Today in class my professor kept saying being LGBT+ is a "choice" and I ended up having an argument w her in the middle of class... pretty sure they all know I'm gay now and I'm not sure how I feel about that lol. I really needed this video today.
Bridget Rao Good for you girl. It's important to say what you feel is necessary especially when people bash the LGBT community like that. It's fucked up and it's definitely not a choice like you said.
Katy Weaver thank you ❤️ I ended up meeting some LGBT people within the class bc they were thanking me for saying something, so it all balances out! Pretty sure my professor hates me now but whatever :p
Stand up for what you believe in, Bridget! Really proud of you for what you did. Don't feel like you need to hide who you are. Stay strong and keep rockin, beautiful! xx
Not usually someone who comments on things, but really just wanted to say thank you..nice knowing there are others out there who went through similar situations.
I don't normally comment on here, but I rewatched the first video before I saw this and I felt compelled to share this with both you and your followers. In your first video, you talk about telling me and you say, "for her it was really no big deal." For the record, and since it seems I didn't say it then, I think you should know that that little side comment, "so I'm gay", was the most proud I had ever been of you up until that point. To see you claim that part of your identity, a part of your identity I had known about and we had talked about indirectly for so long, was so inspiring and powerful. Remembering that moment still gives me chills. And it's one of the greatest honors of my life that you wanted to tell me first. I share this here because I think it's important that people who are considering coming out know: for the people closest to you, the people you know will love you no matter what, the hardest thing is to watch you in pain. I had to get past my own fears of other people being shitty to you, because as your big sister I have always been the only person allowed to give you shit! But once I did that, I was just waiting on the edge of my seat for you to love yourself as much as I loved you, in all of your pieces. I'm so grateful to be your big sister and I love you so much. xo
Also! To any closeted lgbt+ people reading this, if you don't see yourself coming out soon or at all in the near future, that's perfectly okay and good!! the entire concept of coming out is a result of our incredibly heteronormative society and it's not up to you to partake in it if you don't fit it. and im so proud of you. being in the closet is nothing to feel bad about and your comfort and protection and feelings always come first. i love yall and be safe
In all seriousness, this is one of the most genuinely spoken videos I've ever seen. Gosh I'm so proud of you! Such a perfect little confident happy turtle 🐢
I'm glad you're becoming more confident in yourself everyday. It's a journey for everyone in your situation and other situations for people who for whatever reason don't fit into the "typical mode" of what people expect. I hope everyone out there can get to the point where they can be happy being themselves. Love you!
Its a song from the pussycat dolls called "don't cha" look them up I used to love them when i was younger help me my childhood was either terrible or amazing I can't decide XD
Lol the real dutchman always says "I don't get it?!" on the comments I post on lesbian UA-camrs' videos. I think he likes to playfully troll me sometimes 😜
My coming out story is so boring, if I could even call it that. My parents still don't know and only one of my sisters do (and I'm 20), but I know they'd be cool with it. I just don't find it necessary to come out to people. I want to one day bring home the girl I like and tell my parents I like this girl, then they'll just nod and start asking the usual embarrassing, parent question. It will casually come out in a conversation with people who don't know me so well, which has happened a lot with my co-workers, and I'll be like "Yeah, I don't like men." And they're pretty cool with it. It's still hard to wrap my head around that some people hate when two people of the same sex love each other, so that's why I think "coming out" is unnecessary. But to everyone who does have that problem and are scared or bullied, stay strong. You are loved. :)
Hey shannon so I watched this in the library on my phone and after a really long exhausting day i really needed a break and watched your video. It made me feel warm and comfortable for once inside, and at the end your words just hit me so hard and i almost cried. thank you. I love you.
once you tell the important people in your life, it doesn't matter after that! if they don't want to be your friend, it is their lost. When you meet new people such as university/college, say that you went on date with a girl last night or for i say that i use to have short hair but then i grew it out cause i didn't want to look like a lesbian. now i am just a lesbian with long hair. work it into the conversation.
I'm Asian and it's also one million time harder when I knew my parents have a different look about homosexuality - they may get a heart attack and kick me out =.=''
I'm a 50 year old gay guy in London England watching this and feeling very heart warmed - much love to you Shannon and your positive energy will help many others on their journey
If feels amazing to go down and read the comment section and realize that your not alone, that there's people out there just like you who are going through the same thing, whenever I feel alone I just always come and read comments from your videos and it makes me feel better to see that I'm not the only one in the world who is different
Just started college this fall, still in the process of coming out to my family. Your advice is always helpful and appreciated. Thank you for existing, I love you!
You did a sit down, Shan :) Reminds me of the first video of yours I watched #Labels in the park. Yeah!!! Been here since 2012. Happy four years to us :) Literally from my last two high school years into my first three uni years. I love you. And thank you.
nowthisisliving I've only been following you for a little over 2 years and I had no idea! 😨 you were very good at hiding it, I never had any clue!!!11!!!1!!! omg
I think we should all just get on some chat room and talk to eachother , we could all connect .. We are all here because of Shannon. Lets all be here for eachother tooo! Who's with me ?
its crazy how the universe works. how did it get me to watch this video at the exact moment that i needed to hear those words? my mind cannot process this.
Wow, I love what you're doing with your channel. You've inspired me, and I'm already out! I completely agree with what you said. Even if people seem like they may not be okay with you being gay, usually all it takes is for them to realize that you are still the same person no matter what. Coming out is a journey not only for you but also for the people who are closest to you. Thanks for sharing your story again :)
It took me years to work my way out of that closet. I think its a learning curve for everyone! But with what you're doing here, I think we have only good things to expect of the future. The world is changing :)
If you ever wanna talk about it with ppl who are feeling the same way we made in instagram just for that. @ntilfam where we created a whatsapp chat group and we're all not alone . 🙃
I'm one of your straight viewers in your channel, I am not gay. I am happy for your recomingout story with more perspective on it, this would be great my friends who are gay. +nowthisisliving
Okay so I ship every gay couple, I watch shows because there are gay people in it I'm 14 and never had like a real boyfriend or anything and only have female celebrity crushes and no interests in guys.. okay shit there is probably a change I'm gay??
hey you don't have to label yourself if you don't want to. you are you. you like who you like and that's ok and whether it be girl or guy. you shouldn't feel pressured to figure it out. 💓
Have to put not interested on the rest of the links. 🤔 Love her to death, but I'm just too celibate not to understand all this stuff. Watched it three times? Know how she feels. = None of business is unless you're true to her. Beautiful because she's perfect, just not concerned with the same things that happen to us all.
Coming out as transgender to myself was hard. I had suspicions that I was different my whole life, but I didn't always understand it. I pretty much knew when I was 18 beyond a shadow of a doubt, but I was in complete and total denial. It wasn't until I was 32 (2 years ago)that I started learning to accept myself. As I made progress, the transgender issue came up again and this time I explored it. Once I accepted it things moved fast. At first I said that I could deal with it in my private life. Well it only took 2 weeks before I couldn't do it anymore. It became the only part of my life with any meaning. I told my parents and one of my sisters. This was mid June 2014. By August everyone knew and by September I was living full time. It hasn't always been easy, but my life makes so much more sense now.
thanks so much for sharing your story 🙏🙏🙏 im in greek life at a big southern school and never thought coming out was even an option until hearing your story. you're an inspiration to so many people ❤️
It's always so cool for me hearing about other people in greek life. I'm so glad my story could help you! I hope you're killing the game in that greek life :) lol
I'm struggling to know what I am, am I Gay or Asexual? Am I asexual homoromantic or just asexual and aromantic... I'm SO TIRED of trying to figure it out 😪
after this video i went to me mom and dad and said hey so im bisexual and they just hugged me , best feeling ever!ty and i have been a fan of your vids for a while!
The message in this video is so important Shannon. I came out a few years ago and have watched you for quite some time now. Looking at the transitions you have gone through resonate so much with me. Thank you for showing me that coming out isn't a one step process and that my comfort in my sexuality will have to grow as I get older as well. Please keep doing this and sharing your life.
Because of you I had the courage to come out to my friends and family just recently. I was not comfortable with myself with who I am ever since I started to realize in the 7th grade while being at one of my friends sleepover party until now. I had kept on hiding that part of me from everyone I knew only because I was being picked on everyday for being a foreigner and my english was not that great at the time I thought to myself that I didnt want to give people another reason to pick on me so I just hid away and did the "normal" things like dating a guy and which none of them lasted more then a month I never wanted to do the couple's things or anything. I just wanted to say thank you for posting your coming out video it has helped me tremendously!
You're amazing. Thank you so much for sharing your story it's so great to hear other peoples perspectives and what they've gone through. You should be proud of yourself
It took me some time (years) to be poud of who I am because I thought that it was shameful and wrong of me to love someone that is the same sex. It took me a while that those thoughts were not my own they were what my school mates and their families thinking and believed. Now since I have watched your videos (some ridiculously hilarious by the way lol) I saw how happy you were and are with who you are and I thought to myself if she can be happy with who she is then who's to say that I can't? so thank you so much for all that you have done! I know that we are total strangers but I sure hope in the future that should I have the chance to meet you I would have the courage to walk up to you and express my up most greatest gratitude. You have helped me change into the person I was ment to be. Thank you! xoxo
🙏🏻 PRAY FOR ME!!! I'll tell my dad about me being gay tomorrow, don't pray, just think about me tomorrow and wish me luck, btw im val that loves you for an experiment
Woah this video takes me back.... Two years ago I found your channel through your old coming out video. I was in the closet in that phase where you search youtube and watch every coming out video you can find. I came out at the start of 2015 (almost two years ago good lord) and in August I turned 18 and got a really sick pride tattoo 🏳️🌈 Its so cool to think back on how I felt when I saw this video and where I am now. I came out, got my first girlfriend, went through a breakup and next year I'm headed to a big liberal city for university. I'm so excited for the future and I hope all you sweet gaybies and closeted kids watch this video and read these comments and see that everything is going to be okay. This community is bomb and we're all waiting for you, love love love ❤️❤️
Shannon you inspire me everyday and there aren't enough words in the dictionary to say how much I love you. that's so cheesy but it's true. even if i am like 5 years old coming out was such a hard thing for me, mostly because of growing up hearing it was wrong. I am 100% okay with who I am and I have you to thank. meeting you was honestly the best thing that has ever happened to me and I love you so much. thank you for posting and sharing your story with us.
Dear Shannon, I would like to say that over so many years you have helped me with a lot of things. I have trouble in life with my sexuality and other things. I have been gay since as long as i can remember and all my friends know but the hardest thing is keeping it from your parents. Especially cause my oldest sister is and she isn't allowed any where near the house. Keeping all these secrets is stressful and i can hardly sleep at night because of all the stress. But when i watch your videos it makes me feel better because i get a lot of good advice and i just wanted to thank you for everything. You are the best and i love you hopefully one day i get to meet you in person!
I just came out and it feels so good to finally be able to live my life as myself. I want to thank you for inspiring me and encouraging me everyday. I love ya
I literally screamed at the lesbian Hannah Montana part and the pray the gay away part😂 You're such an inspiration Shan. So grateful for you, really. Love you x.
Shannon!!! Ahhh I'm so proud/happy for you!!! I know it might seem weird since you don't know me and don't even know I exist but I feel like you've let the world in through your videos, and various social media accounts and in that way I feel like I know pieces of who you are. I hope you understand. :) I know this video was about your coming out video, but after I finished watching this video the first thing I thought of was the video you recorded of the talk with your mom. I feel like everything has come full circle. 2 years ago your mom was telling you that 'it gets better'. And how she thinks it's great that you make your videos to help others in the same situation. That was such a raw, genuine, powerful video imo. You can tell how much she loves you, wants the best for you and cares for you so incredibly much. Mothers seem to feel so much pain when their kids can't see how great they are and how much they have to offer the world. They seem to be hurt so deeply and are frusturated when we can't see ourselves the way that they see us. It was such an emotional video and I think it was very brave for you (And Queen Deb) to share it. And now here you are looking back making a video confidently telling others 'it gets better'. You are speaking from two more years that were full of a wide spectrum of life/human experiences and are living proof that it truly does keep getting better. There is no better way to inspire others imo than to have lived through hard times and come out (no pun intended lol jk) the other side stronger, more motivated, and embracing the journey of life and all it has to offer. It is impactful, honest, and so kind of you to want to help others. Anyway, I've rambled on long enough. I wish we were friends, but I'm not cool enough to hang out with you haha. Maybe I'll at least get to meet you someday if I fly out to vidcon or something or if you come back to Hawaii and I'm not off island at the time hehe. 💙💙💙 😎✌
Dutchman lesbians are attracted to women romantically and sexually. Pretty much the same reason straight men like women. It's not that complicated bro. You're just REALLY ignorant. But for me, I like femininity. Soft skin. Curves. Breasts. Just everything about a female turns me on. I get crushes on girls, I've fallen in love with girls, the same way other people fall in love with whatever gender they prefer or are attracted to. It's obviously different than "friend" love. Duh. Hope that helps .
I totally understand what u mean, not being totally comfortable even after you come out of the closet, coming out in high school was waaay easier than doing it in med school. getting a good group of friends always helps indeed! a big hug to you Shannon, thanks for the video.
I love you so much.. You drastically changed the way I see homosexuality. Before I was like "oh this is horrible.. It makes me so uncomfortable blablabla.." Especially since I grew up with a dad kind of not okay with this idea. Now I am just like "wtf I like this girl, I am so attracted to her and there is nothing I can do about it" (it can be a girl or a boy lol) So now I just "follow what I want" I never really cared about people but just the fact that I can accept that I like girls relieve me soooo much.
I think I never fell in love with anybody tho.. buuuutt I'm okay with the fact that I am bisexual ! I know that absolutely nothing is wrong with me even if sometimes some people want to say the opposite
I've never cried while watching a youtube video until now. I didn't realize how much i needed to hear what you said in the last few minutes of the video, until the words were coming out of your mouth, and the tears started rolling. Thank you so much for putting into words exactly how i feel and for making the thought of coming out a little bit more realistic for me. i love you so much! ps. I'm praying that i get to meet you this saturday at ACL
I cried watching youtube videos all the time back in the day, so I know exactly what you mean. I hope I get to meet you too!! keep updated on my twitter!
Honestly as someone still in the process of coming out this is so helpful!! Seeing how much has changed for you in two years just makes me excited for what's to come in the future and excited to get to that place of confidence and acceptance with myself 💜💜💜
I've recently realized I'm lesbian and it's still confusing me about my sexuality, and I'm still coming to terms with it. It's really hard because I'd always assumed I was straight and that being gay, or lesbian, was a choice. I know now that it's not a choice after some time of becoming educated on the subject and such, but the worst part of it all is I've been brought up thinking that being homosexual was a 'lifestyle' and a sin, and wrong in God's eyes.. and that I might go to hell for it. I love God but I'm really worried that He will... well.. let me go.. if you know what I mean.. My entire family thinks it's wrong and sinful still, and I don't want them to hate me. I've been lesbian for a long time now, and I think I've just not realized it. I remember being attracted to a girl I saw when I was out shopping and my immediate thoughts were like 'oh fuck no this can't be happening, I can't be gay, being gay is wrong and God thinks it's wrong' And I sort of stamped the thought of it out that way. And I think that's when the first time I noticed. But the truth is, I'd always assumed that I was straight because that's what I was taught, but yeah... I think I've always been lesbian and just not known it. And lately, though I've been denying and trying to lie to myself, I want a girlfriend. I want to spend the rest of my life with another woman. And... that's pretty much how I know that.. I'm lesbian and have been. It's hard. It's hard, and I have no clue if I'll ever be allowed to be myself or if my family or myself will ever be able to accept it. I hope God doesn't hate me and still loves and accepts me despite the fact of me being born gay.... And that I won't be punished or go to hell for it. I'm so scared right now I just don't even know anymore.. But if anyone can offer any advice or help to me please do. I'm half way between really hating it, and denying it, and trying to come to terms with it.
Molten Kitty the way I️ see it is that God created everyone including you the way he wanted with so much love and this thing you can’t change about yourself (being gay) is something he made happen as well. I️ think if you love full heartedly and live peacefully you won’t be punished because love is love.
THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO. I'm Mexican I'm 19 years and I grew up in a very religious family that encourages even macho culture and homophobia, I live in a city that is known for being conservative... and yes I am gay. I come out for the first time with my best friend later with some people from my school but I pond, I felt like I could not move forward with my process of getting out, I just finished watching the video and OMG I'm really crying it was like a huge breath oxygen to keep going. I know it will not be easy but I want to stop feeling that I'm pretending to be someone I'm not. I'm still scared but I need to do this, not today, not next week, maybe not this year or next but I will. So thanks for this video Shannon I really needed to have some support.
They will come around... just think Shannon needed 4 hears JUST to come out to HERSELF. So ...parents/family and friends may need time to adjust to the idea. Plus I'm not sure if you're young but unfortunately if someone is people sometimes think it may be a phase or just confused etc. Each and EVERY person that loves & TRULY cares about you WILL come around in time(some much faster than others). Hang in there hun..😕 💙❤💜💚
I am currently in the closet but I have been planning on coming out to my four best friends on October 11th for national coming out day (it's in one day omg). We have this journal that we take turns writing in and then we get together on the weekends to read what we wrote. I thought it might be a good idea to come out to them in the journal, that way when we get together and read it, I won't have to find the courage to come out to them verbally but I will still be there for us to maybe talk about things afterwards. I was just wondering if y'all thought this was a good way to come out and if y'all have any advice or suggestions for me. I'm so so nervous!
Thank you. Thank you for making me feel more normal and make me feel like it gets better after you come out. It's taken me over 3 years to come out to myself and im still not 100% sure and happy. Thank you for giving me someone to relate to and helping me feel loved.
You and your videos have made the biggest difference to my life. You helped make me be more comfortable with myself. Just seeing how a normal person can get over so many things and do so many things is awesome and really really helps. No matter how cheesy this sounds. I love ya Shan xxx
I cannot wait until 2 years from now. I'm where you were at two years ago.. Literally exactly the same. I wrote a letter to my dad, told my mom, same way of realizing it, remember looking in the mirror and telling myself the SAME way. Didn't want to be gay, joined a sorority, didn't like it at all, dated a guy freshman year of college.. Eh. Crazy religious friends that I'm horrified to tell... So same boat, I'm amazed that we have such similar stories BUT you've made me SO excited for two years from now. I can't wait. Thank you for giving me something to look forward to Shannon.
I thought I was confident and strong about who I really am but it turns out I'm not. I still have this feeling that I'm doing something wrong and it sucks! So this feeling is mutual. I can't wait for the struggle to be over because I'm tired and very frustrated.
you're truly amazing! i wish i had these kinds of videos to get me through my coming out, but just knowing that there are many of you out here on the interwebs sharing your stories and making it easier for the coming generations make you that much more inspirational in my eyes.. keep being you! LOVE YOU!
You're amazing! I came out as bissexual 4 years ago and it's still not easy cuz I get a lot of "oh that's a phase, oh that's a fetish, oh you just THINK you like girls", it's pretty hurtful when it comes from people you care about. It took me a long time to be okay with who I am cuz after years of bullying I just wanted to fit in the crowd and being bi, I thought, would mean I wouldn't fit in with the general population.
Today in class my professor kept saying being LGBT+ is a "choice" and I ended up having an argument w her in the middle of class... pretty sure they all know I'm gay now and I'm not sure how I feel about that lol. I really needed this video today.
Bridget Rao hope everything gets better
Bridget Rao Good for you girl. It's important to say what you feel is necessary especially when people bash the LGBT community like that. It's fucked up and it's definitely not a choice like you said.
Katy Weaver thank you ❤️ I ended up meeting some LGBT people within the class bc they were thanking me for saying something, so it all balances out! Pretty sure my professor hates me now but whatever :p
Stand up for what you believe in, Bridget! Really proud of you for what you did. Don't feel like you need to hide who you are. Stay strong and keep rockin, beautiful! xx
Beatrice Lim thank you, appreciate it!! xxxx
YES I DO WISH MY GIRLFRIEND WAS HOT LIKE YOU SHANNON!! even tho i dont have one :/
Also. Very insperational
Panda247_weirdo uhh same i wish someone liked me, I'm just an irrelevant single, gay girl D:
XxItsLaylaxX Msp You're not irrelevant...
Estrella Gonzalez Same 😂
omg you have 666 likes that's scary
I think every gay person had that moment when they look in the mirror and say out loud "I'm gay" and it's interesting actually
Ruby A. it's really fun, though
You're one of the main reasons why I'm so comfortable being who I am. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Queen Of Rad omg same
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I realized how much I love you at 00:00
this is the cutest thing
getcamren omg same man
YESSSSSSSSSSSSS
CAMREN IS REAL
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I basically walked into my mom's room, sat down and said: "so yeah, I'm bisexual" and then made my fabulous exit saying "BYEEEEE"
hahaha that's awesome :'D
Sarah Grueso that's amazing :)
Sarah Grueso , 😂That's cool (: ♡ I would do the same, but my mother would probably try to slap me straight. ;-;
Richlyn Gleise if you need a bodyguard, hit me up
*something creative* SAME
Not usually someone who comments on things, but really just wanted to say thank you..nice knowing there are others out there who went through similar situations.
You're comment is very much so appreciated :)
sameee this helped so much because I related to a lot of things she said it realky helps knowing there is others
Your, ❤ love you Shan.
youre so beautiful😍
I don't normally comment on here, but I rewatched the first video before I saw this and I felt compelled to share this with both you and your followers. In your first video, you talk about telling me and you say, "for her it was really no big deal." For the record, and since it seems I didn't say it then, I think you should know that that little side comment, "so I'm gay", was the most proud I had ever been of you up until that point. To see you claim that part of your identity, a part of your identity I had known about and we had talked about indirectly for so long, was so inspiring and powerful. Remembering that moment still gives me chills. And it's one of the greatest honors of my life that you wanted to tell me first. I share this here because I think it's important that people who are considering coming out know: for the people closest to you, the people you know will love you no matter what, the hardest thing is to watch you in pain. I had to get past my own fears of other people being shitty to you, because as your big sister I have always been the only person allowed to give you shit! But once I did that, I was just waiting on the edge of my seat for you to love yourself as much as I loved you, in all of your pieces. I'm so grateful to be your big sister and I love you so much. xo
Sweet Casey B. Love you!
Casey Beveridge I'm crying, this is so cute 😭❤
Oh my god, why did I overlook this comment?!?!?! Reading this makes me cry to death.
Casey Beveridge I'm crying
Casey Beveridge I’m the hundredth like on this comment
she is so good looking it burns my eyes
"The lesbian Hannah Montana"
...Miley Cyrus?
*just a joke, yo*
LOL
Abby Reinert lol you're funny
I tried too, it was driving me crazy
its kinda funny cuz Miley Cyrus is pansexual 😂
Also! To any closeted lgbt+ people reading this, if you don't see yourself coming out soon or at all in the near future, that's perfectly okay and good!! the entire concept of coming out is a result of our incredibly heteronormative society and it's not up to you to partake in it if you don't fit it. and im so proud of you. being in the closet is nothing to feel bad about and your comfort and protection and feelings always come first. i love yall and be safe
thank u sm
In all seriousness, this is one of the most genuinely spoken videos I've ever seen. Gosh I'm so proud of you! Such a perfect little confident happy turtle 🐢
you're so cute!! in all seriousness, thank you :)
I'm glad you're becoming more confident in yourself everyday. It's a journey for everyone in your situation and other situations for people who for whatever reason don't fit into the "typical mode" of what people expect. I hope everyone out there can get to the point where they can be happy being themselves. Love you!
Thanks mom! I love you! Thanks for being so amazing. You're a role model for moms everywhere!
Debbie Beveridge Aww Deb! 😭😭❤️
Debbie Beveridge that's so cute😭😭
omg hey Debbie. i love you so much
Debbie Beveridge QUEEN DEBB 👸🏼
"don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me" at the beginning hahaha. That was funny for some reason
Steph Eileen haha like um yes i do
Its a song from the pussycat dolls called "don't cha" look them up I used to love them when i was younger help me my childhood was either terrible or amazing I can't decide XD
Lol the real dutchman always says "I don't get it?!" on the comments I post on lesbian UA-camrs' videos. I think he likes to playfully troll me sometimes 😜
I genuinely cried omg, I love you so much baby
I lov you so much!!
nowthisisliving you have a new girlfriend?!?!
My coming out story is so boring, if I could even call it that. My parents still don't know and only one of my sisters do (and I'm 20), but I know they'd be cool with it. I just don't find it necessary to come out to people. I want to one day bring home the girl I like and tell my parents I like this girl, then they'll just nod and start asking the usual embarrassing, parent question. It will casually come out in a conversation with people who don't know me so well, which has happened a lot with my co-workers, and I'll be like "Yeah, I don't like men." And they're pretty cool with it. It's still hard to wrap my head around that some people hate when two people of the same sex love each other, so that's why I think "coming out" is unnecessary. But to everyone who does have that problem and are scared or bullied, stay strong. You are loved. :)
Chantelle Dawn that's how I came out. Just introduced my gf as my gf and that was that.
Chantelle Dawn Hi CVLT 👀🤘🏻
Sara Vaqueiro Ayyyy :)
Same viewpoint, opinion Chantelle. :)
Awesome! If you want someone to talk to, hit me on insta and twitter @tereflo92 :)
"I was the lesbian Hannah Montana"
That quote is iconic
😂
Hey shannon so I watched this in the library on my phone and after a really long exhausting day i really needed a break and watched your video. It made me feel warm and comfortable for once inside, and at the end your words just hit me so hard and i almost cried. thank you. I love you.
I know exactly how that feels.. I'm so glad it could bring you some comfort. love you xo
❤️ ❤️ ❤️
that's a wonderful response. how are you doing this weekend?
"I was the lesbian Hannah Montana" omg this is so funny, but like me too so who am I kidding
imtzm18 hahah me to
how the f**k are people able to so easily come out casually? It's so hard -____-
it gets easier everytime you do it
You'll get there.... honestly
linjmee85 you get used to, by the time you've came out to all your friends and family and meet someone new you'll be like "hello my name's gay"
once you tell the important people in your life, it doesn't matter after that! if they don't want to be your friend, it is their lost. When you meet new people such as university/college, say that you went on date with a girl last night or for i say that i use to have short hair but then i grew it out cause i didn't want to look like a lesbian. now i am just a lesbian with long hair. work it into the conversation.
I'm Asian and it's also one million time harder when I knew my parents have a different look about homosexuality - they may get a heart attack and kick me out =.=''
I'm a 50 year old gay guy in London England watching this and feeling very heart warmed - much love to you Shannon and your positive energy will help many others on their journey
honestly the best UA-camr, such an inspiration💓
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She's our favorite, too
If feels amazing to go down and read the comment section and realize that your not alone, that there's people out there just like you who are going through the same thing, whenever I feel alone I just always come and read comments from your videos and it makes me feel better to see that I'm not the only one in the world who is different
Jacky Herrejon right
Jacky Herrejon yeah
hi
Tyler
18 and 19
Shannon, your words are beautiful. You should be extremely proud of yourself every day. Xx
+Annie Ford ..ya she should be proud of what she is. She makes me feel that I am not the only one having struggles in coming out.....
Just started college this fall, still in the process of coming out to my family. Your advice is always helpful and appreciated. Thank you for existing, I love you!
Riley Henry just same
Only come out when you're comfortable and feel ready. You have a whole community here who will support you until you are ready
You did a sit down, Shan :) Reminds me of the first video of yours I watched #Labels in the park. Yeah!!! Been here since 2012. Happy four years to us :) Literally from my last two high school years into my first three uni years.
I love you. And thank you.
omg ANCIENT! I haven't watched that video in forever.... I love you!
nowthisisliving
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amazing video Shannon, we love you :)
OMG i had no idea you were gay!1!!!1!!!1!!! 😱😱😱😨😨 I am truly SHOCKED AND SHOOK
Shelby Love you must be kidding right😂!
RIGHT
Hahaha ikr
nowthisisliving I've only been following you for a little over 2 years and I had no idea! 😨 you were very good at hiding it, I never had any clue!!!11!!!1!!! omg
i love your icon Shelby
I think we should all just get on some chat room and talk to eachother , we could all connect .. We are all here because of Shannon. Lets all be here for eachother tooo!
Who's with me ?
I love Shannon , and I also love you guys! #nowthisisliving fambam where you at ?! . 😘🙏🏻
Yesenia Alfaro truuuuue dude!!!! Definitely I agree with you.
Yesenia Alfaro that would be so amazing! That definitely needs to be a thing!
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thats the best idea!!
'A lesbian Hannah Montana'. Right, I wish I didn't understand this reference
Honestly, I didn't. Still don't.
Anyone care to explain?
im actually crying. shannon youre such a blessing. this is exactly what i needed to hear in my life right now. actually crying shan. love you too
its crazy how the universe works. how did it get me to watch this video at the exact moment that i needed to hear those words? my mind cannot process this.
love you Shannon glad you made this
also your eyebrows look great
"I'm gonna pray the gay awaaaaaay" I laughed waaaay too hard at this
What the lovely person here..♡
Wow, I love what you're doing with your channel. You've inspired me, and I'm already out! I completely agree with what you said. Even if people seem like they may not be okay with you being gay, usually all it takes is for them to realize that you are still the same person no matter what. Coming out is a journey not only for you but also for the people who are closest to you. Thanks for sharing your story again :)
Oh I love that. "coming out is a journey not only for you but also for the people who are closest to you" COULD NOT BE MORE TRUE
Hello girl💗💜💖💚❤💛💗💜❤💚💖
Hello girl💗💜💖💚❤💛💗💜❤💚💖
Yeah. Rachael is pretty damn smart haha. Full of wisdom.
It took me years to work my way out of that closet. I think its a learning curve for everyone! But with what you're doing here, I think we have only good things to expect of the future. The world is changing :)
Idk what I am, seriously
Lily Soundtracks that's ok! Sometimes it takes time to figure this out :).
It's okay to not know. You don't have to label yourself if you don't want to. Just do whatever makes you happy!
i feel the same way
Lily Soundtracks labels aren't important. Being happy is. 😊
If you ever wanna talk about it with ppl who are feeling the same way we made in instagram just for that. @ntilfam where we created a whatsapp chat group and we're all not alone . 🙃
I'm one of your straight viewers in your channel, I am not gay. I am happy for your recomingout story with more perspective on it, this would be great my friends who are gay. +nowthisisliving
Hey thank you so much! I appreciate that!
Still straight? 😉
Okay so I ship every gay couple, I watch shows because there are gay people in it I'm 14 and never had like a real boyfriend or anything and only have female celebrity crushes and no interests in guys.. okay shit there is probably a change I'm gay??
Don't stress! 14 is super young to have it all together. Take your time, try stuff. You'll figure it out :)
Lisa Jansen I'm fourteen, and gay, go at your own pace man
I'm 19 and every single day I question myself, so relax and enjoy life hahahah one day you'll be 100% sure of your sexuality
hey
hey you don't have to label yourself if you don't want to. you are you. you like who you like and that's ok and whether it be girl or guy. you shouldn't feel pressured to figure it out. 💓
CLICKED THAT NOTIFICATION SO FAST
sammee!
Zach & Evan Me Thooo
Have to put not interested on the rest of the links. 🤔 Love her to death, but I'm just too celibate not to understand all this stuff. Watched it three times? Know how she feels. = None of business is unless you're true to her. Beautiful because she's perfect, just not concerned with the same things that happen to us all.
Coming out as transgender to myself was hard. I had suspicions that I was different my whole life, but I didn't always understand it. I pretty much knew when I was 18 beyond a shadow of a doubt, but I was in complete and total denial. It wasn't until I was 32 (2 years ago)that I started learning to accept myself. As I made progress, the transgender issue came up again and this time I explored it. Once I accepted it things moved fast. At first I said that I could deal with it in my private life. Well it only took 2 weeks before I couldn't do it anymore. It became the only part of my life with any meaning. I told my parents and one of my sisters. This was mid June 2014. By August everyone knew and by September I was living full time. It hasn't always been easy, but my life makes so much more sense now.
thanks so much for sharing your story 🙏🙏🙏 im in greek life at a big southern school and never thought coming out was even an option until hearing your story. you're an inspiration to so many people ❤️
It's always so cool for me hearing about other people in greek life. I'm so glad my story could help you! I hope you're killing the game in that greek life :) lol
I'm struggling to know what I am, am I Gay or Asexual? Am I asexual homoromantic or just asexual and aromantic... I'm SO TIRED of trying to figure it out 😪
One day you will know. Just do whatever makes you happy. No need for a label if you feel you do not fit into one!
L. NADO you don't have to label yourself
L. NADO when you know you'll just know
Watch MilesChronicles, they will help u A LOT... I promise🙂
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after this video i went to me mom and dad and said hey so im bisexual and they just hugged me , best feeling ever!ty and i have been a fan of your vids for a while!
Omggggg south of nowhere!! Ashleyyyyyyyyyyy was such a babe
omg ashley xx ❤👌
and Spencer too!!
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The message in this video is so important Shannon. I came out a few years ago and have watched you for quite some time now. Looking at the transitions you have gone through resonate so much with me. Thank you for showing me that coming out isn't a one step process and that my comfort in my sexuality will have to grow as I get older as well. Please keep doing this and sharing your life.
Kaeley Stout so cool
"pray the gay away" same girl same.
Yea same.
that great song at the beginning should be on iTunes😂
lorena a.o yes 😂😂
lorena a.o YAS
Because of you I had the courage to come out to my friends and family just recently. I was not comfortable with myself with who I am ever since I started to realize in the 7th grade while being at one of my friends sleepover party until now. I had kept on hiding that part of me from everyone I knew only because I was being picked on everyday for being a foreigner and my english was not that great at the time I thought to myself that I didnt want to give people another reason to pick on me so I just hid away and did the "normal" things like dating a guy and which none of them lasted more then a month I never wanted to do the couple's things or anything. I just wanted to say thank you for posting your coming out video it has helped me tremendously!
You're amazing. Thank you so much for sharing your story it's so great to hear other peoples perspectives and what they've gone through. You should be proud of yourself
It took me some time (years) to be poud of who I am because I thought that it was shameful and wrong of me to love someone that is the same sex. It took me a while that those thoughts were not my own they were what my school mates and their families thinking and believed. Now since I have watched your videos (some ridiculously hilarious by the way lol) I saw how happy you were and are with who you are and I thought to myself if she can be happy with who she is then who's to say that I can't? so thank you so much for all that you have done! I know that we are total strangers but I sure hope in the future that should I have the chance to meet you I would have the courage to walk up to you and express my up most greatest gratitude. You have helped me change into the person I was ment to be. Thank you! xoxo
"I love you. Stay strong. I'm thinking about you, bud." Ugh. My fave. So much love.
I would never be the person I am today without you!! Thank you! I love you ❤️
🙏🏻 PRAY FOR ME!!! I'll tell my dad about me being gay tomorrow, don't pray, just think about me tomorrow and wish me luck, btw im val that loves you for an experiment
I GOT YOU VAL!!! You got this!
nowthisisliving thank you, ill keep you posted if you want, of course. You are amazing. THANKS🙈 IM NERVOUS!!!
I'm praying! I understand it can be so scary
Jordan Hamilton thanks Jordan, also wish me luck, it could be baaaaaaaaaad tho😂😂!!
hi I'm Val too👋
I know this is an older video and you'll prob never see this, but i just wanted to say thank you because i really needed this today.
nowthisisshannon 😍👌🏻
Odalys Amaguaya yas
Woah this video takes me back.... Two years ago I found your channel through your old coming out video. I was in the closet in that phase where you search youtube and watch every coming out video you can find. I came out at the start of 2015 (almost two years ago good lord) and in August I turned 18 and got a really sick pride tattoo 🏳️🌈 Its so cool to think back on how I felt when I saw this video and where I am now. I came out, got my first girlfriend, went through a breakup and next year I'm headed to a big liberal city for university. I'm so excited for the future and I hope all you sweet gaybies and closeted kids watch this video and read these comments and see that everything is going to be okay. This community is bomb and we're all waiting for you, love love love ❤️❤️
love and miss you, girl. you're beautiful inside and out!
Shannon you inspire me everyday and there aren't enough words in the dictionary to say how much I love you. that's so cheesy but it's true. even if i am like 5 years old coming out was such a hard thing for me, mostly because of growing up hearing it was wrong. I am 100% okay with who I am and I have you to thank. meeting you was honestly the best thing that has ever happened to me and I love you so much. thank you for posting and sharing your story with us.
oh yeah I love you ❤️ oops I said that already
"THINKING ABOUT YOU BUD" hit me so hard I've never felt so loved
Dear Shannon,
I would like to say that over so many years you have helped me with a lot of things. I have trouble in life with my sexuality and other things. I have been gay since as long as i can remember and all my friends know but the hardest thing is keeping it from your parents. Especially cause my oldest sister is and she isn't allowed any where near the house. Keeping all these secrets is stressful and i can hardly sleep at night because of all the stress. But when i watch your videos it makes me feel better because i get a lot of good advice and i just wanted to thank you for everything. You are the best and i love you hopefully one day i get to meet you in person!
Hi I'm so sorry I hope things are better now:)
I'm not even religious and damn I tried to pray the gay away 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 but yeah it did not work, sorry mum.
I'm so proud of you Shan. I love you to the moon and back, you're such an inspiration. You're the best ❤️
I love you back!!
I just came out and it feels so good to finally be able to live my life as myself. I want to thank you for inspiring me and encouraging me everyday. I love ya
shannon please come to germany i would really like to meet you
TheArianaGrandeFan yes come to Germany soon pls and thx 🙏
TheArianaGrandeFan do it please!! Bitteeee
Yup please come to germany😍
I love Shannons eyebrows
When you say "I love you" like that, I really feel it.
You help us a lot. You give us confident. I love you Shan.
I literally screamed at the lesbian Hannah Montana part and the pray the gay away part😂
You're such an inspiration Shan. So grateful for you, really. Love you x.
Shannon!!! Ahhh I'm so proud/happy for you!!! I know it might seem weird since you don't know me and don't even know I exist but I feel like you've let the world in through your videos, and various social media accounts and in that way I feel like I know pieces of who you are. I hope you understand. :)
I know this video was about your coming out video, but after I finished watching this video the first thing I thought of was the video you recorded of the talk with your mom.
I feel like everything has come full circle. 2 years ago your mom was telling you that 'it gets better'. And how she thinks it's great that you make your videos to help others in the same situation. That was such a raw, genuine, powerful video imo. You can tell how much she loves you, wants the best for you and cares for you so incredibly much. Mothers seem to feel so much pain when their kids can't see how great they are and how much they have to offer the world. They seem to be hurt so deeply and are frusturated when we can't see ourselves the way that they see us. It was such an emotional video and I think it was very brave for you (And Queen Deb) to share it.
And now here you are looking back making a video confidently telling others 'it gets better'. You are speaking from two more years that were full of a wide spectrum of life/human experiences and are living proof that it truly does keep getting better. There is no better way to inspire others imo than to have lived through hard times and come out (no pun intended lol jk) the other side stronger, more motivated, and embracing the journey of life and all it has to offer. It is impactful, honest, and so kind of you to want to help others.
Anyway, I've rambled on long enough. I wish we were friends, but I'm not cool enough to hang out with you haha. Maybe I'll at least get to meet you someday if I fly out to vidcon or something or if you come back to Hawaii and I'm not off island at the time hehe.
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So true. It does get better. Thanks for your comments!
Dutchman lesbians are attracted to women romantically and sexually. Pretty much the same reason straight men like women. It's not that complicated bro. You're just REALLY ignorant. But for me, I like femininity. Soft skin. Curves. Breasts. Just everything about a female turns me on. I get crushes on girls, I've fallen in love with girls, the same way other people fall in love with whatever gender they prefer or are attracted to. It's obviously different than "friend" love. Duh. Hope that helps .
I totally understand what u mean, not being totally comfortable even after you come out of the closet, coming out in high school was waaay easier than doing it in med school. getting a good group of friends always helps indeed! a big hug to you Shannon, thanks for the video.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 love you more than you will ever know
am i the only one who sees the red dots or is it my phone?
haha i thought i was the only one who saw the dots
Not your phone, its either her cam or something in her room that draws those dots. Once I saw them I couldnt unsee them.
clexa trash it's cause her camera has burned pixels. she'll either have to replace her lens/camera or maybe get it repaired
I THOUGHT THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG WITH MY LAPTOP OKAY
clexa trash clexa yess
i'm so proud of you, you have inspired me sosososo much i love you shannon THANK YOU
You're truly inspiring Shan! 😎
I have been with my gf for over 8 years and I have NEVER had the talk with my mom. She knows about us. We just don't bring it up. 😔
Yep, im definitely gay.
Lupe Gamer i am too and that's okay
Lupe Gamer i am too dw ;)
Lupe Gamer yup me three
me four!
This is so genuine.... what an awesome person you are :)
I love you so much.. You drastically changed the way I see homosexuality. Before I was like "oh this is horrible.. It makes me so uncomfortable blablabla.." Especially since I grew up with a dad kind of not okay with this idea. Now I am just like "wtf I like this girl, I am so attracted to her and there is nothing I can do about it" (it can be a girl or a boy lol) So now I just "follow what I want" I never really cared about people but just the fact that I can accept that I like girls relieve me soooo much.
I think I never fell in love with anybody tho.. buuuutt I'm okay with the fact that I am bisexual ! I know that absolutely nothing is wrong with me even if sometimes some people want to say the opposite
It's hard to come to this realization. But you have, so I'm proud of you bud!!
I've never cried while watching a youtube video until now. I didn't realize how much i needed to hear what you said in the last few minutes of the video, until the words were coming out of your mouth, and the tears started rolling. Thank you so much for putting into words exactly how i feel and for making the thought of coming out a little bit more realistic for me. i love you so much!
ps. I'm praying that i get to meet you this saturday at ACL
I cried watching youtube videos all the time back in the day, so I know exactly what you mean. I hope I get to meet you too!! keep updated on my twitter!
I will! thank you so much for everything you do, you mean a lot to so many people.
Honestly as someone still in the process of coming out this is so helpful!! Seeing how much has changed for you in two years just makes me excited for what's to come in the future and excited to get to that place of confidence and acceptance with myself 💜💜💜
"I was the lesbian hannah montana" LOL I love you so much
also kinda same
#NOWTHISISLIVING Squad where ya at though????????
keep being your selves guys never try to change who you are just so you can please someone els.
Thank you so much for this!
I've recently realized I'm lesbian and it's still confusing me about my sexuality, and I'm still coming to terms with it. It's really hard because I'd always assumed I was straight and that being gay, or lesbian, was a choice. I know now that it's not a choice after some time of becoming educated on the subject and such, but the worst part of it all is I've been brought up thinking that being homosexual was a 'lifestyle' and a sin, and wrong in God's eyes.. and that I might go to hell for it. I love God but I'm really worried that He will... well.. let me go.. if you know what I mean.. My entire family thinks it's wrong and sinful still, and I don't want them to hate me. I've been lesbian for a long time now, and I think I've just not realized it. I remember being attracted to a girl I saw when I was out shopping and my immediate thoughts were like 'oh fuck no this can't be happening, I can't be gay, being gay is wrong and God thinks it's wrong' And I sort of stamped the thought of it out that way. And I think that's when the first time I noticed. But the truth is, I'd always assumed that I was straight because that's what I was taught, but yeah... I think I've always been lesbian and just not known it. And lately, though I've been denying and trying to lie to myself, I want a girlfriend. I want to spend the rest of my life with another woman. And... that's pretty much how I know that.. I'm lesbian and have been. It's hard. It's hard, and I have no clue if I'll ever be allowed to be myself or if my family or myself will ever be able to accept it. I hope God doesn't hate me and still loves and accepts me despite the fact of me being born gay.... And that I won't be punished or go to hell for it. I'm so scared right now I just don't even know anymore..
But if anyone can offer any advice or help to me please do. I'm half way between really hating it, and denying it, and trying to come to terms with it.
Molten Kitty how are you doing?
Molten Kitty the way I️ see it is that God created everyone including you the way he wanted with so much love and this thing you can’t change about yourself (being gay) is something he made happen as well. I️ think if you love full heartedly and live peacefully you won’t be punished because love is love.
THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO.
I'm Mexican I'm 19 years and I grew up in a very religious family that encourages even macho culture and homophobia, I live in a city that is known for being conservative... and yes I am gay.
I come out for the first time with my best friend later with some people from my school but I pond, I felt like I could not move forward with my process of getting out, I just finished watching the video and OMG I'm really crying it was like a huge breath oxygen to keep going.
I know it will not be easy but I want to stop feeling that I'm pretending to be someone I'm not.
I'm still scared but I need to do this, not today, not next week, maybe not this year or next but I will.
So thanks for this video Shannon
I really needed to have some support.
shan i was bout to go to sleep then u tweeted to comment so here i am just for you giving up my sleep bc my love for u > sleep duh
my love for you >>> everything
nowthisisliving LOVE YOUU goodnight thanks for making my night ❤️❤️❤️
I really hope my parents can someday accept me for who I am🙁 thanks Shan I loved the video🌸
They will come around... just think Shannon needed 4 hears JUST to come out to HERSELF. So ...parents/family and friends may need time to adjust to the idea. Plus I'm not sure if you're young but unfortunately if someone is people sometimes think it may be a phase or just confused etc.
Each and EVERY person that loves & TRULY cares about you WILL come around in time(some much faster than others). Hang in there hun..😕
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years***
I was JUST thinking "Man, I really need Shan to post a video soon" AND YOU DID!!! Love you, love your videos, keep it up!!
Hey thank you!!! Love yoU!
Omfg low key dying rn. Screaming and my roommate's judging me.
I just came out to friends but not my family. I don't know what to do.
i needed to see this today, 6 months after you posted this. Thank you for your openness and kind words of encouragement. you are incredibly impactful
I am currently in the closet but I have been planning on coming out to my four best friends on October 11th for national coming out day (it's in one day omg). We have this journal that we take turns writing in and then we get together on the weekends to read what we wrote. I thought it might be a good idea to come out to them in the journal, that way when we get together and read it, I won't have to find the courage to come out to them verbally but I will still be there for us to maybe talk about things afterwards. I was just wondering if y'all thought this was a good way to come out and if y'all have any advice or suggestions for me. I'm so so nervous!
Ryan Dennis how'd it go?
thanks shannon, i really needed this video. i've been struggling a lot with this lately. love you! you're super cool :)
I hope it helped :) you're super cool xo
it did fo sho! now i just need to do the damn thang already! haha
I wish I could thank you in person how much your videos have helped to gain confidence and feel more like myself. LOVE YOU SHANNON.
you are my inspiration i love you
I love you!
ITS MY 16TH BIRTHDAY TODAY!! Im planning on coming out to my family. Thank you soo much for inspiring me to be me
happy Birthday and best of luck
Beth Bill happy birthday
Happy birthday and good luck! You've got this!
Thank you. Thank you for making me feel more normal and make me feel like it gets better after you come out. It's taken me over 3 years to come out to myself and im still not 100% sure and happy. Thank you for giving me someone to relate to and helping me feel loved.
Coming out is a life time process :) Congrats for starting it, it will get better from it !
"I was the lesbian Hannah Montana" iconic
this is like the realest coming out video wow
You and your videos have made the biggest difference to my life. You helped make me be more comfortable with myself. Just seeing how a normal person can get over so many things and do so many things is awesome and really really helps. No matter how cheesy this sounds. I love ya Shan xxx
after i watched this i got emotional and ended up telling my mom i was gay. i just want to say thank you so much! your videos have helped me a lot
I cannot wait until 2 years from now. I'm where you were at two years ago.. Literally exactly the same. I wrote a letter to my dad, told my mom, same way of realizing it, remember looking in the mirror and telling myself the SAME way. Didn't want to be gay, joined a sorority, didn't like it at all, dated a guy freshman year of college.. Eh. Crazy religious friends that I'm horrified to tell... So same boat, I'm amazed that we have such similar stories BUT you've made me SO excited for two years from now. I can't wait. Thank you for giving me something to look forward to Shannon.
I love hearing this. I hope thinks start getting better immediately! xoxo
nowthisisliving I hope so too. If you're ever doing another meet up in NYC let us know! Missed the last one unfortunately thanks to class.
I thought I was confident and strong about who I really am but it turns out I'm not. I still have this feeling that I'm doing something wrong and it sucks! So this feeling is mutual. I can't wait for the struggle to be over because I'm tired and very frustrated.
10 seconds of video and I'm officially in love... again
Eyebrows on fleek Shan😎❤️
they are definitely moving around aren't they!
nowthisisliving that's cute 😍
Thank you for that video and... just for all. Thank you
you're truly amazing! i wish i had these kinds of videos to get me through my coming out, but just knowing that there are many of you out here on the interwebs sharing your stories and making it easier for the coming generations make you that much more inspirational in my eyes.. keep being you! LOVE YOU!
You're amazing!
I came out as bissexual 4 years ago and it's still not easy cuz I get a lot of "oh that's a phase, oh that's a fetish, oh you just THINK you like girls", it's pretty hurtful when it comes from people you care about. It took me a long time to be okay with who I am cuz after years of bullying I just wanted to fit in the crowd and being bi, I thought, would mean I wouldn't fit in with the general population.