Workplace Bullies are Workplace Psychopaths
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- Опубліковано 21 бер 2012
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-Basically in groups of people there are people who lack empathy called psychopaths.
-Psychopaths have a 'need' to control other people and inflict abuse on them. This is a compulsion or like an 'itch'.
-Psychopaths at work are most easily recognized by micromanaging and being extra hard on some employees more than others.
-70%-80% of all workplace bullying are from managers.
-These psychopaths destroy companies and departments. They put wrenches in cogs and ensure things don't run smoothly. They ensure constant kayos and ensure problem after problem with the answers to take actions which will create more work and more problems.
-There is NOTHING you can do to stop a psychopath from bullying you at work. Your options are to leave or move to another team. If the person is a co-worker, you can take action to let them know not to f*ck with you. This will not get that person fired and will make your work life miserable as they will continue to undermine you to management and figure out other ways to get under your skin.
I've been through it all. Seen it all. I've been stalked, harassed, filed complaints with HR, you name it. Big companies, small. I've also had some great managers and I would say that about %40-%50 of managers are 'non-psychopaths'.
Most managers are needles anyhow. The most they do is just schedule who has time off. They usually just drain company money and resources. Even if they are normal they aren't needed most of the time.
A bully is someone that targets an innocent person who's minding their own business....
100% true I had it happen to me.
@@p.stewart4450 someone tried that with me, because I am a quiet person, but when provoked, I become extremely aggressive and very vocal. Once my "claws and fangs" are exposed, they run away!
R R Yeah, I often get perceived as weak, then when they find out I’m not, that’s when they go psycho on me.
Lillie's How does a lack of empathy compel psychopaths to feel the need to control people? It doesn’t make mathematical sense, I don’t see what the benefit is of controlling people all the time unless it has a legitimate purpose...I don’t try controlling people personally myself therefore I am unable to understand why a psychopath would allegedly try to be in control of other people, makes no sense, Why would a person have this senseless need for control of other people just because they are unable to have empathy for other people? Doesn’t add up.
-Also it doesn’t make sense that a psychopath doesn’t contribute to society...because it doesn’t make sense that a lack of empathy would stop someone from being able to contribute to society, but something that can cause someone to be unable to contribute to society is a lack of intellect. So how does someone having a lack of empathy equate to someone having a lack of intellect? I bet a lot of the stuff this guy says has no evidence, it doesn’t make sense. But it does make sense that bullies in general are psychopaths, oh well. There needs to be an incentive for bullies not to be bullies and instead be respectful to other people, I don’t like disrespectful people.
@@user-gi6ee8vj1y Exactly like me everything starts turning black, Men that's when i turn Aggressive ASF
And I fuck em up
You to defend yourself nobody's walks in our shoes
workplace bullies love to target people who mind their own business, people who draw boundaries, seek to do their job and go home. Make them mad, theyll seek to get other people in the workplace to gang up on you
Facts! These people are CRAZY. I truly believe it’s a mental illness and it’s not normal adult behavior
so true lol
@@lovelydoll1477 Bingo.
My current situation but thankfully management has my back.
I can’t believe this video is 10 years old. You did such an excellent job describing anti social behavior in the workplace & workplace harassment.
Very poor management. I've been mobbed and gaslighting at work for over 12 years till present. Full of NPD cowards at work and will end up exposing themselves.. I'm a top worker, jealous of me big time and of my money and condo too. Defamation of character. Saying I'm a stalker, I drink, I'm crazy. All bs. Managers are scared of the bullies, they do nothing, union, police are all totally useless too. Toxic workplace in healthcare. Been working 38 years and never been suspended. Action speaks louder than words. But this crap never ends trying to scare the women at work, all the insecure and toxic women. I will never quit due to these lazy bums with no life. These 2 guys should be locked up and have the manager fired.
This is the truth. People try to tip toe around the truth because they can't admit that the world is ran by nutcases.
Exactly
You are right about every single word and HR is a complete joke.
Never go to human resources. Document. Put management on notice. File a complaint with EEOC. Consult a lawyer.
HR are officers of oligarchic collectivism; designed and fostered by the super-class.
@@user-gi6ee8vj1y Then they end up setting you up and fire you after filing with a lawyer. They always win after wards
Psychopaths are dangerous but their cronies they manipulate and encourage to harass, stalk, gossip and conduct character assassination against you are also quite vile and abhorrent. A skilled psychopath usually has other people doing all or most of their dirty work.
Yea I cud def feel when they stalk me . They can choose out of three meetings and they all choose the same one I'm going to, they go thru my cabinet and cubicle looking for shit to get me on. These ppl r sick.
Petition to end workplace mobbing:
www.petition2congress.com/1682/stop-workplace-mobbing-and-community-based-harassment
You are so right.
My Team leader had other Multiple people About 10 people or more Attack me for no reason
Yes, but they can't control everyone. The ones they get to bully for them have personality disorders.
I agree, I was bullied into quitting a good job. Looking back , at all the places I have worked ( thirty years ), I now realize there is an awful lot of psychopaths among us. Probably many more than we realize.
I was bullied at my first "big girl" job when I was in my early twenties. Every time I made a slight mistake or had a question, my manager would call me a dope or an idiot or a moron. Upper management didn't care.
Years later I was working as a copywriter for a children's educational website. This should have been my ideal job. I was going to use my talents as a writer for a positive cause. But my immediate boss and the head of HR made my life a living hell. They totally gaslighted me. I should have documented their behavior and evil deeds, and gone over their heads to the woman who owned the company. But instead I just quit. I should have gone over their heads. They were pure viciousness.
I became phisically sick before i went to work because of someone like this...
You have to be strong physically and mentally, stand your ground and call out the bully.Bullies are individually weak, they need their mob to bring you down.
I don't think these Narcissist are human either, the just look like us.
And why are they all so smart and have a lot of instinct it's scary almost
@@Fordarktimesvampires
"The biggest health hazard for the human race is the lack of public awareness of Sociopaths/Psychopaths." - Martha Stout
I think the public is very aware of this epidemic..but the world is run by these people so your out of luck until the shift ...of power ....it will happen....but we dont know when....so it's a waiting game...
I was one of those who was pushed to extremes because of Bullying. I turned to lots of People for help but got None. In the end I decided to train myself into Self Employment and now I'm free, but still I have my days where I live in the past - reliving the Bullying.
@mark Cunningham The Same thing is Actually Happened to me Now I'm Afraid to get Another job i been unemployed since February 19,2019
@@MrTrinitothebone Take The Most High Yah with u!! It works
Thank you for posting this. I starting crying when you said, "..... you don't care about the money anymore... you just want to get away,.... you just want to work with good people.... This post is enlightening.
They really are psychopaths. You have described everything EXACTLY RIGHT. EVERYTHING. When will this be made illegal? It is a health and safety issue because it is mental and emotional abuse.
They will sabotage every organization that will try to do something about it,
YES, Im waiting and waiting for them to pass a Bill.
@@ladyday3320 the people in charge ARE these psychopaths. Most people, like he said, just want to be left alone. Your regular person does not want to be in power. To me there is nothing appealing about power besides trying to improve the world and having the ability to do so however that still requires some level of delusion lol and most people are just normal people
Saddest thing is you can't deal with bullies how you could at school. Beating the crap out off them is an effective cure. Sadly as an adult you can't do that anymore.
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hahaha you made me laugh when you said "Go to HR, learn the hard way!". That's absolutely true. They will always protect the psychopath/sociopath because they have been fed false information by the psychopath and you are already a target before you even THINK of starting to wage a war against that psycho.
HR is there to protect the employer not the employee. It's terrible.
HR do not help
Plot twist, HR sends them to mess with us! Honestly they do, plot turn, the head bullies are reptilians from hell
@@blessed74God I try to judge people according to their behaviors, some of them still have a soul, even though they are onboard with bullying. Some of them choose to do the right things too, others just don't care. It depends on the individual. I will never understand how some people who are in on that can be a bully to such an extreme, it behooves me to know that they really don't seem to care either way, but they do care about hurting you, the victim, very much.
What is worse is their little entourage of trolls that follow them around and do their bidding. They do so much damage.
It is not micro management but CONTROL over you.
I was bullied through high school and a couple of jobs. You really have to talk to these people like they're children., if they're your co-workers. Boss? Good luck with that.. A veteran (co-worker of the office) told me when I started, "I make people cry sometimes. I am who I am and I'm blunt" then leaned into my space. She relished that fact. I laughed and said, "I was so blunt at my last job a guy went home and hung himself. Making people cry is child's play. Move back, I have work to do. Now!" She stayed out of my way but I saw her bully others. You have to grow a thick skin and be quick witted with bullies. They don't know what to do with that. I've also said, "Don't you have some animals to torture or old people to kick... I'd think twice before you start anything with me. In fact don't entertain that thought again. Now, get out of my face.." You have to take control. I made a pact with myself to never go through that again and I have. You'll go home and not worry about dreading the next day.
Touche' (LOL)
There is no "dealing" with theses people. Best to recognize your own FABULOUS TALENTS!! And seek a job fit with a company that not only talks your values but walks them. If one cannot be found. Seriously consider taking an entrepreneurial course and start your own biz. Too many brilliant but scared people waste their lives working for bullies and low wages. Never underestimate the power of you!!
Excellent post!
Thank you! I love this comment!
What a beautiful and encouraging comment!
When your at work don't socialize just come to do your job. Don't let them get familiar with you. The moment they try that bull(micromanage), shut them down. You gotta come to work and be about straight business if not u open yourself up to these guys.
I couldn't agree with you more.
I agree 100%! I don't need "friends" at work. Leave me alone. Let me work and go home.
Plus be on time, do as much right as possible, no matter what wrong the co - workers around you do (faves & "butt kissers" ) do.
You’re right, reveal as little about yourself as possible to them. They sometimes set up situations or engage with you just to find out what you’re like and they’re storing it for later. They’re very manipulative and know exactly what they’re doing.
I did just that and bullying got worse. My boss was reprimanding me for not “engaging enough with the team” like wtf.. most managers would appreciate the fact that I’m only doing my job without participating in gossip and chatter with my peers 8 hrs a day.
I heard that only a very small percentage of workplace bullies are psychopaths but I disagree with that. I think, at least in my own experience, that most of them are. I'm dealing with this right now at my job.
Of course they are, and when you see their psychological and mental illnesses, when you really understand how sick they really are in the head, then it is even more scary.
It’s around 30 percent, maybe forty depending on the country
@@dm5129 Literally PLAYING around with peoples ability to FEED themselves and their FAMILIES over NOTHING but their pathetic lack of even a scrap of self esteem.
I had a horrible experience with work place bullying, one person set me up against another person making a feud between the two of us for sport, what was really shit is that once the social backstabbing begins people take sides and then managers even take unfair positions against the victim, oh it as all shit caused for nothing and the victim walks away humiliated hating all the people in general.
Happened to me!
burningknuckle26 That sucks, but you know what, i think its a testimony to your own honesty and conscientiousness that it did, they only pick on people they think will make good entertainment because they are pieces of shit themselves with no conscience and who you would probably find were jealous of you on some probably obvious way, ie were you younger? smarter? better looking? kinder? better at something than them, had better dress sense they liked (think of all the conversations you had with the predator because they arent really that clever and give themselves away), heinsight is 20/20, they are so pathetic they will even attack you for that, or are/were you more intelligent? if any of these traits belong to you AND you are of good character, chances are thats exactly why you were singled out for attack. so fuck those arseholes and take the lesson to learn the way of manipulative people ,before you manifest a narcissistic abuser as a lover or spouse, they really will disembowel you to heighten your conscious awareness . In this world its learn the nature of evil or die at its mercy p.s they have no mercy, or ethics or shame. Always remember you dont stand alone, human beings have been making arseholes for thousands of years but at least know that as long as you learned something about the nature of reality then it is for your betterment and education, it also heightens your empathy for others and maybe, just maybe might one day be a big piece of a great personality in an older wiser version of yourself. I think it pays to remeber that although narcissistic, parasite bullies often win in out conniving the blatantly honest, they cant change the fundamental nature of reality. What have they gained in victimising you or I anyway? A dirty little drug hit of power that lasted a tiny little moment at the expense of their own legacy, I think it sifts the pearls from the pigs when you see a dirty little moment, a cheap shot and they are so disgusting they take every opportunity, well done for themselves I say because its a lot harder to live and play by the rules of reality and be authentic than be a conscienceless lowlife with no respect for others and in the end themselves just for behaving that way, they know what they did was wrong and unfair. Id rather cease to exist than have such a horrible character and personality that has to undermine others to establish itself, they have no merit of their own and i could talk at length about bullying. There are different degrees of torture and the capacity each person has to inflict that on a person they know to be kind and honest, they have to live with THEMSELVES for ever, we get to walk away knowing who we are, remebering always that there actions are at there own door and have nothing to do with us, their opinion of us is irrelevant because who wants to be held in high opinion by an evil beast anyway? they will always be scumbags and everyone who supported their dirty warfare has blood on their hands and shame on their faces whether they realise it or not, most of them do it to protect themselves from the attack themselves, good to have gotten rid of them from our lives also as they were not worthy of a genuine friendship either, whether they realise it or not they are being used and abused also.
Remember if one has already got you once then its time to learn why any got in to begin with as if you look back they will have different personalities but once you do the homework you understand they all play from the same play book, its just getting a copy of their play book you need and then its aha after aha moment, not clever people at all just willing to do anything and really not caring who gets maimed emotionally, try learning about manipulative people and narcissistic abuse because i really REALLY wish I had trained my mind to recognise fake,deceptive outright exploitative or cruel behaviours and people years ago, I knew I was being gaslit to death and i always knew it was obvious they were scheming shit heads but they wouldnt exist at all or have any power if it wasnt for their spineless minions, so it goes a long way to have an education preemptively before evil educates you itself the hard way. There are people who can be trusted, they just have to EARN your trust first to really respect and appreciate you properly I think. hugs x chrys
Hope that didnt sound too conceited there it applies in general to all victims of bullying regardless of age or experience, its hard to convey information without sounding a bit know it allish so Ill apologise in advance if it did.
nah my mom is a had NPD and so does my bitch narc manager. i understand 100% what your saying. u are right.
The general advice to document or gather evidence against bullies can also be a tactic designed to make you look paranoid. If they don't want to really help, you need to either leave or take it further legally. They have unethical psychologists paid to make you look crazy and corrupt unions who all work together to move you on. Until your out of it you see how institutionalised bullying is..even in the so called helping professions. I would gather evidence on the people ignoring it and seek completely independent legal advice.
It became abundantly clear to me that the bully at work truly enjoys seeing other people in distress or suffering. They lost composure once and screamed at me for 45 minutes over something pretty insignificant (I accidentally showed up early on a bad weather day and received comp time for showing up anyway, and this person was LIVID about it (probably because I got those 2 hours of comp time for it). She was literally screaming at me for 45 minutes about it. I was obviously very disturbed by this, and so I went to this person's friend in the department next door to ask if she was OK because she's never spoken to me that way. Her friend told me she would go talk to her, and she did. So I know the bully was told that I had been upset at her yelling and screaming. Then, the very next day within two hours of the start of the workday, she found the very next opportunity to make me feel small and ridicule me over something. That alone told me that this is a person who genuinely enjoys and is neurologically rewarded by seeing other people suffer and seeing other people in distress. Absolute sociopath. Monster. Who does that?? When I know that my actions have upset somebody, I usually go out of my way to make sure they are OK and that I don't ever make them feel that way again. Only a psychopath/sociopath seeks out more opportunities and engineers the environment to intentionally make people feel distress. MONSTER.
Crazy
I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start mobbing me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Never let these low life lazy bums win ever win.
@AnthonyManzio The best I've been able to do is make it clear to my department leadership that the bullying behavior is 100% unacceptable and that I WILL continue to speak out against it if it continues to occur. Then I filed an official complaint and there was an investigation, which concluded that "the behavior of the employee in question could and should improve, but the misbehavior does not rise to the level of a policy violation." It still says the behavior should improve. So I made that clear and told my boss that if it didn't I would keep saying things. Now, when the bully is being a little aggressive to someone in their office, our boss literally walks to her door and shuts it. What that says to me is that our boss is interested in improving the standards of our workplace. The best you can hope for is a true change in the attitudes of leadership and an improvement of the standards, so that the bully has to choice but to improve their behavior, because if they don't then leadership will keep hearing about it. Helps to have a government office job where I cannot be fired unless my own performance suffers. Private industry will just let people go (at least in many places in the US)
@@mosaicowlstudios Thanks again.
Thanks so much for making this video. I have been bullied in the workplace in nearly every job I've ever had except one! I thought I was going crazy until I watched your video because its happened so often. And you're so right about HR, their job is to pretend they care... they REALLY DONT!
You are 100% correct. I was sadistically bullied and no-one wanted to know at work. The psychopath bully, a classic super micro manager, even got promoted while I had no choice but leave. Parasite is a very apt term. Thank you.
Spot on. I (unknowingly) was targeted for 6 years. They are nice and engaging at first; then the belittling, devaluing and stalking begins. He is always right about everything. Absolutely no boundaries for this individual. He is a roadblock and produced very little. Most everyone else believes this person is charming and mister nice-guy. Initially, I thought he was just somewhat lonely. Thankfully a social worker friend educated me about the workplace psychopath. He is a 'wolf in sheep's clothing.'
I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start mobbing me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Never let these low life lazy bums win ever win.
narcissist coworkers, Management and Supervisors tell you one thing in the meeting and pitch in their good ideas and they put on this mask and everyone is happy right?
But the shady thing is they do the complete opposite when you are working hard 😒
I did a lot of heavy spiritual warfare against workplace bullies but it made little difference - maybe extended the role by 3 months to find another job. Now just need to put it all behind me. Best of luck everyone!
Same here. If the leadership and/or coworkers are narcissistic meaning entitled arrogant blame-shift and gaslight then that situation is not sustainable. Not all people are narcs though
I literally just ignore these people. After work, I pray a lot, listen to music, comedy, things that uplift my spirit, I also exercise a lot. I’m sending everyone love and light that are dealing with these bullies
I had a manager(whom I was friends with)tell me she was informed by upper management to try to push the long term staffs buttons to make them quit.They thought fresh blood would bring better sales.I told her that the long term staff would leave with their knowledge and the new staff would only make errors which will cost money(I worked in a bank)Sure enough after a yr long term staff left and the new staff made hundreds of thousands in errors and sales didn't really improve.Well done management.
Talk about shooting yourself in the foot.😒
Thumbs up! "Micromanaging is NOT a management style"... I have had leadership training and my current boss is a psychopath. U hit the nail on its head with your description. How quickly we forget common sense truth when we encounter these people. It's the subtle tactics they use to confuse us.
Man you are GOOD......26 years of Psychology and this is the best explanation I will EVER hear.
You are spot on my wife has a micro manager and I had one .
These people are not psychotic/crazy. They are evil. All of the behaviors you describe are carefully plotted for effect. Everything is carried through with an agenda behind it. This is the psychopath's only hobby and occupation.
They are evil, but after being a target for so long: they just can not be right in the head, they can't be.
People who you work with are not your friends when you have left the job as time goes along they will stop being a friend like I said before you have no friends at work.
I agree. Im a woman and workplace bullying is so much worse than sexual harrasment.
Altho sexual harrassment can often be inside the bullying umbrella. But its nowhere near on the same level as the spirit crush of being told your absolute best work, when you are far more highly qualified than the bullies in the field, but as you say they are in positons of power. To be told by these weasels that your work is rubbish, when they dont produce anything, really hits you in the soul. You cant ignore it.
Great video!
I was victim of workplace bullying for years not from management from coworkers.
For me coworkers are worst.
My manager is a meek little girl who has allowed the psychopath to run the roost. I'm the only one brave enough to call them out on their shit, and I get a lot of flack for it. No promotions, no respect, no inclusion...
Omg the "dizzy spell" was on point! In 2017, I was put on anti-anxiety meds because of enduring workplace bullying for 40 years. There was only one temporary assignment I had where the company was great, as well as the co-workers.
In the end .. karma is flowing and these bullying corporations will sink
Hr is not your friend but it’s important to have a paper trail. Sometimes you have to document a persons behavior and that is the best way to get them back. Yes it may make people hate you at work but they know you are smart enough to put them on paper. My old manager harassed people and one day she went too far and messed with a high producing employee and he reported her and she got fired. I never forgot that. Document and work on your exit strategy. Don’t worry about how it look. Hr will gaslight you your manager will gaslight you but your goal is to get that paper trail. Every situation doesn’t require hr but you have to know which ones do. I stopped being afraid of getting fired after getting fired over petty mess. God always helped me find another job. That’s not a way of life but if sticking up for myself burns a bridge light it up! The paper trail lasts on that person long after you leave because that company knows that person is a bully so when they go to far they will use your documentation from 2 years ago to help thier case to get them outta there. You gotta realize the company will turn on the bully too when necessary. That is a smart payback.
You've got this down! When Bullies target people who are overweight it's because the extra fat of the target triggers the Bullies subconcsious of what is out of control in their life because everyone has at least one thing that is out of control.
It's a very sick mentality and they are extremely hard to rehabilitate because empathy is developed by the age of 3.
I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said in the video. Except when you mention there is nothing you can do. I think employees should fight against corporate bullying. Even if HR doesn't do anything there are organizations who can help you: EEOC, discrimination lawsuits. Corporate bullying involves harassment, discrimination, contributes to a hostile work enviroment. If you quit, then make sure you leave your mark. Make them fire you for exposing the bully. I wouldn't just slink away. I would document and expose the bully for the coward they are. Don't leave without a fight. Most targets are those who are leaders, competent, popular. Corporate bullies target because they are intimidated.
I work in retail, and I'm bullied at work. Pretty much my work has these "mean girl" clicks, and you're right, it's the managers that do it. I am going to try to talk to the general manager tomorrow, and hope I'm not fired for leaving early to avoid bullying.
How are you doing now?.
You are 100% correct on this topic. I have faced it. It's an awful situation to be in.
This was really informative. I was bullied in the workplace and left because it was affecting my health. Looking back my manager was a 'micro manager' and if I showed any initiative, she would yell and scream at me. I freelance and if I am treated poorly, I will not work with that person again.
It’s hard to understand for people who are empathic but it really is their personality. There is nothing that you can do to get their approval or appreciation. It’s never happening. Save your energy! Look for a new job ASAP!
Also I agree 💯 percent. Micromanaging is the number one red flag of getting bullied at a workplace. Every case of bullying at work involves micromanagement.
I sued My ex place of employment and held them accountable. 👍✌
Would you share how it’s done
If they are the sick ones
Why are they protected and promoted?
Supervisors don’t want to look bad or feel guilty for hiring managers with bad leadership skills
I had a wife that was one and I was surrounded by them at work. I fought and won on both fronts. It was brutal. Took a year to fight and 3 years to recover. I am happy to say I am psychopath free.
I like how direct you are about it. Nice job on the video man. 👍
I'm going through he'll at my factory job....I desperately need my job however there is a group of people who have targeted me. At all times I feel like I'm about lose my job. Supervisor' s believe I am constantly making mistakes because I am being knit picked CONSTANTLY !! I don't know what to do, I am micromanage in every different department they put me in, it's as if they have all gotten together and chose me as a scapegoat for everything that goes wrong, I am constantly sick and nervous, need my medical insurance right now afraid to leave my job. Everything you said hit home for me, my husband tells me to suck it up since we need my job and it would be difficult to find comparable pay and benefits in the area I live. I have never been treated this way not at school Not at any other job, I'm losing my self esteem and at times my will to live
Jami Walker
I know how difficult it is and I myself look for an answer.
To me this is the answer .... this people are ill and the way you feel is what they must be feeling inside somehow .....whatever it is they feel does not equiparate to what you feel because you are kind and lovely and beautiful.
Reach inside of you deep inside to be safe with this truth.
you are beautiful now
even if any time you did wrong.
You are needed too because you are beautiful.
always remember that.
at least I do.
and this helps instantly.
dont you already feel better?? :)
I've been their many times, if your gut feeling and mind is telling you to leave because of high stress and anxiety, just get the hell out of there and leave. Regardless of what ANYONE says.
I will tell you truth .
I was bulied on workplace for 5 yrs terorizing from coworkers and supervisor and i get fired 2015 after 10 yrs of work.
To be honest with you,if you face of bulie or not you will lost your job bu being forcrd to left or boeing terminated.
Sorry ,they not going to leave you alone till you leave or terminated.
That was happend to me.
I only talking from my expiriance.
do we work for the same company?! glad to hear it's not just me that is going through this.... my daughter says these kind of ppl are just jealous of me... if that is true then they need to look around to see the talent and beauty of other ppl, so again why me?? just like how you feel
I have been dealing with a Micro manager/bully/psychopath for months at my job, I went thru all the *appropriate* steps of reporting, this was a new job to me. This person has messed with me to the point that I was so depressed, having panic attacks, no sleep etc. This is the point of suicide, I was force to attend mediation with and without this person, all it did was make me mor humiliated and feel less confident as a person and an employee. Ultimately I am leaving this position and this person has been given full rein still. So like you said there is nothing I can do...
Get out!!!
That is one thing I refuse to do, because in a sick way that insane person seeks contact with the victim. It is tough to explain but they seek confrontation and they seek aggressive confrontation that would lead to you be in in an even worse situation than before: which includes attempting to solve this the way a normal person would.
They’re very pathetic because they have no life but to be connive, manipulate & abuse, stalk others. They’re very good at selling themselves & come off confident but make tons & tons of mistakes.
I'm dealing with the same crap at my current job, and it is truly maddening.....
Every job u go
im dealing with psychopaths from a neighbor company at my job site. I was deceived by a real sociopath and humiliated publically. Even though I am no threat to them and their paycheck, I am made fun of daily and took it to hr and no help :( Workplaces need to adopt a no gossip bullyig policy which unfortunately mine lacks
I only have one tactic: avoid them as much as possible. This however, makes them even more sadistic and more intent on abusing me. They will actually follow where I go and then loudly try to abuse me. I have no words for such behavior, it is just shocking, absolutely shocking.
I've found it is tiring and a long road but you don't necessarily have to leave your job(not everyone has that option). Limiting contact, sharing no personal information, gaining allys to vent with, reporting the sociopath and learning to completely ignore character assassination to the point you genuinely don't give a fuck about anyone around you, can take the target off your back as you are not providing validation anymore.
I just dealt with this. So demoralizing. I still have nightmares about these people. I literally walked out in the middle of my shift before I got physically ill. They contacted me to see what happened and I told them everything. I was meant to feel crazy. I was told I had no sense of humor and was overly sensitive. I'm still trying to contact HR but I have a gut feeling they've beat me to it and told them to ignore me. Which I'm not sure is actually legal. Well even if it's legal it's unethical. Sigh. How do I get over this? How do I stop the nightmares?
How are you doing now. Do you still work there ???
O god.
From my expiriance,I was bullied on work. For 5 years ,agressive bullying.I get twrminated 3 years ago.
Underlie is you never be able to clean/cure nitemires trust me.
I was terminated 2015 I still fill consequences.
I will be on stress rest of my life.
The paranoya is evry time I see group of peoplr talking I thinking that they talking junk about me.
Sorry that hapend to you.
@Sarah Norton I went Through The Same Thing just leave Things in Gods Hands
They did the same shit to me. They always get to them first. And when these people question me they already think some type of way about me. I quit 3 yrs ago...did 8 months of depression from it...beat that. Thank God and now work at another office. Fuck these people and the systems they set up for good people like us to fail.
I've been dealing with a bully manager for almost two years. She has amped up her deplorable behaviour in the last few months. She has been bad mouthing me to my coworkers, saying she's going to replace me, complaining about me to my bosses about things she has never addressed with me. Even though both of my bosses have assured me they have no intentions of replacing me I feel so anxious and stressed at work it is distracting me from my job. At first I felt stubborn and didn't want to leave because that would be her "winning" but now I realise she won't win because it won't change the fact that everyone hates her, that she's a drunk who frequently gets hammered on the job, and she is clearly a misrable person who is so insecure she is an adult bully.
Typical narc behavior.
They’re demons wearing a human costume
you're auto immune system is working overtime.... fight or flight system kicks in and is all system go. while you try to remain calm and hold it together. That's no joke!!!
Adrenal fatigue sucks
you speak so much sense dude, big thumbs up!!!
They are the ones that come up to you when you first get your job...they are usually overly sweet....saying if you need anything just ask ..starts out great....then if you do your job well or better then them.this is were it goes downhill...I've worked with addicts,molesters,rapists,murderers ,narcissists and pycopaths... they all work in kitchens...I used to say it was like working in hell...set ups,and backstabbing were constant...if that didnt work they try to vandalize your vehicle or make you sick...break into your apartment...anything to upset you...I even had the people's kids go to my kids school to harass my kids and another work in the cafeteria my daughter ate at and never gave her good food to eat....they made me so sick I ended up homless,no vehicle and couldn't see my children for over a year...thought I was dying the pain was so bad...but what comes around goes around..sooner or later the tides will turn and they will have to all pay for there signs against you by loosing everything they ever thought was precious to them...at Gods hand..just try to remember the patience of Job...and David and Goliath....the bible tells us about how people for centuries have faced oppression by satanic people....I know some people think its weak to think prayer will help you..but by the grace of God ...iam still here and I have my family still...keep still and quiet as the devil passes by do not provoke the beast ...pray that God hides you from the evil that surrounds you at work..pray every morning before work ....during and give God praise for helping you through everyday....when the evil passes do not dis guard the Lord but draw closer to him...because the next wave of evil will not be far away.....God bless and be with you all who have or are suffering....peace be with you my friends...😇💜
That's terrible, hope you're better now
I was actually searching for an answer why i am bullied at work and i came accross your video, that person is exactly how your deacribe a psycopath. She was a headnurse in her previous job, and when she came to our workplace being a new staff, she acts like she is the headnurse and wanted to control people including a senior staff like me, and she wanted to run the floor as she wanted it to be, she’s trying to control me , treat me as her staff. She mentioned to me before that people dont like her because of her attitude, and that she still cant get over with her previous positon. Thanks for your video which is very informative .
I am amazed by how thorough and accurate your video is, 12 years after you posted it! As you say, these people are in every social setting. I was "raised" by people like this, and both my siblings are this way. They are obsessed with power and control, and generally are rewarded for their abusive and bullying behaviors. There is nothing to do but keep your emotional distance, do not react emotionally (because this feeds them, thereby encouraging them), and walk away as soon as you possibly can.
I had to deal with a psychopath at my old job. He was extremely menacing, just wouldn’t or couldn’t be normal like everyone else. He would talk down to me in front of coworkers, complain about petty things in a rude way, talk behind my back, etc. after one incident, I was talking to another worker and she straight up called him a psychopath. I have some anxiety and flashbacks now. Educate yourself on these types of people and what and what not to do. Also if u already have been a victim of workplace bullying/harassment and your managers were aware but didn’t act; you can file a complaint with the EEOC. They try to investigate and can approve u to sue if you have a legal basis to do so.
I agree with this guy's point of view, on workplace sociopaths. From my experience, there are bullies who focus on others who are different. Maybe they feel threatened in some form or another, who knows. Generally speaking, sociopaths prey on the timid because they don't fight back or offer any form of resistance. When you challenge these so called bullies, you realise underneath they are extremely insecure and weak. Unfortunately, companies don't do enough to eradicate the bulling culture. Like this guy pointed out, HR are a load of rubbish and they will always back management. Bullying should be treated as a health and safety issue.
I was considering making an internal complaint and really letting them have it but when the whole culture is toxic there is literally nothing that you can do. You just have to move on and keep your dignity knowing that you are worth being treated with respect.
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Thank you SO much
I had a work place bully. I stood up to him and put that punk in his place. He portrayed himself as the victim. Always stand up to a bully.
Thank you for your insight. I'm currently dealing with a bully at work. Further, I have experienced a lot of bullies during my 15 years working in the private sector. I'm seriously fed up with it. It seems like it's more common today than ever before. I have experienced 4 bullies in the last 3 years. I went to school, thinking I will not have to deal with it after that, but I was wrong -- the higher you move up, the more you run into bullies. It's sickening. At least now, after watching your video, I know it's not me. It's the "psychopaths." You are right, there are a lot of sick people out there.
They are not real people. That does sound weird but it's true.
Yes, there is such a sickness in them.
1:01 "Most people want to be left alone." Exactly.
Workplace bullying is the same as school bullying...learn to evade if possible but if SHTF...you have to learn to assert yourself and learn the ropes and enhance your arsenal. Theres the Union, find more friends within and create a group of your own - social and emotional support, sometimes learning and being a fan of martial arts helps as sometimes asserting yourself by simply raising your voice and finding fault in that person so as to simply bounce back their style. Be brave-fight back
Most people grow up from children to adults. Some children just get older. Psychopath/bullies are the latter.
You have to be stronger dude. Realize who you are dealing with, find their weaknesses, don't get mad GET EVEN. You can fuck with psychopaths right back, if the paycheck is big enough it's worth it. :) YOU are in control of YOU. No one else
My wife's new director has been managing now for 2 years, and 12 of her co-workers have quit. The Director does not care about seniority, people with 25 + years working there have quit. They tried going to human resources but they didn't do anything. His previous job was as a Director and he is hiring those that were under him. He is also paying them up to $5 dollars more if they switch to his place of practice.
My wife is also under pressure feels this person is adding more work than what a person can do. For example; moving people around to isolate a person to obligate more responsibilities to that isolated person, till they quit.
I told my wife that he is using this method to get rid of people. This method is ruining the work environment for those that planned to retire with the company.
Does anybody know what can be done with this Directors approach? HELP
Wow! So that's what I've been dealing with. You described a previous supervisor and current manager to a T! Thanks for sharing!
So true, I learnt long time ago do not trust the system e.g. HRs Simple if the system were working and well established, there wouldn't have been any bullies in the first place, bullies usually a sign of a broken syatem
Your link is down.. But I loved this video and I got a kinda sick enjoyment out of thinking of those BULLIES at work as Psychopaths. Thanks for the cool clarity.
Four people at a former employer's office had some form of inflammatory bowel disease. Two of us (including myself) ended up in the hospital on the same day (in my case, for internal bleeding). There is no way that was random.
You're, spot on, mate. I'm going through this. I know! Human resources, a complete, waste of time.Bullies,&narcissists,should be taken, very seriously. Trouble is, they mob up! Good video. Makes you realise, this is not, unique to onerself. I hate being controlled! It's a normal human, reaction, to, oppression. Mental or otherwise. There's, nothing, these, bastards, won't, stoop to.
Wow mate I can relate so much to this! Thanks for a great simplistic and honest description.Peace to you cheers
Thank god! “Banning psychopaths“ from the workplace, yes!
There is literally no defense against them. The charm , the manipulation, the covert put downs and inexplicable things that go wrong at work. Four of us under this manager have sought help from neurologists , psychiatrists......and forget EAP and HELP.org. They’ll just say quit.
Insightful.
Have you considered writing on the topic?
Thank you for your comments.
People need to know, and the workplace mobbing needs to be legally criminalized.
I am pretty sure that I just got done dealing with a psychopath at my internship. She did something very bad to me, and I did absolutely nothing to deserve it. I did politely ask for more challenging assignments, and then I began to notice odd things about her behavior. Then on my last day there, she basically forced me to do something that I wasn't comfortable with, and then pulled a stunt that made me look very bad. I wasn't doing anything wrong, but the way she was approaching me and rushing me made me uncomfortable. Then, things went downhill. It's a bit of a long story, but, she verbally abused me, yelled at me, insulted me and told lies about me. Then she asked me what hours I wanted to work the following week, while firing me behind my back. It's actually a lot worse than what I will get into here, but, I got so stressed out, it was horrible.
That sounds like a pshycopath indeed, try to meditate everyday before you get stuck in a lot anxiety and depression like me
bullies are old and insecure about their looks
This videos deserves a gold medal 🥇
Thanks for posting this helpful video!!!!! I shared it!!!
YOU are SO right ON!!!!! THANK YOU!
Everything you have said is a gold mine. But there is one thing I believe you can do. Only 1 thing:
Audio record or camera record. Expose it. It works!
My co worker breaks my stuff, I'm thinking about putting cameras there but I just don't know if it's gonna cause me more problems if I get caught
yeah..you know you're right! spot on description and calling what it what it really is. thank you.
Thank you so much for making this video!!!! It really helped me to watch it and you are so dead on with everything you say!!! Brilliant:) wish there was more we could do to deal with these people though:(
Good explanation.....so right on the money! You are a man with a good spirit!
This was a great video!! Timeless and ever true 11/12 years later
You see this type of bulling at call centers
This is happening to me now.
@@burningknuckle26 If you told your company about the harassment and they did nothing, you can actually sue the company you were working for.
Been through all of this.... suffered the headaches, panic attacks. It's horrible. But going to upper-upper management did the trick. Thank heavens.
Well said! I put out a storytime about this and you nailed my experience. However, I also dealt with the extra evils of microaggressions and racsim, it was a terrible terrible time.
Yes Ashley, mix racism with the workplace bullying; it adds on extra stress.
Great bid , very well put across, when you can identify the psychopathic nature of these creatures you suddenly realise why the world is like it is!
This is a great video and has good meaning and information. :) I just want to make 2 corrections to your information from my opinion. #1.... You mean "Sociopaths"... NOT "Psychopaths". #2 Negative comments on vids these days are just simple "trolls" 90% of the time. None the less, the rest of your video is accurate and found it very helpful for a situation I'm currently in.
Yeah,right? I once had a boss who said 'You absolutely can't sit down,during your 8 hour shift.' Wow,how fascistic.🙄