As a former women's shelter employee I can tell you this kind of stuff is in HIGH demand every year, can really bring a lot of holiday cheer to many families this year with a donation ❤
My parents separated when I was 4 years old, and now I am getting all the Christmas decor from my mum. Most of it was stuff they acquired in their married life, some was even wedding gifts. I really appreciate having those things even if they aren't together anymore. They have more meaning than that to me. I could see your kids in the future loving to have some of those sentimental things from you.
Yes! And as Cici gets older she would probably love to go through all that stuff like the Martha Steward things and star cookie cutters, I would have thought it was a gold mine at like 8 years old, all these bins of Christmas stuff to go through and be creative with.
I wouldn't keep all the things. As someone whose family keeps all things that have sentimental value, I would like a curated box of the most important special things from family. Instead of a house full. I think keeping the mickey tree for CC and maybe like those crystal ornaments Don got Jen every year is something I would keep for my child to have someday but the snoopy or anything not VERY special - nah
@@morganpoff4237 agree! Keeping everything can be overwhelming for both of them. I imagine this stuff figuratively weights on Jen as she explained she was sorta avoiding going though all the holiday boxes. Having this declutting process is something she needs as she continues to redefine her life after marriage. Also for CC it may be enough to have the really important things like the tree that was a symbol of her parents then love and marriage- which she was born out of, and maybe the yearly holiday cards.
It is not wasteful at all to donate it, I completely agree with you! Think off the blessings you are passing along, someone is going to be so glad to find that at a thrift store!
It doesn't have to be important to anyone but you. If it doesn't bring you joy and make you smile, it's OK to part with it. It's never easy to go through these kinds of things.
I had to pause the video and comment. From personal experience, as memories fade, so will the attachment to items attached to that marriage and holidays spent in that marriage. It’s not been that long since you’ve been separated. This is normal process of grieving which can come in many forms and it comes in waves. Give yourself time and perhaps hold onto one item from snoopy collection and revisit it in a couple months or after Christmas and see how you feel then.
Was also going to say the same. She has a basement and space. Keep everything and wait another year. If you have to think about it, you are not ready. This year has been emotional for all of us. Wait until next Christmas. You are still moving in, Covid. Wait one year until you are more settled and things are generally more normal.
I listened to your singing on Instagram last night, Jen. You really have a beautiful voice. I’ve been watching you for a decade and it’s so nice to see you come out of your shell in different ways.
Save them for Charlotte. I have so many memories of Christmas decor that I wish my mom saved for me. But she got rid of everything when my parents divorced. What I would give for them now.
Thats a lot of stuff to foist onto your daughters future. One or two memorable items, sure. But not all of it. Plus most of this stuff Charlotte hasn’t even seen, let alone created memories about.
I believe objects collect energy and emotion so it makes it difficult to get rid of some things. You could always get a new snoopy collectible that reminds you of your fresh new start. 🎄
You made a comment about this being a “downer” and I just wanted to say how much I appreciate the range and depth of emotions and human experience you have been willing to share lately. You can find 100 vlogmas videos with perfectly curated backdrops, expertly choreographed family activities with airbrushed smiles and matching jammies. It’s all very lovely but it sure isn’t the whole story. Right now...we need shared experience, empathy, and growth. What you do highlights all of this and more. Thank you and I hope you have a truly wonderful holiday season, whatever it may bring.
I think you can pass some things on to your children. My mom passed many things down to me from when my parents were still together and I appreciate that.
I have been following you for years and it is wild to see you come full circle with these items and memories. You have made so many emotional changes. Thank you for sharing. I know there are so many people who are going through the same experiences and can relate. A new world awaits
Just because others have it worse, doesn't mean it's not hard for you. Don't apologize. It's not silly. I think sorting through your holiday things is just part of the process. Part of your growth. ❤ Wishing a beautiful & peaceful holiday for you and yours, Jen! ❤
Get rid of all of it. I finally decided to get rid of every single bit of my Christmas decorations and start new. I'm so happy I did. I don't miss any of them and neither do my kids. I got all blue and silver stuff to use for a couple years then I'm going to donate it all and get black and white. No sentiment involved and it makes my life a lot easier.
This is my first holiday season divorced too. I'm getting rid of my department 56 village set. So many hard memories attached to those houses my ex gave me each year. I totally get it and validate those feelings you're having.
I totally get what you are talking about. I call it negative emotional clutter. I have talked about it several times on my channel. Anything that brings back something hurtful, depressing, negative, or just doesn't make me happy anymore, I let it go. It was SO HARD in the beginning. But, when those things walk out of my house and get a new home, it is so freeing. It brings me joy to know that they will get a home where people will love them.
The older i get the more i realize its just "stuff" - made in some factory far far away....your memories are still there if you have the object or not...do what makes you feel happy. I've been super purging for years now and for me i haven't felt like i've lost anything but i can relate to the other side of the coin also. thanks Jen for keeping it real.
You are so strong Jen and I love your perspective I’m talking through things.... no matter what stage in life you are in- everyone has so many of the same feelings and thoughts you have! Love your videos so much
I have to pause because I wish I could talk back to you. Lol. Get rid of the Snoopy. I completely understand what you’re saying. While you love it and it’s adorable-it’s time to create new memories with new things. Okay....back to vlog.
I definitely have memories attached to "things". This is the first year without my mother in law. Bringing out Christmas decorations and items she bought us was really hard for me. I can't imagine what you are going through. I remember the Mickey tree. I also remember a vlog way back when you were showing your Snoopy Christmas cookie jar and said it would be for your future children to have as an heirloom.
I totally understand. Sometimes it's best to give away so your heart can heal. And even though your feeling great, it's just a reminder and holidays are tough sometimes and filled with new and past emotions. And things are attached to that time frame.
Thank you for being so raw and sharing this vulnerable part of your life with us! Lots of us have watched you since the beginning, and care about you and your family so much! ♥️
I don't know. The "juvenile" things or the child-like things, or even the most sentimental, I might tuck away in a box again. Remaining out of sight and mind for you. The kids have been heavily introduced to Disney and all of those similar things. It would be nice for them to have a chance to have those things one day. Especially because it came from a different time for their parents. Whenever that is, you'd have more distance from these "things" but it could bring joy to the kids. I come from divorced parents when I was only 7. But I know that they were once very much in love. She passed away when I was 25 and I have absolutely nothing from the time that my parents were together and I feel like I'd love a part of their happy history, not just the one I grew up knowing. I know that if I saw videos like these of my mom purging, I'd want my hands on some of these things that once meant so much - like it's a piece of her/their history given to me. Just a different perspective before it's too late.
I wholeheartedly agree. So much. I get it. Hide things away for finds for the kids. God forbid, anything happens to you or your ex or whatever, these will be great treasures for CC or Donnie. Once you let them go, they can never come back. If you have the ability to keep them out of sight and mind for you, do so. They will never have memories of the two of you as a couple, but in their hearts "things" might tell them a story. What brings you pain now might help them or bring them joy one day. Tuck it away for yourself...but think 6 times before you toss things that might benefit the kids one day. All the best!
It’s an honor to be part of your daily life during this season. Thank you for taking us on your journey with you. It’s not a trivial thing to have to pack up a dead dream, or a dead memory. You do it with grace and honesty. ❤️
I love that you call your piano room the “ballroom” because it has no furniture and you dance in it! I love dancing at home and children love dancing! Great sense of humor and outlook.
110% relate to the moving out of things. They can carry significant memories. My whole year has brought so much change and I’ve disconnected with quite a few things to move forward more fully in my new life. You are growing. It’s a beautiful thing.
I TOTALLY understand your feelings about your Mickey tree and your Snoopy collectibles - holiday items ESPECIALLY touch my heart, sometimes in a lovely way, and sometimes it hurts. ❤️
Not every little thing during the holidays is happy and that's okay. Thanks for keeping it real. I'm in need of inspiration for the storage and organization of my seasonal items and am hoping you'll share with us when you get yours situated. Always glad to see your face--happy, somber, etc.😏
I applaud your transparency it is extremely relatable. I have never went through a divorce but I see and understand what you mean with the grief of your past life, memories, and relationships. Grief isn't always sad but its a sense of loss, that perhaps holidays will not look the same, maybe even for the better but it is still a sense of lose that comes with change no matter how good it is. Connecting memories with tangible things is also something I do with songs. I connect songs to certain points in my life and they envoke feelings. I enjoy you so much more Jen this feels like the person you were meant to be, easy on yourself, a free spirit and unapologetically YOU! Happy holidays.
If I were you I would use the Mickey Tree/Snoopy Tree in the kids rooms. The kids came out of the love that those tree represented regardless of whether Mom and Dad are together. Plus its Mickey/Snoopy you know they will love it :)
@@Joy-zf6cs didn’t know you were the comment police. She asked a question. Jen mentioned that she has stuff at the old house. I think everyone that is still here is here because we love and support Jen. So thanks for the snippy comment.
Hi Jen! Could you share the Xmas book collection you have for the kids, I’m interested in starting a collection for my toddler and baby. Happy holidays!
I too had to pause the video to comment. I FEEL this. I feel you. It's hard. I remember feeling exactly what you seem to be expressing when I went though my divorce. I had no interest in being back in that marriage but the stuff brought back feelings...really hard to describe feelings. I think for me it was the fact that those things were like moments frozen in time and in those times I was happy exactly where I was. Things change, people change and, looking back, those happy times are the things that sting the heart the hardest. Maybe allow those tangible reminders to help guide you through processing the feelings you're having and then decide if they should stay or go. My heart is with you. I hope this year brings you nothing but happiness.
Totally normal to feel how you feel! I was widowed 8 years ago and going through stuff is extremely emotional. Especially putting up ornaments. I got rid of some, kept some and bought some new ones. I go through the emotions every year. I'm starting my own traditions now. You will find your way, you already are! Nothing you get rid of cant' be replaced. It's just stuff. Even the most sentimental items at the end of the day are just stuff.
Oh I’m so glad you uploaded! I was in the midsts of a panic attack and this instantly distracted me and got me all cozy again. Thank you Jen for always being a light in this world
Ohh I just saw the part of you talking about the snoopy item. One time my therapist told me to make new memories and traditions with items I kind of like but hold old feelings. So I did and if it still didn’t feel right then out it goes
I think you’ve really done “the work”. It is totally understandable and “cleansing” to rid yourself from your “past life”. When you were first married, you were all about “homemaking” for your family of 2. It was just the 2 of you for a long time. A lot of these things that bring memories are part of that time in your life and that time is over. I think you’ve got the right idea to put some things aside and sleep on it. And you will make new memories for the kids now and savor those memories. No worries. I got a lot out of your discussion. I think you are very emotionally intelligent! Thanks for sharing!!!
Jen, I completely hear what you are saying. I too am recently divorced and so many "things" trigger my emotions. I connect with the "things" too and we have a heart and it hurts sometimes. Keep the things that make you happy or the kids. I got a new tree this year with new ornament to celebrate a new beginning for the kids and I. I love how you express and relate your emotions to us! Thank you!! Your helping me at least.
I used to be poor in my 20s, always looking forward to be able to buy me lovely things. Then in my 30s I did it and quite enjoyed it, I did the the decorating thing, the hosting thing, the crafting and gardening... in my 40s I realised I spent too much time organising, cleaning and caring for my stuff. Now I have only 1 seasonal decoration only in my living room! That's it! Sooooo good! Try it
Jen, my new favorite word is "pause" Is this decision essential to make now? I say put the questionable items away and rethink them next year and if not then the year after. Happy Holidays Jen!
I totally get how hard it is to go through things that have memories attached to them. My husband died six years ago and there are so many memories. I get started and I just can’t go on. So I get this!! You are doing good. Keep looking forward.
Jen had to stop the video to comment. I don't usually comment on videos but felt the need. Like many others have said the mickey tree and the snoopy stuff. I think would be best to visit at a later time. I may be more jaded because I also collected the lenox 2004 snoopy collection. The year my son was born. I also remember in a video you mentioned want to pass it down to your kids if you every had any. I remember because it was nice to see someone else with the same collection. I also collect lenox holiday and my husband buys it for me every year but l look at it as a gift and its mine. Its nice that he buys it but is what he knows I like. I would buy it myself and some I do. Hope that gives you maybe another perspective.
You said it’s wasteful for them not to be enjoyed - well said! You spurred my purging soul - I’m going to really be able to purge the holiday stuff this weekend. My husband died years ago and I still have some things that aren’t doing me any good. Thank you Jen🐘
So glad you are doing this video. I have so much stuff! It’s hard to know what to let go of. I’m always thinking... oh wait! I can use that someday lol. I’m also looking at better ways to organize and store.
I too am going through my holiday things and getting rid of some of it. I will have my own house in 2021 and will take some. The rest that I won't will be giving to the local Good Will because that it where I accumulated a great deal of my decor from. I gave my sister one of my 6ft trees, she was never into holidays until she had kids.
Thank you for being so real and honest in this video. I very much attach memories to items which is why I have a VERY hard time letting some stuff go. To echo some of what has been said below-if you're able to save some of the stuff for the kiddos when they get older and can have when they decorate their own houses.
I understand what you mean about emotional attachment to “things.” When my mom moved in with my sister after my dad died I was the one who cleared out most of the stuff in her house. I took some things but most of it I gave away. It was hard at the time and I second guessed myself but at the same time it felt good to move on from it. I have the good memories in my head and not cluttering my house.
It all makes total sense... Dont keep anything that gives you a heavy feeling in your new home... Keep the stuff that gives you happy vibes in your new happy space... It doesn't matter if you keep it all or get rid of it all as long as you are happy and have happy vibes... You have come such a long way threw out the years and yes I have been watching for years! Lol... You are doing great girl take it from a old lady! Lol
100% understand the connection of those holiday items to a previous time in your life when things were different and doesn’t feel quite right to bring them forward to a new chapter. Sleeping on it is a wise idea ❤️
Even though you like them I get the feeling they don't bring you joy when you see or hold them. They're still beautiful, and they're from another time that came with many gifts but I sense they aren't 'relevant' in your new, fresh and joyful home. Best of luck. I attach so much sentiment on holiday items too, so it must be so hard. I hope you find peace with what you choose to keep and let go.
I love seeing you so healthily and happily reflect on the memories and sentiments from the past brought to you by the items. I truly admire your approach to your new life and goals. Divorce is never the plan when you decide to marry someone, but I am so encouraged by how you (and Don seemingly) are navigating this life transition with each other and the kids. As a "child" of a divorce that was messy and heartbreaking, I see and applaud the healthy way you are navigating the holidays and the changes that are coming with it this year. Your babies are so blessed and will always know and feel your love!!! You, Charlotte, and Donny can start your own tradition/version of a "Mickey Tree" that you can attach new sentiments to as a mommy. :) Love you!
I 100% understand your heaviness on the things your keeping or not keeping. When I went through my Divorce I could not bring things in my house. Cuz it was my passed! I am so proud of you!! Keep being you.. love seeing you every day!!
I totally get the attachment to things. I was married only two years when we split & was big on Christmas ornaments the years we were together, special occasions, special places we went. It's still hard to unpack those ornmanents. I can't bring myself to get rid of them. This year I added them to our sons memory box where I put the things like family photos of all three of us that I want him to have one day. Much love and prayer to you!
Jen, I've hoped to see this video from you (both the purging of your seasonal decorations and hearing more from you about the changes in your life). Thanks for sharing - it was genuinely touching.
I’ve been watching your videos for a long time. Especially your past vlogmas videos, and I am so proud of you and the evolution you’ve had. You seemed lost for a while there, and and this video watching you work through the process of letting go in a healthy mature way made me want to say go you 👍🏼
I love this camera it makes everything look great to me. Keep some of those Lenox items for Charlotte. I would love to have had a fraction of what you had. I get why you don’t put up the Mickey tree I watched it for eight years at least now so I do get it.
Just because there is awful things going on in the world doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do all the things you do. It’s those things that make us feel sane. One day you won’t care so much about people coming for you in the comments. You are a very good person Jen. Great mother, great daughter and huge giver.
Your kids will love the things that they are used to seeing every year. Someone will definitely love the excess and will be happy to use. It’s great to clean out the excess:
I've been re-watching vlogidays from back 2012 as i love rewatchign them each year and was wondering when you were mentioning things if you still had them. I'm looking at all the martha stewart stuff at the start going i'll have that.
Jen, when I first saw your house tour with those Lenox Snoopy collectables I fell in love with them. It took me a while, but I finally found all the pieces (the candy dish was very hard to find). I remember you talking about them as you showed them, saying how much you adored them and that these were things you would love to pass down to any children you might have. I would hate to see you regret getting rid of those pieces. I have had similar feelings with items from a past relationship that I wasn't sure about when I eventually got married and moved all of my stuff. I packed some away that I was hesitant about, but after a couple years I was able to take them out and enjoy them. My advice is to keep them. Pack them away and see how you feel about them after more time has passed. I know you're trying to declutter, but you really did love those ornaments, and even though they were part of your married life, they really were mainly part of YOU. I'm sure your children would adore having those as they have families of their own in the future. I would wait before parting with them. Just my 2 cents. :)
I totally agree with letting go of stuff that we don't need, specially if somebody else can give it a second life ! it's a wonderfull feeling booth ways, as I shop a lot in recicled and second hand shops, I appreciate when I find something perfect and cheaper that it's newer version, and it's better for the environment, so win, win, win.
You did really well Jen! You have worked through such a huge transition. Everything you said makes sense to me! I also have several of those Martha Stewart treat containers- they are so cute but I think this year might be the year I acknowledge that I’m just not going to use them and set them free! You will feel so good when you bring out your decor next year and it is all things you love! 💕
Nothing is a waste....you bought it and it helped keep society running.......and now you are blessing another who can purchase it cheaper at some charity places or get it for free. The other day we mailed some packages at the post office and at UPS and while boxes going to family members across the country were up to 39.00 to send....I am happy to support the shipping services, it helps keep the country and world running and people employed. etc. That is how I look at things! Great job going thru' things Jenn. Happy Holidays !!
Jen, I get it! I am downsizing and it is hard and seems like it shouldn’t be! You are wonderful and thank you for sharing! I remember your UA-cam beginning, and you are a fluid human feeling forward and back as the feelings flow. Yeah! Vlogmas! 🤗
You have some beautiful built-ins in your family room. I would display those Snoopy items on those shelves and see how you feel as the months go. The kids will probably love them and their joy could change the way you view the items. BTW....I am so thrilled that you are doing Vlogmas. I have enjoyed all of your past years of Vlogmas and Vlogidays and it's nice to see a little glimpse into how you are spending this holiday season.
I am in the same place as far as buying goes. I decluttered stuff I never used in preparation for a move. It made me really think twice before I buy new stuff. I think it’s just part of growing. Also, if an item doesn’t bring you joy sell it or donate it. You have worked hard to move on. You don’t need something bringing you back to a place you chose to move on from. ❤️
As a former women's shelter employee I can tell you this kind of stuff is in HIGH demand every year, can really bring a lot of holiday cheer to many families this year with a donation ❤
My parents separated when I was 4 years old, and now I am getting all the Christmas decor from my mum. Most of it was stuff they acquired in their married life, some was even wedding gifts. I really appreciate having those things even if they aren't together anymore. They have more meaning than that to me. I could see your kids in the future loving to have some of those sentimental things from you.
Yes! And as Cici gets older she would probably love to go through all that stuff like the Martha Steward things and star cookie cutters, I would have thought it was a gold mine at like 8 years old, all these bins of Christmas stuff to go through and be creative with.
I wouldn't keep all the things. As someone whose family keeps all things that have sentimental value, I would like a curated box of the most important special things from family. Instead of a house full. I think keeping the mickey tree for CC and maybe like those crystal ornaments Don got Jen every year is something I would keep for my child to have someday but the snoopy or anything not VERY special - nah
@@morganpoff4237 agree! Keeping everything can be overwhelming for both of them. I imagine this stuff figuratively weights on Jen as she explained she was sorta avoiding going though all the holiday boxes. Having this declutting process is something she needs as she continues to redefine her life after marriage. Also for CC it may be enough to have the really important things like the tree that was a symbol of her parents then love and marriage- which she was born out of, and maybe the yearly holiday cards.
It is not wasteful at all to donate it, I completely agree with you! Think off the blessings you are passing along, someone is going to be so glad to find that at a thrift store!
It doesn't have to be important to anyone but you. If it doesn't bring you joy and make you smile, it's OK to part with it. It's never easy to go through these kinds of things.
I had to pause the video and comment. From personal experience, as memories fade, so will the attachment to items attached to that marriage and holidays spent in that marriage. It’s not been that long since you’ve been separated. This is normal process of grieving which can come in many forms and it comes in waves. Give yourself time and perhaps hold onto one item from snoopy collection and revisit it in a couple months or after Christmas and see how you feel then.
Well said... ❤️
Was also going to say the same. She has a basement and space. Keep everything and wait another year. If you have to think about it, you are not ready. This year has been emotional for all of us. Wait until next Christmas. You are still moving in, Covid. Wait one year until you are more settled and things are generally more normal.
I was thinking the same. Put Snoopy back in the box and revisit in a year or so.
Very well said.
I listened to your singing on Instagram last night, Jen. You really have a beautiful voice. I’ve been watching you for a decade and it’s so nice to see you come out of your shell in different ways.
Save them for Charlotte. I have so many memories of Christmas decor that I wish my mom saved for me. But she got rid of everything when my parents divorced. What I would give for them now.
I agree!
Thats a lot of stuff to foist onto your daughters future. One or two memorable items, sure. But not all of it. Plus most of this stuff Charlotte hasn’t even seen, let alone created memories about.
Makes total sense to have emotional attachments to “things” especially during the holidays. I think the kids would love the snoopy tree!!
I attach memories to things. I had to get rid of some things from some people that is no longer in my life because of the feelings attached to them.
You are comfortable sharing your raw side with the world,that itself means huge progress.Cheers. Keep up the spirit.
I believe objects collect energy and emotion so it makes it difficult to get rid of some things. You could always get a new snoopy collectible that reminds you of your fresh new start. 🎄
You made a comment about this being a “downer” and I just wanted to say how much I appreciate the range and depth of emotions and human experience you have been willing to share lately. You can find 100 vlogmas videos with perfectly curated backdrops, expertly choreographed family activities with airbrushed smiles and matching jammies. It’s all very lovely but it sure isn’t the whole story. Right now...we need shared experience, empathy, and growth. What you do highlights all of this and more. Thank you and I hope you have a truly wonderful holiday season, whatever it may bring.
Jen - random question... you used to save a roll of your favourite wrapping paper every year. Do you still do that? They would be fun to see!
The kids might like some of the stuff. Its part of the journey. Kinda like a wedding album.
Just stick in the garage and label dont look at till 2025.
I think you can pass some things on to your children. My mom passed many things down to me from when my parents were still together and I appreciate that.
This is true for me too!
I always loved that gingerbread spoon rest!
Thank you for your honesty, I too struggle to part with things that have memories attached - even if I want to let them go x
I have been following you for years and it is wild to see you come full circle with these items and memories. You have made so many emotional changes. Thank you for sharing. I know there are so many people who are going through the same experiences and can relate. A new world awaits
We appreciate your honesty and completely understand it. How about putting sentimental items away for the kiddos to enjoy as adults?
Are you will to sell.any cookie related items? I will buy them from you
Just because others have it worse, doesn't mean it's not hard for you. Don't apologize. It's not silly.
I think sorting through your holiday things is just part of the process. Part of your growth.
❤ Wishing a beautiful & peaceful holiday for you and yours, Jen! ❤
You’re cleansing your Christmas stuff and I’m beginning my hoarding phase of it lol. I want to deck my house out. I love watching your relaxing vlogs.
Get rid of all of it. I finally decided to get rid of every single bit of my Christmas decorations and start new. I'm so happy I did. I don't miss any of them and neither do my kids. I got all blue and silver stuff to use for a couple years then I'm going to donate it all and get black and white. No sentiment involved and it makes my life a lot easier.
Jen, you will party and celebrate again! So much of what you are unboxing is the you that me and my girls started watching you for!!
This is my first holiday season divorced too. I'm getting rid of my department 56 village set. So many hard memories attached to those houses my ex gave me each year. I totally get it and validate those feelings you're having.
Everything you were processing in regards to keeping items or letting them go made a lot of sense! Thank you for sharing :)
I totally get what you are talking about. I call it negative emotional clutter. I have talked about it several times on my channel. Anything that brings back something hurtful, depressing, negative, or just doesn't make me happy anymore, I let it go. It was SO HARD in the beginning. But, when those things walk out of my house and get a new home, it is so freeing. It brings me joy to know that they will get a home where people will love them.
I soooo get what you're talking about about things that you just can't have anymore or revisit because its just not part of the present.
The older i get the more i realize its just "stuff" - made in some factory far far away....your memories are still there if you have the object or not...do what makes you feel happy. I've been super purging for years now and for me i haven't felt like i've lost anything but i can relate to the other side of the coin also. thanks Jen for keeping it real.
You are so strong Jen and I love your perspective I’m talking through things.... no matter what stage in life you are in- everyone has so many of the same feelings and thoughts you have! Love your videos so much
I have to pause because I wish I could talk back to you. Lol. Get rid of the Snoopy. I completely understand what you’re saying. While you love it and it’s adorable-it’s time to create new memories with new things. Okay....back to vlog.
I definitely have memories attached to "things". This is the first year without my mother in law. Bringing out Christmas decorations and items she bought us was really hard for me. I can't imagine what you are going through. I remember the Mickey tree. I also remember a vlog way back when you were showing your Snoopy Christmas cookie jar and said it would be for your future children to have as an heirloom.
I totally understand. Sometimes it's best to give away so your heart can heal. And even though your feeling great, it's just a reminder and holidays are tough sometimes and filled with new and past emotions. And things are attached to that time frame.
Thank you for being so raw and sharing this vulnerable part of your life with us! Lots of us have watched you since the beginning, and care about you and your family so much! ♥️
I don't know. The "juvenile" things or the child-like things, or even the most sentimental, I might tuck away in a box again. Remaining out of sight and mind for you. The kids have been heavily introduced to Disney and all of those similar things. It would be nice for them to have a chance to have those things one day. Especially because it came from a different time for their parents. Whenever that is, you'd have more distance from these "things" but it could bring joy to the kids.
I come from divorced parents when I was only 7. But I know that they were once very much in love. She passed away when I was 25 and I have absolutely nothing from the time that my parents were together and I feel like I'd love a part of their happy history, not just the one I grew up knowing. I know that if I saw videos like these of my mom purging, I'd want my hands on some of these things that once meant so much - like it's a piece of her/their history given to me.
Just a different perspective before it's too late.
I wholeheartedly agree. So much. I get it. Hide things away for finds for the kids. God forbid, anything happens to you or your ex or whatever, these will be great treasures for CC or Donnie. Once you let them go, they can never come back. If you have the ability to keep them out of sight and mind for you, do so. They will never have memories of the two of you as a couple, but in their hearts "things" might tell them a story. What brings you pain now might help them or bring them joy one day. Tuck it away for yourself...but think 6 times before you toss things that might benefit the kids one day. All the best!
This! YES! ALL THE YES.
Really great advice.
It’s an honor to be part of your daily life during this season. Thank you for taking us on your journey with you. It’s not a trivial thing to have to pack up a dead dream, or a dead memory. You do it with grace and honesty. ❤️
I love that you call your piano room the “ballroom” because it has no furniture and you dance in it! I love dancing at home and children love dancing! Great sense of humor and outlook.
I totally understand. These items have memories attached and especially holiday things! You are not alone and you
make perfect sense.
We love you Jennifer! If your vlogs are fun, we are with you! If they are emotional, also we are with you!! Great job on the decluttering!! Loved it.
110% relate to the moving out of things. They can carry significant memories. My whole year has brought so much change and I’ve disconnected with quite a few things to move forward more fully in my new life. You are growing. It’s a beautiful thing.
I TOTALLY understand your feelings about your Mickey tree and your Snoopy collectibles - holiday items ESPECIALLY touch my heart, sometimes in a lovely way, and sometimes it hurts. ❤️
So glad you're doing vlog'mas again! And doing a great job too! Keep smiling and carry on Jen! The best is yet to come for you!
Not every little thing during the holidays is happy and that's okay. Thanks for keeping it real. I'm in need of inspiration for the storage and organization of my seasonal items and am hoping you'll share with us when you get yours situated. Always glad to see your face--happy, somber, etc.😏
I applaud your transparency it is extremely relatable. I have never went through a divorce but I see and understand what you mean with the grief of your past life, memories, and relationships. Grief isn't always sad but its a sense of loss, that perhaps holidays will not look the same, maybe even for the better but it is still a sense of lose that comes with change no matter how good it is. Connecting memories with tangible things is also something I do with songs. I connect songs to certain points in my life and they envoke feelings. I enjoy you so much more Jen this feels like the person you were meant to be, easy on yourself, a free spirit and unapologetically YOU! Happy holidays.
If I were you I would use the Mickey Tree/Snoopy Tree in the kids rooms. The kids came out of the love that those tree represented regardless of whether Mom and Dad are together. Plus its Mickey/Snoopy you know they will love it :)
When will you have all of your stuff out of the old house?
Why does she need to? Are you the new owner trying to move in? Chill
@@Joy-zf6cs didn’t know you were the comment police. She asked a question. Jen mentioned that she has stuff at the old house. I think everyone that is still here is here because we love and support Jen. So thanks for the snippy comment.
@@elisapetras8136 I don’t believe I replied to you .And not everyone here is here to support Jen . I’ve seen the comments .
Hi Jen! Could you share the Xmas book collection you have for the kids, I’m interested in starting a collection for my toddler and baby. Happy holidays!
Totally agree it's more wasteful to keep stuff you won't use. I have the same mindset and pass things on for others to use/enjoy.
Jen glad to hear you're feeling better! Cardio works every time, takes about a week to come back. so happy to hear!
Passing it along is the Christmas spirit!! Great job Jen!
I have a hard week emotionally! You want us to be real!
Your Vlogmas is helping to brighten my day! I think you look nice!
Thank you for being real!
I too had to pause the video to comment. I FEEL this. I feel you. It's hard. I remember feeling exactly what you seem to be expressing when I went though my divorce. I had no interest in being back in that marriage but the stuff brought back feelings...really hard to describe feelings. I think for me it was the fact that those things were like moments frozen in time and in those times I was happy exactly where I was. Things change, people change and, looking back, those happy times are the things that sting the heart the hardest. Maybe allow those tangible reminders to help guide you through processing the feelings you're having and then decide if they should stay or go. My heart is with you. I hope this year brings you nothing but happiness.
Completely understand. Purging can be very helpful in moving on, especially with holiday stuff. I’ve been there.
Anything that triggers emotion is good to let go off. There will be new memories and items you and your children pick.
Totally normal to feel how you feel! I was widowed 8 years ago and going through stuff is extremely emotional. Especially putting up ornaments. I got rid of some, kept some and bought some new ones. I go through the emotions every year. I'm starting my own traditions now. You will find your way, you already are! Nothing you get rid of cant' be replaced. It's just stuff. Even the most sentimental items at the end of the day are just stuff.
Oh I’m so glad you uploaded! I was in the midsts of a panic attack and this instantly distracted me and got me all cozy again. Thank you Jen for always being a light in this world
Ohh I just saw the part of you talking about the snoopy item. One time my therapist told me to make new memories and traditions with items I kind of like but hold old feelings. So I did and if it still didn’t feel right then out it goes
I think you’ve really done “the work”. It is totally understandable and “cleansing” to rid yourself from your “past life”. When you were first married, you were all about “homemaking” for your family of 2. It was just the 2 of you for a long time. A lot of these things that bring memories are part of that time in your life and that time is over. I think you’ve got the right idea to put some things aside and sleep on it. And you will make new memories for the kids now and savor those memories. No worries. I got a lot out of your discussion. I think you are very emotionally intelligent! Thanks for sharing!!!
Jen, I completely hear what you are saying. I too am recently divorced and so many "things" trigger my emotions. I connect with the "things" too and we have a heart and it hurts sometimes. Keep the things that make you happy or the kids. I got a new tree this year with new ornament to celebrate a new beginning for the kids and I. I love how you express and relate your emotions to us! Thank you!! Your helping me at least.
**raising glass** to new memories.
I used to be poor in my 20s, always looking forward to be able to buy me lovely things. Then in my 30s I did it and quite enjoyed it, I did the the decorating thing, the hosting thing, the crafting and gardening... in my 40s I realised I spent too much time organising, cleaning and caring for my stuff. Now I have only 1 seasonal decoration only in my living room! That's it! Sooooo good! Try it
Jen, my new favorite word is "pause" Is this decision essential to make now? I say put the questionable items away and rethink them next year and if not then the year after. Happy Holidays Jen!
I am so proud of you and the way that your vlog is so real. I appreciate your honesty. You are an inspiration!
Appreciate you being real. Every day has so much in it & we all need to be mindful of it. It all makes for a fabulous life!
I totally get how hard it is to go through things that have memories attached to them. My husband died six years ago and there are so many memories. I get started and I just can’t go on. So I get this!! You are doing good. Keep looking forward.
Jen had to stop the video to comment. I don't usually comment on videos but felt the need. Like many others have said the mickey tree and the snoopy stuff. I think would be best to visit at a later time. I may be more jaded because I also collected the lenox 2004 snoopy collection. The year my son was born. I also remember in a video you mentioned want to pass it down to your kids if you every had any. I remember because it was nice to see someone else with the same collection. I also collect lenox holiday and my husband buys it for me every year but l look at it as a gift and its mine. Its nice that he buys it but is what he knows I like. I would buy it myself and some I do. Hope that gives you maybe another perspective.
Really enjoying vlogmas sweetie. Onward and upwards as they say. Have a wonderful day. 👋👍🇨🇦
Definitely understand the memories in things. You need new things because you are going to be making wonderful new memories. 💙🎄
You said it’s wasteful for them not to be enjoyed - well said! You spurred my purging soul - I’m going to really be able to purge the holiday stuff this weekend. My husband died years ago and I still have some things that aren’t doing me any good. Thank you Jen🐘
One question; Does it spark joy?!?
So glad you are doing this video. I have so much stuff! It’s hard to know what to let go of. I’m always thinking... oh wait! I can use that someday lol. I’m also looking at better ways to organize and store.
I too am going through my holiday things and getting rid of some of it. I will have my own house in 2021 and will take some. The rest that I won't will be giving to the local Good Will because that it where I accumulated a great deal of my decor from. I gave my sister one of my 6ft trees, she was never into holidays until she had kids.
Thank you for being so real and honest in this video. I very much attach memories to items which is why I have a VERY hard time letting some stuff go. To echo some of what has been said below-if you're able to save some of the stuff for the kiddos when they get older and can have when they decorate their own houses.
I understand what you mean about emotional attachment to “things.” When my mom moved in with my sister after my dad died I was the one who cleared out most of the stuff in her house. I took some things but most of it I gave away. It was hard at the time and I second guessed myself but at the same time it felt good to move on from it.
I have the good memories in my head and not cluttering my house.
It all makes total sense... Dont keep anything that gives you a heavy feeling in your new home... Keep the stuff that gives you happy vibes in your new happy space... It doesn't matter if you keep it all or get rid of it all as long as you are happy and have happy vibes... You have come such a long way threw out the years and yes I have been watching for years! Lol... You are doing great girl take it from a old lady! Lol
100% understand the connection of those holiday items to a previous time in your life when things were different and doesn’t feel quite right to bring them forward to a new chapter. Sleeping on it is a wise idea ❤️
Loving that you’re doing vlogmas this year !! I’ve been following you for at least 7 years now and you’ll always be my favourite UA-camr ❤️
Even though you like them I get the feeling they don't bring you joy when you see or hold them. They're still beautiful, and they're from another time that came with many gifts but I sense they aren't 'relevant' in your new, fresh and joyful home. Best of luck. I attach so much sentiment on holiday items too, so it must be so hard. I hope you find peace with what you choose to keep and let go.
Aw you should put the lil skirt apron on CC when you guys bake! Would be fun to use some of the festive stuff in the kitchen :)
I love seeing you so healthily and happily reflect on the memories and sentiments from the past brought to you by the items. I truly admire your approach to your new life and goals. Divorce is never the plan when you decide to marry someone, but I am so encouraged by how you (and Don seemingly) are navigating this life transition with each other and the kids. As a "child" of a divorce that was messy and heartbreaking, I see and applaud the healthy way you are navigating the holidays and the changes that are coming with it this year. Your babies are so blessed and will always know and feel your love!!! You, Charlotte, and Donny can start your own tradition/version of a "Mickey Tree" that you can attach new sentiments to as a mommy. :) Love you!
I 100% understand your heaviness on the things your keeping or not keeping.
When I went through my Divorce I could not bring things in my house. Cuz it was my passed! I am so proud of you!! Keep being you.. love seeing you every day!!
I totally get the attachment to things. I was married only two years when we split & was big on Christmas ornaments the years we were together, special occasions, special places we went. It's still hard to unpack those ornmanents. I can't bring myself to get rid of them. This year I added them to our sons memory box where I put the things like family photos of all three of us that I want him to have one day. Much love and prayer to you!
Jen, I've hoped to see this video from you (both the purging of your seasonal decorations and hearing more from you about the changes in your life). Thanks for sharing - it was genuinely touching.
I’ve been watching your videos for a long time. Especially your past vlogmas videos, and I am so proud of you and the evolution you’ve had.
You seemed lost for a while there, and and this video watching you work through the process of letting go in a healthy mature way made me want to say go you 👍🏼
I love this camera it makes everything look great to me. Keep some of those Lenox items for Charlotte. I would love to have had a fraction of what you had. I get why you don’t put up the Mickey tree I watched it for eight years at least now so I do get it.
Just because there is awful things going on in the world doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do all the things you do. It’s those things that make us feel sane. One day you won’t care so much about people coming for you in the comments. You are a very good person Jen. Great mother, great daughter and huge giver.
Def save the kids a few things I’m sure they will cherish it. Have a wonderful holiday!
Your kids will love the things that they are used to seeing every year. Someone will definitely love the excess and will be happy to use. It’s great to clean out the excess:
I've been re-watching vlogidays from back 2012 as i love rewatchign them each year and was wondering when you were mentioning things if you still had them. I'm looking at all the martha stewart stuff at the start going i'll have that.
It can feel so freeing to let go of items that no longer serve you - I commend you for taking that step!
Jen, when I first saw your house tour with those Lenox Snoopy collectables I fell in love with them. It took me a while, but I finally found all the pieces (the candy dish was very hard to find). I remember you talking about them as you showed them, saying how much you adored them and that these were things you would love to pass down to any children you might have. I would hate to see you regret getting rid of those pieces. I have had similar feelings with items from a past relationship that I wasn't sure about when I eventually got married and moved all of my stuff. I packed some away that I was hesitant about, but after a couple years I was able to take them out and enjoy them. My advice is to keep them. Pack them away and see how you feel about them after more time has passed. I know you're trying to declutter, but you really did love those ornaments, and even though they were part of your married life, they really were mainly part of YOU. I'm sure your children would adore having those as they have families of their own in the future. I would wait before parting with them. Just my 2 cents. :)
You inspired me to do the same. So many things I purchased and never used but don’t want to just throw out. My trash can be some one else’s treasure.
I totally agree with letting go of stuff that we don't need, specially if somebody else can give it a second life ! it's a wonderfull feeling booth ways, as I shop a lot in recicled and second hand shops, I appreciate when I find something perfect and cheaper that it's newer version, and it's better for the environment, so win, win, win.
You did really well Jen! You have worked through such a huge transition. Everything you said makes sense to me! I also have several of those Martha Stewart treat containers- they are so cute but I think this year might be the year I acknowledge that I’m just not going to use them and set them free!
You will feel so good when you bring out your decor next year and it is all things you love! 💕
I think donations are a great way to give! Those things will have a great forever home and other families will get joy from your generosity!
It’s so hard going through materials attached with memories. My dad loves Snoopy. When I saw that beautiful figurine, it reminds me of him :)
If it was me I would save a few of the "emotional impact" items to pass on to your children someday. They will appreciate them and the story with it.
Nothing is a waste....you bought it and it helped keep society running.......and now you are blessing another who can purchase it cheaper at some charity places or get it for free. The other day we mailed some packages at the post office and at UPS and while boxes going to family members across the country were up to 39.00 to send....I am happy to support the shipping services, it helps keep the country and world running and people employed. etc. That is how I look at things! Great job going thru' things Jenn. Happy Holidays !!
Jen, I get it! I am downsizing and it is hard and seems like it shouldn’t be! You are wonderful and thank you for sharing! I remember your UA-cam beginning, and you are a fluid human feeling forward and back as the feelings flow. Yeah! Vlogmas! 🤗
For us old timers of your channel, those items bring memories!
You have some beautiful built-ins in your family room. I would display those Snoopy items on those shelves and see how you feel as the months go. The kids will probably love them and their joy could change the way you view the items. BTW....I am so thrilled that you are doing Vlogmas. I have enjoyed all of your past years of Vlogmas and Vlogidays and it's nice to see a little glimpse into how you are spending this holiday season.
I am in the same place as far as buying goes. I decluttered stuff I never used in preparation for a move. It made me really think twice before I buy new stuff. I think it’s just part of growing. Also, if an item doesn’t bring you joy sell it or donate it. You have worked hard to move on. You don’t need something bringing you back to a place you chose to move on from. ❤️