My mother raised 11 children, and I raised five children, My mother once gave me the most valuable piece of advice about toys and clothes. She said if you turn your house in to nursery, and your house clothes shop the kids will get bored and will not be hungry to play with toys or develop long term learning, or calm thinking ability.less is more. Plus if you save 10 a week for each kids that would be 1000 a year , by the time boys are 18yrs , you would be saving 18000 for two . In two separate accounts. Save the money so you can spend on them in ten yrs. So you can still buy that expensive trainers when they are big , the boys would remember it and appreciate much. I saved 10 a week for 18yrs gave to my daughter when she went to university to study law for rents now shes a lawyer. Don't fall into the hands of consumerism, two sets of pyjamas and two sets of weekend clothes uniforms and special clothes for occasions. Save and you will have little financial security. Peace.
Sweetie, please please give yourself a pat on the back for helping ALL of us out here that are just like you!! ( There's more of us than you know!! 😉) You are so inspiring and a very beautiful person inside and out!! Thank you again❣️😬
I switched on UA-cam for a distraction since I was on the verge of tears just looking at my messy home. This video popped up and changed it all! Thank you for being so open with your struggles because your trouble spots are mine exactly. Thanks a million for the honest motivation!!!!❤
Best to teach them the basics now of being a good adult who can take care of themselves and any future family they may have. My boy loves his kitchen, dolls and helping clean with a damp cloth! 💗 Little'uns learn so much through roleplay
As a grandma, one trick my daughter-in-law taught me was that when I buy a toy(s) for the grandkids, I bring them when I visit, but take them when I leave as the toys 'live' at my house. That way her house is not overwhelmed and the toys become special and not mundane. The children also look forward to playing with those special toys when they come to visit me.
"I would give a rock sentimental value" - me too. It really helps to know that someone else feels that way! I am improving, in theory - in practice, not quickly enough. Remi, you are so encouraging and kind. Your videos are very helpful. Thank you!
I found your comment about being in an ideal situation to even get started cleaning up intriguing. I thought I was the only one...lol. It's like I have this "vision" of how my environment needs to be before I can even start cleaning. Of course, being in that perfect situation rarely occurs. Thanks for sharing!!
This is a great video Beautiful lady! I wonder if your fatigue could be a B12 deficiency. Here in the States it isn't part of the annual blood tests. We have to discuss and request with the doctor. ❤
Oh sweet girl, don’t listen to TROLLs. Some people just have to criticize. It’s disgraceful. I’m in the USA, and I was watching you. Your poor little soul running around cleaning. You have precious boys and what a lovely family. I think U do a bang up job. I love the way your house looks. You’re so good to your animals. You certainly have a beautiful heart. I’m with U spending time with my children are the biggest priority. Stop beating yourself up. You Do You! Let these trolls eat DIRT!!!! ❤😂
Well with kids it’s gonna help her serve them more easily. It’s so hard to make food when you can’t get to what you need easily. But … you can do both. Take one cabinet at a time in the kitchen. When that’s done go work on a section of bedroom! That’s what I do if I can’t make myself tackle a whole room at once.
Im the kind of person that will help anyone else clean up, but when it comes to my house i just ain't got no interest. But after watching your video I've been given me the get up and go that i need. Thank you.
I absolutely adore you 🥺🫶 I wish I could find a friend like you 😂 literally reminded me of myself and thought I was all alone out here 😅 thanks for being a real human I enjoyed this and feel confident and motivated now 🧡🌼🍂
WOW look at you! Almost to 100k followers. You’re inspiring all of us to just keep plugging away at the decluttering journey. I’m 75 now and I’ve been working on doing just that since my husband passed. I have done a lot already but I’m still working at purging my house. Every little bit helps and I want to keep going so it’s not all left to my daughter to do. Thanks for the inspiration Remy 🌻
I've just had to clear my mother in law's house after she passed away unexpectedly and to go through all the stuff in a week and try and find new homes for as many things as possible so that they don't end up in a landfill was such an overwhelming and stressful task. It's wonderful that you're thinking ahead for your daughter to not have to go through that.
That’s really kind of you to be doing that purging so your daughter won’t have to; and it’s hard work as it is very stressful to go through sentimental things. Sorry your husband passed and God bless you.
This video has brought back so many happy memories of my son being young and having so many books. Before one house move we got rid of over 300 books! I just reached the end. Do the kitchen next. 👍🏼
As a mother of two sons who also loved Lego, I found it very helpful to get one big sheet that the boys were encouraged to keep the Lego on top of. When they wanted to build , they each grabbed a corner of the sheet and lifted all the sheet which held all the blocks out of the tub. When they finished playing, they each grabbed corners of the sheet , lifted up the whole thing and put it back into the tub. Easy fast cleanup, and gives the boys a chance to feel good about helping with a tidier house.
Start a post office account for the kids, no toys from anyone( exvelt one each from parents/grandparents) money from everyone put in the account and One toy bought from it on special occasions the rest is for when 18 and need to pay rent/ uni/ start a small business. Just let them kniw ‘grandad/aunty/bob or carol ‘ put this money in the bank for you for your birthday and look at how much its growing fir when you are 18!!!! Though do allow a present or two as well. Others are causing clutter. I live in Asia. We give ‘red oackets’ of even number money to the kids. Saves a lot of problems. They keep half and save half. Big sums are save only. Its good to learn not to rely on instant gratification
Remi, because you end your day in your bedroom I think that your bedroom should be first. Your bedroom needs to be where you can end your Day & relax, especially all that you & your partner deal with every day. So your bedroom needs to be your top priority & then deal with your kitchen. I feel that what I have seen you do that you deal with things very well. Everyone deals with things differently & everyone has different life styles, so you have to do what works best for you. Take care & keep doing things in your own way & in your own time of how things needs to be done. Stay safe & healthy.
I've decluttered about 80% of the contents of my house over the last 18 months and I dont miss any of it! Here are my tips now I'd now consider myself a minimalist: I'm trying to go a bit further at the moment. Just got rid of a load more stuff I'd kept "just in case" and dont actually need and I've worked on whats *really* sentimental and why and found I can let some of that go too by keeping photos of the items which remind me of someone or something and letting the actual item go to find a new life with someone else. My top tips would be: 1) Numbers method. Turn the "should I get rid of this" question on its head. Think about how many of something to *keep* first. So, for example, when I was decluttering clothes I would think "How many tee shirts do I need? Even if I only did a wash weekly (and I put a wash more often than that in reality) 7 is plenty". Then I'd choose my *favourite* 7 to keep. The focus being on having my best, most favourite items to keep made getting rid of the rest so much easier and now I feel great about every item in my wardrobe. Same with the kids toys, ask them to choose their favourites. 2) Container method. Think about how much space you are willing to give a category of things and let the container size be the limit. For example, I got 4 smallish Ikea boxes and gave one to make up, one to skin care, another to medicines and a 4th to "backstock" because that's what fits in my bathroom cabinet. Any mote than that and I've got mess because I cant easily put it away and store it in the cupboard space available. So I had to keep *only* what fitted in the boxes. Again, I picked my favourites first and the rest had to go. This really helped me be realistic about the space I have to store stuff when the priorty is living easily with my "stuff" serving me instead of feeling weighed down by having to look after it! 3) Stop the in flow method. Every time I went to buy something which wasnt food or a repeat consumable household item, I'd ask myself "What is the lifespan of this product and how will it be disposed of when I no longer want or need it"? This REALLY stopped me buying cheap crap I didn't truly need and focused me on buying fewer things but spending more on quality purchases which can either be recycled (because its made of wood or metal instead of cheap plastic) or will have the longevity to be passed on after I'm done with it. Having to save for something of higher quality often delayed the purchase for long enough for me to realise I didnt really need it in the first place!! Hope those tips help someone else ❤ Good luck!
Those are brilliant tips and thanks so much for sharing. Will copy and apply these. I won’t be happy with 7 tees but I could be happy with 14! 😂 baby steps lol! Great ideas to implement. Thanks so much for sharing!
I was your months ago and I decided that I was worth 15-30 mins of exercise each day and I’ve been doing it. And I feel so amazing, better and better every day. You deserve more then your doing for you and if you struggle to see it like that then think, your a better mom even to do self love and self care things for yourself. You got this ! If I can do it you definitely can ❤️
Dear Remi, making your bed in the morning is a sweet promise to yourself that no matter what you are faced with over the course of the day, you will have a neat clean place to lay your head at night. Thanks for these videos. I have ADD, and these make me feel I'm not alone.
Oh Remy, you remind me so much of my younger self. I’m glad you’ve set yourself do-able goals for October. Please be kind to yourself, and realize that this is just an exhausting period of your life! It will get easier as the kids get older, I promise.
I also wanted you to know that you inspired me to make my bed this morning. Having others who get the struggles goes a long way in helping me face the situation and find away through (even if it is just in one small way). ❤ Thank you!
Honestly your cleaning is second to all the beautiful voice and motivational speaking. Cleaning is a bonus. You leave people feeling calmer and better about themselves, it’s magic!
Remi have you watched Clutterbug? She has a test to see our organising style. Looking at your kitchen cupboards, I think you're a ladybug, then she gives the organisation systems best for the way you organise. Also she did a tough love livestream recently & I highly recommend watching that for anyone who is overwhelmed & doesn't know where to start. It really changed my mindset. 😊 Well done on getting so much out of your home!
Remi, why don't you try an idea of mine, It is called the island tor table method to sort out how much room you have and everything that goes together goes in one area, so all games are consolidated into a compendium table and so on, and what you can't get on one area you need to throw out
Wow, what an amazing difference when you'd finished! I vote for your bedroom next, so you can relax when you go to bed. For storage and organisation ideas, don't even look at potential solutions until you have finished decluttering and you know exactly what you want you go where and how much of it there is. Once you know, you can buy storage to fit the spaces properly and you'll know how much capacity the storage will need to have to actually work for you. It's so annoying to buy storage that doesn't fix the problem.
Hi, Remi! Sometimes I go back & watch your videos over again. It's like visiting a friend! Your voice & comments are soothing and uplifting. When the kids drive me crazy, a "visit" with you helps me calm down and chill out! Thanks for your contributions to the world! ❤️🌍😊
Remi, you are doing great. When you get decluttered try doing a carrier bag a day as anything that goes is an item not to think about. Maybe speak to your family about the Christmas and birthday gift situation. Gifts don't have to be possessions, it can be a day out having fun or a special meal together etc. Love watching and listening to your video's.
It’s a fact that we wear 20% of our clothes 80% of the time!!! Please pare down to the 20%…less washing, folding….BETTER MENTAL HEALTH !!!! Care for Yourself!!!! The boys will be better too when you are better!!! Loving your content!! Ps… I need to take my own advice too!!!!
Good job! I guessed 7 bags. I have lived in my house for over 30 yrs. every week I have a bag or 6 that I fill for donations. Last week 14 totes were brought down, from the attic, 4 totes, 2 crates and 3 bags went to the donations center. I’m struggling with baby stuff and baby stuffed animals. Tomorrow I will be firm about it
12:21 As I make my bed every Morning(for the past 7 years) I quote a US Navy Admiral…. Start the day with a task completed. If the rest of my day goes poorly then I know I got at least one thing done that day. When I go to bed at night I feel satisfied with how lovely my bed looks even if it is surrounded in chaos. Slidling under the covers of a made bed is lovely. It only takes a couple minutes and makes such a difference! 💙🦋
We are from Japan my son is 25 yrs old and I’m 54 yrs old we’re struggling everyday how to start to clean up our own mess in our home and we are so lucky to accidentally found your videos which is very informative and necessary to us. You have a nice family you are all very helpful and kind.we hope you all best and all healthy.GodBlessed you all thank you so very much.take care💕🇯🇵🙏✝️💕
Thank you for your video, I often feel overwhelmed and procrastinate a lot. I wish fairies would come along and do it while I’m asleep lol. I’m going to try this way - usually when I do a list, I put everything down, or do one room at a time, but your way makes a lot of sense. Thanks again, and I’ll let you know how I go. I hope you feel better soon
I vote for the kitchen! Mine looks horrible and you could motivate me to declutter mine as well. Remi, you are such an inspiration, encouragement to so many of us. I love hearing you!❤ You are such a genuine and lovely person and an amazing mom.
For sure your bedroom next. My reasoning is because, compared to the kitchen, there is significantly less things which will mean: 1) it won't take as long because there are less things, 2) if you start the kitchen which is bigger with more things, you're more likely to burnout and not get to your bedroom for quite a while, and 3) starting your bedroom means you will sleep better as a result of less stress in the room and be motivated to get the kitchen complete. I hope this helps you! Thank you for your videos, I enjoy you and what you bring to us!!!
These are good points but when I get a dilemma like this, I do BOTH. I start in a corner of my room and my kitchen. Like I would start in the bedroom and then when I complete a section and I’m fed up with that I’ll go start a section in the kitchen and work on it for how long I can. I work on a spot that can be deconstructed, cleaned and restored to order when I’m working 2 rooms.
I would suggest the kitchen first. It looked like there were things inside the cabinets and drawers that weren’t necessarily kitchen items. It would drive me crazy to have to move toys and games to get to my pots, pans, flatware, etc. And, to me, it seems that you would have more space if it was tidy. I’m a lot older than you and it has taken me a long time to accept that I will not put things away that are stored in containers with lids. I use a lot of cubbies and shelving with bins! Have you ever watched Clutterbug? She does a great job of breaking down the storage systems that work for different personalities. For example, I prefer things to be out of sight but in loosely defined categories which is why lid-less bins work for me. I store all of my hair styling products in a shower caddy so that I can pull the whole thing out, use the products I need, then put the caddy back out of sight. That’s also a great way to store children’s art supplies since it so easy to keep tidy. Your son could pull out the bin of supplies, use them, then dump it all back into the bin to carry back to a shelf or cupboard. Also, if your son does most of his drawing at the kitchen table, the art supplies could be stored in the bottom of a cabinet in the kitchen to make clean up easy. I like to watch you because it gives me inspiration and I really like listening to your commentary!
I'm a very messy person but over the last 4 weeks I've been decluttering my house, we've had about 6 tip runs and still got 1 more to go and a toy room and 1 bedroom left to sort out, I suffer from depression, anxiety and PTSD so it takes me a while to get into a cleaning mood and if someone tells me to do something else I just stop, well done on decluttering
"we are on to sorting the book shelf now for anyone who haven't been watching the screen." I look up from the crochet, just happily feeling the inspiration to clean come to me, and I felt busted, but in a supportive and understanding sort of way. I chuckled.
My vote is for the kitchen since you use that space multiple times a day. Keep up the great work!! And I appreciate your honesty- saying what is hard to get motivated to do and what you don’t like doing at all. Thanks for being REAL!
Beautiful videos, not just about cleaning and decluttering but mostly about finding balance and thriving in your own life and helping others. Love and thank you from Utah, USA!
Maybe start with the bedroom. Leave the bigger job till last. Laying your head down to sleep every night and smiling because your bedroom is clean and your safe haven is the utmost feeling. Love watching and listening to your voice overs. Greetings from Victoria Australia 🇦🇺
I vote you do the kitchen next. You use that space daily and it will be adding daily stress for you, whereas the doom cupboard won't be as frequent. But I'd definitely break it down over several sessions to avoid burnout!! I really relate to this channel and it gives me a lot of grace with the nagging voice in my head, we're doing the best we can. Perfection doesn't exist, doing something imperfectly will always be better than avoiding the thing because we wanted it perfect. As someone who is also nonstop ill currently, I hope you have more better days ❤
I'm from across the pond in Atlanta GA USA, and I love your voice it's calming, my children are grown but I remember these days, your honesty and transparency is refreshing
Only found your channel the other day Remi! I really struggle to declutter but you have encouraged me to start. You’re so wise and full of good advice. You must be an old soul as I’m twice your age and nowhere near as wise as you. Look forward to seeing more from you. Thank you ❤xxxx
When I was a kid and my mom would de-clutter, she would bring bags of things she didn’t think I needed to me and it would be my job to go through them and make the final decision on keeping them or not. Eventually that became toxic and she would gaslight me into getting rid of things I really wanted to keep, but I think the original sentiment of letting your kids decide the fate of their property is not only reassuring to them, it builds character. Apparently it’s a fairly common trauma to recall the pain of a parent getting rid of your toys against your wishes. It’s all-around best to include your kids in the decluttering at some point and allow them to make decisions about their own property.
Currently procrastinating my house because I get so overwhelmed and thinking it’s gonna take forever when I rationally know it won’t. Lol thanks for the video it has helped !
Looking at your cupboards for the brief moment, I feel like your items are ill fitting in there because you are lacking shelves. You need some more shelving to put in things of the correct size. 💜 I enjoy listening to you, your voice is lovely!
I think you're a fabulous individual and its your videos I watch when I need inspiration for cleaning. Thank a lot and don't change anything. You remind me of myself a bit when my kids were little and growing up...they're adults now in charge of their own homes.
I HAVE to watch your videos and listen to you to get motivated 😅. Our family moved into a cute little house last June, and we have had every setback known to man. My mom had a stroke, we hold jobs, and one kid is going to college. There is so much clutter, but I try to be kind to myself and clean a little bit when I get the chance.
I’m sure you have made a huge difference in so many life’s. I suffer with very major depression & can’t seem to get anything done anymore. I’ve let my home get so bad. It’s majorly cluttered. I feel like I’ve tried. But I just give up. Been going thru this for so many years and my mom just recently passed away & now things are really much worse. I was her main caregiver and we lived together. All I do now is cry everyday. I plan on getting things done each day but I just don’t seem too. But I love watching you. You are doing a great job. Bless you.
Please be gentle with yourself. What you have been through is a traumatic experience, and you have enough to do dealing with grief, loss and exhaustion. If there is anyone you can trust who might give you a hand with practical tasks, don’t be too proud to ask. Anyone who has been a carer and suffered bereavement will understand. Otherwise just do the easiest things until your energy levels rise. Wishing the best for you x
As an ADHD Autistic adult, I really needed this video. I live by myself in a 2 room apartment and way too much stuff. Thank you for showing me how to start. I really struggle with that part
One of these days I’ll get through one of your videos without crying 😭❤️ the thoughts you shared about your brother were so beautiful 😭😭 You’re a beautiful person, Remi! ❤️❤️❤️
Oh my goodness! I just want to say thankyou from the bottom of my heart. Im so lucky I came across your channel. Watching your videos with tears in my eyes right now as you're speaking to my heart. Im a homeschooling mama to three amazing wildlings and Your content is so wholesome and real and you're a shining light and a motivation to all overwhelmed mamas.
You got me off the couch today I swept,scrubbed the bathroom,cleaned the living room, ran the sweeper, did some dishes after eating a small meal. It is all because you got me motivated! Even decluttered a kitchen cabinet. So Thank you ❤
You’ve come so far and should be so proud of yourself, I know that you may not think so but you’re loved by so many of your fans because you make them feel better about how they feel 👏🥰❤️
I just found this video, as well as you are tidying video, and I absolutely love you and your honesty. I am a mom with some executive function issues as well, so as expected my children have some EF issues as well, and my son is autistic. Seeing that other moms also have to balance getting things done with what works for their family is so refreshing. Thank you so much for sharing! Much love from Oklahoma, USA! ✌🏻
Finally! Someone knows what i'm feeling! I decided to be a bit stern with myself. Everyday I put the timer on and get at least one bag of stuff out of the little's room. She has so.much.stuff!!! It doesn't help that she's the third kid and she has inherited toys and books and clothes and tchotkes of every description. Watching you declutter kid stuff makes me feel like I can get back to the battle. Thanks! I have an idea for your overwhelmed series: how to slow down and spend time with your kids when you're overwhelmed at work and don't have a lot of energy. 😅 For sheer honesty and do-ability you have earned a new subscriber!
Hi ! I'm from Portugal, 52 years old, and your videos are being a blessing to me ❤ Finnaly I understood myself and why I am the way I am... procrastinating, having huge trouble to start tasks and so on... I didn't know executive disfunctio was a thing, but it tottaly describes me! I'll stick around and learn more from you😊 Thank you, THANK YOU 🙏🫶🫶🫶
Hello beautiful. I've just come across your videos. I'm currently on my decluttering/ cleaning the house 🏠 journey & fully enjoyed the first video of yours cleaning your lovely hard working Dad's house & have watched 2 per day of yours since hehe.... You're very inspiring & it's motivated me to start & be me in this world as I find you are very relatable, down to earth & charismatic like myself & it's so nice to see that just how messy your place can quickly get after a wonderful clean & feeling not the only one!!! What a humble video of yours was for the week cleaning challenge & your cute boys trying to help their Mummy a bit ever soo sweet!!! Thank you for being sooo honest in your voice overs & I encourage you to keep going as you're doing a fantastic job in all fronts 🥰
You are like my online friend. You're so relatable and watching your videos is like a good chat with a friend while we both work. I'm so happy that doing these videos make you happy, but please don't overdo everything. I've found that if you don't take a break and rest your mind and body, then something breaks and your body forces you to take the rest. I had a whole week of job related overwhelm and didn't take care of myself, so I ended up making an absolute scene outside when they final straw snapped. My clothes line broke and all my husband's clean, wet work clothes fell onto the ground. I got myself into such a state that I got a horrible migraine and had to go to bed for a few hours. I think we all-or-nothing types need to give ourselves permission to take a break to recharge before we're forced to do it by an illness. Thank you so much for all you do for your online community!!!❤
Thank you for saying "You've got to work with the brain you've been blessed with." You are both welcoming and affirming!
Yay a new video ❤. I think 100k is a certainty this weekend. So getting my HUGE CONGRATULATIONS in early 🎉. Well done Remi xxx
My mother raised 11 children, and I raised five children, My mother once gave me the most valuable piece of advice about toys and clothes. She said if you turn your house in to nursery, and your house clothes shop the kids will get bored and will not be hungry to play with toys or develop long term learning, or calm thinking ability.less is more. Plus if you save 10 a week for each kids that would be 1000 a year , by the time boys are 18yrs , you would be saving 18000 for two . In two separate accounts. Save the money so you can spend on them in ten yrs. So you can still buy that expensive trainers when they are big , the boys would remember it and appreciate much. I saved 10 a week for 18yrs gave to my daughter when she went to university to study law for rents now shes a lawyer. Don't fall into the hands of consumerism, two sets of pyjamas and two sets of weekend clothes uniforms and special clothes for occasions.
Save and you will have little financial security. Peace.
Sweetie, please please give yourself a pat on the back for helping ALL of us out here that are just like you!! ( There's more of us than you know!! 😉) You are so inspiring and a very beautiful person inside and out!! Thank you again❣️😬
I switched on UA-cam for a distraction since I was on the verge of tears just looking at my messy home. This video popped up and changed it all! Thank you for being so open with your struggles because your trouble spots are mine exactly. Thanks a million for the honest motivation!!!!❤
I was glad to see I’m not the only person who buys their son a kitchen set.
I bought one for my boys when they were little and they’re both pretty good cooks now;) 33 and 42 yrs old…oh how the time flies by.
Inspiring video as always! Love listening to you chatter on while I join you in sorting out a drawer😂 Keep being you Remi!
My son is 5 and has had one since he was 3 he absolutely loves it.
Best to teach them the basics now of being a good adult who can take care of themselves and any future family they may have. My boy loves his kitchen, dolls and helping clean with a damp cloth! 💗 Little'uns learn so much through roleplay
Why wouldn't a boy want a kitchen?
This woman absolutely speaks my language. So good at expressing feelings and sharing vulnerability!
It’s so lovely to hear this, thank you 😊
As a grandma, one trick my daughter-in-law taught me was that when I buy a toy(s) for the grandkids, I bring them when I visit, but take them when I leave as the toys 'live' at my house. That way her house is not overwhelmed and the toys become special and not mundane. The children also look forward to playing with those special toys when they come to visit me.
You motivate so many people to do better me being one of them thank you for posting 🥰
You make me feel more accepted, thank you for your words and help.
You’re so very welcome, I’m pleased to hear it ❤️
"I would give a rock sentimental value" - me too. It really helps to know that someone else feels that way! I am improving, in theory - in practice, not quickly enough. Remi, you are so encouraging and kind. Your videos are very helpful. Thank you!
I found your comment about being in an ideal situation to even get started cleaning up intriguing. I thought I was the only one...lol. It's like I have this "vision" of how my environment needs to be before I can even start cleaning. Of course, being in that perfect situation rarely occurs. Thanks for sharing!!
Hello my dear Remi! So excited for the new video! I absolutely adore you and your precious family! Sending love and prayers to you all!
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The kitchen cupboard with the cleaning products ❤
If it makes you feel any better now that Marie Kondo has three children she admits she can no longer can keep her house tidy.
Oh no - bless her heart! If Marie Kondo can’t do it with 3 kids I guess we are in good company!
I used to divide my kids’ toys (not their favorites) and put half in the top of the closet. Every 6 months…new toys!
@@GrannyLinnthat’s what I used to do. Dragged them out on a rainy day
This is a great video Beautiful lady! I wonder if your fatigue could be a B12 deficiency. Here in the States it isn't part of the annual blood tests. We have to discuss and request with the doctor. ❤
I would pick the kitchen next because it's so central to the home. Good luck and can't wait to see it. You can do it! Cheers
Oh sweet girl, don’t listen to TROLLs. Some people just have to criticize. It’s disgraceful. I’m in the USA, and I was watching you. Your poor little soul running around cleaning. You have precious boys and what a lovely family. I think U do a bang up job. I love the way your house looks. You’re so good to your animals. You certainly have a beautiful heart. I’m with U spending time with my children are the biggest priority. Stop beating yourself up. You Do You! Let these trolls eat DIRT!!!! ❤😂
I vote for kitchen decluttering next as it would seemingly benefit everyone (whereas the bedroom cupboards would be more for you and your partner).
Good point!
Well with kids it’s gonna help her serve them more easily. It’s so hard to make food when you can’t get to what you need easily. But … you can do both. Take one cabinet at a time in the kitchen. When that’s done go work on a section of bedroom! That’s what I do if I can’t make myself tackle a whole room at once.
Im the kind of person that will help anyone else clean up, but when it comes to my house i just ain't got no interest. But after watching your video I've been given me the get up and go that i need. Thank you.
Same here!
Your voice is so soothing, and i love hearing British English. You could read the phone book and I would listen!
I absolutely adore you 🥺🫶 I wish I could find a friend like you 😂 literally reminded me of myself and thought I was all alone out here 😅 thanks for being a real human I enjoyed this and feel confident and motivated now 🧡🌼🍂
WOW look at you! Almost to 100k followers. You’re inspiring all of us to just keep plugging away at the decluttering journey. I’m 75 now and I’ve been working on doing just that since my husband passed. I have done a lot already but I’m still working at purging my house. Every little bit helps and I want to keep going so it’s not all left to my daughter to do. Thanks for the inspiration Remy 🌻
I've just had to clear my mother in law's house after she passed away unexpectedly and to go through all the stuff in a week and try and find new homes for as many things as possible so that they don't end up in a landfill was such an overwhelming and stressful task. It's wonderful that you're thinking ahead for your daughter to not have to go through that.
That’s really kind of you to be doing that purging so your daughter won’t have to; and it’s hard work as it is very stressful to go through sentimental things. Sorry your husband passed and God bless you.
This video has brought back so many happy memories of my son being young and having so many books. Before one house move we got rid of over 300 books!
I just reached the end. Do the kitchen next. 👍🏼
The one in the bedroom would be an easy win before moving on to so many cupboards in the kitchen!
As a mother of two sons who also loved Lego, I found it very helpful to get one big sheet that the boys were encouraged to keep the Lego on top of. When they wanted to build , they each grabbed a corner of the sheet and lifted all the sheet which held all the blocks out of the tub.
When they finished playing, they each grabbed corners of the sheet , lifted up the whole thing and put it back into the tub. Easy fast cleanup, and gives the boys a chance to feel good about helping with a tidier house.
Just as I don’t know where to begin, I don’t know how to thank you for posting videos I so appreciate you posting. Gentle hugs, dear one.
Thank you so much! Hugs to you too! 😊
Tell the grandparents to give experiences NOT STUFF !!!
We take our grandkids on adventures,even going to a creek and throwing stones in,and having a picnic. They love it!!
THIS 👏🏻
Start a post office account for the kids, no toys from anyone( exvelt one each from parents/grandparents) money from everyone put in the account and One toy bought from it on special occasions the rest is for when 18 and need to pay rent/ uni/ start a small business. Just let them kniw ‘grandad/aunty/bob or carol ‘ put this money in the bank for you for your birthday and look at how much its growing fir when you are 18!!!! Though do allow a present or two as well. Others are causing clutter. I live in Asia. We give ‘red oackets’ of even number money to the kids. Saves a lot of problems. They keep half and save half. Big sums are save only. Its good to learn not to rely on instant gratification
Remi, because you end your day in your bedroom I think that your bedroom should be first. Your bedroom needs to be where you can end your Day & relax, especially all that you & your partner deal with every day. So your bedroom needs to be your top priority & then deal with your kitchen. I feel that what I have seen you do that you deal with things very well. Everyone deals with things differently & everyone has different life styles, so you have to do what works best for you. Take care & keep doing things in your own way & in your own time of how things needs to be done. Stay safe & healthy.
I've decluttered about 80% of the contents of my house over the last 18 months and I dont miss any of it! Here are my tips now I'd now consider myself a minimalist:
I'm trying to go a bit further at the moment. Just got rid of a load more stuff I'd kept "just in case" and dont actually need and I've worked on whats *really* sentimental and why and found I can let some of that go too by keeping photos of the items which remind me of someone or something and letting the actual item go to find a new life with someone else.
My top tips would be:
1) Numbers method. Turn the "should I get rid of this" question on its head. Think about how many of something to *keep* first. So, for example, when I was decluttering clothes I would think "How many tee shirts do I need? Even if I only did a wash weekly (and I put a wash more often than that in reality) 7 is plenty". Then I'd choose my *favourite* 7 to keep. The focus being on having my best, most favourite items to keep made getting rid of the rest so much easier and now I feel great about every item in my wardrobe. Same with the kids toys, ask them to choose their favourites.
2) Container method. Think about how much space you are willing to give a category of things and let the container size be the limit. For example, I got 4 smallish Ikea boxes and gave one to make up, one to skin care, another to medicines and a 4th to "backstock" because that's what fits in my bathroom cabinet. Any mote than that and I've got mess because I cant easily put it away and store it in the cupboard space available. So I had to keep *only* what fitted in the boxes. Again, I picked my favourites first and the rest had to go. This really helped me be realistic about the space I have to store stuff when the priorty is living easily with my "stuff" serving me instead of feeling weighed down by having to look after it!
3) Stop the in flow method. Every time I went to buy something which wasnt food or a repeat consumable household item, I'd ask myself "What is the lifespan of this product and how will it be disposed of when I no longer want or need it"? This REALLY stopped me buying cheap crap I didn't truly need and focused me on buying fewer things but spending more on quality purchases which can either be recycled (because its made of wood or metal instead of cheap plastic) or will have the longevity to be passed on after I'm done with it. Having to save for something of higher quality often delayed the purchase for long enough for me to realise I didnt really need it in the first place!!
Hope those tips help someone else ❤ Good luck!
Those are brilliant tips and thanks so much for sharing. Will copy and apply these. I won’t be happy with 7 tees but I could be happy with 14! 😂 baby steps lol!
Great ideas to implement. Thanks so much for sharing!
I was your months ago and I decided that I was worth 15-30 mins of exercise each day and I’ve been doing it. And I feel so amazing, better and better every day. You deserve more then your doing for you and if you struggle to see it like that then think, your a better mom even to do self love and self care things for yourself. You got this ! If I can do it you definitely can ❤️
I suspect the kitchen would make the biggest difference in your daily life. But I'd split it up into sections for sure.
Your videos are so realistic and relatable ❤️
Dear Remi, making your bed in the morning is a sweet promise to yourself that no matter what you are faced with over the course of the day, you will have a neat clean place to lay your head at night. Thanks for these videos. I have ADD, and these make me feel I'm not alone.
Omg! We are twins! So busy....overwhelmed....obsessive compulsive....sentimental and very much into recycling and reusing. Love your video'sand!
Thank you so much, we do sound so similar! ❤️
I am just like you. I vote for kitchen clean. You will feel so go when it is done!
Dear when your house is a mess it means there's a human being living there so be happy
You’re very right, especially at this time, just having a roof over our heads is a blessing
Listening to you is like finally I have someone who understands me!
Oh Remy, you remind me so much of my younger self. I’m glad you’ve set yourself do-able goals for October. Please be kind to yourself, and realize that this is just an exhausting period of your life! It will get easier as the kids get older, I promise.
I also wanted you to know that you inspired me to make my bed this morning. Having others who get the struggles goes a long way in helping me face the situation and find away through (even if it is just in one small way). ❤ Thank you!
Honestly your cleaning is second to all the beautiful voice and motivational speaking. Cleaning is a bonus. You leave people feeling calmer and better about themselves, it’s magic!
Remi have you watched Clutterbug? She has a test to see our organising style. Looking at your kitchen cupboards, I think you're a ladybug, then she gives the organisation systems best for the way you organise. Also she did a tough love livestream recently & I highly recommend watching that for anyone who is overwhelmed & doesn't know where to start. It really changed my mindset. 😊 Well done on getting so much out of your home!
Remi, why don't you try an idea of mine, It is called the island tor table method to sort out how much room you have and everything that goes together goes in one area, so all games are consolidated into a compendium table and so on, and what you can't get on one area you need to throw out
Wow, what an amazing difference when you'd finished! I vote for your bedroom next, so you can relax when you go to bed. For storage and organisation ideas, don't even look at potential solutions until you have finished decluttering and you know exactly what you want you go where and how much of it there is. Once you know, you can buy storage to fit the spaces properly and you'll know how much capacity the storage will need to have to actually work for you. It's so annoying to buy storage that doesn't fix the problem.
Wow! 9 bags and a guitar to give away/discard! Good job!! Congrats!!😊
I love your voiceovers. You could be a motivational speaker. Love your humble, understanding but inspiring approach ❤❤❤
You read my mind. Decluttering today. You’re the best!! ❤
Hi, Remi! Sometimes I go back & watch your videos over again. It's like visiting a friend! Your voice & comments are soothing and uplifting. When the kids drive me crazy, a "visit" with you helps me calm down and chill out!
Thanks for your contributions to the world! ❤️🌍😊
Remi, you are doing great. When you get decluttered try doing a carrier bag a day as anything that goes is an item not to think about.
Maybe speak to your family about the Christmas and birthday gift situation. Gifts don't have to be possessions, it can be a day out having fun or a special meal together etc.
Love watching and listening to your video's.
It’s a fact that we wear 20% of our clothes 80% of the time!!! Please pare down to the 20%…less washing, folding….BETTER MENTAL HEALTH !!!! Care for Yourself!!!! The boys will be better too when you are better!!! Loving your content!! Ps… I need to take my own advice too!!!!
Good job! I guessed 7 bags. I have lived in my house for over 30 yrs. every week I have a bag or 6 that I fill for donations. Last week 14 totes were brought down, from the attic, 4 totes, 2 crates and 3 bags went to the donations center. I’m struggling with baby stuff and baby stuffed animals. Tomorrow I will be firm about it
12:21 As I make my bed every Morning(for the past 7 years) I quote a US Navy Admiral…. Start the day with a task completed.
If the rest of my day goes poorly then I know I got at least one thing done that day. When I go to bed at night I feel satisfied with how lovely my bed looks even if it is surrounded in chaos. Slidling under the covers of a made bed is lovely. It only takes a couple minutes and makes such a difference! 💙🦋
I love this so much! 😊
@@remiclog I should have said that the Admiral was actually talking about … making your bed in his speech. Hence the quote.🙂I love it too 🩷
We are from Japan my son is 25 yrs old and I’m 54 yrs old we’re struggling everyday how to start to clean up our own mess in our home and we are so lucky to accidentally found your videos which is very informative and necessary to us. You have a nice family you are all very helpful and kind.we hope you all best and all healthy.GodBlessed you all thank you so very much.take care💕🇯🇵🙏✝️💕
Thank you for your video, I often feel overwhelmed and procrastinate a lot. I wish fairies would come along and do it while I’m asleep lol. I’m going to try this way - usually when I do a list, I put everything down, or do one room at a time, but your way makes a lot of sense. Thanks again, and I’ll let you know how I go. I hope you feel better soon
I vote for the kitchen! Mine looks horrible and you could motivate me to declutter mine as well. Remi, you are such an inspiration, encouragement to so many of us. I love hearing you!❤ You are such a genuine and lovely person and an amazing mom.
Tackled the cupboard of doom under the stairs yesterday and today my bedroom. I feel so much better for it.
For sure your bedroom next. My reasoning is because, compared to the kitchen, there is significantly less things which will mean: 1) it won't take as long because there are less things, 2) if you start the kitchen which is bigger with more things, you're more likely to burnout and not get to your bedroom for quite a while, and 3) starting your bedroom means you will sleep better as a result of less stress in the room and be motivated to get the kitchen complete. I hope this helps you! Thank you for your videos, I enjoy you and what you bring to us!!!
You bring up 3 valid points to clean the bedroom first.
These are good points but when I get a dilemma like this, I do BOTH. I start in a corner of my room and my kitchen. Like I would start in the bedroom and then when I complete a section and I’m fed up with that I’ll go start a section in the kitchen and work on it for how long I can. I work on a spot that can be deconstructed, cleaned and restored to order when I’m working 2 rooms.
Needed this video today! Thank you Remi ❤️
You’re so welcome! I hope it helps ❤️
I would suggest the kitchen first. It looked like there were things inside the cabinets and drawers that weren’t necessarily kitchen items. It would drive me crazy to have to move toys and games to get to my pots, pans, flatware, etc. And, to me, it seems that you would have more space if it was tidy. I’m a lot older than you and it has taken me a long time to accept that I will not put things away that are stored in containers with lids. I use a lot of cubbies and shelving with bins! Have you ever watched Clutterbug? She does a great job of breaking down the storage systems that work for different personalities. For example, I prefer things to be out of sight but in loosely defined categories which is why lid-less bins work for me. I store all of my hair styling products in a shower caddy so that I can pull the whole thing out, use the products I need, then put the caddy back out of sight. That’s also a great way to store children’s art supplies since it so easy to keep tidy. Your son could pull out the bin of supplies, use them, then dump it all back into the bin to carry back to a shelf or cupboard. Also, if your son does most of his drawing at the kitchen table, the art supplies could be stored in the bottom of a cabinet in the kitchen to make clean up easy. I like to watch you because it gives me inspiration and I really like listening to your commentary!
I love love love your method. Soooo different from others. And...so much kindness! Sending it to you too!
The never stopping voice-over really makes this video and it was very interesting and motivating for me to clear up too. Thanks 😀 👍
You are just a delight.
I'm a very messy person but over the last 4 weeks I've been decluttering my house, we've had about 6 tip runs and still got 1 more to go and a toy room and 1 bedroom left to sort out, I suffer from depression, anxiety and PTSD so it takes me a while to get into a cleaning mood and if someone tells me to do something else I just stop, well done on decluttering
"we are on to sorting the book shelf now for anyone who haven't been watching the screen." I look up from the crochet, just happily feeling the inspiration to clean come to me, and I felt busted, but in a supportive and understanding sort of way. I chuckled.
Exactly me with the crochet too!
This is prefect because its realistic and yet so satisfying to watch.💜
Thank you! ☺️
Kitchen first but don't start decluttering first. Plan first. Where to put what and why.
My vote is for the kitchen since you use that space multiple times a day.
Keep up the great work!! And I appreciate your honesty- saying what is hard to get motivated to do and what you don’t like doing at all. Thanks for being REAL!
I totally agree with you! If parents can keep toys/clothes under control, that's half the battle?!
Great video. I really enjoyed seeing the amazing results... I think kitchen next but 1 or 2 cupboards at a time!
Beautiful videos, not just about cleaning and decluttering but mostly about finding balance and thriving in your own life and helping others. Love and thank you from Utah, USA!
I'm at the point of wanting to throw away my whole house 😅❤ thank you... being this way feels like I'm alone. Thank you
We are all feeling this way over here ... Im going to re gift what i can before Christmas i think....
You are brilliant ❤ Keep on.
That was an amazing job 🎉
Love what you said about making all the changes at once and beating yourself up when you don't stick with it. That is SO me!
❤Tasmania Australia great job great video great voice-over full marks to you 😍
Maybe start with the bedroom. Leave the bigger job till last. Laying your head down to sleep every night and smiling because your bedroom is clean and your safe haven is the utmost feeling.
Love watching and listening to your voice overs.
Greetings from Victoria Australia 🇦🇺
I'm voting that you should do the kitchen next... Because it's a central part of the house, and it will make everything feel better.
I vote you do the kitchen next. You use that space daily and it will be adding daily stress for you, whereas the doom cupboard won't be as frequent. But I'd definitely break it down over several sessions to avoid burnout!! I really relate to this channel and it gives me a lot of grace with the nagging voice in my head, we're doing the best we can. Perfection doesn't exist, doing something imperfectly will always be better than avoiding the thing because we wanted it perfect. As someone who is also nonstop ill currently, I hope you have more better days ❤
I hope you feel better ❤️🩹 soon
I love your videos please don’t stop making them x
I'm from across the pond in Atlanta GA USA, and I love your voice it's calming, my children are grown but I remember these days, your honesty and transparency is refreshing
Only found your channel the other day Remi! I really struggle to declutter but you have encouraged me to start. You’re so wise and full of good advice. You must be an old soul as I’m twice your age and nowhere near as wise as you. Look forward to seeing more from you. Thank you ❤xxxx
When I was a kid and my mom would de-clutter, she would bring bags of things she didn’t think I needed to me and it would be my job to go through them and make the final decision on keeping them or not.
Eventually that became toxic and she would gaslight me into getting rid of things I really wanted to keep, but I think the original sentiment of letting your kids decide the fate of their property is not only reassuring to them, it builds character.
Apparently it’s a fairly common trauma to recall the pain of a parent getting rid of your toys against your wishes. It’s all-around best to include your kids in the decluttering at some point and allow them to make decisions about their own property.
omg remi this was utterly awesome!! you're a superwoman!
Ahh thank you so so much! 😁
Currently procrastinating my house because I get so overwhelmed and thinking it’s gonna take forever when I rationally know it won’t. Lol thanks for the video it has helped !
Looking at your cupboards for the brief moment, I feel like your items are ill fitting in there because you are lacking shelves. You need some more shelving to put in things of the correct size. 💜 I enjoy listening to you, your voice is lovely!
"I could give a rock sentimental value" why did she call me out so hard 😂
I think you're a fabulous individual and its your videos I watch when I need inspiration for cleaning. Thank a lot and don't change anything. You remind me of myself a bit when my kids were little and growing up...they're adults now in charge of their own homes.
I HAVE to watch your videos and listen to you to get motivated 😅. Our family moved into a cute little house last June, and we have had every setback known to man. My mom had a stroke, we hold jobs, and one kid is going to college. There is so much clutter, but I try to be kind to myself and clean a little bit when I get the chance.
I’m sure you have made a huge difference in so many life’s. I suffer with very major depression & can’t seem to get anything done anymore. I’ve let my home get so bad. It’s majorly cluttered. I feel like I’ve tried. But I just give up. Been going thru this for so many years and my mom just recently passed away & now things are really much worse. I was her main caregiver and we lived together. All I do now is cry everyday. I plan on getting things done each day but I just don’t seem too. But I love watching you. You are doing a great job. Bless you.
Please be gentle with yourself. What you have been through is a traumatic experience, and you have enough to do dealing with grief, loss and exhaustion. If there is anyone you can trust who might give you a hand with practical tasks, don’t be too proud to ask. Anyone who has been a carer and suffered bereavement will understand. Otherwise just do the easiest things until your energy levels rise. Wishing the best for you x
As an ADHD Autistic adult, I really needed this video. I live by myself in a 2 room apartment and way too much stuff. Thank you for showing me how to start. I really struggle with that part
You are more than welcome! i’m so glad you found the video and that it could be of help 😊
One of these days I’ll get through one of your videos without crying 😭❤️ the thoughts you shared about your brother were so beautiful 😭😭 You’re a beautiful person, Remi! ❤️❤️❤️
Making one’s bed every morning is completing the first task of the day. You are a very enjoyable person to listen to.
Oh my goodness! I just want to say thankyou from the bottom of my heart. Im so lucky I came across your channel. Watching your videos with tears in my eyes right now as you're speaking to my heart. Im a homeschooling mama to three amazing wildlings and Your content is so wholesome and real and you're a shining light and a motivation to all overwhelmed mamas.
You got me off the couch today I swept,scrubbed the bathroom,cleaned the living room, ran the sweeper, did some dishes after eating a small meal. It is all because you got me motivated! Even decluttered a kitchen cabinet. So Thank you ❤
You’ve come so far and should be so proud of yourself, I know that you may not think so but you’re loved by so many of your fans because you make them feel better about how they feel 👏🥰❤️
I just found this video, as well as you are tidying video, and I absolutely love you and your honesty. I am a mom with some executive function issues as well, so as expected my children have some EF issues as well, and my son is autistic. Seeing that other moms also have to balance getting things done with what works for their family is so refreshing. Thank you so much for sharing! Much love from Oklahoma, USA! ✌🏻
Finally! Someone knows what i'm feeling! I decided to be a bit stern with myself. Everyday I put the timer on and get at least one bag of stuff out of the little's room. She has so.much.stuff!!! It doesn't help that she's the third kid and she has inherited toys and books and clothes and tchotkes of every description. Watching you declutter kid stuff makes me feel like I can get back to the battle. Thanks! I have an idea for your overwhelmed series: how to slow down and spend time with your kids when you're overwhelmed at work and don't have a lot of energy. 😅 For sheer honesty and do-ability you have earned a new subscriber!
I vote on the kitchen, because it is likely the most dreaded.
You are my hero, thank you for all the great advice
Hi ! I'm from Portugal, 52 years old, and your videos are being a blessing to me ❤
Finnaly I understood myself and why I am the way I am... procrastinating, having huge trouble to start tasks and so on... I didn't know executive disfunctio was a thing, but it tottaly describes me!
I'll stick around and learn more from you😊
Thank you, THANK YOU 🙏🫶🫶🫶
Hello beautiful. I've just come across your videos. I'm currently on my decluttering/ cleaning the house 🏠 journey & fully enjoyed the first video of yours cleaning your lovely hard working Dad's house & have watched 2 per day of yours since hehe.... You're very inspiring & it's motivated me to start & be me in this world as I find you are very relatable, down to earth & charismatic like myself & it's so nice to see that just how messy your place can quickly get after a wonderful clean & feeling not the only one!!!
What a humble video of yours was for the week cleaning challenge & your cute boys trying to help their Mummy a bit ever soo sweet!!!
Thank you for being sooo honest in your voice overs & I encourage you to keep going as you're doing a fantastic job in all fronts 🥰
You are like my online friend. You're so relatable and watching your videos is like a good chat with a friend while we both work. I'm so happy that doing these videos make you happy, but please don't overdo everything. I've found that if you don't take a break and rest your mind and body, then something breaks and your body forces you to take the rest. I had a whole week of job related overwhelm and didn't take care of myself, so I ended up making an absolute scene outside when they final straw snapped. My clothes line broke and all my husband's clean, wet work clothes fell onto the ground. I got myself into such a state that I got a horrible migraine and had to go to bed for a few hours.
I think we all-or-nothing types need to give ourselves permission to take a break to recharge before we're forced to do it by an illness.
Thank you so much for all you do for your online community!!!❤
I am a minimalist, very Spartan in my envirornent BUT I LOVE listening to you. You are so wise, kind and fun