I still think of my ex-best friend from high school. We stopped being friends 10 years ago. I hate her so much but also miss her and genuinely need therapy to cope with how bad of a friend she was. I can't believe I still think about her, but I don't think about any of my exes.
I think it's her unaffected overly polite demeanor while the brunette ex friend seemed a lot more "real" with her feelings and down-to-earth. I felt the same about the blonde girl.
I think the blonde-haired woman meant she disagrees that THAT was the reason they fell out; They were friends for 4 years, and her friends didn’t like her from the beginning, so it’s not like they stopped liking her and they stopped being friends. Hence, her friends not liking her is not related to them not being friends anymore. However, maybe the brunette woman didn’t know they disliked her for the entirety of the friendship and it got more obvious toward the end, which is why SHE thinks that’s the reason. Or maybe she means that they could’ve worked it out if it weren’t for her other friends being against her.
She’s not mean. She just confirmed what her former friend said. The blond woman said that because they’d been friends even though her friends didn’t like the other woman, so that dislike shouldn’t impede the two becoming friends again.
@@Ceerads She was though. If everyone in your best friends life secludes and condemns you, that feels bad. and if you are out of her life, then the assumption that those people will be glad you are gone is pretty high. The blonde girl didnt react to what she was saying, she just went in with a counter argument, well then dont like you then and dont like you now.. Please just freaking say that it didnt matter to you and that the friendship between them was what mattered. But she didnt, probably for reasons. Be glad its over. Some friendships are meant to expire.
I think his buddy did set him up. I know what guilty people in that situatiom look like,and the second he denied it he not only broke eye contact but completely bowed his head.
@@IfckedBrian i doubt someone who loves their friend would do that. He is probably acting nervous/awkward bc it’s difficult to have this kind of conversation with an estranged friend
hahaha the blonde girl was definitely bitchy and deserved that comment. Good for the brunette for sticking up for herself- I hope she enjoys her wedding with her actual friends and family :)!
When she said all her other friends dont like her and still don't then why talk to each other then im not being with someone who hangs out with people that don't like me especially cuz they let them talk bad about you
The girl with the glasses and white hat looked so hurt throughout the video, she still has fresh wounds you can tell. I hope she finds some great friends that actually treasure her because she deserves that.
Right??? Like this ex best friend took absolutely no accountability for her not being there for her friend like??? The whole time they were like "you did this" and "you did that" when homie was SUICIDAL?????? LIKE AS SOME1 WHO'S BEEN IN HER POSITION, PROPER COMMUNICATION IS DIFFICULT AS HELL. AND SHE EVEN TOOK RESPONSIBILITY FOR NOT COMMUNICATING HER FEELINGS PROPERLY AND YET THAT EX BEST FRIEND JUST KEP CRITISIZING HER LIKE????
genuinely hurt me watching it. i had to go through the comment section to see if someone felt the same way. the “i think you have a problem with seeing someone else’s perspective,” 😟😟like what????
It felt real bad. First, the ex was like "we didn't know this was happening, you were so unclear", to then immediately follow-up with "when you told us the next day" and "then you shut us off". Later she said she would "be there for her" if she knew, but... you just said you only didn't know for 24 hours? Someone tells you they're depressed, suicidal and then continue to clearly not be okay and shutting themselves off from the world. That's when you should be there, and not blame her afterwards that she didn't handle it correctly
The fact that everyone is talking about the cheater and nobody is talking about the guy who was sending death threats to his friend after being held up by a stranger is kinda crazy like I thought that story was gonna be the one everyone was focused on 😭 Edit: I swear whenever I comment on a UA-cam video someone starts arguing in the replies over something irrelevant😭
@EarthChild-bj5tr that's how it always is, everyone ignores when males are threatening violence and then act surprised when they follow through. We need to hold males accountable.
I kinda feel bad for the guy with glasses. he not only lost his girlfriend but also his best friend at that time and then in the end he chose to STILL say fuck it let's be friends again..kinda powerful tbh edit bc y'all are hating over this: I don't mean powerful in a good way but I feel like the process of healing after everything that's happened is powerful, you can call the rest naive if you want to😭
Idk what to call it but that dude is very strong. Had the same thing happened to me with my best friend/cousin and my girlfriend and let me tell you, that shit changes you for life. It happened almost 20 years ago and I still have trust issues
Powerful is probably not how I would put it… people should have more respect for themselves to not keep people around who would treat them like that and not care ab them
She did apologize and she also mentioned that she made the mistake but if he actually did go to her and tell her what he felt and what he was going through she would have took responsibility over her mistake and been there for him anyway. That's powerful as well. To own up to your shit knowing you did something bad and then wanting to help rather than hide away or ignore the whole she wanted to focus on how to repair.
the relationship between the guy with the flame hat and the guy with the yellow hat is so intense and intriguing to me. It especially shows through at 7:57. So good to see a male platonic relationship be that deep... and if there are more feelings there, it only gets more intriguing
@@DA-js7xzI think Tyler was a little uncomfortable because Cody, told him he loved him and was always his friend. I think Tyler might felt the same way however, Tyler, might take Cody’s friendship for granted. As a guy that can be awkward to hear and more so, on camera. I could say that to my best buddy. I don’t want anyone to hear the conversation.
Telling someone when their cry for help was not "specific" enough was triggering. There is no standard. When you best friend say "I'm not doing well. I have a bad feeling about this", that is more than enough
Thank you!! Like imagine if they had suffered a recent severe trauma. Obviously thats not easy to talk about- ever-, let alone right after it happened. Especially if they Did tell someone already and they got a negative reaction.
Yeah, it definitely sounded like she was ostracized and ganged up on throughout the relationship. When an entire group chat tries to tell you that you were in the wrong, I don't blame her for feeling guilt-tripped into apologizing. People who are suicidal do not have the time nor energy to be worrying about how other people are perceiving their pain.
If my best friend smashed my gf, It should be over even if she's forgiven. She could've tried to get with anyone but fact that she intentionally went after the one girl that is suppose to loyal to her best friend is malicious and should be taken personally.
I dont understand this type of mindset. by the wording it feels like you are putting all the blame onto the person initiating the cheating like what? if my friend cheated on my girlfriend I would have more issues with the girlfriend because shes the one I thought I could trust. why do people like absorb the person being cheated with of all responsobility, like as if its they just had no choice but to accept the invitation, actual delusional mindset
@@TimeattackGD Both are at fault but we're not watching a vid of the guy and his ex. We're watching the guy and his best friend discuss what SHE did wrong.
Yeah. The girlfriend is most of the problem. It's on HER to maintain the monogamy. Her boyfriend has the same responsibility too but it doesn't sound like he did anything.
I half agree - I do feel the gf was obvi also responsible, but the friend was DEF responsible too - she was supposed to be loyal to her best friend, and even if his gf threw herself at the ex-friend, she should've said no. In my humble opinion. But both of them decided to do something that they knew would hurt the guy, so both are to blame. Also, the way the ex-friend words it in the video with saying "well she was there/available" like she's blaming proximity for her having sex with her best friend's gf, makes it feel like she initiated it. She didn't say the gf initiated it.
The girl who was suicidal was really let down by her friends. If either one of my best friends told our group chat that she was having bad feelings, we would all be in that chat furiously making sure everyone was doing okay. We live hundreds of miles apart but we've dealt with these scary moments before and it's not something to just ignore because she wasn't "specific enough." That's such a cop-out.
yeah that pissed me off. even if you thought it was too vague at first, you understand now, so what’s the point of making excuses to try and make yourself look better instead of just apologizing?
Thank you! Been looking for someone to point this out! Even throughout the episode she didn't accept any responsibility. And the language she uses is definitely insensitive! "Then you dropped off FOREVER" NO, she could've let those un alive thoughts win and never be anywhere again. Take that shit more seriously. Take responsibility because you could've lost your friend forever, and you could've possibly prevented it if you took more care in asking questions. Anytime someone comes to me for any type of counseling for having a hard time, even if they don't seem in the un aliving mood, I always ask "do you have thoughts about hurting yourself" because most people who truly have those thoughts don't wear it on their sleeve.
exactly! they should've reached out. They acted like it was drama or she was doing for attention, like , common! It's not normal messaging "I am having bad feelings" and vanish. I'm going through the same situation but for different reasons and I just wish my friends would take me more seriousl, but whatever, I'll be okay.
I hate that people in general only want to be there for the happy moments, good vibes. That's not what relationships are about, nobody's ever good vibes only.
The girl with glasses the second she said I'm having bad thoughts i would've reached out to her and asked her if she's okay for the friend group chat to ignore her or not take her seriously is kinda messed up
word like it’s their BEST FRIEND. To me best friend is equivalent to family. I feel if your best friend is messaging these type of things in a group chat, you should definitely take more initiative to be there for them
Agreed. I did hate the blonde’s comment “call me after you have a baby and we will revisit this question …” as if having a baby is the only thing that makes someone mature? Girl… She might not have a baby, but she is 100% more mature than you are acting.
I disagree, not the case for the beanie girl and the purple- haired girl. They just had miscommunication, and it looks like they could easily fix it in the end
Or when u are open with feelings about certain things/events and they just ignore your point of view (but then u cut them off and suddenly shocked pikachu face)
the girl with the purple-ish hair makes my blood boil.. you can tell she’s expecting an apology or something when she doesn’t deserve one.. if someone is texting you that they’re having “bad thoughts”, you don’t need to ask what or why.. if you really care about your friend, just keep them company and distract them… she’s definitely one of those surface level friends, and nothing more.. if you have a friend like that, don’t go to them for help unless you want to be gaslit into thinking its your fault for reaching out.. find people who care about you!
I’ve had a friend like this. Always saying this. I was there for her. And it turned out to be lies. She never wanted me to comfort her, she just wanted a pity party. Eventually you get mentally exhausted of dealing with it. And sometimes you can’t help them. She was upset that she couldn’t help her friend. Because her friend wouldn’t let her. And that’s being inconsiderate of her feelings too. You can be suicidal and depressed and still be a dick to people.
@@EveryThingGirl238truee! And u need therapy nod friends for this kind of things sometimes yea it can really help talking with a friend but when its that seriously go to a therapist
I hear you and I agree that friends should know us enough to check in and also kinda read us? But that being said if I am depressed and going through a lot I also don't expect my friends, or anyone, to be my crutch, that's also not fair on them. In my friend group we are all on some level struggling with mental health etc and as much as I would reach out and say "I'm in a bad place", they would respond, but I don't expect them to come rushing to my side to listen/fix the situ. For me, that's what doctors are for. Sure not everyone can afford or get to a doctor, but I just feel like my emotional baggage shouldn't weigh down my closest loves. They can be aware of my situ, visit me or keep in contact, but not carry my baggage for me. Just my feelings~friendships are 50/50, just because I am having a hard time and vocalising it, doesn't mean my friends are in the space to help me/carry my shit (to clarify further, ofc I'd expect them to say they are there for me if I need to talk, but that's it)
@@georginacalder6798 go to a therapist and they’ll tell you to create a support system.. aka friends and family.. thinking it’s baggage for someone else is a personal issue, its insecurity that you’re a burden on other people.. if your friend actually thinks that then you don’t need that friend.. you’re supposed to surround yourself with people who love and care about you and they would have your back if you fell.. its not their responsibility to keep you floating, but.. not only are they there for the fun moments, they’re there for the tough moments in life too.. if one of my friends called me and told me “i’m having a hard time” ..i’m talking over the phone with them ALL night, i don’t care its all night because i love my friends, i WANT to be there for them, its not a burden.. if talking to them isn’t calming them down or helping anything for the moment, then they should probably go to the hospital..
@@georginacalder6798 my mom lost a friend when she was young, that friend called her before she committed..My mom still holds guilt to this day that she didn’t answer.. she taught me to be there for my friends especially in those moments because even feeling like someones there can save a persons life
My best friend passed away last year. We went our separate ways for a few years before reuniting again, which was something he initiated. I miss that bastard so much. Thanks for making me tear up, Cut. If you've still got your best mate around, tell em you love em and treasure that relationship til the day you both die.
My best friend also died a little over a year ago. We lost contact but reunited as if no time had passed. I was so grateful for our friendship and I still am. I miss her dearly. Hope you’re doing okay. I know how hard it is
I’m so sorry for your loss. I took your advice and messaged my best friend. We never tell each other that we love each other but now I’m going to start because your comment.
My best friend also passed away in May. We reunited after a few years after a fallout we had back in highschool. I got another year with her before she passed. I got the matching tattoo we were gonna get in memory of her. I’m sorry for your loss, I really relate to this 💔
Cody and Tyler were probably the most genuine and interesting friends here. The way Tyler talks lets me know that bond runs deep and I wish the video focused on them more. “I always loved you” wholesome as fuck
You threaten to k*ll me to the point where I’m actually scared you’ll do it - nah, we’re never being friends again. There’s more to this story or they’re both toxic.
@@robert7567 no but I wanted to highlight that he was probably in a paranoid mental state given his situation. Perhaps I would think I was being set up too. I wouldn’t go as far as threatening a friend though
@@robert7567 there’s nuance to every situation, and considering the lack of details they offered, I’m sure the reaction was likely more warranted than we might think.
Honestly, this brings me back to when my best friend and I stop being friends. It still made me sad the way it happened. One day, she invited me over, and we talked and made up. We are still best friends to this day. To be honest, talking about the hardest things is hard but should happen.
I wish I did thiss but me and my best friend just became distant and kind of grew apart, we stopped talking as much like we'd talk a few times every month and then one day she blocked me on everything
Thank you for covering friend “breakups” and PLEASE do more vids on this topic! It is so under-discussed and can be such a brutal and alienating experience. This video made me feel less alone
Facts. I let a former friend back into my life, but something seemed off. I tested them to see if they actually changed, but they failed. Cut ex friends off completely.
2:11 she clearly didn’t care when the other girl first reached out and she definitely doesn’t care about her mental health now. seems like a clear case of guilt tripping.
For the friends with the girl with the beanie, I feel her. I ruined some good friendships with my own inner battles. I regret it all the time. I’m glad they got to talk it out.
Same. Ghosted literally all of my friends when I was going through it. I feel like they've probably all moved on without me. I feel like if I reached out to them a lot of them would welcome me back with open arms, but I'm just too ashamed of myself. Sometimes I feel like I'm broken and it's hard to be around people when you feel so alone on the inside.
@@chai_lattes I know this is a super old comment, but I really wanted to respond in case you or someone else can find some value in this. I have a friend who was in a really rough spot and cut off every one, including me. I didn’t hear from them at all for a long time, and never stopped thinking about them and hoping they were okay. When we ran into each other, and they made the move to reconnect, I was really, really happy. And we have been building our friendship ever since. I can’t speak for your friends or situation of course, but I hope they would be as happy to hear from you if you did reach out. And if not, then I hope you find new wonderful friendships - you deserve to be surrounded by people who love you.
The girls crying and saying “I miss you” made me cry. I cut off two of my best friends in the last year and even though I know it was for the best, I still think about them all the time and I miss them. I miss who they used to be. I miss how we used to be.
Hello, this is Gabi (girl with white beanie and glasses). First of all, thank you for the supportive comments- I teared up a lot 🥺 I was feeling doubtful in myself but now I feel more validated ❤ So I'm the one who was invited to be on this episode, and at first I was hesitant because I was afraid to relive the events that happened in summer 2023 that led me to my emotional breakdown. But when Ella reassured me she wanted to clear the air and reconnect, I agreed to sign up. During the filming, I acknowledged that I could have been better at communicating and handling the situation better- I was very much open to hearing her side and feedback, which she gave. Looking back, I did feel like I was being gaslit at some point, but during the filming I was too tipsy to notice. Yeah, we took a lot of shots despite answering all the prompts- I was really anxious being there 😅 I had a feeling that she wasn't interested in reconnecting after that day, which was confirmed when she messaged me exactly that after this episode aired. I agree that she wasn't painted in the best light due to some context being cut out, but at the same time I also agree that some of the things she said were deflective and for lack of a better word...fake? I mean the fact that she reached out wanting to reconnect with me, then turning the other direction after this episode made her not seem genuine. My boyfriend was there with me behind the scenes, and after watching this episode he thought the same. He also commented that regardless of the outcome, this could be a good way to spread awareness; get people thinking about how to better communicate in their relationships, what signs to look out for in friends who are going through a rough time, etc. Overall, the falling out plus being on this episode has taught me a lot about myself and how to handle conflict going forward. Once again, thank you for the supportive comments. I'm doing much better now and I'm surrounded by good people ❤ PS: Ella is a nice person. We're just not compatible.
Thank you y’all. I saw Ella added a comment giving more context, but she missed a huge chunk about what I was going through prior to my emotional breakdown. I was grieving the death of my classmate and dealing with the falling out of another friendship weeks prior. So for her to say that she reached out after my breakdown is her trying to save face. She hardly reached out to me before then as I was going through the rough times. We are in fact not “besties”, and she referred to someone else in the group as that, which kind of stung since she invited me to this episode. She claims she cared about me but it’s really a facade.
I'm so sick of people using the term gaslighting when it's not appropriate, gaslighting is an abuse tactic used in interpersonal relationships and should only be used in a psychological or therapeutic context. Disagreeing about what happened is NOT gaslighting.
Nah dude with glasses was way too quick to be friends again. She wasn’t sorry at all “yk how I was back then, partying and fuckin” like that ain’t an excuse
I’m going to be honest, I don’t understand the friends where one was suicidal. The one friend saying “you only said that you were having bad thoughts, not that you were suicidal”… What? I feel like if a friend said to me that they were having bad thoughts, I’d be concerned enough to ask for some more information and it would come out pretty quickly. Or if they don’t want to talk about it beyond that, at least offering some comfort is bare minimum right?
I don't blame you for not understanding-the way the video was edited skews the entire situation! I explained what happened in a separate comment, but in short, we had no way of knowing she was suicidal based on what she told us that day. Still, she said she was feeling low so I did reach out to her and tried to adjust my plans last minute to be able to see her. Everyone in the friend group loved Gabi and tried to support and comfort her every time she needed it.
@abcd-ella Np! The editing of the video showed you in a negative light. I really appreciated the context you brought to the situation in your comment. It reminded me that as viewers, we get maybe only 5% of the situation. We run with that little amount of info and make hella assumptions about ppl that may or may not be true.
@@abcd-ella Thank you, the additional context is much appreciated. Honestly I think my comment was made too hastily and from a place of understanding and empathising more with Gabi/Gabi’s perspective. In reality, you can only do what you can do and unfortunately you cannot be what everyone needs or wants at any given time. I think it’s difficult to be struggling and not wanting or being able to express the depth of it, but it’s also difficult to be the person someone in such a situation expects to understand with a limited explanation. In any case, hope you both are well and thank you again for being open with this^^
the fact that the white guy in the yellow cap thought his “best friend” was even capable of that is very telling tbh and when he was like “i had a problem with ur loyalty” i definitely believe he knew about what happened to him that night
Yeah I need more explanation of their situation. Even the way the dude in the flames hat said “I had no part in that” makes it seem like he at least knows who did have a part in it
No but the thing is though when you go to an event like that where it's like a friend of a friend type deal, it's likely that the mugger is a mutual friend of people in that friend group, so someone either knew what was going to happen or that he's a sketchy guy. So like it's very hard to call either way. Like he could have no clue about the mugger guy or he could've known that x friend at this party has sketchy friends. I think that's more plausible than he like orchestrated it in some way.
The guy who got mugged at gunpoint and beaten up after a party: Seems like a lot of details have been edited out here. Details that might help explain hy he would be sending death threats to the skinny guy who he believed had orchestrated the assault. Also, at 2:52 the skinny guy is avoiding eye contact and squirming in his seat while he is denying any involvement in the assault. Seems fishy to me. 🤔🐠
dang ok mister CIA. But you are write like the lady who prettended like she never say the other girl at the market at 1:48. I usually am very innocent but exect for the depressed lady all those people should not reconnect.
The bros almost brought a tear to my eyes. The fact that Tyler was always hoping to work stuff out with Cody and look to see the good in him shows a true friend!
@@jrussel99 long story short we went to a party who my girls friend and some mutuals were at. before showing up my girl got informed that there was “some drama” going on but nothing too pressing. we get there and the drama was this drunk dude was playing around recklessly with his gun all pissed off bout something unknown. we hated the vibes going on there so we decided to head out. it was new years so mfs was drunk and somehow my boy was really really drunk and decided to just run off into the night as we was heading to our ride. i waited around outside for an hour and a half tryna find him and calling him over n over just for the calls to be ignored so me my girl and my other friends just ended up giving up and going home bout 4 minutes away. at some point he decides to go back to that house, the dude who was acting crazy with the gun was just not a good person and one thing led to another with them and he ended up punching cody and taking his stuff and all that and cody thought that was my friend but i wanted to be as far away as possible from that situation as soon as we pulled up. it was all in all just a drunken mess and cody just thought i left him there on purpose and all that but mfs was just drunk like i said
This was such an open hearted, vulnerable, genuine dialogue I’ve ever seen with ex best friends and it makes me think of the root of how special and crazy friendships can be and I want to say thank you to the people who really put themselves out there to initiate productive dialogue and get closure. Takes some courage, and I almost cried watching some of them make up🥹 good job guys. Cut, you’re out there changing lives.
I'm sending so much love to glasses girl 💗 Also I suggest y'all read the book Big Friendship. It's about two people who were so deeply close and the falling out that happened and how they dealt with it. It was interesting how they discussed what adult friendships look like in our lives and made me really reflect on the friendships I've lost.
“I feel like if you came to talk to me and ask me about anything, things could have been different 😢😞” HEY GUYS, THIS IS KELLY FROM CUT!!! 🤪😜😆😁 Ffs cut, there’s a time and a place 🤦♂️
Oh wow the person who was suicidal..,,,people NEED to know that a call for help is NOT ALWAYS DIRECT!!! Please everyone learn from your mistakes. We all make mistakes, but please learn from them
Literally, she’s like “you weren’t being direct” like it’s a gc, even in person ASKING QUESTIONS EXIST? It really feels like her friends didn’t gaf or was like “I don’t have time for this atm”. Like I’ve been in that situation sm times and those are always the excuse👎🏾
Ella here! I completely agree that it's hard to be direct when asking for help, especially as someone who has been in treatment for clinical depression and has experienced suicidal ideation for most of my life. I replied to her vague messages and contacted her directly to support her but she told me not to worry, and didn't say anything to indicate what was going on. (That's what I meant about needing her to be more direct.) I trusted what she told me and gave her space. It wasn't until a few days later that she told the group that she had been having suicidal thoughts that day and lashed out at us for not being there for her.
@@hehetzen did you miss the part where all of her other friends hate her? What's the point in hanging out with someone when any time ANY one else she is friends with is there, will be actively hostile towards you? Blond is also completely dismissive of this supposed "friend's" feelings, yet was the one who wanted to invite her to the damn show as if she ever cared.
just a reminder to please check up on your friends if they're saying ominous things or acting out of the ordinary. having poor mental health and/or mental illnesses causes us to self-destruct and distance ourselves even if we do not intend to do so. ending a friendship over something like this does not really seem fair and with just make the person affected feel worse in their situation.
Ella here, I completely agree with your reminder! I appreciate you sharing your insight and perspective. I gave a lot of context about the reality of the situation in a separate comment, so I'll just say here that I did my best to support Gabi throughout everything, and didn't want the friendship to end! I was respecting her decision to take some time to herself, and waited to hear from her for a long time. I was blindsided when I found out that she blocked me after she had a falling-out with another friend in the group. This is what made me say that I felt like she sabotaged our friendship. I was openly willing to work through conflict, but wasn't given the chance until this shoot. I would never end a genuine friendship over something that could be worked out through honest communication. I'm always willing to talk things out and make changes to better support my friends and grow as a person, and I'll continue to do so in the future!
hi@@abcd-ellayou do seem like a genuine soul, and i really appreciate you taking the time to read through comments and explain further what we didn't get to see in the video. i wish the best for you and your friendships in the future!
"you wernt specific ab ur suicidal thoughts" HOLY SHIT it doesnt MATTER she made it be known she was in a bad place and as a "friend" u are supposed to be there, not have it go as far as being suicidal to start caring.
As someone who has been there I couldn’t assume people are mind readers. I feel bad could be anything. Feeling bad is a whole spectrum. Either way I hope she took charge of her mental health and got professional help because friends aren’t always equipped to deal with such things.
@@nunya3390 ok bad thoughts- even then is everyone equipped to handle that. People literally go to school to be able to. You can’t put that on someone who can’t handle it- it’s unfair to you because you’re not going to get the help you need and unfair to them because they don’t know how.
“cause i do miss you” made me tear up because recently my best friend of 6 years ghosted me around 2 months ago, then blocked me a few days ago with 0 explanation. i do miss her, i sobbed in front of my therapist when she asked me to elaborate on what happened with me and my ex best friend. i miss her, but at the same time i feel betrayed that she’d leave with no explanation at all. i see her every day out of the corner of my eye, but i always refuse to look straight at her.
To be honest I wouldn't read it that way, especially in a group chat, unless my gut told me something was up. People say stuff like that jokingly all the time, and people say that kinda stuff just referring to mental health generally. Obviously when someone's feeling suicidal they're not gonna be the best at texting but I don't think it's fair the blame the friends either.
People have different thoughts and feelings. We’ve all been brought up differently. We can’t assume that everyone knows what everyone means with two words.
Yeah and having a bunch of friends who don’t like the brunette? Like wtf? Fucking ew I wouldn’t be friends w someone who had a bunch of friends who openly don’t like me…blondie sounds like a fucking bully & the friends shared dislike of brown haired girl comes from blondie. She seems really vile and snake like
Im so interested in the topic of friendship ever since my close friend cut me off, which felt like a blindside. I find it so interesting that people complain about a lack of community or feeling alone, but are willing to throwaway a friendship (that has history) for things that can be easily discussed. The problem is people would rather have a victim complex and label others the villain instead of having the courage to have hard conversations. Ego is more important than communication and empathy for a lot of people. That’s why we’re dealing with a loneliness epidemic.
Yes, but I think with age and growth and natural changes over time, some friendships just run their course or don't have the same strength as they used to. Can be for innocuous reasons like a move out of state, can be for more complicated reasons like becoming more socially conscious or politically aware (has happened to me) Sometimes people realize their worth or improve their self esteem/decide not to be a doormat which could be misinterpreted as being egotistical, and friends from way back when just don't fit in the picture anymore.
THIS!!!! my ex best friend literally ignored me for a month and then i sent her a parahgraph discussing my feelings and seeing what was up and she was saying how i changed and shit but didnt tell me a direct reason. i tried seeing what the actually issue was so we could work through it but she kept leaving me on read or delivered. 2 weeks later she sent a small message apologizing and asking if i wanna get high and skip school. i told her how i needed an explanation and she continued to leave me on read. communication is legit key to maintaining friendships/relationships
@@evistte my ex best friend was similar but we talked multiple times and she was acting fine like nothing was wrong and I could tell we were getting distant then she blocked me on everything
@@avabackupaccount yup, during the month of her ignoring me she asked if i wanted to get lunch which i ofc said yes to then after that she continued to ignore me
Many of these people do not deserve a second chance at friendship with the other. They are clearly still not remorseful and still stuck in their ways. This episode made me so upset
I have a horribly toxic and delusional ex best friend who was in my life for fourteen years, has been out of it for seven and a half. It doesn’t hurt as badly but it definitely still hurts. I’m still not even quite sure how things officially ended because we were all drinking the last time I saw her. Losing people you never thought you’d lose is the worst part of life I think.
It seems like a lot of the comments are conflating someone who is hurt/uncomfortable opening themselves back up to someone who discarded them to being “toxic” and “passive aggressive”. These people are on camera
For a weird reason I like the two girls, the blonde one and the one who is getting married; they’re just so honest no matter how hard it would have been to set there in front of each other and tell each other to their faces that their friendship is probably gone for good, it takes power.
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Friends are the hardest exes to get over
Right because it isn’t romantic or physical attraction that fades, it’s something that makes it hard to even like them or want to talk to them at all
@@arandomperson1621whats the something
I still think of my ex-best friend from high school. We stopped being friends 10 years ago. I hate her so much but also miss her and genuinely need therapy to cope with how bad of a friend she was. I can't believe I still think about her, but I don't think about any of my exes.
True still crying till this day
THIS
The blonde girl rubbed me the wrong way. I cant put my finger on it. "My bad..i guess?" Spoke volumes
and the fact her other friends didn't like her best friend at the time and she stayed friends with them throughout the friendship😭
Yeah the body language, facial expressions and tone gave me bitchy vibes. Seems like a real life Regina George
She’s not sorry whatso ever.
I think it's her unaffected overly polite demeanor while the brunette ex friend seemed a lot more "real" with her feelings and down-to-earth. I felt the same about the blonde girl.
Because it’s like she just didn’t care that’s the only vibe she giving 🫤
"They didn't like you then, and they don't like you now" oof that blonde haired girly is mean af omg
Yeah that was so weird, she says she disagrees then says that. How does that disprove the original claim of "your friends don't like me"?
I think the blonde-haired woman meant she disagrees that THAT was the reason they fell out; They were friends for 4 years, and her friends didn’t like her from the beginning, so it’s not like they stopped liking her and they stopped being friends. Hence, her friends not liking her is not related to them not being friends anymore.
However, maybe the brunette woman didn’t know they disliked her for the entirety of the friendship and it got more obvious toward the end, which is why SHE thinks that’s the reason. Or maybe she means that they could’ve worked it out if it weren’t for her other friends being against her.
That actually makes a lot of sense. I didn't think of it that way. Thanks
She’s not mean. She just confirmed what her former friend said. The blond woman said that because they’d been friends even though her friends didn’t like the other woman, so that dislike shouldn’t impede the two becoming friends again.
@@Ceerads She was though. If everyone in your best friends life secludes and condemns you, that feels bad. and if you are out of her life, then the assumption that those people will be glad you are gone is pretty high. The blonde girl didnt react to what she was saying, she just went in with a counter argument, well then dont like you then and dont like you now.. Please just freaking say that it didnt matter to you and that the friendship between them was what mattered. But she didnt, probably for reasons.
Be glad its over. Some friendships are meant to expire.
I so desperately want to hear about the guy who was held at gunpoints story 😳
ikr! So many details missing from that relationship
I think his buddy did set him up. I know what guilty people in that situatiom look like,and the second he denied it he not only broke eye contact but completely bowed his head.
@@IfckedBrian i doubt someone who loves their friend would do that. He is probably acting nervous/awkward bc it’s difficult to have this kind of conversation with an estranged friend
@@adrianpink8144 Nah, I have been face to face with someone like this. He's guilty of something . At the very least he knew it was bout to go down.
So many redneck vibes.
"She's not on my guest list" got me💀
Lmfaooo the “Oh” sent me
Its okay, she don't need the blondie
Why did they end it like that lmao
hahaha the blonde girl was definitely bitchy and deserved that comment.
Good for the brunette for sticking up for herself- I hope she enjoys her wedding with her actual friends and family :)!
They will not be friends again hahah!
Blonde girl seems toxic and shady…like she’s stuck in that high school mindset.
Fr the second she said "I'm sorry I guess" tols me everything I needed to know. Lol had alot of "friends" like that
@@kaylageairn exactly! reminds me of half the girls I go to school with lol
When she said all her other friends dont like her and still don't then why talk to each other then im not being with someone who hangs out with people that don't like me especially cuz they let them talk bad about you
@raylee444 oh yeah but for me it was mid 20s 😬😬😬 how are they not embarrassed???
you can tell she's being passive asf like she can't wait to go home and talk shit about her 💀
The girl with the glasses and white hat looked so hurt throughout the video, she still has fresh wounds you can tell. I hope she finds some great friends that actually treasure her because she deserves that.
Right??? Like this ex best friend took absolutely no accountability for her not being there for her friend like??? The whole time they were like "you did this" and "you did that" when homie was SUICIDAL?????? LIKE AS SOME1 WHO'S BEEN IN HER POSITION, PROPER COMMUNICATION IS DIFFICULT AS HELL. AND SHE EVEN TOOK RESPONSIBILITY FOR NOT COMMUNICATING HER FEELINGS PROPERLY AND YET THAT EX BEST FRIEND JUST KEP CRITISIZING HER LIKE????
genuinely hurt me watching it. i had to go through the comment section to see if someone felt the same way. the “i think you have a problem with seeing someone else’s perspective,” 😟😟like what????
@ilee732 This part like????? Gurl
It felt real bad. First, the ex was like "we didn't know this was happening, you were so unclear", to then immediately follow-up with "when you told us the next day" and "then you shut us off". Later she said she would "be there for her" if she knew, but... you just said you only didn't know for 24 hours? Someone tells you they're depressed, suicidal and then continue to clearly not be okay and shutting themselves off from the world. That's when you should be there, and not blame her afterwards that she didn't handle it correctly
Yeah I went through a really similar situation and I would NEVER go back to those friends. I can't trust them anymore.
The fact that everyone is talking about the cheater and nobody is talking about the guy who was sending death threats to his friend after being held up by a stranger is kinda crazy like I thought that story was gonna be the one everyone was focused on 😭
Edit: I swear whenever I comment on a UA-cam video someone starts arguing in the replies over something irrelevant😭
And that sweet little boy in the flame hat seems like such a nice guy ready to support him
I swear society does not measure up the real issues lol so focused on the cheater chick, we ignore the threatening man LOL
Yeah red hat guy needs to leave the past behind him. Feels like a bit more than friends...
@EarthChild-bj5tr that's how it always is, everyone ignores when males are threatening violence and then act surprised when they follow through. We need to hold males accountable.
@@Slugflesh "sweet little boy" jeeez why can't men be lovey dovey and sweet for once without people baby-ing them.
I kinda feel bad for the guy with glasses. he not only lost his girlfriend but also his best friend at that time and then in the end he chose to STILL say fuck it let's be friends again..kinda powerful tbh
edit bc y'all are hating over this: I don't mean powerful in a good way but I feel like the process of healing after everything that's happened is powerful, you can call the rest naive if you want to😭
Idk what to call it but that dude is very strong. Had the same thing happened to me with my best friend/cousin and my girlfriend and let me tell you, that shit changes you for life. It happened almost 20 years ago and I still have trust issues
AND she had the audacity to laugh at it….
Powerful is probably not how I would put it… people should have more respect for themselves to not keep people around who would treat them like that and not care ab them
How’s he gonna say Homies over hoes when the Homie is a hoe?
She did apologize and she also mentioned that she made the mistake but if he actually did go to her and tell her what he felt and what he was going through she would have took responsibility over her mistake and been there for him anyway. That's powerful as well. To own up to your shit knowing you did something bad and then wanting to help rather than hide away or ignore the whole she wanted to focus on how to repair.
the girl that slept with his ex is FOUL! She had no remorse and no accountability. He needa get his lick back BAD I'm just saying....
Fr like just bc you miss someone doesn’t mean they’re supposed to be in your life
right?? it’s 0:1 he gotta fight back
No fr😭
I think he should be grateful. She helped him please his woman, statistically speaking
I couldn’t STAND her whole affect.
Cody is a lucky man to have Tyler as a friend. Tyler is wise beyond his years.
Tyler set Cody up with a stranger who assaulted him. Maybe he's wiser now, but man...
@@fiery_hunter3271unless i missed it he had no part in thatv
@@sal9871 Maybe that went over my head. My bad.
@@fiery_hunter3271 I don't understand what happened there
@@sal9871yeah, just wish he hadn’t avoided eye contact right when he said that tho (a common indicator of lying) :/
the relationship between the guy with the flame hat and the guy with the yellow hat is so intense and intriguing to me. It especially shows through at 7:57. So good to see a male platonic relationship be that deep... and if there are more feelings there, it only gets more intriguing
We're just not used to seeing men openly express their affection for each other in a platonic way in the West. It's sad.
Felt the same way. Really heartwarming to see a male friendship with depth like this
@@DA-js7xzI think Tyler was a little uncomfortable because Cody, told him he loved him and was always his friend. I think Tyler might felt the same way however, Tyler, might take Cody’s friendship for granted. As a guy that can be awkward to hear and more so, on camera. I could say that to my best buddy. I don’t want anyone to hear the conversation.
They were my favorite in this video, just seeing two dude bros actually be vulnerable with each other is so genuinely sweet.
@@cricketxing Agreed. It was kind of heartwarming to see two straight guys express affection for each other so openly.
Telling someone when their cry for help was not "specific" enough was triggering. There is no standard. When you best friend say "I'm not doing well. I have a bad feeling about this", that is more than enough
That friend wasn't listening, just defending herself
Exactly
like did she expect her to say "hey guys i might kms" IN A GROUP CHAT??
Thank you!! Like imagine if they had suffered a recent severe trauma. Obviously thats not easy to talk about- ever-, let alone right after it happened. Especially if they Did tell someone already and they got a negative reaction.
ikr?? i hope she finds better friends ngl
im sorry but the cheater does not sit right with him. the guy deserves better and def needs to know his worth :(
yeah. The only ones that I though would actually be friends again were the two guys.
Agreed!
I hope the girl who was suicidal finds some real friends who love & support her & are there for her when she needs them the most.
she does. but there are things she needs to work on to keep those friendships. friends are not mind readers
@@usucktoo found the purple haired girl
Ella put in a comment that shares more perspective about the situation. Apparently, she did reach out as soon as she saw Gabi's message.
She said she hadn’t been specific about being suicidal. And her friend did reach out the next day. People aren’t mind readers.
Yeah, it definitely sounded like she was ostracized and ganged up on throughout the relationship. When an entire group chat tries to tell you that you were in the wrong, I don't blame her for feeling guilt-tripped into apologizing. People who are suicidal do not have the time nor energy to be worrying about how other people are perceiving their pain.
If my best friend smashed my gf, It should be over even if she's forgiven. She could've tried to get with anyone but fact that she intentionally went after the one girl that is suppose to loyal to her best friend is malicious and should be taken personally.
I dont understand this type of mindset. by the wording it feels like you are putting all the blame onto the person initiating the cheating like what? if my friend cheated on my girlfriend I would have more issues with the girlfriend because shes the one I thought I could trust. why do people like absorb the person being cheated with of all responsobility, like as if its they just had no choice but to accept the invitation, actual delusional mindset
And then to say “Well, she was available.” 🤢 So gross.
@@TimeattackGD Both are at fault but we're not watching a vid of the guy and his ex. We're watching the guy and his best friend discuss what SHE did wrong.
Yeah. The girlfriend is most of the problem. It's on HER to maintain the monogamy. Her boyfriend has the same responsibility too but it doesn't sound like he did anything.
I half agree - I do feel the gf was obvi also responsible, but the friend was DEF responsible too - she was supposed to be loyal to her best friend, and even if his gf threw herself at the ex-friend, she should've said no. In my humble opinion. But both of them decided to do something that they knew would hurt the guy, so both are to blame.
Also, the way the ex-friend words it in the video with saying "well she was there/available" like she's blaming proximity for her having sex with her best friend's gf, makes it feel like she initiated it. She didn't say the gf initiated it.
The girl who was suicidal was really let down by her friends. If either one of my best friends told our group chat that she was having bad feelings, we would all be in that chat furiously making sure everyone was doing okay. We live hundreds of miles apart but we've dealt with these scary moments before and it's not something to just ignore because she wasn't "specific enough." That's such a cop-out.
yeah that pissed me off. even if you thought it was too vague at first, you understand now, so what’s the point of making excuses to try and make yourself look better instead of just apologizing?
Thank you! Been looking for someone to point this out! Even throughout the episode she didn't accept any responsibility. And the language she uses is definitely insensitive! "Then you dropped off FOREVER" NO, she could've let those un alive thoughts win and never be anywhere again. Take that shit more seriously. Take responsibility because you could've lost your friend forever, and you could've possibly prevented it if you took more care in asking questions. Anytime someone comes to me for any type of counseling for having a hard time, even if they don't seem in the un aliving mood, I always ask "do you have thoughts about hurting yourself" because most people who truly have those thoughts don't wear it on their sleeve.
@@anthonyfernandez1345i was looking for these comments too! it’s wild that gray hair was sooo defensive the whole time while glasses was so vulnerable
exactly! they should've reached out. They acted like it was drama or she was doing for attention, like , common! It's not normal messaging "I am having bad feelings" and vanish. I'm going through the same situation but for different reasons and I just wish my friends would take me more seriousl, but whatever, I'll be okay.
I hate that people in general only want to be there for the happy moments, good vibes. That's not what relationships are about, nobody's ever good vibes only.
The girl with glasses the second she said I'm having bad thoughts i would've reached out to her and asked her if she's okay for the friend group chat to ignore her or not take her seriously is kinda messed up
Those friends where lazy dude I don't like it when people say something bad is going on
@@omotayosatuyi252fr like not one person even asked her a simple why?
word like it’s their BEST FRIEND. To me best friend is equivalent to family. I feel if your best friend is messaging these type of things in a group chat, you should definitely take more initiative to be there for them
I agree why did she need to spell it out? It’s giving she’s not valued in the friendship.
@@jelly4129 they are inconsiderate a holes Jesus Christ
The blonde and brunette ooh
Good decision in the end
"Shes not on my guest list" 😂
@@space5872 I don’t blame her Lol
@@space5872 maybe she shouldn’t be on anyone’s lol seems like a dick
Agreed. I did hate the blonde’s comment “call me after you have a baby and we will revisit this question …” as if having a baby is the only thing that makes someone mature? Girl… She might not have a baby, but she is 100% more mature than you are acting.
My thing is why would I be friends with someone if they are friends with people who don’t like me like that doesn’t make sense to me
A lot of these people are immature and toxic.
I disagree, not the case for the beanie girl and the purple- haired girl. They just had miscommunication, and it looks like they could easily fix it in the end
@@t00sathey said a lot not all
@@t00sa I was gonna say the only ones I see working out are them, their interaction was the most authentic, mature and healthy
@@t00saI felt the purple haired woman was being disingenuous and trying to play victim to much
How if they all decided to forgive each other and remain friends
fire beanie guy is so refreshing to see, he’s so smart and not afraid to show emotion
these two dudes in hats have a wild story, wish I could hear more details
doing anything with ur BEST FRIEND’s significant other will always be the most disrespectful thing u can do to someone that close to u
the MOST disrespectful thing? not at all lol be thankful if cheating is as bad is it’s gotten for ya lol
@@notamberpI mean there’s obviously worse things but that’s still bad
@@notamberpyou need mental help
i am convinced that lack of (proper) communication is the cause of most relationship downfalls.
Or when u are open with feelings about certain things/events and they just ignore your point of view (but then u cut them off and suddenly shocked pikachu face)
This is literally ‘one normal person and one completely toxic motherfucker try to be friends again’
the girl with the purple-ish hair makes my blood boil.. you can tell she’s expecting an apology or something when she doesn’t deserve one.. if someone is texting you that they’re having “bad thoughts”, you don’t need to ask what or why.. if you really care about your friend, just keep them company and distract them… she’s definitely one of those surface level friends, and nothing more.. if you have a friend like that, don’t go to them for help unless you want to be gaslit into thinking its your fault for reaching out.. find people who care about you!
I’ve had a friend like this. Always saying this. I was there for her. And it turned out to be lies. She never wanted me to comfort her, she just wanted a pity party.
Eventually you get mentally exhausted of dealing with it. And sometimes you can’t help them.
She was upset that she couldn’t help her friend. Because her friend wouldn’t let her. And that’s being inconsiderate of her feelings too.
You can be suicidal and depressed and still be a dick to people.
@@EveryThingGirl238truee! And u need therapy nod friends for this kind of things sometimes yea it can really help talking with a friend but when its that seriously go to a therapist
I hear you and I agree that friends should know us enough to check in and also kinda read us? But that being said if I am depressed and going through a lot I also don't expect my friends, or anyone, to be my crutch, that's also not fair on them. In my friend group we are all on some level struggling with mental health etc and as much as I would reach out and say "I'm in a bad place", they would respond, but I don't expect them to come rushing to my side to listen/fix the situ. For me, that's what doctors are for. Sure not everyone can afford or get to a doctor, but I just feel like my emotional baggage shouldn't weigh down my closest loves. They can be aware of my situ, visit me or keep in contact, but not carry my baggage for me. Just my feelings~friendships are 50/50, just because I am having a hard time and vocalising it, doesn't mean my friends are in the space to help me/carry my shit (to clarify further, ofc I'd expect them to say they are there for me if I need to talk, but that's it)
@@georginacalder6798 go to a therapist and they’ll tell you to create a support system.. aka friends and family.. thinking it’s baggage for someone else is a personal issue, its insecurity that you’re a burden on other people.. if your friend actually thinks that then you don’t need that friend.. you’re supposed to surround yourself with people who love and care about you and they would have your back if you fell.. its not their responsibility to keep you floating, but.. not only are they there for the fun moments, they’re there for the tough moments in life too.. if one of my friends called me and told me “i’m having a hard time” ..i’m talking over the phone with them ALL night, i don’t care its all night because i love my friends, i WANT to be there for them, its not a burden.. if talking to them isn’t calming them down or helping anything for the moment, then they should probably go to the hospital..
@@georginacalder6798 my mom lost a friend when she was young, that friend called her before she committed..My mom still holds guilt to this day that she didn’t answer.. she taught me to be there for my friends especially in those moments because even feeling like someones there can save a persons life
My best friend passed away last year. We went our separate ways for a few years before reuniting again, which was something he initiated. I miss that bastard so much. Thanks for making me tear up, Cut. If you've still got your best mate around, tell em you love em and treasure that relationship til the day you both die.
I'm really sorry for your loss, hope you're doing well :)
My best friend also died a little over a year ago. We lost contact but reunited as if no time had passed. I was so grateful for our friendship and I still am. I miss her dearly. Hope you’re doing okay. I know how hard it is
I’m so sorry for your loss. I took your advice and messaged my best friend. We never tell each other that we love each other but now I’m going to start because your comment.
My best friend also passed away in May. We reunited after a few years after a fallout we had back in highschool. I got another year with her before she passed. I got the matching tattoo we were gonna get in memory of her. I’m sorry for your loss, I really relate to this 💔
Cody and Tyler were probably the most genuine and interesting friends here. The way Tyler talks lets me know that bond runs deep and I wish the video focused on them more.
“I always loved you” wholesome as fuck
You threaten to k*ll me to the point where I’m actually scared you’ll do it - nah, we’re never being friends again. There’s more to this story or they’re both toxic.
To be fair he thought he was set up
@@mel-pd8tf and you believe that gives him or anyone for that matter the right to threaten to take someone’s life?
@@robert7567 no but I wanted to highlight that he was probably in a paranoid mental state given his situation. Perhaps I would think I was being set up too. I wouldn’t go as far as threatening a friend though
@@robert7567 there’s nuance to every situation, and considering the lack of details they offered, I’m sure the reaction was likely more warranted than we might think.
@@Sylvanari y’all be crazy. Threatening to end someone’s life has legal consequences.
1:43 That must be one of the most insincere apologies I ever seen and heard. She didn't want closure, she just felt bad. And just doubled down.
Honestly, this brings me back to when my best friend and I stop being friends. It still made me sad the way it happened. One day, she invited me over, and we talked and made up. We are still best friends to this day. To be honest, talking about the hardest things is hard but should happen.
Something is hard
I wish I did thiss but me and my best friend just became distant and kind of grew apart, we stopped talking as much like we'd talk a few times every month and then one day she blocked me on everything
I could never imagine doing this with my ex best friend. The guts these people have to do it on camera too…
Thank you for covering friend “breakups” and PLEASE do more vids on this topic! It is so under-discussed and can be such a brutal and alienating experience. This video made me feel less alone
Honestly I'm so curious how they managed to get these ex best friends on this together, I don't think mine would do that, so howw
None of these people should be friends. It's not easy but move the hell on.
Facts. I let a former friend back into my life, but something seemed off. I tested them to see if they actually changed, but they failed. Cut ex friends off completely.
I don't know why people find that so hard to do!" 😪
truly. dude with the glasses needs to get up off the floor.
Those two boys showing love to each other was very sweet to see. Straight men have feelings and need to feel ok expressing them.
Unless they fix what the real issue was that caused the friendship to be over, they can’t get back together and be as they were before.
2:11 she clearly didn’t care when the other girl first reached out and she definitely doesn’t care about her mental health now. seems like a clear case of guilt tripping.
For the friends with the girl with the beanie, I feel her. I ruined some good friendships with my own inner battles. I regret it all the time. I’m glad they got to talk it out.
Nah she didn’t ruin anything. Her ‘friend’ is blame shifting and taking zero accountability. It’s classic narcissism.
You didnt ruin anything. You didnt have a proper support system when you needed it most. Im sorry you were made to feel like its your fault.
Same. Ghosted literally all of my friends when I was going through it. I feel like they've probably all moved on without me. I feel like if I reached out to them a lot of them would welcome me back with open arms, but I'm just too ashamed of myself. Sometimes I feel like I'm broken and it's hard to be around people when you feel so alone on the inside.
@@chai_lattes I know this is a super old comment, but I really wanted to respond in case you or someone else can find some value in this. I have a friend who was in a really rough spot and cut off every one, including me. I didn’t hear from them at all for a long time, and never stopped thinking about them and hoping they were okay. When we ran into each other, and they made the move to reconnect, I was really, really happy. And we have been building our friendship ever since. I can’t speak for your friends or situation of course, but I hope they would be as happy to hear from you if you did reach out. And if not, then I hope you find new wonderful friendships - you deserve to be surrounded by people who love you.
Red curly hair seemed like there was no remorse in sleeping with their friends girlfriend
The girls crying and saying “I miss you” made me cry. I cut off two of my best friends in the last year and even though I know it was for the best, I still think about them all the time and I miss them. I miss who they used to be. I miss how we used to be.
Hello, this is Gabi (girl with white beanie and glasses). First of all, thank you for the supportive comments- I teared up a lot 🥺 I was feeling doubtful in myself but now I feel more validated ❤
So I'm the one who was invited to be on this episode, and at first I was hesitant because I was afraid to relive the events that happened in summer 2023 that led me to my emotional breakdown. But when Ella reassured me she wanted to clear the air and reconnect, I agreed to sign up. During the filming, I acknowledged that I could have been better at communicating and handling the situation better- I was very much open to hearing her side and feedback, which she gave. Looking back, I did feel like I was being gaslit at some point, but during the filming I was too tipsy to notice. Yeah, we took a lot of shots despite answering all the prompts- I was really anxious being there 😅
I had a feeling that she wasn't interested in reconnecting after that day, which was confirmed when she messaged me exactly that after this episode aired. I agree that she wasn't painted in the best light due to some context being cut out, but at the same time I also agree that some of the things she said were deflective and for lack of a better word...fake? I mean the fact that she reached out wanting to reconnect with me, then turning the other direction after this episode made her not seem genuine. My boyfriend was there with me behind the scenes, and after watching this episode he thought the same. He also commented that regardless of the outcome, this could be a good way to spread awareness; get people thinking about how to better communicate in their relationships, what signs to look out for in friends who are going through a rough time, etc.
Overall, the falling out plus being on this episode has taught me a lot about myself and how to handle conflict going forward. Once again, thank you for the supportive comments. I'm doing much better now and I'm surrounded by good people ❤
PS: Ella is a nice person. We're just not compatible.
hope you’re doing so so well
I hope you have friends now who cherish you
wishing you the best ❤❤❤
Thank you y’all. I saw Ella added a comment giving more context, but she missed a huge chunk about what I was going through prior to my emotional breakdown. I was grieving the death of my classmate and dealing with the falling out of another friendship weeks prior. So for her to say that she reached out after my breakdown is her trying to save face. She hardly reached out to me before then as I was going through the rough times. We are in fact not “besties”, and she referred to someone else in the group as that, which kind of stung since she invited me to this episode. She claims she cared about me but it’s really a facade.
I'm so sick of people using the term gaslighting when it's not appropriate, gaslighting is an abuse tactic used in interpersonal relationships and should only be used in a psychological or therapeutic context. Disagreeing about what happened is NOT gaslighting.
Gabby: "I felt very suicidal"
Mozart in the background: 🌸🥰🥳🤩💃
Nah dude with glasses was way too quick to be friends again. She wasn’t sorry at all “yk how I was back then, partying and fuckin” like that ain’t an excuse
💯
There is so much chemistry between the guy in the flame hat and the guy in the cap, I wonder whats the story there...
that double dude friendship one hurt me so hard cause the one on the left seems so much more emotionally open than the other
6:26 Interrupting this emotional ass video with an ad is wild af. Nice job breaking the tension though.
I’m going to be honest, I don’t understand the friends where one was suicidal. The one friend saying “you only said that you were having bad thoughts, not that you were suicidal”… What? I feel like if a friend said to me that they were having bad thoughts, I’d be concerned enough to ask for some more information and it would come out pretty quickly. Or if they don’t want to talk about it beyond that, at least offering some comfort is bare minimum right?
Ella put in a comment that shares more perspective about the situation. Apparently, she did reach out as soon as she saw Gabi's message.
I don't blame you for not understanding-the way the video was edited skews the entire situation! I explained what happened in a separate comment, but in short, we had no way of knowing she was suicidal based on what she told us that day. Still, she said she was feeling low so I did reach out to her and tried to adjust my plans last minute to be able to see her. Everyone in the friend group loved Gabi and tried to support and comfort her every time she needed it.
@@oooladipI've seen you comment this in a few places, and I appreciate it! Thank you!
@abcd-ella Np! The editing of the video showed you in a negative light. I really appreciated the context you brought to the situation in your comment. It reminded me that as viewers, we get maybe only 5% of the situation. We run with that little amount of info and make hella assumptions about ppl that may or may not be true.
@@abcd-ella Thank you, the additional context is much appreciated. Honestly I think my comment was made too hastily and from a place of understanding and empathising more with Gabi/Gabi’s perspective. In reality, you can only do what you can do and unfortunately you cannot be what everyone needs or wants at any given time. I think it’s difficult to be struggling and not wanting or being able to express the depth of it, but it’s also difficult to be the person someone in such a situation expects to understand with a limited explanation. In any case, hope you both are well and thank you again for being open with this^^
the fact that the white guy in the yellow cap thought his “best friend” was even capable of that is very telling tbh and when he was like “i had a problem with ur loyalty” i definitely believe he knew about what happened to him that night
Yeah I need more explanation of their situation. Even the way the dude in the flames hat said “I had no part in that” makes it seem like he at least knows who did have a part in it
@@Natu014YES!!! “ I had no part it that” well what is “that” then?????
No but the thing is though when you go to an event like that where it's like a friend of a friend type deal, it's likely that the mugger is a mutual friend of people in that friend group, so someone either knew what was going to happen or that he's a sketchy guy.
So like it's very hard to call either way. Like he could have no clue about the mugger guy or he could've known that x friend at this party has sketchy friends. I think that's more plausible than he like orchestrated it in some way.
I can’t tell if none of these people should be friends or all of them
Tyle was so sweet when he said he would be there for his friend whatever mood he is in. We need more of this conversations between men❤
not that girl saying “maturity” was the main reason they didn’t make amends like YOU SLEPT HIS GF GIRLIE TF ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT 😭💀
The guy who got mugged at gunpoint and beaten up after a party: Seems like a lot of details have been edited out here. Details that might help explain hy he would be sending death threats to the skinny guy who he believed had orchestrated the assault. Also, at 2:52 the skinny guy is avoiding eye contact and squirming in his seat while he is denying any involvement in the assault. Seems fishy to me. 🤔🐠
dang ok mister CIA. But you are write like the lady who prettended like she never say the other girl at the market at 1:48. I usually am very innocent but exect for the depressed lady all those people should not reconnect.
Yea why was he acting like that and awkward chuckling while saying he had nothing to do with it
I thought it was odd for him to say he had no part in it. Feel like you would say something different.
i thought the exact same thing when he looked away. i don’t entirely believe he had nothing to do with it :/
most of what you think to know about body language is wrong
The one with the dude being held at gunpoint is crazy and the other dude just kind of brushed over it
The bros almost brought a tear to my eyes. The fact that Tyler was always hoping to work stuff out with Cody and look to see the good in him shows a true friend!
this is tyler yall need to stop with the "oh he look nervous!" at the setup question LOL
Can you share more about what happened? How was he even in the position to be robbed like that?
@@jrussel99 long story short we went to a party who my girls friend and some mutuals were at. before showing up my girl got informed that there was “some drama” going on but nothing too pressing. we get there and the drama was this drunk dude was playing around recklessly with his gun all pissed off bout something unknown. we hated the vibes going on there so we decided to head out. it was new years so mfs was drunk and somehow my boy was really really drunk and decided to just run off into the night as we was heading to our ride. i waited around outside for an hour and a half tryna find him and calling him over n over just for the calls to be ignored so me my girl and my other friends just ended up giving up and going home bout 4 minutes away. at some point he decides to go back to that house, the dude who was acting crazy with the gun was just not a good person and one thing led to another with them and he ended up punching cody and taking his stuff and all that and cody thought that was my friend but i wanted to be as far away as possible from that situation as soon as we pulled up. it was all in all just a drunken mess and cody just thought i left him there on purpose and all that but mfs was just drunk like i said
are you and cody still friends after this?
The guy in the red flame beanie is a real one
This was such an open hearted, vulnerable, genuine dialogue I’ve ever seen with ex best friends and it makes me think of the root of how special and crazy friendships can be and I want to say thank you to the people who really put themselves out there to initiate productive dialogue and get closure. Takes some courage, and I almost cried watching some of them make up🥹 good job guys. Cut, you’re out there changing lives.
I'm sending so much love to glasses girl 💗
Also I suggest y'all read the book Big Friendship. It's about two people who were so deeply close and the falling out that happened and how they dealt with it. It was interesting how they discussed what adult friendships look like in our lives and made me really reflect on the friendships I've lost.
the end of this got me crying bro someone give gabi a hug
i don’t think any of these fools where ever really friends
2:57 what a terrible person. Refused to accept any accountability and just bridging it off like it’s not a big deal
“I feel like if you came to talk to me and ask me about anything, things could have been different 😢😞”
HEY GUYS, THIS IS KELLY FROM CUT!!! 🤪😜😆😁
Ffs cut, there’s a time and a place 🤦♂️
🤣😂
Well for once the montage was...😅😂😂😂😂🤣
LMAOO
Oh wow the person who was suicidal..,,,people NEED to know that a call for help is NOT ALWAYS DIRECT!!! Please everyone learn from your mistakes. We all make mistakes, but please learn from them
Literally, she’s like “you weren’t being direct” like it’s a gc, even in person ASKING QUESTIONS EXIST? It really feels like her friends didn’t gaf or was like “I don’t have time for this atm”. Like I’ve been in that situation sm times and those are always the excuse👎🏾
Those friends were crappy people
Ella here! I completely agree that it's hard to be direct when asking for help, especially as someone who has been in treatment for clinical depression and has experienced suicidal ideation for most of my life. I replied to her vague messages and contacted her directly to support her but she told me not to worry, and didn't say anything to indicate what was going on. (That's what I meant about needing her to be more direct.) I trusted what she told me and gave her space. It wasn't until a few days later that she told the group that she had been having suicidal thoughts that day and lashed out at us for not being there for her.
Damn me and my ex best friend could never do this 😂
Same!! I wouldn't even show up to be honest.
Lol I was thinking “hmm I wonder if I get it would she do it with me…. Nahhh” 😭😂😂
No same I’d tell mine I knew ours was over when you were stinky everyday all day but there’s so much more lmao
I've had 3 best friends all my life. I wonder who it'll be. 😂😂😂😂
they are all better than me for even attempting to sign up for this.
9:27 started SOBBING 😭 these girls look so sweet. im so happy they both had the same feelings
blonde girl is mean-girl coded asfff, Red beanie guy really missed his friend
Interesting that the girls with the least crazy story were the ones who won’t able to reconcile
seems like she was just petty for not being invited to the wedding lmao
@@hehetzen did you miss the part where all of her other friends hate her? What's the point in hanging out with someone when any time ANY one else she is friends with is there, will be actively hostile towards you?
Blond is also completely dismissive of this supposed "friend's" feelings, yet was the one who wanted to invite her to the damn show as if she ever cared.
Surface level
1:18 bro she’s literally rolling her eyes at her
„I always loved you for you“. He is amazing.
These feels more like an acquaintance than a best friend
Well, yeah. They're estranged, they haven't spoken for years.
just a reminder to please check up on your friends if they're saying ominous things or acting out of the ordinary. having poor mental health and/or mental illnesses causes us to self-destruct and distance ourselves even if we do not intend to do so. ending a friendship over something like this does not really seem fair and with just make the person affected feel worse in their situation.
Ella here, I completely agree with your reminder! I appreciate you sharing your insight and perspective.
I gave a lot of context about the reality of the situation in a separate comment, so I'll just say here that I did my best to support Gabi throughout everything, and didn't want the friendship to end! I was respecting her decision to take some time to herself, and waited to hear from her for a long time. I was blindsided when I found out that she blocked me after she had a falling-out with another friend in the group. This is what made me say that I felt like she sabotaged our friendship. I was openly willing to work through conflict, but wasn't given the chance until this shoot. I would never end a genuine friendship over something that could be worked out through honest communication. I'm always willing to talk things out and make changes to better support my friends and grow as a person, and I'll continue to do so in the future!
hi@@abcd-ellayou do seem like a genuine soul, and i really appreciate you taking the time to read through comments and explain further what we didn't get to see in the video. i wish the best for you and your friendships in the future!
"you wernt specific ab ur suicidal thoughts" HOLY SHIT it doesnt MATTER she made it be known she was in a bad place and as a "friend" u are supposed to be there, not have it go as far as being suicidal to start caring.
Totally agree. I don’t think saying im having bad thoughts could get more clear.
As someone who has been there I couldn’t assume people are mind readers. I feel bad could be anything. Feeling bad is a whole spectrum. Either way I hope she took charge of her mental health and got professional help because friends aren’t always equipped to deal with such things.
@@meredithjohnson2843 Feeling bad and having bad thoughts are two totally different statements
@@nunya3390 ok bad thoughts- even then is everyone equipped to handle that. People literally go to school to be able to. You can’t put that on someone who can’t handle it- it’s unfair to you because you’re not going to get the help you need and unfair to them because they don’t know how.
@@meredithjohnson2843 I can get behind that completely. I just think it’s wrong to act like you had no clue that’s all
Awww Tyler and Cody seem a lil but more than friends but even if they aren’t wow!! Tyler’s such a good dude it seems soo sweet!!
“cause i do miss you” made me tear up because recently my best friend of 6 years ghosted me around 2 months ago, then blocked me a few days ago with 0 explanation. i do miss her, i sobbed in front of my therapist when she asked me to elaborate on what happened with me and my ex best friend. i miss her, but at the same time i feel betrayed that she’d leave with no explanation at all. i see her every day out of the corner of my eye, but i always refuse to look straight at her.
2:51 mmm cuz it sounds like a set up and then you can’t say it wasn’t a set up you just say you’re not involved
He might not have been "involved" but it sounds like he knew something.
@@AscendantCaleb exactly!!!
Yeah that was suspicious 🤨
i wanna see the uncut vers of this
Do they offer that anywhere?
@@icelordotisI am the stone that the builder refused
3:48 "Bad thoughts" is a clear indication that someone is having unaliving thoughts...
To be honest I wouldn't read it that way, especially in a group chat, unless my gut told me something was up. People say stuff like that jokingly all the time, and people say that kinda stuff just referring to mental health generally. Obviously when someone's feeling suicidal they're not gonna be the best at texting but I don't think it's fair the blame the friends either.
People have different thoughts and feelings. We’ve all been brought up differently. We can’t assume that everyone knows what everyone means with two words.
I disagree. Not everyone reads it as that.
@@ej7728 if your homies says “I’m having bad thoughts” , you won’t ask why? 👀
@@meredithjohnson2843 they should ask their friend why they have bad thoughts tho
That guy couldn’t even say “no I didn’t set you up”
Seriously couldn’t even look at him in the eyes.
He did? He said he had no part in it
You can tell he still loves him tho
@@meredithjohnson2843most of what you think to know about body language is wrong
@@ElDaumo I never claimed to be an expert just pointed out what I saw.
it's insane how much absence of eye contact is there when you're confronting someone who was your everything once
10:18 this dude has Chicken Joe vibes i like this dude
The music in the background certainly doesn't match the mood 😅
Bruh the music during the girl talking about her being depressed and suicidal 💀
Actually the music during this whole video is so unfitting 😂
7:41 “But I like know you”
and so on - this conversation
The “oh 😟” after she said “she’s not on my guest list.” 💀
1:04 I was not expecting that
We definetly need more of these- there arent enough videos/conversations about ex- friendships
Blonde and brunette friendship weird like the blonde really gave off she's still living in that highschool mindset
Yeah and having a bunch of friends who don’t like the brunette? Like wtf? Fucking ew I wouldn’t be friends w someone who had a bunch of friends who openly don’t like me…blondie sounds like a fucking bully & the friends shared dislike of brown haired girl comes from blondie. She seems really vile and snake like
The way she acted like the "my bad..I guess" was so immature it made my head hurt
agree! on a side note, your dp is giving me all sorts of feelings- the cutest comic of all time!
@@sanguivoir6923 Which comic?
who are the characters in your pfp?
Im so interested in the topic of friendship ever since my close friend cut me off, which felt like a blindside. I find it so interesting that people complain about a lack of community or feeling alone, but are willing to throwaway a friendship (that has history) for things that can be easily discussed. The problem is people would rather have a victim complex and label others the villain instead of having the courage to have hard conversations. Ego is more important than communication and empathy for a lot of people. That’s why we’re dealing with a loneliness epidemic.
Yes, but I think with age and growth and natural changes over time, some friendships just run their course or don't have the same strength as they used to. Can be for innocuous reasons like a move out of state, can be for more complicated reasons like becoming more socially conscious or politically aware (has happened to me) Sometimes people realize their worth or improve their self esteem/decide not to be a doormat which could be misinterpreted as being egotistical, and friends from way back when just don't fit in the picture anymore.
yes. keep sticking it out with toxic people and keep making yourself feel like shit with them. yeab, good plan
THIS!!!! my ex best friend literally ignored me for a month and then i sent her a parahgraph discussing my feelings and seeing what was up and she was saying how i changed and shit but didnt tell me a direct reason. i tried seeing what the actually issue was so we could work through it but she kept leaving me on read or delivered. 2 weeks later she sent a small message apologizing and asking if i wanna get high and skip school. i told her how i needed an explanation and she continued to leave me on read. communication is legit key to maintaining friendships/relationships
@@evistte my ex best friend was similar but we talked multiple times and she was acting fine like nothing was wrong and I could tell we were getting distant then she blocked me on everything
@@avabackupaccount yup, during the month of her ignoring me she asked if i wanted to get lunch which i ofc said yes to then after that she continued to ignore me
Many of these people do not deserve a second chance at friendship with the other. They are clearly still not remorseful and still stuck in their ways. This episode made me so upset
if my friend ever just said “i’m having sad feelings” it literally doesn’t matter if it’s not specific, i’d make sure they were ok
as soon as the blonde girl said “my bad” from the start i knew she was toxic
I have a horribly toxic and delusional ex best friend who was in my life for fourteen years, has been out of it for seven and a half. It doesn’t hurt as badly but it definitely still hurts. I’m still not even quite sure how things officially ended because we were all drinking the last time I saw her. Losing people you never thought you’d lose is the worst part of life I think.
i think i’m in love with the dude in the flame hat
It seems like a lot of the comments are conflating someone who is hurt/uncomfortable opening themselves back up to someone who discarded them to being “toxic” and “passive aggressive”. These people are on camera
“I could’ve checked in on you more” or just not slept with his gf. Like damn 😳
For a weird reason I like the two girls, the blonde one and the one who is getting married; they’re just so honest no matter how hard it would have been to set there in front of each other and tell each other to their faces that their friendship is probably gone for good, it takes power.
flame hat guy seems really sweet
White beanie girl i hope you found better friends 😭
This video needed to be 20m minutes longer
Yeah
I still don’t understand what happened between the blonde and brunette girl
yellow beanie guy has such a big heart, losing your best friend AND significant other must have been so difficult.
I would’ve said hell no to being friends again to all of them 😭