Mistaking paedophiles for good people.
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- Опубліковано 13 жов 2024
- Nancy’s daughter was the victim of abuse from the age of 7 at the hands of a family friend. She will never regret immediately believing her brave daughter when she spoke out. She started to connect her gut feelings with past incidents from previous years, realising the importance of giving them greater attention. Her story is tragic, but she is determined to reveal some of the things she’s learned to other parents.
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To Nancy, thank you for doing this. It will be valuable to so many. If you’re seeing this comment, please share this video with a parent that you know, it could be the most important thing you do today.
Sending love to you and your family. Stay strong, Jeremy
Thank you Nancy, for believing us and for speaking so clearly to help people understand and trust their gut instincts when it comes to protecting our children. I’m sure this was so difficult for you and my heart goes out to you and your family. I’m so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter x
I was abused through a church member, when I told my mother she didn’t believe me, the man was a respected church goer. Crushing experience for me. Thanks for this video it took real bravery from you also
This happened to my daughter this year she was 14, exactly same thing happened family friend my best friends partner, was in our lives for 12 years. She told me hours after it had happened. She was staying at their flat while I was with a few girlfriends celebrating a 40th birthday. I believed her straight away. Lost my friendship of 12 years. But my child is my world. Why would you not believe your child?? I so proud of her of coming forward as soon as she did. And anyone who comes forward ASAP or years down the line. My daughter and I are in couciling. Our lives and mental health have been rocked.
I'm so sorry you lost your daughter ❤
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So sorry to read this. Hope you've been able to tell your story since.
My mother chose to ignore me, it crushed my soul and destroyed my ability to trust especially when I risked being beaten into having broken bones again by my father.
You are not alone
@@nena273 Thank you.💖
Thank you Nancy
My heart hurts after watching. Thank you for sharing.
Wow you're an amazing mom, thank you for speaking so eloquently for the children ❤
Nancy, thank you for your honesty, your warnings and sharing your insight from the most traumatic event to happen to your wonderful daughter and consequently your dear family.
This is so important, so necessary and right to expose the methods and practices of predators.
Thank you for encouraging us to think right and not be afraid to listen to ourselves and question.
May this bring hope to anyone who has been a victim and those who share your story.
yes, they groom the family, or single parent, first.
Shared. Thank you.
Oh Nancy, that’s a bravest sharing in a video I’ve seen in relation to this work.
I’m a survivor and so often I thought how did no one else see, hear, wonder if something was off.
A lot of what people are sharing, on social media, is starting to become a blur, and I think people will scroll on and not even listen to them properly.
The thought that ‘no that couldn’t happen’ is real. When that thought is the first one it can become the only one.
For you, a mother, to say what you could see and heard and that you may have missed… you realised later were things that can be picked up on, how honest you are.
Jeremy, I think this video would be one that needs to be shared everywhere. Absolutely everywhere. I’m going to share it to my family and connections.
Vocalising boundaries is what I took from it. I think that means the parents need to take a moment as they become parents to say what are our boundaries, that we will vocalise together, rather than wait for a moment to come up.
I think that’s also where the issue is, a moment comes up. we’re not prepared for it. We have beliefs that stop us being rude, silly or saying no.
When instead we move on, our child sees and feels that.
I’m so sorry you lost your daughter to this.
You are a woman doing good in the world.
Thank you for sharing your families story. I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. I hope justice is served and that in time your family can come to some measure of peace xx
So brave, thank you. you are an inspiration and i am so sorry this has happened.
Thank you for the tangible advice. As a Mom to two young kids, I want nothing more than to protect them from the world, and pedophiles in particular. Thank you for sharing your story and learnings.
boundaries are so important. even a toddler should never be pressured to kiss or hug anybody, family or not. if the child don't naturally go to do it, it ain't happening.
I am so so so sorry for your loss. And you are amazing, incredibly strong for still doing this video and helping parents.
My father was that kind of monster. Loved by family and neighbours, respected by his colleagues.
My poor mind blocked everything to survive...
His wife and him took me to therapy several times (even though I was well behaved and perfect in everything) and NO therapist saw anything (I guess they were washing their guilt)
The monster is dead now, and still nobody believes me.
Not even ur mom?
I believe you
Thank you brave lady .
Thank you for sharing this concern and experience of having been intruded upon and betrayed by a predator on your daughter. It sounds like you had good instincts, good communication with your daughter - - there are some predators that will fly under the radar for a long time - - it is not your fault that you had a weird feeling but didn't jump to judgment / action. It is very unsettling / scary that someone can be so devious like this. It is an assault of the highest moral order. Love and Light and Much Respect to your family. Keep healing and helping others - - that is a great thing to be able to strive for.
To Nancy and everyone commenting I send you lots of love from a fellow survivor x
Incredibly sorry this happened..
And yes VOCALISING THE BOUNDARIES/NO, THIS WE FIND IT INAPPROPRIATE is a good signal, not only toward the wrong adult but also to the k8d as we yeach them TO WHAT OPPOSE, WHEN OPPOSE(pretty early in the grooming phases) AND HOW TO/BY VOCALISING IT.
K8ds learn from mom and dad, mom and dad are their North Star the younger the child is the more the parent has THE ROLE
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are so brave to do this. And so right, these people are master manipulators and hide in plain sight. Part of the grooming process is grooming the parents as well as the child. We’ve sadly seen examples in the public eye so if that’s not able to be stopped, then in homes and families, it’s harder to recognise and stop. Trusting your instincts is vital, and if someone is offended, then that’s on them, not a parent striving to keep children safe. Boundary setting is really important and being consistent with the boundaries to ensure our children can also recognise when someone is overstepping. Thoughts are with you and your family. ❤
To all parents out there please be careful who you leave your children with. My friends children were abused by her boyfriend's teenage brother that lived with them. He had a girlfriend and seemed to be a normal kid. He would babysit for her 3 kids and at first they loved staying with him. Then they started not wanting to stay with him anymore. She assumed it was because the new fun of him babysitting wore off. That he was just making them behave and not allowing them to do everything they wanted anymore. Then one day my friend walked into the bedroom and saw the kid with his hands in her youngest daughters pants. At first she thought she didn't see what she thought she did. But then he ran out the house and she knew then it was. She found out that he'd been making the older 2 ages 5 and 6 do sexual stuff to each other and doing stuff to the youngest himself she was 3. He did get caught but did less than a year in a juvenile jail before being deported back to Mexico. Please parents if your children go from loving to be around someone one day to throwing a fit or acting weird or out of character about being around said person as a huge red flag. Please don't overlook or talk yourself into believing the best of people. Protect your children. You can always apologize to said person if it turns out you were wrong. But you can't take your child being abused back. Take the things she's saying to heart in this video because she's speaking the truth. I'm so sorry it was to late to stop this horrific thing to happen to her child. But it might not be to late to save your own or a child you care about.
Why continue to waste breath pleading w/ pll who already know better? THEY DO NOT CARE. Most parents were victims themselves. Stop being naive.
good point. an old friend of mine, a v strict serious person, from a former age, no touchy-feely, be your child's friend stuff. a teacher herself, one day the child minder came to her house for something. as she opened the door and the woman spoke, her toddler ran to hide behind a plant pot, very still and quiet. she thought that odd and never sent her child to that woman again.
even though her husband was annoyed, as she could no longer earn a wage, until child aged 5 at school.
she wouldn't trust any other minder, because she reasoned something was wrong and if she had not seen her child react like that, she would never have known.
No, put the “fear of god’ in us. I don’t even believe in a god but there is no amount of warning that is too much. No more protecting people’s feelings we all need to protect children
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Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏾🫶🏾 this was really informative and helpful
So sorry that people go through❤