This wasn’t an interview. This was a true conversation between two people who actually actively listened to each other. They made such a personal journey beautiful. The respect and caring from each to the other was extraordinarily moving.
I could not have said it any better. I was listening to this as I was working and had to stop literally every minute to look at Anderson and Andrew speaking and watch their emotion. My heart is so deeply touched. One of the many things Andrew shared with us that was so on point and that I am understanding more and more is the following. (This may not be exact wording however close enough) Andrew: The heart lives by breaking in loss........ I want it to break me open I want to be lost It feels healthier Then to feel like you know where you're heading".......... This is so beautifully expressed and very much how I am experiencing life. To Anderson & Andrew (if by some stroke of "luck" you read this", I am deeply grateful for this video and your discussion. You are both caring, wonderful, lovely human beings. I will be sharing video with my friends. Not everyone has arrived at this level of awareness yet, however for those who may have difficulty relating to the incredible depth of your conversation, I sense there will be an opening to their consciousness. This conversation will definitely be the catalyst in helping people all over the world. Thank you both for your authenticity and your vulnerability ❤️🙏
What is so wonderful is that two men who have lost their mothers are emotional, vulnerable and sweet. It is a sign of strength to show emotions like grief, sorrow and pain.🎉
I didn’t watch yet and I am interested to watch, but I feel like I will be the same as you, I may not be able to watch at all. I lost my beautiful 58-year-old sister in a to pancreatic cancer. It’s still too new and hurts so bad and still surreal. 🙏🏻💔
@@Jojo61468take your time. When you think you can watch, do so in little parts, then walk away. Anderson talks about how he only recently could face the grief of his family members but can 9nly do so in short segments but is finding it gets easier. My condolences about your sister. The loss must be profound.
I just can’t with Andrew and his spirit. The kindness he wears on his sleeve is so generous, and surely has caused heartache at times - and yet his still does it - THAT is courage and true strength.
‘’Tell me about your mom’’… what I’d give to have the opportunity to talk about my mom. Almost a year since her passing and no one has asked about her. My heart hurts carrying her memory and my memories with her alone.
I lost my mom six days after I turned 8. This year marks 40 years. I have had no one to talk to either-my father and brother struggle with that-a lot of my relatives are gone. But I speak about her every day-just in small ways and if I don't speak out openly-I speak to myself and in some way to her. Find a way to create dialogue for yourself. Bc sometimes there isn't anyone to speak to. I don't have a lifetime of memories with my mom but I carry her within me-closely every day. You are not alone. Yes, the grief will stay with you your entire lifetime but it changes in time. I wish you many blessings on this journey.
@@AVintageNerdagreed with this! you can also write or if you have the money try a therapist. or even just online forums. anywhere you can express your thoughts, feelings, have your voice...and let those things go
"I walked a mile with Pleasure; She chatted all the way; But left me none the wiser For all she had to say. I walked a mile with Sorrow; And ne'er a word said she; But, oh! The things I learned from her, When Sorrow walked with me." - Robert Browning Hamilton
My mom passed on August 25th…. And I just can’t seem to believe she’s actually gone. I have all her texts and voicemails saved, and I hear your voice often. I still feel her hugs and embrace when I’m knelt down praying. I just know her and my grandma are up there having a blast now, and that brings me comfort.
"Sons have been losing their mothers for thousands and thousands of years and they will continue to, and you've just been initiated into that awareness and into that reality." And in the same way, daughters have been losing their fathers, and sisters have been losing their brothers, and daughters have been losing their mothers. Thank you, Andrew and Anderson.
I'm sitting here trying to figure out what might encapsulate all he has to offer. A podcast seems too pedestrian for him (yet I'm positive he'd say differently). A book, perhaps.
Andrews mother was obviously an extraordinary person because she raised at least one extraordinary son. Not many people can vocalize their feelings in such a way. And Anderson, to my mind, is the best interviewer on television. So many others have preconceived ideas of the answers to their questions and don’t really listen to the answers they get. Anderson really listens and has a way of making us listeners feel privileged to sit in on great conversations. Great interview, great series.
I have worked in hospice and end of life care for 15 years and I don't think I've witnessed someone be able to talk about their grief and loss in such a beautiful and truthful way. I will always watch a clip of Andrew talking about grief, so beautiful, so raw, so unapologetic, and so important for all to hear.
I have recommended his Anderson Cooper's Podcast "All there is" to so many people dealing with grief. It is HANDS DOWN one of THE best Podcasts I've ever listened to. It is so interesting to hear so many different people's perspective on grief and how they handle/deal and cope with it. He is a beautiful soul that one....I swear he would be the most amazing friend. We all need a friend like Anderson!
Your sharing about your work experience without watching grief is shocking to me and it also shiws how difficult it is for People to show there pain of loss😢
@@traceyv9961i’m thankfully not dealing with any grief but i don’t want to take this moment for granted. I’m appreciative of my circumstances at the moment. I will still give it a listen, thanks for the recommendation
I lost both my parents and the only brother I had in a matter of three years. Awful. I’m an orphan, I feel like an orphan. My grief is always evolving but never going away. I have a constant sense of sadness at a deep level. I changed as a person. I keep going because I’m a warrior, but I feel a constant pain in my heart. Grief is rough 😭😭😭
@@mariatourreilles331 There’s no words to express how sorry I am, but try to think how happy they are when your ok and well and that will help you eventually. Talk to them as they were near you and you’ll not feel alone. Keep strong for them and that will get you through. Hugs
I love vulnerable men. I remember Anderson standing in Louisiana knee deep in water after Katrina and he cried. The first time ever seeing a news anchor being human. We need to speak about grief and death more because every single one if us must face both.
My mom passed two years ago and her not being here left me bereft. I felt like whatever was keeping on this earth was gone, like an uprooted tree. Grief has been keeping me adrift in this sea of loss, adrift from solid land. They say that time heals all but I feel like not even a hundred years would ease these feelings.
I'm sorry for your loss. There is help available to support you through this time. I suggest a psychologist or a life coach. I, too, lost my Mom. I am happy and peaceful. I do miss her sometimes, but I'm very well despite this.
This man has so much soul. I can't express how much I love people like this. Wise, vulnerable, observant, grateful, kind. I feel lucky to witness this beautiful exchange.
I cant bring myself to watch Andrew i feel painfully connected with him and it breaks me to pieces that i am physically not able to look at him in the eyes and talk to him for hours. One thing ill be angry about for the rest of my life is how physically distended we are to other humans that want to reach out to. This conv was so purely innocent thank u thank u thank u
What an incredible interview. Andrew Garfield might just be one of the most eloquent young men I’ve seen/heard… in years. I believe everyone should watch or listen to this deeply moving conversation about grief.
Andrew is the sweetest of souls. His ability to articulate what so many can’t will be healing for anyone who sees this. I only got to have my dad for the first 25 years of my life and have gone 25 without him now. If I’d been told in the beginning of the short time we would have and the grief I would experience I would chose to have that brief time again.
Beautiful conversation😢! I lost my 9 year old in 1992 and my wife of 47 years I 2022. I am a research scientist yet I cannot navigate through it. I cannot cry, I take pills that do nothing. I feel Anderson’s and Andrew’s pain so much…..there are no words. Bless you both.
There are no words, grief is raw emotion. I find a lot of support in David Kesslers books and web site. Your loss is profound, sometimes our grief takes a while to emerge. Be gentle with your heart. It's hurting. You're hurting. Perhaps it's not something you consciously navigate but allow it to have it's own existence where it carries you.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. The inability to cry, the anger, the numbness... becomes unbearable. I found the following quote very helpful when I was going through great loss: “People think that grief slowly gets smaller with time, when in reality grief stays the same size, but slowly life begins to grow bigger around it”. Wishing you well.
Be patient with yourself. Grief has many facets and phases. Also, grief groups and therapists work wonders, especially when the meds don't. Wishing you sanctity and healing.
I lost my mom last year and had been living like a zombie for months. I realized the only way is to survive day to day is to allow myself to grieve, sometimes deep pain and uncontrollable crying, sometimes despair. I now allow myself to feel whatever it is, for how much ever long and it will cycle through and naturally move on.. and we may return to the same place again and again and that's okay too..I also found writing and reading philosophy about loss/ listening to others who grieve has been a great help in processing what I am feeling, what is hurting, what is unfair and so on.. may you find the strength to live through your loss..
Two intelligent and sensitive men talking about grief and loss. Thank you universe. If this hasbeen watched hundreds of times, that is me. So powerful and deeply moving.
I'm so sorry, Andrew. I wanted to listen to the end, but it became too painful. Too close to home. But thank you for trying to share your grief process. It helps.
14:08 So profound: Even after they are gone, our loved ones, are always with us when we need them the most. Mr. Cooper, Anderson's father, reached out to his son when Anderson was finally ready to heal. Beautiful.
Anderson, thank you for the questions you asked. But, also, a huge thank you for letting your guest speak without interrupting him. It is in that time that we get to the real heart of the matter. I see so many interviewers prattle on, seemingly because they love the sound of their own voice, and overtalk their guests right into the ground. There is a true art to being a good interviewer and so few have that in them. This is such a tender and personal subject that all of us have experience with. I think you did a fine job with your interview.
We need more conversations just like this one. Grief “ I hope stays with me forever “ ( Andrew ) I haven’t been the same same my Mom died (1982) I just learned to live with grief 🙏
I was taking care of my father during his last year and I will always be grateful that I was able to be with him until the end. He went in peace at home surrounded by his loved ones.
It's been five years for Andrew and Anderson since the passing of their mothers and yet the pain and grief emoting from them makes it seem like it was only yesterday. It has been ten years since my mother passed, and the greatest pain for me today is that I fear I can't remember every special thing about her, that I do not remember or mourn her well enough. She deserved so much more from me.
What a beautiful conversation. I lost my Dad a year ago and grief can feel so incredibly lonely that I often find myself looking for others experiences to feel less so. The one shared human experience we all know is a certain and needs more compassionate and empathic discussion. Thank you for sharing!
It is very important for conversations about significant feelings between men be shown and not suppressed and open discussions about grief helps many people who struggle in silence due to being in a culture of avoidance and lack of empathy
Andrews is surfing a wave that allows him to express everything he feels deep inside, and that's so moving and so inspiring. I love him for that. Massive respect. ❤
Wowww you two just blew me away. So proud to see 2 wonderful intelligent men talking openly about the hardest and most painful subject on this planet. My god would your mums be so proud of you too! ❤️❤️ Thank you Anderson and Andrew for having the strength to open up your hearts and thoughts and sharing it with us all. I’m a mother of 3, who lost my beautiful 26 years old daughter 6 years ago and as you both say, you stay stuck and find it so hard to move on from the day they left. It’s even harder when you see the world still spinning and people still living their life as if nothing has happened. ❤️❤️ what a great sign of strength to open up this way and show other men that it’s ok not to be ok and that we need to talk about our feelings, emotions and pain. I try to encourage my boys to express how they feel and talk it out. Grief is such a difficult journey and we each do it so differently. Despite the loss the bond we feel with our precious loved ones continues, joined together forever by our heart strings. ❤
My 😮dear beloved mother died a couple of weeks ago. I am grieving and feeling lost and empty. This video made me cry and understand about grieving a lot. Thank you both.
This person is among the most human and real I’ve come across. Very insightful and attuned to his experience. In the best way, I’m envious of his ability to connect with the world. It’s inspiring.
A very beautiful conversation. Andrew holding back his tears show how much he is loved by his mom and his friends. I mean there’s sorrow, but there is also hope there. I mean his mom must be so proud that she raised such a beautiful soul. Talking about grief is not easy, yet every time he talked about his mom, he gave other strength. That’s very special
How beautiful it was to hear Andrew speak in this capacity, with this much heart and vulnerability and spirit. As he was describing the connection and perception of nature, I had the thought of how much he reminded me of these kind men in my Indigneous Knowledge classes. And then, he referenced Indigenous Knowledges. How deeply beautiful to see this in the mainstream, and how glad I am to now "know" a bit more of the kind of man he is. Glad he is a part of Hollywood. Thank you for this video.
I've lost both of my parents, my father in 2019, and my mother in 2022. I was able to be with my father when he passed, and what Cooper and Garfield describe was much more condensed for me. He was in a hospice and suffered a sudden heart attack and he was gone in mere minutes. There were no final goodbyes, but I did feel honored that I was there with him, Unfortuneately, I was not able to be there for my mother. I miss them but in a way I don't, because so much of them remain with me.
I lost my other half( my mom) 3 years ago. I wasn’t prepared to see this conversation and it opened my hidden grief and feelings again. I wasn’t able to see her or talk to her on her last week. She wasn’t supposed to die, she went to the hospital for urine infection, but Covid was a part of it and I couldn’t find out what happened that week. 3 days before her passing she was able to reach me by a nurses phone and told me: time is ending, please you and your brothers keep close and don’t fight. That were her last words for me, after she passed 2 days after. Nothing is the same, I will miss her to my last Breath. And
Same here! I feel your pain. My mum was the center of my universe and I now feel like I am just orbiting meaninglessly around empty space.. her memories are all I have to live with till I meet her someday!
I remember seeing Andrew’s interview on Colbert during the pandemic. I had lost my brother close to this time - and just as he states in the beginning of the video, he was the first person that had me questioning death as a whole. I struggled, and still do, with the concept that this living person was no longer living. But it was Andrew’s words about grief that stuck with me and helped me develop a better understanding on the way that I felt.
I already was a fan of Andrew, but man, after watching this.... what an incredible soul! I'm also struggling with grief and they said some profound things. Thank you for this!
This was an amazing conversation that I really needed to hear. Grief is so hard. Thank you both for letting us in to your own grief, it helps so much to know that I’m not alone in this pain.
Grief is an endlessly healing wound. There is a dichotomy in grief, because there is often, particularly when it involves an illness, both loss and relief. I cared for my mother for fifteen years with Multiple Myeloma. Dedicated my life to the endless worry, constant fight and inevitable end. Won't ever know who I am without her. The world is so still.
oh my god andrew ive been so lost and this has given me some sort of validation of this deep pain. this alone has given me the ability to know I can live again
The grief you suffer when losing your Mother is like no other. My mother's name was Diana and when she was dying she was only worried about my son and I. 13 years since I lost her. Miss her everyday! ❤
As somebody the age of Andrew Garfield now and lost my mother at 11. It has impacted my life a lot. I have been privileged in many respects, but my desire to achieve died a lot that day. I realize I should do things for myself but, when you lose a mom the world seems less meaningful. For me at least. Can't speak for others.
Soo deep. Thank you. When you visited stephen colbert you also said something so beautiful I had to write it down for future reference: This is all of the unexpressed love,” he continues. “That grief will remain with us until we pass because we never get enough time with each other, no matter whether someone lives until 60 or 15 or 99. I hope this grief stays with me because it’s all of the unexpressed love that I didn’t get to tell her, and I told her every day, she was the best of us. ---Andrew Garfield
Loss my father earlier this year. Grief is so weird but the way that Andrew articulates it makes it’s more digestible and less like this big scary thing. This convo was beautiful thank you ❤.
This resonates so much with me and I'm sure millions of people out there. Fantastic insight into grief but also those incredible relationships between sons and mothers. I will always miss mine but this brings a tear because of the sheer love in their grief.
Thank you for this vulnerable conversation in which you express exactly how I feel. Grief has been my companion for 28 years, since I lost my mom. I also lost my big brother within 3 years of her passing. In the last year and a half, I have lost a few dear friends and my father. As an orphan, it is sometimes difficult to navigate this world. With each loss my heart breaks and opens more. I ride the wave of healing, I talk about them often and I support/connect with others going through grief. This is how we honor our loved ones. Thank you Anderson for this beautiful space you are creating for a topic most don’t want to address.
This was completely mesmerizing. What an incredible conversation. Garfield is astoundingly introspective and astute, and so well-spoken that I am just blown away by how he related his experience with grieving.
I lost my Mom two months ago , and to say I am lost is an understatement, it’s a mix of surreal, unreal and real that I’ll have to live with the rest of my life 😞
do not feel like all is lost. A LOT is lost. I know this from the loss of my own mother in 2021. I was 22 at the time, not one bit ready to lose my mother. I had such dreams, and such plans to make her proud. But this loss is something that will make us beautiful and powerful. It is not a gift by any means. It is a tragedy, but your mother's life was a gift. The time you had with her was a gift. As much a gift as my time with my mother is. I cherish it still, and I hope you can as well. Good luck with your life friend.
This is an absolutely stunning conversation. I knew there was a reason I’ve been so drawn to Andrew Garfield all these years as a former lit student. He, & Anderson, have such a poetic, shrewd, sensitive perception of life and people and nature and it’s incredibly touching. Also of course, it’s unfortunately quite rare to see two men open themselves up so generously and with such emotional wisdom. This deserves multiple watches so I can really absorb some of your points 🥹🙏
I felt home here, the comment section is a warm hug. Grief is such a deeply human experience, felt by all at some point in life. I'll share what i have learnt over these last years - I lost my mom to cancer in 2016, and being a teenager I never had grappled with grief before. With her loss, my sense of purpose (who she thought I was, and could be) were lost too. With it, like Andrew, my ambitions drowned. But I believe grief, in its profound weight, often served as a compass, guiding me back to my truest selves when I strayed. So in grief, I got reminded that in those inevitable moments of being lost-moments that will happen, perhaps repeatedly-there was a hidden invitation to rediscover who I am. For isn’t life, after all, the ongoing journey of losing and finding oneself, again and again?
I lost my mother & husband and I’ve never grieved this deeply. Amazing conversation. I am a believer and that could be part of it, but this love expressed has warmed my heart.
This wasn’t an interview. This was a true conversation between two people who actually actively listened to each other. They made such a personal journey beautiful. The respect and caring from each to the other was extraordinarily moving.
I could not have said it any better.
I was listening to this as I was working and had to stop literally every minute to look at Anderson and Andrew speaking and watch their emotion. My heart is so deeply touched.
One of the many things Andrew shared with us that was so on point and that I am understanding more and more is the following. (This may not be exact wording however close enough)
Andrew: The heart lives by breaking in loss........
I want it to break me open
I want to be lost
It feels healthier
Then to feel like you know where you're heading"..........
This is so beautifully expressed and very much how I am experiencing life.
To Anderson & Andrew (if by some stroke of "luck" you read this", I am deeply grateful for this video and your discussion. You are both caring, wonderful, lovely human beings. I will be sharing video with my friends. Not everyone has arrived at this level of awareness yet, however for those who may have difficulty relating to the incredible depth of your conversation, I sense there will be an opening to their consciousness.
This conversation will definitely be the catalyst in helping people all over the world.
Thank you both for your authenticity and your vulnerability ❤️🙏
“Grief is love that has no place to go”. Can’t remember who said it first, but years ago this hit hard.
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Man that is tragically poetic.
Similar to “What is grief, if not love perservering?” That was from Wandavision
My favorite is from God of War Ragnarok: “To grieve deeply… is to have loved fully” and “The culmination of love is grief”
I once heard Regina King say it when talking about the death of her only Son.
What is so wonderful is that two men who have lost their mothers are emotional, vulnerable and sweet. It is a sign of strength to show emotions like grief, sorrow and pain.🎉
I didn’t watch yet and I am interested to watch, but I feel like I will be the same as you, I may not be able to watch at all. I lost my beautiful 58-year-old sister in a to pancreatic cancer. It’s still too new and hurts so bad and still surreal. 🙏🏻💔
@@Jojo61468take your time. When you think you can watch, do so in little parts, then walk away. Anderson talks about how he only recently could face the grief of his family members but can 9nly do so in short segments but is finding it gets easier. My condolences about your sister. The loss must be profound.
@@Jojo61468 So sorry for your profound loss 🫶🙏
What a lovely empathic comment❤ @@annalinacifani1280
That is so healing and great to share the loss of loveones the tears and the Importence of feeling grief. Thank you both ❤
I just can’t with Andrew and his spirit. The kindness he wears on his sleeve is so generous, and surely has caused heartache at times - and yet his still does it - THAT is courage and true strength.
@@juliannaricci2771 Beautifully stated comment.
‘’Tell me about your mom’’… what I’d give to have the opportunity to talk about my mom. Almost a year since her passing and no one has asked about her. My heart hurts carrying her memory and my memories with her alone.
I lost my mom six days after I turned 8. This year marks 40 years. I have had no one to talk to either-my father and brother struggle with that-a lot of my relatives are gone. But I speak about her every day-just in small ways and if I don't speak out openly-I speak to myself and in some way to her. Find a way to create dialogue for yourself. Bc sometimes there isn't anyone to speak to. I don't have a lifetime of memories with my mom but I carry her within me-closely every day. You are not alone. Yes, the grief will stay with you your entire lifetime but it changes in time. I wish you many blessings on this journey.
@@AVintageNerdagreed with this! you can also write or if you have the money try a therapist. or even just online forums. anywhere you can express your thoughts, feelings, have your voice...and let those things go
What’s your favourite memory of your mother?
@rivkablue14 I'd love to hear about your mother. Release those memories.
@@AVintageNerdthat is so touching. I am so sorry for your loss. No one should lose a parent so young…xo
"I walked a mile with Pleasure;
She chatted all the way;
But left me none the wiser
For all she had to say.
I walked a mile with Sorrow;
And ne'er a word said she;
But, oh! The things I learned from her,
When Sorrow walked with me."
- Robert Browning Hamilton
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My dear mother passed on Sunday and this resonates with me deeply. I feel like I'm wandering through a dream, that this cannot be real.
My mom passed on August 25th…. And I just can’t seem to believe she’s actually gone. I have all her texts and voicemails saved, and I hear your voice often. I still feel her hugs and embrace when I’m knelt down praying. I just know her and my grandma are up there having a blast now, and that brings me comfort.
Rip to your mom, you will meet her again x
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@@28copland yes sir. she’s up there with the martyrs of Palestine and one day she will introduce me to them.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. ❤
"Sons have been losing their mothers for thousands and thousands of years and they will continue to, and you've just been initiated into that awareness and into that reality." And in the same way, daughters have been losing their fathers, and sisters have been losing their brothers, and daughters have been losing their mothers. Thank you, Andrew and Anderson.
And mothers and fathers have been losing their children. It feels so wrong and difficult to fathom 💔
Andrew Garfield needs his own podcast
Nah, he needs his own book.
@@nivarad A book & a podcast. The beauty of his voice and its expressiveness really enhance the written words.
I'm sitting here trying to figure out what might encapsulate all he has to offer. A podcast seems too pedestrian for him (yet I'm positive he'd say differently). A book, perhaps.
@@jm1657 I agree with both. A book has an ending. Atleast with podcasts we’d get multiple takes on his thoughts.
The vulnerability and connection in your conversation to one another is beautiful.
Andrews mother was obviously an extraordinary person because she raised at least one extraordinary son. Not many people can vocalize their feelings in such a way. And Anderson, to my mind, is the best interviewer on television. So many others have preconceived ideas of the answers to their questions and don’t really listen to the answers they get. Anderson really listens and has a way of making us listeners feel privileged to sit in on great conversations. Great interview, great series.
I have worked in hospice and end of life care for 15 years and I don't think I've witnessed someone be able to talk about their grief and loss in such a beautiful and truthful way. I will always watch a clip of Andrew talking about grief, so beautiful, so raw, so unapologetic, and so important for all to hear.
I have recommended his Anderson Cooper's Podcast "All there is" to so many people dealing with grief. It is HANDS DOWN one of THE best Podcasts I've ever listened to. It is so interesting to hear so many different people's perspective on grief and how they handle/deal and cope with it. He is a beautiful soul that one....I swear he would be the most amazing friend. We all need a friend like Anderson!
Your sharing about your work experience without watching grief is shocking to me and it also shiws how difficult it is for People to show there pain of loss😢
@@traceyv9961i’m thankfully not dealing with any grief but i don’t want to take this moment for granted. I’m appreciative of my circumstances at the moment. I will still give it a listen, thanks for the recommendation
I lost both my parents and the only brother I had in a matter of three years. Awful. I’m an orphan, I feel like an orphan. My grief is always evolving but never going away. I have a constant sense of sadness at a deep level. I changed as a person. I keep going because I’m a warrior, but I feel a constant pain in my heart. Grief is rough 😭😭😭
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I am so sorry for your profound losses. I hope your experience of grief becomes much easier to bear. God bless you!
@@mariatourreilles331 There’s no words to express how sorry I am, but try to think how happy they are when your ok and well and that will help you eventually. Talk to them as they were near you and you’ll not feel alone. Keep strong for them and that will get you through. Hugs
I wish there was something I could say or do to offer comfort. X
@@emmamakepeace8000 You already did with your kind words!
I feel honored to have been a witness to this conversation.
Came for a random interview and came out with a new perspective of life and my eyes red.
I love vulnerable men. I remember Anderson standing in Louisiana knee deep in water after Katrina and he cried. The first time ever seeing a news anchor being human.
We need to speak about grief and death more because every single one if us must face both.
Anderson Cooper and Andrew Garfield have beautiful and deep hearts. I wish them peace 🙏❤️
Wow, just wow. What a conversation
He speaks more articulately and beautifully about grief than anyone who has studied and written about it their whole lives.
I love these beautiful and healing interviews you bring to those of us who have lost a loved one. Thank you for helping us also heal Anderson.
His mother would be so proud of him! What a nice human
I love this and I so needed to hear this.
My mom passed two years ago and her not being here left me bereft. I felt like whatever was keeping on this earth was gone, like an uprooted tree. Grief has been keeping me adrift in this sea of loss, adrift from solid land. They say that time heals all but I feel like not even a hundred years would ease these feelings.
Time heals is bs. Time is unstoppable. Its frustrating having ppl say things they don't even know what it really means.
I'm sorry for your loss. There is help available to support you through this time. I suggest a psychologist or a life coach. I, too, lost my Mom. I am happy and peaceful. I do miss her sometimes, but I'm very well despite this.
Thank you for putting into words what I've not been able to this past year. I feel exactly the same way.
So perfectly said. I pray that somehow you can find a sense of peace. I feel the exact same way!!
This man has so much soul. I can't express how much I love people like this. Wise, vulnerable, observant, grateful, kind. I feel lucky to witness this beautiful exchange.
His humility and willingness to say "I don't know" allows him to be open to possibility. It's rare and beautiful.
Two absolutely amazing men. Thank you so much for sharing. xo
I cant bring myself to watch Andrew i feel painfully connected with him and it breaks me to pieces that i am physically not able to look at him in the eyes and talk to him for hours. One thing ill be angry about for the rest of my life is how physically distended we are to other humans that want to reach out to. This conv was so purely innocent thank u thank u thank u
Wow! 😢 this boy was raised right so much love. Both your mothers would be so proud of you two x
What an incredible interview. Andrew Garfield might just be one of the most eloquent young men I’ve seen/heard… in years. I believe everyone should watch or listen to this deeply moving conversation about grief.
Andrew is the sweetest of souls. His ability to articulate what so many can’t will be healing for anyone who sees this. I only got to have my dad for the first 25 years of my life and have gone 25 without him now. If I’d been told in the beginning of the short time we would have and the grief I would experience I would chose to have that brief time again.
Beautiful conversation😢! I lost my 9 year old in 1992 and my wife of 47 years I 2022. I am a research scientist yet I cannot navigate through it. I cannot cry, I take pills that do nothing. I feel Anderson’s and Andrew’s pain so much…..there are no words. Bless you both.
There are no words, grief is raw emotion. I find a lot of support in David Kesslers books and web site. Your loss is profound, sometimes our grief takes a while to emerge. Be gentle with your heart. It's hurting. You're hurting. Perhaps it's not something you consciously navigate but allow it to have it's own existence where it carries you.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. The inability to cry, the anger, the numbness... becomes unbearable. I found the following quote very helpful when I was going through great loss:
“People think that grief slowly gets smaller with time, when in reality grief stays the same size, but slowly life begins to grow bigger around it”. Wishing you well.
Be patient with yourself. Grief has many facets and phases. Also, grief groups and therapists work wonders, especially when the meds don't. Wishing you sanctity and healing.
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I lost my mom last year and had been living like a zombie for months. I realized the only way is to survive day to day is to allow myself to grieve, sometimes deep pain and uncontrollable crying, sometimes despair. I now allow myself to feel whatever it is, for how much ever long and it will cycle through and naturally move on.. and we may return to the same place again and again and that's okay too..I also found writing and reading philosophy about loss/ listening to others who grieve has been a great help in processing what I am feeling, what is hurting, what is unfair and so on.. may you find the strength to live through your loss..
Two intelligent and sensitive men talking about grief and loss. Thank you universe. If this hasbeen watched hundreds of times, that is me. So powerful and deeply moving.
I'm so sorry, Andrew. I wanted to listen to the end, but it became too painful. Too close to home. But thank you for trying to share your grief process. It helps.
awwwww, that's a lovely statement.
I'm speechless. God bless you both
14:08 So profound: Even after they are gone, our loved ones, are always with us when we need them the most. Mr. Cooper, Anderson's father, reached out to his son when Anderson was finally ready to heal. Beautiful.
“The heart breaks and breaks and lives by breaking in times of great loss”. Andrew G explained how we all feel.
Anderson, thank you for the questions you asked. But, also, a huge thank you for letting your guest speak without interrupting him. It is in that time that we get to the real heart of the matter. I see so many interviewers prattle on, seemingly because they love the sound of their own voice, and overtalk their guests right into the ground. There is a true art to being a good interviewer and so few have that in them. This is such a tender and personal subject that all of us have experience with. I think you did a fine job with your interview.
This was an experience. Andrew is so open and vulnerable about his grief and loss that it deeply connects with the most visceral part of me.
what a beautiful human being
We need more conversations just like this one. Grief “ I hope stays with me forever “ ( Andrew )
I haven’t been the same same my Mom died (1982) I just learned to live with grief 🙏
Andrew talking about grief here and on Colbert is just lovely and really puts into words the feelings people have during grief
he is her master piece
Truly love this. People need to talk about grief more. Not just an interview but a conversation between 2 people.
he is born to portray grief, the ending of his second spiderman movie is heartbreaking and you can feel it in his emotions
i love rediscovering and reconnecting with your inner child. i'm glad these humans have the experience of finding themselves again
What a beautiful conversation. I miss my mum everyday 🙏🙏🙏
Awww I love Andrew Garfield 🥹. He’s such a wholesome person. He’s so precious.
I was taking care of my father during his last year and I will always be grateful that I was able to be with him until the end. He went in peace at home surrounded by his loved ones.
He seems like such a sweet person. As does Anderson. I just want to hug them both.
thank you so much….very profound, generous and lovely
It's been five years for Andrew and Anderson since the passing of their mothers and yet the pain and grief emoting from them makes it seem like it was only yesterday. It has been ten years since my mother passed, and the greatest pain for me today is that I fear I can't remember every special thing about her, that I do not remember or mourn her well enough. She deserved so much more from me.
“The wound is the only way to the gift.”
Beautifully put.
A very real conversation about an almost impossible topic: the loss of one's mom and how it affects you deep in your core.
What a beautiful conversation. I lost my Dad a year ago and grief can feel so incredibly lonely that I often find myself looking for others experiences to feel less so. The one shared human experience we all know is a certain and needs more compassionate and empathic discussion. Thank you for sharing!
Unbelievable beautiful description of the loss of a mother from a son ❤
It is very important for conversations about significant feelings between men be shown and not suppressed and open discussions about grief helps many people who struggle in silence due to being in a culture of avoidance and lack of empathy
Andrews is surfing a wave that allows him to express everything he feels deep inside, and that's so moving and so inspiring. I love him for that. Massive respect. ❤
I've always loved Anderson Cooper and never more than recently. He is the ULTIMATE interviewer!!!
Wowww you two just blew me away. So proud to see 2 wonderful intelligent men talking openly about the hardest and most painful subject on this planet. My god would your mums be so proud of you too! ❤️❤️ Thank you Anderson and Andrew for having the strength to open up your hearts and thoughts and sharing it with us all. I’m a mother of 3, who lost my beautiful 26 years old daughter 6 years ago and as you both say, you stay stuck and find it so hard to move on from the day they left. It’s even harder when you see the world still spinning and people still living their life as if nothing has happened. ❤️❤️ what a great sign of strength to open up this way and show other men that it’s ok not to be ok and that we need to talk about our feelings, emotions and pain. I try to encourage my boys to express how they feel and talk it out. Grief is such a difficult journey and we each do it so differently. Despite the loss the bond we feel with our precious loved ones continues, joined together forever by our heart strings. ❤
Deeply open, moving conversation. Beautiful emotionally loving.
His writing, profoundly eloquently worded.
Beautifully expressed comment 🫶
I had to look up his mom, I wanted to see the woman who made such an impact on him ❤
This conversation is a gift to those who are able to hear it.
Thankyou to you both.
What beautiful human beings.
This conversation is a masterpiece on grief. Most sincere gratitude. Thank you.
I can honestly listen to andrew speak about grief forever. There's a power in his voice that just resonates with me, its just amazing
My 😮dear beloved mother died a couple of weeks ago. I am grieving and feeling lost and empty. This video made me cry and understand about grieving a lot. Thank you both.
This person is among the most human and real I’ve come across. Very insightful and attuned to his experience. In the best way, I’m envious of his ability to connect with the world. It’s inspiring.
UNBELIEVABLE INTERVIEW. HEART-FELT, VULNERABLE, REAL. THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH!
A very beautiful conversation. Andrew holding back his tears show how much he is loved by his mom and his friends. I mean there’s sorrow, but there is also hope there. I mean his mom must be so proud that she raised such a beautiful soul. Talking about grief is not easy, yet every time he talked about his mom, he gave other strength. That’s very special
How beautiful it was to hear Andrew speak in this capacity, with this much heart and vulnerability and spirit. As he was describing the connection and perception of nature, I had the thought of how much he reminded me of these kind men in my Indigneous Knowledge classes. And then, he referenced Indigenous Knowledges.
How deeply beautiful to see this in the mainstream, and how glad I am to now "know" a bit more of the kind of man he is. Glad he is a part of Hollywood.
Thank you for this video.
I've lost both of my parents, my father in 2019, and my mother in 2022. I was able to be with my father when he passed, and what Cooper and Garfield describe was much more condensed for me. He was in a hospice and suffered a sudden heart attack and he was gone in mere minutes. There were no final goodbyes, but I did feel honored that I was there with him, Unfortuneately, I was not able to be there for my mother. I miss them but in a way I don't, because so much of them remain with me.
There was a depth to this conversation I wasn’t expecting. Anyone who’s experienced loss might want to hear this.
I lost my other half( my mom) 3 years ago. I wasn’t prepared to see this conversation and it opened my hidden grief and feelings again. I wasn’t able to see her or talk to her on her last week. She wasn’t supposed to die, she went to the hospital for urine infection, but Covid was a part of it and I couldn’t find out what happened that week. 3 days before her passing she was able to reach me by a nurses phone and told me: time is ending, please you and your brothers keep close and don’t fight. That were her last words for me, after she passed 2 days after. Nothing is the same, I will miss her to my last Breath. And
I am so sorry. I do understand. Hugs.
I’m so very sorry 💝🙏🌈
💔 she will always be with you.
Same here! I feel your pain. My mum was the center of my universe and I now feel like I am just orbiting meaninglessly around empty space.. her memories are all I have to live with till I meet her someday!
@@AJ-kf4fc I can relate 💝🌈
I remember seeing Andrew’s interview on Colbert during the pandemic. I had lost my brother close to this time - and just as he states in the beginning of the video, he was the first person that had me questioning death as a whole. I struggled, and still do, with the concept that this living person was no longer living. But it was Andrew’s words about grief that stuck with me and helped me develop a better understanding on the way that I felt.
I already was a fan of Andrew, but man, after watching this.... what an incredible soul! I'm also struggling with grief and they said some profound things. Thank you for this!
This was an amazing conversation that I really needed to hear. Grief is so hard. Thank you both for letting us in to your own grief, it helps so much to know that I’m not alone in this pain.
Yes it is realy helpful that we all experience grief it makse it more easy to stay with it not feeling so alone or lonely. ❤
Grief is an endlessly healing wound.
There is a dichotomy in grief, because there is often, particularly when it involves an illness, both loss and relief.
I cared for my mother for fifteen years with Multiple Myeloma. Dedicated my life to the endless worry, constant fight and inevitable end. Won't ever know who I am without her. The world is so still.
oh my god andrew ive been so lost and this has given me some sort of validation of this deep pain. this alone has given me the ability to know I can live again
The grief you suffer when losing your Mother is like no other. My mother's name was Diana and when she was dying she was only worried about my son and I. 13 years since I lost her. Miss her everyday! ❤
As somebody the age of Andrew Garfield now and lost my mother at 11. It has impacted my life a lot. I have been privileged in many respects, but my desire to achieve died a lot that day. I realize I should do things for myself but, when you lose a mom the world seems less meaningful. For me at least. Can't speak for others.
Thanks for posting this. This is so real...
❤ I agree
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Yes it is realy a gift for me to watch that conversation. Came in the right Moment. ❤
So thankful for Anderson doing this series and Andrew is so present and sharing. Lost my Dad earlier this year and it is all still so present
I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this conversation. Thank you, gentleman. This was profoundly insightful.
Just beautiful ❤️ Andrew is right, this is a service greatly needed.
Soo deep. Thank you. When you visited stephen colbert you also said something so beautiful I had to write it down for future reference: This is all of the unexpressed love,” he continues. “That grief will remain with us until we pass because we never get enough time with each other, no matter whether someone lives until 60 or 15 or 99. I hope this grief stays with me because it’s all of the unexpressed love that I didn’t get to tell her, and I told her every day, she was the best of us. ---Andrew Garfield
Beautiful. Profound. Simple.
Thank you!
This is amazing! Love when humans talk about REAL things!
So good to see men show their deepest emotion and pain. Lots of love from me here in Brazil.
Loss my father earlier this year. Grief is so weird but the way that Andrew articulates it makes it’s more digestible and less like this big scary thing. This convo was beautiful thank you ❤.
The most beautiful conversation I’ve ever heard. Thank you. We all thank you.
What a terrific interview. I love finding out people's stories
This resonates so much with me and I'm sure millions of people out there. Fantastic insight into grief but also those incredible relationships between sons and mothers. I will always miss mine but this brings a tear because of the sheer love in their grief.
Thank you for this vulnerable conversation in which you express exactly how I feel. Grief has been my companion for 28 years, since I lost my mom. I also lost my big brother within 3 years of her passing. In the last year and a half, I have lost a few dear friends and my father. As an orphan, it is sometimes difficult to navigate this world. With each loss my heart breaks and opens more. I ride the wave of healing, I talk about them often and I support/connect with others going through grief.
This is how we honor our loved ones. Thank you Anderson for this beautiful space you are creating for a topic most don’t want to address.
this is beautiful andrew thank you. my heart goes out to you. going through grief rn and this resonated well with
This was completely mesmerizing. What an incredible conversation. Garfield is astoundingly introspective and astute, and so well-spoken that I am just blown away by how he related his experience with grieving.
I cried when he started to cry. He is such a pure and genuine soul.
I lost my Mom two months ago , and to say I am lost is an understatement, it’s a mix of surreal, unreal and real that I’ll have to live with the rest of my life 😞
do not feel like all is lost. A LOT is lost. I know this from the loss of my own mother in 2021. I was 22 at the time, not one bit ready to lose my mother. I had such dreams, and such plans to make her proud. But this loss is something that will make us beautiful and powerful. It is not a gift by any means. It is a tragedy, but your mother's life was a gift. The time you had with her was a gift. As much a gift as my time with my mother is. I cherish it still, and I hope you can as well. Good luck with your life friend.
This is an absolutely stunning conversation. I knew there was a reason I’ve been so drawn to Andrew Garfield all these years as a former lit student. He, & Anderson, have such a poetic, shrewd, sensitive perception of life and people and nature and it’s incredibly touching. Also of course, it’s unfortunately quite rare to see two men open themselves up so generously and with such emotional wisdom. This deserves multiple watches so I can really absorb some of your points 🥹🙏
Lost my Mother suddenly when I was 40 and I totally understood everything you talked about. Thank you ❤
I felt home here, the comment section is a warm hug. Grief is such a deeply human experience, felt by all at some point in life. I'll share what i have learnt over these last years - I lost my mom to cancer in 2016, and being a teenager I never had grappled with grief before. With her loss, my sense of purpose (who she thought I was, and could be) were lost too. With it, like Andrew, my ambitions drowned. But I believe grief, in its profound weight, often served as a compass, guiding me back to my truest selves when I strayed. So in grief, I got reminded that in those inevitable moments of being lost-moments that will happen, perhaps repeatedly-there was a hidden invitation to rediscover who I am. For isn’t life, after all, the ongoing journey of losing and finding oneself, again and again?
I lost my mother & husband and I’ve never grieved this deeply. Amazing conversation. I am a believer and that could be part of it, but this love expressed has warmed my heart.