This video was so well thought out and very well delivered! Thank you for sharing this information and your own personal experiences. Keep up the great work, homie
Question I’ve had for months: is the term “dysphoria” gate-kept for the trans community? I recently realized that I’m gay (wlw) and figuring out how to dress that truly makes me happy, and the way certain clothes fit me and make me literally wanna die feels like something more than just being “uncomfortable”, and the word “dysphoria” is the only word that feel right. If it is I will respect it. (Also I hope that you can get top surgery if it makes you happy!)
I don't think the term dysphoria is gate kept for the trans community, because it's just the shortening of gender dysphoria. Outside of the trans community what I've most commonly heard is dysmorphia so that may be something to look into further.
@@HeronTheHuman Thank you so much for your prompt response! I looked into dysmorphia, and what I found was that it is the cause of eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia, while gender dysphoria and general dysphoria have to do with every aspect of the persons life. So I believe the term you suggested “dysmorphia” might be for me, (even though I don’t suffer from any eating disorders other than being pretty picky) because dysmorphia only has to do with dissatisfaction with ones body features or body, while dysphoria can affect every aspect of that persons life. When I’m made to put on a dress or dress the way most people around me do, it’s not just that I focus on minute features I used to love but now despise, it’s that I don’t feel myself or comfortable in my own skin. While I don’t think this has to do anything with my gender, as I’m 98% sure I’m Cis, it’s still something extreme enough to warrant some tears at least, if not crawling skin and a complete panic attack. In closing, thank you for your response, Heron, I hope you got something from my essay here, and thank you for helping me figure myself out a little more. 💕
Non-sequitur! I'm an uneducated 40+ cis gender hetero white male with a question. I consider myself to be a waking (not woke, if you think you're woke you are falling back to sleep!) individual. As a Skeptic, I am constantly challenging my positions and opinions and would love some feedback from you and or the group here. My sister is married to an trans male whom I love and consider a brother, I performed the ceremony and it is one of my most cherished memories! Anyway, it occurred to me that I am more comfortable with her being with him than I would be with her being with a cis man because well, we have a tendency to suck. But his implies that I view him and trans men in general differently from cis men which causes me more than a little distress, cognitive dissonance is never comfortable! After much consideration and reflection I've figured out why I hold his view. There are biological differences, chromosomal (is that even a word?) genetic etc. sex and gender are separate... right? More than that though, I feel having been socialized as a biological woman growing up would have drastic and lasing affects on ones world view. As a result, I tend to view trans men as having fewer toxic masculine traits, I tend to view trans men more favorably but differently and I am not sure if this is problematic. I would bring his up with Martin (my sisters husband) directly but I am uncomfortable with the idea that he may be bothered that I view him differently than cis men, even if it is more favorably, especially if he misunderstands and mistakenly comes to he conclusion that I consider him "less" of a man. For he record, I do not, I've known trans men that are more “man” than me and any three cis men I know combined (whatever that means). My question is, is this a problematic way of thinking, a point of view I should work to change? My lesbian landlords just facepalmed and told me I think too much when I broached he subject with them, which I have to say was less than helpful! Any feedback would be much appreciated, even if it is harsh feedback. Sometimes a spanking is not only warranted but needed! Thanks again for any input and may he worst of your futures be the best of your pasts... All of you!!!! P.s. My t and y keys do no work so please forgive an typos I may have missed as this was quite tedious to write!
Seeking advice on the internet from a teenager who mainly has a young audience feels kinda strange, so I'd reccomend asking on r/asktransgender on Reddit to get a better perspective. In general though, being socialized as female when younger/pre-transition does allow some transmasc folks to be more aware of issues within guy spaces and not partake in them. I'd suggest checking out the reddit stuff, so good luck with your search.
@@HeronTheHuman Thank you. I had the same concern but I've been reaching out for a couple of months now without success and just couldn't resist the opportunity to jump in early in hopes of actually getting some feed back. Thank you for the suggestion. best of luck in your future endeavors!
Thank you for talking about this, your points are clear and it's really nice to hear this being said somewhere, and well delivered at that. Thanks for doing what you do, it's heavily appreciated!
I know I’m not a girl, I’m definitely not a boy, but I identified as non-binary for about two months and could not stand it. I think I'm demi girl but I constantly hear/see it excluded and called fake, and that makes me feel horrible and uncomfortable with my pronouns and gender Edit: I've identified as so many genders over the past 10 months, but I finally found and felt for agender in September/October and I think this is what I am. sucks it took me so long though
i just really don't get why people would gate keep things like this community, its not really good on the younger generation because then they would be unhappy (i don't know how to word things properly qwq)
FINALLY SOMEONE MAKES A VIDEO ABOUT THIS-
Yes!!!! Honestly, pop off king/monarch! As a genderfluid person, I can relate so much and wholeheartedly agree!
This video was so well thought out and very well delivered! Thank you for sharing this information and your own personal experiences. Keep up the great work, homie
This is really well put op! You should do like a essay or something about it and get it published somewhere
Agreed!
Question I’ve had for months: is the term “dysphoria” gate-kept for the trans community? I recently realized that I’m gay (wlw) and figuring out how to dress that truly makes me happy, and the way certain clothes fit me and make me literally wanna die feels like something more than just being “uncomfortable”, and the word “dysphoria” is the only word that feel right. If it is I will respect it. (Also I hope that you can get top surgery if it makes you happy!)
I don't think the term dysphoria is gate kept for the trans community, because it's just the shortening of gender dysphoria.
Outside of the trans community what I've most commonly heard is dysmorphia so that may be something to look into further.
@@HeronTheHuman Thank you so much for your prompt response! I looked into dysmorphia, and what I found was that it is the cause of eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia, while gender dysphoria and general dysphoria have to do with every aspect of the persons life. So I believe the term you suggested “dysmorphia” might be for me, (even though I don’t suffer from any eating disorders other than being pretty picky) because dysmorphia only has to do with dissatisfaction with ones body features or body, while dysphoria can affect every aspect of that persons life. When I’m made to put on a dress or dress the way most people around me do, it’s not just that I focus on minute features I used to love but now despise, it’s that I don’t feel myself or comfortable in my own skin. While I don’t think this has to do anything with my gender, as I’m 98% sure I’m Cis, it’s still something extreme enough to warrant some tears at least, if not crawling skin and a complete panic attack.
In closing, thank you for your response, Heron, I hope you got something from my essay here, and thank you for helping me figure myself out a little more. 💕
Non-sequitur! I'm an uneducated 40+ cis gender hetero white male with a question. I consider myself to be a waking (not woke, if you think you're woke you are falling back to sleep!) individual. As a Skeptic, I am constantly challenging my positions and opinions and would love some feedback from you and or the group here. My sister is married to an trans male whom I love and consider a brother, I performed the ceremony and it is one of my most cherished memories! Anyway, it occurred to me that I am more comfortable with her being with him than I would be with her being with a cis man because well, we have a tendency to suck. But his implies that I view him and trans men in general differently from cis men which causes me more than a little distress, cognitive dissonance is never comfortable! After much consideration and reflection I've figured out why I hold his view. There are biological differences, chromosomal (is that even a word?) genetic etc. sex and gender are separate... right? More than that though, I feel having been socialized as a biological woman growing up would have drastic and lasing affects on ones world view. As a result, I tend to view trans men as having fewer toxic masculine traits, I tend to view trans men more favorably but differently and I am not sure if this is problematic. I would bring his up with Martin (my sisters husband) directly but I am uncomfortable with the idea that he may be bothered that I view him differently than cis men, even if it is more favorably, especially if he misunderstands and mistakenly comes to he conclusion that I consider him "less" of a man. For he record, I do not, I've known trans men that are more “man” than me and any three cis men I know combined (whatever that means). My question is, is this a problematic way of thinking, a point of view I should work to change? My lesbian landlords just facepalmed and told me I think too much when I broached he subject with them, which I have to say was less than helpful! Any feedback would be much appreciated, even if it is harsh feedback. Sometimes a spanking is not only warranted but needed! Thanks again for any input and may he worst of your futures be the best of your pasts... All of you!!!! P.s. My t and y keys do no work so please forgive an typos I may have missed as this was quite tedious to write!
Seeking advice on the internet from a teenager who mainly has a young audience feels kinda strange, so I'd reccomend asking on r/asktransgender on Reddit to get a better perspective.
In general though, being socialized as female when younger/pre-transition does allow some transmasc folks to be more aware of issues within guy spaces and not partake in them. I'd suggest checking out the reddit stuff, so good luck with your search.
@@HeronTheHuman Thank you. I had the same concern but I've been reaching out for a couple of months now without success and just couldn't resist the opportunity to jump in early in hopes of actually getting some feed back. Thank you for the suggestion. best of luck in your future endeavors!
Thank you for talking about this, your points are clear and it's really nice to hear this being said somewhere, and well delivered at that. Thanks for doing what you do, it's heavily appreciated!
preach 👏👏👏
Well said. Be yourself and if your sense of self changes that’s just your evolution. BTW Gorgeous hair!
I know I’m not a girl, I’m definitely not a boy, but I identified as non-binary for about two months and could not stand it. I think I'm demi girl but I constantly hear/see it excluded and called fake, and that makes me feel horrible and uncomfortable with my pronouns and gender
Edit: I've identified as so many genders over the past 10 months, but I finally found and felt for agender in September/October and I think this is what I am. sucks it took me so long though
you're so valid! and youre not fake at all!
That is because you are not really trans.
i just really don't get why people would gate keep things like this community, its not really good on the younger generation because then they would be unhappy (i don't know how to word things properly qwq)
haha gay
Do you have your biological father in your life?
Yes, and he is supportive of my activism and identity