The best advice I was ever given (it applies to all aspects of life really) is: “Its not the message, it’s the delivery”think about that when having any kind of discussion, it will change the way you approach a conversation. Lovely as always! Xo
YES! Just the way you word something makes all the difference, I was just telling Brooke last night how much words can hurt, and you can't really take them back~ we were watching TV and I am always mortified at how people talk to each other, even family! Thank you, Laura! ❤️ Lisa
LisaLisaD1 Totally agree with this. I’m now trying to make sure my two teens realize this, too.....because they’ve lived almost their entire lives listening to my husband make backhanded but intentional comments to me and about me that are disrespectful and demeaning. I desperately want my kids to know that this is NOT ok and NOT normal in a healthy marriage (or in any relationship, in general). I certainly don’t want either of them to behave in this way or to accept this behavior in their own relationships.
Once when we were preparing for a party and I was upset he wasn’t paying attention to certain details, my husband said to me that what is important to me may not be something that is important to another and you really can’t fault someone for not thinking the same way. I have forever kept that advice with me in personal and professional relationships. You can’t force your ways on anyone, but should accept people as they are and appreciate how different and special people can be. Be grateful. Great advice Lisa, you are a nice person and that is such a great quality 💕
EXACTLY!! We can't expect everyone to be "motivated" by the same things we are~ that was a hard lesson for me to learn, I wanted everyone to want what I wanted and that is just not the case! Thank you very much!! ❤️ Lisa
This is where you absolutely shine my friend....Love is the foundation of your home and family...experience has taught you well...Your upbringing with two parents who love you unconditionally makes you the woman you are....Our path leads us into the unknown, what we do with it...is truly up to us...we must all take responsibility in our relationships...I believe two people can be together until death due us part....knowing ourselves is just as important as knowing our spouse....The journey to real lasting love is work...it is compromise ...it is respect...it is honor...it is trust...it is having someone else's best interest at heart...it is FORGIVENESS....it is liking as well as loving that person....it is being kind ...it is about having our eyes and ears open......and it must always be thought of as US...not ME....Fabulous video...!! Let your light shine ....it may be the one little glimmer that helps someone!!
I enjoy when you talk about life! I just told my husband and my daughter that one of the things I enjoyed about your channel is how much you love life and your family. That is how I feel too and it is refreshing to hear about people who are overall happy not that we all don't have our struggles but it is nice to be thankful of what we have. Thanks for sharing!
Michelle Young and, along those same very wise lines....marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, not a DICTATORSHIP....! That’s something that my soon-to-be-ex-husband would never ever abide by in our 21 year marriage, and it ultimately ended in the demise of TWO different marriages for him. Ladies, know your worth and what you bring to the table at all times, regardless of whether you work outside the home and bring in a paycheck to help support your family OR work inside the home 24/7 to support your family and to create a wonderful life all the way around for them. Regardless, self-respect is always key, and if your husband and life partner does NOT respect what you bring to the marriage and/or does not respect you simply as a human being, there WILL be trouble in paradise.....
My husband and I have been together 40 years and it only took me 20 of those years to finally realize that "he is just a man" and that is why we don't always see eye to eye. But it just dawned on me that I wonder if he realizes that "I'm just a woman". :) I enjoy your story time. Laurie
lisa, thank you so much for making this video. your “finding mr. right” video is one of my favorites you’ve ever done (and i never miss any of your videos!) 💕 as a single woman in my mid-20s, i’ve learned so much about what i want from a partner and relationship from failed relationships. i love hearing other peoples’ perspectives and advice on love and relationships. i hope you keep up this type of video because i really appreciate hearing your thoughts & advice on these topics! thanks for all you do and share with us. xoxo, megan
I cant believe youre 48! I have been so afraid to get older bc IM 30 and Im single and scared that marriage will never happen for me! * ive been through a lot * BUT this is inspiring to me. Youre GORGEOUS!!!!! Getting older is a privilege and if you take care of yourself like i see that you've done, its well worth it! I know its hard to share and be so personal but, Im so glad that you do! Thank you for sharing!!
I just turned 31 and single, but not scared that marriage will not happen for me as at this point I really don't care if it does or not. I had to let one go after four years of pampering his size 14 feet amongst other ridiculous things and no commitment. It's more than nice for it to be all about me and for me now.
I have never ever commented on a video before, but I've been watching you for years Lisa and after this video i just absolutely have to say what an amazing, kind, genuine, funny and gorgeous woman you are. I smiled with you throughout this entire video because i understood every example you gave, made me chuckle out loud actually. You seem to have the sweetest soul and your energy is so peaceful and gracious, I could never get tired of watching your videos. I soak in all the advice youve ever given. Videos like these are my fave. Enjoy the rest of your summer!
I’m so excited to hear your advice. It’s so nice to hear you talk about John. I loved hearing your first date on the boat years ago that you shared. I love make-up and clothes, but I really love watching you Lisa, just because you are so nice and it makes me nicer. I’m sure your to-do UA-cam video list is very long but i would love to hear your advice on keeping calm when parenting can be so hard.
Bedavis55 i have been married 17 years, for some reason i always thought things would be PERFECT the longer we were together. The communication etc. but it really is ups and downs! Some days we are perfect. Some days everything we say we argue. I had to learn that it’s normal... lol
Brandy H.2426 I always believed that, too - that marriage was made up of good and not-so-good and everything possible in between. I think those who make it to the end are just two imperfect individuals who choose to love one other and refuse to ever completely give up on each other. I see my sister married for 35 years....and my parents for 60 years. Yet, after 21 yrs of marriage and two older teens, my own husband decided that he didn’t want to do it any longer and filed for divorce. My now soon to be ex has his own problems though - he was married for just a few short years and divorced before he ever met me. I should have seen the red flags when I met him 24 yrs ago, but I didn’t. Now, if I’d met him today, I think I would’ve seen the red flags..🙁. Anyway, I love videos like this so much and I think many women easily relate to this kind of conversation. I hope there’s more of it in the future and I thank Lisa for putting this video out there!
Lisa great video. I too was married young. Can say a survivor of domestic violence. One thing I can say is I am so happy my mom was not my best friend but my mother. I wish I had listened as parents will never steer you wrong at any age.. Luckily they were there for me in the neediest of times and I will always be grateful. Looking pretty as always Lisa inside and out. 🌸
Julie Holmes congratulations on getting OUT and being a survivor..💪. I’ve been subjected to decades of narcissistic abuse in my 20+ year marriage and never realized it was abuse until just a few years ago. Hard to look at my marriage now as a “normal” marriage......because it definitely wasnt..🙁
Love this video. I am recently divorced. And I can completely see how this advice is 100% accurate.!These issues you are speaking of , are the truest difference between a man’s thought process and a woman’s thought process. Where were you and your momma during my marriage lol . Listen up ladies , she is preaching the truth
TheClassicgirl7 absolutely!!! 100% truth👌. I, too, am almost divorced...after 21+ years of marriage. I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. Only those of us who’ve been through it can really know what a traumatic life event it can really be..
Love the dark hair story!!! My husband hates my hair dark also!! Hates it!! I just went from blonde to dark brown and I can see it in his eyes too! Same here, first it irked me. I’ll go back light I know. It’s just a little thing that he prefers. I live and respect him and he does me too. So, I’ll keep it light for him. He does do much for me and our son! Great video! ❤️
Thanks for this, Lisa. I've learned in 33 years of marriage to really LISTEN to what my husband says/listen to the man he is...like you said, don't go to bed angry with your husband, (or anyone)...don't blow each others cover, i. e., don't embarrass or divulge secrets about each other...don't purge your day or problems on your husband when he comes home from work. Men are not complicated like we women are...that is a gift. I embrace my fluff. Live a spontaneous life together. Cheers.
Dr.Phil has a saying he always uses on couples when they’re arguing- “ Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy”? That reminds me of what you’re talking about. :)
sontzi I just recently found Lisa’s old videos and I love them!! I’ve really enjoyed the few I’ve had the pleasure of watching. I love those older videos.
You it the nail on the head when you said me are fixers, after 32 yrs of marriage my husband and I had that discussion. I will listen to him for hours, but when I start telling him something, he will cut me short trying to fix it. He said all he does at work is fix problems and so thats what he does for me when I start talking. I finally had to tell him all I really wanted was for him to listen like I listen to him. We have to let each other know what we need from each other. My husband gets me 99% of the time, but that 1% we had to figure it out by communicating. You go Lisa, I love you sharing.
I love hearing everybody's advise, from you and the comments down below. I was raised very different. My parents were divorced so I was raised very independant and to be a strong, equal woman. It does make for an interesting marriage to have two strong people in one house. Married 25 years, but always willing to learn something new. It would be great to have everyone give a "one sentence" tip on what keeps their marriage happy. Mine would be, "It is ok to know you are right, you just don't have to point it out every time"! xo
jillf24 that’s so true! Nine times out of ten, when I know I’m right, this surfaces anyway and I don’t even have to say “I told you so”! Ha! I do a little victory dance in my head and we move on.
Vaves Faves You’re so very welcome. And I meant it.....because I’m a praying woman..🙏. I loved reading your “backstory” and yes, I completely agree with you about social media these days and how so many of us are choosing to use it as a means of “connecting” sort of like the Tupperware parties of the past....and how we as women can (and should) use social media to really build each other UP .....because life and work and home and marriage and husbands and relationships and family and parenting and toddlers and teens can all be very challenging and can really bring us down sometimes! (as can other “meaner” people..). I really do enjoy the opportunities when I can actually connect almost one-to-one on a social media platform....because then the world suddenly seems a little smaller and not quite as cold..😊. Thanks so much for your sweet comment and yes, I’ll definitely be praying for you and your marriage..🙏💕🦋. I hope Lisa chooses to do more of this kind of “life” videos!
Oh my goodness!! I love this video. You are definitely in your zone. You seem so comfortable and like you were in the earlier videos when I first started watching you. I will be celebrating 34 years sept 1st. We were 16 and 19 when we married in the 80’s. You seem so confident and happy in this video! Funny that you mentioned the happy medium of your weight. I was thinking you look so beautiful without being too skinny in your face. You look perfect right now!! I wish I had your discipline. I need to lose 30 lbs! It’s so hard for me to eat in moderation I love food. You do a great job. I’ve loved watching you for many years. So thankful that you have stayed true to who you are!
😘 After 26 years I can honestly say we have fallen in and out of love with each other many times..........and I wouldn't trade it for a minute. Thanks for sharing, Lisa. 😘
I loved this, Lisa. I hope you are still doing this type of video. I agree with everything you said. I’m enjoying watching many of your older videos. 💕
Regarding pride, I think Dr Phil says “would you rather be right or would you rather be happy.” Sometimes it is best just to give in, obviously for the small arguments. We will celebrate 35 years of marriage next month.💜 ps love your eye look
I loved this Lisa, its how my husband and I are, we are so different, but we've learned over the years to apologize and talk things through so a little thing doesn't become a big thing. We've been through a lot of hard times together, but together was the key. Loving my best friend and being loved by him makes my heart happy and complete. I feel exactly like Charlotte too, we are so blessed.
Parts of this video made me cringe. Although i agree with a lot of what you said, “he’s just a man” sounds like more of an excuse to allow him to say things that hurt you, but you aren’t allowed to be hurt. I am a blonde and have had many hair colors over the years and i went dark brown once. It only lasted for a week before i went back blonde because i hated it. I knew my husband didn’t like it either but he would never tell me that he hated it or look at me differently. He told me that i was beautiful no matter what color my hair was. Just don’t forget your worth! 😘
Nevena Seferovic I agree. Let’s not make excuses for men based on their gender...each of us is human and deserve equal respect. Equality in my marriage with my husband is something I value so much. Equality of the sexes is how we need to evolve as a race.
Interesting; I think the word “just” can be taken a few different ways. Having been married 13 years, I take “he’s just a man” to mean more along the lines of he’s only human. No one is perfect and I can’t expect him to be, as I’m not! Neither do we see everything the exact same way, we can listen to each other and learn from one another, still after so many years. It comes down to having respect for yourself as well as your husband, I think. Anyway, love these conversations!
Lisa, you are like a breath of fresh air. I love that you think enough of women to help give them guidance in your talks that you're doing. You're very thoughtful! I enjoy listening to you give advice that isn't judgemental. You touch on topics that really hit home, so I'm greatful that you're in my life so to speak. You are teaching me to be a better person in relationships and towards people in general. You have a gift that is very much needed and I'm so happy you're using your platform to speak from the heart. I've been looking at your channel for 3 years now, and have told my girlfriends and daughter about your channel as well. Continued blessings to you and your family!
I like the idea of videos like this. It gives a more complete look into your life (I don't mean sharing anything private) and we get to know you and your family a little better. I am a traditional southern girl also and have a fabulous husband whose name is John too! My John sounds a lot like yours, he is a very take charge says what he means and means what he says kind of man. He is very complementary of me and is brutally honest. (That is what I love most about him) I can ask his opinion about something and know the answer is going to be truthful, honest and not sugar-coated!!! It may hurt my feelings a little at first but as you try to do I ask myself had I rather him be honest about "whatever" or sugar coat it and it not turn out the way I wanted it!! Would love to hear more of these! xo
I enjoyed this video so much! And when you mentioned re-doing some of your old videos I got so excited! I go back to them time to time when I need advice. My mom passed away this past November, and she was MY best friend. I too went to her for all of my advice. And when it comes to relationships and other things, you are someone who has her similar outlook and would give similar advice. Thank You!
This is great! I’ve been married for almost 25 years, I’m so proud of us!!!! It sounds like our men are a lot alike, my sweet husband is just a man too! I’m so blessed God put us together and we pray together over our marriage daily. When asked, my advice is to pick your battles and to ask yourself is this argument worth it? Do I need to be right to be happy? That scene from Sex in the City really captured me, I’ve said that same phrase as Charlotte. I’m happy, maybe not every hour, but I’m happy daily. Stay Sparkling, love ya!
Happily married 31 years. Totally agree. Men think different than women. We need to realise this and never have the "im right your wrong". We don't really argue either. Respect each other and your differences.
I loved this video! I think John is lucky to have you. Not only are you beautiful, you are very family oriented, which I love! You cook meals, and you keep a lovely home. But most importantly, I can see how much you love your parents and your own family. Geez, he’s hit the jackpot!💕
I watched this yesterday but forgot to comment on it. I’m so glad you are doing this and please do more. Young married women that follow you need to hear all of this. Mothers tell the daughters these things usually but it is more helpful to hear it from Simone not so close somtimes and be able to realize that it is common and hear how to work it out in a healthy way. I wish utube has been around when I was a younger married woman. Thanks Lisa!
Oh my goodness....you are SO true about husband's trying to fix things for us. If I have a problem in any area my husband either suggests a solution or tells me to stop wasting time if I don't want to take any action. I just need someone to listen and maybe just understand. Love to hear these talks. X.
Jamison Gee Oddly my husband and I are the other way round and it can be SOOO frustrating listening to the same problem over and over when there’s a simple fix but they won’t try it. Maybe I’m from Mars too! 😱
I loved this, thank you! Together 15 years this November and still going strong. I sometimes have difficulties with accepting he doesn’t think like me, so arguments can be about this stuff. Your mums quote “he’s just a man” is so helpful thank you! Just saw satc again and I loved what Charlotte says, that’s how I feel everyday! Keep these videos coming 😍💕💕💕
Lisa I am going to be really blunt here. I was married to a complete bullshitter for 16 years. I am now married 8 years to a wonderful very complete man! He is honest and “just a man” thank goodness!! He takes wonderful care of me and lov s me completely. How wonderful to have a strong spouse to lean on.
Yes yes yes!!! Men are very different! I’m a thinker and a planner and I’m Type A. I worry I stress...my husband is very calm, cool...Type B, no worries or stress! I’m detailed, organized. He’s not. He keeps me grounded and will let me know when I need to just calm down. I don’t give him enough credit for being such a kind, sweet, gentle man who’s understanding and can tolerate me and my ways! Thanks for this insightful video 😊😊
Love this topic! Best advice and best practice 1. Let him be the man...let him know he's needed and that you appreciate him. 2. Be affectionate with each other. Hold hands, kiss, hug etc... 3. Dont sweat the small stuff...choose your battles.
Hi Lisa!! Thank you so much for this video. It's funny that it popped up today because I had been thinking recently of taking the time to message you and tell you that of all the videos of yours I have watched (A LOT) and enjoyed, the one I enjoyed the most and benefitted the most from was a video you posted a few years ago where you sat down and gave out some advice based on your life and experiences you have learned from. I remember you said that no car is worth an awful stressful car payment!! That really rung true for me. You said many other helpful things. It's funny because your main topics here are beauty related and I love that, but for some reason, that video spoke to me and if I had to pick one favorite of yours, that would be the one. I also wanted to mention a couple of things that help me in my marriage and just in daily life dealing with people, etc. One (funnily enough this philosophy was shared with me by a guy I dated - didn't work out, but I'll always be grateful for this) is that what you don't know is always more than what you now. I often refer to this in situations where I feel myself moving to judgment or being unfairly judged. I try to be understanding when other people get judgmental because I really have no idea what is going on with them. Likewise, what qualifies me to judge another person? None of us are all-knowing. To really arrive at a judgment about someone, you need a TON of information and even then we make mistakes; just look at our criminal justice system. You can apply this philosophy to lots of other situations, too. What you don't know is always more than what you know. Second, (I wish I could recall where I heard this), men's brains are an assemblage of separate compartments. They can mentally leave one and enter another and keep everything apart. Whereas our brains are like a massive tangled jumbly ball of knotted and intertwined Christmas lights (think Christmas Vacation - "Here, Russ, untangle these lights.") In other words, everything is connected to everything else to some extent. It's the only way I can make sense of my husband feeling amorous at night when just that day some disturbing event took place, like a mass shooting, that I just cannot shake. He can put it in a box and close it, but for me, it takes time for its effect on me to dissipate enough for it to not dominate my thoughts. I would very much support your creation of a series where you share advice. I like the idea of women helping each other along and sharing with younger generations in the hopes of creating positive change in our society. You're an angel. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. 🤗
Ms. Mow You are soooo spot on about all of these things you’ve mentioned..👌. Yes...it’s a well known fact that our (women’s) brains are designed like a bunch of tangled Christmas lights lol while men’s brains are made up of a bunch of separate “boxes.” Such a great analogy, isn’t it? And so true! I love what you said about not knowing being so much more than what we actually know. Very very wise words. I can see how they would apply in a marital relationship. Thanks so much for sharing them.
Good chat. I wake up to “Good morning beautiful” everyday and am so grateful. You hit the nail in the head with “men are fixers”. I’m emotional and cry easily. He gets flustered and upset with me when I cry because he doesn’t know how to fix it even when there’s nothing to fix! 23 years of the best time ever except for those rare moments when I want to light him on fire lol. True love. ❤️
LOVE this, Lisa! Anytime you share anything about marriage/family...its my absolute favorite! I quote my Mama daily + I love to hear other family's wisdom/stories. Please always share. HUGE hugs from Texas! xo
I feel like I was waiting for this video from you forever! Thanks for sharing such a personal part of your experience with us and letting those of us in the new bloom of marriage benefit from you wisdom ❤️
I has been is a procrastinator. He’s electrician and let me tell you when he comes home he takes his boots off. And sits down and that’s it. I handle stuff from everything from getting people to do the yard getting my house painted going to do groceries. Everything. If I asked him to do certain it would never get done. He would rather pay which is OK.
One of my best friends said something to me that I always remember and it is spot on regarding men and women. She says “ when it comes to emotion, we women write a novel. And we are chapters into it before we realize that our men write a paragraph. And that’s all they need. They can sum it all up in a paragraph. We need the chapters but sometimes the summary will do.” Sage advice and it rings true with 99.999999% of the men in my life!
Lisa, what words of wisdom! I can sign after each word you said! My marriage dynamic is very similar to yours, and I do agree the key to a happy marriage is to understand how a men operate. Thank you for this video so much! I enjoy your videos, and it’s pleasure to see such a beautiful, intelligent and wise woman like you . Love to you.
I really love this! When you said that you step back and think about, maybe you took something the wrong way or if you were being too sensitive, I think that is so spot on and so important. One person can't be right all the time and the other person can't be wrong all the time, that isn't realistic to me. In my relationship I can be the more aggressive one and my husband is the passive one but I too believe in a more traditional gender roles. That is really important to me and even though he's less passionate about it, it is important to him too. Realizing that you will have disagreements and compromise is so important. Every disagreement doesn't have to be an all out fight and compromise doesn't mean you are a doormat.
Yes, men are different than women . Men , in general, think and and feel differently than us. Please feminists don’t be offended by that. Nothing to do with equal rights. Thank you, Lisa , for sharing your experiences with us.💕
Chelsea Williams you don’t, hun. The worst part is that YOU’RE a feminist, because YOU are doing what YOU want to do with YOUR life. It’s completely your choice. Good luck with everything x
Love these! Was just reading a marriage counseling book (from a Jewish perspective). She said the same thing. Everyone is too focused on being right instead of what is best for the relationship. Like you said, doesn’t mean you have to be a pushover but focus on what is important.
Great advice Lisa. I think that forgiveness is the key to a happy relationship. The ability to forgive our partner and ourselves, when feelings are hurt, allows us to move forward with love and respect. Its so easy to get wrapped up in our own emotions and reactions and the need to be "right" rather than focusing on the how we move through those misunderstandings with empathy and forgiveness. You are a wise woman!
When we were new parents my husband used to drive me crazy doing things different than how I liked them. Like how he would change diapers or feed the baby. And then one day he said, you know there is more than one right way to do things. And I realized he was right. Sometimes we need to remember that we’re different people and we’re gonna think differently and do things differently. Thanks for sharing your insight Lisa!
Lisa, I can’t say enough how much I love your videos. Especially these advice type ones that you film for us. It’s just one more thing that goes to show how much you truly love and appreciate us as your subscribers. Just seeing through a screen how you take on every relationship in your life with such grace is beyond inspiring and I think I speak for all of us when I say that.
Lisa, please continue these types of videos. Your advice is so important and you are so articulate on the subject. Also, don’t let any negative comments bother you.
I love this video! Please do more !! You’re seriously the best. Look I’m 27 & used to watch you years ago & couldn’t remember your UA-cam channel to save my life for some reason. So happy to have found you again 💚
This video was so on the mark! Each point you made I was like ‘yes I relate! And ‘that explains men perfectly!’ I will make sure I keep these things in mind, especially your end point about men seeming like they don’t want to engage in conversation, I never thought about it as them just wanting to fix it! I loved this video Lisa! I hope you do more! Xx
I've been married 20 years. I loved this video. I agree men and women are so different from each other. I liked the specific tip in how to apologize by saying, " I'm sorry I got my feelings hurt if you didn't mean it that way." I'm going to try that one next time!
Been married for over 50 years. Ups and downs. I’ve found that it’s not necessary or required to be "right" all the time. Each of us has different gifts and together, we’ve been good for each other.
My husband and I have been married 35 yrs. We very rarely argue..we do the same thing we think of each other . One thing my Dad told me ...that was marry within your own religion in which I did. I live to hear and see other couples who have been married w long time and still Love each other. Thank u for the video, I enjoyed it!
I’m so glad you did this! This is actually helping me on my life right now. I would love for you to also do a parenting video. Building a good relationship with a daughter “mother daughter bond” I have 3 daughters and I would LOVE to know.
Let's Talk Beauty yes! My daughter will be 18 in just a couple of months (and my son will be 20). It was not always easy, especially with my daughter, but I can honestly say that I’m finally seeing the fruits of my labor. I can finally see the light at the end of a long tunnel. Here’s a key: do NOT take what they say personally. The mother-daughter relationship is one of THE most complicated relationships on Earth. It can be the best thing ever.....and it can be the worst ever and can make you feel like s**t..🙁. Definitely set your boundaries and don’t let them get away with not respecting them. Being their parent, NOT their friend, is crucial. Set limits and boundaries even when you’re the “bad guy.” They’ll appreciate it and will love you for it down the road! I’m seeing the fruits of my labor with my daughter now.....but we had some rough years there..😰. Hang in there. It WILL get better!
Thank you!! I would love to open a discussion on that, I'll tell what I have learned, some great tips for communication, I would love to share!! ❤️ Lisa
i needed this< thanks for comment. Sometimes I feel alone. My daughter is 14, and struggling really hard with these teenage years. Testing limits, mood swings etc.. I look at her sometimes and think where did my little girl go, She was so sweet and funny, and now its a rollercoaster of emotions!
Thank you for doing this. You were the first UA-cam video I watched when I went through a divorce. You got me through it. And now I’m happily married and you’re doing this video. I so appreciate you.
I’m watching this video and it’s like I’m listening to you describing my husband and my relationship to a T. I am the one who absolutely hates hurting someone’s feelings in any way and my hubby is to the point no matter what. We’ve been married close to 15 years and one thing I can say for darn sure...that man is my ROCK! I wouldn’t have him any other way
I'm 26 and yes yes yes yeeeeees to the other videos!!!!i don't see happy marriages and always love to hear people who are happily married and soak up their advice xxx
I am 28 and I have been with my husband for 9 years married 4. We communicate so differently that we have the same struggles. I do however have the same realization that men are men! They process things so differently than we do! Thanks for a great video! I love listening to anything you say!
I couldn't agree more with men thinking SO differently than we do. It is SO true. Ive never been married, I'm 24 but been with my boyfriend for 8 years and remembering this statement has helped me SO much in our relationship.
Lisa, this type of video is so important for young women especially. And all of us can benefit from the wisdom that comes from the older generation, your Mom for instance. Marriage relationships haven't changed as far as the feelings involved. Your advice will be a wealth of information to women! Cudos to you girl!
Your hair is perfection today!! I’ve been married 32 years (high school sweethearts) I believe one key to a long happy marriage is forgiveness, lots of it and don’t rehash and throw up wrong doings once the issue has been resolved. Ohhhhhh, this may not apply to all men but don’t talk incessantly during his favorite show or movie 🤫🤭🙂😃
Great video Lisa! Your advice about men and women is dead on. I also found it very helpful in my marriage to learn what my husband's love languages are. He is an acts of service and quality time guy but I'm words of affirmation. Now we both make a conscious effort to show our love/affection through each other's love language and it makes such a difference.
SO much of this advice spoke to me. Our husbands sound like they are cut from the same cloth. Please keep doing these types of videos. All the video ideas you mentioned, I was like YES! I need all the advice I can get and I value and trust your opinion after all these years watching! 💕 thanks for making this! ❤️
It is completely possible to be married and not fight. My wonderful husband and I have been married 16 years and especially in the last 5 years.....We almost never even get irritated with each other. I am not saying we have not had to get through some things in the past, because that would be a lie, but we got through them and learned from them. I feel like we worked extra hard the first 10 years of our marriage to learn from the things we had to get through and are reaping the rewards from that now. I love our days together so very much!!! He works from home and he is absolutely brilliant and man is it sexy when you can hear your super smart hubby working in the next room. I take care of our first grand-daughter and OH MAN does she love being able to have access to her Grand-Daddy all day. I have to just stop because I will just keep gushing.I am so very happy for you Lisa and I understand how safe and yummy it feels to have a wonderful marriage. XO
Hey Lisa! This is an outstanding video because It expresses your authentic and honest self. I've been married for 43 years. One of the things I think you touched on is your higher self. I always say, "Let go of your ego. Let your higher self take over." Is it so important to be right? And what does right really mean? I honestly think it doesn't take care of your power. I think it actually gives you power for being considerate, understanding and loving. We need more love and this is a wonderful expression of love. I've been married for over 40 years and so love my husband. We hardly fight anymore because I try to forget about my ego and let my higher self take over. Thanks so much for this video!
Lisa thank you so much for this video. I would love to see more. I actually found you on UA-cam 2 yrs ago while going through my divorce and saw your video about being happy after a divorce. That video changed my life. I am so grateful for you and have been watching your videos ever since!
Lisa, you are possibly the sweetest, most genuine woman on You Tube! Thank you for the words of wisdom! I have been married for 43 years. When my husband and I have a disagreement I try to remember something I heard Dr. Phil say, “do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”
Oh my gosh, Lisa, you look absolutely RADIANT! You know you briefly brought up being real casual, but in a refined way? Not your words, but that was the gist of what you said. You said models do it with minimal makeup and a casual, yet classy outfit? The look is beautiful on you! You just have no idea! Your look just screamed Summer! I know exactly what you mean about men and women and how differently we process information. Men ARE fixers. They have a way of cutting through all the crap and just taking care of it, for Heaven's sake. They do it out of love. They want to protect us and they don’t like to see us unhappy, so it’s a lot of pressure for a man when we tell them something's bothering us and sometimes they don’t have a clue of what to do because they don’t understand we're not expecting them to fix it. I had to finally come out and tell my husband that I’m just venting and the thing I need most from him is to simply listen to me. And afterwards if he would give me a little kiss and tell me he loves me, that would be awfully nice. Because we know it’s us against the world. So when you say he's just a man, it reminds you quickly that he’s built that way and it was one of the things about him you were drawn to from the beginning. He does it because he loves you. I think women need to remember that men are what they are. They don’t know how to be anything else, and really we wouldn’t want them to be any other way. It’s so endearing. I so love Bare Minerals. I always have. I started buying it when they had their infomercials, but learned so much more about Bare Minerals on QVC. I get my makeup on QVC. You can’t beat the prices, because they like to add the perfect brush to the product you’re ordering. IT Cosmetics is so good at that and I love their line, too. Sorry this is so long. I just wanted to say you are glowing today and brimming with happiness. And I love your stories! I’m looking forward to more. I think Southern women are wonderful. I want to hear more about what it’s like to be a Southern women. There's just something special about them. I think they have it over all of us knowing that you get more from your man by being more of a woman. Love you, Lisa! I’ll stop now. :)
Hey Lisa. LOVED this. Have been married 38 years, and you're exactly right: men are MEN. God Love em. Wouldn't have it any other way. Heard a sermon from a pastor years ago that about sums it up. Men are like file cabinets. They take out one file, methodically go through it step by step, and solve a problem. They don't take out another file till they complete the first. Women are like that mess of cables you have in the back of your desk to hook up your computer, printer, etc. We multi-task, and it may not make sense to him, we know where every wire goes... We have to! Taking care of babies, the house, the errands, et al, we can't be so methodical like men do. But it works out -- and it's a beautiful thing. I wouldn't trade my man for anything in the world. Thank you for being such an inspiration to the younger gals. Kindness and respect go a LONG way in a marriage. Love ya Lisa!
I really liked this video as well as “happy you’re home”. I mentioned it to my daughter when she was sharing stuff that she’s annoyed with her husband. I sent her the video. I’ve read some of the book, Men are from Mars and women from Venus, the essential idea stuck with me (mostly the title to be honest), but “he’s just a man” stuck with me more, since I saw it 2 weeks ago, and will continue to stick with me. The problem might be to remember it in the heat of the moment and not through those “he’s just a man” moment on top of the pile of those mixed with bigger events that are unacceptable, but forgivable and
Lisa, I’ve watched all those videos you’ve referenced......I’ve been watching your channel for years now....I really feel like your one of my girlfriends! Even my husband knows you and asks what new makeup or clothes you have LOL....you are and always have been so genuine! You are a true sweetheart and have a beautiful family. All of your videos are from your heart....we all love you for that💜
Also! Absolutely not worth dragging an argument out. It’s not worth your own emotions. When you have 2 ppl together that don’t like to be upset or would rather just let it go than be right..it’s like magic! As far as the relationship being easy :)
Gosh Lisa, I just LOVE this! My parents will be celebrating 42 years of marriage this October and my husband and I will be celebrating 4 years next month! You remind me so much of my momma and I really value your advice!❤️❤️❤️
The best advice I was ever given (it applies to all aspects of life really) is: “Its not the message, it’s the delivery”think about that when having any kind of discussion, it will change the way you approach a conversation. Lovely as always! Xo
Laura in the Kitchen we love you too Laura!! Sei Bella anche tu!!
YES! Just the way you word something makes all the difference, I was just telling Brooke last night how much words can hurt, and you can't really take them back~ we were watching TV and I am always mortified at how people talk to each other, even family! Thank you, Laura! ❤️ Lisa
LisaLisaD1 Totally agree with this. I’m now trying to make sure my two teens realize this, too.....because they’ve lived almost their entire lives listening to my husband make backhanded but intentional comments to me and about me that are disrespectful and demeaning. I desperately want my kids to know that this is NOT ok and NOT normal in a healthy marriage (or in any relationship, in general). I certainly don’t want either of them to behave in this way or to accept this behavior in their own relationships.
I always say this too! It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it!
Once when we were preparing for a party and I was upset he wasn’t paying attention to certain details, my husband said to me that what is important to me may not be something that is important to another and you really can’t fault someone for not thinking the same way. I have forever kept that advice with me in personal and professional relationships. You can’t force your ways on anyone, but should accept people as they are and appreciate how different and special people can be. Be grateful. Great advice Lisa, you are a nice person and that is such a great quality 💕
EXACTLY!! We can't expect everyone to be "motivated" by the same things we are~ that was a hard lesson for me to learn, I wanted everyone to want what I wanted and that is just not the case! Thank you very much!! ❤️ Lisa
This is where you absolutely shine my friend....Love is the foundation of your home and family...experience has taught you well...Your upbringing with two parents who love you unconditionally makes you the woman you are....Our path leads us into the unknown, what we do with it...is truly up to us...we must all take responsibility in our relationships...I believe two people can be together until death due us part....knowing ourselves is just as important as knowing our spouse....The journey to real lasting love is work...it is compromise ...it is respect...it is honor...it is trust...it is having someone else's best interest at heart...it is FORGIVENESS....it is liking as well as loving that person....it is being kind ...it is about having our eyes and ears open......and it must always be thought of as US...not ME....Fabulous video...!! Let your light shine ....it may be the one little glimmer that helps someone!!
uppiesbeads59 BEAUTIFUL!! And dead on! 💖💖💖
You make me cry!! Thank you, Tammy, love you! ❤️ Lisa
uppiesbeads59 this is so beautifully said and soooo spot on..👌. Could not have said it better if I tried. Thank you for putting words to my thoughts.
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Miss Tammy you said it so well, you said everything I was thinking, just didn’t know how to put it all together.😘
My best advice I ever got- “If it matters to him then it should matter to you and vise versa”
Yes! We cannot discount another's feelings~ so true! 💕 Lisa
I want the man I'm with to have good emotional intelligence. Yes, they are just men, but they can always learn more. The same way we can.
I enjoy when you talk about life! I just told my husband and my daughter that one of the things I enjoyed about your channel is how much you love life and your family. That is how I feel too and it is refreshing to hear about people who are overall happy not that we all don't have our struggles but it is nice to be thankful of what we have. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much!! ❤️ Lisa
Two things: 1. You look beautiful today! Love your makeup and hair. 2. If I could only watch one UA-cam channel it would be yours. ❤️
Awe, thank you so much, that was so nice!! ❤️ Lisa
I agree!
Me too!
Me too
My Aunt would always tell me that marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, not an OWNERSHIP.... Words to live by for sure!
Michelle Young yes!! Love that! And very true..
Michelle Young and, along those same very wise lines....marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, not a DICTATORSHIP....! That’s something that my soon-to-be-ex-husband would never ever abide by in our 21 year marriage, and it ultimately ended in the demise of TWO different marriages for him. Ladies, know your worth and what you bring to the table at all times, regardless of whether you work outside the home and bring in a paycheck to help support your family OR work inside the home 24/7 to support your family and to create a wonderful life all the way around for them. Regardless, self-respect is always key, and if your husband and life partner does NOT respect what you bring to the marriage and/or does not respect you simply as a human being, there WILL be trouble in paradise.....
@@kimberlybellefontaine1215 , Well said, well said!!!
Leslie Breimob ❤️
@@kimberlybellefontaine1215 , Amen
My husband and I have been together 40 years and it only took me 20 of those years to finally realize that "he is just a man" and that is why we don't always see eye to eye. But it just dawned on me that I wonder if he realizes that "I'm just a woman". :) I enjoy your story time. Laurie
Yes, please do more “life”/advice videos. You have a lot of practical things to share.
Your loving spirit is infectious💞 thank you for this video Lisa🙏🏾. You look beautiful today😍
Thank you so much! ❤️ Lisa
lisa, thank you so much for making this video. your “finding mr. right” video is one of my favorites you’ve ever done (and i never miss any of your videos!) 💕 as a single woman in my mid-20s, i’ve learned so much about what i want from a partner and relationship from failed relationships. i love hearing other peoples’ perspectives and advice on love and relationships. i hope you keep up this type of video because i really appreciate hearing your thoughts & advice on these topics! thanks for all you do and share with us. xoxo, megan
Wonderful, thank you!! I have so much I want to share! ❤️ Lisa
I love these topics. Keep ‘em coming please!!
Thank you, Faith!! I will, I have so much for us to talk about!! ❤️ Lisa
I cant believe youre 48! I have been so afraid to get older bc IM 30 and Im single and scared that marriage will never happen for me! * ive been through a lot * BUT this is inspiring to me. Youre GORGEOUS!!!!! Getting older is a privilege and if you take care of yourself like i see that you've done, its well worth it! I know its hard to share and be so personal but, Im so glad that you do! Thank you for sharing!!
I just turned 31 and single, but not scared that marriage will not happen for me as at this point I really don't care if it does or not. I had to let one go after four years of pampering his size 14 feet amongst other ridiculous things and no commitment. It's more than nice for it to be all about me and for me now.
@@lifeinlimbo378 any updates?
Thank you for this! I’m a 20-something single girl that can use all the advice she can get😊😘❤️ keep em coming!
Thank you!! I have so much I want to tell YOU, lol! Things I would tell my 20 yr old self!! ❤️ Lisa
I have never ever commented on a video before, but I've been watching you for years Lisa and after this video i just absolutely have to say what an amazing, kind, genuine, funny and gorgeous woman you are. I smiled with you throughout this entire video because i understood every example you gave, made me chuckle out loud actually. You seem to have the sweetest soul and your energy is so peaceful and gracious, I could never get tired of watching your videos. I soak in all the advice youve ever given. Videos like these are my fave. Enjoy the rest of your summer!
I’m so excited to hear your advice. It’s so nice to hear you talk about John. I loved hearing your first date on the boat years ago that you shared. I love make-up and clothes, but I really love watching you Lisa, just because you are so nice and it makes me nicer. I’m sure your to-do UA-cam video list is very long but i would love to hear your advice on keeping calm when parenting can be so hard.
I can't believe the timing! I have been married 21 years, but lately communication has been a struggle. This is right on time and so helpful!
Bedavis55 i have been married 17 years, for some reason i always thought things would be PERFECT the longer we were together. The communication etc. but it really is ups and downs! Some days we are perfect. Some days everything we say we argue. I had to learn that it’s normal... lol
Brandy H.2426 I always believed that, too - that marriage was made up of good and not-so-good and everything possible in between. I think those who make it to the end are just two imperfect individuals who choose to love one other and refuse to ever completely give up on each other. I see my sister married for 35 years....and my parents for 60 years. Yet, after 21 yrs of marriage and two older teens, my own husband decided that he didn’t want to do it any longer and filed for divorce. My now soon to be ex has his own problems though - he was married for just a few short years and divorced before he ever met me. I should have seen the red flags when I met him 24 yrs ago, but I didn’t. Now, if I’d met him today, I think I would’ve seen the red flags..🙁. Anyway, I love videos like this so much and I think many women easily relate to this kind of conversation. I hope there’s more of it in the future and I thank Lisa for putting this video out there!
Lisa, I love these kind of videos.
Faye Sheetz Me too... 👍👍
Thank you, Faye! ❤️ Lisa
As a young woman I’ve learned so much from you. Xx
You are so good at speaking from your heart. You give very good advice without sounding preachy.
Thank you!! ❤️ Lisa
Lisa great video. I too was married young. Can say a survivor of domestic violence. One thing I can say is I am so happy my mom was not my best friend but my mother. I wish I had listened as parents will never steer you wrong at any age.. Luckily they were there for me in the neediest of times and I will always be grateful. Looking pretty as always Lisa inside and out. 🌸
Julie Holmes congratulations on getting OUT and being a survivor..💪. I’ve been subjected to decades of narcissistic abuse in my 20+ year marriage and never realized it was abuse until just a few years ago. Hard to look at my marriage now as a “normal” marriage......because it definitely wasnt..🙁
Love this video. I am recently divorced. And I can completely see how this advice is 100% accurate.!These issues you are speaking of , are the truest difference between a man’s thought process and a woman’s thought process. Where were you and your momma during my marriage lol . Listen up ladies , she is preaching the truth
TheClassicgirl7 absolutely!!! 100% truth👌. I, too, am almost divorced...after 21+ years of marriage. I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. Only those of us who’ve been through it can really know what a traumatic life event it can really be..
Love the dark hair story!!! My husband hates my hair dark also!! Hates it!! I just went from blonde to dark brown and I can see it in his eyes too! Same here, first it irked me. I’ll go back light I know. It’s just a little thing that he prefers. I live and respect him and he does me too. So, I’ll keep it light for him. He does do much for me and our son! Great video! ❤️
Thanks for this, Lisa. I've learned in 33 years of marriage to really LISTEN to what my husband says/listen to the man he is...like you said, don't go to bed angry with your husband, (or anyone)...don't blow each others cover, i. e., don't embarrass or divulge secrets about each other...don't purge your day or problems on your husband when he comes home from work. Men are not complicated like we women are...that is a gift. I embrace my fluff. Live a spontaneous life together. Cheers.
Dr.Phil has a saying he always uses on couples when they’re arguing- “ Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy”? That reminds me of what you’re talking about. :)
You definitely should do more advice and tip videos. Would love to hear your perspective 🙂
Thank you so much, Lisa! Lord, I remember watching those original videos about your divorce! That is when I fell "in love" with your channel
sontzi I just recently found Lisa’s old videos and I love them!! I’ve really enjoyed the few I’ve had the pleasure of watching. I love those older videos.
You it the nail on the head when you said me are fixers, after 32 yrs of marriage my husband and I had that discussion. I will listen to him for hours, but when I start telling him something, he will cut me short trying to fix it. He said all he does at work is fix problems and so thats what he does for me when I start talking. I finally had to tell him all I really wanted was for him to listen like I listen to him. We have to let each other know what we need from each other. My husband gets me 99% of the time, but that 1% we had to figure it out by communicating. You go Lisa, I love you sharing.
Your hair looks so healthy and really nice today. Love the color.
I love hearing everybody's advise, from you and the comments down below. I was raised very different. My parents were divorced so I was raised very independant and to be a strong, equal woman. It does make for an interesting marriage to have two strong people in one house. Married 25 years, but always willing to learn something new. It would be great to have everyone give a "one sentence" tip on what keeps their marriage happy. Mine would be, "It is ok to know you are right, you just don't have to point it out every time"! xo
jillf24 that’s so true! Nine times out of ten, when I know I’m right, this surfaces anyway and I don’t even have to say “I told you so”! Ha! I do a little victory dance in my head and we move on.
Vaves Faves I’m much like you. Wish we had more of an opportunity to chat. Praying for you and your marriage and your family..💕🙏
Vaves Faves You’re so very welcome. And I meant it.....because I’m a praying woman..🙏. I loved reading your “backstory” and yes, I completely agree with you about social media these days and how so many of us are choosing to use it as a means of “connecting” sort of like the Tupperware parties of the past....and how we as women can (and should) use social media to really build each other UP .....because life and work and home and marriage and husbands and relationships and family and parenting and toddlers and teens can all be very challenging and can really bring us down sometimes! (as can other “meaner” people..). I really do enjoy the opportunities when I can actually connect almost one-to-one on a social media platform....because then the world suddenly seems a little smaller and not quite as cold..😊. Thanks so much for your sweet comment and yes, I’ll definitely be praying for you and your marriage..🙏💕🦋. I hope Lisa chooses to do more of this kind of “life” videos!
Oh my goodness!! I love this video. You are definitely in your zone. You seem so comfortable and like you were in the earlier videos when I first started watching you. I will be celebrating 34 years sept 1st. We were 16 and 19 when we married in the 80’s. You seem so confident and happy in this video! Funny that you mentioned the happy medium of your weight. I was thinking you look so beautiful without being too skinny in your face. You look perfect right now!! I wish I had your discipline. I need to lose 30 lbs! It’s so hard for me to eat in moderation I love food. You do a great job. I’ve loved watching you for many years. So thankful that you have stayed true to who you are!
M Franco so well said! I feel the same way..
😘 After 26 years I can honestly say we have fallen in and out of love with each other many times..........and I wouldn't trade it for a minute. Thanks for sharing, Lisa. 😘
Love this, thank you, Colleen! ❤️ Lisa
Colleen McLaughlin YES! You’ve captured the basic essence of marriage here...👌
I loved this, Lisa. I hope you are still doing this type of video. I agree with everything you said. I’m enjoying watching many of your older videos. 💕
Regarding pride, I think Dr Phil says “would you rather be right or would you rather be happy.” Sometimes it is best just to give in, obviously for the small arguments. We will celebrate 35 years of marriage next month.💜 ps love your eye look
Barb Robbins my husband ALWAYS had to be “right.” Always.
Oh my goodness, I love that!! SO TRUE! I actually love his advice, I need to watch him more~ Thank you, Barb! ❤️ Lisa
I loved this Lisa, its how my husband and I are, we are so different, but we've learned over the years to apologize and talk things through so a little thing doesn't become a big thing. We've been through a lot of hard times together, but together was the key. Loving my best friend and being loved by him makes my heart happy and complete. I feel exactly like Charlotte too, we are so blessed.
Parts of this video made me cringe. Although i agree with a lot of what you said, “he’s just a man” sounds like more of an excuse to allow him to say things that hurt you, but you aren’t allowed to be hurt. I am a blonde and have had many hair colors over the years and i went dark brown once. It only lasted for a week before i went back blonde because i hated it. I knew my husband didn’t like it either but he would never tell me that he hated it or look at me differently. He told me that i was beautiful no matter what color my hair was. Just don’t forget your worth! 😘
Nevena Seferovic I agree. Let’s not make excuses for men based on their gender...each of us is human and deserve equal respect. Equality in my marriage with my husband is something I value so much. Equality of the sexes is how we need to evolve as a race.
Interesting; I think the word “just” can be taken a few different ways. Having been married 13 years, I take “he’s just a man” to mean more along the lines of he’s only human. No one is perfect and I can’t expect him to be, as I’m not! Neither do we see everything the exact same way, we can listen to each other and learn from one another, still after so many years. It comes down to having respect for yourself as well as your husband, I think. Anyway, love these conversations!
So true !!
For sure Nevena. Slazem se :)
Men don't want to marry a competitor. Period! This whole "strong and independent bossbabe" attitude doesn't work in long term relationships .
Lisa, you are like a breath of fresh air. I love that you think enough of women to help give them guidance in your talks that you're doing. You're very thoughtful! I enjoy listening to you give advice that isn't judgemental. You touch on topics that really hit home, so I'm greatful that you're in my life so to speak. You are teaching me to be a better person in relationships and towards people in general. You have a gift that is very much needed and I'm so happy you're using your platform to speak from the heart. I've been looking at your channel for 3 years now, and have told my girlfriends and daughter about your channel as well. Continued blessings to you and your family!
I like the idea of videos like this. It gives a more complete look into your life (I don't mean sharing anything private) and we get to know you and your family a little better. I am a traditional southern girl also and have a fabulous husband whose name is John too! My John sounds a lot like yours, he is a very take charge says what he means and means what he says kind of man. He is very complementary of me and is brutally honest. (That is what I love most about him) I can ask his opinion about something and know the answer is going to be truthful, honest and not sugar-coated!!! It may hurt my feelings a little at first but as you try to do I ask myself had I rather him be honest about "whatever" or sugar coat it and it not turn out the way I wanted it!! Would love to hear more of these! xo
I enjoyed this video so much! And when you mentioned re-doing some of your old videos I got so excited! I go back to them time to time when I need advice. My mom passed away this past November, and she was MY best friend. I too went to her for all of my advice. And when it comes to relationships and other things, you are someone who has her similar outlook and would give similar advice. Thank You!
This is great! I’ve been married for almost 25 years, I’m so proud of us!!!! It sounds like our men are a lot alike, my sweet husband is just a man too! I’m so blessed God put us together and we pray together over our marriage daily. When asked, my advice is to pick your battles and to ask yourself is this argument worth it? Do I need to be right to be happy? That scene from Sex in the City really captured me, I’ve said that same phrase as Charlotte. I’m happy, maybe not every hour, but I’m happy daily. Stay Sparkling, love ya!
The timing of this... Just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart! ❌⭕️
Wonderful! Thank YOU for being here! ❤️ Lisa
Happily married 31 years. Totally agree. Men think different than women. We need to realise this and never have the "im right your wrong". We don't really argue either. Respect each other and your differences.
I loved this video! I think John is lucky to have you. Not only are you beautiful, you are very family oriented, which I love! You cook meals, and you keep a lovely home. But most importantly, I can see how much you love your parents and your own family. Geez, he’s hit the jackpot!💕
I watched this yesterday but forgot to comment on it. I’m so glad you are doing this and please do more. Young married women that follow you need to hear all of this. Mothers tell the daughters these things usually but it is more helpful to hear it from Simone not so close somtimes and be able to realize that it is common and hear how to work it out in a healthy way. I wish utube has been around when I was a younger married woman. Thanks Lisa!
I always enjoy your videos about relationships and life wisdom!
Thank you!! 😊 Lisa
Oh my goodness....you are SO true about husband's trying to fix things for us. If I have a problem in any area my husband either suggests a solution or tells me to stop wasting time if I don't want to take any action. I just need someone to listen and maybe just understand. Love to hear these talks. X.
Jamison Gee I think this is sooooo common! Same here🙋🏻♀️. Men just HAVE to “fix” things. I don’t think they know any other way!
Natural 235 sometimes WE don’t even know we just want them “just to listen” though !
I know, I go to my mom if I want a real discussion! ❤️ Lisa
Jamison Gee Oddly my husband and I are the other way round and it can be SOOO frustrating listening to the same problem over and over when there’s a simple fix but they won’t try it. Maybe I’m from Mars too! 😱
Eleanor Rodway LOL!🤣
I loved this, thank you! Together 15 years this November and still going strong. I sometimes have difficulties with accepting he doesn’t think like me, so arguments can be about this stuff. Your mums quote “he’s just a man” is so helpful thank you! Just saw satc again and I loved what Charlotte says, that’s how I feel everyday! Keep these videos coming 😍💕💕💕
Lisa I am going to be really blunt here. I was married to a complete bullshitter for 16 years. I am now married 8 years to a wonderful very complete man! He is honest and “just a man” thank goodness!! He takes wonderful care of me and lov s me completely. How wonderful to have a strong spouse to lean on.
Nelda Breaux looove your story!💕
Yes yes yes!!! Men are very different! I’m a thinker and a planner and I’m Type A. I worry I stress...my husband is very calm, cool...Type B, no worries or stress! I’m detailed, organized. He’s not. He keeps me grounded and will let me know when I need to just calm down. I don’t give him enough credit for being such a kind, sweet, gentle man who’s understanding and can tolerate me and my ways! Thanks for this insightful video 😊😊
Love this topic!
Best advice and best practice
1. Let him be the man...let him know he's needed and that you appreciate him.
2. Be affectionate with each other. Hold hands, kiss, hug etc...
3. Dont sweat the small stuff...choose your battles.
Hi Lisa!! Thank you so much for this video. It's funny that it popped up today because I had been thinking recently of taking the time to message you and tell you that of all the videos of yours I have watched (A LOT) and enjoyed, the one I enjoyed the most and benefitted the most from was a video you posted a few years ago where you sat down and gave out some advice based on your life and experiences you have learned from. I remember you said that no car is worth an awful stressful car payment!! That really rung true for me. You said many other helpful things. It's funny because your main topics here are beauty related and I love that, but for some reason, that video spoke to me and if I had to pick one favorite of yours, that would be the one.
I also wanted to mention a couple of things that help me in my marriage and just in daily life dealing with people, etc. One (funnily enough this philosophy was shared with me by a guy I dated - didn't work out, but I'll always be grateful for this) is that what you don't know is always more than what you now. I often refer to this in situations where I feel myself moving to judgment or being unfairly judged. I try to be understanding when other people get judgmental because I really have no idea what is going on with them. Likewise, what qualifies me to judge another person? None of us are all-knowing. To really arrive at a judgment about someone, you need a TON of information and even then we make mistakes; just look at our criminal justice system. You can apply this philosophy to lots of other situations, too. What you don't know is always more than what you know.
Second, (I wish I could recall where I heard this), men's brains are an assemblage of separate compartments. They can mentally leave one and enter another and keep everything apart. Whereas our brains are like a massive tangled jumbly ball of knotted and intertwined Christmas lights (think Christmas Vacation - "Here, Russ, untangle these lights.") In other words, everything is connected to everything else to some extent. It's the only way I can make sense of my husband feeling amorous at night when just that day some disturbing event took place, like a mass shooting, that I just cannot shake. He can put it in a box and close it, but for me, it takes time for its effect on me to dissipate enough for it to not dominate my thoughts.
I would very much support your creation of a series where you share advice. I like the idea of women helping each other along and sharing with younger generations in the hopes of creating positive change in our society. You're an angel. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. 🤗
Wow, thank you SO much!! Yes, love that about our brains, lol! So true! I am excited for us to share these things! ❤️ Lisa
Ms. Mow You are soooo spot on about all of these things you’ve mentioned..👌. Yes...it’s a well known fact that our (women’s) brains are designed like a bunch of tangled Christmas lights lol while men’s brains are made up of a bunch of separate “boxes.” Such a great analogy, isn’t it? And so true! I love what you said about not knowing being so much more than what we actually know. Very very wise words. I can see how they would apply in a marital relationship. Thanks so much for sharing them.
Good chat. I wake up to “Good morning beautiful” everyday and am so grateful. You hit the nail in the head with “men are fixers”. I’m emotional and cry easily. He gets flustered and upset with me when I cry because he doesn’t know how to fix it even when there’s nothing to fix! 23 years of the best time ever except for those rare moments when I want to light him on fire lol. True love. ❤️
LOVE this, Lisa! Anytime you share anything about marriage/family...its my absolute favorite! I quote my Mama daily + I love to hear other family's wisdom/stories. Please always share. HUGE hugs from Texas! xo
I feel like I was waiting for this video from you forever! Thanks for sharing such a personal part of your experience with us and letting those of us in the new bloom of marriage benefit from you wisdom ❤️
I has been is a procrastinator. He’s electrician and let me tell you when he comes home he takes his boots off. And sits down and that’s it. I handle stuff from everything from getting people to do the yard getting my house painted going to do groceries. Everything. If I asked him to do certain it would never get done. He would rather pay which is OK.
One of my best friends said something to me that I always remember and it is spot on regarding men and women. She says “ when it comes to emotion, we women write a novel. And we are chapters into it before we realize that our men write a paragraph. And that’s all they need. They can sum it all up in a paragraph. We need the chapters but sometimes the summary will do.” Sage advice and it rings true with 99.999999% of the men in my life!
This was great Lisa! I love it when you do these kind of chat or advice videos :)
Lisa, what words of wisdom! I can sign after each word you said! My marriage dynamic is very similar to yours, and I do agree the key to a happy marriage is to understand how a men operate. Thank you for this video so much! I enjoy your videos, and it’s pleasure to see such a beautiful, intelligent and wise woman like you . Love to you.
Thank you so much, Ginger! ❤️ Lisa
I really love this! When you said that you step back and think about, maybe you took something the wrong way or if you were being too sensitive, I think that is so spot on and so important. One person can't be right all the time and the other person can't be wrong all the time, that isn't realistic to me. In my relationship I can be the more aggressive one and my husband is the passive one but I too believe in a more traditional gender roles. That is really important to me and even though he's less passionate about it, it is important to him too. Realizing that you will have disagreements and compromise is so important. Every disagreement doesn't have to be an all out fight and compromise doesn't mean you are a doormat.
Yes, men are different than women . Men , in general, think and and feel differently than us. Please feminists don’t be offended by that. Nothing to do with equal rights. Thank you, Lisa , for sharing your experiences with us.💕
Why would we be offended by that?
Chelsea Williams Do you know what a feminist is, hun?
Chelsea Williams you don’t, hun. The worst part is that YOU’RE a feminist, because YOU are doing what YOU want to do with YOUR life. It’s completely your choice. Good luck with everything x
Feminist want to be equals when woman are far superior ;) lol silly girls! Lol
EXACTLY! It's just nature, and I embrace it, I love that we are so different! Thank you! ❤️ Lisa
Love these! Was just reading a marriage counseling book (from a Jewish perspective). She said the same thing. Everyone is too focused on being right instead of what is best for the relationship. Like you said, doesn’t mean you have to be a pushover but focus on what is important.
Great advice Lisa. I think that forgiveness is the key to a happy relationship. The ability to forgive our partner and ourselves, when feelings are hurt, allows us to move forward with love and respect. Its so easy to get wrapped up in our own emotions and reactions and the need to be "right" rather than focusing on the how we move through those misunderstandings with empathy and forgiveness. You are a wise woman!
When we were new parents my husband used to drive me crazy doing things different than how I liked them. Like how he would change diapers or feed the baby. And then one day he said, you know there is more than one right way to do things. And I realized he was right. Sometimes we need to remember that we’re different people and we’re gonna think differently and do things differently. Thanks for sharing your insight Lisa!
Lisa, I can’t say enough how much I love your videos. Especially these advice type ones that you film for us. It’s just one more thing that goes to show how much you truly love and appreciate us as your subscribers. Just seeing through a screen how you take on every relationship in your life with such grace is beyond inspiring and I think I speak for all of us when I say that.
Lisa, please continue these types of videos. Your advice is so important and you are so articulate on the subject. Also, don’t let any negative comments bother you.
I love this video! Please do more !! You’re seriously the best. Look I’m 27 & used to watch you years ago & couldn’t remember your UA-cam channel to save my life for some reason. So happy to have found you again 💚
I am SO excited for your advice videos! Let me grab my pen and notebook! 📝
This video was so on the mark! Each point you made I was like ‘yes I relate! And ‘that explains men perfectly!’ I will make sure I keep these things in mind, especially your end point about men seeming like they don’t want to engage in conversation, I never thought about it as them just wanting to fix it! I loved this video Lisa! I hope you do more! Xx
I've been married 20 years. I loved this video. I agree men and women are so different from each other. I liked the specific tip in how to apologize by saying, " I'm sorry I got my feelings hurt if you didn't mean it that way." I'm going to try that one next time!
Been married for over 50 years. Ups and downs. I’ve found that it’s not necessary or required to be "right" all the time. Each of us has different gifts and together, we’ve been good for each other.
I think a video on “things to look for in a husband” is a good idea.👍
My husband and I have been married 35 yrs. We very rarely argue..we do the same thing we think of each other . One thing my Dad told me ...that was marry within your own religion in which I did. I live to hear and see other couples who have been married w long time and still Love each other. Thank u for the video, I enjoyed it!
Loyal viewers are like:
“I’ve been waiting for this video for 9 years, 3 months and 4 days”
😂😎😘
Amazing as always, Lisa! Xoxo Ella
Awesome advice lisa! I love that segment. You are so wise! I totally agree with Tammy's comment. Happy New Year sweety.
I’m so glad you did this! This is actually helping me on my life right now. I would love for you to also do a parenting video. Building a good relationship with a daughter “mother daughter bond” I have 3 daughters and I would LOVE to know.
Be their "MOM" for the first 21 years, then you can be their friend!!!
jillf24 yes, YES! Children need their parents to be parents. Later on, you can be friends and really enjoy it.
Let's Talk Beauty yes! My daughter will be 18 in just a couple of months (and my son will be 20). It was not always easy, especially with my daughter, but I can honestly say that I’m finally seeing the fruits of my labor. I can finally see the light at the end of a long tunnel. Here’s a key: do NOT take what they say personally. The mother-daughter relationship is one of THE most complicated relationships on Earth. It can be the best thing ever.....and it can be the worst ever and can make you feel like s**t..🙁. Definitely set your boundaries and don’t let them get away with not respecting them. Being their parent, NOT their friend, is crucial. Set limits and boundaries even when you’re the “bad guy.” They’ll appreciate it and will love you for it down the road! I’m seeing the fruits of my labor with my daughter now.....but we had some rough years there..😰. Hang in there. It WILL get better!
Thank you!! I would love to open a discussion on that, I'll tell what I have learned, some great tips for communication, I would love to share!! ❤️ Lisa
i needed this< thanks for comment. Sometimes I feel alone. My daughter is 14, and struggling really hard with these teenage years. Testing limits, mood swings etc.. I look at her sometimes and think where did my little girl go, She was so sweet and funny, and now its a rollercoaster of emotions!
Thank you for doing this. You were the first UA-cam video I watched when I went through a divorce. You got me through it. And now I’m happily married and you’re doing this video. I so appreciate you.
Thank you for sharing Lisa! You look so lovely today! Your face is radiant talking about John. 💕
To me the key to a good relationship is: talk. When you're angry, when you're sad it doesn't matter, just TALK.
I’m watching this video and it’s like I’m listening to you describing my husband and my relationship to a T. I am the one who absolutely hates hurting someone’s feelings in any way and my hubby is to the point no matter what. We’ve been married close to 15 years and one thing I can say for darn sure...that man is my ROCK! I wouldn’t have him any other way
I'm 26 and yes yes yes yeeeeees to the other videos!!!!i don't see happy marriages and always love to hear people who are happily married and soak up their advice xxx
I am 28 and I have been with my husband for 9 years married 4. We communicate so differently that we have the same struggles. I do however have the same realization that men are men! They process things so differently than we do!
Thanks for a great video! I love listening to anything you say!
Lisa I love this video💋love to see happy marriages and especially GOOD advice!!!! 💗💗
I couldn't agree more with men thinking SO differently than we do. It is SO true. Ive never been married, I'm 24 but been with my boyfriend for 8 years and remembering this statement has helped me SO much in our relationship.
Lisa, this type of video is so important for young women especially. And all of us can benefit from the wisdom that comes from the older generation, your Mom for instance. Marriage relationships haven't changed as far as the feelings involved. Your advice will be a wealth of information to women! Cudos to you girl!
Your hair is perfection today!! I’ve been married 32 years (high school sweethearts) I believe one key to a long happy marriage is forgiveness, lots of it and don’t rehash and throw up wrong doings once the issue has been resolved. Ohhhhhh, this may not apply to all men but don’t talk incessantly during his favorite show or movie 🤫🤭🙂😃
Great video Lisa! Your advice about men and women is dead on. I also found it very helpful in my marriage to learn what my husband's love languages are. He is an acts of service and quality time guy but I'm words of affirmation. Now we both make a conscious effort to show our love/affection through each other's love language and it makes such a difference.
SO much of this advice spoke to me. Our husbands sound like they are cut from the same cloth. Please keep doing these types of videos. All the video ideas you mentioned, I was like YES! I need all the advice I can get and I value and trust your opinion after all these years watching! 💕 thanks for making this! ❤️
It is completely possible to be married and not fight. My wonderful husband and I have been married 16 years and especially in the last 5 years.....We almost never even get irritated with each other. I am not saying we have not had to get through some things in the past, because that would be a lie, but we got through them and learned from them.
I feel like we worked extra hard the first 10 years of our marriage to learn from the things we had to get through and are reaping the rewards from that now. I love our days together so very much!!! He works from home and he is absolutely brilliant and man is it sexy when you can hear your super smart hubby working in the next room. I take care of our first grand-daughter and OH MAN does she love being able to have access to her Grand-Daddy all day.
I have to just stop because I will just keep gushing.I am so very happy for you Lisa and I understand how safe and yummy it feels to have a wonderful marriage. XO
Hey Lisa! This is an outstanding video because It expresses your authentic and honest self. I've been married for 43 years. One of the things I think you touched on is your higher self. I always say, "Let go of your ego. Let your higher self take over." Is it so important to be right? And what does right really mean? I honestly think it doesn't take care of your power. I think it actually gives you power for being considerate, understanding and loving. We need more love and this is a wonderful expression of love. I've been married for over 40 years and so love my husband. We hardly fight anymore because I try to forget about my ego and let my higher self take over. Thanks so much for this video!
Lisa thank you so much for this video. I would love to see more. I actually found you on UA-cam 2 yrs ago while going through my divorce and saw your video about being happy after a divorce. That video changed my life. I am so grateful for you and have been watching your videos ever since!
I love that you did this video! I think your observations about men and women are so true! Please do more videos on this Lisa! Thanks 💗💗💗
Lisa, you are possibly the sweetest, most genuine woman on You Tube! Thank you for the words of wisdom! I have been married for 43 years. When my husband and I have a disagreement I try to remember something I heard Dr. Phil say, “do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”
Oh my gosh, Lisa, you look absolutely RADIANT! You know you briefly brought up being real casual, but in a refined way? Not your words, but that was the gist of what you said. You said models do it with minimal makeup and a casual, yet classy outfit? The look is beautiful on you! You just have no idea! Your look just screamed Summer!
I know exactly what you mean about men and women and how differently we process information. Men ARE fixers. They have a way of cutting through all the crap and just taking care of it, for Heaven's sake. They do it out of love. They want to protect us and they don’t like to see us unhappy, so it’s a lot of pressure for a man when we tell them something's bothering us and sometimes they don’t have a clue of what to do because they don’t understand we're not expecting them to fix it.
I had to finally come out and tell my husband that I’m just venting and the thing I need most from him is to simply listen to me. And afterwards if he would give me a little kiss and tell me he loves me, that would be awfully nice. Because we know it’s us against the world.
So when you say he's just a man, it reminds you quickly that he’s built that way and it was one of the things about him you were drawn to from the beginning. He does it because he loves you. I think women need to remember that men are what they are. They don’t know how to be anything else, and really we wouldn’t want them to be any other way. It’s so endearing.
I so love Bare Minerals. I always have. I started buying it when they had their infomercials, but learned so much more about Bare Minerals on QVC. I get my makeup on QVC. You can’t beat the prices, because they like to add the perfect brush to the product you’re ordering. IT Cosmetics is so good at that and I love their line, too.
Sorry this is so long. I just wanted to say you are glowing today and brimming with happiness. And I love your stories! I’m looking forward to more. I think Southern women are wonderful. I want to hear more about what it’s like to be a Southern women. There's just something special about them. I think they have it over all of us knowing that you get more from your man by being more of a woman. Love you, Lisa! I’ll stop now. :)
Hey Lisa. LOVED this. Have been married 38 years, and you're exactly right: men are MEN. God Love em. Wouldn't have it any other way.
Heard a sermon from a pastor years ago that about sums it up. Men are like file cabinets. They take out one file, methodically go through it step by step, and solve a problem. They don't take out another file till they complete the first. Women are like that mess of cables you have in the back of your desk to hook up your computer, printer, etc. We multi-task, and it may not make sense to him, we know where every wire goes... We have to! Taking care of babies, the house, the errands, et al, we can't be so methodical like men do. But it works out -- and it's a beautiful thing. I wouldn't trade my man for anything in the world.
Thank you for being such an inspiration to the younger gals. Kindness and respect go a LONG way in a marriage. Love ya Lisa!
I really liked this video as well as “happy you’re home”. I mentioned it to my daughter when she was sharing stuff that she’s annoyed with her husband. I sent her the video. I’ve read some of the book, Men are from Mars and women from Venus, the essential idea stuck with me (mostly the title to be honest), but “he’s just a man” stuck with me more, since I saw it 2 weeks ago, and will continue to stick with me. The problem might be to remember it in the heat of the moment and not through those “he’s just a man” moment on top of the pile of those mixed with bigger events that are unacceptable, but forgivable and
Lisa, I’ve watched all those videos you’ve referenced......I’ve been watching your channel for years now....I really feel like your one of my girlfriends! Even my husband knows you and asks what new makeup or clothes you have LOL....you are and always have been so genuine! You are a true sweetheart and have a beautiful family. All of your videos are from your heart....we all love you for that💜
Also! Absolutely not worth dragging an argument out. It’s not worth your own emotions. When you have 2 ppl together that don’t like to be upset or would rather just let it go than be right..it’s like magic! As far as the relationship being easy :)
Gosh Lisa, I just LOVE this! My parents will be celebrating 42 years of marriage this October and my husband and I will be celebrating 4 years next month! You remind me so much of my momma and I really value your advice!❤️❤️❤️
This video and the messages are soooo important!!! Your amazing as always 🎈🎈🎈