And the most wonderful thing is, whenever you are ready you will have an absolutely amazing support system here on UA-cam waiting with open arms. Sending my love to you..
coming out is like this hyped up rollercoaster where you spend the entire time waiting, filled with all kinds of emotions whether its feeling scared or excited and then finally after this long journey to get to this ride (come out) , you sit down buckle up and off you go. and you spend the rest of your life wondering why you felt so scared just to be you.
Yes that's right. They announced that they weren't together anymore about a year ago in the video titled "why we broke up." 💓 But they are both happy now.
This is what they said in the video "Shannon and I both came to a point where, even though we love each other, we were not feeling happy within ourselves and with our personal growth." 💓
weirdo /-/ yes some people are confused before they are sure about it. not everyone is born and grow up and straight away know a 100% that's they are gay.
There are lots of LGBT UA-camrs that I love but Shannon is the most inspiring to me and because of that I was able to come out to one of my friends the other day - thank you Shannon!
On social media i'm always like "i'm so gay, I like girls, girls are hot, girls are the best" and then in real life when someone tells me that they know about my sexuality i'm like ?????? shit. I have so much social anxiety and even though I want to be proud of myself I always feel so vulnerable all the time like everyone's judging me in every aspect. I hate social interactions with all my heart. Sometimes i feel really stupid because my family and friends are so so so supportive. It's like they feel more comfortable with my sexuality than i do myself lol (sorry for my english)
i get it, lol. social anxiety is awful, and i am also trying to work to stop giving a damn about everyone else and their reactions to shit. people judge constantly and if they want to judge, we gotta remember it's their problem. let them deal with it, you know?
I'm glad you mentioned "shame". I couldn't quite put that feeling into words but you totally did. I absolutely felt the same way after coming out to my family but after a while, that feeling definitely goes away if you try to become more comfortable with it and with talking about it!
Congratulations! I'm curious as to what 'not going too well' means to you, but of course you don't have to elaborate. My mum still loves me unconditionally I think, but she doesn't accept me being in a gay relationship. She was very resolute in forcing the ending of my romantic relationship with my best friend. Very painful. On the one hand, people could see her as this horrible, homophobic figure, but on the other hand she didn't hate on me personally when I told her and she clearly never stopped loving me or anything. Everyone's parents are different. I don't know...
terrifying, vulnerable, shame, the beginning of my actual life (the moment you can actually say #nowthisisliving), só liberating! these are my words. Honestly, Shannon's are so accurate! And for anyone who is not completely out to the whole family yet: I've learnt that your 'hiding' takes so much good away from your relationships, and you only notice it after you come out. So please if you want to keep the relationship flowing, come out. Love is love.
I came out as asexual to my best friends. Their first reactions weren't welcoming at all. They all said the same thing "oh, I'm so sorry for you". One of my best friends is a lesbian and she asked me if I had seen a doctor because according to her, I was definitely sick. It took them 2 years to stop asking questions and start to realize that I'm actually happy and not a sad loner. Right now I'm just as real as a unicorn to people. I hope that one day asexuality will be seen as valid to -if not everyone- most people. Until then, I think I'm going to just chill in the closet because my asexual ass cannot be bothered to say anything to anyone else.
Elif Sahin I feel you . I'm so sorry you had to go through that though. Hopefully people will better understand and finally realize that everyone's not the same.
I love this ! and I love how you included shame, because that's definitely something I felt, and I'm sure a lot others. I hope that later on it won't be like that for kids, or that coming out will even really be a thing. here's to a better future c: Love you shannon ! so much !
Yes. It's nothing but correct that she mentions shame too. It's a part of it and it gets forgotten often when outed people talk about coming out. Maybe they forgot that part or they 'romanticise' coming out later. But as a real thing it needs to be portrayed in a real way.
I didn't come out until 5 months ago. I just turned 25 and felt like I hid such an important part of myself. I was so scared that I didn't know what to do. Everything I did was in secret. I finally came out in January and I just blurted it out, it wasn't rehearsed or planned it just.... happened. But thank you because I watched your videos and Rose and Rosie and it made me feel okay and normal. My family of course already knew lol. I'm not very good at hiding secrets but I completely agree when you said it felt like you could breathe. I feel so much better and so much more comfortable with myself. So, again, thank you ❤️
The asphyxiating feeling is so real, you feel like you're drowning, like the words are weighting you down. But that first breath of fresh air is the best feeling ever
just came out to my mom a few minutes ago. this gave me the final push i needed. i wanted to know what it felt like. and my five words to describe how i felt during it would be be: relieved. hyperaware. present. grateful. and honestly very confused. i didn't realize how much i needed to come out to my mom until now and now that i have, it's the absolutely most freeing thing to know. i'm living. just like you, shannon. thank you for everything and helping so many of us with every single video you post.
I've watch this video 6xs times and each time I learn or have taken something different from this video! 1) fan girling over Shannon 2) taken away by the the filming of the video and creativity 3) really letting the 5 words Shannon used sit with me 5)Proud reading everyone comments of support 6) crying because I want to be someone's Shannon like umm be what Shannon is to me I want to be for someone else
Totally agree with your choice of words, would add two more though... liberating and guilty. Just came out at 50 . Having to tell my husband of 24 years and 2 grown sons was terrifying, but it’s the best, but hardest thing I’ve ever done. Have now met the love of my life while going through divorce. Feel totally liberated and truly ‘me’, but also feel extremely guilty for having broken up the family.. It’s not an easy process, but we all deserve to be happy.
Your content has grown so much on your channel! It's so great to see you being you; showing your personality, and as much as I enjoyed all your old videos with your past relationship, it's awesome to finally know who Shannon is as an individual! You do so much for your supporters! :)
My coming out experience can be described as uncomfortable, anxious, optimistic, calming and freeing. When I first came out it felt really awkward and uncomfortable trying to figure out how certain people would react or treat me after telling them. But I continued to be optimistic that everything would be ok. Now a few months later all of that fear and worry is completely gone as I can be myself and there is no better feeling. Even though coming out can be a super scary it was the best decision I have ever made. Thank you so much Shannon for posting this video!!!!
After hearing these five words, it really feels like there's no better way to put coming out, simply. All the emotions you go through at different times, is very real, and I never thought about how to put it simply. I feel this is accurate for me, on a very high and positive level. Love your videos Shannon! This one in particular was very humbling. And I hope you guys find a safe way of coming out and LIVE the way we were meant to, free.
almost 5 years after watching this video for the first time and i'm now feeling exactly how she described, this is crazy. i came out to my parents last night and it wasn't very nice and i knew it wasn't gonna be but i'm glad i did it and that now i can start living for me. guess i'm entering my nowthisisliving era
hey Shannon, thank you so much for being this beacon of strength and guidance for all of us. your kindness and authenticity will always be beyond inspiring. Anyways...here are my 5 words! I starting coming out in 10th-grade, soo that was 6 years ago? Wow, it feels like much longer than that :o 1. heavy - it's no secret that until someone actually does come out, it's all that's ever thought about. As you said, every action is just that, an act to hide the one thing that keeps you up all night and tightens your chest whenever you think about it. It seems to be the heaviest weight you will ever carry until you actually let it go 2. speechless - seems kind of counterintuitive, but like you said, once that moment that you've planned out 100 times and played in your head over and over finally comes your voice just doesn't feel like it can make any sound. Personally, this led to many many many many failed attempts and changed subjects 3. vulnerable - yes, I'm stealing your word because this one really hits right on the head. I never did expect to get a good reaction from someone and then still feel bad after I've come out to them. I certainly was never one to like being the center of attention but coming out put me front and center. We hide behind ourselves for so long that once we don't have to anymore we have to then learn how to live in our own skin. Being in the closet is the most uncomfortable comfort zone ever lol 4. exhilarating - after I got over the short-lived desire to cover myself back up after I felt exhilarated. my friends were finally introduced to this new person that they didn't know before; it was beyond exciting to tell them all the things I had been holding back and to share the missing pieces of me. 5. content - after coming out, it almost gets a little worse before it gets better dealing with all I've mentioned above. Things are overwhelming and exciting and enticing and scary and then, like every other huge headline or big event, the shininess fades away and then you're left with just yourself and who you are and that's the most rewarding part. You can finally live the life you were meant to and you can finally become your truest self. Content is the part that anyone who has been in the closet has waited for all their lives.
shannon i relate so much to these 5 words i literally cried because it's nice to know i'm not the only one who felt ashamed and still feels slightly ashamed even though now i know there is nothing to be sad about, thank you for everything ❤️
Love this so so much. TBH this whole past year has been me figuring out who I am and who I like. I knew i fit somewhere on the lgbtq+ spectrum but didn't quite relate to any label until now. Found your channel just over a year ago and thanks to you I've been able to accept myself and now I'm comfortable with who I am. So thank you for that, I'm still keeping this to myself and not out bc i still want time to get used to it, not that I am not proud to finally realize the "straight" label is not me and explore ones I'm comfy with like bi/bi-romantic or heteroflexible.
Thank you, Shannon for making this refreshing video. It's been almost three years since I've been out and I haven't thought back on to those initial moments of full exposure in awhile.
Great vid Shannon👏 I've been following your UA-cam channel for a couple years now, and I'm happy I could be apart of this community you've helped shape with your vids and words. Thank you💕
Shannon is literally the best human being in the world, she's so inspiring. My five words for coming out are... best feeling in the world! Btw love u Shannon ❤️
Thank you, thank you, thank you for including shame as one of your five words. I had the same feeling of shame after coming out, but couldn't recognize it as shame until this video, although that's exactly what it was. The pride was there soon after, but I always felt wrong knowing that I wasn't immediately proud at first. Thanks for the wisdom and comfort of knowing I'm not alone. Happy pride!
I came out to my best friend today and it went so well!!!! I was so scared but she was so supportive and amazing and totally made me feel better about everything. It was such a weight off my shoulders it was crazy and I definitely felt everything described here. Watching videos like this encouraged me to start coming out and made me feel so much less alone. Thank you so so much for everything you do for the LGBTQ+ community.
Hey Shannon, I'm Zee from London, and much older than most here but just wanted to say I've been following your journey for while now (since the early vids) and I feel so proud of the person you've grown into, you've always had a good head on your shoulders and I think you're quite an amazing human being. I know you have a beautiful heart and soul and equally beautiful on the outside, too. Take care x
Cute, agreeable and kept me awake, well done, stayed up for a while. Decided to sleep, saw your snap and went no let's stay up longer. And here I am, it was worth it tho and very very relatable, thank you. Not only for the relatable vid but for helping me and one of my best mates out 😊
im so grateful for my supportive family and community. i am the president of my school's gsa and the whole school is accepting. if you're struggling with an unsupportive environment right now, just get through it and you'll eventually find a community who will love you for who you are and keep you safe. xoxo
I'm in tears. Thank you for EVERYTHING Shannon. I love you so much and I support everyone else struggling with coming out, just as me. I love you all and stay strong ❤️
god damn Shannon, you made me cry, I'm partly out but still got a way to go. my five words would be arghhhhhh, arghhhh, arghhhh, arghhh, and arghhhhhh. tip dont come out over fb messenger, your message wont send and you can see when people have read it and not responded, stressful af. but it all worked out in the end, good luck to anyone coming out. and its okay not to come out if you aren't ready, just keep going youll get there :)
my five words would be, vulnerable, scary, relieved, excited, and nervous.❤️ I came out June 1st this year and it was all of those things plus more. Thank you for being a wonderful influence all these years. I hope you're doing amazing!!
When I came out 2 years ago, you were one of the biggest reasons why I did so. And I've got to say I completely agree, that huge pressure is off of my shoulders and I've connected with other people in the community and I really feel at home in my own skin. The only thing I'd change is I'd tell my past self to come out sooner because the after effects are amazing.
I love this SO MUCH ❤️ and it also hurts my heart watching these videos because I have no idea when Im gonna have enough courage to come out to my family
I felt really happy and loved at the end of the video when you said about people who are still in the closet, I felt safe when you said "take your time" and I felt so amazing when you said "I love you, no matter who you are"
I just came out to my mother and she handled it really quite well and said it didn’t change her love for me at all because she just wants to see me happy. Honestly Shannon i want to thank you from the bottom of my heart because hearing you speak about your coming out experience+feelings is what helped me through every step of the way and through all the fear and the confusing emotions. You gave me that confidence boost I needed and made me feel a lot less alone. I hope you’ll see this and know that your impact is changing lives and helping LGBTQ+ young people blossom. Love you. Sorry for the cheesiness lol
I'm bisexual myself but your channel has honestly been such a help to me discovering and accepting myself; and I adore how driven you are to give comfort to those who are struggling with their sexuality. Your videos are everything the LGBT community needs and more, I've been following you for just over a year and in that time me and so many others become comfortable being who we are because of you. Thank you Shan 💙
Shannon I think you are amazing and such an amazing role model. I have a 19yr old niece who has recently come out to a few family members and to say her fathers side of the family wasn't very supportive is a bit of an understatement and sadly that has stopped her from coming out fully. Over the past couple of months I have caught up on all of your videos and I have sent her links to your channel and a few of your friends channels in hope that she can gain the courage you have and finally be comfortable being the person she is meant to be. She's in the beginning of her journey and I hope and pray she will see how you have grown from your first few videos to the confident woman you are now and realize just how awesome she is. From an auntie, who sees someone she loves dearly struggle so much, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a beacon of light and the wonderful role model you are.
This video is so true. I never thought about five words that describe how it was for me coming out but definitely "scary" and "freeing" are among them. It's just how you described it, Shannon. I was afraid of what my friends and my family would say but when you tell them, it it such a relief. And I'm so thankful that I had such a good experience coming out. Yesterday it was Pride Parade here in São Paulo and I finally came out to my mom. She had the best reaction ever, even though I took so long to tell her. I'm really happy now that she knows and supports me :)
I came out to my sister yesterday because of you. Being that it has been so recent I can say that all these things are so true! I never thought I would have the courage. I would only add another word to the mix... Emotional
Young femme lesbian youtubers have helped me accept myself and REALIZE my self in the biggest way. For you all to be open and share your stories I found a safe place to reflect and learn about myself. I found people that I relate to and even though I'll probably never meet any of you 😭 I have been deeply moved, and am forever grateful for what you've done for me. You've given me a beautiful gift. Thank you.
i havent come out to everyone yet, and i think when i did i came out to the wrong people. but my only two words would be vulnerable and exposed. i'm glad you talked about feeling bad emotions when coming out, because most people only talk about feeling super great after coming out and it's always made me feel like something's wrong with me. so it's good to know that it's okay to feel ashamed and vulnerable after coming out and that it still is worth it in the end.
Your explanation of 'shame' really resonated with me. I had that moment, right after saying those words "I'm gay", I wished I could take it back. I wouldn't take it back for anything because I can live freely now, but there was that moment of panic. A moment of what have I done, I can't go back. But that's why you think about it so long before coming out. I was certain. Some things haven't gotten better since coming out about 3 years ago, certain people still don't understand, but at least I can live freely. I can move forward with my life and be openly happy.
Confidence- builder!!!! After I came out, I became very confident in who I was, and what I believed in. I try to be myself in everything I do, despite what others say.
Free is the first word that I would use, you're so helpful with all of us, no matter if we're young or not, I think your videos really help me with this fact, you help me being comfortable with me and I would never thank you as much as you deserve it. So again thank you Shan 👯
I'm still in the "scary" part but i haven't come out yet bc I'm too scared and I care too much about what they'll think about me.. but no one is rushing me so i could still learn how to feel much better and comfortable for who i am. I love you Shannon. You always inspire me.
1.Nerve-raking(it just is man) 2.Unbelievable (I didn't want to believe that I actually did it) 3.Confusing (sometimes it's hard to tell how other people feel about it at first) 4.Meaningful (it's been holding such a big space in your heart and now it is just out there, and that means a lot. 5.Serious ( you want to laugh it off like a joke to enlighten everyone but it just seems so still and real and that can be a struggle) So there is my 5 ways I felt.
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Now this is scary
Now this is freeing
Now this is vulnerable
Now this is shame
Nowthisisliving
Jalynette now this is amazing
Jalynette now this is making me cry
Jalynette now this is gay
Jalynette now this is beautiful
WOW
My 5 words about coming out:
Can't wait for that day
Same!
avery you made my day!!!!
hahahhaha same!
those are actually 6 words lol (omg jk jk! i hope it's soon and it makes you the happiest!)
This legit made me smile 😁 I hope that day will come for you sometime soon I wish you the best of luck fellow homosexual ❤️🏳️🌈❤️
Did anyone else cry in Gay while watching this? Because me too 😔
Valori Harris You always write such nice comments under every single video I watch xD
Ri Ma haha thanks so much lol (: Figured everyone could use a little kindness now and then
yeah :)
Valori Harris I cried rainbow glitter.
🙌🏽
Four words that describe my coming out experience: now this is living
Thank you for everything Shannon
this is perfect
Four words that describe my coming out experience: Someday, but not today
Cyanrox you got this, whenever you're ready!
And the most wonderful thing is, whenever you are ready you will have an absolutely amazing support system here on UA-cam waiting with open arms. Sending my love to you..
coming out is like this hyped up rollercoaster where you spend the entire time waiting, filled with all kinds of emotions whether its feeling scared or excited and then finally after this long journey to get to this ride (come out) , you sit down buckle up and off you go. and you spend the rest of your life wondering why you felt so scared just to be you.
so true !!
perfect description!
Pickle Rick that's amazing.
Oh wow. Great metaphor 👏🏻👏🏻 so true
Georgia Taylor omg i love this analogy so fucking much. thank you! ☺️💘👏🏼
I'm sorry for all the difficult things you had to work through, but I'm happy that you're in a beautiful place today! Love you so much!
Debbie Beveridge You are so supportive. The world needs more moms like you (:❤
Debbie Beveridge that support you share with your daughter and with other people is indescribable. thank you for your life views, thank you a LOT
Debbie Beveridge Hi Deb! Any advice on talking to my mom about my girlfriend, or just me and my sexuality in general? Thank you!
An amazing mom and an amazing daughter😍
My five words:
Confused. Anxious. Relieved. Visible. Me.
Yes that's right. They announced that they weren't together anymore about a year ago in the video titled "why we broke up." 💓 But they are both happy now.
This is what they said in the video "Shannon and I both came to a point where, even though we love each other, we were not feeling happy within ourselves and with our personal growth." 💓
Lauren Elloise
you’re confused about your sexuality? i’m so sorry. i don’t really think i understand very correctly.
i love those. 😊💘👏🏼
weirdo /-/ yes some people are confused before they are sure about it. not everyone is born and grow up and straight away know a 100% that's they are gay.
She is so beautiful inside and out!!!
Deb if u read this thank u for creating this amazing human being.
PS i Love u Shan
Aw. Thanks.
There are lots of LGBT UA-camrs that I love but Shannon is the most inspiring to me and because of that I was able to come out to one of my friends the other day - thank you Shannon!
On social media i'm always like "i'm so gay, I like girls, girls are hot, girls are the best" and then in real life when someone tells me that they know about my sexuality i'm like ?????? shit.
I have so much social anxiety and even though I want to be proud of myself I always feel so vulnerable all the time like everyone's judging me in every aspect. I hate social interactions with all my heart.
Sometimes i feel really stupid because my family and friends are so so so supportive. It's like they feel more comfortable with my sexuality than i do myself lol
(sorry for my english)
i get it, lol. social anxiety is awful, and i am also trying to work to stop giving a damn about everyone else and their reactions to shit. people judge constantly and if they want to judge, we gotta remember it's their problem. let them deal with it, you know?
Eva Bravo you are so pretty tbh, dont be shy about it
i feel like you stole words from my mouth. Being gay and also having social anxiety sucks...
Yup. Relatable
I'm glad you mentioned "shame". I couldn't quite put that feeling into words but you totally did. I absolutely felt the same way after coming out to my family but after a while, that feeling definitely goes away if you try to become more comfortable with it and with talking about it!
I JUST CAME OUT TO MY MOM LAST NIGHT (thanks to you ❤️) !!!!! it didn't go too well but HEY AT LEAST I DID IT :))))))
SO PROUD OF YOU!
YAY, PROUD OF YOU. Things will get better ❤
It gets better
You came out Congrats. Proud of you :D. It gets better
Congratulations! I'm curious as to what 'not going too well' means to you, but of course you don't have to elaborate. My mum still loves me unconditionally I think, but she doesn't accept me being in a gay relationship. She was very resolute in forcing the ending of my romantic relationship with my best friend. Very painful. On the one hand, people could see her as this horrible, homophobic figure, but on the other hand she didn't hate on me personally when I told her and she clearly never stopped loving me or anything. Everyone's parents are different. I don't know...
terrifying, vulnerable, shame, the beginning of my actual life (the moment you can actually say #nowthisisliving), só liberating!
these are my words.
Honestly, Shannon's are so accurate!
And for anyone who is not completely out to the whole family yet: I've learnt that your 'hiding' takes so much good away from your relationships, and you only notice it after you come out. So please if you want to keep the relationship flowing, come out. Love is love.
I came out as asexual to my best friends. Their first reactions weren't welcoming at all. They all said the same thing "oh, I'm so sorry for you". One of my best friends is a lesbian and she asked me if I had seen a doctor because according to her, I was definitely sick.
It took them 2 years to stop asking questions and start to realize that I'm actually happy and not a sad loner. Right now I'm just as real as a unicorn to people. I hope that one day asexuality will be seen as valid to -if not everyone- most people. Until then, I think I'm going to just chill in the closet because my asexual ass cannot be bothered to say anything to anyone else.
Elif Sahin I feel you . I'm so sorry you had to go through that though. Hopefully people will better understand and finally realize that everyone's not the same.
Bruuuhhhhhh i cant take this 72 genders and 112 sexualities
What do you want me to do for you? I can't make them go away, can I? So just get over it ffs
My Five Words: terrifying, disappointing, liberating, joyous, hopeful.
I focus on the last word, use it and keep pushing forward..Also besides everything you are very talented keep doing what you do!
I love this ! and I love how you included shame, because that's definitely something I felt, and I'm sure a lot others. I hope that later on it won't be like that for kids, or that coming out will even really be a thing. here's to a better future c: Love you shannon ! so much !
i love how she included that. shannon is never afraid to be real. 🙌
Me too !! She's the literal best cx
Yes. It's nothing but correct that she mentions shame too. It's a part of it and it gets forgotten often when outed people talk about coming out. Maybe they forgot that part or they 'romanticise' coming out later. But as a real thing it needs to be portrayed in a real way.
I didn't come out until 5 months ago. I just turned 25 and felt like I hid such an important part of myself. I was so scared that I didn't know what to do. Everything I did was in secret. I finally came out in January and I just blurted it out, it wasn't rehearsed or planned it just.... happened. But thank you because I watched your videos and Rose and Rosie and it made me feel okay and normal. My family of course already knew lol. I'm not very good at hiding secrets but I completely agree when you said it felt like you could breathe. I feel so much better and so much more comfortable with myself. So, again, thank you ❤️
I cant handle how beautiful she is...
The asphyxiating feeling is so real, you feel like you're drowning, like the words are weighting you down. But that first breath of fresh air is the best feeling ever
just came out to my mom a few minutes ago. this gave me the final push i needed. i wanted to know what it felt like. and my five words to describe how i felt during it would be be: relieved. hyperaware. present. grateful. and honestly very confused. i didn't realize how much i needed to come out to my mom until now and now that i have, it's the absolutely most freeing thing to know. i'm living. just like you, shannon. thank you for everything and helping so many of us with every single video you post.
I've watch this video 6xs times and each time I learn or have taken something different from this video!
1) fan girling over Shannon
2) taken away by the the filming of the video and creativity
3) really letting the 5 words Shannon used sit with me
5)Proud reading everyone comments of support
6) crying because I want to be someone's Shannon like umm be what Shannon is to me I want to be for someone else
2states1love I'll check y'all out
shannons videos make me feel alive
Totally agree with your choice of words, would add two more though... liberating and guilty. Just came out at 50 . Having to tell my husband of 24 years and 2 grown sons was terrifying, but it’s the best, but hardest thing I’ve ever done. Have now met the love of my life while going through divorce. Feel totally liberated and truly ‘me’, but also feel extremely guilty for having broken up the family.. It’s not an easy process, but we all deserve to be happy.
Your content has grown so much on your channel!
It's so great to see you being you; showing your personality, and as much as I enjoyed all your old videos with your past relationship, it's awesome to finally know who Shannon is as an individual! You do so much for your supporters! :)
I love how honest this is, a lot of youtubers make coming out seem like this magical super easy experience and that's just not how it is for everyone
get it trending
#ThankYouShannon
My coming out experience can be described as uncomfortable, anxious, optimistic, calming and freeing. When I first came out it felt really awkward and uncomfortable trying to figure out how certain people would react or treat me after telling them. But I continued to be optimistic that everything would be ok. Now a few months later all of that fear and worry is completely gone as I can be myself and there is no better feeling. Even though coming out can be a super scary it was the best decision I have ever made. Thank you so much Shannon for posting this video!!!!
I told my mom I was confused and nervous about my sexuality so technically I came out?? I'm kinda relieved but also terrified
Nat Furman don't be scared, no matter what happens everything will be okay ;)
Mari Valen Thank you! :) I appreciate it
That's a brave step :) Still trying to decide my first step
Lisa Dolor I didn't even mean to lol, I want to send them ally hill's video once I officially do it
Nat Furman yes!! me too
4 minutes and 27 seconds of PURE joy, inspiration, feeling empowered to be myself and not feeling alone. LOVE YOU SHANNON!!
also, i like the way you put this video together with the different clips and then taking us back to the original set. thanks!
After hearing these five words, it really feels like there's no better way to put coming out, simply. All the emotions you go through at different times, is very real, and I never thought about how to put it simply. I feel this is accurate for me, on a very high and positive level. Love your videos Shannon! This one in particular was very humbling. And I hope you guys find a safe way of coming out and LIVE the way we were meant to, free.
shannons vids never fail to be GREAT!
Mine would be lonely, scary, disappointment, self-reflection, and happy 😊 thanks for letting me think abt this Shan ily
I love how weird Shannon is
almost 5 years after watching this video for the first time and i'm now feeling exactly how she described, this is crazy. i came out to my parents last night and it wasn't very nice and i knew it wasn't gonna be but i'm glad i did it and that now i can start living for me. guess i'm entering my nowthisisliving era
hey Shannon, thank you so much for being this beacon of strength and guidance for all of us. your kindness and authenticity will always be beyond inspiring.
Anyways...here are my 5 words! I starting coming out in 10th-grade, soo that was 6 years ago? Wow, it feels like much longer than that :o
1. heavy
- it's no secret that until someone actually does come out, it's all that's ever thought about. As you said, every action is just that, an act to hide the one thing that keeps you up all night and tightens your chest whenever you think about it. It seems to be the heaviest weight you will ever carry until you actually let it go
2. speechless
- seems kind of counterintuitive, but like you said, once that moment that you've planned out 100 times and played in your head over and over finally comes your voice just doesn't feel like it can make any sound. Personally, this led to many many many many failed attempts and changed subjects
3. vulnerable
- yes, I'm stealing your word because this one really hits right on the head. I never did expect to get a good reaction from someone and then still feel bad after I've come out to them. I certainly was never one to like being the center of attention but coming out put me front and center. We hide behind ourselves for so long that once we don't have to anymore we have to then learn how to live in our own skin. Being in the closet is the most uncomfortable comfort zone ever lol
4. exhilarating
- after I got over the short-lived desire to cover myself back up after I felt exhilarated. my friends were finally introduced to this new person that they didn't know before; it was beyond exciting to tell them all the things I had been holding back and to share the missing pieces of me.
5. content
- after coming out, it almost gets a little worse before it gets better dealing with all I've mentioned above. Things are overwhelming and exciting and enticing and scary and then, like every other huge headline or big event, the shininess fades away and then you're left with just yourself and who you are and that's the most rewarding part. You can finally live the life you were meant to and you can finally become your truest self. Content is the part that anyone who has been in the closet has waited for all their lives.
Wow- amazing words, so accurate too! Thankyou xx
shannon i relate so much to these 5 words i literally cried because it's nice to know i'm not the only one who felt ashamed and still feels slightly ashamed even though now i know there is nothing to be sad about, thank you for everything ❤️
When Shannon is the realist 🙌🏻
Love this so so much. TBH this whole past year has been me figuring out who I am and who I like. I knew i fit somewhere on the lgbtq+ spectrum but didn't quite relate to any label until now.
Found your channel just over a year ago and thanks to you I've been able to accept myself and now I'm comfortable with who I am. So thank you for that, I'm still keeping this to myself and not out bc i still want time to get used to it, not that I am not proud to finally realize the "straight" label is not me and explore ones I'm comfy with like bi/bi-romantic or heteroflexible.
where's my notification squad/family! ?
Thank you, Shannon for making this refreshing video. It's been almost three years since I've been out and I haven't thought back on to those initial moments of full exposure in awhile.
Great vid Shannon👏 I've been following your UA-cam channel for a couple years now, and I'm happy I could be apart of this community you've helped shape with your vids and words. Thank you💕
Shannon is literally the best human being in the world, she's so inspiring.
My five words for coming out are... best feeling in the world! Btw love u Shannon ❤️
I recently just came out to my mum , ur videos have helped so much , thank u , you helped me build my confidence to tell my mum ❣️x
Thank you, thank you, thank you for including shame as one of your five words. I had the same feeling of shame after coming out, but couldn't recognize it as shame until this video, although that's exactly what it was. The pride was there soon after, but I always felt wrong knowing that I wasn't immediately proud at first. Thanks for the wisdom and comfort of knowing I'm not alone. Happy pride!
5 words... I'm still in the closet 😔
ilq222 it's okay. It will come ❤🏳️🌈🌈
Me too but I'm out at school and to half of my siblings.
why are you so good at making people feel so much comfortable w themselves 😭 ilysm
I love you so much Shannon, you inspire me so much omg. Thankyou for letting me know that I can be me x
I came out to my best friend today and it went so well!!!! I was so scared but she was so supportive and amazing and totally made me feel better about everything. It was such a weight off my shoulders it was crazy and I definitely felt everything described here. Watching videos like this encouraged me to start coming out and made me feel so much less alone. Thank you so so much for everything you do for the LGBTQ+ community.
You are so creative and cute and honestly your words are so powerful!
liberating, nerve wracking, amazing, emotional, and release
Now this is Scary
Now this is Freeing
Now this is Vulnerable
Now this is Shame
Now this is Living
❤️NOW YOU ARE LOVED❤️
Hey Shannon, I'm Zee from London, and much older than most here but just wanted to say I've been following your journey for while now (since the early vids) and I feel so proud of the person you've grown into, you've always had a good head on your shoulders and I think you're quite an amazing human being. I know you have a beautiful heart and soul and equally beautiful on the outside, too. Take care x
Cute, agreeable and kept me awake, well done, stayed up for a while. Decided to sleep, saw your snap and went no let's stay up longer. And here I am, it was worth it tho and very very relatable, thank you. Not only for the relatable vid but for helping me and one of my best mates out 😊
im so grateful for my supportive family and community. i am the president of my school's gsa and the whole school is accepting. if you're struggling with an unsupportive environment right now, just get through it and you'll eventually find a community who will love you for who you are and keep you safe. xoxo
I just came out to a family member like an hour ago and this made me so happy thank you shannon💓
CONGRATS :)
I'm in tears. Thank you for EVERYTHING Shannon. I love you so much and I support everyone else struggling with coming out, just as me. I love you all and stay strong ❤️
god damn Shannon, you made me cry, I'm partly out but still got a way to go. my five words would be arghhhhhh, arghhhh, arghhhh, arghhh, and arghhhhhh. tip dont come out over fb messenger, your message wont send and you can see when people have read it and not responded, stressful af. but it all worked out in the end, good luck to anyone coming out. and its okay not to come out if you aren't ready, just keep going youll get there :)
You're a blessing to our community. You've brought me so far and I don't know what I'd have done without you. Thank you for making us feel okay ❤️
10 seconds in and im already laughing:)
my five words would be, vulnerable, scary, relieved, excited, and nervous.❤️ I came out June 1st this year and it was all of those things plus more. Thank you for being a wonderful influence all these years. I hope you're doing amazing!!
I came out to my mom when I started watching Shannon's videos
When I came out 2 years ago, you were one of the biggest reasons why I did so. And I've got to say I completely agree, that huge pressure is off of my shoulders and I've connected with other people in the community and I really feel at home in my own skin. The only thing I'd change is I'd tell my past self to come out sooner because the after effects are amazing.
I love this SO MUCH ❤️ and it also hurts my heart watching these videos because I have no idea when Im gonna have enough courage to come out to my family
Mxrgarita ugh SAME but shannon is always so inspiring, i love her ❤️
2states1love i have started a channel as well so we can support each other? 💕
I felt really happy and loved at the end of the video when you said about people who are still in the closet, I felt safe when you said "take your time" and I felt so amazing when you said "I love you, no matter who you are"
I really really liked this. took me back to when I came out 💓ahhh
How did it go?
I just came out to my mother and she handled it really quite well and said it didn’t change her love for me at all because she just wants to see me happy. Honestly Shannon i want to thank you from the bottom of my heart because hearing you speak about your coming out experience+feelings is what helped me through every step of the way and through all the fear and the confusing emotions. You gave me that confidence boost I needed and made me feel a lot less alone. I hope you’ll see this and know that your impact is changing lives and helping LGBTQ+ young people blossom. Love you.
Sorry for the cheesiness lol
Love how artsy and creative your videos have gotten! You should produce and direct way more!!
Literally shannons voice is like the prettiest, smoothest voice I have ever heard I could listen to it for ever ❤️
you beautiful human being
I'm bisexual myself but your channel has honestly been such a help to me discovering and accepting myself; and I adore how driven you are to give comfort to those who are struggling with their sexuality. Your videos are everything the LGBT community needs and more, I've been following you for just over a year and in that time me and so many others become comfortable being who we are because of you. Thank you Shan 💙
Love you Shannon❤️
Shannon I think you are amazing and such an amazing role model. I have a 19yr old niece who has recently come out to a few family members and to say her fathers side of the family wasn't very supportive is a bit of an understatement and sadly that has stopped her from coming out fully. Over the past couple of months I have caught up on all of your videos and I have sent her links to your channel and a few of your friends channels in hope that she can gain the courage you have and finally be comfortable being the person she is meant to be. She's in the beginning of her journey and I hope and pray she will see how you have grown from your first few videos to the confident woman you are now and realize just how awesome she is. From an auntie, who sees someone she loves dearly struggle so much, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a beacon of light and the wonderful role model you are.
omg that dab
I resonate with this so much. I came out 2 years ago and shame is still a huge part of my day to day life. I can not wait to reach living.
Ahh just what I needed for pride month
This video is so true. I never thought about five words that describe how it was for me coming out but definitely "scary" and "freeing" are among them. It's just how you described it, Shannon. I was afraid of what my friends and my family would say but when you tell them, it it such a relief. And I'm so thankful that I had such a good experience coming out. Yesterday it was Pride Parade here in São Paulo and I finally came out to my mom. She had the best reaction ever, even though I took so long to tell her. I'm really happy now that she knows and supports me :)
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH EVERYONE! PART OF THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY OR NOT. ❤
I came out to my sister yesterday because of you. Being that it has been so recent I can say that all these things are so true! I never thought I would have the courage.
I would only add another word to the mix...
Emotional
Wow I'm early
Love you Shannon ❤️
Young femme lesbian youtubers have helped me accept myself and REALIZE my self in the biggest way. For you all to be open and share your stories I found a safe place to reflect and learn about myself. I found people that I relate to and even though I'll probably never meet any of you 😭 I have been deeply moved, and am forever grateful for what you've done for me. You've given me a beautiful gift. Thank you.
wait was it fletcher?
Hayla Elle think so👌🏼
i havent come out to everyone yet, and i think when i did i came out to the wrong people. but my only two words would be vulnerable and exposed.
i'm glad you talked about feeling bad emotions when coming out, because most people only talk about feeling super great after coming out and it's always made me feel like something's wrong with me. so it's good to know that it's okay to feel ashamed and vulnerable after coming out and that it still is worth it in the end.
am i the only one who was freaking out when shay mitchell quoted shannon's tweet ?
Samar Kriaa when did that happen.
*{clearly not paying attention to anything anymore}*
5 Words: overthought, understanding, liberating, scary, accepting
This was a fucking masterpiece
Your explanation of 'shame' really resonated with me. I had that moment, right after saying those words "I'm gay", I wished I could take it back. I wouldn't take it back for anything because I can live freely now, but there was that moment of panic. A moment of what have I done, I can't go back. But that's why you think about it so long before coming out. I was certain. Some things haven't gotten better since coming out about 3 years ago, certain people still don't understand, but at least I can live freely. I can move forward with my life and be openly happy.
ily shan
Confidence- builder!!!!
After I came out, I became very confident in who I was, and what I believed in. I try to be myself in everything I do, despite what others say.
Notification squad whats up?
F C damn yeah 😂👋👋
couldn't agree more, beautiful and scary feelings always come together
Hi from Reunion Island ! ❤❤❤
Free is the first word that I would use, you're so helpful with all of us, no matter if we're young or not, I think your videos really help me with this fact, you help me being comfortable with me and I would never thank you as much as you deserve it. So again thank you Shan 👯
hmm maybe I should sleep, or watch this video...nooo sleep of course!! duh🙌
I'm still in the "scary" part but i haven't come out yet bc I'm too scared and I care too much about what they'll think about me.. but no one is rushing me so i could still learn how to feel much better and comfortable for who i am. I love you Shannon. You always inspire me.
Favorite Notification 💜💛💚❤💙 #LGTB
1.Nerve-raking(it just is man)
2.Unbelievable (I didn't want to believe that I actually did it)
3.Confusing (sometimes it's hard to tell how other people feel about it at first)
4.Meaningful (it's been holding such a big space in your heart and now it is just out there, and that means a lot.
5.Serious ( you want to laugh it off like a joke to enlighten everyone but it just seems so still and real and that can be a struggle)
So there is my 5 ways I felt.
Today I came out as a non binary. Today is the first day I am going to truly be myself.
sure :)
Wow, this was about 25 years ago. Can't even remember it in some ways. It was another life altogether. Scary. Freeing. Authentic. Home. Joyful.