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КОМЕНТАРІ • 192

  • @Mithun.rajakumar
    @Mithun.rajakumar 2 роки тому +113

    This is the period where you balance the relationship by loving yourself . spend the love on yourself

    • @markray2496
      @markray2496 2 роки тому +6

      Amen to that! Appreciate the Pure comment

    • @kevinosborne4632
      @kevinosborne4632 Рік тому +3

      Yes But most time they have a spare too!😂😂

  • @michaelbrown8745
    @michaelbrown8745 2 роки тому +94

    If she's not worth it, I would rather just let her go completely, move on and find another woman who don't play these mind games and seeking attention.

    • @George-hs2zm
      @George-hs2zm 6 місяців тому +3

      Try finding a woman who won't play games, they are the very very very rare exception. All and I mean all women test guys it's in their DNA. Keep your options open and don't be sucked in by their mind games. I've made the same mistakes myself when I was much younger, it hurts like hell to lose someone, even more so when you realise it's something you have done or not done.
      I'm some yrs older now and thankfully pretty clued up and know how to handle these situations. I believe giving a woman the space she wants is vital, but if it lasts more than a week with no contact then cut your losses and move on. Go out socially with other female friends to the places you know you are likely to bump into her and let yourself be seen by her or her friends, then wait and watch your phone blow up with msgs.

  • @dekarypius6760
    @dekarypius6760 2 роки тому +45

    Coming from a lady, this advice is perfect. Key word is work on yourself. Focus on yourself and get better. Thank you so much! 🙏🏾

  • @ogreen8475
    @ogreen8475 2 роки тому +75

    Exactly girls hate desperate guy I mean if she wants space and give her space make her think about you don’t text her and call her and chase after her just disappear yourself and see what she does guarantees she text you or calls you, And when she does don’t answer right away!

    • @ch1bob
      @ch1bob Рік тому +2

      And then what? She called me next day and 4 days later. What now?

    • @brianfreeman2200
      @brianfreeman2200 4 місяці тому

      This is dumb stuff that only girls do and men who think higher than themselves. Just be upfront and say. Ayo I'm gonna need you to leave me tf alone for about two months. Then we gonna try and talk about this then. I ain't gonna do nothing you don't do anything and we'll come back and talk face to face. If we can't do that then let's end this right then. Like Jesus Christ ladies and gentlemen that's it.

    • @juankvr96
      @juankvr96 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ch1bobdont ignore her man, because that don’t work, just be cold and let her work for you

  • @yyEthan
    @yyEthan 2 роки тому +22

    When she asks for space (meaning u already behind the game), u meet other gals, period

  • @racingdreamz8021
    @racingdreamz8021 Рік тому +16

    If a woman ever tells me she needs a break I simply walk away instantly & go find a woman of higher quality

  • @thenightwing_4528
    @thenightwing_4528 8 місяців тому +7

    Thank you for the help we just started and I’m understanding more and space and patience are key thank you!

  • @davemufcwhitehead2863
    @davemufcwhitehead2863 Рік тому +10

    I was an addict. Got hooked on pain pills and been with my wife 10 years. I hurt her. Spent my wages on pills and spiralled out of control. My wife warned and warned me. And then she had enough and she wanted me to go. I stayed for a while and she helped me get clean. I promised her I was done. And she helped me thro that. We have a son together. I told her ill go. A break is for the best. We got so close be4 I left. But we still went thro with it. I joined the gym again started to love myself again. And took her out on dates and built that trust and love back up. Was the best thing I ever did. And she stood by me and give me that chance. Her social media dms were full of men asking her out. She's beautiful and could of got rid of me years ago. I got a good one. But I put in the work on myself to then be a great husband and dad also. U can't love someone else when u don't love yourself

  • @TomFox1
    @TomFox1 2 роки тому +22

    For me, if she needs space, I won’t contact her til she says she is ready.

  • @TonysSauceYT
    @TonysSauceYT 2 роки тому +31

    From 4:40 to 6:10 is what happened with me. I blew up & now I'm paying for it. She wants space, took me a while to understand the whole space thing & I finally get it, I'm on my own spiritual journey, learning about my feelings & emotions & I have been giving her her space & it's been working. Thank you for these videos!

  • @twofiveb
    @twofiveb 2 роки тому +31

    I’ve watched several of your videos as I’m going through this situation with a woman I’m really sweet on. 🥰
    The “Take your power back” video was really helpful!
    The biggest thing I have learned after taking some time and space from her is that this is much more for ME than for her.
    Reinvest that power into me & my life. Reevaluate what happened, objectively. Examine my true feelings about her. Was I being the best me? What can I do better?
    In my case, I made some mistakes, meaning there are things I could’ve done better. But mistakes doesn’t mean I did something “wrong” or “bad” or “messed up”. It’s just my humanness. Get off the cross already, we need the wood. It’s important that I’m not crucifying myself through this process.
    Most of all strengthening myself, accepting myself for who I am. Strengthen my self respect, self esteem, purpose, etc.
    I think I love her and I want to pursue a relationship with her if she’s willing.
    I don’t do the friend zone thing. To me that’s very dishonest because I don’t want to be her bestie, I want to be her boyfriend, lol. And that would also deprive me of other good dating opportunities.
    My actions must be consistent with my values & intentions. That’s how I live with myself.
    And she doesn’t represent all women. It’s never good to give any one woman that much power. I’m a strong person and I know I can live well with or without her. I did before we met and I have since we split, though I do miss her sometimes.
    I know I am a high value man, in demand, and there are plenty of other quality women that want what I have. I couldn’t have known that if I didn’t take the space and use it wisely!
    “Self awareness and ego seldom go hand in hand.” M, to James Bond in Casino Royale
    Thanks Apollonia!

  • @mikespillersa2349
    @mikespillersa2349 2 роки тому +16

    Hi I've been watching you for over a year now & you always get through to me ❤️I honestly appreciate you so much, tnx for helping us become better versions of ourselves

  • @derrickwhite1754
    @derrickwhite1754 2 роки тому +6

    I don't need relationship help, but I love listening to your advice so I can share what I've learned with other guys that need help. You're helping me look like a relationship God! Lol...

  • @steelokey
    @steelokey Рік тому +3

    I like what you said at 8:15ish cause I def fugged up a really really good relationship I had last year.
    I posted a picture / video with my friend I’ve known since I was a teenager & the girl I was seeing just needed space. She probably thought I was really seeing her but she was a friend that actually just got married & we were catching up after years of not seeing each other. So even tho it was completely innocent, it probably ruined every future opportunity I had / have with her because she probably thinks I’m actually like that.
    It didn’t help that she already thought I was a “player” cause of my lifestyle, but she easily changed her mind once she saw who I really was & the family structure I came from. So it’s crazy, all in all … thanks for this video. I learned a lot & am still dwelling on this shiii a year later cause this person really meant a lot to me. Like more then any past relationship I had, so ya know. Some lessons are learned the hard way

  • @Spartan.....
    @Spartan..... 3 роки тому +10

    Give her space!

  • @AutoRepairGuyj
    @AutoRepairGuyj 2 роки тому +8

    Ok... I've been watching you for a long time now.
    You and the other dating advice people is why women can manipulate men into doing whatever they want...
    If a woman says she needs her space it's usually just another shit test to see if you're worthy or they're just tired of you if you tell her how do you feel and she doesn't like it then move on you just reinforce all of the shit women tried to pull and try to convince us but you're teaching us all you're doing is teaching us that's what women do and we should just expect it well I've dated for 10 years and I finally met a woman that wonders why I listen to the shit that spews out of your mouth a woman wants to know a man loves her and is willing to send her flowers when he thinks he's losing her I listen to you for so long and I couldn't find anyone I actually just stumbled across this woman and I showed her some of the dating advice people that I listen to and she says that's why I haven't gotten any women most women love to be the center of your attention and you guys take just meant to be on our purpose and only think about ourselves and a real woman likes a man to make her the center of his attention I am happily married to the love of my life and I will comment on all of your crazy videos that try to teach men do not worship a woman that's what we were put on this Earth for to find someone to give our everything to a man just needs a mountain to move for his woman there's reasons why the knights in shining armor would slay the Dragon and you make us sound like we shouldn't even care about the dragon that's her problem...
    She comes with so much baggage at least the way you put it

  • @markmoreno1978
    @markmoreno1978 2 роки тому +7

    A woman told me this while we were talking and trying. One day she told me that i would call here and text her too much which is false cause i knew that she was busy with her kids and it was her that would call me because of her schedule and i was fine with it. So when she told me i told her "ok you want it i will give it to you cause I'm not gonna sit there an beg for your attention". 2wks later she calls me and asks why i haven't text or called. To this day she still calls way more than i do

  • @rayzworld205
    @rayzworld205 3 роки тому +5

    It is always a pleasure listening in. I love the great info you give and it's always inspiring to be a better man.

  • @bailey8540
    @bailey8540 2 роки тому +9

    She said we’re on a break so she can go think if this is what she wants, and if we’re in a healthy relationship. But she tells her friends we’re broken up and is acting like we are broken up

  • @Euphoryaaa
    @Euphoryaaa Рік тому +3

    Instead of asking for space like a normal person my girl tells me some bs talking about “we should be friends” so I told her okay I’ll pursue someone that wants me then

  • @garyallen5556
    @garyallen5556 2 роки тому +2

    Spot on. This is so much what's happened

  • @mulab1034
    @mulab1034 2 роки тому +6

    There is this girl I love so much and I know she loves me too. We've been doing lots of stuff recently and I feel we were getting close to a good point until 2days ago when she told me we need to talk about us. She was saying that she feels guilty cause it seems like she is leading me on and she is not ready for a relationship and we've also been communicating too much recently. She schools in another city, I don't know what to do right now

  • @TomFox1
    @TomFox1 2 роки тому +21

    If she asks for space, it’s a test.

    • @gavincoyleheathfitness661
      @gavincoyleheathfitness661 2 роки тому +1

      Define test

    • @OnderHassan
      @OnderHassan Рік тому +14

      @@gavincoyleheathfitness661 She wants to know if you have the balls to walk away. If you demonstrate that you can, she will think twice about doing it again in the future.

    • @George-hs2zm
      @George-hs2zm 6 місяців тому

      The best thing I ever said to an ex gf when she asked for space was yeh no problems take as long as you want but in the meantime I'm going to see a few girls I know, don't come back when you realise what you've lost.

  • @earlhughes8513
    @earlhughes8513 2 роки тому +2

    Totally awesome video learned so much in those few minutes u rock!

  • @jeffreytaylor6093
    @jeffreytaylor6093 2 роки тому +23

    In most cases when people say they need more space they're saying they want to see other people. The best thing for you to do is to find something productive to do on your free time.

  • @makaveli8453
    @makaveli8453 2 роки тому +1

    Salute u from muqdisho somalia 🇸🇴

  • @carlosverde-datingtips7001
    @carlosverde-datingtips7001 2 роки тому +27

    The best thing to do when a woman asks for space is to use: “The 2 steps forward 1 back rule.” Meaning, you check on her when appropriate, and back off for a while, and see if she does the same for you. Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips 👍

    • @growing.grounds4054
      @growing.grounds4054 2 роки тому +11

      Why would you take two steps towards her when she needs space ?? Smh that counter productive. Best thing to do is to leave her completely alone and wait til she hit you up. Unless it’s been A WHILE

    • @cennon
      @cennon 2 роки тому +12

      It's a dishonest way with breaking up with a guy. She wants her space because she either wants to get with another guy she likes or she already slept with him.

    • @brentargue
      @brentargue Рік тому

      @@growing.grounds4054 true

    • @-g.k.4389
      @-g.k.4389 Рік тому +3

      No you give her space then block her number and move on f that other shyt. Relationships are avo surviving and wanting to be with each other if someone wants space they want someone else

  • @christianm6947
    @christianm6947 4 місяці тому

    I would agree 100% with this video ,
    I believe that the posting “another girl” yes it works 95% of the time… but at the end of the day your just creating a toxic relationship and pretty much after that you can expect worse situations to pop up.

  • @steelokey
    @steelokey Рік тому

    The way you talk & conduct yourself is very therapeutic for this exact situation haha. Thank you. No one’s gave me advice like this.

  • @dexdagamer8007
    @dexdagamer8007 2 роки тому +2

    We'll be visiting Florida in winter

  • @danf4447
    @danf4447 9 місяців тому +3

    when she says we need space- trust me she is already long gone- save yourself the headache annd let her be someone elses malcontent never happy woman who will bolt when things get rough.

  • @mw2019Mistisizm
    @mw2019Mistisizm 3 роки тому +15

    Some men just leave her have space no problem no attachment

  • @LKaramazov
    @LKaramazov 2 роки тому +16

    It’s over. If she uses that term, it’s over, she’s interested in someone else.

    • @kooranews2197
      @kooranews2197 2 роки тому

      What about when she said leave me alone?

    • @TomFox1
      @TomFox1 2 роки тому +9

      Not always. It could also mean a test

    • @letduque5078
      @letduque5078 2 роки тому +1

      She said she dont see me in her future and shes not happy anymore with me 🥺

    • @johnhawkins4135
      @johnhawkins4135 Рік тому

      ​@@letduque5078I feel your pain trust me I do. I'm going through this right now.

    • @eazyc404
      @eazyc404 11 місяців тому

      @@TomFox1i have never had a woman that truly liked me ask for space lol

  • @w0nt0nj0n
    @w0nt0nj0n Рік тому +1

    this is why i prefer to listen to female coaches since i'm a man. the advice is just better since they speak from experience (hopefully)

  • @krisbrown8120
    @krisbrown8120 3 роки тому +2

    Very good fact . But I still need help

  • @lawrencemckissick9680
    @lawrencemckissick9680 2 роки тому +36

    In my opinion when a woman says she needs space she already has your replacement in place. She has already started in on a new relationship and she doesn't want to get caught and it becomes nasty so she ends it with you because she can't balance 2 relationship's basically she's already cheated and checked out.

    • @ggtmbanks
      @ggtmbanks 2 роки тому +3

      how is that for fact true ?

    • @J.P.L1ft
      @J.P.L1ft Рік тому

      @A Vibe Called Yes well what if a buddy of mine found her on a dating app literally like 4 days after our break

    • @miminlenthang1047
      @miminlenthang1047 Рік тому

      @@J.P.L1ft dayum stay strong brother

    • @jimradovic-oe9qf
      @jimradovic-oe9qf Рік тому +1

      Not always

    • @Theman-ug6zy
      @Theman-ug6zy Рік тому +3

      Not always mate , definitely not in my case. Or say it would be suspicious if it was out of the blue then I would question for sure.

  • @leonelreyes8719
    @leonelreyes8719 9 місяців тому +2

    Book recommendations? While she still need space

  • @joshuaatlas3465
    @joshuaatlas3465 3 роки тому +2

    First thanks🥰

  • @johanwaltar5247
    @johanwaltar5247 2 роки тому +6

    If a woman asked me for her space, l will gladly honour that and joyfully enjoy my mine. If I like her I will give limited time but if not; I will move- on at the very minute.

  • @johnlanier3616
    @johnlanier3616 2 роки тому +15

    If she asks for space that generally means she wants to date another guy and see how it turns out. Leave and don't turn back

  • @__cm
    @__cm 2 роки тому +13

    If she asks for space, let her go! SIMPLE!

  • @eduardocaro381
    @eduardocaro381 2 роки тому +1

    Dont chase. Give that person space. Think why is it this person is asking for space? Is it another person he or she met? Was it your own doing that provoke it? Either cause is not good for you. It is best to learn from this, make improvement, and move forward.

  • @kevinkoperniak7062
    @kevinkoperniak7062 3 місяці тому +1

    From my personal experience, space is code for “breaking up.”

  • @tayebzied9868
    @tayebzied9868 2 роки тому +1

    thanks alot apollonia

  • @danielsantana540
    @danielsantana540 2 роки тому

    Thanks for this video apollonia

  • @juniperstardust5549
    @juniperstardust5549 2 роки тому +2

    Me here after sending her a lot of texts. I made many mistakes but I'm learning from them

    • @BabashiSensei
      @BabashiSensei 2 роки тому +2

      Yeah bro just let her go, if she comes back cool if she doesnt cool focus on yourself king

    • @masterofus3098
      @masterofus3098 Рік тому +1

      @@BabashiSensei thanks so much I really needed to hear this

  • @danielcristiangarcia2881
    @danielcristiangarcia2881 2 роки тому +1

    Damn you are so right about alot of things .

  • @sulemanalakeel3886
    @sulemanalakeel3886 2 роки тому +2

    There is no absolute relationship Relax Do not buy too much Just be smooth talker

  • @bawbagbobo
    @bawbagbobo Рік тому +2

    What do you do if she asks for space and wants to be in an open relationship and now she has another man

  • @steliospap.5357
    @steliospap.5357 Рік тому

    Thank god women like this exist

  • @chew2237
    @chew2237 2 роки тому +7

    We agreed to still stay in touch whilst she had space but not as frequent, I reached out Sunday morning after 2 days and we had a few messages back and forth throughout the day, I didn't act needy or discuss anything about us and later that evening she told me she missed me. I acknowledged with her later and the following morning this wasn't really giving her the space and time she needs, she agreed it was just as much her fault as we get on so well so we have gone back to no contact and I'll wait for her to reach out now. Will this brief break In the space negatively impact the outcome or will she see I recognised that as much as I enjoy chatting with her that her space is the most important part and in fact could help strengthen her feelings of missing me etc.?

    • @NIDARSHAN_
      @NIDARSHAN_ 2 роки тому

      Same here bro,

    • @NIDARSHAN_
      @NIDARSHAN_ 2 роки тому +2

      I js messed up and acted needy bt not now.

    • @margemulaski603
      @margemulaski603 2 роки тому

      Its been 3 months What happened? Lol

    • @jojothepolyglot1866
      @jojothepolyglot1866 Рік тому

      A year now....Any progress or did you move on?

    • @-g.k.4389
      @-g.k.4389 Рік тому +2

      You won’t hear anything because when a person wants a break it’s because they want to see other people but they don’t want to be the bad guy and call it off. So what you should do is give them the time and block their number because anyone who really wanted you wouldn’t need a break from you.

  • @Legendaryhutch
    @Legendaryhutch 2 роки тому

    Learned something new today 🏆

  • @mckinleymcintyre3892
    @mckinleymcintyre3892 6 місяців тому +3

    When she ask for space? Give it to her! During the that time make sure you level up 💪🏾

  • @johnlotz2291
    @johnlotz2291 2 роки тому +5

    Hey Apollonia so this is happening to me right now, and we came to an agreement to have no contact for a month or more, it's tough but I know I gotta stay strong and give her the space and pay attention to my life but I've made voice notes everyday since it's happened (only 2 days) and just telling her what I've learnt that day and what's been going on with my feelings, I just want to know if I should send them to her daily or just keep them for her to listen to, I'm not sure

    • @miranirb
      @miranirb Рік тому +1

      hi, how are you and your partner now?

  • @ilyaazzola.8189
    @ilyaazzola.8189 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks

  • @brandonlesko8083
    @brandonlesko8083 2 роки тому +11

    She asked for space a week ago. Yet she still reaches out twice a day by text message with some little brief hello hope you’re having a good day. To which I give a A few minutes or an hour and respond with something similar. We finally talked it out, last night. Meeting just talked about the reasoning. She said she’s afraid she’s falling out of love with me. Yeah she hugged me for about 30 seconds kissed me lately and called me babe during the embrace. Then blew a kiss or tears in her eyes she drove away. Texted me later that night telling me it was so good to see me, and then in the middle the night messaged me that she was sad. Has reached out three times today. Yet she says she need space. What does this mean?

    • @texasking6830
      @texasking6830 2 роки тому +3

      Just wants to kno u still into her, you are her safe spot while she sees nd does what she wants..she doesnt wanna loose where shes safe at.

    • @JDoomhauer87
      @JDoomhauer87 2 роки тому +12

      She's insecure. She needs to work on herself.

    • @MrExguru
      @MrExguru 2 роки тому +5

      She's stringing you along. Simple as that.

  • @michaelgoodman666
    @michaelgoodman666 Рік тому +1

    Has anybody ever recovered their relationship when space was given. I have read alot of negative in the below comments.

  • @MattSmith-pg2kx
    @MattSmith-pg2kx 2 роки тому

    Love the view behind u

  • @ericostovani2725
    @ericostovani2725 2 роки тому +5

    You know the golden rule of why she asks for space? She is hooking up with another guy and she THINKS he is the "better" option!!! And, she is testing you in that process.

    • @Seabass-tc4hd
      @Seabass-tc4hd 2 роки тому +17

      Just because it happens to you doesn’t mean it happens for everyone but good job on getting every guy that is heart broke filled with anxiety

    • @treboy95
      @treboy95 2 роки тому +8

      You need HELP! Every women is not like that. Just like you wouldn’t women putting you in the bunch with other men shouldn’t put them in the same bunch as women who got that mindset of just being around other men while “ Taking space”

  • @avengerman77
    @avengerman77 2 роки тому

    Good video Apollonia. Now can you do a video for women when a man says he want space. I think that would be interesting.

  • @Jay-us8ko
    @Jay-us8ko 2 роки тому

    Have you ever done a video on personal space how to tell if a person doesn't like if you're too close to them

  • @sulemanalakeel3886
    @sulemanalakeel3886 2 роки тому +2

    We should study for 4 year at college to know how get the right woman Then study to get a job

  • @OfficialKoodaBTV
    @OfficialKoodaBTV 5 місяців тому

    What to do in my LDR? I asked her do we need space she said: yes we do need some time apart bc she going through personal issues she tells me just about everything.

  • @ArcticSeraph
    @ArcticSeraph 2 місяці тому

    The best thing to do is walk away and never look back. Go work on your hobbies, work on being a better man, go find someone else on your level

  • @ArshadAli-sn2cd
    @ArshadAli-sn2cd 2 роки тому

    Agreed in principle but I am of the opinion that the lover should convey his craziness by way of showing his strong emotions in an imbalance and abnormal way at some proper stage of his love life and then should try to maintain a balance by observing the instructions narrated by Ms Apollonia in this video.

  • @aftabkhan-ms5lo
    @aftabkhan-ms5lo 2 роки тому

    very nice information and very nice video Appolonia mam, recently at marriage ceremony of my friend i was watching a girl from about 7meters distance. she came to me and asked "i am noticing you are looking at me from 1hr, why are you looking to me?" at that time i got ashamed and apologised her.what i should say if she or other girl say these words in the same situation?

  • @maikeruasmr8591
    @maikeruasmr8591 2 роки тому

    A girl that i cared about said this to me last Tuesday. I haven't spoken to her since but i don't want to lose our friendship at least. So thank you because this video came just in time. Am I alright to send you a dm about the situation?

    • @cennon
      @cennon 2 роки тому +1

      Your friendship is already lost. She screwed another guy 30 minutee after she told you.

  • @brianrostron4328
    @brianrostron4328 2 роки тому

    My ex dumped me 2 months ago she told me she wasn't coming back when I was for a reason she would not give me one she told me she was blocking me on everything I have no way in getting in touch with her I wrote a letter to meet up and she told the police I was stalking her we were today for over 10 years this has broke my heart he has brought me to I cannot understand why she has done this to me you was always dead close how is together I know I am finding it hard to go on how can someone do this to someone who lives on so much I cannot get my head around it anyway thank you for your video

  • @donaldriley1775
    @donaldriley1775 2 роки тому +2

    So I watched this video throughout but I leave her be until she text me (usually to see how I'm doing) which she does on the daily but for very small amounts of time. Unfortunately I never know how much texting is too much, usually my cue is the one word answers or the silence after a message depending on the message. I tried asking but never really got an answer back but it was misread for how long this is going to take.

  • @Ajo94
    @Ajo94 2 роки тому

    amazing

  • @comitosway
    @comitosway 3 місяці тому

    What about a bday txt this Friday?

  • @jaspergabriels8933
    @jaspergabriels8933 2 роки тому +2

    i fcuked up because i couldn't helpand go 2 times to her house this week

  • @agentorange153
    @agentorange153 9 місяців тому

    So regarding the first point: HOW MUCH communication is too much?

    • @coin_soda
      @coin_soda 5 місяців тому

      I know it’s been 4 months I apologize. If I needed space from my boyfriend, I would just need enough time to watch 1 movie and draw for a little bit. I would still love if he talked to me but also give me some space to have my own mindset so I can gain myself again. Needing space doesn’t mean I don’t need his love and support, it just means I lost myself and need to find myself so I can love him the way he deserves again.

  • @yohannes.painsaba2867
    @yohannes.painsaba2867 3 роки тому +16

    What about when we men want space and you do that? Accountability only works with men, not the other way around.

    • @makavelidadon77777
      @makavelidadon77777 2 роки тому +5

      Thank you we can never be ourselves but they always can and we have to accept it

  • @bricek3913
    @bricek3913 2 роки тому +1

    If she needs space, obviously she has other option... Best answer tell her that she's doing you a great favour without explaining yourself... Trust me she won't let you go...
    Man never be needy in a face of the women otherwise you will end up in dust bin.

  • @emiliovidales2740
    @emiliovidales2740 Рік тому

    I was secretly tryna quit my drug habits at first i masked my drinking n ❄️ with Xanax till i got hook on xanax now im quitting xanax but i was tryna do it secretly n during my withdrawal i was rude and disrespectful and dont remember wat popped a fuse in my head. But i know i wasn't in the right state of mind but now she wants a break. Im bettering myself n sobering up, but now that we're in the no contact part id doubting if i should go back n give her the best me if she wanted the break but i honestly needed it to cuz the withdrawals were nothing i wanted her to see. Its embarrassing

  • @zickonezero
    @zickonezero 2 роки тому

    Pay attention to the stuff around 5:00, suppressing needs only to explode later on. Hallmark codependency.

  • @dimitrylebed4800
    @dimitrylebed4800 Рік тому

    what if we messed up the first week and did all the wrong things

  • @MiguelLopez-fe1pt
    @MiguelLopez-fe1pt 11 місяців тому +1

    I cheated on her and she still stayed i treated her like shit she still stayed called her names did so much to her and she still stayed she says she needs space and time for her to heal and I did everything u said man I regret it all and I’m so sorry for everything I want her back so bad but idk if she will I finally decided to stop and just give her her time she says she’s not leaving me or anything she just needs time and she will come back but fuck man I miss her hasn’t even been a full day

    • @coin_soda
      @coin_soda 5 місяців тому

      No, she can’t trust you and I’m happy she left. You need to find someone else and treat them like an actual human being because they deserve the same love they give you. Her needs weren’t being met in that relationship so it’s over. If your needs are met all the time and not hers, it’s time for her to leave. This goes both ways.

  • @redangrybird7564
    @redangrybird7564 8 місяців тому +6

    If she asks you for space, very likely she has already another man lined up, let her go, give her space and move on.

  • @renzogerrod5293
    @renzogerrod5293 2 місяці тому

    It’s just seems like now relationships are a game. lol. I’m just going to be single

  • @Talkinglife
    @Talkinglife 3 роки тому

    Cool

  • @Marc-fr5pu
    @Marc-fr5pu Рік тому +1

    I gave a woman space, and she said, it was over. Different food for different animals I guess

  • @mobill93
    @mobill93 2 місяці тому

    Its only been a month and all ive done is communicate how her intimacy issue affects me and now here i am wondering wtf to do bcs ive done nothing

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  2 місяці тому

      I'm sorry to hear this! I would love to coach you on your situation! You can check out my 1:1 coaching sessions using this link:
      www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/

  • @juliusbaah0248
    @juliusbaah0248 Рік тому

    A man who loves you will always try talk to you but it seems it to be bad no wonder most women are suffering in their marriage cuz of this mindset. If a man does not love you, he paces himself

  • @jmvasquez2312
    @jmvasquez2312 Рік тому

    How long should I wait

  • @tonyho3884
    @tonyho3884 5 місяців тому

    What if she asked for space because was insecure I was at a bar and then now is posting FaceTime with a ldr saying how he keeps her feeling beautiful

  • @jamesedward7789
    @jamesedward7789 2 роки тому

    I gotta be aware of everything I do then lol

  • @michaelcollins8328
    @michaelcollins8328 9 місяців тому +3

    When a woman asks for space, tell yourself that the relationship is over.....and act accordingly. Go no contact and start to look for your next relationship.....because that is what she is doing.

    • @coin_soda
      @coin_soda 5 місяців тому

      Don’t jump to conclusions like that. My boyfriend asked for space because he was losing himself to the challenges around him. He couldn’t keep up with his school work and he’s leaving for the army in 4 months. He can’t give me the love he normally gives me because of all this stress so he needs some time to catch up with himself so he can give me his love again. When a woman asks for space, tell yourself that you are a prize too, and that she is at risk of losing that prize, and she knows that. But the only way for her to love you as much as she can again is for you to be patient and let her find herself so she isn’t giving you fake love.

  • @mobill93
    @mobill93 2 місяці тому

    Like how long is acceptable space?

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  2 місяці тому

      This depends on your relationship...

    • @mobill93
      @mobill93 2 місяці тому

      @@ApolloniaPonti only been seeing each other a month. She has intimacy issues. And instead of making Me aware the one day at her friends bday who i was just meeting. she didnt want to be touchy bcs she had pushed alot of boundaries with me ...but i never told her to ive been nothing but patient. So all day she wouldnt hug me touch my shoulder reassuringly the kiss she gave was a peck ...so all day i was sitting there feeling like shit bcs my gf wont touch me and i dont know why. Considering we were at her friends and then had to go to her moms i left this issue until we were home and told her how her actions made me feel. Thats when she told me about the boundaries and that " shes still feeling this out" and " doesmt know if were a match" so i told her that makes me feel so secure like rolls reversed how would she feel so emotional i left and drove home...thats when i offered soace and she wanted it so here i am...waiting...or should i bluntly ask are we together or not ...she still txts just not like she used to bcs of the space i only msg goodnight and yesterday we actually had a convo but i dont want to keep grasping at straws if there is not fruit smoothy if that makes sense 😂

    • @mobill93
      @mobill93 2 місяці тому

      Oh also in the begining instead of telling me she has intimacy issues she never did and was supper touchy so i thought like me that is her love language to then find out weeks later no its not and shes been pushing her boundaries and she feels pressured...i never pressure her actually when she went to do sexual things with me i stopped her bcs she was shaking and not comfortable and i want her to trust me and feel 100% comfortable

  • @christianmartinez3518
    @christianmartinez3518 Рік тому +1

    Fellas don’t be fools , “ I need space” means I’m going to cheat but it’s not cheating cause we’re on space

  • @drummerdave26
    @drummerdave26 2 роки тому +2

    When they say give me space it's because they can't and don't know how to properly have a healthy conversation because their hypergamy is already seeking another or have already found their next possible grass is greener boy, and fellas take any woman's advice on women with a grain of salt. Want advice on how to handle women seek that from other men with experience. If any of you have daughters then you already know.

  • @kc270352
    @kc270352 2 роки тому +1

    tell Cynthia i said hi lol

  • @activedad1776
    @activedad1776 2 роки тому +3

    Is it possible to get my ex back after she’s given me multiple chances to change my ways and drinking habit? It causes me to be a jerk. I enrolled in AA classes today. I haven’t drank in two days and losing myself and someone I love brought me to the realization that I do have a problem. I know it’s not a 2 day fix it’ll be something I have to work at. I’ve watched your vids for 3 weeks. I’m hoping to get some feed back on where she would or not. We’ve never had an abusive relationship just arguing when I drank. I really want better I don’t want to lose her for good. Does Anyone have any advice on?

    • @Seabass-tc4hd
      @Seabass-tc4hd 2 роки тому +1

      Same here but instead of drinking I have depression and was gas lighting without being aware I was doing it just give her space and focus on yourself either she will come back or leave you. You can’t do much she’s got the football and running down field she’ll either run to you or she will get chased down by someone else for a minute and eventually realize once your having a good life she’ll see that when she reaches out in a few weeks months or years so just move on and live life basically you can go back to her later after being a second option or settle being a second option and be with her sorry for football terms tho

    • @davidcastro8039
      @davidcastro8039 7 місяців тому

      Same but for me was pornography addiction

  • @tarandeepsingh640
    @tarandeepsingh640 2 роки тому +2

    Apollonia, my ex and I both love each other still and believe we are best for each other. She reached out and she wants to dinner in a couple weeks. How do I make her feel at ease, and emotionally secure to work on this relationship?

    • @makaveli8453
      @makaveli8453 2 роки тому

      Be confident and treat her with respect but don't be all over her 💯have self pride

  • @СобиржонДавлатов-ш7щ

    I was needy and had been giving her present for a week, but I step back and gave her space for 7-10 days. Now, I want to give her accountability letter with her favorite box of chocolate personally. I have not wasted my time, I'm working on myself. Is it ok that I give her the letter after her lectures in university? Is it creepy? I want to give her the letter than leave because she doesn't wanna see me

    • @sergiomendoza1517
      @sergiomendoza1517 2 роки тому +4

      No, you keep focusing on yourself and if she cares she will look for you,don’t make it worse for yourself.

    • @tavissalley1096
      @tavissalley1096 11 місяців тому

      Dude you will look like a straight up clown doing that

  • @TheNEL384
    @TheNEL384 3 роки тому +3

    She asked for space but we keep running into each other during our activities which seems awkward.What should I do???

    • @tfkvng3187
      @tfkvng3187 2 роки тому

      Ignore her, and live your life. Don't even acknowledge her. Say "hello", then keep it moving. 👍

    • @TomFox1
      @TomFox1 2 роки тому

      @@tfkvng3187 😂😂😂 good try, I did that and it backfired really bad. It hurt her...😔
      Just say hi. Keep walking.

  • @nathanburton710
    @nathanburton710 6 місяців тому

    Realizing all this stuff way too late.

  • @chiodh
    @chiodh Рік тому

    in other words, she's gone...let it be...just get over it...enjoy life..

  • @ryangalarneau8181
    @ryangalarneau8181 2 роки тому +1

    Is It ok to send flowers occasionally during this time?