WHAT TO DO WHEN A MAN DOESN'T GIVE YOU CLARITY by RC Blakes
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WHAT TO DO WHEN A MAN DOESN'T GIVE YOU CLARITY by RC Blakes
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I'm all the way in Jamaica 🇯🇲, I've never missed a live on Monday nights. My heart greatest desire is to be at Queenology 2024 but unfortunately I don't have a US visa. I've been denied 4 times 😢
Hi, Bishop, RC Blakes, and family! You are my peace of mind in this crazy world, Bishop, RC. So grateful to God for having you around bringing, and leaving unlimited infinite life imprints on us. You have amazingly helped, and provided us genuine assistance of your spiritual gifts of peace, healing, happiness, and understanding of the assignments God needs to deliver, and you are "the only exception" messenger of God, like no other! Bishop, RC, you are extremely valuable, and your worth is priceless. You are celebrated, honored, and we appreciate you so much. God bless you, and family until the end of time. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I m living in Egipt. Please, where and when are you?????
Where and when are you in Egypt, pls???
You are speaking to me
1. A need for clarity
2. Slow yo pace of investment.
3. Gradually decrease the access to you.
4. Stop giving him certainty while he's giving you confusion.
5. Create timelines in your mind of how long you will tolerate it/him.
6. When a man has no clarity help him in that area if he shows an effort and willingness.
7. Leave, Leave, Leave, Leave, RIGHT NOW, TONIGHT!😅 Run Forest Run! PoofPowBeGone!
Sabrina, thanks for providing each point.
😂😂😂#7
Especially #3 😁 that's always been me without realising.
😂
Thanks Sis for the points. I’ll take time later to listen..
Yes, run Forest run!!!❤️
Life is too short to allow someone to waste your time💯
Exactly
so don't waste your time with people that don't add nothing but pain and confusion (phones & computers)😊
👏🏿You betta preach sis!💕
"Femininity is what men crave but CLARITY is the environment that femininity flourishes in." PRRRREEEEACHHHHHH ❤❤❤
Yessss I caught the Holy Ghost when pastor said that 🎤🙌🙌🙌
Love it. 💖💓💗💝
This
He said “stop telling people you watch me and you out here doin that-that’s bad advertisement” 😂🔥🔥🔥🔥 RC A REAL ONE!!!!
I screamed!!!!! 😂😂😂😂
You know 😂
Exactly, you in your 40s and 50s still hanging with 20 years old....you ain't never Graduate for middle school 😂
Greasy fingers. Love it.
😂😂😂😂
"You're afraid if you ask for clarity, he is going to leave, but the reality is if he has not made certain things clear, he hasn't shown up yet." BOOM❤❤❤
There were times I asked for clarity after 7 years, and I was told that why would I have to ask him I should know. And I have to be honest and say I didn't want to press the issue, for fear of him leaving, go figure. I left since Feb, no notice
Bishop you have helped me tremendously, Thank You
“He ghosted me!” - “No bae- God just saved you.” 🤪🤪
Exactly.
"If he's not made anything clear he ain't your man and you ain't his woman" 💯 💯💯
Real talk💯💯💯💯
"What are your intentions Brother." 😂😂😂
"Time spent in pointless endeavours with no purpose is a dishonour to God and a disservice to one's future." 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
They want you to be their peace, but they don't bring peace! That's CRAZY! They claim not to like drama, but brings all the drama!
Remember man is selfish. Peace is a womannot questioning him about the future, asking for commitment,. Going along with flow. If he is one of many- let it be.
I have found that some men do love drama
Ditto! !!!!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂 exactly, they just do what they say they don't wants crazy people.
Drama drama drama. Cheating. I feel such shame
Three reasons why a man does not give clarity:
A. He probably lacks vision of where he is going.
B. He’s getting you programmed for long-term manipulation.
C. You have a different idea of what the situation is than he does.
(Biblical References: Amos 3:3, 1st Corinthians 14:33)
Six ways to approach a situation when a man does not provide clarity:
1. Articulate your need for clarity- “What are your intentions?”
(Biblical Reference: James 4:2)
2. Slow your pace of investment.
(Biblical Reference: Proverbs 22:3)
3. Gradually decrease his access to you.
(Biblical Reference: Matthew 7:6)
4. Stop giving him certainty when all he is giving you is confusion.
(Biblical Reference: James 1:8)
5. Create timelines in your mind of how long you will tolerate uncertainty.
(Biblical Reference: Ecclesiastes 3:1)
6. Help him in areas where he is sincerely working to figure it out.
(Biblical Reference: Galatians 6:2)
Bonus:
7. Leave.
Love this summary thank you ❤❤❤
Thank you😊
See that letter “A”🔥‼️💪🏾💣
Amen thank you so much for this Awesome message Much Love to you and Mrs. Lisa ❤❤❤
A lack of clarity is a sign he's not interested or he's playing the field. We're grown. If a man is a poor communicator regardless of whether it's intentional or not is a deal breaker for me. I can't feel safe. I can't build trust. Therefore, I can't stick around wasting my time and brain cells. I can't follow someone incapable of leading. A lack of clarity is a sign. Don't confuse it. Never confuse it. He's speaking without speaking.
And I ain't got all day for him to clarify either. He has 2 -90 days to get clear before I get gone.🚶🏿♀️🚶🏿♀️
Dr. John Delony on Ramsey says, “Behavior is a language.”
Well Perfectly said💯
@@genxx2724 absolutely! It really is.
Thank you this is enlightening Pastor🎉🎉🎉
Rejection can mean protection 😮👏🏾
“Block block block block block!” 😂 We love you Bishop. ❤
If he ain’t growing I ain’t going! 😊
Even if he growing ain't going he might just be growing in STD's and Anger🤒🙃😂
These jokers will even say I love you and I want to be with you more than anything but showing you different actions " just telling you what they think you want here" smh
Absolutely! "Grow Up" sir..I hate wasting time! Smh
FACTS💯💯💯💯
Unfortunately many men have been trained by older men from grade school what to say to women to manufacture trust or love in order to achieve their selfish and short-term goals. The misguiding and miseducation starts young...
I can't trust someone that can't express or explain themselves. Just being friends wouldn't be wise either. No can do. 💯
Yep...friends with benefits is what many are looking for.
“If nothing has been made clear, then there is nothing!” BARS Tell it like it is Pastor Blakes!
This is a very intelligent man … I wonder what his IQ is… he’s a true blessing and he helped me move on from a toxic relationship that was physically abusive three years ago . I binged on his content and prayed daily … when my BD came back I was literally disgusted bc I saw him for the truth … thank God for spiritual fathers
I praise God for you sister, congratulations.
I'm gone do just that binge watch him until I can't take it anymore and decide to leave
@@sabrinagields8992 thank you
'What are your intentions?' ...separates the "pretenders" from the "contenders".
They will lie about their intentions. Open your eyes and pay attention mostly.
It don't mean a thing if you ain't got that ring. Leave him in the friend zone.
I don’t mean nothing if he doesn’t respect you or value God … a ring is absolutely nothing nor is a marriage license if the man is deceitful
@@skyylea9859 If it doesn't last at least you didn't lower your principles by fornicating. The bible says " it's not good for a man to touch a woman." Let every man have his own wife. It's better to marry than to burn. There are many scriptures on Godly unions. Check out, I will wait for you, on UA-cam by Jeanette Ikz. Enjoy the rest of your night. God Bless
Don't even entertain him as a friend!
@@T_Nice yes, that also is an option.
Sometimes you realize this with a ring. Overlook the red flags and disobey my parents advice.
He’s a comic but he ain’t joking. LEAVE! 😂😂😂😂
God will make him FLEE if it's NO PURPOSE. Amen. Clarity. A MUST LADIES and Woman of God.
If there is no clarity don't be afraid he will leave when he hasn't even shown up yet.
If my 11 year old can ask a potential guy “what are you intentions” then ladies and gents too we definitely have to ask as well!!! 💯
You leave him...thats what you do.
Yes, I had someone in my life like this recently. He was purposely vague and secretive about his life. I became an open book, and he used it against me or plotted to use it against me. But, I ended it because I wasted 6 months of my time.
Most undercovers do that the reverse psychology because they can't handle rejection....move along🤣
Lucky you. Some of us wasted years
I've wasted over a decade!
You have the same story as mine, he was just given mixsignals, so i kept asking for clarity, and he will tell me let see how it goes... finally he said he not ready for relationship .7months of a relationship, you are now telling you are not ready for a relationship, yet he kept sending messages I just block him .
I have my peace,
What an absolute incredible video, it came at the absolute right time for me, as I recently left a man who wasn’t giving clarity, 4 days ago. Best decision I made, as I feel at so much peace! He was preventing my future husband from finding me.
"If a woman is not clear about where she stands who she is to you and what her role is in your life and what your commitment is in the relationship she will never be in a posture where she will be free enough to rest in that femininity."❤❤❤
Won’t give you clarity? Leave. Time is precious
I’m so naive and gullible. I trust people from the start and give my all. Now i’m healing from the deep feeling of being betrayed. I’m so angry!!!
I feel this one I too have been recently deeply betrayed and I am hurting I pray for you and myself as i feel the pain in your words. ❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Don't allow anger to be your response. In life, we all have bought lessons. Anger will not only diminish your ability to see and value the right man when he comes, but it will steal your joy and allow that person to continue to have influence that he doesn't deserve.
Look at their behaviour
Forgive yourself. You cannot expect to know the ways of predators by instinct, and you were not taught
Don’t give him certainty when he’s giving uncertainty. Men will ask you to be his woman and then treat you opposite of it. I released him when his actions showed me I wasn’t his girlfriend. Be clear or be gone.
😂I was cracking up on the emphasis of “leave” when handling a man who lacks clarity. Yup, that’s what I did and guess what happened after that? I met my husband. Ladies, Make room for your husband! He is will be very intentional
And won’t have u wondering about anything.
LEAVE! LEAVE! LEAVE! Amen! I did AND God blessed me with a WONDERFUL consistent King!!
You’re afraid that if you ask for clarity he’s going to leave and the reality is if he’s not made certain things clear he hasn’t even shown up yet 🧨
If he ain't providing clarity,I go with number 7 leave, find yourself,a better man is waiting,a high value man, don't settle for less.
Pray for discernment!!!!
That is why I won't have sex until marriage
Filters out players fast!
Good luck
I'm in the same boat and let me tell you as a sister who to protect my fellow sister, do not drop that standard, I have been on this journey and it is hard because there is a lot of easy woman out there and some men choose that but there is going to be that one man that is going to value that decision of yours even if you get married at the age of 60, I believe this is why marriages are failing because people don't follow the bible principles, they are doing everything backwards. Besides my brother and fellow men have told me a man does not respect you if you give your body before marriage but when will not tell you that, so keep moving my sister.
Unstable minded man in All his ways 😮
A double minded man is unstable in all of his ways.
Sometimes distance is great needing time to catch ourselves and make your best decision
Be clear or be gone.Period.
This topic is right in line… and watching you helped me after 7 months of listening to you- get out of this relationship “here” and all that you teach us about. I was that broken woman. Abandoned by my parents, looking for love in all the wrong places, molestation survivor, mental,physical and domestic abuse survivor, recovering drug and alcohol addict…. Listening to you helped me heal with the grace and mercy of God!!! I am now 3 years free of that relationship and for the last 5 months he has been trying to get me back!!! But that’s all a big laugh for me though. I WILL not go back to what God saved me from. But this topic here was my exact experience and everything you are saying was a “scenario “ Thank you and God bless you and your family. Thank you for teaching us how to “re -adjust” our crowns.
Bishop this is your online trainee from Nigeria! God bless you Sir❤. Appreciate your love and teachings.
I love that question. What are your intentions? . I was talking to a guy for three months daily. We went on a few dates and we only hugged after each date. He never came over to my house. But in the beginning, he said he wanted to maintain a friendship that leads to her relationship. Well after three months, he went ghost. I didn’t question him on why. I just knew he did not stand on what he said in the beginning. His intentions were not pure and he saw that I was not an easy woman. So it helps you to weed out those that are not right for you. Ty for your teachings.
Yes, i wasted 5 years until one day i realised that i needed to move on and I did just that. Guy still reaches out to me. I will not be nasty towards him. all i say is "I'm very well" since he always asks how I'm doing (Not that he cares). His loss, not mine. Life might be lonely but I now have peace which is the best thing one can have.
Tell him to screw off.
Everybody hit the THUMBS UP!!!!!!❤❤❤❤
You Have not, because you ask not
PASTOR R.C BLAKES. We don't care where you are we will find you. GOD BLESS YOU AND MRS. LISA BLAKES.
To my sisters, whatever your situation you are not alone. You have God, Bishop Blake, as well as many other women in the comments who unfortunately are also in the same predicament. Thank God for this channel and these talks Amen 🙌🏻
Oooooooh weeeeee! Pastor Blake's brings the truth to light every week. Where was he in my younger years? 🤔 I'm so glad I have been connected to this ministry for a few years now, and I thank God. 🙏 😊
This pass yr has really changed my life in many ways
Thank God for him
Sad to say that I’ve been waiting on Clarification for a long time . I knew already I just wanted to hear it from him . Everytime it was brought up he shut down and disappear . I’m over it , been over it .
Block, block, block, block, block 😂😂😂😂😂
✅
As Tony Gaskins says, “BLOCK! and delete.”
And he dancing in his seat 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂And that LEAVE the emphasis kills me every time he is really God's gift to us❤🎉
Bishop was straight clowning in this one! 😂 “Block, block, block, block, block, block, block!” All facts!
Many of us wish we had heard this message decades ago. Thank u Sir for teaching ppl today those who want to learn! Even us women who are married need to learn how to enjoy our alone time, because one day one of us will go to glory & the other shouldn't rush into another relationship!!!
Pastor RCBLAKES i just love his great humor he keep me rolling 😂😂😂😂
"If it ain't clear, it ain't nothing!"❤
My husband manipulated me in our marriage for 12 of the 19 years never no clarity just lies and lack of communication .
YES Pastor OMG that's what I did I pulled the trigger and BLOCKED 🚫
I wish I had this knowledge six months ago. Thank you, Pastor, because it's feeding my soul today!
This is a good teaching. The guy I dated that kept me confused caused so much anxiety for me. I loved him but when we broke up I felt a sense of relief.
This message came at a time when u needed guidance in how to move forward from an unclear relationship. Lord, please compel me to apply the guidance you have so graciously provided at this perfect time.
Amen
The guidance is already provided and you already have grace to apply it - Flee out; else you would still find yourself asking for how to apply guidance on how to overcome depression in the future nearest. But God forbid
Amen
“Women go into relationships thinking this is the one. Men go into relationships thinking this is another notch on my belt.” This is such a mismatch. lol this makes me not want no man if lost think like this!
Yes.. I did it for 8 years.. stuck in one place nothing happened in 8 years.. I m upset with myself.. that's what I'm going thru
The same for me…it’s been 10 + years for me
Forgive yourself because Jesus already forgiven you. Just learn the lesson and move forward. Its happens because you have a caring heart.
You are not alone! I did 7 years with one foolio and 5 with another. Finally realized I need to wake up before it's too late for me.
For me it was almost six.😢
It’s normal to be upset with self but you have to give it to Jesus and forgive yourself because then you are going go be in bondage of mistake and the enemy will keep using this to condemn you and keep you bound. Listen to godly message of Grace forgiveness, read the word on forgiveness grace and the love of Christ. Keep an journal and wrote your thought to Jesus but only write what the word says about how you are feeling and how you want to feel in 1 to 1 yr from now. Remember there is no condemnation foe them that are in Christ Jesus and a Christian does-not have a past. So please stop being so hard on yourself. We all made the mistakes but we are called to keep going.
This is why I will not move in before marriage, give wife benefits to boyfriends, I also have a timeline of 2 years, if you did not move the relationship towards marriage, I'm leaving that is my non-negotiable.
woman stay 3 years or more and that should be the biggest no and I'm talking about an adult not high school sweethearts, that's different.
I’ve learned that your actions have to line up with your words. If not it’s called confusion
Be CLEAR or be GONE!!! PERIOD.
PERIODTTTTTT!
OMG!..if I only new this before!.. I wouldn't have been broken hearted!..Amen
Ditto!, but the Blessing is that you know NOW; and GOD IS A HEALER! ❤️🙏🏽 If you haven’t already, remove yourself from the situation, work on yourself and HEAL, because the BEST is yet to come! 😊🙌🙏🏽
Happy Birthday, my 60 is June 23rd ❤🎉
"Don't let your emotions carry to away like Calgon." This is on point.
Stop telling ppl you watch me and you out here doing that 🤣
I’ve been listening to you for about a year now, and God I wish I found you 10 years ago! I’ve been wasting my precious time on men who were never worthy of me. I’m listening now, though, and pray that special man finds me! ❤ Please ignore all the negative comments from others and keep preaching!!! Love your work! 🙏🏼 God bless you!
Lord Jesus hear my prayers. I’m still struggling to take care of my children. I’m ashamed. Both of my sons are special needs and require so much from me. Lord Jesus I’m overwhelmed as a single mother. Please hear my prayers. I’m constantly struggling to buy groceries and constantly struggling to pay rent. Lord give me strength I can’t do it without you,
Sis with God all things are possible. As a single mom, I declared the Lord as the man of my home. He allowed me to raise my children and met both their needs and mine. He's able!🙏🏽🙏🏽
Focus on God, he will give you wisdom to get more sources of income. Your children are a blessing whatever the situation is, others will pay millions to have just one. Love them, show them you care. God will help you and bless you in Jesus name Amen
Release, let go, I'm done...🤣
This is an absolute treasure chest of great advice, guidance, and truth!
I've watched 2x's in less than 24 hours😂 .....so far
Thank you so very much for this teaching. I needed to hear this badly. 😊
“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.” Maya Angelo
Don't let your emotions override your logic.
Thank you for still taking time to record another wonderful message while on vacation! I am & so many of us are very grateful for you & First Lady Queen Lisa!
The way I just screamed 😂🤦🏽♀️👏🏾
😂😂😂😂
Amen femininity thrives in clarify!!! Much needed!!! Thanks for your spiritual discernment and guidance!!! This was right on time!!!
I have to work on monday nights seeing patients. But I am hoping I will be able to get this video after as I do need it very dearly.... Thank you so much to R. C. Blakes. His videos help me tremendously during a very difficult time a year ago... He is a wonderful man
Our Favorite UA-cam uncle!!!
Bishop RC.Blakes thank you for Your teachings..you are a blessing throuh your mission. LOVE FROM CHILE 🇨🇱
When a person shows you who they are believe it ❤
Omg so real Bishop people are scared of your word especially the men u make things clear for us women
Thanks Pastor Blakes.I so longed for my father to tell me these things as a young girl. But I am so glad I am building a relationship with my Heavenly Father & through Him I met you ...thank you ..thank you...thank you.
I like it when you say, 'If he is open to you for help'
Gradually DECREASE access until you get the contract!! Stop giving him certainty!!
Lord give us direction
Wisdom and discernment
He already did
You haven't asked for clarity ? Put it in crayons BROTHER 🙌🏾
A man once told me pastor rc blakes is bad business for him i am happy listening to you I never know how to deal with some men lie with love bomb thank you
This lesson has me🤣🤣🤣🤣 My favorite RC saying "Cmon Bae" Thats his way of saying "Be for real with yourself
You ate it UP with that Bentley line lawddddd
Narcissistic people look at you as objects to be used and abused and not as people.... so my identity was being degraded as her identity was escalating, until I lost myself within her identity.
Years ago, I didn't fathom that it was an option to go it alone. I didn't see anyone doing that.
Hello wow wish I heard this 10 years ago but it's all good I won't go 10 more years I am done GOD IS GOOD he turned my DISCERNMENT ON.
Willie Nelson said, ‘know when to hold them, know when to fold them, know when to walk away, know when to run...’. Men are like a poker game, who’s holding the winning hand?
Yup. Wisdom in a song if ever there was
I know it’s going to be a great blessing like Pastor RCBLAKES always does with his powerful wisdom teachings 👑🔥❤️🙏🏾
Excellent teaching as always. Run Forest run. 😂 Confirmation in business relationships as well. Enjoy Greece 🇬🇷 💙 and Egypt 🇪🇬 ❤. Wish I were there. God bless 🙌 🙏
I lost my dignity, myself respect, myself esteem and my masculine core and identity, in this narcissistic relationship with this woman. And I was in a lot of debt which I haven't yet recovered from