I knew a family where a sister had married a disabled man (he was in a wheelchair). They had a 6-year-old daughter who was extremely well-mannered and intelligent (May Allah bless her). Everyone who met their daughter was amazed by her. I always wondered if she was a reward from Allah for her parents-a reward for her father for being patient with his trial and a reward for her mother for accepting a disabled man as a husband.
“And ˹remember˺ when Job cried out to his Lord, “I have been touched with adversity, and You are the Most Merciful of the merciful. So We answered his prayer and removed his adversity (i.e his disablility due to his diseases), and gave him back his family, twice as many, as a mercy from Us and a lesson for the ˹devoted˺ worshippers.” [Surah Al Anbiya 21:83-84]
I would marry a sister with disabilities 100% and wouldn’t divorce my wife if she was disabled there’s a honest conversation needed though about a second wife if they are so disabled they can’t have children or affection, but I wouldn’t leave them because of it, anyone we love for the sake of Allah and any slave of his we treat with kindness honour and dignity Allah will open doors and reward us greatly Allah is the most merciful and most generous, let us be kind and respectful to all his slaves
Not only I would , but I want to marry a sister who is disabled , whether she on wheekchair or any kind of disability which is causing her difficulty in finding someone to get married to, Even if she has a disability which will stop her from being a mother that is also okay with me. If anyone of you know someone who is disabled and is between 20-25 y/o and is from pakistan, (If she is a salafi that would be a plus point) then please let me know , I am willing to marry her for the sake of Allah, InshaAllah. I am fit and healthy Alhamdulillah I would be able to take care of her InshaAllah
I have a migraine disorder where I will just literally faint and it happens more often than I would like. The other day I was making a turkey sandwich and I had to stop halfway through cause I couldn't hold myself up. Idk if I can have a traditional marriage because I don't want to be in a situation where my future husband comes home from work and expects dinner and there isn't any dinner because I was unable to cook. I think if we both share household chores so it's not all on me then maybe that could work. Maybe. But thank you for making this video cause you're right that the ummah doesn't see us disabled ppl.
@@mynmeisname4825 thank you. Yeah it's really hard. I can't imagine how much harder it would be if I was responsible for a husband and children...I'd need a lot of help, no doubt.
@@Kepler10bsubhanAllah may Allah make ease and bless you, we are all going through different trials, sending you much love sister ❤❤❤ I watch a herbalist and will post here if I find her recommendations. Please reply so I don't forget here.
اسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته بارك الله فيك I’m married to a sister who is in a wheelchair الحمدلله we have been married for 6 years now she has post polio syndrome اللهم بارك لنا امين
Heres to the disabled sisters and brothers, May Allah bless you all with the most beautiful, pious and kind spouse. Here's also to the able sisters and brothers who married a disabled person, may Allah grant you a beautiful reward in thie life and the hereafter ❤
My previous divorced me when i became physically disabled. My new husband married me and loved me. After this i have partially recovered by becoming more mobile. When my previous divorced due to my disability i thought my life was over. But really Allah swt just had a different life planned for me. I hope this gives others hope in similar situations
Someone I know wanted to marry someone with Adhd and she didn't tell parents about the disease but parents somehow could notice he had trouble with eye contact and hence didn't let her get married just due to the potential having adhd. Even though she didn't have any issues with him having it.
May Allah (swt) bless you for bringing this issue to the agenda. Our disabled brothers and sisters also need to feel the warmth of a spouse and child and benefit from the blessings of marriage. For this reason, it is important to bring these brothers and sisters together in meetings designed specifically for this purpose, where they can meet each other and other Muslims. It is also very important that Muslims pay special attention to these brothers and sisters and encourage them to regularly mingle with the crowd of Muslims. May Allah (swt) be their helper and have mercy on those who have mercy on them.
بارك الله بكم حقا خطوة مهمة وموضوع ارجو ان يكون فيه الحلول ربما اذا كان للشخص الذي لديه الاعاقة قريب يساعده في زواجه تبقى الامور بينهم فيها شفافية اكثر
From what i see, polygyny is a way for the sisters .. but for the men, sadly its quite challenging.. cuz women are hypergamous by nature, therefore most men are not even on their scope let alone disabled men.. thats a sad truth, but there is always hope
I am an support worker for adults with disabilities and learning difficulties in the u.k. in my professional experience I have observed some adults to have 2:37 significantly higher intellectual capacity than others. They have a full understanding of what it means to be attracted to the opposite sex, I have personally observed this. Having personally observed this i can say that can easily live a happy and fulfilling life with additional support from a spouse, however, since all are under the care of their parents or family, more often than not a decision has been made for them not to settle into married life, due to their vulnerability.
I have OCD and have for a decade now (25f) but only been diagnosed for a year since I didn’t know what it was and it’s a lot to contend with which leaves a person exhausted on daily basis so thinking of marriage atm is not really practical but hopefully in sha Alla one day
@@illusionoftruth7091 I'm not sure why my comment was deleted but what I said was everyone gets Waswasah but not everyone has OCD. It's a real condition that stems from the brain.
I think the problem with marriage in general nowadays is that the finances dont add up. When I (M early 20s) think of starting my family, I think of the expenses that ill have to provide for alone ei buying a house, car, wedding, daily expenses, future children and more. So it doesnt give us much freeway for a divorce or polygyny which in turn makes it so hard and important that when you marry, YOU MARRY THE BEST POSSIBLE WOMAN YOU CAN GET. Now you might say, as some people do in my home country, marry a woman and create all that together (ei: house ect) but that takes away from our authority and leeway for polygyny or divorce. Its not so much about whether we would or wouldnt as it is about whether we can or cant.
...انَا اختكمَ مَن اليمَن وّالَلَه ماتكلمتَ الَا من جوّع وًّمن الفقر انَا وًّامَيَ وًّخَوًّاتَيَ تَشَرَدَنَا مَنَ بَيَوًّتَنَا بَسَبَبَ الَحَرَبَ نَحَنَ فَيَ حَالَهَ لَايَعَلَمَ بَهَا الَا الَلَهَ حَسَبَنَا الَلَهَ وًّنَعَمَ الَوكيَلَ فَيَ مَنَ اوًّصَلَنَا الَى هَاذا الَحَالَ 💔💔وًّالَلَهَ الَعَظَيَمَ مَا كتَبَتَ هَذا الَمَنَاشَدَهَ غَيَرَ مَنَ الَضَيَقَ وّالَفَقَر يَاعَالَمَ حَسَوّا فَيَنَا ارَجَوّكمَ وّالَلَهَ الَعَظَيَمَ رَبَ الَعَرَشَ الَعَظَيَمَ انَه الَاكلَ مَا فَيَ عَنَدَيَ بَالَبَيَتَ وًّالَلَهَ يَا اخَوّانَيَ انَهَ خَوًّاتيَ بَقَعَدَوًّ بَالَيَوًّمَيَنَ مَافَى اكلَ وًّالَلَهَ وًّضَعَنَا كثَيَرَ صَعَبَ نَحَنَ 6 نَفَرَ دَاخَلَ الَبَيَتَ وًّابَيَ مَتَوًّفَيَ وًّلَا يَوًّجَدَ مَنَ يَعَوًّلَ عَلَيَنَا وًّسَاكنَيَنَ فَيَ بَيَتَ اجَارَ لَانَسَتَطَيَعَ دَفَعَ الَاجَارَ الَلَيَ بَاقَيَ عَلَيَنَا ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اخي اول كلامي انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين من الحرب انا واسرتي بيننا ایت الشهرب 15 الف يمني والان علينا 45 الف حق 3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرنا ندفعله الأجار شافونا الجيران نبكي ورجعو تكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع معادفعنا له حلف يمين بالله هذا بيخرجنا إلى الشارع رحمه واحنا. بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي وخواتي سفار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه خواتي الصغار خرجو للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو واوقفو عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولو كسره خبز والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلفو الباب وطردوهم ورجعو یبکو ایموتو من الجوع ما احد رحمهم وعطلة ردها لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في إيكيلو دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني تراسلي واتساب على هذا الرقم 00967717415667 وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير ساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره على مساعد لاتتاخر علينا وجزاك الله خيرا،.،.،:^:؛^:🎉°~°~^~°^π√^π√~π~√~√~π^~^~π~π~√√~~ππ~π√~~^^°^°€€لب🎉🎉❤❤🎉.🎉🎉❤❤❤....،
My solution is to create an application or platform where people can find their future partner. While we may encounter some challenges, we can use those experiences to continuously improve the platform.
Im normal looking and healthy alhamdulillah, but my disability is poverty and living in a minivan. No connections and dreadful fear of working for more abusive people.
Imagine the rewards for caring for someone like that then x100 because they are your spouse don’t focus so much on the worldly things and ٱللَّٰه will take care of you
As a man I wouldn’t hesitate to marry a physically disabled woman as a second wife. The thought of someone being alone their entire life is something that saddens me, so why not make them feel appreciated.
@@megasp let’s say two people get along perfectly. There’s almost a 50% chance their babies gonna be born with a disability nowadays don’t believe me? I’m quite convinced you have no idea what you’re talking about and you’re just commenting without any deep thought.
I genuinely believe that some people are better off not getting married and that includes disbaled people as well as poor people cuz love and marriage is based on money ane becomes a mess if you lack funds
Nonsense some of the greatest Muslims would be classed as disabled and or poor and they’d make a far greater husband than myself and many others never disrespect a slave of Allah and make haram for them what is halal just because you don’t like the situation that doesn’t affect you
I knew a family where a sister had married a disabled man (he was in a wheelchair). They had a 6-year-old daughter who was extremely well-mannered and intelligent (May Allah bless her). Everyone who met their daughter was amazed by her. I always wondered if she was a reward from Allah for her parents-a reward for her father for being patient with his trial and a reward for her mother for accepting a disabled man as a husband.
Surah Maryam: Allah rewards pious parents with a pious child, so more than likely, true. She is a gift
“And ˹remember˺ when Job cried out to his Lord, “I have been touched with adversity, and You are the Most Merciful of the merciful. So We answered his prayer and removed his adversity (i.e his disablility due to his diseases), and gave him back his family, twice as many, as a mercy from Us and a lesson for the ˹devoted˺ worshippers.” [Surah Al Anbiya 21:83-84]
I’d take a disabled righteous sister over the most beautiful feminist sister!
May Allah reward you with a pious wife
❤❤❤
You're better than me bro
I agree with you
I like you taking disabled ppl thats diverse , but the thing u said over the feminist thing is discusting
May Allah bless the disabled brothers and sisters with love and happiness in this life and the next
May Allah bless those who are tested with disabilities immensely
Ameen
I would marry a sister with disabilities 100% and wouldn’t divorce my wife if she was disabled there’s a honest conversation needed though about a second wife if they are so disabled they can’t have children or affection, but I wouldn’t leave them because of it, anyone we love for the sake of Allah and any slave of his we treat with kindness honour and dignity Allah will open doors and reward us greatly Allah is the most merciful and most generous, let us be kind and respectful to all his slaves
May Allah swt reward you for that intention alone.
Indeed
May Allah have mercy on you my beloved brothet
I have physical disabilities. It's hard finding a wife. It is what it is and i don't resent them.
May Allah bless you my dearest brother
@@isafcb312 Ameen brother.
Bro, I don't think you should marry and I think you should wait for hoors in jannah because this world is very cruel to the weak and poor
May Allah bless you with the coolness of your eyes.
@@inspiretoawaken3641 Ameen brother/sister
Not only I would , but I want to marry a sister who is disabled , whether she on wheekchair or any kind of disability which is causing her difficulty in finding someone to get married to, Even if she has a disability which will stop her from being a mother that is also okay with me. If anyone of you know someone who is disabled and is between 20-25 y/o and is from pakistan, (If she is a salafi that would be a plus point) then please let me know , I am willing to marry her for the sake of Allah, InshaAllah. I am fit and healthy Alhamdulillah I would be able to take care of her InshaAllah
Allahumma Barik!
May Allah reward your intentions my belived brother
That's my boy
I have a migraine disorder where I will just literally faint and it happens more often than I would like. The other day I was making a turkey sandwich and I had to stop halfway through cause I couldn't hold myself up. Idk if I can have a traditional marriage because I don't want to be in a situation where my future husband comes home from work and expects dinner and there isn't any dinner because I was unable to cook. I think if we both share household chores so it's not all on me then maybe that could work. Maybe. But thank you for making this video cause you're right that the ummah doesn't see us disabled ppl.
May Allah ease your hardships
Ameen
@@mynmeisname4825 thank you. Yeah it's really hard. I can't imagine how much harder it would be if I was responsible for a husband and children...I'd need a lot of help, no doubt.
@@Kepler10bsubhanAllah may Allah make ease and bless you, we are all going through different trials, sending you much love sister ❤❤❤ I watch a herbalist and will post here if I find her recommendations. Please reply so I don't forget here.
May Allah grant you a righteous and understanding spouse.
@@zharahussain8004 thanks for commenting 🥰
اسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته بارك الله فيك I’m married to a sister who is in a wheelchair الحمدلله we have been married for 6 years now she has post polio syndrome اللهم بارك لنا امين
May Allah bless your marriage
You're good hearted brother
May Allah reward you and her my brother and unite you both in Jannah when this time is done
أمين يارب العالمين
Brother Gabriel
Light gray blazer goes better with black shirt. You always looking sharp MashaAllah
Im loving the brotherhood barakallah.
Will do next time appreciate it
Heres to the disabled sisters and brothers, May Allah bless you all with the most beautiful, pious and kind spouse. Here's also to the able sisters and brothers who married a disabled person, may Allah grant you a beautiful reward in thie life and the hereafter ❤
Thank you for shedding some light on this situation. I’ve always found comfort in the story of Julaybib (RA)
My previous divorced me when i became physically disabled. My new husband married me and loved me. After this i have partially recovered by becoming more mobile. When my previous divorced due to my disability i thought my life was over. But really Allah swt just had a different life planned for me. I hope this gives others hope in similar situations
jazakAllahu khairan for your content. im glad to see how beneficial it is and im happy to see that u are posting regularly. keep it up!
Thank you, I will
jazakallah such a nice advice. ofcourse we should marry if we can
Someone I know wanted to marry someone with Adhd and she didn't tell parents about the disease but parents somehow could notice he had trouble with eye contact and hence didn't let her get married just due to the potential having adhd. Even though she didn't have any issues with him having it.
Shame on their parents this is not a valid reasons and it’s a major thing to reject a man without a valid reason
Cruel world we live in eh
I know many woman who have ADHD and they’re happily married. I didn’t know it was a big problem.
Adhd is not visible not a big thing.
Adhd is not visible not a big thing.
May Allah (swt) bless you for bringing this issue to the agenda. Our disabled brothers and sisters also need to feel the warmth of a spouse and child and benefit from the blessings of marriage. For this reason, it is important to bring these brothers and sisters together in meetings designed specifically for this purpose, where they can meet each other and other Muslims. It is also very important that Muslims pay special attention to these brothers and sisters and encourage them to regularly mingle with the crowd of Muslims. May Allah (swt) be their helper and have mercy on those who have mercy on them.
بارك الله بكم
حقا خطوة مهمة وموضوع ارجو ان يكون فيه الحلول
ربما اذا كان للشخص الذي لديه الاعاقة قريب يساعده في زواجه تبقى الامور بينهم فيها شفافية اكثر
From what i see, polygyny is a way for the sisters .. but for the men, sadly its quite challenging.. cuz women are hypergamous by nature, therefore most men are not even on their scope let alone disabled men.. thats a sad truth, but there is always hope
I am an support worker for adults with disabilities and learning difficulties in the u.k. in my professional experience I have observed some adults to have 2:37 significantly higher intellectual capacity than others. They have a full understanding of what it means to be attracted to the opposite sex, I have personally observed this. Having personally observed this i can say that can easily live a happy and fulfilling life with additional support from a spouse, however, since all are under the care of their parents or family, more often than not a decision has been made for them not to settle into married life, due to their vulnerability.
True
The thing is, I feel sad for them and empathy. I don't think it's possible to see them in any other way.
We have to show mercy to others
Yes this is Islam.
I have OCD and have for a decade now (25f) but only been diagnosed for a year since I didn’t know what it was and it’s a lot to contend with which leaves a person exhausted on daily basis so thinking of marriage atm is not really practical but hopefully in sha Alla one day
Is it actually OCD or is it waswas?
@@illusionoftruth7091 everyone gets Waswasah but not everyone has OCD. It's a real condition that stems from the brain.
@@illusionoftruth7091 I'm not sure why my comment was deleted but what I said was everyone gets Waswasah but not everyone has OCD. It's a real condition that stems from the brain.
@@illusionoftruth7091 my comments are getting deleted idk why
@@sulekha3771, nah. We can see them.
I think the problem with marriage in general nowadays is that the finances dont add up. When I (M early 20s) think of starting my family, I think of the expenses that ill have to provide for alone ei buying a house, car, wedding, daily expenses, future children and more. So it doesnt give us much freeway for a divorce or polygyny which in turn makes it so hard and important that when you marry, YOU MARRY THE BEST POSSIBLE WOMAN YOU CAN GET.
Now you might say, as some people do in my home country, marry a woman and create all that together (ei: house ect) but that takes away from our authority and leeway for polygyny or divorce.
Its not so much about whether we would or wouldnt as it is about whether we can or cant.
...انَا اختكمَ مَن اليمَن وّالَلَه ماتكلمتَ الَا من جوّع وًّمن الفقر انَا وًّامَيَ وًّخَوًّاتَيَ تَشَرَدَنَا مَنَ بَيَوًّتَنَا بَسَبَبَ الَحَرَبَ نَحَنَ فَيَ حَالَهَ لَايَعَلَمَ بَهَا الَا الَلَهَ حَسَبَنَا الَلَهَ وًّنَعَمَ الَوكيَلَ فَيَ مَنَ اوًّصَلَنَا الَى هَاذا الَحَالَ 💔💔وًّالَلَهَ الَعَظَيَمَ مَا كتَبَتَ هَذا الَمَنَاشَدَهَ غَيَرَ مَنَ الَضَيَقَ وّالَفَقَر يَاعَالَمَ حَسَوّا فَيَنَا ارَجَوّكمَ وّالَلَهَ الَعَظَيَمَ رَبَ الَعَرَشَ الَعَظَيَمَ انَه الَاكلَ مَا فَيَ عَنَدَيَ بَالَبَيَتَ وًّالَلَهَ يَا اخَوّانَيَ انَهَ خَوًّاتيَ بَقَعَدَوًّ بَالَيَوًّمَيَنَ مَافَى اكلَ وًّالَلَهَ وًّضَعَنَا كثَيَرَ صَعَبَ نَحَنَ 6 نَفَرَ دَاخَلَ الَبَيَتَ وًّابَيَ مَتَوًّفَيَ وًّلَا يَوًّجَدَ مَنَ يَعَوًّلَ عَلَيَنَا وًّسَاكنَيَنَ فَيَ بَيَتَ اجَارَ لَانَسَتَطَيَعَ دَفَعَ الَاجَارَ الَلَيَ بَاقَيَ عَلَيَنَا ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اخي اول كلامي انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين من الحرب انا واسرتي بيننا ایت الشهرب 15 الف يمني والان علينا 45 الف حق 3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرنا ندفعله الأجار شافونا الجيران نبكي ورجعو تكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع معادفعنا له حلف يمين بالله هذا بيخرجنا إلى الشارع رحمه واحنا. بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي وخواتي سفار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه خواتي الصغار خرجو للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو واوقفو عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولو كسره خبز والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلفو الباب وطردوهم ورجعو یبکو ایموتو من الجوع ما احد رحمهم وعطلة ردها لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في إيكيلو دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني تراسلي واتساب على هذا الرقم 00967717415667 وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير ساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره على مساعد لاتتاخر علينا وجزاك الله خيرا،.،.،:^:؛^:🎉°~°~^~°^π√^π√~π~√~√~π^~^~π~π~√√~~ππ~π√~~^^°^°€€لب🎉🎉❤❤🎉.🎉🎉❤❤❤....،
My solution is to create an application or platform where people can find their future partner. While we may encounter some challenges, we can use those experiences to continuously improve the platform.
We have nikkahgram.com
Im normal looking and healthy alhamdulillah, but my disability is poverty and living in a minivan. No connections and dreadful fear of working for more abusive people.
Imagine the rewards for caring for someone like that then x100 because they are your spouse don’t focus so much on the worldly things and ٱللَّٰه will take care of you
my mom's cousin can't walk and her family forbidden her from getting married 😭 I feel so sad for her
Would my first wife feel jealous if I take on a disabled sister as a second wife and when i give her extra care, affection, and responsibility?
She would obviously 😐, but for your relationship to be not too affected, you should be fair between them and seek Allah's guidance.
May I share how I think I would feel?
@@ilil5626 Yes, please do.
@@ilil5626 Yes
As a man I wouldn’t hesitate to marry a physically disabled woman as a second wife. The thought of someone being alone their entire life is something that saddens me, so why not make them feel appreciated.
Agree
Have you?
Marriage is nothing but problems. I can only imagine what brother Gabriel has heard in private.
Marriage is a blessing from Allah it can come with problems just like being single can have it’s problems and benefits.
@@inspiretoawaken3641 Sometimes it's a test. You and I cannot know.
@@8KilgoreTrout4 yet you say that it is nothing but problems 😏
@@megasp let’s say two people get along perfectly. There’s almost a 50% chance their babies gonna be born with a disability nowadays don’t believe me? I’m quite convinced you have no idea what you’re talking about and you’re just commenting without any deep thought.
It's ironic you say that, even though you seem to have your own children from your profile pic.
I genuinely believe that some people are better off not getting married and that includes disbaled people as well as poor people cuz love and marriage is based on money ane becomes a mess if you lack funds
may Allah guide you
@@user77y2kYou've been guided yourself?
Nonsense some of the greatest Muslims would be classed as disabled and or poor and they’d make a far greater husband than myself and many others never disrespect a slave of Allah and make haram for them what is halal just because you don’t like the situation that doesn’t affect you
Elitist
So what you want these people to have boyfriends and girlfriends instead of marriage?