My Happy Marriage Tips~ "he's just a man"
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- Welcome! 💕 In this video and future "advice" videos, I am speaking from my experience and sharing with you things I have learned in MY life and relationships~I realize we are all so different, we want different things, and "HAPPY" is subjective~please don't get offended by anything I say--I want the best for all of you! 💋 Lisa
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The best advice I was ever given (it applies to all aspects of life really) is: “Its not the message, it’s the delivery”think about that when having any kind of discussion, it will change the way you approach a conversation. Lovely as always! Xo
Laura in the Kitchen we love you too Laura!! Sei Bella anche tu!!
YES! Just the way you word something makes all the difference, I was just telling Brooke last night how much words can hurt, and you can't really take them back~ we were watching TV and I am always mortified at how people talk to each other, even family! Thank you, Laura! ❤️ Lisa
LisaLisaD1 Totally agree with this. I’m now trying to make sure my two teens realize this, too.....because they’ve lived almost their entire lives listening to my husband make backhanded but intentional comments to me and about me that are disrespectful and demeaning. I desperately want my kids to know that this is NOT ok and NOT normal in a healthy marriage (or in any relationship, in general). I certainly don’t want either of them to behave in this way or to accept this behavior in their own relationships.
I always say this too! It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it!
I want the man I'm with to have good emotional intelligence. Yes, they are just men, but they can always learn more. The same way we can.
This is where you absolutely shine my friend....Love is the foundation of your home and family...experience has taught you well...Your upbringing with two parents who love you unconditionally makes you the woman you are....Our path leads us into the unknown, what we do with it...is truly up to us...we must all take responsibility in our relationships...I believe two people can be together until death due us part....knowing ourselves is just as important as knowing our spouse....The journey to real lasting love is work...it is compromise ...it is respect...it is honor...it is trust...it is having someone else's best interest at heart...it is FORGIVENESS....it is liking as well as loving that person....it is being kind ...it is about having our eyes and ears open......and it must always be thought of as US...not ME....Fabulous video...!! Let your light shine ....it may be the one little glimmer that helps someone!!
uppiesbeads59 BEAUTIFUL!! And dead on! 💖💖💖
You make me cry!! Thank you, Tammy, love you! ❤️ Lisa
uppiesbeads59 this is so beautifully said and soooo spot on..👌. Could not have said it better if I tried. Thank you for putting words to my thoughts.
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Miss Tammy you said it so well, you said everything I was thinking, just didn’t know how to put it all together.😘
Your loving spirit is infectious💞 thank you for this video Lisa🙏🏾. You look beautiful today😍
Thank you so much! ❤️ Lisa
Once when we were preparing for a party and I was upset he wasn’t paying attention to certain details, my husband said to me that what is important to me may not be something that is important to another and you really can’t fault someone for not thinking the same way. I have forever kept that advice with me in personal and professional relationships. You can’t force your ways on anyone, but should accept people as they are and appreciate how different and special people can be. Be grateful. Great advice Lisa, you are a nice person and that is such a great quality 💕
EXACTLY!! We can't expect everyone to be "motivated" by the same things we are~ that was a hard lesson for me to learn, I wanted everyone to want what I wanted and that is just not the case! Thank you very much!! ❤️ Lisa
Lisa, I love these kind of videos.
Faye Sheetz Me too... 👍👍
Thank you, Faye! ❤️ Lisa
I love these topics. Keep ‘em coming please!!
Thank you, Faith!! I will, I have so much for us to talk about!! ❤️ Lisa
Two things: 1. You look beautiful today! Love your makeup and hair. 2. If I could only watch one UA-cam channel it would be yours. ❤️
Awe, thank you so much, that was so nice!! ❤️ Lisa
I agree!
Me too!
Me too
I enjoy when you talk about life! I just told my husband and my daughter that one of the things I enjoyed about your channel is how much you love life and your family. That is how I feel too and it is refreshing to hear about people who are overall happy not that we all don't have our struggles but it is nice to be thankful of what we have. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much!! ❤️ Lisa
My Aunt would always tell me that marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, not an OWNERSHIP.... Words to live by for sure!
Michelle Young yes!! Love that! And very true..
Michelle Young and, along those same very wise lines....marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, not a DICTATORSHIP....! That’s something that my soon-to-be-ex-husband would never ever abide by in our 21 year marriage, and it ultimately ended in the demise of TWO different marriages for him. Ladies, know your worth and what you bring to the table at all times, regardless of whether you work outside the home and bring in a paycheck to help support your family OR work inside the home 24/7 to support your family and to create a wonderful life all the way around for them. Regardless, self-respect is always key, and if your husband and life partner does NOT respect what you bring to the marriage and/or does not respect you simply as a human being, there WILL be trouble in paradise.....
@@kimberlybellefontaine1215 , Well said, well said!!!
Leslie Breimob ❤️
@@kimberlybellefontaine1215 , Amen
Thank you for this! I’m a 20-something single girl that can use all the advice she can get😊😘❤️ keep em coming!
Thank you!! I have so much I want to tell YOU, lol! Things I would tell my 20 yr old self!! ❤️ Lisa
My husband and I have been together 40 years and it only took me 20 of those years to finally realize that "he is just a man" and that is why we don't always see eye to eye. But it just dawned on me that I wonder if he realizes that "I'm just a woman". :) I enjoy your story time. Laurie
My best advice I ever got- “If it matters to him then it should matter to you and vise versa”
Yes! We cannot discount another's feelings~ so true! 💕 Lisa
You definitely should do more advice and tip videos. Would love to hear your perspective 🙂
lisa, thank you so much for making this video. your “finding mr. right” video is one of my favorites you’ve ever done (and i never miss any of your videos!) 💕 as a single woman in my mid-20s, i’ve learned so much about what i want from a partner and relationship from failed relationships. i love hearing other peoples’ perspectives and advice on love and relationships. i hope you keep up this type of video because i really appreciate hearing your thoughts & advice on these topics! thanks for all you do and share with us. xoxo, megan
Wonderful, thank you!! I have so much I want to share! ❤️ Lisa
As a young woman I’ve learned so much from you. Xx
Yes, please do more “life”/advice videos. You have a lot of practical things to share.
I always enjoy your videos about relationships and life wisdom!
Thank you!! 😊 Lisa
I’m so glad you did this! This is actually helping me on my life right now. I would love for you to also do a parenting video. Building a good relationship with a daughter “mother daughter bond” I have 3 daughters and I would LOVE to know.
Be their "MOM" for the first 21 years, then you can be their friend!!!
jillf24 yes, YES! Children need their parents to be parents. Later on, you can be friends and really enjoy it.
Let's Talk Beauty yes! My daughter will be 18 in just a couple of months (and my son will be 20). It was not always easy, especially with my daughter, but I can honestly say that I’m finally seeing the fruits of my labor. I can finally see the light at the end of a long tunnel. Here’s a key: do NOT take what they say personally. The mother-daughter relationship is one of THE most complicated relationships on Earth. It can be the best thing ever.....and it can be the worst ever and can make you feel like s**t..🙁. Definitely set your boundaries and don’t let them get away with not respecting them. Being their parent, NOT their friend, is crucial. Set limits and boundaries even when you’re the “bad guy.” They’ll appreciate it and will love you for it down the road! I’m seeing the fruits of my labor with my daughter now.....but we had some rough years there..😰. Hang in there. It WILL get better!
Thank you!! I would love to open a discussion on that, I'll tell what I have learned, some great tips for communication, I would love to share!! ❤️ Lisa
i needed this< thanks for comment. Sometimes I feel alone. My daughter is 14, and struggling really hard with these teenage years. Testing limits, mood swings etc.. I look at her sometimes and think where did my little girl go, She was so sweet and funny, and now its a rollercoaster of emotions!
You are so good at speaking from your heart. You give very good advice without sounding preachy.
Thank you!! ❤️ Lisa
I liked hearing your advice and point of view and I’d love to see more videos like this . But I feel like all men are different (my hubby is artistic & indecisive & great dad but very reserved)- so to say “he’s just a man” feels like an easy out or let’s them off the hook. Do you know what I mean? Couples counseling has been great for helping us be a better team and now we’re more on the same page with parenting. But damn relationships take a lot of work on both sides. Being mindful of each others needs and checking in with each other. I think once you have kids all of your focuses change. It’s tricky. Just my two cents. I hope all of that came out right.
Thanks again for making videos I look forward to every week ♥️
One more thing .. I think one of the biggest arguments are around money. I’m a stay at home mom at I have weird guilt about spending. I’d love to hear your advice on that topic.
Swingondown that’s one thing I HATED about my marriage - the money issue. I, too, was a “stay at home” mom. I had two kids under the age of two and a commercial airline pilot husband who was gone at least 60-70% of the time. I learned how to be a strong “single parent” much of the time. However, my husband ALWAYS made me feel guilty about spending ANY money at all. He became possessive (of OUR money!) and controlling and judgmental...and I believe it eventually heavily contributed to the downfall of our marriage - money was just soooo ultra important to him. I’ve had so many people (who know him) tell me that he loves money more than he loved me. I completely agree with that! I never really had “guilt” about spending money because I never went overboard and I only had a budgeted amount to use anyway. I’d love to hear others’ thoughts on this matter, too!
I cant believe youre 48! I have been so afraid to get older bc IM 30 and Im single and scared that marriage will never happen for me! * ive been through a lot * BUT this is inspiring to me. Youre GORGEOUS!!!!! Getting older is a privilege and if you take care of yourself like i see that you've done, its well worth it! I know its hard to share and be so personal but, Im so glad that you do! Thank you for sharing!!
I just turned 31 and single, but not scared that marriage will not happen for me as at this point I really don't care if it does or not. I had to let one go after four years of pampering his size 14 feet amongst other ridiculous things and no commitment. It's more than nice for it to be all about me and for me now.
@@lifeinlimbo378 any updates?
Parts of this video made me cringe. Although i agree with a lot of what you said, “he’s just a man” sounds like more of an excuse to allow him to say things that hurt you, but you aren’t allowed to be hurt. I am a blonde and have had many hair colors over the years and i went dark brown once. It only lasted for a week before i went back blonde because i hated it. I knew my husband didn’t like it either but he would never tell me that he hated it or look at me differently. He told me that i was beautiful no matter what color my hair was. Just don’t forget your worth! 😘
Nevena Seferovic I agree. Let’s not make excuses for men based on their gender...each of us is human and deserve equal respect. Equality in my marriage with my husband is something I value so much. Equality of the sexes is how we need to evolve as a race.
Interesting; I think the word “just” can be taken a few different ways. Having been married 13 years, I take “he’s just a man” to mean more along the lines of he’s only human. No one is perfect and I can’t expect him to be, as I’m not! Neither do we see everything the exact same way, we can listen to each other and learn from one another, still after so many years. It comes down to having respect for yourself as well as your husband, I think. Anyway, love these conversations!
So true !!
For sure Nevena. Slazem se :)
Men don't want to marry a competitor. Period! This whole "strong and independent bossbabe" attitude doesn't work in long term relationships .
No offense as I know everyone is raised differently and come from different cultures... from Someone in the mid west/north I can’t fathom a concept of a women’s and mans place - yikes.
@@sarahsmile2883 Exceptionally well-said.
😘 After 26 years I can honestly say we have fallen in and out of love with each other many times..........and I wouldn't trade it for a minute. Thanks for sharing, Lisa. 😘
Love this, thank you, Colleen! ❤️ Lisa
Colleen McLaughlin YES! You’ve captured the basic essence of marriage here...👌
I has been is a procrastinator. He’s electrician and let me tell you when he comes home he takes his boots off. And sits down and that’s it. I handle stuff from everything from getting people to do the yard getting my house painted going to do groceries. Everything. If I asked him to do certain it would never get done. He would rather pay which is OK.
I get what you're saying but us as women make so many excuses for men and their bad behavior. Sometimes we need to expect more from them and they need to compromise with us too. I know there are good men out there and I'm not speaking about them but there are a lot of bad ones out there and we put ourselves last while they do what they want. I would tell any young women to be very careful because they can easily get confused. I wish there were more good ones out there, dating these days is TOUGH!
Glossyvixen agreed. What I find the worst is that sooo many dating coaches teach women to accomodate all sorts of BS, calling that "being feminine", while what women mostly need is self respect, self awareness and dropping illusion of being able to tame men who just aren't SO material.
Laura K. Yes!!
Glossyvixen I completely agree with you. I was guilty of this - making excuses for his behavior - and my marriage ultimately ended in demise anyway due to his disrespectful, inconsiderate and abusive behavior. It’s gonna be a struggle to teach my almost 18 yr old daughter about “good” men.
Yeah sadly if men see you as a doormat, they'll walk all over you. Its a very delicate balance. Sorry you had to go through this heartache. I try to focus on the people i know that have good relationships and know that it is possible with the right person. Finding someone who is caring, considerate, sensitive and your best friend at the same time should be everyone's ultimate goal. Hang in there!
@Laura K. feminine aka doormat...no thanks. Yes pick your battles but dont be a doormat right?! ugh! But yes like someone said, its all in the delivery of how things are said. That is good advice.
Your hair looks so healthy and really nice today. Love the color.
Dr.Phil has a saying he always uses on couples when they’re arguing- “ Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy”? That reminds me of what you’re talking about. :)
I’m so excited to hear your advice. It’s so nice to hear you talk about John. I loved hearing your first date on the boat years ago that you shared. I love make-up and clothes, but I really love watching you Lisa, just because you are so nice and it makes me nicer. I’m sure your to-do UA-cam video list is very long but i would love to hear your advice on keeping calm when parenting can be so hard.
Oh my goodness....you are SO true about husband's trying to fix things for us. If I have a problem in any area my husband either suggests a solution or tells me to stop wasting time if I don't want to take any action. I just need someone to listen and maybe just understand. Love to hear these talks. X.
Jamison Gee I think this is sooooo common! Same here🙋🏻♀️. Men just HAVE to “fix” things. I don’t think they know any other way!
Natural 235 sometimes WE don’t even know we just want them “just to listen” though !
I know, I go to my mom if I want a real discussion! ❤️ Lisa
Jamison Gee Oddly my husband and I are the other way round and it can be SOOO frustrating listening to the same problem over and over when there’s a simple fix but they won’t try it. Maybe I’m from Mars too! 😱
Eleanor Rodway LOL!🤣
Thank you so much, Lisa! Lord, I remember watching those original videos about your divorce! That is when I fell "in love" with your channel
sontzi I just recently found Lisa’s old videos and I love them!! I’ve really enjoyed the few I’ve had the pleasure of watching. I love those older videos.
I have never ever commented on a video before, but I've been watching you for years Lisa and after this video i just absolutely have to say what an amazing, kind, genuine, funny and gorgeous woman you are. I smiled with you throughout this entire video because i understood every example you gave, made me chuckle out loud actually. You seem to have the sweetest soul and your energy is so peaceful and gracious, I could never get tired of watching your videos. I soak in all the advice youve ever given. Videos like these are my fave. Enjoy the rest of your summer!
This is such a sad video, life is so much more than this, go out and have some experiences.
Regarding pride, I think Dr Phil says “would you rather be right or would you rather be happy.” Sometimes it is best just to give in, obviously for the small arguments. We will celebrate 35 years of marriage next month.💜 ps love your eye look
Barb Robbins my husband ALWAYS had to be “right.” Always.
Oh my goodness, I love that!! SO TRUE! I actually love his advice, I need to watch him more~ Thank you, Barb! ❤️ Lisa
This was great Lisa! I love it when you do these kind of chat or advice videos :)
Oh my goodness!! I love this video. You are definitely in your zone. You seem so comfortable and like you were in the earlier videos when I first started watching you. I will be celebrating 34 years sept 1st. We were 16 and 19 when we married in the 80’s. You seem so confident and happy in this video! Funny that you mentioned the happy medium of your weight. I was thinking you look so beautiful without being too skinny in your face. You look perfect right now!! I wish I had your discipline. I need to lose 30 lbs! It’s so hard for me to eat in moderation I love food. You do a great job. I’ve loved watching you for many years. So thankful that you have stayed true to who you are!
M Franco so well said! I feel the same way..
Do you follow Brooke on Instagram?
I agree with all u say. ..
Last may my husband passed away suddenly at the early age of 48:(((
He was A very good HUSBAND ,respectful, loyal to me ,,we hardly ever argued...
Love N cherish your marriage. .life is too short..being a widow SUCKS!!!!!
My advice would b......try to b good to each other ,because when your spouse passes away ,we tend to think of all the silly
Arguments n the bad...pick n choose them arguments, ,n when u take time to calm down..you'll c its not worth it.
Xoxo lisaD
I can't believe the timing! I have been married 21 years, but lately communication has been a struggle. This is right on time and so helpful!
Bedavis55 i have been married 17 years, for some reason i always thought things would be PERFECT the longer we were together. The communication etc. but it really is ups and downs! Some days we are perfect. Some days everything we say we argue. I had to learn that it’s normal... lol
Brandy H.2426 I always believed that, too - that marriage was made up of good and not-so-good and everything possible in between. I think those who make it to the end are just two imperfect individuals who choose to love one other and refuse to ever completely give up on each other. I see my sister married for 35 years....and my parents for 60 years. Yet, after 21 yrs of marriage and two older teens, my own husband decided that he didn’t want to do it any longer and filed for divorce. My now soon to be ex has his own problems though - he was married for just a few short years and divorced before he ever met me. I should have seen the red flags when I met him 24 yrs ago, but I didn’t. Now, if I’d met him today, I think I would’ve seen the red flags..🙁. Anyway, I love videos like this so much and I think many women easily relate to this kind of conversation. I hope there’s more of it in the future and I thank Lisa for putting this video out there!
When I was married he would say all the time, do you really need to get your nails done? Do you really need that? When I hardly splurged on myself. He didn’t have any issues spending money going on hunting trips instead of spending money on family vacations. I am so much happier being single for a number of years and not having to hear all the things I once did. If I want something I buy it. Nor will I ever have to hear you wouldn’t have that if it weren’t for me. I got divorced back in 2001 and never ever had the desire to get married again 😂 I enjoy doing it all on my own, owning my own home and coming and going as I please not having to answer to anyone. I don’t miss anything about being married. When you are a grown woman and independent people don’t understand it. They don’t need to. Just because a woman is single does not mean we are lonely. The bickering, the man of the house or so they may feel 😂 I just don’t miss any of it. Congratulations on being married for over 20 years. Women who have great men who are faithful, trustworthy, hard working, family men etc have no idea how truly blessed you are. Not to be negative but the quality of men out there now a days are garbage. I have tried dating on and off through the years and never met anyone of quality. I enjoy watching you Lisa. You are so beautiful, positive and inspirational! God Bless You and John💞
Loved this conversation Lisa.
Thank you, Lois! ❤️ Lisa
Not sure here..but I don’t think you’re sending the right message to young girls.
I married a narcissistic man.. No empathy. never nice things to say plus would not apologize for yelling at me or calling me names.. yes hurts my feelings.. you must have a better”picker” his 2nd wife took all his overbearing mature and his daughter never came around and she became no contact with him. Am divorced and buying my own home. Looking forward
Yes, men are different than women . Men , in general, think and and feel differently than us. Please feminists don’t be offended by that. Nothing to do with equal rights. Thank you, Lisa , for sharing your experiences with us.💕
Why would we be offended by that?
Chelsea Williams Do you know what a feminist is, hun?
Chelsea Williams you don’t, hun. The worst part is that YOU’RE a feminist, because YOU are doing what YOU want to do with YOUR life. It’s completely your choice. Good luck with everything x
Feminist want to be equals when woman are far superior ;) lol silly girls! Lol
EXACTLY! It's just nature, and I embrace it, I love that we are so different! Thank you! ❤️ Lisa
I am SO excited for your advice videos! Let me grab my pen and notebook! 📝
Love this video. I am recently divorced. And I can completely see how this advice is 100% accurate.!These issues you are speaking of , are the truest difference between a man’s thought process and a woman’s thought process. Where were you and your momma during my marriage lol . Listen up ladies , she is preaching the truth
TheClassicgirl7 absolutely!!! 100% truth👌. I, too, am almost divorced...after 21+ years of marriage. I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. Only those of us who’ve been through it can really know what a traumatic life event it can really be..
Maybe it's in the name mine's name is John to and he is short and over no more talk nothing...I use to just keep my mouth shut and let it be...he only got worse...he is just a man but I am a woman and he has to respect that in some darn way. I don't keep my mouth shut anymore you be just a man but I'm gonna be just a woman so get use to it. lol By the way we have been married over 20 years to and it's been this way all that time...!
Love the dark hair story!!! My husband hates my hair dark also!! Hates it!! I just went from blonde to dark brown and I can see it in his eyes too! Same here, first it irked me. I’ll go back light I know. It’s just a little thing that he prefers. I live and respect him and he does me too. So, I’ll keep it light for him. He does do much for me and our son! Great video! ❤️
Lisa great video. I too was married young. Can say a survivor of domestic violence. One thing I can say is I am so happy my mom was not my best friend but my mother. I wish I had listened as parents will never steer you wrong at any age.. Luckily they were there for me in the neediest of times and I will always be grateful. Looking pretty as always Lisa inside and out. 🌸
Julie Holmes congratulations on getting OUT and being a survivor..💪. I’ve been subjected to decades of narcissistic abuse in my 20+ year marriage and never realized it was abuse until just a few years ago. Hard to look at my marriage now as a “normal” marriage......because it definitely wasnt..🙁
I loved this video Lisa! More please! Thanks so much xxx
Lisa I am going to be really blunt here. I was married to a complete bullshitter for 16 years. I am now married 8 years to a wonderful very complete man! He is honest and “just a man” thank goodness!! He takes wonderful care of me and lov s me completely. How wonderful to have a strong spouse to lean on.
Nelda Breaux looove your story!💕
I think a video on “things to look for in a husband” is a good idea.👍
Hi Lisa!! Thank you so much for this video. It's funny that it popped up today because I had been thinking recently of taking the time to message you and tell you that of all the videos of yours I have watched (A LOT) and enjoyed, the one I enjoyed the most and benefitted the most from was a video you posted a few years ago where you sat down and gave out some advice based on your life and experiences you have learned from. I remember you said that no car is worth an awful stressful car payment!! That really rung true for me. You said many other helpful things. It's funny because your main topics here are beauty related and I love that, but for some reason, that video spoke to me and if I had to pick one favorite of yours, that would be the one.
I also wanted to mention a couple of things that help me in my marriage and just in daily life dealing with people, etc. One (funnily enough this philosophy was shared with me by a guy I dated - didn't work out, but I'll always be grateful for this) is that what you don't know is always more than what you now. I often refer to this in situations where I feel myself moving to judgment or being unfairly judged. I try to be understanding when other people get judgmental because I really have no idea what is going on with them. Likewise, what qualifies me to judge another person? None of us are all-knowing. To really arrive at a judgment about someone, you need a TON of information and even then we make mistakes; just look at our criminal justice system. You can apply this philosophy to lots of other situations, too. What you don't know is always more than what you know.
Second, (I wish I could recall where I heard this), men's brains are an assemblage of separate compartments. They can mentally leave one and enter another and keep everything apart. Whereas our brains are like a massive tangled jumbly ball of knotted and intertwined Christmas lights (think Christmas Vacation - "Here, Russ, untangle these lights.") In other words, everything is connected to everything else to some extent. It's the only way I can make sense of my husband feeling amorous at night when just that day some disturbing event took place, like a mass shooting, that I just cannot shake. He can put it in a box and close it, but for me, it takes time for its effect on me to dissipate enough for it to not dominate my thoughts.
I would very much support your creation of a series where you share advice. I like the idea of women helping each other along and sharing with younger generations in the hopes of creating positive change in our society. You're an angel. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. 🤗
Wow, thank you SO much!! Yes, love that about our brains, lol! So true! I am excited for us to share these things! ❤️ Lisa
Ms. Mow You are soooo spot on about all of these things you’ve mentioned..👌. Yes...it’s a well known fact that our (women’s) brains are designed like a bunch of tangled Christmas lights lol while men’s brains are made up of a bunch of separate “boxes.” Such a great analogy, isn’t it? And so true! I love what you said about not knowing being so much more than what we actually know. Very very wise words. I can see how they would apply in a marital relationship. Thanks so much for sharing them.
More advice videos!!! 💖
I love hearing everybody's advise, from you and the comments down below. I was raised very different. My parents were divorced so I was raised very independant and to be a strong, equal woman. It does make for an interesting marriage to have two strong people in one house. Married 25 years, but always willing to learn something new. It would be great to have everyone give a "one sentence" tip on what keeps their marriage happy. Mine would be, "It is ok to know you are right, you just don't have to point it out every time"! xo
jillf24 that’s so true! Nine times out of ten, when I know I’m right, this surfaces anyway and I don’t even have to say “I told you so”! Ha! I do a little victory dance in my head and we move on.
Vaves Faves I’m much like you. Wish we had more of an opportunity to chat. Praying for you and your marriage and your family..💕🙏
Vaves Faves You’re so very welcome. And I meant it.....because I’m a praying woman..🙏. I loved reading your “backstory” and yes, I completely agree with you about social media these days and how so many of us are choosing to use it as a means of “connecting” sort of like the Tupperware parties of the past....and how we as women can (and should) use social media to really build each other UP .....because life and work and home and marriage and husbands and relationships and family and parenting and toddlers and teens can all be very challenging and can really bring us down sometimes! (as can other “meaner” people..). I really do enjoy the opportunities when I can actually connect almost one-to-one on a social media platform....because then the world suddenly seems a little smaller and not quite as cold..😊. Thanks so much for your sweet comment and yes, I’ll definitely be praying for you and your marriage..🙏💕🦋. I hope Lisa chooses to do more of this kind of “life” videos!
Loyal viewers are like:
“I’ve been waiting for this video for 9 years, 3 months and 4 days”
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Amazing as always, Lisa! Xoxo Ella
Just remember they are just men!!! Love it!!!
Exactly! Thank you! ❤️ Lisa
Ellen Neave I think your brain might have processed this the wrong way. You probably haven’t watched Lisa enough to understand her as a person or you wouldn’t have thought that. Best of luck to you!
The timing of this... Just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart! ❌⭕️
Wonderful! Thank YOU for being here! ❤️ Lisa
Thanks Lisa! Really inspires me to think. I’m very extreme emotion & tend to react. My husband & I will be married 23 years in February. A lot of good advice. Thanks for the video.
Thank you for sharing this Lisa, you know when God uses people to speak to you, I think He just did that! Please continue to share and speak your heart on topics like this I think you have a gift. Lots of love to you!
It's all good advice, but you have to remember all you Lisa lovers, it's pretty easy, being a happy person when the only crisis in your life was a divorce and then remarried not too long after. Never a mention of any serious health problems. Kids are healthy. Anything you don't like about yourself, your husband pays to fix. You can buy whatever you want. Both your parents are still alive. You don't have to clean house, cook do shopping for groceries (she said John likes too do that) and she even said he empties the dishwasher. So yes she's lucky, and not passing judgement, but it's a cush life.
Wow Laura....a Cush life...who ever really knows what someone might be going through in their life....I would not presume to know someone well enough to sum their life up after watching a few videos. To be vulnerable and risk others’ judgement took a maturity and strength that didn’t come from living a cush life most likely. LOVE THE VIDEO LISA~
Laura Davis although your comment may not end up being one of the most “popular” ones here lol, I have to say I do understand what you’re saying and I can see why you’d say it...
I look at my sister as an example. Married 35 yrs (first and only marriage to her high school sweetheart - never had another boyfriend). They now have 5 grown kids. Their life, though filled to the absolute BRIM with love and family and kids and laughter, has been rough..🙁. Without going into too many nitty gritty details......there were just many many MANY financial crises, one right after another, along with an affair (her husband’s) and some serious health crises. Deaths. Car accidents. Children struggling in THEIR own adult relationships. Through it all though, she & her husband of 35 yrs have remained best friends and partners in love and life.....and somehow, even when her life was indeed completely bleak, she always managed to find her happiness, even when it was definitely not easy to be “happy.” Her entire life has most definitely NOT been easy - she doesn’t have a lot of money (in fact, they barely make ends meet after putting 5 kids through college with loan upon loan), can’t go out and buy whatever makeup product she wants whenever she wants to or anything else for that matter, including clothes, barely even had enough money to go to the grocery store to buy groceries for her 3 boys and 2 girls, then still had to put all 5 kids through college (which they managed to do!). After 35 yrs, finances are STILL a struggle. They each work extremely hard at honest jobs and definitely earn their paychecks. No, she didn’t go through a divorce.....but kudos to her for that!! She’s a strong woman who fiercely loves her husband (and he absolutely ADORES my sister, even after 35 yrs of marriage❤️) and fiercely loves her 5 children. She also fiercely loves the Lord, has a wicked sense of humor, and is respected and loved by every person who has ever known her. I can honesty say that even though I’m currently experiencing divorce (and I’m not saying that life is a competition!).....I still believe that she’s had a much MUCH harder life than I have..😢. Having enough money (not a LOT but just “enough”) can not and does not guarantee happiness. Not at ALL. That’s a no brainer. But I have to say this: it certainly CAN and in many cases DOES make life a whole lot easier in sooooo many ways. And I think maybe that’s a little of what you were saying in your comment.... ????? Without prejudice one way or the other, I just wanted to say that I can see things from your perspective, too ....💕
Kimberly Bellefontaine After reflecting on your response to Laura’s comment I would agree somewhat that financial freedom can make our lives “easier” and briefly happier. But, with the recent Hollywood suicides, it’s obvious that money means very little when it comes to true happiness. Being in my late 60’s I’ve seen it all. The ying/yang of our lives. I’m thankful that there are brave women out there like Lisa who choose to expose parts of their lives in order to bless others. This is my glass of wine at the end of the day~
Patty Egan Abdolutely agree👍👍. As I think I stated in my comment above, “money cannot and does not guarantee happiness.” And YES, Hollywood in general is a great example of that..🙁. With that said, I stand by my additional comment that having enough money (not even EXCESS money, but just “enough” money - for instance, to be able to go to the grocery store and not having to constantly worry about having enough money in the checking account to cover the groceries being purchased) CAN definitely make life much “easier” in many crucial ways. Ways that then also heavily affect other important areas of life. Personally, I have so many friends who’ve experienced both sides of this coin in their lives (I.e., having “enough” money vs not having enough money) and I have, too, in my almost 60 years. All do concur (and I do, too - I’ll definitely admit it) that their lives were much, much easier WITH “enough” money. Many friends comment that it was also easier to be more carefree and lighthearted and even helpful and loving towards their fellow man, being able to consistently think of other things besides just finances and not being so constantly weighted down with the day-to-day worries re: money issues, health issues, etc. when they had sufficient money to alleviate that particular area of stress in their lives. I’d have to agree with that, too, based solely upon my own personal experiences.
And, I couldn’t agree with you more - I’m so thrilled that Lisa has put this awesome video out there and I applaud her for doing so. I also applaud everyone else here, too, for expressing their own personal opinions. I think we can all agree that there’s always more than just one point of view on everything. No one is “right” or more of an expert than another. In fact, I love love reading others’ comments and potentially seeing other points of views. I’ve been blessed with an open mind and the ability to readily invite the points of view and the perspectives of others, whether or not I completely agree with them. Thanks so much for your perspective! ~Kimberly🦋
Vaves Faves Agree!!👍💕
Thank you for sharing, you’re such a beauty inside and out 💕💕
Gorgeous inside and out.Its that simple🤗❤
Love this look on you..makeup and outfit 👍👍💕💕💕
💗 Loved this video. Looking forward to more like this!
Why in the world would someone thumbs down this video?
I thought the same thing!
It’s the same bunch of angry trolls every time. They hit Marnie Goldberg’s videos as well. They have empty, sad little lives. They love to Gossip.
Jealous I think 🙁
Thank you for watching!! 😘 Lisa
Thumbs down is not an opinion. Also, nobody said you couldn’t post a negative opinion. These bitter trolls all hit the thumbs down before watching the videos. They just hate certain you tubers.
I like the idea of videos like this. It gives a more complete look into your life (I don't mean sharing anything private) and we get to know you and your family a little better. I am a traditional southern girl also and have a fabulous husband whose name is John too! My John sounds a lot like yours, he is a very take charge says what he means and means what he says kind of man. He is very complementary of me and is brutally honest. (That is what I love most about him) I can ask his opinion about something and know the answer is going to be truthful, honest and not sugar-coated!!! It may hurt my feelings a little at first but as you try to do I ask myself had I rather him be honest about "whatever" or sugar coat it and it not turn out the way I wanted it!! Would love to hear more of these! xo
I feel like the bottom line with men is: Don’t be so touchy ladies 😂 Absolutely correct!!
Absolutely LOVE this video!! ❤️ Please do more like this. I would enjoy a video about your life when your kids were little 💗
Love this video. How do you balance your dreams and raising your kids? It’s hard to find a balance...
I don't know where this will show up in your comments b/c I left one earlier but forgot to say this. Your mother is 100% correct about being a mother. Your children don't need another friend (they have plenty) they need a mother and a daddy!!! That is how I was brought up and the way I brought my children up. As adults they now are a friend b/c even though I will always be their Mom my raising days are over I can now be a close friend!! I hope all of this came off as a complement to you and your family but I rambled a bit! (Ha)
I think you have a lot of great insight and advice if you want to call it that I truly believe that if you want something in this world you mimic or learn from those that have done it successfully I wish I came from a long line of happy marriages my grandparents were married for many many years never got divorced but my parents got divorced I got divorced and Both on my mothers side and my father’s side all their siblings got divorced so it makes me truly happy to see that they are our marriages that are lasting and happy
Please do more videos like this… or an updated version ☺️
I sure will!! Thank you!! 😊Lisa
Lisa, what words of wisdom! I can sign after each word you said! My marriage dynamic is very similar to yours, and I do agree the key to a happy marriage is to understand how a men operate. Thank you for this video so much! I enjoy your videos, and it’s pleasure to see such a beautiful, intelligent and wise woman like you . Love to you.
Thank you so much, Ginger! ❤️ Lisa
Thank you for sharing Lisa! You look so lovely today! Your face is radiant talking about John. 💕
Happily married 31 years. Totally agree. Men think different than women. We need to realise this and never have the "im right your wrong". We don't really argue either. Respect each other and your differences.
I feel like I was waiting for this video from you forever! Thanks for sharing such a personal part of your experience with us and letting those of us in the new bloom of marriage benefit from you wisdom ❤️
This is amazing, I love this and is needed. Thank you. 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Such great advice, even for this early 70 year old married woman. You’re such a good person, Lisa. ❤️
My husband and I have been married 35 yrs. We very rarely argue..we do the same thing we think of each other . One thing my Dad told me ...that was marry within your own religion in which I did. I live to hear and see other couples who have been married w long time and still Love each other. Thank u for the video, I enjoyed it!
I can tell you have a happy marriage because you think like a lady and are very smart handling your relationship. I can also tell you adore your children and have a beautiful relationship with them. You are a joy to watch and I learn a lot from you. BTW you look so pretty with an almost smoky natural eye look and perfect skin. 💖💖💖💖💖
Love you!!! I crave these videos!!! Your insight is so appreciated! Makes me a better wife and mom. Thank you thank you thank you! 😘😘😘 I got a good laugh too! “Estimates” 😂😂😂
Lisa!!! Your hubby sounds exactly like my Jon 😳. I tend to over analyze, when he doesn’t, he is blunt, gives one answer responses to my “extra” worries. He is definitely a fixer. Love him to death though 😊. I’d love to see more of these videos! Have a nice hump day 😊
Hey Lisa! I am lots of fluff too! I really enjoyed this and it's good to know that men are, in the most part, all the same. My John is very practical and direct too. Sometimes, that annoys me, but like you say, he's just a man and that's how he thinks. I think that's why our girl friends are so important, so we can put the world to rights! Lol! I think the love that you and John share is very evident and it's so lovely to see your face light up when you talk about him. This is a great idea for a series of videos. Have a wonderful day, my sweet friend. Xoxo Daphne 😘😘💖💖
Wonderful video! This is your gift.... thanks for sharing your pearls of wisdom! Such a great way to put it..... he’s just a man. 👍🏼
Gosh Lisa, I just LOVE this! My parents will be celebrating 42 years of marriage this October and my husband and I will be celebrating 4 years next month! You remind me so much of my momma and I really value your advice!❤️❤️❤️
I am so much more like a man when it comes to stuff like this. Im direct, no fluff, etc.
Ahhh Lisa , what a great video... I seriously though you were talking about my husband ...lol... thanks for the advice.
this was sweet Lisa
What a great video, Lisa! I agree with all you’ve said - you’re so spot on with regards to the marital relationship and just relationships in general👍. The problem in my marriage was that my husband never respected or truly appreciated me and what I brought to our marriage by being me. I always appreciated and respected him and the ways in which he was different from me....but this was never ever reciprocated. Makes it quite impossible for a marriage to last when the person you’re married to is only considerate of himself and no one else..😞
I love all the points you bring up in this video, and I can definitely relate to so many of them. I, too, go from Point A to Point B with lots and lots of “fluff” (lol...that’s a GREAT way to describe it, Lisa!😂), whereas my husband was MUCH more of a “straight line” person, absolutely no fluff involved at all. Not even an ounce. I think that’s true though of probably 99.99% of all men, don’t you agree? That’s one very major difference between most men and women, that’s for sure.😏
FYI: I bought the L’Oréal Shining Peach - remembered to look for it tonight when I was at Target. Love it!! I also bought a few of the other colors in that specific line but have not yet tried them.. Definitely love the peach though!
Anyway, I really enjoyed listening to all you said in this video. Thanks for putting this out there..💕
Thank you! Please make more of these type! You have the best advice! I’m 33 and have watched you I think since I award 27. Also! You’re 50?! You said married 20 years?! It’s that smile that makes you look 40.
Lisa I loved this video and you made some awesome points...my husband & I will celebrate our 36th Anniversary in November, 37 together and you spoke the absolute truth saying men are wired entirely different from us....PJ doesn't like details and if I ask his,opinion trust me it will be short & sweet😍 loved your look in This video....your hair is looking gorgeous these days...Happy Wknd💗
I don't know what it is but Your look Stunning!! Your Haircolor and Makeup is just Perfect❣️❣️
These kind of Videos are Something that more Women should do if they are Comfortable, It Proves that things are not always Diamonds and Roses, It's lots of Work and Communication and Sharing the Responsibility of a Marriage. Thank You for being so Open with Us 😊
SO happy to see this video! We're very much on the same page. My "problem" is, I avoid confrontation. I used to just eat my feelings & feel bad. Now I decide whether or not this is worth it or that big of a deal. If it IS, we talk. If not, I remind myself that I love HIM more than the thing or the issue. And then let it go. He IS just a man, not my Genie in a bottle or here to "make me happy". We're partners. Great topic! Keep "em coming!
Lmk if you find the "happy medium" with weight. At my age my options are extra weight or extra wrinkles 😄😂😒😭 Love you dear!💖💖💗
Lisa!! I have been watching your videos for years and I think this may be my FiRST comment ever?? But I love watching you!! This video is pure gold to me.. please make more videos like this! Much love to you and your beautiful family ☺️
@LisaLisaD1 Love the video and the advice, I’ve been watching you for years now and love your sweet and genuine spirit! You’re he best and I love this new series of videos you’re making, and love he diet tip videos. Keep it up love you! 💕❤️💗💋😘💋💗❤️💕
Thanks for this, Lisa. I've learned in 33 years of marriage to really LISTEN to what my husband says/listen to the man he is...like you said, don't go to bed angry with your husband, (or anyone)...don't blow each others cover, i. e., don't embarrass or divulge secrets about each other...don't purge your day or problems on your husband when he comes home from work. Men are not complicated like we women are...that is a gift. I embrace my fluff. Live a spontaneous life together. Cheers.
Yes yes yes!!! Men are very different! I’m a thinker and a planner and I’m Type A. I worry I stress...my husband is very calm, cool...Type B, no worries or stress! I’m detailed, organized. He’s not. He keeps me grounded and will let me know when I need to just calm down. I don’t give him enough credit for being such a kind, sweet, gentle man who’s understanding and can tolerate me and my ways! Thanks for this insightful video 😊😊
Hi Lisa. Im sure you know my username by now as I am a new watcher (long time subscriber) and have been binge watching your videos. Would you be willing to do an updated video on how to be happy in a marriage and how to use ur feminine energy to attract your spouse? Hitting the 3 year mark with my hubby and it feels like we have been married for a very long time. Thank you!🥰