cant help but noticing how he manages to honor his mother, his dad, his brother, steven, lin manuel miranda, all his supporters, and the musicians just in this short segment. absolutely a class act and a master of gratitude.
He comes across as a very genuine, kind, gentle person. A human being. Someone who is aware of their privilege and influence, and uses it for good. Increasingly, and particularly in Hollywood, that's a rare thing. Keanu has a similar energy.
It’s perfect. I lost my husband very suddenly after a short marriage, the love I feel for him, the love I still want to share with him is heartbreaking.
Lost some loved ones a few years ago and still take it pretty hard and hearing grief put in this way really helps me see this part of my life in a more positive way. I just clicked this looking for spiderman stuff.
@@99annanic This reminds me of the conversation he had with then VP Biden not long after Biden's son died of brain cancer. Similarly respectful, honest and genuine interation.
@@cameroncothern3218 Definitely. I get the hype everyone had, but it was just so disrespectful, imo. Sure, he did a great job in that movie, but he wasn't allowed to talk about it, which should be obvious to anyone in show business. And he's also there to promote the movie that he IS allowed to talk about and did an absolutely fantastic job in.
"i hope this grief stays with me because it is all the unexpeessed love i didn't get to tell her" i really could not have put it better. what a wonderful way to look at grief
“What is grief, if not love persevering?” Andrew is an absolute angel, it’s heartbreaking to hear what happened but hopefully it makes him even stronger than what he is now…such a remarkable human being with outstanding strength.
It still blows my mind that a show about a red robot-man and his super-powered witch wife could hit you that hard emotionally, and yet it's such a beautiful sentiment and as Andrew showed here such a real human feeling, this whole part of the interview is incredible and it brought tears to my eyes, how something so sad can be turned into something so beautiful.
This is a masterpiece for those who are afraid of being happy and have a avoidant personality that feeling of being loved scares the shit out of the person with this personality and that if they shut off their personality and in a specific mind set they would rather leave the world a better place for the next generation rather than being loved and when they are in a fresh relationship the avoident self sabotage themselves
If this doesn't bring at least a single tear, you should question your humanity. AG is THE intersection of acting ability, sincerity & humility. LMM made an excellent casting choice/gamble.
It makes me think of that scene in Fleabag when she's talking about the passing of her mother and says "I don't know where to put all the love I have for her." Grief really is unexpressed love.
Just wanted to say I really liked the way Colbert handled Garfield's answer on his grief. Looked him in the eyes, thanked him for sharing, held his hand with both his own. And that's enough, because the pain they feel is their own, and you are not there to say you know it, because you don't. You only have to show that you are listening, that you are there for them. Brilliant.
huh? I can't say I know their pain of losing a loved one? grieving a loved one is a common human experience. I'd say it's hard to find someone who hasn't gone through that pain.
@@diegoariel4449 okay but that's rather selfish of the person who is speaking about their pain and yet doesn't let me speak about mine. even going so far as to say I'm not there to say I know their pain because I don't know their pain like OP stated. pretty self centered of them. kind of makes me wonder if they should be speaking to a diary instead of a person if they want to be treated like their pain is the only pain that matters.
@@jessykaros it's not like you can't talk about your pov too because they're selfish, but rather hear them first to let them know that they're being heard, their feeling is accepted and you're there for them. There's nothing wrong if you want to talk about your problem too, but we did all of that to respect them so you can be respected as well
So true! I was blessed to be able to spend a short time getting to know Andrew on this deep level and you are absolutely correct, he is a genuine and authentically beautiful soul.
"I love talking about it by the way so if I cry, it's only a beautiful thing. This is all the unexpressed love, right? The grief that will remain with us until we pass. We never get enough time with each other..." And he ends his beautiful speech with "thank you for letting me talk about her." 😭😭😭😭
Andrew Garfield said this so heartfelt and beautifully. I’ve certainly heard about grief helping you mentally, but never in this perspective before. It makes me like Andrew even more. It’s nice that he felt comfortable at some level to share something so personal and cry in public. I think it’s great that Andrew and his brother and father are so close too, and they have a strong love. And about the love for his mother being shown through art is nice too.
@@KickSilverOMG I don't exactly think that it's something to be placed on a scale of normalcy. Feelings, no matter who you are sharing them with, are the most intimate human connection. You never know what reaction you will get for bearing your soul as he did, and even though most people will come back with the kind response that this audience did, there are a lot that wouldn't have reacted so kindly. Andrew is strong to be so open in front of so many people. Because yes, even though it is 2021, and all feelings should be accepted, there's still that human part of us all when we begin to open up that says "what if they judge me"
Andrew is such a great personality, so humanistic and so gentle. It's his natural charm and I can't begin to express I'm so glad to be alive during his time
This is the kind of shit we need to show boys AND men. Emotions aren't weakness. Crying isn't for the weak. Being open and loving and loving openly - that's the gift of life. It's yours. Don't deny yourself a life of living in the pursuit of pretending something you're not.
This is something incredible, how strong and brave he is. He takes deep breaths to carry on with poise. He is unafraid of exposing his vulnerability and emotions to the world. He is emotional but he doesn’t let them take charge of his person. This is what strength looks like. It is not the repressing of emotions, but the ability to express them without succumbing to them.
He usually stutters a lot, wich is endearing on it's own. But the moment he started to talk about his mom he stopped his stuttering. It honestly felt like everything he was saying after bringing up his mom was so heartfelt and pouring with emotions. It just shows the respect and love he has for her
I think he stutters really fast because he's very energetic and probably thinks fast. But at this moment everything slowed down and thought very clearly and even let his heart speak. It was a beautiful moment to see on air.
He had me crying because I think I my beautiful mother who has read the Bible twice in her life. When she started getting to the point she knew she wouldn't be here to many years ahead was when she read the Bible a second time. She knew every word and meaning in the Bible with a 6th grade education and I can hardly pronounce many of words and the understanding with a full course education. My grandfather taught himself how to read and studied the Bible and taught this to his kids. He never went to school and was a brilliant person in reading and writing. He read many different books on religion and listened to tapes of a well known person who studied the Bible. I wish my grandfather were here to speak to people about what he learned because we would all believe in God and know he really exist. I believe Andrew is a Christian and by this his pain from losing his mother gives him hope that he will see her again in God's time to call us home.
I've been carrying my grief like a weight that drags me down into a depression but the way Andrew has reframed it so beautifully, I will try to see it as a light that lifts me out of the darkness I've been hiding in! So wonderfully said!! 💜
But also remember to let yourself feel bad on some days, just don't let it keep you feeling bad. I've learned to put aside certain times of certain days to just let myself 'feel' whatever I need to feel, if that makes sense. Your feelings and your grief are valid.
The conversations end, but your father is woven into the fibres of your being, so you can't lose him. Even when his influence on you ripples out to others around you. And then in turn, to those people who pass on some of his essence to effect more people, and so on... The emptiness of loss of the relationship is the contrasting shadow that highlights all those bright moments that you have gained in your years of knowing him. And those memories, his love for you, are yours to keep; the smile through your tears for those personal precious moments. Even as the powerful waves of grief lessen, you can smile that secret smile of knowing, with gratitude for such a man, such a father, as part of your life, and part of who you are.
This hit home for me. My twin was killed in a car crash July 22, 2020. It was not her fault. Ever since then I've been carrying a lot of hurt and a lot of grief. I've never heard grief put this way before, "unexpressed love" and finishing their "song". Thank you Andrew Garfield for putting that the way you did. A lot of people needed to hear that.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am a twin too and understand the special connection we hold with each other. There are no words that can make it better💔 I hope you find peace.
I love the fact that Stephen said nothing afterwards and just gave the man his hand. What a class act. Also loved his reaction when he asked Keanu Reeves "What do you believes happens when we die?".
One of the things I love most about this interview (and there are many) is how seriously Jon is taking everything Andrew is saying. He isn’t trying to make a joke or bringing the attention onto himself, but he is completely present in that moment of vulnerability and heartbreak. I’m so glad this show leaves room for men to express this emotional vulnerability that is so essential to our wellbeing.
My mom passed away yesterday. I'm still reeling from the shock of the situation. It was so sudden. But I could have never asked for a more amazing woman to come into my life. I'm so grateful for her.
Andrew Garfield had been less than a passing thought in my head, until this interview. I couldn’t have told you a single thing about him, other than that I was pretty sure he was an actor in whom I had little-to-no interest. After watching this interview, I can assure you I’ll never forget him. I will watch everything he’s in. What a human being. Sometimes-rarely-television has the power to transcend its medium and truly touch you; this was one of those times.
If you are going to watch his filmography start with Boy A, its a British film for which he won a BAFTA absolutely brilliant performance. Still to this day one of my favorite performance of his.
He's a brilliant actor and really carries his heart on his sleeve. Definitely take a deep dive in his work. Boy A, The Social Network, Hacksaw Ridge, Silence, Never Let Me Go, I'm Here and most recently Tick Tick Boom are golden. X
How long has it been? How old are you and how old was she? I’m terrified knowing my mother’s inevitability going to die. I still grieve for my grandparents and that’s been 21 and 35 years.
@@thundafundamentalist You don't have to now. And when the moment comes, you can do it. You will be able to do it. Their love makes us stronger, and they would've wanted us to have a good life. An I believe that they never truly leave us. They watch over us, loving us still. Because in the end. Love is what remains. May you have a wonderful life and cherish those in it, not because of the fear of loosing them but for the joy of having them near. Have a loveful life, internet person. May your mom have very good health c: Good day.
Andrew Garfield pointing directly at Stephen and Jon saying "You sow up our wounds" is among the most powerful, necessary, and fulfilling gems in late night history. Because it encapsulates the very essence of what makes Late Night so successful and admired. Comedy is a release. It's an escape. And what Stephen and Andrew does in their own respective arts has literally sown up millions of wounds across the world. What a time to be alive. 💙
DD ... Yes, it's a hard and absolute teacher, but I've learned so much. Only through pain, do we learn the lessons. Even recent, it's taught me again how precious life is. I lost a beloved pet of almost 16 years, and I fight daily to remember the good times and not cry. It's not the passing that is bad, but it's the missing her daily that is what hurts. So, again, Grief reminds me that we all only get so long here.
Well said it. I lost my dad to covid 19 in march. Never expected... My days with him at the hospital haunt me everytime through my head. Until this day , I still cry... Some days aré better AND others justo, a deep hole in your stomach.. its incredible..that he isnt with us anymore. Pray to God, for him.. for all the people who died from covid , to be happy and eternals in heaven. But one thing for sure, they got us in a signature that nobody want to enroll for. But some way some how, we have to deal trough a love one.
Andrew is the most textbook actor in the best way. He's so clearly born for this. Im surprised he survived being born with his heart so far up his sleeve.
Whoa. Chef Andrés must be cutting onions backstage. I'm... very sorry for the Garfield family's loss but am glad he had a chance to get some of it out. And he's right, Stephen. You sew up our wounds.
I have heard two of the most beautiful takes on grief this year. On WandaVision: Vision: “What is grief, if not love persevering?” … and now Andrew Garfield on this interview. What a perfect time to hear these things. I’m sure many people needed to hear this and I hope it helped some. #AndrewGarfield
This movie and interview shattered me. I lost my older sister in April and my life has utterly stopped moving. And yet I know this grief will never end nor do I want it to because it really is all my unexpressed love. She was only 26. My better half. I love you Steph and I miss you everyday.
I genuinely pray for your solace, for your healing my dear. It may be cliché to say, but you now have your own personal angel watching over you. My deepest condolences for your loss and my sincere prayer for your healing. ❤️
I lost my sister unexpectedly in August. She was 40. So I understand how you feel. Sending all my love to you and your family. What Andrew said was so beautiful.
Hi Sam, I hope you wakes up in a good side of the bed today, I hope your water is as fresh as the waterfall, I hope your coffe is the most delicious coffee and your breakfast is complementing the beauty of your day, I hope your day goes well and I hope good things and only good things come to you, wheter there is sunshine or the the weather is not bright, I hope the warmth of everyone's kindness embrace and protects you, your older sister is very proud of you. Have a good day Sam, thank you
I’m so sorry for your loss. Next week is ten years since one of my best friends passed away suddenly at the age of 26, and I am still struggling with it. It does get easier but never goes away.
I’m not really into musical theater but I do like Andrew. Listening to him talk about his mother made me think of my grandmother who I lost almost 8 years ago. We do carry this grief with us forever.
he’s such a poet. so beautiful how gratuitous he is and so in touch with himself and his connections. this is what a man is, we love you andrew garfield.
I cried over "I hope this grief stays with me". Coz I still cry over the loss of loved ones, and sometimes I feel I'm overreacting coz they passed a long long time ago but here you are Andrew G. telling me this is a beautiful thing.
i still tear up watching this magnificent man speaking about his grief. Stephen, himself, had experienced tragic grief in his early years, losing his father and 2 brothers in a plane crash. The empathy Stephen exhibits is extraordinary.
“I hope this grief stays with me” is such a true statement. My dad committed suicide 7 tears ago , I love talking about him/listening to song that make me remember him, both in a positive and a sad light…My biggest fear is the day coming where I don’t get choked up/emotional when talking about him. He was the best.
I am SO sorry for your loss. You’ll be in my thoughts. I lost my dad 14 years ago this last October. I’ve never heard grief explained this way until he said it the way he did, and it was almost freeing, like an epiphany to me as to why it still hurts so much. I still cry and get emotional to this day when I think of my dad, but from this moment forward it will always be a “beautiful thing.”
The most beautiful quality in a person is tenderness. Andrew seems to be a delightfully sensitive man, untarnished by fame, success and ego. This is so rare..
I love what Andrew said about grief. I have to wonder if some artists leave us so soon because of the fire that burns within them. My son passed at age 36, and he was an incredible artist. I listened to those words with tears in my eyes for my son David, for John, and for Andrew’s mom.
As someone who lost his mother to cancer at 29, I can confirm that the grief does stay with you. To reference another play, the grief is like a brick you keep in your pocket. After a while you forget its there, sometimes. But the reminder that it's there is constant.
Man the way Andrew said in his interview with Stephen Colbert: “Jon and my Mother were both artists and they were warriors of art and they knew the power of leaving the world in a slightly more beautiful state than when they found it” makes this video hit even more in the feels
andrew is one of the most honest people and artists i've ever seen, so much so that it even shines through his performances on screen. seeing an actor, especially a man be so open and vulnerable is truly something special.
I certainly wasn’t expecting to cry this morning. Although he expressed himself eloquently, I think we are all reacting to the true expression of his soul.
I wish I could get the entirety of the “grief” monologue tattooed on me or just framed somewhere in my apartment forever. Been grieving my mom for more than a month now, and it’s only getting more painful with each day, but Andrew’s words have touched my soul and even somehow made me feel better in some weird sense.
What a brave person to allow himself to be so vulnerable being watched by millions of people. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think of or grieve for my parents; he put into words exactly how I feel.
I lost my mom in 2020 and I grief her everyday to this day, and when some particular days it harder than other I always come back to this video and helot be sew my wounds. Thank you Andrew
Ended up shedding a few tears at this. Obviously this is still very raw for Andrew but he has such an articulate way of describing his grief. I'm sure his mother was very proud of him, and I really hope he gets all the recognition he deserves for this film.
Andrew is a gem. A true poet with his words. He is a wonderful and genuine soul and I can feel his deep passionate towards his art form. He’s such an amazing person and really a once in a lifetime kind of guy. LOVE THIS MAN.
andrew 🥺 i saw this video on reddit and had to find the actual video. i lost my mum to cancer too, it is such a horrible illness, and it makes me upset when people tell me 'oh your mum fought so hard', cancer isnt something that can be 'fought' people get sick, they get treatment and they are either lucky enough to survive or they end up dying before their time. cancer is brutal, and i miss my mum everyday. my mum was one of the best people i know, and she loved me even after everything we'd been through, i miss her everday today marks 2 months since her passing, and it's almost unfathomable to me. but your words feel like a hug. i'm sorry you lost your mum too, it tears you apart inside whilst the love you carry, as you said, sews up your wounds
Stephen Colbert is definitely one of the best modern talk show hosts. He seems genuinely interested in what his guests have to say, rather than just trying to get through a script. He’s also very naturally charismatic
i have never seen a 'celebrity' as honest and real and raw as Andrew Garfield...the way he isn't afraid to show his raw emotions and feelings, be it happiness, astonishment, pain or deep-philosophical thoughts, is inspiring... he inspires people to always be real no matter where you are... this man is something else...
That's the secret. You learn to hope it stays with you because it's just the enduring love that was never expressed. You become friends with pain when you experience real loss, because that's your only remaining connection to those who've passed. Andrew nailed this on the fly with the most beautifully articulated perspective on it, and I hope he knows how empowering that was for anyone and everyone who's seen this.
This is a moment of rare connection: raw emotions laid bare, listeners hanging on to his every word, sharing in his grief. Like Andrew says, art truly “sews up the wounds.” His portrayal of Jonathan Larson in TTB was magnificent. What a talented actor and beautiful soul.
Andrew has a real heart and it shines through in all of his roles. I can’t speak for the deceased but I can say with confidence his mom must be proud of him and was blessed to have a family like theirs.
I told my Mom every time I spoke with her how much I love her. I guess I still have lots of unexpressed love because I cry every time her name comes up. Love you Mom and thank you Andrew Garfield for this beautiful take on grief!
cant help but noticing how he manages to honor his mother, his dad, his brother, steven, lin manuel miranda, all his supporters, and the musicians just in this short segment. absolutely a class act and a master of gratitude.
He comes across as a very genuine, kind, gentle person. A human being. Someone who is aware of their privilege and influence, and uses it for good. Increasingly, and particularly in Hollywood, that's a rare thing. Keanu has a similar energy.
And of course Jonathan Larson ❤
Andrew is one of the classiest Americans with a British accent.
dude's a king
We love to see it. And feel it 🥺
“It’s the unexpressed love.” What a beautiful sentiment.
love persevering
It’s perfect. I lost my husband very suddenly after a short marriage, the love I feel for him, the love I still want to share with him is heartbreaking.
Lost some loved ones a few years ago and still take it pretty hard and hearing grief put in this way really helps me see this part of my life in a more positive way. I just clicked this looking for spiderman stuff.
Omg…. I immediately started crying. I’ve never heard someone encapsulate grief so well….
@@helenchristie6530 I’m so sorry for your loss, Helen… my sweet mother’s name was Helen…
Props to Andrew for being so honest with his feelings.
And the same for Stephen for allowing him to uninterrupted.
This is why Stephen is one of the best late night hosts right now.
also props to him for not shoehorning in a question about Spider-Man
He was just present with him. What a class act
@@99annanic This reminds me of the conversation he had with then VP Biden not long after Biden's son died of brain cancer. Similarly respectful, honest and genuine interation.
@@cameroncothern3218 Definitely. I get the hype everyone had, but it was just so disrespectful, imo. Sure, he did a great job in that movie, but he wasn't allowed to talk about it, which should be obvious to anyone in show business. And he's also there to promote the movie that he IS allowed to talk about and did an absolutely fantastic job in.
"i hope this grief stays with me because it is all the unexpeessed love i didn't get to tell her" i really could not have put it better. what a wonderful way to look at grief
truly
What he said will help so many. I hope more people stumble upon this clip just for this piece of wisdom from Andrew
“What is grief, if not love persevering?”
But doesn’t that mean he didn’t give her enough love while she was alive? Or it’s bc she’s gone so he can’t give her more type of thing?
My mom passed last year. This clip has helped me immensely.
“What is grief, if not love persevering?” Andrew is an absolute angel, it’s heartbreaking to hear what happened but hopefully it makes him even stronger than what he is now…such a remarkable human being with outstanding strength.
It’s vision
It still blows my mind that a show about a red robot-man and his super-powered witch wife could hit you that hard emotionally, and yet it's such a beautiful sentiment and as Andrew showed here such a real human feeling, this whole part of the interview is incredible and it brought tears to my eyes, how something so sad can be turned into something so beautiful.
I never fully grasped that quote until you put this context to it. Thank you.
I’m already crying😭💔
For us all who have experienced loss of a pet or family member we know what grief is. Stays with us until we pass. I lost my only brother a year ago.
Didn't mention Spider-Man once. What a class act Stephen is.
@Detective WebHead couldn’t agree more
He's here to talk about his new film _Tick, Tick, Boom!_ , not about Spider Man.
He should’ve brought it up
He's done so much more than Spiderman! He was amazing in "Angels in America!" Such a good and likeable actor!
@@chrisgomez17 what for?
Didn't expect the emotion I felt Andrew talking about his mother. Not tearing up wasn't an option
This is a masterpiece for those who are afraid of being happy and have a avoidant personality that feeling of being loved scares the shit out of the person with this personality and that if they shut off their personality and in a specific mind set they would rather leave the world a better place for the next generation rather than being loved and when they are in a fresh relationship the avoident self sabotage themselves
Agreed
Just about the most beautiful treatise on grief I’ve ever encountered.
If this doesn't bring at least a single tear, you should question your humanity.
AG is THE intersection of acting ability, sincerity & humility. LMM made an excellent casting choice/gamble.
Immediately started to sob and I wasn’t expecting it at all
It makes me think of that scene in Fleabag when she's talking about the passing of her mother and says "I don't know where to put all the love I have for her." Grief really is unexpressed love.
was just thinking about this!!
YES
And her friend says that she can give that love to her😒
Grief is not only unexpressed love but love persevering.
Thought of that scene too 😭😭
Just wanted to say I really liked the way Colbert handled Garfield's answer on his grief. Looked him in the eyes, thanked him for sharing, held his hand with both his own. And that's enough, because the pain they feel is their own, and you are not there to say you know it, because you don't. You only have to show that you are listening, that you are there for them. Brilliant.
But Colbert probably knows the feeling. He lost his father and two brothers in a plane crash, I believe.
huh? I can't say I know their pain of losing a loved one? grieving a loved one is a common human experience. I'd say it's hard to find someone who hasn't gone through that pain.
@@jessykaros People in pain don't always want to hear your story, they just want you to listen.
@@diegoariel4449 okay but that's rather selfish of the person who is speaking about their pain and yet doesn't let me speak about mine. even going so far as to say I'm not there to say I know their pain because I don't know their pain like OP stated. pretty self centered of them. kind of makes me wonder if they should be speaking to a diary instead of a person if they want to be treated like their pain is the only pain that matters.
@@jessykaros it's not like you can't talk about your pov too because they're selfish, but rather hear them first to let them know that they're being heard, their feeling is accepted and you're there for them. There's nothing wrong if you want to talk about your problem too, but we did all of that to respect them so you can be respected as well
Andrew has such a beautiful soul.
Agreed
Andrew is so deep and loving. People who get to be around him are better for it.
So true! I was blessed to be able to spend a short time getting to know Andrew on this deep level and you are absolutely correct, he is a genuine and authentically beautiful soul.
Stephen Colbert died.
@@sandracoatsworth3137 Can you elaborate? You got to meet him?
@Flying Lions yes, I attended a small Intensive and he was one of the 13 participants.
"I love talking about it by the way so if I cry, it's only a beautiful thing. This is all the unexpressed love, right? The grief that will remain with us until we pass. We never get enough time with each other..."
And he ends his beautiful speech with "thank you for letting me talk about her."
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Lost my own mother. This is exactly how I feel. What a beautiful way to honor her.
I talk about my mother whenever given the chance, and I also thank the folks listening for letting me do so. I miss her terribly. ❤
Andrew Garfield said this so heartfelt and beautifully. I’ve certainly heard about grief helping you mentally, but never in this perspective before. It makes me like Andrew even more. It’s nice that he felt comfortable at some level to share something so personal and cry in public. I think it’s great that Andrew and his brother and father are so close too, and they have a strong love. And about the love for his mother being shown through art is nice too.
Well said Adria.
You gotta be Kira from Twitter, right?
It's 2021 shouldn't it be normal already to share our feelings in public by now?
@@KickSilverOMG I don't exactly think that it's something to be placed on a scale of normalcy. Feelings, no matter who you are sharing them with, are the most intimate human connection. You never know what reaction you will get for bearing your soul as he did, and even though most people will come back with the kind response that this audience did, there are a lot that wouldn't have reacted so kindly. Andrew is strong to be so open in front of so many people. Because yes, even though it is 2021, and all feelings should be accepted, there's still that human part of us all when we begin to open up that says "what if they judge me"
@@hannahfenzl5682 True
Andrew is such a great personality, so humanistic and so gentle. It's his natural charm and I can't begin to express I'm so glad to be alive during his time
I agree.
You and me both bestie
Also carry that same energy for yourself. Be happy you're alive for your time
exactly. Like people who don’t like him? Like my whole family? I don’t understand?
This is the kind of shit we need to show boys AND men. Emotions aren't weakness. Crying isn't for the weak. Being open and loving and loving openly - that's the gift of life. It's yours. Don't deny yourself a life of living in the pursuit of pretending something you're not.
Those who believe that crying is for the weak, cry on the inside still.
This is something incredible, how strong and brave he is. He takes deep breaths to carry on with poise. He is unafraid of exposing his vulnerability and emotions to the world. He is emotional but he doesn’t let them take charge of his person. This is what strength looks like. It is not the repressing of emotions, but the ability to express them without succumbing to them.
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Wow you have put it in such a beautiful way
Well said. Thank you for that
Also he decided to shoutout his brother mid-interview for his work as a doctor and get him a standing ovation
💯 youtube has so much noise and garbage but in it there are occasionally beautiful gems of life lessons like this on how to be a quality human being .
Andrew Garfield's mind, and his heart, is beautiful. All of that translated to his acting and it's the most magnificent art I've seen.
So true 🥺
He usually stutters a lot, wich is endearing on it's own. But the moment he started to talk about his mom he stopped his stuttering. It honestly felt like everything he was saying after bringing up his mom was so heartfelt and pouring with emotions. It just shows the respect and love he has for her
I think he stutters really fast because he's very energetic and probably thinks fast. But at this moment everything slowed down and thought very clearly and even let his heart speak. It was a beautiful moment to see on air.
His mom is his confidence just like mine. Unfortunately they are both dead
@@fauzianalwogaI’m so sorry for your loss ❤
This is the most amount of love I’ve seen in 7 minutes in a while. “Grief is nothing but unexpressed love”. I love that!
He had me crying because I think I my beautiful mother who has read the Bible twice in her life. When she started getting to the point she knew she wouldn't be here to many years ahead was when she read the Bible a second time. She knew every word and meaning in the Bible with a 6th grade education and I can hardly pronounce many of words and the understanding with a full course education. My grandfather taught himself how to read and studied the Bible and taught this to his kids. He never went to school and was a brilliant person in reading and writing. He read many different books on religion and listened to tapes of a well known person who studied the Bible. I wish my grandfather were here to speak to people about what he learned because we would all believe in God and know he really exist. I believe Andrew is a Christian and by this his pain from losing his mother gives him hope that he will see her again in God's time to call us home.
I've been carrying my grief like a weight that drags me down into a depression but the way Andrew has reframed it so beautifully, I will try to see it as a light that lifts me out of the darkness I've been hiding in!
So wonderfully said!! 💜
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But also remember to let yourself feel bad on some days, just don't let it keep you feeling bad. I've learned to put aside certain times of certain days to just let myself 'feel' whatever I need to feel, if that makes sense. Your feelings and your grief are valid.
You can do it! You have my support! 😊
Sending hugs
How are you doin ❤❤❤
I’m sobbing! Andrew just always seems to find the most beautiful words.
Absolutely moved and gutted - we are approaching the end for my father and these were hard but beautiful words to hear.
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cherish it all, of course you will. and know there are so many sending you and your family love. you will meet again, hold on 🤍
Lost my father a few months ago. Make sure you say everything you want to say while you can
The conversations end, but your father is woven into the fibres of your being, so you can't lose him. Even when his influence on you ripples out to others around you. And then in turn, to those people who pass on some of his essence to effect more people, and so on... The emptiness of loss of the relationship is the contrasting shadow that highlights all those bright moments that you have gained in your years of knowing him. And those memories, his love for you, are yours to keep; the smile through your tears for those personal precious moments. Even as the powerful waves of grief lessen, you can smile that secret smile of knowing, with gratitude for such a man, such a father, as part of your life, and part of who you are.
@Joffrey Baratheon 💯 well said
Andrew Garfield is honestly one of the most genuine, heartfelt, passionate, and amazing human beings.
This hit home for me.
My twin was killed in a car crash July 22, 2020. It was not her fault. Ever since then I've been carrying a lot of hurt and a lot of grief. I've never heard grief put this way before, "unexpressed love" and finishing their "song". Thank you Andrew Garfield for putting that the way you did. A lot of people needed to hear that.
I'm sorry for your loss
Thank you for sharing. I lost my mom 7 years ago and it helps me to read the other comments here. Sending you strength and patience and love ❤️
Be strong
@@SuperSaiyan3985 not helping 😑
I am so sorry for your loss. I am a twin too and understand the special connection we hold with each other. There are no words that can make it better💔 I hope you find peace.
I love the fact that Stephen said nothing afterwards and just gave the man his hand. What a class act. Also loved his reaction when he asked Keanu Reeves "What do you believes happens when we die?".
One of the things I love most about this interview (and there are many) is how seriously Jon is taking everything Andrew is saying. He isn’t trying to make a joke or bringing the attention onto himself, but he is completely present in that moment of vulnerability and heartbreak. I’m so glad this show leaves room for men to express this emotional vulnerability that is so essential to our wellbeing.
Well said! I was thinking the same thing. Thanks for sharing so eloquently.
Jon? Who is Jon? You mean Stephen right?
@@addiatmeikokusuma8058 The leader of the musical band, him and Andrew are friends and possibly alumni...I believe?
@@purpleplanetary oh.. Thank you..I did not notice
Your observation is what makes this particular talk show unique and compelling. Sincerity. Faith. Compassion. Love.
That hurts, when he said I hope this grief stays with me.
The grief is unexpressed love. and his cup runs over 💚
Ah, when you love someone that deep, it never leaves you. He won’t have to worry about hoping the grief stays with him. It always will.
It anyways will stay for the rest of our lives. I certainly can feel him being on the same boat.
Grief is still loving your lost one. Forgeting is not an option.
It is so easy just to fall in love with Andrew Garfield! He just exudes love, and, I suspect, that flows out of a wonderful family!
They way he talks about grief is pure and freeing. I really appreciate hearing this. 💔💜
My mom passed away yesterday. I'm still reeling from the shock of the situation. It was so sudden. But I could have never asked for a more amazing woman to come into my life. I'm so grateful for her.
Extremely sorry for your loss...Her love will always remain in your heart❤️❤️
@@anushkamalviya7746 thank you so much!
I lost mine last year, suddenly as well. Big hugs to you.
@@delilahtaylor7247 thank you. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It's the worst feeling in the world.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ll pray for you. I pray that God comforts you and heals you! 🙏🏾❤️
Andrew Garfield had been less than a passing thought in my head, until this interview. I couldn’t have told you a single thing about him, other than that I was pretty sure he was an actor in whom I had little-to-no interest.
After watching this interview, I can assure you I’ll never forget him. I will watch everything he’s in. What a human being.
Sometimes-rarely-television has the power to transcend its medium and truly touch you; this was one of those times.
If you are going to watch his filmography start with Boy A, its a British film for which he won a BAFTA absolutely brilliant performance.
Still to this day one of my favorite performance of his.
He's a brilliant actor and really carries his heart on his sleeve. Definitely take a deep dive in his work. Boy A, The Social Network, Hacksaw Ridge, Silence, Never Let Me Go, I'm Here and most recently Tick Tick Boom are golden. X
Ditto. Just ditto. 🙏🏼❤️☺️
beautiful said 🙏🏻
100% agree. I will follow this man now, knowing what a kind soul he had.
This is one of the most genuine actors I’ve seen
Like so genuine
Yes, he's incredible. He's always so well spoken and indeed so genuine. It's so rare nowadays.
You never get over of losing your mother. I cry everyday!
How long has it been? How old are you and how old was she? I’m terrified knowing my mother’s inevitability going to die. I still grieve for my grandparents and that’s been 21 and 35 years.
I lost my mother 24 years ago when she was age 60 -- the age I am now. No matter your age, you forevermore feel like an orphan. 😢
@@markmh835 I lost both my parents. What you say is true. I’m with you in spirit through cyberspace. Wishing you peace!
There needs to be a way out, other than suicide. Let me know of one please. I can't do life without mom. Just can't.
@@thundafundamentalist You don't have to now. And when the moment comes, you can do it. You will be able to do it. Their love makes us stronger, and they would've wanted us to have a good life. An I believe that they never truly leave us. They watch over us, loving us still. Because in the end. Love is what remains. May you have a wonderful life and cherish those in it, not because of the fear of loosing them but for the joy of having them near. Have a loveful life, internet person. May your mom have very good health c: Good day.
I cry every time I talk about my mom. Miss her dearly 😢❤
Sorry for your loss of your wonderful mom
Andrew Garfield pointing directly at Stephen and Jon saying "You sow up our wounds" is among the most powerful, necessary, and fulfilling gems in late night history. Because it encapsulates the very essence of what makes Late Night so successful and admired. Comedy is a release. It's an escape. And what Stephen and Andrew does in their own respective arts has literally sown up millions of wounds across the world. What a time to be alive. 💙
Grief is one the greatest teachers in life yet it's the teacher no one wants to meet
So true, be blessed.
Well said .
DD ... Yes, it's a hard and absolute teacher, but I've learned so much. Only through pain, do we learn the lessons. Even recent, it's taught me again how precious life is. I lost a beloved pet of almost 16 years, and I fight daily to remember the good times and not cry. It's not the passing that is bad, but it's the missing her daily that is what hurts. So, again, Grief reminds me that we all only get so long here.
Well said it. I lost my dad to covid 19 in march. Never expected... My days with him at the hospital haunt me everytime through my head. Until this day , I still cry... Some days aré better AND others justo, a deep hole in your stomach.. its incredible..that he isnt with us anymore. Pray to God, for him.. for all the people who died from covid , to be happy and eternals in heaven. But one thing for sure, they got us in a signature that nobody want to enroll for. But some way some how, we have to deal trough a love one.
Oh wow! That caught me off guard 😣😢😥😭
"What is grief, if not love persevering?"
“Grief is all the unexpressed love”, what a beautiful statement ❤️ R.I.P. Andrew’s Mum, she will be so proud looking down at you.
"I hope this grief stays with me because it's all the unexpressed love we couldn't share with each other" - Andrew Garfield
Andrew is the most textbook actor in the best way. He's so clearly born for this. Im surprised he survived being born with his heart so far up his sleeve.
Whoa. Chef Andrés must be cutting onions backstage. I'm... very sorry for the Garfield family's loss but am glad he had a chance to get some of it out. And he's right, Stephen. You sew up our wounds.
Yea, I'm not crying, it's totally all the onions!
Well said.
Stephen has opened his heart and discussions about grief and everyone is better for it. To the man who sews up our wounds - thank you.
I got tears in my eyes when Andrew said that. Stephen is truly a class act.
"we never get enough time" is all i felt while griefing my dad
I have heard two of the most beautiful takes on grief this year. On WandaVision: Vision: “What is grief, if not love persevering?” … and now Andrew Garfield on this interview.
What a perfect time to hear these things. I’m sure many people needed to hear this and I hope it helped some. #AndrewGarfield
He truly said it best
I've heard many times over the years that grief is love with no where to go, but I'm glad more and more people are sharing this sentiment broadly.
I’m really hoping he continues to get the attention he is getting lately, he is such an amazing actor and human being! He deserves this and more
Stephen Colbert, when you took Andrews hand at the end of the interview and squeezed it, that gesture was pure love
Garfield is a deep and lovely person. Wise beyond his years.
He is 38 .. he jst doesn't look it .. he is wise for his years kek 😂
@@izza526 Yes he looks 29
Phenomenal message about appreciating each other, and "sewing up wounds" , a message to which everyone can relate. So eloquently said....
Phenomenal indeed.
Agreed 1000000000%
This movie and interview shattered me. I lost my older sister in April and my life has utterly stopped moving. And yet I know this grief will never end nor do I want it to because it really is all my unexpressed love. She was only 26. My better half. I love you Steph and I miss you everyday.
I genuinely pray for your solace, for your healing my dear. It may be cliché to say, but you now have your own personal angel watching over you. My deepest condolences for your loss and my sincere prayer for your healing. ❤️
I lost my sister unexpectedly in August. She was 40. So I understand how you feel. Sending all my love to you and your family. What Andrew said was so beautiful.
Hi Sam, I hope you wakes up in a good side of the bed today, I hope your water is as fresh as the waterfall, I hope your coffe is the most delicious coffee and your breakfast is complementing the beauty of your day, I hope your day goes well and I hope good things and only good things come to you, wheter there is sunshine or the the weather is not bright, I hope the warmth of everyone's kindness embrace and protects you, your older sister is very proud of you. Have a good day Sam, thank you
I lost my beautiful ex last year it’s so painful as he was beautiful x
I’m so sorry for your loss. Next week is ten years since one of my best friends passed away suddenly at the age of 26, and I am still struggling with it. It does get easier but never goes away.
I’m not really into musical theater but I do like Andrew. Listening to him talk about his mother made me think of my grandmother who I lost almost 8 years ago. We do carry this grief with us forever.
Andrew's Mother raised an amazing and heartwarming gentleman! Rest in peace to her and God bless Andrew!
He touched Steve's heart with that one. It's so good to see in these dark, divided times. ✌
Don’t mind me. Just swimming in my tears after watching a late night clip on UA-cam. Love you all. Let’s embrace this ride while it lasts.
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Amen ❤️💙💛
I love all of God's children. Even the ones I don't agree with. we must pray for all of us.
he’s such a poet. so beautiful how gratuitous he is and so in touch with himself and his connections. this is what a man is, we love you andrew garfield.
I cried over "I hope this grief stays with me". Coz I still cry over the loss of loved ones, and sometimes I feel I'm overreacting coz they passed a long long time ago but here you are Andrew G. telling me this is a beautiful thing.
i still tear up watching this magnificent man speaking about his grief. Stephen, himself, had experienced tragic grief in his early years, losing his father and 2 brothers in a plane crash. The empathy Stephen exhibits is extraordinary.
“I hope this grief stays with me” is such a true statement. My dad committed suicide 7 tears ago , I love talking about him/listening to song that make me remember him, both in a positive and a sad light…My biggest fear is the day coming where I don’t get choked up/emotional when talking about him. He was the best.
I am SO sorry for your loss. You’ll be in my thoughts. I lost my dad 14 years ago this last October. I’ve never heard grief explained this way until he said it the way he did, and it was almost freeing, like an epiphany to me as to why it still hurts so much. I still cry and get emotional to this day when I think of my dad, but from this moment forward it will always be a “beautiful thing.”
Listening to Andrew talk about his Mom was so moving.
"Art can help us sew up our wounds" Thank you for the reminder
The most beautiful quality in a person is tenderness.
Andrew seems to be a delightfully sensitive man, untarnished by fame, success and ego. This is so rare..
I love what Andrew said about grief. I have to wonder if some artists leave us so soon because of the fire that burns within them. My son passed at age 36, and he was an incredible artist. I listened to those words with tears in my eyes for my son David, for John, and for Andrew’s mom.
I’m so sorry for your loss. 🌺
I'm crying. All I wanted was a video to watch while I made a coffee. That was some unexpected beauty. 😭
I'm watching things to start the day and probably feel similar to you bc of this.
Totally . Best interview ever . So sorry for the loss of your mother ,rest in peace . Andrew ,you have a beautiful heart inside out .
As someone who lost his mother to cancer at 29, I can confirm that the grief does stay with you. To reference another play, the grief is like a brick you keep in your pocket. After a while you forget its there, sometimes. But the reminder that it's there is constant.
Man the way Andrew said in his interview with Stephen Colbert: “Jon and my Mother were both artists and they were warriors of art and they knew the power of leaving the world in a slightly more beautiful state than when they found it” makes this video hit even more in the feels
andrew is one of the most honest people and artists i've ever seen, so much so that it even shines through his performances on screen. seeing an actor, especially a man be so open and vulnerable is truly something special.
One day, even if it is 10yrs from now, Andrew Garfield will be seen as one of the greatest actors in modern history of cinema.
And this is why Andrew Garfield is my favorite celebrity, he’s so real, so raw and I literally love his sweet kind soul
I have so much respect for Andrew because he was able to talk about grief in a way not so many people do. I love him dearest.
When my dad passed, someone told me that grief is love persevering. It's so true!
I love how quiet the room got when he started talking about his mom. Shoutout to Stephen for not interrupting
This is the best interview I have ever watched in my life
He’s a deeply beautiful man, this was so moving.
I certainly wasn’t expecting to cry this morning. Although he expressed himself eloquently, I think we are all reacting to the true expression of his soul.
WOW! Andrew Garfield is one of those who wears his heart on his sleeve. In a good way.
"grief is the unexpressed love you never got to share with them" is one of the most powerful things I've ever heard anyone say.
I'll be 44, and my mom died when I was 18. What Andrew said was incredibly beautiful and wise and loving. Amazing 👏
My mother died so young, I never had the chance to develop a mature relationship with her.
18 is very young to have such a loss. 🌺
Stephen is so respectful to his guests. He lets them speak and he is so kind to them as well.
so comforting, humanistic and such a genuine energy, i’m glad to have come to know him and be alive in his time
I wish I could get the entirety of the “grief” monologue tattooed on me or just framed somewhere in my apartment forever.
Been grieving my mom for more than a month now, and it’s only getting more painful with each day, but Andrew’s words have touched my soul and even somehow made me feel better in some weird sense.
i think andrew is such an expressive actor because that’s just who he is in general and he just makes it art. it’s beautiful
The way he talks about grief is the most beautiful thing I have ever heard
What a brave person to allow himself to be so vulnerable being watched by millions of people. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think of or grieve for my parents; he put into words exactly how I feel.
I lost my mom in 2020 and I grief her everyday to this day, and when some particular days it harder than other I always come back to this video and helot be sew my wounds. Thank you Andrew
Ended up shedding a few tears at this. Obviously this is still very raw for Andrew but he has such an articulate way of describing his grief. I'm sure his mother was very proud of him, and I really hope he gets all the recognition he deserves for this film.
Hes a beautiful dude, man… at the top of my list of people I’d totally have lunch with.
I'm grieving hard today and this hits right on the mark. What a wise soul he is.
Andrew is a gem. A true poet with his words. He is a wonderful and genuine soul and I can feel his deep passionate towards his art form. He’s such an amazing person and really a once in a lifetime kind of guy. LOVE THIS MAN.
andrew 🥺 i saw this video on reddit and had to find the actual video. i lost my mum to cancer too, it is such a horrible illness, and it makes me upset when people tell me 'oh your mum fought so hard', cancer isnt something that can be 'fought' people get sick, they get treatment and they are either lucky enough to survive or they end up dying before their time. cancer is brutal, and i miss my mum everyday. my mum was one of the best people i know, and she loved me even after everything we'd been through, i miss her everday
today marks 2 months since her passing, and it's almost unfathomable to me. but your words feel like a hug. i'm sorry you lost your mum too, it tears you apart inside whilst the love you carry, as you said, sews up your wounds
Stephen Colbert is definitely one of the best modern talk show hosts. He seems genuinely interested in what his guests have to say, rather than just trying to get through a script. He’s also very naturally charismatic
i have never seen a 'celebrity' as honest and real and raw as Andrew Garfield...the way he isn't afraid to show his raw emotions and feelings, be it happiness, astonishment, pain or deep-philosophical thoughts, is inspiring... he inspires people to always be real no matter where you are... this man is something else...
That's the secret. You learn to hope it stays with you because it's just the enduring love that was never expressed. You become friends with pain when you experience real loss, because that's your only remaining connection to those who've passed. Andrew nailed this on the fly with the most beautifully articulated perspective on it, and I hope he knows how empowering that was for anyone and everyone who's seen this.
This is a moment of rare connection: raw emotions laid bare, listeners hanging on to his every word, sharing in his grief. Like Andrew says, art truly “sews up the wounds.” His portrayal of Jonathan Larson in TTB was magnificent. What a talented actor and beautiful soul.
Impossible not to like this guy. like he doesn't give a single bad performance and he is just soooo honest
This is so true
I didn't know he lost his mother. What a wonderful expression he's found in saying that grief is the unexpressed love that stays behind.
if i ever got to meet Andrew, I wouldn't go mad like most people do i'd offer him a hug, he seems like such a nice guy
The way Andrew speaks about people he loves is so tragically beautiful.
Andrew has a real heart and it shines through in all of his roles. I can’t speak for the deceased but I can say with confidence his mom must be proud of him and was blessed to have a family like theirs.
That part of Andrew talking so eloquently about his love for his mother really got me...
Andrew is such an underrated actor. He’s one of my favourites
I told my Mom every time I spoke with her how much I love her. I guess I still have lots of unexpressed love because I cry every time her name comes up. Love you Mom and thank you Andrew Garfield for this beautiful take on grief!