Thank you for helping to heal my childless soul and for being a voice for Alice. I used to think when I aged, I would regret being childless. At 62, my childless self is at peace with decisions made in my youth to not have children. You are so wise beyond your years.
To everyone their path. There is no right or wrong. I support you in choosing to dedicate your life to animals. I wish the whole world considered their purpose and why are they here for a second instead of just following what everybody else is doing.
I used to feel like that by the idea of motherhood as younger. Now, I haven't used any protection in years and never gotten pregnant. My trauma has prevented me from getting pregnant. Being in constant fight or flight for years. Causing gut issues. Your body will always choose survival over reproduction. I've started to heal and trying to trust that if motherhood is meant for me, it will happen. I will not force it. Thanks for your videos. You are so beautiful ❤
Hi, Another thoughtful video. Thank you. Somebody asked me once what i thought the meaning of life was. They said that in their view it was to get married and have children. I said, for me, it was to be kind to others and to leave the world in a better place than when i found it. I agree with your philosophy. 🤠
How wonderful that you are so in touch with your purpose on this planet. There are so many ways to be loving and nurturing in this world, motherhood isn't the only path. ❤️
Most people live life black and white . You go to university, get a job, have kids etc . And if you live different to that you are judged.. I am like you Vanille, empathic, sensitive, a stargazer- I too can’t be around crowds for too long without wanting to disappear into the woods to recharge my soul in silence & serenity. But I love to live unconventionally too. I don’t want to be the same as everyone else and I never have been … always ignored , outcasted- but that’s ok I’ve learnt to accept that. I also didn’t want children and longed to live by the Cornish coast surrounded by cats. For many years many mediums told me I would have a boy, but I always thought I would be by myself I didn’t want to get married. I met my soulmate & a close friend psychic told me a boy soul is lingering desperate to come through in this lifetime. I now have my little son, my unexpected gem. I know he was meant to come through in my soul cluster this lifetime. He is my little best friend - but as an extreme sensitive in all ways having a baby is very overstimulating and I don’t have time for creativity. But I am trying to enjoy the moments I know will not last. Yes vanille you are a mother to many. It doesn’t matter about biological, my step mum is a real mum to me more than my blood mum, and you are a mother to the animals and people in need here x
I cannot wait to be a mother, but I wholly understand your decision and thats just it - its your decision, your gnosis. What a vunerable, but beautiful share. Women are all mothers, whether we choose to have children or not. Your motherely energy is still so appreciated and felt by this Earth. Bless you, Vanille! 🤍
I feel so alive, hearing your truth, spoken through your art. Each video a world within worlds. A meditation, a poem. Every frame…art…the space and breath you give, feels like a meditation break, not rushed. Sharing your choice with a world with such courage. Your words offered, not owed. I feel such solace and inspiration from your share. You brave soul. Thank you for sharing your love letter to life (in all forms). You are infinite gifts.
Oh, Vanille. If there is anything like people coming from the same soul line, I feel like we share it. Feels like my own soul in another body. I can relate to almost everything you post here. I understand your pain, your wildness, your beautiful heart, struggles and sorrows. I understand those things because they're also mine. Love the way you express yourself! Thank you for showing up. Keep shining, you have a lot to give.
I'm not surprised by the comments. All souls have a different mission in life, and for those who are "young souls" they can not understand why we make certain life choices. We don't all crave for the same things. I know deep in my soul that I'm not meant to be a mother in this lifetime. Some are here to break generational trauma, or just to exist. Having a child will keep you attached to this world. And I'm already exhausted, I feel like I have another purpose, and I will not allow society to pressure me into thinking i'm "wrong".
Thank you yet AGAIN for giving voice to topics that have been hidden for so long. Being aligned with one’s heart (purpose) is more important than fulfilling society’s expectations. Thank you for another beautiful video, I can’t get enough of them! ❤
Wow… ! That is so close to my own life journey, Vanille! I’m a couple of decades older than you, but I too just couldn’t see myself as a mother, and have instead spent my life searching for my true purpose and mission. I came to the realization that I too wish to dedicate my life to helping animals, and repairing the soul rift that has occurred between humans and animals (which means helping humans heal as well). And of course, like you, I realized that one can be a ‘mother’ to so many beings who cross our paths! I think a life of simply loving and nurturing those beings that you feel called towards is beautiful and worthwhile. Lots of love and appreciation to you, soul sister!
Brave video, and very beautifully done. I also made the choice not to have children and I haven't regretted it. I just don't have an interest in children, never have, never will. It's not a selfish choice, more men and women need to be able to make that choice without condemnation from others. The world needs better parents, not more children.
It's interesting to see (when reading the comments) that so many humans are still not able to value and accept the individual experiences and life paths of another soul. Beautiful video, dear Vanille! I also see the struggle in my ancestral line of women. My great-grandmother died on uterus cancer and her daughter had an operation where they removed the uterus and I had early gynecological problems too, had an emergency operation at the age of 19 and other operations followed. I also see that we carry the wounds of our ancestors further and have the possibility to heal/solve it finally. Sending lots of love!
I hear you, I have the same mission, animals are to be saved as much as humanity, to me my mission is doing the animal part too. I have no children at 55 yrs old now and I do not regret it one bit. I saved a lot of animals though and I love children but they are not for me to have in this life and I always knew that too
Beautiful video as usual, Vanille! I love how you said that motherhood is giving love.. there are so many being and things we can pour our love into to benefit the world. I am 30 and don't know if I'll be a mother yet. I think motherhood can be a beautiful and enriching experience that teaches one a lot and brings out a lot of the best qualities. But I don't think it's a necessary thing and that expectation in some families/societies is an unhealthy one. Much love, Kseniya
I don't have words for this. Anytime I listen to your voice it's like I hear myself speaking thrue your words. Goosebumps everytime. We must be from the same soulfamily. Amen to that, soulsister🙏
I 100% identify. I am 69 and I knew from a young age after raising my own siblings that I did not want to have children on my own. I too have made it my life's mission to help abandoned animals and to speak the truth about animal farming. Thank you for your beautiful video and your bravery and your kind heart you are such an inspiration
Salut Vanille, I think people like you who care for other beings are certainly mothers in this world. I don't have children neither but beautiful pets and I brought quite some nice projects to life within the last decades. Never had any regret whatsoever to not have my 'own' children. There is always so much to care about, to create and to love. You're magical! 💫Love from Berlin
I have a similar feeling, I did not plan to have children during this incarnation and it has not bothered me. I am beyond being able to have them and do not regret this choice. People come here for multiple reasons, and I have a different purpose.
Thank you for saying all that sweet sister Just because we are women, doesn't mean we are meant to have children And i believe we, i, have had thousands of children's in all our other lifetimes and bodies. So much work, time, pain and energy It's a choice now today. I had 4 for you sister. 4 beautiful star seeds that will carry all the wisdom and knowledge and hold the light for the planet. I bless your choices and your journey So beautiful So strong Loving you from Paonia
Beautiful. My dear, I send you all the best in your awesome journey. It's so beautiful that you know deep inside that you're not meant to be a mother in this lifetime. Love. Light. Power. Strength. 😊
I do know many women who never wanted to be a mother. I have always wanted to be one, and I have three children and want one more. I am almost 41. My womb craves and calls for bearing children, while yours screams out the opposite. I have known several women who said they didn't want to be mothers and when they became them, they were truly happy and changed, but that is not true for everyone. I am sorry to hear about what your great-grandmother did that she lost her own life in the process. I am glad she had a child somewhere in the mix that you came from that line. That is a beautiful thing. Life is valuable and beautiful as you are too.
The mother aspect is not just natal but also nurturing. It sounds like you found your purpose is to help provide the nurture the world so desperately needs. What a blessed, noble calling.
It tells me that you have a lot of self responsibility. And that you even give it a name. Wonderful. To change the pattern of must have children to consciously choosing to have children. I think it's a beautiful, courageous transformation. And can only do the world good. I also consciously choose not to have children. And when asked why I say "it takes a village to raise a child, unfortunately I haven't found my village yet" "Not a part of my soul contract" and "I'am here to be the voice animals don't have." are my take aways. Thanks
Such a beautiful video! It made me cry, in a good way! I too have endometriosis and I know how painful it is. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I was always afraid to have children because somewhere in my soul I felt I would die from it. Probably a past life. I had two pregnancy loses, but 3rd one's a charm and I did have a beautiful baby girl who is now 20 years old. I did have to have a C-section due to her being breech, which was a good thing, as her cord was twisted in a knot. I have always loved animals more than humans. They are our angels without wings. Society does not think of women being Mothers if they only have furry babies, but yes, we are. We are their Guardians and we can be fierce warriors to protect them. I think it's wonderful that you are on this path. Best Wishes Vanille! Hugs!
When I was a boy I knew I would never be a father. I'm turning 50 this year, I am not a father. My life is what it is, I never closed the door to marriage or fatherhood, it simply never opened. My horses are my passion, the natural world, the fields, forests, the realm of the spirit. The journey continues. May you find peace and meaning in your own journey.
This is so relatable. Both in never wanteing children AND endometriosis that took 23 years to diagnose. Also lots of other mess. my "nope" has only gotten stronger over the years and when endometriosis gave me the chance, I fought for my right to stay childe free and not be bound to pains by societies "fear of regrets" and insisted on my hysterectomy. The relief still washes through me each time I think about it. It was never for me! Have hugs, if you like!
This video is perfection. I feel EXACTLY the same. So much so I was moved to tears. I am here for the animals, for the voiceless who desperately need a voice. I've always felt this way, just like you. For those of us who feel it, we know the strength, the fire, the conviction, and the LOVE. It is indeed a mother's love! ❤❤❤
@@Rise876 of course not. Not everyone SHOULD have them even if they want them also. I only worry about a precedent she may set for someone who is lost.
Childfree, that is how I like to perceive this choice. Free to choose, in all circumstances, about all choices. We are allowed choice, we are allowed sovereignty. Thanks for a beautiful video.
I admire the love you have for animals. You are acting exactly as a loving caregiver/parent /mother. By sharing your love and caring and nurturing. It matters not what or who you share your love with. You dont have to give birth to be a parent or mother, and those animals or humans that you care for are im guessing truly blessed by your energy. ❤️
You are a thousand times the mother than those who bore human children. My only children are my furbabies, for I am also "childless". I still feel like a real mother, because of the love and care I give when raising the fur babies.
You are such a wise and warm woman with a deep connection and empathy with yourself and with life, so your choices come from the Source (it feels that way). Plus - great quality videos!
So beautifully expressed. 💚🙏Some of us are not meant to be mothers, but this doesn't mean that we don't have a deep longing for caring, for less fortunate people, for our loved ones, for our fellow creatures, the animals and plants, the ecosystems of the planet.
Form the pain you have overcome and wisdom you have gained from it, maybe there's a teaching you are giving birth to that could bring more love and awareness to others 🔥🌺
Your beautiful, vulnerable, quivering humanity always speaks to me.... Again...Thank you for sharing your precious self for those of us who appreciate, understand and crave the connections that you highlight in each installment of your journey... Bless you dear heart....
Thank you for giving me confidence in my choice as well to never have children. Thank you for being the voice seldom heard on this topic and thank you for being the voice of the beautiful souls (the animals and nature).
Same. I got raped and erased and became a captive in my own country. I dream of justice and liberty. I wish I could be free again - and myself. They even took my body and brain.
Thank you for sharing. We need more compassion in this world and less judgement. That "not able to have children" from a medical professional is a tough thing to reconcile especially when society weighs it so heavily into the value of and role you are expected to play in society based upon the vessel you are born into and disregards the value of your soul. And your soul is infinite, and far more valuable than the minerals and functions of the body physical. Blessed be.
Great video! As im turning 30, this topic is very relevant! Still dont know if I want to be a mother or if will run out of time, still so deep in my healing journey it would not be possible for many ears
You are such a beautiful and spiritual soul and in a sense,to me you are a mother or at least an aspect of mother nature. Bless you and your journey and may all of your endeavors be successful and fulfilling ones ❤
I watched this video and enjoyed it. Then I came to the comment section... It truly is eye opening to see how ferociously people defend the automatic assumption of parenthood. Why does a woman making the simple choice to not bear children cause so much contention? It doesn't effect your life. It's not for you to determine how a woman should lead her life. If you don't like it, move on. No doubt a man posting a video about choosing to not have children would be received with more acceptance and understanding.
The answer is: because sexism and bigotry are very very real! Too many people have also absolutely poor emotion regulation and expect others to cater to their internal frailness that cannot stand the existence of diversity. They have a lot of healing and growing to do and would like to avoid it in this manner :'3
A beautiful video, it really spoke to me. ❤ Although I'm very social and I like kids, I always felt more connected to animals too. Raising a child needs so much focus and energy, I think that would consume all my time and I couldn't be there as much for other people as I'm now. I think society needs also people without kids. Their time and energy ist needed and precious. Too bad a lot of people don't understand this and just blame you for not having kids. 😢 Wish you all the best, you're doing a great job!
There is a philosopher that I listened to who was once a struggling musician like myself, and who said that every song that he wrote and recorded was like a child of his - in that once it born to the world it is up to him to help nurture and watch it grow and either flourish or wither away. I wonder in this respect if this channel is like your child. I am so intrigued by the way you live your life - it so completely different than my own. Plus in the way you show it is very beautiful and innocent. This channel and the way you show how you live your life feels like I am watching an innocent child in paradise. Peace to you.
So many in this modern world would like to take that choice from you. Maybe one of reasons to be is to make sure women continue to have this choice. To me you are part of the new Mother Earth collective. A true representation of Mother Earth. Love your videos so much. You are not alone.
This came to me at the perfect time. 💕Thank you so much Vennie (I hope I'm spelling that correctly). May you always be as courageous as you are to share your soul. 🕯✨
Thank you for sharing your journey. It resonates with me and very similarly mirrors my life and health experience. At 50, I have never had children but am also a lover of animals. I have been healing so much trauma. I agree that in this incarnation, it was not in the plan for me to have children.
TO ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS THINKING THEY KNOW BEST WATCH THE VIDEO AND LISTEN TO WHAT SHE'S SAYING YES YOU MAY HAVE AN OPINION. SO DOES SHE. SHE IS SURE. SHE'S NOT GOING TO DO ANYTHING WITH YOUR OPINION ON HER PERSONAL DECISIONS. thanks for listening to my Ted talk ❤
Hi Vanille, I am a big fan of you and your channel and the only thing I can tell you after watching this video is: Never say that you will never be a mother, especially if you are 29. Animals will never replace the biggest gift of life that is being mother or father, they can only complement that gift, and they are great doing that. Beying a mother or father It's a love we cannot describe in words, maybe for that reason you have a lot of words to say int his video. I became father after 40 and was only at this age that I noticed how magic and different is this love. Nevertheless I respect your opinion and I hope you can be happy with your decisions.
Hello Vanille, you know that I have always found you to be very wise and caring and your decision is to be respected I am sorry to see these spiteful and petty people leaving their childish comments I am certain that you will be well mon cher. I am happy to see you.
Yes, a woman holds the power that is capable of creating life. But that same life creating energy can be used to create many other things. It can be used to create art, music, movement, inspiration, trust, wisdom, love, on and on. The idea that a woman’s purpose is reproduction is a false perception of the true power of the womb and of womanhood. I’m so glad you shared this. As a fertility awareness instructor, I help women understand their cycle and its potential so they know fertility doesn’t have to be a burden. I’m proud of you and i support you endlessly. Keep birthing your gifts to the world, we love them.
Merci Vanille pour cette vidéo très belle et pleine de douceur. Je ne parle pas très bien l'anglais, je trouve que tes vidéos sont donc un bon entraînement pour la française que je suis ha ha ! Ton message est rempli de bon sens, et même si certaines personnes ne comprennent pas ton choix, elles doivent au moins le respecter. Je pense que tout le monde n'est pas fait pour devenir parent, dans le sens que certains ne feraient que le mal, ne sont pas prêts, et pour bien d'autres raisons qui sont propre à chacun. Selon moi, même dans le monde animal toutes les femelles ne sont pas faites pour être mère, d'une manière ou d'une autre. Et puis, il y a tant de personnes qui désirent avoir au moins 3 enfants que ce ne sont pas les personnes minoritaires comme toi qui risquent de faire disparaître l'espèce humaine ! Ce qui pensent comme cela ne se rendent vraiment pas compte du trop pleins d'humains que nous sommes avec toutes les conséquences qui vont avec (surpopulation, surconsommation, pollution...). Merci encore à toi 🙏🤍
Many thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I knew I didn't want children from an early age and of course other people pretended they knew better than me. 'Oh you'll change your mind later' and all that. Now at the age of 62 I see not having children as the life achievement of which I am most proud. I've stopped that trail of misery dead in its tracks. Oh, and animals make better friends than people. At least most of the time.
Tu sais tu n'as pas à te justifier sur le fait de devenir mère ou pas, tu es libre de tes choix comme tout à chacun. C'est notre expérience de vie terrestre et donc il est pkus important de s'occuper de soi que des autres sans être égoïste. Moi non plus je ne suis pas fait pour cela mais pour être un gardien de mère nature, et la soigner du mieux que je peux. On a tous une mission ici et nos choix sont tous différents. C'est bien ce que tu fais et comme tu vis, ta vie me plaît infiniment. L'important c'est pas ce que les autres pensent mais les choix avec amour que l'on fait. 😁😉😘
I fathered eight children and should of never been a father.. Now that I am older I know that... Didn't have the best parents or childhood and just went with it...
I understand what you are saying. I have also always understood--that being a Mother--Mothering--is not limited to having physically given birth. Your Mothering Spirit/Essence is alive and well in your love and concern toward the other creatures that we share our lives with. Most childless women are Mothers. Although I have 2 grown children that I love dearly....if I were a young woman today...I absolutely would not have children. This world is on a trajectory that is not good. We must do what we can to fight the darkness, yet it still grows darker and darker. I would refuse to bring new, innocent beings into this MESS. But that would be MY choice during these times. Ultimately, it's a personal choice. Each person's choice should be respected. It's unbelievable to me that people think they have the right to pass judgment on your choice. Many women who have had children, get triggered by someone who goes down a different path. They need to ask themselves why they get triggered by a woman who doesn't want to give birth. For those who want to have children--have them. If you don't---then don't. It's not our business what a woman decides for her own life. No one lives her life...only she has a right to decide for herself.
"The complexity of human interactions..." Boy do those words ring true sometimes. You make interesting and thoughtful videos. I will give you an A+ for that.
It feels like life separates our type of souls to balance the world. Hug from Argentina's Patagonia. Here, El Bolsón, feels like a place where you'd belong. Maybe it's a mirror of where you are 🤔 🤗
had endo so bad that it even took some parts in my body. It strangled and killed one of my ovaries. It was everywhere but thankfully it did not reach my brain because it can. . It was during a time when nobody knew what It was or knew what was wrong and treated me as if I was making it up. I am so glad they know more now.
5:12 "Animals are so pure.. They accept us without judgment.." To try and start talking/writing about this Aspect (of Being), is impossible without writing a pointless book, because it is yet so simple. When it is Understood, no explanation is needed. When explanation is needed, it cannot be Understood. The Essence of the Uni-versal Energy, of Being
@@VerdantVanille Merci Verdant.. I merely seek to be sensitive to, receptive of, that which is Given.. That which IS. Trying to channel (it). I had not seen a video from you in quite a long time, and yesterday UA-cam pushed this one forward, and I had to watch it. What "I" (always) sense in "your" expressions, is resonance. And this is only Logical, on/in the (level of) Uni-verse. Duality is mere illusion. You and I are One. In lak'ech 🙏🏼
We are very very very many. We just often cannot speak up because it still results in abuse by people who cannot recognize a boundary for the life of them :'D Particularly often also it's people who are not seeing what harm they do and have done to their own children, too. It's very bad coping and avoidance of accountability and being pained when seeing modelling of said accountability.
J’avais à peine fini de cueillir de la lavande dans mon jardin que je suis tombé sur ta vidéo où tu faisais exactement la même chose. On sait vraiment comment apprécier la beauté qui nous entoure.
I love the way you expressed your thoughts and really appreciate it however I really wanna be a mother as well as connect with the nature and animals ❤
This was so beautiful ❤ and exactly my feelings and story as well.... I think I've always known I'd never get married or have children.. The animals have always called me and found me and I wouldn't have it any other way ❤
Only people who want to have children, should have them. This is the only way to create a better society.
Wanting to have children doesn't equal good parent.
Source: my father
@@AndreasConfirmed wanting and having the opportunity are two different things. Time to get out of the matrix.
Thank you for helping to heal my childless soul and for being a voice for Alice. I used to think when I aged, I would regret being childless. At 62, my childless self is at peace with decisions made in my youth to not have children. You are so wise beyond your years.
I see you Julia. 🤍
@@VerdantVanilleIt's completely your choice whether you want kids or not but what broked my heart is you compared kids with cats 😭😭.
@@henrik908yeah, cats rule. 😅😂😅😂
To everyone their path. There is no right or wrong. I support you in choosing to dedicate your life to animals. I wish the whole world considered their purpose and why are they here for a second instead of just following what everybody else is doing.
I used to feel like that by the idea of motherhood as younger. Now, I haven't used any protection in years and never gotten pregnant. My trauma has prevented me from getting pregnant. Being in constant fight or flight for years. Causing gut issues. Your body will always choose survival over reproduction.
I've started to heal and trying to trust that if motherhood is meant for me, it will happen. I will not force it.
Thanks for your videos. You are so beautiful ❤
Hi, Another thoughtful video. Thank you.
Somebody asked me once what i thought the meaning of life was.
They said that in their view it was to get married and have children.
I said, for me, it was to be kind to others and to leave the world in a better place than when i found it.
I agree with your philosophy. 🤠
How wonderful that you are so in touch with your purpose on this planet. There are so many ways to be loving and nurturing in this world, motherhood isn't the only path. ❤️
Most people live life black and white . You go to university, get a job, have kids etc . And if you live different to that you are judged.. I am like you Vanille, empathic, sensitive, a stargazer- I too can’t be around crowds for too long without wanting to disappear into the woods to recharge my soul in silence & serenity.
But I love to live unconventionally too. I don’t want to be the same as everyone else and I never have been … always ignored , outcasted- but that’s ok I’ve learnt to accept that. I also didn’t want children and longed to live by the Cornish coast surrounded by cats. For many years many mediums told me I would have a boy, but I always thought I would be by myself I didn’t want to get married. I met my soulmate & a close friend psychic told me a boy soul is lingering desperate to come through in this lifetime. I now have my little son, my unexpected gem. I know he was meant to come through in my soul cluster this lifetime. He is my little best friend - but as an extreme sensitive in all ways having a baby is very overstimulating and I don’t have time for creativity. But I am trying to enjoy the moments I know will not last. Yes vanille you are a mother to many. It doesn’t matter about biological, my step mum is a real mum to me more than my blood mum, and you are a mother to the animals and people in need here x
I cannot wait to be a mother, but I wholly understand your decision and thats just it - its your decision, your gnosis. What a vunerable, but beautiful share. Women are all mothers, whether we choose to have children or not. Your motherely energy is still so appreciated and felt by this Earth. Bless you, Vanille! 🤍
Wisdom, Phoebe. 🤍
@@phoebejaneb a possible mother is not a mother. Me thinking of wanting a million dollars will not a millionaire make.
I feel so alive, hearing your truth, spoken through your art. Each video a world within worlds. A meditation, a poem. Every frame…art…the space and breath you give, feels like a meditation break, not rushed. Sharing your choice with a world with such courage. Your words offered, not owed.
I feel such solace and inspiration from your share. You brave soul. Thank you for sharing your love letter to life (in all forms).
You are infinite gifts.
Your words just brought tears to me eyes.
Thank you for providing the echo my soul yearns to hear. 🤍
Oh, Vanille. If there is anything like people coming from the same soul line, I feel like we share it. Feels like my own soul in another body. I can relate to almost everything you post here. I understand your pain, your wildness, your beautiful heart, struggles and sorrows. I understand those things because they're also mine. Love the way you express yourself! Thank you for showing up. Keep shining, you have a lot to give.
We mirror each other, soul sister. 🤍
I'm not surprised by the comments. All souls have a different mission in life, and for those who are "young souls" they can not understand why we make certain life choices. We don't all crave for the same things. I know deep in my soul that I'm not meant to be a mother in this lifetime. Some are here to break generational trauma, or just to exist. Having a child will keep you attached to this world. And I'm already exhausted, I feel like I have another purpose, and I will not allow society to pressure me into thinking i'm "wrong".
Just keep any mind that when you get older nobody will care about you
Thank you yet AGAIN for giving voice to topics that have been hidden for so long. Being aligned with one’s heart (purpose) is more important than fulfilling society’s expectations. Thank you for another beautiful video, I can’t get enough of them! ❤
Anchoress, your support is my sacred water.
Agreed, love for nature is motherhood.
Wow… ! That is so close to my own life journey, Vanille! I’m a couple of decades older than you, but I too just couldn’t see myself as a mother, and have instead spent my life searching for my true purpose and mission. I came to the realization that I too wish to dedicate my life to helping animals, and repairing the soul rift that has occurred between humans and animals (which means helping humans heal as well). And of course, like you, I realized that one can be a ‘mother’ to so many beings who cross our paths! I think a life of simply loving and nurturing those beings that you feel called towards is beautiful and worthwhile. Lots of love and appreciation to you, soul sister!
Animals. You’re replacing one for the other but the drive is still there. Admit it’s because of personal flaws and issues.
Brave video, and very beautifully done. I also made the choice not to have children and I haven't regretted it. I just don't have an interest in children, never have, never will. It's not a selfish choice, more men and women need to be able to make that choice without condemnation from others. The world needs better parents, not more children.
That’s an awesome choice you made, there’s nothing wrong with that decision. I applaud you for not allowing society dictate what you can and can’t do.
I feel you deeply! I am like you. In my 50s now. Still the same person! Animals are my family and the love of my life!❤❤❤❤
It's interesting to see (when reading the comments) that so many humans are still not able to value and accept the individual experiences and life paths of another soul. Beautiful video, dear Vanille! I also see the struggle in my ancestral line of women. My great-grandmother died on uterus cancer and her daughter had an operation where they removed the uterus and I had early gynecological problems too, had an emergency operation at the age of 19 and other operations followed. I also see that we carry the wounds of our ancestors further and have the possibility to heal/solve it finally. Sending lots of love!
Your light matters. 🤍
Thank you for this video. I feel it the same, but never was able to put in words. ❤
Why are so many people triggered by a person's decision not to have children?? The comments on this video are wild.
I am of the belief that just because people can have children it doesn't mean that they should
You can "thank" sexism for this mess.
I hear you, I have the same mission, animals are to be saved as much as humanity, to me my mission is doing the animal part too. I have no children at 55 yrs old now and I do not regret it one bit. I saved a lot of animals though and I love children but they are not for me to have in this life and I always knew that too
Beautiful video as usual, Vanille! I love how you said that motherhood is giving love.. there are so many being and things we can pour our love into to benefit the world. I am 30 and don't know if I'll be a mother yet. I think motherhood can be a beautiful and enriching experience that teaches one a lot and brings out a lot of the best qualities. But I don't think it's a necessary thing and that expectation in some families/societies is an unhealthy one. Much love, Kseniya
Always a pleasure Kseniya 🤍
I don't have words for this. Anytime I listen to your voice it's like I hear myself speaking thrue your words. Goosebumps everytime. We must be from the same soulfamily. Amen to that, soulsister🙏
I 100% identify. I am 69 and I knew from a young age after raising my own siblings that I did not want to have children on my own. I too have made it my life's mission to help abandoned animals and to speak the truth about animal farming. Thank you for your beautiful video and your bravery and your kind heart you are such an inspiration
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Thank you beautiful Susie ♥️
Salut Vanille, I think people like you who care for other beings are certainly mothers in this world. I don't have children neither but beautiful pets and I brought quite some nice projects to life within the last decades. Never had any regret whatsoever to not have my 'own' children. There is always so much to care about, to create and to love. You're magical! 💫Love from Berlin
I so agree with you beautiful ♥️
I have a similar feeling, I did not plan to have children during this incarnation and it has not bothered me. I am beyond being able to have them and do not regret this choice. People come here for multiple reasons, and I have a different purpose.
Thank you for loving the animals and nature. ❤
My first girlfriend got married for the first time at 40 and had her son at 44. The three of them are a happy and healthy family.
Thank you for saying all that sweet sister
Just because we are women, doesn't mean we are meant to have children
And i believe we, i, have had thousands of children's in all our other lifetimes and bodies. So much work, time, pain and energy
It's a choice now today.
I had 4 for you sister.
4 beautiful star seeds that will carry all the wisdom and knowledge and hold the light for the planet.
I bless your choices and your journey
So beautiful
So strong
Loving you from Paonia
You shine.
Beautiful. My dear, I send you all the best in your awesome journey.
It's so beautiful that you know deep inside that you're not meant to be a mother in this lifetime.
Love. Light. Power. Strength. 😊
I do know many women who never wanted to be a mother. I have always wanted to be one, and I have three children and want one more. I am almost 41. My womb craves and calls for bearing children, while yours screams out the opposite. I have known several women who said they didn't want to be mothers and when they became them, they were truly happy and changed, but that is not true for everyone. I am sorry to hear about what your great-grandmother did that she lost her own life in the process. I am glad she had a child somewhere in the mix that you came from that line. That is a beautiful thing. Life is valuable and beautiful as you are too.
Thank you special soul ♥️
The mother aspect is not just natal but also nurturing. It sounds like you found your purpose is to help provide the nurture the world so desperately needs. What a blessed, noble calling.
I smile, wise awl.
Thank you for your eternal support Robert, it means SO MUCH to me.
You shine.
It tells me that you have a lot of self responsibility. And that you even give it a name. Wonderful. To change the pattern of must have children to consciously choosing to have children. I think it's a beautiful, courageous transformation. And can only do the world good. I also consciously choose not to have children. And when asked why I say "it takes a village to raise a child, unfortunately I haven't found my village yet" "Not a part of my soul contract" and "I'am here to be the voice animals don't have." are my take aways. Thanks
Such a beautiful video! It made me cry, in a good way! I too have endometriosis and I know how painful it is. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I was always afraid to have children because somewhere in my soul I felt I would die from it. Probably a past life. I had two pregnancy loses, but 3rd one's a charm and I did have a beautiful baby girl who is now 20 years old. I did have to have a C-section due to her being breech, which was a good thing, as her cord was twisted in a knot. I have always loved animals more than humans. They are our angels without wings. Society does not think of women being Mothers if they only have furry babies, but yes, we are. We are their Guardians and we can be fierce warriors to protect them. I think it's wonderful that you are on this path. Best Wishes Vanille! Hugs!
An individual's body is theirs. Nobody else's. Please don't let anyone put any guilt on you for simply being you.
Thank you. 🤍
When I was a boy I knew I would never be a father. I'm turning 50 this year, I am not a father. My life is what it is, I never closed the door to marriage or fatherhood, it simply never opened. My horses are my passion, the natural world, the fields, forests, the realm of the spirit. The journey continues.
May you find peace and meaning in your own journey.
@@gentlegiants1974 it's not too late
IM A MALE I AINT HEAR TO HAVE KIDS EITHER...KEEP SHINING EARTH ANGEL ..💚👽🤡😇
This is so relatable. Both in never wanteing children AND endometriosis that took 23 years to diagnose. Also lots of other mess. my "nope" has only gotten stronger over the years and when endometriosis gave me the chance, I fought for my right to stay childe free and not be bound to pains by societies "fear of regrets" and insisted on my hysterectomy. The relief still washes through me each time I think about it.
It was never for me!
Have hugs, if you like!
This video is perfection. I feel EXACTLY the same. So much so I was moved to tears. I am here for the animals, for the voiceless who desperately need a voice. I've always felt this way, just like you. For those of us who feel it, we know the strength, the fire, the conviction, and the LOVE. It is indeed a mother's love! ❤❤❤
Pets are close to children but will never be a replacement.
@ronmaest Theyre not meant to be a 'replacement'. Not everyone needs or wants to have children.
Wow, thank you!!! ♥️
@@Rise876 of course not. Not everyone SHOULD have them even if they want them also. I only worry about a precedent she may set for someone who is lost.
but you are a mother....a mother to the rebirthing of a new consciousness on this earth SWEETHEART. thank you💗
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WE are 🤍
Much needed one , at times we go through things not as a curse its blessing in disguise.
Childfree, that is how I like to perceive this choice. Free to choose, in all circumstances, about all choices. We are allowed choice, we are allowed sovereignty. Thanks for a beautiful video.
I admire the love you have for animals. You are acting exactly as a loving caregiver/parent /mother. By sharing your love and caring and nurturing. It matters not what or who you share your love with. You dont have to give birth to be a parent or mother, and those animals or humans that you care for are im guessing truly blessed by your energy. ❤️
You are a thousand times the mother than those who bore human children. My only children are my furbabies, for I am also "childless". I still feel like a real mother, because of the love and care I give when raising the fur babies.
Although I have always wanted to be a mother and grandmother, I am happy for you realizing and embracing your own path.
You are such a wise and warm woman with a deep connection and empathy with yourself and with life, so your choices come from the Source (it feels that way). Plus - great quality videos!
Thank you SO MUCH 🤍
Another masterpiece! Thank you ❤
Thank you love 🤍
Thank you - Thank you for beeing there for the animals who come your way ...❤ - Im truly grateful you choose this path in this life - 🎉🙏❤️
So beautifully expressed. 💚🙏Some of us are not meant to be mothers, but this doesn't mean that we don't have a deep longing for caring, for less fortunate people, for our loved ones, for our fellow creatures, the animals and plants, the ecosystems of the planet.
YES 🤍
So powerful! Keeping spreading your love and light!
Form the pain you have overcome and wisdom you have gained from it, maybe there's a teaching you are giving birth to that could bring more love and awareness to others 🔥🌺
@@johnskillicorn spot on ♥️
Your beautiful, vulnerable, quivering humanity always speaks to me.... Again...Thank you for sharing your precious self for those of us who appreciate, understand and crave the connections that you highlight in each installment of your journey... Bless you dear heart....
I'm so happy to hear you're going to help our animals. This is greatly needed. Thank you for this and for your beautiful video.
Thank you for giving me confidence in my choice as well to never have children. Thank you for being the voice seldom heard on this topic and thank you for being the voice of the beautiful souls (the animals and nature).
Same. I got raped and erased and became a captive in my own country. I dream of justice and liberty. I wish I could be free again - and myself. They even took my body and brain.
I'm incredibly sorry that you suffer. It's not OK!
You know what is best for you. I like what you say about Dharma. Your vision of your mission on earth is beautiful.
Thank you for sharing. We need more compassion in this world and less judgement. That "not able to have children" from a medical professional is a tough thing to reconcile especially when society weighs it so heavily into the value of and role you are expected to play in society based upon the vessel you are born into and disregards the value of your soul. And your soul is infinite, and far more valuable than the minerals and functions of the body physical. Blessed be.
Great video! As im turning 30, this topic is very relevant! Still dont know if I want to be a mother or if will run out of time, still so deep in my healing journey it would not be possible for many ears
No, you don't. The world will be Hell soon, even if you want that from obscure reasons, remember nobody would want to be born now...
Thank you for sharing. Have a wonderful day. Everyone stay, safe, happy and healthy.
You are such a beautiful and spiritual soul and in a sense,to me you are a mother or at least an aspect of mother nature. Bless you and your journey and may all of your endeavors be successful and fulfilling ones ❤
I truly loved this video!!! 💜🕯🫂
JUST BEAUTIFUL...makes me cry...of joy...❤❤❤...THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH for having chosen this soul contract...❤❤❤
A lot of women don’t want to be mothers. Not a big deal where I live. I can name 4 people I know that never chose that route.
I watched this video and enjoyed it. Then I came to the comment section...
It truly is eye opening to see how ferociously people defend the automatic assumption of parenthood. Why does a woman making the simple choice to not bear children cause so much contention? It doesn't effect your life. It's not for you to determine how a woman should lead her life. If you don't like it, move on.
No doubt a man posting a video about choosing to not have children would be received with more acceptance and understanding.
The answer is: because sexism and bigotry are very very real! Too many people have also absolutely poor emotion regulation and expect others to cater to their internal frailness that cannot stand the existence of diversity. They have a lot of healing and growing to do and would like to avoid it in this manner :'3
I love you as a friend, and an equal.
Thank you, Vanille
A beautiful video, it really spoke to me. ❤ Although I'm very social and I like kids, I always felt more connected to animals too. Raising a child needs so much focus and energy, I think that would consume all my time and I couldn't be there as much for other people as I'm now. I think society needs also people without kids. Their time and energy ist needed and precious. Too bad a lot of people don't understand this and just blame you for not having kids. 😢 Wish you all the best, you're doing a great job!
Thank you, kindred soul 🤍
When your 55+ and lonely, let's see if you would feel the same.
There is a philosopher that I listened to who was once a struggling musician like myself, and who said that every song that he wrote and recorded was like a child of his - in that once it born to the world it is up to him to help nurture and watch it grow and either flourish or wither away. I wonder in this respect if this channel is like your child. I am so intrigued by the way you live your life - it so completely different than my own. Plus in the way you show it is very beautiful and innocent. This channel and the way you show how you live your life feels like I am watching an innocent child in paradise. Peace to you.
So many in this modern world would like to take that choice from you. Maybe one of reasons to be is to make sure women continue to have this choice. To me you are part of the new Mother Earth collective. A true representation of Mother Earth. Love your videos so much. You are not alone.
This is so powerful. And rest in peace Alice 💜 I think it‘s beautiful that you honour her by staying true to yourself.
You are such a strong human. Open up your soul and talk about these things is only for the brave.
Thank you for seeing me. 🤍
Takes a brave soul to see another 🔥
This came to me at the perfect time. 💕Thank you so much Vennie (I hope I'm spelling that correctly). May you always be as courageous as you are to share your soul. 🕯✨
Wonderful video, and a noble purposed journey, thank you!
Thank you for sharing your journey. It resonates with me and very similarly mirrors my life and health experience. At 50, I have never had children but am also a lover of animals. I have been healing so much trauma. I agree that in this incarnation, it was not in the plan for me to have children.
I ❤ your soul ✨️
TO ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS THINKING THEY KNOW BEST
WATCH THE VIDEO AND LISTEN TO WHAT SHE'S SAYING
YES YOU MAY HAVE AN OPINION. SO DOES SHE. SHE IS SURE. SHE'S NOT GOING TO DO ANYTHING WITH YOUR OPINION ON HER PERSONAL DECISIONS.
thanks for listening to my Ted talk ❤
Ahhh, thank you. 🤍
Hi Vanille, I am a big fan of you and your channel and the only thing I can tell you after watching this video is: Never say that you will never be a mother, especially if you are 29. Animals will never replace the biggest gift of life that is being mother or father, they can only complement that gift, and they are great doing that. Beying a mother or father It's a love we cannot describe in words, maybe for that reason you have a lot of words to say int his video. I became father after 40 and was only at this age that I noticed how magic and different is this love. Nevertheless I respect your opinion and I hope you can be happy with your decisions.
Hello Vanille, you know that I have always found you to be very wise and caring and your decision is to be respected I am sorry to see these spiteful and petty people leaving their childish comments I am certain that you will be well mon cher. I am happy to see you.
Thank you dear Martin 🤍
@@VerdantVanille You are most welcome.
Yes, a woman holds the power that is capable of creating life. But that same life creating energy can be used to create many other things. It can be used to create art, music, movement, inspiration, trust, wisdom, love, on and on. The idea that a woman’s purpose is reproduction is a false perception of the true power of the womb and of womanhood. I’m so glad you shared this. As a fertility awareness instructor, I help women understand their cycle and its potential so they know fertility doesn’t have to be a burden. I’m proud of you and i support you endlessly. Keep birthing your gifts to the world, we love them.
Wow. Thank you so much for your kind words and for what you do 🤍
Merci Vanille pour cette vidéo très belle et pleine de douceur. Je ne parle pas très bien l'anglais, je trouve que tes vidéos sont donc un bon entraînement pour la française que je suis ha ha !
Ton message est rempli de bon sens, et même si certaines personnes ne comprennent pas ton choix, elles doivent au moins le respecter. Je pense que tout le monde n'est pas fait pour devenir parent, dans le sens que certains ne feraient que le mal, ne sont pas prêts, et pour bien d'autres raisons qui sont propre à chacun. Selon moi, même dans le monde animal toutes les femelles ne sont pas faites pour être mère, d'une manière ou d'une autre.
Et puis, il y a tant de personnes qui désirent avoir au moins 3 enfants que ce ne sont pas les personnes minoritaires comme toi qui risquent de faire disparaître l'espèce humaine !
Ce qui pensent comme cela ne se rendent vraiment pas compte du trop pleins d'humains que nous sommes avec toutes les conséquences qui vont avec (surpopulation, surconsommation, pollution...).
Merci encore à toi 🙏🤍
Tes mots sont parfait Emma, merci beaucoup 🤍
Beautiful 😍❤️ not all women who give birth have the love of a mother
Many thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I knew I didn't want children from an early age and of course other people pretended they knew better than me. 'Oh you'll change your mind later' and all that. Now at the age of 62 I see not having children as the life achievement of which I am most proud. I've stopped that trail of misery dead in its tracks.
Oh, and animals make better friends than people. At least most of the time.
Tu sais tu n'as pas à te justifier sur le fait de devenir mère ou pas, tu es libre de tes choix comme tout à chacun. C'est notre expérience de vie terrestre et donc il est pkus important de s'occuper de soi que des autres sans être égoïste. Moi non plus je ne suis pas fait pour cela mais pour être un gardien de mère nature, et la soigner du mieux que je peux. On a tous une mission ici et nos choix sont tous différents. C'est bien ce que tu fais et comme tu vis, ta vie me plaît infiniment. L'important c'est pas ce que les autres pensent mais les choix avec amour que l'on fait. 😁😉😘
Aho. 🤍✨
I fathered eight children and should of never been a father.. Now that I am older I know that... Didn't have the best parents or childhood and just went with it...
I understand what you are saying. I have also always understood--that being a Mother--Mothering--is not limited to having physically given birth. Your Mothering Spirit/Essence is alive and well in your love and concern toward the other creatures that we share our lives with. Most childless women are Mothers. Although I have 2 grown children that I love dearly....if I were a young woman today...I absolutely would not have children. This world is on a trajectory that is not good. We must do what we can to fight the darkness, yet it still grows darker and darker.
I would refuse to bring new, innocent beings into this MESS. But that would be MY choice during these times. Ultimately, it's a personal choice. Each person's choice should be respected. It's unbelievable to me that people think they have the right to pass judgment on your choice. Many women who have had children, get triggered by someone who goes down a different path. They need to ask themselves why they get triggered by a woman who doesn't want to give birth. For those who want to have children--have them. If you don't---then don't. It's not our business what a woman decides for her own life. No one lives her life...only she has a right to decide for herself.
"The complexity of human interactions..."
Boy do those words ring true sometimes.
You make interesting and thoughtful videos. I will give you an A+ for that.
My FIRST A+!!!!!! Thank you!!!!
Animals give only one thing, and ask for only one thing in return. LOVE!!!
Thanks so very much. I really needed this. 💚
You are just so amazing… And HAPPY belated BIRTHDAY btw!!! 🖤
It feels like life separates our type of souls to balance the world. Hug from Argentina's Patagonia. Here, El Bolsón, feels like a place where you'd belong. Maybe it's a mirror of where you are 🤔 🤗
had endo so bad that it even took some parts in my body. It strangled and killed one of my ovaries. It was everywhere but thankfully it did not reach my brain because it can. . It was during a time when nobody knew what It was or knew what was wrong and treated me as if I was making it up. I am so glad they know more now.
5:12 "Animals are so pure.. They accept us without judgment.." To try and start talking/writing about this Aspect (of Being), is impossible without writing a pointless book, because it is yet so simple. When it is Understood, no explanation is needed. When explanation is needed, it cannot be Understood. The Essence of the Uni-versal Energy, of Being
So deep and spot on and wise and unexpected Rene. YES.
@@VerdantVanille Merci Verdant.. I merely seek to be sensitive to, receptive of, that which is Given.. That which IS. Trying to channel (it). I had not seen a video from you in quite a long time, and yesterday UA-cam pushed this one forward, and I had to watch it. What "I" (always) sense in "your" expressions, is resonance. And this is only Logical, on/in the (level of) Uni-verse. Duality is mere illusion. You and I are One. In lak'ech 🙏🏼
Absolutely beautiful 🌅🙏🏽
Oh gosh! I've just found another non-mom woman ❤
I am so kind to children but I don't want to have my own. 😊
We are very very very many. We just often cannot speak up because it still results in abuse by people who cannot recognize a boundary for the life of them :'D Particularly often also it's people who are not seeing what harm they do and have done to their own children, too. It's very bad coping and avoidance of accountability and being pained when seeing modelling of said accountability.
Im 26 and realized I never will and I can be at piece with that 😄😜
J’avais à peine fini de cueillir de la lavande dans mon jardin que je suis tombé sur ta vidéo où tu faisais exactement la même chose. On sait vraiment comment apprécier la beauté qui nous entoure.
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What an incredible realization
I love the way you expressed your thoughts and really appreciate it however I really wanna be a mother as well as connect with the nature and animals ❤
I love you! Thanks for this video
This was so beautiful ❤ and exactly my feelings and story as well.... I think I've always known I'd never get married or have children.. The animals have always called me and found me and I wouldn't have it any other way ❤
No being a mother was never my path either….it’s more a spiritual path.