For me, living alone was one of the worst things i did to myself. I always thought it would be so cool to have everything for yourself but i was wrong. I got so depressed and the loneliness was so bad, i always had to have the tv on or some youtube video with people talking. Nothing was fun anymore, cooking, eating, being at home.... im glad its over and i dont think i will ever do it again
I can't believe it's been almost a year since you moved in that apartment! I remember watching the series and being excited for you, to see where the journey took you and now it's time to start a new one! Keep doing you xoxo
Sounds a little like a revolving problem You don't tidy up which makes you not want to invite people over But you aren't going to invite people over So why tidy up? I know for me it has to be about me, I clean up because I like my space to be cute, I wash the dishes because I like using my fave dishes or mugs, I drag my ass out of bed because I like getting my stuff done and having time to do other things too.
i honestly really appreciate this video. as someone who’s working towards living alone it’s good to hear the cons side of the whole thing. i’m hoping to move to philly from new york i have friends in the city but i was planning on living alone no second guesses. this was a good kick in the butt reminder that there’s stuff i really gotta think about
Girl, this time i have to disagree with you. Living alone is mostly amazing. I admit there’s an issue with wasting food sometimes, but i shop daily for meals and get to do what i want and be who and how i want. No roommates, EVER AGAIN.
So are you moving into a new apartment with roommates? Please do another moving vlog series!!! It woukd be super interesting to see the difference of moving into a more communal space
Tips for anyone, not just Qknd: Cook your fresh food as meal prep and freeze it. Freeze milk in cupcake baking tray if you only use a small amount. If you have space, get a larger professional kitchen freezer or old ice cream freezer and tonnes of small freezer/microwave safe tupperware for food. Bulk buy your carbs and do fruit/veg shopping twice a week instead, and learn how long things store. Cauliflower maybe healthy, but it lasts less than 3 days.
And if you're really struggling, create a chart of the tasks you have to do. I have "eat enough food, eat 5+ fruit/veg, shower and how much do I spend" and I feel so much better after 8 weeks of doing it.
Damn, I so very much disagree with you. Living alone is the bomb. I've lived with lots of roommates at once, and I've lived with a single roommate, but I very much thrive alone. The only bummer is getting food and paying for everything. One of the ways to avoid food waste is to plan your meals!
i love living alone! nothing better than coming home to an empty house for me. so awesome that you had this year to figure out something new about yourself. can't wait to see where you go next.
I remember when I first moved to the city, I lived with my partner. I had always shared a home in the suburbs with like 6 ppl. When I moved to the city, I had no friends, job or money for 3 months. It was just me and my partner. They would get up and go to work, and come home at six. I had nothing to do and nowhere to go. I'm not exaggerating when I say it made me a little crazy. I would be crying from sheer loneliness and sir in a dark room for hours. And I'm usually super anxious around other people. So it surprised me that I would be overwhelmed by loneliness, a completely new emotion for me. I know exactly where you're coming from, and it was such a relief when I made friends and got a job. It makes a world of difference.
I love this because I thought I was crazy for feeling these things! I lived with 3 other people last year and I've been living alone in a studio apartment this year and I hate it.
I live alone too (early 20s, work part time, vegan, extreme budgeting going on) and re: food - ive found the best thing to do is cook a huge batch of something (curry, chilli, pasta, etc) and eat it for lunch and dinner for like 5-8 days straight. So i still only go to the shops once a week but i dont feel like I'm wasting food. This can get boring but i tell myself it's only for this time in my life, not forever. Hope this helps you x
And about expensive rent vs being sadder.... i pay high rent for a largeish (for 1 gal!) apt when i """could""" live somewhere smaller/cheaper... but i just chalk it up to the cost of self care and valuing my mental health. Ive found acceptance of this fact has helped me a lot too.
I feel that, I usually work mornings (talking about heading to work at 4:30 am) and my boyfriend doesn't have a set schedule for when he gets home, so sometimes we can go days without seeing each other because I have to be up early for work. It sucks, but it's nice whenever I randomly get a weekend off and we can spend time together. One of my coworkers tells me that I won't like seeing him whenever we end up getting married and that's one big fat lie.
I'm sorry your experience living alone left you hungry for more socialization/structure, although you did learn some things from the experience. I've been living alone for the last 5 or so years and I think it just gets easier over time, but we all need different things. Good luck with any future moves!!🖤
When I started watching this, first I as like girl, grow up a little you gotta put on your big girl pants. If you see that you're slipping with house chores and self care etc. you need to set yourself a routine and get on a schedule. But the more I watched and started listening It seems like you thrive in the validation/appreciation/fulfilment of others more than your own which is okay if that's what's what you need to be happy and be productive and live to the fullest. You like to do things for other people. You like to care for people. You should live with other people.
I loove living alone, the utilites part sucks. I hated sharing a kitchen and bathroom and always having to clean up after others😣 Im not a messy person and i like having a clean space thats just mine😊💜
I lived by myself for about 6 months. Honestly I was inspired by your videos. I understand completely about no one holding you accountable. I would let my place get messy and just not have people over. My boyfriend recently moved in and I have to say it has motivated me to keep my small place clean. There's not much room for two people & when it's clean it's much less stressful. I hope you find somewhere great with even better people
It's wild I feel like you just moved in yesterday! It's been great to see you grow, despite it not always being so rad, and I think your doing really well. As for food I feel you 100% i feel so wasteful on garbage night! I find that really thinking about what you eat week to week (if you make sloppy joes one week make something with buns the week after) and meal prepping help me a lot! Anyway always remember you're awesome and we love you!
I live in the woods and I know multiple people who don’t have WiFi, live off their garden and hunted meat, heat their house with a wood stove and rarely have to pay for anything. My papa literally doesn’t even have a phone. It’s so weird for me to hear about the struggles of living alone in a City. Whack. I’ve never touched a thermostat in my life but boy can I build a really good fire
I know things I live in central vermont, people think new england is all about new york city but nah we in the north woods country. i live in probably one of the smallest towns in the US and we’re all just hippies and farmers lmao
I currently live with two roommates and I can not imagine living alone. I love holding my roommates and myself accountable, getting us motivated, keeping to schedules, and what not. Living alone has never sounded appealing to me mostly because I am the type of person to love spending time alone but with people, like doing nothing with another human. If you ever feel like moving to a new city and starting a new life come to my town and room with me!
You look so stunning! I can agree on so many points, I moved 4 hours from my family to go to university and i live alone in my apartment. Cool at first, but now i just find myself making mac and cheese in my underwear at 3 am feeling lonely. Oh well, life goes on! Sending positive thoughts your way 💙
So strange to hear such a different experience. Personally I hate having people in my house permanently. I grew up in a big family and i love having my privacy. When I had housemates I felt stressed all the time. Now I tidy up the mess when someone comes over and if they stay for the weekend I am quite happy for them to leave after a few days. I would consider myself an extrovert funnily enough.
I feel like I have the opposite problem. I've lived alone for 5 years before I moved in with my boyfriend. I recently told him that I wasn't afraid of anything when I lived alone and he was like "what? EVERYTHING scares you" I feel like I was so much more independent and stronger when I lived on my own. I get the loneliness factor in living alone though.
I relate so much! I'm an introvert.. or so I always thought. People can be draining to me and I like my alone time, but recently I went through a break up with the person I lived with and I was alone in this apartment in the city. Not only are break-ups and loss difficult but living alone was sooo tricky. I'd never been more sad and lonely and I found myself getting super attached to social media and desperately searching for people to spend time with. Good luck Quack
Yes girl I hate living on my own... its so lonely and I literally have no money. Too bad I dont really have friends that want to be roommates, I just have my boyfriend. Us against the world I guess. And while he is my best friend, I miss being more financially stable and able to socialize outside of home.
i'm quite an introvert myself but i feel like i wouldn't want to live alone either because i'm so use to living with my parents. I wouldn't mind living with a few people who respect my space as i do theirs and have a nice communal experience. I'd love to be your roommate if i could Qck!
self motivation/discipline is deff the hardest but on the bright side you are learning about yourself and what you want your future to look like so that's good. Most ppl don't get the opportunity to live on their complete own (w/o roommates/partners etc), it's a good experience to have under your belt. Can't wait to see what you do w/your future in your life and on your channel =)
Hi Qcknd, I've been living on my own for the first time for a full year now too, and while I usually really enjoy it, this week has got me really down about the whole situation. When I saw this video of yours today, well let's just say I really needed to see this. Thanks and best of luck with everything!
My boyfriend works as an EMT working 24 hour shifts. I may live with my love, but I feel alone. I wake up and go to bed without him. Sometimes he's gone for a few weeks during hurricane season. It feels scary to be completely alone in a place with random neighbors who moving in and out.
Vanessa Bello my husband is a volunteer fireman he is not home alot, its crazy how living together we dont really see eachother too much. I also work 50 hrs a week right now
thats my biggest feat because im moving out the state i wont have friends or family nearby it's worth it but im getting really nervous to be alone all night and i have no idea what i'd even do if somebody did break in
Vanessa Bello My husband is a firefighter/paramedic , so I can relate. I try to save any housework and chores for the days he works so I can keep myself busy. Although going to bed alone sucks, it makes me appreciate my time with him even more. Plus, I get the whole bed to myself, which can be nice. 😆 The hardest part is when I don't see him for a day and half because I leave for work before he gets home. I'm lucky though, as his station is a mile away, so I can stop by to see him if I need to, calls permitting.
I'm glad you made that point about allowing yourself to be lazier with nobody around to hold you accountable for giving in to your lazier tendencies. As someone who'll probably never get to live alone, I'm kind of sad about missing out on the experience, but I could also see myself having a lot of these issues. Hope you can find a happier living situation once your lease is up! (Lol @Ethan sniffing your candle around 13:50)
I lived alone for a year and a half, I just moved into a house with roommates this week. I can very much relate to you in this video, living alone made me extremely unmotivated. My place was always a mess and I wasted so much food. I spent all my energy trying to find activities outside of my house for social interaction. It was hard, but there were positives as well. Living with others again has been a really big transition. I have been having a hard week. I hope that I can adjust to this new environment soon because at the moment it feels like I wont thrive anywhere.
It’s so crazy how we live completely different lives and yet seem to go through such similar experiences. Was really nice getting a qcknd vid tonight tho, going through some rough stuff today and this channel is like a friend to me, makes me feel less alone
I can't even BEGIN to explain to you how much this resonates with me. Like you were literally talking about ME. Crazy how someone else's realisation can teach you do much about yourself. Thank you❤❤❤❤
I relate so much to being alone and feeling unmotivated. I spend a lot of time alone and thrive on that quiet time, but it also makes me so lazy and unmotivated. Can't believe it's almost been a year since you've been living by yourself. Proud of u!!!!!
I related to this so hard. I always thought living alone would be the dream... not having to deal with other people. Getting to do whatever I want, when I want. But I very quickly realized, once I was living alone, that it was horrible. For all the same reasons you did. I only lasted 6 months. I got in such a state of depression and laziness. I had no motivation. And you worded it perfect... "queen anti-social thrives most in a social setting"... that is so me, and I didn't even know until I lived alone. I hope this year will bring new, wonderful, happy things to you, Amanda! ✌🏻
The laundry videos helped me solo much while I transitioned into staying with my bf at his cabin without basic immunities like hot water. So thanx so much for all that! Ur awesome!
I recommend fostering kittens if you’re up for it I think something like that can make your home feel more full of life. It’s possible even in a small space I recommend Kitten Lady on YT for more info on that Kinda random but I’ve been thinking about it because I used to foster years ago and it’s great ((:
This is video is exactly what I needed. I feel the same exact way about living alone. I had both experiences(living alone and living with people) and I now know that living with other people makes me a better human being overall. I more happy, productive and emotionally stable when I live with other people. When I live alone, I waste a lot of time trying to look for social interactions and I think this is healthy because I would rather be doing more constructive things than keep searching for social interactions. I am currently living alone but I can't wait to move into a place with a roommate. Dealing with loneliness is one of the worst things anyone has to deal with. I think that human beings are social animals and although most people don't like admitting it, I know many people are struggling with loneliness. Thanks so much for sharing. I am just curious, did you get yourself a roommate?
I think you’re really brave for admitting this Amanda 💜 Especially since you were so vocal and open about moving into your own place. I really hope you find a solution to this that’ll make you the happiest you can be
GIRL the ad ended and you started and I was like DAMNNNNNNN! Girl, you're looking good! Love ya! :) Also I can't believe it's only been a year! I feel like it was yesterday you were in shock of how supportive your community was with the whole Amazon Wishlist thing. You've grown so much.
This video couldn't have come out at a better time. I moved out of my parent's house into a single bedroom apartment a week ago, and honestly I'm feeling everything you talked about. I thought I was gonna love living alone, but tbh it gets lonely fast, and the amount of human interaction I have is so minimal. It's fun at times and I like the privacy, but without any neighbors, roommates or friends around, the feeling of being alone is amplified times 100.
Just wanna start off by saying I admire you so much! It sucks to be alone all the time and be so stuck in your head because of the lack of outside interaction. Making the step from living with people to living alone is hard! However, at a certain point you kinda have to be your own hero and your own leader. You gotta tell yourself to get up and do the things you need to. In the end you’re the only person that is going to 100% care about you and your needs and about your hopes and dreams. It’s great that living on your own taught you about your weaknesses and I believe you can build from that because bad experiences are still experiences. I hope this all works out for you!
Wow. This is a great video. It articulated everything I’ve felt after moving out of a five person home to a two person apartment. Things I could never put my finger on but had a gut feeling about. Just a major decrease in social interaction and lack of routine. You are incredibly insightful. Never stop making videos !
I recently moved out of my house for college to a city an hour away from my hometown. Due to my very introverted nature, I’m always alone and it’s quite sad. I have dealt with these problems you touched on, and more. I wasn’t able to watch the entire video, sometimes I split up your videos and watch a bit when you first upload and then come back later on, usually when I’m working out. I love longer videos like these for that reason, they help hold me over until your next upload. Anyway, stay strong QCKND, I promise it gets better. There is strength in living by yourself, especially for people that are usually dependent on others.
Wow bless u qcknd for making me infinitely thankful for my 4 housemates and our shared space. I’ve never had anyone articulate so well why it is nice to live with people even when you’re an introvert who likes your privacy.
This is spot on. I live alone and I def feel you on being excited to see people you work with, eating WEIRD things alone...and just doing odd things. I do feel like there is less accountability. My good friend might move in and be my neighbor so hopefully that helps.
I was the same for all of uni because I always lived by myself. Also, living for the Ethan cameos always, especially when he ducks in to sniff the candle and then backs out of the frame ahaha
I resonate with this so much, I am a student living in a new town on a weird schedule and I live with my boyfriend who works very long days. Our schedules often conflict leaving me alone all day by myself. Being new to the area and having no friends here yet, I find myself having the same tendencies amplified as you discuss in your video, its super hard, I also need people and that ¨community¨ feel to motivate me!
I find this really relatable. With roommates I feel like the home isn't mine and same with my parents but i know that I can't live by myself. For me it came down to being really specific about my needs and living with only one other person. I also think this can go back to what you were talking about with life events and really trying to adjust to your situation and making ritual that makes you feel good.
I moved into a studio apartment when I was kicked out of my parents at 18 and when my lease was up I decided to get roommates, I lived with them in a house for 3 months and hated it so much I got so depressed and missed not being ashamed of my sedentary lifestyle in the comfort of my own apartment. I moved into an apartment by myself again last week and im so relieved. love you qcknd :-)
This perfect sums up how I have found living alone. I have lived alone for the last several years and I'm only recently getting really on top of things and making it work. I make plans to have people over often, so I'm social and also motivated to clean. I'm setting a schedule for myself, making sure I get stuff done each week as needed. It's definitely a challenge.
I RELATE TO THIS SO MUCH. I've been pretty much on my own for about a year now too. Went from living w my 2 brothers and boyfriend and after my break up and shifting my living arrangements, I thought I was so pumped to be alone. No one to clean up after, no one to be annoyed w because of them being inconsiderate, etc. It was fun ar first, I gained A LOT of independence, took a lot of long looks in the mirror, and enjoyed the solitude to reflect on the troubles I had been facing. However, after awhile it got too quiet. So quiet. So lonely. I miss cleaning up the messes, I miss laughing w my brothers after getting home from a long day, and YES I MISS SHARING. I miss cooking for people, buying stuff for people and bringing it home for them, sharing my booze and coffee, my smokes or car. I MISS IT. I know exactly how you feel. I'm one lonely lil girl and I don't regret this time alone I've learned a lot about myself, but what I learned most is that I like being around people I love on a daily basis. I don't want to live alone ever again.
i lived alone for about a year back in 2015 and i had people come over ALL THE TIME, never spend a weekend alone and met friends after school often several times a week because living by your own can be really boring and sad. but i too learned a lot in this year and i don't regret it.
Omg this is the truest thing I've seen all week! It does really suck in most ways! And you feel alone like all of the time, opposed to only like half the time!
Great video! Even though I'm on the other spectrum, roommates haven't worked for me - these are all valid points to consider! We're here for the journey with youuu
Living alone is shit! It's lonely, expensive and not conducive to a happy life. We aren't designed to be on our own, thats why being in solitary environments scrambles the mind. Pets help but they're no substitute for human interaction. Rant over...
This video really spoked to me. I've been living alone for the past two years, and I've realised that I dont really get along with myself :P Like you, I had this image of being alone and being able to do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted to, but its mostly me in bed watching youtube and eating pizza. And that's fun once a week, but two years is kinda enough. So now i'm moving in with my sister, and I think it'll be good to live with another human being again :)
Some people are just meant to live in a communal setting. I'm the same way. I went from living in a 6-person roommate situation to a studio with just me & my cat. I thought I would love it, but it was so depressing. I would just wander my neighborhood out of boredom, and I spent so much time watching youtube videos (that's when I found your channel, tbh). Even now, living with just my significant other still doesn't feel quite the same. Sometimes I just sit in the living room like I'm waiting for something to happen, for more people to come in, to have an impromptu game night or watch a movie together or something like we used to do in my old house. It's a weird feeling.
You look amazing! You're amazing ❤❤❤ Edit: You're much more than that too though. I like listening to your voice while I'm folding clothes or just hanging out, it helps keep me productive. Thanks for sticking around.
I usually don't comment on UA-cam but I always enjoy your videos, that being said, I had to tell you that in this one, you seem to be absolutely glowing. You're always entertaining, funny, informative and beautiful but in this video you seem to be, I don't know, for lack of a better term, owning it. Absolutely beautiful. Thanks for doing what you do, Amanda. Keep kickin' ass.
This video sums up exactly my feelings on living alone. I lived in a really horrible place in my first year at uni and now I'm in my second year and I live in a tiny studio flat and its some of saddest I've ever felt. Last year even though I didn't get on at all with my flatmates, my bedroom still felt like my home, I had that "coming home" feeling whenever I would get back from uni or a night out whereas this flat just feels like I'm living in a cupboard in a building on my own.
Welcome to my world sweetie, I've been unmotivated when I'm left alone my entire life. Thank goodness I have my husband and son, they are reason I actually get stuff done! 😆
DUDE I feel the exact same way. I personally know that I'm very co-dependent on others, and also introverted, and diagnosed with social anxiety, so I also work the same way where if I'm by myself, I won't get anything done. Like, I have to live with others to truly enjoy being by myself.
I totally relate to this video. I lived alone for a year and absolutely hated it. I didn't even buy furniture because I knew I wouldn't be living in that city for more than a year and I didn't want to have to deal with selling/giving away stuff. So I had this apartment all to myself that was totally empty. I just had a bed and a table. It was so awful. I've been living with my partner for over two years now, but we are about to be long-distance and I've realized that I will have to get a roommate because I hated living alone.
I relate to this so much. My boyfriend is at work for most of the day and the days where I’m not working I am literally alone for most of the day. I noticed how unmotivated I get too. You definitely aren’t alone with feeling like this!
I have had a similar experience since I have started living alone. I find that it's harder to make myself do certain things- especially the things I have never been good at. I thought maybe I would end up getting my act together but it turns out I got really good at sliding by. Hope your new housing set-up makes you happier :)
I moved into my first place alone a year ago too and I definitely feel all the same things you do. I could never put my figure on it but once you brought up some of the point you did it all started to make sense. I'm moving in with a new roommate in February so I hope both our new living situations work out for the best.
Girl I know exactly what you mean! I’m such an anti social but I’ve found that I’m only productive when my roommate is in our apartment and sometimes when she goes away for the weekend I just turn into a lump until she gets back. Same thing would happen when I lived with my parents. If they went away for a week it was so much harder for me to motivate myself to do anything. I know now that I can never live alone and that’s not something I ever expected consider how much I love to BE alone.
Yes, yes, yes!! I lived alone for almost a year and it definitely wasn’t what I expected. That overwhelming feeling of knowing that ANYTHING that needs done, paid for, etc... that’s on you! 😳 On the other hand, it totally makes you look at community living differently, and makes you appreciated it more once you return to it! So maybe it’s a necessary evil to long term happiness! ✌️✌️
It's been almost 8 months living by myself AND I love it. I used to live with my mum, we had different schedules, so we would see each other at night or spend some time at weekends. I spend most of my Time out of the house. I guess I'm comfortable with being alone, I enjoy it. Sometimes it gets lonely but my friends live nearby so we meet pretty often, I enjoy their company but sometimes when they stay for a couple of days I just long to be by myself AND do nothing. I don't think I can live with another person after this experience, not anytime soon but I know that eventually I Will move out with someone. But next time It I'm getting a cat, I miss mine so bad, they are the best company ever. It is very important that you came into terms with your feelings, the good thing is that this Is not forever! Love u Qknd, keep being a badass 😘
After being homeless for two years, I finally got this reeeally small studio apartment, in i tiny village, more than two hours away from my hometown/friends. Most people here are really old, and I have no friends here. About once a month I go to my hometown to hang out with friends, but that gets so overwhelming. Earlier we could see each other a couple of hours every day, but now, when I'm visiting them, my friends always have this busy schedule of stuff we have to see and do while I'm in town, and it's exhauuuusting! Even though it's just for two or three nights. I don't know what I wanted so say exactly.. But I'm all by my self 28 days a month, without pets and friends, I'm happy to see a video about this.
Yooo for real. I'm a college freshman and living on campus. My roommates have complete opposite schedules from mine, so during the week, I am essentially all alone. It's pretty garbage. On breaks, I have the entire house to myself most days of the week and I am just so goddamn lazy, it drives me crazy. You've made videos I relate to in the past, but this one hit home.
When I moved into my own apartment I talked to an older woman about it and she told me you figure out A LOT about yourself when you live alone. Everything you talked about is so true when living alone. My biggest problem was the anxiety.. I kept freaking out because if something happened to me.. Nobody was there to know immediately. It kind of started my health phobia. Which is now a huge problem for me... Even though I'm not alone anymore.
I can relate. Been living alone for years. No family, and friends are either moved away, dead, or married. In order to cope I frequent a bar walking distance from my home just so that I can see people and even talk to people on occasion. Unfortunately this led to me becoming an alcoholic and struggled with it for years.
I moved out of my parent's house in August/September last year, and because I can't work ( I volunteer, but that's just a few hrs a week) I don't see many people and I feel alone a lot. Although I'm an introvert I feel like spending time with people is important to make the '(re)charging' period actually feel like it. In the beginning, I tried to reach out to friends every weekend and only one person came by a few times. My depression got really bad around that time. Now I'm okay, I like living alone. It sucks that no one comes to visit but I like not having to make myself and my needs smaller to avoid confrontation with my family. The pressure to make everyone else happy by doing all the chores and not to speak up or ask for anything - is gone.
Off topic but I didn't get a notification for this vid, so when I went to hit the bell again I realized I had been unsubscribed!!! I freakin' love this girl so please everyone check to make sure you're still subscribed. Love ya Mama Quack, I hope you find some rad roomates💕
I can totally relate. I emigrated when I was 19 and I had to make it on my own in a new country. After I got my first flat alone, I was so excited. After a while I felt all the things you said.
For me, I learned how introverted I am when I began to live alone. Like you, I always found time to be alone when I loved in a big house. Now when I live by myself, I have to find time to be with people. Working 40hrs really helps too, as long as you like work and your co-workers. No rules rules
I love living alone, I live my extra life. My best friend lives 1 minute from my place so we do the same things as we do with roommates but with the benefit of having my own place.
Yes to all of this! I've lived on my own for about 3 years now, having been used to shared accommodation. Its tough! Yes, the personal space is great, but its like you said, those stolen moments of having the kitchen/bathroom to yourself are so much more satisfying than having infinite personal space. And the food waste, im right there with you on that. I've resorted to a meal box delivery, they deliver the portioned ingredients. Although flip side to that, lots of plastic waste. I'm a total introvert, and when i lived with room mates, i spent most of my time in my room, as did we all. but there were those moments when we would get together over a cuppa and catch up, or share a meal. We are a social species, no doubt! Im catching up on your videos, so maybe you have moved by now.
For me, living alone was one of the worst things i did to myself. I always thought it would be so cool to have everything for yourself but i was wrong.
I got so depressed and the loneliness was so bad, i always had to have the tv on or some youtube video with people talking.
Nothing was fun anymore, cooking, eating, being at home....
im glad its over and i dont think i will ever do it again
I can't believe it's been almost a year since you moved in that apartment! I remember watching the series and being excited for you, to see where the journey took you and now it's time to start a new one! Keep doing you xoxo
WHAT!? It's been that long? It was like two months ago. What is time.
Yo, I'd use that food and eat that internet.
Sounds a little like a revolving problem
You don't tidy up which makes you not want to invite people over
But you aren't going to invite people over
So why tidy up?
I know for me it has to be about me, I clean up because I like my space to be cute, I wash the dishes because I like using my fave dishes or mugs, I drag my ass out of bed because I like getting my stuff done and having time to do other things too.
Lea Grey yeah same. i cannot be productive in an untidy environment so i tidy for myself
HUNNY.... make up... outfit... aesthetic.... Flawless!!!😍
You are so right Lainee! that little flick on her eyeliner, the hair! love it =)
i honestly really appreciate this video. as someone who’s working towards living alone it’s good to hear the cons side of the whole thing. i’m hoping to move to philly from new york i have friends in the city but i was planning on living alone no second guesses. this was a good kick in the butt reminder that there’s stuff i really gotta think about
Girl, this time i have to disagree with you. Living alone is mostly amazing. I admit there’s an issue with wasting food sometimes, but i shop daily for meals and get to do what i want and be who and how i want. No roommates, EVER AGAIN.
yesssss girl
Same! I'd love to live with a significant other at some point, but no roommates
Ashley Argo i currently live with room mates and i cant fucking wait until my lease is up lol. Never again, i feel u
Same. I’ve had too many crappy roommates. My boyfriend moved in with me and we work different hours so it works out, plus cats.
I lived with housemates once when I was 18 and hated it. All the extra costs are worth it never again would I have housemates. I love living alone.
So are you moving into a new apartment with roommates? Please do another moving vlog series!!! It woukd be super interesting to see the difference of moving into a more communal space
Tips for anyone, not just Qknd: Cook your fresh food as meal prep and freeze it. Freeze milk in cupcake baking tray if you only use a small amount. If you have space, get a larger professional kitchen freezer or old ice cream freezer and tonnes of small freezer/microwave safe tupperware for food. Bulk buy your carbs and do fruit/veg shopping twice a week instead, and learn how long things store. Cauliflower maybe healthy, but it lasts less than 3 days.
And if you're really struggling, create a chart of the tasks you have to do. I have "eat enough food, eat 5+ fruit/veg, shower and how much do I spend" and I feel so much better after 8 weeks of doing it.
You're a star, great tips!
great advice!
I buy most of my produce frozen now and it's dramatically cut down on food waste
Damn, I so very much disagree with you. Living alone is the bomb. I've lived with lots of roommates at once, and I've lived with a single roommate, but I very much thrive alone.
The only bummer is getting food and paying for everything.
One of the ways to avoid food waste is to plan your meals!
i love living alone! nothing better than coming home to an empty house for me. so awesome that you had this year to figure out something new about yourself. can't wait to see where you go next.
vautlapeine Can't agree with this more. My biggest joy is coming home to an empty place
I remember when I first moved to the city, I lived with my partner. I had always shared a home in the suburbs with like 6 ppl. When I moved to the city, I had no friends, job or money for 3 months. It was just me and my partner. They would get up and go to work, and come home at six. I had nothing to do and nowhere to go. I'm not exaggerating when I say it made me a little crazy. I would be crying from sheer loneliness and sir in a dark room for hours. And I'm usually super anxious around other people. So it surprised me that I would be overwhelmed by loneliness, a completely new emotion for me. I know exactly where you're coming from, and it was such a relief when I made friends and got a job. It makes a world of difference.
Did anyone see Ethan sniffing the lit candle?!
TheKittylover16 my cat does this and probably regrets it every time.
I love this because I thought I was crazy for feeling these things! I lived with 3 other people last year and I've been living alone in a studio apartment this year and I hate it.
I live alone too (early 20s, work part time, vegan, extreme budgeting going on) and re: food - ive found the best thing to do is cook a huge batch of something (curry, chilli, pasta, etc) and eat it for lunch and dinner for like 5-8 days straight. So i still only go to the shops once a week but i dont feel like I'm wasting food. This can get boring but i tell myself it's only for this time in my life, not forever. Hope this helps you x
And about expensive rent vs being sadder.... i pay high rent for a largeish (for 1 gal!) apt when i """could""" live somewhere smaller/cheaper... but i just chalk it up to the cost of self care and valuing my mental health. Ive found acceptance of this fact has helped me a lot too.
I do the same thing! When I have a bit more money I eat the same meal two days in a row. That saves quite some money too:)
With my boyfriend working thirds and me working mid shifts. I often feel alone and relate to alot of the points youve made in this video
Being a stay at home Mom with a husband who works full time even I can agree and I have someone at night I couldn’t live alone lol
I feel that, I usually work mornings (talking about heading to work at 4:30 am) and my boyfriend doesn't have a set schedule for when he gets home, so sometimes we can go days without seeing each other because I have to be up early for work. It sucks, but it's nice whenever I randomly get a weekend off and we can spend time together.
One of my coworkers tells me that I won't like seeing him whenever we end up getting married and that's one big fat lie.
is like the shining, but I am cute.
Qcknd 2018
I laughed my ass off at that part.
I'm sorry your experience living alone left you hungry for more socialization/structure, although you did learn some things from the experience. I've been living alone for the last 5 or so years and I think it just gets easier over time, but we all need different things. Good luck with any future moves!!🖤
When I started watching this, first I as like girl, grow up a little you gotta put on your big girl pants. If you see that you're slipping with house chores and self care etc. you need to set yourself a routine and get on a schedule. But the more I watched and started listening It seems like you thrive in the validation/appreciation/fulfilment of others more than your own which is okay if that's what's what you need to be happy and be productive and live to the fullest. You like to do things for other people. You like to care for people. You should live with other people.
I loove living alone, the utilites part sucks. I hated sharing a kitchen and bathroom and always having to clean up after others😣 Im not a messy person and i like having a clean space thats just mine😊💜
I lived by myself for about 6 months. Honestly I was inspired by your videos. I understand completely about no one holding you accountable. I would let my place get messy and just not have people over. My boyfriend recently moved in and I have to say it has motivated me to keep my small place clean. There's not much room for two people & when it's clean it's much less stressful. I hope you find somewhere great with even better people
It's wild I feel like you just moved in yesterday! It's been great to see you grow, despite it not always being so rad, and I think your doing really well. As for food I feel you 100% i feel so wasteful on garbage night! I find that really thinking about what you eat week to week (if you make sloppy joes one week make something with buns the week after) and meal prepping help me a lot! Anyway always remember you're awesome and we love you!
Eating only boca chick patties for 8 months straight because no one is watching is meeeeeee
I live in the woods and I know multiple people who don’t have WiFi, live off their garden and hunted meat, heat their house with a wood stove and rarely have to pay for anything. My papa literally doesn’t even have a phone. It’s so weird for me to hear about the struggles of living alone in a City. Whack. I’ve never touched a thermostat in my life but boy can I build a really good fire
I’m also someone who literally can and will be fine without interacting with human beings for weeks on end so like.. idk
I love the woods. Where do you live? As in the state/country I mean
I know things I live in central vermont, people think new england is all about new york city but nah we in the north woods country. i live in probably one of the smallest towns in the US and we’re all just hippies and farmers lmao
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I've lived alone the last 2 years and it's been a dream come true. If you're curious about living alone, try it.
I currently live with two roommates and I can not imagine living alone. I love holding my roommates and myself accountable, getting us motivated, keeping to schedules, and what not. Living alone has never sounded appealing to me mostly because I am the type of person to love spending time alone but with people, like doing nothing with another human. If you ever feel like moving to a new city and starting a new life come to my town and room with me!
“Living alone suck” I’m over here wishing I could afford to live alone 😭
You look so stunning!
I can agree on so many points, I moved 4 hours from my family to go to university and i live alone in my apartment. Cool at first, but now i just find myself making mac and cheese in my underwear at 3 am feeling lonely. Oh well, life goes on! Sending positive thoughts your way 💙
So strange to hear such a different experience. Personally I hate having people in my house permanently. I grew up in a big family and i love having my privacy. When I had housemates I felt stressed all the time.
Now I tidy up the mess when someone comes over and if they stay for the weekend I am quite happy for them to leave after a few days. I would consider myself an extrovert funnily enough.
I feel like I have the opposite problem. I've lived alone for 5 years before I moved in with my boyfriend. I recently told him that I wasn't afraid of anything when I lived alone and he was like "what? EVERYTHING scares you" I feel like I was so much more independent and stronger when I lived on my own. I get the loneliness factor in living alone though.
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I relate so much! I'm an introvert.. or so I always thought. People can be draining to me and I like my alone time, but recently I went through a break up with the person I lived with and I was alone in this apartment in the city. Not only are break-ups and loss difficult but living alone was sooo tricky. I'd never been more sad and lonely and I found myself getting super attached to social media and desperately searching for people to spend time with. Good luck Quack
As much as I would love to live alone, it would make my depression way worse. I understand completely how you feel on all the topics you talked about.
Pixl Kitty Agreed.
Yes girl I hate living on my own... its so lonely and I literally have no money. Too bad I dont really have friends that want to be roommates, I just have my boyfriend. Us against the world I guess. And while he is my best friend, I miss being more financially stable and able to socialize outside of home.
Sarah Kay I'm in the exact same situation as you, and I feel the same way. I need more time with friends
same here!
i'm quite an introvert myself but i feel like i wouldn't want to live alone either because i'm so use to living with my parents. I wouldn't mind living with a few people who respect my space as i do theirs and have a nice communal experience. I'd love to be your roommate if i could Qck!
self motivation/discipline is deff the hardest but on the bright side you are learning about yourself and what you want your future to look like so that's good. Most ppl don't get the opportunity to live on their complete own (w/o roommates/partners etc), it's a good experience to have under your belt. Can't wait to see what you do w/your future in your life and on your channel =)
Hi Qcknd, I've been living on my own for the first time for a full year now too, and while I usually really enjoy it, this week has got me really down about the whole situation. When I saw this video of yours today, well let's just say I really needed to see this. Thanks and best of luck with everything!
My boyfriend works as an EMT working 24 hour shifts. I may live with my love, but I feel alone. I wake up and go to bed without him. Sometimes he's gone for a few weeks during hurricane season. It feels scary to be completely alone in a place with random neighbors who moving in and out.
Vanessa Bello my husband is a volunteer fireman he is not home alot, its crazy how living together we dont really see eachother too much. I also work 50 hrs a week right now
this is my biggest fear in moving in with my boyfriend who works long hours and half the time he works nights like im nervous to be alone
laurathezombiehunter it's even worse when it's night time when I'm trying to go to sleep. Every little sound scares the living hell out of me
thats my biggest feat because im moving out the state i wont have friends or family nearby it's worth it but im getting really nervous to be alone all night and i have no idea what i'd even do if somebody did break in
Vanessa Bello My husband is a firefighter/paramedic , so I can relate. I try to save any housework and chores for the days he works so I can keep myself busy. Although going to bed alone sucks, it makes me appreciate my time with him even more. Plus, I get the whole bed to myself, which can be nice. 😆 The hardest part is when I don't see him for a day and half because I leave for work before he gets home. I'm lucky though, as his station is a mile away, so I can stop by to see him if I need to, calls permitting.
I'm glad you made that point about allowing yourself to be lazier with nobody around to hold you accountable for giving in to your lazier tendencies. As someone who'll probably never get to live alone, I'm kind of sad about missing out on the experience, but I could also see myself having a lot of these issues. Hope you can find a happier living situation once your lease is up! (Lol @Ethan sniffing your candle around 13:50)
I lived alone for a year and a half, I just moved into a house with roommates this week. I can very much relate to you in this video, living alone made me extremely unmotivated. My place was always a mess and I wasted so much food. I spent all my energy trying to find activities outside of my house for social interaction. It was hard, but there were positives as well. Living with others again has been a really big transition. I have been having a hard week. I hope that I can adjust to this new environment soon because at the moment it feels like I wont thrive anywhere.
It’s so crazy how we live completely different lives and yet seem to go through such similar experiences. Was really nice getting a qcknd vid tonight tho, going through some rough stuff today and this channel is like a friend to me, makes me feel less alone
I can't even BEGIN to explain to you how much this resonates with me. Like you were literally talking about ME. Crazy how someone else's realisation can teach you do much about yourself. Thank you❤❤❤❤
Amanda you are absolutely glowing in this video and your makeup is killin it
I relate so much to being alone and feeling unmotivated. I spend a lot of time alone and thrive on that quiet time, but it also makes me so lazy and unmotivated. Can't believe it's almost been a year since you've been living by yourself. Proud of u!!!!!
I related to this so hard. I always thought living alone would be the dream... not having to deal with other people. Getting to do whatever I want, when I want. But I very quickly realized, once I was living alone, that it was horrible. For all the same reasons you did. I only lasted 6 months. I got in such a state of depression and laziness. I had no motivation. And you worded it perfect... "queen anti-social thrives most in a social setting"... that is so me, and I didn't even know until I lived alone.
I hope this year will bring new, wonderful, happy things to you, Amanda! ✌🏻
The laundry videos helped me solo much while I transitioned into staying with my bf at his cabin without basic immunities like hot water. So thanx so much for all that! Ur awesome!
I recommend fostering kittens if you’re up for it I think something like that can make your home feel more full of life. It’s possible even in a small space I recommend Kitten Lady on YT for more info on that
Kinda random but I’ve been thinking about it because I used to foster years ago and it’s great ((:
This is video is exactly what I needed. I feel the same exact way about living alone. I had both experiences(living alone and living with people) and I now know that living with other people makes me a better human being overall. I more happy, productive and emotionally stable when I live with other people. When I live alone, I waste a lot of time trying to look for social interactions and I think this is healthy because I would rather be doing more constructive things than keep searching for social interactions. I am currently living alone but I can't wait to move into a place with a roommate. Dealing with loneliness is one of the worst things anyone has to deal with. I think that human beings are social animals and although most people don't like admitting it, I know many people are struggling with loneliness. Thanks so much for sharing. I am just curious, did you get yourself a roommate?
Remember how heart breaking the interactions were in I Am Legend between Will Smith's characters and the mannequins?
I think you’re really brave for admitting this Amanda 💜 Especially since you were so vocal and open about moving into your own place. I really hope you find a solution to this that’ll make you the happiest you can be
GIRL the ad ended and you started and I was like DAMNNNNNNN! Girl, you're looking good! Love ya! :) Also I can't believe it's only been a year! I feel like it was yesterday you were in shock of how supportive your community was with the whole Amazon Wishlist thing. You've grown so much.
This video couldn't have come out at a better time. I moved out of my parent's house into a single bedroom apartment a week ago, and honestly I'm feeling everything you talked about. I thought I was gonna love living alone, but tbh it gets lonely fast, and the amount of human interaction I have is so minimal. It's fun at times and I like the privacy, but without any neighbors, roommates or friends around, the feeling of being alone is amplified times 100.
Just wanna start off by saying I admire you so much! It sucks to be alone all the time and be so stuck in your head because of the lack of outside interaction. Making the step from living with people to living alone is hard! However, at a certain point you kinda have to be your own hero and your own leader. You gotta tell yourself to get up and do the things you need to. In the end you’re the only person that is going to 100% care about you and your needs and about your hopes and dreams. It’s great that living on your own taught you about your weaknesses and I believe you can build from that because bad experiences are still experiences. I hope this all works out for you!
Wow. This is a great video. It articulated everything I’ve felt after moving out of a five person home to a two person apartment. Things I could never put my finger on but had a gut feeling about. Just a major decrease in social interaction and lack of routine. You are incredibly insightful. Never stop making videos !
13:50 HES SO WEIRD I LOVE HIM
I recently moved out of my house for college to a city an hour away from my hometown. Due to my very introverted nature, I’m always alone and it’s quite sad. I have dealt with these problems you touched on, and more. I wasn’t able to watch the entire video, sometimes I split up your videos and watch a bit when you first upload and then come back later on, usually when I’m working out. I love longer videos like these for that reason, they help hold me over until your next upload. Anyway, stay strong QCKND, I promise it gets better. There is strength in living by yourself, especially for people that are usually dependent on others.
Wow bless u qcknd for making me infinitely thankful for my 4 housemates and our shared space. I’ve never had anyone articulate so well why it is nice to live with people even when you’re an introvert who likes your privacy.
This is spot on. I live alone and I def feel you on being excited to see people you work with, eating WEIRD things alone...and just doing odd things. I do feel like there is less accountability. My good friend might move in and be my neighbor so hopefully that helps.
I was the same for all of uni because I always lived by myself. Also, living for the Ethan cameos always, especially when he ducks in to sniff the candle and then backs out of the frame ahaha
I resonate with this so much, I am a student living in a new town on a weird schedule and I live with my boyfriend who works very long days. Our schedules often conflict leaving me alone all day by myself. Being new to the area and having no friends here yet, I find myself having the same tendencies amplified as you discuss in your video, its super hard, I also need people and that ¨community¨ feel to motivate me!
I find this really relatable. With roommates I feel like the home isn't mine and same with my parents but i know that I can't live by myself. For me it came down to being really specific about my needs and living with only one other person. I also think this can go back to what you were talking about with life events and really trying to adjust to your situation and making ritual that makes you feel good.
I moved into a studio apartment when I was kicked out of my parents at 18 and when my lease was up I decided to get roommates, I lived with them in a house for 3 months and hated it so much I got so depressed and missed not being ashamed of my sedentary lifestyle in the comfort of my own apartment. I moved into an apartment by myself again last week and im so relieved. love you qcknd :-)
This perfect sums up how I have found living alone.
I have lived alone for the last several years and I'm only recently getting really on top of things and making it work.
I make plans to have people over often, so I'm social and also motivated to clean.
I'm setting a schedule for myself, making sure I get stuff done each week as needed. It's definitely a challenge.
I RELATE TO THIS SO MUCH. I've been pretty much on my own for about a year now too. Went from living w my 2 brothers and boyfriend and after my break up and shifting my living arrangements, I thought I was so pumped to be alone. No one to clean up after, no one to be annoyed w because of them being inconsiderate, etc. It was fun ar first, I gained A LOT of independence, took a lot of long looks in the mirror, and enjoyed the solitude to reflect on the troubles I had been facing. However, after awhile it got too quiet. So quiet. So lonely. I miss cleaning up the messes, I miss laughing w my brothers after getting home from a long day, and YES I MISS SHARING. I miss cooking for people, buying stuff for people and bringing it home for them, sharing my booze and coffee, my smokes or car. I MISS IT. I know exactly how you feel. I'm one lonely lil girl and I don't regret this time alone I've learned a lot about myself, but what I learned most is that I like being around people I love on a daily basis. I don't want to live alone ever again.
i lived alone for about a year back in 2015 and i had people come over ALL THE TIME, never spend a weekend alone and met friends after school often several times a week because living by your own can be really boring and sad. but i too learned a lot in this year and i don't regret it.
Omg this is the truest thing I've seen all week! It does really suck in most ways! And you feel alone like all of the time, opposed to only like half the time!
Great video! Even though I'm on the other spectrum, roommates haven't worked for me - these are all valid points to consider! We're here for the journey with youuu
Living alone is shit! It's lonely, expensive and not conducive to a happy life. We aren't designed to be on our own, thats why being in solitary environments scrambles the mind. Pets help but they're no substitute for human interaction. Rant over...
It's nteresting to hear the flipside of this. For me living by myself is the best thing I've done
This video really spoked to me. I've been living alone for the past two years, and I've realised that I dont really get along with myself :P Like you, I had this image of being alone and being able to do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted to, but its mostly me in bed watching youtube and eating pizza. And that's fun once a week, but two years is kinda enough. So now i'm moving in with my sister, and I think it'll be good to live with another human being again :)
You bring so much joy to my lifeee and this is one million percent relatable.
Some people are just meant to live in a communal setting. I'm the same way. I went from living in a 6-person roommate situation to a studio with just me & my cat. I thought I would love it, but it was so depressing. I would just wander my neighborhood out of boredom, and I spent so much time watching youtube videos (that's when I found your channel, tbh). Even now, living with just my significant other still doesn't feel quite the same. Sometimes I just sit in the living room like I'm waiting for something to happen, for more people to come in, to have an impromptu game night or watch a movie together or something like we used to do in my old house. It's a weird feeling.
You look amazing! You're amazing ❤❤❤
Edit: You're much more than that too though. I like listening to your voice while I'm folding clothes or just hanging out, it helps keep me productive. Thanks for sticking around.
I usually don't comment on UA-cam but I always enjoy your videos, that being said, I had to tell you that in this one, you seem to be absolutely glowing.
You're always entertaining, funny, informative and beautiful but in this video you seem to be, I don't know, for lack of a better term, owning it. Absolutely beautiful.
Thanks for doing what you do, Amanda.
Keep kickin' ass.
This video sums up exactly my feelings on living alone. I lived in a really horrible place in my first year at uni and now I'm in my second year and I live in a tiny studio flat and its some of saddest I've ever felt. Last year even though I didn't get on at all with my flatmates, my bedroom still felt like my home, I had that "coming home" feeling whenever I would get back from uni or a night out whereas this flat just feels like I'm living in a cupboard in a building on my own.
Welcome to my world sweetie, I've been unmotivated when I'm left alone my entire life. Thank goodness I have my husband and son, they are reason I actually get stuff done! 😆
DUDE I feel the exact same way. I personally know that I'm very co-dependent on others, and also introverted, and diagnosed with social anxiety, so I also work the same way where if I'm by myself, I won't get anything done. Like, I have to live with others to truly enjoy being by myself.
I totally relate to this video. I lived alone for a year and absolutely hated it. I didn't even buy furniture because I knew I wouldn't be living in that city for more than a year and I didn't want to have to deal with selling/giving away stuff. So I had this apartment all to myself that was totally empty. I just had a bed and a table. It was so awful. I've been living with my partner for over two years now, but we are about to be long-distance and I've realized that I will have to get a roommate because I hated living alone.
I relate to this so much. My boyfriend is at work for most of the day and the days where I’m not working I am literally alone for most of the day. I noticed how unmotivated I get too. You definitely aren’t alone with feeling like this!
I have had a similar experience since I have started living alone. I find that it's harder to make myself do certain things- especially the things I have never been good at. I thought maybe I would end up getting my act together but it turns out I got really good at sliding by. Hope your new housing set-up makes you happier :)
I moved into my first place alone a year ago too and I definitely feel all the same things you do. I could never put my figure on it but once you brought up some of the point you did it all started to make sense. I'm moving in with a new roommate in February so I hope both our new living situations work out for the best.
This honestly helped me. Moving by Fall and I've been thinking about living alone. Love your videos!!
you are GLOWING in this vid! Stunninggggg
Girl I know exactly what you mean! I’m such an anti social but I’ve found that I’m only productive when my roommate is in our apartment and sometimes when she goes away for the weekend I just turn into a lump until she gets back. Same thing would happen when I lived with my parents. If they went away for a week it was so much harder for me to motivate myself to do anything. I know now that I can never live alone and that’s not something I ever expected consider how much I love to BE alone.
I’ve been working 50-60 hour weeks and I live alone. Thank you for all of this.
Yes, yes, yes!! I lived alone for almost a year and it definitely wasn’t what I expected. That overwhelming feeling of knowing that ANYTHING that needs done, paid for, etc... that’s on you! 😳 On the other hand, it totally makes you look at community living differently, and makes you appreciated it more once you return to it! So maybe it’s a necessary evil to long term happiness! ✌️✌️
It's been almost 8 months living by myself AND I love it. I used to live with my mum, we had different schedules, so we would see each other at night or spend some time at weekends. I spend most of my Time out of the house. I guess I'm comfortable with being alone, I enjoy it. Sometimes it gets lonely but my friends live nearby so we meet pretty often, I enjoy their company but sometimes when they stay for a couple of days I just long to be by myself AND do nothing. I don't think I can live with another person after this experience, not anytime soon but I know that eventually I Will move out with someone. But next time It I'm getting a cat, I miss mine so bad, they are the best company ever. It is very important that you came into terms with your feelings, the good thing is that this Is not forever! Love u Qknd, keep being a badass 😘
After being homeless for two years, I finally got this reeeally small studio apartment, in i tiny village, more than two hours away from my hometown/friends. Most people here are really old, and I have no friends here. About once a month I go to my hometown to hang out with friends, but that gets so overwhelming. Earlier we could see each other a couple of hours every day, but now, when I'm visiting them, my friends always have this busy schedule of stuff we have to see and do while I'm in town, and it's exhauuuusting! Even though it's just for two or three nights. I don't know what I wanted so say exactly.. But I'm all by my self 28 days a month, without pets and friends, I'm happy to see a video about this.
Sometimes I take the train to the nearest city just to be around people, like in a mall. That is so sad haha
Yooo for real. I'm a college freshman and living on campus. My roommates have complete opposite schedules from mine, so during the week, I am essentially all alone. It's pretty garbage. On breaks, I have the entire house to myself most days of the week and I am just so goddamn lazy, it drives me crazy. You've made videos I relate to in the past, but this one hit home.
When I moved into my own apartment I talked to an older woman about it and she told me you figure out A LOT about yourself when you live alone.
Everything you talked about is so true when living alone.
My biggest problem was the anxiety.. I kept freaking out because if something happened to me.. Nobody was there to know immediately. It kind of started my health phobia. Which is now a huge problem for me... Even though I'm not alone anymore.
I can relate. Been living alone for years. No family, and friends are either moved away, dead, or married. In order to cope I frequent a bar walking distance from my home just so that I can see people and even talk to people on occasion. Unfortunately this led to me becoming an alcoholic and struggled with it for years.
I'm sorry it hasn't been the experience you hoped for, but watching ethan hang out at the window gives me liiiiiifffeee. get that fresh air boiiii
not many people talk about this, it’s super insightful! also, that lip color looks great on you ❤️
I moved out of my parent's house in August/September last year, and because I can't work ( I volunteer, but that's just a few hrs a week) I don't see many people and I feel alone a lot. Although I'm an introvert I feel like spending time with people is important to make the '(re)charging' period actually feel like it. In the beginning, I tried to reach out to friends every weekend and only one person came by a few times. My depression got really bad around that time.
Now I'm okay, I like living alone. It sucks that no one comes to visit but I like not having to make myself and my needs smaller to avoid confrontation with my family. The pressure to make everyone else happy by doing all the chores and not to speak up or ask for anything - is gone.
Off topic but I didn't get a notification for this vid, so when I went to hit the bell again I realized I had been unsubscribed!!! I freakin' love this girl so please everyone check to make sure you're still subscribed.
Love ya Mama Quack, I hope you find some rad roomates💕
Dogs are reeeeeel good at getting you of bed at 8am every day! It's been great adult training...says the 31yr old...
I can totally relate. I emigrated when I was 19 and I had to make it on my own in a new country. After I got my first flat alone, I was so excited. After a while I felt all the things you said.
For me, I learned how introverted I am when I began to live alone. Like you, I always found time to be alone when I loved in a big house. Now when I live by myself, I have to find time to be with people. Working 40hrs really helps too, as long as you like work and your co-workers. No rules rules
I love living alone, I live my extra life. My best friend lives 1 minute from my place so we do the same things as we do with roommates but with the benefit of having my own place.
Yes to all of this! I've lived on my own for about 3 years now, having been used to shared accommodation. Its tough! Yes, the personal space is great, but its like you said, those stolen moments of having the kitchen/bathroom to yourself are so much more satisfying than having infinite personal space. And the food waste, im right there with you on that. I've resorted to a meal box delivery, they deliver the portioned ingredients. Although flip side to that, lots of plastic waste. I'm a total introvert, and when i lived with room mates, i spent most of my time in my room, as did we all. but there were those moments when we would get together over a cuppa and catch up, or share a meal. We are a social species, no doubt! Im catching up on your videos, so maybe you have moved by now.
GURL. I am living for your look in this. At least you and Ethan have bonded even more c: