My husband saw an IUD and decided, when we're done having babies, he would rather get a vasectomy, as opposed to my having something inside me. I thought it was very sweet.
He's being fair. IUD can be painful. I had one for a year and I never experienced such painful periods and that much bleeding. I had to put nocturnal pads every day on my period. It's the worst method I have used.
@@tasha4052 Same! I learned recently that your cervix moves higher/lower throughout your cycle. Your cervix is lower around your period, so that could be why :)
They can! My partner says it feels like wire cutting him. You can also see where it cuts him. I do not care what drs say, YES THEY CAN FEEL IT! My dr flat out lied to me about it. By the way, they do NOT feel like “plastic”, it feels like a fishing wire.
Thank you for this report. It's alarming how often something rare/different from what the medical field says will happen... Happens. Got to do due diligence on everything.
My husband and I talked for a year and a half before we did anything. I told him I had the mirena iud prior. He had no idea what I meant and was like “ok that’s cool” we hook up. About a month later I said it was time to get my mirena redone and he says “what’s that?” I explain…he goes “that’s what that is?! Does it feel like fishing line?” I’m like “maybe? Wait you felt fishing line, had no idea what it was and didn’t question that?” To which he said “I’m really into you ok? I wouldn’t have questioned ANYTHING” 😂
This happened with me too! My doctor kept telling me it was psychosomatic and impossible for either of us to feel the IUD, though. However, predictable wounds and bleeding don't typically occur with something that's, "all in your head." They pressured me to keep it and still wouldn't believe me about being able to feel it, even though as soon as it was removed, those injuries stopped.
@@kismetcaffet9862 I’ve actually lost completely all trust in western medical doctors because of this psych dependent scapegoat mechanism they all use. I commented what I did to “dibs” because of course I didn’t keep it in!!! I was a hazard, why would I want to live as a sexual hazard????
Anytime I hear IUD I think of the absolute misery it was to have one placed, the subsequent pain and then the complete terror it was to have it removed. Although removal was smooth, I was already so traumatized by the amount of careless doctors and normalization of pain as a woman that I was so sure this too, would be another super painful thing that I’d have to experience while my doctor would assure me is normal and that I should just be grateful I’m not giving birth because that’s WAY worse.
Adding to what you said, pitocin is the iud of childbirth. Gave birth at home, but for the placenta I had Pitocin and it was torture. Could not imagine a health woman trying to push a baby with those erratic contractions.
The placing also really sucked for me. However it's so nice to not have to think about taking birth control for years at a time that I will definitely be replacing it when I hit 5 years. There is no way I'd be able to take the pill.
I dont understand why women can't be given some sort of anesthesia for this procedure, even if it's a bumbing injection, something. I refused to get one because of this. On another part of the body. Breast biopsies, OH MY GOD! 3 shots of lidocaine, and they took 4 tissue samples. First ever biopsy I was knocked out because the size and location of the lump. This time, I was awake. And the placed a clip, today I had a savi scout clip placement, again just with lidocaine injection. Put us into a twilight sleep, the biopsy and first clip, i felt a tissue sample being taken and I felt a nasty pinch with the clip insertion. Today with the savi, it wasn't to bad but stop making us feel things we shouldn't have to feel. It's torture. The biopsy they demonstrated the sound of the biopsy gun thing that took the tissue samples so I would be prepared and not jump. The sound scared me more than the procedure.
I was offered the copper IUD due to severe PCOS, only ever heard mostly (or experienced via friends) negative things about the IUD, had 2 friends at work where it became dislodged & they were rushed off in an ambulance in excruciating pain. I had an awful fat shaming gynaecologist who told me ‘that was my only option because I was fat’ (nice lady), it wasn’t, I went on cerazette & I’ve been on it years with no issues. Ladies, if you aren’t comfortable with the option, there are many more out there, & please do your research! Don’t go by what I or anyone else says.
😮💨 so glad you didn't get the metal one, I've heard so many horror stories and seen it with my own eyes. They should be illegal. Yours was the best comment. I hope doctors treat you better 🙏
Yea!! What works for one person won’t necessarily work for the next. There are SO many different options and methods of contraception now. It definitely is not a one-size-fits-all type thing.
@@MisstressMourtisha idk, it's one of the only non-hormonal bc options. Some people can't tolerate hormonal bc. It does seem intense when there are side effects though 😬
Yeah! I have pcos, and got an copper iud fitted when i was 19, it was dislodged within the week it got put in, i was in horrific pain and went to A&E twice, on my third time back, they finally gave me an ultrasound and noticed it was wayyy to low and pretty much instantly took it out of me. Got put on Cerazette afterwards, nothing but praise for that pill, took much longer than 6 months for the bleeding to completely stop but i have now not had a period in years, so grateful.
I had the copper one for about 8 months and every time I bent over it would stab my uterus and I would be in extreme pain, it was so painful it would make me vomit and I would start bleeding heavily. Went to my GP about it and they said I was "imagining it". On the 3rd trip to the GP I refused to leave the office until it was removed. Took my GP 45minutes to remove it, it was completely covered in over grown scar tissue, couldn't even tell it was a coil there was so much tissue attached to it. Turns out they had put in one meant for women who previously had children. It also made my period go from 3 or 4 days to 10 - 14 days! I would never recommend this to anyone.
I had a mirena iud between kids & while my partner couldn't feel the strings, I absolutely could. It felt like something lightly scraping my cervix all the time, & would occasionally pinch during vigorous workouts. It also exacerbated some mental health struggles. My OBGYN insisted neither of these symptoms could possibly be true... So I got a new OBGYN lol
Just FYI. You still get pregnant with an IUD. Your uterus believes there is already an object in it, and it aborts almost all pregnancies in every woman. I lost 5 with an IUD. Just so you know.
@@kaykasper8770not trying to be disrespectful but I genuinely do not understand. How did you lose 5? How would you know? And if you did know then how did you? I have so many questions (asking as a woman w an IUD, not trying to be catty)
[Data expunged] -- and then the news came out that a few women had died from that model (dalkin shield or something?). Mom had to hunt for a doc willing to take it out again. Apparently what saved her is that the doc who installed it used one size too big (Mom said it also hurt), so it didn't move. They were told to wait a while before conceiving, but wound up with me almost immediately, so that anecdote is closely tied to my personal history. If circumstances had been slightly different, I wouldn't even be here. It's also made me super wary of IUDs, though intellectually I know they've had nearly half a century to troubleshoot the models and work out the kinks, so I expect they're unlikely to wind up with the same problem.
@@ArkylieI’m sorry if this comes off rude, but why would you know? Do they tell you about their sex life? It’s just a bit odd to me yk because it’s your parents 😅
@@literallylyric262 Y'know, I always wonder whether and how much to discuss my knowledge of family matters in places like this. (I'm Neurodivergent and the level of "don't convey what you know exactly how you know it" is a hard skill.) But she talked with me -- adult to adult -- about the issues she'd had, and before that, through childhood, she'd told me the details that were relevant to my birth story. I think I'll erase the more intimate detail there, if it lets me, or if not, erase the whole thing. You're right that it seems a little weird to know such details about your own parents.
My partner can feel mine. And I was told by the PA who placed them it’s possible. My pelvic floor therapist can feel them too and she was curious if it was too low. But an ultrasound and exam by two different doctors showed it was placed correctly. I probably have a cervix that is just lower in my body.
I kept getting pricked by my partners and they ended up getting it trimmed multiple times. It also depended on what was going on with her, like her cervix would sit higher or lower at the beginning, middle, post orgasm etc. Iirc its normal for the cervix to hunker down after an orgasm. Everyone's bodies are different so I guess a lot of it is probably just how just how people match up.
Yea mine sits pretty low sometimes but i can feel the string is only sticking out like a cm.. And lots of partners have said they could feel it. None bothered by it tho.
Honestly same but I'm still going back for another one because for me it's definitely worth it. The gyno was as gentle as he could be but my body just didn't like it at first.
@@mkg2124 oh it's worth staying on the IUD. My second copper IUD is reaching its expiration date and I'm going to get my third one this winter. Gyno wasn't gentle but the nurse showed a lot of concern.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again. Nope. Eff no And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine. Always a pinch Ashe then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
Even when it was cut so short they couldnt cut them anymore (i had to go back and have them cut it multiple times) and my hub. Still felt them. They were painful for both of us!
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again. Nope. Eff no And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine. Always a pinch Ashe then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
@NotjoMarch I haven't seen it! But that's really how it goes 😭 I'm glad right now I do have a proactive doctor who listens a little more than most... And in addition I will add I have been off the IUD and on the Depo for 6 months and that's messing me up just as bad! I just feel like all birth control options aren't being continued in study and they aren't trying to find better ways so we're stuck with picking from a shifty few options... Ughhhhh 😢
But also whilst they might be too long, getting them cut toooo short can mean they don't "flex" with pressure and instead are more prickly feeling. (a good analogy of this is the feeling of shaved legs a few days after shaving, where it feels prickly VS. After a week or 2 of growth, where the hairs can bend more and feel more "fluffy" because they flex to the touch) Mine were a fine length when I got it but it just took about a month for the strings to "curl" around the edge of my cervix. Initially they were rather straight and felt a bit pokey for my partner. Getting them cut too short can make them feel pokey, or when your cervical position changes throughout your cycle, may mean they aren't visible at all which makes it hard to tell if the IUD is still there or not. If it feels funky at first for your partner, and the strings arent excessively long, I'd reccomend giving it some before getting them trimmed. They'll bend over time :))
Came here to say this☝️ First time getting paragurd it was too short and "poked" my husband. Second time I brought up the concern and my OBGYN left them longer, no problems since 🤞
That's great to hear! Seems like such a misconception that getting it cut shorter will make it better, but honestly I think in a lot of cases it makes it worse and people have no idea! My strings are defs longer than what most people would have but my partner, after that first month or two literally never feels the! Glad it worked out well for you :))
Mine were fine at first and could be tucked up and out of the way. Then it settled higher in my uterus after a few weeks which made the strings stick straight out which obviously didn’t feel good for my partner. I had them cut the strings flush with my cervix to fix it 😒
I had a copper 7 in my early 20s it was the worst experience ever, I had spotting for three weeks ,and yes my partner felt it ,and when I went to get it checked the Dr. said it was inserted wrong and Its a chance I could be pregnant 😮of course I changed my birth control 🌺🦋
It’s been ok for me the only issue is that i have quite a lot of spotting 24/7 been a month and a half now still hasn’t stopped it’s like being on my period 24/7 because I get cramps to and then the weird thing is that hen my period starts I’ve then got zero cramps just heavier bleeding it’s weird
I had the plastic one and had bleeding and my hair fell out. Never had sex with it in because it hurt me too bad. Had that shit taken out. IUDs are horrible.
@@ReaAbbott Get it removed before it cause more damage,it a foreign matter to the body and it is rejecting it , try the DEPO shot you get it every three months, you may have a menstrual period or may not, I had it after I had my twins didn't have a period at all love it no side effects at all🦋🌺
I had one, and it poked my husband every time we did the deed. It was uncomfortable for me almost 24/7. I don't think I ever kept it a year. The placement was awful as well. Not painful my a * * ... had me cramping for days after.
I had my first (copper) IUD inserted almost 1.5 years ago after being on the pill for ~6 years. I had really heavy, painful periods, and certain positions during sex started to cause cramps. My boyfriend said he started being able to feel the strings. I thought my cervix was just lower, so I was feeling more of the strings because I was due to start within a few days. Towards the end of my period, I was removing my cup and ended up pulling out the IUD with it. I went in the next week to have a new one inserted and was told the suction from the cup, paired with the heavy/painful periods may have pushed it out. With this new one, my first period was about 8 days, but it seems to have evened out. I switched to a disc which doesn't use suction and I haven't had nearly as much period pain. As for sex, I now have incredibly painful cramps immediately after that last for a few hours and some positions are still painful. This is just my short experience with a copper IUD. I am heavily weary of hormonal options and this seems to be the best one. I have yet to find any answers about the severely painful intercourse, I just read that sex shouldn't interfere with it. I don't want to scare anyone away as everyone is different, this was just my experience and I always appreciate reading about others.
So glad you switched to the disc!! I dislodged my copper IUD 2 months ago when i removed my disc after having sex with the disc in 🙃 I think the disc got shoved sideways or something and hooked around my strings. I probably should have waited for my cervix to come back down, where it normally sits, before trying to fish the disc out (because it was waaaay up there). But i wasnt thinking 😭 Didn't have any problems with disc removal before this. Went to get it checked out a few days after i dislodged it because i was spotting and cramping pretty bad. The midwife had me get an ultrasound and said the IUD itself is still in my uterus, its just lower. And my strings are quite a bit longer now too :') She also said, verbatim, "It's probably still an effective method of birth control" 😭 the "probably" is wild. But i havent gotten pregnant yet so 🤷🏽♀️ Im also cramping more often, randomly throughout my cycle (not just before/during my period, like I used to before dislodging it). So im gonna give it another month before i get it checked out again and possibly removed. Sucks because Ive only had it in for 8 months and these bad boys are supposed to last 10 years 😩😩😩 Just wanted to share so that you can maybe avoid the same happening to you xo
This might seem random and very wrong for your situation, but any chance you're even the slightest bit constipated? I find if I haven't had many veggies for a while intercourse can cause major cramps. I'm 42, not on birth control, gave birth 6yrs ago, and if I go even 1 day with no crap-I got serious pain in my lap!
My husband told my ob that he could feel it and she straight up told him he was lying and if he could feel anything that it wasn’t the iud. We found out later that I have a retroverted uterus so we thought maybe that’s why and maybe that’s why she had said that to him. We just figured maybe usually you couldn’t/shouldn’t feel it because with a “normal” uterus you couldn’t feel it. It’s good to know now tho that it is possible and she was just being unprofessional and rude and that she should and could have done something about it
My ob told me that many doctors cut the string too short and that's what makes it more "pokey". Makes sense to me (logically and considering all the stories about how cutting them shorter didn't help the problem at all). The angle at which the string is cut also makes a difference apparently (which also makes sense). I can feel how the string is slightly bend around my cervix and the end of the string doesn't feel sharp at all. I am really glad I have a very capable ob. Now, if she wouldn't have ignored my pain during the insertion she would be perfect.
100% they will feel them. It's not a problem from that regard. The problem is that the number of women who told my wife that getting one wouldn't hurt, until she got one. Then after she complained that they were wrong, and they then admitted they lied.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again. Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring Nope. Eff no And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
My doctor told me that they should become softer over time and that cutting them shorter might make them actually more noticeable as they will just stick out of the cervix. I listened to her and that’s exactly what happened. My partner was barely feeling them at first, but not anymore.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again. Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring Nope. Eff no And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
I had three IUDs. Never had a problem with strings if they are inserted correctly and gone for a string check a few weeks later by my gynecologist. The only problem i ever had was my very first one where i had a copper IUD and it was too large yo go through the cervix. We ended up getting an IUD that inserts through a tube which helped. Its more difficult for those who haven't had children yet, but as someone allergic to the patches and been on birth control pills for too long that it was advised to switch to another -- this was a great option for me. Where I live its fully paid for by the government (It used to be ~$200). If anyone has questions im happy to answer!
Of course the government paid for it 😅 I'm sorry that's not funny. I just can't. People actually get these things and doctors actually believe they're safe.
It actually wasn't for the longest time. Only my most recent was paid for. It's not for everyone, but to say they are dangerous is spreading misinformation.@@MisstressMourtisha
Reading all of these comments is making me so sad 🥺 my OBGYN is fantastic. Insertion was almost painless with her. Lots of pressure and cramping during but the lesser cramps only lasted a day or two and they weren’t worse than my normal period cramps. I got the strings trimmed once and I honestly forget that it’s in there. I can’t feel it unless I am doing a string check and my boyfriend says he hasn’t noticed it at all. Maybe y’all just need better OBs? 🥺
It also might mean that your IUD has shifted and needs to be replaced, especially if your strings have gotten longer. This has happened twice to me, but it was never painful or needed to have them removed immediately.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again. Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring Nope. Eff no And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
I have OBGYNs say they can also be safely worn with menstruation cups and then later hear horror stories about how someone accidently pulled out their IUD when changing their cup and ended up getting pregnant. Sooooo....in other words "Yes your partner may feel them, but maybe not. Also YOU may feel them, but maybe not. ALSO ALSO, your period may stop but maybe not." Lets work on Male BIRTH CONTROL please
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again. Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring Nope. Eff no And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
Here to vett an IUD. partner felt them. Had to fight to get them trimmed for a few years. Still felt it after obgyn trimmed them. It made him bleed. Blood borne pathogens and sti’s anyone? These doctors can be lovely and delulu at the same time. Do not get an IUD unless you have a perfect uterus. Your organs move and expand/contract around the IUD that does not. You MUST be in absolutely perfect reproductive health to have this medical device used without fuss, infections, or long-term pain. This doctor is lovely, but too out of touch to listen to the patient.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again. Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring Nope. Eff no And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
TMI FROM SOMEONE WITH PARAGUARD While they don't interfere with "the biz" in the slightest, if fingies are inserted or if we're in a position where he's *ahem* pretty Deep, my partner has mentioned that he can feel the strings ever so slightly. I however feel nada from the IUD
Yessss, same!!! My partner also had Paraguard, and the strings protruded about 2 millimeters. I absolutely felt it, from mild discomfort to serious pain. I’m not packing some especially huge tool, and her vagina was actually rather deep comparatively.
For anyone facing the overwhelming gambit of emotions that comes with medical gaslighting- yes. If your partner feels something sharp in your vagina and you have one of these- that’s exactly what it is. You can feel it too. They can say “he shouldn’t feel it” all they want. It’s crazy the things we are told we “shouldn’t be feeling” from the medical community. I appreciate you saying you’ve heard of it. My docs REFUSED to believe it. It’s so frustrating. Long or short it didn’t matter because they move. My husband was stabbed and scratched and I was also stabbed. My friend’s spouse preferred to wear a condom because hers was cutting him.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again. Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring Nope. Eff no And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
@@MisstressMourtisha ?? Why would you say that? Do you have an IUD? My doc recommended i push my strings up to sit by my cervix, so they arent hanging in my vaginal canal. Having them out of the way like that decreases the chance of you accidentally yanking on them.
Yes it is best to leave them a few cm long so they come out of the cervical os (opening) and tuck them in/around the cervical fornices. If too short they can absolutely feel sharp or pokey (at least as sharp as a tiny filamentous line can feel,) if shorter the ends do not have the flexibility to curl around and stay out of the way during sex.
When I got my first one put in, 13 years ago that doctor told me I was supposed to go find the string every couple of months to make sure that everything was where it was supposed to be. When I got my second one in the doctor told me that I was supposed to find it but not to bother because I was going to drive myself crazy trying to find the string. None of it was necessary though I find the strings all the time on my own and my partner finds it when I'm not alone
A woman i knew was done having kids and her and her husband were very passionate about each other. One day he apparently harmed himself on her iud and when he pulled out she was bleeding and ended up in the hospital. I feell like that's so scary😭😭 and many doctors say you can't feel them, but I've met 7 ppl whove had injuries or bleeding from theirs
Careful before cutting the strings too short either!!! If they’re too short they can’t loop around and rest up against the cervix or against the vaginal walls.
Most people I know who have tried IUDs have lasted somewhere from 2-6 months before asking to have it removed, but it has never had anything to do with the string (but apparently thats ALSO a problem from reading all these comments - YIKES!).
45 yo lady here- got my first copper IUD when I was 29, am currently on the end of my third one, stopped for a year in the middle bc of pregnancy (planned) and had the new one put in as soon as they'd let me after the birth. Thinking about a hormonal one as I approach menopause. No hesitation here and never had a reason to pull mine out prematurely other than wanting to have a baby. Everyone's experiences are different!! If I'd listened to the online comments, I'd never have been able to benefit from the freedom that the IUDs have allowed me. TALK TO A TRUSTED DOCTOR.
My first doctor postpartum told me during IUD insertion they left them a little longer instead of cutting them because they would soften up a little bit of the weeks went on and feel less like fishing wire. The only time I've ever heard a partner complain about feeling my IUD is in the first couple of weeks after I get a new one in.
I love my mirena IUD! My husband can feel the strings occasionally but it doesn't hurt him. My periods are so much better and my moods are so much more stable with my IUD. I know IUDs won't work for everyone, but it works for me.
I’m scared to remove my IUD. I saw a video where this guy pierces you with some awful looking contraption. Don’t they just pull the stings? It’s really preventing me from looking into my removal
I had this IUD about 9 years ago I had mine removed after 3 years of having it the removal process was not bad for me I was happy when I didnt have to worry about anymore cramps or periods when I got mine placed ,when you get it removed your period will come back, everyone is different I'm not a health care professional I'm just speaking on my own personal experience. I hope your procedure goes well for you.
It's absolutely valid to be scared! What helped me was asking my gynecologist about the process, she would ask me if she should talk about what she's doing or just get it done to hide it from me if I was scared of tools. It doesn't take longer than ten minutes from literally walking in to leaving, including changing! Yes, they use the strings to take it out, but it's easier to remove than to insert. My family doctor, health nurse and gyno can all remove it, but ONLY certain certified medical professionals can insert! (In my case only my gyno has the credentials!) So if you were able to get it in, it absolutely will be a breeze coming out! Same process as before, advil before the appointment, and relax as much as you can. Slight pinch, then it's all done.
My didn't hurt as bad coming out as going in. I had just had a baby though and only had it 6 weeks so it could have been a little easier because of that.
I can attest that my IUD is the best thing that has ever happened to me. And I have only ever had one partner who was bothered by the strings. Otherwise, I have had no issues since those couple weeks post placement.
my ex definitely felt the strings stab his 🍆 and it was very uncomfortable however after about 6 weeks or so he no longer felt them, my assumption was it was pushed up higher by then. but the first time he had a whole panic meltdown and was being a big baby about it I don’t know if it was actually extremely painful or if he was doing his over exaggerated reaction that he definitely pulled often, however never in regards to our intimacy normally speaking, so i tend to believe it was painful and a shock to him. But, he said it went completely away after maybe 2 months max. And it slowly grew lesser n lesser till gone. And i had it in 11 yrs (yes 1 yr too long) no complaints after that.
I just had my copper iud taken out and started bleeding so heavily for 5 days after. Im ok but apparently my uterus was to small for it and it hurt so badly
@@MisstressMourtisha I just got it removed a week ago, the bleeding is still here but under control but I had only had it for 2 months and started having mass amounts of pain. Went to my ob and they made me wait a week to get it taken out
The iud sucked and caused me years of discomfort and chronic pain. I asked my doctor how the copper iud actually worked. She said," we don't know really. We know that it irritates the uterus into not accepting sperm." Oh, so that's why my uterus always feel imflamed now??? I can't believe I kept it in for 5 years. The day I got it removed I cried tears of joy.
I had an iud for five years. There was never a time that my husband couldn’t feel the strings, even after trimming, removal and reinsertion, vaginal ultrasounds, etc. It was in the right position and everything, I couldn’t feel it at all for a while. Eventually I developed cysts in my uterus where either side of the “T” shape met my body. They burst and made me pass out with pain, so I finally had it removed permanently. Never again
Honest to goodness, reading comments, talking to people, and my own experiences with my mom's drs (I'm her care provider & advocate), my son's doctors, and my doctors, I question why anyone still trusts the medical community. At all. Most of them talk out of their rear or just parrot whatever med school/pharma reps tells them with no actual knowledge. Sheesh. And some people wonder why so many people are pulling away from modern western medicine & trying natural methods or just "taking chances" with no medical/pharma recommendations. In 100 years pwople will read the history and be horrified much like we are with medical practices from the 1800s and early 1900s.
My midwives told my IUDs should only be given to women who have given birth, that's why it's so painful for some. It will never be pain free, but if doctors are recommending these to women who haven't had a baby, they should be fired.
Thank you for bringing up some people can feel them! My last partner was over 8 inches-- so we just avoided the choice of an IUD. There was moderate (but pleasant) cervical pain from bumping without an IUD in the way. I was terrified I'd perforate my cervix if I got one. 😅
My partner very much so did feel it. 😂 it would stab him to the point where he’d have to stop and check if he got cut😅😐 my obgyn kinda just said “oh well” and eventually the strings “softened” so to speak. After a few months anyways. It’s pretty weird. It was the copper iud and after a while it was kinda unnoticeable.
Dont trim them, tell your man to suck it up. We trimmed mine and when it was time to come out, they couldn't find it and they "had to go fishing" is what the OBGYN said. And that was horrible, way worse than putting it in.
I had a copper IUD. Little T shape piece of plastic and metal from hell. SO painful to have inserted Periods were more painful Developed an ovarian cyst ! Just wasn’t worth it. Those strings CAN be felt - I don’t care how thin they are made. I was also able to grab the strings on mine and pull it out pain free Never again
That's what they do, exactly that. IUDs are like grenades. Once the pin is pulled it's cancer, hysterectomy, excruciating pain, and sometimes death. Big parma knew exactly what they were doing when they approved it and then told doctors it was "safe". More sick people more money.
Ive had 3 IUDs and all my male partners that i didnt use condoms with said they can feel the string. It's never hurt them, and i just tell them "thats the feeling of safety"
My strings were literally hanging out of me one day. I went to get it checked out and they got an Ultrasound and told me it was in the right spot. I said there was no way, went for a second opinion, and the Dr was shocked, said it was basically just hanging out there not attached out anything. I just got it removed, came out easier than a tampon. "Right spot" my aunt petunia!!
I always tell my patients give it 2 months to allow them to settle and be covered in cervical mucus. If it's bothering the partner after that, we can adjust them 😊
My partners IUD strings went up my urethra (very bizarre feeling) several times, it would hurt for a split second but was never a big deal, it happened rarely. It would poke me sometimes too. I would ensure to her that everything was ok. I had no problem with it, I didn’t think it was a big deal, shit happens. Regardless I have no complaints the IUD worked as promised.
Mr Dr cut mine MUCH longer than that and it was so much better. They curled up so now my partner doesn’t have anything poking him. When they’re that short, they can be really uncomfortable because they’re much less flexible so they stab you more.
Hmm... so mine were trimmed very short when it was placed. This made them sharp and the strings scatched my partner at time. Trimming them again made it worse. Granted mine was a slightly unusual case as it had to be placed under general anesthetic using a hysterscope.
2 IUDs and in both cases the strings end up in side me. The Drs keep freaking out and want me to have scans to find it. F that, I know it's still there because I don't get period's. It's hell trying to remove it though, only highly trained and experienced staff can do it because I need to be dilated and then they need to go "fishing"
So the issue is I had the IUD that has copper wires (mirena I think?) so it was much more pokey/stiff than a thin plastic wire. My husband could definitely feel the wire and said that it kind of hurt when he hit it a certain way so I went back to the doctor and had it trimmed but unfortunately that made it worse because it was cut in a way that made it feel more sharp and stabby. It may also have something to do with how low my cervix naturally sits and him being well endowed. I’ve had friends who said their partner was on the smaller side and couldn’t feel it since he never reached the cervix.)
I know for sure that’s a NO cuz after 4 years and my kyleena hanging on for dear life, she decided to creep up, way up and nestle herself forever in my angry uterus and had to be surgically removed 🤦🏼♀️🙄 after my last pregnancy I almost croaked from blood loss so my OB said I was done, so had a partial hysterectomy and now I just PMDD without bleeding until I’m forever anemic. Such a blast being a female. Thabks for all you do! I tried OB but ended up in ICU. Keep being awesome! Love your channel! My daughter follows you and has learned so much❤
My partner definitely felt the strings back when I had the copper IUD, and they were trimmed short bc I wanted to be able to use the cup for my periods. The ends of the strings were stiff and were hurting him.
IUD= nightmare. My husband could feel the strings even after having them trimmed. Not to mention the moodswings and crazy periods I was having from it. Dealt with it for almost 2 years and finally had it removed. Felt instantly better. Please do your research, these things are horrible.
I got an IUD twice and both times it made my husband BLEED FOR BEING POKED FROM THE STRINGS. I asked my Doc to trim them TWICE for each IUD i had and my husband still got poked. So, i gave up on them🤷🏼♀️ no regerts🎉
I absolutely love my Liletta IUD! I had been on various BC pills for the previous ~12 years, and did a stint with the implant as well. The insertion wasn’t too bad, felt like a bad cramp for like 30 seconds and then was done, I even went to work (vet office) afterward without issue. I have had ZERO negative side effects, have lost weight, and haven’t had a period since I got it put in almost two years ago. I also haven’t had a single partner mention feeling it to me. I think it’s one of the best decisions I’ve made for myself.
Never get a metal one or any of them really. Just no. Secondly they are never supposed to be permanent. I think this OB is educated ofc but I'm also stating that cancer is a multi billion business....
Seeing you makes me sad I didn’t become a doctor. I never considered OBGYN as an option, I always thought of family doctors and surgeons. It would be amazing to be a woman like you, educating fellow women on our bodies and making OBGYN more comfortable for everyone. I seriously can’t thank you enough for putting your voice out there.
Thank you for your work, its important for girls to see professional women as role models and to have open and honest dialogue about reproductive health issues.
My husband felt it completely. It used to drive him nuts. Also anyone who sees this-DO NOT use hormonal bc if you don't want your cycle/ovulation screwed up/delayed removed after you stop birth control/remove an IUD. Some ppl are more sensitive than others and you won't know until after you remove it if you're one of those ppl, and/or if your cycle will come back in a reasonable time, or ever. So please be cautionary. Per the advice of Dr.'s in my family they told us all to completely avoid all hormonal birth control. They told us the copper IUD is safest to maintain your natural hormonal balance.
I got an IUD a little over 2 months ago, and it’s been one of the most horrifying experiences of my life. Doc had quite a bit of trouble getting it in and had to dilate my cervix six separate times. It finally went it and we did an ultrasound to make sure it was placed properly. They said all things were good. Here I am 3 months later still soaking pads everyday, and being in extreme pain that keeps me from doing normal day to day tasks like working, walking, standing, etc. I’ve called them multiple times and they keep telling me it’s normal. I’m sad at the amount of “education” I received before getting it inserted at my doc’s office. Would never recommend this form of birth control for any of my young friends, but I also acknowledge everyone’s body and experiences are different. 😢 The pain is really wearing on my mental and physical health but at the same time I am anxious to get it removed because of more pain during that procedure. Just sharing my personal experience. ❤
My partner felt them! Once it caught his head! Horrible night... had them trimmed back. Then they scratched his head. The iud helped control my sever bleeding so i opted to keep it in.
For anyone afraid to get them removed: I was shit scared and tense and mine shot out painlessly. My partner could feel the strings sometimes but I liked knowing it was still in place (I did get them trimmed at one point). My best friend has endo and used to get horrific periods, she loves hers and it's made her menstruation way more manageable. IUDs are also way cheaper and more effective than most contraceptive options. Pain management is no joke though, either get it inserted under anaesthesia (e.g. while getting your wisdom teeth out) or be very insistent about needing local at least. Apparently local is optional in America??? Choose the best option for you!
I'm on my second IUD. My partner and I didn't have any issues with my first IUD, but have had a couple instances with the second where he said it poked him. The first one had the strings cut longer, and I could feel that they curves around the edges of my cervix when I checked for the strings. The strings on the second IUD were cut really short. When I went for a later checkup my doctor was concerned because he saw a white spot on my cervix, but it ended up being from the tip of the string of the IUD scratching it (it didn't hurt, and was not problematic, but did cause temporary anxiety when we initially didn't know what it was). Every once in a blue moon my boyfriend says he felt it poke him, but has never complained that it hurt him. When I brought this issue up I was told the strings were already cut as short as they could be. Overall, even with the strings of the being wonky on the second one, I love it. It makes my life so much better. I have ADHD, so not having to worry about my birth control on a schedule makes my life way easier, and best of all I don't get my period. My periods used to be really painful and make me exhausted to the point that it would interfere with school or work. So yeah, like with any birth control there are some drawbacks, but the benefits strongly outweigh them.
YES! YES, my husband was able to feel them, even after they were adjusted. I could also feel them myself! The IUD also causes SERIOUS health problems and drastically worsened my depression and anxiety!
My friend got an IUD and she said she was literally cussing and yelping in pain when they put it in, and now shes terrified to get it taken out when the time comes and after seeing one i totally understand why 😭 i think i’ll just stick to the pill or shots for the rest of my life
I have the copper IUD and you can DEFINITELY feel the strings, i'm not sure if it's different in the uk but i was told i needed to feel for my strings every month after "shark week" to make sure my coil is still in place ❤
They shouldn't be cut short! That makes them poke out rather than curl back. They also get very, very soft after about a month or so due to the cervical mucus. Also, cutting too short can lead to difficult removals because strings are in the os. Don't let them be cut short!!
one of my partners was experiencing pain bc the strings pressed against him in a v sharp and uncomfortable way. I like my iud tho also haven't had this problem recently so the strings were probably just sitting weird.
My husband saw an IUD and decided, when we're done having babies, he would rather get a vasectomy, as opposed to my having something inside me. I thought it was very sweet.
The bar is in hell.
@@sapphicalixlol
@@sapphicalixagreed, it's sad that I actually have to think that's a good guy for being a man. (Hi fellow sapphic)
He's being fair. IUD can be painful. I had one for a year and I never experienced such painful periods and that much bleeding. I had to put nocturnal pads every day on my period. It's the worst method I have used.
Great
Mine were so long they were outside and stabbed my labia. Dr. Said they were fine. Made third appointment with NP and she took care of it.
My gosh
🤯🤯🤯🤯
Wtf! Please contact that office and ask for this to be investigated. That’s incredibly incorrect!
Happened to me too!
On my 2nd implant now & sometimes it's like I feel it real low then other times I don't feel it at all. 🤷♀️
@@tasha4052 Same! I learned recently that your cervix moves higher/lower throughout your cycle. Your cervix is lower around your period, so that could be why :)
They can! My partner says it feels like wire cutting him. You can also see where it cuts him. I do not care what drs say, YES THEY CAN FEEL IT! My dr flat out lied to me about it. By the way, they do NOT feel like “plastic”, it feels like a fishing wire.
Omg
Not everyone feels them. And they actually become softer with time, wrapping around the cervix.
@@Samson16436true they really are like fishing wire at first though my dr let me touch them before it went in it’s like fishing wire at first
Thank you for this report.
It's alarming how often something rare/different from what the medical field says will happen... Happens. Got to do due diligence on everything.
Plastic can cut if sharp enough.
My husband and I talked for a year and a half before we did anything. I told him I had the mirena iud prior. He had no idea what I meant and was like “ok that’s cool” we hook up. About a month later I said it was time to get my mirena redone and he says “what’s that?” I explain…he goes “that’s what that is?! Does it feel like fishing line?” I’m like “maybe? Wait you felt fishing line, had no idea what it was and didn’t question that?” To which he said “I’m really into you ok? I wouldn’t have questioned ANYTHING” 😂
Yeah it’s like fishing wire my ob let me feel the strings before it was put in it feels like fishing wire gets softer as it ages though
@@ReaAbbott Sounds like she had had hers for years. Softens my ass.
That is so cute ❤️❤️❤️ he sounds lovely
He is a legend for that
You really had him… hooked 🥁
they very much do. Could feel them and they even cut and scarred my partner. Had them trimmed 3x and could never get them short enough to stop this
Did you change your birth control method or just learn to deal with it?
@@dibsdibs3495 I’m sorry but how am I supposed to learn to deal with my cervix becoming a weapon during sex
This happened with me too! My doctor kept telling me it was psychosomatic and impossible for either of us to feel the IUD, though. However, predictable wounds and bleeding don't typically occur with something that's, "all in your head."
They pressured me to keep it and still wouldn't believe me about being able to feel it, even though as soon as it was removed, those injuries stopped.
@@kismetcaffet9862 I’ve actually lost completely all trust in western medical doctors because of this psych dependent scapegoat mechanism they all use. I commented what I did to “dibs” because of course I didn’t keep it in!!! I was a hazard, why would I want to live as a sexual hazard????
Trimming them too much can actually make it worse because the shorter they are the more rigid they are.
Anytime I hear IUD I think of the absolute misery it was to have one placed, the subsequent pain and then the complete terror it was to have it removed. Although removal was smooth, I was already so traumatized by the amount of careless doctors and normalization of pain as a woman that I was so sure this too, would be another super painful thing that I’d have to experience while my doctor would assure me is normal and that I should just be grateful I’m not giving birth because that’s WAY worse.
And how much pressure they put on women to get one, even if the pill has been working fine for them for decades and they have no health issues.
Sorry it was such an unpleasant experience for you, it's wild how poor the treatment in healthcare is, even when you haven't done anything "wrong"
Adding to what you said, pitocin is the iud of childbirth. Gave birth at home, but for the placenta I had Pitocin and it was torture. Could not imagine a health woman trying to push a baby with those erratic contractions.
The placing also really sucked for me. However it's so nice to not have to think about taking birth control for years at a time that I will definitely be replacing it when I hit 5 years. There is no way I'd be able to take the pill.
I dont understand why women can't be given some sort of anesthesia for this procedure, even if it's a bumbing injection, something. I refused to get one because of this.
On another part of the body. Breast biopsies, OH MY GOD! 3 shots of lidocaine, and they took 4 tissue samples. First ever biopsy I was knocked out because the size and location of the lump. This time, I was awake. And the placed a clip, today I had a savi scout clip placement, again just with lidocaine injection. Put us into a twilight sleep, the biopsy and first clip, i felt a tissue sample being taken and I felt a nasty pinch with the clip insertion. Today with the savi, it wasn't to bad but stop making us feel things we shouldn't have to feel. It's torture. The biopsy they demonstrated the sound of the biopsy gun thing that took the tissue samples so I would be prepared and not jump. The sound scared me more than the procedure.
I was offered the copper IUD due to severe PCOS, only ever heard mostly (or experienced via friends) negative things about the IUD, had 2 friends at work where it became dislodged & they were rushed off in an ambulance in excruciating pain. I had an awful fat shaming gynaecologist who told me ‘that was my only option because I was fat’ (nice lady), it wasn’t, I went on cerazette & I’ve been on it years with no issues.
Ladies, if you aren’t comfortable with the option, there are many more out there, & please do your research! Don’t go by what I or anyone else says.
😮💨 so glad you didn't get the metal one, I've heard so many horror stories and seen it with my own eyes. They should be illegal.
Yours was the best comment. I hope doctors treat you better 🙏
Yea!! What works for one person won’t necessarily work for the next. There are SO many different options and methods of contraception now. It definitely is not a one-size-fits-all type thing.
@@MisstressMourtisha idk, it's one of the only non-hormonal bc options. Some people can't tolerate hormonal bc. It does seem intense when there are side effects though 😬
Yeah! I have pcos, and got an copper iud fitted when i was 19, it was dislodged within the week it got put in, i was in horrific pain and went to A&E twice, on my third time back, they finally gave me an ultrasound and noticed it was wayyy to low and pretty much instantly took it out of me.
Got put on Cerazette afterwards, nothing but praise for that pill, took much longer than 6 months for the bleeding to completely stop but i have now not had a period in years, so grateful.
I had the copper one for about 8 months and every time I bent over it would stab my uterus and I would be in extreme pain, it was so painful it would make me vomit and I would start bleeding heavily. Went to my GP about it and they said I was "imagining it". On the 3rd trip to the GP I refused to leave the office until it was removed. Took my GP 45minutes to remove it, it was completely covered in over grown scar tissue, couldn't even tell it was a coil there was so much tissue attached to it. Turns out they had put in one meant for women who previously had children. It also made my period go from 3 or 4 days to 10 - 14 days! I would never recommend this to anyone.
I had a mirena iud between kids & while my partner couldn't feel the strings, I absolutely could. It felt like something lightly scraping my cervix all the time, & would occasionally pinch during vigorous workouts. It also exacerbated some mental health struggles. My OBGYN insisted neither of these symptoms could possibly be true... So I got a new OBGYN lol
As you should . 😊good for you!
Same for me, plus my hair fell out. It took months for it to grow out enough to get a haircut to hide it. It was that bad.
Oh no! @@pcbassoon3892
Same here, except my husband could feel them stabbing him!
These things are AWFUL!
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Nope. Eff no
I have had my IUD for 4 years and my boyfriend cannot feel it. I love it and it has kept me baby free!
Just FYI. You still get pregnant with an IUD. Your uterus believes there is already an object in it, and it aborts almost all pregnancies in every woman. I lost 5 with an IUD. Just so you know.
@@kaykasper8770 sounds like it's doing its job then
@@kaykasper8770thank fcking god
@@kaykasper8770not trying to be disrespectful but I genuinely do not understand. How did you lose 5? How would you know? And if you did know then how did you? I have so many questions (asking as a woman w an IUD, not trying to be catty)
My husband could feel mine! Fast forward a few months, we find out that we conceived with the IUD and the device was malpositioned.
[Data expunged] -- and then the news came out that a few women had died from that model (dalkin shield or something?). Mom had to hunt for a doc willing to take it out again. Apparently what saved her is that the doc who installed it used one size too big (Mom said it also hurt), so it didn't move.
They were told to wait a while before conceiving, but wound up with me almost immediately, so that anecdote is closely tied to my personal history. If circumstances had been slightly different, I wouldn't even be here.
It's also made me super wary of IUDs, though intellectually I know they've had nearly half a century to troubleshoot the models and work out the kinks, so I expect they're unlikely to wind up with the same problem.
@@ArkylieI’m sorry if this comes off rude, but why would you know? Do they tell you about their sex life? It’s just a bit odd to me yk because it’s your parents 😅
@@literallylyric262 Y'know, I always wonder whether and how much to discuss my knowledge of family matters in places like this. (I'm Neurodivergent and the level of "don't convey what you know exactly how you know it" is a hard skill.) But she talked with me -- adult to adult -- about the issues she'd had, and before that, through childhood, she'd told me the details that were relevant to my birth story.
I think I'll erase the more intimate detail there, if it lets me, or if not, erase the whole thing. You're right that it seems a little weird to know such details about your own parents.
My partner can feel mine. And I was told by the PA who placed them it’s possible. My pelvic floor therapist can feel them too and she was curious if it was too low. But an ultrasound and exam by two different doctors showed it was placed correctly. I probably have a cervix that is just lower in my body.
I kept getting pricked by my partners and they ended up getting it trimmed multiple times. It also depended on what was going on with her, like her cervix would sit higher or lower at the beginning, middle, post orgasm etc. Iirc its normal for the cervix to hunker down after an orgasm. Everyone's bodies are different so I guess a lot of it is probably just how just how people match up.
Yea mine sits pretty low sometimes but i can feel the string is only sticking out like a cm.. And lots of partners have said they could feel it. None bothered by it tho.
I know that I could never get an IUD because my cervix sticks all the way out
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Nope. Eff no
The worst pain of my entire life was getting an IUD inserted. Never again.
Same. I neary fainted from the pain and my whole body was uncontrollably trembling for the next 45min.
Honestly same but I'm still going back for another one because for me it's definitely worth it. The gyno was as gentle as he could be but my body just didn't like it at first.
@@mkg2124 oh it's worth staying on the IUD. My second copper IUD is reaching its expiration date and I'm going to get my third one this winter.
Gyno wasn't gentle but the nurse showed a lot of concern.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Nope. Eff no
And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine. Always a pinch Ashe then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
Even when it was cut so short they couldnt cut them anymore (i had to go back and have them cut it multiple times) and my hub. Still felt them.
They were painful for both of us!
Its also possible they cut them to short. Which means they are like spikes sticking out of your cervix
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Nope. Eff no
And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine. Always a pinch Ashe then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
@NotjoMarch I haven't seen it!
But that's really how it goes 😭
I'm glad right now I do have a proactive doctor who listens a little more than most...
And in addition I will add
I have been off the IUD and on the Depo for 6 months and that's messing me up just as bad!
I just feel like all birth control options aren't being continued in study and they aren't trying to find better ways so we're stuck with picking from a shifty few options...
Ughhhhh 😢
But also whilst they might be too long, getting them cut toooo short can mean they don't "flex" with pressure and instead are more prickly feeling. (a good analogy of this is the feeling of shaved legs a few days after shaving, where it feels prickly VS. After a week or 2 of growth, where the hairs can bend more and feel more "fluffy" because they flex to the touch) Mine were a fine length when I got it but it just took about a month for the strings to "curl" around the edge of my cervix. Initially they were rather straight and felt a bit pokey for my partner. Getting them cut too short can make them feel pokey, or when your cervical position changes throughout your cycle, may mean they aren't visible at all which makes it hard to tell if the IUD is still there or not. If it feels funky at first for your partner, and the strings arent excessively long, I'd reccomend giving it some before getting them trimmed. They'll bend over time :))
Came here to say this☝️
First time getting paragurd it was too short and "poked" my husband. Second time I brought up the concern and my OBGYN left them longer, no problems since 🤞
That's great to hear! Seems like such a misconception that getting it cut shorter will make it better, but honestly I think in a lot of cases it makes it worse and people have no idea! My strings are defs longer than what most people would have but my partner, after that first month or two literally never feels the! Glad it worked out well for you :))
THIS . Don't cut them shorter than 3cm!! Also trimming too short can make removal very difficult!
Mine were fine at first and could be tucked up and out of the way. Then it settled higher in my uterus after a few weeks which made the strings stick straight out which obviously didn’t feel good for my partner. I had them cut the strings flush with my cervix to fix it 😒
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Nope. Eff no
As a lesbian I have felt a girl IUD strings before... was surprising
How's that possible !! U don't have a pepe
I had a copper 7 in my early 20s it was the worst experience ever, I had spotting for three weeks ,and yes my partner felt it ,and when I went to get it checked the Dr. said it was inserted wrong and Its a chance I could be pregnant 😮of course I changed my birth control 🌺🦋
It’s been ok for me the only issue is that i have quite a lot of spotting 24/7 been a month and a half now still hasn’t stopped it’s like being on my period 24/7 because I get cramps to and then the weird thing is that hen my period starts I’ve then got zero cramps just heavier bleeding it’s weird
I had the plastic one and had bleeding and my hair fell out. Never had sex with it in because it hurt me too bad. Had that shit taken out. IUDs are horrible.
@@ReaAbbott Get it removed before it cause more damage,it a foreign matter to the body and it is rejecting it , try the DEPO shot you get it every three months, you may have a menstrual period or may not, I had it after I had my twins didn't have a period at all love it no side effects at all🦋🌺
@@ReaAbbottsame thing happened to me. Tapered off after 2-3 months. Now period free going on year 8. Worth it imo 😅
You should watch The Bleeding Edge
I had one, and it poked my husband every time we did the deed. It was uncomfortable for me almost 24/7. I don't think I ever kept it a year. The placement was awful as well. Not painful my a * * ... had me cramping for days after.
I had my first (copper) IUD inserted almost 1.5 years ago after being on the pill for ~6 years. I had really heavy, painful periods, and certain positions during sex started to cause cramps. My boyfriend said he started being able to feel the strings. I thought my cervix was just lower, so I was feeling more of the strings because I was due to start within a few days. Towards the end of my period, I was removing my cup and ended up pulling out the IUD with it. I went in the next week to have a new one inserted and was told the suction from the cup, paired with the heavy/painful periods may have pushed it out. With this new one, my first period was about 8 days, but it seems to have evened out. I switched to a disc which doesn't use suction and I haven't had nearly as much period pain. As for sex, I now have incredibly painful cramps immediately after that last for a few hours and some positions are still painful.
This is just my short experience with a copper IUD. I am heavily weary of hormonal options and this seems to be the best one. I have yet to find any answers about the severely painful intercourse, I just read that sex shouldn't interfere with it. I don't want to scare anyone away as everyone is different, this was just my experience and I always appreciate reading about others.
So glad you switched to the disc!! I dislodged my copper IUD 2 months ago when i removed my disc after having sex with the disc in 🙃 I think the disc got shoved sideways or something and hooked around my strings. I probably should have waited for my cervix to come back down, where it normally sits, before trying to fish the disc out (because it was waaaay up there). But i wasnt thinking 😭 Didn't have any problems with disc removal before this.
Went to get it checked out a few days after i dislodged it because i was spotting and cramping pretty bad. The midwife had me get an ultrasound and said the IUD itself is still in my uterus, its just lower. And my strings are quite a bit longer now too :') She also said, verbatim, "It's probably still an effective method of birth control" 😭 the "probably" is wild. But i havent gotten pregnant yet so 🤷🏽♀️
Im also cramping more often, randomly throughout my cycle (not just before/during my period, like I used to before dislodging it). So im gonna give it another month before i get it checked out again and possibly removed. Sucks because Ive only had it in for 8 months and these bad boys are supposed to last 10 years 😩😩😩
Just wanted to share so that you can maybe avoid the same happening to you xo
@@saraspud yes, thank you! I hope everything goes smoothly for you ❤️
This might seem random and very wrong for your situation, but any chance you're even the slightest bit constipated? I find if I haven't had many veggies for a while intercourse can cause major cramps. I'm 42, not on birth control, gave birth 6yrs ago, and if I go even 1 day with no crap-I got serious pain in my lap!
Two pregnancies with the copper. One just turned forty.
Please to all be advised menstrual cups ruin IUDs. The suction is dangerous for a device.
When I had my IUD I had two partners that told me they could feel my strings..
My husband told my ob that he could feel it and she straight up told him he was lying and if he could feel anything that it wasn’t the iud. We found out later that I have a retroverted uterus so we thought maybe that’s why and maybe that’s why she had said that to him. We just figured maybe usually you couldn’t/shouldn’t feel it because with a “normal” uterus you couldn’t feel it. It’s good to know now tho that it is possible and she was just being unprofessional and rude and that she should and could have done something about it
I mean my ob said you can feel thing sometimes you can’t generally but is possible especially at the start since it gets softer over time
My ob told me that many doctors cut the string too short and that's what makes it more "pokey". Makes sense to me (logically and considering all the stories about how cutting them shorter didn't help the problem at all).
The angle at which the string is cut also makes a difference apparently (which also makes sense).
I can feel how the string is slightly bend around my cervix and the end of the string doesn't feel sharp at all. I am really glad I have a very capable ob. Now, if she wouldn't have ignored my pain during the insertion she would be perfect.
First off, Fire that bish
2nd After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Nope. Eff no
100% they will feel them. It's not a problem from that regard. The problem is that the number of women who told my wife that getting one wouldn't hurt, until she got one. Then after she complained that they were wrong, and they then admitted they lied.
My partner doesn't feel mine. 😊
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring
Nope. Eff no
And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
Mine did interfere especially in some certain positions, it would poke my partner.
My doctor told me that they should become softer over time and that cutting them shorter might make them actually more noticeable as they will just stick out of the cervix. I listened to her and that’s exactly what happened. My partner was barely feeling them at first, but not anymore.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring
Nope. Eff no
And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
I had three IUDs.
Never had a problem with strings if they are inserted correctly and gone for a string check a few weeks later by my gynecologist.
The only problem i ever had was my very first one where i had a copper IUD and it was too large yo go through the cervix. We ended up getting an IUD that inserts through a tube which helped. Its more difficult for those who haven't had children yet, but as someone allergic to the patches and been on birth control pills for too long that it was advised to switch to another -- this was a great option for me. Where I live its fully paid for by the government (It used to be ~$200).
If anyone has questions im happy to answer!
Of course the government paid for it 😅
I'm sorry that's not funny. I just can't. People actually get these things and doctors actually believe they're safe.
Seems like the string thing is common with copper, all the complaints are with copper IUDs in the comments.
I have the mirena and so far it’s working out pretty well for me
It's possible to be on birth control pills for too long? Dang, I need to learn more about that
It actually wasn't for the longest time. Only my most recent was paid for. It's not for everyone, but to say they are dangerous is spreading misinformation.@@MisstressMourtisha
Reading all of these comments is making me so sad 🥺 my OBGYN is fantastic. Insertion was almost painless with her. Lots of pressure and cramping during but the lesser cramps only lasted a day or two and they weren’t worse than my normal period cramps. I got the strings trimmed once and I honestly forget that it’s in there. I can’t feel it unless I am doing a string check and my boyfriend says he hasn’t noticed it at all. Maybe y’all just need better OBs? 🥺
It also might mean that your IUD has shifted and needs to be replaced, especially if your strings have gotten longer. This has happened twice to me, but it was never painful or needed to have them removed immediately.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring
Nope. Eff no
And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
I have OBGYNs say they can also be safely worn with menstruation cups and then later hear horror stories about how someone accidently pulled out their IUD when changing their cup and ended up getting pregnant. Sooooo....in other words "Yes your partner may feel them, but maybe not. Also YOU may feel them, but maybe not. ALSO ALSO, your period may stop but maybe not."
Lets work on Male BIRTH CONTROL please
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring
Nope. Eff no
And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
Here to vett an IUD. partner felt them. Had to fight to get them trimmed for a few years. Still felt it after obgyn trimmed them. It made him bleed. Blood borne pathogens and sti’s anyone?
These doctors can be lovely and delulu at the same time.
Do not get an IUD unless you have a perfect uterus. Your organs move and expand/contract around the IUD that does not. You MUST be in absolutely perfect reproductive health to have this medical device used without fuss, infections, or long-term pain.
This doctor is lovely, but too out of touch to listen to the patient.
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring
Nope. Eff no
And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
Yep. My partner could feel the strings.
TMI FROM SOMEONE WITH PARAGUARD
While they don't interfere with "the biz" in the slightest, if fingies are inserted or if we're in a position where he's *ahem* pretty Deep, my partner has mentioned that he can feel the strings ever so slightly. I however feel nada from the IUD
Please keep every detail (medical record) of your insertion and removal. They break overtime. Do not use menstrual cups.
Yessss, same!!! My partner also had Paraguard, and the strings protruded about 2 millimeters. I absolutely felt it, from mild discomfort to serious pain. I’m not packing some especially huge tool, and her vagina was actually rather deep comparatively.
For anyone facing the overwhelming gambit of emotions that comes with medical gaslighting- yes. If your partner feels something sharp in your vagina and you have one of these- that’s exactly what it is. You can feel it too. They can say “he shouldn’t feel it” all they want. It’s crazy the things we are told we “shouldn’t be feeling” from the medical community. I appreciate you saying you’ve heard of it. My docs REFUSED to believe it. It’s so frustrating. Long or short it didn’t matter because they move. My husband was stabbed and scratched and I was also stabbed. My friend’s spouse preferred to wear a condom because hers was cutting him.
EVERYBODY IS DIFFERENT AND WITH A GOOD DOCTOR I'M SURE ANY ISSUES CAN BE PUT TO REST SO ALL ARE HAPPY...
After watching The Bleeding Edge on netflix, nope nope nope never another iud again.
Also, the matchsticks they offer that are inserted in the arm - my sil works at a drs ofc that constantly has to DIG them out of the arm bc they wind around & dig into the muscle. They cause huge scarring
Nope. Eff no
And they offer no pain mgt or even topical lidocaine for iud insertion. Always a pinch and then they dismiss your pain and subsequent cramps. Eff these Drs
Yes they can and do.
I can't believe they put THAT up people's cervixes without any anesthetic. Idk why, I imagined iuds were smaller than that
none??? 🤯🤯
@@nellieshoalsoh yeah, none at all except telling you to take ibuprofen. It's legal torture.
@@crowgang6678ibuprofen 😢
You can ABSOLUTELY feel it!
I’m not sticking that up my body that’s just insane that anyone would do that
My obgyn wrapped the strings around my cervix so they don’t stick out. Is that a common practice?
HOLY F NO that's not normal
@@MisstressMourtisha is it bad? I just got mine inserted last week
@@MisstressMourtisha ?? Why would you say that? Do you have an IUD? My doc recommended i push my strings up to sit by my cervix, so they arent hanging in my vaginal canal. Having them out of the way like that decreases the chance of you accidentally yanking on them.
Yes it is best to leave them a few cm long so they come out of the cervical os (opening) and tuck them in/around the cervical fornices. If too short they can absolutely feel sharp or pokey (at least as sharp as a tiny filamentous line can feel,) if shorter the ends do not have the flexibility to curl around and stay out of the way during sex.
When I got my first one put in, 13 years ago that doctor told me I was supposed to go find the string every couple of months to make sure that everything was where it was supposed to be. When I got my second one in the doctor told me that I was supposed to find it but not to bother because I was going to drive myself crazy trying to find the string. None of it was necessary though I find the strings all the time on my own and my partner finds it when I'm not alone
That may be true for these ones but the original copper wire ones definitely punctured my significant others... Membrane😂
A woman i knew was done having kids and her and her husband were very passionate about each other. One day he apparently harmed himself on her iud and when he pulled out she was bleeding and ended up in the hospital. I feell like that's so scary😭😭 and many doctors say you can't feel them, but I've met 7 ppl whove had injuries or bleeding from theirs
Careful before cutting the strings too short either!!! If they’re too short they can’t loop around and rest up against the cervix or against the vaginal walls.
Most people I know who have tried IUDs have lasted somewhere from 2-6 months before asking to have it removed, but it has never had anything to do with the string (but apparently thats ALSO a problem from reading all these comments - YIKES!).
45 yo lady here- got my first copper IUD when I was 29, am currently on the end of my third one, stopped for a year in the middle bc of pregnancy (planned) and had the new one put in as soon as they'd let me after the birth. Thinking about a hormonal one as I approach menopause. No hesitation here and never had a reason to pull mine out prematurely other than wanting to have a baby. Everyone's experiences are different!! If I'd listened to the online comments, I'd never have been able to benefit from the freedom that the IUDs have allowed me. TALK TO A TRUSTED DOCTOR.
Two pregnancies from copper. One just turned 40. Dr wouldn’t give pills fam member had cancer. Good luck!
These always remind me of going fishing! 🎣👍🍻
My first doctor postpartum told me during IUD insertion they left them a little longer instead of cutting them because they would soften up a little bit of the weeks went on and feel less like fishing wire. The only time I've ever heard a partner complain about feeling my IUD is in the first couple of weeks after I get a new one in.
I love my mirena IUD! My husband can feel the strings occasionally but it doesn't hurt him. My periods are so much better and my moods are so much more stable with my IUD. I know IUDs won't work for everyone, but it works for me.
I’m scared to remove my IUD. I saw a video where this guy pierces you with some awful looking contraption. Don’t they just pull the stings? It’s really preventing me from looking into my removal
Lawd have mercy !
Im pretty sure they grasps the strings and gently pull it out
I had this IUD about 9 years ago I had mine removed after 3 years of having it the removal process was not bad for me I was happy when I didnt have to worry about anymore cramps or periods when I got mine placed ,when you get it removed your period will come back, everyone is different I'm not a health care professional I'm just speaking on my own personal experience. I hope your procedure goes well for you.
It's absolutely valid to be scared! What helped me was asking my gynecologist about the process, she would ask me if she should talk about what she's doing or just get it done to hide it from me if I was scared of tools. It doesn't take longer than ten minutes from literally walking in to leaving, including changing!
Yes, they use the strings to take it out, but it's easier to remove than to insert. My family doctor, health nurse and gyno can all remove it, but ONLY certain certified medical professionals can insert! (In my case only my gyno has the credentials!) So if you were able to get it in, it absolutely will be a breeze coming out! Same process as before, advil before the appointment, and relax as much as you can. Slight pinch, then it's all done.
My didn't hurt as bad coming out as going in. I had just had a baby though and only had it 6 weeks so it could have been a little easier because of that.
I can attest that my IUD is the best thing that has ever happened to me. And I have only ever had one partner who was bothered by the strings. Otherwise, I have had no issues since those couple weeks post placement.
My husband could and he even said that, depending on position, it could make him finish quicker 😂
my ex definitely felt the strings stab his 🍆 and it was very uncomfortable however after about 6 weeks or so he no longer felt them, my assumption was it was pushed up higher by then. but the first time he had a whole panic meltdown and was being a big baby about it I don’t know if it was actually extremely painful or if he was doing his over exaggerated reaction that he definitely pulled often, however never in regards to our intimacy normally speaking, so i tend to believe it was painful and a shock to him. But, he said it went completely away after maybe 2 months max. And it slowly grew lesser n lesser till gone. And i had it in 11 yrs (yes 1 yr too long) no complaints after that.
I cannot even believe what I am hearing out of your mouth..
I just had my copper iud taken out and started bleeding so heavily for 5 days after. Im ok but apparently my uterus was to small for it and it hurt so badly
So dangerous. I’m so happy you’re ok
Don't ever get one. You dodged a bullet.
@@MisstressMourtisha I just got it removed a week ago, the bleeding is still here but under control but I had only had it for 2 months and started having mass amounts of pain. Went to my ob and they made me wait a week to get it taken out
The iud sucked and caused me years of discomfort and chronic pain. I asked my doctor how the copper iud actually worked. She said," we don't know really. We know that it irritates the uterus into not accepting sperm." Oh, so that's why my uterus always feel imflamed now??? I can't believe I kept it in for 5 years. The day I got it removed I cried tears of joy.
I had an iud for five years. There was never a time that my husband couldn’t feel the strings, even after trimming, removal and reinsertion, vaginal ultrasounds, etc. It was in the right position and everything, I couldn’t feel it at all for a while. Eventually I developed cysts in my uterus where either side of the “T” shape met my body. They burst and made me pass out with pain, so I finally had it removed permanently. Never again
Honest to goodness, reading comments, talking to people, and my own experiences with my mom's drs (I'm her care provider & advocate), my son's doctors, and my doctors, I question why anyone still trusts the medical community. At all. Most of them talk out of their rear or just parrot whatever med school/pharma reps tells them with no actual knowledge. Sheesh. And some people wonder why so many people are pulling away from modern western medicine & trying natural methods or just "taking chances" with no medical/pharma recommendations. In 100 years pwople will read the history and be horrified much like we are with medical practices from the 1800s and early 1900s.
My midwives told my IUDs should only be given to women who have given birth, that's why it's so painful for some. It will never be pain free, but if doctors are recommending these to women who haven't had a baby, they should be fired.
Thank you for bringing up some people can feel them! My last partner was over 8 inches-- so we just avoided the choice of an IUD. There was moderate (but pleasant) cervical pain from bumping without an IUD in the way. I was terrified I'd perforate my cervix if I got one. 😅
My partner very much so did feel it. 😂 it would stab him to the point where he’d have to stop and check if he got cut😅😐 my obgyn kinda just said “oh well” and eventually the strings “softened” so to speak. After a few months anyways. It’s pretty weird. It was the copper iud and after a while it was kinda unnoticeable.
Dont trim them, tell your man to suck it up. We trimmed mine and when it was time to come out, they couldn't find it and they "had to go fishing" is what the OBGYN said. And that was horrible, way worse than putting it in.
I had a copper IUD. Little T shape piece of plastic and metal from hell.
SO painful to have inserted
Periods were more painful
Developed an ovarian cyst !
Just wasn’t worth it.
Those strings CAN be felt - I don’t care how thin they are made.
I was also able to grab the strings on mine and pull it out pain free
Never again
That's what they do, exactly that. IUDs are like grenades. Once the pin is pulled it's cancer, hysterectomy, excruciating pain, and sometimes death. Big parma knew exactly what they were doing when they approved it and then told doctors it was "safe". More sick people more money.
Ive had 3 IUDs and all my male partners that i didnt use condoms with said they can feel the string. It's never hurt them, and i just tell them "thats the feeling of safety"
My strings were literally hanging out of me one day. I went to get it checked out and they got an Ultrasound and told me it was in the right spot. I said there was no way, went for a second opinion, and the Dr was shocked, said it was basically just hanging out there not attached out anything. I just got it removed, came out easier than a tampon. "Right spot" my aunt petunia!!
I always tell my patients give it 2 months to allow them to settle and be covered in cervical mucus. If it's bothering the partner after that, we can adjust them 😊
As a guy, yes we feel them and they are painful. If you can hit the cervix, it makes sense that the strings should be even easier to hit.
So that gives new meaning to the phrase Don't pull my chain. 😂😂😂
i didnt even know there WERE strings, i thought it was just placed inside of you and that was IT.
My partners IUD strings went up my urethra (very bizarre feeling) several times, it would hurt for a split second but was never a big deal, it happened rarely. It would poke me sometimes too. I would ensure to her that everything was ok. I had no problem with it, I didn’t think it was a big deal, shit happens. Regardless I have no complaints the IUD worked as promised.
Mr Dr cut mine MUCH longer than that and it was so much better. They curled up so now my partner doesn’t have anything poking him. When they’re that short, they can be really uncomfortable because they’re much less flexible so they stab you more.
I can feel when i smoosh the whole setup. It is sharp
Yes, you can feel it. Strings or whatever is there. I felt it
They do feel them, absolutely they do. Apparently it feels like fishing line lol
Hmm... so mine were trimmed very short when it was placed. This made them sharp and the strings scatched my partner at time. Trimming them again made it worse. Granted mine was a slightly unusual case as it had to be placed under general anesthetic using a hysterscope.
2 IUDs and in both cases the strings end up in side me. The Drs keep freaking out and want me to have scans to find it. F that, I know it's still there because I don't get period's. It's hell trying to remove it though, only highly trained and experienced staff can do it because I need to be dilated and then they need to go "fishing"
The answer is yes, the strings never soften even after a year of having it. Ive had two before i gave up and switched to the pill
So the issue is I had the IUD that has copper wires (mirena I think?) so it was much more pokey/stiff than a thin plastic wire. My husband could definitely feel the wire and said that it kind of hurt when he hit it a certain way so I went back to the doctor and had it trimmed but unfortunately that made it worse because it was cut in a way that made it feel more sharp and stabby. It may also have something to do with how low my cervix naturally sits and him being well endowed. I’ve had friends who said their partner was on the smaller side and couldn’t feel it since he never reached the cervix.)
I know for sure that’s a NO cuz after 4 years and my kyleena hanging on for dear life, she decided to creep up, way up and nestle herself forever in my angry uterus and had to be surgically removed 🤦🏼♀️🙄 after my last pregnancy I almost croaked from blood loss so my OB said I was done, so had a partial hysterectomy and now I just PMDD without bleeding until I’m forever anemic.
Such a blast being a female. Thabks for all you do! I tried OB but ended up in ICU.
Keep being awesome! Love your channel! My daughter follows you and has learned so much❤
My partner definitely felt the strings back when I had the copper IUD, and they were trimmed short bc I wanted to be able to use the cup for my periods. The ends of the strings were stiff and were hurting him.
IUD= nightmare. My husband could feel the strings even after having them trimmed. Not to mention the moodswings and crazy periods I was having from it. Dealt with it for almost 2 years and finally had it removed. Felt instantly better. Please do your research, these things are horrible.
I got an IUD twice and both times it made my husband BLEED FOR BEING POKED FROM THE STRINGS. I asked my Doc to trim them TWICE for each IUD i had and my husband still got poked. So, i gave up on them🤷🏼♀️ no regerts🎉
My man always said he could feel mine
I absolutely love my Liletta IUD! I had been on various BC pills for the previous ~12 years, and did a stint with the implant as well. The insertion wasn’t too bad, felt like a bad cramp for like 30 seconds and then was done, I even went to work (vet office) afterward without issue. I have had ZERO negative side effects, have lost weight, and haven’t had a period since I got it put in almost two years ago. I also haven’t had a single partner mention feeling it to me. I think it’s one of the best decisions I’ve made for myself.
I lost 30lbs in a month when I got a copper iud in my 20s. I was so so sick and in so much pain :( got it taken out and never looked back
My man said "yes" he can feel it, BUT "its a comforting poke"
@AkumuShi
Wait wha
Never get a metal one or any of them really. Just no.
Secondly they are never supposed to be permanent. I think this OB is educated ofc but I'm also stating that cancer is a multi billion business....
I'm convinced that doctors get some sort of kickback from prescribing IUDs. Why do they push them so hard?
@@pcbassoon3892 they do! Doctors also get money for circumcising baby boys.
Seeing you makes me sad I didn’t become a doctor. I never considered OBGYN as an option, I always thought of family doctors and surgeons. It would be amazing to be a woman like you, educating fellow women on our bodies and making OBGYN more comfortable for everyone. I seriously can’t thank you enough for putting your voice out there.
As a partner of an IUD'er, can confirm you can feel them scratch you when getting busy and it doesn't feel pleasant
Thank you for your work, its important for girls to see professional women as role models and to have open and honest dialogue about reproductive health issues.
My husband felt it completely. It used to drive him nuts. Also anyone who sees this-DO NOT use hormonal bc if you don't want your cycle/ovulation screwed up/delayed removed after you stop birth control/remove an IUD. Some ppl are more sensitive than others and you won't know until after you remove it if you're one of those ppl, and/or if your cycle will come back in a reasonable time, or ever. So please be cautionary. Per the advice of Dr.'s in my family they told us all to completely avoid all hormonal birth control. They told us the copper IUD is safest to maintain your natural hormonal balance.
Two pregnancies with copper. One just turned forty. Good luck with that. Dr wouldn’t give pills cuz of cancer in the fam.
@@queenofdahouse1591 I prevented pregnancy for 15 years on copper IUD.
I could absolutely never😭
I got an IUD a little over 2 months ago, and it’s been one of the most horrifying experiences of my life. Doc had quite a bit of trouble getting it in and had to dilate my cervix six separate times. It finally went it and we did an ultrasound to make sure it was placed properly. They said all things were good. Here I am 3 months later still soaking pads everyday, and being in extreme pain that keeps me from doing normal day to day tasks like working, walking, standing, etc. I’ve called them multiple times and they keep telling me it’s normal. I’m sad at the amount of “education” I received before getting it inserted at my doc’s office. Would never recommend this form of birth control for any of my young friends, but I also acknowledge everyone’s body and experiences are different. 😢 The pain is really wearing on my mental and physical health but at the same time I am anxious to get it removed because of more pain during that procedure. Just sharing my personal experience. ❤
My partner felt them! Once it caught his head! Horrible night... had them trimmed back. Then they scratched his head. The iud helped control my sever bleeding so i opted to keep it in.
For anyone afraid to get them removed: I was shit scared and tense and mine shot out painlessly. My partner could feel the strings sometimes but I liked knowing it was still in place (I did get them trimmed at one point). My best friend has endo and used to get horrific periods, she loves hers and it's made her menstruation way more manageable. IUDs are also way cheaper and more effective than most contraceptive options. Pain management is no joke though, either get it inserted under anaesthesia (e.g. while getting your wisdom teeth out) or be very insistent about needing local at least. Apparently local is optional in America??? Choose the best option for you!
I'm on my second IUD. My partner and I didn't have any issues with my first IUD, but have had a couple instances with the second where he said it poked him. The first one had the strings cut longer, and I could feel that they curves around the edges of my cervix when I checked for the strings. The strings on the second IUD were cut really short. When I went for a later checkup my doctor was concerned because he saw a white spot on my cervix, but it ended up being from the tip of the string of the IUD scratching it (it didn't hurt, and was not problematic, but did cause temporary anxiety when we initially didn't know what it was). Every once in a blue moon my boyfriend says he felt it poke him, but has never complained that it hurt him. When I brought this issue up I was told the strings were already cut as short as they could be. Overall, even with the strings of the being wonky on the second one, I love it. It makes my life so much better. I have ADHD, so not having to worry about my birth control on a schedule makes my life way easier, and best of all I don't get my period. My periods used to be really painful and make me exhausted to the point that it would interfere with school or work. So yeah, like with any birth control there are some drawbacks, but the benefits strongly outweigh them.
Male discomfort, the only reason the medical community does anything for women 😢
YES! YES, my husband was able to feel them, even after they were adjusted.
I could also feel them myself!
The IUD also causes SERIOUS health problems and drastically worsened my depression and anxiety!
My friend got an IUD and she said she was literally cussing and yelping in pain when they put it in, and now shes terrified to get it taken out when the time comes and after seeing one i totally understand why 😭 i think i’ll just stick to the pill or shots for the rest of my life
That’s why I have the rods in. Doesn’t hurt me or my partner.
I have the copper IUD and you can DEFINITELY feel the strings, i'm not sure if it's different in the uk but i was told i needed to feel for my strings every month after "shark week" to make sure my coil is still in place ❤
They shouldn't be cut short! That makes them poke out rather than curl back. They also get very, very soft after about a month or so due to the cervical mucus.
Also, cutting too short can lead to difficult removals because strings are in the os. Don't let them be cut short!!
Yep STABBY STABBY they stabbed me too so my OB modified the strings and it got IMBEDDED IN MY CERVIX AND I ALMOST DIED
i can honestly say that yes they can
one of my partners was experiencing pain bc the strings pressed against him in a v sharp and uncomfortable way. I like my iud tho also haven't had this problem recently so the strings were probably just sitting weird.