This is me too. I have found that what I seem to do is find lots of different people to talk to about it so I don’t seem crazy and obsessed. Then I realise I’m completely boring them so I stop and find someone else. Even a random stranger on the internet anyone that will listen. 😢🥰🥰
Having a hyperfixation is great, until someone comes along and asks you why you haven't been doing this other thing or that other thing, and you have to admit it's because you've been totally drawn into a Vortex of your own interest. Like, for DAYS. Lol
I'm in a hyperfixation right now and it's driving me nuts because I'm hyperfixated on a character from a fictional story. He doesn't exist. I want this to stop. It's torture.
@@justsayin7317this happens to me all the time. I hate these types of hyperfixations because it makes me look like an obsessed fan and technically I am but not in a weird way yk? It’s also very embarrassing because it’s the only thing I can think and talk about so then everyone knows I’m obsessed with this character and it just sucks cause they most likely think of it in the wrong way and there’s nothing I can do to make them understand. (Also really sucks when the hyperfixation is over because in some cases I will actually hate that character or just feel repulsed by the mention of them.) Unfortunately this is happening to me rn and I hate it sm and I want it to stop but obviously I also love the character and never want it to stop 😭 (I’m kind of scared for it to stop cause I don’t wanna hate the character, especially cause he’s from such an incredible game and I don’t wanna hate the game bc of it 😭) TLDR: I’m so sorry I didn’t realize how long this was, basically all I’m saying is that character hyperfixations are the worst hyperfixations I’ve ever experienced 😭
I think the biggest problem with HyperFixation is when that dopamine wears of.... when you reach a point where the fixation ends, because its too hard, or you realise its not for you.... You often feel a massive down and depressive lost feeling, where the thing which brought you so much joy is no longer doing it, and I feel lost! i felt like i had my head together and i was learning so much.. now nothing brings me joy! its a blessing and a curse.
sorry for a super late reply but I'm going through this right now. the depressive state where I realize my hyperfixation isn't bringing me how anymore, do you have any advice on what to do?
this is so real - struggle with this so much - and it makes it hard to commit to things too as your interest is so changeable. best lesson from this video...don't make your hyperfixation your job!
The other problem with a hyper fixation is the “social aspect” when it’s all you want to do and talk about. NT people find that annoying, but idk why because I LOVE hearing others talk about their hyper fixation. You can tell how happy it makes them and I love seeing how happy they are when they talk about it.
I have ADHD and I cannot stand listening to other people's hyperfixations. The way that people talk about their hyperfixations has a manic energy that makes me feel deeply uncomfortable. I hate being talked AT instead of talked WITH.
@@nooooooooope3809 hmmm interesting! Maybe that’s the Autistic part of me…. If someone is going on and on about their hyper fixation I can share their joy but I don’t have to participate in the conversation…. Unless it’s a shared hyper fixation… food for thought for sure!
For me sometimes the hyperfixation is about something bad though for example the wars or illnesses (real or sometimes imagined). That don’t give joy these are the worst for me and no-one want to listen to me then 😢 so it’s all in my head and internal.
exactly. before i found out about me being neurodivergent i actually used to talk to my neurotypical friends a ton about my hyperfixations. they ended up saying i was “too much” and actually stopped being friends with me.
I'm so tired of my current hyperfixation to the point I'm getting myself into a bad self-deprecating state of feeling constantly starved for content about it but also guilty for not taking care of my responsibilities. It's been constantly on my brain for the past 2 weeks and I'm SO. DONE. But I can't stop and Idk how to manage this problem
@@chrisBrookes-q5j unfortunately I have to choose not to actively engage in any potentially interesting media that may become hyperfixations when I **have** to focus on work. It's boring, but at least I have clarity of mind. Sorry for the late reply
I totally agree with you about hyperfixation and hyperfocus NOT being the same. My hyperfixation is a fictional character who literlly kept me alive that past year.
My hyperfixations are more like a spontaneous thing. Like, I watched "The American Psycho" and now, in a month I read a book, watched a lot of videos about clothes and design of film, listened all playlists and even a Broadway musical. A lot of my hyperfixations are about searching information about some places, books of films, so I don't spend too much money. However I spent a lot of time, really a lot)
Thank you for being honest about how sometimes hyper fixation can be PEOPLE. A lot of people gloss over this aspect but it's important to know about it so you can take steps to deal with it healthily. This one aspect can really get neurodivergent people in a lot of trouble in personal and even legal situations despite good intentions.
Ohhh I knew an autistic guy who had a hyperfixation on a girl and would collect pictures of her, it was creepy and could for sure cause harm to other people through stalking
I relate to this so much, and I always have to be perfect at my current hyper fixation otherwise I get really frustrated with it. Im kind of bored atm because I don’t have anything I’m hyper fixating on. Is anyone else not able to achieve things unless your mind becomes hyper fixated? For example I can’t drive and haven’t taken any steps to get there and I know I can only do it when my mind is going to become obsessed with everything driving related. I don’t know if that makes sense but it makes life hard sometimes
sometimes i wonder if i REALLY have adhd then i do nothing but watch spiderman and read spiderman fanfiction and talk about spiderman and draw spiderman and do the 🤟hand pose and watch spiderman again i quite literally turned down hanging out with my boyfriend because i could not focus because i wasnt doing something spiderman related like it is that bad
I bought a £300 sewing machine. I was hyper fixated on which one to buy for 2 months. All the accessories etc. I haven’t used it once because I can’t focus on threading it up 🤦♀️😢😢. It’s been sat on my desk for a year. Been meaning to sell it.
I have no interest in rollerskating whatsoever, but hearing you talk about it so joyfully made me smile big time! I'm diagnosed autistic and suspect I also have ADHD. A big reason for that is because my hyperfixation pattern goes something like this: I hyperfixate on something, then I tell myself it must be my entire life and I must become an expert, because that's "what autistic people do" (and most people on the internet don't show themselves having multiple hobbies, giving the illusion that it's normal for everyone, regardless of neurotype, to have Just One Thing). Then the pressure builds and zaps all joy out of it. I start to become bored. I start getting pulled towards other things. I try to force myself back to the hyperfixation. I can't. I become hyperfixated on a new thing, while beating myself up over not being able to reach my goals regarding the last hyperfixation, and the six other ones that came before that one, all while *trying* to experience the excitement and joy from the new hyperfixation -- but then I slowly start to put increasing pressure on myself to become good at the thing, and the cycle repeats itself. It's exhausting. But I'm starting to think that a large part of *why* it's so exhausting is because I've been working from the assumption that I'm autistic *without* having ADHD -- and I keep berating myself, pulling myself down, talking badly to myself, for not behaving like a "proper autistic person". Like, "why can't I stick to things like everybody else? What's wrong with me? Why am I like this? I'm hopeless, I'm useless, and I never manage to become good at things so I can't be useful to society with the skills I learn underway, so I am a waste of space", and it can quickly spiral down into serious depression. Now, what would happen if I let myself self-diagnose as also having ADHD? I think it would be easier to be kind to myself, thus lessening the exhaustion from constant self-criticism. I don't know, these are just some things I've been thinking about lately, and this video helped me think about them some more, so thank you :)
I experience exactly what you're describing, and have just been diagnosed with AuDHD (at the age of 29). I think there's a good chance you have ADHD too. I also think we shouldn't need a diagnosis to accept ourselves for who we are, but unfortunately with all the internalized messages society gives us about how we should be, it's quite difficult. I had been suspecting I was AuDHD for two years before receiving my diagnosis and still struggled to have self compassion until then...
Sometimes if its a show i hyperfixate on and i realize im becoming too obsessed with it, ill binge the rest of it really really fast to try to end my obsessive phase so i can get back to normal life.
Well done on the skating! By the way, those skates are gorgeous and I'm envious of that big skating space--wow. I used to skate a lot as a child. Then none at all in college; then in my 30s bought a new pair and had a blast; and then it became about bigger wheels: bicycling everywhere for years! I loved that joyful feeling. I transferred it to tap lessons in my 40s, which I was rubbish at--but it didn't matter! Now in my 70s I recently re-started tap from watching UA-cam tutorials and a DVD and put in at least a few minutes everyday. There's less discomfort in front of a video on your laptop in your home than in a crowded, brightly lit dance studio where not only the music is loud but so are the extra tap sounds of the 12 to 15 other tap students! Deafening, disturbing and overwhelming! The point is, I have learned to hang on to my supplies and tools of--and joy--for all my fixations because a lot of them do come back around and I am happily fixated again! You are a Bright Shining Star and I love this video! Thank you so much!
I love this video, it's hit at the right time! I have just decided I need to learn electric guitar after going to a gig and I was panicking and beating myself up about how I'm constantly starting new things and it actually resulted in me not doing anything new for a long time and the part of my brain that is '"sensible" and quiet and sad' was in control and the ADHD part of my brain was shoved in a box and it just made me feel so empty and flat.... I'm trying to learn to be more me and at least have these realistic expectations ie I'm not gonna be rocking out stadiums but music does fetch me joy so having something I can do that helps me relax or feel happy will help. I've bought a second hand guitar and I'm going to use UA-cam to learn songs that I like (easy ones). And it's ok if it sits for a few months unloved as my skates do until the focus comes around again. I need to learn to embrace the quirky parts of me so long as I'm able to do my daily responsibilities and pay bill why shouldn't I.... but saying it is easier than doing it so Thank you for the video.
I was hyperfixated on camping and tents once. I hyperfixated on buying a tent which one to buy for months I changed my mind 4 times and took each one back because it wasn’t right. many many other things. Hyperfixation on bad things it the worse for example Ilnessss (real or imagined), wars, covid medications, relationships. I have only recently learned about hyperfixation and understood what has troubled me for years and years.
I'm auDHD and i almost instinctively grabbed "my" skates to join you because you were having so much fun... but I dont have any! 😅😂❤ I have a history of hyperfixations and your definition is far more accurate! Brilliant video!
What's hard is knowing when to talk about it or not 😭 Like I have this choice - either I'm gonna excitedly dump all this info on them they likely don't care about, or I have to try to talk about something else and realize I..kinda don't care about something else rn😅so the dialogue is not going anywhere lol. But then the worst is when you DO find someone with a hyperfixation you had, but no longer have it, and cant bring yourself to care or remember much about it :( it suсks to burnout on it before I even find someone to talk about it to
You’re right, hyperfixation and hyperfocus are different, they’re similar but are different. With hyperfocus it’s more short term and you don’t have to be interested in It but with hyperfixation it’s more long term and It’s a literal obsession that is all consuming and It causes distress and can cause someone to be anxious about that thing such as with a tv show for example you worry intensely about how everything will turn out and wanting to know everything about something even tho you can’t yet which that is part of the distress that hyperfixations can cause, it’s both a blessing and a curse. Hyperfixations can vary cuz most hyperfixations fade over time but some very lucky interests we are hyperfixated on become stronger and never go away, so even tho most hyperfixations fade over time, some hyperfixations are lifelong.
I'm so glad you put out this video. I'm currently hyperfixated on the construction site in front of my house and just cried a few times, cause the deconstruction of the houses is nearly done and the caterpillars and drivers will soon be gone. Oh my. Grief, real, hurting grief. I try to not hyperfixate on one of the workers, it's really not about them, and try to make it art. It really was incredibly impressive.
this is exactly what i feel like!! (as an autistic person) also idk if anyone else has experienced this, but is it normal to feel physical discomfort/a lot of built up pressure when being hyperfixated? i feel like I'm so obsessed with my current hyperfixation that i want to cry whenever i see/hear of it am I the only one who feels like that sometimes?
Oh, dear! Listening to this, I realize that my general feeling about my hyperfixations, even if I am really into them, is that they are time sucks I should not be doing. I can get a little bit past that feeling, but not very far. When a new job in a new field was my hyperfixation, it wasn't too much of a problem, though it did mean I worked...a lot. But feeling that things I am into are not really okay probably has some connection to my anhedonia and depressive tendencies. Thank you for this insight, I'll have to work on that. I agree, BTW, with your definitions, and hyperfocus and hyperfixation are NOT the same thing. One is measured in hours, and the other in weeks, months or years. And I love looking at your skates, but the idea of being on skates was terrifying even as a child, and now that I'm old...well, have a GREAT time! I know you'll be crushed that I won't be joining you. :) I have never had trouble with the "being the best" part at least. Both my father and I found that we plateau. One of my father's few cases of making a self observation, at least out loud, was when he noted that, after a certain point, no matter how much more he practiced the flute, he just didn't get any better. And my ADHD keeps me from researching as thoroughly as my autistic side would like to. I've always been pissed about that.
This has been crochet for me recently! There is something about finding a hobby, thing, etc. that has its own terminology, rabbit holes, communities, REDDITS! and more that is utterly satisfying. When you mentioned just wanting to put your skates on even when you couldn’t go out, I feel the same way about yarn 😂 I’m too tired after work sometimes but I still want to just touch and organize my skeins lol thank you for a great video!
Oh my word, I was not prepared for how BEAUTIFUL that purple suede is on your skates! 💜 Love it! 💜 And thank you for encouragement to go with the flow and enjoy our hyperfixations!
omg seeing you show your skates off was so so so satisfying! i love those skates, theyre beautiful, and seeing the joy you experience with them is even more so. i think I have a fixation for knowing about the fixations of others btw... so that's where some of this is coming from. but! i also just want to appreciate and facilitate joy in the world, for myself and for others. thank you for this well-composed video, and thank you for sharing your enthusiasm for your current obsession! (let's destigmatize 'obsession' 😋!)
I can relate to this video sooo much. My facebook groups and youtube subscriptions give a very telling story of my ever changing hyperfixations. The latest being Pokemon cards. I started collected them about a week and a half ago and now have the full set of Scarlet & Violet (apart from hidden rares). The fixation has already eased though, which is quite fortunate as I spent far too much. I am self diagnosed autistic and have my assessment this Friday. The online tests for ADHD have never given a strong indication that I also have that. But I think I should discuss the possibility at my appointment! p.s. I love your purple skates!
Happens to me every so often, most of the times on certain "visual novels" then I obsess over the characters, but when it isn't that, it is mostly a person that I really like.
OMG those skates are incredible! You got me with the purple but suede as well 😍 I supervised on ice skating for a while, little tip for balance, 'head, hips, heels', your head is heaviest thing, if you can keep it aligned with your hips and heels, it can help. Soft knees, but as a fellow hypermobile person, we got that. It's a wonderful sensory experience tho isn't it. Feels like flying. LOVE Jelly cats, with you on the hyperfixation. Mine started with Lottie Bunny, then Tumbletuft mouse, curvy elephant, silly succulent Schlitz (one plant I can't kill, coz it's plush). Riverside rambled mood in honour of The boy the mood the fox and the horse. Chandler chinchilla. Waiting on jub jub bimmie! He's representing my neurodivergent traits, as I have felt like an alien for over 50 years and only recently discovering Neurodiversity and just how many of the traits I have.
i also ended up with a heavy hyperfixation in rollerskating, and i was originally sad cause i was a broke student who couldn't afford rollerskates (which are expensive, for a decent pair, and of course i did all the research to know what is the best for a beginner, what's safest, etc.) but my mother (who's desperate to get me to exercise) said she'd by some for me, and i still have the same pair to this day, and I go rollerskating every week at the local leisure centre and i love it! I couldn't rollerskate as much as i wanted to for a long time because when i was living at uni there was just no places nearby that were good for skating, and i struggled to find the time and motivation to go out, but now that i'm home and i have the leisure centre nearby, i can do it more regularly (i much prefer indoor skating to outdoors, all the bumps and cracks outside make for a rougher skate outside, but skating indoors is always lovely and smooth). Also, its true that rollerskating is one of the better sports for people with physical disabilities, especially those that effect the joints because its very low impact! It has very little effect on your joints while still building strength in your legs, and improving balance. I've also realised there seems to be a high portion of autistic/ND rollerskaters, it seems to be pretty common amongst us autistics! I think it can be a nice sensory experience for us, so that might be why. Anyway, I'll take any opportunity to infodump about rollerskating.
Thanks for making this video I’ve always been so curious about why my hyper-fixations cannot just disappear from my brain so easily. The worst hyper-fixation I have is on people , remember since I was a girl at school I would hyperfixate on other girls like me an want to copy their hairstyles and clothes when it comes to romantic relationships I’ve realised most men Ive been interested in I’ve hyperfixate. My current male hype-fixation is 3 years which I think he has now become my special interest currently lasted years. My other more acceptable hyper-fixation currently is designer handbags which has lasted over a year however that and I feel also might also turn into a special interest because I constantly research and talk about handbags to others even at work which I know is too much for a lot of my coworkers.
Just got around to watching this today, and hearing about your hyperfixation just made me grin so hard. I love how excited you are about it. It really is one of my favorite things about being autistic: recognizing the excitement of others for their interests 😁
Can I just say I’ve not seen anyone who suits a shaved head as perfectly as you do. It absolutely is your look. Love it. My 19 year old is currently hyper focused on Thomas the tank engine. She has no idea why lol but as I always tell her, go with what gives you joy
I love this video. I definitely see a difference between the two and I'm glad you made a video about it! Also, I love roller skating too! But it's always low key, lol I've noticed over the hears when I'm around a group of people and they are talking about fun things to do, i always mention that we could go roller skating! To which, no one really seems interested or the subject is changed after a slight nod of consideration to the idea. Lol it cracks me up because deep down I really want to skate and am always looking for someone who might be interested too. Even after failed attempts, I still keep bringing it up!
your collection is very cute. i'm collecting jellycats too. i have a medium sized pale pink bunny, small pink bunny with floral ears, the same octopus as you, wee fairy mushroom, brontosaurus & teddy bear. the unmasking really suits you ella
This video was so helpful!!! Thank you so much. I haven’t been able to understand the process of this high intensity of interest and put a word to it. Now that I’ve connected a word, I don’t feel like I’m alone in the process. I appreciate you so much! 🙏🏾🫶🏾✨
hiya Ella, I absolutely loved this video. Seeing the joy was wonderful! Also had no idea you were in Bristol like me!! I took up rollerbooting again when I was 30 and loved it until I got unwell with Lupus. That was 13 yrs ago and I still remember the untter joy it brought me and wish I could do it now. I also have hypermobility so know the dangers and am glad you are taking the right precautions. I love your boots, they are beautiful. Mine were white with white wheels - like ice skates! Soak up that joy!
I’m experiencing an extreme case of hyper fixation right now. It’s been months and somehow it’s getting worse and worse and I dont know how to stop it. I literally can’t do anything else.
I have hyperfixated on climbing or pottery but now Iam hyperfixating about Veganism and I feel a bit overwhelmed and intimidated because being vegan is a big commitment it feels bigger than hyperfixing on a hobby now!
Yey I used to love roller skating and blading. It has been years since I've owned a pair though as I also have physical issues. I've been tempted to shave my hair off as it is irritating me big style so on Tuesday I'm getting my hair done and comprising with a really short do with undercut. I cant wait for the weight to be lifted off! I'm also a late diagnosed AudHDer (also dyslexic!) Thank you for sharing x
I hyperfixate on a lot of things but one consistent hyperfixation is music. I typically hyperfixate on one song per month and it’s the worst because depending on how long I hyperfixate on it I just become sick of it and kind of hate it even when it’s still an incredible song that I want to like. It makes me so upset 😭
I am autistic and a master of a version of 'body clumsiness' that wouldn't be classed as dyspraxia. I know when I was a child my grandfather bought a small skateboard for me, but I could never master the balance needed to stay on board. So my parents bought me my first pair of roller skates and I coped a lot better on that. I was able to skate through my teenage years, but then events outside my control forced me to stop... before further events beyond my control allowed me to re-start... then more further events forced me to stop again. I wish I could re-start again, but I'm out of practice (and where I am there are not many good outdoor skating spots available - it's either too many potholes, private land or it's too far away.) As for hyperfixations, there have been a few in my life... from pin badges and owls through to the Greater Bristol public transport network and orienteering. (I live a lonely life.)
I always hyperfixate, and I'm always overexcited. About my 2000 Volvo S80. I love the car so much that I will literally talk about an information dump about It's history multiple times and it never gets old to me But I feel as if it's quite annoying and old to other people.
I agree. I have a hyperfixation on video games. Its not like "Oh, I love to play video games". No, its more like I literally think about them 24/7 and want to talk about them 24/7. Ive been playing since a toddler and now I am 30 and still feel the same way. Nothing excites me more. But that doesnt mean I cant hyperfocus on an interesting article, a movie, or when I study.
Hyperfixated on ice skating, not supervised get spellchecker! Loved to juggle when my hands let me. Cascade takes my brain to a resting place, bought all the gear, did ok till hypermobility made it too painful. Currently I'm back on art, Neurographic drawing helps slow my brain.
I SO relate. Thank you for sharing. I have been obsessed with flaxseeds, how to use/ make flaxseed gel and what it can be used in/ for. I also Dig lentils they are awesome. So yeah I try to not talk about these topics for 4 hours straight.😂😅. My relatives stop me if I become annoying 😊. I love them so much. You seem awesome. Have an amazing day.
Hello! I quite enjoy your videos and find them quite relatable. In this video, you very briefly mentioned you experienced joint pain. I just wanted to say something interesting I learned about the relationship between joints and muscles that I got the chance to learn because I am undergoing physical therapy, not for my joint pain specifically but I was told it would also improve because of the exercise program I am doing. So, anyways! Joints tend to absorb most of the shock from... physical activity impact(?). But! When we strengthen the muscles around the joint, they will definitely assist the joint and serve as the main shock absorber instead. So basically: strengthening the muscles will help support the body even more. Though I heard consistency is key, and rest days are especially important because the muscles are probably building on those days. But on rest days it's still okay to do light physial activities that aren't physcially taxing. Oh. And when working out, you really don't have to feel soreness the next day. As long as you felt the muscles being engaged during the workout that is plenty good. Soreness is kind of the sign of overdoing an activity, so it isn't necessary to go that far, in that case just do less sets (It took me a while to understand the workout lingo of "reps" and "sets", lol). Is what I heard. Oh. And because I also am very familiar with joint pain, when working out you do not want to feel the joints doing the work instead of the muscles. If during the exercise it feels like the joint is doing the lifting either try to push the engagement to the muscles or just do a different exercise instead. Do one that works for you, basically. It does require interception to get that kind of sense though... which I am also working on because I don't have a good sense for my own body. So, yup. I don't know if this would be helpful in anyway or if this was just plain info dumping on my part (lol).
@@Catlily5 I think I have to reply this with: unknown. I was never able to get any diagnosis for my joint pain (that kept increasing in severity over time with physical activities). Though recently I have had to take a break from work because I eventually got an overuse injury and focused all of my attention on physical therapy consisting of stretching and building up strength. So far, for me, the joint pain seems to be getting better, but once I return to work I'm not sure if it will stay that way or act up again. Ah, my work requires standing all day and walking 50%+ of the shift. That was a tangent. I am curious to know where this conversation is going. (I am being very literal here. I have a tendency to not really understand what direction conversations go in and I tend to go on tangents without fully comprehending that is what I am doing.)
@@crowhoang3683 I was just curious because autistic people are more likely to be diagnosed with EDS and/or POTS and you have some symptoms (joint pain). I have POTS and possibly EDS so I was curious.
I'm AuDHDer i think thats how to call it but I hate my hyperfixation. It's constantly on my brain however I can't ever get rid of. The game YTTD is my hyper fixation for over a year and im not even sure if its a hyper fixation, a lot of my hyper fixations tend to be games/shows however there was this one time i had this huge hyperfixation on autism itself, ISNT THAT CRAZY!? like having an entire period of my life where i would research day and night about autisim like jeez anyways idk why i commented this thought it would be something people would see and go "hey omg me too we are like so similar omg yayaya"
How would you "reign it in" when you hyperfixate on a person? 🙃 It feels like I hyperfixate as soon as I meet a new person that I connect with and it can be quiet frustrating knowing that I shouldn't but having no tools to do anything else. Love the green eyeshadow, and the skates, and your whole outfit! 😅🥰
My recent episode was apply for new job. I told my self apply for job and forget about it. big mistake! Spent weeks researching into. Predicting the future what will happen if I get job ect. Well I didn't even get interviewed lol😅
My hyperfixation is star wars at the moment and it's definitely getting costly. IV even planned on building a room just for all my Mandalorian stuff. I get so much joy out of it but the negative side is not having enough money to continue and the nights I miss sleep looking up star wars on internet 🤦
I can never tell the difference between hyper fixation and hyper focus, which one is my Aspergers which one is my ADHD. I Will impulsively spend money towards a hyper F even if I try to stop myself, it’s happening. I spent hundreds and hundreds of pounds last years on reborn dolls. Now in fairness I’ve gone on to sell a lot of those on AND it lead me to start painting my own reborn dolls to sell! But that was a big risk I was taking with all that money initially. I love having fixations but Damn they make me impulsive and also they can get in the way of life
I couldn’t live without my hyper fixations/special interests. I’ve always had many (AuDHD too 😅) Some of the I don’t share because I feel too self conscious, others I can’t even control not sharing them because they take over all of me 😅 I’m currently into making handmade journals and all that entails. My job used to be a hyper fixation, but not anymore, so that’s hard, because I truly just want to do crafts all day long
@@PurpleElla I’m fully absorbed by it!!! There are plenty of tutorials and idea on UA-cam! You can use junk mail, food boxes, anything you have, so it doesn’t cost much. Do it!!!!
I absolutely don't like being obesessed or hyperfocused on something...for example right now. I want to buy an Aquarium, and i cant stop watching videos, or google for the right fish or Plants and so on and i can't talk to anyone about it because i would go on and on and people would get extremely annoyed....i am so fixated on it i can't even sleep properly.
when you brought out your jellycat plushie I SMILED SO MUCH i want a jellycat bunny sooo badly... one of my hyperfixations is rabbits in general (i have a bunny too! his name is cookie) & i want to buy everything bunny related that i ever see,, its just i saw the giant bunny jellycats at a toy store and they were $60 so it might take a while to get one for myself
When I have a dream that I'm really getting things done, I'm always on roller skates. I can wear them everywhere! On stairs, on trails, in water... I just quickly glide around. And, no I don't actually roller skate. 😂
Hi dose this mean im hyperfixed on coloring books? I watch hauls on them i buy 4 coloring books a month. I do love to sit an look through my coloring books with no color added. To me its fun.
Because the autistic/ADHD mind can functions so differently than the NT mind, it is important to defined these differences. I have to laugh because the last couple of months my "special interest De Jour" has been 2 and 3 inch solid chrome steel ball bearings. I'm so tempted to get the 4 inch (10 LBS).. the 5 inch (20 LBS) ??? STOP!!!! I'm amazed by the weight, the near perfect spherical shape (within 25 millionth of an inch), the smooth almost mirror like finish, yet the extreme hardness. They are excellent at relaxing muscles ( message) , They absorb heat and hold it for over an hour or as cold as ice when frozen and it quickly exchanges these temps into the body. They are like jewels. Holding one is like being covered by a weighted blanket.. it's calming.. centering . There are few things we see/feel in our life that hold these qualities... LOL I've been like this all my life with so many things. I've learned so much about my self as well as other things as I deep-dive into off-shoots of related information about types of steel, manufacturing processes, and so on... Associative thinking - how all things are connected in some way is an important part of our mind.
My hyperfixations last approx 12 month Tarot, Chess, Hinduism, Flat Earth...I learn and buy everything to the max then...Click , no interest. WTF ? An Alice in Wonderland Quote... What is the Hatter with me, Have I gone Mad? I'm Afraid so, You're mad, Bonkers, Off your head...But I'll tell you a secret ...All the best people are....x
Does anyone else have like 10-90 seconds for the initial listening/focusing and if it isnt interesting you lose focus? 😅 in contrast I overly listen to a new song I obsess about and I have to watch hours and hours of reactions to it... I can and have easily spent 10 hours nonstop focusing on downloading Sims 4 mods when I should've been doing something else or sleeping 😵💫
I have a question, to anyone with experience. if I am seeking ADHD and autism diagnosis (in the US by the way) do I seek to get assessed for ADHD or autism first? Will one first affect the accuracy of testing for the other? financial and availability restrictions prevent me from doing both at the same time.
I have some adhd traits i believe so....but im not 100% sure but i do fixate on something then i can't just have 1 of something for example Crystal skulls i bought a few and that turned into chaos🙈🙈🙈😂😂 and basically other things as well🙈🙈
I HATE HYPERFIXATIONS!!! I want to talk about it with people all the time but I don't want to seem obsessed
This is me too. I have found that what I seem to do is find lots of different people to talk to about it so I don’t seem crazy and obsessed. Then I realise I’m completely boring them so I stop and find someone else. Even a random stranger on the internet anyone that will listen. 😢🥰🥰
I don’t feel like I get to enjoy my hyperfixations as much because I never get to share them properly. 😢
I hate when I'm talking and the other person say "why are you talking so much about it?" 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Haha, come talk with me
me too. i wanna draw it, i wanna make it my pfp, i wanna talk about it... but i think it's embarrassing for me.
Having a hyperfixation is great, until someone comes along and asks you why you haven't been doing this other thing or that other thing, and you have to admit it's because you've been totally drawn into a Vortex of your own interest. Like, for DAYS. Lol
“Days” hahahaha
Or it is scary if it is negative emotions you are fixating on.
@Gabbargaamada Yesss!!!
I'm in a hyperfixation right now and it's driving me nuts because I'm hyperfixated on a character from a fictional story. He doesn't exist. I want this to stop. It's torture.
@@justsayin7317this happens to me all the time. I hate these types of hyperfixations because it makes me look like an obsessed fan and technically I am but not in a weird way yk? It’s also very embarrassing because it’s the only thing I can think and talk about so then everyone knows I’m obsessed with this character and it just sucks cause they most likely think of it in the wrong way and there’s nothing I can do to make them understand. (Also really sucks when the hyperfixation is over because in some cases I will actually hate that character or just feel repulsed by the mention of them.)
Unfortunately this is happening to me rn and I hate it sm and I want it to stop but obviously I also love the character and never want it to stop 😭
(I’m kind of scared for it to stop cause I don’t wanna hate the character, especially cause he’s from such an incredible game and I don’t wanna hate the game bc of it 😭)
TLDR: I’m so sorry I didn’t realize how long this was, basically all I’m saying is that character hyperfixations are the worst hyperfixations I’ve ever experienced 😭
I think the biggest problem with HyperFixation is when that dopamine wears of.... when you reach a point where the fixation ends, because its too hard, or you realise its not for you.... You often feel a massive down and depressive lost feeling, where the thing which brought you so much joy is no longer doing it, and I feel lost! i felt like i had my head together and i was learning so much.. now nothing brings me joy! its a blessing and a curse.
sorry for a super late reply but I'm going through this right now. the depressive state where I realize my hyperfixation isn't bringing me how anymore, do you have any advice on what to do?
We ride the highs and lows
this is so real - struggle with this so much - and it makes it hard to commit to things too as your interest is so changeable. best lesson from this video...don't make your hyperfixation your job!
The other problem with a hyper fixation is the “social aspect” when it’s all you want to do and talk about. NT people find that annoying, but idk why because I LOVE hearing others talk about their hyper fixation. You can tell how happy it makes them and I love seeing how happy they are when they talk about it.
Agreed 😊😊
I have ADHD and I cannot stand listening to other people's hyperfixations. The way that people talk about their hyperfixations has a manic energy that makes me feel deeply uncomfortable. I hate being talked AT instead of talked WITH.
@@nooooooooope3809 hmmm interesting! Maybe that’s the Autistic part of me…. If someone is going on and on about their hyper fixation I can share their joy but I don’t have to participate in the conversation…. Unless it’s a shared hyper fixation… food for thought for sure!
For me sometimes the hyperfixation is about something bad though for example the wars or illnesses (real or sometimes imagined). That don’t give joy these are the worst for me and no-one want to listen to me then 😢 so it’s all in my head and internal.
exactly. before i found out about me being neurodivergent i actually used to talk to my neurotypical friends a ton about my hyperfixations. they ended up saying i was “too much” and actually stopped being friends with me.
I'm so tired of my current hyperfixation to the point I'm getting myself into a bad self-deprecating state of feeling constantly starved for content about it but also guilty for not taking care of my responsibilities. It's been constantly on my brain for the past 2 weeks and I'm SO. DONE. But I can't stop and Idk how to manage this problem
me me me me me me me but for longer periods of time it just never stops
I’ve been having a hyper fixation for 2 months over choosing paint just one colour.
Have you tried looking at ways to balance this? I'm currently in same issue. All of march was a blur.
@@chrisBrookes-q5j unfortunately I have to choose not to actively engage in any potentially interesting media that may become hyperfixations when I **have** to focus on work. It's boring, but at least I have clarity of mind. Sorry for the late reply
I totally agree with you about hyperfixation and hyperfocus NOT being the same.
My hyperfixation is a fictional character who literlly kept me alive that past year.
My hyperfixations are more like a spontaneous thing. Like, I watched "The American Psycho" and now, in a month I read a book, watched a lot of videos about clothes and design of film, listened all playlists and even a Broadway musical. A lot of my hyperfixations are about searching information about some places, books of films, so I don't spend too much money. However I spent a lot of time, really a lot)
Thank you for being honest about how sometimes hyper fixation can be PEOPLE.
A lot of people gloss over this aspect but it's important to know about it so you can take steps to deal with it healthily.
This one aspect can really get neurodivergent people in a lot of trouble in personal and even legal situations despite good intentions.
Ohhh I knew an autistic guy who had a hyperfixation on a girl and would collect pictures of her, it was creepy and could for sure cause harm to other people through stalking
Hyperfixation is bad when you hyperfixate on something negative or hurtful. Which is what my issue has been.
I relate to this so much, and I always have to be perfect at my current hyper fixation otherwise I get really frustrated with it. Im kind of bored atm because I don’t have anything I’m hyper fixating on. Is anyone else not able to achieve things unless your mind becomes hyper fixated? For example I can’t drive and haven’t taken any steps to get there and I know I can only do it when my mind is going to become obsessed with everything driving related. I don’t know if that makes sense but it makes life hard sometimes
sometimes i wonder if i REALLY have adhd
then i do nothing but watch spiderman
and read spiderman fanfiction
and talk about spiderman
and draw spiderman
and do the 🤟hand pose
and watch spiderman again
i quite literally turned down hanging out with my boyfriend because i could not focus because i wasnt doing something spiderman related
like it is that bad
Me with cults be like TT
I bought a £300 sewing machine. I was hyper fixated on which one to buy for 2 months. All the accessories etc. I haven’t used it once because I can’t focus on threading it up 🤦♀️😢😢. It’s been sat on my desk for a year. Been meaning to sell it.
I can definitely relate to the overspending on hyper-fixations! Also, your skates are great.
I have no interest in rollerskating whatsoever, but hearing you talk about it so joyfully made me smile big time!
I'm diagnosed autistic and suspect I also have ADHD. A big reason for that is because my hyperfixation pattern goes something like this: I hyperfixate on something, then I tell myself it must be my entire life and I must become an expert, because that's "what autistic people do" (and most people on the internet don't show themselves having multiple hobbies, giving the illusion that it's normal for everyone, regardless of neurotype, to have Just One Thing). Then the pressure builds and zaps all joy out of it. I start to become bored. I start getting pulled towards other things. I try to force myself back to the hyperfixation. I can't. I become hyperfixated on a new thing, while beating myself up over not being able to reach my goals regarding the last hyperfixation, and the six other ones that came before that one, all while *trying* to experience the excitement and joy from the new hyperfixation -- but then I slowly start to put increasing pressure on myself to become good at the thing, and the cycle repeats itself.
It's exhausting. But I'm starting to think that a large part of *why* it's so exhausting is because I've been working from the assumption that I'm autistic *without* having ADHD -- and I keep berating myself, pulling myself down, talking badly to myself, for not behaving like a "proper autistic person". Like, "why can't I stick to things like everybody else? What's wrong with me? Why am I like this? I'm hopeless, I'm useless, and I never manage to become good at things so I can't be useful to society with the skills I learn underway, so I am a waste of space", and it can quickly spiral down into serious depression. Now, what would happen if I let myself self-diagnose as also having ADHD? I think it would be easier to be kind to myself, thus lessening the exhaustion from constant self-criticism.
I don't know, these are just some things I've been thinking about lately, and this video helped me think about them some more, so thank you :)
I experience exactly what you're describing, and have just been diagnosed with AuDHD (at the age of 29). I think there's a good chance you have ADHD too. I also think we shouldn't need a diagnosis to accept ourselves for who we are, but unfortunately with all the internalized messages society gives us about how we should be, it's quite difficult. I had been suspecting I was AuDHD for two years before receiving my diagnosis and still struggled to have self compassion until then...
Sometimes if its a show i hyperfixate on and i realize im becoming too obsessed with it, ill binge the rest of it really really fast to try to end my obsessive phase so i can get back to normal life.
It happens to me with people, movies, celebrities, songs, shows etc. Right now I am hyperfixated on Bridgerton couple Polin.
Well done on the skating! By the way, those skates are gorgeous and I'm envious of that big skating space--wow. I used to skate a lot as a child. Then none at all in college; then in my 30s bought a new pair and had a blast; and then it became about bigger wheels: bicycling everywhere for years! I loved that joyful feeling. I transferred it to tap lessons in my 40s, which I was rubbish at--but it didn't matter! Now in my 70s I recently re-started tap from watching UA-cam tutorials and a DVD and put in at least a few minutes everyday. There's less discomfort in front of a video on your laptop in your home than in a crowded, brightly lit dance studio where not only the music is loud but so are the extra tap sounds of the 12 to 15 other tap students! Deafening, disturbing and overwhelming! The point is, I have learned to hang on to my supplies and tools of--and joy--for all my fixations because a lot of them do come back around and I am happily fixated again! You are a Bright Shining Star and I love this video! Thank you so much!
I love this video, it's hit at the right time! I have just decided I need to learn electric guitar after going to a gig and I was panicking and beating myself up about how I'm constantly starting new things and it actually resulted in me not doing anything new for a long time and the part of my brain that is '"sensible" and quiet and sad' was in control and the ADHD part of my brain was shoved in a box and it just made me feel so empty and flat.... I'm trying to learn to be more me and at least have these realistic expectations ie I'm not gonna be rocking out stadiums but music does fetch me joy so having something I can do that helps me relax or feel happy will help. I've bought a second hand guitar and I'm going to use UA-cam to learn songs that I like (easy ones). And it's ok if it sits for a few months unloved as my skates do until the focus comes around again. I need to learn to embrace the quirky parts of me so long as I'm able to do my daily responsibilities and pay bill why shouldn't I.... but saying it is easier than doing it so Thank you for the video.
I was hyperfixated on camping and tents once. I hyperfixated on buying a tent which one to buy for months I changed my mind 4 times and took each one back because it wasn’t right. many many other things. Hyperfixation on bad things it the worse for example Ilnessss (real or imagined), wars, covid medications, relationships. I have only recently learned about hyperfixation and understood what has troubled me for years and years.
I'm auDHD and i almost instinctively grabbed "my" skates to join you because you were having so much fun... but I dont have any! 😅😂❤ I have a history of hyperfixations and your definition is far more accurate! Brilliant video!
Agreed 😊😊
What's hard is knowing when to talk about it or not 😭 Like I have this choice - either I'm gonna excitedly dump all this info on them they likely don't care about, or I have to try to talk about something else and realize I..kinda don't care about something else rn😅so the dialogue is not going anywhere lol. But then the worst is when you DO find someone with a hyperfixation you had, but no longer have it, and cant bring yourself to care or remember much about it :( it suсks to burnout on it before I even find someone to talk about it to
I get it..x
And the next 6 months is a whole different obsession you got
You’re right, hyperfixation and hyperfocus are different, they’re similar but are different. With hyperfocus it’s more short term and you don’t have to be interested in It but with hyperfixation it’s more long term and It’s a literal obsession that is all consuming and It causes distress and can cause someone to be anxious about that thing such as with a tv show for example you worry intensely about how everything will turn out and wanting to know everything about something even tho you can’t yet which that is part of the distress that hyperfixations can cause, it’s both a blessing and a curse. Hyperfixations can vary cuz most hyperfixations fade over time but some very lucky interests we are hyperfixated on become stronger and never go away, so even tho most hyperfixations fade over time, some hyperfixations are lifelong.
I'm so glad you put out this video.
I'm currently hyperfixated on the construction site in front of my house and just cried a few times, cause the deconstruction of the houses is nearly done and the caterpillars and drivers will soon be gone. Oh my. Grief, real, hurting grief.
I try to not hyperfixate on one of the workers, it's really not about them, and try to make it art. It really was incredibly impressive.
Hi Ella, hope you're having a great Friday!! Thanks for all of your content, you've been a great help
this is exactly what i feel like!! (as an autistic person) also idk if anyone else has experienced this, but is it normal to feel physical discomfort/a lot of built up pressure when being hyperfixated? i feel like I'm so obsessed with my current hyperfixation that i want to cry whenever i see/hear of it
am I the only one who feels like that sometimes?
I feel this way too,I get too excited yet nervous I feel so many emotions at once that I wanna cry
Love how happy your skates make you feel, go for it and just have fun. ☺️
Very good
You are so cute, Ella!
I can't roller skate, or ice skate or roller blade, because my balance is terrible.
Love your channel.
Oh, dear! Listening to this, I realize that my general feeling about my hyperfixations, even if I am really into them, is that they are time sucks I should not be doing. I can get a little bit past that feeling, but not very far. When a new job in a new field was my hyperfixation, it wasn't too much of a problem, though it did mean I worked...a lot. But feeling that things I am into are not really okay probably has some connection to my anhedonia and depressive tendencies. Thank you for this insight, I'll have to work on that.
I agree, BTW, with your definitions, and hyperfocus and hyperfixation are NOT the same thing. One is measured in hours, and the other in weeks, months or years. And I love looking at your skates, but the idea of being on skates was terrifying even as a child, and now that I'm old...well, have a GREAT time! I know you'll be crushed that I won't be joining you. :)
I have never had trouble with the "being the best" part at least. Both my father and I found that we plateau. One of my father's few cases of making a self observation, at least out loud, was when he noted that, after a certain point, no matter how much more he practiced the flute, he just didn't get any better. And my ADHD keeps me from researching as thoroughly as my autistic side would like to. I've always been pissed about that.
100% on the research side! It's a massive, massive hindrance. 😤
This has been crochet for me recently! There is something about finding a hobby, thing, etc. that has its own terminology, rabbit holes, communities, REDDITS! and more that is utterly satisfying. When you mentioned just wanting to put your skates on even when you couldn’t go out, I feel the same way about yarn 😂 I’m too tired after work sometimes but I still want to just touch and organize my skeins lol thank you for a great video!
I've also described my brain as a dog with a bone!!!! Excellent metaphor! 😄
Oh my word, I was not prepared for how BEAUTIFUL that purple suede is on your skates! 💜 Love it! 💜 And thank you for encouragement to go with the flow and enjoy our hyperfixations!
omg seeing you show your skates off was so so so satisfying! i love those skates, theyre beautiful, and seeing the joy you experience with them is even more so. i think I have a fixation for knowing about the fixations of others btw... so that's where some of this is coming from. but! i also just want to appreciate and facilitate joy in the world, for myself and for others. thank you for this well-composed video, and thank you for sharing your enthusiasm for your current obsession! (let's destigmatize 'obsession' 😋!)
I can relate to this video sooo much. My facebook groups and youtube subscriptions give a very telling story of my ever changing hyperfixations. The latest being Pokemon cards. I started collected them about a week and a half ago and now have the full set of Scarlet & Violet (apart from hidden rares). The fixation has already eased though, which is quite fortunate as I spent far too much. I am self diagnosed autistic and have my assessment this Friday. The online tests for ADHD have never given a strong indication that I also have that. But I think I should discuss the possibility at my appointment! p.s. I love your purple skates!
Happens to me every so often, most of the times on certain "visual novels" then I obsess over the characters, but when it isn't that, it is mostly a person that I really like.
OMG those skates are incredible! You got me with the purple but suede as well 😍 I supervised on ice skating for a while, little tip for balance, 'head, hips, heels', your head is heaviest thing, if you can keep it aligned with your hips and heels, it can help. Soft knees, but as a fellow hypermobile person, we got that. It's a wonderful sensory experience tho isn't it. Feels like flying.
LOVE Jelly cats, with you on the hyperfixation. Mine started with Lottie Bunny, then Tumbletuft mouse, curvy elephant, silly succulent Schlitz (one plant I can't kill, coz it's plush). Riverside rambled mood in honour of The boy the mood the fox and the horse. Chandler chinchilla. Waiting on jub jub bimmie! He's representing my neurodivergent traits, as I have felt like an alien for over 50 years and only recently discovering Neurodiversity and just how many of the traits I have.
This is how I experience my interests!🎉 I loved your video showing your jellycat collection because of your joy!
i also ended up with a heavy hyperfixation in rollerskating, and i was originally sad cause i was a broke student who couldn't afford rollerskates (which are expensive, for a decent pair, and of course i did all the research to know what is the best for a beginner, what's safest, etc.) but my mother (who's desperate to get me to exercise) said she'd by some for me, and i still have the same pair to this day, and I go rollerskating every week at the local leisure centre and i love it! I couldn't rollerskate as much as i wanted to for a long time because when i was living at uni there was just no places nearby that were good for skating, and i struggled to find the time and motivation to go out, but now that i'm home and i have the leisure centre nearby, i can do it more regularly (i much prefer indoor skating to outdoors, all the bumps and cracks outside make for a rougher skate outside, but skating indoors is always lovely and smooth).
Also, its true that rollerskating is one of the better sports for people with physical disabilities, especially those that effect the joints because its very low impact! It has very little effect on your joints while still building strength in your legs, and improving balance. I've also realised there seems to be a high portion of autistic/ND rollerskaters, it seems to be pretty common amongst us autistics! I think it can be a nice sensory experience for us, so that might be why.
Anyway, I'll take any opportunity to infodump about rollerskating.
I loved roller skating as a child! I am scared to do it with my POTS. Good job with doing it anyways!
I'm 45 and my wife ask me yesterday if I have this. Omg this is so me. Not enough education or videos on this. Brill video
Thanks for making this video I’ve always been so curious about why my hyper-fixations cannot just disappear from my brain so easily. The worst hyper-fixation I have is on people , remember since I was a girl at school I would hyperfixate on other girls like me an want to copy their hairstyles and clothes when it comes to romantic relationships I’ve realised most men Ive been interested in I’ve hyperfixate. My current male hype-fixation is 3 years which I think he has now become my special interest currently lasted years. My other more acceptable hyper-fixation currently is designer handbags which has lasted over a year however that and I feel also might also turn into a special interest because I constantly research and talk about handbags to others even at work which I know is too much for a lot of my coworkers.
Just got around to watching this today, and hearing about your hyperfixation just made me grin so hard. I love how excited you are about it. It really is one of my favorite things about being autistic: recognizing the excitement of others for their interests 😁
Can I just say I’ve not seen anyone who suits a shaved head as perfectly as you do. It absolutely is your look. Love it.
My 19 year old is currently hyper focused on Thomas the tank engine. She has no idea why lol but as I always tell her, go with what gives you joy
I love this video. I definitely see a difference between the two and I'm glad you made a video about it! Also, I love roller skating too! But it's always low key, lol I've noticed over the hears when I'm around a group of people and they are talking about fun things to do, i always mention that we could go roller skating! To which, no one really seems interested or the subject is changed after a slight nod of consideration to the idea. Lol it cracks me up because deep down I really want to skate and am always looking for someone who might be interested too. Even after failed attempts, I still keep bringing it up!
Excellent video! 💜 Beautiful roller skates, and thanks so much for showing footage of you out and about enjoying them. 🥰👍
your collection is very cute. i'm collecting jellycats too. i have a medium sized pale pink bunny, small pink bunny with floral ears, the same octopus as you, wee fairy mushroom, brontosaurus & teddy bear. the unmasking really suits you ella
My makeup hyperfixation is so bad, I have spent over $200 on it. Now I’m banned from buying make up 😂😂😂
I have a lot of hyper-fixations lol and I just got out of one so I found this video by searching ‘things to hyper fixate on-‘
This video was so helpful!!! Thank you so much. I haven’t been able to understand the process of this high intensity of interest and put a word to it. Now that I’ve connected a word, I don’t feel like I’m alone in the process. I appreciate you so much! 🙏🏾🫶🏾✨
hiya Ella, I absolutely loved this video. Seeing the joy was wonderful! Also had no idea you were in Bristol like me!! I took up rollerbooting again when I was 30 and loved it until I got unwell with Lupus. That was 13 yrs ago and I still remember the untter joy it brought me and wish I could do it now. I also have hypermobility so know the dangers and am glad you are taking the right precautions. I love your boots, they are beautiful. Mine were white with white wheels - like ice skates! Soak up that joy!
I’m experiencing an extreme case of hyper fixation right now. It’s been months and somehow it’s getting worse and worse and I dont know how to stop it. I literally can’t do anything else.
Yippee Mr Broccoli arrived safely and matches today's eye shadow... Love it
Yes and I love them - thank you it was a very kind thing at a time when I needed it
This is HILARIOUS because I am just getting into roller skating
I have hyperfixated on climbing or pottery but now Iam hyperfixating about Veganism and I feel a bit overwhelmed and intimidated because being vegan is a big commitment it feels bigger than hyperfixing on a hobby now!
Yey I used to love roller skating and blading. It has been years since I've owned a pair though as I also have physical issues. I've been tempted to shave my hair off as it is irritating me big style so on Tuesday I'm getting my hair done and comprising with a really short do with undercut. I cant wait for the weight to be lifted off! I'm also a late diagnosed AudHDer (also dyslexic!) Thank you for sharing x
This is a very helpful video. Thank you!
Those 🛼 are absolutely gorgeous! Enjoy 🎉🎉🎉
I hyperfixate on a lot of things but one consistent hyperfixation is music. I typically hyperfixate on one song per month and it’s the worst because depending on how long I hyperfixate on it I just become sick of it and kind of hate it even when it’s still an incredible song that I want to like. It makes me so upset 😭
YOur an amazing skater, love that they are purple. I have two autistic relations, my nephew and great nephew, amazing. Studying SEN Cache Level 3
I am autistic and a master of a version of 'body clumsiness' that wouldn't be classed as dyspraxia. I know when I was a child my grandfather bought a small skateboard for me, but I could never master the balance needed to stay on board. So my parents bought me my first pair of roller skates and I coped a lot better on that.
I was able to skate through my teenage years, but then events outside my control forced me to stop... before further events beyond my control allowed me to re-start... then more further events forced me to stop again. I wish I could re-start again, but I'm out of practice (and where I am there are not many good outdoor skating spots available - it's either too many potholes, private land or it's too far away.)
As for hyperfixations, there have been a few in my life... from pin badges and owls through to the Greater Bristol public transport network and orienteering. (I live a lonely life.)
The skating video looks lovely. Much fun. 😊👍👍
You are awesome
Keep being you
From a fellow neurodiverse brain
This is me!!!! It’s exhausting and can be extremely debilitating.
I get this at this time every year- it focuses on people…help!
For me it changes, rn my hyper fixation is on South Park last one was FNF.
Great video. Thank you so much.💜💜💜
this gave me so much happiness seeing you speak on your joys✨🛼 you glow from the inside out!
I always hyperfixate, and I'm always overexcited. About my 2000 Volvo S80. I love the car so much that I will literally talk about an information dump about It's history multiple times and it never gets old to me But I feel as if it's quite annoying and old to other people.
I agree. I have a hyperfixation on video games. Its not like "Oh, I love to play video games". No, its more like I literally think about them 24/7 and want to talk about them 24/7. Ive been playing since a toddler and now I am 30 and still feel the same way. Nothing excites me more. But that doesnt mean I cant hyperfocus on an interesting article, a movie, or when I study.
Hyperfixated on ice skating, not supervised get spellchecker!
Loved to juggle when my hands let me. Cascade takes my brain to a resting place, bought all the gear, did ok till hypermobility made it too painful. Currently I'm back on art, Neurographic drawing helps slow my brain.
i get you. when i hyper fix on things i can stop it takes up my life 😭 but the way you fewl whem you hyperfixate its like domipine is released
I have actually had a very similar experience with rollerskating!
proud! love thissss
I SO relate. Thank you for sharing. I have been obsessed with flaxseeds, how to use/ make flaxseed gel and what it can be used in/ for. I also Dig lentils they are awesome. So yeah I try to not talk about these topics for 4 hours straight.😂😅. My relatives stop me if I become annoying 😊. I love them so much. You seem awesome. Have an amazing day.
Hello! I quite enjoy your videos and find them quite relatable.
In this video, you very briefly mentioned you experienced joint pain. I just wanted to say something interesting I learned about the relationship between joints and muscles that I got the chance to learn because I am undergoing physical therapy, not for my joint pain specifically but I was told it would also improve because of the exercise program I am doing.
So, anyways! Joints tend to absorb most of the shock from... physical activity impact(?). But! When we strengthen the muscles around the joint, they will definitely assist the joint and serve as the main shock absorber instead. So basically: strengthening the muscles will help support the body even more. Though I heard consistency is key, and rest days are especially important because the muscles are probably building on those days. But on rest days it's still okay to do light physial activities that aren't physcially taxing.
Oh. And when working out, you really don't have to feel soreness the next day. As long as you felt the muscles being engaged during the workout that is plenty good. Soreness is kind of the sign of overdoing an activity, so it isn't necessary to go that far, in that case just do less sets (It took me a while to understand the workout lingo of "reps" and "sets", lol). Is what I heard. Oh. And because I also am very familiar with joint pain, when working out you do not want to feel the joints doing the work instead of the muscles. If during the exercise it feels like the joint is doing the lifting either try to push the engagement to the muscles or just do a different exercise instead. Do one that works for you, basically. It does require interception to get that kind of sense though... which I am also working on because I don't have a good sense for my own body.
So, yup. I don't know if this would be helpful in anyway or if this was just plain info dumping on my part (lol).
Do you have EDS and/or POTS?
@@Catlily5 I think I have to reply this with: unknown.
I was never able to get any diagnosis for my joint pain (that kept increasing in severity over time with physical activities). Though recently I have had to take a break from work because I eventually got an overuse injury and focused all of my attention on physical therapy consisting of stretching and building up strength. So far, for me, the joint pain seems to be getting better, but once I return to work I'm not sure if it will stay that way or act up again. Ah, my work requires standing all day and walking 50%+ of the shift.
That was a tangent. I am curious to know where this conversation is going. (I am being very literal here. I have a tendency to not really understand what direction conversations go in and I tend to go on tangents without fully comprehending that is what I am doing.)
@@crowhoang3683 I was just curious because autistic people are more likely to be diagnosed with EDS and/or POTS and you have some symptoms (joint pain). I have POTS and possibly EDS so I was curious.
@@Catlily5 hm! That is very interesting!
I'm AuDHDer i think thats how to call it but I hate my hyperfixation. It's constantly on my brain however I can't ever get rid of. The game YTTD is my hyper fixation for over a year and im not even sure if its a hyper fixation, a lot of my hyper fixations tend to be games/shows however there was this one time i had this huge hyperfixation on autism itself, ISNT THAT CRAZY!? like having an entire period of my life where i would research day and night about autisim like jeez anyways idk why i commented this thought it would be something people would see and go "hey omg me too we are like so similar omg yayaya"
How would you "reign it in" when you hyperfixate on a person? 🙃 It feels like I hyperfixate as soon as I meet a new person that I connect with and it can be quiet frustrating knowing that I shouldn't but having no tools to do anything else.
Love the green eyeshadow, and the skates, and your whole outfit! 😅🥰
My recent episode was apply for new job. I told my self apply for job and forget about it. big mistake! Spent weeks researching into. Predicting the future what will happen if I get job ect. Well I didn't even get interviewed lol😅
My hyperfixation is star wars at the moment and it's definitely getting costly. IV even planned on building a room just for all my Mandalorian stuff. I get so much joy out of it but the negative side is not having enough money to continue and the nights I miss sleep looking up star wars on internet 🤦
I can never tell the difference between hyper fixation and hyper focus, which one is my Aspergers which one is my ADHD.
I Will impulsively spend money towards a hyper F even if I try to stop myself, it’s happening.
I spent hundreds and hundreds of pounds last years on reborn dolls. Now in fairness I’ve gone on to sell a lot of those on AND it lead me to start painting my own reborn dolls to sell! But that was a big risk I was taking with all that money initially. I love having fixations but Damn they make me impulsive and also they can get in the way of life
Do you have any videos of your juggling you could share? That's such an interesting job (and hyperfixation!)
Hi, sure, this is a much younger me in a show ua-cam.com/video/rU16zx8y17g/v-deo.html
HELP I HAVE THE SAME OCTUPUSE IN THE BACLCKKCKC
I 🧡🧡🧡🧡 your eye shadow. Wow. 💥👁👁
I couldn’t live without my hyper fixations/special interests. I’ve always had many (AuDHD too 😅)
Some of the I don’t share because I feel too self conscious, others I can’t even control not sharing them because they take over all of me 😅 I’m currently into making handmade journals and all that entails. My job used to be a hyper fixation, but not anymore, so that’s hard, because I truly just want to do crafts all day long
Oh I love the idea of a home made journal. Do not give me a new hyperfixation! 😂
@@PurpleElla I’m fully absorbed by it!!! There are plenty of tutorials and idea on UA-cam! You can use junk mail, food boxes, anything you have, so it doesn’t cost much. Do it!!!!
omgg i totally forgot i had a rollerskating hyperfixation too!
but i couldnt afford it lol
They are nice roller-skates
I absolutely don't like being obesessed or hyperfocused on something...for example right now. I want to buy an Aquarium, and i cant stop watching videos, or google for the right fish or Plants and so on and i can't talk to anyone about it because i would go on and on and people would get extremely annoyed....i am so fixated on it i can't even sleep properly.
I also both ADHD and Autism.
when you brought out your jellycat plushie I SMILED SO MUCH i want a jellycat bunny sooo badly... one of my hyperfixations is rabbits in general (i have a bunny too! his name is cookie) & i want to buy everything bunny related that i ever see,, its just i saw the giant bunny jellycats at a toy store and they were $60 so it might take a while to get one for myself
When I have a dream that I'm really getting things done, I'm always on roller skates. I can wear them everywhere! On stairs, on trails, in water... I just quickly glide around. And, no I don't actually roller skate. 😂
Hi dose this mean im hyperfixed on coloring books? I watch hauls on them i buy 4 coloring books a month. I do love to sit an look through my coloring books with no color added. To me its fun.
Because the autistic/ADHD mind can functions so differently than the NT mind, it is important to defined these differences. I have to laugh because the last couple of months my "special interest De Jour" has been 2 and 3 inch solid chrome steel ball bearings. I'm so tempted to get the 4 inch (10 LBS).. the 5 inch (20 LBS) ??? STOP!!!! I'm amazed by the weight, the near perfect spherical shape (within 25 millionth of an inch), the smooth almost mirror like finish, yet the extreme hardness. They are excellent at relaxing muscles ( message) , They absorb heat and hold it for over an hour or as cold as ice when frozen and it quickly exchanges these temps into the body. They are like jewels. Holding one is like being covered by a weighted blanket.. it's calming.. centering . There are few things we see/feel in our life that hold these qualities... LOL I've been like this all my life with so many things. I've learned so much about my self as well as other things as I deep-dive into off-shoots of related information about types of steel, manufacturing processes, and so on... Associative thinking - how all things are connected in some way is an important part of our mind.
My hyperfixations last approx 12 month Tarot, Chess, Hinduism, Flat Earth...I learn and buy everything to the max then...Click , no interest. WTF ? An Alice in Wonderland Quote... What is the Hatter with me, Have I gone Mad? I'm Afraid so, You're mad, Bonkers, Off your head...But I'll tell you a secret ...All the best people are....x
Flat earth??
@@sahar1213 yes best thing I ever discovered. Research Eric Dubay and you will NEVER see things the same EVER again! X
Does anyone else have like 10-90 seconds for the initial listening/focusing and if it isnt interesting you lose focus? 😅 in contrast I overly listen to a new song I obsess about and I have to watch hours and hours of reactions to it... I can and have easily spent 10 hours nonstop focusing on downloading Sims 4 mods when I should've been doing something else or sleeping 😵💫
I'm looking forward to seeing you juggle while you rollerskate 💜
My audhd ass after hyperfixating on rainworld and now femtanyl and object shows (my animal jam hyperfixation is slowly returning
ella!! I love skates and skating too!! I love this for you!!! what wheels/plates/ toe stop did you go for?? 💜
I have Moxi lollies with the standard wheels etc that come with them. I will invest in some cuter toe stops at some point.
I have a question, to anyone with experience. if I am seeking ADHD and autism diagnosis (in the US by the way) do I seek to get assessed for ADHD or autism first? Will one first affect the accuracy of testing for the other? financial and availability restrictions prevent me from doing both at the same time.
I have some adhd traits i believe so....but im not 100% sure but i do fixate on something then i can't just have 1 of something for example Crystal skulls i bought a few and that turned into chaos🙈🙈🙈😂😂 and basically other things as well🙈🙈
I will also buy things i have quite a few unfinished projects🙈🙈🙈 not good at all😂😂
Can people with ADHD become hyperfixated on coworkers?