I’ll tell you where the mistake was, he invested his inheritance in a house. He should have kept that money separate. Never put all your eggs in one basket. If he put his inheritance in his own account he could walk away and bought a condo in Bangkok. Now he’s Fd. The wife now owns the house and she doesn’t care how he feels.
@@talksofthailand The condos in Bangkok are a concrete shell that will depreciate and decay, what the Chinese all "tofu" construction. No way would I ever spend money on one and certainly not in one of the most polluted cities on earth. Are they still using leaded petrol?
Rent dont buy. You must be crazy to buy as itll be a nightmare to sell and also youre tied to it. You cant simply upsticks and move if you get bored or fancy a change
@@walkaz Not for my Christian grandmothers who married at 16, committed for life, never had a very high standard of living, and were not really interested in much money. They raised children to survive through the Great Depression. And NEVER worked outside the home, even during WWII. One of them never drove a car and the other one only rarely.
This is a horrible situation. I bet she won't budge and tell him to pack his bags and go if push came to shove. No point in waiting for the parents to die because she will move other family members in. There is nothing he can do. He has lost his money and all he can do is move on and learn from the experience.
I've only been here 3 years but one thing I've learned can't the culture clash is that most of the time, Thai people will not concede, especially when it comes to taking care of the family. You also need to try and understand the Thai perspective, that they are obliged to take care of their parents. That's non negotiable. So you either decide you can live with it, or prioritize your life goals and move on. In some ways the Thais have got it right where they take care of the elderly whereas we just chuck ours in a home. Up to you
@talksofthailand always best to ask these questions before entering into a relationship I find. Ie how many kids, how old are they, any burdens (debt) parents, do they already have a house etc etc
@@Paul_in_Thailand You can ask all the questions you want, but Thais don't stick with anything. They are constantly twisting and turning in an effort to push the envelope.
Similar to a sad story of a friend of mine. The Cambodian wife moved in so many of her family, that my mate had to step over sleeping family members in the passage to get to the toilet in the middle of the night. He couldn't even leave a nice cold 'after work' beer in the fridge as it would be drunken. He just couldn't take it in the end...
*** Dear foreigners, you've already LOST -If you want an annulment/divorce -If you cohabitate -If you're looking for love😂 -If you travel Thailand/Philippines for a woman -If you buy anything ie; land, condo and build a house -If your name is NOT cheap charlie! -If your girl is DIFFERENT and SPECIAL! *PS. Travel for you and 100% independent YOU!!! *I'm giving you a personal invitation to be selfish for your self preservation because HEALTHY, PEACEFUL and DRAMA-STRESS FREE living is the new selfish baby!!! Cheers 🍻
You are pretty silly if you build a house on someone's land. Family comes first in Thailand. You have lost your money and most likely will need to leave. Put it down to a learning experience.
It s her land... you paid for the house but it s hers in her mind.she can do whatever she wants.the house is lost to you......get your bags and leave because she will not ask or tell her family to go to save the mariage....cut your loses
This is a hard one. First, don't buy anything that you can't own and control, like a house in a country where you can't own property. Second, Asian ideas of fealty to parents are absolute. Even Hispanics would rather go to the poor house together than see their parents put out in any way. It's only we cold Westerners who are willing to lock our parents away in sterile care facilities to die after they spent years of their lives taking care of us. I don't think her actions show total disrespect to Luke, I think it shows her discounting "farang" ideas and doing the right thing by Thai culture. Thais always choose their culture over the culture of outsiders because that seems to them like the only intelligent thing they can do. Why would they throw their whole culture away, INSIDE their own country, involving their own families, who are also INSIDE their own country, just because some foreign guy has some weird ideas? Westerners (and I'm one too) naively tend to believe everyone wants to think like us when they might actually be happy already with their own values system. I don't know if Luke is fluent and literate in Thai, but I bet if he were he would have seen this possibility a long time ago and bought a condo for himself in Bangkok instead. At least he could control that . At this point, I'd say just mop up the piss and don't complain against the parents if you want to keep the wife. Move back to Bangkok alone if you don't want to live with her anymore.
Another thing to consider is that if the Thai partner has a daughter the partner and the daughter will move into the house and he will be king of the castle 😂.
actually the southeast buddhist family has big culture difference with western family，even more then muslim and Christian family difference，so its no suitable for their family live with your home for long time.
It would be great for this channel to start covering the Thai crimes against farang, too, such as the murder of UK citizen Alan Hogg in Isaan by his wife's own brother. He is one of these farang who "built a house on HER land" as you have reported on. You could combine or alternate love stories and crime stories -- which are generally intertwined anyway. Thanks!
I think the big issue here is "our values" do NOT apply here and do not think they ever will. It is always easy to be wise after the event and I have never heard of the farang husband taking precedent over "her family" but I am sure there are some out there but this mans tale sounds like the norm to me.
Here Papa will always be #1 in everything. This poor farang bloke doesn't realize yet that he is not even on the list. He doesn't rate at all. His "face" doesn't matter and will never be a consideration. He's a non-entity with a wallet.
Spot on. They put the parents first, then other family members, then the farang. The farang is placed at the bottom of the totem pole. The farang is viewed as a financier and nothing more.
Tell her she has to respect you. It's your house and you pay the bills. She will either tell them what's up or you do it. Her explanation would be a lot nicer than yours.
Hi I'm a new subscriber. I'm a British born Indian, and can say this is not only Thai culture this is mostly all Asian cultures, if you married a lady from India, the same would happen, the only difference is Indian families are not allowed to take anything from the daughter, once she is married she is considered the responsibility of her husband... Im Indian culture the son has to look after the family, I've had many of my uncles marry women from India and they are always about money You have to remember your marrying a woman from a third world country which has third world mentality, I would have had a meeting with her and said why didn't you discuss this with me first? If you really like Asian women, then I suggest you find one in the western world,someone who has western value (but still keeps her own culture), im Indian but me or my British family would never marry a lady from India, as a westerner you should stick to westernised women, I personally don't go for Asian women, I prefer white blonde English women.... Great videos.. Keep it up.... From the UK 🇬🇧
I’ll tell you where the mistake was, he invested his inheritance in a house. He should have kept that money separate. Never put all your eggs in one basket. If he put his inheritance in his own account he could walk away and bought a condo in Bangkok. Now he’s Fd. The wife now owns the house and she doesn’t care how he feels.
Yep a condo would have been the best idea by far
Keep the capital in the West earning income and use that income to rent in the East.
@@RichardSmith-pd9wm smart, dividend income
@@talksofthailand The condos in Bangkok are a concrete shell that will depreciate and decay, what the Chinese all "tofu" construction. No way would I ever spend money on one and certainly not in one of the most polluted cities on earth. Are they still using leaded petrol?
Rent dont buy. You must be crazy to buy as itll be a nightmare to sell and also youre tied to it. You cant simply upsticks and move if you get bored or fancy a change
you fucked up, she was never your wife, you were her meal ticket. run while you still can.
Pretty much how marriage works all over the world
@@walkaz Not for my Christian grandmothers who married at 16, committed for life, never had a very high standard of living, and were not really interested in much money. They raised children to survive through the Great Depression. And NEVER worked outside the home, even during WWII. One of them never drove a car and the other one only rarely.
@@davidb2206great for your grandfather. However we live in the year 2024.
Move the mia noi into your house & move the wife into the parents room.
😂😂😂
Only Thai men get to play that game.
This is a horrible situation. I bet she won't budge and tell him to pack his bags and go if push came to shove. No point in waiting for the parents to die because she will move other family members in. There is nothing he can do. He has lost his money and all he can do is move on and learn from the experience.
I've only been here 3 years but one thing I've learned can't the culture clash is that most of the time, Thai people will not concede, especially when it comes to taking care of the family. You also need to try and understand the Thai perspective, that they are obliged to take care of their parents. That's non negotiable. So you either decide you can live with it, or prioritize your life goals and move on. In some ways the Thais have got it right where they take care of the elderly whereas we just chuck ours in a home. Up to you
Yep agree with that, some people will be luckier than other depending on the family’s financial situation
Of course Thai culture will take precedence in Thailand. Don't go there trying to change them.
@talksofthailand always best to ask these questions before entering into a relationship I find. Ie how many kids, how old are they, any burdens (debt) parents, do they already have a house etc etc
@@Paul_in_Thailandhis relationship with this woman seemed to blossom pretty organically
@@Paul_in_Thailand You can ask all the questions you want, but Thais don't stick with anything. They are constantly twisting and turning in an effort to push the envelope.
Similar to a sad story of a friend of mine. The Cambodian wife moved in so many of her family, that my mate had to step over sleeping family members in the passage to get to the toilet in the middle of the night. He couldn't even leave a nice cold 'after work' beer in the fridge as it would be drunken. He just couldn't take it in the end...
😂😂😂😂😂
Common story.
*** Dear foreigners,
you've already LOST
-If you want an annulment/divorce
-If you cohabitate
-If you're looking for love😂
-If you travel Thailand/Philippines for a woman
-If you buy anything
ie; land, condo and build a house
-If your name is NOT cheap charlie!
-If your girl is DIFFERENT and SPECIAL!
*PS.
Travel for you and 100% independent YOU!!!
*I'm giving you a personal invitation to be selfish for your self preservation because HEALTHY, PEACEFUL and DRAMA-STRESS FREE living is the new selfish baby!!!
Cheers 🍻
Keep it short term and rent everything.
@@henkdejong9051 And move on fairly quickly before some local can target you.
"pump-n-dump is the only way" - buddha, on the path to enlightenment.
@@henkdejong9051
Own nothing and owe nothing. That is how I live in the USA.
You are pretty silly if you build a house on someone's land. Family comes first in Thailand. You have lost your money and most likely will need to leave. Put it down to a learning experience.
It s her land... you paid for the house but it s hers in her mind.she can do whatever she wants.the house is lost to you......get your bags and leave because she will not ask or tell her family to go to save the mariage....cut your loses
My thoughts also. I think the family put her up to this. They probably feel like they won the lottery.
This is a hard one. First, don't buy anything that you can't own and control, like a house in a country where you can't own property. Second, Asian ideas of fealty to parents are absolute. Even Hispanics would rather go to the poor house together than see their parents put out in any way. It's only we cold Westerners who are willing to lock our parents away in sterile care facilities to die after they spent years of their lives taking care of us.
I don't think her actions show total disrespect to Luke, I think it shows her discounting "farang" ideas and doing the right thing by Thai culture. Thais always choose their culture over the culture of outsiders because that seems to them like the only intelligent thing they can do.
Why would they throw their whole culture away, INSIDE their own country, involving their own families, who are also INSIDE their own country, just because some foreign guy has some weird ideas?
Westerners (and I'm one too) naively tend to believe everyone wants to think like us when they might actually be happy already with their own values system. I don't know if Luke is fluent and literate in Thai, but I bet if he were he would have seen this possibility a long time ago and bought a condo for himself in Bangkok instead. At least he could control that .
At this point, I'd say just mop up the piss and don't complain against the parents if you want to keep the wife. Move back to Bangkok alone if you don't want to live with her anymore.
Another thing to consider is that if the Thai partner has a daughter the partner and the daughter will move into the house and he will be king of the castle 😂.
The Thai expression for this is, เอาเปรียบ.
Aow bpriam!
Aow bpriam farang ngo
@ aow priap farang samong ai kwai.
@@athitaya6898
I like your phonetic spelling. lol
@@handsomeman-pm9vy I can write in Thai if you want. I doubt many would be able to read it.
In 6 years married to.a Thai l never once went to her mums home in Surin
That sounds unbelievable unless they hate each other.
She's hiding you bro
@@wesleywatson9514
She is doing him a favor.
actually the southeast buddhist family has big culture difference with western family，even more then muslim and Christian family difference，so its no suitable for their family live with your home for long time.
It would be great for this channel to start covering the Thai crimes against farang, too, such as the murder of UK citizen Alan Hogg in Isaan by his wife's own brother. He is one of these farang who "built a house on HER land" as you have reported on. You could combine or alternate love stories and crime stories -- which are generally intertwined anyway. Thanks!
Could they build another house in the village? That might give them more space.
That's what I was thinking. I'd be building them a very basic house or a sort of unit attached to my own house and moving them into that.
Tell them go live in the spirit house
THE LONG GAME …
Yes indeed. Guys who think only bargirls are looking to fleece a farang are delusional.
I think the big issue here is "our values" do NOT apply here and do not think they ever will. It is always easy to be wise after the event and I have never heard of the farang husband taking precedent over "her family" but I am sure there are some out there but this mans tale sounds like the norm to me.
Here Papa will always be #1 in everything. This poor farang bloke doesn't realize yet that he is not even on the list. He doesn't rate at all. His "face" doesn't matter and will never be a consideration. He's a non-entity with a wallet.
Spot on. They put the parents first, then other family members, then the farang. The farang is placed at the bottom of the totem pole. The farang is viewed as a financier and nothing more.
@@TruthTellerTH-k3w
Farang says: We finance and you enjoy! lol
@@handsomeman-pm9vy Yeah, until the money runs out, then the farang is quickly discarded!
Am I the only one who doesn’t see anything wrong accommodating the wife’s parents 😶
Tell her she has to respect you. It's your house and you pay the bills. She will either tell them what's up or you do it. Her explanation would be a lot nicer than yours.
Tur tut, they never learn
That’s something that has to be discussed with both husband and wife before that happens.
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I am a little jaundiced here but I think they will tell you what you want to hear,
Perhaps get a bigger house with an annexe?
Nothing on THEIR land is going to solve this. Divorce, leave, cut losses, admit mistakes and naivety.
My house🤣🤣🤣🤣. I suggest Luke goes home and gets a proper job. Sounds like a TEFLr working for peanuts in the boonies, wasting his prime earning years.
Your thumb nails are better than the comments !
Hi I'm a new subscriber. I'm a British born Indian, and can say this is not only Thai culture this is mostly all Asian cultures, if you married a lady from India, the same would happen, the only difference is Indian families are not allowed to take anything from the daughter, once she is married she is considered the responsibility of her husband... Im Indian culture the son has to look after the family,
I've had many of my uncles marry women from India and they are always about money
You have to remember your marrying a woman from a third world country which has third world mentality,
I would have had a meeting with her and said why didn't you discuss this with me first?
If you really like Asian women, then I suggest you find one in the western world,someone who has western value (but still keeps her own culture), im Indian but me or my British family would never marry a lady from India, as a westerner you should stick to westernised women, I personally don't go for Asian women, I prefer white blonde English women.... Great videos.. Keep it up.... From the UK 🇬🇧
Of course but they throw away their unique DNA
Hard to take but cut your losses or you will be losing a lot more
You should never have had that house built !!!!!!!
i just notice ,the flag of thai and russia is so similar
Really nonsense, the flag of Russia and France is quite similar.
Codependence is a choice.
Come on just except it she is helping her family.
Easier said than done.
If you wanted your rules to be in use why not brought her into your country and she will be far from her parents etc.
With the mobile phone, she is NEVER far from her parents.
These women still want to play 'Thai rules' when taken to another country. She would have gotten a job and sent all the money home every month.
@@TruthTellerTH-k3w For some time that is truth but most of girls give it up after a while.
@@TruthTellerTH-k3w That is typical but eventually she would give up after some time.
I was lucky my ex her mum was a top woman het dad died when she was 4
Ok ok ok….. we get the gist
15 plus videos of the same theme is suffice Jon
Give it a break….. please
@@Patatovski this is what the channel is about
I like them, Buri Ram home of singers Lisa and Cham Cham Ram.
He’s doing a service for single men.
His also a copycat from other YT. Not original.
@@talksofthailandI will never understand how someone can come to someone’s channel and complain about the content…if you don’t like it, LEAVE!