I’m not sure if age has to do with anything. I’ve been married for 28 years and I’m 6 months older then my husband. Men that have good virtues are just good men. I’m glad you are happy
I think younger men with an older “soul” can be the same way. I started dating my husband when he was 22 and I was 20. On our first date, he told me that he wanted to get married and have kids. He didn’t play any games. We’ve been married for almost 25 years. ☺️
I am married to a person almost 10 years younger than me ... and he is a wonderful being with me , he protects me , loves me , respects me ... we have such a beautiful marriage thanks to the Creator ... so that has nothing to do with the age of the person ... what it does have to do with is how the person is , their values and their personality in general ... which has nothing to do with age or gender ... with respect my opinion
my is 7 years younger then me, we now 15 years together, but I do agree to a point older man is better, only few and about younger mature, I thought at first my husband older, but then I found out that he is younger, but I gave him a chance and did not dismissed him, thank God I did.I feel so loved, protected ❤️, real man🥰🥰🥰
Yes, I agree with you. My husband is 16 years younger than me and He has treated me better than any other man that I've ever been with. His values, beliefs, morals, etc. are different than any of the others too. He's so much more mature than other men who are much older than him. I truly believe, actually, I know that The Lord brought us together. We are equally yoked and that is so important. ♥
My first husband was 10 years older than me. Owned a home, successful, all the things you mentioned. We had twins and my husband said, "I'm too old to be tied down to this." He thought he wanted kids, but he didn't. My second husband was my age and we were together from the night we met until the day he died. You can't generalize. Every person is different and every experience is different.
I married my wife when she was 27 and I was 50. That was 38 years ago. We love each other more every day even though we are not the same two people that we were then. And yes, it was a second marriage for both of us. It can work. Depends on who you are.
Lisa, my husband is 22 years older than me! We have been married for 36 years now & I couldn’t agree with you more! Many people probably thought I would be “nursing” him through illnesses, etc, and I have. BUT he has also stood by me through thick & thin, including a recent traumatic accident and the changes to our life situation! By the way, he is 81 & I am 59! We have 4 children and 12 grandchildren! We are indeed blessed!
I really enjoyed what you shared. Sadly the older men I happened to meet were the classic forever immature types.🙄Not to say there aren't wonderful older men out there.... just my experience. ❤️I'm super traditional but there are lots of older party boy men who just want a younger women to prove they "still got it."
I have to agree with you. My husband is 10 year's older then me and there are a lot of good things yet a lot of important thing's we don't agree on. He treats me like a queen yes. Sometimes I just need me time. 20 years together. I don't think it's a age thing as much as if you get along have the same interest.
You are describing my love story. My husband was 9 years older than me and the love of my life. He did pass away unexpectedly after 27 years of marriage but I have wonderful memories and we raised two beautiful successful children. Wow, love this content!
To be honest, I find it difficult to make a sweeping generalization about a man's age and his success in marriage, it's so personal and totally dependent on the people involved. Your experience is also personal so thank you for sharing!
I respect your thoughts on this Lisa, truly, but I do feel this is more an individual thing and not a one size fits all so to speak, regarding gender and age. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us and I hope my comment isn't read the wrong way, just my little humble opinion. ❤
Thank you Lisa for ur advice and wisdom. “ if the shoe fits wear it“. Don’t try on something larger or smaller. You will know when that happens. You are truly blessed with such a beautiful family. And those adorable cats !!! 👏🏻👍🏻😉
I agree. I’m the same age as Lisa and prefer younger men. I think because my dad is only 16 years older than me. He had me when he was just shy of turning 16. So, older men is repulsive to me. Most of the females in my family marry younger men. So yes, it’s an individual thing I agree.
Unfortunately my exhusband who was 10 years older than me was nothing like you described. I think it’s more about the person than the age. I’m glad you found that, but I don’t think it’s a given just because they’re older. First time I ever disagreed with you, but I still love you and we can have different opinions.
She did say they don't necessarily have to be older, they could be younger with these attributes but in her experience an older man was more mature and shared similar morals & virtues. There are exceptions but an older man worked for her 😎😘 kinda like a fine wine ~
Yes, I don't think age has anything to do with maturity, values, or being financially stable. My older ex husband was nothing like Lisa's husband. So happy for you Lisa, but it just isn't a given that older men are better choices. With any person, time will reveal their true character. It was interesting to hear more about your husband. Thank you for sharing!
My husband is 8yrs younger. We met at 28 & i 36 plus my 3 kids from a previous marriage. I have always felt he was way older than myself even to this day. He is very traditional & values similar to those you touched upon. I believe each person is an individual & there are no rule to what feels right. Love is not a number nor is a match between two people only about one thing. I like that you pointed out the qualities in your husband that attracted you. 1.) knowing what you want at any stage or age of life is important. 2.) knowing yourself before getting into any serious relationship will make for a wiser choice 3.) nothing when it comes to marriage is foolproof or full-proof given only 1/2 stay together 😉
I met my husband 48 years ago and we've been married 43 years. We split up during our dating for 6 months. What you say I understand, my husband is a grafter, there are things that irritate me, then I remind myself that I'm not perfect either. My husband is always happy, has a great attitude, and never puts me down, he's not jealous or nasty. So it's not just about me, he always said he didn't need to go out looking for beefburgers and have an affair when he has steak at home...and he loves his steak.
Hi Lisa! I'm going through a terrible breakup with an older man right now that's heartbreaking. Ten years older and has an elderly Father that rules the house, not to mention a teenage daughter that's a nightmare. These older men also have tons of baggage, too. But I will not give up on older men. Thank you for this. Because my man was wealthy, but had none of the characteristics you are bringing to our attention, this is a great list of positive things to look for in the older man.💄❤️
I’m sorry you are going through such a hard time! That family sounds like a nightmare! I agree, some older guys don’t have the maturity and class that Lisa is speaking about; it’s just more common in them than with younger men. Hopefully you will find one like Lisa is describing next time! I’m sure your life will be improved cutting the current one loose! 💕 Best of luck!!!
Thank you, Lisa, for sharing your thoughts and experience. I have known my husband for 31 years; together for 29 years; married for 22.5 years. We are very close in age-6 months apart. He is my biggest supporter and is very loving and sweet with me. We have had times where we butted heads and disagreed on matters; however, we always knew and felt that passionate loving bond between us. And our love has deepened with time. That electric spark between us has only intensified..
This depends on the man and their partner. I don’t think age has anything to do with it. There is something to be said for growing together. Do what you want. There are no rules!
I love this! My husband is 12 years older than me and we've been together for 23 years and it's the best! I've always been attracted to older men too - great video, Lisa!
Love this! I’m 50, and my husband is 64. And I was attracted to him for all the reasons you said! When we were younger I saw nothing but positives to our age difference. Now, as we are getting older, I’m scared he’s going to (likely) die before me😢
Well I am 70 and my wife is 35 and we get along great. Age is only a number. Let god lead you to the one he wants you to be with you wont regret it. When most people look at marriage its what can I get out of it they should be thinking what can I put into it to make it better. It does work. I say let god lead you, he don't make mistakes like we do ok.
There is a 12+ years difference between my husband and myself. We have been married 30+ years (together 39+ yrs). He takes care of himself, has wonderful morals and I wouldn't change a thing. BUT, people have to realize that as you age, the one thing you will have to deal with is taking care of the older partner. For example, when I am 68, my husband will be 80, God willing. It may be daunting and difficult. That is where the "for better, for worse........in sickness and in health" part of your vows come in. 😀 (Of course, when it comes to health, there is no guarantees for either partner.) If you are prepared for that possibility, then go for it. It is the best for all the reasons Lisa described.
I have a relationship with my husband that mirrors yours and Johns. I had a totally different first marriage to a man 9 years older. My second husband is 8 years younger. I truly think it depends on the character, work ethic, morals and integrity of the man. My 3rd date was a visit with my current husband's parents. His Mom told me once, she would "stomp" me if I ever hurt him. Now she tells him, she will "stomp" him! Yes, we are southern! We make each other our 1st priority.
I’ve married older men (2) 10 yrs older and I’ve always felt normal and really fine with the different in our ages. However now that I’m 60 and he’s 70 I feel the difference. Wouldn’t change it but with all ages comes highs and lows. This is personal choices of course
Oh for sure! My mom dated a man when she was younger that was 15 years older than her. My mom is 65, still teaches kindergarten and runs 5 miles a day. Her ex is now 80, walks with a cane, has dementia and had a large scar across his forehead from skin cancer. It was a shocking difference.
I have been married to my 7 years younger man for 34 years , he took on my 2 children when he was only 23 and we had another 2 children together . I cannot praise him high enough , he is a fabulous man and has always made me feel safe and special, this may be an exception but it worked for us
My husband was 18 months younger than me. We got married in our early 20s and were happily married for 2 weeks short of 50 years when he passed away. Even at 22, my husband was extremely matured, providing and loved me like I couldn’t ever have dreamed to be loved😍
It’s not about being an older man. 1 or 2 bad experiences with young men or younger men doesn’t mean older men are better. It’s about the type of human you are. It’s about the man upbringing and character. Relationships are about individuality and then two people being able to make it work. Any man of any age can be the way you mentioned, once it’s their personality.
The vid touches me to the core. I met my my late husband, who just passed away 1 year ago, when I was 19 and he was 28 years old and just out of the Army. We were together for 42 years. From the moment we met he took my hand, never let me go and was a masculine, protective, kind, smart, patriotic, established and a loving man. He did everything for me, our 5 children, family and friends. It was such a blessing being married to an older man who didn’t play games, knew what he wanted and was so patient with me. The heartbreak thing is “he’s was older” and I lost my best friend, partner, lover and the love of my life. Of course, I wouldn’t change a thing, but I will never be able to spend “the golden years” with the love of my life.
Omg I love his response “she found the right guy” to your ex’s friend that said “watch out for her, she wants to get married “…….that’s definitely a mature man’s response 👌
I found these same characteristics in my husband who is 8 years younger. He is my rock. My first husband was 8 years older than myself. I love these types of videos that we can discuss opinions. Thanks for sharing.
My first husband was 18 years older than me. Did not work out. My second husband is six years younger and we’ve been together 17 years & counting… It depends on the person, not age.
I can appreciate her train of thought by expressing her fulfillment with older men versus younger men for various reasons. There are exceptions to every rule but she's just sharing her personal experience with younger men. I appreciate her candid conversation with such Grace, Class & Integrity ~ Beautiful 💙
I appreciate your experience but the best relationship in my life was a man 15 years younger than me. So it's the man not the age. I do agree with the virtues!!!
I'm a very independent modern woman and prefer younger men. I like a man who is not living in the past or always referring to the past and is more into the current times. My boyfriend is 10 years younger. I am very active and financially stable and don't need a man to take care of me but to be a partner for fun. I guess we all have preferences.
My husband and I just celebrated our 20th anniversary (together 30 yrs in total). There is 13 between us. Choosing him was one of the best decisions of my life for many of the reasons you mentioned, plus many more! I was married once before to my high school sweetheart, and father of my only child (daughter) before I became a young widow. My current husband was not previously married. We have an amazing relationship. He is my greatest supporter, and my biggest fan! He is smart, funny and talented! I wouldn't trade him for the world! Great topic, Lisa! Keep 'em coming! ❤
My husband is two years older. We met when I was 19 ( I am 52 now) , and he was 21 (he is 54 now) He was very mature at 21. We married when I turned 20, after six months of dating. Even thought, my husband was only 21 (in 1990) I felt exactly like Lisa describes. He was very protective, established and really took care of me. I felt very secured with him.
My husband is 3 years older than i. I was in my last year at the university and he was already lawyer when we met. We were both lawyers before i became a legal adviser. I think it is not a problem of age but a problem of maturity. Some are early mature and others later. At the beginning of our relationship he was my God. Now he is my equal. We can handle both difficulties : when one is « off » than the second of us will manage the problem. I am a few years older than you, but had always in my mind that i must do my life by myself to feel fine. Now i am european and we have certainly not the same culture. It is important to take time to discover the qualities and the defaults of your « crush » before trying to live together.
This is an interesting discussion as I always found men close to my age within 2 years, younger or older to be a better fit for me. My Dave is 1.5 years younger than me. I admit I was always attracted to men close to my age or younger. I never wanted one who I felt would try to father me. I think that was my hang up though. Love these videos Lisa as they are thought provoking. ❤️
Emotional maturity in a man is the sexiest thing they can possess. I adore my husband who is 14 years older. My experience with men younger and my own age was drama, drama, drama. Grateful for a drama-free life.
I’ve been married 36 years to my hubby and he is four years younger than I am. It’s working for us. I think it’s more about the person and not so much about age. I used to date a man ten years older than myself, it didn’t work out. I think it’s different for everyone. I do enjoy these type of videos.
Love love love it, I just turned 28 and I’ve tried dating guys my age but I always end up clicking with man around 10+ years older. I 100% agree with what you’ve said and I am so happy that I have the confidence now to go be with someone that makes me feel special without thinking something is wrong with me 🤪😇🥰
My soulmate, and the love of my life was exactly 10 years older than me. I met him when I was 18 he was 28. We shared 12 incredible years with the same interests and passions. Neither one of us put much into the thought process of the age difference because for one thing I am Caucasian and he had darker skin, so just visually and physically with our fitness bodies you could not tell there was an age difference so it’s just my personal experience…. I don’t see what peoples issues are. I haven’t finished your video yet, but I clicked on it because obviously I was curious. There are particular reasons for haters and actually it’s not our business to even think about them too much. It’s just about sharing our experience and thank you! You’re completely beautiful inside and out. I am grateful for finding your channel through my new carnivore diet.😁
I love these types of videos. And I love seeing people happy and in love. I can tell how much in love you are with John just by how much you are smiling and beaming as you are talking about him. That is so refreshing knowing how long y’all have been married and are still so in love. It’s such an inspiration to me and others!!! Love it❤️❤️
My husband is 2 months younger than me and we have been best friends for 45 years and married for 42 years. My husband has every characteristic that you described. I just don’t think a blanket statement should be made but I’m so happy that you found happiness with an older man!💕
My grandma was 10 years younger. They hated eachother and he left her when she was sick. My other grandma was a year older and she was happy with a loving husband.
My husband is 8 years younger than myself, BUT this man is an old soul!! I agree with you on so many levels even though we are 8 years apart on the opposite end of the age spectrum. I am 54 and he is 45 and this September will be our 20th anniversary and this man absolutely adores me....like in the most amazing way! Lord I love how this man loves me and I give the same back to him.
I don't think it depends on the age at all. It really depends on the maturity of the man. Many younger men are very mature and many older men are still very immature.
Loved your story Lisa thank you for sharing. The tables are turned for me I am twelve years older than my husband. My second marriage his first 16 years together I always tell him he is an old soul because he is such a good man, good provider and treats me like a queen. I had my own reservations but he has never let me down.
That is great for you, but NO, older men DON'T do it better! My husband is three years younger than I am and he is INCREDIBLE. I was also raised traditional Southern, but married my Yankee "equal". Been thrilled with him for over 23 years now and getting better every day. I was 32, he was 29 when we met. My husband bought his Colonial style, suburban house at age 26 and we didn't have much starting out, but we are now in the 3% bracket and living quite differently, and we have a ball together. I've never met a more "together", intelligent, masculine, respectful man in my entire life. We are both college educated. His parents are STILL married after 65 years. Who you are going into a relationship, and WHO RAISES THE MAN makes all the difference.
I've always dated older men, usually 10-11 years older. But now I have a man who is 7 years younger, and our relationship is dreamy!! Actually, it's better than my wildest dreams. We are so in love, and he is absolute perfection of a man.
My husband’s 2 years younger than me but he definitely showed these same characteristics, he’s always been my rock for almost 30 years, he does remind me sometimes he’s “a younger man” 😂. Lots of love xx
I have experience with both first husband was older....I have been happily very happily married for over 15 years - he is younger than me...smart - career oriented...and keeps me (young)...Life is just awesome...but I realize each experience is different. My handsome husband is the perfect gentleman. I can be independent so he is the icing on my cake... loved this video...
Feeling slightly confused. Luckily with age every guy gets older eventually. Just doing the math… So if you are 37 you should pass on guys who are 37 and go for older more mature guys? But it’s ok to date a 37 year old if you’re 27? Makes no sense. I will also indulge in big mouth old guy kissing for when I am 80 and my man is an older age of 70.
I believe it is personal preference. I dated several older men and never gave it a second thought. When I met my husband I found out that I am actually 5 days older then he. We have been together almost 30 years and most of the time we celebrate our birthdays together. He has always treated me like a queen and still does to this day! I am good to him too and I am honored to call him my husband! Thank you for sharing this video, it does spark a lot of conversation!!
Lisa you have a gentlemen that is respectful and considerate. That’s wonderful and he has many qualities to admire . You both are so lucky to have found each other 🥰
Hi Lisa, I dont think it's a number. My husband is 5 years younger. I was 32 and he was 27 when we married. He had it all together. Great job, a condominium, a car, etc... I was happy he was "established". I was tired of taking care of other men and wanted someone to be stable for me. And be a 50/50 partner. We are now 60 and 55. And it works 💗 I think its about life experience not age. Everything you said about an older man, is my younger man 💞
Interesting. I'm pretty independent and don't feel it necessary for a man to protect and cosset me. I already have a daddy for that. The older I get, the younger I like 'em! 😂
I agree with your why's for sure like listening, attentive, together, secure, eager to please, not shaken easily, sexy, thoughtful, selfless, romantic, but I found that with an eight-year younger man. We have been together over 30 years and are delightfully in love. I believe it is being blessed with finding the right person for you no matter age. So glad you have found your forever love, your wrapped in a warm hug place. You deserve it because you are a very special person, a giving person with a truly big heart. Your good nature is contagious. Don't ever stop doing this...it's important work and you are making a difference. Truly!!!
I'm more impressed your attitude and how you are able to show appreciation and care toward John. I think that is why he continues to treat you so well.
We have a saying in New Zealand about dating older men “ looking for a nurse or a purse”. It’s a generalisation but in these times it can be true. I’m married for 34 years to a man 9 years younger than me, he’s wonderful. I think it’s all about common family backgrounds and goals. Age doesn’t matter. It’s just now at 60 I cringe when I look at old men of 70. They are unattractive and stuck in their ways.
Love these new type of life, diet, makeup, and living advice videos!! Please keep them coming as I love to learn from others life experiences and knowledge ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My husband is very similar to yours even though we are the same age. He has always been very mature for his age, like an older man. He solves all problems and handles all difficulties with a high degree of intelligence. He takes good care of me and never sugar coats anything, what you see is what you get. He is very devoted and trustworthy.
This is such a personal view and pretty over generalized. I have always dated men older than me and when I was in my mid 20’s I dated a man 14 years older than me and truthfully it was a nightmare. He was VERY stuck in his ways from living by himself for so many years. It just wasn’t good. My husband is 8 years older than me but he wasn’t super established when we met. To be fair, half the fun in the beginning was becoming established together. My husband is just a kind, good man and from what I have heard you say about John over the years, so is he. I hope we are raising our son to be kind too. If he is half the man his daddy is he will still be great!
100% agree with you. Dated a 35 yr old when I was 21 and dating a 42 yr old now that I am 29. Their temperament is so much better. Good listeners, kind. I can feel naturally so feminine because they are smarter and more secure. And! They are ready to settle down. I just will not date one with children.
Hi Lisa, sounds like you have a wonderful husband and partner but not all older men are like that. Some of them come with a great deal of baggage. I’m glad you are so happy. I also have a great husband but we are the same age. He treats me like a Queen..We have been married 40+ years.
age is actually just a number in a relationship, and has nothing much to do with compatibility. A younger person can have a mature and logical outlook, whereas an older person can have immature traits.”
My husband is 6 years younger than myself but he has all of these qualities. He’s takes very good care of things, our family and myself. Many women do not want these things but it is very attractive to me.
What a wonderful discussion! Reading the comments below it’s interesting to see the different viewpoints and also beautiful to see so many long marriages. I think what resonated with me is the masculine man and the feminine lady. I think as women we have to be willing to accept the chivalry. Thanks Lisa for such an interesting topic.
I agree with you 😊. I feel quite comfortable to date with the person who is older than me a lots. I learn life experiences from them and enjoy to feel secure with them.
You guys make a beautiful couple Lisa. No relationship is perfect, however yours sounds pretty close 🤗 Thanks for always sharing tips, tricks, and advice. The younger girls will definitely need to watch your content 🌺
I tried being a good boy in my 20s and always got pushed to the friend zone while the girl went with the bad boys. Not that im turning 40, it is those same girls that had their fun in their 20s. Now they have kids and are ready to "settle down" when im ready to have fun. I now make 6 figs, no debt. Love dating but im not settling.
I think it is not about age but rather maturity. I am a year older than my husband and we have been married for 39 years. The guy I didn’t marry was two years older than me and was completely controlling. I know many couples who met in high school and college who are together after 40 years, so I don’t believe age per se is a factor.
I loved this video Lisa and I agree with many of your points. My husband is 13 years older than me and we have been married for 32 years. We dated for 4years so a total of 36 wonderful years spent together. I was 20 when we began dating. We also have twin daughters. I highly recommend marrying an older man 🥰.
Lisa, I think that you suggest a very good option! Obviously provided that people do their due diligence in understanding this person, as in my opinion, should always be done! Great advise Lisa!
I just found your channel and subscribed! I’m in my 30’s but I hope to age as gracefully as you! You are so stunning and vibrant that you put 20 something’s to shame.
So I can tell you that my partner is actually 4 years younger than me. We have been together now for 15 years. He is kind, loving and somewhat old fashioned and mature. This may not be typical but I consider myself very lucky. I don't believe age is always the best denominator. Very happy for you.
Hi Lisa, I’m new to your channel. I read the subject/name of your vlog, it caught my attention. 😉. My husband is 9 yrs older than me, we’ve been together 25 yrs, will be married 22 yrs in September. I found my hubby to be settled, established, mature, intelligent, kind, financially stable, purchased his home on his own, had a great job, and has one son. By the time I met him, all the drama he experienced with his ex was over, she got married and had one more child. They both moved on, thank goodness it didn’t scar him emotionally. I was more of woman that didn’t want to commit to anything, not even buying a home on my own, which btw I should’ve done but I wasn’t ready to settle down. I had cc debt, it wasn’t insane but there was no reason to have debt. He didn’t judge me, he helped me pay it off with my own funds because I had a great job too. My parents were divorced and it left me with not so good memories. I know I’m blessed, I have a son by marriage and now we have a daughter-in-heart we love. I have two grandsons I love so much. We’re now both retired and loving life. His health took a left turn but 5 yrs later he’s fine. As I type this comment my tears are coming down my cheeks. I get what you’re saying. Thank you for this vlog. I enjoyed it. I hope you have a nice weekend. ✨🌼😀
This video describes the man I'm dating for almost 4 months now. He's 65 and I'm 38, so a 27 year age gap, and he's white and I'm black. He's been married 2x before and has a daughter, I've been married 1x before with no living children. He treats me so well, is there for me, I treat him well also. He is also very active, strong, and handsome, and knows how to do traditionally manly things like fix cars, work on a farm, etc and he's not intimidated that I work in construction and ride a motorcycle. In fact he supports and admires that and lets me also be super feminine around him. I feel safe with him. I think we can go the distance and I'm definitely wanting to be official with him. I definitely love him and can tell he loves me too. I hope that he is my forever love. ❤ Thanks for posting the video!
I’ve always been attracted to older men. My Dad was 10 years older than my Mom, but, when he passed away at age 85 years old, it devastated my Mom. I’ve watched her grieve for 7 years now and it is excruciating to see. They were married 54 years, he was her first boyfriend. She tells me now that she used to worry about losing him a lot as they got older. Men oftentimes don’t live as long. Great video.
I loveeeeeee these types of videos. Even though I’ve been with Jon for almost 13 years . Jon and I happen to be the same but I’ve always been drawn to older men for all the reasons mentioned. Jon happened to have almost all of those characteristics from the very start . The only thing he didn’t have was his own home. But we were only 22 when we met. Although we were absolutely young, he had been through some things that made him grow up sooner, and I had too. Right when I met him I went into sudden cardiac arrest. ( we were just talking/ dating but not official. And I had recently broken up with my ex. Everything in me shifted. My whole life all I ever wanted was to be a mom. And the moment Jon and I met we were both very clear on what we craved and dreamed of. He wanted to be a young parent ( he told me this before I ever mentioned it. And it was music to my ears LOL). He unfortunately never had his mother in his life and he craved the exact opposite so much. And knew what he didn’t want as well. He had lived some years of being the hot single guy, and was over it. And I never wanted that life myself. I was ok single but never wanted to just be dating for fun. If I was dating it was because I was very invested and saw major potential in a guy. So when Jon came along it was at such a low in my life but at the same time a high because after going through what I went through, I never saw a more clear view in my head and heart of what I wanted . And Within 3-4 months we moved in, got engaged and . And then we started trying to conceive . It took us about a year, but we got the little girl of my dreams. Jon has amazed me in every way Imaginable. I remember him telling me one of his acquaintances mentioned how I quit working ( I worked at a daycare ), & didn’t he think it was weird. And Jon told him no if she wants to be home there’s no where else I’d rather her be. And that he couldn’t be more proud of me wanting to stay at home with our child one day. And guy said he was actually impressed and felt stupid because Jon wasn’t unsure at all.. 13 ish years later and everything Jon and I spoke of from the very start, is exactly what we did. We had a child as soon as possible, and focused on us. And he welcomed my mom into our home ( she wasn’t bedridden at the time but was struggling to walk when Mariah was only 1-2 years old .. So he showed right there as well who he was. I didn’t have to ask. He was equally not going to put her in a home when she could be with us. That was def not expected but it was just a huge moment where I knew I got it right with him. As well as when I was able to get custody of my niece right around the same time Mariah was born? So we went from 0 kids to two in a months time. And he didn’t skip a beat. am so so grateful for him. He wanted a loving, safe relationship where he felt loved and appreciated and to feel what a true family was for once. And still to this day that’s his priority. Is enjoying that very thing he always dreamt of. Just like I. We lost friends when we shifted our lives more towards what we wanted, ( example.. he maybe has a drink once a year lol, & I haven’t in years lol) etc. etc.. meanwhile some people our age still love going out to just drink. But that just isn’t us. Nothing against it. But we would rather go out to eat and come home and play board games or movies or bowl, etc. Even without Mariah. ( although. NEITHER of us ever want to leave Mariah. She’s always our sidekick and he never complains . We love enjoying her as much as possible. Esp since we unfortunately can’t have any more children - my health issues. ). So, that’s another thing that people still mention to us. How we never “get out” without Mariah. But, we don’t want to lol . And if we do, we do, but not how most want to. Lol. I showed Jon the pics of u and John when you were young with the cruise and he said oh he looked real good look at his traps (LOL - his top of shoulder / arm muscles ). He told me to ask u if he still Ike’s working out because he looks great. ( That’s my Jon’s hobby. He loves going to the gym. And is a nerd with it . But he isn’t a healthy kind. He’s a workout but that’s it kinda guy 😂. Lol) … But anyways, loved this and hope u do more chit chats. Experience videos , Even one on Jon’s opinion, if he has shared with you etc. xo
Beautiful video. Love the photos. Thank you for sharing. My husband is 8 years older. The best. I am 56. I have watched you since the beginning. Love from Boston
I’m not sure if age has to do with anything. I’ve been married for 28 years and I’m 6 months older then my husband. Men that have good virtues are just good men. I’m glad you are happy
😂 oh please!! Duh!! 6 months older is not even a year? You call yourself an older wife? You were both wearing diapers at the same time.
My husband is 6 months older and he’s as mature as a 60 year old and I’m mature like a 20 year old, we have an energetic age gap. 😂
I’ve been married 28 years and am 6 months older too! Lol!
Exactly.
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I think younger men with an older “soul” can be the same way. I started dating my husband when he was 22 and I was 20. On our first date, he told me that he wanted to get married and have kids. He didn’t play any games. We’ve been married for almost 25 years. ☺️
Nicole, I think you are right about the "older soul"...My guy is younger than me and he treats me like a queen
I am married to a person almost 10 years younger than me ... and he is a wonderful being with me , he protects me , loves me , respects me ... we have such a beautiful marriage thanks to the Creator ... so that has nothing to do with the age of the person ... what it does have to do with is how the person is , their values and their personality in general ... which has nothing to do with age or gender ... with respect my opinion
I agree! My husband is 10 years younger than me and he is perfect for me!
My husband is 10 years younger as well. I always dated my same age until I met him. I don’t think there’s a one age gap fits all. Just my opinion.
Same. Mine is 10 years younger than me. I’m 56 🤗 We go together like peanut butter and jelly ❤️
my is 7 years younger then me, we now 15 years together, but I do agree to a point older man is better, only few and about younger mature, I thought at first my husband older, but then I found out that he is younger, but I gave him a chance and did not dismissed him, thank God I did.I feel so loved, protected ❤️, real man🥰🥰🥰
Yes, I agree with you. My husband is 16 years younger than me and He has treated me better than any other man that I've ever been with. His values, beliefs, morals, etc. are different than any of the others too. He's so much more mature than other men who are much older than him. I truly believe, actually, I know that The Lord brought us together. We are equally yoked and that is so important. ♥
I have known older men who have never grown up and younger men with a mature outlook. These things are not set in stone.
My first husband was 10 years older than me. Owned a home, successful, all the things you mentioned. We had twins and my husband said, "I'm too old to be tied down to this." He thought he wanted kids, but he didn't.
My second husband was my age and we were together from the night we met until the day he died.
You can't generalize. Every person is different and every experience is different.
Yeah. Marry a man your own age
Exactly!
I married my wife when she was 27 and I was 50. That was 38 years ago. We love each other more every day even though we are not the same two people that we were then. And yes, it was a second marriage for both of us. It can work. Depends on who you are.
Lisa, my husband is 22 years older than me! We have been married for 36 years now & I couldn’t agree with you more! Many people probably thought I would be “nursing” him through illnesses, etc, and I have. BUT he has also stood by me through thick & thin, including a recent traumatic accident and the changes to our life situation! By the way, he is 81 & I am 59!
We have 4 children and 12 grandchildren! We are indeed blessed!
My boyfriend is 21yrs older than me. I am 41. He is an amazing man. He is just breath of fresh air.
I really enjoyed what you shared. Sadly the older men I happened to meet were the classic forever immature types.🙄Not to say there aren't wonderful older men out there.... just my experience. ❤️I'm super traditional but there are lots of older party boy men who just want a younger women to prove they "still got it."
I have to agree with you. My husband is 10 year's older then me and there are a lot of good things yet a lot of important thing's we don't agree on. He treats me like a queen yes. Sometimes I just need me time. 20 years together. I don't think it's a age thing as much as if you get along have the same interest.
You are describing my love story. My husband was 9 years older than me and the love of my life. He did pass away unexpectedly after 27 years of marriage but I have wonderful memories and we raised two beautiful successful children. Wow, love this content!
To be honest, I find it difficult to make a sweeping generalization about a man's age and his success in marriage, it's so personal and totally dependent on the people involved. Your experience is also personal so thank you for sharing!
Same! Thank you.
Yeah it sounds like John is just an awesome hubby regardless of his age. I'm happy for Lisa to have found her soul mate.
I respect your thoughts on this Lisa, truly, but I do feel this is more an individual thing and not a one size fits all so to speak, regarding gender and age. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us and I hope my comment isn't read the wrong way, just my little humble opinion. ❤
I see eye to eye! 😌
No disrespect . But men are very attractive to ladies half there age . From my experience that why I date 20 years and above my age . 💯🖤
@@tamradillonittybittysiddit1536 That's not always the case. Everyone is different.
Thank you Lisa for ur advice and wisdom. “ if the shoe fits wear it“. Don’t try on something larger or smaller. You will know when that happens. You are truly blessed with such a beautiful family. And those adorable cats !!! 👏🏻👍🏻😉
I agree. I’m the same age as Lisa and prefer younger men. I think because my dad is only 16 years older than me. He had me when he was just shy of turning 16. So, older men is repulsive to me. Most of the females in my family marry younger men. So yes, it’s an individual thing I agree.
Unfortunately my exhusband who was 10 years older than me was nothing like you described. I think it’s more about the person than the age. I’m glad you found that, but I don’t think it’s a given just because they’re older. First time I ever disagreed with you, but I still love you and we can have different opinions.
I believe Lisa was simply saying an older man will demonstrate who they are meaning what kind of values they have for living and treating others.
@@sherrypippen3185 I agree. I’m not saying it’s not true, just for me, it didn’t turn out that way.
She did say they don't necessarily have to be older, they could be younger with these attributes but in her experience an older man was more mature and shared similar morals & virtues. There are exceptions but an older man worked for her 😎😘 kinda like a fine wine ~
Yes, I don't think age has anything to do with maturity, values, or being financially stable. My older ex husband was nothing like Lisa's husband. So happy for you Lisa, but it just isn't a given that older men are better choices. With any person, time will reveal their true character. It was interesting to hear more about your husband. Thank you for sharing!
My husband is 8yrs younger. We met at 28 & i 36
plus my 3 kids from a previous marriage. I have always felt he was way older than myself even to this day. He is very traditional & values similar to those you touched upon. I believe each person is an individual & there are no rule to what feels right. Love is not a number nor is a match between two people only about one thing. I like that you pointed out the qualities in your husband that attracted you.
1.) knowing what you want at any stage or age of life is important.
2.) knowing yourself before getting into any serious relationship will make for a wiser choice
3.) nothing when it comes to marriage is foolproof or full-proof given only 1/2 stay together 😉
I met my husband 48 years ago and we've been married 43 years. We split up during our dating for 6 months. What you say I understand, my husband is a grafter, there are things that irritate me, then I remind myself that I'm not perfect either. My husband is always happy, has a great attitude, and never puts me down, he's not jealous or nasty. So it's not just about me, he always said he didn't need to go out looking for beefburgers and have an affair when he has steak at home...and he loves his steak.
Hi Lisa! I'm going through a terrible breakup with an older man right now that's heartbreaking. Ten years older and has an elderly Father that rules the house, not to mention a teenage daughter that's a nightmare. These older men also have tons of baggage, too. But I will not give up on older men. Thank you for this. Because my man was wealthy, but had none of the characteristics you are bringing to our attention, this is a great list of positive things to look for in the older man.💄❤️
I’m sorry you are going through such a hard time! That family sounds like a nightmare! I agree, some older guys don’t have the maturity and class that Lisa is speaking about; it’s just more common in them than with younger men. Hopefully you will find one like Lisa is describing next time! I’m sure your life will be improved cutting the current one loose! 💕 Best of luck!!!
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Thank you, Lisa, for sharing your thoughts and experience.
I have known my husband for 31 years; together for 29 years; married for 22.5 years. We are very close in age-6 months apart.
He is my biggest supporter and is very loving and sweet with me. We have had times where we butted heads and disagreed on matters; however, we always knew and felt that passionate loving bond between us. And our love has deepened with time. That electric spark between us has only intensified..
This depends on the man and their partner. I don’t think age has anything to do with it. There is something to be said for growing together. Do what you want. There are no rules!
I love this! My husband is 12 years older than me and we've been together for 23 years and it's the best! I've always been attracted to older men too - great video, Lisa!
Thank you for watching!! 😘 Lisa
Love this! I’m 50, and my husband is 64. And I was attracted to him for all the reasons you said! When we were younger I saw nothing but positives to our age difference. Now, as we are getting older, I’m scared he’s going to (likely) die before me😢
Don't be afraid, just enjoy today.
Well I am 70 and my wife is 35 and we get along great. Age is only a number. Let god lead you to the one he wants you to be with you wont regret it. When most people look at marriage its what can I get out of it they should be thinking what can I put into it to make it better. It does work. I say let god lead you, he don't make mistakes like we do ok.
There is a 12+ years difference between my husband and myself. We have been married 30+ years (together 39+ yrs). He takes care of himself, has wonderful morals and I wouldn't change a thing. BUT, people have to realize that as you age, the one thing you will have to deal with is taking care of the older partner. For example, when I am 68, my husband will be 80, God willing. It may be daunting and difficult. That is where the "for better, for worse........in sickness and in health" part of your vows come in. 😀 (Of course, when it comes to health, there is no guarantees for either partner.) If you are prepared for that possibility, then go for it. It is the best for all the reasons Lisa described.
I have a relationship with my husband that mirrors yours and Johns. I had a totally different first marriage to a man 9 years older. My second husband is 8 years younger. I truly think it depends on the character, work ethic, morals and integrity of the man. My 3rd date was a visit with my current husband's parents. His Mom told me once, she would "stomp" me if I ever hurt him. Now she tells him, she will "stomp" him! Yes, we are southern! We make each other our 1st priority.
I think a good man is a good man no matter what the age. I’m 60 and my husband is 41. We have been together for 17 beautiful awesome years.
I’ve married older men (2) 10 yrs older and I’ve always felt normal and really fine with the different in our ages. However now that I’m 60 and he’s 70 I feel the difference. Wouldn’t change it but with all ages comes highs and lows. This is personal choices of course
Oh for sure! My mom dated a man when she was younger that was 15 years older than her. My mom is 65, still teaches kindergarten and runs 5 miles a day. Her ex is now 80, walks with a cane, has dementia and had a large scar across his forehead from skin cancer. It was a shocking difference.
I have been married to my 7 years younger man for 34 years , he took on my 2 children when he was only 23 and we had another 2 children together . I cannot praise him high enough , he is a fabulous man and has always made me feel safe and special, this may be an exception but it worked for us
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My husband was 18 months younger than me. We got married in our early 20s and were happily married for 2 weeks short of 50 years when he passed away. Even at 22, my husband was extremely matured, providing and loved me like I couldn’t ever have dreamed to be loved😍
It’s not about being an older man. 1 or 2 bad experiences with young men or younger men doesn’t mean older men are better. It’s about the type of human you are. It’s about the man upbringing and character. Relationships are about individuality and then two people being able to make it work. Any man of any age can be the way you mentioned, once it’s their personality.
I completely DISAGREE
The vid touches me to the core. I met my my late husband, who just passed away 1 year ago, when I was 19 and he was 28 years old and just out of the Army. We were together for 42 years. From the moment we met he took my hand, never let me go and was a masculine, protective, kind, smart, patriotic, established and a loving man. He did everything for me, our 5 children, family and friends. It was such a blessing being married to an older man who didn’t play games, knew what he wanted and was so patient with me. The heartbreak thing is “he’s was older” and I lost my best friend, partner, lover and the love of my life. Of course, I wouldn’t change a thing, but I will never be able
to spend “the golden years” with the love of my life.
Omg I love his response “she found the right guy” to your ex’s friend that said “watch out for her, she wants to get married “…….that’s definitely a mature man’s response 👌
I found these same characteristics in my husband who is 8 years younger. He is my rock.
My first husband was 8 years older than myself.
I love these types of videos that we can discuss opinions. Thanks for sharing.
My first husband was 18 years older than me. Did not work out. My second husband is six years younger and we’ve been together 17 years & counting… It depends on the person, not age.
Agree- mine is older than me but it truly is a "mind set"- my 27 year old son has always been an old soul!!!!
My boyfriend is 21yrs older than me. I am 41 and I really enjoy our time and we have fun like real fun and I feel fresh and new when I am with him
I can appreciate her train of thought by expressing her fulfillment with older men versus younger men for various reasons. There are exceptions to every rule but she's just sharing her personal experience with younger men. I appreciate her candid conversation with such Grace, Class & Integrity ~ Beautiful 💙
Thank you for standing up for her. She is never one to say my way is the only way. She says everyone thinks differently
I appreciate your experience but the best relationship in my life was a man 15 years younger than me. So it's the man not the age. I do agree with the virtues!!!
Its the man not the age ~ Brilliant
I'm a very independent modern woman and prefer younger men. I like a man who is not living in the past or always referring to the past and is more into the current times. My boyfriend is 10 years younger. I am very active and financially stable and don't need a man to take care of me but to be a partner for fun. I guess we all have preferences.
I would love to hear John's thoughts on this. What kind of women did he date before you?
Another great video! I'm 21 years older than my husband. We will be married 14 yrs this year. He's the best husband I could have ever dreamed to have.
My husband and I just celebrated our 20th anniversary (together 30 yrs in total). There is 13 between us. Choosing him was one of the best decisions of my life for many of the reasons you mentioned, plus many more! I was married once before to my high school sweetheart, and father of my only child (daughter) before I became a young widow. My current husband was not previously married. We have an amazing relationship. He is my greatest supporter, and my biggest fan! He is smart, funny and talented! I wouldn't trade him for the world! Great topic, Lisa! Keep 'em coming! ❤
I love John's answer to the young man who said you just want to get married. " She found the right guy!" That is perfect.
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My husband is two years older. We met when I was 19 ( I am 52 now) , and he was 21 (he is 54 now) He was very mature at 21. We married when I turned 20, after six months of dating. Even thought, my husband was only 21 (in 1990) I felt exactly like Lisa describes. He was very protective, established and really took care of me. I felt very secured with him.
My husband is 3 years older than i. I was in my last year at the university and he was already lawyer when we met.
We were both lawyers before i became a legal adviser.
I think it is not a problem of age but a problem of maturity.
Some are early mature and others later.
At the beginning of our relationship he was my God. Now he is my equal. We can handle both difficulties : when one is « off » than the second of us will manage the problem.
I am a few years older than you, but had always in my mind that i must do my life by myself to feel fine. Now i am european and we have certainly not the same culture.
It is important to take time to discover the qualities and the defaults of your « crush » before trying to live together.
I am definitely a believe in a nice age gap older man/younger woman. Thanks for this video!
This is an interesting discussion as I always found men close to my age within 2 years, younger or older to be a better fit for me. My Dave is 1.5 years younger than me. I admit I was always attracted to men close to my age or younger. I never wanted one who I felt would try to father me. I think that was my hang up though. Love these videos Lisa as they are thought provoking. ❤️
I really needed this !!! This was such a positive expression of an age gap relationship . I hope this reaches every young lady out here THANK YOU
Emotional maturity in a man is the sexiest thing they can possess. I adore my husband who is 14 years older. My experience with men younger and my own age was drama, drama, drama. Grateful for a drama-free life.
I’ve been married 36 years to my hubby and he is four years younger than I am. It’s working for us. I think it’s more about the person and not so much about age. I used to date a man ten years older than myself, it didn’t work out. I think it’s different for everyone. I do enjoy these type of videos.
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As an older, single, military retired man, I thank you for your great analysis and for sharing your experience. I agree wholeheartedly!
Love love love it, I just turned 28 and I’ve tried dating guys my age but I always end up clicking with man around 10+ years older.
I 100% agree with what you’ve said and I am so happy that I have the confidence now to go be with someone that makes me feel special without thinking something is wrong with me 🤪😇🥰
My soulmate, and the love of my life was exactly 10 years older than me. I met him when I was 18 he was 28. We shared 12 incredible years with the same interests and passions. Neither one of us put much into the thought process of the age difference because for one thing I am Caucasian and he had darker skin, so just visually and physically with our fitness bodies you could not tell there was an age difference so it’s just my personal experience…. I don’t see what peoples issues are. I haven’t finished your video yet, but I clicked on it because obviously I was curious. There are particular reasons for haters and actually it’s not our business to even think about them too much. It’s just about sharing our experience and thank you! You’re completely beautiful inside and out. I am grateful for finding your channel through my new carnivore diet.😁
I love these types of videos. And I love seeing people happy and in love. I can tell how much in love you are with John just by how much you are smiling and beaming as you are talking about him. That is so refreshing knowing how long y’all have been married and are still so in love. It’s such an inspiration to me and others!!! Love it❤️❤️
My husband is 2 months younger than me and we have been best friends for 45 years and married for 42 years. My husband has every characteristic that you described.
I just don’t think a blanket statement should be made but I’m so happy that you found happiness with an older man!💕
My grandma was 10 years younger. They hated eachother and he left her when she was sick. My other grandma was a year older and she was happy with a loving husband.
My husband is 8 years younger than myself, BUT this man is an old soul!! I agree with you on so many levels even though we are 8 years apart on the opposite end of the age spectrum. I am 54 and he is 45 and this September will be our 20th anniversary and this man absolutely adores me....like in the most amazing way! Lord I love how this man loves me and I give the same back to him.
I think it can work but definately not for everyone but gender rolls are a must.
I don't think it depends on the age at all. It really depends on the maturity of the man. Many younger men are very mature and many older men are still very immature.
Loved your story Lisa thank you for sharing. The tables are turned for me I am twelve years older than my husband. My second marriage his first 16 years together I always tell him he is an old soul because he is such a good man, good provider and treats me like a queen. I had my own reservations but he has never let me down.
Im a 68 yr old widow and my husband was 14 yrs older than me....however I dont think i'd be interested in a man much older than myself now, lol......
This is the most precious comment ever!!!🤣
how sweet were those pics!!! loved seeing you all when you were younger, hope you share more that would be a cool video!
That is great for you, but NO, older men DON'T do it better! My husband is three years younger than I am and he is INCREDIBLE. I was also raised traditional Southern, but married my Yankee "equal". Been thrilled with him for over 23 years now and getting better every day. I was 32, he was 29 when we met. My husband bought his Colonial style, suburban house at age 26 and we didn't have much starting out, but we are now in the 3% bracket and living quite differently, and we have a ball together. I've never met a more "together", intelligent, masculine, respectful man in my entire life. We are both college educated. His parents are STILL married after 65 years. Who you are going into a relationship, and WHO RAISES THE MAN makes all the difference.
In your eyes doesn't apply to everyone, I was older then my husband and it was a beautiful marriage, unfortunately he passed away.
I've always dated older men, usually 10-11 years older. But now I have a man who is 7 years younger, and our relationship is dreamy!! Actually, it's better than my wildest dreams. We are so in love, and he is absolute perfection of a man.
My husband’s 2 years younger than me but he definitely showed these same characteristics, he’s always been my rock for almost 30 years, he does remind me sometimes he’s “a younger man” 😂. Lots of love xx
I totally agree 👍🏾. I just forwarded this video to a young lady who needed to hear this.
I have experience with both first husband was older....I have been happily very happily married for over 15 years - he is younger than me...smart - career oriented...and keeps me (young)...Life is just awesome...but I realize each experience is different. My handsome husband is the perfect gentleman. I can be independent so he is the icing on my cake... loved this video...
Thanks for sharing your insight Lisa.
I can relate on many levels. Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving!😊
Feeling slightly confused. Luckily with age every guy gets older eventually. Just doing the math… So if you are 37 you should pass on guys who are 37 and go for older more mature guys? But it’s ok to date a 37 year old if you’re 27? Makes no sense. I will also indulge in big mouth old guy kissing for when I am 80 and my man is an older age of 70.
I believe it is personal preference. I dated several older men and never gave it a second thought. When I met my husband I found out that I am actually 5 days older then he. We have been together almost 30 years and most of the time we celebrate our birthdays together. He has always treated me like a queen and still does to this day! I am good to him too and I am honored to call him my husband! Thank you for sharing this video, it does spark a lot of conversation!!
Lisa you have a gentlemen that is respectful and considerate. That’s wonderful and he has many qualities to admire . You both are so lucky to have found each other 🥰
Hi Lisa, I dont think it's a number. My husband is 5 years younger. I was 32 and he was 27 when we married. He had it all together. Great job, a condominium, a car, etc... I was happy he was "established". I was tired of taking care of other men and wanted someone to be stable for me. And be a 50/50 partner. We are now 60 and 55. And it works 💗 I think its about life experience not age. Everything you said about an older man, is my younger man 💞
I loved this! I loved seeing the pictures of you guys. You both are truly blessed. 💋
Interesting. I'm pretty independent and don't feel it necessary for a man to protect and cosset me. I already have a daddy for that. The older I get, the younger I like 'em! 😂
I agree with your why's for sure like listening, attentive, together, secure, eager to please, not shaken easily, sexy, thoughtful, selfless, romantic, but I found that with an eight-year younger man. We have been together over 30 years and are delightfully in love. I believe it is being blessed with finding the right person for you no matter age. So glad you have found your forever love, your wrapped in a warm hug place. You deserve it because you are a very special person, a giving person with a truly big heart. Your good nature is contagious. Don't ever stop doing this...it's important work and you are making a difference. Truly!!!
I'm more impressed your attitude and how you are able to show appreciation and care toward John. I think that is why he continues to treat you so well.
We have a saying in New Zealand about dating older men “ looking for a nurse or a purse”.
It’s a generalisation but in these times it can be true.
I’m married for 34 years to a man 9 years younger than me, he’s wonderful. I think it’s all about common family backgrounds and goals. Age doesn’t matter. It’s just now at 60 I cringe when I look at old men of 70. They are unattractive and stuck in their ways.
Love these new type of life, diet, makeup, and living advice videos!! Please keep them coming as I love to learn from others life experiences and knowledge ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My husband is very similar to yours even though we are the same age. He has always been very mature for his age, like an older man. He solves all problems and handles all difficulties with a high degree of intelligence. He takes good care of me and never sugar coats anything, what you see is what you get. He is very devoted and trustworthy.
Warmed my heart seeing all the pictures of you and John. Thanks for sharing!
This is such a personal view and pretty over generalized. I have always dated men older than me and when I was in my mid 20’s I dated a man 14 years older than me and truthfully it was a nightmare. He was VERY stuck in his ways from living by himself for so many years. It just wasn’t good. My husband is 8 years older than me but he wasn’t super established when we met. To be fair, half the fun in the beginning was becoming established together. My husband is just a kind, good man and from what I have heard you say about John over the years, so is he. I hope we are raising our son to be kind too. If he is half the man his daddy is he will still be great!
100% agree with you. Dated a 35 yr old when I was 21 and dating a 42 yr old now that I am 29. Their temperament is so much better. Good listeners, kind. I can feel naturally so feminine because they are smarter and more secure. And! They are ready to settle down. I just will not date one with children.
Lisa, I ABSOLUTELY 💯 agree with you wholeheartedly! Great video! 🫶🫧
Hi Lisa, sounds like you have a wonderful husband and partner but not all older men are like that. Some of them come with a great deal of baggage. I’m glad you are so happy. I also have a great husband but we are the same age. He treats me like a Queen..We have been married 40+ years.
I love when you make these videos! Life/love lessons and keto/carnivore are my faves!!
Same here! I was 27 and my hubby was 37 when we met. I love my old man! 😍 10 years married and so happy!
age is actually just a number in a relationship, and has nothing much to do with compatibility. A younger person can have a mature and logical outlook, whereas an older person can have immature traits.”
My husband is 6 years younger than myself but he has all of these qualities. He’s takes very good care of things, our family and myself. Many women do not want these things but it is very attractive to me.
What a wonderful discussion! Reading the comments below it’s interesting to see the different viewpoints and also beautiful to see so many long marriages. I think what resonated with me is the masculine man and the feminine lady. I think as women we have to be willing to accept the chivalry. Thanks Lisa for such an interesting topic.
Hello Pamela, How are you doing today, I hope all is well with you
I agree with you 😊. I feel quite comfortable to date with the person who is older than me a lots. I learn life experiences from them and enjoy to feel secure with them.
You are so right Lisa! John sounds like a wonderful guy! Sending love and light to you from Portland, Maine💕
You guys make a beautiful couple Lisa. No relationship is perfect, however yours sounds pretty close 🤗 Thanks for always sharing tips, tricks, and advice. The younger girls will definitely need to watch your content 🌺
Loved this🥰. You are so correct in a lot of what you said. Would love other videos of this type in the future.
I tried being a good boy in my 20s and always got pushed to the friend zone while the girl went with the bad boys. Not that im turning 40, it is those same girls that had their fun in their 20s. Now they have kids and are ready to "settle down" when im ready to have fun. I now make 6 figs, no debt. Love dating but im not settling.
I think it is not about age but rather maturity. I am a year older than my husband and we have been married for 39 years. The guy I didn’t marry was two years older than me and was completely controlling. I know many couples who met in high school and college who are together after 40 years, so I don’t believe age per se is a factor.
Hello Barbara, How are you doing today, I hope all is well with you
I loved this video Lisa and I agree with many of your points. My husband is 13 years older than me and we have been married for 32 years. We dated for 4years so a total of 36 wonderful years spent together. I was 20 when we began dating. We also have twin daughters. I highly recommend marrying an older man 🥰.
Lisa, I think that you suggest a very good option! Obviously provided that people do their due diligence in understanding this person, as in my opinion, should always be done! Great advise Lisa!
I just found your channel and subscribed! I’m in my 30’s but I hope to age as gracefully as you! You are so stunning and vibrant that you put 20 something’s to shame.
Thank you so much!! 🥰 Lisa
🥰 I've been married for 20yrs, he is 15yrs older than me 👍 We are very happy.
Thank you for sharing your life experience with us! You are very inspiring!
So I can tell you that my partner is actually 4 years younger than me. We have been together now for 15 years. He is kind, loving and somewhat old fashioned and mature. This may not be typical but I consider myself very lucky. I don't believe age is always the best denominator. Very happy for you.
Hi Lisa,
I’m new to your channel. I read the subject/name of your vlog, it caught my attention. 😉. My husband is 9 yrs older than me, we’ve been together 25 yrs, will be married 22 yrs in September. I found my hubby to be settled, established, mature, intelligent, kind, financially stable, purchased his home on his own, had a great job, and has one son. By the time I met him, all the drama he experienced with his ex was over, she got married and had one more child. They both moved on, thank goodness it didn’t scar him emotionally. I was more of woman that didn’t want to commit to anything, not even buying a home on my own, which btw I should’ve done but I wasn’t ready to settle down. I had cc debt, it wasn’t insane but there was no reason to have debt. He didn’t judge me, he helped me pay it off with my own funds because I had a great job too. My parents were divorced and it left me with not so good memories. I know I’m blessed, I have a son by marriage and now we have a daughter-in-heart we love. I have two grandsons I love so much. We’re now both retired and loving life. His health took a left turn but 5 yrs later he’s fine. As I type this comment my tears are coming down my cheeks. I get what you’re saying. Thank you for this vlog. I enjoyed it. I hope you have a nice weekend. ✨🌼😀
This video describes the man I'm dating for almost 4 months now. He's 65 and I'm 38, so a 27 year age gap, and he's white and I'm black. He's been married 2x before and has a daughter, I've been married 1x before with no living children. He treats me so well, is there for me, I treat him well also. He is also very active, strong, and handsome, and knows how to do traditionally manly things like fix cars, work on a farm, etc and he's not intimidated that I work in construction and ride a motorcycle. In fact he supports and admires that and lets me also be super feminine around him. I feel safe with him. I think we can go the distance and I'm definitely wanting to be official with him. I definitely love him and can tell he loves me too. I hope that he is my forever love. ❤ Thanks for posting the video!
Sounds like you have a good one!! Thank you for watching 🥰 Lisa
@LisaLisaD1 Thanks Lisa and so have you! Thanks for the video!
I’ve always been attracted to older men. My Dad was 10 years older than my Mom, but, when he passed away at age 85 years old, it devastated my Mom. I’ve watched her grieve for 7 years now and it is excruciating to see. They were married 54 years, he was her first boyfriend. She tells me now that she used to worry about losing him a lot as they got older. Men oftentimes don’t live as long. Great video.
I loveeeeeee these types of videos. Even though I’ve been with Jon for almost 13 years . Jon and I happen to be the same but I’ve always been drawn to older men for all the reasons mentioned. Jon happened to have almost all of those characteristics from the very start . The only thing he didn’t have was his own home. But we were only 22 when we met. Although we were absolutely young, he had been through some things that made him grow up sooner, and I had too. Right when I met him I went into sudden cardiac arrest. ( we were just talking/ dating but not official. And I had recently broken up with my ex. Everything in me shifted. My whole life all I ever wanted was to be a mom. And the moment Jon and I met we were both very clear on what we craved and dreamed of. He wanted to be a young parent ( he told me this before I ever mentioned it. And it was music to my ears LOL). He unfortunately never had his mother in his life and he craved the exact opposite so much. And knew what he didn’t want as well. He had lived some years of being the hot single guy, and was over it. And I never wanted that life myself. I was ok single but never wanted to just be dating for fun. If I was dating it was because I was very invested and saw major potential in a guy. So when Jon came along it was at such a low in my life but at the same time a high because after going through what I went through, I never saw a more clear view in my head and heart of what I wanted . And Within 3-4 months we moved in, got engaged and . And then we started trying to conceive . It took us about a year, but we got the little girl of my dreams. Jon has amazed me in every way Imaginable. I remember him telling me one of his acquaintances mentioned how I quit working ( I worked at a daycare ), & didn’t he think it was weird. And Jon told him no if she wants to be home there’s no where else I’d rather her be. And that he couldn’t be more proud of me wanting to stay at home with our child one day. And guy said he was actually impressed and felt stupid because Jon wasn’t unsure at all.. 13 ish years later and everything Jon and I spoke of from the very start, is exactly what we did. We had a child as soon as possible, and focused on us. And he welcomed my mom into our home ( she wasn’t bedridden at the time but was struggling to walk when Mariah was only 1-2 years old .. So he showed right there as well who he was. I didn’t have to ask. He was equally not going to put her in a home when she could be with us. That was def not expected but it was just a huge moment where I knew I got it right with him. As well as when I was able to get custody of my niece right around the same time Mariah was born? So we went from 0 kids to two in a months time. And he didn’t skip a beat. am so so grateful for him. He wanted a loving, safe relationship where he felt loved and appreciated and to feel what a true family was for once. And still to this day that’s his priority. Is enjoying that very thing he always dreamt of. Just like I. We lost friends when we shifted our lives more towards what we wanted, ( example.. he maybe has a drink once a year lol, & I haven’t in years lol) etc. etc.. meanwhile some people our age still love going out to just drink. But that just isn’t us. Nothing against it. But we would rather go out to eat and come home and play board games or movies or bowl, etc. Even without Mariah. ( although. NEITHER of us ever want to leave Mariah. She’s always our sidekick and he never complains . We love enjoying her as much as possible. Esp since we unfortunately can’t have any more children - my health issues. ). So, that’s another thing that people still mention to us. How we never “get out” without Mariah. But, we don’t want to lol . And if we do, we do, but not how most want to. Lol.
I showed Jon the pics of u and John when you were young with the cruise and he said oh he looked real good look at his traps (LOL - his top of shoulder / arm muscles ). He told me to ask u if he still Ike’s working out because he looks great. ( That’s my Jon’s hobby. He loves going to the gym. And is a nerd with it . But he isn’t a healthy kind. He’s a workout but that’s it kinda guy 😂. Lol) …
But anyways, loved this and hope u do more chit chats. Experience videos , Even one on Jon’s opinion, if he has shared with you etc. xo
Are u presently single
Beautiful video. Love the photos. Thank you for sharing. My husband is 8 years older. The best. I am 56.
I have watched you since the beginning. Love from Boston
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