I'm done living for a fantasy-self.
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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2024
- Sometimes you hear something that seems so simple, but it's life changing. I'm done living life for a fantasy self that doesn't exist.
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Yes yes and yes. I loved this! I’m finding so much freedom from just simply acknowledging the truth of my life and who I am- not who everyone else is. So good!
JAIMIE KIGHT absolutely!
This is so interesting, and something I needed to hear. It's such a contrast to 'fake it til you make it' and 'dress for the job you want'. Much love 💖
Agreed! I went through a period of discontent because everyone, or so it seemed, in our (my and my husbands) age bracket was selling their “starter” home and buying a bigger, better home. We even went so far as to put our home on the market. Thank the Lord that He knew what we needed and didn’t need. Our home did not sell and we stayed put and continued to work on and improve the home that we are still in. I am so thankful that He didn’t give me what I thought I wanted. So what if your “starter” home becomes your forever home?! We don’t need more. We don’t need bigger, better, newer. We need to appreciate what we have and take good care of it. I can honestly say that I love my home! Sadly, a lot of the people who bought bigger and better that we knew have had a lot of financial difficulty and it has had a negative impact on their marriages and other parts of their lives. Comparing yourself and your life to the lives of others is a dangerous habit for sure!
I bet the Most High gets extra proud of us when He observes our growth spurts!
Yes yes yes I was having a conversation with my mum the other day about want and need. When you see all those instagramers and you tubers you want that life but you don’t need it. My mum compared it to when I was child. She would only let us watch abc kids most of the time. A chancel that just played not stop kid shows with no ads. Then sometimes on Saturday mornings she would let us watch Saturday Disney. Which was a kids show but on normal tv and not only were there ads but because it was a kids show they ads were geared towards kids and were just full of toy ads. She said we always asked for toys after Saturday Disney not because we needed them or even really had an interest. But because the ads made it look so fun and we wanted to be like the kids in those ads. As an adult I struggle with trying to live life as it is and trusting that God has provided me with everything I need. And the materialistic but some comforts, some treat your self is okay right? And trying to find a happy medium between the two.
Great Words Ashlee, many woman are trying to be someone they are not. We just need to focus on ourselves, our children, our husband and what we are called to do what ever that may look like. Social media is not good in my opinion unless it’s truthful inspiring content.Let’s live in the word of God and get our fulfilment and identity from him😊🌈❤️
AMEN! I agree totally! Since my husband left me after 38 years of marriage I have been going through the same thing. All I need is enough and my God is gracious to provide it! You go girl!
I am a Jones but I am not keeping up with them. He he. At 70 I am finally living my life for md and no one else! Great video!
I had to go to Raleigh today from my smaller town and I am not kidding you, I went to get a bag to take to Trader Joes with me and thought, I need to get the other one, this one doesn't work for TJ's shopping. I need to get rid of this one, it's for my FANTASY SELF. WOW! God is speaking and we need to listen!!! I am not a woman that wears bright/busy/loud makeup. But I do appreciate a well-put together appearance. I don't need to have fancy hair, but I do like to present myself as well-kept. I care more about the people around me feeling at ease with me than I do me looking like a millionaire. THANK YOU for approaching this subject. I love your blogs from your new home. You've gotten gritty and are just real - you are a blessing!!!
Contentment. It balances with ambition. Pride balanced with humility. Be content with where you are while looking for opportunities to better your situation.
I am a mom of 4 young kids living a simple country life. I enjoy the grocery trips alone when I can blare music I loved in a past life and sing like a single woman. I carry about 30 extra pounds of baggage around my middle and have a muffin top spilling over my mom jeans. I am trying to lose weight and better my health for my own future and my family. I have a quaint home with modest decor. I enjoy creating my own little touches to make it personal and unique without breaking the bank like embroidery, etc.
I just learned about this fantasy self concept in 2020 and WOW - what a humbling experience it is to face and acknowledge it. My fantasy self is also a single woman with endless disposable income and although it's a nice fantasy, it has an insidious pull and influence on my real actual life - on my relationships, my finances, my self esteem, and even my spirituality. Thank you for being so honest and forthcoming with your own experience. I have found great comfort in knowing that it's more common than I thought, and I think we all can benefit from giving compassion towards ourselves for being imperfectly human.
This reminds me so much of a blog done by Andrea Mills (sweet Mama of nine who recently passed away)...it touched me so much I sent it to my mom...and my mom sent me this ❤️. God has put this on my heart as well and this is just such sweet reassurance. Change is hard...but so nice to know others are there with me! Thank you for sharing!!
I am going to rewatch this. It is gold. THANK YOU ASHLEIGH!
So very grateful for this. For a long time I wanted to be that popular foodie Instagrammer, and I felt bad if I posted anything but food (even though I love food and cooking), but I've found I don't love it as much if I'm posting it all the time. I found that the more I sought the Lord for what He wanted me to do, the more peace I felt when getting onto Instagram.
There has to be a balance between surrounding ourselves with people who inspire us and drive us. I love the parallel of envy and greed and shame!
Look at the contrast between covetous and greedy vs contentment and grateful! 💗💗👏
I love this! In this last year I have gone through the same. No longer having to have a million shoes for my outfits at work etc. I sent this video to my daughter who I think needs this at this moment in her life.
Thank you for such honesty 🍂
Well said...We definitely have victory in JESUS...May GOD continue to bless you and your beautiful family! 🙏 Thanks for sharing ❤️
Yes! Loved this, Ashleigh. So so SO good. ❤️ I'm really struggling with anxiety right now too and a lot of it stems from not being the person that everyone else is, not being able to do the things other people can, not having the confidence that others have. It's a dangerous spiral of comparison that we sometime don't even realize we are on until it's consuming so many areas of our lives Xx
I love this. This is what I love watching and I’ve been doing this for years, setting my mind on things above, and not focus on worldly things and enjoying what God has blessed me with and following his will. It is not easy but life is better with less, because little is much and we are given enough for what we need the other stuff is just distractions. ❤️
Wow. I needed to hear that. Thank you Ashley!! So encouraging.
Love this and continuing to pray for your family❤️
This is so good, not rambling at all and I know the Lord is using this to spread a message! life isn’t about what we’ve been told. Taking the blinders off is the first step to waking in victory. 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
So good!!
Wow... thank you ! You shared this beautifully and I loved every second.
You do not know how much I needed this!! I have been struggling with this so much. I am starting fresh today with you.
thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this! May He strengthen you as you grow in wisdom !
Omg I needed this. Thank you for listening to your heart and sharing!!!! ♥️♥️♥️
Hannah is absolutely wonderful! Thank you for sharing her channel with your audience. I completely agree with this video. Your content is always so thought-provoking and lovely💕
This is such a great topic! Thank you for sharing.
Ahhhh! I love love love this video. You are so encouraging. I love your heart and willingness to let God use you in this platform. 💜
I LOVE where your channel has gone! Whatever valley you are going through, your honesty & struggle are benefitting others. As a Christian wife,mom, & teacher, your channel always brings me back to what truly matters. ❤️ thank you!
Its a great video and we need more of this truthful and real content.
Without truth no one changes, nothing changes😊🌈
Wow, this is the core of social media. Living our fantasies. You speak right to my heart. ❤️
I needed to hear this. Thank you for the amazing videos as always.
L’Shana Tovah!!! Great topic for such a time as this!! Truly this is a time of introspection. I think we can all relate to this video. Thank you so much for being real and sharing your heart! I can relate in many levels here. Living in a city that is very fleshy and self-oriented... it is all around me and it is a constant struggle. But I try to keep it real and be myself.
This is great. Definitely something to consider. Thanks for sharing 💖
This was so beautiful Ashley, thank you so much for sharing these sentiments straight from God. They made me feel relieved, peaceful, and just held so much truth for me. When you began talking about praying for visions I got a sharp pain in my right side I’ve never felt before, I was slouching and it made me sit up straight and felt like a nudge! I hope this videos finds those who truly need it, it was an unexpected but very necessary message for me. Thank you 🙏🏽
Really good word, sister. Thank you, I needed this.
I agree with you and I can relate. Thank you for this, you’re very inspiring.
I needed this. Thank you!!
Great video! I feel like really thinking on this will help me come out of the valley I've been in lately as well. Thanks for the encouragement!!
7:05 in and I’m over here with my coffee mug like if we ever question if UA-cam has a missional purpose, 💥 BOOM 💥 by the Spirit, you cut straight through to my anxiety I literally have had to call out what I see it as and you hit it head on “either envy or it’s shame... “ whew 😥 I truly am going to listen to the rest and Amen through it all I’m sure, but sister oh how my weary heart needed to hear that. Struggling through some things and I had to rehear truth and grace all wrapped up in love ❤️thank you for sharing!
So needed to hear this today. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much for sharing. Your videos speak to my heart and inspire me so much.
You are a true inspiration. Thank you so much for sharing
Thank you so much for sharing! I definitely needed to hear this. I also am guilty of watching these beauty channels and feeling like I need to get so many things to keep up. I’m going to try to reevaluate my priorities.
Love your honesty 💗
thank you.. I did need this!
Dear Ashley! Thank you for this video, I really needed this now. I am a mom of twins moving to another country, and just running after myself. Thank you !
Hannah Louise Poston's channel is my all time favorite!
So I watched this video the day you posted, but I had to come back today and let you know what genuine impact this video has made for me. It was a message I needed to hear...and looking at all the other comments it looks like God put it on your heart and mind for a good reason and purpose. Going to try and focus my efforts into being who God has called me to be and where he's placed me. Thank You!
Yes!! There's so much I can relate to here. As a mom of 4 and wife, I have all of the same feelings. It leads me to getting carried away in the weeds sometimes. Wishing for things I know I don't need. Thank you for this reality check that is so well said
I started following you because you posted about getting your hair cut shorter, pixie like. And look at the AMAZING places you are taking me and awesome gifts you are giving! THANK YOU!
Yes & amen!!! Needed this today!!
Gosh, I look up to you so much! Sophomore in college, no family yet, but it would be amazing if I could have the mindset you have when I’m a mom and a wife (and a Jesus following wife and mother at that). God is glorified so much through your parenting and your overall way of life. Blessings!!!
Hannah’s video really touched me the same way. Seeing the change and growth in her over the course of her channel was really profound and I could see a lot of myself there. Finding that line between treating yourself a bit and aspirational growth and the dangerous pull of letting your fantasy self make you neglect your real life is so hard.
Excellent! God bless you!
I’m on my first No Buy Year and it has shifted so much in my soul. Separating my fantasy self and my real self became much more doable once I stopped one-click purchasing. Loved hearing your reflections on this topic. 💚
I am so excited to be along for the ride with you! The Lord has a marvelous plan for you and the fact that you are submitting fully to Him and His plan for your life is inspiring and exciting. I can't wait to watch it unfold!
Thank you for posting this. I too have been in a valley of anxiety and this week dabbled in some depression. I feel guilty because I know I am a child of god and have been so blessed with a husband and five children. But influences of the world and some people who don’t understand your lifestyle can be hard. God is using you Ashley. I needed to hear this! Also, my fifth baby Harrison is just a couple days younger than your sweet ruby. I started watching during our pregnancies.
I always love to listen to your inspirational videos
YES! Thank you Ashley. I needed this. You cannot be more right. I have tried to be my fantasy self so many times and it did not work. I know who I really am and that's ok. I am learning to allow her to shine instead of chasing the fantasy girl.
Amen sister! I’m in the middle of this revelation at the moment too. Praying for strength and humility for all of us to lean into our ABBA Father, to let go of the need to control and to let His will be done in our lives.
Watching the video and reading the comments I really cannot add anymore wisdom here but I just wanted to say thank you for this video. It is very timely and I praise the Lord for my sisters who are able to use this media outlet as what amounts to a wonderful ministry for mothers and other women.
Wow thank you for sharing this...... this hits on the head exactly how I have been feeling for years! I have always struggled with wanting to be more than who I am and with social media that took my anxiety to a whole other level..... and at times it's hard to put a name to the feelings.... but this is it...... the "fantasy self"...... WOW! it is so hard to just live in the here and now when we do have goals and aspirations of where we desire to be and we seek out those things via social media and it makes it seem like we are failing if we aren't there yet.... and like you said maybe those things are good things but maybe they are not what ABBA has in store for us now, then, or ever..... and we must truly understand who He has made us to be and seek His plan for our lives and ask Him to guide us and make us into His version of ourselves..... thanks again for sharing and L'SHANA TOVA my sweet friend! Shalom!
Whoa mama. I needed these words. 💜
This is so good! Yes, I feel thi way about myself often and it's difficult to catch myself sometimes when I go to far or get into a funk. This is such great advice, God does have us all in different situations, different places for His perfect purpose.
Wow. Thank you ♥️
It seems to be adding new depth to the old advice of Just Be Yourself!!! The new gained awareness people are having with the idea of a personal narrative, is a powerful one! Good luck on your new journey personally and spiritually, it's certainly got the potential to be a more fulfilling one than you'll find in fashion and makeup! 🌿🌺♥
I so get this. I feel like you just put into words exactly what God wants me to hear. Thank you. Stumbled on your video btw
Girl , you are growing so much in the Lord!! I started watching you at the beginning of 2019 and from then to now WOW glory to God sister! I understand COMPLETELY we are enough !! Jesus is enough!! Staying focused on the mission God has placed before us whatever that is for each of us I have lived in a homeless shelter twice I learned so much both times and lost so much however one lesson was things dont really matter I learned to be grateful and live simple it was a completely humbling experience for my kids and I everything we lost we got back so stuff comes and goes we are victorious in Christ Jesus ! Blessings to you and your family !
First comment! Thanks for always being so real!
Can so relate to this in so many ways in my life ❤️
This is a great place to begin my dear sister. In Christ alone our hope is found. Col 1:29 says "To be mature is to be basic. Christ, No more, no less!!!" Once we understand that our old man died (Rom6:6) then we can allow Christ to live his life in us not some fantasy the world or our minds present to us. I pray you find his vision for your life and family and may his grace empower you to walk therein.
So many thoughts, God is so good. There is so much here to think on today. Not living in a place of shame or envy....yes. Thank you!
one of your best video
Best video ever
Love you Ash. Xx
I love Hannah!
I really like her too. She is very well spoken. I loved how each purchase she made was so thought out and how it played such a role in her reavaluating what meant the most her and what her priorities were.
well. now I'm crying. thank you.
Your best video yet. Truly. I’m on the same journey
Love your words of wisdom Ash. I read goddess cards and I asked them last week what the next step is in my career. I was given (can’t remember the name without checking) but the message was I will always have enough I will never want and although I know that it could take many forms it gives me peace to know my future is already planned out for me I just have to follow the path laid before me :)
Just found your channel, really needed to hear this, I also have 7 kids and need to let go of my fantasy self.
First off, Samantha Ravndahl is my fav beauty channel! Love that you watch her.
Hi Ashley. Just wanted to say that this is a problem that non moms have also. I am single and old enough to know that I may be single all my life. My wish for singles has always been that they can embrace the life that God has called them to and experience the blessings and joys in that life. I think one of the reasons that we have such a hard time accepting our lives is that we have expectations that we should be something else or that we deserve something more. The truth is that God is blessing us in the lives that He has given us. So true what you said about Him equipping us for our lives as He has called us to have. And He brings the joy!
Ugh. This speaks directly to me. How many times do I do this to myself? It's time to let go and be realistic.
When you say a vision? I have dreams, I know they are different from normal dreams just from the feel of them.
I dreamt the other day, I was pregnant 5 weeks (I have Pcos and have been trying for over 3 years both my boys are clomid babies) I then dream of a bridge I couldn’t cross.
Then I dream of friend who asks for me when she goes into labour and has a little girl and calls her Ava baby was healthy but friend was very poorly after.
I have decided since to go back down the fertility route and possibly do clomid again, wondering if my dream about the bridge was telling me to go down the fertility route.. 🤷🏽♀️ I’m to scared to ask my friend if she’s pregnant but woke up thinking Ava is a pretty name.
It's crazy how much I have seen and heard this. I am going through this same thing! Another sister recommended the book Shattering Your Strongholds by Liberty Savard. It has been incredibly helpful for realigning my thoughts ❤️
Beautiful! I just can’t figure how to stop it. I never feel that the real me is ever good enough 😔
Stacey Pittsley none of us feel good enough. Just start over again and forget the past.
Lord, high and holy, meek and lowly, Thou has brought me to the valley of vision, where I live in the depths but see thee in the heights; hemmed in by mountains of sin I behold Thy glory.
Let me learn by paradox that the way down is the way up, that to be low is to be high, that the broken heart is the healed heart, that the contrite spirit is the rejoicing spirit, that the repenting soul is the victorious soul, that to have nothing is to possess all, that to bear the cross is to wear the crown, that to give is to receive, that the valley is the place of vision.
Lord, in the daytime stars can be seen from deepest wells, deepest wells, and the deeper the wells the brighter Thy stars shine;
Let me find Thy light in my darkness, Thy life in my death, Thy joy in my sorrow, Thy grace in my sin, Thy riches in my poverty Thy glory in my valley. ❤️
I feel all of this.
So so true! We should all try to be more happy with what we got. My husband and I, have been together for almost 30 years. Our 3 kids have moved out, and we have a mortgage (loan.. Isn't that the right word?). We have had it since almost our whole marriage up and down. Last month something just hit us.. We decided to stop spending money, and actually start pay down our loan hard.. We are just 2 months in, but I am so proud, cos we have managed to over double our downpayment per month , and we are very exited to do it too! We have already been able to pay of 7000 dollars! That big for us!And we really feel we can continue, as long as we don't overspend money in everything we just have a desire to buy. Not sending a lot of money to our kids, not travel as much.. And it feels so so good! So I feel we are in a changing point in our life. I am 47 now, and we have everything we need, it would be awesome if we could pay off everything in just a few years from now😍 I am also done keeping up with the Johnsens 😂👌
A-freaking-men! This spoke to me, thank you!
Totally agree!! I love beauty videos but I found myself trying to buy and keep up and spending more than I needed to. And it’s that way with some cleaning type videos... some things “seem” to get pushed on you and even some attitudes seem to break you down because, not that I’m not happy they can advance but it like a bragging thing. So I’ve quit watching a lot of channels because I find myself wanting to keep up with them and I have other things I need to take care of. My house isn’t perfect but it’s paid for and we do our own repairs and buy as we can. I find cooking videos are safe lol take care!! ❤️
This is great. Thanks for sharing. I have been working on similar self consciousness and growth. I am learning to not be so entitled when it comes to "stuff" I think I need or deserve. We are living on a pretty strict budget right now because I am living a life God has called me to (SAHM). This means I don't get to buy a lot of extras, we don't get to go a lot of place but at the end of the day it is worth it. I often think of the generations past, like my grandparents. How did they live their lives? I am pretty sure it looked a lot different than how most of us are living today. I have also been dealing with shame this past year, I did not want to waste anymore energy on the feeling. I stumbled onto Brene Brown's work and it has changed my life. Have you read The Gifts of Imperfection or Daring Greatly? I highly recommend them! Thanks for being authentic, it is really encouraging.
How do we know we are where God wants us? That's so confusing to me. How do we know were doing enough? How do we know he's happy with what we are currently doing? Thank you! ❤
Spending time in His word, and in prayer...then when can discern if what we are hearing is His voice! I’m still learning to listen and hear Him.
Love your channel! Greetings from Russia and Switzerland!
Glad you talked about this subject 😀 it’s so true
Thank you for being so honest and raw, it is trully appreciated and respect. Thank you from Tasmania Australia 🐨🐨