To everyone reading this, this is a sign to please keep going. No matter how stuck you feel, no matter how bad things are right now, no matter how hopeless and depressed you feel, no matter how many days you have spent wishing things were different. I promise you won't feel this way forever. Keep going. Jesus loves you!
You have a strange profile to be telling me this message but okay my cancer is lust and have now finished masturbating and watching degenerate pornography again at age 21. It's not getting any better. Only difference is that I'm older and I watch apologetics videos and I don't even have a job. Misery I am misery and I love company there's no hope for males like me because all these weird eves that call fhemselves christians say women have it harder but I'm here still rotting in my own little hell hole and who still has the authority to say millions of males aren't tormented by lust? I'm tired my mother bought me one Russian vodka bottle 40% one icelandic alcoholic bottle 40% one french alcoholic bottle 40% and others lower than 15% she bought it because I convinced her I'm a christian saved by grace but I feel like God's abandoned me and rightfully so I feel like I need to drink alcohol until I die nothing not even Jesus Christ can fill my sorrow I don't care I just need something to fill me and everything evil can't do it I got drunk with one of the alcoholic bottles that has 15% my mother found out and she emptied most of the alcohol from many of the bottles Im angry at her because the only reason I got drunk is because of her and my family that I can't God damned fix it I'm gonna kill myself and no one's going to pray for me amen
Learn about Islam. Listen to this garbage, in Islam. You will get the real answers. A man and a woman, CAN NOT stay together, CAN NOT be friends, CAN NOT be "special friends" as in your video, and you CAN NOT even see her beauty. Can you see the nuns? No. Jews' women? No. It has ways to get married. Your religion is just like as your ignorance. You play songs, make "youtube videos", talk about God. "Your human god loves you", when you do adultery. Even if you torture someone, He does. You don't even know about no love. A lie of a religion with no old testament. You have NOTHING to do with anything.
We respect muslims as persons. You do understand that christianity and islam can't both come from God, right? Thats where our paths diverge. Read Mathew 10,34
There’s this girl in Bible study I really like. The first thing I noticed about her was how fun and funny she is. She has a very gentle soul; I can really see the light of Jesus shining through her. We always have pretty good conversations and I’ve never felt a “click” with any other girl the way I feel one with her. She’s 2 inches taller than me. I know height is important for some women, but I’m hoping this is a girl I can attract with my soul. I just genuinely enjoy being around her. May God’s will be done.
Key word, "some" women.... Did you ask her out yet? There are two possible futures for you. One where you marry her, and one where you don't. But you can't achieve the former without at least asking her "hey, wanna go for a drink some time?"
Oh man let what God planned may happen❤..I am a girl who doesn't care about height or age.and the person I love is younger than me..I fell for him for his personality and there was this time when he strengthened my faith in jesus
im also interest in a women in my church but her friend keeps cucking her, almost puppy guarding her, but he already has a girl, im quite attractive, but its just honestly disheartening seeing someone prevent someone being friends with someone else, even though she likes me, id beat his ass but we are in church(he's done questionable petty, passive aggressiveness things in the past)
I needed this because, at first I wanted to catch up with an old friend cuz he was cute but now I kinda just wanna be his friend and get to know him also to get closer to God and wait for His time❤
*Yeah it is really important to take this topic seriously. SOOOO many people mess it up now and do crapped stuff like sex before marriage, being with someone purely for pleasure, living together before marriage… cheating (fudge that’s a big one) not taking care of oneself… it goes on! Thanks for talking about this the right way.*
"Just because someone makes your heart flutter, doesn't mean they're good for you" I really needed to hear that thank you. I have a tendency as a young Christian man to fawn over agnostic or even outright ungodly women and it's been hard to guard my heart. On one hand we seem to have a lot and common and get along but when God comes up there's glaring differences. I could blame my living in New England (very secular part of the country) but I know it's my affections towards worldliness thats the issue.
idk how you doing now brother, but we have to remember always. they could seem all perfect but if they are not of the lord its worthless. and will bring you down. we are missing out on nothing that is wordly and not of god.
I know you wrote this some time ago but as a woman I want to encourage you to wait for the right Godly woman. I made the mistake of not taking this too seriously when I was young and married a man who claimed to be a christian like me but didn't lead a life with Jesus. I'm going through a divorce right now because he ended up neglecting me, God and his vows. If I'm ever going to marry again I do not just want a christian man. I want a man who knows Jesus personally because he spends time with Him, loves Him and worships Him with his entire heart and soul. We need that spiritual connection with our spouse just as much as a deep emotional connection. Just feeling attracted to someone doesn't make for a good longlasting relationship. You'll know when there will be a deeper spiritual and emotional connection with a woman. And you'll be so glad you waited.
Ahhh!!!! 😤 This is the reason why I don't want to "like" someone until it's God's timing! I don't know how to manage liking someone in the first place JUST to know afterwards that we shouldn't be together... Can anyone relate? 🥺🙏
I don't like it either, and used to run away from this, but recently I realized God wants me to grow with Him and trust Him through this challenge. Not easy stuff!
This format is wonderful! It reminds me so much of Psych2Go which I watched often when I was in high school & undergrad. I pray that the Lord will lead more people to this channel. God bless you all!!
@@Skibidiiznut827 That is my point above. This is nothing but worldly Psychology with "Christian" slapped on it. It is not God's counsel on the matter. Instead of watching these worldly Christian videos, read your Bible and draw near to God in prayer daily, devoting yourself to honoring God with your body. God will never lead you astray if you are drawing near to him (here is James 4.5-9): 5 Or is it your opinion that the Scriptures say irrationally, "With withering and longing the Spirit, who was meant to dwell in us, surrounds us with yearning." 6 However, He gives greater cheerful grace. That is why it says, "God purposely arranges things against the proud ones staring down, but to the lower ones of humility He gives cheerful grace." 7 Arrange yourselves in an orderly manner under God. Moreover, stand against the Devil and he will himself completely run away from you. 8 Squeeze yourselves up as close to God as you can and He will squeeze Himself up as close to you as He can. Purge your hands, which you depend on to grasp through the storm, you who are without an allotment and cleanse your hearts to the point of terrifying, you people with two-faced souls! 9 Bear your piercings and feel deeply and wail! Your laughter must be twisted so it transforms into deep feeling and your cheerfulness into a downward stare. 10Be humbled before the gaze of the Lord and He will lift you up NOTICE THIS: "Squeeze yourselves up as close to God as you can and He will squeeze Himself up as close to you as He can." Find my main channel here with over 1000+ videos teaching the Bible /UCKJ3Aki8LnlwucLs-x8t4bQ/
I recently lost my gf. We were going to settle down together. But barely made it to the finish line. I still mourn her to this day. I got to say though. This helps with the grieving. Gives me a purpose to move on without her while she waits for my journey to end.
@DAN30 I appreciate the love and support 😇 I am doing much better now that I've taken the time spent with God than trying to recuperate myself alone. God is great!
@@dtsluckyGod is great and so good! Amen!! That’s so great and an inspiring that this brought you closer to Him ❤ Psalm 34:18! He’s a savior and a healer ❤
I really like this guy in my Church, and the Lord has definitely grown my friendship with him over time. We both became true Christians at the same time so we both helped each other grow close to God, which I'm so grateful for. I don't think I'm prepared to date, and definitely still need to pray on it. I really, really like him and sometimes it's hard just staying as casual friends ;-; How does one date in a Christian way? It's extremely hard to pace myself and stay level headed because I feel like I just fall harder for him each time ;-; Please pray God gives me discernment and to guard my heart. UPDATE: We're on good terms, but I had to set boundaries and distance myself from the friendship. If I'm not ready to date, I shouldn't stay around. I'm focusing now on my personal walk with God and building friendships 🤍🙏
I think if you keep Christ first that helps a TON. Dont let your time with God slip. Distance yourself physically. If you ever end up alone with them make it a public space or have other ppl around you. Don’t let that person be all you think about. Try to keep yourself busy and be productive. Above all be honest with yourself and God.
Wow, this happened with me too.. We have similar stories, I just keep him in prayer and put Jesus faith, not my faith. If he’s meant to be with me, just let him be. Focus on Jesus above anything else, and cast out your anxiety on Him because He is the one who can solve your worries.
Having a concern and a desire to do it right is really half the battle!!! So many don't care!!! :/ Just keep praying to God to graciously guide you and keep you from doing anything foolish. I really think tip 3 in this video was so useful (and tips 1 & 2). I am 25 and never dated or been in a relationship, because I have never come across a girl that I have felt a calling from God to get into a relationship with. I do, however, try to be good friends to as many honourable girls as I can. I think being with girls in a group setting is a lot safer because if it's just the two of you alone, it's a lot more likely to slide into something that is damaging, especially if you both feel quite attracted to each other. :/ That's my two shillings anyway!!! :) I pray it's of some help to you!!!
This could not have come at a more perfect time, sometimes we tend to stray away from those we get rejected by and forget that we get the privilege to love them as a friend, it’s a very inspiring and noteworthy video, thank you.
This video has helped me so much! Im 13 and im constantly fighting against my flesh since sin is so normalized for young people. Its so hard to walk with God, and thats why i have left Him many times. This video shows me that i can still be a teen and 'Normal' even though if i walk with God. It was such a positive suprise when i saw that this was a christian video. I appreciate this video since it shows that even though im Christian i can fall in love, and live life Its so comforting. Thank you!
You’re going to have an amazing life if you can commit to god at your age. We reap what we sow and your future will be beautiful if you commit to god. I wish I came to god sooner
In the language of honor, standing firm in our faith is never a dishonor. Mockers dislike facing that truth, which is why they _try_ to tear it and you down or lessen it's worth. But God set that worth, not man. In dealing with lusts and desires: Until Christ comes again, all Christians must deal with the fact that we are called to live as examples... In a fallen world. We aren't to hide away, so we are going to be around sin and sinners. The problem is not that things are available to lust after. The problem is that temptation comes from our own sinful heart! (James 1:14) We need to stop blaming Satan and recognize it is _our_ sin. But in that is also a great hope and joy: this is not a relentless assault of Satan against us forever until we die (he isn't God, he isn't all powerful and all knowing). This is a desire problem and a feeding problem: When we abide in Christ, we are attracted to Him (the vine). The vine produces good fruit. Eg godly love, joy, patience, long-suffering, hope!!! And it also pushes away the fleshly things in us Rom8:13, col 2:8-11, gal 5:16-17!!! So our walk looks like this: 1.desire God above all things. 2. So we choose to spend time with Him (abide) 3. That pushes the flesh away & changes our desires 4. In the context of abiding and being connected to Him/the vine, then we choose to do the work: good things and *also not feed the flesh* (as it is in direct contention with the Spirit in our life, see gal 5). So in any situation (job, relationship, etc) we can check itself to see if we are abiding or feeding the flesh: "The works of the flesh are evident"... "The fruits of the spirit are..." The flesh gets angry or upset and discontented when it doesn't get it's way. Godly love demonstrates godly joy: But for the joy set before him, Christ endures the cross. Think about that deep joy in the best for the other. So if you check your mind heart state and find, hmm i seen to be getting any and feeling rejected, envious, etc - ask your self what you are wanting in that moment: Are you wanting the flesh? So you _really_ want the fear, anxiety, discontent, etc and consumption/use it produces? (Its fruit) Or do you want God more, and man i can see by the warning signs in my life that I've let something come in between. I chose to want Him more and while i spend more time with Him, I'm going to ask the Holy Spirit to increase my desire for Him even more. When you do that, you stop desiring the substitutions. And it's really easy to turn down something you don't want, especially if you see the rotten fruit hiding behind the surface. (I have no hesitation in turning down a rotted apple or candy coated dog poop. I just have to sometimes remind myself to look at what it really is) Notice how hopeful and easy that purity struggle is compared to trying to fight against things by our own effort? (I've only spent 37 years doing it the hard and unsuccessful way. Apparently I'm slow to learn some things.) Hope that helps and blesses you.
I've had 3 failed marriages, and a failed long term relationship. I never realized that these people never had faith in God and they were using me. I pray the Lord will bless me with a God fearing man. 😔✝️🙏
Literally a month ago I was praying to God about how single I'm and How I felt about it . After few days from that God sent a person into my life, we never dated but we both had feelings for each other and I realised why God wanted me to stay single 😂, now I'm no longer with that person .God told me to wait upto his timing and he said that I'm still on the process of preparation. God is great
@@BansheeKing22 don’t doubt him! You can’t believe in something and doubt at the same time be patient everytime you get the urge to read your Bible or thought that’s actually God/Holy Spirit talking to u to read he replies sometimes in your life like through people but keep praying that you’ll hear his voice clearly and sometimes our own desires and thoughts “oh what’s happening Tommorow” worrying overlaps his voice and so that you can’t hear it or your ignoring his voice and or him because your mad or upset with him let him in it’s ok!
@BansheeKing22 He will talk to you through his word, and he will also talk to you sometimes through other people. For example, I was asking God if I should go to the local amusement park for Halloween with my friend, and not long later my mom came up to me and told me about how demonic the Halloween event has become at our local amusement park, they have these fake blood packets things you drink fake blood out of it's really weird. Back to the subject at hand though pray to God for Discernment and pray to hear from him, and read the Bible every day.
I also have the same experience you did have.. Before i clocked 20 i prayed to God earnestly for a girl friend which i finally had.. Though i knew in my spirit it wasnt time but nevertheless i still had to keep disturbing God. After i had her, sigh.. I did stray away and God really use that to teach me a lesson. I cant fully go into details but I broke up with her after some years. Infact this year and am ready to wait for God and also use the lesson learnt to move forward...
@@BansheeKing22 If I may, I should like to recommend CS Lewis's book "A Giref Observed." It's a short read, and it narrates his personal reflections after mourning the loss of his wife. In it, he discusses his own struggle with feeling a lack of response from God, and how he later came to understand that apparent unresponsiveness differently. It is a sad book, since it is literally about grieving a spouse, but mayhaps it'll be of some encouragement.
I was praying today that GOD tell me if he is good for me or not , Either make him mine better half if he is the one or help me to forget him if he is not for me , and suddenly your video showed up , GOD loves me so much ❤️
I am fully convinced now that it has to be the Holy Spirit showing me these videos lol. This is the second time I’ve opened up UA-cam to immediately see one of your videos that has ministered to me how to navigate the specific situations I’ve been praying about! This is literally what I’ve been thinking through all day and the second I get home from work and go to browse UA-cam this video popped up! Never seen any of your other videos besides one other a few weeks ago, and have no prior experience with your ministry but I’ve got to say you’ve helped me out a lot! Subbed!
I have been with someone for while who was Christian as I was not. He had fell from god and chose to get back up and I had to choose to either walk with him or leave. For the first two weeks I was doing Christianity only to stay with him. Now, I do it for myself. We are now walking this path together and plan on getting married sometime. No time limit to it, but we are both growing into Christianity together and I’m so happy for the both of us. Thank you god !! I’m so glad he opened my eyes to Christianity. I’m still learning of it as is my bf, but we are learning together. On a side note, I wish everyone a blessed day. Thanks for reading even tho it’s not important for this comment. Just wanted to share my experience similar to this video.
Praise God!! That's awesome. May you be blessed as you continue to grow in faith! Also I'd recommend you read Dangerous Jesus by Kevin Burgess. Super awesome book about who Jesus actually is and the core of His teachings. Blessings!
That’s good to hear, keep growing in your relationship with God, and he will strengthen your relationship with your partner. Always remember that God loves you.
I gotta say! This is probably the first time I’ve seen something Christian that was created that doesn’t make me cringe. And yes, I am one for anyone asking. Most of the time, Christian versions of stuff isn’t executed well, but this is the first time it has been! Kudos to you guys!!
This is not the best of advice IMO. Modern Christianity really falls flat win it comes to dating advice. If you like someone you should. 1. Be confident, and FLIRT with them. Don't be mister, nice guy and think you can when them over with your "niceness", just be honest and show your interest in them. Don't let your fear control you, and just do it. Now in saying this check your sinful nature and only flirt, don't seduce. There is a difference. One, you are giving hints and signs of attraction and trying to figure out if it's mutual. Seduction is going past that. 2. Don't overthink it. This is where I think this video is unhelpful. Overthinking is a terrible thing to do. This is where you crate false versions of who you like by thinking about them too much, and scheme to try to best get yourself into a relationship with them. Overthinking without action shows the lack of faith in God and yourself. You instead want to keep thinking about it so you can get the best possible "strategy" to get them. 3A. Accept rejection and move on. If you haven't continued to overthink, then you are in a much better position to just move on. If she very clearly did not respond to your flirting, or verbal rejected you, who cares. Don't be embarrassed, and understand it wasn't God's will for you. Try again next time. 3B. If she did respond positively ask her on a date, but start out slow. Now that it is clear their is attraction on both sides, you can start to properly discern if the relationship is one you want to pursue. Discerning BEFORE confirming attraction is mutual is putting the cart before the horse. You'll be to prone to overthinking and not proper discernment, but I warn you you have to start slow. They aren't your girlfriend/boyfriend. If you rush you can make the mistake if letting your emotions overtake your discernment.
I can agree with that, it is easy for ministries to come off as cringe or fake. This video did well to use scripture and just say things plain and simple.
I'm currently going through the stage of having intense feelings for someone, and I feel like this coming up in my FYP is an act from God, because after watching this from beginning to end, I can now see more clearly and understand how to interact with the guy I like. Thank you so much for aspiring peoples minds and helping others grow in Christianity :)
This is literally so good😊 It can soften a person's heart and save them from a lot of heartache and problems when romantic love come too early. It's true, love them as a brother/sister first. Also be sure to PRAY, because God can expose things to you and open your eyes to see if you are really compatible with them or not.
This is an excellent video. As someone who God has had to say “no” to 3-4 times as I grew up, I can confidently say that He does grow you through each experience. And now that God has finally brought someone into my life who is incredible and also likes me, it’s so electric. He is a good, wise Father.
She was like the warmth of the sunrise on a chilly autumn morning. Her hugs were like a warm blanket or a cup of cocoa during the cold winter months. Her eyes were like amber jewels, the sun envious of the warmth they brought. Her joy and goofyness and personality were that of one u only find once in a lifetime.
How God is so good! I have been struggling with waiting for the guy I like and since I’ve never dated anyone, it’s hard since I desire to be married. But this video popped up at the perfect time. It was a great reminder as to what I need to look for and do! Thank you so much!
This video was eye opening, and it came to me right on time. Especially the part where you say there's a difference between liking the idea of being with someone because you're in love with them and liking someone for who they are. Just so happen to be relevant in my life at the moment.
I dated a girl in high school. She was very beautiful and her personality was lovely in many ways. We were both Christian but we had quite different interpretations of the Bible, which I should’ve seen as a red flag but I didn’t. Also, she tried to stop me from pursuing my future career and it actually worked for awhile. I have no hard feelings against her but I wish I had split up with her before we did. It would’ve been better for both of us. I definitely learned a lot from that relationship
I do like someone. And in the course of evaluating how to go about this, having not yet known whether or not God's path for me is celibacy, the 1st and 3rd have come to my mind several times. Now i know that that was the voice of the Holy Spirit guiding me all along. I have to put myself last. I have to be his friend first. Him before me. God before him. Thanks so much for this❤
Lord thank you so much for my discovery of this channel today. It will greatly impact my life positively. God bless the team behind this channel and its great works
I definitely needed this. I am a teenager and had a crush on someone before but not anymore bc based on his actions and the words that came out of his mouth he wasn't necessarily Christian and kinda talked bad about God.I didn't think he was the one for me I need someone who is going to help me on my walk with God not Just a bf but a partner someone who supports and respects my decisions.But now I look at people even just someone I wanna be friends with, and see if they are going to be an asset or a liability to my life and my relationship w/ God,so I will patiently wait on that person that God sends me.
I love this channel, I just want to say I was actively sinning but this channel made me realize what Jesus wants for me and to study up on the Bible for the first time since I was like 6. I’m 17 now and I have gone through years and years of pain. Thank you for being a vessel to help me realize God’s plan and to love him.
Last tip was the last lesson i learned in this past week. I decided instead of pursuing a relationship and persue friendships when i have this feeling of love. In a way youll learn more about the person know if thei good for you or not know if they are going in the same path. And most important of all you have a new friendly face in your life!
Big facts. God will use the people you like to teach you lessons. Trusting the Holy Spirit’s leading is one of the best things that you can do. Be wise. You don’t always have to learn from experience or doing something stupid.
@@thatnnoob6109 I hold the belief that humans have the ability to control their feelings, especially with the help of God. So you can somewhat control who you fall in love with. The Bible tells us several times to control your thoughts and feelings.
This video is a blessing, I liked someone during a church congress and I was confused by my emotions and I was blinded by a lot of things, I really loved his character and even started to pray for him. But then I realized I only loved the idea of him
God bless,so proud of u. Getting caught up in feelings and ignoring wisdom is soo dangerous. Then one or both of you end up getting hrut. so good on ya for realising that.
Man this is a God ordained video. I already jumped the gun and told that given person I liked them yet I'm Christian and the person is not, well we haven't spoken about that topic of belief deeply. Yet his speech shows he doesn't have a continuous walk with the redeemer. I started to think about us getting married and the whole nine and actually questioned my supposed liking of him. I thought to myself "do you like the idea of him or do you like him for him". Very much needed video may God bless you. I need to continue to question my desires in the light of the word. The three tips are my homework for tonight! Thank you brother for this video God bless you.
What an astonishing video. Praise God. He knows I love this girl so much. I’ve never loved anyone so much. I want the absolute best for her. Thank you Lord and those part of making this video. I love you God and Ana ❤️
This is very helpful, thank you! I've been having a hard time of having some (budding) feelings for a guy, a strong Christian whom I greatly respect and love regardless as a friend and a brother in Christ, but knowing that he doesn't feel the same (no I have not admitted it to him, I am not that brave). I've prayed about it and asked for God's guidance, and asked for Him to point my heart to Him first and am enjoying my friendship with this boy and how we're growing closer to God together. But it's still hard when those feelings aren't dampening in the slightest!
I'm only fourteen years old currently, but i wanna share my testimony: So back in 7th there was this girl in my class, she is cute, nice and is pretty smart, but the thing is, she isn't a believer, i found out that she also doesn't even pray, nor go to church, but since its my past self, who has a weak faith, i still liked her, even though i know that she isn't a believer. By that time, i was planning on growing my faith, but because i liked her, i was having a hard time. I don't know if God is challenging me or because my faith is weak, but it led me to think that its the doing of the enemy. Fast forward a year later, my faith actually managed to grow because of the year long break, though school came back again, and we're now the same class again, and i still liked her. After a while i saw that i was once again getting weaker, and i know why, its because of her, she is the reason why my faith is getting weaker, but she didn't do anything, as a matter of fact, she doesn't even see me, so i prayed, and read the Bible, and because of that of that, i realized, myself is reason why my faith is getting weaker, so i wanna do something, because i don't want to get weaker because of myself, so i denied my feelings and my mindset, and i focused on my faith, started thinking more about the words of God, and thinking less about her, and sure enough, i manage to grow, i've overcome my feelings, or to be more specific, myself. So i think the lesson here is, if you desire something, then ask God, but if that something is altering your faith, then you have to let go of that desire, no matter what it takes.
This made me think deeply about my current situation, especially at a time when there's one girl who has been taking up space in my head. I know for a fact that God showed me this video for a reason and I can't thank Him enough.
God literally worked me through these exact three things, amongst others, when I was going through a crush on someone close to me. It’s a blessing to see Him confirm this now. He sure is faithful 🙂
Really really needed to hear this. Sometimes it’s so hard not to get caught up by the feelings that come with liking a guy that I disregard the fact that I like him enough to be friends first.
Good advice all around. My personal advice I would add is to pray to God to give you a wife or husband and keep praying. But quite honestly, don't waste time seeking them out. Yes, pursue someone if you believe they are a good match and/or God gives the go ahead, but don't look into a crowd of people and wonder if "the one" is in there (I speak metaphorically. I know most people aren't looking into a crowd and wondering that). Don't fall into the trap of meeting a pretty girl or cute guy and allow your loneliness to make you see them as nothing more than a marriage candidate: a medicine for your lonely heart. They are indeed more than that, and they might not even be for you to have in the first place. Accept that most people you meet will either be friends, passersby, or acquaintances, but only ONE is going to be the person you marry. Saying this to preach to myself as well as others. Stay strong, brothers and sisters. Focus on Christ more than seeking relationships. Everything will work itself out according to God's Will. Just keep following and keep seeking Him first.
Don't chase someone who isn't also chasing you. When someone wants you, it is obvious by their actions. All 3 points are great. I saw the downfall of my previous relationships in every single point. #3 I would advice to becareful you decide to be selfless for. Do not be used for someone else's gain. Have some self respect.
This is such a great focus and example! As a 38 year old married person in a separation I find myself in a season of singleness where I’m learning for the first time how great God is and how much he wants this relationship with me personally as a foundation to learn these things to prepare me for a healthier marriage. Oooo how I wish I would have done this devotional time when I was actually single. I’d love to see your content and thoughts on marriage, difficulties and using the Lord as strength.
This message was just meant for me and my fellow brethren who are facing the same challenge, thank you,God bless you for your guidance,I love you with the Love of God,may God tru His spirit impart your team with more grace and wisdom.
I really like this guy I work with, so I needed this video. I've never dated inside the context of Christianity, so I'm completely new to this. Thank you!
I really like this video. I think the notion of remaining someone's friend is a very vulnerable place not many people are willing to be and the fear of being hurt or deceived can be very pressing, but in that pursuit to live selflessly, you begin to learn more about who the other person really is if they begin to abuse or manipulate your emotions.
I related to every point in a relationship that was broken off a few days ago. I didn't realize there were so many issues until he broke the relationship off. I'm still friends with him and thank you for reminding me that being friends is an amazing thing whether it turns into something more or not. Thank you for opening my eyes!
Thank God, and thank you i'm a Born Again Christian and i'm so struggling about someone i loved. And now wow thank God He uses this video to teach me to be careful of who I am fall inlove with.
I really need this Sometimes i asking God why i can have the guy that i like , He didn't say anything and let me learn by myself then by time i know God says to me " HE IS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU " Just wanna tell you guys when God says no don't force it trust Him , when He wipe way those people from your life ,they are not right for you . Jesus bless you everyday ❤️
Its so difficult falling in love with someone that isnt a believer. This video explained exactly what is going on in my current situation and i thank you for this wisdom
Some really good points! I also feel like to determine some of these things you need to get to know the person, so be patient and don’t force anything! :)
The illustrations are captivating and the message is even better! You keep everything dynamic while sharing the word of God, and that truly is exceptional. We christians need more people like you. Thank you!
It been a year I had to broke up with my ex because of sexual immorality. I did love her but she wasn't ready to be the wife I need. And there's women (young and old) who wants me but smart enough not to fall for it. I do like some and talk to them but I'm focused. God is blessing me even when I know I have struggles and crave for intimacy with a woman. God will bless me the wife I need. Thank you for the video. God bless you 🙌
I feel like I needed this video today. The person that I’ve had my eye on (not in a stalker kind of way) has gone for someone else, but that’s ok. I still want them to be in my life one way or another. It’s amazing just how it feels for someone to acknowledge that you’re there. God Bless you all!
This video was so helpful for me as I’m struggling with wanting to talk to multiple girls and for most of them it’s because I find them attractive and I want to talk to them because I’m bored, but luckily I have deleted social media in hopes of loving my one true love God. I have felt like I wasted my time with these people because they do not show the same affection for me. Thank you so much for this video again, I hope this could help many young Christian’s.
This is so perfectly timed. I’ve been a believer for a few years now, but I’d never struggled with this until my senior year. And it’s been a HUGE struggle. But I think I made the right decision, even if it deeply broke both our hearts. And now being just good friends, I think God can do big things in her life through our friendship.
I liked what you said about "Do you like them because they make me feel less lonely, or do you like the way they look, or do you like them for who they are" definitely something I needed to hear
I had a crush, but I knew I shouldn’t like him because he’s two years older than me. I’ve come to terms with just being his friend. We go to church together and we’re close, but I see it won’t get any better than that, and I’m grateful that God gave me such a good friend. One day, I’ll find someone else, as hard as it was for me at first
Funny that these are the things I am realizing now before watching this video. I am interested to a girl in our church and have a secret crush on her for a long time. The problem is I am very shy to her. Actually, I can easily get friends to other people but when I try to approach her, I can't be myself haha. Now, I have realized that I need to relax and uncrush her for now and just be a friend with her. Take it slow. I realized that I need to be ready that this girl might be the one I am going to marry, or not - just going to be one of my friend forever. Thanks for this video!
MR. D, once those intense feelings go away you will be able to be yourself around her. Then you can grow closer with her and develop the friendship. THEN if you are both ready it might become a relationship. This is why it's easier to have a friendship, grow an attraction, then go into a relationship than it is to have an attraction, grow a friendship, and then go into a relationship. I hope that made sense. Regardless, I hope you are able to be friends with this girl at the very least.
I wonder what was God’s reasoning for leading to me this video. I have been praying for him to place a Godly girlfriend in my life, but there’s nobody I like in sight and hasn’t been for a while.
It probably depends if you are putting yourself out there and making it possible for that person to see you, for all you know you might have walked past them.
I wasn't even looking for a video like this. I came upon it unexpectedly, and it has changed my perspective on many things. I really needed this. God bless you!
Same. I do have to wonder why this video appeared to me now though. I used to struggle with these feelings, especially with former/current friends, but as of right now, I don’t have someone in my life that I have genuine crush on or anything. I’m wonder why now, of all times, God decided to show me this video.
Dude, I'm totally sharing this with my singles bible study. Great job. Love the animation, and just a perfect use of scripture to promote God's plan for us. Thank you
I was dating a Christian man, we agreed on God and loved talking about God however it was like he lacked in some areas like discipline sometimes, accountability, self awareness don't get me wrong I also lacked in areas like commitment and unforgiveness however I felt like I was battling between am I being too hard on him or am I being manipulated? . I think in some instances whenever we got into the most pettiest of arguments and maybe I'll voice out that he made me feel this way rather than apologize he would say something like "I'm sorry but I feel like everything I do will offend you because you assume the worst of me" and I was like it's not that I assume it's like we argued about this thing last week and I mentioned to you that you need to be mindful about the things you say in anger as a man of God I don't need you to say to me "well the woman I wanted would be appreciative I feel like you're not appreciative" and when I say well then I guess I'm not the woman you prayed for, you come back and apologize saying "I didn't mean it, I was just angry" it seems like you're playing with my emotions so because I'm not "agreeable" I'm not a proverbs 31 woman but when Im agreeable then I am? I used to ask him if he is self aware and if he understands that the things he says especially in anger can have an affect on how a person perceives you. He mentioned that he doesn't like that I don't let things go and I hold on to things. I was like it's because you don't take accountability for the things you do and make an effort to change it, I forgive you and you do it again, then I let this go and you do the same thing next week, you do something hurtful then apologize but there's no effort to change backing up the apology. Like sometimes when he would say something hurtful and I'd be like I think ending things is ideal here, he would guilt me into not ending things and act like he understands me and that he isn't a bad guy etc. But on our last argument I prayed to God prior and was like "God if he isn't for me please reveal it" he said something based on my physical appearance which I didn't like and he gave a backhanded apology. The I'm sorry but type I then ended things with him there. But I extended my friendship to him.
The fact that this video came right when I started falling for someone ❤ Praise the Lord. Thank you for talking about this the right way and providing Guidance through the Lord
can you do a video where you talk about what a Christian should do when they like someone or just have someone in mind for no reason but don't want to, especially when it comes to gender... i really need it and will really appreciate it :)
I wish I had seen this video sooner. I am 24 and learning through lots of heartbreak and rejection that I need to work on how I handle feelings that I get for guys. It's not bad to have romantic feelings, they are God given, but it's how they are handled that is key. I've begun praying to ask God if I should remain single for the remainder of my studies as I think would help in intentionally seeking healing and guidance from God to mature in this part of my life. I think it would be good, and the apostle Paul makes a good case for it too (he also says its okay to be married too). God willing, one day I will have a long and loving relationship, but I don't think I'm ready for that right now; still in limbo of where I'm going in life right now. God knows the desires of my heart but I want to trust more in his timing, in the guidance of his word, and grow more in love and assurance of his character. Thank you for this video that put it so simply and for conveying how to go about 'crushes' in a Biblical way. God Bless
Finding someone who is for Christ and follows scripture correctly is not common in my opinion for those who I can say, "I love you" as a wife. I've always been single and still searching. Much more difficult. I kind of blame the feminist culture. 35 yr old now.
@@JonathanGillies Allowing the husband to lead the household, not celebrating halloween, not lying to kids about Santa, Easter Bunny, tooth fairy, etc, not dressing in luxury, there is a lot.
Thank you for this video I have been seeing this girl on my track and field team and was on the fence about asking her out because I wasn't sure how I felt about her I like her because she is Christian, she is very conservative in how she acts and dresses, and we both have similar mental disabilities. I appreciate this video thank you guys for producing this video. God Bless.
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."
Proverbs 31:30
You nailed it!
wait i’m confused huh
Fear? That sounds grim.
omg and it’s the verse of the day today!! Wow this really is a message from God
To everyone reading this, this is a sign to please keep going. No matter how stuck you feel, no matter how bad things are right now, no matter how hopeless and depressed you feel, no matter how many days you have spent wishing things were different. I promise you won't feel this way forever. Keep going. Jesus loves you!
You have a strange profile to be telling me this message but okay my cancer is lust and have now finished masturbating and watching degenerate pornography again at age 21. It's not getting any better. Only difference is that I'm older and I watch apologetics videos and I don't even have a job. Misery I am misery and I love company there's no hope for males like me because all these weird eves that call fhemselves christians say women have it harder but I'm here still rotting in my own little hell hole and who still has the authority to say millions of males aren't tormented by lust? I'm tired my mother bought me one Russian vodka bottle 40% one icelandic alcoholic bottle 40% one french alcoholic bottle 40% and others lower than 15% she bought it because I convinced her I'm a christian saved by grace but I feel like God's abandoned me and rightfully so I feel like I need to drink alcohol until I die nothing not even Jesus Christ can fill my sorrow I don't care I just need something to fill me and everything evil can't do it I got drunk with one of the alcoholic bottles that has 15% my mother found out and she emptied most of the alcohol from many of the bottles Im angry at her because the only reason I got drunk is because of her and my family that I can't God damned fix it I'm gonna kill myself and no one's going to pray for me amen
That profile pic is highly inapporpruate for a comment saying this
Please change
Edit: ty, god bless
Did he change it or sum cause there’s nothing wrong with it now
Thank you for this! I needed it.❤
Thank you I really needed this
needed a video like this. Thank you. Praise God!
Praise God!!!
AMEN God bless you i will pray for everyone in these comments and everyone whos seen this
Amen. May our Heavenly Father bless you and everybody that lives in His Name. Praise God!!!!!!!!
Samee
Learn about Islam. Listen to this garbage, in Islam. You will get the real answers.
A man and a woman, CAN NOT stay together, CAN NOT be friends, CAN NOT be "special friends" as in your video, and you CAN NOT even see her beauty. Can you see the nuns? No. Jews' women? No. It has ways to get married.
Your religion is just like as your ignorance. You play songs, make "youtube videos", talk about God. "Your human god loves you", when you do adultery. Even if you torture someone, He does. You don't even know about no love. A lie of a religion with no old testament. You have NOTHING to do with anything.
“Be their friend because they have a soul” 💕💕 5:33
Im muslim but i love teaching of the christian religion. I deeply respect christian and please respect me too 🙏
We respect muslims as persons. You do understand that christianity and islam can't both come from God, right? Thats where our paths diverge. Read Mathew 10,34
I encourage you to read more about it. It also has the Jewish TaNaK.
Definitely helpful & beautiful faith.
Worth reading and learning.
As a christian, I respectfully disagree with Muslim teachings. We do not worship the same God.
Glad you are being bless by it. We respect you too ❤
I respect you man!
There’s this girl in Bible study I really like. The first thing I noticed about her was how fun and funny she is. She has a very gentle soul; I can really see the light of Jesus shining through her. We always have pretty good conversations and I’ve never felt a “click” with any other girl the way I feel one with her.
She’s 2 inches taller than me. I know height is important for some women, but I’m hoping this is a girl I can attract with my soul. I just genuinely enjoy being around her. May God’s will be done.
Hope it goes well for you bro 🙏🏽!!
Key word, "some" women.... Did you ask her out yet? There are two possible futures for you. One where you marry her, and one where you don't. But you can't achieve the former without at least asking her "hey, wanna go for a drink some time?"
Oh man let what God planned may happen❤..I am a girl who doesn't care about height or age.and the person I love is younger than me..I fell for him for his personality and there was this time when he strengthened my faith in jesus
im also interest in a women in my church but her friend keeps cucking her, almost puppy guarding her, but he already has a girl, im quite attractive, but its just honestly disheartening seeing someone prevent someone being friends with someone else, even though she likes me, id beat his ass but we are in church(he's done questionable petty, passive aggressiveness things in the past)
For me, I have fell in love with someone much shorter than me ❤
we need more relatable videos like this for the younger generation
Well, this is good for every generation.
I’m a gen z and this is a good vid besides my teacher said something similar about #3
amen
I needed this because, at first I wanted to catch up with an old friend cuz he was cute but now I kinda just wanna be his friend and get to know him also to get closer to God and wait for His time❤
Amen. God bless
Jesus loves you
Amen, you did good sister have a blessed day💗
Lol. Had the same thought: to catch up with an old friend too because she's cuter now
AMEN God bless you i will pray for everyone in these comments and everyone whos seen this
*Yeah it is really important to take this topic seriously. SOOOO many people mess it up now and do crapped stuff like sex before marriage, being with someone purely for pleasure, living together before marriage… cheating (fudge that’s a big one) not taking care of oneself… it goes on! Thanks for talking about this the right way.*
amen bruh
make sure both people have the right intentions before getting into a relationship. Listen to God's wisdom before your feelings.
Agreed
"Just because someone makes your heart flutter, doesn't mean they're good for you" I really needed to hear that thank you. I have a tendency as a young Christian man to fawn over agnostic or even outright ungodly women and it's been hard to guard my heart. On one hand we seem to have a lot and common and get along but when God comes up there's glaring differences. I could blame my living in New England (very secular part of the country) but I know it's my affections towards worldliness thats the issue.
idk how you doing now brother, but we have to remember always. they could seem all perfect but if they are not of the lord its worthless. and will bring you down. we are missing out on nothing that is wordly and not of god.
@@christweeptoo every part of the world is secular, that’s life brother. We have to stay strong everywhere, not just New England
I know you wrote this some time ago but as a woman I want to encourage you to wait for the right Godly woman. I made the mistake of not taking this too seriously when I was young and married a man who claimed to be a christian like me but didn't lead a life with Jesus. I'm going through a divorce right now because he ended up neglecting me, God and his vows. If I'm ever going to marry again I do not just want a christian man. I want a man who knows Jesus personally because he spends time with Him, loves Him and worships Him with his entire heart and soul. We need that spiritual connection with our spouse just as much as a deep emotional connection. Just feeling attracted to someone doesn't make for a good longlasting relationship. You'll know when there will be a deeper spiritual and emotional connection with a woman. And you'll be so glad you waited.
Ahhh!!!! 😤 This is the reason why I don't want to "like" someone until it's God's timing! I don't know how to manage liking someone in the first place JUST to know afterwards that we shouldn't be together...
Can anyone relate? 🥺🙏
I can relate 😭😭
Totally relate
I don't like it either, and used to run away from this, but recently I realized God wants me to grow with Him and trust Him through this challenge. Not easy stuff!
Same bro I usually just try to avoid liking someone bc idk how to manage these feelings ig that's why we needa trust God. Glory to him tho
@@shadowtail2004 I think you do it through google account settings, not UA-cam settings
This format is wonderful! It reminds me so much of Psych2Go which I watched often when I was in high school & undergrad. I pray that the Lord will lead more people to this channel. God bless you all!!
Yes but this is using God's word. That's good. I used to watch it too. Thank you for this video!
God bless x
That’s exactly what I thought! But it’s one that leads to God❤️✝️
@@Skibidiiznut827 That is my point above. This is nothing but worldly Psychology with "Christian" slapped on it. It is not God's counsel on the matter. Instead of watching these worldly Christian videos, read your Bible and draw near to God in prayer daily, devoting yourself to honoring God with your body. God will never lead you astray if you are drawing near to him (here is James 4.5-9):
5 Or is it your opinion that the Scriptures say irrationally, "With withering and longing the Spirit, who was meant to dwell in us, surrounds us with yearning."
6 However, He gives greater cheerful grace. That is why it says, "God purposely arranges things against the proud ones staring down, but to the lower ones of humility He gives cheerful grace."
7 Arrange yourselves in an orderly manner under God. Moreover, stand against the Devil and he will himself completely run away from you.
8 Squeeze yourselves up as close to God as you can and He will squeeze Himself up as close to you as He can. Purge your hands, which you depend on to grasp through the storm, you who are without an allotment and cleanse your hearts to the point of terrifying, you people with two-faced souls!
9 Bear your piercings and feel deeply and wail! Your laughter must be twisted so it transforms into deep feeling and your cheerfulness into a downward stare.
10Be humbled before the gaze of the Lord and He will lift you up
NOTICE THIS: "Squeeze yourselves up as close to God as you can and He will squeeze Himself up as close to you as He can."
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@@trw-prophethunter 🤦♂️
"Jesus loves you"
Touched my heart ♥
Mine too! And that message is soooo TRUE! He really does love us 😊🥰🙏🏾 I’m so thankful!
Mine too
@@cedesley7296amen
Me too❤
@@danielfagbohunlu5626 me too🥰
This was just what I needed to see to help me view my crush in a more level-headed light. I'm proud that you were once my Bible teacher!
i hope youre doing well my friend :) and im so happy that i am still able to help you
I recently lost my gf. We were going to settle down together. But barely made it to the finish line. I still mourn her to this day. I got to say though. This helps with the grieving. Gives me a purpose to move on without her while she waits for my journey to end.
God bless you bro❤ hope that will strengthen u and her family
@DAN30 I appreciate the love and support 😇 I am doing much better now that I've taken the time spent with God than trying to recuperate myself alone. God is great!
Stay strong ❤️
I hope everything is going good brother, I send my prayers your way
@@dtsluckyGod is great and so good! Amen!! That’s so great and an inspiring that this brought you closer to Him ❤ Psalm 34:18! He’s a savior and a healer ❤
I really like this guy in my Church, and the Lord has definitely grown my friendship with him over time. We both became true Christians at the same time so we both helped each other grow close to God, which I'm so grateful for. I don't think I'm prepared to date, and definitely still need to pray on it. I really, really like him and sometimes it's hard just staying as casual friends ;-; How does one date in a Christian way? It's extremely hard to pace myself and stay level headed because I feel like I just fall harder for him each time ;-; Please pray God gives me discernment and to guard my heart.
UPDATE:
We're on good terms, but I had to set boundaries and distance myself from the friendship. If I'm not ready to date, I shouldn't stay around. I'm focusing now on my personal walk with God and building friendships 🤍🙏
I think if you keep Christ first that helps a TON. Dont let your time with God slip. Distance yourself physically. If you ever end up alone with them make it a public space or have other ppl around you. Don’t let that person be all you think about. Try to keep yourself busy and be productive. Above all be honest with yourself and God.
Wow, this happened with me too.. We have similar stories, I just keep him in prayer and put Jesus faith, not my faith. If he’s meant to be with me, just let him be. Focus on Jesus above anything else, and cast out your anxiety on Him because He is the one who can solve your worries.
@@febha_mathewthat is fantastic advice thank you
Having a concern and a desire to do it right is really half the battle!!! So many don't care!!! :/ Just keep praying to God to graciously guide you and keep you from doing anything foolish. I really think tip 3 in this video was so useful (and tips 1 & 2). I am 25 and never dated or been in a relationship, because I have never come across a girl that I have felt a calling from God to get into a relationship with. I do, however, try to be good friends to as many honourable girls as I can. I think being with girls in a group setting is a lot safer because if it's just the two of you alone, it's a lot more likely to slide into something that is damaging, especially if you both feel quite attracted to each other. :/ That's my two shillings anyway!!! :) I pray it's of some help to you!!!
Same same same!!!
This could not have come at a more perfect time, sometimes we tend to stray away from those we get rejected by and forget that we get the privilege to love them as a friend, it’s a very inspiring and noteworthy video, thank you.
That's soooo true!💯
Wow interesting perspective
This video has helped me so much! Im 13 and im constantly fighting against my flesh since sin is so normalized for young people. Its so hard to walk with God, and thats why i have left Him many times. This video shows me that i can still be a teen and 'Normal' even though if i walk with God. It was such a positive suprise when i saw that this was a christian video. I appreciate this video since it shows that even though im Christian i can fall in love, and live life
Its so comforting. Thank you!
Yesss as a young teen I agree with this
You’re going to have an amazing life if you can commit to god at your age. We reap what we sow and your future will be beautiful if you commit to god. I wish I came to god sooner
You go girl! Make it your number one goal to know Jesus ❤️ He will never leave you nor forsake you.
Thank you so much 💓 I'm the same too, it's great to know someone else is struggling with the flesh
In the language of honor, standing firm in our faith is never a dishonor.
Mockers dislike facing that truth, which is why they _try_ to tear it and you down or lessen it's worth.
But God set that worth, not man.
In dealing with lusts and desires:
Until Christ comes again, all Christians must deal with the fact that we are called to live as examples... In a fallen world.
We aren't to hide away, so we are going to be around sin and sinners.
The problem is not that things are available to lust after. The problem is that temptation comes from our own sinful heart! (James 1:14)
We need to stop blaming Satan and recognize it is _our_ sin.
But in that is also a great hope and joy: this is not a relentless assault of Satan against us forever until we die (he isn't God, he isn't all powerful and all knowing).
This is a desire problem and a feeding problem:
When we abide in Christ, we are attracted to Him (the vine). The vine produces good fruit. Eg godly love, joy, patience, long-suffering, hope!!!
And it also pushes away the fleshly things in us
Rom8:13, col 2:8-11, gal 5:16-17!!!
So our walk looks like this:
1.desire God above all things.
2. So we choose to spend time with Him (abide)
3. That pushes the flesh away & changes our desires
4. In the context of abiding and being connected to Him/the vine, then we choose to do the work: good things and *also not feed the flesh* (as it is in direct contention with the Spirit in our life, see gal 5).
So in any situation (job, relationship, etc) we can check itself to see if we are abiding or feeding the flesh:
"The works of the flesh are evident"... "The fruits of the spirit are..."
The flesh gets angry or upset and discontented when it doesn't get it's way.
Godly love demonstrates godly joy: But for the joy set before him, Christ endures the cross. Think about that deep joy in the best for the other.
So if you check your mind heart state and find, hmm i seen to be getting any and feeling rejected, envious, etc
- ask your self what you are wanting in that moment:
Are you wanting the flesh? So you _really_ want the fear, anxiety, discontent, etc and consumption/use it produces? (Its fruit)
Or do you want God more, and man i can see by the warning signs in my life that I've let something come in between. I chose to want Him more and while i spend more time with Him, I'm going to ask the Holy Spirit to increase my desire for Him even more.
When you do that, you stop desiring the substitutions. And it's really easy to turn down something you don't want, especially if you see the rotten fruit hiding behind the surface. (I have no hesitation in turning down a rotted apple or candy coated dog poop. I just have to sometimes remind myself to look at what it really is)
Notice how hopeful and easy that purity struggle is compared to trying to fight against things by our own effort? (I've only spent 37 years doing it the hard and unsuccessful way. Apparently I'm slow to learn some things.)
Hope that helps and blesses you.
I've had 3 failed marriages, and a failed long term relationship. I never realized that these people never had faith in God and they were using me. I pray the Lord will bless me with a God fearing man. 😔✝️🙏
Don't worry, God's got you! Seek Him above all and watch as His plan for u unfold! God bless
Literally a month ago I was praying to God about how single I'm and How I felt about it . After few days from that God sent a person into my life, we never dated but we both had feelings for each other and I realised why God wanted me to stay single 😂, now I'm no longer with that person .God told me to wait upto his timing and he said that I'm still on the process of preparation. God is great
Must be nice that God talks to you. All I get is silence. Guess that's my answer. He said a permanent, forever No.
@@BansheeKing22 don’t doubt him! You can’t believe in something and doubt at the same time be patient everytime you get the urge to read your Bible or thought that’s actually God/Holy Spirit talking to u to read he replies sometimes in your life like through people but keep praying that you’ll hear his voice clearly and sometimes our own desires and thoughts “oh what’s happening Tommorow” worrying overlaps his voice and so that you can’t hear it or your ignoring his voice and or him because your mad or upset with him let him in it’s ok!
@BansheeKing22 He will talk to you through his word, and he will also talk to you sometimes through other people. For example, I was asking God if I should go to the local amusement park for Halloween with my friend, and not long later my mom came up to me and told me about how demonic the Halloween event has become at our local amusement park, they have these fake blood packets things you drink fake blood out of it's really weird. Back to the subject at hand though pray to God for Discernment and pray to hear from him, and read the Bible every day.
I also have the same experience you did have.. Before i clocked 20 i prayed to God earnestly for a girl friend which i finally had.. Though i knew in my spirit it wasnt time but nevertheless i still had to keep disturbing God. After i had her, sigh.. I did stray away and God really use that to teach me a lesson. I cant fully go into details but I broke up with her after some years. Infact this year and am ready to wait for God and also use the lesson learnt to move forward...
@@BansheeKing22 If I may, I should like to recommend CS Lewis's book "A Giref Observed."
It's a short read, and it narrates his personal reflections after mourning the loss of his wife. In it, he discusses his own struggle with feeling a lack of response from God, and how he later came to understand that apparent unresponsiveness differently. It is a sad book, since it is literally about grieving a spouse, but mayhaps it'll be of some encouragement.
I was praying today that GOD tell me if he is good for me or not ,
Either make him mine better half if he is the one or help me to forget him if he is not for me , and suddenly your video showed up ,
GOD loves me so much ❤️
I am fully convinced now that it has to be the Holy Spirit showing me these videos lol. This is the second time I’ve opened up UA-cam to immediately see one of your videos that has ministered to me how to navigate the specific situations I’ve been praying about! This is literally what I’ve been thinking through all day and the second I get home from work and go to browse UA-cam this video popped up! Never seen any of your other videos besides one other a few weeks ago, and have no prior experience with your ministry but I’ve got to say you’ve helped me out a lot! Subbed!
Same
Omg me too! I was literally praying about marriage and this is the third time this video popped up on my feed. God is trying to show me something.
Me too
'm in a simialar situation!
Same.
I have been with someone for while who was Christian as I was not. He had fell from god and chose to get back up and I had to choose to either walk with him or leave. For the first two weeks I was doing Christianity only to stay with him. Now, I do it for myself. We are now walking this path together and plan on getting married sometime. No time limit to it, but we are both growing into Christianity together and I’m so happy for the both of us. Thank you god !!
I’m so glad he opened my eyes to Christianity. I’m still learning of it as is my bf, but we are learning together.
On a side note, I wish everyone a blessed day. Thanks for reading even tho it’s not important for this comment. Just wanted to share my experience similar to this video.
Praise God!! That's awesome. May you be blessed as you continue to grow in faith!
Also I'd recommend you read Dangerous Jesus by Kevin Burgess. Super awesome book about who Jesus actually is and the core of His teachings.
Blessings!
That’s good to hear, keep growing in your relationship with God, and he will strengthen your relationship with your partner. Always remember that God loves you.
This is great relationship advice for everyone, not just Christians.
Everyone who's considering a relationship into marriage should definitely watch this ❤️🙌
Being just friends is something I am incapable of right now. The desire for marriage is so strong and overrides what I know and it’s a challenge.
I gotta say! This is probably the first time I’ve seen something Christian that was created that doesn’t make me cringe. And yes, I am one for anyone asking.
Most of the time, Christian versions of stuff isn’t executed well, but this is the first time it has been! Kudos to you guys!!
This is exactly what i thought! I actually loved watching this, it didint feel like something i had to do because it was a christian video.
Dude I agree hardcore
This is not the best of advice IMO. Modern Christianity really falls flat win it comes to dating advice. If you like someone you should.
1. Be confident, and FLIRT with them. Don't be mister, nice guy and think you can when them over with your "niceness", just be honest and show your interest in them. Don't let your fear control you, and just do it. Now in saying this check your sinful nature and only flirt, don't seduce. There is a difference. One, you are giving hints and signs of attraction and trying to figure out if it's mutual. Seduction is going past that.
2. Don't overthink it. This is where I think this video is unhelpful. Overthinking is a terrible thing to do. This is where you crate false versions of who you like by thinking about them too much, and scheme to try to best get yourself into a relationship with them. Overthinking without action shows the lack of faith in God and yourself. You instead want to keep thinking about it so you can get the best possible "strategy" to get them.
3A. Accept rejection and move on. If you haven't continued to overthink, then you are in a much better position to just move on. If she very clearly did not respond to your flirting, or verbal rejected you, who cares. Don't be embarrassed, and understand it wasn't God's will for you. Try again next time.
3B. If she did respond positively ask her on a date, but start out slow. Now that it is clear their is attraction on both sides, you can start to properly discern if the relationship is one you want to pursue. Discerning BEFORE confirming attraction is mutual is putting the cart before the horse. You'll be to prone to overthinking and not proper discernment, but I warn you you have to start slow. They aren't your girlfriend/boyfriend. If you rush you can make the mistake if letting your emotions overtake your discernment.
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I can agree with that, it is easy for ministries to come off as cringe or fake. This video did well to use scripture and just say things plain and simple.
How much pain could I have avoided if I had known this before. Thank you for sharing this Bro
I'm currently going through the stage of having intense feelings for someone, and I feel like this coming up in my FYP is an act from God, because after watching this from beginning to end, I can now see more clearly and understand how to interact with the guy I like. Thank you so much for aspiring peoples minds and helping others grow in Christianity :)
This is literally so good😊 It can soften a person's heart and save them from a lot of heartache and problems when romantic love come too early. It's true, love them as a brother/sister first. Also be sure to PRAY, because God can expose things to you and open your eyes to see if you are really compatible with them or not.
This is an excellent video. As someone who God has had to say “no” to 3-4 times as I grew up, I can confidently say that He does grow you through each experience. And now that God has finally brought someone into my life who is incredible and also likes me, it’s so electric. He is a good, wise Father.
Just watch this video with my 12-year-old. Who just told me yesterday about a crush at school she has. Love your videos.
She was like the warmth of the sunrise on a chilly autumn morning. Her hugs were like a warm blanket or a cup of cocoa during the cold winter months. Her eyes were like amber jewels, the sun envious of the warmth they brought. Her joy and goofyness and personality were that of one u only find once in a lifetime.
How God is so good! I have been struggling with waiting for the guy I like and since I’ve never dated anyone, it’s hard since I desire to be married. But this video popped up at the perfect time. It was a great reminder as to what I need to look for and do! Thank you so much!
This video was eye opening, and it came to me right on time. Especially the part where you say there's a difference between liking the idea of being with someone because you're in love with them and liking someone for who they are. Just so happen to be relevant in my life at the moment.
Same!
Omg same! And this video was recommended. I was struggling and now I realised that I just liked the idea of him.
@@Josh934 Heh. I was struggling with kind of the opposite for a while.
I’m going through a breakup and I came across this video… it’s just what I needed to have peace in my heart ❤ thank you so much
I dated a girl in high school. She was very beautiful and her personality was lovely in many ways.
We were both Christian but we had quite different interpretations of the Bible, which I should’ve seen as a red flag but I didn’t.
Also, she tried to stop me from pursuing my future career and it actually worked for awhile.
I have no hard feelings against her but I wish I had split up with her before we did. It would’ve been better for both of us.
I definitely learned a lot from that relationship
I prayed to learn wisdom so I can find someone after being single for 10+ years, and it’s funny how this video came along.
God is great
I do like someone. And in the course of evaluating how to go about this, having not yet known whether or not God's path for me is celibacy, the 1st and 3rd have come to my mind several times. Now i know that that was the voice of the Holy Spirit guiding me all along. I have to put myself last. I have to be his friend first. Him before me. God before him. Thanks so much for this❤
Lord thank you so much for my discovery of this channel today. It will greatly impact my life positively.
God bless the team behind this channel and its great works
Honestly I think everyone should learn this, not just Christians. This is a really good message, very well put. God bless!!!🎉❤
Amen✝️❤️
I definitely needed this. I am a teenager and had a crush on someone before but not anymore bc based on his actions and the words that came out of his mouth he wasn't necessarily Christian and kinda talked bad about God.I didn't think he was the one for me I need someone who is going to help me on my walk with God not Just a bf but a partner someone who supports and respects my decisions.But now I look at people even just someone I wanna be friends with, and see if they are going to be an asset or a liability to my life and my relationship w/ God,so I will patiently wait on that person that God sends me.
I love this channel, I just want to say I was actively sinning but this channel made me realize what Jesus wants for me and to study up on the Bible for the first time since I was like 6. I’m 17 now and I have gone through years and years of pain. Thank you for being a vessel to help me realize God’s plan and to love him.
Last tip was the last lesson i learned in this past week. I decided instead of pursuing a relationship and persue friendships when i have this feeling of love. In a way youll learn more about the person know if thei good for you or not know if they are going in the same path. And most important of all you have a new friendly face in your life!
Big facts. God will use the people you like to teach you lessons. Trusting the Holy Spirit’s leading is one of the best things that you can do. Be wise. You don’t always have to learn from experience or doing something stupid.
I'm still in high-school, and am not planning to fall in love yet. But this is a great message.
Facts
Agree
You don’t plan, it just happens. I’ve been in love with a girl since middle school we are both freshman’s now.
@@thatnnoob6109 I hold the belief that humans have the ability to control their feelings, especially with the help of God. So you can somewhat control who you fall in love with. The Bible tells us several times to control your thoughts and feelings.
I went through a tough time very recently, and that prayer just made my day! Praise Jesus!🙏❤️🙏
I don't usually comment on UA-cam videos but this is very very good. God bless you so much. This generation needs these things.
This video is a blessing, I liked someone during a church congress and I was confused by my emotions and I was blinded by a lot of things, I really loved his character and even started to pray for him. But then I realized I only loved the idea of him
God bless,so proud of u. Getting caught up in feelings and ignoring wisdom is soo dangerous. Then one or both of you end up getting hrut. so good on ya for realising that.
I can relate to this video. I praise the Lord for giving me guidance and always being there when i need him the most
Man this is a God ordained video. I already jumped the gun and told that given person I liked them yet I'm Christian and the person is not, well we haven't spoken about that topic of belief deeply. Yet his speech shows he doesn't have a continuous walk with the redeemer. I started to think about us getting married and the whole nine and actually questioned my supposed liking of him. I thought to myself "do you like the idea of him or do you like him for him". Very much needed video may God bless you. I need to continue to question my desires in the light of the word. The three tips are my homework for tonight! Thank you brother for this video God bless you.
What an astonishing video. Praise God. He knows I love this girl so much. I’ve never loved anyone so much. I want the absolute best for her. Thank you Lord and those part of making this video. I love you God and Ana ❤️
This is very helpful, thank you! I've been having a hard time of having some (budding) feelings for a guy, a strong Christian whom I greatly respect and love regardless as a friend and a brother in Christ, but knowing that he doesn't feel the same (no I have not admitted it to him, I am not that brave). I've prayed about it and asked for God's guidance, and asked for Him to point my heart to Him first and am enjoying my friendship with this boy and how we're growing closer to God together. But it's still hard when those feelings aren't dampening in the slightest!
You literally just typed out my entire situation!!! It’s sucks so much that the feelings don’t dampen at all.
I'm only fourteen years old currently, but i wanna share my testimony: So back in 7th there was this girl in my class, she is cute, nice and is pretty smart, but the thing is, she isn't a believer, i found out that she also doesn't even pray, nor go to church, but since its my past self, who has a weak faith, i still liked her, even though i know that she isn't a believer. By that time, i was planning on growing my faith, but because i liked her, i was having a hard time. I don't know if God is challenging me or because my faith is weak, but it led me to think that its the doing of the enemy. Fast forward a year later, my faith actually managed to grow because of the year long break, though school came back again, and we're now the same class again, and i still liked her. After a while i saw that i was once again getting weaker, and i know why, its because of her, she is the reason why my faith is getting weaker, but she didn't do anything, as a matter of fact, she doesn't even see me, so i prayed, and read the Bible, and because of that of that, i realized, myself is reason why my faith is getting weaker, so i wanna do something, because i don't want to get weaker because of myself, so i denied my feelings and my mindset, and i focused on my faith, started thinking more about the words of God, and thinking less about her, and sure enough, i manage to grow, i've overcome my feelings, or to be more specific, myself.
So i think the lesson here is, if you desire something, then ask God, but if that something is altering your faith, then you have to let go of that desire, no matter what it takes.
This made me think deeply about my current situation, especially at a time when there's one girl who has been taking up space in my head. I know for a fact that God showed me this video for a reason and I can't thank Him enough.
God literally worked me through these exact three things, amongst others, when I was going through a crush on someone close to me. It’s a blessing to see Him confirm this now. He sure is faithful 🙂
Really really needed to hear this. Sometimes it’s so hard not to get caught up by the feelings that come with liking a guy that I disregard the fact that I like him enough to be friends first.
Good advice all around.
My personal advice I would add is to pray to God to give you a wife or husband and keep praying. But quite honestly, don't waste time seeking them out. Yes, pursue someone if you believe they are a good match and/or God gives the go ahead, but don't look into a crowd of people and wonder if "the one" is in there (I speak metaphorically. I know most people aren't looking into a crowd and wondering that).
Don't fall into the trap of meeting a pretty girl or cute guy and allow your loneliness to make you see them as nothing more than a marriage candidate: a medicine for your lonely heart. They are indeed more than that, and they might not even be for you to have in the first place.
Accept that most people you meet will either be friends, passersby, or acquaintances, but only ONE is going to be the person you marry.
Saying this to preach to myself as well as others. Stay strong, brothers and sisters. Focus on Christ more than seeking relationships. Everything will work itself out according to God's Will. Just keep following and keep seeking Him first.
Don't chase someone who isn't also chasing you. When someone wants you, it is obvious by their actions. All 3 points are great. I saw the downfall of my previous relationships in every single point. #3 I would advice to becareful you decide to be selfless for. Do not be used for someone else's gain. Have some self respect.
This is such a great focus and example! As a 38 year old married person in a separation I find myself in a season of singleness where I’m learning for the first time how great God is and how much he wants this relationship with me personally as a foundation to learn these things to prepare me for a healthier marriage. Oooo how I wish I would have done this devotional time when I was actually single.
I’d love to see your content and thoughts on marriage, difficulties and using the Lord as strength.
Dear future wife fall inlove with God first before you fall inlove with me
This is a beautiful thing to say . May God bless you and your future wife 🙏
Amen
This message was just meant for me and my fellow brethren who are facing the same challenge, thank you,God bless you for your guidance,I love you with the Love of God,may God tru His spirit impart your team with more grace and wisdom.
i just prayed to God about how I liked someone and I didn’t know what to do, and then this video came up. ✝️🙏😭💖
I really like this guy I work with, so I needed this video. I've never dated inside the context of Christianity, so I'm completely new to this. Thank you!
These are really tips for everyone, just presented from a biblical perspective. It's awesome.
Proverbs 31:30 "Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised."
I really like this video. I think the notion of remaining someone's friend is a very vulnerable place not many people are willing to be and the fear of being hurt or deceived can be very pressing, but in that pursuit to live selflessly, you begin to learn more about who the other person really is if they begin to abuse or manipulate your emotions.
I related to every point in a relationship that was broken off a few days ago. I didn't realize there were so many issues until he broke the relationship off. I'm still friends with him and thank you for reminding me that being friends is an amazing thing whether it turns into something more or not. Thank you for opening my eyes!
Thank God, and thank you i'm a Born Again Christian and i'm so struggling about someone i loved. And now wow thank God He uses this video to teach me to be careful of who I am fall inlove with.
I wish I would have found this sooner. Thank you for spreading God’s word in all aspects of life. 💟
I really need this
Sometimes i asking God why i can have the guy that i like , He didn't say anything and let me learn by myself then by time i know God says to me " HE IS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU "
Just wanna tell you guys when God says no don't force it trust Him , when He wipe way those people from your life ,they are not right for you . Jesus bless you everyday ❤️
Last point was really nice
Love them cuz they have a soul . God bless !
Its so difficult falling in love with someone that isnt a believer. This video explained exactly what is going on in my current situation and i thank you for this wisdom
Some really good points! I also feel like to determine some of these things you need to get to know the person, so be patient and don’t force anything! :)
The illustrations are captivating and the message is even better!
You keep everything dynamic while sharing the word of God, and that truly is exceptional.
We christians need more people like you. Thank you!
It been a year I had to broke up with my ex because of sexual immorality. I did love her but she wasn't ready to be the wife I need. And there's women (young and old) who wants me but smart enough not to fall for it. I do like some and talk to them but I'm focused. God is blessing me even when I know I have struggles and crave for intimacy with a woman. God will bless me the wife I need. Thank you for the video. God bless you 🙌
Must be nice to be desired. Not a single fucking woman on this entire planet wants me.
I feel like I needed this video today. The person that I’ve had my eye on (not in a stalker kind of way) has gone for someone else, but that’s ok. I still want them to be in my life one way or another. It’s amazing just how it feels for someone to acknowledge that you’re there. God Bless you all!
Thank you for making this! This video is wise, relevant, engaging, and point to Jesus' grace. Keep it up!
Single with nobody in mind but that's a wonderful Message. Jesus Loves us.
Same here
God bless you always 😊
This video was so helpful for me as I’m struggling with wanting to talk to multiple girls and for most of them it’s because I find them attractive and I want to talk to them because I’m bored, but luckily I have deleted social media in hopes of loving my one true love God. I have felt like I wasted my time with these people because they do not show the same affection for me. Thank you so much for this video again, I hope this could help many young Christian’s.
This is so perfectly timed. I’ve been a believer for a few years now, but I’d never struggled with this until my senior year. And it’s been a HUGE struggle. But I think I made the right decision, even if it deeply broke both our hearts. And now being just good friends, I think God can do big things in her life through our friendship.
I liked what you said about "Do you like them because they make me feel less lonely, or do you like the way they look, or do you like them for who they are" definitely something I needed to hear
I had a crush, but I knew I shouldn’t like him because he’s two years older than me. I’ve come to terms with just being his friend. We go to church together and we’re close, but I see it won’t get any better than that, and I’m grateful that God gave me such a good friend. One day, I’ll find someone else, as hard as it was for me at first
Funny that these are the things I am realizing now before watching this video. I am interested to a girl in our church and have a secret crush on her for a long time. The problem is I am very shy to her. Actually, I can easily get friends to other people but when I try to approach her, I can't be myself haha.
Now, I have realized that I need to relax and uncrush her for now and just be a friend with her. Take it slow. I realized that I need to be ready that this girl might be the one I am going to marry, or not - just going to be one of my friend forever.
Thanks for this video!
Same here man.
MR. D,
once those intense feelings go away you will be able to be yourself around her. Then you can grow closer with her and develop the friendship. THEN if you are both ready it might become a relationship.
This is why it's easier to have a friendship, grow an attraction, then go into a relationship than it is to have an attraction, grow a friendship, and then go into a relationship. I hope that made sense. Regardless, I hope you are able to be friends with this girl at the very least.
@@duke0219 I needed that. Thanks
@@jasecooper4998 You're welcome!
I wonder what was God’s reasoning for leading to me this video.
I have been praying for him to place a Godly girlfriend in my life, but there’s nobody I like in sight and hasn’t been for a while.
It probably depends if you are putting yourself out there and making it possible for that person to see you, for all you know you might have walked past them.
@@ajturner1392 faith without works is dead. like you said, he just has to put himself out there
Keep praying about it but also keep waiting. His timing is perfect. God may have led you to this video to prepare you.
Good thing He is preparing you for when He does place them in your life.!
Same only for me it’s a Godly boyfriend🙈 I think it’s just random.
thank you so much! having a biblical/ Christian perspective on these issues is so important. loved the formatting as well! ❤
5:35 is absolutely correct. God took a crush of mine away and he taught me that he will separate me from sin
This is the MOST helpful video I have seen for relationships with Christians! Tysm!!
I wasn't even looking for a video like this. I came upon it unexpectedly, and it has changed my perspective on many things. I really needed this. God bless you!
Same. I do have to wonder why this video appeared to me now though. I used to struggle with these feelings, especially with former/current friends, but as of right now, I don’t have someone in my life that I have genuine crush on or anything. I’m wonder why now, of all times, God decided to show me this video.
Dude, I'm totally sharing this with my singles bible study. Great job. Love the animation, and just a perfect use of scripture to promote God's plan for us. Thank you
I was dating a Christian man, we agreed on God and loved talking about God however it was like he lacked in some areas like discipline sometimes, accountability, self awareness don't get me wrong I also lacked in areas like commitment and unforgiveness however I felt like I was battling between am I being too hard on him or am I being manipulated? . I think in some instances whenever we got into the most pettiest of arguments and maybe I'll voice out that he made me feel this way rather than apologize he would say something like "I'm sorry but I feel like everything I do will offend you because you assume the worst of me" and I was like it's not that I assume it's like we argued about this thing last week and I mentioned to you that you need to be mindful about the things you say in anger as a man of God I don't need you to say to me "well the woman I wanted would be appreciative I feel like you're not appreciative" and when I say well then I guess I'm not the woman you prayed for, you come back and apologize saying "I didn't mean it, I was just angry" it seems like you're playing with my emotions so because I'm not "agreeable" I'm not a proverbs 31 woman but when Im agreeable then I am? I used to ask him if he is self aware and if he understands that the things he says especially in anger can have an affect on how a person perceives you. He mentioned that he doesn't like that I don't let things go and I hold on to things. I was like it's because you don't take accountability for the things you do and make an effort to change it, I forgive you and you do it again, then I let this go and you do the same thing next week, you do something hurtful then apologize but there's no effort to change backing up the apology. Like sometimes when he would say something hurtful and I'd be like I think ending things is ideal here, he would guilt me into not ending things and act like he understands me and that he isn't a bad guy etc. But on our last argument I prayed to God prior and was like "God if he isn't for me please reveal it" he said something based on my physical appearance which I didn't like and he gave a backhanded apology. The I'm sorry but type I then ended things with him there. But I extended my friendship to him.
Thankyou for this video, God knows what to send me when I feel confused at times.
The fact that this video came right when I started falling for someone ❤
Praise the Lord. Thank you for talking about this the right way and providing Guidance through the Lord
can you do a video where you talk about what a Christian should do when they like someone or just have someone in mind for no reason but don't want to, especially when it comes to gender... i really need it and will really appreciate it :)
thank you. this is exactly what i needed in the pov that i needed. thank you Lord for helping me see this video-🙏
I’m a Catholic, but I love your videos and I would recommend them to any fellow catholic.
God bless you my Protestant brothers and sisters
I am also a Catholic,but I always look forward to every video ❤
Obviously the lord always listens but man am I in awe!!! I really needed this video ❤ thank you Jesus! ✝️
OMG this made me cry. Realizing the relationship failure I've been to. And I thank God for saving me from those relationships.
I wish I had seen this video sooner. I am 24 and learning through lots of heartbreak and rejection that I need to work on how I handle feelings that I get for guys. It's not bad to have romantic feelings, they are God given, but it's how they are handled that is key. I've begun praying to ask God if I should remain single for the remainder of my studies as I think would help in intentionally seeking healing and guidance from God to mature in this part of my life. I think it would be good, and the apostle Paul makes a good case for it too (he also says its okay to be married too). God willing, one day I will have a long and loving relationship, but I don't think I'm ready for that right now; still in limbo of where I'm going in life right now. God knows the desires of my heart but I want to trust more in his timing, in the guidance of his word, and grow more in love and assurance of his character. Thank you for this video that put it so simply and for conveying how to go about 'crushes' in a Biblical way. God Bless
Finding someone who is for Christ and follows scripture correctly is not common in my opinion for those who I can say, "I love you" as a wife. I've always been single and still searching. Much more difficult. I kind of blame the feminist culture. 35 yr old now.
@@goober2964 Are you doing ok, brother??? :D What do you mean by 'following scripture correctly'?
@@JonathanGillies Allowing the husband to lead the household, not celebrating halloween, not lying to kids about Santa, Easter Bunny, tooth fairy, etc, not dressing in luxury, there is a lot.
Thank you for this video I have been seeing this girl on my track and field team and was on the fence about asking her out because I wasn't sure how I felt about her I like her because she is Christian, she is very conservative in how she acts and dresses, and we both have similar mental disabilities. I appreciate this video thank you guys for producing this video. God Bless.