Life Update | Dropping Out of Yale? Shutting Down the Businesses? | Let's Talk
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Title: Life Update | Dropping Out of Yale? Shutting Down the Businesses? | Let's Talk
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Thanks, Kaelyn for being vulnerable and being yourself. It is so crucial to talk about the not-so-good things about doing a Ph.D. or running Businesses, being staunch, and being independent. You are evolving beautifully. You inspire🙂
Thank you!
Thank you for being vulnerable. I find that doing a PhD is both the most fulfilling thing, and the hardest most anguishing experience. I'm so happy things are looking up now for you! (And I love A Discovery of Witches too!) ❤❤
It has been a roller coaster of a journey so far but I look forward to seeing how the dissertation shapes up over these coming years :)
I’ve honestly been really surprised by how many branches of your businesses you have kept running given how much you have going on. I’m excited for you to be able to pour your mental energy into the things you are currently passionate about. Passions change and while I think it can be worth trying to reignite certain passions (like your PhD research), it’s also important to know when that phase of life it over.
Finding your passion for history in fiction reminds me of this quote from the Simon Leys, a China Scholar:
"The fact is, these two arts - history writing and fiction writing - originating both in poetry, involve similar activities and mobilise the same faculties: memory and imagination; and this is why it could rightly be said that the novelist is the historian of the present and the historian the novelist of the past. Both must invent the truth."
BTW, it is good you recognize what burdens you and make decisions. Honesty is the most reliable compass in life.
I literally cried watching this. So many of us have followed your journey for so long that I just feel crushed that I had no idea that you were suffering so much, and going through all of this. THANK YOU for showing up as your authentic self, because -- I think I speak for many of us when I say -- I am so glad you're in this space.
It's so lovely to hear you re-discover your love for history aagin. I went through a very similar thing with my philosophy PhD. I honestly think these experiences are there to make us really realise why we're doing what we're doing. It shouldn't be for anyone else, or even for our own egos, but simply because we are passionate and love the subject 💖💖💖 there is true joy in learning
I had the same feelings around my second semester as PhD student. I loss the sense of why I was doing it. It was really sad. TY for sharing this. I admire u so much. I have a dream to work with you, build my own busines on internet that may help other people to push forward their academic lifes. You are one of my bigest inspirations here. ❤
As someone whose priorities and plans have dramatically shifted while working on my PhD, I SO appreciate your transparency about the difficulty of some of these decisions. The thing I've been holding onto is that everything is important in its time, but sometimes that time has an end date 💛
I love that message
Thank you for sharing this! As a fellow PhD, the ups and downs really resonated with me. I think it's so easy as academics to feel isolated and question our place, motivations and skills as scholars. P.S. I always loved A Discovery of Darkness because you can feel the way Deborah Harkness draws on her own experiences as a scholar and weaves it into the fictional world.
I am glad the video resonated with you and that you too have come to fall in love with Deborah Harkness's work!
Thank you for posting this, it is so timely for me. You posted this video about 30 minutes after I finalized my decision to take the rest of the semester off of grad school to sort out everything else so that I can focus entirely on research next semester. As much as I know that this is the healthiest thing for me to do, that inherent "failure" feeling just sort of hangs there, so it really helps seeing other academics willing to show that they're also struggling and doubting themselves.
I love that you found A Discovery of Witches so inspiring. Books like that make me wish I had a job that required research! That's one of the reasons I love your channel so much! I have three small children and know that I'll never go back for a PhD but keep trying to find something I can independently research/write about. !!
And good on you for making the difficult decision about Accepted Society. We're never our best when we're overwhelmed like that and it sounds like you have worked really hard to find what makes you the happiest and feel the most like yourself. I hope you have a great week!
Thank you!!! I just finished the second book in the series and just love it so much
GOOD FOR YOU!!!👏🏼 So glad these decisions are bringing you peace, Kaelyn! And you don’t need to prove anythinggggg 🗣️. I can’t imagine someone could doubt you could “make it on your own” as if you haven’t already been doing just that! 🫶🏼
🥺 thank you!
Thank you for being so vulnerable, I resonated with a lot of your feelings. You are so brave and passionate. Don't pay any mind to the opinions of people on the internet, your happiness comes first. But also as a person on the internet, I'm so proud of you!
Thanks a lot for your words. I am a designer and studio partner for over 11 years. Last year I started my masters in Art History and Theory and I overwhelmed of joy with my research. I love the subject since child and was just meant to be. Managing the schedule with my business is very hard at times, but I will go with the PhD, for sure. Maybe the times of doubt and confusion is just a way for our brain to clear the fog and show all the answers and the path in front of us. Please, keep posting your journey. I am following you: in UA-cam and in academic pathway. Cheers from Lisbon!
Thank you so much and I am wishing you the best of luck as you pursue your passions as well
This was such a helpful video Katelyn
Thank you so much for your kind comment
Kaelyn! I'm so happy to see you letting go of things that are no longer serving and re-dedicating yourself to your passions 💗 although I'm sad to hear AC is closing. I definitely think that AS could still serve as a more accessible point for resources, like you said. 23:24 Still 100% stand behind AS's mission!
Thank you! I am excited to see AS evolve :)
Hi, This is such a behind post, but as a current PhD student, and a full-time Archivist professionally, I AM SO heartbroken that you had such a hard introduction into the archives world. Truly my heart is so sad you had that block, but I am SO glad and joyful that you found your connection and your "why" again.
Sending you all the love and light out there to you.
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing your reflections on your journey. It's refreshing to hear you talk through some doubts and uncertainties because you do always seem 110% together. As someone who just moved to a new city, is getting settled and trying to find new support systems AND finish writing my dissertation, it's so important to have people like you model what it means to evolve, re-evaluate, and keep dreaming. Please do more videos like this as it helps the rest of us to process within this community you've built.
This is such a beautiful and important comment. Thank you for this reminder that these types of reflections are helpful not just to me but this community as well.
Life changes and we change and some endeavors are not meant to be long term projects. Keep following your instincts and you will be wildly successful. I, for one, can't wait to see all the projects you create and where you go in the future. Thanks for taking us along!
Just wanted to say how proud I am of you for putting yourself first! I can only imagine how hard it must have been to juggle everything that you do! I am also a PhD student (entering my fourth and "final" year 😅), and for me, the biggest friction I had with prioritizing my research was teaching. I absolutely LOVED teaching, but it took all of my energy from me and there were weeks where I wouldn't even look at my research. This fall, I had the opportunity to lead a class I had previously been TAing because the instructor was taking a sabbatical. It took *everything* in me to turn the opportunity down. I felt like I was letting everyone down, but I also knew I couldn't juggle both and that my research progress had already suffered long enough. Well, long story short, but this past summer I was diagnosed with ADHD and (fast forward to the fall) I am SO GLAD I am not teaching this year lol. It feels so good to focus on my research 🤩 Anyways, enough about me... So happy to hear that you are excited about your research and have lots of ideas for new content! Always, looking forward to following along ☺❤ Sending you all the best vibes~! 🙏✨
This has resonated with me. I feel like ever since I had to return to the States after living in Scotland ( I got into my dream school the University of Edinburgh for my master's in art history.) I struggled to find a community and land work to immigrate to Scotland after the completion of my degree. I felt like I failed. I still have not found stable work in my field and that has been hard as well feeling as though I wasted my time. I am only now realizing I have been settling and not really accomplishing my studies for me or I somehow lost along the way why I started in the first place. I am only now getting back to my passion and searching for a Ph.D. program where I won't have to settle on my passions and ideas. You inspire me and it was refreshing to see the reality and the struggle.
Love hearing about positive reflexive experiences!! I hope your dissertation studies moving forward are smooth and full of excitement!! Can’t wait to see what you end up creating!!
I hope so too!
This video made me extra grateful for two people: (1) my mentor professor in undergrad. He saw how my fight with the school over their Title IX issues burnt me out and he asked me point blank to seriously consider whether I wanted to start grad school at that time or whether I should wait. He wanted to make sure I was moving forward for the right reasons and that helped wake me up a lot. (2) My major professor in grad school. She makes a safe space for me to talk about my imposter syndrome, my fears for my work, and any other mental blocks that make the work less enjoyable than it should be. She always reminds me why we're doing the work we do.
Fellow Ph.D. student here just glad to hear that you're doing okay. Getting a Ph.D. is such a rough process that is full of doubt and fear. But we've got this!!!
The phd is tough, but I am glad you are honest about the journey. However, I hope you know/realize the work you are doing is both brilliant and very much needed!
Thank you so much
I moved to London two years ago from the US, and the feeling of coming 'home' to London always hits me so hard as a 'look where you are!!!' moment.
Yes!
I appreciate your openness and commend your ambition. Knowing when to stop and pivot is so important to our wellness and health. You are special. I'm glad I found your channel trying to learn about Notion. I dropped out of college in 2015 because of the work study balance, I was going through the motions due to family pressure. I've had a job since I turned 16 years old. I'm 30 now. I worked at UPS for the previous 9 years and was "forced" to resign in July. I've managed to flourish through life's challenges after focusing on my mental health and becoming more discipline with my exercise. I dropped out of college once I discovered day trading.(forex) so i study finance and investing heavily. But truly i love reading so my library is diverse. I love learning from wise, creative, healthy people. I could go on but i don't know how to type an essay, lol. I also admire the ambition you promote. thank you for sharing. KEEP GOING!
UA-cam videos are generally about how great everything is, and how great the creator’s life is, so how refreshing to see something so honest. Big decisions, taken for the right reasons. We all come to those points occasionally, that’s a fact. I hope making this video has been as cathartic to you as it has been helpful to me - and other people as well, it would seem. Good luck with the next step - but please don’t stop making the content, it continues to be informative, interesting, and helpful.
I Love your videos, they are honest and vulnerable and I love that you loved the discovery of witches, Deb Harkness is one of my favourite authors. I've watched the tv series 10 times. Thank you for sharing and good luck with everything you do moving forward X
Also, I really empathize with you regarding your feelings about your phd and your SA case. It is really disheartening that you (and many other women in academia) have to go through that. I don't know you but I have been following you ardently since your days at Oxford (and seeing you go back was incredibly fun to "digitally" experience), but you are amazingly talented and just profoundly incredible. It's great that your passion was re-ignited and I hope it stays (provided that is what you still want).
Thank you so much
Hi, Kaelyn. Deaf MA student here - just moved to the UK for my studies! I absolutely adore your content here and on Instagram! I've been using live captioning via Google Chrome but recently started finding it more difficult to track along. Would you consider captioning your videos so deaf and hard-of-hearing students and academics can be part of this wonderful community?
Thank you so much for this comment and bringing it to my attention! I will look into captioning softwares
Are UA-cam captions available to you? I find them pretty accurate.
At the time I commented the automated UA-cam captions weren't available, but it appears that now they are! Sometimes when they aren't available, it is usually easier for the creator to use captioning software of some sort instead which makes for much better viewing. Plus the automatic captions are not the most reliable with background noise and multi-syllable words :( @@darinapetrovsky8450
Definitely trust your gut. If what you're doing feels right, then keep on doing what you're doing. And I'm glad something as simple as reading that book helped reignite that spark in you. Having such a negative experience involving the archives sucks so bad, though. My heart goes out to you
Crazy how much I resonated with this. I'm in a different flavor of the same situation. Entering the final year of my PhD and this summer I felt more lost and overworked than ever before. Having a serious bf for the first time really made me realize how much I had stretched myself thin. I also lost the motivation for my PhD and contemplated dropping out in the dark moments.
I came to a lot of the same conclusions this September. I am going to finish my tutoring and swim lesson businesses at the end of this school year. The money isnt worth it. I was also praised for how much I could handle. I love making content too (on tt) and even though its less profitable it brings me so much joy.
Heres to the new season for the both of us! More peace, less hustling, finishing our life dream of a PhD.
I'M SAT lol! Here to support whatever makes you happy~
This is the kindest comment - thank you
@@KaelynGraceApple always 🫶🏽 I’m in a similar field with career consulting and found Circle through your content-which is SO much better than other platforms 😂
It is a lot managing 1-on-1 clients, deliverables, deadlines, coaching, etc. I completely understand your decision Kaelyn.
I’ve already let my clients know I’m sun setting 1-on-1 services in 1 year so I can apply to medical school.Clients will understand and you’ll be happier doing more of what you love❤️
Please don't quit, I draw inspiration from you.
Moved to tears by this video, Kaelyn ❤❤
Thank you for always being so honest about your thoughts, about the experiences you have shared. It inspires me to also be more inward looking and intentional with my time ❤
🥺Thank you so much for your kindness
I also considering quitting right after my comps. I was so overwhelmed and so tired and felt like it didn’t matter anymore. I’m still coming back into it but I understand everything that you are saying! Also, I’m so glad you’re happy moving in with your boyfriend. I recently moved in with my bf too and it’s been so wonderful to have his support. So happy for you and looking forward to seeing everything you do next❤❤
I know exactly what you’re going through. I’m an American/British at University of Manchester and it hasn’t been easy but apparently we gotta just keep pushing
Thanks for sharing this difficult and vulnerable update. It does seem inevitable that going through a PhD program does this to a person. I know I did. History in particular also asks a lot out of us given the book pressures. For what it is worth, I have used your videos in my history classes for undergraduate students. Good luck on your research and your renewed love of historical research!
🥺 you've shown my videos to your students? That just made my day
Kaelyn, our lovely BRILLIANT Kaelyn. Do you know how much you inspire me? Do you know how much you inspire thousands of scholars, academics, women, nerds around the world? You inspire me every day. I'm so glad that women like you are sharing their journey, flaws and all - we are all rooting for you, and we are all grateful that you take us along the journey with you! Sending you a big bubble of love from Dublin x
Really appreciate you being so open and vulnerable with us. Really happy for you and London boy! A couple of years ago, I decided that if things I was doing no longer made me feel the way they once did, I would let them go. I know the decision with your business must have been difficult, but I’m glad you’re doing what makes you feel happy!
Congratulations on all of the revelation and the renewal of your drive. It is absolutely inspirational to witness and I thank you for sharing this with us.
Hi, Kaelyn! I am writing just to say how inspiring your are for this future phd student in Brazil ❤
🥺 thank you!
Thanks for sharing! I am also a history PhD student. Glad to hear you found your love for history again! This process is truly the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. Just know you're not alone in your struggles. Wishing you good luck in your dissertation research and writing!
I wish you the best of luck and as much joy as life can throw your way as well
Thank you for sharing ❤ I can totally relate to feeling disconnected from your project. I started my PhD this year and I had a lot of doubts after some months and felt really lost, I had to reflect on why I loved science to find why I do what I do.
Loved this video so much and the update around everything! I actually could sense when we chatted that your energy wasn't fully there around Accepted Consulting in the brief moment it was mentioned, and I am really happy that you are taking the step that feels right for you in your work. It is quite hard to know when to end a project and I hope you feel proud of all you have done with your business! Excited to keep watching all the content and see what you do next x
Thank you so much!! I am so relieved to get this off my chest and get to move on to a fresh chapter.
I LOVE A Discovery of Witches! Honestly reignited my love of research and my excitement about studying in the UK as well. This video was incredible. Sending you good vibes as you live this next chapter of your life, Kaelyn
Good update, Kaelyn! It is good to hear that you regularly reflect on who you are being and what you're doing. It is wonderful that you are gaining victories by facing down those things and people who would try to take your power. Creating a writing group is one of the things I, too, encourage my doctoral students to do. I'm so glad you are using that resource for yourself. Keep going! You can do this! ~Dr. X
Thank you so much!!!
I really appreciate your vulnerability in this video--it can be difficult to know what to share or not to share online. It is great that you took a step back to really make sure you were making decisions for yourself and not based on others' reactions or expectations--so important! I do relate to a bit of what you talked about and I recently have noticed I needed to be more intentional and cut things out that are not serving me. Huge reason why I decided to work with you in DBA ;) ALSO, congrats on living with your partner!!
Thank you so much!!! I am so thrilled to see what this next chapter has in store (and I am very excited for DBA)
I loved to see you how passionate you got about your research! I’m in academia myself and this is the click that in my experience needs to happen (within myself or those I supervise) and then things start falling into place. It might still be difficult at times, but you made it your own and that’s what it’s all about. You can do this!!
I love the honesty in this. And that you're making the choices that are best for you. That's how you know you're winning and doing life right. I'm so happy to have come across your channel. It's making my own grad school journey one that doesn't feel so isolating. Wishing you all the best in this next season in your life! Can't wait to see what you do next :)
Thank you so much 🥺
I am so happy that you decided to trust your insticts
Thank you for being humble, open, and transparent, Kaelyn. I can relate to keeping the momentum regarding the PhD journey. Recently, I returned to my hometown temporarily to live with my mother and it has been an ADJUSTMENT. I went from hardly any people and noise pollution to being SURROUNDED by constant distractions. lol Sometimes you don't miss what you have until it is gone. My study does not require me to be location-dependent since it is online, it has been a very reflective time in my life. I don't know where I want to 'settle' upon completing my PhD program and to be honest I don't want to JUMP into a 'career' right away and hope to take a 3-month sabbatical. Please know you are not alone and continue to run your own race. Cheering you on!
Thank you so much for being vulnerable about your journey. It makes me feel not so alone my own struggles with academic history.
I recently came across the concept of toxic femininity. I'm so glad you were able to test those notions to choose your own personal wellbeing.
I am glad I get to share my life with someone and build a life I genuinely love on my own terms ♥️
Proud of you. Keep going. It gets easier! ♥️
This comment just seriously made my day. Thank you for being an inspiration as both a scholar and a beautiful writer. Your books have transformed my life ♥️
I’m glad things are going well for you 😊 I understand that having a youtube channel and businesses linked to it comes with feeling like you have to go into a more detailed explanation about, for instance, closing down your consulting services than other business owners (since I assume that many of your clients have found them through this channel). However, it sounds like you’ve been under quite a lot of pressure from people commenting on your videos to justify decisions or share parts of your life such as your personal relationships. Whether you choose to live on your own or with your partner is frankly nobody’s business but your own, and comments urging you to do one or the other to prove how independent you are are inappropriate and actually quite weird. Please continue to share only whatever it is that you feel like sharing
Thank you so much for this encouragement
Ooo my dear friend, ı can understand you deeply. The all things that ı lived during my Erasmus exchange while pandemic still at its peak. Do not feel embarrassed, you are a human in the end of the world.
Good for you! Life is full of transitions and course changes. I look forward to following your path forward.
Thanks so much! 😊
When I saw the caption, I panicked. I thought you dropped out of school. Thank God, hang on. You are almost there. Goodluck🎉
Thank you ♥️ one foot in front of the other
Thank you so much for sharing so vulnerably, Kaelyn, and congratulations on having the courage to embrace new horizons in your life as an entrepreneur!
Thank you so much!!
Great watch. Well done for your energy and finding space to think about the way ahead. Good luck to you and your partner on your adventure.
Thank you!!
Always appreciate your honesty and vulnerability 💕
Always! Thank you
So glad you made this video. Making adult decisions can be challenging sometimes. Your point about moving and belonging really resonates with me right now- I just moved to a new city for my phd and the second month is really kicking me. Wishing you all the best and I really hope you everything works out as perfectly as you want it to be.
Thank you so much
You have always inspired me! I am currently in the last few months of Masters degree and have the same doubts about it. I wish nothing but the best for your journey ahead. Follow your heart always!
I have been struggling with whether or not to continue(I'm doing a Womanist study on South African slavery), you have made me realize that I just need to take a step back and reevaluate myself.
Thank you so much and I wish the same for you
Thank you for sharing, Kaelyn! I think you’re making some very brave, healthy and sustainable decisions for yourself 🥰 So happy for you!
Thank you so much
I was wondering if you might end up staying living with your partner because you seem so happy there and I’m really happy you feel like you’ve found someone to create your home with! It’s such a special feeling
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loved this video! I've had a lot of changes in my life recently and kind of relate to some of this!
Congrats and best of luck!
Thank you
I have missed your videos!
Many more on the way 🥰
Rooting for you, Kaelyn. 💙
🥺 thank you!!
I like your brown bag !!
What brand is it and where can I get ??
proud of you Kaelyn!
I love this for you!!! Im so happy for you ^_^
Thank you so much
I'm glad you are prioritizing your needs and being more careful with your time. Running Accepted Consulting always seemed to take so much out of you and took up so much of your time. I often wondered how you managed to do it all. I love your content and learning about your research (I love academic research) and I always look forward to more of your videos. I wish you all the best and the best mental health state plus good work/life balance.
Thank you
Question, would you consider selling the business or have someone take it over? The reason I say this is because Ive never seen another company that helps people get into grad school.
I considered it and a variety of options but have decided that to sell would mean I would always feel some connection and responsibility for it. I want a clean slate. I, however, am keeping the course and the essay guides available so that resource can continue helping people apply to grad school
Do you have any recommendations for anyone that does one on one consulting for admissions? Or who someone looking into applying for Masters/Ph.D programs at Ivy League schools should contact (e.g. would you recommend contacting a professor or the admissions department at said school, or should someone avoid that and contact someone different entirely)?
I am very glad you are making decisions that makes you happy. I am wondering what does shutting down accepted consulting mean for the course that you filmed, Will it still be available?
It will still be available :) as will all the essay guides and templates. I’m just closing down the 1:1 services
Thank you for the clarification
Good on you!
Thank you!
Thankyou for the video. You have a writing group? How does it work?
Accepted Society (accepted.community/) hosts live pomodoro study sessions 2-3 times a day monday-thursday and a writing group on fridays! The writing group meets at the beginning to check in and discuss how our projects/research are coming along and then we have a 1.5hr dedicated writing session with a check in at the end as well :) It's a great way to meet academics across disciplines and across various geographies and make progress on any dedicated writing project you may have (academic or otherwise)
Did you consider selling accepted consulting, instead of closing it down? It would keep the legacy going without the loss.
I considered it and all the many possibilities but ultimately just want to close the chapter. Otherwise I would always feel some responsibility for it.
@@KaelynGraceApple i understand that, its your "baby" in a way. i respect it and feel this is the right path for you. seeing your creativity boost in the last few months has been so exciting, this is your rise and im thrilled the path is being cleared for you to reach your full potential
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How to marry with me kaelyn
Love this. As someone who found your account and is not a PhD or pursuing one at all, I still enjoyed your content. I'm someone who likes to learn and I've channeled a lot of that into more of a creative career, and I think you'll find a way to prioritize your content and do the things you love, maybe in a more visual way. You've been doing amazing things, and the sincerity with which you've even announced these decisions shows just how important these things are to you, but also how you've evolved as a person. We all do. 🤍
This truly means the world and I am so glad you enjoy my content ♥️
I'm so proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to shift something that's working to be more aligned. I'm confident you'll continue to thrive in this new chapter as well. 🫂
Thank you so much!! I am looking forward to seeing how the coming months unfold :)