“I Don’t Think There’s A Right Or Wrong Way To Come Out.”
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- Опубліковано 16 жов 2024
- As a closeted teenager, Jeff Perla saw his cousin come out to the family and knew that he did was not interested in coming out quite so publicly. This was put to the test six years later when his college roommates caught him in bed with a male student.
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this guy is adorable . great story and story teller
As a Mom, I just have to say that Jeff is such an adorable & sweet kid with that "million dollar" smile of his where his whole face lights up when he smiles...I wish he & his cousin a rich, content, & meaningful future surrounded by lots of loving, supportive family & friends...
The roommate that took the picture of you in bed with someone needed to be called out on that major invasion of privacy.
We definitely think alike. Who does that?
When the roommate least expects it….. I will get this roommate in a way that was much worse. Like a 10K billboard……. Invasion of privates and privacy..
I've met Jeff Perla in real life when he visited Sydney last year. He is a very nice, friendly and inspiring person.
This guy is cute af
Cesare de Cal honestly
He is, he is.
Jeff, thank you, bro. Your eyes scream how happy you are. Kudos to you. But what happened to you and the freshman you were in bed with, did a relationship follow? Take care, man........love you..........Ray
I know it's off topic, but grad-level classes on a SATURDAY for 8 hours? That's my worst scheduling nightmare. Saturdays are for staying in bed eating cookies.
He is SO Adorable! xoxo
First I have to comment - the Sunday thing I believe is a universal constant among we Italian Americans. Location doesn't matter, Long Island or Rhode Island.
In my case people pretty much knew I was gay. One girl I worked with who is still a friend to this day explained it to me. I didn't give her the once over.
I love you for your conviction. You did what I would have done. All my love to you!!!!!
Very attrractive man. I could see myself hanging out with him and having a beer.
Great kid and great story. I've always been an advocate of writing a letter to people to tell them when you come out. That way they can digest it slowly at their own speed and you don't get interrupted and you also don't need to respond to their anger, surprise, disappointment or whatever, at least not at that moment. They can have time to consider what to say and maybe not have n instant reaction that could be bad that they will regret. Ideally everyone who loves you and you love would accept you for whatever you told them but that doesn't always happen as we know. Just my opinion
He’s adorable!
Cute guy.... great story... everybody is different....you need to do what feels right, when it feels right. Very cool bro
Damn, you really have your shit together
Wonderful the way you just handle things straight on 🤗 as they happen.
This made me happy
THAT is exactly how I came out............... TO NO ONE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No ,hey guess whats Momma-Poppa,..... I grew up and lived my life the way I needed with NO explanations how much salt to use for my dish of food.................. I have yet to be asked ANY questions pertaining to any aspects of my life.................. My other half and I are now going on 57 years of togetherness.......................................................
Beautiful smiles… seems like a real nice guy….
Come on ! No one has any interest in whatever happens with the guy? Nice story, your lucky to be surrounded by wonderful people. Also, like the way you blush telling certain parts of the story.
There's no wrong way to come out. I came out to my mom while decorating the christmas tree.
My father came out (as trans) to me after going to top surgery when I was 5 and asked me to start calling him dad.
What happened with the freshman after that? Please turn your adorable story into a movie! ;-)
Well I cant agree with you
When I came out to my mother (gay)
(Only like two months ago)
She was so disappointed and she started crying and recently she asked me how did you get to the conclusion that your gay and I told her that I am attracted to men
And she was like "oh boy" it's wayyyy worse in Hebrew and it sucks
I really hope that when people will come out to their parents it will e this amazing adventure and everything will be perfect but for me it's just not like that
Hi! May I ask how old you are? You did not ask your mother to put you into this world. SHE decided she wanted to have you. You do not owe her a thing. Make her realize that it´s YOUR life she gave to you and that there is nothing wrong with you. The first thing my mother mentioned were grandchildren. What a selfish thing to say, right? If she really loves you, she will accept eventually. If not, make sure she understands that she is going to loose you ...
This guy really is adorable and I agree with the previous comment that he has a awesome storytelling voice
3 years later, I hope you're doing well.
Looking forward to a day when "coming out" isn't necessary.
i think you are absolutely right.
Beautiful smile
Good stuff Bro...
What a lovely guy
Firstly, enjoyed this video. No right or wrong way to come out??
depends on where your coming from. My advise would be find
someplace to break away the isolation maybe through lgbt
group. The reason is because there are different backgrounds
but nobody is putting a gun to any one head.
I feel there maybe negative issues, that sometimes distort. I personally
would say make sure you have the understanding and there are more
support these days. I understand what this video saying
We should think about the question, why it is still necasarry to come out.
I mean heteros do not have to come out. Why should gay people have to do this?
Find a partner and introduce "it" to your parents. And they will see.
Am I thinking wrong?
Wonderful stoty!.
well: a couple of bad moments would be:
interrupting a wedding, or a funeral.. or walking in on your parents in their intimate moment... those would be bad moments..
I’m glad you’re happy, but sometimes coming out gives nothing but the acceptance of your loved ones. And that’s important.But not being able to be a History Teacher, because in 1984, being gay got you fired. But I felt History illuminates the human experience. I wanted to share, but being out killed the dream I dreamed. With all due respect, it doesn’t always get better...
Me either come out any way you want
ok so I'm gonna say what we are all thinking, he is sooo cute
I had to try suicide before I could admit it to my wife. Needless to say we are now exes and everyone I told afterwards had a positive response to me.
Get it, boy!
Are you presently in a relationship?
Great ☺
First time ever, but I think this advice is wrong for a heck of a lot of people. Some people have to carefully plan how they are going to come out to their loved ones who might not easily receive the news. What worked for you, total tripped out of your closet might be seriously dangerous for others. Sorry to be negative, but I just had to say this.
Nonsense. "loved once who might not easily receive the news" can choose: either they deserve to be loved once furthermore, or they can go F*** themselves.
My sister never actually "came out". She just moved into a house with her girlfriend and they go to family events together. No one's ever commented and we just accept her as family. They have since bought a house together and have been together for about 20 years or so.
I think in an ideal society, gay people wouldn't have to come out just as heterosexual people don't come out as it's considered normal. Unfortunately there is still a lot of prejudice on this and because of this sometimes people can't just be true to themselves.
@@peteraschaffenburg1 What if the person coming out is still a student and financially dependent on their caretakers, who might not take it easily and possibly stop financially supporting them?
What if the person coming out has an abusive relative in their immediate surroudings that might not take it well as well?
Not everyone can just leave and handle themselves. It's absolutely terrifying for some people. Try to understand that.
Matthieu A. Been there, done that. I understand alright, don’t have to try. I didn’t say it would be easy.
You absolutely right.
I never told a tbody. I didn't think it was any of their business. Just sayin.. ..if it's right for you, it's all good. I just kept my mouth shut. Works for me.
Can I please ask him on a date?
I wanted to come out by kissing another trans girl in front of my family. my sister outed me after looking at my amazon wishlist.
Sorry but i just do not get this big deal the American gave abiut being gay 1990 with my school friends we all go out to pub quizes etc this night i picked everyone up with my date in car, i introduced him to everyone there was no big deal i was 19 he 18 . My straight broad there dates some had different one each week . There just no big coming out. Equally my friends bew in was gay i been at school with most of them since i was 11. It was no big deal
Why do all gay boys look alike?
Or you could just be straight. It’s a choice.
Lol.
Or he could just have lived a lie to himself, friends, and family and been miserable.....How ignorant can you be.
Or you just don't have trisomy 21. It's a choice.
Moron...
Calidude, how is he living a lie? *He's in the 21st century, living a life the way he wants...one that involves getting with the times and not reading some fictional outdated book.*
I like your story, very informative. I still have some trouble with the whole coming out thing. Noone comes out as straight, so I don't see the need for gay people to come out to straight people. It kind of feels like one group of people trying to run the lives of another group of people. But this is just my opinion, not trying to push it on anyone