"What if we were gay?" Those were Chris Williamson's first words to me. He whispered them into my ear in a crowded Miami bar as an EDM remix of "Sweet Disposition" played in the background. The scent of vodka and gyro meat wafted from his lips, filling me with a sense of fear and wonderment. "That's gay," I replied. "Yeah man," he said. Chris ran his fingers through my hair and turned my head to face him. He smiled and poked me in the chest, which sent half his drink flying out of the glass and onto my shirt. "Dude!" I yelled. The bartender laughed nervously and handed me a few napkins. Chris continued as if nothing happened: "Answer my question." The song reached its climax. A moment, a love, a dream, a lie, a kiss, a cry... Somehow I felt frozen in place, but the whole world was moving around me. (cut to black) (title card: THREE WEEKS LATER) Chris and I were surrounded. On the left: Whoopi Goldberg and her knife-wielding Omega Henchman. On the right: Vladimir Putin and the Russian Army. This was not going to be a good Monday...
Men's mental health is important. But I believe modern society goes about it in the way we handle Women's mental health. And that is where we start falling apart.
Yep, men are generally only weakened by just sitting doing nothing and talking about problems. My buddy and i always talk about things while doing an activity. Last week we were building a shed while talking about work and issues with his wife, month before we were chopping wood. Before that it was fishing. And every time its not affirmations but problem solving.
100% this. Modern therapy focuses on feelings before solutions. For the average man, the best way forward is to solve the problem first, deal with the feelings later.
@bas3q hell most modern therapy denies that solutions exist outside of "mindfullness" and treat all mental issues as a chronic problem you have to just learn to live with.....which definitely has nothing to do with feminists aversion to accountability or their vested interest in keeping you paying them, or the pharma wanting you dependent on their pills.
I really like what he said though basically "[we don't need therapy for everything]". I really agree with that. *BUT* seeing a shrink isn't a sign of weakness 👉it's a way to get a couple more tools to stay strong for those around you.
my only issue is that Dry Creek is preaching to the choir. We all know the advice he is giving but today, people are emotional children. I've unironically spoken to adults and have friends that told me about their children and how amazing they are and in the next 2 sentences told me about why they "NEEDED" to find a babysitter to go see a concert and "NEEDED" to smoke with the band backstage. people are saying "I may have kids, but I still have to do what I want to do" and their priorities are mostly what they want over the needs and even the future of their own children. Millennials and Gen Z are going to raise some emotionally neglected children.
Millennials and Gen Z WERE raised by overgrown Boomer and Gen X children. It's easier said than done to stop this cycle. As a millennial, I thank God I'm childless. I respect children too much to drive them insane with my baggage. Almost anybody born in the USA after the Cuban Missile Crisis and The Beatles is twisted , immature and deranged.
They're playing house and the children they raise will suffer for it. My two nephews are growing up like that. Their mom is the only one playing house as a "wife" while her kids are doing bad in school while she still wants to act like she's in her 20's going out drinking and clubbing. Their dad isn't great either and seems like he's given up on being a dad/husband.
breath of fresh air. i’ve been following Dry Creek for a while now. and he’s right, a lot of this mental health obsession is too much. we need to get back to focusing on our responsibilities and stop spending so much time whining about our trauma.
Part of it is modern life is so disconnected from real life, nature and hardship. The human brain has spent 300k years surviving and in the last 80 years we just kinda stopped doing that. So our brains arent meant to handle "office stress" and feelings of worthlessness. Because for our entire history you didnt have to worry about feeling worthless because if you were worthless you were just dead.
9:00 That is spot on. Our societies have become so hyper self focused and internalized that we have completly lost the plot. As a 46 year old man, husband of 16 years and father to 5 kids (all with my wife) it is absolutely imperative for me to look at my family and ask myself what is best for them. If you look at almost every single issue in society, every crime perpetrated, and every destructive act committed I guarantee the underlying cause is selfishness. It is embedded in us from day one as a survival instinct but as we grow and mature it must be replaced with selfLESSness in order for society to thrive. I may have a rotten and tiring day at work but when I get home my wife and kids have a right to my time and energy and love. Sometimes, absolutely I need to rest and have some time to myself (I am very introverted and need some solitude and quiet to recharge) but that must be done in service to my family and not at their expense. This has been one of the most challenging lessons I have ever had to learn and I still have a lot of work and growth ahead of me but when one of my kids (4 sons and 1 daughter) come up to me, gives me a hug and tells me they love me... it is worth it and so much more.
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@@Hotshot1989 exactly, let me just suffer bc my abusive dad who didn’t teach me anything beyond “man up” and ☠️ at 65 taught me everything I need to know.
Just knowing how to recognize, acknowledge and process your emotions is extremely helpful. Most therapists are going to try and help you figure out how to process your emotions on your own but not every therapist are the same and might not be the right fit for you.
Fascinating discussion. The way you break down the balance between strength and softness in men strikes a chord. It reminds me that finding balance isn't about choosing one extreme over the other but learning when each quality is required. Strength without purpose becomes a burden, and softness without boundaries leads to weakness. One thing that wasn't mentioned but feels relevant: great leaders-whether in the home or on a battlefield-often possess what I’d call adaptive strength. They can meet each moment with the right mix of resilience and compassion, not locked into a single response. This ability to adapt, I believe, comes from asking deeper questions, like: 'What does this moment require from me?' rather than just defaulting to what we've always done. That level of introspection isn’t weakness; it’s wisdom in action.
Lacking education systems create weak men, we need widespread school reform and to clean the corruption out of our education systems, and not just domestically all over the world.
Was there a specific reason you chose to sit so far apart at the table? Does it help with the dynamic of the conversation, or is it more about the technical setup for the podcast?
His focus on responsibility and service to others is key. When we ask ourselves, “is this affecting my ability to be of service?”, then the answer will be clearer. For some of us it will mean stopping and looking inward; for others it will be getting off the couch and out of our heads and doing something. The lens of serving others will help us know what is needed
He makes sense up to a point. The sort of therapy he is thinking of, that we all need to find some neurotic attributes to wear as a cape, is superfluous and is better described as a pornography of emotion. But if you get past this and start to explore therapeutic modalities which are about the inward journey of self-transformation, and integration of unconscious contents, then actually the argument he makes is rather shallow.
deliberate suffering gives life meaning, and it ought not be beyond our willingness to endure crying and complaining tends to make us unpleasant to be around (for some) we can be either, or both, but not without consequences
I’ve been listening to Dry Creek for a little over a year now and I like his mellow style of conversation because he’s not screaming or cursing but he comes off as genuine, wise, and introspective. Someone who I wouldn’t mind sitting on a porch or under a tree to break bread with.
Men can grow to become mythically strong in mind and body. We mustn't let the world tell us we're not cut out for it just because we're catching our breath, or assessing the path. Go Boldly.
There is this lady on YT by the name of Erin Byrd who popped up randomly in my recommends.....she discussed the idea of balancing king, warrior, magician and lover archetypes...it was interesting....
My balance is external. I recognize my weakness. Have always been weak and will always be weak. However, I do not walk alone or act alone. While I am weak with he who is with me I can do all things.
At some point in your life you have to accept that fact, that the widest shoulder carries the heaviest load. This is not describing personal income alone, but include all interactions.
He says when he’s being toxic or debilitating to those around him that it’s time to get some help. He follows it up with his wife has been encouraging him to go talk to someone. So, maybe if your wife is encouraging you to get some help, maybe you ARE being debilitating to those around you? Just a thought.
Breaking 3 ribs and continuing to work? I totally understand that Work needs to be done, and someone’s gotta do it, but that’s just insanity. Sucking up injuries, doesn’t make you more of a man. I run into dudes all the time that have messed up hands or legs or backs because they sucked up whatever the injury was because “it’s what men do “. And now they’re stuck, wearing orthopedic shoes, or can’t lift one of their arms above their head. Unless you are saving lives, there is a hard limit for pushing yourself to work injuries. I’m not a weenie that will go home if I have a headache or a sprained wrist or ankle or something, but I’m sure as hell not going to continue working if a bone is literally broken. Jesus said “your body is a temple” Abusing your body, the physical vessel that was given to you by God, does not make you more of a man
Despite all the financial struggles my family and I faced, everything is finally falling into place! Earning $47,000 in weekly profit feels like a blessing, and I will always praise the Lord.
there are people that help primarily women, there are people that help primarily men, i see no problem here unless one group vastly outnumbers the other
@@tom-ment-CapybaraThe original comment isn't talking about help. It's talking about blame. All of the blame is put on one half, when realistically, the half that gets no blame is the one causing more problems.
Men are made differently compared to women. From my understanding, men were made to be leaders and to push aggressively towards a certain standard in culture a lot of it was because they were full of chivalry. Chivalry brought up this nation to be what it was, which is the protecting of the vulnerable (women and children). Women and children thrive on security, while men thrive in provision and protection. There’s a duality. Yes, women need tradition but men need to strive towards setting the standard because they were made to be the leader. Women are the gatekeepers of sex while men are the gatekeepers of relationship/marriage/family. In the Bible it says something along the lines of women being made the weaker vessel, blessed in the man who can understand and lead his women and children into purity.
If you want to learn more about what I’m trying to convey to you^^ look up Will Knowland or CMASC podcast. Will knowland has a really good understanding of leadership and the strength of men.. I only know this because I wanted to help my boyfriend who was really addicted to weed(he’s been sober for 2 years now) and I wanted to reverse engineer this situation.. at the time I couldn’t read and listen to any women… I didn’t know how to seek the right kind of righteous women to provide mentorship… it was also because I was lacking a father figure. I naturally gravitated towards listening to really strong biblical men like the guys I mentioned because I grew up catholic, I realized I needed a father figure in my life because of my unaddressed father wound. After my entire life of being friends with guys and surrounding myself with them, what really broke this bad habit was listening to a catholic mens podcast (CMASC podcast on UA-cam) and I started to heal and feel secure knowing where I actually belong, in the hands of Jesus Christ and the Holy Mother Church. I began to become accountable for my feminist instincts and realized that it was all a lie… it doesn’t mean I have fully cut everything off, a lot of damaged has been done and I suffer through my bad habits daily. It’s not easy for a women nowadays to be real with you, for me to get to this point and be accountable required daily martyrdom, if it wasn’t for those strong men on that podcast sticking up for their values no matter the cost, I wouldn’t be here…. So do your due diligence as a man, don’t look at women, the more you set the standard the more women will flock to a secure man. Only truth will reign.
Love it or hate it AI is coming & will play a huge part in people's lives & that can be a benefit for men like Dwayne because if I understand it correctly Now you're just an app away from the AI therapist who will talk back to you thru your phone's ear piece with more knowledge (data) related to the barriers that are blocking you from tapping into the softness that your wife wants to feel in you & it'll enable them to do so without feeling feminine or weak while doing it & you'll be able to do it without sitting in a chair across from a person who cannot even begin to relate to the experiences you've had in life much less help you thru them simply because their knowledge is book based only & not lived so that 🚧 is no longer an excuse for men to stay away. John Wayne Sean Connery Any championship winning coach Mr Ed or even a sexy adult 18+ phone actress... You pick which voice you'd like your therapist to have since it's only a computer program that humans will absolutely anthropomorphize.
Guarantee someone creates an app that allows you to choose a person that you design & is friend, family or fantasy based & that talks back to you & that you trust & will talk to like it was another coworker in the truck & that's going to be the enlightenment of man😶🌫️
I disagree with the guest. Having guys get in touch with their feminine side only makes you stronger. If you read eastern philosophy they are really good at driving this point home. Im not going to explain it because I will butcher it go read Lao Tsu.
I enjoy some of the old fellas videos, but it is clear from his sentiment on some issues he is a part of the "got mine, now cut the rope" generation sadly. A lot of finger pointing and not much humility in acknowledgement of things being wildly different from his day, in no large part to his generations greed.
I believe it's easy to blame the current generation and say that men need to "man up," and all that good stuff. But the lack of men "manning up" is a symptom of the cultural rot in the West and not the root cause. It's good to recognize the problem, but shaming the men of today into shaping up doesn't work. Because if it did, it would. It's easy to shame, but it's hard to actually provide guidance and leadership. The failure of the current generation is the failure of the generation before to raise them, and the generation before that, and the generation before that. So the idea of needing to "return to the old ways" is flawed because doing it the old way got us to where we are now. Yes we need to retain the wisdom of what's come before, but in doing that we need to figure out how to move forward differently otherwise we will simply repeat the mistakes of the last 200 years.
People keep lamenting the death of strong men, but do people actually understand what comes with a society full of strong men? The kind of leeway and control society has over men would quickly cease to exist. It’s because men have been weakened for some time now that society made have been able to make such huge social changes these past decades. Strengthen men again and order will quickly be restored. And people will go back to complaining trying to weaken men again. Men as individuals just need to live in whatever ways benefits them. This call for “strong men” is another attempt at trying to control men to reach some other societal goal. Once that goal has been reached these same “strong men” will be considered liabilities again.
@@Rudzani No. He said "huge social changes" Thats inspecific. Especially since some huge changes over the last decades have been good and some have been bad.
@@ClaireGreen-wd2gm Based on my reading, the specific "huge social changes" are only very tangential to their actual argument which seems quite clear, but if that's what's of interest you, then alright. You should probably just continue waiting for their reply in that case.
I totally agree a young persons value for future worth is higher than abold persons, just like a Some old people have more value in wisdom. Young people are needed to build any future its required, but no one sees there point. This world can burn for all i care, pay my worth or F**k Off.
I'm glad that they addressed how this conversation can easily become overly broad and prescriptive. I'm 30 now and have been coming more into my own and have started finding my own sense of independence where I can confidently say, "not every single piece of advice I hear from people I respect online is gonna be a fit for me". If I realize I have some unresolved trauma that's holding me back in life, I'm not gonna spend all my time navel-gazing and trying to use it to get attention online. But I sure as hell owe it to myself to deal with it responsibility so that I can continue to grow as a man. I owe it to myself and everyone around me to pay attention to and resolve the parts of myself that drag me down. In short, if it actually is broke, fix it.
growing up in a perceived world that people should talk about things and have a therapist, i would say that i have to agree...to an extent. there are things that ive experienced that lead me to a realm of inaction. getting help has re-centered me to be accountable and realize the past is not the present. the flip side to this whole thing in my opinion, that if not careful, i could make myself believe that there is something wrong when there really isnt. the key for me is to be aware of how im perceiving things and use the ability to "let it out" as a tool. not a sense of being. i have a question: what make life worth it for you? im struggling to understand why i should give 110% anymore. im 34, no kids, spent 7 years in the military, 6 years as a personal trainer with a failed business. i understand life is hard, un fair, and doing the right thing will mostly likely not get you a pat on the back. my efforts to being moral seem futile. i want my actions to be of the upmost benefit, at the highest scale possible. ive spent the last year literally not doing anything. its been nice not to have any responsibility but this isnt life.
Again, I ask the question: how did the weak men become leaders of strong men? There's a misconception about tough it out. There only a certain amount of BS a man's cup can be filled. Do women have no part in this? You can be the strongest man, give your wife the world, be an honest to God, hard working man and his wife can still be unhappy. When are we going to look at women with the same scrutiny that men have to deal with everyday? And if we're going down this road, then we have to blame the weakest man of all time, Adam! It's his fault, he should have been strong and said no to Eve but he wasn't so this evidence proves that all men are weak because we are ALL descendants of his weak ass
You ask when women are going to face the same scrutiny. Then you mention the Bible and Adam and Eve. Then there is the ancient Greek story of Pandoras box. Sir..women have been being blamed for all the worlds ills since time began. Its time I think that men, the ones that have actually had the power for the vast majority of human history, take some accountability for whats gone wrong.
@ClaireGreen-wd2gm Eve had everything and it still wasn't good enough. Adam was weak and listened to a woman snake. That's the facts. How do we fix the situation? Hold women accountable and hold them to the same standards as men are held. If a man leaves his wife he's a what? If a woman leaves her husband she's brave and courageous. If a man wants an abortion, sorry my body my choice. If a woman wants an abortion, yass queen it's your body. If a man says no, he's a patriarchal womanizer. If a woman says no, then it means no. Everything a man does is held in a higher standard than a woman. I'm not opposed to this cultural dynamic, but if we're going to live this way than men need to be respected for everything we do and continue to do. Which is build communities and provide the resources for communities to thrive
Life’s easier now, but it’s made us softer. Books like Robert E. Lee on Leadership and Clarence Thomas’s My Grandfather’s Son show how past generations built strength through real struggles. Challenges today might look different, but the need for grit and perseverance hasn’t gone away. We forget what real struggle looks like as a society.
1:08 Talk therapy tends to be much less effective for men than for women. Men have to forge vasopressin bonds through physical exertion to solve problems. Go to the gym or build or repair something with a buddy. Or heck, walk through a golf course and get to the other side together.
"What if we were gay?"
Those were Chris Williamson's first words to me. He whispered them into my ear in a crowded Miami bar as an EDM remix of "Sweet Disposition" played in the background. The scent of vodka and gyro meat wafted from his lips, filling me with a sense of fear and wonderment.
"That's gay," I replied.
"Yeah man," he said. Chris ran his fingers through my hair and turned my head to face him. He smiled and poked me in the chest, which sent half his drink flying out of the glass and onto my shirt.
"Dude!" I yelled. The bartender laughed nervously and handed me a few napkins.
Chris continued as if nothing happened: "Answer my question."
The song reached its climax. A moment, a love, a dream, a lie, a kiss, a cry... Somehow I felt frozen in place, but the whole world was moving around me.
(cut to black)
(title card: THREE WEEKS LATER)
Chris and I were surrounded. On the left: Whoopi Goldberg and her knife-wielding Omega Henchman. On the right: Vladimir Putin and the Russian Army. This was not going to be a good Monday...
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I wish you Stephen King level success in creative writing.
LOL
thank you chat gpt, which preset are you? Sol? Ember? Vale?
10/10. Would buy the book, read it, and eat it.
One of the best podcast episodes by Chris
Great guest. I love the long pauses when he's collecting his thoughts instead of just speaking.
Good you're having Syed on. That'll be an interesting watch to see in what direction it goes.
I like to think he is Arthur Morgan who never died of tuberculosis, stopped doing bank robberies and bought a ranch
bro spoilers lol. I just started playing rdr2
@@hazthematt To be fair it's been out for years now; it's at the point where people can talk freely about its plot.
@@Rudzani ik, I dont really care I just thought it was funny that I just started it and saw that comment within 24 hours lol.
Aye fella
Arthur is turning in his grave from this comment
The world is consistently evolving. It's the people who get stuck thinking old ways are the only way, that get left behind.
Men's mental health is important. But I believe modern society goes about it in the way we handle Women's mental health. And that is where we start falling apart.
this comment right here
Yep, men are generally only weakened by just sitting doing nothing and talking about problems. My buddy and i always talk about things while doing an activity. Last week we were building a shed while talking about work and issues with his wife, month before we were chopping wood. Before that it was fishing. And every time its not affirmations but problem solving.
100%
100% this. Modern therapy focuses on feelings before solutions. For the average man, the best way forward is to solve the problem first, deal with the feelings later.
@bas3q hell most modern therapy denies that solutions exist outside of "mindfullness" and treat all mental issues as a chronic problem you have to just learn to live with.....which definitely has nothing to do with feminists aversion to accountability or their vested interest in keeping you paying them, or the pharma wanting you dependent on their pills.
I really like what he said though basically "[we don't need therapy for everything]". I really agree with that.
*BUT* seeing a shrink isn't a sign of weakness 👉it's a way to get a couple more tools to stay strong for those around you.
my only issue is that Dry Creek is preaching to the choir. We all know the advice he is giving but today, people are emotional children. I've unironically spoken to adults and have friends that told me about their children and how amazing they are and in the next 2 sentences told me about why they "NEEDED" to find a babysitter to go see a concert and "NEEDED" to smoke with the band backstage. people are saying "I may have kids, but I still have to do what I want to do" and their priorities are mostly what they want over the needs and even the future of their own children. Millennials and Gen Z are going to raise some emotionally neglected children.
Millennials and Gen Z WERE raised by overgrown Boomer and Gen X children. It's easier said than done to stop this cycle. As a millennial, I thank God I'm childless. I respect children too much to drive them insane with my baggage. Almost anybody born in the USA after the Cuban Missile Crisis and The Beatles is twisted , immature and deranged.
They're playing house and the children they raise will suffer for it. My two nephews are growing up like that. Their mom is the only one playing house as a "wife" while her kids are doing bad in school while she still wants to act like she's in her 20's going out drinking and clubbing. Their dad isn't great either and seems like he's given up on being a dad/husband.
Strong Men Create Good Times
Good Times Create Weak Men
Weak Men Create Hard Times
Hard Times Create Strong Men
Life’s not meant to be hard, it’s called progress. Nobody wants to live back in the dark ages
Do you honestly feel like we are progressing? @@dbefore7165
@@dbefore7165 lol imagine still believing in the leftist "progress" narrative
This really made me miss my farther and grandfather
Release the full podcast! Was not expecting this interview but so excited
The way I found balance is recognizing what works for me and what doesn’t. Making the tactics I use to be specific for myself.
breath of fresh air. i’ve been following Dry Creek for a while now. and he’s right, a lot of this mental health obsession is too much. we need to get back to focusing on our responsibilities and stop spending so much time whining about our trauma.
Part of it is modern life is so disconnected from real life, nature and hardship. The human brain has spent 300k years surviving and in the last 80 years we just kinda stopped doing that. So our brains arent meant to handle "office stress" and feelings of worthlessness. Because for our entire history you didnt have to worry about feeling worthless because if you were worthless you were just dead.
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9:00 That is spot on. Our societies have become so hyper self focused and internalized that we have completly lost the plot. As a 46 year old man, husband of 16 years and father to 5 kids (all with my wife) it is absolutely imperative for me to look at my family and ask myself what is best for them. If you look at almost every single issue in society, every crime perpetrated, and every destructive act committed I guarantee the underlying cause is selfishness. It is embedded in us from day one as a survival instinct but as we grow and mature it must be replaced with selfLESSness in order for society to thrive. I may have a rotten and tiring day at work but when I get home my wife and kids have a right to my time and energy and love. Sometimes, absolutely I need to rest and have some time to myself (I am very introverted and need some solitude and quiet to recharge) but that must be done in service to my family and not at their expense. This has been one of the most challenging lessons I have ever had to learn and I still have a lot of work and growth ahead of me but when one of my kids (4 sons and 1 daughter) come up to me, gives me a hug and tells me they love me... it is worth it and so much more.
As with everything in life, balance is necessary. I suppose the balance has leaned too much toward getting mental help than toughing it out.
We don't need new tips and advice, we need old truth. Thanks Dewayne.
This is like a modern man and a 1950s man on a podcast talking about era differences. It's like back to the future, time capsule stuff. And I love it.
such a good way of putting it
I love the dry creek is always down to talk and debate.
When’s the entire interview dropping?
Monday
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This is the kind of guy who diies wih what would of been a minor health issue for most men
Better then the kinda guy that goes to the doctor for every little thing like a women
@@Hotshot1989Yep, nothing says I’m a man quite like dying at 45 from something that could have been cured in less than a week.
@@Hotshot1989 exactly, let me just suffer bc my abusive dad who didn’t teach me anything beyond “man up” and ☠️ at 65 taught me everything I need to know.
IS THERE A FULL EPUSODE ?!
Just knowing how to recognize, acknowledge and process your emotions is extremely helpful. Most therapists are going to try and help you figure out how to process your emotions on your own but not every therapist are the same and might not be the right fit for you.
You can honestly learn these skills just by reading psychology books. Alot cheaper and therapeutic in their own way
Cookie Wednesday sounds pretty good
Fascinating discussion. The way you break down the balance between strength and softness in men strikes a chord. It reminds me that finding balance isn't about choosing one extreme over the other but learning when each quality is required. Strength without purpose becomes a burden, and softness without boundaries leads to weakness.
One thing that wasn't mentioned but feels relevant: great leaders-whether in the home or on a battlefield-often possess what I’d call adaptive strength. They can meet each moment with the right mix of resilience and compassion, not locked into a single response. This ability to adapt, I believe, comes from asking deeper questions, like: 'What does this moment require from me?' rather than just defaulting to what we've always done.
That level of introspection isn’t weakness; it’s wisdom in action.
keep going Chris
Lacking education systems create weak men, we need widespread school reform and to clean the corruption out of our education systems, and not just domestically all over the world.
Was there a specific reason you chose to sit so far apart at the table? Does it help with the dynamic of the conversation, or is it more about the technical setup for the podcast?
His focus on responsibility and service to others is key. When we ask ourselves, “is this affecting my ability to be of service?”, then the answer will be clearer. For some of us it will mean stopping and looking inward; for others it will be getting off the couch and out of our heads and doing something. The lens of serving others will help us know what is needed
He makes sense up to a point. The sort of therapy he is thinking of, that we all need to find some neurotic attributes to wear as a cape, is superfluous and is better described as a pornography of emotion.
But if you get past this and start to explore therapeutic modalities which are about the inward journey of self-transformation, and integration of unconscious contents, then actually the argument he makes is rather shallow.
Arthur Morgan late game if you refused to punch Thomas Downes.
Christopher Biggins is the new David Goggins. People gotta explore the menu more.
Congratulations on reaching 3 Million subscribers.
The more I watch the dry creek guy, the more I’m convinced he’s fos.
When is the full video coming out
At the end Chris points to the link for the full length video but there is nothing there?
deliberate suffering gives life meaning, and it ought not be beyond our willingness to endure
crying and complaining tends to make us unpleasant to be around (for some)
we can be either, or both, but not without consequences
Glad you had him on.
I’ve been listening to Dry Creek for a little over a year now and I like his mellow style of conversation because he’s not screaming or cursing but he comes off as genuine, wise, and introspective. Someone who I wouldn’t mind sitting on a porch or under a tree to break bread with.
where is the full video of this?
Where can I find the full episode?
When did Tom Hanks grow a beard? 🤷♂️🤔🙃🎉
Appreciate the advice ,imma keep the why and the balance in mind ❤❤ thank U Morden Wisdom
Men can grow to become mythically strong in mind and body. We mustn't let the world tell us we're not cut out for it just because we're catching our breath, or assessing the path. Go Boldly.
The man and the podcast we need right now. Dewayne here, dry creek wrangling school.
I wish I could find the whole podcast.
There is this lady on YT by the name of Erin Byrd who popped up randomly in my recommends.....she discussed the idea of balancing king, warrior, magician and lover archetypes...it was interesting....
Absolutely, love Erin!
Bro we need to long version 😂
Where is the full length of this episode please Chris? You've proper teased us with this 11mins clip bro 😅
They used to make vehicles out of 2 mm steel in this era ‘ tough
Now they make them out of plastic and glue , made to crumble “ 🤠
omg chris please stop edging us and release the whole thing! love you tho
My balance is external. I recognize my weakness. Have always been weak and will always be weak. However, I do not walk alone or act alone. While I am weak with he who is with me I can do all things.
Never underestimate the power of "why". The development of civilization was built on that single question.
WHERE is the full episode?!?!?
Did you just say it's $500 for bloodwork?! Wtf. 😂
At some point in your life you have to accept that fact, that the widest shoulder carries the heaviest load.
This is not describing personal income alone, but include all interactions.
He says when he’s being toxic or debilitating to those around him that it’s time to get some help. He follows it up with his wife has been encouraging him to go talk to someone. So, maybe if your wife is encouraging you to get some help, maybe you ARE being debilitating to those around you? Just a thought.
Am I the only one searing Spotify for this episode of the podcast? 😅
Breaking 3 ribs and continuing to work? I totally understand that Work needs to be done, and someone’s gotta do it, but that’s just insanity. Sucking up injuries, doesn’t make you more of a man. I run into dudes all the time that have messed up hands or legs or backs because they sucked up whatever the injury was because “it’s what men do “. And now they’re stuck, wearing orthopedic shoes, or can’t lift one of their arms above their head. Unless you are saving lives, there is a hard limit for pushing yourself to work injuries. I’m not a weenie that will go home if I have a headache or a sprained wrist or ankle or something, but I’m sure as hell not going to continue working if a bone is literally broken.
Jesus said “your body is a temple” Abusing your body, the physical vessel that was given to you by God, does not make you more of a man
Despite all the financial struggles my family and I faced, everything is finally falling into place! Earning $47,000 in weekly profit feels like a blessing, and I will always praise the Lord.
strength comes in different forms brother.
Can we boil it down to a bouillabaisse, classic.
What about weak women? This dude seems too focused on only half of societys problem
there are people that help primarily women, there are people that help primarily men, i see no problem here unless one group vastly outnumbers the other
@@tom-ment-CapybaraThe original comment isn't talking about help. It's talking about blame. All of the blame is put on one half, when realistically, the half that gets no blame is the one causing more problems.
Men are made differently compared to women. From my understanding, men were made to be leaders and to push aggressively towards a certain standard in culture a lot of it was because they were full of chivalry. Chivalry brought up this nation to be what it was, which is the protecting of the vulnerable (women and children). Women and children thrive on security, while men thrive in provision and protection. There’s a duality. Yes, women need tradition but men need to strive towards setting the standard because they were made to be the leader.
Women are the gatekeepers of sex while men are the gatekeepers of relationship/marriage/family.
In the Bible it says something along the lines of women being made the weaker vessel, blessed in the man who can understand and lead his women and children into purity.
If you want to learn more about what I’m trying to convey to you^^ look up Will Knowland or CMASC podcast.
Will knowland has a really good understanding of leadership and the strength of men..
I only know this because I wanted to help my boyfriend who was really addicted to weed(he’s been sober for 2 years now) and I wanted to reverse engineer this situation.. at the time I couldn’t read and listen to any women… I didn’t know how to seek the right kind of righteous women to provide mentorship… it was also because I was lacking a father figure. I naturally gravitated towards listening to really strong biblical men like the guys I mentioned because I grew up catholic, I realized I needed a father figure in my life because of my unaddressed father wound. After my entire life of being friends with guys and surrounding myself with them, what really broke this bad habit was listening to a catholic mens podcast (CMASC podcast on UA-cam) and I started to heal and feel secure knowing where I actually belong, in the hands of Jesus Christ and the Holy Mother Church. I began to become accountable for my feminist instincts and realized that it was all a lie… it doesn’t mean I have fully cut everything off, a lot of damaged has been done and I suffer through my bad habits daily. It’s not easy for a women nowadays to be real with you, for me to get to this point and be accountable required daily martyrdom, if it wasn’t for those strong men on that podcast sticking up for their values no matter the cost, I wouldn’t be here…. So do your due diligence as a man, don’t look at women, the more you set the standard the more women will flock to a secure man. Only truth will reign.
Love it or hate it AI is coming & will play a huge part in people's lives & that can be a benefit for men like Dwayne because if I understand it correctly
Now you're just an app away from the AI therapist who will talk back to you thru your phone's ear piece with more knowledge (data) related to the barriers that are blocking you from tapping into the softness that your wife wants to feel in you & it'll enable them to do so without feeling feminine or weak while doing it & you'll be able to do it without sitting in a chair across from a person who cannot even begin to relate to the experiences you've had in life much less help you thru them simply because their knowledge is book based only & not lived so that 🚧 is no longer an excuse for men to stay away.
John Wayne
Sean Connery
Any championship winning coach
Mr Ed
or even a sexy adult 18+ phone actress...
You pick which voice you'd like your therapist to have since it's only a computer program that humans will absolutely anthropomorphize.
Guarantee someone creates an app that allows you to choose a person that you design & is friend, family or fantasy based & that talks back to you & that you trust & will talk to like it was another coworker in the truck & that's going to be the enlightenment of man😶🌫️
Yea buddy!!!
I disagree with the guest. Having guys get in touch with their feminine side only makes you stronger. If you read eastern philosophy they are really good at driving this point home. Im not going to explain it because I will butcher it go read Lao Tsu.
Yes!!!
I enjoy some of the old fellas videos, but it is clear from his sentiment on some issues he is a part of the "got mine, now cut the rope" generation sadly.
A lot of finger pointing and not much humility in acknowledgement of things being wildly different from his day, in no large part to his generations greed.
I believe it's easy to blame the current generation and say that men need to "man up," and all that good stuff. But the lack of men "manning up" is a symptom of the cultural rot in the West and not the root cause. It's good to recognize the problem, but shaming the men of today into shaping up doesn't work. Because if it did, it would. It's easy to shame, but it's hard to actually provide guidance and leadership.
The failure of the current generation is the failure of the generation before to raise them, and the generation before that, and the generation before that. So the idea of needing to "return to the old ways" is flawed because doing it the old way got us to where we are now. Yes we need to retain the wisdom of what's come before, but in doing that we need to figure out how to move forward differently otherwise we will simply repeat the mistakes of the last 200 years.
People keep lamenting the death of strong men, but do people actually understand what comes with a society full of strong men? The kind of leeway and control society has over men would quickly cease to exist. It’s because men have been weakened for some time now that society made have been able to make such huge social changes these past decades. Strengthen men again and order will quickly be restored. And people will go back to complaining trying to weaken men again. Men as individuals just need to live in whatever ways benefits them. This call for “strong men” is another attempt at trying to control men to reach some other societal goal. Once that goal has been reached these same “strong men” will be considered liabilities again.
No. Why dont you explain what does come from a society of strong men that we wouldnt want. Id like you to elaborate
@@ClaireGreen-wd2gm They elaborated their opinion after the first sentence.
@@Rudzani No. He said "huge social changes"
Thats inspecific. Especially since some huge changes over the last decades have been good and some have been bad.
most people who want strong men though are the men themselves so i dont think they are being controlled
@@ClaireGreen-wd2gm Based on my reading, the specific "huge social changes" are only very tangential to their actual argument which seems quite clear, but if that's what's of interest you, then alright. You should probably just continue waiting for their reply in that case.
Your vocals sounding better than some of the biggest podcasts in the world.
Major kudos to your audio engineering team.
When great worlds collide
I dont know why it's easier for humans to believe horses all have differences in temperaments, but humans don't.
Maybe I’m blind. But it’d be cool if these shorter clips had links to the full episode in the description. Just a thought 🤘
It's not out yet, will be on monday
I totally agree a young persons value for future worth is higher than abold persons, just like a Some old people have more value in wisdom. Young people are needed to build any future its required, but no one sees there point. This world can burn for all i care, pay my worth or F**k Off.
He says as he smokes a pipe in the thumbnail
Unusual to see someone to question and then give a much better answer than Chris on a psych question lol. Good shit!
Arthur Morgan
This dude just keeps contradicting himself
I'm glad that they addressed how this conversation can easily become overly broad and prescriptive. I'm 30 now and have been coming more into my own and have started finding my own sense of independence where I can confidently say, "not every single piece of advice I hear from people I respect online is gonna be a fit for me". If I realize I have some unresolved trauma that's holding me back in life, I'm not gonna spend all my time navel-gazing and trying to use it to get attention online. But I sure as hell owe it to myself to deal with it responsibility so that I can continue to grow as a man. I owe it to myself and everyone around me to pay attention to and resolve the parts of myself that drag me down. In short, if it actually is broke, fix it.
Here is the key….If you are a shitty person and make life worse for those around you, go get help.
Other than that, suck it up.
You can't be "old school" and a UA-camr
growing up in a perceived world that people should talk about things and have a therapist, i would say that i have to agree...to an extent. there are things that ive experienced that lead me to a realm of inaction. getting help has re-centered me to be accountable and realize the past is not the present. the flip side to this whole thing in my opinion, that if not careful, i could make myself believe that there is something wrong when there really isnt. the key for me is to be aware of how im perceiving things and use the ability to "let it out" as a tool. not a sense of being.
i have a question: what make life worth it for you? im struggling to understand why i should give 110% anymore. im 34, no kids, spent 7 years in the military, 6 years as a personal trainer with a failed business. i understand life is hard, un fair, and doing the right thing will mostly likely not get you a pat on the back. my efforts to being moral seem futile. i want my actions to be of the upmost benefit, at the highest scale possible. ive spent the last year literally not doing anything. its been nice not to have any responsibility but this isnt life.
Nothing weaker than his mind...he definitely failed Algebra.
Your thoughts become your reality.
Again, I ask the question: how did the weak men become leaders of strong men?
There's a misconception about tough it out. There only a certain amount of BS a man's cup can be filled. Do women have no part in this? You can be the strongest man, give your wife the world, be an honest to God, hard working man and his wife can still be unhappy. When are we going to look at women with the same scrutiny that men have to deal with everyday? And if we're going down this road, then we have to blame the weakest man of all time, Adam! It's his fault, he should have been strong and said no to Eve but he wasn't so this evidence proves that all men are weak because we are ALL descendants of his weak ass
You ask when women are going to face the same scrutiny. Then you mention the Bible and Adam and Eve. Then there is the ancient Greek story of Pandoras box. Sir..women have been being blamed for all the worlds ills since time began. Its time I think that men, the ones that have actually had the power for the vast majority of human history, take some accountability for whats gone wrong.
@ClaireGreen-wd2gm Eve had everything and it still wasn't good enough. Adam was weak and listened to a woman snake. That's the facts. How do we fix the situation? Hold women accountable and hold them to the same standards as men are held. If a man leaves his wife he's a what? If a woman leaves her husband she's brave and courageous. If a man wants an abortion, sorry my body my choice. If a woman wants an abortion, yass queen it's your body. If a man says no, he's a patriarchal womanizer. If a woman says no, then it means no. Everything a man does is held in a higher standard than a woman. I'm not opposed to this cultural dynamic, but if we're going to live this way than men need to be respected for everything we do and continue to do. Which is build communities and provide the resources for communities to thrive
I've been waiting for the full episode to drop like it's the last thing in the world
He is the Werner Herzog of Dry Creek
People have zero individuality left seriously kids nowadays wanna be ronaldos and messi they don't wanna accept what they really are 😅😂
The sexual tension here is electric ⚡️
LMAO
“Dutch has got a plan”
The balance that men need specific to them to regain themselves is JESUS.
Life’s easier now, but it’s made us softer. Books like Robert E. Lee on Leadership and Clarence Thomas’s My Grandfather’s Son show how past generations built strength through real struggles. Challenges today might look different, but the need for grit and perseverance hasn’t gone away. We forget what real struggle looks like as a society.
1:08 Talk therapy tends to be much less effective for men than for women. Men have to forge vasopressin bonds through physical exertion to solve problems. Go to the gym or build or repair something with a buddy. Or heck, walk through a golf course and get to the other side together.
You got Dwayne on?????? LEGEND!