This made me think over my friendships and social life. I've never really ever had more than one friend, and long stretches when I had no friend. With the exception of girlfriends and my wife and children. I've always been content to be immersed in whatever project I was working on, to the exclusion of extraneous human contact. Although I think I cared more (or noticed more) that I didn't have friends as an adolescent. The thought of being in a social group is honestly exhausting. I've long accepted it's not in my nature. Commenting on social media is the extent of my social life, which is more than I've had before. So that's fine.
As an autistic person who is trying to get back at having a social life this is very relatable and also inspiring actually. It's nice to know that even if taking a long time and not knowing a single person it's possible to get to know one nice person and broaden your social life, I'm currently trying to find fun activities where I can possibly meet ppl that like those activities as well and maybe we can go from there, we'll see ^^
Relatable :) Yes, I'm frequently afraid that I would be thought presumptuous if I referred to a particular person as a "friend" but at the same time worried they might think I was being aloof or rejecting them if I didn't.
I'd be curious if others experience this... when someone smiled at me or acted friendly, I would react as if they were a friend. I'd extend my trust or take them at their word. When I really should have thought whether I was being too forthcoming. I am polite and "friendly", but I try to be more consciously circumspect.
Yeah, I used to be the same way until finally within the last couple of years I finally understood that I need to make a huge separation between people being nice and actual friends.
I’ve been doing videos like this for over a year now and I swear I’m still in shock that people actually relate to all these things I thought were just me 😅
So, I am incredibly outgoing. I can make "friendlies" really fast, but I am very deep/cerebral so I don't make time. I have my favorite 5 I interact with monthly and of those, I interact weekly/twice a week with my favorite 2. I don't need more because I have quality friends I care about. You call superficial what I call friendlies. The don't react to my wording. I explain they are really cool people to interact when they reach out. My favorite 5, I reach out to. I have known them for over 20 years so to be a favorite, they have to be around for at least 5 years. I went many years with all friendlies and no friends. Quality over quantity.
'all your videos are talking about yourself' yes, exactly, thank you for that
Totally :) It's such a privilege to be allowed a glimpse of how other people work from the inside.
I just subscribed to you yesterday after discovering your channel lol, what a pleasant surprise!
This made me think over my friendships and social life. I've never really ever had more than one friend, and long stretches when I had no friend. With the exception of girlfriends and my wife and children. I've always been content to be immersed in whatever project I was working on, to the exclusion of extraneous human contact. Although I think I cared more (or noticed more) that I didn't have friends as an adolescent. The thought of being in a social group is honestly exhausting. I've long accepted it's not in my nature. Commenting on social media is the extent of my social life, which is more than I've had before. So that's fine.
As an autistic person who is trying to get back at having a social life this is very relatable and also inspiring actually. It's nice to know that even if taking a long time and not knowing a single person it's possible to get to know one nice person and broaden your social life, I'm currently trying to find fun activities where I can possibly meet ppl that like those activities as well and maybe we can go from there, we'll see ^^
Relatable :) Yes, I'm frequently afraid that I would be thought presumptuous if I referred to a particular person as a "friend" but at the same time worried they might think I was being aloof or rejecting them if I didn't.
I'd be curious if others experience this... when someone smiled at me or acted friendly, I would react as if they were a friend. I'd extend my trust or take them at their word. When I really should have thought whether I was being too forthcoming. I am polite and "friendly", but I try to be more consciously circumspect.
Yeah, I used to be the same way until finally within the last couple of years I finally understood that I need to make a huge separation between people being nice and actual friends.
11:30 OMG, you are literally describing my own experience and concerns 😮
I’ve been doing videos like this for over a year now and I swear I’m still in shock that people actually relate to all these things I thought were just me 😅
So, I am incredibly outgoing. I can make "friendlies" really fast, but I am very deep/cerebral so I don't make time. I have my favorite 5 I interact with monthly and of those, I interact weekly/twice a week with my favorite 2. I don't need more because I have quality friends I care about. You call superficial what I call friendlies. The don't react to my wording. I explain they are really cool people to interact when they reach out. My favorite 5, I reach out to. I have known them for over 20 years so to be a favorite, they have to be around for at least 5 years. I went many years with all friendlies and no friends. Quality over quantity.
Amen!
I'm curious, what were the opening questions you got different reactions to?