my sorority advisor got married to her wife while i was still in my collegiate chapter and just knowing that there was someone else who had been in my sorority was also into girls and everyone was super okay with it and more than anything she was HAPPY, it was the most reassuring thing ever
Everything she is saying is so incredibly real and true and I couldn't be prouder to watch someone so strong and proud of who she is!!!! I love you Shan!
I remember how hard this was for you. I wanted so badly to help you work through this in the best possible way. Your sorority friends were so cool about it when you shared that with them. I think knowing you had your family and your sorority friends to support you was a big turning point for you. Love you so much!
Honestly Shan, I started watching your videos when i was in high school and once I came to college I decided that I wanted to be in a sorority and eventually decided to go TriDelta. I later found out that you were a Tridelta too (and i was obvi very happy). But I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you felt the way you felt while you were in the chapter, but for everyone that is reading this and wants to go greek and is super duper gay (like me). Being in a sorority was probably one of the best choices that I could've made while being in college, I came out to all of my sisters and everyone was so supportive and loving and I literally could've never found a better support system than them. We all have very different experiences so don't feel discouraged if you feel like you won't be accepted. Just be genuine and be yourself and the right people will be in your life because of it. LOL thats all of my rant. BBPB
So I was in a high school soro, and I came out and it was hard for me. Especially because the advisor over us was calling me all types of awful things and girls who I was friends with stopped talking to me... it made me question joining in college, but after reading this, and hearing Shannon's story I'm deciding to just go for it, because if I don't I'll regret it.
Her voice seemed to crack a lot and it seemed like she was really emotional through this whole video it made me emotional. Shannon we all love you and you help me be proud to be who I am, so thank you for that ❤️
Can i just say that i appreciate what a wonderful human being you are, and how i don't even know you, but in 8 minutes you are able to bring a smile to my face? Love you shannon ❤️
I almost started crying when she told about her friends being homophobic, because I'm in that situation right now, and it's so hard when i hear homophobic stuff from the ones that are closest to me and the most important to me. Makes me feel even more scared about coming out and being open about my sexuality, and i think about that so much and i get anxiety from it and it's just destroying me.
Harry is not on fire start with one friend, like she did. I had the same issue growing up. You aren't alone. Don't allow those thoughts to destroy you, because I assure you there are allies who are your friends. You just don't know it yet. Chin up.
Good luck Harry. Try to remember that even if it doesn't go well when you tell them or you're not able to find the courage whilst you're at school, it does get better.
One day I will come out and I will show Shannon's videos to my mom and tell her "look, she gave me strength when i couldn't come to you because i was too scared thinking that you will hate me for the things you used to say"
I can feel you. I too have no courage to come out to my family because they said a lot of things against us lgbtq people. it's painful, sad and lonely. So I decided to come out outright to my new friends I met in my post-grad college so that I don't have to pretend in front of them about my sexuality. They say it's fine but they sometimes makes comments (before) that you normally would not make infront of your lgbtq+ friend, which makes me sad.
fun story so today i was in class and the girl next to me was really cute and i was wondering if she was gay SO i casually opened my iPad that has a StillSane/Shannon screensaver on it so that she would see it (cause obviously a 20-year-old lesbian would know who Shannon is) and i just continued to take notes AND THEN SHE TALKED TO ME and NOW WE'RE LAB PARTNERS she gay
I completely agree, some people (everyone basically) says things they don't even mean, but it comes from being ignorant, and sometimes it takes someone you personally know being gay, trans, or whatever else to allow others to understand how their comments could be hurtful and harmful to those around them.
I feel like in some cases, people who are homophobic usually are the ones who are homosexual but are simply homophobic because they are taught that their feelings are "wrong". So that makes complete sense
I'm a freshman in college and am in a sorority AND have a girlfriend and I totally feel this vid!!! Lil different cause I have pics of us on my insta and stuff like that so it's definitely not a secret but I seem to always experience the whole "wondering if this girl in my sorority I'm having a conversation with rn knows about my girlfriend yet or not" and it can just be WEIRD. However, I've already met my best friend through the sorority and it really does get easier and easier as you talk to more and more of the girls on a more personal level. Loved this vid!!!
THANK YOU FOR THIS! I'm in a sorority now and this is the exact struggle I'm going through. It's nice to know I'm not alone and that there's a light at the end of the tunnel - or closet!
I'm currently at the University of Oklahoma and toured the school today. I had you in mind the whole time and this video just helped me so much and my outlook on the whole college situation. thank you so much Shan for adding guidance to situations that I would not be able to navigate otherwise!❤️❤️
I relate soooooo much to this! I'm from Omaha, NE which is fairly liberal as a city, but the majority of the state is highly conservative. Going to a smaller town for college, I too joined a sorority to "act straight". Being in the sorority was a great experience and I still have friends for life I see regularly. I realized though that I was being fake and had this heavy burden and growing confidence, and one weekend trip up to a cabin I finally told a handful of my sisters. Everything just became so much easier after that. My sisters and friends became my allies and defenders to anyone who tried to shame me. Not going to lie there were a few religious/conservative girls in the house and at first treated me different, but I realized they were from really small towns and had never had a gay friend before. They all came around after a while and it was a good teaching opportunity in how to be an ally for the LGBTQ+ community. Several have actually tried setting me up with girls since then lol. It does get better! :)
My experience is so similar. Also in Tridelt in the south and I remember feeling so lonely for such a long time. It was devastating. You just try to fit in and be like the other girls and you can't. But same - people surprised me so much after I came out. It's really not that big of a deal. We make up so many terrible scenarios in our heads that we shouldn't. And after you come out other people start becoming more comfortable coming out too. It's incredible. We are never alone and it's great to have these stories shared. Thanks tridelt and thanks Shannon ❤
I love how honest Shannon has been in recent videos. And specially how confident she is. Like the first videos after she broke up with Cammie were painful you could literally see how she was so used to do videos with Cammie. But now she's back and she's more amazing and inspiring than ever sdfghjk Shannon if you're reading this I love you and I'm so proud of you.
i love how real this is, you keep it so true and real to how it had happened and how you got out of such a strange mental state. this gives so much perspective on the concept of overthinking in these sorts of situations, gay shan is the best shan, happy, bubbly and so knowledgeable!
I literally refused to acknowledge being gay until I found Shan because I was so used to stereotypes and the hateful beliefs and I knew I wasn't those things. Shan made me realize being gay was beautiful and that being myself is the best thing I can do for myself. I could never thank her enough.
Wish I could give this video 100K thumbs up, I don't normally comment on videos but watching the sadness on your face and in your eyes when you're talking about the bad parts breaks my heart. Especially having been in a sorority just 2 years ago and knowing there are a handful of girls out in my own chapter and in other sororities as well as fraternities at the school I went to in Florida. It definitely can be a super hetero intense environment but fortunately also a super supportive one when you find the right people. I'm glad the world is starting to be more open and I'm SO glad there's people like you who are making such a positive impact and helping so many people in their lives to feel comfortable in themselves and know they are not alone. I know most of these videos is targeted to a more LGBTQ+ audience but I think everyone can grow and learn from these videos, especially about being open-minded and more aware (I know it has for me). Just seeing such a genuine, kind-hearted human being put themselves out there gay or not is amazing! I'm so glad I found this channel a couple months ago because I love watching your videos!! Go Shannon go 🙌🏼
As an out, gay woman in a sorority on a campus with a large Greek community I have been so lucky with the girls in my chapter. They have been so accepting and loving about who I love and they love me unconditionally. I was so worried that I would have a similar experience as Shannon and I respect her so much for her strength of character. Keep being a badass, Shannon.
I grow so much more comfortable with my skin and being everyday and a huge reason is because of you Shannon, you definitely give us confidence and show us to love our true self no matter what, no matter if there are tough days o good days. Thank you Shannon for having that impact in my life, I'm so so grateful. I love you!
I can honestly say that on UA-cam you are one of the few people I actually enjoy listening to because you always have something interesting or helping to say. One year ago I came out to my family, some of my closest friends already knew but even now I feel like I am still in the closet because my family doesn't accept me and I can't share with them anything about my relationship. So, thank you for giving me some hope and not making me feel alone.
i'm gay and in a sorority. i'm partially back in the closet because i'm terrified of people finding out, especially living in an extremely religious part of utah. (i think i get asked "do you have a boyfriend?" at least once a day) thank you for speaking up about this. i'm not sure if i'm ready to be open with these girls yet but i'll think about this every time i'm scared a sister will reject me.
The struggle of wanting and trying to be like all the straights around you. So relatable. And the fear of what they'll think of you if they find out. And the loneliness of it all! So relatable! Sororities aren't a thing in New Zealand, but I have a lot of similar experiences to how you felt there. The loneliness of being gay is something that doesn't get talked about much, and it should.
Omggg💔 I hate the time differences you posted this at 2:30 am😭 I was asleep and I was trying to stay up and watch you but I fell asleep❤️ I am so glad that I can watch it and once again you have inspired me to be the person I am🌈 I love you so much Shannon please carry on inspiring people like me because it's amazing I love you♥️👭xxx
Being that I'm in such a similar situation right now in college, this was exactly the video I needed. It's so insanely reassuring to hear someone else say the exact things I feel on a day to day basis. It's even more amazing to see how much better it gets and how strong and confident and comfortable someone can become after going through the same hard times I'm going through right now. It really gives me hope for the future. Thank you Shannon for somehow always being the place I can come to when I need to know that I'm not alone. You really have such a huge impact on so many people through what you do and the voice you have on this platform, and it's really inspiring.
I was in a sorority and left because of my sexuality, it was a little too much for me and I felt super different then everyone but I'm so glad I wasn't alone in this! thank you for your words! ❤❤
They say that 1 out of 10 people are gay. It's very likely that you were not the only gay girl in your sorority. There's probably some out there that haven't come out yet, or might never do it. You're a strong woman for having the courage to accept yourself.
for anyone else unsure, i'm in a sorority at a big southern school and me and a bunch of my sisters are gay/bi. most of us are out and everyone is extremely supportive! it is all about finding the right sorority for you! :)
As a recent tri delta alum from a small private Indiana college, this makes my heart so happy! I too struggled to come out for awhile because of fear and the idea of judgement from my sisters. However, like you, my sisters were overwhelming accepting and loved me even more for being my real and much happier self! Glad to know that across the country, tri deltas are sticking to their values 😊 DLAM Shan!
Shannon, I just love you so much, man. Can't tell you how refreshing your discomfort in front of the camera is, which may sound like a bit of an insult, but it really isn't. You'll find what you're looking for soon enough. (whatever the absolute fuck that means)
Can I just say how amazing shan is? She's what we all closeted people needs. I'm from Philippines and it's sooo hard living in a religious country but, somehow shan made me realize that I should not give f on what others would think or say, that it'll get better in time. love you shan! so proud of you
The part where Shannon discussed hearing homophobic things from family and friends while in the closet and feeling lonely, I relate so much. My whole family besides dad and stepdad are SUPER religious and homophobic. My sister will befriend gay people and tell us about "fixing them", my mom will compare it to beastiality. I've felt so alone at times that I've almost taken an attempt to escape my life the only way I knew how. But through videos like this and support from friends, I came out to my dad a couple months ago and he is going to help me come out and recover from the backlash I will get from my family. Thank you Shannon for being such an inspiration, I can honestly say you've saved my life
It's awesome the way you let people know that they're not alone. Each time you do a video like this one, I feel like there's nothing to worry about. Being gay can make you feel very very lonely sometimes but there are people like you who remember us that we're not alone anymore. Thank you 🌈
What a beautiful and incredibly important video. Shannon, I promise you are helping to save lives by sharing your experiences and by normalizing being gay. You should be very proud of yourself and the things you've accomplished. Your videos don't only help the younger crowd. I am 37 and learn good lessons from you and gain confidence in myself because of you too.
As someone who is queer, and also in a sorority, this means the world to me. The sorority I'm in is full of wonderful women and I slowly came out to everyone and I was also showered with love. Seeing a video like this really reassures that everything will be okay and that my sisters do actually love me for me. This video just plastered a smile on my face, thank you
You truly seem wonderful, Shannon! These days where it's cool to be all cold and dismissive, you do the opposite and open your arms and embrace everyone, AND you're helping others by showing that it's okay let your vulnerability show. Thank you for that.
This story is very inspirational. I've lived and grown up in Oklahoma and u completely understand the feeling you had in your sorority. That was basically my entire highschool experience.
I soooo wish that I had found this video sooner. I have never related more to a video. I still struggle to accept myself as a queer teenager since I was raised in a very religious family. You guys don't know how hard I've tried to "pray the gay away" or just tried to pretend like I was straight. I hope that one day I'll be able to be happy with myself and accept myself for who I am. Thank you so so much for making this video. I just cannot express in words how much I needed THIS.
I'm from a South Asian Muslim country where homosexuality is punishable by law. And I know that for me things are never going to get better. The scared girl you were in college, THAT IS ME, and I'm going to be that girl forever. But you still make me feel better and I love you for that.
Your channel is the one I go to when I'm feeling scared about coming out or confused or anything thanks for always being here and showing me that I'll be happy and accepted one day too x
I'm not in a sorority but I'm in an honorary system at my school and at first I was scared to come out but everyone has been so encouraging and welcoming, and some of my really good friends who are in sororities have been a huge support, so even though our experiences are not the same I really appreciate you telling your story!
It makes my heart so happy that you posted this video! I joined Tri Sigma & my sisters were so supportive when I told them I had started dating my current girlfriend. I would really hate to see someone miss out on the opportunities within Greek life just because they're scared of their brothers/sisters finding out that they're gay. It's a fairly common thing at my school and I just want everyone to know that it's okay to be gay and take part in Greek life!
I'm into girls and rushing in the fall and I was so nervous about it, but this helped me so much and put me so much at ease. You have made me so much more comfortable with who I am and I can't thank you enough. You are amazing never stop doing what you're doing
Preface: Was not in a sorority, but as an undergrad at the Univeristy of Texas (albeit a bit more liberal than OU), I can relate to this. All throughout college I lived with my very best friends (all female). I was so scared that I was gay. I went through that loneliness that you felt and thought the only way I cloud live was to just be single forever. So thankful for yourself and others out there in the media giving people an identity. Growing up in Dallas, TX I never saw myself in the media or anywhere for that matter. In high school I was on homecoming court, a part of student council..blah blah blah. So I couldn't be gay, right? Because if you were gay, you were also a member of every other subculture displayed on tv. And that wasn't me. So again, thank you a million times over. Most of all your videos resonate with me, but this one hit home.
This honestly made me cry, because I've always been so scared of what would happen if I actually came out to my family and this kind of gave me hope that like, it might be okay. Thank you
I'm curious have you ever tried sit down just asking them a hypitatical question. Just say "Hey Mom, Dad hypothetically if I was gay how would you feel?" Then you could get a good sense of how they would react. If they have a positive reaction then you know that you can tell them and they will accept you. If they have negative reaction then there not ready and you can just say it was only hypothetical quest and you can hold on to your secret for a while longer.
You're younger than me but you inspire to be me every single day. And I'm sure that I'm not the only one that you inspire daily. Thank you for being you and for sharing a part of your life with us. I love you Shannon. Stay happy! 😘
Shannon, you're one of two people who helped me coming out to my family and feeling comfortable being gay. It was years ago when I found your coming out video and then joined tumblr, just to "stay in touch" - I think even messaged you back then. Anyway. Seeing how you came out and managed all this emotionally, although you were so scared. But you getting such a loving feedback from your surrounding made me realise, that those who won't accept me being gay don't deserve a playce in my life. Luckily, my family took it very well and even better, all my friends were happy that I shared this part of me with them. I'm lucky to have such a tolerant and loving surrounding and I just hope that every kid who comes out gets hugs and laughs and smiles and happiness. Because everybody deserves to be loved and accepted just the way they are. Thank you Shannon for being an amazing role model and helping people to feel just good with who they are. ♥
Thank you so much for this video, Shannon. I've had such a similar experience so far in my college career, but this past semester my girlfriend has been helping me come out to my sorority so much more, and knowing you've had the same type of experience is so reassuring. My sisters have all been much more accepting than I could have hoped for, so for those of you out there still in the situation I was in, you can definitely do it and it will be worth it :)
the end of the video made me cry when you said that everything will be ok and that I'm not alone because that's exactly how I feel. alone. My only gay friend lives in Australia while I live in Houston, Tx so it's hard when I need someone right then and there yaknow. But thanks Shannon. you really know how to lift up a girls spirit 😁
I'm sorry that you had to go through that. But it's good to see you are able to talk about it. And it's great that you have found yourself. Keep moving on towards this path of self love.
everyone needs to see this video. whether or not they're gay or not, in a sorority or not, this video has such a important message about being yourself
Fun Fact: I came out to my college friends by telling them that I had something in common with Shannon
Nicole Clemons hahahhah best coming out 😎
Nicole Clemons u have a name in common with shannon.. Too..
Yes I do!
Nicole Clemons oh hey good to see you in the comments section girl! 😆👋
Omg hey girl haha!
"sad little gay" me .
Maya Amed same
Maya Amed same! Your pic is Lauren Jauregui omfg yaaaaaas I love her!
YOUR PIC IS LAUREN JAUREGUI YESSSS. I love Lauren you have no idea. I love Fifth Harmony ft Camila
All in the same boat! Row! Row! Row!
MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEeeeee
my sorority advisor got married to her wife while i was still in my collegiate chapter and just knowing that there was someone else who had been in my sorority was also into girls and everyone was super okay with it and more than anything she was HAPPY, it was the most reassuring thing ever
Everything she is saying is so incredibly real and true and I couldn't be prouder to watch someone so strong and proud of who she is!!!! I love you Shan!
I remember how hard this was for you. I wanted so badly to help you work through this in the best possible way. Your sorority friends were so cool about it when you shared that with them. I think knowing you had your family and your sorority friends to support you was a big turning point for you. Love you so much!
Debbie Beveridge Momma Bear!!!
Debbie Beveridge you're the best mom who supported and still supports her daughter in every situation!!😃
Mom goals
I wish my parents were so nice like you, my family are religious and is too hard deal with this...
Debbie Beveridge love you mom! Thank you for supporting me so much, you're the best in the world!
I'm Gay and work at Chick fil a which is basically the hetero normal, religious sorority
Valori Harris How so?
It's run by Christians, many of the employees are straight, and most Chick film a's used to refuse service to those of the LGBT community.
Almost stopped eating here bc of this but damn it its so good
Maddy Schuering Try working there. I swear to God, they're trying to lure me with free nuggets. I mean it's working, but still.
Ugh see like free nuggets are so hard to say no to. I thought about working there once and ehhh lol
me: realizes cousin was in tri-delta with Shannon
also me: realizes homophobic cousin probably said stuff to Shannon
still me: is gay
cries
No way! Really! Your cuz is sooo lucky haha
@@ayanas9892 you completely missed the whole point of the comment. The cousin was homophobic and was probably a bully
Shannon is the reason I walk around actually proud to be a Lesbian.
Yes
Valori Harris Same🔥🙌🏻
I hope she will be the reason for you to change this ugly profile pic u have :P LOL
Dan loo Whoa dude, that's a five star self portrait, wym?
haha no offence i only got jealous of that beauty xD lol
Honestly Shan, I started watching your videos when i was in high school and once I came to college I decided that I wanted to be in a sorority and eventually decided to go TriDelta. I later found out that you were a Tridelta too (and i was obvi very happy). But I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you felt the way you felt while you were in the chapter, but for everyone that is reading this and wants to go greek and is super duper gay (like me). Being in a sorority was probably one of the best choices that I could've made while being in college, I came out to all of my sisters and everyone was so supportive and loving and I literally could've never found a better support system than them. We all have very different experiences so don't feel discouraged if you feel like you won't be accepted. Just be genuine and be yourself and the right people will be in your life because of it.
LOL thats all of my rant. BBPB
this is amazing
Andrea Gracia ❤❤❤❤❤
So I was in a high school soro, and I came out and it was hard for me. Especially because the advisor over us was calling me all types of awful things and girls who I was friends with stopped talking to me... it made me question joining in college, but after reading this, and hearing Shannon's story I'm deciding to just go for it, because if I don't I'll regret it.
Andrea Gracia si
Enduring the mockery of homophobia when you do not have confidence is what makes you brave.
Her voice seemed to crack a lot and it seemed like she was really emotional through this whole video it made me emotional. Shannon we all love you and you help me be proud to be who I am, so thank you for that ❤️
Can i just say that i appreciate what a wonderful human being you are, and how i don't even know you, but in 8 minutes you are able to bring a smile to my face? Love you shannon ❤️
i answered the phone the other day by saying DELTA DELTA DELTA CAN I HELP YA HELP YA HELP YA............ thats how sad my life is
Lololololololol
I almost started crying when she told about her friends being homophobic, because I'm in that situation right now, and it's so hard when i hear homophobic stuff from the ones that are closest to me and the most important to me. Makes me feel even more scared about coming out and being open about my sexuality, and i think about that so much and i get anxiety from it and it's just destroying me.
Harry is not on fire start with one friend, like she did. I had the same issue growing up. You aren't alone. Don't allow those thoughts to destroy you, because I assure you there are allies who are your friends. You just don't know it yet. Chin up.
Good luck Harry. Try to remember that even if it doesn't go well when you tell them or you're not able to find the courage whilst you're at school, it does get better.
Harry you should tell them it may just make them think before they speak.
One day I will come out and I will show Shannon's videos to my mom and tell her "look, she gave me strength when i couldn't come to you because i was too scared thinking that you will hate me for the things you used to say"
lilcreampuff sending good vibes your way. You're not alone. ❤️
That was a good speech
I can feel you. I too have no courage to come out to my family because they said a lot of things against us lgbtq people. it's painful, sad and lonely.
So I decided to come out outright to my new friends I met in my post-grad college so that I don't have to pretend in front of them about my sexuality. They say it's fine but they sometimes makes comments (before) that you normally would not make infront of your lgbtq+ friend, which makes me sad.
Shannon is so gorgeous. I love that shirt color!
Clairexoelise do you know where the shirt is from?:00 :))
I need a shirt that color for real lol
"It's not all rainbows and butterflies, it was.... helicopter". Quote of the day.
fun story so today i was in class and the girl next to me was really cute and i was wondering if she was gay SO i casually opened my iPad that has a StillSane/Shannon screensaver on it so that she would see it (cause obviously a 20-year-old lesbian would know who Shannon is) and i just continued to take notes AND THEN SHE TALKED TO ME and NOW WE'RE LAB PARTNERS she gay
Yaaas Go gurl...
Ik u wrote this 6 month ago.
Im just watching back all shannons video..
🏳️🌈😘
UPDATE?!!
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Videos from you and the roses are what is going to keep me sane during finals week, especially the ones where u drag each other 👌🏼
I completely agree, some people (everyone basically) says things they don't even mean, but it comes from being ignorant, and sometimes it takes someone you personally know being gay, trans, or whatever else to allow others to understand how their comments could be hurtful and harmful to those around them.
This is so true.
I feel like in some cases, people who are homophobic usually are the ones who are homosexual but are simply homophobic because they are taught that their feelings are "wrong". So that makes complete sense
Love that you have been posting super consistently!
"it was…… helicopter" okay honey
I'm a freshman in college and am in a sorority AND have a girlfriend and I totally feel this vid!!! Lil different cause I have pics of us on my insta and stuff like that so it's definitely not a secret but I seem to always experience the whole "wondering if this girl in my sorority I'm having a conversation with rn knows about my girlfriend yet or not" and it can just be WEIRD. However, I've already met my best friend through the sorority and it really does get easier and easier as you talk to more and more of the girls on a more personal level. Loved this vid!!!
THANK YOU FOR THIS! I'm in a sorority now and this is the exact struggle I'm going through. It's nice to know I'm not alone and that there's a light at the end of the tunnel - or closet!
I'm currently at the University of Oklahoma and toured the school today. I had you in mind the whole time and this video just helped me so much and my outlook on the whole college situation. thank you so much Shan for adding guidance to situations that I would not be able to navigate otherwise!❤️❤️
oh and btw loved the boomer sooners🤘🏼
Kayla Boxer Girl go tour Texas Tech. So much better than OU!
N Rozay haha funny you say that...on my way to Lubbock to see Texas Tech now!
I relate soooooo much to this! I'm from Omaha, NE which is fairly liberal as a city, but the majority of the state is highly conservative. Going to a smaller town for college, I too joined a sorority to "act straight". Being in the sorority was a great experience and I still have friends for life I see regularly. I realized though that I was being fake and had this heavy burden and growing confidence, and one weekend trip up to a cabin I finally told a handful of my sisters. Everything just became so much easier after that. My sisters and friends became my allies and defenders to anyone who tried to shame me. Not going to lie there were a few religious/conservative girls in the house and at first treated me different, but I realized they were from really small towns and had never had a gay friend before. They all came around after a while and it was a good teaching opportunity in how to be an ally for the LGBTQ+ community. Several have actually tried setting me up with girls since then lol. It does get better! :)
Not a ton of butterflies... lots of rainbows though.
My experience is so similar. Also in Tridelt in the south and I remember feeling so lonely for such a long time. It was devastating. You just try to fit in and be like the other girls and you can't. But same - people surprised me so much after I came out. It's really not that big of a deal. We make up so many terrible scenarios in our heads that we shouldn't. And after you come out other people start becoming more comfortable coming out too. It's incredible. We are never alone and it's great to have these stories shared. Thanks tridelt and thanks Shannon ❤
One of these comments said that the Chapter at the University of Wisconsin has a lotta Lesbians!
I love how honest Shannon has been in recent videos. And specially how confident she is. Like the first videos after she broke up with Cammie were painful you could literally see how she was so used to do videos with Cammie. But now she's back and she's more amazing and inspiring than ever sdfghjk Shannon if you're reading this I love you and I'm so proud of you.
i love how real this is, you keep it so true and real to how it had happened and how you got out of such a strange mental state. this gives so much perspective on the concept of overthinking in these sorts of situations, gay shan is the best shan, happy, bubbly and so knowledgeable!
"Im gonna be straight.. straight." obviously that didnt work out😂
I tried to do that but I said screw it, I’m 16 haha
I literally refused to acknowledge being gay until I found Shan because I was so used to stereotypes and the hateful beliefs and I knew I wasn't those things. Shan made me realize being gay was beautiful and that being myself is the best thing I can do for myself. I could never thank her enough.
#nowthisisinspiring
Shannon was living that Hannah Montana life
Vic24 😂😂😂 so true. Haha. Best comment.
My favorite gay girl 🌈🌈🌈💚❤💙💜🔥
Wish I could give this video 100K thumbs up, I don't normally comment on videos but watching the sadness on your face and in your eyes when you're talking about the bad parts breaks my heart. Especially having been in a sorority just 2 years ago and knowing there are a handful of girls out in my own chapter and in other sororities as well as fraternities at the school I went to in Florida. It definitely can be a super hetero intense environment but fortunately also a super supportive one when you find the right people. I'm glad the world is starting to be more open and I'm SO glad there's people like you who are making such a positive impact and helping so many people in their lives to feel comfortable in themselves and know they are not alone. I know most of these videos is targeted to a more LGBTQ+ audience but I think everyone can grow and learn from these videos, especially about being open-minded and more aware (I know it has for me). Just seeing such a genuine, kind-hearted human being put themselves out there gay or not is amazing! I'm so glad I found this channel a couple months ago because I love watching your videos!! Go Shannon go 🙌🏼
Shannon you're an inspiration to me everyday! Thank you 💕
Nat Furman you say it right 🙌🏻🙌🏻 I love her because the way she look of life is really positive and strong ..best girl ever ❤️
watching this in 2020.. teared up a lil bit.. sending virtual hugs to young Shannon
As an out, gay woman in a sorority on a campus with a large Greek community I have been so lucky with the girls in my chapter. They have been so accepting and loving about who I love and they love me unconditionally. I was so worried that I would have a similar experience as Shannon and I respect her so much for her strength of character. Keep being a badass, Shannon.
I grow so much more comfortable with my skin and being everyday and a huge reason is because of you Shannon, you definitely give us confidence and show us to love our true self no matter what, no matter if there are tough days o good days.
Thank you Shannon for having that impact in my life, I'm so so grateful. I love you!
shannon 😭😭😭😭 this made me cry. idk about anyone else but your for sure my role model and honestly made coming out so much easier
I can honestly say that on UA-cam you are one of the few people I actually enjoy listening to because you always have something interesting or helping to say. One year ago I came out to my family, some of my closest friends already knew but even now I feel like I am still in the closet because my family doesn't accept me and I can't share with them anything about my relationship. So, thank you for giving me some hope and not making me feel alone.
i'm gay and in a sorority. i'm partially back in the closet because i'm terrified of people finding out, especially living in an extremely religious part of utah. (i think i get asked "do you have a boyfriend?" at least once a day) thank you for speaking up about this. i'm not sure if i'm ready to be open with these girls yet but i'll think about this every time i'm scared a sister will reject me.
The struggle of wanting and trying to be like all the straights around you. So relatable. And the fear of what they'll think of you if they find out. And the loneliness of it all! So relatable! Sororities aren't a thing in New Zealand, but I have a lot of similar experiences to how you felt there. The loneliness of being gay is something that doesn't get talked about much, and it should.
omg i'm so happy, i turned your notifs on and i've never seen them so quick😭😭😭
I’m at Tri Delt at Ole Miss and it’s so great hearing your story! Proud of you and proud of our sweet supportive sisterhood
Omggg💔 I hate the time differences you posted this at 2:30 am😭 I was asleep and I was trying to stay up and watch you but I fell asleep❤️ I am so glad that I can watch it and once again you have inspired me to be the person I am🌈 I love you so much Shannon please carry on inspiring people like me because it's amazing I love you♥️👭xxx
Being that I'm in such a similar situation right now in college, this was exactly the video I needed. It's so insanely reassuring to hear someone else say the exact things I feel on a day to day basis. It's even more amazing to see how much better it gets and how strong and confident and comfortable someone can become after going through the same hard times I'm going through right now. It really gives me hope for the future. Thank you Shannon for somehow always being the place I can come to when I need to know that I'm not alone. You really have such a huge impact on so many people through what you do and the voice you have on this platform, and it's really inspiring.
Shannon has a glow
I was in a sorority and left because of my sexuality, it was a little too much for me and I felt super different then everyone but I'm so glad I wasn't alone in this! thank you for your words! ❤❤
They say that 1 out of 10 people are gay. It's very likely that you were not the only gay girl in your sorority. There's probably some out there that haven't come out yet, or might never do it.
You're a strong woman for having the courage to accept yourself.
That's probably a similar situation in Fraternities, too!
for anyone else unsure, i'm in a sorority at a big southern school and me and a bunch of my sisters are gay/bi. most of us are out and everyone is extremely supportive! it is all about finding the right sorority for you! :)
"This sad little gay just felt like...... scared"
Dude this is me everyday 😞😪
SNEAKERHEAD
I'm sorry you feel scared to be your self for what its worth it dose get better.
As a recent tri delta alum from a small private Indiana college, this makes my heart so happy! I too struggled to come out for awhile because of fear and the idea of judgement from my sisters. However, like you, my sisters were overwhelming accepting and loved me even more for being my real and much happier self! Glad to know that across the country, tri deltas are sticking to their values 😊 DLAM Shan!
Shannon, I just love you so much, man. Can't tell you how refreshing your discomfort in front of the camera is, which may sound like a bit of an insult, but it really isn't. You'll find what you're looking for soon enough. (whatever the absolute fuck that means)
Can I just say how amazing shan is? She's what we all closeted people needs. I'm from Philippines and it's sooo hard living in a religious country but, somehow shan made me realize that I should not give f on what others would think or say, that it'll get better in time. love you shan! so proud of you
OMG ILY SHANNON Your an inspiration to young people all over the world. Stay amazing 💖💖💖💖💖💖
You are so cute,the way how you try to help everyone and how honest you are doing this, is just beautiful.
💜💛💚❤️💙 you are my role model, 20 years old and just starting to come out
The part where Shannon discussed hearing homophobic things from family and friends while in the closet and feeling lonely, I relate so much. My whole family besides dad and stepdad are SUPER religious and homophobic. My sister will befriend gay people and tell us about "fixing them", my mom will compare it to beastiality. I've felt so alone at times that I've almost taken an attempt to escape my life the only way I knew how. But through videos like this and support from friends, I came out to my dad a couple months ago and he is going to help me come out and recover from the backlash I will get from my family. Thank you Shannon for being such an inspiration, I can honestly say you've saved my life
"I'm gonna pray the gay away"
You can do that?... dear heavenly father
It's awesome the way you let people know that they're not alone. Each time you do a video like this one, I feel like there's nothing to worry about. Being gay can make you feel very very lonely sometimes but there are people like you who remember us that we're not alone anymore. Thank you 🌈
shannon you're an angel!!
What a beautiful and incredibly important video. Shannon, I promise you are helping to save lives by sharing your experiences and by normalizing being gay. You should be very proud of yourself and the things you've accomplished. Your videos don't only help the younger crowd. I am 37 and learn good lessons from you and gain confidence in myself because of you too.
I just want Shannon to sit and chat with me and say stuff like this. It feels like she's talking to me. Talk about BAEEEE.
As someone who is queer, and also in a sorority, this means the world to me. The sorority I'm in is full of wonderful women and I slowly came out to everyone and I was also showered with love. Seeing a video like this really reassures that everything will be okay and that my sisters do actually love me for me. This video just plastered a smile on my face, thank you
Sororities sound so weird, I've only seen the ones in movies and they seem so funny haha. We have like nothing the same in Australia
I’m a recent Tri Delta alum & I love how completely chill & honest you are! Definitely subscribing, gotta support my sister 😏 DLAM
Oooooo Shannon u look good in blue. ROCK THAT BLUE SHIRT GURLLLLL
You truly seem wonderful, Shannon! These days where it's cool to be all cold and dismissive, you do the opposite and open your arms and embrace everyone, AND you're helping others by showing that it's okay let your vulnerability show. Thank you for that.
me vs stopping everything I was doing to watch this
This story is very inspirational. I've lived and grown up in Oklahoma and u completely understand the feeling you had in your sorority. That was basically my entire highschool experience.
aye notification club!! love u shannon💕 u always make me so happy whenever i watch ur videos and i feel better ab being gay so thank u
I soooo wish that I had found this video sooner. I have never related more to a video. I still struggle to accept myself as a queer teenager since I was raised in a very religious family. You guys don't know how hard I've tried to "pray the gay away" or just tried to pretend like I was straight. I hope that one day I'll be able to be happy with myself and accept myself for who I am. Thank you so so much for making this video. I just cannot express in words how much I needed THIS.
I'm from a South Asian Muslim country where homosexuality is punishable by law. And I know that for me things are never going to get better. The scared girl you were in college, THAT IS ME, and I'm going to be that girl forever. But you still make me feel better and I love you for that.
Your channel is the one I go to when I'm feeling scared about coming out or confused or anything thanks for always being here and showing me that I'll be happy and accepted one day too x
Shannon uploaded a vid??? *pauses life* *watch video a thousand times* >.
I'm not in a sorority but I'm in an honorary system at my school and at first I was scared to come out but everyone has been so encouraging and welcoming, and some of my really good friends who are in sororities have been a huge support, so even though our experiences are not the same I really appreciate you telling your story!
I’m having such a hard time acknowledging my bisexuality. I stumbled on these videos and I’m so happy 🥰
It makes my heart so happy that you posted this video! I joined Tri Sigma & my sisters were so supportive when I told them I had started dating my current girlfriend. I would really hate to see someone miss out on the opportunities within Greek life just because they're scared of their brothers/sisters finding out that they're gay. It's a fairly common thing at my school and I just want everyone to know that it's okay to be gay and take part in Greek life!
Dude I've been waiting so long 😂 I love you ❤
Shannon is the biggest inspiration for me in my actual life. Shannon you go girl, keep doing what you're doing
I don't think you know how important you are to the young LGBTQ+ community with everything you do❤️ #TeamShannon
I'm into girls and rushing in the fall and I was so nervous about it, but this helped me so much and put me so much at ease. You have made me so much more comfortable with who I am and I can't thank you enough. You are amazing never stop doing what you're doing
Your makeup is on FLEEK
Preface: Was not in a sorority, but as an undergrad at the Univeristy of Texas (albeit a bit more liberal than OU), I can relate to this.
All throughout college I lived with my very best friends (all female). I was so scared that I was gay. I went through that loneliness that you felt and thought the only way I cloud live was to just be single forever. So thankful for yourself and others out there in the media giving people an identity. Growing up in Dallas, TX I never saw myself in the media or anywhere for that matter. In high school I was on homecoming court, a part of student council..blah blah blah. So I couldn't be gay, right? Because if you were gay, you were also a member of every other subculture displayed on tv. And that wasn't me. So again, thank you a million times over. Most of all your videos resonate with me, but this one hit home.
This is so inspiring and helpful I'm happy you are you because without you i don't think i would have ever been happy because I would never come out.
This honestly made me cry, because I've always been so scared of what would happen if I actually came out to my family and this kind of gave me hope that like, it might be okay. Thank you
I'm curious have you ever tried sit down just asking them a hypitatical question. Just say "Hey Mom, Dad hypothetically if I was gay how would you feel?"
Then you could get a good sense of how they would react. If they have a positive reaction then you know that you can tell them and they will accept you. If they have negative reaction then there not ready and you can just say it was only hypothetical quest and you can hold on to your secret for a while longer.
I love you so much Shannon ❤❤❤
You're younger than me but you inspire to be me every single day. And I'm sure that I'm not the only one that you inspire daily. Thank you for being you and for sharing a part of your life with us. I love you Shannon. Stay happy! 😘
the football stadium at the university of oklahoma is called gaylord is this fate or is this fate
Shannon, you're one of two people who helped me coming out to my family and feeling comfortable being gay. It was years ago when I found your coming out video and then joined tumblr, just to "stay in touch" - I think even messaged you back then. Anyway. Seeing how you came out and managed all this emotionally, although you were so scared. But you getting such a loving feedback from your surrounding made me realise, that those who won't accept me being gay don't deserve a playce in my life. Luckily, my family took it very well and even better, all my friends were happy that I shared this part of me with them. I'm lucky to have such a tolerant and loving surrounding and I just hope that every kid who comes out gets hugs and laughs and smiles and happiness. Because everybody deserves to be loved and accepted just the way they are.
Thank you Shannon for being an amazing role model and helping people to feel just good with who they are. ♥
*I LOVE YOU SHANNON BEVERIDGE JUST IN CASE YOU DIDN'T KNOW*
Thank you so much for this video, Shannon. I've had such a similar experience so far in my college career, but this past semester my girlfriend has been helping me come out to my sorority so much more, and knowing you've had the same type of experience is so reassuring. My sisters have all been much more accepting than I could have hoped for, so for those of you out there still in the situation I was in, you can definitely do it and it will be worth it :)
never been so early for a video😊😘 love you to the moon and back
the end of the video made me cry when you said that everything will be ok and that I'm not alone because that's exactly how I feel. alone. My only gay friend lives in Australia while I live in Houston, Tx so it's hard when I need someone right then and there yaknow. But thanks Shannon. you really know how to lift up a girls spirit 😁
Aw I really wanna hug you right now 💓
I'm sorry that you had to go through that. But it's good to see you are able to talk about it. And it's great that you have found yourself. Keep moving on towards this path of self love.
Notification squad ✌🏼 love you Shannon ❤️❤️
everyone needs to see this video. whether or not they're gay or not, in a sorority or not, this video has such a important message about being yourself