as for me, once it's over, it's over, no returning back.. keep walking. no looking back.. somethings is better for you ahead. once the glass is broken, it will never be the same.. thanks
Nope, stay your butt over there with the rebound. It's one thing to leave because the relationship isn't working, but sneaking around, lying, sleeping with, complaining to, etc another person like a coward is the nail in the coffin. If you go through all of that deception for something then you might as well suck it up and stick with it
After two years of relationship I decided to break up with her (not really what I wanted but we had problems communicating and trusting each other, avoidant issues from her side and anger management from mine). I asked her to meet three weeks after the breakup to try to fix things and I discovered she slept with this guy just days after our break up. Never saw that coming from her and I’m still going through traumatic feelings and desperation. Do you think it applies in the same way you described in your comment? She wasn’t lying she met this guy days later, but I’m having a hard time accepting it
All facts. For my case I got into a rebound because an idiot talked me into it saying you should just move past that and allow yourself to find love again. And while they were right, at your own time yall. Don’t take that shyt advice from no one because you’re going to walk into a trap when you could instead fully heal and find something good.
God dammit, some of these comments man its sooo hard to read and even comprehend. I have been cheated at a point where I was down. I had a 2 year relationship with her and she was cheating on me, i read her chat with him and she was desperate, when I asked her about it she said "this is called putting in efforts" she had no remorse or regret what she'd done. But anyways man my breakup seems sooo small compared to others. May god give us strength to fight through this and meet out best version at the end of the tunnel. Im hoping all of this happened for a good reason.
He left our ten years relationship, within four months of no contact he married her😢,I felt like my life was over,but God is good I started my healing journey,guys rebound never work,after three months he came back crying but I'm not sure if I want him anymore
A rebound for me is when there is no fixing, I was open to working on each others points of failure to maybe one day try again, but she ended it with me then a week later started seeing someone, rebound or not for me it’s over now
I love her alot but i cant be a plan b for her, she chose someone else over me while i worked on myself at this point i dont see us getting together again
I can completely guarantee that you do not feel any pain from the second relationship, because you were not emotionally available enough to even feel enough for the new person.
Gf threw away a 13 year relationship all because my work cut alot of ppl to part time. I put my all heart wise into this girl. I cleaned house, I did all the laundry, I work nights & come home and pick up after our daughter which I don't mind. I pay bills and pay my half of rent. Crazy to know just a month ago she was kissing me n making me a lunch to take to work, now I'm "not good enough". Tired of being gave up on when all I ever did was "show" love and put in actual effort. None of this bothers her. And that shit hurts. 13 years. To let me go and feel nothing smh. 2 weeks after her finally telling me she don't love me anymore, I find out she's fuck!ng our neighbor! She used to go 2 months without even touching me now she's already opening her legs for this new guy?!!! Makes My heart hurt so dam bad. The pain is crazy. I figured 13years with someone and a child together that she would at least feel some type of emotion giving up on me. Instead she immediately starts sleeping with our neighbor! Ain't been broke up more than 2 weeks! The pain I feel is unbearable! 13 years together and a kid together and she could care less if I live or die. She's prolly sooo happy with this new guy already while me n my daughter feel broken and depressed. Thought she would feel something for me after that long together smh idk what to do anymore
Stay strong my bro. Its going to be hard. You're going to be in a lot of pain for a long time but try to go no contact as much as you can since you have a kid together and focus on you. Feel all the hurt and the emotions and go through it as much as you need to process the loss. But over time the pain will slowly go away. Just keep focusing on you and try to find your self as an individual again. Pain leads to growth. I wish you well bro
I’m going through similar right now brother you aren’t alone. We have a two year old daughter and still live together so it’s hard on me. She stays at the other guys house a few nights a week while I stay home with our daughter. We will meet better people in time. Stay strong .
Dude this is exactly what I'm going through. 12 years of a marriage thrown away after 4 weeks. I'm pouring my heart into my kids. Bettering my body and finding a better job. It's sad to say, but she screwed herself and her new partner. Because all my kids can think about is Why is this guy keeping Mommy away from the daddy?
How sure is the rebound is going to not work out cause she see her value is higher then mine and wants someone whos not smarter, financially capability, immaturity, laziness and irresponsible, is like i am the worst cause all of this is what i should have alr 😔 but didnt thats why we broke up but it taught me and i am progressing well now
What if the rebound is better than me? My relation with her lasted three years and she found someone new within a week. I’m hoping it just a rebound and that she comes back but idk
Bro there's nothing wrong with you. She is clearly emotionally immature and doesn't even value her own intimacy/sexuality to wait more than a few weeks to sleep around again.. I know it hurts and I bet she was amazing when you were together, but she has changed. Try to move on.. find a girl who share your values not someone who sleeps around
I went into no contact after seeing that it was one sided relationship, during no contact they sometimes watching my post i did nothing until 2 months now they blocked me What's the meaning
Trying to get a reaction my friend, hope you didnt break no contact? same happened to me recently.. i was blocked before until 6 weeks on nc and then unblocked , she watched my stories and then blocked me again so i couldnt see.
This happened to me with my ex, she cheated on me with some dude. So both of then against me, i stopped “finding answers” when i realised i cant win this immature games. So i disappeared comepletely, shit hurt so bad as it took me about a good year to finally heal and accept reality. Felt good, never looked back eversince. It’s been about 6 years now and a friend said they’re gettint married. Good for them tho, even better for me as im not sure what was coming my way if i had stayed.
Yeah something “shiny and new” gives them a dopamine hit and they feel great. Once that wears off they leave that relationship too.
Needed this today - more than you'll ever know. Thank you, Cole!
as for me, once it's over, it's over, no returning back.. keep walking. no looking back.. somethings is better for you ahead. once the glass is broken, it will never be the same.. thanks
don't take your ex back when they had a rebound relationship, you are more worth then this
What if it happened in long distance
@@AITRADER-db6ulthey still left you because they didn’t want to deal with working through the pain of long distance. I wouldn’t do it
@@AITRADER-db6ulare you illiterate?
We have a 2 year old daughter 😢
@benstevens2164 still dont take her back. Trust me, please.
Mb its normal to have a rebound, but for me is it the point of no return.
Agreed entirely
Nope, stay your butt over there with the rebound. It's one thing to leave because the relationship isn't working, but sneaking around, lying, sleeping with, complaining to, etc another person like a coward is the nail in the coffin. If you go through all of that deception for something then you might as well suck it up and stick with it
After two years of relationship I decided to break up with her (not really what I wanted but we had problems communicating and trusting each other, avoidant issues from her side and anger management from mine). I asked her to meet three weeks after the breakup to try to fix things and I discovered she slept with this guy just days after our break up.
Never saw that coming from her and I’m still going through traumatic feelings and desperation.
Do you think it applies in the same way you described in your comment? She wasn’t lying she met this guy days later, but I’m having a hard time accepting it
Needed to hear this!
Do not take someone back who is so immature that they rebound.. it's also very promiscuous behaviour
Sounds like you've got a solid perspective on what you want and need in a relationship. Setting boundaries that respect your values is always key.
All facts. For my case I got into a rebound because an idiot talked me into it saying you should just move past that and allow yourself to find love again. And while they were right, at your own time yall. Don’t take that shyt advice from no one because you’re going to walk into a trap when you could instead fully heal and find something good.
God dammit, some of these comments man its sooo hard to read and even comprehend. I have been cheated at a point where I was down. I had a 2 year relationship with her and she was cheating on me, i read her chat with him and she was desperate, when I asked her about it she said "this is called putting in efforts" she had no remorse or regret what she'd done. But anyways man my breakup seems sooo small compared to others. May god give us strength to fight through this and meet out best version at the end of the tunnel. Im hoping all of this happened for a good reason.
He left our ten years relationship, within four months of no contact he married her😢,I felt like my life was over,but God is good I started my healing journey,guys rebound never work,after three months he came back crying but I'm not sure if I want him anymore
For sure a hard decision!
A rebound for me is when there is no fixing, I was open to working on each others points of failure to maybe one day try again, but she ended it with me then a week later started seeing someone, rebound or not for me it’s over now
I love her alot but i cant be a plan b for her, she chose someone else over me while i worked on myself at this point i dont see us getting together again
Needed this bit of positivity today man, been checking out your stuff for a bit and you guys help relieve my stress. Thanks brotha 😎
I'm really glad to hear that! Thanks for reaching out and I'm glad I could provide some positivity for you!!
I really doubt it I hope my ex does get hurt even if he comes back my door closed
I can completely guarantee that you do not feel any pain from the second relationship, because you were not emotionally available enough to even feel enough for the new person.
Never accept them back. Move on and build something genuine and real
Gf threw away a 13 year relationship all because my work cut alot of ppl to part time. I put my all heart wise into this girl. I cleaned house, I did all the laundry, I work nights & come home and pick up after our daughter which I don't mind. I pay bills and pay my half of rent. Crazy to know just a month ago she was kissing me n making me a lunch to take to work, now I'm "not good enough". Tired of being gave up on when all I ever did was "show" love and put in actual effort. None of this bothers her. And that shit hurts. 13 years. To let me go and feel nothing smh. 2 weeks after her finally telling me she don't love me anymore, I find out she's fuck!ng our neighbor! She used to go 2 months without even touching me now she's already opening her legs for this new guy?!!! Makes My heart hurt so dam bad. The pain is crazy. I figured 13years with someone and a child together that she would at least feel some type of emotion giving up on me. Instead she immediately starts sleeping with our neighbor! Ain't been broke up more than 2 weeks! The pain I feel is unbearable! 13 years together and a kid together and she could care less if I live or die. She's prolly sooo happy with this new guy already while me n my daughter feel broken and depressed. Thought she would feel something for me after that long together smh idk what to do anymore
Stay strong my bro. Its going to be hard. You're going to be in a lot of pain for a long time but try to go no contact as much as you can since you have a kid together and focus on you. Feel all the hurt and the emotions and go through it as much as you need to process the loss. But over time the pain will slowly go away. Just keep focusing on you and try to find your self as an individual again. Pain leads to growth. I wish you well bro
I’m going through similar right now brother you aren’t alone. We have a two year old daughter and still live together so it’s hard on me. She stays at the other guys house a few nights a week while I stay home with our daughter. We will meet better people in time. Stay strong .
Hope you’re doing alright brother 😢
Dude this is exactly what I'm going through. 12 years of a marriage thrown away after 4 weeks. I'm pouring my heart into my kids. Bettering my body and finding a better job. It's sad to say, but she screwed herself and her new partner. Because all my kids can think about is Why is this guy keeping Mommy away from the daddy?
stay strong brother, I went through something similar, and your story gives me some solace cuz mine was 1.5 year
I don't want she back . Im just watching this too how terrible destroys she gonna be 😂
How sure is the rebound is going to not work out cause she see her value is higher then mine and wants someone whos not smarter, financially capability, immaturity, laziness and irresponsible, is like i am the worst cause all of this is what i should have alr 😔 but didnt thats why we broke up but it taught me and i am progressing well now
It’s been nearly 7 months I’ve been either my new partner
What if the rebound is better than me? My relation with her lasted three years and she found someone new within a week. I’m hoping it just a rebound and that she comes back but idk
Bro there's nothing wrong with you. She is clearly emotionally immature and doesn't even value her own intimacy/sexuality to wait more than a few weeks to sleep around again.. I know it hurts and I bet she was amazing when you were together, but she has changed. Try to move on.. find a girl who share your values not someone who sleeps around
What if you were toxic after the breakup though
What the time frame from when the person breaks up with you to finding someone else for it to be called a rebound ?
Usually if they get into a relationship between 1-3 months after they broke up with you it’s a rebound
Just got this news today... sucked.
What if you have kids with them?
Thank You
Keep your head up, and no contact.. be patient, your not alone
What if you were the rebound??? And you didn’t know it…
Depends i was my Exes rebound the difference was he treated her like complete shit while i loved her a huge amount
Is it a rebound if its been almost 6 months with hwr new guy?
She married him 4 months after she left me. And hes got her on meth. We were together for 14 years.
What if rebound is long distance ?
I have a question
Don’t take them back if somebody cares ot has to be be in Good and Bad period
I went into no contact after seeing that it was one sided relationship, during no contact they sometimes watching my post i did nothing until 2 months now they blocked me
What's the meaning
Trying to get a reaction my friend, hope you didnt break no contact? same happened to me recently.. i was blocked before until 6 weeks on nc and then unblocked , she watched my stories and then blocked me again so i couldnt see.
Look up curiosity stage of no contact
This happened to me with my ex, she cheated on me with some dude. So both of then against me, i stopped “finding answers” when i realised i cant win this immature games. So i disappeared comepletely, shit hurt so bad as it took me about a good year to finally heal and accept reality. Felt good, never looked back eversince. It’s been about 6 years now and a friend said they’re gettint married. Good for them tho, even better for me as im not sure what was coming my way if i had stayed.
What if that rebound is his ex? 🤦🏻♀️
Exactly !!!! 🙂
For me it's her ex !🤦🏽♂️
I’d say rebound rules still apply. People need to heal
Then u were her rebound to get over her ex