Someone did this to me once and I went to the server, paid my portion of the bill (with a huge tip for the inconvenience of him being sat there figuring out how to pay) and left him there. He messaged me later, angrily telling me that he had to sit there and wait an hour for a friend to come and pay his bill. Asked him how he thought that was any of my business and never spoke to him again. 🙄 He tried it.
How is it your fault that he came with no money and had to wait for a friend LOL. Reading these comments made me feel better but reminded me to never go outside and meet someone again. Guys don't want to chase us or court us anymore.
From a guy's perspective: she dodged a MAJOR bullet. him "forgetting" his wallet was already a big red flag, but him following her home and trying to touch her was straight stalker activity (this is where pepper spray might come in handy). in my admittedly limited dating experience, i almost always split the bill on dates. but on the few occasions where i did pay for the date, i never asked for the money back (even after getting ghosted). that makes you look broke AND petty. especially the fact that he paid her back and THEN asked for half back. i've never seen anything like that in my life LMAO
My boyfriend and I always split most things. Especially when dining out. 50/50 is how we split it. So it doesn't seem unfair, or that someone is overcompensating. Or being rude and cheap.
That’s scary af! I would’ve walked straight to the police station. “Oh yeah I just got to meet my uncle real quick like a promised so he’s expecting me already.”
No. The smart MOVE is to say Goodbye in front of the PUBLIC place. The date is over. Begin and end date with someone you met online...at the PUBLIC place you met.
@@crystalanamericaninsicily She said the date was over and told him she wanted to walk alone *two* times- he didn't listen. She even says he followed her from the "PUBLIC place" they were at. So given the circumstances, she did the right thing.
@@JourneyTheStars Yes and no. End the date at the PUBLIC place. If they say can I walk you...say No. If he insists BIG RED FLAG he's dangerous. So don't take chances. But any way she did EVERYTHING wrong. You don't meet a Man without having TWO...That's 2 conversations on the phone. No feeling. You don't meet!! What's the Rush to meet??
@@KellyStamps I feel like it was an investment. He made you pay, and when he saw that you did he thought "bingo!💰" now pay her back(the investment) "and when we get together she'll have the money to pay for what I want cuz we are ✨one✨."
I keep saying that women are too polite with these dusties. Asking basically what money you make? There's a need sometimes to be rude and say "get out of my face".
I had a guy act like he forgot his wallet at home and I said well hold on I have money in my car then I drove off 😂🤣 he called me later and said what happened I said what happened to your wallet
If this ever happens again, walk out as soon as he says he left his wallet home. Dusties are being financially supported using these scummy tactics. The rest of us are out here struggling to earn a salary while these dusties get money, food, clothes, housing etc from other people's hard work. No one needs to know what you do for a living or if you live with anyone. Men ask my living arrangements and now i ask "is that your business". Do not be afraid to be rude.
YEP, I was way too nice and I should've sprinted home in the 15 minutes I was waiting for him show. I really thought this would be a harmless walk for 1 hour. Never again. Someone above also noted that Bumble sets up women to get used. We make the first message and chase *them*.
Men like that who ask early like for a first date, “Do you live alone?” have bad intentions. They assume they can do hook up easier because a woman lives alone Edit: someone said maybe the guy just wants a couch to crash on. -----whaat? You will allow a stranger that you just met to go to your home to crash on the couch? Usually if you let those type of men go to your place, they'll make a move on you or will think you want something. very rare that they will just sleep on the couch
@@thouxan211 most guys understand why women protect themselves-- there are some real stalker like dudes out here-- reveal info once trust is established and that's it!
I think you met what is dubbed a “hobo-sexual” a person who typically uses online dating apps like tinder and bumble in hopes of finding a place to crash or a free meal.
If he would’ve really forgotten his wallet, he should’ve offered to Venmo on the spot. I think you’re too nice. I would’ve paid for my drink and left him with the bill.
I dont think its a huge deal to pay for the date even if its the dude who ask for it, you can be turned off and won't go again for him being irresponsible but not paying like 50$ is just being cheap.
@@possessorofgreatness7620 No. He was the one who suggested they eat something, so he will pay. The initial plan wasn't even to eat, so he should have been the one paying, or he shouldn't have offered they eat at all.
@@k.t.lorraine578 Yes. He clearly had no respect for her time. There’s nothing outlandish or disrespectful about saying, “Alright - I’m going to continue on my walk. I’d been looking forward to it. You have a great night and a lovely dinner. It was nice meeting you,” with a smile and going on about your night like you planned peacefully, and unbamboozled.
This is true 100 times because this is where we as women go wrong, when you see a 🚩 red flag you should stop immediately don’t take the conversation any further.
YEP. I'd rather be lonely than feed weird desperate guys from apps. I don't know anyone here so there's really no other way to mingle. I talk to my concierge guys but that's about it lol.
@@KellyStamps omg this made my day 🥰💗I’ve been watching your vids since your solo trip to Venice Italy video lol 😏 we should totally get tiramisu in meshy NYC together sometime
@@momonaturale his profile said he worked in finance and he's 28 lmao. Next time I'm brave enough to go outside I will request linked in and transcripts.
How many bad dates this girl gonna go on before she realizes her taste in men reflects a part of her. Something in me says she’s a psycho and lowkey enjoys chaos because content
@@millydelarosa5552 just calling it like I see it, I’m probably wrong but it’s something to think about. She has poor taste in men, what does that say about her? 🤷🏿♂️
@@Southforthewinter y blame her for the predatory things men do to her??? He followed her home when said no multiple times and u wanna say she’s doing it for clout.... wow🤡 the more important conversation is why do so many men feel comfortable doing shit like this to women
I hate that as women we feel bad for standing our ground, saying no, or even being rude to persistent men. We are too accommodating even when it’s at our own expense.
@@hgzmatt Reading comprehension is not your strong suit. I said rude to persistent men. 😐 no one should be made to feel bad about being rude to someone that doesn’t respect a woman’s right to say no, not interested, and leave me alone. Not going to play nice to someone that has no honor for boundaries.
Kelly please be careful the hobosexuals are in full bloom. It's getting cold in the city so they are trying to latch onto a woman for the winter. Also, please get comfortable lying in order to protect your boundaries.
Yes! Lying in order to protect yourself in such situations is absolutely necessary! I never did well with just being honest... sadly most men just are not able to process honesty. They can’t handle it and therefore want to make you feel miserable ... by either words or actions so be careful
now I'm confused why he wouldn't have just venmo'd you immediately if he genuinely "forgot" his wallet lmao this date sounded so strange, sorry you had to experience that!
Exactly.... What, a young person only pays with card? What about the phone, the watch.... Pure BS. This could have been a possibility in my time... Now... No excuse.
Well maybe he was getting a girl back for all the girls that have done that same trick on him. It’s a well known excuse to make the guy pay so he flipped it once lmao
My bestfriend and I regularly play pool at a hall/bar and if men ask to play a game or two we usually do. We had two drunk guys ask us once and when they realized we weren't going to leave with them, they took off. The server came to give us the bill and we both hadn't drank and there was 100 plus in booze. She said the guys said they were with us before leaving. I said oh, hell no. Before they took off, one of the men gave us their phone number so if we "changed our minds" we could stop by. I put the phone number into Facebook and it popped up his profile, photo and all lmao. I screen capped it, texted the guy the screen cap saying I gave his information and phone number to the waitress and that they had a day to come pay the bill or I'd leave the info with police. They came back to pay the next day. Scumm arses lol
This was so disturbing. You told him before you guys met up that you didn’t want to eat, but he had the nerve to not bring his wallet and then, tell you to order food when you’re not hungry AND make you pay for everything? I guess it’s cool that he paid you back, but why would he ask for half when he ate your fish and chips?! Such a creepy guy.
Yes, don't you love guys who think 50/50 is fair when they've eaten 75 percent of the meal and 3 drinks more than you? ...eyeroll.... And earn twice as much with minimal expenses... etc... etc... etc... Exactly how much money do any of these guys think you should spend $$$ to sleep with them?! Sex guaranteed not to be fun because he is pressuring you. ...more eyerolling...
@@marymary4093 You went deep and I feel you. No 50/50 anything. As soon as I hear that- I am OUT! My grandma used to say "A woman needs money to buy soap to was her a$$." Nothing has changed. PERIOD
When he requested to go eat after you clearly stated you weren’t interested in eating then I would have said, “You enjoy your meal and I’ll continue on with my evening walk.” The end. He is either very dismissive of anything you said or wanted, or he is dense. Consider this as an exercise in knowing how to smoothly bailout early.
"Do you live alone?" *avoids question" "So were your roommates excited....." HOLD UP. Nope. I'd be gone. Not only is that disrespectful to my choice of privacy, it's creepy and manipulative as HELL. Dude's up to NO good.
“This is why I stay at home where nothing ever happens.” This just sticks with me, because I feel like 2020 made me into an introvert even more. I don’t know, but I really am excited to watch the new Stampede video.💙
I'm old and probably old-fashioned. However, speaking generally, men are losing their ability to respect women. Your story supports my theory. He seems to be playing the system, looking for a physical event rather than a lasting relationship. There's no respect in that. He's not thinking about your personality or interests or whether or not your like tiramisu. Looking for intimacy before the relationship is backwards. The intimacy will never last if the relationship hasn't been developed first. I have actually worried that you might be lonely. Take care of yourself. So many UA-camrs get successful, and then their lives get messed up. Save your money, develop a career outside of UA-cam, give to a worthy cause. I'm happy for you, that you've had so much success. Your personality is so fun, and your humor so unique. You have inside of you what is needed to succeed at anything you choose. As far as relationships go, may I suggest getting involved in some group like you ice skating group. You'll find friendships within the group. You'll be more likely to find a relationship within the group of friends than online. For example, I went to a college where I knew no one. However, I joined the college marching band (nerd alert!) and I had an instant circle of friends. I eventually married one of those friends. And 37 years later, we're still in love. As I said, I'm old, and the dating landscape is totally different nowadays. However, building relationships hasn't changed that much. We are all still humans looking for someone to share our lives with, just as you said. Good luck and God bless!
At the restaurant after he tells you he "forgot" his wallet: You: "Excuse me server, could we have this on separate checks please?" Puts money down for just your portion. Looks at date, "sorry you forgot your wallet. Maybe they will let you wash dishes for your meal? Good luck with that. Buh-bye."
The fact that he kept pressuring her into eating out when she said she didn’t want to multiple times all while knowing he didn’t have his wallet on him is so messed up
I'm concerned honestly that the convo is mostly centered around the money issue- are we not gonna talk about the predatorial moves he pulled?? Trying to see if you live alone *multiple* times, REFUSING to let you walk home alone (I know you say it takes a bit for you to be assertive, but it was 100% clear enough), etc ??
the creepiness would've been fine if he had money. money is important, but I can't compromise my safety. I'm a very tiny woman. I'd pick a safe, peaceful middle class man over a 6 figure job demon any day.
Women keep bringing up the point that he's a dusty looking for a free meal but he was not dusty. He was a predator. This is disturbing. Him sending the money was a psychological tactic to try to have a way to still reach her. It's not the fact that he wanted to the money back. He needed to cause a reaction to stay in her energy.
@@MadiCakez yup. AKA Jezebel narcissistic spirit trying to latch onto and feed off of her. Specially while she's thriving. That's when they try to attack and create traumatic events in our lives. (When we're thriving and creating positivity and light through one way or another for others to enjoy too.)
@@alexandrasdrapetomaniacmin7186 The jezebel spirit is real. It is very powerful, unfortunately. This why we have to be so careful on who we tolerate or who we allow to have a seat at our table.
@@ScenicSha SAME! I once had a random man approach me at a market and ask me if I came alone. SUPER creeped out. I told him my bf was in the car and totally acted like it when I got in my car. FUUUUCKK THAAAAT.
I honestly think this was his plan all along. And he definitely had his wallet but wanted to gauge your pocket. What a rude, immature person. So glad I’m married. Meeting new people can be so exhausting
He did all that mess on purpose. This was just ridiculous. I believe that we should be equal in dating, but it really should be based on who asked who out. He probably knew that you were a successful UA-camr and his behavior was predatory, to say the least. Smart to walk into a different apartment he sounds like a total creeper. Opt for Zoom dates before meeting in person to wean out any low lives, then no one has to pay.
@@jameeldaya9840 dude he walked behind her following her after she specifically asked him not to walk her home. And the. Tried to kiss her after he made her pay for the date with a lame lie/excuse
IMO the person initiating the plans is responsible for taking care of the bill, or at least offering. However, I do think the man should usually step up and offer. In this case it made no sense for you to pay because you insisted that you didn’t even want to go eat, so the audacity of this man to willingly suggest dinner yet have no money is embarrassing for him! I’m so happy you responded to his Venmo request the way that you did😂😂
Mannnnn I once went on a date with a girl (she asked me out). And I think she got pissed because I wanted to split the bill. She did like the card trick and said like there was some problem with her bank or something, lmao. I also got pissed after that, lol. It wasn't even much tho.. maybe I'm not a gentleman but fk it
well, women will hardly ever initiate so 90% of the time it's going to be a guy. IMO, in 2020, either party should offer to split or pay without offense being taken by either party. Unfortunately, some women do this all the time. I've seen it happen, I've heard of it, and dare I say it, it's happened to me and almost every guy I know. A woman will get a sudden urge or need to eat out then conveniently develop an overwhelming interest to go to dinner with a guy then afterwards, they hardly know your name.
Him: I forgot my wallet. Me: No problem, I’ll handle it! *walks to waiter* “Split the check, I’m paying for my $10 meal” *leaves restaurant and leaves boy with HIS bill*
He's still a boy. A man would have made right to his wrong especially in the presence of a Queen. Your Tiramisu King is out there. Don't settle for anyone less.💕
These guys are testing the boundaries. This could have ended badly. When men constantly try to push when you say no its creepy. No, I don't want to eat, no, I don't want to go out to a restaurant, no I don't want you to walk me home. No.
I agree, probably a sociopath. It's really good she understood how messed up he is by the first date. A lot of us don't see/act on the signs right away. This could have gone sooo bad.
When he said the “I forgot my wallet” line. I immediately thought “we live in a generation of cash app, Venmo, payPal and Apple Pay. Thats no excuse!!! Lol
Us women have to stop being scared to be assertive . When we feel uncomfortable we need to leave at that moment . Standards and boundaries are necessary. Men know that we’re naturally vulnerable . Lesson learned .
👏🏼 yes! Learned way too late that I can just say stop it and back the fuck off and MOST guys will just back the fuck off. And if they don’t, it is totally okay to ask someone in the vicinity to help you out with their craziness. Once I learned that lesson, my life got much less stressful.
I'd love to challenge this. Not because I want to date you but because I believe on the contrary that it is the worst decision you could have made due it going against our nature as social animals. This is to generate conversations, not hatred or judgement 😘😘
@@borekstvorek technically, being in a relationship isn't a part of being social, but it's more selective and reclusive. For instance, I too choose to be single and celibate, and as a woman, it's truly better/best for me. On the other hand, I love limited social interaction b/c I have social anxiety and I'm a loner, but my soc anxiety doesn't have anything to do with my not wanting to be in a one-on-one romantic relationship. I think for men, however, being in a romantic relationship is a part of their social lives and it's not necessarily separate.
Kelly... when they ask what you do, without saying you make UA-cam videos just say “digital marketing” bc that’s what you do. Digital marketing for a company that’s affiliated with Google.
My advice as an old bag is....first come up with a vague generic definition for your occupation...you are easy find on line so you want to put up some smoke screens, protect your privacy as much as possible. Secondly have very defined rules for the first two to three meetings (not dates). Make it clear you will not be excepting any kind of offerings that put you in a position of having to repay the creep. When he earns your trust, mutually gifting or treating each other is part of a healthy and mutually beneficial relationship. Tread carefully...been there glad I’m not young and naive anymore. Stay safe! ❤️
@@KellyStamps you are not entitled to tell any guy what you do or earn on a first walk date. Just tell him you don’t feel like answering that question so soon, and find it weird :)
He sounds like a scammer. When he was asking too many questions, I would've gotten "sick" and ditch the date. Some people aren't mature enough to date.
Scammers never give money back. He was a predator. He had a plan and initiated the whole way through. He was in complete control of this date. He even walked her home. Who knows if he showed up to that apartment building.
@@MadiCakez Yes, he was creepy. When he kept asking her who she lived with, he was clearly up to no good. At that point I would have gotten ill and ditch the date because I wouldn't trust anyone who's so desperate to know my living situation. What made matters worse and sent everything into full creep mode in my opinion is when he tricked her into answering the very same question that she told him she was uncomfortable answering for safety reasons. Any normal person would have understood and respected her answer. The fact that he didn't is a red flag. He don't respect boundaries and he can't be trusted.
"Eating like a wombat" and "my heart fell into my arse"😆 This is why I've decided to get great pets, have a few quality friends and embrace singledom it's been so incredibly liberating!😊 Take care out there...
Sometimes, at the beginning of stories like this, I almost feel ashamed over the fact that I never make any effort to interact with/meet new people in any capacity. But eventually I start to realize how much I'm spoiling myself by not having to deal with the idiocy of humans lol. Like I can't believe the person in this story actually even exists in real life 😂
I can’t believe people like this exist either. She’s better than me because when he said he wanted to eat, I would have said, “Ok, go eat, I’m going for my walk like I said.” Everything after that, wouldn’t have even happened. My time is more important than some pushy stranger that eats like a wombat.
They have been trying that “I pretend I forgot my wallet to make sure she’s not a gold digger” trick forever. Fool, you have to HAVE some “gold” in order for someone to dig it! Trying to follow you home, trying to force a kiss, overpaying you later to try & “buy” your attention: Boy, byeeee! ✌🏽
Dating sucks now a days lol people just have a sense of entitlement and their are hella narcissist out here. Im old school i don't go on dates unless I have the money to spend and I personally don't mind spending it to get to know someone if it doesn't pan out thats ok because I don't feel the woman owes me anything.
I was dating a guy for like a month, I paid for most of our dates- he paid for fast food a few times. He had expensive taste when I'm the one paying... it was never a "normal" place. He never said thank you or seemed appreciative.... one night he suggested I come over and we go out on a date because he's hungry. HE suggested that we go to this Italian place he always wanted to try.... this dude was ordering double patron shots and everything, I was under the impression that he was treating ME for once.... the bill came and it was like $200... it sat at the table FOREVER.... til he said he forgot his wallet in his car. I was like "um ok...." kinda gave him the "well go get it vibe" the bill sat there for a long time again until he finally got up to go get it. I don't think he even left a tip. I decided to end things with him not because he was "broke" he was straight up hustling me.
You need to practice self love and set healthy boundaries. How do you allow someone to walk all over you like that? I'm appalled that not once but multiple times you paid - and on top of that he didn't even say thank you. And you allowed that to keep unfolding. Jeez. It's not dates you need hun, it's self love.
That type of behaviour is annoying on the surface but hints of more sinister things underneath. This dude I met online (as a friend) ended up being creepy as hell, I blocked him on everything but he still contacted me by sending money all the time which I kept refunding but it was a nightmare 😭 stay safe Kelly x
Good point & I think people need to bring this up: electronic payment transfers, when men “suddenly” claim they forgot their wallet. Payment transfer are common now.
the fact that having dinner was his idea and he knew he didn't have any money and already had in mind he'll pay next time...assuming that there would be a next time. This whole thing is mind boggling. So many things wrong
Sounds like this is his GAME! He spends ZERO money on food! BUMBLE FEEDS HIM! this video should be a PSA for unsuspecting singles in Boston! THE BOSTON BUMBLEBEE IS ON THE HUNT FOR HONEYYYY!
Two questions I don’t answer but am asked often by male strangers: 1) what do you do for a living 2) Do you live alone. If keep asking, it’s clear they don’t respect my boundaries and I shut down.
The simple act of him sending you money- is his acknowledgment that he was responsible for that meal- you provided a free option and he still chose the meal as an interaction between y’all - His ego just couldn’t let him let go of that 27 dollars tho - imagine all the other petty things that would seep out of this fool if he’s behaving like this with a stranger 🤦🏽♀️
@Cicuta Maculata His lying ass had his id. You can't walk around NYC without it - anything could happen - the cops could run up on you, you could be pushed in front of a train/bus, run over by some careless fool...the list is endless. Trust and believe he had his id AND his wallet - he just wanted to play her, and feel like he got over for the moment.
Yes, I agree. This was a part of his test. He wanted to see if he can get you to change your mind and unfortunately he was able too. Which is why he preceded with his nonsense. Take notice each request became more and more outlandish.
@@Ashleybmakingvideos I understand, I’ve been there before. The best way to handle it is just as op stated. If you need more examples Deb Cooper has an awesome channel with examples and bad ass vocabulary to back it up.
I actually had a first date with a girl that paid. She ask if I wanted to go get some food. I replied with no sorry, I have no money on me and I'm just getting off work from a new job. She ask if I ate today and said no I actually didn't and offer to buy me dinner. I was a lil shock but also I showed I appreciated the jester. We where in a relationship for 3 years. But yeah...you definitely was played hun...
@@ChloeLayneXO In the relationship? No...we argue a lot and I'm stubborn as they come. I'm very logical and not emotional. Just say she punched me in the face and I kicked her out on her ass.
@@ChloeLayneXO Oh this i know for a fact. She didn't respect me, and things was just gonna get worse. I gave her one chance and then I bailed. Because it would of ended up me in jail. I'm good
Girl I'll be asking him if he has his money and have him to check in front of me before going into restaurants. Or as soon as he said he was hungry I would have said I don't have money to buy anything but I'll set with you. Notice how he kept trying to get you to eat or drink. That was so you owed money on the bill and would feel responsible and pay some or all if something happens, like he forgot his wallet.
Eww that guy was a gold digger. From now on Kelly, when on bumble look at the men’s profile carefully! Look for a job title! Once on the phone, ask for their first and last name and google them to fact check before meeting them. Also when you go on a date, give his info to your friends for safety purposes. Please stop meeting up with these men right away. Make him wait a week and text/FaceTime to get to know him better.
This is why I only date within social circles. Uni, clubs, church, you name it. If I don't know someone who knows you then I can't vet you. And if I can't vet you then it's not happening my guy. No number, no social media, no dates. Nada. I also personally believe that first dates should be super casual. Go places where they expect you to pay first; food trucks, ice cream parlors, cake shops etc. Go to an arcade, urban art galleries, take a walk etc.
Men do this. I had a guy say he left his wallet AFTER eating. I paid for him and myself. I blocked him on everything and never spoke to him again. He made no attempt to pay for anything.
I don’t pay for food. I’m not sure why I would be expected to. Lol. I’ve never had these experiences, and I never will, because the men I date have careers and common sense.
if he had access to venmo... why did he not just pay you his half of the bill through venmo while y’all were at the table instead of waiting until after the fact eye-
Because he had no intention of paying for it lmao. I saw a thread on reddit, you know the type "mgtow". They were talking about how they were sick of dating because they had to pay for womens meals and that they should expect the woman to pay. If the woman doesn't pay, shes not worthy. Blows my mind, I always pay my half. Even if it offends the guy, no ones buying me crap so they can hold that over my head later lol
Something similar happened to me: I take him to a show I bought tix for, we go to dinner and his card is DECLINED. A couple days later he messages me to say he doesn’t thing we should have a second date. I say, “That’s cool.” This guy… he genuinely acts SURPRISED that I didn’t put up a fight… like I should have been upset or something 🤦🏽♀️
I'm supposed to go on my first date with a guy soon, I'm curious who pays , were 2 guys? I always did with gfs In the past. Now I'm with a guy I don't know, I'm hoping I won't see anyone I know there.
Someone did this to me once and I went to the server, paid my portion of the bill (with a huge tip for the inconvenience of him being sat there figuring out how to pay) and left him there. He messaged me later, angrily telling me that he had to sit there and wait an hour for a friend to come and pay his bill. Asked him how he thought that was any of my business and never spoke to him again. 🙄 He tried it.
WOW
How is it your fault that he came with no money and had to wait for a friend LOL. Reading these comments made me feel better but reminded me to never go outside and meet someone again. Guys don't want to chase us or court us anymore.
@@KellyStamps I have schizophrenia and I would like to smoke marijuana. Do you know something about marijuana? What to do? Can you help me?
The hardest drug I use is Ibuprofen, sorry mate.
@@KellyStamps thank you
From a guy's perspective: she dodged a MAJOR bullet. him "forgetting" his wallet was already a big red flag, but him following her home and trying to touch her was straight stalker activity (this is where pepper spray might come in handy). in my admittedly limited dating experience, i almost always split the bill on dates. but on the few occasions where i did pay for the date, i never asked for the money back (even after getting ghosted). that makes you look broke AND petty. especially the fact that he paid her back and THEN asked for half back. i've never seen anything like that in my life LMAO
Nicely said and nice hairstyle by the way
The asking for half of it back was psychotic behavior lmao like why didn’t you just give her $27 in the first place 🤣
My boyfriend and I always split most things. Especially when dining out. 50/50 is how we split it. So it doesn't seem unfair, or that someone is overcompensating. Or being rude and cheap.
Bum behavior we rebuke
as a guy myself... i agree with everything that you said. Also you pretty cool, you got a new subscriber
The fact that you told him that you want to walk home alone and he didn't respect that is so disturbing to me...
Same
A man would never let a girl walk home ALONE!! That’s so dangerous and risky tf
Yes!!! ❌‼️
Smart to enter the wrong building!!
I’d be like, do I need to call for help here?
That’s scary af! I would’ve walked straight to the police station. “Oh yeah I just got to meet my uncle real quick like a promised so he’s expecting me already.”
Ladies NEVER tell someone you live alone. Stalkers are real.
Im always staying with my brother and his wife and kids . . . until I can get my own place 😊
“I live w my parents”
@@khelix23 lol yes and "5 brothers"
@@Newmoon8 yesss!!
I think this is true I have attracted a few even in my own building 😑
He was pushing your boundaries various times and preying on your kindness which is a HUGE red flag. Smart move to walk to a different apartment.
Preying on her kindness? So everytime a man pays for your meal you are preying on his kindness? Or its ok because your a woman
@@daydreamer3637 Folks, I think we found him lurking in the comment section!!! It's this guy.
No. The smart MOVE is to say Goodbye in front of the PUBLIC place. The date is over. Begin and end date with someone you met online...at the PUBLIC place you met.
@@crystalanamericaninsicily She said the date was over and told him she wanted to walk alone *two* times- he didn't listen. She even says he followed her from the "PUBLIC place" they were at. So given the circumstances, she did the right thing.
@@JourneyTheStars Yes and no. End the date at the PUBLIC place. If they say can I walk you...say No. If he insists BIG RED FLAG he's dangerous. So don't take chances. But any way she did EVERYTHING wrong. You don't meet a Man without having TWO...That's 2 conversations on the phone. No feeling. You don't meet!! What's the Rush to meet??
It's time to expand your dating app bio with " 0 tolerance for you forgetting your wallet. I am Kelly Stamps, not Food Stamps"
LOLLL
I LOVE THIS!!
Lollllzzz, i almost screamed out loud at work.
Ha ha!
LOL!!!!!!
That wasn't a date Kelly. That dude was testing you. Exactly why he's single. Im glad he paid you back. But goodness. Thats horrific lol
I agree, he was just a whole MESS.
Playing games smh
@@KellyStamps I feel like it was an investment. He made you pay, and when he saw that you did he thought "bingo!💰" now pay her back(the investment) "and when we get together she'll have the money to pay for what I want cuz we are ✨one✨."
WhAt a p.r.ick
Dusty asf chile
this guy wasn't looking for a date. he was looking for a victim.
So many red flags. Everything he said was a red flag
@@abbyz13 i thought the same thing, but when you're in that moment it might be hard to see it because you also don't want to be disrespectful or mean
Exactly!! I was just about to comment “be careful” he definitely sounds like a predator
I keep saying that women are too polite with these dusties. Asking basically what money you make? There's a need sometimes to be rude and say "get out of my face".
he was def just looking for a meal.
I had a guy act like he forgot his wallet at home and I said well hold on I have money in my car then I drove off 😂🤣 he called me later and said what happened I said what happened to your wallet
Girl yes. I love this
😂😂😂
Dam can't be mad at you 😂
Gold.
@@SolarTTauri 😩🤣
CRUSTY!!!!! MUSTY!!! DUSTY!!!!
stop i can’t stop saying this because of u lol
hello sir I just came from your video...the TikTok one
I luv you
PERIOD
Mike!
Him: “I forgot my wallet”
Me: *goes to the “bathroom”
You deserve better, Kelly. Your tiramisu prince is out there.
Me: Yeah I’ll be right back I just need to run into the bathroom and then I’ll be ready to go. *Crawls out bathroom window
Have to hit him with "well I have enough money for my food..."
I would straight up just get up and go without saying a word
Tiramisu prince😂
@@AdorableMunster well duh she couldve went by herself but its a date she was invited to so he pays.
If this ever happens again, walk out as soon as he says he left his wallet home. Dusties are being financially supported using these scummy tactics. The rest of us are out here struggling to earn a salary while these dusties get money, food, clothes, housing etc from other people's hard work. No one needs to know what you do for a living or if you live with anyone. Men ask my living arrangements and now i ask "is that your business". Do not be afraid to be rude.
YEP, I was way too nice and I should've sprinted home in the 15 minutes I was waiting for him show. I really thought this would be a harmless walk for 1 hour. Never again. Someone above also noted that Bumble sets up women to get used. We make the first message and chase *them*.
Yes tell him that's a 3rd date question/ discussion, let's get to know one another 1st. 😃
@@KellyStamps oh my god I always thought that and everyone told me I was crazy BUT IT’S TOTALLY THAT!!!
@@KellyStamps Bumble is the worst app for women!! A true QUEEN never makes the first move or chases men! 🙌
Yes!! Never chase!
Men like that who ask early like for a first date, “Do you live alone?” have bad intentions. They assume they can do hook up easier because a woman lives alone
Edit: someone said maybe the guy just wants a couch to crash on.
-----whaat? You will allow a stranger that you just met to go to your home to crash on the couch? Usually if you let those type of men go to your place, they'll make a move on you or will think you want something. very rare that they will just sleep on the couch
Or they need a couch to crash on. 🤷🏾♀️
Yes thats right and? We usually say that cause we don't like you anymore than sex. But you know that OBVIOUSLY
@@passportbro904 that's not ok.
There is nothing wrong with lying to a stranger- especially to protect your identity-- you don't owe them anything
Always have a made up story!
What happen when you meet the guy of your dreams or some one you like and you told him all these lies?
@@thouxan211 You just tell him the truth! . . . 😂🤣 Its never been a problem. They understand why you lied to protect yourself . . .
@Kiska Min-Laan I hope you are black saying that
@@thouxan211 most guys understand why women protect themselves-- there are some real stalker like dudes out here-- reveal info once trust is established and that's it!
I think you met what is dubbed a “hobo-sexual” a person who typically uses online dating apps like tinder and bumble in hopes of finding a place to crash or a free meal.
Alquatica - yiiiiiiiikes... ewwww. But the name tickles me 😂
😂😂 I’m using this.
oh noooooooo
That’s exactly what I thought.
OMGoodness Things I've learned today
"It's not healthy for me to keep humping every single object in my apartment !" i screamed that part took me out!! LMAO!!!
I actually read the statement as she was saying it. That was dope...
LMFAOOOO
Yes, nice. Looked at your place also and subscribed. 👍🏾
I thought i was hearing stuff
Lol I said what did she say? Replay lol next time around had to let my husband hear it
If he would’ve really forgotten his wallet, he should’ve offered to Venmo on the spot. I think you’re too nice. I would’ve paid for my drink and left him with the bill.
Exactly, I would have paid for mine and left him there 😂
such a good point
I dont think its a huge deal to pay for the date even if its the dude who ask for it, you can be turned off and won't go again for him being irresponsible but not paying like 50$ is just being cheap.
@@possessorofgreatness7620 No. He was the one who suggested they eat something, so he will pay. The initial plan wasn't even to eat, so he should have been the one paying, or he shouldn't have offered they eat at all.
Red flag: he didn’t respect what you invited him to, which was a walk. No no no. Full stop there. Blocked.
ditto!
Totally.
This is such a good point! She invited him for a walk and he basically derailed her own plans.
@@k.t.lorraine578 Yes. He clearly had no respect for her time. There’s nothing outlandish or disrespectful about saying, “Alright - I’m going to continue on my walk. I’d been looking forward to it. You have a great night and a lovely dinner. It was nice meeting you,” with a smile and going on about your night like you planned peacefully, and unbamboozled.
This is true 100 times because this is where we as women go wrong, when you see a 🚩 red flag you should stop immediately don’t take the conversation any further.
I hate when men ask if I live alone. The way NY rent is set up the homelesssexuals are always trying to move in. Winter is coming!
i laughed so hard😂😂
💀
I don't live in new york, but I am caCLKLING
We call 'em hobosexuals in the South, but yes! Lol! ♡
That is exactly what they are doing. Some women even allow these dusties to live with them and dustycrusty will still go out on dates.
I’m always like “I’m so lonely” but then I watch these videos of men treating women like trash and I’m like “oh yeah that’s why”
YEP. I'd rather be lonely than feed weird desperate guys from apps. I don't know anyone here so there's really no other way to mingle. I talk to my concierge guys but that's about it lol.
@@KellyStamps omg this made my day 🥰💗I’ve been watching your vids since your solo trip to Venice Italy video lol 😏 we should totally get tiramisu in meshy NYC together sometime
@kellystamps Girl date UP! Someone who is on the same financial or higher level than you.
@@momonaturale his profile said he worked in finance and he's 28 lmao. Next time I'm brave enough to go outside I will request linked in and transcripts.
@@KellyStamps Not LinkedIn! 😭😭😭
A lot of these guys these days want a mama and not a girlfriend or wife anymore...too many dustys and that is any age which is truly sad.
@@venusbonjour9303 that is so true!
Notice women take 0 responsibility for the women they attract and date lol. That's how you end up lonely and bitter
@@lamar310 and a hit dog will holler. Let that marinate.
@@venusbonjour9303 thats what you get after feminism... submissive men, you asked for it, now step up, be their mamas
@@venusbonjour9303 Toxic masculinity detected. Lol
Lol... This story is mortifying. I am mortified
omgee hiii, nice to see you here (I♡ your vids!!)
AHHH CYDNEE! I LOVE YOU😽
Totally.
@ria rel Messy.
@ria rel I-
Disgusting. He charged you for a date he begged you for?
Men like this deserve nothing. Absolutely nothing.
How many bad dates this girl gonna go on before she realizes her taste in men reflects a part of her. Something in me says she’s a psycho and lowkey enjoys chaos because content
@@Southforthewinter that's a very judgmental thing to say, are u a phycologist?
@@millydelarosa5552 just calling it like I see it, I’m probably wrong but it’s something to think about. She has poor taste in men, what does that say about her? 🤷🏿♂️
@@Southforthewinter it says men are trash
@@Southforthewinter y blame her for the predatory things men do to her??? He followed her home when said no multiple times and u wanna say she’s doing it for clout.... wow🤡 the more important conversation is why do so many men feel comfortable doing shit like this to women
"If Michael Jackson is dead, still releasing hit songs and I can't get a text back from you" HAHAHAHA that was gold
This cracked me up so bad lmao
that line was hilarious
I hate that as women we feel bad for standing our ground, saying no, or even being rude to persistent men. We are too accommodating even when it’s at our own expense.
I feel this. Even being a married woman.
There is no excuse for being rude. It's good you hate it because we should all treat each other better. Always try and take the high road.
Don't worry, it's going to be alright nah fuck that. Men barely take the high road. I’m gonna be rude if I want 🤷🏾♀️
@@hgzmatt Reading comprehension is not your strong suit. I said rude to persistent men. 😐 no one should be made to feel bad about being rude to someone that doesn’t respect a woman’s right to say no, not interested, and leave me alone. Not going to play nice to someone that has no honor for boundaries.
Many times we HAVE to! An embarrassed man with a bruised ego can turn violent fast. Protect yourselves on all levels lovelies
Kelly please be careful the hobosexuals are in full bloom. It's getting cold in the city so they are trying to latch onto a woman for the winter. Also, please get comfortable lying in order to protect your boundaries.
Facts 😂
omg i died at hobosexuals 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yes! Lying in order to protect yourself in such situations is absolutely necessary! I never did well with just being honest... sadly most men just are not able to process honesty. They can’t handle it and therefore want to make you feel miserable ... by either words or actions so be careful
This 🖤👑
@@kswz7991 they don’t even deserve the truth 😂
now I'm confused why he wouldn't have just venmo'd you immediately if he genuinely "forgot" his wallet lmao this date sounded so strange, sorry you had to experience that!
Exactly.... What, a young person only pays with card? What about the phone, the watch.... Pure BS. This could have been a possibility in my time... Now... No excuse.
Venmo, apple pay, Google pay, cashapp even zelle
:00 im a fannn i cant believe i found one of your postsss!! 😆😆
Well maybe he was getting a girl back for all the girls that have done that same trick on him. It’s a well known excuse to make the guy pay so he flipped it once lmao
He wanted to see if I was the type to pay for everything and be ok with it lmao.
You fed the homeless, you did a great deed! 🤣🤣
That’s what I told myself after a bad date lmaooo. I pretended he wasn’t there and had myself a good time
That's exactly what he was, homeless or close to it...
That's what I was thinking when he wanted to know if she had roommates. 🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol!!!
My bestfriend and I regularly play pool at a hall/bar and if men ask to play a game or two we usually do. We had two drunk guys ask us once and when they realized we weren't going to leave with them, they took off. The server came to give us the bill and we both hadn't drank and there was 100 plus in booze. She said the guys said they were with us before leaving. I said oh, hell no. Before they took off, one of the men gave us their phone number so if we "changed our minds" we could stop by. I put the phone number into Facebook and it popped up his profile, photo and all lmao. I screen capped it, texted the guy the screen cap saying I gave his information and phone number to the waitress and that they had a day to come pay the bill or I'd leave the info with police. They came back to pay the next day. Scumm arses lol
Nice work lol x
Bravo my lady!
Unreal the scrubs that are out there.
Amazing work 😂😂👏👏👏👏
Smarty pants !! Good thinking
This was so disturbing. You told him before you guys met up that you didn’t want to eat, but he had the nerve to not bring his wallet and then, tell you to order food when you’re not hungry AND make you pay for everything? I guess it’s cool that he paid you back, but why would he ask for half when he ate your fish and chips?! Such a creepy guy.
Yes, don't you love guys who think 50/50 is fair when they've eaten 75 percent of the meal and 3 drinks more than you? ...eyeroll.... And earn twice as much with minimal expenses... etc... etc... etc... Exactly how much money do any of these guys think you should spend $$$ to sleep with them?! Sex guaranteed not to be fun because he is pressuring you. ...more eyerolling...
@@marymary4093 You went deep and I feel you. No 50/50 anything. As soon as I hear that- I am OUT! My grandma used to say "A woman needs money to buy soap to was her a$$." Nothing has changed. PERIOD
When he requested to go eat after you clearly stated you weren’t interested in eating then I would have said, “You enjoy your meal and I’ll continue on with my evening walk.” The end.
He is either very dismissive of anything you said or wanted, or he is dense. Consider this as an exercise in knowing how to smoothly bailout early.
Seriously some bad things could of happened
"Do you live alone?" *avoids question" "So were your roommates excited....." HOLD UP. Nope. I'd be gone. Not only is that disrespectful to my choice of privacy, it's creepy and manipulative as HELL. Dude's up to NO good.
“This is why I stay at home where nothing ever happens.” This just sticks with me, because I feel like 2020 made me into an introvert even more. I don’t know, but I really am excited to watch the new Stampede video.💙
Theres a difference between antisocial and introverts, I think people are glamorizing introvert so much and taking it to the extreme lol.
It's a wonderful quote from "Daria!"
Would you like to see my last video? Black mamba Male.ver.
@@Prince_the_One No ones glamorizing it, it’s just the way we are
@@KellyStamps I loved Daria, spoke sense.
I’d say “you left your wallet? That makes two of us”.
😂😂😂💯💯💯
😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lmfaooooooooooo I’m gonna do this if this happens to me
Run 🏃♀️
I'm old and probably old-fashioned. However, speaking generally, men are losing their ability to respect women. Your story supports my theory. He seems to be playing the system, looking for a physical event rather than a lasting relationship. There's no respect in that. He's not thinking about your personality or interests or whether or not your like tiramisu. Looking for intimacy before the relationship is backwards. The intimacy will never last if the relationship hasn't been developed first.
I have actually worried that you might be lonely. Take care of yourself. So many UA-camrs get successful, and then their lives get messed up. Save your money, develop a career outside of UA-cam, give to a worthy cause. I'm happy for you, that you've had so much success. Your personality is so fun, and your humor so unique. You have inside of you what is needed to succeed at anything you choose. As far as relationships go, may I suggest getting involved in some group like you ice skating group. You'll find friendships within the group. You'll be more likely to find a relationship within the group of friends than online. For example, I went to a college where I knew no one. However, I joined the college marching band (nerd alert!) and I had an instant circle of friends. I eventually married one of those friends. And 37 years later, we're still in love. As I said, I'm old, and the dating landscape is totally different nowadays. However, building relationships hasn't changed that much. We are all still humans looking for someone to share our lives with, just as you said.
Good luck and God bless!
Oh my gosh this comment is so cute... ❤️❤️❤️
This is probably the most sincere advice I’ve ever seen given in a UA-cam comment. I love it. God bless you 💗
such great advice...you are so kind!
I hope she sees this!! Such nice advice :))
This comment is so precious and true. It's wonderful advice. Thank you!
At the restaurant after he tells you he "forgot" his wallet:
You: "Excuse me server, could we have this on separate checks please?" Puts money down for just your portion. Looks at date, "sorry you forgot your wallet. Maybe they will let you wash dishes for your meal? Good luck with that. Buh-bye."
Have you ever used men for free meals?
This is so cleaver!!
@@j.daniels1548 no lol
@@j.daniels1548 A lot of them use us just so they can see, a beautifully, well dressed, nice smelling woman for free then also expects us to pay half.
@@nikkinanette8807 So you don’t believe in equality? I thought that is what feminism was about? What’s wrong with you paying?
You did nothing wrong. The fact that he had the audacity to go out without his wallet is just plain stupidity
true. which means he had no ID of who he was (?)
The fact that he kept pressuring her into eating out when she said she didn’t want to multiple times all while knowing he didn’t have his wallet on him is so messed up
He wanted a FREE meal 🍱
It was probably intentional
Plus like? I swear everyone of this age has a payment card on their phone
I'm concerned honestly that the convo is mostly centered around the money issue- are we not gonna talk about the predatorial moves he pulled?? Trying to see if you live alone *multiple* times, REFUSING to let you walk home alone (I know you say it takes a bit for you to be assertive, but it was 100% clear enough), etc ??
the creepiness would've been fine if he had money.
money is important, but I can't compromise my safety. I'm a very tiny woman. I'd pick a safe, peaceful middle class man over a 6 figure job demon any day.
THANK YOU!!! I was thinking the same thing!!!
Women keep bringing up the point that he's a dusty looking for a free meal but he was not dusty. He was a predator. This is disturbing. Him sending the money was a psychological tactic to try to have a way to still reach her. It's not the fact that he wanted to the money back. He needed to cause a reaction to stay in her energy.
@@MadiCakez yup. AKA Jezebel narcissistic spirit trying to latch onto and feed off of her. Specially while she's thriving. That's when they try to attack and create traumatic events in our lives. (When we're thriving and creating positivity and light through one way or another for others to enjoy too.)
@@alexandrasdrapetomaniacmin7186 The jezebel spirit is real. It is very powerful, unfortunately. This why we have to be so careful on who we tolerate or who we allow to have a seat at our table.
My answer when men ask if I live alone is “Why, do you need a place to live?”
That’s weird af .
That was my thought. He was looking for a place to stay.
🤣
LMAOOO ima steal this!
@@chiclysoignebonviveur and a free meal! 😣
Never tell someone you live alone because they’ll only take advantage of that
Yep now I know! I tell people I'm a student living with parents now
@@KellyStamps 😭
@@KellyStamps Don't give out your real name, age, address, vehicle info, school or job info. It's open season on BW. Less is more.
@@KellyStamps this is a good idea
This is true. I agree!
Kelly: "I don't have any roommates. I live alone."
Me watching: "Girl, NOooOoOoOoO!!"
Yea, I got a little concerned there too. I always tell strange men that I live with family 🤣🤣
@@ScenicSha SAME! I once had a random man approach me at a market and ask me if I came alone. SUPER creeped out. I told him my bf was in the car and totally acted like it when I got in my car. FUUUUCKK THAAAAT.
I live with my Dad, 2 brothers and 4 pit bulls. My Dad is paranoid from the Army so he has like 50 guns and video surveillance outside. 💯💯💯
Girl I was nervous when she said that 😩
@@DreyOfTheDead I've definitely faked a boyfriend waiting on me to get away. It's sad that we have to resort to these shenanigans!
I honestly think this was his plan all along. And he definitely had his wallet but wanted to gauge your pocket. What a rude, immature person. So glad I’m married. Meeting new people can be so exhausting
Yesss
Yeahhhh😩😩😩
Yup! People are crazy.
Is it just me or the new generation is different now? Things have changes ?
Preach!
He did all that mess on purpose. This was just ridiculous. I believe that we should be equal in dating, but it really should be based on who asked who out. He probably knew that you were a successful UA-camr and his behavior was predatory, to say the least. Smart to walk into a different apartment he sounds like a total creeper. Opt for Zoom dates before meeting in person to wean out any low lives, then no one has to pay.
What is the likelihood of a woman asking a man out this comment is disingenuous
A. Inai - often enough. It’s 2020.
Zoom dates is smart
That was a predator, they never respect boundaries.
How do u know he was a predator, u never met him before so don't judge someone wen u have never met em.
@@jameeldaya9840 that’s what predator would say
@@vvvv7040 wat can u read their minds now.
@@jameeldaya9840 Dude where is your logic?? He probably was a predator i mean have you met your gender? Always better safe than sorry ALWAYS!
@@jameeldaya9840 dude he walked behind her following her after she specifically asked him not to walk her home. And the. Tried to kiss her after he made her pay for the date with a lame lie/excuse
IMO the person initiating the plans is responsible for taking care of the bill, or at least offering. However, I do think the man should usually step up and offer. In this case it made no sense for you to pay because you insisted that you didn’t even want to go eat, so the audacity of this man to willingly suggest dinner yet have no money is embarrassing for him! I’m so happy you responded to his Venmo request the way that you did😂😂
ALSO..You clearly told him you weren’t hungry and you wanted to go for a walk, so why did he show up on an empty stomach😭🤦🏽♀️ men.
Agreed
Mannnnn I once went on a date with a girl (she asked me out). And I think she got pissed because I wanted to split the bill. She did like the card trick and said like there was some problem with her bank or something, lmao. I also got pissed after that, lol. It wasn't even much tho.. maybe I'm not a gentleman but fk it
well, women will hardly ever initiate so 90% of the time it's going to be a guy. IMO, in 2020, either party should offer to split or pay without offense being taken by either party. Unfortunately, some women do this all the time. I've seen it happen, I've heard of it, and dare I say it, it's happened to me and almost every guy I know. A woman will get a sudden urge or need to eat out then conveniently develop an overwhelming interest to go to dinner with a guy then afterwards, they hardly know your name.
@@iwill6002 Yeah you should always split the bill. It shouldn't be on the man. The dude in the video does sound like a schmuck though
Him: I forgot my wallet.
Me: No problem, I’ll handle it! *walks to waiter* “Split the check, I’m paying for my $10 meal” *leaves restaurant and leaves boy with HIS bill*
On GodT! 🙌🏾
No word of a lie‼️
Brilliant
Yes. Just yes
Ikr. Go Dutch
He's still a boy. A man would have made right to his wrong especially in the presence of a Queen. Your Tiramisu King is out there. Don't settle for anyone less.💕
I shall be patient and meet someone organically when it's warm again
@@KellyStamps Isn't that the dream in 2020 to meet someone organically in our manufactured society T.T
@@KellyStamps this
These guys are testing the boundaries. This could have ended badly. When men constantly try to push when you say no its creepy. No, I don't want to eat, no, I don't want to go out to a restaurant, no I don't want you to walk me home. No.
It's only creepy when there is no chemistry.
Uhhh no, creepy is creepy. a user is a user.
@@bennoreuter4393 To some yes. To most, no.
I agree, probably a sociopath. It's really good she understood how messed up he is by the first date. A lot of us don't see/act on the signs right away. This could have gone sooo bad.
Yup
I would have said, "fuck, I forgot mine too!" 😳
Great! 🤣👏👏👏
LOLOL right! 🤣🤣🤣
Perfect 😂😂😂
I’m deaddddd!!!!
SAME girl :D
When he said the “I forgot my wallet” line. I immediately thought “we live in a generation of cash app, Venmo, payPal and Apple Pay. Thats no excuse!!! Lol
Us women have to stop being scared to be assertive . When we feel uncomfortable we need to leave at that moment . Standards and boundaries are necessary. Men know that we’re naturally vulnerable . Lesson learned .
This!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
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👏🏼 yes! Learned way too late that I can just say stop it and back the fuck off and MOST guys will just back the fuck off. And if they don’t, it is totally okay to ask someone in the vicinity to help you out with their craziness. Once I learned that lesson, my life got much less stressful.
THANK YOU AND STOP TRYING TO BE NICE!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@momonaturale we be trying to protect ourselves by being nice but ultimately making things worse .
That’s why I’m single and celibate sis. Best decision i ever made
This
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I'd love to challenge this. Not because I want to date you but because I believe on the contrary that it is the worst decision you could have made due it going against our nature as social animals.
This is to generate conversations, not hatred or judgement 😘😘
@@borekstvorek technically, being in a relationship isn't a part of being social, but it's more selective and reclusive. For instance, I too choose to be single and celibate, and as a woman, it's truly better/best for me. On the other hand, I love limited social interaction b/c I have social anxiety and I'm a loner, but my soc anxiety doesn't have anything to do with my not wanting to be in a one-on-one romantic relationship. I think for men, however, being in a romantic relationship is a part of their social lives and it's not necessarily separate.
@@borekstvorek not everybody enjoys being "social". Some people feel less need to socialise. Introverts
Kelly... when they ask what you do, without saying you make UA-cam videos just say “digital marketing” bc that’s what you do. Digital marketing for a company that’s affiliated with Google.
@April_Spring2015 😂😂😂I love that
That's a good one. I work from home on the computer as well. It sounds more professional.
My advice as an old bag is....first come up with a vague generic definition for your occupation...you are easy find on line so you want to put up some smoke screens, protect your privacy as much as possible. Secondly have very defined rules for the first two to three meetings (not dates). Make it clear you will not be excepting any kind of offerings that put you in a position of having to repay the creep. When he earns your trust, mutually gifting or treating each other is part of a healthy and mutually beneficial relationship. Tread carefully...been there glad I’m not young and naive anymore. Stay safe! ❤️
Thank you!
Excellent advice. Either social network under an alias or date under one.
Excellent advice, tysm!
@@KellyStamps you are not entitled to tell any guy what you do or earn on a first walk date. Just tell him you don’t feel like answering that question so soon, and find it weird :)
Good advice❤️
He sounds like a scammer. When he was asking too many questions, I would've gotten "sick" and ditch the date. Some people aren't mature enough to date.
Scammers never give money back. He was a predator. He had a plan and initiated the whole way through. He was in complete control of this date. He even walked her home. Who knows if he showed up to that apartment building.
@@MadiCakez Yes, he was creepy. When he kept asking her who she lived with, he was clearly up to no good. At that point I would have gotten ill and ditch the date because I wouldn't trust anyone who's so desperate to know my living situation. What made matters worse and sent everything into full creep mode in my opinion is when he tricked her into answering the very same question that she told him she was uncomfortable answering for safety reasons. Any normal person would have understood and respected her answer. The fact that he didn't is a red flag. He don't respect boundaries and he can't be trusted.
@Kiska Min-Laan He is running a scam and he's creepy.
Why yall beliveing her biased side of the story. Judging without knowing the unbiased context.
@@youarebeautiful3191 Explain how her story is biased. I'll wait. Based on his actions he's proven he is not dateable and he can't be trusted.
"Eating like a wombat" and "my heart fell into my arse"😆 This is why I've decided to get great pets, have a few quality friends and embrace singledom it's been so incredibly liberating!😊 Take care out there...
Sounds like he was trying to see if you were a gold digger for the money he doesn't have
Oh my goodness 😂
Fa real
He shouldn’t be dating if he can’t afford to. Get your shit together an then date.
Not on our watch!
@@Powerofprosperity Dating isn't all about affording materialism or fancy dates lol. Genuine women wouldn't care about that at all.
Sometimes, at the beginning of stories like this, I almost feel ashamed over the fact that I never make any effort to interact with/meet new people in any capacity. But eventually I start to realize how much I'm spoiling myself by not having to deal with the idiocy of humans lol. Like I can't believe the person in this story actually even exists in real life 😂
😂😂😂 DO NOT do online. I deleted my account after this.
I can’t believe people like this exist either. She’s better than me because when he said he wanted to eat, I would have said, “Ok, go eat, I’m going for my walk like I said.” Everything after that, wouldn’t have even happened. My time is more important than some pushy stranger that eats like a wombat.
I typed my initial comment for nothing. It wasn't supposed to be in response to your comment but the video 🤦🏽♀️
“Maybe he’s desperate, maybe it’s maybelline“ 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Right...I laughed... hard 🤣🤣🤣
Iconic
They have been trying that “I pretend I forgot my wallet to make sure she’s not a gold digger” trick forever.
Fool, you have to HAVE some “gold” in order for someone to dig it!
Trying to follow you home, trying to force a kiss, overpaying you later to try & “buy” your attention: Boy, byeeee! ✌🏽
his audacity to think that there will be a "next time" 💀💀💀
FOR REAL
Dating sucks now a days lol people just have a sense of entitlement and their are hella narcissist out here. Im old school i don't go on dates unless I have the money to spend and I personally don't mind spending it to get to know someone if it doesn't pan out thats ok because I don't feel the woman owes me anything.
I’m 50 and have been divorced for 20 years and let me tell you, it doesn’t get any better as they get older! I could tell my share of stories.
Please do, i wanna know
I wanna know too. Can you turn it into a novel?
Truth!!
So I need a book collection of this stories now
I'm really interested to know these stories
I was dating a guy for like a month, I paid for most of our dates- he paid for fast food a few times. He had expensive taste when I'm the one paying... it was never a "normal" place. He never said thank you or seemed appreciative.... one night he suggested I come over and we go out on a date because he's hungry. HE suggested that we go to this Italian place he always wanted to try.... this dude was ordering double patron shots and everything, I was under the impression that he was treating ME for once.... the bill came and it was like $200... it sat at the table FOREVER.... til he said he forgot his wallet in his car. I was like "um ok...." kinda gave him the "well go get it vibe" the bill sat there for a long time again until he finally got up to go get it. I don't think he even left a tip. I decided to end things with him not because he was "broke" he was straight up hustling me.
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You need to practice self love and set healthy boundaries. How do you allow someone to walk all over you like that? I'm appalled that not once but multiple times you paid - and on top of that he didn't even say thank you. And you allowed that to keep unfolding. Jeez. It's not dates you need hun, it's self love.
And the men screaming 'bUt WoMeN uSe uS fOr FrEe mEaLs' are nowhere to be found on this thread... lol
Gotta wake up n smeelll da coffee sis. Red flags 🚩 are real. Recognize those then you’ll know who the right is
Well, it seems like you got what you wanted from him in the meantime, else why continue for so long?
Just charge it to the game, I guess.
That type of behaviour is annoying on the surface but hints of more sinister things underneath. This dude I met online (as a friend) ended up being creepy as hell, I blocked him on everything but he still contacted me by sending money all the time which I kept refunding but it was a nightmare 😭 stay safe Kelly x
That is probably some onlyfans addict too
“And I am never going outside again.”
Same girl, same.
I feel bad she was mistreated like that, she's awesome, but can we just talk about how good her skin is? like, she's GLOWING.
Facts
Yes ✨💜
I live alone, but my brother just got out of jail and is staying with me until he gets back on his feet- 😂🤣😂🤣😂
i've actually said this a few times when asked if i live alone lol
Lmaoooo omgg good one! I’m gonna try that one.
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LOVE IT!
😂😂😂😂😭😭😭
The all white outfit is a minimalist's version of camo
Kelly is blending in with the wall
@I O I literally like ur reply more than my comment
Or he could have Venmo’d you while sitting at dinner. Lol. Chile the ghetto.
RIGHT... as if he was payed overnight.
Good point & I think people need to bring this up: electronic payment transfers, when men “suddenly” claim they forgot their wallet. Payment transfer are common now.
Yup, I would’ve been like “Oh, that’s ok. Here’s my cashapp”.
@@hb7580 right! Cash app, Apple Pay, Zelle, Google pay, hell western union!!
It was the "Chile the ghetto" for me lol
Moral of the story: Don't do shit you don't want to do and say no fluently as desired.
Currently trying to learn that skill.. 😅😅
Exactly.
You said fluently. Lol.
She kept doing things she didn't want to do. Break that habit immediately.
Yes, he was really pushy.
the fact that having dinner was his idea and he knew he didn't have any money and already had in mind he'll pay next time...assuming that there would be a next time. This whole thing is mind boggling. So many things wrong
i have a feeling he came to the date knowing who she was & had no intent to pay from the get go.
I would not have paid for his food.
Sounds like this is his GAME! He spends ZERO money on food! BUMBLE FEEDS HIM! this video should be a PSA for unsuspecting singles in Boston! THE BOSTON BUMBLEBEE IS ON THE HUNT FOR HONEYYYY!
AAGGGHHHH
Yes! Albert, the grubbin' Boston free-bee! Lol!
WOW IM SPEECHLESS LOL. some men have the audacity bruv
I cant believe our crackhead queen is here
omg qwern!!
When the people you are subbed to are subbed to the people you are subbed to.
omg hey simone
THE QUEEN THE ONE AND ONLY SIMONE IS HERE?!!
I found the him following you home more creepy than not paying.
Exactly guys be bums out here
Yes! That's creepy as hell. Then finding her on Venmo?!
that scared the fuck out of me! Luckily she’s a smart women and got to another building!
Two questions I don’t answer but am asked often by male strangers: 1) what do you do for a living 2) Do you live alone. If keep asking, it’s clear they don’t respect my boundaries and I shut down.
The simple act of him sending you money- is his acknowledgment that he was responsible for that meal- you provided a free option and he still chose the meal as an interaction between y’all - His ego just couldn’t let him let go of that 27 dollars tho - imagine all the other petty things that would seep out of this fool if he’s behaving like this with a stranger 🤦🏽♀️
I agree
@Cicuta Maculata His lying ass had his id. You can't walk around NYC without it - anything could happen - the cops could run up on you, you could be pushed in front of a train/bus, run over by some careless fool...the list is endless. Trust and believe he had his id AND his wallet - he just wanted to play her, and feel like he got over for the moment.
Good point
“I’ll just pay the next time”. Oh, honey, there won’t be a next time!
“This venmo request is almost as sloppy as the way you eat” 💀💀💀
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!
gold
He decided not to pay when he realized sex was not on the menu.
Yes!
😆
Nice plot twist.
Exactly.
Yeet
Dating during these times, especially past school age, is absolutely torturous.
Very omg! I’d rather not lol
and seriously dangerous too
Girl if you told him twice that you didn’t want to eat and he still insisted, he obviously doesn’t care😭you should’ve left then and there
Yes, I agree. This was a part of his test. He wanted to see if he can get you to change your mind and unfortunately he was able too. Which is why he preceded with his nonsense. Take notice each request became more and more outlandish.
Kelly trying to be poh-lite and classhy as it was awkward
Sometimes it’s hard to outright say no to a guy, especially when you don’t know them and your safety is in mind.
@@Ashleybmakingvideos I understand, I’ve been there before. The best way to handle it is just as op stated. If you need more examples Deb Cooper has an awesome channel with examples and bad ass vocabulary to back it up.
then you "forget" to come back when you go to the bathroom and he's still stuck with the bill lolol
LMFAOO 😂
I honestly would have done that.
I was thinking that while she was describing his Major Payne eating. 😂
Right!!
I would pay for what I ate and leave him to wash dishes to pay for his meal.
I actually had a first date with a girl that paid. She ask if I wanted to go get some food. I replied with no sorry, I have no money on me and I'm just getting off work from a new job. She ask if I ate today and said no I actually didn't and offer to buy me dinner. I was a lil shock but also I showed I appreciated the jester. We where in a relationship for 3 years. But yeah...you definitely was played hun...
Women willingly paid for my food too, it was rather odd at first considering I was broke and in college at the time
Did she always wear the pants on that relationship?
@@ChloeLayneXO In the relationship? No...we argue a lot and I'm stubborn as they come. I'm very logical and not emotional. Just say she punched me in the face and I kicked her out on her ass.
@@daleclark7164 well see she didn't respect you....it all started with letting her pay on the first date 🤦♀️
@@ChloeLayneXO Oh this i know for a fact. She didn't respect me, and things was just gonna get worse. I gave her one chance and then I bailed. Because it would of ended up me in jail. I'm good
Girl I'll be asking him if he has his money and have him to check in front of me before going into restaurants. Or as soon as he said he was hungry I would have said I don't have money to buy anything but I'll set with you. Notice how he kept trying to get you to eat or drink. That was so you owed money on the bill and would feel responsible and pay some or all if something happens, like he forgot his wallet.
May be extreme but with the amount of dusties running around, I think you’re onto something🤣
yes yes and yes
Girl, share some more dating wisdom! Lol.
Me: *Thinking that the story is over and can't possibly get worse*
Kelly: "And the plot thickens"
Fa real
Eww that guy was a gold digger. From now on Kelly, when on bumble look at the men’s profile carefully! Look for a job title! Once on the phone, ask for their first and last name and google them to fact check before meeting them. Also when you go on a date, give his info to your friends for safety purposes. Please stop meeting up with these men right away. Make him wait a week and text/FaceTime to get to know him better.
True. 'cause if he "left" his wallet he had no ID...creepy
Off topic but nice last name! 😉❤
I thought it was all about personality
EXACTLY!!!
especially during Corona...it's not worth it to meet up with someone so quickly and expose yourself just for it to not work out
I would have said: "What a coincidence - I forgot mine too!" and then walked out.
😂
Hahahah
Lol 😂
Lol
In the words of my big sis. Get a trash bag and throw the whole dude away
For real tho'
Belly gang or no gang
Love your natural! Lol her channel is amazing
@@frankii5011 I was just about to ask this❣️ 💖
This guy actually sounds like the worst ever. Run away so fast.
This is why I only date within social circles. Uni, clubs, church, you name it. If I don't know someone who knows you then I can't vet you. And if I can't vet you then it's not happening my guy. No number, no social media, no dates. Nada.
I also personally believe that first dates should be super casual. Go places where they expect you to pay first; food trucks, ice cream parlors, cake shops etc. Go to an arcade, urban art galleries, take a walk etc.
Men do this. I had a guy say he left his wallet AFTER eating. I paid for him and myself. I blocked him on everything and never spoke to him again. He made no attempt to pay for anything.
“Of course you had a good time. You met your suga mama” 😂😭
Some men rlly look for woman to get a free meal and a place to sleep. It’s honestly sad and pathetic and makes me uneasy like so PREDATORY.
A hobosexual
@@bonitaapplebum437 your comment took me out
someone above said it's called a "hobosexual"
I felt bad but I laughed
Sounds like someone was trying to lie his way into getting a free meal and that’s unacceptable for anybody regardless of gender
I agree. A girl ordered 3 times, what she could eat, and took leftover home, at my expense.
@@ZafOsophy Omg! 😂 She's got a lot of nerve.
@@MaxMustermann-hd7oe Yes, she was very cheeky, but being a gentleman, I didn't embarrass her, I just smiled)
@@ZafOsophy shit like that happens all the time🙄
just like females do
I don’t pay for food. I’m not sure why I would be expected to. Lol. I’ve never had these experiences, and I never will, because the men I date have careers and common sense.
Equal rights? No? K.
if he had access to venmo... why did he not just pay you his half of the bill through venmo while y’all were at the table instead of waiting until after the fact eye-
THIS!!!!
Ohmygooood... So true, wtf.
Because he had no intention of paying for it lmao. I saw a thread on reddit, you know the type "mgtow". They were talking about how they were sick of dating because they had to pay for womens meals and that they should expect the woman to pay. If the woman doesn't pay, shes not worthy.
Blows my mind, I always pay my half. Even if it offends the guy, no ones buying me crap so they can hold that over my head later lol
Questions that need answers
@@cadavher you hate the red pill and mgtow?? Huh?
It’s the “eating like a wombat” for me. Dead 😂
Please watch the video link in my description box of a wombat eating. 😂
the flashback of it got me the most
I can't believe he had the audacity to ask for HALF back when he ate some of YOUR meal. Straight foolery.
Something similar happened to me: I take him to a show I bought tix for, we go to dinner and his card is DECLINED. A couple days later he messages me to say he doesn’t thing we should have a second date. I say, “That’s cool.” This guy… he genuinely acts SURPRISED that I didn’t put up a fight… like I should have been upset or something 🤦🏽♀️
I'm supposed to go on my first date with a guy soon, I'm curious who pays , were 2 guys? I always did with gfs In the past. Now I'm with a guy I don't know, I'm hoping I won't see anyone I know there.