What Tony stated about the role and ministry of a woman who is married and has children is 💯 biblical! It was the work of the adversary to tell society any different because his role is always to break up families.
A grown boy doesn't want a help mate. He wants a doormat. Narcissists won't apologize. They will just blame you. I had to leave. My life is completely altered. You have to know who you are, ladies. My ex narcissist told me he wanted me to fail but I'm rebuilding my life now.
“The grown boy is deliberately being disrespectful.” -Do not give him more than two chances. -Be willing to walk away for good. Pray for discernment, strength, wisdom, revelation, & joy. Believe that you deserve God’s best.🥰
Anybody else took sociology, psychology, etc in college and see how accurate Tony is when it comes to studying human behavior? He explained the situation about the bear and the boy so accurately! He explains human behavior so well.
I have degree in both and he has valid points howeve I disagree that a woman of loved properly would choose that over career, business etc. Plenty women have both and that’s winning to me. I wouldn’t only want the mate but now, yea focused on my businesses because that’s better than any relationship at this point.
I have my masters degree in psychology and I work in behavioral and mental health. I am not an expert but I agree with you the theory concerning the teddy bear and the child seems accurate. Tony explained it so well.
I thank the grown boy he taught me self love and I will never return to that foolishness. He's so corny to me now when I see him I see a child in a pamper 😂, God bless em.
I so respect your wife's choice to put 100% into being a wife and mom. I homeschool my son for similar reasons...could I be a professor again - yes...but I prefer to put 100% into my children cause this world is wicked and I have to build them up to strong, God fearing, emotionally intelligent, smart and self sufficient.
I watched my sister let go of her legal career to raise her children. They are now into teenage and the effect of her constant presence, bible devotions and prayer is amazing to watch in their attitude and outlook. If God blesses me with a husband and babies too, my doctorate won't really matter. I want to be there for my babies and be a present wife and mommy.
Just blocked a grown boy that I noticed purposely trying to come for my confidence and make me feel I wasn't enough for him. This was all after he found out I wasn't going to give him my body. Bye sir!!
The part about the grown boy training you to keep quiet about issues hit me like a ton of bricks. I just walked away from that. They will have you feeling bad about confronting and always manipulate the real issue. THANK YOU, Tony. It’s hard to believe that I first heard of you YEARS ago when I used to watch LHH and you were on an episode as K. Michelle’s life coach. You are doing the Lord’s work and I pray blessings over you and your family.
I can’t wait for this cause I already know this gone be good. As a 23 year old girl Tony gaskins the only person I want advice from because ik God is using him!
I agree! Tony Gaskins and Bishop R C Blakes is who voice and instructions are priceless information! Helping women protect themselves from broken immature men.
😅Thats the BEST analogy I have ever heard to explain "He's Not A Man" I married one at 18 and now I understand why he acted like that... because he didn't want me to go college.😲 Edit.. he just wanted me there exactly to be his damn Teddy Bear.😲
As women we would rather be home but men are so lost and the devil has such a hold on their minds that women can’t afford to take that risk for most men. These men have no honor. Their word is not their bond. I do believe in working and having your own as a woman. My work takes a backseat to my family but I feel safe knowing I have my own money. I know it’s childhood trauma and relationship trauma, but I’m not at a point where I could be 100% dependent on a man. My grandma who was a widow warned me as well to always work because sometimes life happens as well, it’s not just the man leaving you for another woman.
That's facts...I always have to generate my own money....everything comes at a cost and u don't know what that cost might be! I will not allow myself to be stuck nowhere!
I will never 100 percent depend on a man or anyone at that. We don’t live in the times we use to and people will fact an entire relationship for your or just wake up one day and tell u it’s over. As a woman we must protect ourselves from men at all cost. Men and not what they use to be so we have to play both roles in order not to be without anything. That’s just my opinion.
...that's living in fear and unhealed trauma. Seek God and he will provide no matter what: “Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?” Matthew 6:26
I always say the same thing that some men or as you say grown boy, does not want a woman, wants to be in control and actually he wants a maid/servant and not a wife/woman. He wants to boss and order her around and she can not talk, voice her opinion, does what he wants when he wants. Basically that woman becomes a doormat
Wow…..you broke this down perfectly. It’s sadly spot on. Speaking from experience, you really do have to cut it. It can get scary with “grown boys”. Like you said, “deliberately being disrespectful”. Too many chances given will actually cause resentment.
Teach your young girls at a very young age not to accept bad disrespectful behavior from boys or anyone...Teach them to speak up for themselves and leave these type of boy-men alone
The man I WISH my dad was like. Always putting me on game in regards to the mindset of a man. I’m 28 and wish I found this channel sooner . Would’ve avoided a lot of heartbreak and confusion . God bless u Tony ❤️
EXCELLENT ANOLOGY with the teddy bear and childish actions! And very true about a poker face. That's why it is so important to have the Holy Spirit for discernment. So true! I see this with so many guys out there and in other people's relationships. These grown boys are wicked. As always, great teaching and good perspective.
I think it’s wonderful that some women can do as your wife does. I’m a single mom of four , so there’s No staying home for me. My ex husband is no help, so it’s all on me. I work from home , so I can mold my schedule around my kids and myself. Once I have a husband again, I’ll reassess from there. But I love my business and I’m proud of what I’ve created. My kids are bigger, college and high school age, so it’s a little different for me.
Hi Tony. This message hits me so powerfully because I just found out that someone I married has continued cheating on me despite promising to end it. I’m really disappointed and now have to move on😢- I have no choice. This is a hard day for me.
Even the bible says if you must marry rather than burn with lust. It also says you will be happier single. Can I get a witness single people enjoying the flow?
I was on my nature walk this evening (taking care of my mental health) and I tuned in to this video. This message is so powerful. It ministered/spoke to me and this season I am walking through. It confirmed a very painful, difficult decision that I initiated back in July of this year to separate from my husband. He thought I would stay and endure but enough was enough. It feels like my heart was broken in a million pieces but the separation was necessary. It has taken me to be 48 years old to finally realize I am worthy of being loved as hard as I love. I am now in therapy because I am determined to break the cycle. I pray for him because I really love him and hope he will find freedom.
This is 💯 Coach Tony!!!! I dealt with this in my marriage and even before the marriage…I didn’t know🤦🏾♀️..wish I had wise counsel like this 20+ years ago; I would have dodged a bullet! Life goes on, I got my purse 🤣 and movin’ on!
Very true after recently becoming baptized and refusing to endure the same beliefs i had about love and marriage I had in the past. Some men are severely damaging women emotionally.
Your video was encouraging because I’ve been separated from a “ grown boy” for almost a year. I’m very adamant about not reaching out anymore after God revealed so much to me about…. Me.. He admitted to being shockingly surprised that I didn’t chase him down and bring him home 😂. My worth is too valuable. Thank you for your transparency 🧡.
you might want to do a chord cutting, or yoni cleanse to unbind the relationship. unbinding is good even when u stay with the person cause its a boundary in place. Do a spiritual bath
The last person I dated, after breaking up with him and then a few months later, to return the engagement ring..he said to me, " I thought I had you on a hook." Of course, I was disgusted when he said that, but when we broke up, I felt a huge weight lifted off me like dreadful, despair, anxious feelings. I believe God was sending me all kinds of warning signs through dreams, and I thought I was overreacting. He started changing 2 months into our engagement, and I was so happy he showed his colors quickly before it was too late. I prayed to God to remove or break any bonds or connections that I had with this person. I blocked and deleted him right after our breakup.
this is absolutely brilliant! It’s always appreciated when brother Tony drops gems. This was just confirmation that even though I was dealing with a grown boy, I saw what he was trying to do and I slammed the door in his face. Blocked deleted and moved on. this was over 3 weeks ago, and i was absolutely devastated at first, but these videos renewed my strength. Thank you TG!
Thank you sir! What a picturesque analogy of grown boys! These Narcissistic type characters are smooth operators, insecure have studied their targeted ‘supply’.
Yes in a perfect world women’s duty would be the family but in this world women had to be family in business too to keep this world turning round. There’s a lot of work that needs to be done and God needs all hands in apparently. Amen.
Perfectly said … even biblically women had a purpose outside of the family and children …. I understand what he’s saying but women need to have an identity …. Especially while waiting for their husband…. And what if a woman never gets married …. Times have modernized and women have to do something… additionally a lot of these men aren’t treating their wives right … it’s not cut and dry but in an ideal situation 99, I agree with what he’s saying about a women’s “purpose”. Everyone isn’t created the same.
@@mobanks1573Just to add to your point, women usually outlive men. Sometimes, men die even younger than expected. You don't want to be a widow without finances and without work skills to support yourself (and your children, if you have children). I have seen it happen 😔
@@tracienatural2405 @mobanks1573 I agree with you ladies and I’m glad we can acknowledge Gaskin’s good intentions together. Gaskin and others like him deserves our support and not just our complaints. I’m glad we spoke well of the topic together.
@@mobanks1573 A woman True Gifts have been hidden through Religion...The essence of a Woman is "Creativity" no matter if she's a wife/mother or not if she has a Womb she is Creation!
Tony I had to say this : God speaks through you because this message was so timely and helped me see my faults of dependency and misdirected attention to him along with his selfishness and emotional immaturity. Very powerful… this will help me in my healing journey starting today.
Yes he’s correct. And I would share that as a business owner and woman, plan for your “retirement” or partially step down once you have a family ❤you will want to focus on your family. God bless you Tony.
100% correct, if women were covered better, felt safe, felt protected we would be ok for this model, but most men (well I guess grown boys) are not ok with women staying home. Plus as a woman, when you don't feel safe, don't feel the trust at 100%, you would want to go out and make your own money because of the feeling of uncertainty.
Please don’t lose heart. It may be something you can do part time or do later; it all depends on God’s timing and when he wants you to walk in your purpose. But also know the role of wife and mother are also filling a purpose😊I walked in my purpose after raising my children and it was my season. For everything there is a season…
This is the truth! I would go as far to say, if you’re a married man with kids that are elementary school age and younger, and your wife is more focused on her career, it shows she…. A) might not fully trust her husband not to do her wrong, like cheat on her, or hold it over her that he’s the breadwinner and has the final say on everything B) does not like her husband, maybe his parenting style, and is planning her escape route away from him, via increased income from her own career focus If she’s happily married to a good man, with 100% trust, unless going through extreme financial hardship, because the husband isn’t a high earner or is disabled, then most woman would choose to stay at home for season to raise kids. It truly is best for the kids, if you can afford to do so.
I have not experienced real pure true love !! I am so thankful that I truly enjoy what I do for a living 🙏🏾 if I truly could have true healthy love with a caring environment I sure would appreciate and be greatful ❤ I will NOT lower my standards to be with a grown boy . I bought 2 copies of MAKE IT WORK to give to my 2 married daughters and their husbands for Christmas 🎄🎁 I'm reading it before I give it 😊
I notice how people who say or look at crazy because I say I won’t accept something from a man, even if I have child I’m not accepting this. They tell me oh well you don’t know because you don’t have a child. I know my mind and what I believe in. I can’t say I believe in God and then stay in that. I also know they look at me different because I don’t have kids or a significant other. I don’t like BS so I’m good where I’m at but I do check the sneak disses. Some woman think they are better because they have this and that but then you see what they are accepting and it’s a no for me.
Fortunately and unfortunately, for some, experience is the best teacher. If I had not experienced what you’re speaking on for myself and realize it to be true, this might be a hard concept to understand. But my goodness, this is true!
No matter how many times I’ve heard this through out your teachings coach - I learn something new. Shows every time you hear something you will hear /learn something different based on where you at in your life.
17:25 - 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 spot on assessment !!!! Looking for a dog, a teddy bear to cuddle and to tear apart !!!! Accountability brings stability , but he hates with passion being called to be accountable!! 💔
Unfortunately, nearly all the men around me near my age in my state and city tend to have serious issues such as major drug addiction and alcoholism and sex addiction. I have yet to meet one guy at my age who doesn't watch corn and who doesn't have one or multiple women sleeping with him and multiple children by multiple women. I never got to meet that loving man in my entire life, so my only option is to be a career woman, because I don't want to end up marrying a drug dealer or drug addict with multiple women. I can't afford to be single without working, so I can only spend the rest of my life being a career woman without dating. I have been celibate and never dated throughout my teens, 20s and 30s, and I will probably be like that for the rest of my life. The only other men around me are way too young or way too old (all of those guys are 60 and older). I don't want to date a younger man, and I don't want to marry a grandpa who would force me to stop working and make me become his nurse and abuse punching bag.
Going thru this now with a guy I’ve given a couple chances too. We’ve been working on thing and it’s been great. Few weeks ago I had to fly home to Oregon to restock one of my clothing displays . Come Friday morning he start a random argument about me posting on Instagram before I say goodmorning to him. Lol I already peeped his game. He wants to start a argument with me because he probably made plans with another woman and wants to feel better about it maybe. He’s watching my cat and car while I’m away and has also made that really stressful for me. I can’t wait to get back home . He will probably try to act like nothing happened but I’m so over this bull
Yep that's what it is he has to make u to be the bad guy to feel better about what he did or is getting ready to do...the ish is disgusting 🤮 Im looking forward to being alone and in peace real soon 🙌🏽 😂🤸🏾♀️
This is so on time. I recently shared something similar with my audience. Women can and are able to hustle and go hard, but the majority of women are at their best when they are loved well, nurturong the family and themselves, and if running a business, have the capacity for nothing to go lacking... In that orrder. Women get the bag alllll the time, but I'm constantly encountering women who are tired and exhausted in their business. There is a way to run a time rich business that allows great money and time freedom, but if hustling has to be done for the long haul, many women prefer more grace and ease in their life.
This is so good Tony. You are describing exactly what happened to me when I was in my marriage. If anyone asks me why did I divorce? I would REPLY, ' I foolishly married a grown boy and not a Man.' 🙏✝️
Tony - this is so amazing. I realize that lack of fulfilment in love makes one need to invest in work, to give your attention and strength to something at least.
Your absolutely right. I had a relationship with a man that made me feel like a women, made me feel he would protect me, made me feel that I was the best partner he had ever had..an then he took to the streets…he left an we remained “friends” no sex but conversations. Then he said one day “ you always let me lead..you took my advise..now you don’t..why? my response was you don’t do any of the things that made me easy..things that made it easy for me to follow..he chose to be a dictator an a boss..an wanted me just to follow no matter what he did or said. Nope!
I’m crying out to my Husband to stop working 14hr days, I’m drinking too much. His main love language is “gift giving”and mine is “acts of service”. I serve and he gives gifts. Neither of us is being fulfilled. 😢
Eclessiates 9:9 is one of the verses I just read 5 days ago. But it’s only one of many that talks about a wife, but the main one that stands out to me to know who I truly am when that day happens for me.
I really be amazed how much I listen to you and agree, you are really spirit led, not society influenced but really God led. I appreciate these videos.
Sure true Tony, you are correct. Those of us who express our dislikes are labeled man-woman here in Africa. The scripture woman be submissive to your husband is use daily to subdue or suppress us.
Hi Tony , I was just told this week .. O we NEEd A Break! It came left field. Because I'm trying to communicate about the issues I have with him, I see he's deflecting, saying I'm arguing, just chill ✋️. I'm like WHAT IS THIS IM GOING THROUGH, BECAUSE Tony I'm not arguing nor yelling. However, I like to communicate. I see he's trying to silence me. Tony you always come at the right time. Plz help us more in what to do when we hit with this..
I dated 2 grown boys that did NOT value me and gave me empty promises. I don't give second chances no more! Adults know what they doing. They treat you bad on purpose!!! They see you as an easy target or prey to use and abuse. I advice leave without telling them. They don't deserve your last words.
Wow this is amazing and spoke to me directly! I did exactly what you discussed. Set my standards, hold him accountable and if he cannot adjust leave. It will save you so much heart ache, and he will actually tak your words more serious. Is women want to be loved, but not at the expense of disrespect. Know your worth, love yourself,
End it. Don’t ever feel like because your ready or because you have put years in your can’t end it. My close friend was engaged and simply never dropped the save the date. No explanation was neeeded. I went to her IG and saw they no longer follow eachother . She said it wasn’t right and wasn’t going to work. I UNDERSTAND. Your husband could be as close as 1-2 months away from meeting. Remember it won’t get better in marriage now y’all will be locked in. No kids, GREAT. Kids? Who cares GET OUT BABY and ENSURE he is a father. Keep the rings and cash it in I’m so serious!
5:32 onward - my situation.... training me to shut up and be happy with whatever I get. It's so on spot, have you been watching us, Tony? just in this case he's not threatening to leave me but to throw me out. I have been threaten constantly to say nothing or if I say, then say it in a very peculiar manner that he likes, if I don't do it, using the words and manners he prefers,, then he blames me for disrespecting his triggers. This grown boy description is so precise .. I have tried to keep him accountable and also call out stuff but it only backfires me .. Understanding finally , that he is not capable of loving me and probably never has and be willing to walk out from where I'm being disrespected and hurt...
Tony you are the real deal! Keep speaking truth and going with God! I love the family you have created with your wife! You are such a powerful inspiration to the world!
PLEASE keep Assuring your Beautiful Wife Mr. Gaskins that she is operating in her Natural GOD Given calling as a Wife & A Mother and there is absolutely nothing wrong with her!!!!! Mrs.Gaskins position is SOLIDIFIED and one of Extreme Importance!!!! she is the CEO of the home and motherhood. There is a reason Black Communities have fallen apart all over the world, the family structure is broken in the homes and there is No Order in our Communities!!!! You are Absolutely on Point with everything that you have stated GOD created the Woman for Man therefore it is her Natural Inclination to desire a husband and marriage. Mrs.Gaskins is Highly Blessed among Women>>> Keep Doing What U Doing Tony you and Sistah Sharee are providing A BluePrint of what A Wholesome, Healthy Marriage and Family should look like!!! BLESSINGS & ABUNDANCE to you and yours❤❤❤
I owned a brick-and-mortar business for a little over a decade. I promise you I considered closing up shop when I had my daughter. When I got passed that, I hired a team of 12 staff for a little over a decade. I had to release myself of some of the responsibility in the business or close the door. I closed after a decade and expanded to Coaching and Consulting, FROM THE COMFORFT OF MY HOME. I simply was no longer fulfilled in the other roles.
This is great to know! I think you can definitely tend to your husband, children, and home while working on your business from home. It’s all about structuring in a way that works.
I really hope this reaches Tony. I’ve been trying to grow my IG and I happen to post a recent reel featuring megan Ashley and Tony Gaskins .I’ll call this the Tony Gaskins effect because I am getting loaded with likes and followers after that one inspirational reel ! Thank you for spreading the truth 🙏🏾🙌🏾😭
When I was dealing with this God was showing me a dream of two Teddy bears during first triangulation phase (the dream was detailed can’t tell all).I knew what God was conveying but I had to process for a long time-it but this video confirmed it 100%.Our God is a good good good God! Thank you Lord Jesus!!!
You’re a secure man TG. Some men are not trustworthy to be a protector and provider and will treat you like a second class citizen if he’s the breadwinner and start to behave as though you are less important. The trust has to be extreme for a women to feel safe enough to be only a wife and a mother.
Honestly I don't want a man unless I got one. But when I get a man he becomes worrisome and messy and then I don't want him. I don't want him but I know Im going to have to go through the Detachment stage and that's the worse part. When I get pass that Im good even better. So to keep from going through the unnecessary drama I prefer not to be with a man. Its work. Id rather work make money and take care of myself. Its worth it. Having a man is not a must for me. A woman would live longer single. 1st Corinthians chapter 7 verse 38.
Exactly!! Being with a man is draining and more sacrifice and stress than they are worth! I'd rather be single and go get a dog maybe even guinea pig lol
I’m so glad I’ve been watching you for a while, and now I can see certain traits in men now and watching this season of 90 day fiancé one of the guys is making it hard to watch because he is a “GROWN BOY” and it’s very bothersome to watch him talk to his girlfriend and try to knock her down to his level, so she will appreciate being with him!
Tony I have had issues with men as far back as I can remember because I don’t have the tolerance to have to raise , teach and correct a grown adult man who might be set in his ways and may resent me for even trying to set boundaries. It is too much work and may not even be worth the energy .
What Tony stated about the role and ministry of a woman who is married and has children is 💯 biblical! It was the work of the adversary to tell society any different because his role is always to break up families.
When you lose a grown boy you lose nothing. As a matter of fact you gain.
I needed this I was dumped like trash 🗑️ when he took all I had and I gave it freely and still lost the man
but I miss him 😭💔😪
YESS! I gained hella peace and loving it. Through my healing I've also learned my shortcomings and why I allowed such deplorable treatment
I needed this 🎯🎯🎯💯💯💯
A grown boy doesn't want a help mate. He wants a doormat. Narcissists won't apologize. They will just blame you. I had to leave. My life is completely altered. You have to know who you are, ladies. My ex narcissist told me he wanted me to fail but I'm rebuilding my life now.
Glad you got out! Healing from this crap is hard, but doable.
“The grown boy is deliberately being disrespectful.”
-Do not give him more than two chances.
-Be willing to walk away for good.
Pray for discernment, strength, wisdom, revelation, & joy. Believe that you deserve God’s best.🥰
I do not give a man a second chance. When I'm done I'm done.
Thanks for sharing.
Anybody else took sociology, psychology, etc in college and see how accurate Tony is when it comes to studying human behavior? He explained the situation about the bear and the boy so accurately! He explains human behavior so well.
God bless him preserve his wisdom! It's a godly gift and in glad he's using it to benefit humanity
With that said some university needs to Award bro Tony his Doctorate
I have degree in both and he has valid points howeve I disagree that a woman of loved properly would choose that over career, business etc.
Plenty women have both and that’s winning to me. I wouldn’t only want the mate but now, yea focused on my businesses because that’s better than any relationship at this point.
I have my masters degree in psychology and I work in behavioral and mental health. I am not an expert but I agree with you the theory concerning the teddy bear and the child seems accurate. Tony explained it so well.
Undergrad:Sociology & master's: Social Work 🎯
I learned to make him stand on his word, can’t be afraid to be alone (I choose peace over chaos)
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Exactly! 🎉
I thank the grown boy he taught me self love and I will never return to that foolishness. He's so corny to me now when I see him I see a child in a pamper 😂, God bless em.
I so respect your wife's choice to put 100% into being a wife and mom. I homeschool my son for similar reasons...could I be a professor again - yes...but I prefer to put 100% into my children cause this world is wicked and I have to build them up to strong, God fearing, emotionally intelligent, smart and self sufficient.
I watched my sister let go of her legal career to raise her children. They are now into teenage and the effect of her constant presence, bible devotions and prayer is amazing to watch in their attitude and outlook. If God blesses me with a husband and babies too, my doctorate won't really matter. I want to be there for my babies and be a present wife and mommy.
@@Gwaycee ❤️ thanks for sharing this.
I knew I was dealing with a grown boy when I brought up a issue and he said leave me alone. I was speechless 😮
Wow.
Wow 😯
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Yes indeed.
Queens should never settle. Know who you are.
Just blocked a grown boy that I noticed purposely trying to come for my confidence and make me feel I wasn't enough for him. This was all after he found out I wasn't going to give him my body. Bye sir!!
The part about the grown boy training you to keep quiet about issues hit me like a ton of bricks. I just walked away from that. They will have you feeling bad about confronting and always manipulate the real issue. THANK YOU, Tony. It’s hard to believe that I first heard of you YEARS ago when I used to watch LHH and you were on an episode as K. Michelle’s life coach. You are doing the Lord’s work and I pray blessings over you and your family.
amen, sister!!!! I'm going through the same stuff with my bf... 💔
@@AmericanDreamerwhew. I hope you find the strength to do what’s best for you. 🙏🏾
I can’t wait for this cause I already know this gone be good. As a 23 year old girl Tony gaskins the only person I want advice from because ik God is using him!
As a 38 year old woman I can say he speaks the truth I wish I known him at 23 .😊
God bless you listening to Tony will save you many years of suffering
I agree! Tony Gaskins and Bishop R C Blakes is who voice and instructions are priceless information! Helping women protect themselves from broken immature men.
@marquita948 facts. I'm 55, and men my age are still acting up. Grown men babies
😅Thats the BEST analogy I have ever heard to explain "He's Not A Man"
I married one at 18 and now I understand why he acted like that... because he didn't want me to go college.😲
Edit.. he just wanted me there exactly to be his damn Teddy Bear.😲
As women we would rather be home but men are so lost and the devil has such a hold on their minds that women can’t afford to take that risk for most men. These men have no honor. Their word is not their bond. I do believe in working and having your own as a woman. My work takes a backseat to my family but I feel safe knowing I have my own money. I know it’s childhood trauma and relationship trauma, but I’m not at a point where I could be 100% dependent on a man. My grandma who was a widow warned me as well to always work because sometimes life happens as well, it’s not just the man leaving you for another woman.
That's facts...I always have to generate my own money....everything comes at a cost and u don't know what that cost might be! I will not allow myself to be stuck nowhere!
I will never 100 percent depend on a man or anyone at that. We don’t live in the times we use to and people will fact an entire relationship for your or just wake up one day and tell u it’s over. As a woman we must protect ourselves from men at all cost. Men and not what they use to be so we have to play both roles in order not to be without anything. That’s just my opinion.
Facts 😅 Can’t trust a human and their actions at all. Have to always have a backup plan so u will be safe out here in this cold expensive world
It's wisdom. Your soul is telling you something. It's not childhood trauma. ❤❤
...that's living in fear and unhealed trauma. Seek God and he will provide no matter what:
“Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?”
Matthew 6:26
The proverbs 31 woman was a business woman with children and a husband. It’s all about having balance. She knew how to be a feminine partner.
I always say the same thing that some men or as you say grown boy, does not want a woman, wants to be in control and actually he wants a maid/servant and not a wife/woman. He wants to boss and order her around and she can not talk, voice her opinion, does what he wants when he wants. Basically that woman becomes a doormat
Know your Worth at all times.
Wow…..you broke this down perfectly. It’s sadly spot on. Speaking from experience, you really do have to cut it. It can get scary with “grown boys”. Like you said, “deliberately being disrespectful”. Too many chances given will actually cause resentment.
You have to leave at the first sign of disrespect. No second chances to mistreat me
Teach your young girls at a very young age not to accept bad disrespectful behavior from boys or anyone...Teach them to speak up for themselves and leave these type of boy-men alone
Agreed!
The man I WISH my dad was like. Always putting me on game in regards to the mindset of a man. I’m 28 and wish I found this channel sooner . Would’ve avoided a lot of heartbreak and confusion . God bless u Tony ❤️
Same here. 💔
EXCELLENT ANOLOGY with the teddy bear and childish actions! And very true about a poker face. That's why it is so important to have the Holy Spirit for discernment. So true! I see this with so many guys out there and in other people's relationships. These grown boys are wicked. As always, great teaching and good perspective.
I think it’s wonderful that some women can do as your wife does. I’m a single mom of four , so there’s No staying home for me. My ex husband is no help, so it’s all on me. I work from home , so I can mold my schedule around my kids and myself. Once I have a husband again, I’ll reassess from there. But I love my business and I’m proud of what I’ve created. My kids are bigger, college and high school age, so it’s a little different for me.
Thank goodness Tony is a believer... more men need to listen and pay attention
Hi Tony. This message hits me so powerfully because I just found out that someone I married has continued cheating on me despite promising to end it. I’m really disappointed and now have to move on😢- I have no choice. This is a hard day for me.
Praying for you sis in this difficult time❤️
Stay strong.
Sis I feel you believe me.
👸u deserve the best. peace, no more lies🤥, abuse cheatn, drama & risk of STD'S. u lost a headache. which is a win!🥂🥳😌
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Even the bible says if you must marry rather than burn with lust. It also says you will be happier single. Can I get a witness single people enjoying the flow?
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Amen❤
I was on my nature walk this evening (taking care of my mental health) and I tuned in to this video. This message is so powerful. It ministered/spoke to me and this season I am walking through. It confirmed a very painful, difficult decision that I initiated back in July of this year to separate from my husband. He thought I would stay and endure but enough was enough. It feels like my heart was broken in a million pieces but the separation was necessary. It has taken me to be 48 years old to finally realize I am worthy of being loved as hard as I love. I am now in therapy because I am determined to break the cycle. I pray for him because I really love him and hope he will find freedom.
Pray for yourself. Focus on you now!
This is 💯 Coach Tony!!!! I dealt with this in my marriage and even before the marriage…I didn’t know🤦🏾♀️..wish I had wise counsel like this 20+ years ago; I would have dodged a bullet! Life goes on, I got my purse 🤣 and movin’ on!
I love it.. you got your purse and moving on!!❤❤
Very true after recently becoming baptized and refusing to endure the same beliefs i had about love and marriage I had in the past. Some men are severely damaging women emotionally.
Your video was encouraging because I’ve been separated from a “ grown boy” for almost a year. I’m very adamant about not reaching out anymore after God revealed so much to me about…. Me.. He admitted to being shockingly surprised that I didn’t chase him down and bring him home 😂. My worth is too valuable. Thank you for your transparency 🧡.
you might want to do a chord cutting, or yoni cleanse to unbind the relationship. unbinding is good even when u stay with the person cause its a boundary in place. Do a spiritual bath
The last person I dated, after breaking up with him and then a few months later, to return the engagement ring..he said to me, " I thought I had you on a hook." Of course, I was disgusted when he said that, but when we broke up, I felt a huge weight lifted off me like dreadful, despair, anxious feelings. I believe God was sending me all kinds of warning signs through dreams, and I thought I was overreacting. He started changing 2 months into our engagement, and I was so happy he showed his colors quickly before it was too late. I prayed to God to remove or break any bonds or connections that I had with this person. I blocked and deleted him right after our breakup.
@@nadine4634 do you still think of that person often?
this is absolutely brilliant! It’s always appreciated when brother Tony drops gems. This was just confirmation that even though I was dealing with a grown boy, I saw what he was trying to do and I slammed the door in his face. Blocked deleted and moved on. this was over 3 weeks ago, and i was absolutely devastated at first, but these videos renewed my strength. Thank you TG!
Thank you sir! What a picturesque analogy of grown boys! These Narcissistic type characters are smooth operators, insecure have studied their targeted ‘supply’.
Yes in a perfect world women’s duty would be the family but in this world women had to be family in business too to keep this world turning round. There’s a lot of work that needs to be done and God needs all hands in apparently. Amen.
Perfectly said … even biblically women had a purpose outside of the family and children …. I understand what he’s saying but women need to have an identity …. Especially while waiting for their husband…. And what if a woman never gets married …. Times have modernized and women have to do something… additionally a lot of these men aren’t treating their wives right … it’s not cut and dry but in an ideal situation 99, I agree with what he’s saying about a women’s “purpose”. Everyone isn’t created the same.
@@mobanks1573Just to add to your point, women usually outlive men. Sometimes, men die even younger than expected. You don't want to be a widow without finances and without work skills to support yourself (and your children, if you have children). I have seen it happen 😔
@@tracienatural2405 @mobanks1573 I agree with you ladies and I’m glad we can acknowledge Gaskin’s good intentions together. Gaskin and others like him deserves our support and not just our complaints. I’m glad we spoke well of the topic together.
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@@mobanks1573 A woman True Gifts have been hidden through Religion...The essence of a Woman is "Creativity" no matter if she's a wife/mother or not if she has a Womb she is Creation!
This is imperative! I listen you Tony Gaskins and Bishop R C Blakes. I appreciate all the wisdom and knowledge they shared. Thank you, Tony. 🙏🏽💖
Two of the most thorough
“Thank God I found the GOoD in Goodbye” 😊
That’s a real grown man right here ! Thank you for your words !!!
Tony I had to say this : God speaks through you because this message was so timely and helped me see my faults of dependency and misdirected attention to him along with his selfishness and emotional immaturity. Very powerful… this will help me in my healing journey starting today.
Yes he’s correct. And I would share that as a business owner and woman, plan for your “retirement” or partially step down once you have a family ❤you will want to focus on your family. God bless you Tony.
100% correct, if women were covered better, felt safe, felt protected we would be ok for this model, but most men (well I guess grown boys) are not ok with women staying home.
Plus as a woman, when you don't feel safe, don't feel the trust at 100%, you would want to go out and make your own money because of the feeling of uncertainty.
exactly. and man turning the blind eye on your struggles
If he proposes the idea to break up . I will agree😂🤷♀️. Not chasing anyone. Thanks uncle Tony
It’s so disheartening to hear that women will struggle being a purpose filled woman in business and successfully married simultaneously. I want both.
Please don’t lose heart. It may be something you can do part time or do later; it all depends on God’s timing and when he wants you to walk in your purpose. But also know the role of wife and mother are also filling a purpose😊I walked in my purpose after raising my children and it was my season. For everything there is a season…
Life is a struggle in general. Walk in your purpose, raise your family and be happy.
Can't have both
This is the truth! I would go as far to say, if you’re a married man with kids that are elementary school age and younger, and your wife is more focused on her career, it shows she….
A) might not fully trust her husband not to do her wrong, like cheat on her, or hold it over her that he’s the breadwinner and has the final say on everything
B) does not like her husband, maybe his parenting style, and is planning her escape route away from him, via increased income from her own career focus
If she’s happily married to a good man, with 100% trust, unless going through extreme financial hardship, because the husband isn’t a high earner or is disabled, then most woman would choose to stay at home for season to raise kids. It truly is best for the kids, if you can afford to do so.
I have not experienced real pure true love !! I am so thankful that I truly enjoy what I do for a living 🙏🏾 if I truly could have true healthy love with a caring environment I sure would appreciate and be greatful ❤ I will NOT lower my standards to be with a grown boy . I bought 2 copies of MAKE IT WORK to give to my 2 married daughters and their husbands for Christmas 🎄🎁 I'm reading it before I give it 😊
I notice how people who say or look at crazy because I say I won’t accept something from a man, even if I have child I’m not accepting this. They tell me oh well you don’t know because you don’t have a child. I know my mind and what I believe in. I can’t say I believe in God and then stay in that. I also know they look at me different because I don’t have kids or a significant other. I don’t like BS so I’m good where I’m at but I do check the sneak disses. Some woman think they are better because they have this and that but then you see what they are accepting and it’s a no for me.
Amen Sis!!! You know your worth and also your not in state of desperation and loneliness.
This title makes me VERY SAD!!! Women you need to WAKE COMPLETELY UP!!!
Fortunately and unfortunately, for some, experience is the best teacher. If I had not experienced what you’re speaking on for myself and realize it to be true, this might be a hard concept to understand. But my goodness, this is true!
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Fax
I agree with you, Tony, but for me, I'm not a wife or mother yet, but I have taken care of kids. I'm listening as always 💯
No matter how many times I’ve heard this through out your teachings coach - I learn something new. Shows every time you hear something you will hear /learn something different based on where you at in your life.
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17:25 - 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 spot on assessment !!!! Looking for a dog, a teddy bear to cuddle and to tear apart !!!! Accountability brings stability , but he hates with passion being called to be accountable!! 💔
Unfortunately, nearly all the men around me near my age in my state and city tend to have serious issues such as major drug addiction and alcoholism and sex addiction. I have yet to meet one guy at my age who doesn't watch corn and who doesn't have one or multiple women sleeping with him and multiple children by multiple women. I never got to meet that loving man in my entire life, so my only option is to be a career woman, because I don't want to end up marrying a drug dealer or drug addict with multiple women. I can't afford to be single without working, so I can only spend the rest of my life being a career woman without dating. I have been celibate and never dated throughout my teens, 20s and 30s, and I will probably be like that for the rest of my life.
The only other men around me are way too young or way too old (all of those guys are 60 and older). I don't want to date a younger man, and I don't want to marry a grandpa who would force me to stop working and make me become his nurse and abuse punching bag.
Please leave that environment and move to a place where you will flourish. You deserve to be where you’re honored and desired properly
Going thru this now with a guy I’ve given a couple chances too. We’ve been working on thing and it’s been great. Few weeks ago I had to fly home to Oregon to restock one of my clothing displays . Come Friday morning he start a random argument about me posting on Instagram before I say goodmorning to him. Lol I already peeped his game. He wants to start a argument with me because he probably made plans with another woman and wants to feel better about it maybe. He’s watching my cat and car while I’m away and has also made that really stressful for me. I can’t wait to get back home . He will probably try to act like nothing happened but I’m so over this bull
Yep that's what it is he has to make u to be the bad guy to feel better about what he did or is getting ready to do...the ish is disgusting 🤮 Im looking forward to being alone and in peace real soon 🙌🏽 😂🤸🏾♀️
I hope you ghost him. No explanation needed
I will no longer compromise. Thank you so much!
This is so on time. I recently shared something similar with my audience.
Women can and are able to hustle and go hard, but the majority of women are at their best when they are loved well, nurturong the family and themselves, and if running a business, have the capacity for nothing to go lacking...
In that orrder.
Women get the bag alllll the time, but I'm constantly encountering women who are tired and exhausted in their business.
There is a way to run a time rich business that allows great money and time freedom, but if hustling has to be done for the long haul, many women prefer more grace and ease in their life.
This is so good Tony. You are describing exactly what happened to me when I was in my marriage. If anyone asks me why did I divorce? I would REPLY, ' I foolishly married a grown boy and not a Man.' 🙏✝️
I made the same mistake
U are right bro 💯👍🏾 that was me. Dying on the inside not calling his bull out
His nuggets are a blessing if you heed and apply.
This is 100% true, I fell for all these stupid games. Never again.
Tony - this is so amazing. I realize that lack of fulfilment in love makes one need to invest in work, to give your attention and strength to something at least.
Your absolutely right. I had a relationship with a man that made me feel like a women, made me feel he would protect me, made me feel that I was the best partner he had ever had..an then he took to the streets…he left an we remained “friends” no sex but conversations. Then he said one day “ you always let me lead..you took my advise..now you don’t..why? my response was you don’t do any of the things that made me easy..things that made it easy for me to follow..he chose to be a dictator an a boss..an wanted me just to follow no matter what he did or said. Nope!
I’ve experienced this, I knew something was off. Glad it didn’t take me long to know I needed to leave.
I’m crying out to my Husband to stop working 14hr days, I’m drinking too much. His main love language is “gift giving”and mine is “acts of service”.
I serve and he gives gifts. Neither of us is being fulfilled. 😢
Sheri could do anything she chooses and it will be with excellence. I thank God for every Queen. 💯
Yeah I think once the kids are adults she will start some business ventures and be able to give it 100%
Eclessiates 9:9 is one of the verses I just read 5 days ago. But it’s only one of many that talks about a wife, but the main one that stands out to me to know who I truly am when that day happens for me.
I really be amazed how much I listen to you and agree, you are really spirit led, not society influenced but really God led. I appreciate these videos.
Other way around for this one. Ive been broken by a woman in my life. Still healing tho. 🙏
One day at a time.
Don’t give up it’s a women that will love you. Thank you for healing and not bleeding on another
@justinray8107 hi and keep praying God got u
Keep moving forward a better woman will come
Prayers for your heart to heal.
Sure true Tony, you are correct. Those of us who express our dislikes are labeled man-woman here in Africa. The scripture woman be submissive to your husband is use daily to subdue or suppress us.
Hi Tony , I was just told this week .. O we NEEd A Break! It came left field. Because I'm trying to communicate about the issues I have with him, I see he's deflecting, saying I'm arguing, just chill ✋️. I'm like WHAT IS THIS IM GOING THROUGH, BECAUSE Tony I'm not arguing nor yelling. However, I like to communicate. I see he's trying to silence me. Tony you always come at the right time. Plz help us more in what to do when we hit with this..
Please leave ghost him no explanation peovided
Go on some dates with others so your not tempted to allowed someone like that to remain in your life
I dated 2 grown boys that did NOT value me and gave me empty promises. I don't give second chances no more! Adults know what they doing. They treat you bad on purpose!!! They see you as an easy target or prey to use and abuse. I advice leave without telling them. They don't deserve your last words.
I wanted to be a house wife but I married the wrong men. (Twice married)I agree with everything you saying Tony!
Wow this is amazing and spoke to me directly! I did exactly what you discussed. Set my standards, hold him accountable and if he cannot adjust leave. It will save you so much heart ache, and he will actually tak your words more serious. Is women want to be loved, but not at the expense of disrespect. Know your worth, love yourself,
OMG! This message speaks volumes because it's on point and the truth.
Your talking directly about Me & my fiancé yes, we got engaged in May of this year and I’m so damn tired of his 🤬
End it. Don’t ever feel like because your ready or because you have put years in your can’t end it. My close friend was engaged and simply never dropped the save the date. No explanation was neeeded. I went to her IG and saw they no longer follow eachother . She said it wasn’t right and wasn’t going to work. I UNDERSTAND. Your husband could be as close as 1-2 months away from meeting. Remember it won’t get better in marriage now y’all will be locked in. No kids, GREAT. Kids? Who cares GET OUT BABY and ENSURE he is a father. Keep the rings and cash it in I’m so serious!
This is on time and timeless
You are so right about True Love. I appreciate your words. ❤
Tony, the Holy Spirit must come and sit down and have talks with you personally about women.
Beautiful message. Thank you 💯
Mr. Tony, I wish most men were like you. Just hearing your wise words is comforting. How lucky is your woman. Love from the Middle East.
5:32 onward - my situation.... training me to shut up and be happy with whatever I get. It's so on spot, have you been watching us, Tony? just in this case he's not threatening to leave me but to throw me out. I have been threaten constantly to say nothing or if I say, then say it in a very peculiar manner that he likes, if I don't do it, using the words and manners he prefers,, then he blames me for disrespecting his triggers. This grown boy description is so precise .. I have tried to keep him accountable and also call out stuff but it only backfires me .. Understanding finally , that he is not capable of loving me and probably never has and be willing to walk out from where I'm being disrespected and hurt...
Tony you are the real deal! Keep speaking truth and going with God! I love the family you have created with your wife! You are such a powerful inspiration to the world!
U were SO ON POINT!!💯 I knew the “WHAT “ but didn’t know the “WHY” behind it. Now it makes sense. Thanks for the explanation!
PLEASE keep Assuring your Beautiful Wife Mr. Gaskins that she is operating in her Natural GOD Given calling as a Wife & A Mother and there is absolutely nothing wrong with her!!!!! Mrs.Gaskins position is SOLIDIFIED and one of Extreme Importance!!!! she is the CEO of the home and motherhood. There is a reason Black Communities have fallen apart all over the world, the family structure is broken in the homes and there is No Order in our Communities!!!! You are Absolutely on Point with everything that you have stated GOD created the Woman for Man therefore it is her Natural Inclination to desire a husband and marriage. Mrs.Gaskins is Highly Blessed among Women>>> Keep Doing What U Doing Tony you and Sistah Sharee are providing A BluePrint of what A Wholesome, Healthy Marriage and Family should look like!!! BLESSINGS & ABUNDANCE to you and yours❤❤❤
Ive already 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 for this video .. cant wait Tony "Dropping Gems"Gaskins
I owned a brick-and-mortar business for a little over a decade.
I promise you I considered closing up shop when I had my daughter.
When I got passed that, I hired a team of 12 staff for a little over a decade.
I had to release myself of some of the responsibility in the business or close the door.
I closed after a decade and expanded to Coaching and Consulting, FROM THE COMFORFT OF MY HOME.
I simply was no longer fulfilled in the other roles.
This is great to know! I think you can definitely tend to your husband, children, and home while working on your business from home. It’s all about structuring in a way that works.
@@daniecreates Absolutely.
This is so true!! Thank you for this message. It confirms what I’ve always desired and deserved so I won’t settle. God bless🙏🏽.
Been through this. It was too costly. Thank God for restoration.
I really hope this reaches Tony. I’ve been trying to grow my IG and I happen to post a recent reel featuring megan Ashley and Tony Gaskins .I’ll call this the Tony Gaskins effect because I am getting loaded with likes and followers after that one inspirational reel ! Thank you for spreading the truth 🙏🏾🙌🏾😭
When I was dealing with this God was showing me a dream of two Teddy bears during first triangulation phase (the dream was detailed can’t tell all).I knew what God was conveying but I had to process for a long time-it but this video confirmed it 100%.Our God is a good good good God! Thank you Lord Jesus!!!
Wow! Tony dropping that knowledge. Y’all betta listen good 👂🏽 😂
That’s right Mr. Gaskins🫡 Keep giving us TRUTH ‼️ Thank you Brother 🙌🏽
I love the title of this video, speaks volumes 📶
You’re a secure man TG. Some men are not trustworthy to be a protector and provider and will treat you like a second class citizen if he’s the breadwinner and start to behave as though you are less important. The trust has to be extreme for a women to feel safe enough to be only a wife and a mother.
Honestly I don't want a man unless I got one. But when I get a man he becomes worrisome and messy and then I don't want him. I don't want him but I know Im going to have to go through the Detachment stage and that's the worse part. When I get pass that Im good even better. So to keep from going through the unnecessary drama I prefer not to be with a man. Its work. Id rather work make money and take care of myself. Its worth it. Having a man is not a must for me. A woman would live longer single. 1st Corinthians chapter 7 verse 38.
Exactly!! Being with a man is draining and more sacrifice and stress than they are worth! I'd rather be single and go get a dog maybe even guinea pig lol
Amazing. He was so candid. I appreciate him for his honesty and i appreciate the host for asking this question.
I’m so glad I’ve been watching you for a while, and now I can see certain traits in men now and watching this season of 90 day fiancé one of the guys is making it hard to watch because he is a “GROWN BOY” and it’s very bothersome to watch him talk to his girlfriend and try to knock her down to his level, so she will appreciate being with him!
Be blessed 🙌
You are refreshing, it is good to see a man have true knowledge of God and family. Peace to you and your family, God Bless ❤
Ur so right I suppress my true feelings dealing with a grown boy
Tony I have had issues with men as far back as I can remember because I don’t have the tolerance to have to raise , teach and correct a grown adult man who might be set in his ways and may resent me for even trying to set boundaries. It is too much work and may not even be worth the energy .
Look at God!!! 🙌🙏
Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🥳🥳
The sky is the limit!!
My son is into his skin care!
Been watching your channel since 2020. Ur content really changed my mindset and life. Grateful for your videos 🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖