HOW TO RADIATE FEMININE ENERGY TO LIVE A SOFT LIFE: habits, dating, tips and healing *LIFE CHANGING*

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  • @katrinmeinzer8192
    @katrinmeinzer8192 Рік тому +2230

    This Video has literally change my life. After sitting back and allowing I get asked by my number from a man and an other seeks me out somehow on social media. The world is looking different at you when you’re confident and happy about your life ❤️

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +141

      yesss you go girl!! 🥰

    • @t3rianzg
      @t3rianzg Рік тому +36

      Exactly, in person and in online, being on our throne of feminine is amazing

    • @jeannettecruz1221
      @jeannettecruz1221 Рік тому +9

      Yesssss

    • @beansbs1
      @beansbs1 Рік тому +4

      Can you translate this into english

    • @cyndiapasillas1137
      @cyndiapasillas1137 Рік тому +1

      ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @evarossi6
    @evarossi6 Місяць тому +1658

    Have you ever noticed how someone like Tam just radiates confidence? It’s like she has a completely different energy. I just finished reading book called “The Art of Seductive Power by Juliet Arden”, and it really dives into how to tap into that kind of presence. Highly recommend!

    • @NinaLeroyxx
      @NinaLeroyxx Місяць тому +1

      I actually finished that book 3 weeks ago. Tactics are crazy good. I like it so much. Would also really recommend it!

  • @swatiuday111
    @swatiuday111 Рік тому +2158

    For family, friends, and relationships= feminine energy.
    For career = masculine energy.
    ❤️

    • @sammiekaymusic
      @sammiekaymusic Рік тому +104

      for career= feminine energy
      Listen to Abraham hicks ☺️
      “What I attract comes to me i don’t chase, money and ideas flow to me in all areas”

    • @gladeon-hb9iu
      @gladeon-hb9iu Рік тому +38

      @@sammiekaymusic ok but that dosen't make any sense masculine energy is all about focusing on your goals and achieving them, a feminine women can obviously follow her work but that dosen't change the fact it is a masculine thing to do

    • @fungusz_4292
      @fungusz_4292 Рік тому +22

      @@sammiekaymusicliteral bs. masculinity is necessary as it prioritises hard work and ruthlessly completes tasks without emotion

    • @gladeon-hb9iu
      @gladeon-hb9iu Рік тому +3

      @@fungusz_4292 🗿

    • @mint_chip5918
      @mint_chip5918 Рік тому +7

      All about balance 😌

  • @infj4w511
    @infj4w511 7 місяців тому +389

    1. Prioritize yourself
    - Do what you love (hobbies, socializing)
    - Create chaotically (arts, projects)
    - Take time to care for yourself
    - Surround yourself with what you love (people, home)
    - Channel anger into rage (create and destruct)
    - Take pride in yourself
    - Prioritize fulfilment over productivity
    2. Stay calm
    - Take time to calm down, and be present (meditate, do nothing)
    - Focus on your body rather than rationality
    - Don't perform/work too hard
    - Don't control: let life be
    - Don't fill every silence
    - Allow things to be easy
    - Release the need to prove yourself
    - Allow yourself to be mysterious/don't focus on proving yourself
    3. Present yourself with grace
    - Dress with grace
    - Take care of yourself
    - Hold a delicate posture
    - Personalize how you dress
    - Just do whatever makes you feel feminine: perfume, skin care, etc.
    4. Communicate tenderly
    - Use a feminine voice
    - Use polite language
    - Talk tenderly, and mainly through showing rather than talking
    5. Own your desires
    - Express your desires
    - Trust yourself to choose the right men
    - Trust yourself to speak up when something is up
    - Communicate clearly
    6. Don't fight
    - Let men be free
    - Respect men
    - Keep peace
    - Don't criticize men
    - Allow men to be unexpressive about their emotions
    - Allow yourself to disagree
    - Don't require people to agree
    7. Be thankful
    - Honour men's protection and provision
    - Receive men's affection
    - Show appreciation
    8. Listen actively
    - Read and consider people's emotions
    - Don't fill every silence
    9. Be joyful
    - Be playful (in conflict too)
    - Enjoy your time
    - Remind people how great it is to be a woman and to be alive
    10. Focus on your body
    - Direct your spirit before your action
    - Don't focus on rational debate
    - Sit down and relax
    - Experience your sensuality
    11. Be loving
    - down to earth
    - humble
    - unentitled
    - confident
    - holding strong boundaries
    - compassionate
    - nurturing
    - trusting
    - open
    - creative
    - strong-minded
    12. Connect
    - Show love to children
    - Connect with other women

    • @Nithyalahari-pc9cb
      @Nithyalahari-pc9cb 5 місяців тому +7

      Thanks for making it easy 😮‍💨love from me 🫶🏻🤍😁

    • @Maurima-z9w
      @Maurima-z9w 4 місяці тому

      What's wrong with debating with rationality tho?

    • @j1nnienchrist
      @j1nnienchrist 4 місяці тому

      Thank uuu

    • @peaceofome
      @peaceofome 3 місяці тому +3

      This is so helpful ❤

    • @JennyDolma
      @JennyDolma 3 місяці тому

      Allow men to NOT be expressive about their emotions you said? 🤔

  • @yezstra
    @yezstra Рік тому +1093

    When I‘m in school or working I want to be in my masculine energy and when I‘m not in school or woeking I want to be in my feminine energy. Love this balance

    • @ranisaha5143
      @ranisaha5143 Рік тому +37

      Truly balanced life

    • @deusexmachina9776
      @deusexmachina9776 Рік тому +10

      you spend most of your time at work and school. so it is counter productive also you meet tons of people there - you will be overlooked by good quality men or people in general

    • @fungusz_4292
      @fungusz_4292 Рік тому +7

      this is sad as a guy imo

    • @yezstra
      @yezstra Рік тому +1

      @@deusexmachina9776 good thing is I‘ll visit art school soon and gonna practice a creative job. So I‘ll also enter my feminine energy while „working“

    • @brayen6327
      @brayen6327 Рік тому +4

      Yeah I’m masculine in many areas of my life to be successful in them, so i deserve to be feminine with my man

  • @kako6417
    @kako6417 Рік тому +809

    It took me 14 years of dating to realise that MEN LOOOVE TO MAKE WOMEN HAPPY. Literally, they love buying gifts, helping with grocery bags, helping with little stuff. It makes them feel needed, desired and proud. I heard many times my male friends being sad when they said their gf didnt like the gift and dont know how to make her smile anymore or she doesn't let me help her. It took me years to stop fighting about it as if I was fighting for my independence and except that Im worthy of nice things. Let man be man. Disclaimer: Im not talking about man who do stuff/buy stuff to get something in return for you.
    Beautiful video, all of them and thank you for your work 🍀

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +67

      SO TRUEEEE YES 👏

    • @fungusz_4292
      @fungusz_4292 Рік тому +6

      can confirm yes

    • @sangeetapatnaik
      @sangeetapatnaik Рік тому +26

      dude my man doesn't even gift me a piece of chocolate.. forget gifts.. I m so with a wrong guy

    • @AleksandreEyjolfsen
      @AleksandreEyjolfsen Рік тому +6

      Men and women are really similar so this assessment is wrong.

    • @mimachka
      @mimachka 9 місяців тому +3

      Not all men. Some men like to do it, but others don’t. I’d say the ones you talk about are fewer.

  • @jazz-axy9924
    @jazz-axy9924 Рік тому +1815

    Feminine ENERGY. You gave me the words to describe a long time friend of mine. I couldn't put my finger on it until now. See, she's not feminine/girly but has a rather tomboyish style and yet I never saw her as super masculine. This soft light energy comes off of her in waves!
    In my 10+ years of our friendship, I've never once heard her put down another woman. She got this calm personality but isn't shy or quiet. She sets her boundaries in simple but firm ways. I'm always over the hill with happiness whenever we meet because her presence is so refreshing 🥺

    • @zeehuss7275
      @zeehuss7275 Рік тому +136

      the way you've described her I so want to meet her😄

    • @sandyavalos3305
      @sandyavalos3305 Рік тому +49

      fr fr. Makes me want to become or have similar traits

    • @user-id9qj9rf5t
      @user-id9qj9rf5t Рік тому +49

      You’re embodying it! The fact that you described your friend in such a manner. This is what it’s about ❤

    • @user-zf2lb3py2n
      @user-zf2lb3py2n Рік тому

      Someone with feminine energy doesn’t dress boyish ever

    • @happysmiley1999
      @happysmiley1999 Рік тому +11

      dude. I relate so hard right now because I 'm going through the women i know in my mind and wether or not they are very attractive and I recognize the feminine energy in all the attractive ones. The "pretty" girls who always seem to be unlucky with guys all have in common that they are wounded in their feminine energy and therefore wear their masc MASK all the time as a way of protecting themselfes. And that's what I'm doing as well. I'm glad this was pointed out to me.

  • @ajahvu6077
    @ajahvu6077 Рік тому +935

    This is everything. I was raised by a strong willed single mother. Learned to do everything by myself because no men were ever around to help. I was taught to survive. That energy has subconsciously been carried into my romantic life and I am now seeing that I was never taught feminine energy.. I always wondered how women can get a man to do everything for them or have a man intently pursue them. I get it. Now I have to remove myself from this logical analytical masculine persona, and be vulnerable enough to embrace the abundant, feminine, feeling side. Been getting back into ballroom/ swing dancing where men are forced to lead and we embrace being receptive and following his lead. Its been such a good analogy for my life. Thank you for this video!

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +31

      🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @r19888
      @r19888 Рік тому +6

      I’m the same, do you want to share socials I need help 😩

    • @AshleyAurora
      @AshleyAurora Рік тому +2

      Our stories sound so similar!! Love that you're getting into ballroom dancing. Enjoying this journey of reclaiming our soft feminine power 💕

    • @thatanswergirl-lucy8033
      @thatanswergirl-lucy8033 Рік тому +1

      You're doing it all wrong girl and it will bite you back

    • @ajahvu6077
      @ajahvu6077 Рік тому +1

      @@thatanswergirl-lucy8033 what are you talking about? This video is about finding your inner femininity. What problem do you have with that? Why are you watching this video if you do? 🤔

  • @littleforestowl
    @littleforestowl Рік тому +272

    Been in “survival mode” since I was little and want to very much be in my feminine energy. I’ve got most of it down, but keep being pulled back into the masculine by friends and family. I’m forever the mother, fixer, counsellor. But what I really want is for someone to be that person(s) for me and a safe environment to be in my feminine energy. Work in progress, which is why I haven’t dated in a while, but feel like I’m getting there. Boundaries and living my life to the fullest, have been the biggest steps.

    • @michelleblum2239
      @michelleblum2239 Рік тому +2

      Im hoping to get there too. :) x

    • @clarissaywy
      @clarissaywy 3 місяці тому +1

      How are you now? I'm in this exact situation now, I feel stuck in my masculine energy and haven't dated in awhile to heal myself.

    • @rayme5632
      @rayme5632 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@@clarissaywyhi
      I'm currently like you too
      And I teared up a bit after watching this video
      I decided to spare a day or a specific time in the week to just fully release myself of all the responsibilities and just take care of myself and doing things i love
      And I also decided to stick to the habit of telling myself that I'm worthy of love whether I did my work and completed my responsibilities or not.
      I don't really know if that's gonna be a gamechanger or helpfull but I'm gonna do it for my burned out self
      I wrote this comment as a suggestion and I hope it'll help you or inspire you to take care of urself.

    • @clarissaywy
      @clarissaywy 3 місяці тому

      @@rayme5632 Hey, so glad to know i'm not alone on this. We all deserve to be loved and appreciated for just who we are and not having to earn it. We don't have to accomplish anything to be liked. I believe we can step into this reality by constantly reminding ourselves of this when we feel unworthy. We got this girl!

  • @myatdass2099
    @myatdass2099 Рік тому +241

    As someone who's always displayed a masculine energy in relationships, this video is literally what I needed to see. I can't wait to put this to use for myself.

    • @NN-zk4uz
      @NN-zk4uz 6 місяців тому +1

      You are on the wrong path. Your partners were only intimidated by you and you allow them to keep you down if you change.

  • @yumikoyuzuru
    @yumikoyuzuru 10 місяців тому +112

    "you can chase your dreams and have a soft girl life at the same time"

  • @somedia8598
    @somedia8598 Рік тому +251

    The feminine and masculine has to be balanced in ourself.❤

    • @fungusz_4292
      @fungusz_4292 Рік тому +7

      as a man i believe u should have more feminine, if it can suit your lifestyle

    • @jamie241
      @jamie241 8 днів тому

      Right, and that happens when the man's highly masculine energy makes her feel highly safe in her feminine energy​♥️@@fungusz_4292

  • @honeymoonavenue97
    @honeymoonavenue97 Рік тому +136

    Be assertive, ladies. Confidence and assertiveness go side to side. Go after your dreams. Don’t just sit there pretending it’s feminine energy. Chase after your dreams and goals.

    • @Maurima-z9w
      @Maurima-z9w 4 місяці тому +5

      You can be assertive and feminine at the same time

    • @gvsmani4810
      @gvsmani4810 4 місяці тому

      Exactly,it is not 'masculine'

  • @OzmaOfOzz
    @OzmaOfOzz Рік тому +101

    Girl gave us a whole therapy session in less than 20 minutes, I appreciate this so much, it's eye opening

  • @KiranKumar-r7w
    @KiranKumar-r7w 2 місяці тому +932

    Amazing content in this video! I rarely suggest anything in comments, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is a game-changer. It provides deep knowledge on wealth and self-care that can really make a difference. Take care, everyone

  • @truthh8597
    @truthh8597 Рік тому +538

    Even tho I’m a feminine soft woman.. I don’t think this should be imposed on all women..
    love people for who they are❤️

    • @smilinnx
      @smilinnx Рік тому +69

      that s exactly what i was thinking about just be ur self they will love u for what u are nd the same for u

    • @anitamanu-mensah6099
      @anitamanu-mensah6099 Рік тому +65

      I understand you , But this goes far beyond loving people for who they are , it’s a wrong misconception that has to be changed ,understand that it’s not normal to be a woman and not have your Feminine Energy women are forced into masculinity by following wrong doctrines subconsciously , but one thing is that if a woman isn’t aligning with her feminine a lot of things go wrong , overworking , which will lead to stress and eventually health problems and never getting a man to love them the right way . My menstrual cycle got messed up by being in my masculine . I know what am talking about . It’s not healthy . I Thank JESUS for saving me .🙏

    • @sassyqueen9739
      @sassyqueen9739 Рік тому +2

      @@anitamanu-mensah6099 Jesus or your feminine energy? y’all sound absolutely dumb do you know that? It’s okay to be wrong not everything you say applies to everyone.
      Just because it didn’t work out for you doesn’t mean it won’t workout for others, and you do not know 7 billion people you’re using logical fallacy.

    • @anitamanu-mensah6099
      @anitamanu-mensah6099 Рік тому

      @@sassyqueen9739 you’re so bitter .

    • @thesevenkingswelove9554
      @thesevenkingswelove9554 Рік тому +24

      ​@@anitamanu-mensah6099 talk about yourself. If you overwork yourself you will get problems regardless whether you are a man or woman. Y'all always want to force others to be the way you are, just let others do what they waht

  • @swaraaaa
    @swaraaaa Рік тому +297

    Out of all the videos I've watched about feminine energy this was THE BEST. There are others who talk about dressing and "talk like a girl" be more girly and stuff. I love how you explained the difference between feminine energy and femininity just in the beginning! Amazing content!❤️✨😭

  • @rubym6258
    @rubym6258 Рік тому +36

    After years of doing things to please men, I’m happy to say I’m healing. thank you so much for this video. I do things for myself & myself only. :) if he doesn’t like me too bad, on to the next!

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +2

      👏👏👏👏👏

  • @kritikaramawat02
    @kritikaramawat02 6 місяців тому +3

    I'm living in my Masculine Energy for so so long, and I'm tired of this. It feels so difficult to even think of being in my feminine. But I'll try my best to be in my divine feminine! Thank you so much Tam. ❤

  • @reemohlabane
    @reemohlabane Рік тому +25

    Ma'am. You didn't need to sit there and explain my whole entire existence. Like why are you in my brain??!
    omg, I took SO MANY notes, listened to everything twice, and I will be rewatching this video many more times. Thank you for sharing sis

  • @kseniasenia_
    @kseniasenia_ Рік тому +23

    This video came just in time. I was so burnt out at the end of last year because of hard work that at one point I just stopped to have any emotions. I didn’t understand why some girls can get what they want while I have to constantly work and it’s still never enough.
    However, I decided to at least try to stop complaining all the time, took a break (which really helped), changed my wardrobe and hairstyle. I am trying now not to overthink everything and live with joy. After watching this video, I realized I’m going in the right direction. Thank you!

  • @siilver1
    @siilver1 10 місяців тому +3

    I have ALWAYS been in this defensive and upright and masculine energy. After 23 years of CONSTANTLY running away from my feminine side and neglecting that part of me like my rent was due, and burning out due to that, I am now FINALLY ready to EMBRACE myself ✨ The other self!
    I am now FINALLY ready to let myself be discovered and CELEBRATE This Part Of Me That Deserves Some LOVE too♥️
    ~6th January, 2023
    @7:17pm, Saturday

  • @michelleblum2239
    @michelleblum2239 Рік тому +5

    I feel like saying „I like/ want“ instead of saying „I hate“ etc helps so much already

  • @sofia0679
    @sofia0679 Рік тому +10

    I love how she distinctly separates feminine energy from femininity and clarifies that feminine energy doesn't mean being submissive to a man and letting him decide and control over my life. I feel this concepts are not explained enough to society and it gets misunderstood so easily. Thank you Tam for spreading the word to all the people out there❤️❤️

  • @shirgold898
    @shirgold898 Рік тому +21

    I always get to a point in which I am so overworked, sleep deprived because I want to achieve so many things at once and this is exhausting!
    This video was a great reminder for me to take a breath and calm down and believe in myself and that not everything has to happen today, thank you ❤

  • @tulsiyadav5969
    @tulsiyadav5969 Рік тому +6

    OMG , it just blew my mind
    Without sugar coating anything you told us the nicest thing ever

  • @bae_ttina
    @bae_ttina Рік тому +25

    "I allow feminine energy to enter my life!" Thanks Tam for everything that you do for us ❤

  • @indyvandenheuvel8683
    @indyvandenheuvel8683 Рік тому +35

    This video made me realize that I am more in my feminine energy than I thought, but also in the middle of learning to allow myself to have that soft and abundant life, and being in the receiving energy. Thank you for your clear explaination

  • @Bekind553
    @Bekind553 Рік тому +4

    Best video on Feminine energy! I think women who have had to take on the masculine role or the provider role at home struggle to tap into the feminine because we’re not used to just receiving. It’s always been challenging for me to let a man do things for me or provide, cause I would feel like I am not doing my part or afraid that I would become dependent on the man. It takes consistent effort and self awareness to tap into your feminine energy and sometimes that effort inherently causes you to feel masculine. The key I believe is letting go of control and allowing things to flow. Having that balance of maintaining your standards, never compromising and being able to relax throughout

  • @carnationsinclarity
    @carnationsinclarity Рік тому +6

    Ive always struggled with codependency and very masculine energy, where Id take control or beg for the guy to change instead of leaving if my boundaries are crossed. I now realized its the exact reason why all of my exes were in their feminine energies (wanted to be mothered, "needing" me instead of loving me, etc)
    Been on a self improvement journey for a few months now, my progress hasnt been linear, but its going!

  • @jeannesuzanne6425
    @jeannesuzanne6425 11 місяців тому +4

    I love "feminine" men though, who dont feel like they have to provide for me but instead show me their full range of emotions. And I will care for him just like he cares for me-those are my rules :)

  • @MegaMichiee
    @MegaMichiee Рік тому +11

    Watching this before my date cause he’s masculine, I’m so used to being in control I feel uncomfortable when he pays or buys me stuff 😂 I really don’t know how to accept. I hope this video helps me out today 🙏💕

    • @jiminiemochiiii7190
      @jiminiemochiiii7190 Рік тому

      how did your date go

    • @MegaMichiee
      @MegaMichiee Рік тому +11

      @@jiminiemochiiii7190 it was really hard for me to accept gifts 🎁 from him and he paid for everything 😆 it made me uncomfortable cause I felt like I should do more for him too but he was such a gentleman. Opened the doors for me and all 😂 I manifested a good man. I don’t know how to “be feminine” but he said I was carry myself well and he’s really attracted to that so I’d say it was a good date. We plan to meet tomorrow again 🥰

    • @jiminiemochiiii7190
      @jiminiemochiiii7190 Рік тому +2

      @@MegaMichiee it's so cute bro glad that you're date went well 💗💗💗💗

  • @decerrybanzon488
    @decerrybanzon488 11 місяців тому +4

    This is the only video that answers all my questions, not beating the bush, judt straight to the point. Thank you!

  • @thegirlwhoisme
    @thegirlwhoisme Рік тому +22

    Thank you so much for this video. I just had a discussion with my sister about changing my style to more be feminine because i only dress casual/comfortable but i want to be like hyper feminine. Im definitely currently moving in my wounded feminine/masculine energy but youre teaching me that the changes arent just about style but are internal also. Im so ready to start making small changes to be the woman of my dreams!!!

  • @florencemaybeasmr
    @florencemaybeasmr Рік тому +109

    Bless you! This video was mind opening and I needed it so much!!!
    I have recently started my journey towards amplifying my feminine energy that - as you say - was already within me, but I had the typical clingyness and neediness of masculine energy. I am learning to stop that, to love myself even more and guys… it is actually working!! I am am starting to attracting masculine men and I feel like I can pick! Omg thank you!!! Will give you a follow ❤️

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +3

      Ahhh amazing. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @anu8928
    @anu8928 Рік тому +11

    Right every bit! How can someone be so intelligent?! Hats off lady

  • @vanessa32101
    @vanessa32101 Рік тому +62

    How in the WORLD do you not have more subscribers? ! This video came at such a good time for me and I resonated with so much of it. I just ended a long term relationship and the universe is speaking loudly to me about my future and relying on my intuition and ability to manifest my reality. This video was incredible and gave me the motivation and strength to listen to the universe and fully embrace this new journey of self love and growth. Thank you so much, you’d earned a subscriber❤️❤️❤️

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +6

      That makes me so happy! 🥺❤️‍🩹

  • @birdpool4624
    @birdpool4624 Рік тому +16

    Love that younger girls can get knowledge regarding these things early on ❤️

  • @savannahorr5981
    @savannahorr5981 Рік тому +1

    i had so much masculine energy and was attracting men who wouldnt do anything for me. i kinda worked backwards. once my now bf pursued me, he taught me so much and he provides for me and protects me and now i can feel my feminine energy coming back and i am so much happier. i didnt realize how depressed it was making me to try and fill these masculine roles. i love my feminine energy❤️❤️

  • @Niachian
    @Niachian Рік тому +18

    Such a inspiration! Every girl should watch this video! I recently started watching them and I’ve already chnage my live immensely. Your words repeat in my head throughout the day and inspire me to take back my life. I’m doing everything for me now and it’s thanks to you!
    Thank you tam!❤❤❤

  • @preciousolafioye2589
    @preciousolafioye2589 23 дні тому

    I’ve been feeling this lately, I did a search on UA-cam and it confirms all I’ve been feeling.

  • @patriciaolivera7716
    @patriciaolivera7716 Рік тому +6

    Masculine energy comes from survival mode I never thought of it like that. Now I see how I’ve been attracting these 50/50 men in my life. Thank you for your advice and tips on how to allow your feminine energy into your aura. ❤

    • @amyclements6096
      @amyclements6096 Рік тому

      I feel exactly the same, I’ve realised where I’ve been going wrong all my life! Change starts here 🙋🏽‍♀️

  • @jaimiemainberger5039
    @jaimiemainberger5039 Рік тому +7

    Great video!!!! I’m an avoidant attatchment style in my masculine energy quite often. I push men away all the time. This video was very eye opening. So glad I found you!

  • @jerikab7573
    @jerikab7573 Рік тому +47

    The point I love most about gaining feminine energy is finding the balance and truly understanding that you can chase your dreams while also living a soft life❤️

  • @andreadenise6332
    @andreadenise6332 Рік тому +1

    U definitely not bashing !! You confirming what my intuition been showing me , this here boosted my ego I always been a 50/50 woman taking care everything, reflect self care andd all that this whole video was really worth watching thank you so much !!

  • @rachelx963
    @rachelx963 Рік тому +91

    This was amazing to watch. The place I work, the stuff I’ve been through has really got me masculine traits. My job requires me to be dominant, be providing and I feel like I’ve been in survival mode my whole life. Everywhere I go, everything I see on social media has gotten me the idea that I need to work 24/7 and that I’m not worthy if I dont have a million dollars by 25. I’d be a failure if I take a day off, I’d be a failure if I decid to relax instead of working. Lately it has caused me some depressive feelings and has gotten me into substance abuse and I stopped taking care of myself just so I could finally get a fucking break. Thankyou so much for this video (btw, I’ve been sober for a couple of weeks so it’s going better)

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +9

      So proud of you. You got this!! And thank you xxx

  • @ellenholmshaw1866
    @ellenholmshaw1866 Рік тому +42

    Raising my daughter to be 100% able to do things herself; buy her own house, maintain her car, be able to do DIY, acheive at school.
    You should be able to know you can do things yourself.....but LET men do things for you 😉
    And assertive communication. ALWAYS.
    Ultimate secure attachment move 👍🏻

  • @Gammacomicshop
    @Gammacomicshop 8 місяців тому

    Tam, I’m a simple Indian girl like you and was dwelling with depression and self doubt for the longest period of time but you have literally saved my life and given my life a new reason

  • @dailytop10nostalgia
    @dailytop10nostalgia Рік тому +42

    This video rlly helped me look at some things differently. I’m going to stop trying to control everything and base my results on the way I feel about myself, as I’m enough just by being me. Thanks a lot for this video ❤

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +1

      So glad it helped 💓

  • @guriyadhar2413
    @guriyadhar2413 Рік тому +1

    I am a student so i can't give a full day break but on sunday from evening i relax myself and totally avoid phone.... Sunday is my no phone day and a relaxing and cozy evening....
    I really acchieved my feminine energy era with your help... And its still two months left of 2023 but i completed my bucket list... Had so many solo dates after school.... Also dressed myself when going to tution and did a minimal makeup though mom use to scold me but later she is like okay let her have the life... I am so happy with myself.... Wish me sis so that i can became a successful doctor❤❤ also a classy woman like youuu

  • @spinach4616
    @spinach4616 Рік тому +3

    I appreciate how this can be empowering to many people by sharing that women should not have to settle for anything that doesn't value them for who they are and definitely think that a lot of these ideas are quite outdated. Using "feminine men" to talk about me who take advantage of people/are insecure and project is quite odd, men being very feminine is normal and men who feel in touch with their own feminine energy aren't any less than. Men have. People can be anything and shouldn't be limited to a black and white mentality. The range of human emotions and energy is so vast. Also saying women NEED masculine men is also very heteronormative. There are many women who aren't interested in men at all, and this black and white thinking excludes people who don't align with both feminine and masculine energy. yeh.

  • @gepilollengepi
    @gepilollengepi 9 місяців тому +2

    You have become my morning routine .I watch your videos before starting my day.

  • @teriachibale8300
    @teriachibale8300 Рік тому +3

    I had so much confusion about feminine energy,coming from a tomboy. I took a path of femininity instead of feminine energy.Thank you very much, best explanation.

  • @utube_snakeu553
    @utube_snakeu553 2 місяці тому

    This is the best video out of all "feminine energy" lot. Literally made me realise what i was doing for years, I have been pursuing feminine men who love to receive and I was happy to provide thinking that "yes it should be 50-50", "of course, he won't do things for me if i don't do them for him" OMG i have been with wrong men all my life i think. I feel so angry and sad in my choices. Thankss for this video, Tam. You're really the best! 💌💌

  • @joanofarcxxi
    @joanofarcxxi Рік тому +21

    💖🌼🌹 I am a mother of grown children, and I am happy to see the shift in young women for living, manifesting, and celebrating their feminine energy. We need that because the hectic modern world with its pressures has gone upside down and forced us as women to take on a variety of masculine roles, mostly out of necessity, in order to take care of ourselves and our families, in order to pursue our careers, in order to appear adequate, competent, and equal. But the trade off is that we often have to supress our natural goddess energy and neglect our own nature and needs. I love your message. However, I found your delivery of this topic to be a little bit difficult to withstand because of the editing. Basking in feminine energy and being soft reflects greatly in our mode of expression, so the way we speak and the way we communicate verbally and through gestures should be relaxing and calming rather than loud, rushed, and pressured - and I see this style of grinding, fragmented delivery in a variety of subjects all over social media. In the case of presenting this topic, in my opinion it works counterproductively and creates a sort of inconruance in the message. I work in the mental health field, and one of the skills that are essential in my line of work is the ability to calm people and instill serenity and trust. Feminine energy comes in quite necessary in such circumstances. I know I am being critical, but I want you to know that your content is beautiful and much needed, and I so appreciate it, but I believe it should be "softer" as a principle and model, and delivered with more downiness. 💖🌼🌹💖🌼🌹 Great channel.

    • @Snowhite-tx4sm
      @Snowhite-tx4sm Рік тому +1

      Ma'am for us young women it is getting so hard. We are being forced by society to work and earn and take on masc rules and still everyone expect us to also, keep our fem roles. Doing both of these is tiring and for women being physically weaker and the life getting 2x harder for us than men, it also starts to take a toll on our mental health. I just wanna say, society has ruined women really.

    • @joanofarcxxi
      @joanofarcxxi Рік тому +1

      @@Snowhite-tx4sm That's right, and you can thank the feminist movement for that. When I was younger, unlike in my parents' generation, men were into super masculine women, and they expected women to work and be independent and sexually liberated and available to them. And women fell for that. It was very difficult for me too, because I had to work, and be a mother, I had to have a career to "keep up" and I was expected to leave my kids with a baby sitter to pursue it. When I got home, I had to cook and clean, bathe my kids, make sure their homework was done, get them in bed in time, make their lunches and put out their clothes, and then get sexy for my man, if you know what I mean. You young ladies, this is my advice to you: put yourself first. Take care of you. Save yourself, and do so by not giving in to men. Keep your legs closed and your standards high. Do not give men husband priviledges if a man has not put a ring on your finger. Make sure you get your desires and needs met FIRST before you commit. Never place a man on a pedestal. You are the prize, not him. And very important: REVERT to OLD standards and relationship roles. If MORE of you do this. there is some hope. Otherwise. buckle up, it's going to be a bumpy and painful ride. But there is hope, keep watching these femininity channels, and take the advice you are given by those who have studied, learned, and especially those who have lived it.

  • @metanoiaist
    @metanoiaist Рік тому +1

    Feminine engergy is free flowing. Its all about receiving and releasing control. Its about nurture, feeling your feelings, being expressive, living a soft life, expressing all your emotions, and focusing on fulfillment instead of productivity.
    Its a way being, having certain set of standards, and how you carry yourself.
    Divine feminine traits are being compassionate, nurturing, trusting, open, creative, strong minded, and authentic, she is proud of who she is, she sets strong boundaries and honors them and knows they are non negotiable, which gives high level of confidence, self love and self care.
    You're here to pick a man not for to begged to be picked by a man. 50-50 is BS.
    Live your best single life, without having to be attached to anyone. The less you give the more you recieve in the beginning of a relationship. Act like a prize coz girl you're one.
    Feminine women's worth is attached to who she is.
    She communicates her problem and expresses her emotions.
    She's submissive and surrenders control so she can be taken care of.
    50-50 Is BS. Efforts should be 100-100. Real masculine man has a provide mentality, he's happy to give without expecting same from you.
    Women wid masculine energy has following traits - Competitiveness, aggression, dominance, neglects self care to chase hustle culture, more analytical and logical and doesn't tune into her intuition and gut feelings and trusting herself, she's very openly independent, doesn't like to ask for help, doesn't like fo rely on anybody, she possibly might have an attachment style.
    Healing the wounded feminine-
    You're in survival mode, maybe you have past heartbreak, and maybe you're doing hustle culture to protect yourself.
    You're insecure, needy, clingy, codependent, you have an insecure attachment style and feel like you need others and u attach urself to them instead of picking them as ler your own standards, you will attach yourself to anybody because you need them and maybe you haven't build your sense of self and confidence yet, if you manipulate, if you're passive aggressive instead openly communicating and allowing yourself to feel your feelings

    • @metanoiaist
      @metanoiaist Рік тому

      But also express them openly and allow others to help through it, if you're not authentic, if you're trying to fit in, if you have a victim mentality, it has a lot to do wid lucky gal syndrome, not taking time to rest and indulge in self care, not treating yourself widout feeling guilty about it, trying to control everything about your life because you don't have abundance mindset yet, your busy doing so many things trying to achieve so many things, you link your self worth to external achievements maybe it's grades. Your self worth is just you, who you are, just you being is worthy enough, lovable and desirable enough.

  • @meeezy
    @meeezy Рік тому +19

    damn sis you read me about being in my wounded feminine 😭 i started changing that recently but i truly needed to see this.

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +1

      🤣🤣 I got u!

  • @yumikoyuzuru
    @yumikoyuzuru 11 місяців тому +2

    i am blown away by how much love and gratitude i have for you tam. we are so close in age and you inspire me so much (especially having your own apartment + living alone). i watch your subscriber count grow like it's my own success or someone close to me. that's how proud i am. i'm rooting for you so much and i'll be here til your last vid. i've been manifesting more like-minded friends for awhile now, so i'll see you soon

  • @divinebunch6178
    @divinebunch6178 Рік тому +14

    I can’t believe this channel crossed my feed at the absolute perfect time. Everything you talk about is exactly what I’ve been struggling to find. Your examples feel like you snatched them from my daily thoughts and actions😂 Super grateful for you❤✨

  • @peacelandhaven
    @peacelandhaven 2 місяці тому +1

    To all the beautiful souls reading this, may you embrace the full power of your feminine energy. Allow yourself to flow, to trust, and to shine in your authentic light. You are radiant, never forget that. ✨🌸

  • @Meeks966
    @Meeks966 Рік тому +17

    I love this video! You did a fantastic job of explaining everything clearly and concisely. My bf has been trying to explain this to me for the longest because while I would say I very much agree with this lifestyle for woman, it’s hard for me to actually live it coming from a traumatic childhood where I was always needing to be on edge. However, i’m not sure if its the way my bf explains it or that I am just very defensive but whenever we talk about this, I just end up offended & mad haha. Hearing it explained by another woman is a lot more comforting and makes sense. Anyways, thank you for the video 🫶🏻

  • @josielahm9060
    @josielahm9060 Рік тому +2

    i’ve been waiting so long for someone to be able to define this and you did it PERFECTLY.

  • @5niko_7
    @5niko_7 Рік тому +18

    As 16 years old I wanna thank you so much, you help me out a lot 💜

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +3

      Happy to help!🥰

  • @blissfulmindandsoul
    @blissfulmindandsoul Рік тому

    Gosh it makes me realize how much of masculine energy I have that I have forgotten to be a women! With all the responsibilities, work, career, bad relationships have made me to pull up my guard's so high! To protect myself I have to become and act stronger all the time, taking decisions, fixing problems and wearing pants in the family.
    Thank you for reminding me that I am a women and I should be treated that way! I dont need to be so tough on myself all the time.

  • @Maggietheebaddie1948
    @Maggietheebaddie1948 Рік тому +7

    I use to be wounded feminine but I’m currently in healthy feminine energy ❤

  • @JimekaLindsay
    @JimekaLindsay Рік тому +2

    Thank you so so much for this!!!! I learned that my whole life I’ve been operating in masculine energy!! I’m a single mother of 5 and have always had to take on that role. But for the past 2 years, I’ve been waiting to change that and operate in my feminine energy but didn’t know how. I took sooooo many notes and will be working on implementing them ASAP. I see that I’ve been taking some steps in the right direction unknowingly. But you’ve given me clear cut directions on how to walk in my feminine energy…Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @nikakills
    @nikakills Рік тому

    The fact that you are so intelligent at your age should make you so proud of yourself. I’m 32 and have never heard anyone speak so clearly and accurately and in an eye opening way. Thank you beautiful 🤍

  • @pratiksha5748
    @pratiksha5748 Рік тому +3

    I completely agree with you with "You cant be in that feminine energy or receiving because of your family". This absolutely apply on me

  • @Moonriversoul
    @Moonriversoul 8 місяців тому

    Omg you just made me realise I might have a wounded feminine energy, getting to work on myself! and cry... a lot... ty

  • @gabbygrace2952
    @gabbygrace2952 Рік тому +66

    I feel like I manifested this video, I needed this 💜

  • @jadefrota1583
    @jadefrota1583 Рік тому +1

    this blew my mind. Straight up feel like my life has changed

  • @yaderayhindryckx
    @yaderayhindryckx Рік тому +299

    I am really confused by this, you would say I am a woman who’s in her masculine energy because I like to handle things, solve problems, take care of my lover and provide. But otherwise I nurture, spread love and am fully okay with who I am and how I look so picking people because I need them to survive doesn’t fit into my being. Why should women lay back and do nothing instead of keeping their life together and surrounding them with only the best people for them and creating a safe environment to fully express themselves?

    • @ishita8486
      @ishita8486 Рік тому +96

      no. thats not what she meant. attract people willing to work for you, look after you. and then put your nurturing qualities there. your job is not to nurture people into healing them. normal everyday people who are not broken and are helping nurture others are necessary and precious and thats where you need to put your energies to. inspire people to heal themselves. stop healing broken people. i have a friend who calls everyone first and checks up on them. when she did that to me first and made friends with me, i decided to put her first and i call her up first or when i feel like she's been busy because i know she's a nurturing and caring person and needs to be appreciated. the same with my guy friends. i care and respect men who dont leave my texts on read and play unnecessary mind games with me.

    • @codeytherex5954
      @codeytherex5954 Рік тому

      GenZ people are all confused
      Read proper psychological articles and then decide
      Else you're just working out of your uncontrollable wants & thinking you're some demigod even when you achieved nothing. Ofcourse it doesn't hit you, cuz y'all are born privileged

    • @kayaswan918
      @kayaswan918 Рік тому +7

      well i think it’s okay for certain women to be in their feminine and masculine, most lesbians and bisexuals are and even if your sexual orientation has nothing to do w it some girls just need both their left brain and right brain to function the best

    • @urielquintero2381
      @urielquintero2381 Рік тому +18

      1) There’s nothing wrong with solving problems and handling things. Here’s the thing, men want to lead and take care of someone. When a woman tries to take the lead, two problems can take place. The first problem that can occur is if you’re trying to lead the “alpha” man that prefers to be the leader, tensions will rise and major problems will occur. If he’s the breadwinner, when he comes home, he doesn’t want to come home to a commanding, dominant woman. Men like peace (the ones that have it all figured out). The second situation that can occur is if you are tapped in with your masculinity and dominance with a guy that isn’t an “alpha,” first of all, you likely won’t be attracted to him so the relationship won’t work well in the long-term unless you cheat on him. Second, he’s probably the type to be “p-whipped.” Third, he’ll likely get depressed and resent you. 2) Men are perfectly willing to listen to you. Though they have the leadership, they will hear you out when you have objections and be understanding. The thing is, men extra appreciate it when women do it calmly. Remember, men that have it all figured out will most likely love peace. Most men that have it all figured out hate drama

    • @urielquintero2381
      @urielquintero2381 Рік тому +1

      @@ishita8486 well said

  • @moonlightstargem1006
    @moonlightstargem1006 Рік тому

    Slow down girly. You made some amazing points i had to pause the video & ponder that
    It’s about NOT BEGGING TO BE PICKED. I needed that so bad. My new rule from now on.
    No more begging to ne picked

  • @lexiewalters6866
    @lexiewalters6866 Рік тому +4

    Thank you Tam, you truly touched me with this video. A lot of femininity channels expand on the outcomes of choosing a feminine lifestyle but not exactly how to achieve it in your everyday lives. This was a great take. Please please please make more

  • @aliciastokes5833
    @aliciastokes5833 4 місяці тому

    I definitely need to heighten my self care and be intentional about my beliefs in receiving good things. I’m worthy of all good things rest is essential

  • @avrylmatthews436
    @avrylmatthews436 Рік тому +15

    This was a stunning video! She made so many great points, was actually doing some self-reflection whilst watching it.. definitely made me aware of things I’m unraveling within myself, and becoming aware of certain things within myself too, on my journey😌🍃

  • @DreaRedd
    @DreaRedd 3 місяці тому

    I absolutely appreciate this lady here !!! I’m definitely in my masculine era been here for years and have legitimate reasons on why … but yeah self awareness helped me so much and these videos are so encouraging ❤ thank you tam ❤

  • @qbaby13
    @qbaby13 Рік тому +16

    This video really helped me a lot! I’ve been going through a bit of a hard time recently, exactly like what’s been mentioned in the video, I think up until I met him I knew what I wanted in life and I didn’t care about what others thought of me as long as I am happy. I also loved travelling and spending time with the girls. When I was with him he made me feel really bad about the way I am thinking and I think in a way he gaslighted me and I just felt so insecure and he says I need to made more effort to look after him and to please him. I started to do a lot of things for him that I never do for anyone else before and what do I get ? Exactly what you mentioned ; a guy who wants to 50/50 a guy who is acting like he needs to be nurtured by his mother. And always complaining I’m not good enough. I’m working back on my feminine energy again and being a better me. Never again will I be so stupid to act like this again!

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +7

      We all make these mistakes! Proud of you for being on your journey to get better ❤️‍🩹

    • @Stoochyy
      @Stoochyy Рік тому +2

      You are not stupid

  • @karenberchem
    @karenberchem 9 місяців тому

    Well done! You’ve summarised it in a great way. I’m going to pass this on to my daughter - I believe I’ve passed on my masculine energy in to her. Like me and my own mother, she is also driven, hardworking, an athlete and beautiful. But now in my fifties I can see in hindsight life could have been (even) better with exuding more feminine. I think society encourages that. I’m working on myself , my attachment style and letting my feminine energy shine, and I will forward this on to her to hopefully break that generational cycle. Being aware of masculine for work (although feminine helps is getting what you want at work also) and more feminine at home. Simple great easy to follow advice

  • @Life_with_Ruthie
    @Life_with_Ruthie Рік тому +5

    I used to live with a masculine energy. It happened for sooooooo long, because now that I am actually in my feminine energy I see how exhausted I have been, because now, my beautiful loving precious boyfriend is actually letting me feel my feminine energy. I feel so much better, so much more comfortable and so much freer with this energy.>>>

  • @makena2762
    @makena2762 Рік тому +1

    Your view on the 50/50 mentality resonated so much with me. I just got out of a relationship with a man who would argue for 50/50 and his energy was not it

  • @6mist
    @6mist Рік тому +29

    There is femininity and masculinity in men too! When you're radiating masculine energy they balance you out by being in feminine. Stay feminine

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +1

      So true!

    • @fungusz_4292
      @fungusz_4292 Рік тому +1

      men often have to battle out their feminine side to succeed however

  • @Moonriversoul
    @Moonriversoul 8 місяців тому

    just inspired me to have a soft girl life while building my career, love you so much

  • @lipisharma2021
    @lipisharma2021 Рік тому +10

    Hey there! You actually made me understand why I was always scared of being attached to a person or being vulnerable. I always had thought that i need to lead or else it won't work but now i got that i have to heal my wounded feminine energy. Thank you so much, love!!!💞💞💯💯

  • @raniazineb3820
    @raniazineb3820 4 місяці тому +1

    Meditation
    Vulnerability
    Self-love
    Self-care
    Communication
    Expressing émotions
    Trusting
    Boundaries
    High standards
    Just being
    Confidence
    Authenticity
    Rest & recharge
    Pamper
    Manifestation
    Lucky girl syndrome

  • @Avoid_Low_Frequency
    @Avoid_Low_Frequency Рік тому +4

    Everything a woman needs to know about feminine energy in a nutshell!!! Thank you!

  • @Roni-ponponi
    @Roni-ponponi Рік тому +1

    This is the first video I have watched that explained feminine energy to me just the way that it is, Thank you!

  • @lmao_cee
    @lmao_cee Рік тому +4

    you and Liz are the sisters I always needed

  • @jay_jay9282
    @jay_jay9282 6 місяців тому

    I LOVE LOVE the disclaimer love how this is about loving you and not men!! Love you for this 🩷🩷

  • @Mari-vc7gv
    @Mari-vc7gv Рік тому +13

    Happy to know there are more and more high value women! Good video

  • @hasnayousaf9530
    @hasnayousaf9530 Рік тому

    "Not making things unnecessarily hard for you" YESSSS that's right

  • @MaKaylaNicole01634
    @MaKaylaNicole01634 Рік тому +39

    Yes babes! Great advice and undeniable encouragement to put our energy on a sacred pedestal! A recent quote that’s lingered with me -
    “When you stop focusing on men and focus on yourself you’ll naturally become more attractive and seductive; WOMEN ARE DRIVEN BY INTERNAL VALIDATION AND FEMININE ENERGY - men are driven by women” ✨💐

  • @Lunavxrse
    @Lunavxrse Рік тому +2

    I love this youtuber she is so underrated, i feel like this is so helpful and has helped me tons in my day Tyty ❤️

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much🥺

  • @hollythompson1801
    @hollythompson1801 Рік тому +86

    personally i dont think feminine men are any different i think they r just more sensitive. also females arnt a prize to be won they are people to be nurtured and catered for. also female can can make plans its not always to man does everything, it should be a 50/50 effort so both parties are equally putting the same amount of energy into the relationship so that way its not one sided and unbalanced.

    • @NimeetaA
      @NimeetaA Рік тому +7

      no ma'am. good luck doing 50-50 with a man. been there, done that. it's damaging to my feminine core. some of us want a man, not a roommate to share things equally with

  • @bettervision4myself
    @bettervision4myself Рік тому

    Tam is healing so many people and getting so many lives saved thank you for this

  • @alishaclark686
    @alishaclark686 11 місяців тому +3

    Cuz bayybeee I needed this video about 5 years ago lol! Great Advice! I'm a big sister with a younger brother, it's refreshing to take in some big sister vibes! So happy I came across your videos ♥

  • @pipmiller4413
    @pipmiller4413 Рік тому +1

    at first i was like idk about this girl but she had extremely valid points every time !! thanks for that

  • @6r0kenWin6s
    @6r0kenWin6s Рік тому +3

    Wow so impressed! Please show us more of this theoretical knowledge in practice. How does a day of radiating feminine energy look like?? I'm excited to find out more❤

  • @productivitysh4t
    @productivitysh4t Рік тому +1

    Literally the best video Ive ever seen on this topic. That’s what I needed to hear because I have been in the hustling culture for almost all my life until I started to prioritize my peace and just started living my best life. Watched it on 0,75 to make sure I got everything. I would also love if you spoke a bit slower so we get all your points! They have so much power ❤

  • @parisestrella
    @parisestrella Рік тому +6

    You go Queen 👑 This video definitely did help and I felt more in my feminine energy just by watching and listening to you girl! Thank you 🙏🏼