dealing with grief is so hard

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  • @ICEcoldJT
    @ICEcoldJT 3 роки тому +206

    “Appreciate where you are in your journey, even if it’s not where you want to be. Every season has a purpose.”

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +20

      thank you my friend!! always appreciate your wisdom

    • @dranzerfn8374
      @dranzerfn8374 3 роки тому +3

      ICECOLDJT!!!!

    • @goutfromfriedokra7099
      @goutfromfriedokra7099 3 роки тому +3

      @@ice1cube what resource/book helped you with the grief? I too am dealing with a mum with late stage dementia

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +8

      @@goutfromfriedokra7099 I think honestly just talking about it with people and sharing about it here on UA-cam has helped me, it helps me reflect on it and also gets my feelings out and expresses them. I can't thank all of you enough for this opportunity. for you I say start with family members or friends you can talk to about it. with that said let me ask you, how are you doing?

    • @goutfromfriedokra7099
      @goutfromfriedokra7099 3 роки тому +2

      @@ice1cube not sure..mum had alz since 2011 and dad just diagnosed with Parkinson's.a bit numb and mentally fatigued....what I am clear is how the healthcare system attempts to bankrupt their citizens before their death...

  • @ice1cube
    @ice1cube  3 роки тому +164

    happy sunday everyone! i appreciate all of you and i can't thank all of you enough for your kind words, support, love, and encouragement in this difficult time. thank you all so so much!!!

    • @freddieparrydrums
      @freddieparrydrums 3 роки тому +7

      You have helped so many people thanks ice1cube you deserve all of the good words because you are an inspiration ♥️

    • @Yellow.1844
      @Yellow.1844 3 роки тому +4

      the end of your video reminds me greatly of this comment : www.reddit.com/r/wallstreetbets/comments/m79nw6/Sorry_for_your_loss_Ryan_Cohen._Condolences_from_Wallstreetbets/graiasg/?context=3
      stay strong brother, he was a nice cat🙏

    • @TheEncouragementKid
      @TheEncouragementKid 3 роки тому +4

      we always got you and you've got yourself too. don't forget that you can be your own best friend, and best coach

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +2

      @@TheEncouragementKid thank you dear friend!!!

    • @TheEncouragementKid
      @TheEncouragementKid 3 роки тому +1

      @@ice1cube got you (:

  • @dimsumlady8853
    @dimsumlady8853 3 роки тому +52

    "The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before. That's the deal." - CS Lewis

    • @hnlgd37
      @hnlgd37 3 роки тому +2

      If there is grieving extent with something it is normal, but also must move/carry on and forward despite if-of been a loss; and learning/coming/being in terms to accept and honor with ones own life still keep living, hustle/grinding, appreciating and enjoying within one’s still present own

  • @tessw9744
    @tessw9744 3 роки тому +38

    I have had 4 cats since I was a child. Every time I lose one ,I promise myself to never get another one......but I always do. It gets better.

    • @hnlgd37
      @hnlgd37 3 роки тому

      I’d suggest could also consider a different kind of pet too

  • @fearless3geclipse
    @fearless3geclipse 3 роки тому +1

    You realize how much you love your parents when you have your own kids. You finally realize that your parents had or has that same love for you.

  • @HALee-
    @HALee- 3 роки тому +12

    Emotional pain is the price we humans pay for love 💕.
    I admire you for opening your heart to aBubba. I admire you taking care of your mom. I admire you even more for sharing your journey with your mom and her illness. You’re awesome, dude! I wish you well.

  • @jeffj2495
    @jeffj2495 3 роки тому +2

    You are great at sharing with all of us.
    Your sweet kitteh was best at giving you the best he had in life.
    I can tell he was a great kitteh. It is hard to lose them. Even 2 years later, I get deep anguish from losing our Leoberry when he was only 13.
    They give us their best, and from that, we keep them alive in our memories for all time. RIP Bubba, you were a good boy.

  • @Nicecalgarian
    @Nicecalgarian 3 роки тому +41

    I understand bro. The best thing my wife did was get me another dog 🐕 after I had to put down my best friend. Don't deny another pet love. Bubba would want that 🙏🇨🇦

    • @heidehho6191
      @heidehho6191 3 роки тому +5

      beautiful way to view it

    • @Fleshlight_Reviewer
      @Fleshlight_Reviewer 3 роки тому +3

      that's a great way to look at it but sadly i never got another dog after mine died :(

    • @Nicecalgarian
      @Nicecalgarian 3 роки тому +5

      @@Fleshlight_Reviewer It's never too late 🙏

    • @heidehho6191
      @heidehho6191 3 роки тому +5

      @@Fleshlight_Reviewer you can always get another kind of pet (i get it, i couldn't get another dog but decided on a cat and ended up rescuing a bonded pair and it's worth it)

  • @richardjoe3782
    @richardjoe3782 3 роки тому +15

    The timing of this video is impeccable. It was only 10 days ago that I lost my childhood dog of almost 12 years. It felt like I was losing a member of my family. I can’t remember the last time I cried, but when I watched her pass, I was overtaken by emotion. Even though the grief is immense, I have to remember about the good times. Losing her was also a very strong lesson. When we are younger, we are told that “life is short”, but we can’t actually comprehend that until we experience what is is like to see a life begin and end. Losing her taught me that our time is severely limited, and to try to live every moment of it.

  • @ttephi3667
    @ttephi3667 3 роки тому +29

    I feel like we are in such a similar position... I am caring full time for my elderly Father and this last year we lost our precious family cat. She comforted me/us at all times and we would fall asleep looking into each other's eyes (and me sometimes crying because of all the challenges facing us). When we lost her, I literally felt a piece of my heart die. Like a piece of my heart went out. I felt it. She gave us so much comfort, love and strength and not a day goes by we don't think of her and long for her. We too are immigrants and our precious cat was the best thing to happen to us in our new country. So I understand more than you know brother, strength, love and hugs.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +6

      sending you and your family and especially your dear father so much love my friend, I'm so sorry for your loss and I am grieving with you. much love to you and your family

    • @ttephi3667
      @ttephi3667 3 роки тому +5

      @@ice1cube Ah thank you my Friend, much appreciated. I am also very sorry for the loss of your beloved cat. Much love to you, your family and your dear Mom. Strength always

    • @hnlgd37
      @hnlgd37 3 роки тому

      Please look up Niacin, it and the rest of up’d supplementation of B vitamins have great benefits (omega 3 good stuff too) to prevent and possibly to improve mental/brain ailments. Take/have/use a higher/sufficient protocol of supplementation especially when higher age ~60+ would significantly prevent/support

  • @thunderx3005
    @thunderx3005 3 роки тому +58

    The best storyteller 💪🏾

  • @stefanahlhorn9937
    @stefanahlhorn9937 3 роки тому +2

    I think, in life it is like an equilibrium reaction. You know, there are always two sides of everything - sometimes more. You cannot have the one without the other. How could we ever appreciate love and joy without grief and anger? There is no way to just choose only the good things. What comes up will come down will come up.
    And the key - in my opinion - is hope. It puts everything together in relation.
    Despite your pain, what wonderful memories do you have, what heartwarming moments full of love. You are right: one cannot live without it for avoiding the pain. In the end: it is love with nowhere to go..
    Again: thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, your life. Wish you all the best in these difficult times. You are not alone.

  • @changooman
    @changooman 3 роки тому +40

    I'm really sorry for your loss but rest easy knowing they're smiling at you from the rainbow bridge.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +4

      thank you andre!!

  • @tinashort7771
    @tinashort7771 3 роки тому +5

    I can relate. I felt so similar to you when I lost my Ginger. I never cried so hard in my life, but I did pull through and finally understood the value of the love I had. Thank you for sharing your story and I pray for your mother.

  • @benw9949
    @benw9949 3 роки тому +16

    It's been almost 4 weeks since my senior cat passed away, euthanasia. I know how hard it must be for you. When you're ready, adopt a cat from a shelter if a cat doesn't find you on their own. That friendship and loyalty and quirkiness that is being a cat can be a real boost for you and your family. I'm fortunate to have a 3/4 year old kitten who arrived last year. At some point, I will be read to take on another cat if one doesn't show up. Bless you and your family. Life can be hard to understand. I get how easy it is to have questions, anger, sadness at the way life can be, when you are dealing with your mom's condition. Please all of you, take care of yourselves. Your love and friendliness mean something. I don't know why we have to go through these things, but somehow, I think you can be a blessing for others, and they can be a blessing for you. It is a rough path sometimes. May there always be people to help when you find it too hard to go on and you make mistakes. We all do and we all need that help. :: hugs ::

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +3

      thank you so much ben, I really appreciate your kindness my friend

    • @CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger
      @CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger 3 роки тому +4

      I felt so many times the time pain when they have to go, but accepting a new one who hasn’t lived or has any memories pushes you to give joy to another who’s life is waiting for love...
      and you know what? The rest of the animals in the home like it too because they have company and they play. It’s good for everyone. For them. For us. They’re so special! But a big reason is because people who love deeply are a gift. An animal only wishes for this! Your pets only wish you to give love as they remember you. If you can do it, don’t delay accepting the happiness and joy that comes with the courage. 🙏🙏🙏

    • @adc2327
      @adc2327 3 роки тому +4

      Ben, you made me realize something. Many years ago I had a cat. She showed up at my parents house as a stray just as I was about to leave the country for a while. Perfect timing. I became ill overseas, had to come home. I moved away to a neigboring city. Chelsea the cat becomes my parents pet. She is with my mother during her father's and her husband's death. ( My father). She had Chelsea for 17 years.
      A friend of mine gets a kitty. She starts traveling in her work. I watch her kitty while she travels. I decide to move mom in with me. We babysit my friend's cat for 13 years. My mother loves him as if he is her own. It all works out, since I could not take care of both my mom and a pet full time. They have both passed on, but I bet they are together.
      You are right, these kitties just showed up!

  • @mariaeugeniaperezgonzalez8426
    @mariaeugeniaperezgonzalez8426 3 роки тому +2

    Sorry for your loss . We have 2 cats and recently a car killed our third cat, l know your grief. Ill keep praying for you.

  • @dawngwee1874
    @dawngwee1874 3 роки тому +3

    Bubba was so blessed to have had your love.

  • @maleeq754
    @maleeq754 3 роки тому +12

    Last month I lost my cat who is 12 y/o... just imagine we've grown up together and the love that we shared is just.... priceless. but at least really grateful that we get to feel the love that he shared forever.

    • @bluewave7120
      @bluewave7120 3 роки тому +2

      Thanks so much for sharing i just lost my cat of 16 years on Monday. At first,I thought I would never get another cat again. I decided I am going to rescue a homeless cat that let's me pet him on the street. I hope you will get another cat too. And it is not that you will love your
      Previous cat any less it just means it is OK to open your heart and love again ❤

    • @maleeq754
      @maleeq754 3 роки тому +1

      @@bluewave7120 True tho love has no limits. Yeah suddenly random street cat just showed up at my house and she brought along her kittens and we got a whole new family 💞✨ btw your words means a lot Thank you 💝

    • @bluewave7120
      @bluewave7120 3 роки тому +2

      @@maleeq754 Thanks so much for your reply It makes me happy that you have a new cat family in your life ❤

  • @artolo8675
    @artolo8675 3 роки тому +3

    About 9 months ago I lost my cat of 12 years to cancer. He was such a special and awesome cat. People came and went, through girlfriends and new jobs, he was the one constant in my life, he was my rock. He left such a big hole after he left. You never forget, but the pain gets easier over time. It has been 9 months, and I am now considering adopting another cat. It is true that I will feel this pain again someday, but I have the chance to give another pet that needs a home a great life. I’m sure my next pet will also be amazing, probably in a different way, but I can’t close my heart for fear of hurting again.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +2

      I'm so sorry for your loss my friend, sending so much love to you my friend

  • @aaronchoi2930
    @aaronchoi2930 3 роки тому +11

    “God gives the toughest battles to his strongest warriors” stay strong my friend, wishing you for the best. RIP bubba🙏

  • @MashiroZ29
    @MashiroZ29 3 роки тому +2

    I knew watching this would make it rain. I'm sorry for your loss. It just shows the huge amount of love you have for Bubba, your mom, and family. May God bless your bright future with happiness, lots of smiles and laughs.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +1

      thank you Jonathan I appreciate you my dear friend

    • @MashiroZ29
      @MashiroZ29 3 роки тому

      @@ice1cube Your welcome brother. I just hope you don't ever give into despair. Always remember there is the good and the bad. But when there is the bad there will always be the good that come into your life. Look forward to the good my friend. Its hard I know because losing family is never easy regardless if it is animal or not. All I can say is never give up! Cherish all the good! It's your bottled up love and that love for your family is definitely going somewhere!

  • @FixitFox
    @FixitFox 3 роки тому +3

    Grief will only be temporary. But the love and the memories will be lifelong

  • @harryl1395
    @harryl1395 3 роки тому +3

    Sorry for your loss Frank. Your videos are truly an inspiration, I can't tell you how many times they've helped me get back up. You and your parents are in my prayers!

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +3

      thank you Harry!!

  • @happythegamingdog
    @happythegamingdog 3 роки тому +3

    brother you became my idol now
    everything you do is just so amazing, motivating and touching people
    the positive energy and positive vibe you bring out is insane
    much appreciate for sharing your life with us

  • @sady1cute540
    @sady1cute540 3 роки тому +11

    I honestly think you’re amazing for: documenting everything so honestly, caring for your mum unconditionally and I love the way you advocate for carers and educate all about dementia and all that’s involved in elderly care both practical and emotional. My mum has dementia and recently fought cancer and your caring experience is one I can empathise with. Keep doing what your doing. X

  • @benw9949
    @benw9949 3 роки тому +6

    Thanks to Debbie for her comment to you. I needed that too. -- In the months before my grandmother passed away, I was already mourning, I think, and so when she was gone, it was so very strange to still grieve and yet to have already grieved. It is good you have people there for you. What you and your family are going through is very hard. I hope you will have a better life in time, and I hope somehow you'll have the people and pets and things you need.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +2

      thank you so much ben, I appreciate your kind words and support my friend

  • @ramilmontesena2674
    @ramilmontesena2674 3 роки тому +2

    It always leaves an empty space in our hearts....

  • @rangelchronicles296
    @rangelchronicles296 3 роки тому +2

    Brother Frank 🥺 I’m sharing your grief and sorrow. I thank God for your life and your ministry.
    Revelation 21:4 He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore 🙏🏼

  • @JulieSmith-bh3sh
    @JulieSmith-bh3sh 3 роки тому +9

    I understand your feelings. I’ve had many kitty’s in my life. Each & everyone of them special in their own way. Every time we’ve had to put them down when they were suffering. It would kill me to see them suffer. So I always made the decision to have them put down. They were a big part of my family. I found that when I got a new kitten. I wasn’t replacing the cat that was put down. I could never replace the kitty I lost ever!! I was adding another chapter in my life. Maybe a kitten would help you now. It’s just a suggestion I found it’s help me. I don’t dwell on the loss of my kitty I’m busy experiencing the new life in my family. Maybe I’m crazy but I do understand. I talk about a kitty from long ago I still cry. I thank God he brought them into my life but I still miss them all. I’m sitting crying my eyes out now. I’m so sorry for your loss. Just know Bubba would want you to keep going. I took care of my mom for 20 years. She loved all our babies ( cats) as she called them . She loved them & they loved her. When my mom passed away my kitty’s helped me to get through it. When I needed love they were right there for me. They were grieving also but they never let me down.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +1

      thank you julie I appreciate your kindness and support my friend

    • @JulieSmith-bh3sh
      @JulieSmith-bh3sh 3 роки тому +2

      @@ice1cube your so welcome. I do understand. . Hang in there.

  • @krisgill3877
    @krisgill3877 3 роки тому +2

    The trade off for all the love is the pain we feel when losing them.It is the same with our parents.I died inside in 2016 when my mom passed away just a week after a terminal breast cancer diagnosis due to her doctors negligence.Tbh I’ve kinda hated life ever since.

  • @DaisyVonKruger
    @DaisyVonKruger 3 роки тому +1

    Love is a gamble worth playing… you loved and were loved… sending strength and light…. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼✨✨❤️❤️

  • @goldendragon4891
    @goldendragon4891 3 роки тому +22

    I have been reflecting on this and in my opinion: Pain is a part of the process. It's something that comes with life. And honestly we wouldn't know comfort without discomfort.
    As for everything else, the whole experience of owning a pet is just a giant cocktail of happiness and grief. You can't get one and lack the other.
    And I think the best way to overcome the hard times is just take a minute and close your eyes. Think about how fortunate you are! Out of seven billion humans, you had the pleasure of having such a wonderful buddy.

  • @amesale-workb9877
    @amesale-workb9877 3 роки тому +2

    What a story it made me cry. Life has got its up and downs be strong for both of you.

  • @1971haris
    @1971haris 3 роки тому +1

    I’m sorry precious, this is life and the emotions and experiences thrown our way. As you have said I’d rather experience love than to not have loved.

  • @heidehho6191
    @heidehho6191 3 роки тому +11

    I can't imagine what you're going through.
    I couldn't get a pet for over 10 years after my childhood dog crossed the rainbow.
    Just recently I have adopted pair bonded orphan kittens. I know that dad day will come (hopefully not anytime soon). But you know what? these babies need me and I need them. We entered each other's lives for a reason. So I'm going to enjoy/learn every stage in the present.

  • @doris_arcadelady
    @doris_arcadelady 3 роки тому +1

    This brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can tell how much you loved Bubba. When I was in grade 2, my dentist gave me and my brother some baby koi and one of them lived till I was in grade 8. Throughout those years, the koi has been with us through things such as moving houses, changing schools, and so much more. We then got 2 other goldfish as well when I was in grade 4 and one of them lived till I was in grade 12 and the other one lived till my final year of university. I still remember the one morning in winter when my brother came upstairs to tell me that he found that our koi had passed away. I couldn't and didn't want to believe what I had just heard but when I went downstairs, I realized that our beloved koi has passed and there was nothing I could do to bring her back. I remember we both told our parents that after these 3 fish, we were not going to get anymore pets because it hurts too much when they're gone. Then those days came when the 2 goldfish also left us and each and every time it was very hard. I know that you couldn't do stuff like cuddle with fish like how you could with other animals but the pain was real when they passed. After all, I had loved them like a family member and still do till this day even though they are gone. They will always be in my heart.
    Some years later, despite the fact that both my brother and I had said that we weren't going to get anymore pets after the koi and the 2 goldfish, my brother ended up having 3 cats with his girlfriend (now wife) and I ended up having more fish with my boyfriend. I love the fish and I try my best to give them the best life I could give them so even when they eventually pass, they were at least happy and fulfilled while they were still alive.
    There's a Mandarin song by a famous singer Jacky Cheung called "一路上有你" (Yi Lu Shang You Ni). Even though it's supposed to be a song about lovers, I find that the lyrics can be applicable to other situations such as these as well. The UA-cam video is here if you want to check it out:
    m.ua-cam.com/video/IgvK6sqGFtI/v-deo.html

  • @nesadcruz7840
    @nesadcruz7840 3 роки тому +2

    You will feel the Joy again as you remember him , when you heal.

  • @dondada223
    @dondada223 3 роки тому +3

    Sorry for your loss Frank, I know that it is not easy at all. Thank you for your videos even amongst all the busyness in your life, God bless you

  • @ericwelch4822
    @ericwelch4822 3 роки тому +3

    I don't know what say except I have felt those feelings. I always appreciate how honest you are with your feelings. I love the way you craft these vlog/video essays. The words you use always carry some weight to them. I have nothing but the deepest wishes of happiness for you and your family.

  • @gloriahenry6137
    @gloriahenry6137 3 роки тому +13

    If I was a kid back then in you’re school , I would have made you my friend And been a loyal friend to u , and encourage u 😇

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +2

      thank you Gloria !

    • @dimar7641
      @dimar7641 3 роки тому +1

      I would have done the same.

  • @thegreenworm8257
    @thegreenworm8257 3 роки тому +10

    It is always hard to deal with a lost one.
    I myself haven’t experienced losing a lost one but I know many friends who have. And it hurts me seeing them so sad.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +1

      thank you for understanding my friend

  • @reallyfaithful
    @reallyfaithful 3 роки тому +4

    Hi Frank. Our beloved family cat died in November last year at 17 years and I totally understand what you are going through. Everyone in the family loved him so much because he just gave us so much love. Everyone was crying everyday aching from the heartbreak of missing him. My husband was undergoing cancer treatment and the despair of losing our beloved family member was taking its toll on everyone. Instead of looking inward and feeling pain, look at someone else who looks to you as his hope. We went to the Spca and adopted another cat that had been abused, abandoned and unloved looking for a furever home. It was not to replace Gandy but to help some homeless cat that needed so much to be loved, so much to have a home. So instead of focussing on our own pain, I asked everyone to feel empathy for our new cat Bruno. It was not to replace Gandy-for he could never be replaced- but to care for a homeless baby just longing to be loved and cared for. That made our days better cos we focussed on his pain and how to make him feel better rather than on our own pain. And in so doing, we help one another heal. God holds you fast in His embrace Frank and wipes away every tear. You are His beloved always.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +3

      thank you so much my friend, I'm so sorry for your loss and for the difficult time but thank you for using it to encourage me in this time as well. I will take your words to heart my friend!!! much love to you and your family and dear Bruno

    • @reallyfaithful
      @reallyfaithful 3 роки тому

      fb.watch/691R0AX4B_/

  • @lilchopstixz2161
    @lilchopstixz2161 3 роки тому +15

    I feel for ya man. Don’t give up, theirs always light at the end of the tunnel

  • @lilacbirman
    @lilacbirman 3 роки тому +7

    I'm sorry for your loss. I remember having to put down my 16 year old cat. I didn't cry until I got into the car with the empty carrier. So painful but yes, it's part of the process and so worth it as he brought me so much joy. My dad also had dementia, very difficult indeed.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому

      sending you so much love my friend thank you for sharing your experiences with me

  • @chanel2018-k3z
    @chanel2018-k3z 3 роки тому +3

    With tears, I agree. 😢

  • @kalygurl916
    @kalygurl916 3 роки тому +2

    Time is so precious. Continue to value it.
    You’re so lucky to know this love…
    Thank you for sharing.

  • @b4db0y
    @b4db0y 3 роки тому +3

    Man, this one hits home... My cat of 20 years have just passed away recently and it was one of the hardest things to overcome. Thanks for making this video - thank you for allowing me to see from another perspective. The pain was deep because the love and bond was equally as deep. I would never trade any of the good moments just so I don't feel the pain... Stay strong bro!

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +2

      I'm sorry for your loss my friend!! much love to you

  • @feedog9326
    @feedog9326 3 роки тому +2

    You do not know what you have until you loose it. This life itself. You must live it, to love it. You just do not know when it is time to pass on. Just enjoy life each day.

  • @carty43
    @carty43 3 роки тому +2

    I had a calico for 20 years. She passed away while I was hospitalized, seriously ill. My room was so empty when I came home, but I was so totally grateful that my sister sat with her as she passed.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +1

      I'm so sorry for your loss my friend!! sending you so much love

  • @spark_6710
    @spark_6710 3 роки тому +1

    I have the same urn...wooden boxes & paw print clays of them !!! I've lost both about 4 years ago ,but I still sleep with their ashes in my bed !!! 💜🥁🐉🎤💕💞

  • @lauriemclaren8268
    @lauriemclaren8268 3 роки тому +3

    Yeah, last year was rough and it’s good to know that I wasn’t alone in going through this sort of thing. In short, my 8-year old cat suddenly died of HCM, a month later my Dad had to go to a nursing home because his dementia and Parkinson’s had gotten too severe for my Mom to be able to be his caretaker. Two weeks after that, he died. A week after that my Mom had a stroke. Dad was ready to go and his death was more like a merciful release from his body and mind that had become more of a broken down prison. Mom recovered almost entirely from her stroke. But what hit me the worst was losing my cat. The morning of the day he died he had been playing and eating and then he just died. He was a happy, loving and chatty kitty. I’ve lost three now and it beyond hurts each time but it does get easier. You never quit missing them but the pain becomes less and less acute and having another cat becomes possible and life does go on.. Keep your friends close.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +2

      sending you so much love laurie!! thank you my friend, I appreciate you

  • @sidb9540
    @sidb9540 3 роки тому +4

    emotional pain is actually felt.. It is physical and it leads to many , many , many complications... I am in the exact same boat as you are.. and I try to cope with it every day, hoping father time will help me heal!

  • @selah7067
    @selah7067 3 роки тому +1

    Omgness! What an awesome,beautiful video. It's good to have loved. If you were never born, you would not have so much to share with a hurting world.

  • @teresachinoitshu8408
    @teresachinoitshu8408 3 роки тому +1

    Oh no! It's better to have loved and lost than never loved before

  • @vanshikabharti2543
    @vanshikabharti2543 3 роки тому +4

    So true I used to fear accepting happiness n receiving love because of fear and pain of loss ....... Now I have with time started to learn to appreciate the now, esp the small moments I know might I not have in future, and to feel gratitude for what was and therefore move ahead while carrying that experience with me.

  • @meditationserenitynzen7621
    @meditationserenitynzen7621 3 роки тому +13

    sorry for the loss, May Bubba rest in peace.

  • @frostednuggets5083
    @frostednuggets5083 3 роки тому +7

    Imagining what it would be like to not be apart of these daily relationships can be so sad. It's sad that we take for granted the relationships we have and only really reflect on them when they are gone, thinking about all of the "what if's." But Sometimes that is entirely necessary for us to grow, and to make sure we appreciate what we have in the here and now. To make sure to never miss a chance to let the people around us know how much we cherish and love them. Prayers to you and your family Frank.

  • @Delineated69
    @Delineated69 3 роки тому +4

    The extreme pain you're feeling now is proof of how deep your love went for Bubba.

  • @awu814
    @awu814 3 роки тому +3

    Rest In Peace 🙏, Bubba 🥺

  • @4ksandknives
    @4ksandknives 3 роки тому

    Better to have loved and lost than to never loved at all. Love, joy and sadness is a part of life. They're all parts of what gives life beauty.

  • @19Ter67
    @19Ter67 3 роки тому +1

    Losing a pet is always hard. But you shouldn’t let that stop you from getting another to love. By taking Bubba, you gave him a wonderful life VS what sort of life he could have had. My heart has been broken 4x now. And I still have 13 more animals. I do all I can for them knowing that when their time comes, I’ve provided them the best care anyone could have given. Prayers 🙏🏻 to you.

  • @UhGzmo
    @UhGzmo 3 роки тому +1

    I remember when our young family dog died at only 2 years old due to a neighbor's dog being off leash and being aggressive, I remember how painful it was to lose a dog especially such a young lively pet that was so important to our family. It was truly soul crushing, but it wasn't until my dog of 12 years died a year later that I realized something important about grief. With me grieving so long about our first young dog, it made the loss of our eldest pet easier to deal with considering the situation at the time. Our old dog was already sick and extremely old to the point where there was not much to do but love him and make sure he felt comfortable during his final moments. It wasn't until he passed that I felt not sadness, but peace because he was able to leave this earth knowing he was loved and surrounded by his family. Of course it was painful still, but there was a sort of solace knowing that we did everything we could. Grief is hard but the more you deal with it the more you begin to focus on the positives than the pain of losing something so important. I love your videos and you help me get through a lot of the pain in life, I wish you the best and hope you can deal with your grief. Thanks for all that you do.

  • @Valeria-du1qq
    @Valeria-du1qq 3 роки тому +2

    Take as long as you need to grieve ... feel the sadness .. when your ready to be okay again we’ll be here . much love and my condolences 💐

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +1

      thank you so much my friend!!!

  • @neloviolence
    @neloviolence 3 роки тому +1

    Just remember that Bubba needed you just as much as you needed him, I like to think that pets are so happy because they're so grateful that they've been adopted. Probably like winning the lottery for them.

  • @tarzanisno1
    @tarzanisno1 3 роки тому +2

    🧡.
    After watching your video about losing Bubba I wasn't sure I wanted to sit through another one. However, I'm happy I did. I know you're on the right track after hearing the sentiments in this one. It's difficult to have been blessed with love only to lose it. But the loss is temporary. You'll have it all returned to you in your next life plane. Keep moving forward Frank. As a former fitness instructor, let me compliment you on how well you physically look. The same focus and determination are what you've achieved in this endeavor is the same focus and determination that will take you through all your other current and future challenges. Peace to and yours. And be ready when that next little soul walks into your life. It will happen.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому

      thank you so much David I appreciate you and your kindness!!!

  • @cathykeim1088
    @cathykeim1088 3 роки тому +2

    Alfred Lord Tennyson wrote " Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

  • @pamelasmith8330
    @pamelasmith8330 3 роки тому +1

    Give yourself some time to grieve and then go to a rescue or shelter and adopt another cat. OR TWO!! You may never have another Bubba, but you may have one just as wonderful in different ways. And you WILL love that cat as much as you loved Bubba. Trust me, I've been there multiple times!! The unconditional love that I receive from my cats is amazing and incredibly healing!!! Not to mention there are so many that need loving homes and I'm sure Bubba would love that!! 😻
    God bless you for the love you have for your mom and caring for her and Bubba. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
    BTW, I don't recall you mentioning if you took Bubba to the vet once he became ill. I'm curious what he was sick from.

  • @PhuPhillipTrinh
    @PhuPhillipTrinh 3 роки тому +2

    damn bro you inspire me to continue to seek love despite it can hurt a whole hell a lot, blessings!

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +1

      thank you my friend!!

  • @LaZerMouse
    @LaZerMouse 3 роки тому +3

    The Lord brings joy and peace even through his creations of cats. Thank you and the machine gun made me happy and laugh💪🏾

  • @humancattoy7767
    @humancattoy7767 3 роки тому

    Pain and suffering are reminders of how alive we are. Allow yourself to feel. I had to learn that too.

  • @vinsderiz
    @vinsderiz 3 роки тому +2

    Once again, thank you for making the effort to sort all this out in your head and making the effort of making this video. "Grief is love with nowhere to go", and thank you for putting this phrase in front of us.

  • @KrispyKrunchee
    @KrispyKrunchee 3 роки тому

    It’s accepting the pain that makes it go away..
    I am praying for you, Mum and the family.
    It gets better.
    God is here.
    ♥️

  • @butter-fly16
    @butter-fly16 3 роки тому +2

    Sending you love and healing 🧡 I know the concept of death is the most challenge one to understand. You are doing your best🧡

  • @davidnl1579
    @davidnl1579 3 роки тому

    That was deep and what I needed to hear. Thankyou

  • @manumaus35
    @manumaus35 3 роки тому +2

    I can feel you so much...I must let go my Baby in January and to this day I am broken and crying again and again... Life will never be the same again without her!I send you love and only the best,even for your mom

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +2

      thank you so much my friend! I'm so sorry for your loss, sending you so much love

  • @MilitarymomNC
    @MilitarymomNC 3 роки тому

    I needed this. I still sob every night from the loss of our little fur baby, and am still trying to grasp that the love was worth the pain. Thank you for encouraging others through your pain.
    Grief is something the the world expects us to keep private and recover from quickly. Thank you for breaking the mold.

  • @keithstephan5711
    @keithstephan5711 3 роки тому +1

    All throughout middle school and early high school I struggled with similar thoughts of fear of being close with others, like the person scared of owning a pet was. I was scared to get too close to the people around me, because I knew that the relationship I would have with them would only be temporary. I knew my family was planning on moving after I graduated high school, so I was too scared to make close friends. For the longest time this lingered in my mind. Every moment I was alone I contemplated that this chapter of my life would eventually end, and I wouldn't stay in contact with my current friends. It caused me to become even more introverted and I would sometimes decide not to hang out with friends due to this mindset. It wasn't until the pandemic happened that I realized how much more agonizingly painful it is to try to go through life alone. But it was around that time that I found one of my favorite shows Rascal does not dream of bunny girl (it sounds ridiculous, I know). In the show the main character's sister loses her memories and is essentially a different person, and he becomes extremely depressed as a result. In a touching scene one character says this "You don't have to hold back your tears, Kaede gave you many happy memories, but that sadness was another precious thing she gave you too. It proves just how big her existence was"

  • @matthewyok7107
    @matthewyok7107 3 роки тому

    So true. For myself, these feelings of grief comes in waves and it's easy to forget that my cat isn't around anymore. Thank you for sharing your feelings this video.

  • @PattyandWillie
    @PattyandWillie 3 роки тому +1

    I found your channel purely by chance. Soooo very sorry for the loss of Bubba. He looked like such a sweetheart. I love cats so I understand where you are coming from. Rest in Peace little angel! 🌈🐈🐾🐾♥️🌻

  • @RealRezzo
    @RealRezzo 3 роки тому +3

    deep condolences my friend. just know that bubba and minnie are now together watching over their best friend. they will always be in your heart.

  • @TheInnerParty
    @TheInnerParty 3 роки тому +2

    I understand. I commented on your other video already, and so I won’t say the same thing here. But my cat Gauss of 20+ years died six months ago tomorrow. He looked and acted a bit like yours.
    What I find strange is the pain doesn’t subside. I’ve just learn to deal with it better and better.
    Indeed, your other video from three weeks ago hit me right in the heart and I just broke down and cried like a baby for quite some time. I simply miss him and want him back.
    It is so strange. I didn’t lose any relationships over the pandemic, the election, politics, etc.… But I did lose a couple over my cat’s death. A couple friends (actually acquaintances) said I didn’t have the right to be this upset over the passing of a mere animal, which enraged me so much it surprised me. Gauss teaches me things even in death. 😻

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +2

      I'm so sorry for your dear gauss!!! I think people who say that kind of thing (I've also seen it in some comments here) have never experienced the love and bond from this type of relationship. their loss. sending you so much love my friend!!!

  • @jamescaldwell7393
    @jamescaldwell7393 3 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing your losses, it touched me after losing my baby girl(Dog) the hurt will never go away, but it makes your love STRONGER! Thanks ...Jim in Washington

  • @gluna1977
    @gluna1977 3 роки тому +2

    I know how you feel, I felt the same way when I lost my cat Gabriel Leia or as I used to call her my gaby baby. Gaby baby is buried in the flower bed outside my house

  • @basithph8958
    @basithph8958 3 роки тому +3

    Dealing with grief is always hard and I know how that feels but the one way that helps me feel better is when I remember good times and good memories and I talk about it with family and friends
    I hope this helps!

  • @kyokomimi6933
    @kyokomimi6933 3 роки тому +1

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is the worst feeling. You are a very strong & kind person and I'm sending you my best wishes.

  • @kylieg.2332
    @kylieg.2332 3 роки тому +2

    😭 there’s no ending to grief… at least you have the good memories to look back on. Pets really do enrich our lives. If the love wasn’t strong, the grief wouldn’t be as strong either. Those two go hand in hand. Hang in there.

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +2

      thank you kylie!!

  • @alisadimashusafanclubdear
    @alisadimashusafanclubdear 3 роки тому

    Thank you, I appreciate your sincerity so much. Love has so much to teach, accepting the pain, feeling the joy....Love is what you take with you when it is all said and done, and for for that I am truly grateful because that is what is on the other side of grief. 💕

  • @ramilmontesena2674
    @ramilmontesena2674 3 роки тому +1

    Dont hesitate and dont have a doubt adopting a new pet....im sure baba will be happy knowing that you will be happy.

  • @generalnguyenngocloan1700
    @generalnguyenngocloan1700 3 роки тому

    The power and warmth of your love is so great. From this alone you have so many people, including me, who’d be proud to call you their friend, even though there were sad and lonely times long ago when you wanted friends so badly. Your mom, and you, are a living blessing and a life lesson.☦️

  • @AlSabado-at-alsabado-com
    @AlSabado-at-alsabado-com 3 роки тому +2

    Hi, Frank. I'm so sorry to hear about your fur baby's passing. Bubba will surely be missed in your family. I had a dog named Dexter and he stayed in our household for 14 years. I really cried and grieved when he died. My officemates laughed when they discovered why I cried. Sadly, some people don't recognize the immensity of losing a pet who's been a member of the family. God gives and takes away, but we're blessed, my friend . . .

    • @ice1cube
      @ice1cube  3 роки тому +1

      I'm so sorry for your loss my friend, you are absolutely right we are blessed to experience this deep bond and love. I appreciate you so much thank you!!

  • @unproductiveworkshop
    @unproductiveworkshop 3 роки тому

    I'm going to bookmark this video and use it whenever I or someone else have to undergo those painful moments in life. I pray for you, Bubba, and your family.
    Thank you for always offering your gift of storytelling and love for God to us.

  • @noskillpg3d627
    @noskillpg3d627 3 роки тому +1

    "Life is like a vapor, it vanisheth away in a heartbeat"

  • @awong160
    @awong160 3 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing your life with us Frank. You're an awesome dude!

  • @user-bz3vn3kx5y
    @user-bz3vn3kx5y 3 роки тому +1

    thank you for sharing this truly emotional message, someone needed to hear this! (:

  • @alexastorm97
    @alexastorm97 3 роки тому +1

    Your reflection on your life is our reflection on our lives.

  • @chryzoliz
    @chryzoliz 3 роки тому +1

    Hey Icecube, I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing your pet friend hurts a lot, they have a special place in our hearts.

  • @daviddyg4301
    @daviddyg4301 3 роки тому

    Thank you for making this video frank, life isnt fair to you right now, youre not only holding it down strong for your family this whole time, your making life learning videos, sharing real life knowledge to help others. Watching your videos, I will know that I wont be alone, and have a direction on what to do should I face similar situations all because you have gone through that path and is willing to show it and teach us lessons on them.

  • @cindydv1486
    @cindydv1486 3 роки тому

    Hi thanks for sharing this with us. You have 100 over thousand people that likes and care about you and your mom to a certain extend. And your sharing of this experience is also healing me in a way. Thank you

  • @digievolution
    @digievolution 3 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing. There is so much love and tenderness in all of your videos.

  • @veronicamars403
    @veronicamars403 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful message Frank. I remembered one time I was asking my psychiatrist if it was possible for her to provide me some medication to help me feel apathetic about everything so that I could stop having thoughts about depression and loneliness. And she told me that being apathetic would be no good because although it would ease me of sadness, it would also take away happiness.