer/Lucky' fiance) as she explained on Kelebogile 's TV show. May her soul rest in peace.
😢😢i suffered emotional abuse in my marriage for 3years,it killed my self-esteem so much that i never saw anything good about me.but i left that marriage and went back home.now i feel free and my confidence is coming back well.i have decided that i will never ever get married again,my main focus now is me and my son only.its always better leave early when you see signs of any abuse.may the soul of sis Namhla and all victims of GBV rest in peace and 😢😢
I feel I cannot not comment after listening to this story of Namhla . I'll try and summarize my own ordeal I've bn with my husband at the tender age of 18yrs was still in high school hw was working . He wasn't that abusive in the beginning but extremely possessive I tried yo end the relationship many times but he would go to my workplace make a scene even threatened tk kill himself and me . Deep down I knew there is some loose screws in his head . He promised to change his possessiveness and we got married all went well until it came back again and again I was afraid to leave him coz I ddnt know where to go . After my 4th child I left and quietly never gave a sign I was about to live my son was 1yr few months the older ones I left them with him with intentions to come get them when am stable got a job. He looked for me until he found me in another town King Williams town and we were satying in PE . To cut short coz it's long story we went gor counseling all of them Sychologist ,sychaiatrics you name them. But later in 2001 it got worse now I started planning my exit quietly and my daughter was in Matric the others were still young . I stashed money small small in an account he ddnt know and I hide the card. In 2003 I did my exit planned everything to the T with my older daughter I was 40yrs then 22yrs in the drama. What I want to emphasize it's never late to start over it doesn't matter the time frame . I took my kids hired a taxi and ran away to train station strate to Jozi and I ddnt know any1 but God made a way . To sum it up I like the fact that you guys emphasized plan your exit quietly then boom you're gone relocate guys don't be afraid to start over iif it's what it takes for your safety and no posting about your location on any social platforms until you're hundred percent sure live a low profile life mawungaziwa muntu ukuphi . Goodluck ladies am 19yrs free from horror this December I celebrated 🍾 ♥️ my 59th birthday as a free woman never remarried never stayed with a man full time again the trauma I couldn't relive it 🙏🙏❤❤
We thank God for your life.
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Thank you so much my dear ,One thing we need to know the world and those people who come to us and say i love you can reject us but our God will never ever for sake us am a mother of one getting married at 30 to the abuse who told me that he is going to give R100 to people so that they can kill me but God was faith to me and my son the moment i went to visit my parents ,I told myself that this is the end of this abusive marriage and i quit that marriage now it's 4 Yrs leaving alone taking good care of myself and my son luckily am working he even threatened my boss which they endup firing me at work it breaks my heart so so much. Women let us not stay with the abusive husband/boyfriend and to our parents please welcome us back home we are your children let us not die in the hands of these socalled boyfriend thanks and again May she Rest In Peace.
🥰🥰🥰🥰sending you love
@@joyedward45 yhooo Namhla story is really touching my heart. I can't get the real thing that made this young man 2 do all this. He married while Namhla was already in his life. Now my question, did he love her in the 1st place? Does he love his wife? He behaves like sum1 who's doing certain rituals abt these women. Uthwele lo mfana. Girls,girls pls b vigilant. I know u don't believe what I'll b saying now. Pls pray n askcGod 2 provide genuine husbands 4 u. God knows the heart of every individual in this world coz He created us.
Your channel is so underrated. The amount of research, depth and detail? Wow!
I can't believe I only discovered this channel now in 2024. Great content indeed!
Ladies never tell the abuser you are about to leave or divorce them, just plan your exit quietly.
Never go to back or agree to meet them after leaving.
Never accept their sorry.
Don't fall for their lies nor tell them where you are.
Be vigilant at all times.
Remove yourself from social media, phone contact they can track you.
Money isn't everything when your life is in danger from your abuser.
U are very right...act cool n plan
They know where you live & work & also come unannounced
@@leaperm3433 yes now you have to relocate and get a new job, plus you risk your family being in danger as a way to get revenge for outsmarting them
Differently true
Apply for a job if you ca even out pf the country and leave.problem the ego bruised one's at times tend to find a way to hurt you if they don't find you to go after your family.Get a restraining order then leave the country
I met a guy who was in a circle of friends with this man and that was the last time he ever saw me. Could never date anyone who is associated with him. Birds of the same feather flock together..
RIP Namhla 💔
That’s a smart move he definitely sees nothing wrong with this abuse and would do the same to you
Wenza kakuhle sisi. Kwa-umntu nje ongaba yi friend nalo mntu is really questionable.
A narcissist of high note
100%
People will call you picky, but you set your own boundaries about who you allow into your life
I always leave when l m not happy l have done it 4 times l m very happy l understand that not all of us have to be married .l enjoy my life and l don't blame myself l know l m beautiful l don't tolerate an abuse .Family members give me names but l dont care if l m sad l leave
Every dog had it's day, his day will come!!!
Honestly you're the first true crime channel that I know of that actually asked for the families permission ......subscribed
Thank you so much Betty!
People who have never been through abuse have absolutely no idea how damaging it is. May her soul rest in peace🙏🏿
One day I'm going to create a program that helps abused woman escape abusive relationships. Instead of questioning why they don't I'm going to help them leave
Make me your co-partner.
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Can we work on that together?
One lesson I have learned from this story is to NEVER DATE in your young age. Wait till you are at least 25 years when you know your worth and value. She was young when they got together and he was very older than her so he knew his ways around manipulation
Exactly. Dating at a young age subjects you to a lot of abuse and manipulation.
I don't think there is anything wrong dating young, when it is done right its a great too to break social barriers and makes you get used to rejection, heartbreak etc. As long as the relationship doesn't involve sexual intercourse and you are dating your age.
I am not victim shaming but problem with girls and women is how they are naturally attracted to older men or someone older than them.
I am really glad I was a late bloomer.
Exactly 💯
My step mother once said that to me when I was in my early teenage years. Don't date in your teenage years, the proper age to date is 25.
Thank you for translating the message for the native English speakers. Your channel is amazing and allows non SA people to know your true crime stories. Praying for the family 🙏
Absolutely I just listened to aka’s story and I felt inluv with her channel and the fact that she translates for ppl like us to understand every thing is just another level of smartness on her part. I immediately subscribed and got my sister to too🙌🏾
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Yess you can say that again
basically Namhla met the devil whilst she was only 17, noone who claims to loves you can ever make you go through what this girl had to endure
I’m an American women of color I heard of this but not how you broke it down thank you for sharing! Very sad and unfortunate
I've heard of alot of GBV cases but this one truly horrified and saddened me to an indescribable level💔
Me too.. I remember when the story came out.. I couldn't sleep for almost two weeks. Id find myself crying.
Eish me too so sad 😩😩😩😩
truee
😢 I know what you mean
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I lived this kind of life Namhla lived,I thank God for giving me the strength to plan my exit quietly otherwise I wouldn’t be alive 😢
That's the best 👌 thing you can ever do for yourself
I’m so glad she was able to finally see through the nonsense and leave. So many women stay for all the wrong reasons (time spent in the relationship being one of them). She did it , it didn’t end well, but you know what? She did it and that’s all that matters ❤️. May her beautiful soul rest in peace
Dear Namhla.. I am so sorry you went through all of that 😭😭 lala ngokuthula sisi ❤️
I PRAY no matter what happens in my life, that I never become this kind of man, this monster. Amen.
Please
Amen 🙏🏽
My heart breaks listening to this and I’m not even halfway through. I’ve heard about this story but I get shocked everytime. I didn’t even know that she met him at 17? She was a child. She was a minor and he was a grown man. I didn’t even know he married his wife while with her. From the things we heard on social media, we were led to believe she was a home wrecker. My heart breaks for what this young lady had to endure💔 She was just a child, groomed from when she barely even knew herself enough to make any wise decisions.
My soul will never be okay until this is solved , condolences to the family , I went from being sad and mad all over again yhoo
Nam ndikxelele 💔💔😭
He despised her so much yet wouldn't let her go, whyyy???? Ladies don't be afraid to kill your abusers, jail is better than this hell this woman was living. God will forgive you that's all that matters. May she rip
She should have killed him first ,with all that abuse if she didn't want to run she shud have killed him .
True. Let everyone know what you going through. Fight back and kill if needs be ☹️
I'd even help any woman that wants to bury the body of an abuser.
We don't have to kill any abusers, their is a thing call the blood of Jesus, that's the weapon to used against them.
@@keishap7927 thank you so much ... 🥺
The pain in your voice especially when you got to her final day. That monster groomed someone's child, treated her like a possession. Then took her life because "he owned her". Someone's child vele
This case is more spiritual than anything. Only he knows what he was benefiting from Namhla spiritually...This is why he didnt want her to leave him, but at the same time he didnt love her. May her precious soul rest in Gods perfect peace!♡
Also people with Personality Disorders with narcissistic traits.
Amen it's more spiritual than we thing, I hope he rots in hell
I agree with you, why was he doing all these horrible things to Namhla only not to his wife? for the fact that he didnt want her to carry his bloodline and genes, it rang a bell..
There was a spiritual connection here, he used her for some sort of benefit. He didn't want her having his kids, carry his bloodline but he knew what he was using her for. But he took her life, I'm certain his life with come trembling down bit by bit.
I can't believe no one has been arrested yet. Really dreaful situation. The guy had overall control of this girl, total horror! I pray her family gets justice one way or the other. She seemed such a bubbly and bright person. May she rest in perfect peace💔💔
Even if u can have financial independence.... A man will abuse a woman because he feels emasculated by a strong independent woman.... There's no win win for a woman..... Whether u have Ur own or u don't.... An abusive man will always feel entitled to u!!!!
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This story has scarred me for life.....
I will never ever forget this woman.... She is embedded in my mind...... For life 😭😭😭😭
Me too. This story is extremely scary..
It teared me to the core😭😭😭😭😭😭
I used to say if someone is in an abusive relationship they should just leave, but now I know how hard and complicated it is especially with a narcissist
Yeah plus the trauma bond
It's hard😞
Yesterday I listened to this story....I could not comment because of the pain I went thru....I was crying all the way....My prayer is someday the family will have closure....And those of us who came across her even when she passed on can close this chapter....
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Relatable stuff💔❤️🩹
What a beautiful hun…May she fight for her justice and May God strengthen her family 🥹🤍
I've heard/watched countless GBV, DV & emotional abuse BUT dis one is d HIGHEST.
Dis guy had 150% control over dis girl.
In Nigeria we'd say "Her MUMU no get part 2".
She b Ewu Gambia.
Tufiakwa !
He hated her but still didn’t want to leave her!🚮🚮🚮🚮
I am beyond shocked at how deep this abuse was. Yho this man was pure evil. I feel so sorry for Namhla that she was groomed into this and she felt like she couldn't get out. Yho, what a life she lived. I paused, as my heart was shattering. I wept when her sister said that she had to experienced a time when her Namhla was being beaten and she had to wipe off her blood HAYKE 😢 how awful that must have been.
I am very sensitive to cases that involve abuse, because I myself was in a situtation with someone who put me through some similar situations, ie; left me on the freeway almost 2 hours from home, of course being beat up randomly and getting a beating on my birthday for doing absolutely nothing.
And you know what was even more shocking was that when i finally left, it wasn't planned, I got a spiritual message from my late gran, in that moment I JUST KNEW I had to GO, I got into a hired car and just left with what I could. However even when I had left, he knew where i went and but he didnt have an exact address, of course I was in hiding. He would bomb my phone at every and all hours of the day and threaten me with all kinds of things. It was hard, having to look over my shoulder not sleeping at night, worried about him coming to kill me. Very hard! I even suffered from panic and anxiety attacks!
What was worse is that after leaving, I got a call from one of his female friends who knew about the problems I was facing in the relationship and she offered to buy me a flight ticket back to him!!!?! 😤Although I must admit there were times I thought I might go back to him(Stockholm Syndrome), but thank God those plans never materialised.
Long story short, it's been a few years now and I am past all of that but you know , you never really get over the abuse, it stays with you and scars you.😣
Point is, I too could have been another Namhla, she thought she was safe with family but his need to control her was just so twisted and deep he just managed to catch up to her and ultimately finished her off. 😞😞😞I really feel for this young woman. It was such a hard and horrible situation to be in, very hard, she definately endured ALOT, but I can see, for me, if I stayed just a little while longer, I too; would have been a statistic.
So if there is anyone reading this right now that is looking for a way out and feels paralyzed by their abuser, please know this "there is life after this misery" Don't wait till you become another case! Leave and HIDE. It may seem hopeless you might not know where to go or where to start, but start by walking out that front door and don't look back!!!!
🫂 Glad you are here to tell your story Sis. I'm so sorry for the pain & suffering you experienced 💔
@@JeanetteMoseneke Thank you Sis!
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FOLKS, DON'T EVER DATE A THUG...It always end in tears.
The day Namhla met this guy determined the rest of her life…moments that one wish they could go back to & make different choices. 😢😢😢
The more im on this podcast..the more i realise the true sickness in society..us..men...we've gone beyond insanity...as a society..lets normalise mob justice against abusers and rapists...ladies normalise reporting your abuser to your parents..siblings..and police..shame them on social media as well..do not die silence..you can be saved.
It's never easy. As someone who was once in a relationship with an abusive and narcissistic man, I can tell you that it's difficult. I used to feel ashamed coz I couldn't believe that this was happening to me. My self esteem was extremely low and I was broken during this relationship. He broke me down. I felt paralyzed to do anything about it or to even tell anyone. I would even go as far as to making up stories about how I sustained injuries.
Whenever I tried to break up with him, he would emotionally manipulate me, he would even cry and beg me to take him back. He would promise to go for counseling and that he would change but the change would only last for a few months. The thing about such men is that when things are good, they are really good. They have the ability to make you feel like you are the only woman on earth, like you are in cloud 9, if there's even such a thing. However, when it gets bad, it gets really bad. It's a roller coaster ride, you hold on hoping that they would change the bad and only give you the good, but it never happens.
I was so mad at myself for a long time after the relationship ended, wondering how I even allowed myself to be in such a situation but I've learned my lesson. It's been 16 years now since I got away from him.
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I'm a new sub.
This man needs to be punished harshly... RiP Namhla💔
I hope one day I can meet this guy he won't be able to say two words !
Yooooo you said it better.... Would do the same.
My wish too
I felt so sorry for her.. May her soul rest in enternal peace. He has an Obsessive personality..Narsasistic ways Monster!!
Thank you so much for translating for those who don't understand❤️. Much appreciated keep up the good work!
Soooo emotional I literally shed a year. Just when she was about to start enjoying her freedom then booom... May her beautiful soul rest in eternal peace 🕊️
I just found your channel and i’m binge watching your videos. I have been in an abusive marriage and listen: ITS VERY IMPORTANT TO CAREFULLY PLAN YOUR EXIT! My late abusive husband took his own life a few days after my exit because i was not there anymore and he couldn’t believe it as he was actually planning to kill me and our kids
My goodness 😳 Your spirit tild you to leave & thank God you did. I truly hope you don't blame yourself for what he did. That's on him. I'm so glad you're safe. I sincerely wish you and your children all the best 🙏🏽 💖 from 🇺🇸
So elated to have you back ❤ you were missed
I had a serious argument with my hubby this other day I saw. How he was so angry , i told him straight if you think you can beat me I will have you arrested and I will leave you n I wont wait for you to do it again b4 I act. The day you think you can just know I will do it. And I will know that you stopped loving me. The way he looked at me In Disbelief I assured him that be assured I can do that.
I'm looking at how bubbly and friendly face he has. People generally fall for friendly faces because they don't know what parameters to use to evaluate a person. You usually get a sign in the first days of a relationship.
Also, I'm surprised that there's no one, in all her family, who decided to be "gangster" against the guy.
We need to bring back those days of uncles who get into a bakkie and deal with an abuser. From the day, we feared attending to people like him, abuse like this one has skyrocketed.
Back in the day, many guys knew which ladies to not mess with. The absence of uncles, boy cousins, fathers etc causes all this.
I have never heard a domestic violence this viciously evil. I was physically ill I had to pause to go vomit amd cl.e amd continue. To know there is no justice yet after getting to the end made me even
more sick
This is why it is very important for women to have financial independence.
When you witness red flags(especially aggression)in a relationship, leave!!!
Remember that staying is also a choice.
It enrages me that GBV is something we talk about everyday.🤧
Every single time we watch the news, it's expected to hear a case on GBV.
Ppl know an abuser, whether be neighbors, friends or family and when they don't stand against it, they are equally responsible for the murder of the victim in my opinion.
Ppl(men in specific) don't have to be taught that they don't have entitlement over another person's body!
Murders are walking freely amongst our communities and police can't help us. I'm afraid that violence is the only way to deal with these evil ppl and bring justice for the victims.
LORD WE ARE TIRED! WE ARE TIRED AND ITS ENOUGH!😭🇿🇦
People with financial independence are killed by husband and boyfriends. Just pray you don’t get with a beast
If women abandoned men the sameway they abandon themselvs r ther support system we would get far…its 2023 we all hav access to education n help & as much as i lov women we can no longer play the victim card..comfort is 1 of out problems..RIP stop dying for men! Do the work dont b lazy
I know of a married woman who is financially independent and loaded but got married to a monster.
So when dealing with an abuser whether you have money or not it's not easy. It involves way more than finances
@@Mamakhe048 Except jail
I wonder what this young girl did to this man for such hatred? This men never loved Namhla. Its hurting 💔 to be a mother, seeing your child dying like that....😭
Thank you for your story. My sister survived because the first sign of aggressiveness my father bless his soul, as he is now late. My father went all out to look for the guy himself and the guy escaped. My sister was free and now married to a husband who truly loves her.
I thought of her today. This is still heart breaking.
May her soul find peace and continue to rest ❤🕊🕯.
Missed you ke sisi❤.
Ladies stay away from abusive marriges and boy friends. You rather stay happy, alone, rather than stress
The level of abuse this monster exerted on this poor girl will never cease to amaze me. Namhla was more scared of leaving Major because she knew the repercussions would be dire, not knowing that at the same time being with him would unfortunately be her untimely demise. I hope Namhla is a peace. Rest well angel ❤️
If there is anyone out there who believed Major didn't kill Namhla I hope they starting to see the light. Nalo Major was something else kodwa seriously uzoshaya umuntu phambi kufamily yakhe and le yokumshiya in the middle of nowhere i cant think what kind of the life Namhla lived bakithi kwanzima. Maybe nonkosikazi wakhe ubeshaywa nje. Thank you for covering the story gal. The man is crazy ,he will have his day and I can't wait. I love your recommendations you need to her a plan if you planning on leaving them. He just wanted her out of her family house one way on the other he is a cold hearted animal😳😳 Uthini u Bheki Cele yini innocent death? I don't think imurder can be labelled as innocent. I will share this video with a lot of people I am happy you did this video because I had forgotten about Namhla because no one talked about her anymore and the only way people will remember that her family still needs to get justice is we need to say her name often and I applaud her sister for sharing the story of Namhla as gruesome and distasteful as those pics and videos they were an eye opening moment to someone who is in a similar situation.
Thank you shedding light on what people deem taboo in Africa mostly.
I'm glad you're back too.
Lol this woman is crazy why u let a man do this to me an ur entire family is stupid too if it was may sister u do ntn to help her than when she die u shedding tears for what stupid ppl if it was me this man would be burry longtime
let's hope one day she gets justice. she lived such a sad life
Never leave us like this 😭 anyways welcome back
Hawu yazi mara
This guy was a full on monster of note!
And here we are as society being told Namhla was just a gold digger who was having an affair with a married man, trying to justify what happened. Thank u for this perspective. Our society is sick. One day there will be justice for Namhla.
You are right.
That's exactly how he designed it to be perceived
I think that when narcissists get money, respect or elevated status, they need subjects to boss around and exert pressure on. They want people to praise them / glorify them and when they don’t get it, they lose it.
A sad story indeed. She was way too young when it began, groomed indeed.
Glad to have you back though!❤️
I think he is just a sociopath.
Especially because those are the most insecure, victim mind setted pieces of crap ever, they can't win people over with their personality so they use what you mentioned to target people who have less than them. They literally have nothing to offer anyone but money, that's it, that's all they can offer, soulless
Nailed it 😢people need to learn about narcissistic personality disorder....to protect themselves from such people...learn about love bombing etc..also learn about sociopathy and psychopathy...the moment you understand this information life gets easier.....
I love the honor and power you bring to the victims. Keep up the good work!! May her soul rest in eternal peace. She lived a tumultuous life 😢😢. This guy was a narcissistic manipulative son of a **** . I pray that oneday justice prevails.
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Pls Ladies don tolerate a abusive relationship pls
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Father lord have mercy o ,🙏🏽🙏🏽 please protect us from people that think that they own our life. Nawa o baba God abeg. I'm South African watching from naija 🇳🇬
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Accepting gifts and continue being with a narcissist is a trap. She needed a protection order and to move to a new province or even country for a couple of years.
This is so dehumanizing and heartbreaking. What monstrous behaviour is this by this man. It is clear that he conditioned her from the very beginning. Such a sad life that Namhla endured at the hands of this guy.
I hate our justice system 😭😭😭😭 I hate this Major 😭😭😭 I can't watch this anymore.
This guy has a huge problem. She should have left straight away! The guy needs to be locked up. 😤
Locked up is an easy thing😢😢😢
Watching from Kenya, this story has hurt my soul..RIP
He's not invisible to God! I pray for justice for Namhla and all other women who have been murdered by abusive partners.
Guys the death penalty must come back discussing this nor campaigning against GBV will not help us as a nation we need to be picketing for the death penalty to return with immediate effect
I’m watching the video on the 5/08/2023 still no justice for Hlehle. South Africans women we are on our own.😢
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This case broke my heart, still not on trial. I pray She gets justice.
Yhu, she was going through a lot. This is so sad.
😭😭we've missed you so much welcome back💞😊
What a sad story n a waist of life. This story breaks my heart. All I can say to anyone experiencing abuse is, " Never b afraid to loose anything, especially a man ' ...anything you loose was never yours or permanent. Always believe the red flags..run....he was a core, dangerous Narcissist
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This story breaks my heart. Why did she have to go through this? It's a sick society! Asking for permission to go see your mother? Speechless.!
Major would have killed me first week of dating 😢
Yeah me too I would not endure this haibo
Thank you for opening our eyes. This things happen in our societies
Welcome back sisi.❤
Yoh I'm so mad and disturbed with this whole thing. I hope Namhla's sister finds healing from this and other family members. This man is a devil himself shuuuu
Really one of the most shocking cases I’ve ever come across. It still makes me angry this case
So happy you’re back OMG!🥳bitter sweet of course, your presence was missed🥰🥰but the stories eish😢
I hope people will vote the goverment of ANC out so this GBV problems in SA can be tackled, with ANC goverment nothing works.....May Her soul rest in peace
Hopefully the courts will do what's right
Thank you for translating to English. It's going to help your viewership a great deal.
I remember how there were people victim blaming Namhla forgetting the initial psychological grooming that took place prior to the abuse…the fear an abuser instills in a person is in most cases the reason it’s hard for them to leave
You been gone for a while, so happy to have you back. ❤
Thank you for this story, it really touched me. 💔😢
I could hear you get emotional in your voice towards the end, i felt that and a tear jst rolled down my cheek... This ia deep, but I know God will deal with this man. As long as he does not repent, come clean and ask for forgiveness, he will definitely endure the pain of suffering. GOD ans karma will deal with this man, let him enjoy this while he still can, but it will not end well for him, his day too shall come.
You live by the gun, you die by the gun!
Thank you for keeping her life story alive.
Watching from Namibia thanks for the translation of the message ❤
Your voice sounds so much more mature but I'm thrilled that your back
It's so good to have you back sweetie❤️❤️❤️
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17 years of a nightmare! Lo sisi didn’t even get to experience a normal adult life, and just as she was starting to he ended her life. May she continue to rest in peace💔
I have never cried like this 😭😭😭 I have never been in an abusive relationship and I don’t know how it feels but what I just watched is painful to the core I can only wonder what this poor girl went thru for most of her life 😭😭😭yho I can’t …💔💔💔
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Same here like it’s unbelievable 😢💔women why
Your time will come brother 🙏
Everybody talks about leaving but let's talk about how these things start. Ladies (and gents)...if ANYone comes into your life and makes you feel uneasy in your self. Take note. Everyone thinks it won't happen to them until someone slick enough is able to manipulate them into doing things they wouldn't normally do. And that's a key. Don't ignore the feeling of "something is wrong". In the same way, don't ignore the feeling of "this is too good to be true!" That is how they reel you in. The quickest way to get trapped in these situations is via feeling sorry for someone or getting "swept off your feet!" Gifts are great and can be beautiful but remember that nothing in life is free. And there's nothing more costly than that which is given for "free". You cannot be bought. You are precious treasure in the eyes of God. No other human being deserves to hold dominion over you. Let's start seeing the signs and running at the first red flag!
This story is heartbreaking. Thank you for making this video and bringing awareness to Namhla's story I pray for her and for her loved ones who have to survive with this 🙏🏼
I am a walking example. I lived and breathed this. I adviced patients,helped those who needed money, anyone in a DV situation I advocated for. Then I met my ex,the D*vil.
Left a week and a half ago,he even refused releasing my property,had to sleep on strangers floors,with a big infected wound from where a burnt me, loosing blood from a miscarriage as a result of months of beatings, and having lost 9 teeth .
These days,
I'm worn out,at half my body weight,heart throbbed but in peace,
I can sleep like a baby n do what I want.
Three miscarriages from severe bearings n serious mental n physical trauma later,
I'm alive,
I survived
You survived and that’s all that matters now 🙌🏼❤
Omw I'm not screaming... welcome back boo 🤩🥰🥰🥰🥰
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I'm a HARD-CORE crime watcher but this...her torture for hours, sending her to shower, then continue with the abuse? I can fully understand how indoctrinated she was being with this man since she was 17 years old. I am so, so sorry she ever met this bastard. 💟
South Africa’s justices system is a joke
i love that part where Namhla and sister went to Joburg , I even have it on repeat i don't know why
I can't help but notice that Major has similar character traits as Philani Ntuli ( Siam's killer/Lucky' fiance) as she explained on Kelebogile 's TV show. May her soul rest in peace.
Most abuse are subtle.But this was as loud as ever.Sad
Listening to this case, it's hard not to believe ukuthi lobaba uyathakatha. I'm so sure of it. Uthwele intwembi!
true wathalwa ngaye hence he didnt want her to bare his children, umthole eseyi ntombi nto i would assume, he bewitched her in all levels.
Welcome back sisi, truly missed your content, hope you fulfilled all you intended to during your time away❤️...
😢😢i suffered emotional abuse in my marriage for 3years,it killed my self-esteem so much that i never saw anything good about me.but i left that marriage and went back home.now i feel free and my confidence is coming back well.i have decided that i will never ever get married again,my main focus now is me and my son only.its always better leave early when you see signs of any abuse.may the soul of sis Namhla and all victims of GBV rest in peace and 😢😢
Thank you so much, please be safe yourself my sister ❤️