Just brainstorming what I've witnessed growing up. 1. Talking badly about him to your parents / getting others involved in your problems and arguments (constantly) 2. Sharing intimate details with your girls (thankfully, most muslim women are hush hush) 3. Venting to him as soon as he comes back home from work. Not giving him time to unwind. Also, not asking him about how his day went 4. Talking shit about his siblings and mom (constantly - no validity) 5. Pinning the kids against him 6. Provoking him 7. Insulting him infront of others, disguised as joking 8. No self awareness / not taking accountability for your faults & flaws 9. Nitpicking everything he does 10. Not showing appreciation + being passive aggressive
This came at the right time! My husband consistently says I do not listen to him. Prephaps from your point of view , I now understand what he means. I’m not listening to process exactly what he is saying. Jazakumllah kharyan sis for this video.
Waiyakum my sister. May Allah bless you for admitting you have some work to do. That takes a lot of strength and humility. May Allah bless your marriage
This is valuable information and it’s important to understand and act on it. Being a wife is a privilege, bring all of your femininity to the marriage and if it’s not appreciated I agree, bounce. Leave rather than change into somebody you are not. Such good advice dear sister. Shukran ❤
I’m a firm believer Allah sometimes uses people to teach us certain lessons. Truly grateful He used you for that purpose. Totally needed this at this very moment. Jazaaki Allahu khayran sister. May Allah keep blessing all of our marriages and make them means to attain His pleasure ultimately ❤️
I do too. As humans, the message may come through us but Allah sparks the inspiration to get his message across. May Allah help us all to become better. 🤲🏾
Subhan'Allah, you're definitely a pearl 😭. I know men can be a piece of work, but I'd rather be self-aware and work on myself... it's very easy to project. I also find men rarely have a support system unlike us women... their emotions tend to get ignored. Correct me if I'm wrong?
Assalaamu alaykum warahmatulah sister, trust me when I say that Allah Azza Wajjal sent this message through you today Allahu Akbar! I appreciate your directness and insight as it's much needed in my marriage at the moment. Jazakillah khair 🌺
JazakAllah Khair Sis. Can you do a video on how to repair relationships after some of this occurs? How to move forward after some of the damage has been done?
@@aminamahmoud8899 go to website the link is in the description box or type in the name as it appears at the introduction to the video then on the menu section, choose contact and you can contact me there insha’Allah. Alternatively use my email linked in the description box.
My father says.. if u want to go ur husband's home than never come here again if anything happens with u in future.. My husband is Mama's boy he do what ever his parents say's.. so im confused that wht should i do.. my husband also speak lie.. he never share with me anything.. my age is 25
Mam can u please guide me.? My husband is drug addict and he also smoke much.. so now my parents wanted that i should finished my relationship with my husband and my husband is also a mamma's boy.. he is caring me and my children but his parents force him to dont treat her wife well.. so anytime we fight with small reasons... I have 2 kids and i live with my parents since 2 years.. now my parents abuse my 3 year of children and nowadays she is so extra ordinary angry with everyone.. and she says i want to go with my father... Im very disappointed of my family behavior towards my childs.. please give a right suggestions what should i do..? Should i live with my husband or my parents?? Wait for your answer 😢😢😢
What to do when your husband disrecpect you by telling how he carry girls. Even telling you that he don't carry married woman but singles is happy saying it. And he call him self a malla
Asslam alaikum sister. I Understand the fact that the man is the provider and the maintainer of the house and that he goes out and provides for the wife and children, but what about men that don’t work and provide, do they deserve the same respect ? A women would respect a man more and the fact that he provides she would emulate that respect 100 more times, but what about a man who doesn’t do his Islamic duties ?
Walaikumsalam. In this case the crucial question is, is he choosing not to provide or is he in a situation where he can’t provide? The other thing I would say is try to respect him as much as you are able despite his behaviour but if you feel you can not then don’t make each others life a misery by staying together. If you stay, do the right thing.
Subhanallah!!!! Sis I Thank Allah ta’Ala for you!!! Ma shaa Allah TabarakAllah you’re always sharing such amazing reminders and advice Allahu Akbar 🤲🏾🤲🏾❤️🌹
Just brainstorming what I've witnessed growing up.
1. Talking badly about him to your parents / getting others involved in your problems and arguments (constantly)
2. Sharing intimate details with your girls (thankfully, most muslim women are hush hush)
3. Venting to him as soon as he comes back home from work. Not giving him time to unwind. Also, not asking him about how his day went
4. Talking shit about his siblings and mom (constantly - no validity)
5. Pinning the kids against him
6. Provoking him
7. Insulting him infront of others, disguised as joking
8. No self awareness / not taking accountability for your faults & flaws
9. Nitpicking everything he does
10. Not showing appreciation + being passive aggressive
This came at the right time! My husband consistently says I do not listen to him. Prephaps from your point of view , I now understand what he means. I’m not listening to process exactly what he is saying. Jazakumllah kharyan sis for this video.
Waiyakum my sister. May Allah bless you for admitting you have some work to do. That takes a lot of strength and humility. May Allah bless your marriage
This is valuable information and it’s important to understand and act on it. Being a wife is a privilege, bring all of your femininity to the marriage and if it’s not appreciated I agree, bounce. Leave rather than change into somebody you are not. Such good advice dear sister. Shukran ❤
I’m a firm believer Allah sometimes uses people to teach us certain lessons. Truly grateful He used you for that purpose. Totally needed this at this very moment. Jazaaki Allahu khayran sister. May Allah keep blessing all of our marriages and make them means to attain His pleasure ultimately ❤️
I do too. As humans, the message may come through us but Allah sparks the inspiration to get his message across. May Allah help us all to become better. 🤲🏾
Ameen 🤲🏼
Maashaa Allah,we men are also learning.
Subhan'Allah, you're definitely a pearl 😭. I know men can be a piece of work, but I'd rather be self-aware and work on myself... it's very easy to project. I also find men rarely have a support system unlike us women... their emotions tend to get ignored. Correct me if I'm wrong?
Jazak Allah Khair. Such valuable advice. Love from Fiji 🇫🇯
Assalaamu alaykum warahmatulah sister, trust me when I say that Allah Azza Wajjal sent this message through you today Allahu Akbar! I appreciate your directness and insight as it's much needed in my marriage at the moment.
Jazakillah khair 🌺
Walaikumsalam warahmatulahi wabarakatu. Masha’Allah I’m so glad to hear that. Waiyakum
Masha Allah tabaraka Allah
Jazaka Allahu khayr sister beautiful advice ❤❤❤❤
JazakAllah Khair Sis. Can you do a video on how to repair relationships after some of this occurs? How to move forward after some of the damage has been done?
Sis I'm loving your channel and find your content very beneficial masha Allah, jazak Allahu khairan
Am not married yet but find your contents really useful as respect is important in any relationship. Thank you and May Allah bless you.
Amazing beneficial content MashaAllah JazkaAllah Khair sister ❤
I found this video very informative
Alhamdulilah
@@NafisasPearlz ameen
Much needed video Masha’Allah. This is so relatable came at the Perfect time 👌🏾
Thank you. May Allah bless your marriage and give you success in your works. Aaameen
Mash Allah sister may Allah continue to bless you for your good advice
Nafisa you’re sooo beautiful Masha Allah and your skin looks amazing😍😍 please share your skincare products ☺️☺️☺️
Loved your very helpful advice for our community. Your words are very appreciated sister. 🌹
Glad it was helpful! Alhamdulilah
ALLAH bless u for your truthfulness...not easy to find a woman like you....
Sister the video was spot on Alhamdulillah and I love the new set it looks great and suits you so much ❤️
No women should be disrespectful by her husband! Too much and too many times! Damn him!
Love your content, Sis I would love to see you on Bitter truth podcast by Ali Dawah
I shared the video on community wall
Jazaka’Allahu khairan
@@NafisasPearlz thanks nafisa I appreciate it alot and may Allah bless you too
@@NafisasPearlz Assalamu alaykum pls how do I get to u, I want to talk pls
@@aminamahmoud8899 go to website the link is in the description box or type in the name as it appears at the introduction to the video then on the menu section, choose contact and you can contact me there insha’Allah. Alternatively use my email linked in the description box.
My father says.. if u want to go ur husband's home than never come here again if anything happens with u in future.. My husband is Mama's boy he do what ever his parents say's.. so im confused that wht should i do.. my husband also speak lie.. he never share with me anything.. my age is 25
So your father has barred you from ever returning to your parents' house if you marry? Doesn't sound like a good father AT ALL.
@@MC-vd5kp seems like that and now I'm not talking with my father what ever the situation is I'm depressed and stress i never share with my parents...
Thank you ma
Mam can u please guide me.? My husband is drug addict and he also smoke much.. so now my parents wanted that i should finished my relationship with my husband and my husband is also a mamma's boy.. he is caring me and my children but his parents force him to dont treat her wife well.. so anytime we fight with small reasons... I have 2 kids and i live with my parents since 2 years.. now my parents abuse my 3 year of children and nowadays she is so extra ordinary angry with everyone.. and she says i want to go with my father... Im very disappointed of my family behavior towards my childs.. please give a right suggestions what should i do..? Should i live with my husband or my parents?? Wait for your answer 😢😢😢
Beautiful advice MashAllah
Very nice video. Ma Shaa Allah.
Thank you
Who else noticed all these things your husband does to you not you to him 😅
MashAllah, very good content
What to do when your husband disrecpect you by telling how he carry girls. Even telling you that he don't carry married woman but singles is happy saying it. And he call him self a malla
more wisdom and knowledge.
Very disrespectful what should I do!
What if hes asking you to do things that are unreasonable, or just trying to be controlling.
that requires professional help. i recommend you to go counseling/seek professional help..
May Allah make it easy for you.
Im just worried about my 2 child😢😢😢
May aAah swt reward you immensely
Subhanallah
Asslam alaikum sister. I
Understand the fact that the man is the provider and the maintainer of the house and that he goes out and provides for the wife and children, but what about men that don’t work and provide, do they deserve the same respect ? A women would respect a man more and the fact that he provides she would emulate that respect 100 more times, but what about a man who doesn’t do his Islamic duties ?
Walaikumsalam. In this case the crucial question is, is he choosing not to provide or is he in a situation where he can’t provide? The other thing I would say is try to respect him as much as you are able despite his behaviour but if you feel you can not then don’t make each others life a misery by staying together. If you stay, do the right thing.
Don't advice for separation
Salam aley kum sister Nafiza ! I don'tb know why but the sound of this video is not clear
I’m not getting that from my side.
@@NafisasPearlz it must be on my end then, sorry.
Subhanallah!!!! Sis I Thank Allah ta’Ala for you!!! Ma shaa Allah TabarakAllah you’re always sharing such amazing reminders and advice Allahu Akbar 🤲🏾🤲🏾❤️🌹
.neglected &my kids...😢..
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Your hypergamous nature doesn’t allow you to coach others in relationships,