@@Olafemi96 Bro this never works, let's face it. "Believing in yourself" is just lying to yourself at this rate. I just accept the fact that I am a pile of trash that can't get any better. The fact that you have to be super mega attractive and have big money just to get anyone remotely interested is sad.
Update: we are now together! I started talking to this girl I met 3 months ago and I believe we share all 5 of these deep feelings for each other. We have not stopped talking to each other since. We have hung out and spent quality time together about 6 times. We both share our thoughts and emotions to each other as we both trust each other. We ensure that we are both feeling OK that day. We share items with each other (movies, video games ect), we send each other songs that we may like and also memes. I'm very attracted to her and I believe she is with me. We both stated we do not want to rush anything and do not want to force anything out of respect of letting things happen on its own. I believe there is going to be a perfect time to truly express my feelings to her and ask her to be my girlfriend, and honestly, I'm hoping it happens really soon!
This is the situation my BFF and our other friend are in instead she doesn't like him but he does like her, well anyways I hope it will work out for you
1. Consistent and Meaningful Communication 0:33 2. Acts of Kindness and Thoughtfulness 1:14 3. Emotional Vulnerability and Trust 1:55 4. Protectiveness 2:29 5. They Invest Time and Energy into your Relationship 3:19
Try raising your standards for the type of people you allow to be in your life, and have a close relationship with you. Decide what you want in a friend/partner, and what you don’t want. Decide what behaviors, and attitudes you will, and will not tolerate. Know yourself, your values, and your character, and stay true to them, and stand firm by them. And then decide who you WANT to be a part of your life. If you’re current friends or romantic partner is not doing any of these things for you, if not ALL of these things, then you have some choices to make. You can either cut ties completely with those who don’t match your “Preferred Type” or you can let them know how they make you feel, and how you’d like them do do things differently, or at least ask if they are willing to try and put some effort into improving and strengthening y’all’s relationship. See how that goes. People show you exactly how they feel about you. Especially when times are at the toughest, and you are at ur lowest. Also, the only way you can ever do this and expect others to be receptive to it, and for this to be morally okay, is if you, yourself, portray every single quality and meet every single standard that you are expecting out of others, and then take your efforts and investments into those relationships and multiply them by 2X. Then, and only then, are you justified to ask someone to meet you where you are willing to meet them, and go above and beyond for them. And keep your circle very small. You’ll be able to invest more time and energy in each relationship when you’re not overwhelmed by having to keep up with so many. Good luck.
I know this is probably more focused on romantic relationships, but I see all these things in myself with my closest friends, and each of them have showed me at least 2 of these in return ❤
I had a best friend who was like this with me while I was in a crappy situationship. He had sworn off all relationships, but all these elements were there. Although we didn’t have a physically intimate relationship at all, only ever hugged, he was a better boyfriend than that other guy. It wasn’t just the deep conversations and the emotional connection, he also made sure I was eating, took out garbage for me and took me to events. Even got me nice local chocolates on my birthday.
They probably did have feelings for you, its a classic avoidant behavior because they cant really bring themselves to be hurt again so they refuse to put a label on it despite getting most of the behaviors associated with relationships. My girlfriend was like this before I wanted to go further with it but I know how to not ask for too much and yet they almost always deliver.
Timestamps 1. Consistent and Meaningful Communication 0:33 2. Acts of Kindness and Thoughtfulness 1:12 3. Emotional Vulnerablility and Trust 1:55 4. Protectiveness 2:28 5. They Invest Time and Energy into your Relationship 3:17 Whoever reads this I hope you have a good rest of your day 🙂
One sign is when you do a small act of kindness, it means so much to them. A quote from The Crow, the movie: "Little things used to mean so much to Shelly - I used to think they were kind of trivial. Believe me, nothing is trivial."
I have a friend who does most, if not all, of these things for me, and I for them. We both put time and effort into the friendship and they are one of my closest friends. It's really quiet special and I treasure what we've got. Great video, keep up the amazing work.
I learned the hard way that none of this means a damn thing. Humans are extremely complex, because all life is. It's best to just be forward and ask someone if they have feelings for you, or if you're the one with feelings, just tell the other person if you aren't afraid to alter or lose the friendship.
I agree. Watching these videos makes you feel good and falsely believe someone is into you. I know a girl who I had deep intimate conversations with, talking about childhood trauma, her being protective, her being emotionally invested, and we had intellectual conversations, but when I asked her for a date, she made it clear she only saw me as a friend. It was the first time I felt I had a deep connection with a girl, and it hurt that she had no feelings for me beyond friendship. It also made me question my ability to gauge interest levels. Stop watching videos and just go out there and give it a shot is what I'd say to those watching this video.
Yes! My wife Dev is engaged in my life, regularly offers acts of kindness, is emotionally vulnerable with me, is protective of me, and they invest oodles of time and effort into our relationship. It's so good to have the right partner! 😍🥰
Not only she is perfect but also she is so lucky to have a husband like you... Because you admire and values all her qualities...Not all husband's will do like that... Mine is different, even though I have done everything good to him, he not even values me, instead he found problems in it... You two are very lucky..you two found true love...God bless you and family...💕
the thing is, I do all 5 of these with all of my friends…I don’t feel like I have a deep emotional connection, especially romantic, at all with anyone. I don’t want to seem cold or mean but I also don’t want people getting the wrong idea :(
To the all it won't ever be me commenters, it takes time, being vulnerable, and dedication to build this type of relationship with someone. And it requires they also put in that kind of commitment to it to make it work. And unfortunately it doesn't always work out but it's better to have loved/been loved than to have never tried. If one person did than another will. And for those you have yet to have your moment. 1) don't waste time on one sided 2) chin up and keep trying just focus more on personality and in time you will find that special person. Just keep working on you and building your life and meeting people and it will happen.
It’s ok to want a romantic relationship, but also being content without a partner is good to have first. This can easily be applied to family members or friends or a teacher or coworker as well. If you say you have no one chances are you havent put yourself out there long enough to get other people to know you better. Yah you gotta put yourself out there instead of going in your room😂
Omg this was such a helpful video for me! I'm totally into this girl, and have been for over a year, but we've been best friends for five years. I've only come to terms with my sexuality less than a year ago, and I confessed to her that I had deeper feelings for her. Sadly she said she wasn't sure she felt the same, but our friendship didn't change one bit and we're closer than ever. We basically do all these things for each other though, which is why I still get confused even after trying to get over her romantically for a long time. Only recently, I've noticed a large difference in how "protective" she is over me and how people treat me. For example if my other friend flirts with me (jokingly) she'll step in and get really mad, or move herself between us physically. She has been showing the other signs lately too and we've talked about it in private, only for her to reveal to me that she's been feeling different about me recently and is trying to figure out what that is. This video (for me) was very accurate in behaviours to look out for if someone may like you, or if you need some idea's on how you should be around someone you really love. Edit: Its only been 11 days since I posted this, but i have an update (that no one asked for but whatever) So I decided to bring it up again with her after watching this video so we talked about how we felt about possibly being together, and while she's still figuring out her sexuality "label" or if she just doesn't want a label, she has told me she knows she loves me and wants to be with me. We are now officially together (secretly- until we feel safe enough to come out) but it all seems to have worked out :)
I hope that whatever the outcome of your relationship with your friend is, that it is a benefit to the both of you. It's very sweet that you both have such a strong and open trust in each other
@@chocolatecat64 Thank you, that is very sweet of you! I do feel very lucky to have a strong relationship like this with someone, whether its romantic or not :)
Well, she can't string you along for too long while also sabotaging and getting in the way of other potential relationships you might have. She'll have to make up her mind soon enough or you might miss out on another opportunity.
@@joelkelly3225 I understand that, and she seems to as well. I have tried to move on from her a while ago, but only recently has she started to realise a change in her own feelings. For her, its a lot of personal things which has been making it a little difficult to figure this out and honestly all she asked for was a little time and patience, which I feel is perfectly reasonable. She has told me she would never want to get in the way of any other relationships I have and she has expressed her concerns of what some of her actions could do to affect my life, which i really appreciate her realising and she's definitely trying to calm down and figure out things for herself. You have made a very valid point though, one that I have thought about, but at this moment in time I'm perfectly fine with waiting to see how this turns out. It isn't severely affecting any of our other relationships, and if another opportunity for either of us were to come up I think we'd be pretty chill with it. Thank you for the comment though.
your channel has really helped me with my life, and knowing when enough is enough, i find your videos on mental health really helpful. thank you!! the videos on crushes or anything releated are really helpful to, i love this channel!
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I remember giving someone 4/5 of these. I was vulnerable and told him. But I felt invalidated and said I shouldn't be feeling that way and shares his own story. Like he never got mad at his mother, so I shouldn't too. I really felt invalidated. I withdrew basically ghosted him. He's a nice guy but I can't with him. Another guy on the other hand, he'd always listen and really protective of me, comforts and reassures me whenever I needed. We talk everyday before he sleeps even though I told him we don't need to talk everyday because he's too busy and tired everyday but he insisted we talk.
Yes it does take some time to be vulnerable.. And I do appreciate the time they take to reach out and express themselves..that is special to me alone😊... I also need to tell them that there are feelings for them to..
This video has shown me how much my brain is lying to me about when I think someone is really that into me. This also showed up at a time where I'm letting other people reach out to me and so far nothing. I guess I need to stop watching these because they keep reminding me how alone I am in this world. Great information though. Keep up the great work. Hopefully I find someone soon and can recogonize the signs
Recently I've been spending a lot of time helping this special girl with her dissertation. Search for relevant literature, test the reliability of the data-gathering instruments, the works. I was listening to random stuff here on UA-cam when this video suddenly went up on autoplay. Maybe it's the algorithm taking a peek at my Google Scholar search history. But anyway, this hits home, 5 out of 5. I think I'm falling. Miss zero bad vibes, if you're reading this, take your time. I'm not going anywhere.
It makes me wonder if a certain co-worker back when I was stationed in Korea had feelings for me and just kept it to himself because of certain irreconcilable differences in beliefs and values. But when a customer came in and started acting off and said things about me that weren't true while he was off and then was told by a supervisor who knew we were close friends, he was furious! It wasn't until the day I was at the terminal, waiting to fly back to the states that he had told me he found that guy and had put the fear of God in him and only another Superior knew about it! It never would have worked between us because I'm a Christian and he isn't, but I know he truly cared about me and I did appreciate his friendship.
Even though I've yet to experience this since I'm only 15, but I feel I will be the one developing deep feelings if I ever meet 'the one' for me. I tend to be very subconsciously affectionate towards people I care about, and all the things that were mentioned in this video are things I see myself doing with people I care about. I'm just hoping that I find that one person for me, cuz when I fall, I fall HARD, and I want that to only be reserved for that one person
I’ve been stuck in this little situation where I’ve been delaying dating this one guy who shows interest in me… the first and fourth one apply so I’m going to give it a go!
And of course nobody cares for me in this way. I'm happy for the friends I have but I can never be close with anyone. I help others but I never expect help in return.
May I ask what makes you feel like you can never be close to anyone, even though you have some friends around you and how do you navigate the balance between helping others and seeking support for yourself when needed?
@@onnie1036 I can't be close because that means I'll have to open up about my problems. Nobody wants to hear that so I get left behind. I don't mind helping people through their issues if I can, but I never expect the same to happen for me. If I have a problem I bottle it up. I'm just a helper.
@@onnie1036 I completely understand them, they just didn't find the right person yet. I had this problem as well for the first 15 years of my life, then I met a guy and we instantly became very good friends. We trust each other with our lives. Basically what I want to say is that you can have a lot of friends, but even a hundred friends are nothing compared to just one true friend (speaking from my own experience). Don't worry, someone will come sooner or later.
Timestamps 1). Consistent and meaningful communication 0:33 2). Acts of kindness and thoughtfulness 1:12 3). Emotional vulnerability and trust 1:55 4). Protectiveness 2:28 5). They invest time and energy into your relationship 3:17 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
this makes me tear up sm huhru. just last year, i lost hope in love and became numb because of deep heartbreak from my past someone but this girl who's like a sunshine to me just swooped into my life so sweetly and healthily with my new mature and psychological self ~~
The person I've met 4 months ago calls me every day and hasn't missed a day yet. And this person loves having me around them a lot 😊 we are not in a relationship at all but I think this person is absolutely attached to me ........wow 😊
@@anderstermansen130 xD give her one more month. that's what often happens, resulting in the other person closing up completely and not having any interest in connecting to anybody ever again
When one gets to the level of sharing the phone number, and that textual conversation is not initialized only from one side, and that it doesn't last like short-answer-and-quit, and it happens rather often... Then it's already good.
In my experience, these kind of actions are simply a ploy on the part of the other person to get a quick sense of validation. To most people I have met, I have been a tool to be used and discarded.
idk man, im a girl and i started liking this one guy in my classes, we don’t know eachother, so i decided to gather all my courage and talk to him! I felt nervous making the first move and telling him i want to get to know him and ask if he wanted to hangout in a platonic way, but he said he was taken. It was a lie though, he doesn’t have a s/o. It does sadden me because he is a really nice guy and i don’t know what caused him to lie to me. Sometimes in class we would make eye contact and smile, and even when i asked him if he wanted to hangout he smiled a lot. Maybe he’s shy? idk..
Side note: This is why people with ADHD like to text, because we care but we will not remember. We can’t remember things about ourselves. So, if you want an ADHD person to remember something about you, text it. They will spend an hour scrolling through old texts at the store looking for that one text that matches the thing they think they remember. That’s when you know they care.
Long distance is never included in this sort of vid. And as for the “other person stepping in?” That can also ride a VERY fine line of true narcissism & control just as easily as love~ this particular info can also ride that line. Love your channel even though I have differing opinions on some topics. Very thought provoking!
You might think this sounds weird but I had this classmate that I’ve liked for years. She became my best friend and then when the pandemic hit we were always texting and calling each other during quarantine. One day I confessed to her about my feelings and she ghosted me for a while until like a few weeks later she admits that she did like me back too but she was just too nervous to tell me. We stayed friends. After the pandemic was over and we went back to school we never hanged out again she has her own friends to hang out with and so do I. If I ever hang out with her it’s rare and awkward. But when I see her in the hallways she smiles and waves at me. When I get back home I see that she texts me a lot saying stuff like "I regret not talking to you I really want to but I’m nervous." Or "I wanna hang out with you so badly but we’re so awkward with each other." And I’m just so confused on how she feels about me sorry if it makes zero sense English isn’t my first language
This is easy, she likes you though she gets super nervous around you. When people have a lot of feelings then we also have the same amount of nervousness. So she might stutter her words or get confused a bit around you this is the nervousness coming out. This happens more the younger we are, we get better at hiding this the older we get. I would say to keep on messaging each other and keep things normal between you. Try not to over think or worry that she dosnt like you. (This is normal) waving and smiling means she likes you at the very least so take that as a good sign. I wish you the best
Love is very unpredictable 💕. You might not have found romantic partner in your life yet but it doesn't mean that there couldn't be one for you... You can end up in the greatest relationship in couple of months, year from now or in couple years. Personally I did experience something like this when I met my boyfriend on Tinder just before Christmas last year and now we have been in relationship for 10 months 💕. And this is my first ever relationship that started when I was 19. And I'm sharing this to let others know it is okay to experience your first relationship later in life and not having your first kiss until you are in your early twenties (or even later in life). And the most important tips about dating is to be yourself and stay safe! 💕🥰
I know 😊.. same here and it's so flipping nice to actually feel it for real.. I trip on how it works out like this. At this point..all I do know is we got it..💪😊♥️..
Once I told my crush he had nice ankles and then I ran away and he has wearing abnormaly long socks and white crocs and he just looked down at his ankles and then looked back up and gave me the most weirded out and disgusted look anyone’s ever given me and I think about that sometimes.
Dont worry, rotting up in loneliness, knowing everyone around you knows how to run a sunshine-and-rainbows relationship, and you wont be able to figure it out? It sounds better than you would think. And i talk of experience. Beliving noone would have feelings for me, IS for the better.
I’m into a girl at the moment, but it’s hard to tell if she likes me back. When we talk together in person, she’s super cool and funny and we have really deep and late conversations (mostly after our anime club which is on Thursday and Friday nights). But when we make plans to get together, it’s hard for me to tell if she just thinks of us as friends or not, since I know she is a bit shy and hasn’t been in a relationship. But it does feel we’re hiding something from each other since we felt awkward when someone joked we were a couple. Does anyone have any advice?
@@infernoplexx9562 we have talked about what each other’s types are and what kind of person we would date. And after someone joked we were a couple, she seemed a little embarrassed but it looked like she didn’t mind? I’m pretty sure we would have talked way longer yesterday but I had to leave like 30 minutes after
@@jonscallion8576 tbh i think theres a very good chance she likes you because as you mentioned she hasn't been in a relationship before and you also said she is shy so she's probably hiding her feelings from u. As scary as it may be you're going to most likely have to be the one to make the first move lol. Maybe try acting like you like her just a tiny little bit more to make it more obvious to her that you may like her in case she hasn't noticed anything already but be careful with that. At the end of the day if this stretches too long and nothing happens id just risk it and maybe ask the question cuz whats life without a bit of risk ? Im not the expert on these topics tho my personal experience with this kinda stuff is 0 😞🤣 hope this helps , wish u luck with her mate 😉
@@infernoplexx9562 No it’s good advice! I’m all new to this stuff too so any advice helps, reading this definitely makes me optimistic so I’ll see when the right time to tell her is
I don't want to start to think that one of my best friends likes me, even though he does all these things I feel I would get friend zoned.. I really am not sure, I wanna ask someone about it, but they would tell him.. the other day I asked if anyone had any food at lunch, since I was still hungry after I ate, and he gave me his granola bar, I think he was just being nice, I really don't know, does anyone know if he might like me?
Here I am watching this while I am still single at almost 20 years old ( my birthday is in November if your wondering) I plan on going on dating apps to see if I would find someone but for some reason I am hesitant because I don’t want to run into someone who’s either too crazy or to creepy.
@@margaritaleon2502 maybe your right when I was in school I always saw couples in the hallways kissing each other and nobody was interested in me and Valentine’s Day was always the worst year for me every school year because I would cry in my room at night because I felt lonely when I was single but now I am still learning how to love myself and my face and body because people would bully me for years about how ugly I looked to them.
Dating apps work but they can be pretty shallow. Personally I would go to social events/ places where I can meet people similar to myself (libraries) as it’s more personal and logical in my mind.
Eh, don't even bother with dating. Be like me and go to alcohol and weed instead. It's a lot more rewarding and unlike relationships addiction will always be there for you
I don't want a relationship, but I wanted to better know the signs of somebody being interested in me just so I'd be able let the person know that I don't want a relationship
@Psych2go When things get hard, she shuts down, gets distant, and doesn't seem to want to work towards fixing things. She's asked me what she can do that I need from her because I do so much, and all I really want from her is to communicate with me better. For example, if something is bothering her, even if it's something I'm doing, I want to know so it won't be a problem anymore, but she keeps saying there's nothing she can think of. She's ignoring her own feelings and thoughts to try and keep things good, but that will lead to resentment. I want to be there for her and do anything I can to make her life easier because she's so busy and tired all the time.
Theres this one guy who has a crush on me, and I'm telling y'all, he shows all these signs.. hes also really flirty lmao. It took months for me to develop and finally accepting that I really like him because back then, i tried my hardest to deny it. But glad i get to confess to him, it felt so freeing. (And we're only in a MU relationship!) And I'm happy that I get to meet him, he's so caring, protective, nice, and funny. Almost everyday, he chats with me. And our convo will last for atleast an hour, sometimes shorter if we're on a tight schedule or if we dont have any topic lol
"Who comes to mind when you think of someone investing time and energy into your relationship?" It almost feels sader to say only my 1 friend than no one... Damn.
What is everyone's plan for the end of the month?
Sleep
First ❤
Game
seeing old friends❤
Idk
The chances of someone liking me are the same chances of me getting hit by lightning.
Edit: The lightning jokes are crazy here 🤣🤣
Same
The chances are low...but never zero
It won’t happen because you don’t believe that it will happen. Stop saying stupid stuff like this and believe in yourself.
The chances of someone even acknowledging me are the same chances of me winning a trillion dollars
@@Olafemi96 Bro this never works, let's face it. "Believing in yourself" is just lying to yourself at this rate. I just accept the fact that I am a pile of trash that can't get any better. The fact that you have to be super mega attractive and have big money just to get anyone remotely interested is sad.
Update: we are now together!
I started talking to this girl I met 3 months ago and I believe we share all 5 of these deep feelings for each other. We have not stopped talking to each other since. We have hung out and spent quality time together about 6 times. We both share our thoughts and emotions to each other as we both trust each other. We ensure that we are both feeling OK that day. We share items with each other (movies, video games ect), we send each other songs that we may like and also memes. I'm very attracted to her and I believe she is with me. We both stated we do not want to rush anything and do not want to force anything out of respect of letting things happen on its own. I believe there is going to be a perfect time to truly express my feelings to her and ask her to be my girlfriend, and honestly, I'm hoping it happens really soon!
Damn bro that relashonship there is precious
This is the situation my BFF and our other friend are in instead she doesn't like him but he does like her, well anyways I hope it will work out for you
Wow, that sounds awesome! Wishing you the best of luck ;)
Let's go my dude! Sounds like you may have found a good one. Best of luck to you!!
Are you a man or a woman ?
1. Consistent and Meaningful Communication 0:33
2. Acts of Kindness and Thoughtfulness 1:14
3. Emotional Vulnerability and Trust 1:55
4. Protectiveness 2:29
5. They Invest Time and Energy into your Relationship 3:19
I do this with alot of my close friends, but I am not deeply in love with them 😢😢
@@twentyeight602you can love them just as strongly without feeling romantically for them
Thanks for the time stamps and for making it easier for everyone to access the content!
@@twentyeight602 same
Nice. Now I don't have to watch the video.
thanks for the confirmation nobody has feelings for me!
For real 😂💔
Same :/
Don’t worry it’s okay I’ll give you some love man ❤️ ✌️ also here have a hug (if needed)
💔😭 That's okay! When the time is right, you will find someone!
Try raising your standards for the type of people you allow to be in your life, and have a close relationship with you. Decide what you want in a friend/partner, and what you don’t want. Decide what behaviors, and attitudes you will, and will not tolerate. Know yourself, your values, and your character, and stay true to them, and stand firm by them. And then decide who you WANT to be a part of your life. If you’re current friends or romantic partner is not doing any of these things for you, if not ALL of these things, then you have some choices to make. You can either cut ties completely with those who don’t match your “Preferred Type” or you can let them know how they make you feel, and how you’d like them do do things differently, or at least ask if they are willing to try and put some effort into improving and strengthening y’all’s relationship. See how that goes. People show you exactly how they feel about you. Especially when times are at the toughest, and you are at ur lowest.
Also, the only way you can ever do this and expect others to be receptive to it, and for this to be morally okay, is if you, yourself, portray every single quality and meet every single standard that you are expecting out of others, and then take your efforts and investments into those relationships and multiply them by 2X. Then, and only then, are you justified to ask someone to meet you where you are willing to meet them, and go above and beyond for them. And keep your circle very small. You’ll be able to invest more time and energy in each relationship when you’re not overwhelmed by having to keep up with so many. Good luck.
I know this is probably more focused on romantic relationships, but I see all these things in myself with my closest friends, and each of them have showed me at least 2 of these in return ❤
I had a best friend who was like this with me while I was in a crappy situationship. He had sworn off all relationships, but all these elements were there. Although we didn’t have a physically intimate relationship at all, only ever hugged, he was a better boyfriend than that other guy. It wasn’t just the deep conversations and the emotional connection, he also made sure I was eating, took out garbage for me and took me to events. Even got me nice local chocolates on my birthday.
you need to show up to his house you owe him some sloppy toppy
@@triggerdmillennial9624LMFAOOO
@@triggerdmillennial9624Omg😂
They probably did have feelings for you, its a classic avoidant behavior because they cant really bring themselves to be hurt again so they refuse to put a label on it despite getting most of the behaviors associated with relationships. My girlfriend was like this before I wanted to go further with it but I know how to not ask for too much and yet they almost always deliver.
Timestamps
1. Consistent and Meaningful Communication 0:33
2. Acts of Kindness and Thoughtfulness 1:12
3. Emotional Vulnerablility and Trust 1:55
4. Protectiveness 2:28
5. They Invest Time and Energy into your Relationship 3:17
Whoever reads this I hope you have a good rest of your day 🙂
you absolute king/queen 👑
Thank you for your help!
Amen u too
Thank you, you as well.
One sign is when you do a small act of kindness, it means so much to them. A quote from The Crow, the movie: "Little things used to mean so much to Shelly - I used to think they were kind of trivial. Believe me, nothing is trivial."
I have a friend who does most, if not all, of these things for me, and I for them. We both put time and effort into the friendship and they are one of my closest friends. It's really quiet special and I treasure what we've got.
Great video, keep up the amazing work.
Thanks for sharing!!
I learned the hard way that none of this means a damn thing. Humans are extremely complex, because all life is. It's best to just be forward and ask someone if they have feelings for you, or if you're the one with feelings, just tell the other person if you aren't afraid to alter or lose the friendship.
I agree. Watching these videos makes you feel good and falsely believe someone is into you. I know a girl who I had deep intimate conversations with, talking about childhood trauma, her being protective, her being emotionally invested, and we had intellectual conversations, but when I asked her for a date, she made it clear she only saw me as a friend. It was the first time I felt I had a deep connection with a girl, and it hurt that she had no feelings for me beyond friendship. It also made me question my ability to gauge interest levels.
Stop watching videos and just go out there and give it a shot is what I'd say to those watching this video.
Yes! My wife Dev is engaged in my life, regularly offers acts of kindness, is emotionally vulnerable with me, is protective of me, and they invest oodles of time and effort into our relationship. It's so good to have the right partner! 😍🥰
That's amazing! What's your secret to meeting the perfect partner? :)
Not only she is perfect but also she is so lucky to have a husband like you... Because you admire and values all her qualities...Not all husband's will do like that...
Mine is different, even though I have done everything good to him, he not even values me, instead he found problems in it...
You two are very lucky..you two found true love...God bless you and family...💕
the thing is, I do all 5 of these with all of my friends…I don’t feel like I have a deep emotional connection, especially romantic, at all with anyone. I don’t want to seem cold or mean but I also don’t want people getting the wrong idea :(
To the all it won't ever be me commenters, it takes time, being vulnerable, and dedication to build this type of relationship with someone. And it requires they also put in that kind of commitment to it to make it work. And unfortunately it doesn't always work out but it's better to have loved/been loved than to have never tried. If one person did than another will. And for those you have yet to have your moment. 1) don't waste time on one sided 2) chin up and keep trying just focus more on personality and in time you will find that special person. Just keep working on you and building your life and meeting people and it will happen.
That's a long convoluted way to gaslight me into going to the gym... XD
It’s ok to want a romantic relationship, but also being content without a partner is good to have first. This can easily be applied to family members or friends or a teacher or coworker as well. If you say you have no one chances are you havent put yourself out there long enough to get other people to know you better. Yah you gotta put yourself out there instead of going in your room😂
Omg this was such a helpful video for me! I'm totally into this girl, and have been for over a year, but we've been best friends for five years. I've only come to terms with my sexuality less than a year ago, and I confessed to her that I had deeper feelings for her. Sadly she said she wasn't sure she felt the same, but our friendship didn't change one bit and we're closer than ever. We basically do all these things for each other though, which is why I still get confused even after trying to get over her romantically for a long time. Only recently, I've noticed a large difference in how "protective" she is over me and how people treat me. For example if my other friend flirts with me (jokingly) she'll step in and get really mad, or move herself between us physically. She has been showing the other signs lately too and we've talked about it in private, only for her to reveal to me that she's been feeling different about me recently and is trying to figure out what that is. This video (for me) was very accurate in behaviours to look out for if someone may like you, or if you need some idea's on how you should be around someone you really love.
Edit: Its only been 11 days since I posted this, but i have an update (that no one asked for but whatever)
So I decided to bring it up again with her after watching this video so we talked about how we felt about possibly being together, and while she's still figuring out her sexuality "label" or if she just doesn't want a label, she has told me she knows she loves me and wants to be with me. We are now officially together (secretly- until we feel safe enough to come out) but it all seems to have worked out :)
I hope that whatever the outcome of your relationship with your friend is, that it is a benefit to the both of you.
It's very sweet that you both have such a strong and open trust in each other
@@chocolatecat64 Thank you, that is very sweet of you! I do feel very lucky to have a strong relationship like this with someone, whether its romantic or not :)
Well, she can't string you along for too long while also sabotaging and getting in the way of other potential relationships you might have. She'll have to make up her mind soon enough or you might miss out on another opportunity.
@@joelkelly3225 I understand that, and she seems to as well. I have tried to move on from her a while ago, but only recently has she started to realise a change in her own feelings. For her, its a lot of personal things which has been making it a little difficult to figure this out and honestly all she asked for was a little time and patience, which I feel is perfectly reasonable. She has told me she would never want to get in the way of any other relationships I have and she has expressed her concerns of what some of her actions could do to affect my life, which i really appreciate her realising and she's definitely trying to calm down and figure out things for herself. You have made a very valid point though, one that I have thought about, but at this moment in time I'm perfectly fine with waiting to see how this turns out. It isn't severely affecting any of our other relationships, and if another opportunity for either of us were to come up I think we'd be pretty chill with it. Thank you for the comment though.
I’m so happy for u 😭💗
is it just me or does her voice bring happiness??
Her voice is like butter on warm toast.
Her voice is like a soft cloud moving in the sky
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I always let my friends know when i have deep feelings for them (in a platonic way)
Do your friends do the same for you?
your channel has really helped me with my life, and knowing when enough is enough, i find your videos on mental health really helpful. thank you!! the videos on crushes or anything releated are really helpful to, i love this channel!
Thanks for watching! Do you mind telling us a bit more about how our content helped? :) We're looking to improve our videos so any suggestion would be appreciated!
I've seen some of these but not all of them. I'm not upset either, it's good to know someone actually has/had feelings for me like this. 🙂
I remember giving someone 4/5 of these. I was vulnerable and told him. But I felt invalidated and said I shouldn't be feeling that way and shares his own story. Like he never got mad at his mother, so I shouldn't too. I really felt invalidated. I withdrew basically ghosted him. He's a nice guy but I can't with him. Another guy on the other hand, he'd always listen and really protective of me, comforts and reassures me whenever I needed. We talk everyday before he sleeps even though I told him we don't need to talk everyday because he's too busy and tired everyday but he insisted we talk.
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Yes it does take some time to be vulnerable..
And I do appreciate the time they take to reach out and express themselves..that is special to me alone😊...
I also need to tell them that there are feelings for them to..
This video has shown me how much my brain is lying to me about when I think someone is really that into me. This also showed up at a time where I'm letting other people reach out to me and so far nothing. I guess I need to stop watching these because they keep reminding me how alone I am in this world. Great information though. Keep up the great work. Hopefully I find someone soon and can recogonize the signs
Wonder what that is like: being someone else’s crush.
How about you? Have you ever had a crush on someone? It can be such a heartwarming experience, full of excitement and butterflies. 😊
@@onnie1036 it was pretty exciting. I liked how smart she was. Unfortunately she didn’t feel the same.
I wonder too, sometimes. I would guess it is a nice feeling.
Depends on the person who is having a crush on you. On my experience, it was uncomfortable...
Recently I've been spending a lot of time helping this special girl with her dissertation. Search for relevant literature, test the reliability of the data-gathering instruments, the works. I was listening to random stuff here on UA-cam when this video suddenly went up on autoplay. Maybe it's the algorithm taking a peek at my Google Scholar search history. But anyway, this hits home, 5 out of 5. I think I'm falling.
Miss zero bad vibes, if you're reading this, take your time. I'm not going anywhere.
It makes me wonder if a certain co-worker back when I was stationed in Korea had feelings for me and just kept it to himself because of certain irreconcilable differences in beliefs and values. But when a customer came in and started acting off and said things about me that weren't true while he was off and then was told by a supervisor who knew we were close friends, he was furious! It wasn't until the day I was at the terminal, waiting to fly back to the states that he had told me he found that guy and had put the fear of God in him and only another Superior knew about it! It never would have worked between us because I'm a Christian and he isn't, but I know he truly cared about me and I did appreciate his friendship.
Even though I've yet to experience this since I'm only 15, but I feel I will be the one developing deep feelings if I ever meet 'the one' for me. I tend to be very subconsciously affectionate towards people I care about, and all the things that were mentioned in this video are things I see myself doing with people I care about. I'm just hoping that I find that one person for me, cuz when I fall, I fall HARD, and I want that to only be reserved for that one person
I’ve been stuck in this little situation where I’ve been delaying dating this one guy who shows interest in me… the first and fourth one apply so I’m going to give it a go!
Hope it goes well!
Good luck
do tell us how it goes if you want to!!!
Please do tell us how it goes! Wishing you the best of luck ;)
So when did you reject him?
Yes it takes tome to he vulnerable.. im glad you reached out and express you thoughts ..thats special alone..
And of course nobody cares for me in this way. I'm happy for the friends I have but I can never be close with anyone. I help others but I never expect help in return.
May I ask what makes you feel like you can never be close to anyone, even though you have some friends around you and how do you navigate the balance between helping others and seeking support for yourself when needed?
@@onnie1036 I can't be close because that means I'll have to open up about my problems. Nobody wants to hear that so I get left behind. I don't mind helping people through their issues if I can, but I never expect the same to happen for me. If I have a problem I bottle it up. I'm just a helper.
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I completely understand them, they just didn't find the right person yet.
I had this problem as well for the first 15 years of my life, then I met a guy and we instantly became very good friends. We trust each other with our lives.
Basically what I want to say is that you can have a lot of friends, but even a hundred friends are nothing compared to just one true friend (speaking from my own experience).
Don't worry, someone will come sooner or later.
So. Been in love with my best friend for years. Watched this, wondering if there was somthing. Left broken. 10/10 would cry again.
Are you okay? ❤
Honestly, not really, but I truely appreciate the concern. You are a wonderful human being. Your reply means so very much to me.
Phew.. that sounds tough... thanks for sharing your experience with us. How are you guys doing now? Are you guys still talking with one another?
Kinda hard to notice anyone having deep feelings when you spend most of your time chilling in your own house
This be me 😂
Man, that channel really changed my life! Thank you so much for your content!
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1). Consistent and meaningful communication 0:33
2). Acts of kindness and thoughtfulness 1:12
3). Emotional vulnerability and trust 1:55
4). Protectiveness 2:28
5). They invest time and energy into your relationship 3:17
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thanks for the time stamp
@@HarryOsosuakpor not a problem happy to help
this makes me tear up sm huhru. just last year, i lost hope in love and became numb because of deep heartbreak from my past someone but this girl who's like a sunshine to me just swooped into my life so sweetly and healthily with my new mature and psychological self ~~
The person I've met 4 months ago calls me every day and hasn't missed a day yet. And this person loves having me around them a lot 😊 we are not in a relationship at all but I think this person is absolutely attached to me ........wow 😊
good for you😃, that's so sweet🥰enjoy!
So when did you reject him?
@@anderstermansen130 xD give her one more month. that's what often happens, resulting in the other person closing up completely and not having any interest in connecting to anybody ever again
@@Kalouc_exactly!!! You spoke my words!
Deep feelings, the easiest to process and least vulnerable and dangerous feelings to try to evaluate, parse, and act upon!!!!!!111!1!1111!!
Y'know, me be hiding in their tree is already proven enough I think.
I wouldn't like to dwell on the negative but nobody has done any of these signs towards me so... I guess I know what that means
When one gets to the level of sharing the phone number, and that textual conversation is not initialized only from one side, and that it doesn't last like short-answer-and-quit, and it happens rather often... Then it's already good.
In my experience, these kind of actions are simply a ploy on the part of the other person to get a quick sense of validation. To most people I have met, I have been a tool to be used and discarded.
as an introvert, i feel like noone has feeling for me :(
Im absolutely affirmitive, noone would ever possibly develop feelings for me.
idk man, im a girl and i started liking this one guy in my classes, we don’t know eachother, so i decided to gather all my courage and talk to him! I felt nervous making the first move and telling him i want to get to know him and ask if he wanted to hangout in a platonic way, but he said he was taken. It was a lie though, he doesn’t have a s/o. It does sadden me because he is a really nice guy and i don’t know what caused him to lie to me. Sometimes in class we would make eye contact and smile, and even when i asked him if he wanted to hangout he smiled a lot. Maybe he’s shy? idk..
yea just being friends is the best :D
He knows what you want, thats why he rejected you first.
Dawg they don't even know I exist 🌚🌚💯💯💀💀💀👹👹🔥🔥🔥
Side note: This is why people with ADHD like to text, because we care but we will not remember. We can’t remember things about ourselves. So, if you want an ADHD person to remember something about you, text it. They will spend an hour scrolling through old texts at the store looking for that one text that matches the thing they think they remember. That’s when you know they care.
Long distance is never included in this sort of vid. And as for the “other person stepping in?” That can also ride a VERY fine line of true narcissism & control just as easily as love~ this particular info can also ride that line. Love your channel even though I have differing opinions on some topics. Very thought provoking!
Every time you asked: "do you have someone doing that to you?", it felt like a punch in the stomach ...
Would be nice to have a version of this for love interests living far apart.
The flap-flap of the leaves is so cute!!!😍
Feeding into my delusions 😂
That's a rough one homie❤😂
i feel like i protect ppl who i like or consider friends like a bodygaurd and help my friends or my crush when i get the chance to do so
Me watching vidoes like these knowing damn well no one will ever love me lol
Some of these signs can also be love bombing from a Narcissist...Sadly, buyer beware. Been there, done that
In the west most women nowadays are highly narcissistic.
Within a 1hr gang❤ also I love these videos even I don’t watch them to often I love em❤
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The leaf bows being animated are adorable. 😭♥️
You might think this sounds weird but I had this classmate that I’ve liked for years. She became my best friend and then when the pandemic hit we were always texting and calling each other during quarantine. One day I confessed to her about my feelings and she ghosted me for a while until like a few weeks later she admits that she did like me back too but she was just too nervous to tell me. We stayed friends. After the pandemic was over and we went back to school we never hanged out again she has her own friends to hang out with and so do I. If I ever hang out with her it’s rare and awkward. But when I see her in the hallways she smiles and waves at me. When I get back home I see that she texts me a lot saying stuff like "I regret not talking to you I really want to but I’m nervous." Or "I wanna hang out with you so badly but we’re so awkward with each other." And I’m just so confused on how she feels about me sorry if it makes zero sense English isn’t my first language
Its gonna be okay 😢😂
This is easy, she likes you though she gets super nervous around you. When people have a lot of feelings then we also have the same amount of nervousness. So she might stutter her words or get confused a bit around you this is the nervousness coming out. This happens more the younger we are, we get better at hiding this the older we get. I would say to keep on messaging each other and keep things normal between you. Try not to over think or worry that she dosnt like you. (This is normal) waving and smiling means she likes you at the very least so take that as a good sign. I wish you the best
Love is very unpredictable 💕. You might not have found romantic partner in your life yet but it doesn't mean that there couldn't be one for you... You can end up in the greatest relationship in couple of months, year from now or in couple years. Personally I did experience something like this when I met my boyfriend on Tinder just before Christmas last year and now we have been in relationship for 10 months 💕. And this is my first ever relationship that started when I was 19. And I'm sharing this to let others know it is okay to experience your first relationship later in life and not having your first kiss until you are in your early twenties (or even later in life). And the most important tips about dating is to be yourself and stay safe! 💕🥰
This video was enjoyable to watch. I’m hoping one day I can connect with so I can develop feelings them and vice versa and see where it all goes.
Wishing you all the best on your path to meaningful connections!💞
A person I really cared for showed me about half of these so it left me confused. I realize now that all 5 should be there most of the time
No time travelers ?
I'm right here. For now...
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I know 😊.. same here and it's so flipping nice to actually feel it for real.. I trip on how it works out like this. At this point..all I do know is we got it..💪😊♥️..
So by this video no one has feelings for me let alone deep ones😃👍🏽
guess what she checked all the boxes and yet "i dont want to go on a date, or put a lable on our relashionship, lets just hang out"
Well it got Worse, we went to the cinema cuddled and the next Day she told me its only friendly
Love you and this channel!
Once I told my crush he had nice ankles and then I ran away and he has wearing abnormaly long socks and white crocs and he just looked down at his ankles and then looked back up and gave me the most weirded out and disgusted look anyone’s ever given me and I think about that sometimes.
i just wanna feel loved.
We love you ❤
Dont worry, rotting up in loneliness, knowing everyone around you knows how to run a sunshine-and-rainbows relationship, and you wont be able to figure it out?
It sounds better than you would think.
And i talk of experience. Beliving noone would have feelings for me, IS for the better.
All applies, on me...oh well, everyday it becomes mor clear that it's a one sided thing
Idk why I still watch these... My crush said we should stay friends and is apparently thinking abt being lesbian.... I think I need therapy 👍
Read the title and instantly thought "cant relate"
you never fail to be useful, thank you once again Psych2Go for these tips
Aww thank you for the kind words! ❤❤
I hope sending reels to each other counts as thoughtful communication
Very interesting topic. 🤔 Thank you. 😊
Even though I don't have anyone someone special, I atleast now know that no one likes me then I don't overthink about it. Thanks Psych😁👌
The thumbnail reminded me of Kimi ni Todoke, so I clicked!💙
Same, glad I'm not the only one
ty for the video. your animation work is awesome and you do have an amazing voice for narration.
Yay new video thank you ao much❤
Ah good i was just imagining things with others good to know.
I’m into a girl at the moment, but it’s hard to tell if she likes me back. When we talk together in person, she’s super cool and funny and we have really deep and late conversations (mostly after our anime club which is on Thursday and Friday nights). But when we make plans to get together, it’s hard for me to tell if she just thinks of us as friends or not, since I know she is a bit shy and hasn’t been in a relationship. But it does feel we’re hiding something from each other since we felt awkward when someone joked we were a couple. Does anyone have any advice?
Try hinting at the idea to her. Find ways to do it indirectly without making it awkward.
@@infernoplexx9562 we have talked about what each other’s types are and what kind of person we would date. And after someone joked we were a couple, she seemed a little embarrassed but it looked like she didn’t mind? I’m pretty sure we would have talked way longer yesterday but I had to leave like 30 minutes after
@@jonscallion8576 tbh i think theres a very good chance she likes you because as you mentioned she hasn't been in a relationship before and you also said she is shy so she's probably hiding her feelings from u. As scary as it may be you're going to most likely have to be the one to make the first move lol. Maybe try acting like you like her just a tiny little bit more to make it more obvious to her that you may like her in case she hasn't noticed anything already but be careful with that. At the end of the day if this stretches too long and nothing happens id just risk it and maybe ask the question cuz whats life without a bit of risk ? Im not the expert on these topics tho my personal experience with this kinda stuff is 0 😞🤣 hope this helps , wish u luck with her mate 😉
@@infernoplexx9562 No it’s good advice! I’m all new to this stuff too so any advice helps, reading this definitely makes me optimistic so I’ll see when the right time to tell her is
@@infernoplexx9562 good news, I asked her tonight and told her I liked her and she likes me back! We’ll probably go on a date soon (:
I truly gave up. I know Ill never find someone. There's so much better people out there than me.
I don't want to start to think that one of my best friends likes me, even though he does all these things I feel I would get friend zoned.. I really am not sure, I wanna ask someone about it, but they would tell him.. the other day I asked if anyone had any food at lunch, since I was still hungry after I ate, and he gave me his granola bar, I think he was just being nice, I really don't know, does anyone know if he might like me?
I do all these towards someone without even noticing.
Here I am watching this while I am still single at almost 20 years old ( my birthday is in November if your wondering) I plan on going on dating apps to see if I would find someone but for some reason I am hesitant because I don’t want to run into someone who’s either too crazy or to creepy.
Do it if and only if you want to, don't do it for others or what they say
@@margaritaleon2502 maybe your right when I was in school I always saw couples in the hallways kissing each other and nobody was interested in me and Valentine’s Day was always the worst year for me every school year because I would cry in my room at night because I felt lonely when I was single but now I am still learning how to love myself and my face and body because people would bully me for years about how ugly I looked to them.
Dating apps work but they can be pretty shallow. Personally I would go to social events/ places where I can meet people similar to myself (libraries) as it’s more personal and logical in my mind.
I’m 40 and single. It’s always worse bud. Also this video is bs. I do this when I’m drunk all the time and could care less about the girl. 💯
Eh, don't even bother with dating. Be like me and go to alcohol and weed instead. It's a lot more rewarding and unlike relationships addiction will always be there for you
I don't want a relationship, but I wanted to better know the signs of somebody being interested in me just so I'd be able let the person know that I don't want a relationship
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Welp, my chances of even meeting someone is far bellow zero, but I'm still watching this
I love this channel
I do all of those things for my girlfriend... it doesn't seem to be enough.
How come? Does she not appreciate what you do for her?
@Psych2go When things get hard, she shuts down, gets distant, and doesn't seem to want to work towards fixing things. She's asked me what she can do that I need from her because I do so much, and all I really want from her is to communicate with me better. For example, if something is bothering her, even if it's something I'm doing, I want to know so it won't be a problem anymore, but she keeps saying there's nothing she can think of. She's ignoring her own feelings and thoughts to try and keep things good, but that will lead to resentment. I want to be there for her and do anything I can to make her life easier because she's so busy and tired all the time.
Wow, those are insanely correct. It's exact things noone ever done to me!
I LOVE ITT❤❤
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@@onnie1036 💕
Theres this one guy who has a crush on me, and I'm telling y'all, he shows all these signs.. hes also really flirty lmao. It took months for me to develop and finally accepting that I really like him because back then, i tried my hardest to deny it. But glad i get to confess to him, it felt so freeing. (And we're only in a MU relationship!) And I'm happy that I get to meet him, he's so caring, protective, nice, and funny. Almost everyday, he chats with me. And our convo will last for atleast an hour, sometimes shorter if we're on a tight schedule or if we dont have any topic lol
That's sweet! Protective and Funny ... Now, that's a heck of a combination! Good for You ... Both of You!
@@tdesq.2463 Thanks alot!
Whaaaaaddup y’all. Hope you have a great day/afternoon/night
"Who comes to mind when you think of someone investing time and energy into your relationship?" It almost feels sader to say only my 1 friend than no one... Damn.
I notice none of it
I’m older now and nothing like this has happened in decades.
I doubt it will again.
Me when Psych2go Uploads: 🤑
If your homie replies to every single one of the memes you send them, know this, they're a gem.
Omg hi!
Good to know that nobody ever had deep feelings for me
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Not one to normally comment but this all also applies to close friends. I see all of these signals in close friendships as well.
6 sec early gang
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