A Deathbed Epiphany + The Power of a Life Audit
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- Опубліковано 15 лип 2024
- Ever feel like, "this isn’t the life I signed up for?" Wondering if it’s OK to want a better life? Struggling to simplify while managing ADHD? Join Dawn and Dr. Leonaura Rhodes-a physician, counselor, coach, relationship strategist, and neurotherapist-as they discuss how to navigate unexpected life challenges, understand neurodiversity, embrace identity changes, and develop a clear strategy for creating the life you desire.
Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
1:29 I hated my “dream job.”
2:55 Unexpected life challenges
5:15 Death bed epiphany
6:05 This isn’t what I signed up for.
7:00 Simplifying with ADHD
8:20 Neurodiversity in kids
9:09 Object Permanence
9:53 “Your house is SO messy!”
10:55 Tips for those with ADHD
12:09 What’s in it for you?
13:28 You are NOT here to be a martyr.
14:20 “Women are REALLY selfish these days.”
17:30 Neurofeedback therapy
19:43 Mindfulness practice
24:04 Take identity inventory
25:18 We CAN want a better life for ourselves.
25:56 Invest 30 min a day in YOU!
26:30 Imagine, what would it be like to say no?
28:18 Identity changes
29:02 Do a “life audit.”
Resources Mentioned:
Beyond Soccer Mom by Leonaura Rhondes: amzn.to/3LeGuNp
About: Dr. Leonaura Rhodes has spent over 30 years helping people just create extraordinary lives on their terms. Her career began as a physician in the UK, then went on to become a counselor, coach, relationship strategist, and neurotherapist. She guides people who are committed to getting the most out of life, by helping them get clarity on the life they desire and help them create a solid strategy for change.
www.drleonaurarhodes.com/
Leonaura Rhodes on UA-cam: / @leonaurarhodes
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Thank you so much for listening and could I ask a favor? Would you mind subscribing? It helps UA-cam recommend this podcast to more friends. Thank you! Dawn
ABOUT THE MINIMAL MOM:
Hi, I'm Dawn, if we haven't met before, I'm married to Tom and we have four kids ages 8-13. We live outside of the Twin Cities in MN and have called ourselves minimalists for 8 years now. We got rid of 85% of our stuff and don't miss ANY OF IT!
If you'd like to see more instructional videos about minimalism and decluttering, be sure to check out my other channel @theminimalmom
I really like this video and appreciate that you are doing more than giving us tactics and strategies for dealing with clutter in our lives. It is obvious that you are doing a lot of research and study concerning "why" we are the way we are. I am 82 yo and would love for you to do a deep dive into Swedish death cleaning.
Love it when you interview Dr’s, psychiatrist, self-help people! If we are at a place in life where our home and our possessions are overwhelming us, there are unconscious, psychological reasons for it. If we figure out what is going on inside and address it, the outside of our lives will change.
26:25 Wow, Dawn, your thought experiment of imagining cutting out ALL commitments and only adding back in the things you truly WANT is GOLD!!!! 👏👏👏 Like hush your house but for life! 🤩 Would love to see Leonaura on again! 24:04 Doing a life audit recently about what I really want and what I do and don't like about my life helped me hone in on the goals and activities that have the most return on investment for me right now. Knowing what to prioritize is a major ADHD difficulty for me, and having clarity about what I want most and what ISN'T actually important to me has been both calming and energizing! 🌈🌿😃🍀💐
Thanks for this! ❤
I retired in the beginning of 2020 just as Covid and lockdowns hit. I’m still trying to recover and find out who I am. I was so tied up in my job identity. I feel kind of lost now! I do have goals. Just need to act on them - I’ve been doing well these last few weeks and starting to get my groove on I think. Great podcast!!!
I retired then also. Since simplifying things…very helpful in new goals.
Unrelated to this podcast, #1 Q I ask myself when decluttering: Where did this come from? If it was a gift, 8 times out of 10, I didn't choose it or ask for it so it's very easy to offload. "Where did this come from" helps me identify how it came into our house. I've received clothes from friends; so sweet but I didn't choose them. They weren't my color, etc. Easy to offload. "Where did this come from/How did it enter our house?" really helps dig deeper.
What a great idea! I'm definitely going to start this!
You have such great guests! Thank you for your work! Greetings from Austria, Alexandra
9:02 Lack of object permanence from ADHD is a HUGE contributor to my clutter and mess! It's like things stop existing the second I put them down! 😄 Luckily my brain and nervous system nonetheless feel MASSIVELY better when I put things away and declutter. Huzzah! 🌿😃🍀
I love her. I dont think i have ever heard from her before. I circle in the adhd wprld a lot. She is amazing. Great interview Dawn. She is spot on with everything she says. And many moms with ADHD are super over whelmed and over stimmulated and getting in a calmer state can be so hard or feels impossible because we are always so stressed.
"I'm not talking about getting your nails done" 😂
I love nature for mindfulness. It happens so easily there with the kids. And adults. Feeling leaves looking at flowers. Listening to water and feeling water and wind and grass and looking for rocks and bugs and clovers.
One way I’ve overcome the guilt on doing things for myself is including my daughter in “relaxing” hobbies she loves sitting down and working on puzzles with me and if one seeing or crocheting I find ways for her to help with the project or give her scraps she can “work” on her own. If I’m really overwhelmed we just sit and play with playdoh or fingerprints and follow up with a lavender bubble bath for her which helps me relax too small steps are ok to make the progress I think many times we forget we don’t need to make huge leaps
Super interesting guest today! 😊
Wow! Great conversation!
And, I am loving whomever is introducing and closing your videos now! Very professional addition to your encouraging platform!
God BLESS!
~Lyn W, Idaho USA 🎶
Your guest was delightful and so interesting to listen to !!!🎉
Dawn, this is absolutely an awesome interview! Such great information. Thanks so much!
What a fascinating interview. Thank you so much. This will be so helpful to me and my family as I continue to pursue and research Dr Rhodes and watch your future videos. It is life changing for sure. Thank you again for your love in wanting to help others.❤️
What a valuable video! This one is being saved and I'm going to watch it a couple more times and dive into her resources. Thank you, Dawn!
Loved this, Dawn❤
I love this Dawn! Thank you!❤
Those darn adds cut right in the middle of the exercise with our hands. Good interview.
Ergh. If UA-cam gave content providers control over when ads were placed, it would improve things.
The ad in the middle of the exercise for me said “welcome to menopause “ 🎉
Such a great guest! I’m a parent of a special needs daughter too and i’ve been following a similar path of decluttering and mindfulness. It has been monumentally life changing! 🍃
We have transitioned from a stressful life to one that is calm and relaxed. It’s been a lot of work and has taken about 3 years but it’s made all the difference for both of us.
My greatest wish is that everyone can discover this lifestyle and benefit from it. Thank you both for helping to get the word out!
So loved this❤
Really appreciated this podcast! As a mom of 5 with 3 nuerodiverse boys and Baby on the way I really appreciated the helpful tips and reminder that taking mom time is not selfish! We are looking to move soon and trying to take this change in environment as an opportunity to simplify our life and space even more. Thank you both!
Wow. I wonder if she was meant to be a doctor because if her own childrens future needs! I my self have kids with food sensitivities and i went to culinary school. I am always adjusting recipes and am not intimidated doing that. And we have had to do things from scratch. I also have a love for studying ADHD. I have it myself and my three kiddos have neurodiversities. 😊 Patenting definitely has effectes my knowlege and used skills i already had too.
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I have a question for Leonaura... when we were rubbing our hands together the friction of my fingers together was very unpleasant. very hard to tolerate. I wonder why
My niece with ADHD and mild autism has sensory issues that make certain physical sensations irritating to her.
As I've gotten older, I've noticed how different people experience touch. I will not buy a piece of clothing that is not either soft or silky, and it must be comfortable to wear. The same with furniture, sheets, towels, etc. Most people are more interested in fashion and the textures don't bother them. Rubbing my hands together doesn't bother me because I'm always cold and the heat feels good! 😅
@@MyFocusVaries that makes sense
I felt this way too. I had to stop because it felt so ick to me!
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