Almost. When it comes to Gen Z, it seems they'll like you until they find a reason not to. I've seen girls stop liking guys because they messaged to late. Working with Gen Z in a coffee shop was eye opening.
On one hand sure, it’s feeds some pretty gross subcultures, but without an alternative method to get younger adults to mingle we might exacerbate the already ongoing culture issue with people starting new families. People used to meet either a) through institutions like school, work, or faith. All of these are discouraged heavily both socially and even legally. b) recreation, people spend a huge amount of recreational time in front of screens c) random encounters. You used to have to talk to people constantly to get anything done. Socializing naturally occurred. Now we can just deal with automated systems or formal PR agents. Aside from meeting through a friend/family member, all that’s left is something even worse than apps: bars, parties and clubs.
I feel like the perfect in between of this would be critical thinking yk. Emotional support is important, but you'll likely find yourself running back into that pit over and over again unless you know what keeps leading you to that pit. Realistically both mentalities are unhealthy since for women it's essentially saying "it's other peoples fault, you're perfect and deserve the world", and for men it's "you must be lonely because your creepy and nobody could ever love you". Either way we gotta renormalize looking for support in your day to day rather than banking on the support of strangers that couldn't possibly know your plight or individual situation.
I don’t think that’s women’s fault buddy, so…….. also it’s based on how men say it to women. It’s often creepy and done in a creepy way. If you are truly lonely and want to voice that, use words and tones that will come off like that.its just farther using an excuse to not communicate. Women aren’t mind readers.
@@nightbunmorotofu1176 Excellent post. It could have used an enter, but otherwise it explains the problem with the OP faults in their reasoning. The original comment is more a hyperbole, or a meme ofcourse, but I love the analyzation of it, mainly because it is true.
Dating was never easy. But back in the day it WAS possible to meet people at work. Today, you can't even say anything nice without risking a trip to HR
I work in construction...what VERY few women there are constantly targeted by the overwhelming excess of men to where they simply default to NOPE to any work relationship consideration.
A Philadelphia man was charged with multiple felonies and spent one month in Bucks County Correctional Institute with a one million dollar bail. A woman (Angela Urumova) called police on the night of April 16th claiming he attacked her in the parking lot and tried to pull down her pants but she broke free. Due to inconsistencies in Urumova's story she was called to the DA's office. She finally admitted that she lied about the entire incident. He didn't approach her. They had no interaction. The reason she made the accusation: *_She thought the man looked 'creepy'._* So how, exactly, does a man minding his own business change things to "not be creepy"?
Brett, I hope you see this comment above. It answers the question as to why we keep our heads down today. Interaction ain’t worth life ending as we know it.
establish sharia law. false accusation get death sentence at minimum. no false accusation made by women in daily basis. they did it casually because christian world forgot the most basic law of ten commandments 'thou shall not bear false witness' welcome to Islam. Islam saves america. make america great again.
Remember David in the Bible did the same thing. The Pharaohs wife wanted him and he didn’t want to go there and ran and she grabbed his garment and said he tried to *grape her. Especially nowadays men have it so hard to gauge whether women are playing hard to get or actually not interested. I agree with the comment of “if they’re playing games, she’s not worth it”.
A male loneliness epidemic kind of implies that a lot of women sleep with and date the same men. So some men cultivate a harem, while other men say "screw all of this". That's not a healthy development, for no party
or the women are just pretending to be fine so they fit in with their soon to be spinster friends, you can never tell and frankly I don't really care but it's food for thought if you do
Women´s parents are even more picky.... As even Tom Bilyeu´s wife was doing interview about her rich successful father having negative comments...thats she will bring some ordinary guy, or that she will not be successful businesswoman etc, that her business will not be good enough..so she decided to anlyze his comments and become successful at her job so then he praised her. It seems people have to go to their community.....Community that makes sense and isnt obessed only with materialism but real values.
Harems were common prior to religion breaking up the clan system and enforcing monogomy. Its actually tracable in our DNA. With the break down of religion and values we are literally returning to monke (aka barbarity).
@@avroarchitect1793 Perhaps ancestors really knew something about women after all. And not all religions enforce monogamy - muslims by their religion allowed to have as many wives, as one man can handle.
If women just said “thank you but I’m not interested” in a nice way without being extremely aggressive and negative in their responses… maybe more men would say hi.
@@jimbothegymbro7086they dont just go away. The orbit and persist and cannot take the L. I got my pepper spray handy for the next xy, that thinks they can talk to me a certain way.
Hey women, married guy here. If men are afraid to approach you then why don’t you approach them? Go up to a guy you like- from work, school, whatever- and strike up a conversation. Maybe even ask him out. You will be amazed at the response.
Women dont like any of us haha 😅, just a select top few (physically mainly and most are taken anyways). Dudes arent scared of approaching, they are burned out by incessant rejection or exploitation. This is not the solution sadly.
@@Guus115 happened to me, more than once. I was always delighted and flattered and always said yes when a woman initiated the contact. I married one of them.
You know another problem I don't see anybody talking about with approaching women, these teenage girls nowadays are wearing so much makeup that you almost don't want to approach any women for fear that they might actually be a teenage girl like 16 or 17 or something with 5 lb of makeup on
@@Blockidk-i1n if your in your early 20’s, your dating age range is roughly from 18-25 years of age. The girls that look still mature enough to be college students but are on the younger end ie. 18, 19, 20 are the girls he’s talking about. Still perfectly okay for a 20 year old male to approach. Sometimes the 16 and 17 year olds can look very similar in maturity so it is hard to differentiate and you automatically have to avoid them all because you don’t know if there are 17 or 20.
@@Blockidk-i1n It's not a crime to cold approach a woman you find interesting and if that woman that looks of age happens to be 16 or 17, now you know and you can take your leave. That response of yours could use some adjusting.
I’m a very smiley girl. I wear dresses and I’m kind to people not as a flex but because I came from a very abusive household, I was molested, beaten and tortured by female cousins. I’ve always felt like men protected me much more than women so when I finally escaped I saw the world and men as this big beautiful oasis of safety. I am happy they exist. I think men can sense that and they always approached me. Men and women say I’m easy to approach, but I just treat people how I would want to be treated
oh wow I've spend countless time on this thing called internet and never witness a woman say what you just said about men being "oaisis of safety". i don't know how to react lol
@@ladygardner9114 you intuitively know what most of these bear versus men women don't: the large majority of men are an oasis of safety. Or at least not a threat. Men are dangerous overall, but men are dangerous overall for the same reason that men are the key to society overall: *outliers.* The good productive men are very good and very productive in a way that women seldom are. Unfortunately the converse is also true. Bad men are very very bad. The key is to listen to your instincts early and just get out of any situation that feels the least bit uncomfortable. Fortunately there just aren't that many of these. Most guys like women and want to protect them, even if they become leery of women of late.
Men have been told not to approach... NOW women wanna be upset and say "Enough with the dating apps! Come approach us in person!" You literally HATE it when we do!
@@georgecaplin9075 In some cases worse since you may be fired, kept away from any job that's remotely good, and on top of all of that may be disowned by friends and family. At least with being arrested you have the chance to argue for innocence, even if it is slim...
nope not true, now women will record you in public for attention on their tik tok profiles and make up some random bullshit story to go along with it. don't train at planet fitness...
I met my Thai wife in a BKK restaurant, where she worked. I said “ Hello, you speak good English. You have a lovely smile”. Married 9 years now. Very happy, both of us. 🙏
"He approached me, I said No and he didn't even push back! 😱 I just wanted him to try harder!" "Also, No means No, and if you can't take a No, you're a creep." 🤣
Walk away from "try harder". If she's messing you around like that, then she's not worth it. Do you really want to be in a relationship where you're having to constantly read her mind and live up to expectations you aren't even sure she wants?
Remember guys, if you talk to a woman and she is attracted to you, it's a pleasant, flirtatious experience, possibly leading to a relationship. If she is not attracted to you, it is sexual harassment, possibly leading to the loss of your job or prison. The exciting part is you don't know if you're attractive to her until you approach her! Fun, right? Are we still confused about why AI girlfriends are becoming more popular?
Approaching a woman is not sexual harassment. Continuing to pursue someone who has made it very clear that isn’t wanted, is sexual harassment. It’s pretty easy to figure it out.
@@1omarella "Approaching a woman is not sexual harassment. Continuing to pursue someone who has made it very clear that isn’t wanted, is sexual harassment. It’s pretty easy to figure it out." I watched a guy get SCREAMED AT for saying "Hi." in the line at starbucks...
Speaking as a man who is older, and believing that males are pretty much the same as always, it’s not the rejection that is paramount. That has always been there. It’s the harassment allegations and the social media humiliation. It seems guys are no longer comfortable being in pursuit. For better or worse, men need to bold, brave, and assertive. That gets misconstrued now. Being shot down is par for the course, but being publicly humiliated in front of thousands of people online and being labeled a creep is the real problem.
It is not he rejection, it is that women cannot politely reject men. At one point a woman that was rude and mean to a man would be shunned by everyone wherever she was. Now all women are sexist.
the risk of reputational and professional dammage is too much for most of us now. Even when accusations are proven false the damage has usually already been done by then. Take that dude who got accused of SA for helping a woman who's car broke down. He was headed for prision if it weren't for the video camera that proved otherwise. A prision sentence based on only accusation and no evidence. Despite that he lost his job, income, wife, and all professional reputation and trust. He never got any of it back.
It's not just being publicly humiliated, it's being accused of SA and having your life unraveled simply because of the allegation. You're risking literally everything for a girl who, in all likelihood, sucks. Men not approaching is a rational response to incentives.
Imagine living in a world full of lonely people that are all too afraid to meet eachother, but at the same time, being together is what they all want...absolutely wild...
My mom was born in 1977 and even she agrees with me that If you are unattractive you’ll be seen as creepy. If you are attractive you won’t be seen as creepy
@@lidiagizaw3828 not really but if they find you attractive it doesn’t matter what you do or say anything goes, just my observation especially when a woman has liked me. I have noticed tho that there is a stereotypical facial look that almost every woman I see likes
I am 28, i met my husband at church through a mutual friend. He was dirt poor but a really cool/ responsible caring dude. We now have a house, three kids, and a happy life. Met him when i was 21 2016
Two years of marriage is still too early to celebrate. But, I am happy for you, and I wish your marriage continues to reward you forever with the joy expressed in your post above.
-Be attractive -Don't not be attractive On a serious note, one thing i've come to accept is that no matter how much you 'self-improve' there will always be at least one person who will find you creepy. As long as you are not violating anyone's personal space or individual rights, don't let it get to you. At that point it is the other person making an issue with you, and you have every right to leave peacefully.
Who cares if they find you creepy? If you are forthright about it your interest and they say no, you’ve done no wrong. They can shove their indignation right up their asses
I’ve been asking women out for a decade now (in person, regularly interacting): 0% success rate. Only in the last YEAR have I had rejections that aren’t absolutely disrespectful and mean spirited.
I got the worst rejection ever last month and it was from a chick I wasn't even talking to. Two girls passed by, I stepped into the establishment they entered and hoped to strike up a conversation after they ordered inside. The girl I was hoping to speak to froze with shock, as her friend went straight into rage mode, screaming at me. Me asking "come here often?" isn't tantamount to a crime. So, responding to that banal opener with threats... what are we even doing?
When a woman does that to you they are saying g they want to be treated equally so treat them the same way you would treat a guy that did that after she regains consciousness and picks her teeth up off the floor ask her how she likes equality feminism now
That's not a rejection, that's some trippy chick who doesn't know how to mind her own business interjecting herself into a conversation she wasn't invited in. Best way to handle that situation is to playfully mess with her head. I would've playfully flirted with her just to gauge reactions from her for my amusement. Hell in some cases the woman you had eyes on might be impressed on how well you handle such a situation.
I'm so sorry it happened to you😥! That's awful! I hope it didn't bring you down as a person! Please do not assume women are all like this😓🥲 Wish you the best!💕
From conservatively aiming for the top 15% of men to now setting the new - and far more reasonable - standard at the 0.5% height-cutoff is definitely the newest important acchievement of the average humble TikTok chick! 👏 this way it’s guaranteed that at least 1 out of 500 girls won’t stay single 🥰
Do you know how many guys these women have to turn down before they get to the point of airing out their dirty laundry on the internet? They don't want a commitment. They just want attention.
The first time my husband asked me out I said no we were in the same friend group, so I got to know him he asked again I said you were have now been together for 8 years.
@@kathryn-yd7bhuntil the high chance of a future monkey branch, according to stastistics, I couldn't put myself in that position, waiting for the other shoe to drop
@@RandomUserYTisFailing is that how you read that, we have been t together since 2016 (8years). We are married and have children. I was in my friends friend group, my husband was in my friends boyfriend friend group, when they got together, the groups mixed together, the first time we meet he asked me out I didn't know who he was I said no, we talked for 3 weeks he asked me out again, I said yes, we got engaged after knowing eachother for 6 months. Is that a better explanation.
Coming from a woman here.. the line between romantic and creepy is whether or not you find them attractive. ETA: of course attractive men can be creepy too and that would turn (most) women off .. but in a lot of cases I would stand in my ground that this is true. If Christian Grey in 50 shades of Grey was not hot and rich, he would be creepy af. Same with Edward from Twilight. Look up Danny de Vito rule.
I don’t think that’s true. Coming from another woman. I’ve found plenty of “attractive” guys creepy in their behavior once I actually started talking to them. And plenty of guys who are generally considered very unattractive I don’t find creepy at all. What’s creepy is when a guy clearly has sex on the mind. No matter what he looks like, I don’t want him ogling me. Maybe you have super aggressive rose colored glasses when you like a man, but that’s not universal. You can’t speak for all women.
I had one younger girl, about 20 years old, working for me. She was cute, in good shape, had a bubbly personality, high energy, and so naturally attracted every young male in the near vicinity. She came to me one day and complained that she was tired of all the attention from her male coworkers and that a number of them had even (wait for it) asked her out. She was appalled that a coworker would dare do something like that. I can’t remember her exact words, but she ended the complaint with something like, “I mean, work is the LAST place anyone should be looking for a date. Dating coworkers is such a bad idea.” I just chuckled. Didn’t used to be that way. It used to be THE way.
This is fair, but it also can be a brutally awful choice which is why the stigma has been spread around. I personally sacrificed a job over this, got involved with the wrong girl, turns out she was way worse than I thought and once the curtain fell she turned into a literal demon and blew up the whole thing, somehow I was the one that got the wrong end of the stick. Now I have a buddy who got involved in a toxic relationship with a girl that works for one of his largest clients, so he feels stuck in it because if he leaves her he's gonna lose a lot of business.
no, it didn't used to be THE way... because men didn't used to be gay... and the workplace was a man's space. Women who usually got dated by co-workers were secretaries and their bosses. See "The Apartment" for examples.
I've met every single girlfriend I've ever had I met in the workplace. Most everyone I knew also dated in the workplace. You are there 8 hours a day, you see these people all the time, you get to know them, relationships develop but now it seems to be a sin to do so. So they went to dating apps and we see how that worked out. Nobody wants a bar whore, nobody goes shopping to hit on women, that would be like weird tik tok videos. So where else would you do it? Drunken pit parties? That's the same as a bar.
I think it also depends on the work environment, for example a health care provider spends all his time at work giving 12-14 hrs shifts, where would he find someone outside of work if not at work. Plus you tend to want to be with someone who works the same job as you or similar (doctor with doctor, nurse and doctor, pharmacist and nurse etc.). YOu just have to try your best but it could be a double edge sword as well
You can't be friend zoned if you don't make them friends be a man and tell them how it's going to be. I'm not looking to be your friend. If they can't accept this then move on. Women are social people.
Honestly I relate. Some women need to understand there is a difference between being socially awkward and actually being creepy. I asked out a girl once and she was beating around the bush without flat out rejecting me and then later she just started harassing me every chance she got.
You know what’s annoying, is that the only women im able to be very clear and fun without social awkwardness around are the women i find unattractive. Make it an attractive women then add in all these extra arbitrary standards of height, money, etc and there’s basically no shoot it will work out even on the rare occasions I can harness my normie nonchalant charisma.
I've . . . always given men the benefit of the doubt? Even when they were being slightly awkward? It's not all women, we just seem to be rare because everyone's terminally online and the crazies get more attention here.
@@e.c.5994 Certainly, I was simply making a general statement, not a "100%-always-true" statement. There's plenty of good women out there ready to give guys a fair chance, I'm not saying there aren't. But there's a hell of a lot more that are less than gracious, and usually there the ones with modern sensibilities. That's more of what I meant by modern women, not just "women in modern times".
I have found that the women, not that many, that have approached me have had absolutely 0 game. Going in way too strong with touching etc. If a dude acted that way towards a girl it would almost be classified as harrassment haha. But I just back off in those situations cause it just feels a bit creepy/weird (:
Sadly, even when women get off the apps and go real world many, even a majority, still carry wildly over-inflated opinions of themselves and, in turn, utterly unrealistic expectations. You can't blame guys for believing that there are more productive ways of spending their time. We are creatures that consider the equation of effort in vs reward out and if that equation is seriously unbalanced then we just don't bother. Einstein was right: insanity is doing exactly the same thing over and over again while expecting a different outcome.
@@BecketGrimmwhy? If dudes don’t want to date older women who can’t give him kids or already have kids what’s wrong with that? Or is this another thing where women can have standard but when a man has standards shame and name calling occurs.
@@1986SuperVegeta no, as a matter of fact, there's nothing wrong with wanting to date younger women, unless you are being mean about it, objectifying about it, or close minded. I'm saying that, while girls being shallow and materialistic is a problem, it does not excuse guys refusing give them a chance
Do a search for "Woman Fabricated Attempted Rape, Kidnapping, Cops Say" This women accused a man she'd only seen and never actually met of rape. When she finally confessed to lying, it turned out it was because she thought he looked creepy.
That’s loser behavior as well. You’ll be single, childless and alone at age 50. Guys make too many excuses. Get in shape, get your life together and then seek a wife. Don’t waste time on the women that would see normal behavior as “sexual harassment” or being “creepy.” There are plenty of great women who would welcome a conversation.
Sorry, the genie is out of the bottle and ain't going back in. All social media reduces women to the worst version of themselves and men have seen this with eyes wide open.
As you noted, approaching women in public right now is not exactly socially safe. Asking young young men to be the initiators of change under these conditions is probably futile, and not really a fair thing to ask.
The real funny thing is that women that I am not attracted to have told me that I am creepy. I was just being nice. A girl at work told everyone that I was creepy even though I did not talk to her. I was in a relationship w/ a girl that was hotter than her, but she thought that I was creepy b/c I would walk by her and not talk to her.
Women´s parents are even more picky.... As even Tom Bilyeu´s wife was doing interview about her rich successful father having negative comments...thats she will bring some ordinary guy, or that she will not be successful businesswoman etc, that her business will not be good enough..so she decided to anlyze his comments and become successful at her job so then he praised her. It seems people have to go to their community.....Community that makes sense and isnt obessed only with materialism but real values.
They aren't trying. They're seeking validation and commiseration so they don't have to do anything to improve themselves, their expectations, or their motivations.
The breakdown of flirting was perfect! I have a buddy who thinks women suck but every time I see him talking to a woman in public he is throwing the ball at their head😂
Yeah, but with people's unrealistic beauty standers nowdays, it's a high bar. Those girls need to get off the internet and realize that it's okay for someone not to look like they spent all their time getting plastic surgery lol
@@StayArtsy i am a girl and i have had guys who are GORGEOUS approach me and still be creepy and have also had men who r not so good looking approach me and were so smooth and charming. I agree alot of this is on thw women however so many men dont know how to approach women anymore
@@StayArtsy That’s not gonna fucking happen. Even if girls delete social media/dating apps tomorrow, their standards are gonna stay the same. Once they’ve dated/hooked-up with an 8/10 guy, nothing less will do. The majority of guys in Gen-Z are overcoming their Disney movie programming and realizing that looks DO matter to women. The fact that it’s happened at this fast of a rate should tell you that this is beyond the point of no return, there’s no fixing this problem, it’s only gonna get worse. I think in the near future, the majority of young men will have to pay for physical sexual intimacy with a girl, because average women won’t be attracted to average men. And I say this as someone who isn’t even a conservative, and is slightly progressive-leaning.
That’s not gonna happen. Even if gìrls delete social media/dàting apps tomorrow, their standards are gonna stay the same. Once they’ve dated/hoòked-up with an 8/10 guy, nothing less will do. The majority of gùys in Gen-Z are overcoming their Disney movie programming and realizing that lòoks DO matter to womèn. The fact that it’s happened at this fast of a rate should tell you that this is beyond the point of no return, there’s no fixing this pròblem, it’s only gonna get worse. I think in the near future, the majority of young mèn will have to pay for physìcal sèxuàl intìmàcy with a girl, because average wòmèn won’t be attràcted to average mèn. And I say this as someone who isn’t even cònśèrvàtìvè (slightly left leaning).
Well yeah. So? If she's attracted to him, she'll be open to his advance. If she's not, she won't be open, and THEN if he keeps trying anyway, it's creepy. Brett literally just said this. Reading whether a woman is open to you or not is a skill. If you don't want to come across creepy, learn it. 🤷♀️
All this is untrue. Please stop listening to these false “alpha gurus”/incels/femcels there are plenty of average women out there looking for average men. Please get offline… I’m 26 yo virgin who is just making myself into the woman the type of my I want deserves. And I’m not even thinking about men who are not my type. And like MOST women, I want a man who is passionate about his career, family, and goals.
I think a lot of women, when they are "putting themselves out there", go to places and just sit there waiting for a man to come up to her. But most men won't do that because they are afraid of the risks of being called creep, harrassment etc. So the risks just outweigh the reward of aproaching a woman
Welp. Apparently I'm the exception. The only time I thought the guy was a creep was because he had GRAY HAIR and was obviously 35+ (I'M 18!) And he was skulking around my work place when I was alone before talking to me and saying I was beautiful before running out of the store. For context, a 14 year old thought I was 14 when I'm 18. I look 4 years younger than I am, and he still was hitting on me. I felt so contaminated the rest of the day😰
@@violetnorwen8491 So you're telling us you are age-ist. Incidentally, Aristotle said men should marry at 35 and women at 18. And I doubt you knew his exact age. He could have been an old-looking 25.
I was talking to a young woman yesterday at a dealership and the conversation was about cars and at one point she told me I was funny, and she was very pleasant to talk to, but man I'm so cautious now after getting burned by so many women, I think how nice it would be to have someone to do things with and share good times, go places, and then I think about all the crap that can go wrong and think about losing the peace and tranquility I've now been enjoying for the past three years, how all of that could just be wiped out by a woman in seconds😬 It's really scary sh*** I love women and care about them, but they are so damn difficult and hostile and cheaters! As much as I want one to love on, I just don't think it's worth the risk anymore☹ Good Luck Brothers🤞
Sadly, I agree with all of that 100% ... Then when I did find one that wasn't like that, it's because she was a massive beta and likes men to walk all over her (Basically treat her strict, controlling, and borderline violent like her father did). I've seriously come across that multiple times and it's a massive turnoff.
What would you say to men like the boyfriends of Kimora Launmei Hodges, Lauren J. Courtney, Julissa Thaler, Julia Carter, Letecia Stauch? Would you say they should not give up on looking for a new partner after their previous girlfriends brutally deleted kids they were supposed to take care of? Even if they hear of each others' cases and way more cases like that beyond them?
I taught my daughter how to turn a date invitation down in the kindest and most discrete manner possible. That it’s very difficult to be rejected and some boys get turned down more than others and we need to avoid ruining their confidence. All mothers need to have that conversation with their girls these days.
Activities safer/more enjoyable than approaching women these days…. Swimming with sharks, Gator wrestling, Being bitten by a venomous snake, Jumping off a cliff… without a parachute, Staying underwater until the bubbles stop, Visiting East LA wearing the wrong colors
And work driven, but not a workaholic, love kids, but can't tell her how to raise her own kids, Make her feel protected, but always shares feelings and cries, etc
@@mschenandlerbong8539 Lol, my standard is, "actually acknowledges my existence beyond what it utterly necessary, and doesn't think I'm trash." How is that anywhere near the standards women have for men? Oh is asking her to be a healthy weight too much also? It's easier to say it's a both sides issue, because then that removes accountability for the issue from the women. Which is getting really old and tiring to deal with in every scenario. I am sick of being blamed for issues caused by the other side. I am sick of being told what I have to do to fix it. That is why so many of us are done. You cannot work with someone that always blames you when there is literally no further action you can take and you aren't causing the problem. Either stop blaming us, or watch us move on to anything else.
@@mojaxon23 I don't actually care what you do. So you're little take it or F off attitude doesn't mean anything. But you have revealed a lot about yourself. PS.. a "healthy weight" for women is equivalent to either very muscular and handsome for men or makes a LOT of money and ok with supporting me. You want hot as a bottom of the barrel requirement and you have a bad attitude to boot. You ought to ask someone you really trust to pick out random women that you should be looking at for dating and see how they match you. Get your sister or a family member, not some dude bro. See if you agree.
First rule for men, don't listen to women. What makes a guy creepy to a women will always be if she doesn't find you attractive. Simple as that. You could give the "creepy stare" from across the room and get called a creep, but hey if you're Chris Hemsworth or Henry Cavill, suddenly you aren't creepy, you feel like you as a women hit the jackpot. News flash logically speaking, NO GUY IS EVER TRYING TO BE CREEPY. Some guys are awkward sure, usually cause they have no luck with women and are flying blind with no experience. Girls ignore and or push them away cause they aren't attracted to them and it confuses men and can make them worse.
That's the key, "if SHE does/doesn't find you attractive". Because it's entirely possible to be an objectively attractive guy who a girl sees as a creep, and it's possible to be an objectively unattractive guy who a girl wants to flirt with.
I saw this comedian online who did exactly what you said. He picked out a woman in the front row and found out that she was there alone. He moved on to a man in the front row and found out that he came alone. He then implied that maybe they should get together. The man looked over made a gesture like you want to.. and she said yes. So he changed seats. It doesn't always end badly. This is how your parents met.
Learning the female character is exhausting and tiring as a whole family. Most men have been told not to give up easy and or be weak and all that in front of women. So they kinda believe that's the only way to get to women. Video games never looked so good lately huh?
the problem is they want their "plausible deniabilty" and ALSO want you to chase them and jump thru 500 hoops and "prove that you really really want her"... The only guy's that'll do that are trying to hold down their raging boner and are IMHO total creeps 😕 It was easy when I was young, 30mins to a few hours of talking and 'working the target' and we'd be kissing already... But the whole 'plausable deniability' and 'subtle hints while saying THE EXACT OPPOSITE', is just women playing retarded games and those types really deserve to be single with a drunken abusive creep one night stand or relation now and then when they're desperate 😛 Either you want to talk&chat&socialise and act like it, or you want to flirt and get to dating and act like it, or they should all just stop fishing for attention just so they wouldn't have to accept how mid and petty they really are these days ;-) I hope that gives you an insight in 'women psychology', and you'll see when you have a faker/game playing girl doing everything to get your attantion to then start running away and dodging you and expecting that you'd chase them and humiliate yourself in the process with NO payout, just so she can feel better about herself than she deserves to feel for a little while 😛 The only girls/women that are worth the effort, are strait up honest women/girls that don't see men as toys ;-)
This is great advice! I love when men approach me as long as they are smiling and polite! If they aren't my type I kindly reject them and move on. I think we need to create more opportunities for people to meet and practice their social skills in. A safe environment ❤
Women crying in the car is cringe. They also can all find a man. However, they would reather chase after "Chad" whom is out of their league. They have too high of standards, and want to be "boss babes". All this "Strong independent women" talk and raging about how men shouldnt approach women. This is your own faults. Real good Men are simple, they just want "Peace."
If you had listened you would have heard that the dating apps are set up to make users feel like they’re shopping instead of meeting people. This is why it seems every woman wants a 6’+ Billionaire or, since you didn’t mention it, how men say they want a trad wife Stacy who’s a 10.
For all the bother of asking a woman out without being a creep, it has to be worth it. What makes women worth all that hassle? It’s about time women pondered that question.
It's mostly a means to an end. Being a Dad seems amazing and a good wife is needed to have the best chance of raising kids in stable, healthy home. If I had no interest in having kids I think I would give up women entirely and live the rest of my life celibate.
you'll never know if she's worth it or not if you don't try and find out. there's a lot of genuine kind women out there and they won't initiate because they're more traditional.
For guys who are confused by women saying approach me after years of saying they dont wanna be approached. They aren't talking to you. They are talking about Chads.
But those women aren't getting those type of men though it's all a delusion and even if they were, the top 1% of men are using those girls for a quick pump and dump
I was 18 when I started using dating apps. At first, I didn't know how to make myself look attractive and would go months without getting matches. After a few years of putting myself together (ie. working out, getting a well paying job, getting my own place, and overall working on myself) I found that I could actually get some women to talk to me and go on dates. However, lately it seems like no matter what I do nothing works. I've gotten tons of matches and went on several dates, and still nothing. It feels like no matter what I do nothing works. I've spent a lot of time feeling inadequate and invalidated, but lately I've changed my attitude. The most important thing I can do is respect myself for the progress that I have made so far on my life. You don't need dateing apps to feel validated.
Hey, yall chose the bear, made ick lists, and made guys feel gross for not being 6'5" and up with a 7 figure salary. Made your bed, now sleep in it... Alone. 😅
Do you guys not complaining that a woman is not fit and fake like an insta model? Don't you? If she has glasses, a big nose, large hips, short legs... not to mentions skin color.. do you even look at her?? Yes, now why women have to accept courtship of men short and ugly? Men who clearly don't go to Jim and don't improve themselves, while we try diet, exercise, make up, hairstyle etc.?
I met my now fiancé, future husband, as a coworker last year. He’s the love of my life and we are both each others number one fan and can’t wait to raise a family and spend the rest of our lives together. It can happen, be bold, be respectful, and be patient ❤
If it’s woman constantly saying don’t approach and that’s causing the main problem, then why is it men’s responsibility to fix this issue? Shouldn’t those who caused it, right the wrong?
Agreed. Modern women in general don't zero accountability. The videi of this girl trying to suggestd how we women can social engineer and force men to ask us out again. Seriously? Just starting doing the damn asking yourself! Why are we playing these games as adults?
@@Alison2436 No no. Literally date gold mine 1! “Hey beautiful! I thought you were stunning and wanted to get your number to set up a date sometime!” - number is a win, everything else is a bust.
that's only true if you're dealing with a shallow girl. women are social creatures, meaning we usually place more value on your personality and how you interact with our friends and family.
No, even then you can be seen as creepy... Honestly, just don´t be wierd. And if she is wierd, or just answers with nothing answer.. Just give up on her, and move on to next. And despite @alison2436 being dumb with that comment, she is kinda right.. Often less attractive women, have more common sense and might be sweet..
“Don’t ask her out immediately, try to get to know her first.” Good advice on paper but in practice that’s how you end up as a friend she will never see as a potential dating partner. Men really are damned if they do, damned if they don’t in today’s dating world.
That is the worst possible advice. You get in or out of the friend zone right away. Make your intentions known as quickly as possible without being creepy. I like something like a sly "you know I'd probably let you drag me home if you brought me a few drinks first..."
@@wehumansmayglow you can use something a little smaller caliber if you want. But you better let that girl know you find her cute right away. Otherwise you're a damn fool. Do not let her slot you in the friend category. Also of course wife material is going to make you take her out a couple times first. You have a lot more chance making it from where I start then from where the dumbasses who play friend game start. It is in fact dishonest and sleazy to pretend to be a girl's friend wonder what you want is more.
Personally, if i ever have a crush on a boy, first, i will try to be his friend. Simply because i would like to know him more, know more about his personality, hobbies, etc... if i liked his behaviors/personality, i would ask him out. If not, i wouldn't ask him anything. I only do that because for me being a respectful and decent huma is a must, so if i see he behaved in a disrespectful way to anyone, it's an immediate Nope he's not the one. So friends first, then we will see how it goes.
Not buying it. The only difference between mysterious and creepy is a woman's opinion of your appearance. Ive seen it firsthand with my own eyes out in the field doing the eyeball observational research. If she thinks you're hot, she finds it alluring and flirtatious. If she thinks you're ugly, your're just a weird creeper. Men have no idea which bucket bin they fall into until after she responds. My advice for women: if you want to meet men, why not actually do some of the heavy lifting for a change and meet them halfway by introducing yourself. That you think you can just sit back and field offers like a movie star is quite narcissistic. People cannot read minds. If you are interested in someone its up to YOU to do the outreach.
It's partly true however it's not that the hot guy is NOT creepy , sometimes they are very creepy its just that the girl doesn't care cuz she wants a one night stand with him
Some socially awkward people or people that seem too desperate and are looking at your body too much, very much come off as creepy, whether hot or not. I knew a guy who looked at children in this way. He ended up being a pedophile and going to jail. So yeah, there is a creepy behavior. It's not completely about looks but a hot guy can get away with being a creepy pervert, that's the only difference.
@@Hunter-2689 You are right theres a minority of dudes like that. Better to never approach then though, at all, and just keep your mental well-being unharmed.
Rejecting men isn't new, but now unless you're a top tier man, good job, good looks, good humor, you don't stand a chance, mid men can't pull mid women because we gaslight women into thinking they should all get top men and top men have so many options they have no reason to settle with just one
@@Jordanthecool7true. they light themselves up not us. those NPC beatches under their photos and videos going "slaay, queen, 🔥" for the basic stuff is one of millions of reasons.
Near the end of the video Brett mentions 'getting to know her first', I highly disagree. That is how you get friendzoned. If you're attracted to her and the chit-chat goes well, ask her out on a date (make sure you use the word DATE).
You are both wrong. A friend zone can be a great place. It's not forever. I had all my 3 relationships start like this and I'm now married. I would not consider going on a date unless I knew the guy first. Getting to know someone without the pressure of a date is a great way to become comfortable with each other. But keep whining. I'm sure that'll work
@@janelleg597 I don't believe you, because I have encountered a man who said he was in the Friend-Zone first and then got the girl when she was in her prime. You also engage in typical fmnsts anti-male shaming that men by speaking are "whining" and that the "whining" is the reason they are not getting girls and that they are not getting girls. (So an Andrew Tate or Myron would give the same advice, even though they obviously do get girls.) I am open to hearing more details and being proven wrong (if I can believe your story), but my assumption based on my experience and your rude comment is that you are a liar.
They're not looking for men. Brett. They're looking for the top 20% the top 10%. Not looking for a good old fashioned apple pie, blue collar boy. And social media validating all these cringe women's feelings is nonsense. Just because you feel something doesn't mean it's correct or good
Actually, I'd love a good old fashioned apple pie blue collar boy. Most of the guys who are the top 10 or 20% are complete dirtbags who could care less about women. They just use them. Good old fashioned country boys with Christian values are what good girls desire, we just don't know where to find them exactly.
I agreed to show a Canadian girl around the UK as a favor to my cousin, who was her housemate. The second night she informed me, after a few drinks, that we were going to get married! I thought' Woah! Bunny boiler alert!' But she was right- happily married for 15 years.
LOL! After a few dates with one of my sons my future DIL told his brother , “well, I guess you’re going to be my brother-in-law, great!!!” That son responded, “OK then--here, have a whiskey!” His brother proposed two months later 😂😂
I tried asking girls out in highschool and got turned down every single time. Cold approaches, getting to know them and hanging out didnt work for me at the time. Now im more worried not having any experience dating at 26.
It's a numbers game, which is what makes it exhausting. What I mean is if you want results you need to approach as many girls as you can everyday. Start with one everyday for a month and eventually work your way up to the max your schedule will allow, hopefully something like 10 or more per day. So roughly 70 per week (it can take months or a year to work up to this many). About 280 per month. Even if your chances are 1% you'll get about 3 positive responses. Rejection will become your familiar friend but it will build confidence over time. Work these approaches into your natural schedule so you're always on your way somewhere and not just hanging around aimlessly. Hopefully you live in a larger city to hit those numbers.
Basically HAVE 6 PACK ABS! I guarantee you no man with abs has ever been called “creepy”. “Creepy” is a short way of saying “you do not meet my shallow physical requirements”
I'm a gym rat. I'll admit i've never been called creepy, but have always ultimately been rejected. So idk if it makes much of a difference. It's probably my face! lol
There was this homeless guy who was harmless but creepy. He had crazy abs cause he obsessively did sit ups. He would walk around the street lifting up his shirt and showing his abs to college girls. While approaching them out of nowhere. That guy was legitimatly creepy.
@@luket3452 lol I spent many of nights just chilling on my 3rd story balcony watching over the streets. That dude would work out in the ally way constantly. He never said anything he just kinda grunted a groaned. Man he had such bad posture I wonder if he had some sort of kyophosis or something. Oh I guess the other part I'm not saying is the guy was short. 5'4 or 5'6. So maybe it was his height that women were creeped out on. Lol. Not his sweet abs. Sweet abs is what we called him. And on weekend nights when the ladies were out he would lift up his shirt just enough to show his abs and dart forwards towards the 20 something girls (he was in his 40's) with his head bobbed down due to his bad posture and purposefully walked towards his goal. I'm really only putting all this out here because I fondly remember they guy laughing at his always failing tactics. Got to give the man credit where credit is due he never gave up and I hope to this day he found the lady of his dreams where they both walk purposefully forward showing their sweet abs together. Not talking just kinda grunting at each other.
My sister a couple of years ago, after a few drinks with me and our older brother, we asked her what was up in that she was 26 and had never had a boyfriend, and she listed off her criteria for a guy and it’s the same thing, either he doesn’t exist, or with one of the criteria being having an in touch sense of fashion and being up to date on the latest tends in fashion, then he’s probably gay!
She's 20 and found a dude to marry her, so here she goes with the ”master of dating” content. Every person online who's managed to find a partner for 5 minutes, somehow has the answer to everyone's dating situation, and of course of course about it.
Oh stop! She’s been advocating these same idea’s basically since her show started. She isn’t trying to be a “master of dating”, she’s just giving some advice... including how she found her husband. Take it or leave it! She never claimed it would work for everyone or every time. The dating world had become much harder to navigate, and she’s just pointing out the problems.
@@sb7394 she's lying and downplaying the huge problems being created by women. She is a TradCon gynocentric feminist, telling men that their lived experience isn't real.
@@sb7394 Guess you didn’t read what I said. Not taking advice on how to not be creepy or even dating advice in general from women. Y’all are illogical individuals that don’t know what you want, except for everything that’s wrong for you.
@@Doberman_6773 Never be the guy she "settles for"; as if you're beneath her. She wouldn't give you the time of day if you weren't making more money than her, had your life together, etc. Women who land in that situation and find a simp grow to resent him within a few years, and divorce around the 10 year mark. How convenient they always wait for that magic 10 years, where most states hand out lifetime alimony and she gets the house outright. And then he's either an indentured servant for the rest of his life, or self-deletes.
No Brett, we are not doing this. Men didn't create this issue. Women screamed at the top of their lungs for men not to approach them in public. Women need to approach men and ask them out. It is the only method that will provide 100% clarity.
Thank you I was like whatbis with these videos she is doing recently like, don't give men or women excuses, we call out shit behavior and delusions, guess this channel ain't for me anymore
Liberal women are responsible for this situation. You can still meet conservative women in places like church. If you wait for a woman to approach you, you might only attract those who support the 'woke' culture. Conservative fathers often teach their daughters not to pursue men, but to be feminine and let men make the first move. Be careful, as you might miss out on these women.
Men can still be the ones to ask for the date, but women need to start those random conversations just as often as men need to. That's where Brett went wrong in this video - she didn't give the same prescription to women. No reason why the woman in that scenario couldn't be the one to say "where did the bartender go?"
Meeting people in person is just as broken as the apps for the same reason. Women's standards are so insanely high, by the time a man meets them, he'll be so much greater in value in her that there is no way he'll ever be interested in anything committed. Also bing rejected in person by women beneath you is insanely discouraging. Men aren't going to approach when women's standards are this delusional.
The makeup is also a huge turnoff. No clearer sign of narcissism. Women like to say all men are ugly, but realistically speaking... if you need to spend that much money on product every month... you're either ugly or insanely insecure and a headcase.
The two stakes in the vampire's heart of dating are - 1) Feminism, and 2) Social media. The two combined are the death knell of our society, and is being played out in real time right in front of our eyes.
I'm not single by choice, I've just accepted it and decided to stop wasting effort on something doomed to failure from the start. Getting off the app won't bring me back.
My girlfriend told me about her favorite pick up line of all time. Maybe someone here could use it and see how it goes. The guy walked up to her, held out his closed hand and said "This is my pick up lime" when he opened his hand it was a lemon. She laughs her ass off at that story.
It's not. Been married almost 30 years. Women are very boring creatures. Most of my gorgeous friends have been through bad divorces. I'm a bit of an asshole. Women seem to like that.
I am 74 yo HSM and absolutely love your show for a year now. I love your energy, your common sense and humour. As to dating, I am glad I don't have to date anymore.I have seen for so many years how women changed. They are aggressive, have unreasonable expectation, complain and denigrate man constantly and playing victimhood when it suits them. I used to open doors for women, bought flower when I had a date, paid for dinners and never forced anyone to have sex. When a women told me off after I opened the door for her few years back, that was a last straw for me. No more gentleman behaviour from me. I know exactly why you men are not hurrying to date.
Cover the story about the man in Middletown PA who was charged with attack and attempted grape by a woman who lied about the whole story because she thought he was a creepy looking guy she saw in a parking lot. The man wasn't even in the parking lot that night and she told the police she made up the whole story. She was just jailed. Men have to actually think this could happen to them at any point these days. Or on a lesser level be publicly called creepy simply for attempting a conversation with the wrong female. I've seen that in a target, a poor guy getting publicly shamed loudly and workers being alerted that "a creepy man" was following her and tried to get her number, and I heard the guy approach her, he was not being weird he just didn't look to her standard and she was a terrible human.
For Lent, I gave up dating apps after going on a few dates at the beginning of the year, went back on after Easter, and have given it up since. Made me remember how good it feels to wait for something "real" and in person, even if it'll take a while. God is good and His mercies are new every morning.
I know the blame goes both ways, as far as gender is concerned, but I personally experienced an environment a few years ago where this concept rang loud and clear for the men's point of view. I was part of a college-aged group (at a church, for crying out loud) where many of the young girls (not all of them, but enough) would trash-talk nearly any guy who had the audacity to be friendly. The only way to "pass the test" was for the girls to already be interested in him solely based on physical appearance. It left nearly all the men terrified to approach any of the girls, even in a platonic sense. Why set yourself up to become the next gossip victim? It nearly ruined the fellowship of our group.
Have a job, be in shape, have a future.. and be opinionated (most important) thats how you get a woman. (Used to be Lesbian) Got plenty of girls in person and on/off apps.
lol I watch to see how far off the plot whamin are and see if there's any progress on realizing they have to change and stop blaming men for their attitude and behaviour. So far, nothing. They keep going further away from reality
As a man who is 6’3” runs an 5:15 mile weighs 195, lives at the beach works as a wildland firefighter and retired from the spec war community. I STILL get nothing (from the women I’m interested in). I surf dance and do MMA for hobbies. I volunteer at animal homeless shelters, sing in my church choir and play the piano and guitar. I want to be with a pretty kind woman. I don’t mind paying all the bills when we get married, all the women in church are old or overweight. I just want a woman who is pretty and kind. How is that so hard to find?
We used to say "there are a lot of fish in the ocean." I guess now it's "there are a lot of bears in the woods."
lol exactly
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What is this bear in the woods shit? I don't know where it came from but I don't like it
For guys, it works like this.
1. If she likes you, you can do almost no wrong.
2. If she doesn’t like you, you can do almost no right.
Facts.
Most accurate statement on here.
Its safer to assume no women are interested
Almost. When it comes to Gen Z, it seems they'll like you until they find a reason not to. I've seen girls stop liking guys because they messaged to late. Working with Gen Z in a coffee shop was eye opening.
This sounds like the Döbler-dahmer theory from how I met your mother
The fact that people are rejecting dating apps in droves brings a smile to my face.
There are still millions of people on there. Usually, women compete for the top 10%, ignoring/rejecting the rest as too short/fat/poor/ugly etc.
On one hand sure, it’s feeds some pretty gross subcultures, but without an alternative method to get younger adults to mingle we might exacerbate the already ongoing culture issue with people starting new families.
People used to meet either
a) through institutions like school, work, or faith. All of these are discouraged heavily both socially and even legally.
b) recreation, people spend a huge amount of recreational time in front of screens
c) random encounters. You used to have to talk to people constantly to get anything done. Socializing naturally occurred. Now we can just deal with automated systems or formal PR agents.
Aside from meeting through a friend/family member, all that’s left is something even worse than apps: bars, parties and clubs.
now people just need to stop simping on social media.
How to not be a creep step 1 Be Attractive
that's the only plus side here
When women say they feel lonely : "You deserve love queen".
When men say they feel lonely : "Get off you creepy loser."
I feel like the perfect in between of this would be critical thinking yk. Emotional support is important, but you'll likely find yourself running back into that pit over and over again unless you know what keeps leading you to that pit. Realistically both mentalities are unhealthy since for women it's essentially saying "it's other peoples fault, you're perfect and deserve the world", and for men it's "you must be lonely because your creepy and nobody could ever love you". Either way we gotta renormalize looking for support in your day to day rather than banking on the support of strangers that couldn't possibly know your plight or individual situation.
I don’t think that’s women’s fault buddy, so…….. also it’s based on how men say it to women. It’s often creepy and done in a creepy way. If you are truly lonely and want to voice that, use words and tones that will come off like that.its just farther using an excuse to not communicate. Women aren’t mind readers.
@@nightbunmorotofu1176 Excellent post. It could have used an enter, but otherwise it explains the problem with the OP faults in their reasoning. The original comment is more a hyperbole, or a meme ofcourse, but I love the analyzation of it, mainly because it is true.
"Just be yourself and approach to girls and it always works for me"
- Henry Cavill
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“The worst she can say is no”
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@@impalednewt In this time, that phrase would be "the best she could say is no". With this modern dating mess.
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@@impalednewt I've been told many much worse things that that by girls who've rejected me.
Dating was never easy. But back in the day it WAS possible to meet people at work. Today, you can't even say anything nice without risking a trip to HR
Do not ever say anything to women at work. If you work under a female boss you are setting yourself up to be harassed and fired.
I work in construction...what VERY few women there are constantly targeted by the overwhelming excess of men to where they simply default to NOPE to any work relationship consideration.
If you have women that work with, for or over you, look for a different job.
spoken like a dude who harasses women
I actually met my husband at work 😊 I had a mutual friend of ours give him my phone number because I felt awkward, lol 😆
A Philadelphia man was charged with multiple felonies and spent one month in Bucks County Correctional Institute with a one million dollar bail. A woman (Angela Urumova) called police on the night of April 16th claiming he attacked her in the parking lot and tried to pull down her pants but she broke free. Due to inconsistencies in Urumova's story she was called to the DA's office. She finally admitted that she lied about the entire incident.
He didn't approach her. They had no interaction. The reason she made the accusation: *_She thought the man looked 'creepy'._*
So how, exactly, does a man minding his own business change things to "not be creepy"?
Russian for ya.
Brett, I hope you see this comment above. It answers the question as to why we keep our heads down today. Interaction ain’t worth life ending as we know it.
establish sharia law.
false accusation get death sentence at minimum.
no false accusation made by women in daily basis.
they did it casually because christian world forgot the most basic law of ten commandments
'thou shall not bear false witness'
welcome to Islam.
Islam saves america.
make america great again.
wait, i rephrase that 'Islam saves christianity'.
Remember David in the Bible did the same thing. The Pharaohs wife wanted him and he didn’t want to go there and ran and she grabbed his garment and said he tried to *grape her.
Especially nowadays men have it so hard to gauge whether women are playing hard to get or actually not interested. I agree with the comment of “if they’re playing games, she’s not worth it”.
A male loneliness epidemic kind of implies that a lot of women sleep with and date the same men. So some men cultivate a harem, while other men say "screw all of this". That's not a healthy development, for no party
It's just copying muslim countries.
or the women are just pretending to be fine so they fit in with their soon to be spinster friends, you can never tell and frankly I don't really care but it's food for thought if you do
Women´s parents are even more picky....
As even Tom Bilyeu´s wife was doing interview about her rich successful father having negative comments...thats she will bring some ordinary guy, or that she will not be successful businesswoman etc, that her business will not be good enough..so she decided to anlyze his comments and become successful at her job so then he praised her.
It seems people have to go to their community.....Community that makes sense and isnt obessed only with materialism but real values.
Harems were common prior to religion breaking up the clan system and enforcing monogomy. Its actually tracable in our DNA. With the break down of religion and values we are literally returning to monke (aka barbarity).
@@avroarchitect1793 Perhaps ancestors really knew something about women after all. And not all religions enforce monogamy - muslims by their religion allowed to have as many wives, as one man can handle.
If women just said “thank you but I’m not interested” in a nice way without being extremely aggressive and negative in their responses… maybe more men would say hi.
I talk to random women all the time and a woman never got mad on me. They were too afraid to get angry af me I guess.
@@erdal0 it’s never happened to me personally, but apparently it’s a lot of peoples experience…
yup, if they weren't vicious about it and were just direct and polite 99.99% of guys would just go "okay fine thanks for your time" and dip
Last time i did that.. I got followed to my car and had insults thrown at me. Sooooooooo i am not the problem
@@jimbothegymbro7086they dont just go away. The orbit and persist and cannot take the L. I got my pepper spray handy for the next xy, that thinks they can talk to me a certain way.
Hey women, married guy here. If men are afraid to approach you then why don’t you approach them? Go up to a guy you like- from work, school, whatever- and strike up a conversation. Maybe even ask him out. You will be amazed at the response.
A survey of 2,500 women age 18 to 30 revealed 86% of women said they would never approach a man they liked for fear of rejection .
Women dont like any of us haha 😅, just a select top few (physically mainly and most are taken anyways). Dudes arent scared of approaching, they are burned out by incessant rejection or exploitation. This is not the solution sadly.
That will never happen. It's literally against their nature
They are cowards that's why.
@@Guus115 happened to me, more than once. I was always delighted and flattered and always said yes when a woman initiated the contact. I married one of them.
You know another problem I don't see anybody talking about with approaching women, these teenage girls nowadays are wearing so much makeup that you almost don't want to approach any women for fear that they might actually be a teenage girl like 16 or 17 or something with 5 lb of makeup on
Then don’t approach randoms on the street I guess, but it shouldn’t be that hard to tell?
@@Blockidk-i1n in some cases I've seen people be fooled by it and I don't want that to be me, I'm good on all that.
@@Blockidk-i1n if your in your early 20’s, your dating age range is roughly from 18-25 years of age. The girls that look still mature enough to be college students but are on the younger end ie. 18, 19, 20 are the girls he’s talking about. Still perfectly okay for a 20 year old male to approach. Sometimes the 16 and 17 year olds can look very similar in maturity so it is hard to differentiate and you automatically have to avoid them all because you don’t know if there are 17 or 20.
Or a guy.
@@Blockidk-i1n It's not a crime to cold approach a woman you find interesting and if that woman that looks of age happens to be 16 or 17, now you know and you can take your leave. That response of yours could use some adjusting.
I’m a very smiley girl. I wear dresses and I’m kind to people not as a flex but because I came from a very abusive household, I was molested, beaten and tortured by female cousins. I’ve always felt like men protected me much more than women so when I finally escaped I saw the world and men as this big beautiful oasis of safety. I am happy they exist. I think men can sense that and they always approached me. Men and women say I’m easy to approach, but I just treat people how I would want to be treated
Sad to hear your story, but glad you're holding strong. Keep on being great!👏🏾🥰
@@ADxtraIsHere thanks! I definitely will do!
oh wow I've spend countless time on this thing called internet and never witness a woman say what you just said about men being "oaisis of safety". i don't know how to react lol
@@jurassicthunder I feel safe when they are around.
@@ladygardner9114 you intuitively know what most of these bear versus men women don't: the large majority of men are an oasis of safety. Or at least not a threat. Men are dangerous overall, but men are dangerous overall for the same reason that men are the key to society overall: *outliers.* The good productive men are very good and very productive in a way that women seldom are. Unfortunately the converse is also true. Bad men are very very bad.
The key is to listen to your instincts early and just get out of any situation that feels the least bit uncomfortable. Fortunately there just aren't that many of these. Most guys like women and want to protect them, even if they become leery of women of late.
Men have been told not to approach... NOW women wanna be upset and say "Enough with the dating apps! Come approach us in person!" You literally HATE it when we do!
Women are hypocrites. News at 11. Cold Approaching is only viable for Chads
They only want to be approached by Chads.
No fr, I can easily start a convo with dudes easy peasy, but women have this standoffish energy as if they're always on edge... it's tough out here
It's almost like women don't know what they want.
Even have laws against us yet still want us to risk catching a case for their enjoyment.
Used to be, a guy was thinking he might have to deal with being rejected.
Now a guy might have to deal with being arrested 🤷♂️
Or plastered all over social media.
Preach
The stakes are higher but the payout is the same... the house always win.
@@georgecaplin9075 In some cases worse since you may be fired, kept away from any job that's remotely good, and on top of all of that may be disowned by friends and family. At least with being arrested you have the chance to argue for innocence, even if it is slim...
That doesn't happen, stop with the fear mongering
You can’t be a creep if you never approach women.
That’s the conclusion I’ve come too
nope not true, now women will record you in public for attention on their tik tok profiles and make up some random bullshit story to go along with it. don't train at planet fitness...
You also are very unlikely to get any action.
The only way to win is to not play the game
Real
I met my Thai wife in a BKK restaurant, where she worked.
I said “ Hello, you speak good English. You have a lovely smile”.
Married 9 years now. Very happy, both of us.
🙏
Does that line work on white girls?
@@JohnnyAllan-vj7sj No. You get labeled a creep
“Take a hint, creep!” Oh, but also “try harder! Don’t give up so easily!” 😵💫
"He approached me, I said No and he didn't even push back! 😱 I just wanted him to try harder!"
"Also, No means No, and if you can't take a No, you're a creep." 🤣
Walk away from "try harder". If she's messing you around like that, then she's not worth it. Do you really want to be in a relationship where you're having to constantly read her mind and live up to expectations you aren't even sure she wants?
literally nobody tells creeps to try harder
@@lidiagizaw3828Ah yes, all men are creeps
@@lidiagizaw3828thats not what they were saying. The point is its impossible to tell when no actually means no.
Remember guys, if you talk to a woman and she is attracted to you, it's a pleasant, flirtatious experience, possibly leading to a relationship.
If she is not attracted to you, it is sexual harassment, possibly leading to the loss of your job or prison.
The exciting part is you don't know if you're attractive to her until you approach her! Fun, right?
Are we still confused about why AI girlfriends are becoming more popular?
This should be the top comment.
Approaching a woman is not sexual harassment. Continuing to pursue someone who has made it very clear that isn’t wanted, is sexual harassment. It’s pretty easy to figure it out.
@1omarella and yet, women are apparently complaining that men "don't try anymore" once they hear no. Because "it makes me feel ugly".
@@1omarella "Approaching a woman is not sexual harassment. Continuing to pursue someone who has made it very clear that isn’t wanted, is sexual harassment. It’s pretty easy to figure it out."
I watched a guy get SCREAMED AT for saying "Hi." in the line at starbucks...
I believe they only put you in prison for looking a woman in the eye in Britain.
Speaking as a man who is older, and believing that males are pretty much the same as always, it’s not the rejection that is paramount. That has always been there. It’s the harassment allegations and the social media humiliation. It seems guys are no longer comfortable being in pursuit. For better or worse, men need to bold, brave, and assertive. That gets misconstrued now. Being shot down is par for the course, but being publicly humiliated in front of thousands of people online and being labeled a creep is the real problem.
It is not he rejection, it is that women cannot politely reject men. At one point a woman that was rude and mean to a man would be shunned by everyone wherever she was. Now all women are sexist.
the risk of reputational and professional dammage is too much for most of us now. Even when accusations are proven false the damage has usually already been done by then. Take that dude who got accused of SA for helping a woman who's car broke down. He was headed for prision if it weren't for the video camera that proved otherwise. A prision sentence based on only accusation and no evidence. Despite that he lost his job, income, wife, and all professional reputation and trust. He never got any of it back.
It's not just being publicly humiliated, it's being accused of SA and having your life unraveled simply because of the allegation. You're risking literally everything for a girl who, in all likelihood, sucks.
Men not approaching is a rational response to incentives.
@@kickblake very true. That is the worst case scenario, that happens way too often
Kenan Basic was his name.
Imagine living in a world full of lonely people that are all too afraid to meet eachother, but at the same time, being together is what they all want...absolutely wild...
I deleted my apps yesterday and it's a burden lifted off my shoulders... life is so peaceful off of the internet
You on the internet rn
But you’re here on UA-cam….
@@EthanEdwards23what they mean is, no more dating apps... The constant dating apps was draining them dry emotionally.
@@EthanEdwards23so are you
@@EthanEdwards23 lol I meant dating side of the internet
My mom was born in 1977 and even she agrees with me that If you are unattractive you’ll be seen as creepy. If you are attractive you won’t be seen as creepy
Agreed, but you also need to take into account that you might be attractive, but not the specific girl’s kind of attractive. Then what do you do?
@alexman378 you keep it moving, bro. You become free when you are not afraid of losing and/or rejection.
@@ei15870031 Yeah, well, rejection is one thing, catching a false accusation is another.
such a dumb thing to say u think women dont find hot guys sleazy and creepy too ?
@@lidiagizaw3828 not really but if they find you attractive it doesn’t matter what you do or say anything goes, just my observation especially when a woman has liked me. I have noticed tho that there is a stereotypical facial look that almost every woman I see likes
Instructions unclear, I am now being sentenced to 4 years in prison.
just 4?
I hear finding a mate in prison isn't too difficult though.
Don't worry in prison they support LGBT practice
😂😂😂
I am 28, i met my husband at church through a mutual friend. He was dirt poor but a really cool/ responsible caring dude. We now have a house, three kids, and a happy life. Met him when i was 21 2016
Glad you mentioned the year. That was when it made more sense to still have hope in love. Downhill after that.
God bless you
A young woman SCREAMED at me to "stop looking at her" when I looked in her direction twice. Guess I wasn't attractive enough for her.
lol
Avert your gaze creepy boi!
I’d say you dodged a bullet 😂 she seems crazyyy.
that’s crazy 😂
"Sorry.... I just can't believe you're so FAT!!!!" (or other less than perfect body feature)
you should have immediately said there is a spider on your back.
Married two years now! She was a girl in college that pursued me and put herself around me whenever possible - IT WORKED! Love my wife!
Congrats for that, it's nice to know it happens, even if rarely.
That’s beautiful! Thank you for sharing!
Two years of marriage is still too early to celebrate. But, I am happy for you, and I wish your marriage continues to reward you forever with the joy expressed in your post above.
According to stats, 80% of wmn in college have slept with a stranger or a "friend" with no commitment
@johnsampson6387 its true - and it flies in the face of what women are taught to believe (let him pursue you only, act disinterested) it doesn’t work
-Be attractive
-Don't not be attractive
On a serious note, one thing i've come to accept is that no matter how much you 'self-improve' there will always be at least one person who will find you creepy. As long as you are not violating anyone's personal space or individual rights, don't let it get to you. At that point it is the other person making an issue with you, and you have every right to leave peacefully.
Who cares if they find you creepy? If you are forthright about it your interest and they say no, you’ve done no wrong. They can shove their indignation right up their asses
I’ve been asking women out for a decade now (in person, regularly interacting): 0% success rate. Only in the last YEAR have I had rejections that aren’t absolutely disrespectful and mean spirited.
You should try being taller and a lot more handsome.
@@theminister1154 how is he gonna get that?
@@lungilengcobo8858 it's an joke by way of absurdity.
why did i read that as "in prison" 😭😭
I got the worst rejection ever last month and it was from a chick I wasn't even talking to.
Two girls passed by, I stepped into the establishment they entered and hoped to strike up a conversation after they ordered inside. The girl I was hoping to speak to froze with shock, as her friend went straight into rage mode, screaming at me.
Me asking "come here often?" isn't tantamount to a crime. So, responding to that banal opener with threats... what are we even doing?
When a woman does that to you they are saying g they want to be treated equally so treat them the same way you would treat a guy that did that after she regains consciousness and picks her teeth up off the floor ask her how she likes equality feminism now
She's looking for a man in finance trust fund 6'5 blue eyes.
That's not a rejection, that's some trippy chick who doesn't know how to mind her own business interjecting herself into a conversation she wasn't invited in. Best way to handle that situation is to playfully mess with her head. I would've playfully flirted with her just to gauge reactions from her for my amusement. Hell in some cases the woman you had eyes on might be impressed on how well you handle such a situation.
Either you did something wrong unintentionally (happens to everyone) or they are just weirdos
I'm so sorry it happened to you😥! That's awful! I hope it didn't bring you down as a person! Please do not assume women are all like this😓🥲 Wish you the best!💕
Creepy = not 6’4, blue eyes, finance, trust fund
yeah, men who are not the size of a bear are horrifying bro. Like looking into a mans wide open, icy blue eyes makes me feel so safe !!
Women j want a man w shared values.
@@beliber6681 who's also 6'5" fit as a pro athlete and a millionaire
From conservatively aiming for the top 15% of men to now setting the new - and far more reasonable - standard at the 0.5% height-cutoff is definitely the newest important acchievement of the average humble TikTok chick! 👏 this way it’s guaranteed that at least 1 out of 500 girls won’t stay single 🥰
Why was those words made into a bunch of songs😂
Do you know how many guys these women have to turn down before they get to the point of airing out their dirty laundry on the internet? They don't want a commitment. They just want attention.
The first time my husband asked me out I said no we were in the same friend group, so I got to know him he asked again I said you were have now been together for 8 years.
Well said that man!
@@kathryn-yd7bhuntil the high chance of a future monkey branch, according to stastistics, I couldn't put myself in that position, waiting for the other shoe to drop
@@markd6838 🤣 you do you, between him asking the first and second time it was like 3 weeks my shoe drop pretty quick.
@@RandomUserYTisFailing is that how you read that, we have been t together since 2016 (8years). We are married and have children. I was in my friends friend group, my husband was in my friends boyfriend friend group, when they got together, the groups mixed together, the first time we meet he asked me out I didn't know who he was I said no, we talked for 3 weeks he asked me out again, I said yes, we got engaged after knowing eachother for 6 months. Is that a better explanation.
Coming from a woman here.. the line between romantic and creepy is whether or not you find them attractive.
ETA: of course attractive men can be creepy too and that would turn (most) women off .. but in a lot of cases I would stand in my ground that this is true. If Christian Grey in 50 shades of Grey was not hot and rich, he would be creepy af. Same with Edward from Twilight. Look up Danny de Vito rule.
There’s some truth to this. However I have guys I’m not into flirt with me and ask me out and I didn’t think they were creeps.
@@johannastromberg1224you weren’t disinterested enough.
THANK CHRIST A WOMAN FINALLY ADMITS IT. IS THIS REAL LIFE?
Solution: Hide in a box.
That is exactly the fucking problem! You can't call it creepy coz you don't find a guy attractive!!!!
I don’t think that’s true. Coming from another woman. I’ve found plenty of “attractive” guys creepy in their behavior once I actually started talking to them. And plenty of guys who are generally considered very unattractive I don’t find creepy at all. What’s creepy is when a guy clearly has sex on the mind. No matter what he looks like, I don’t want him ogling me.
Maybe you have super aggressive rose colored glasses when you like a man, but that’s not universal. You can’t speak for all women.
I had one younger girl, about 20 years old, working for me. She was cute, in good shape, had a bubbly personality, high energy, and so naturally attracted every young male in the near vicinity.
She came to me one day and complained that she was tired of all the attention from her male coworkers and that a number of them had even (wait for it) asked her out. She was appalled that a coworker would dare do something like that. I can’t remember her exact words, but she ended the complaint with something like, “I mean, work is the LAST place anyone should be looking for a date. Dating coworkers is such a bad idea.” I just chuckled. Didn’t used to be that way. It used to be THE way.
This is fair, but it also can be a brutally awful choice which is why the stigma has been spread around. I personally sacrificed a job over this, got involved with the wrong girl, turns out she was way worse than I thought and once the curtain fell she turned into a literal demon and blew up the whole thing, somehow I was the one that got the wrong end of the stick. Now I have a buddy who got involved in a toxic relationship with a girl that works for one of his largest clients, so he feels stuck in it because if he leaves her he's gonna lose a lot of business.
no, it didn't used to be THE way... because men didn't used to be gay... and the workplace was a man's space. Women who usually got dated by co-workers were secretaries and their bosses. See "The Apartment" for examples.
I've met every single girlfriend I've ever had I met in the workplace. Most everyone I knew also dated in the workplace. You are there 8 hours a day, you see these people all the time, you get to know them, relationships develop but now it seems to be a sin to do so. So they went to dating apps and we see how that worked out. Nobody wants a bar whore, nobody goes shopping to hit on women, that would be like weird tik tok videos. So where else would you do it? Drunken pit parties? That's the same as a bar.
@@ctsxhp326not literal
I think it also depends on the work environment, for example a health care provider spends all his time at work giving 12-14 hrs shifts, where would he find someone outside of work if not at work. Plus you tend to want to be with someone who works the same job as you or similar (doctor with doctor, nurse and doctor, pharmacist and nurse etc.). YOu just have to try your best but it could be a double edge sword as well
So I’ve been called creep for years just for being politely socially awkward. Allways friend zone energy 😭
As someone who is also socially awkward around women (Went to an all Boys Private School) this sounds like hell on earth.
You can't be friend zoned if you don't make them friends be a man and tell them how it's going to be. I'm not looking to be your friend. If they can't accept this then move on. Women are social people.
Honestly I relate. Some women need to understand there is a difference between being socially awkward and actually being creepy. I asked out a girl once and she was beating around the bush without flat out rejecting me and then later she just started harassing me every chance she got.
I started just backhanding women. It seems to work pretty well
You know what’s annoying, is that the only women im able to be very clear and fun without social awkwardness around are the women i find unattractive. Make it an attractive women then add in all these extra arbitrary standards of height, money, etc and there’s basically no shoot it will work out even on the rare occasions I can harness my normie nonchalant charisma.
"It's not creepy to TRY".... I don't think modern women got that memo.
I've . . . always given men the benefit of the doubt? Even when they were being slightly awkward? It's not all women, we just seem to be rare because everyone's terminally online and the crazies get more attention here.
@e.c.5994 most women are like this. Men need to stop pretending that viral tiktoks represent us all.
@@e.c.5994 Certainly, I was simply making a general statement, not a "100%-always-true" statement. There's plenty of good women out there ready to give guys a fair chance, I'm not saying there aren't. But there's a hell of a lot more that are less than gracious, and usually there the ones with modern sensibilities. That's more of what I meant by modern women, not just "women in modern times".
I have found that the women, not that many, that have approached me have had absolutely 0 game. Going in way too strong with touching etc. If a dude acted that way towards a girl it would almost be classified as harrassment haha. But I just back off in those situations cause it just feels a bit creepy/weird (:
@@ypesie I can relate to this, definitely have gotten weird vibes from women coming on too strong. Usually they are trying to cheat with you
Handsome = Flirting
Ugly = Creep
Thats all you need to know focus on their actions not their words.
Handsome = probably gay = harmless
Sadly, even when women get off the apps and go real world many, even a majority, still carry wildly over-inflated opinions of themselves and, in turn, utterly unrealistic expectations. You can't blame guys for believing that there are more productive ways of spending their time. We are creatures that consider the equation of effort in vs reward out and if that equation is seriously unbalanced then we just don't bother. Einstein was right: insanity is doing exactly the same thing over and over again while expecting a different outcome.
There's also the problem with guys who are all like "it's too late" "you got what you wanted." I think that doesn't help either.
@@BecketGrimmwhy?
If dudes don’t want to date older women who can’t give him kids or already have kids what’s wrong with that? Or is this another thing where women can have standard but when a man has standards shame and name calling occurs.
@@1986SuperVegeta no, as a matter of fact, there's nothing wrong with wanting to date younger women, unless you are being mean about it, objectifying about it, or close minded.
I'm saying that, while girls being shallow and materialistic is a problem, it does not excuse guys refusing give them a chance
@@caitlin862 No, you really don't.
@@jackburtonstwincoincidence then! Have a good day!
Best way to "not be creepy", stop chasing women entirety.
Focus on work, exercise, and finance.
The juice aint worth the squeeze anymore.
Do a search for "Woman Fabricated Attempted Rape, Kidnapping, Cops Say"
This women accused a man she'd only seen and never actually met of rape. When she finally confessed to lying, it turned out it was because she thought he looked creepy.
And play video games
That’s loser behavior as well. You’ll be single, childless and alone at age 50. Guys make too many excuses. Get in shape, get your life together and then seek a wife. Don’t waste time on the women that would see normal behavior as “sexual harassment” or being “creepy.” There are plenty of great women who would welcome a conversation.
@@jaughnekowSingle and childless at 50 doesn't sound bad to me lol. And you don't have to be alone when you're single.
@@officialtbhoopsI bet that's what Steven Crowder thought. you conservative religious women are no different.
Sorry, the genie is out of the bottle and ain't going back in. All social media reduces women to the worst version of themselves and men have seen this with eyes wide open.
We've seen so many fake allegations to and the woman never gets in trouble for it. Not like how the guy was going to get in trouble anyway.
Thanks!
As you noted, approaching women in public right now is not exactly socially safe. Asking young young men to be the initiators of change under these conditions is probably futile, and not really a fair thing to ask.
The real funny thing is that women that I am not attracted to have told me that I am creepy. I was just being nice. A girl at work told everyone that I was creepy even though I did not talk to her. I was in a relationship w/ a girl that was hotter than her, but she thought that I was creepy b/c I would walk by her and not talk to her.
lol Fookin hell man!
she was clout chasing
They lie as easily as they pretend to cry.
@johnsampson6387 women are evil. Mocking and teasing and humiliating them is something all men need to be good at.
Women´s parents are even more picky....
As even Tom Bilyeu´s wife was doing interview about her rich successful father having negative comments...thats she will bring some ordinary guy, or that she will not be successful businesswoman etc, that her business will not be good enough..so she decided to anlyze his comments and become successful at her job so then he praised her.
It seems people have to go to their community.....Community that makes sense and isnt obessed only with materialism but real values.
They aren't trying. They're seeking validation and commiseration so they don't have to do anything to improve themselves, their expectations, or their motivations.
The breakdown of flirting was perfect! I have a buddy who thinks women suck but every time I see him talking to a woman in public he is throwing the ball at their head😂
Whether you’re charming or creepy depends on whether she finds you attractive.
Yeah, but with people's unrealistic beauty standers nowdays, it's a high bar. Those girls need to get off the internet and realize that it's okay for someone not to look like they spent all their time getting plastic surgery lol
@@StayArtsy i am a girl and i have had guys who are GORGEOUS approach me and still be creepy and have also had men who r not so good looking approach me and were so smooth and charming. I agree alot of this is on thw women however so many men dont know how to approach women anymore
@@StayArtsy That’s not gonna fucking happen. Even if girls delete social media/dating apps tomorrow, their standards are gonna stay the same. Once they’ve dated/hooked-up with an 8/10 guy, nothing less will do. The majority of guys in Gen-Z are overcoming their Disney movie programming and realizing that looks DO matter to women. The fact that it’s happened at this fast of a rate should tell you that this is beyond the point of no return, there’s no fixing this problem, it’s only gonna get worse. I think in the near future, the majority of young men will have to pay for physical sexual intimacy with a girl, because average women won’t be attracted to average men. And I say this as someone who isn’t even a conservative, and is slightly progressive-leaning.
That’s not gonna happen. Even if gìrls delete social media/dàting apps tomorrow, their standards are gonna stay the same. Once they’ve dated/hoòked-up with an 8/10 guy, nothing less will do. The majority of gùys in Gen-Z are overcoming their Disney movie programming and realizing that lòoks DO matter to womèn. The fact that it’s happened at this fast of a rate should tell you that this is beyond the point of no return, there’s no fixing this pròblem, it’s only gonna get worse. I think in the near future, the majority of young mèn will have to pay for physìcal sèxuàl intìmàcy with a girl, because average wòmèn won’t be attràcted to average mèn. And I say this as someone who isn’t even cònśèrvàtìvè (slightly left leaning).
Well yeah. So? If she's attracted to him, she'll be open to his advance. If she's not, she won't be open, and THEN if he keeps trying anyway, it's creepy.
Brett literally just said this.
Reading whether a woman is open to you or not is a skill. If you don't want to come across creepy, learn it. 🤷♀️
Sadly if a woman doesn't find you attractive, anything you do is considered creepy.
1000%
Women find money attractive so poor are creepy wait a minute thats what my mom said :)
All this is untrue. Please stop listening to these false “alpha gurus”/incels/femcels there are plenty of average women out there looking for average men. Please get offline… I’m 26 yo virgin who is just making myself into the woman the type of my I want deserves. And I’m not even thinking about men who are not my type. And like MOST women, I want a man who is passionate about his career, family, and goals.
Well these are rude women, not all of them are like that dodge those and give yourself the chance to meet kind ones.
I think a lot of women, when they are "putting themselves out there", go to places and just sit there waiting for a man to come up to her. But most men won't do that because they are afraid of the risks of being called creep, harrassment etc. So the risks just outweigh the reward of aproaching a woman
You can NOT go up to a random woman nd talk to them. They will almost always yell, scream and call you a creep.
Like that one who screamed at the guy in the parking lot?
Welp. Apparently I'm the exception. The only time I thought the guy was a creep was because he had GRAY HAIR and was obviously 35+ (I'M 18!) And he was skulking around my work place when I was alone before talking to me and saying I was beautiful before running out of the store. For context, a 14 year old thought I was 14 when I'm 18. I look 4 years younger than I am, and he still was hitting on me. I felt so contaminated the rest of the day😰
@@violetnorwen8491 So you're telling us you are age-ist. Incidentally, Aristotle said men should marry at 35 and women at 18. And I doubt you knew his exact age. He could have been an old-looking 25.
@@jonathanfarley2023 no, I just want to be safe. Sorry if that offended you
@@violetnorwen8491 You are and were safe. And why would you be less safe if he was 18.
The problem is no patience… everyone wants to skip the boring part of getting to know many potentials and straight to the cutesy texts and sex.
You are right.
I do not look for girls at the gym because of the whole gym creep thing.
A young female plumber came to my house and I averted my eyes.
@@jonathanfarley2023 you did the right thing.
@@jonathanfarley2023 I don't know. If you were there alone... sounds like a dangerous situation.
I was talking to a young woman yesterday at a dealership and the conversation was about cars and at one point she told me I was funny, and she was very pleasant to talk to, but man I'm so cautious now after getting burned by so many women, I think how nice it would be to have someone to do things with and share good times, go places, and then I think about all the crap that can go wrong and think about losing the peace and tranquility I've now been enjoying for the past three years, how all of that could just be wiped out by a woman in seconds😬 It's really scary sh*** I love women and care about them, but they are so damn difficult and hostile and cheaters! As much as I want one to love on, I just don't think it's worth the risk anymore☹ Good Luck Brothers🤞
Sadly, I agree with all of that 100% ... Then when I did find one that wasn't like that, it's because she was a massive beta and likes men to walk all over her (Basically treat her strict, controlling, and borderline violent like her father did). I've seriously come across that multiple times and it's a massive turnoff.
@@Chimchimchu Yeah that's some weird schitt to deal with😬
What would you say to men like the boyfriends of Kimora Launmei Hodges, Lauren J. Courtney, Julissa Thaler, Julia Carter, Letecia Stauch? Would you say they should not give up on looking for a new partner after their previous girlfriends brutally deleted kids they were supposed to take care of? Even if they hear of each others' cases and way more cases like that beyond them?
@@VDOTU5 I'm only speaking for myself!
@@JoeSmith-nu8oo I see.
I taught my daughter how to turn a date invitation down in the kindest and most discrete manner possible. That it’s very difficult to be rejected and some boys get turned down more than others and we need to avoid ruining their confidence. All mothers need to have that conversation with their girls these days.
Usually it's "get away from me you creep" screamed in a loud voice.
No! Crushing souls makes 'em tough. It's the gauntlet we all went through.
Your daughter is probably an online tart
Thank you. We need that.
Activities safer/more enjoyable than approaching women these days….
Swimming with sharks,
Gator wrestling,
Being bitten by a venomous snake,
Jumping off a cliff… without a parachute,
Staying underwater until the bubbles stop,
Visiting East LA wearing the wrong colors
Be handsome, tall, athletic, rich, charismatic etc.
6’4 blue eyes finance trust fund
And work driven, but not a workaholic, love kids, but can't tell her how to raise her own kids,
Make her feel protected, but always shares feelings and cries, etc
@@Aging_Casually_Late_Gamer Be athletic, but not spend time playing sport. Be ambitious & driven, but don't take life seriously!
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm😂😂🙄 yep run a billion dollar company but also be a family man and around all the time...
women don't know how to be happy.
Asking women to be realistic is hilarious in its own right. 😋
Like telling us to be emotional
@@badstar9670 Like telling a fish to ride a bicycle
So much sexism în Breet's comment section. Conservatives 🍜
@@CătălinaMaria1896 good, so much open misandry in society, media and television now.
@@CătălinaMaria1896 [I'll bite...] Define "sexism", please. What _exactly_ do you mean?
Men's standards aren't skewed. We're largely realistic.
Women's standards are WAY out to lunch.
Modern WESTERN women standards no longer align to reality.
Trust me. It's on both sides. Men are shockingly unaware.
@@mschenandlerbong8539 lol no. be a healthy weight, take showers have a pulse is what most guys want.
@@mschenandlerbong8539 Lol, my standard is, "actually acknowledges my existence beyond what it utterly necessary, and doesn't think I'm trash." How is that anywhere near the standards women have for men? Oh is asking her to be a healthy weight too much also? It's easier to say it's a both sides issue, because then that removes accountability for the issue from the women. Which is getting really old and tiring to deal with in every scenario.
I am sick of being blamed for issues caused by the other side. I am sick of being told what I have to do to fix it. That is why so many of us are done. You cannot work with someone that always blames you when there is literally no further action you can take and you aren't causing the problem. Either stop blaming us, or watch us move on to anything else.
@@mojaxon23 I don't actually care what you do. So you're little take it or F off attitude doesn't mean anything. But you have revealed a lot about yourself. PS.. a "healthy weight" for women is equivalent to either very muscular and handsome for men or makes a LOT of money and ok with supporting me. You want hot as a bottom of the barrel requirement and you have a bad attitude to boot. You ought to ask someone you really trust to pick out random women that you should be looking at for dating and see how they match you. Get your sister or a family member, not some dude bro. See if you agree.
First rule for men, don't listen to women. What makes a guy creepy to a women will always be if she doesn't find you attractive. Simple as that. You could give the "creepy stare" from across the room and get called a creep, but hey if you're Chris Hemsworth or Henry Cavill, suddenly you aren't creepy, you feel like you as a women hit the jackpot. News flash logically speaking, NO GUY IS EVER TRYING TO BE CREEPY. Some guys are awkward sure, usually cause they have no luck with women and are flying blind with no experience. Girls ignore and or push them away cause they aren't attracted to them and it confuses men and can make them worse.
That's the key, "if SHE does/doesn't find you attractive". Because it's entirely possible to be an objectively attractive guy who a girl sees as a creep, and it's possible to be an objectively unattractive guy who a girl wants to flirt with.
Wh, what should we do instead? Date them out of pity?
@@sofiasininen8268 Don't date.
I saw this comedian online who did exactly what you said. He picked out a woman in the front row and found out that she was there alone. He moved on to a man in the front row and found out that he came alone. He then implied that maybe they should get together. The man looked over made a gesture like you want to.. and she said yes. So he changed seats. It doesn't always end badly. This is how your parents met.
I don’t care what women want anymore.
Step #1, don’t care because she doesn’t know you. Congratulations!
@@raybod1775we'll see when she needs to know us when getting graped in the subway, robbed, get attacked, in wars do you want me to continue?
@@jurassicthunderso your response is to name all the atrocities committed by men? Still wonder why many women will choose a bear?
FACTS
Get waifus! Or AI girlfriends if you want
Learning the female character is exhausting and tiring as a whole family. Most men have been told not to give up easy and or be weak and all that in front of women. So they kinda believe that's the only way to get to women.
Video games never looked so good lately huh?
Video games are the way to go
the problem is they want their "plausible deniabilty" and ALSO want you to chase them and jump thru 500 hoops and "prove that you really really want her"... The only guy's that'll do that are trying to hold down their raging boner and are IMHO total creeps 😕 It was easy when I was young, 30mins to a few hours of talking and 'working the target' and we'd be kissing already... But the whole 'plausable deniability' and 'subtle hints while saying THE EXACT OPPOSITE', is just women playing retarded games and those types really deserve to be single with a drunken abusive creep one night stand or relation now and then when they're desperate 😛 Either you want to talk&chat&socialise and act like it, or you want to flirt and get to dating and act like it, or they should all just stop fishing for attention just so they wouldn't have to accept how mid and petty they really are these days ;-)
I hope that gives you an insight in 'women psychology', and you'll see when you have a faker/game playing girl doing everything to get your attantion to then start running away and dodging you and expecting that you'd chase them and humiliate yourself in the process with NO payout, just so she can feel better about herself than she deserves to feel for a little while 😛 The only girls/women that are worth the effort, are strait up honest women/girls that don't see men as toys ;-)
The pre-2016 video games tho. After 2016, video games are mostly shit, woke, & too expensive.
@@P.Whitestrake Well... I know even couples who met through video games. That was in the World of Warcraft days....
@@P.Whitestrake now is the time to play older games.
This is great advice! I love when men approach me as long as they are smiling and polite! If they aren't my type I kindly reject them and move on. I think we need to create more opportunities for people to meet and practice their social skills in. A safe environment ❤
Women crying in the car is cringe. They also can all find a man. However, they would reather chase after "Chad" whom is out of their league. They have too high of standards, and want to be "boss babes". All this "Strong independent women" talk and raging about how men shouldnt approach women. This is your own faults. Real good Men are simple, they just want "Peace."
Someone who gets it.
For longterm yes, someone that won’t nag us or think we are disposable …
If you had listened you would have heard that the dating apps are set up to make users feel like they’re shopping instead of meeting people. This is why it seems every woman wants a 6’+ Billionaire or, since you didn’t mention it, how men say they want a trad wife Stacy who’s a 10.
This lady knows men 👏
Preach.
For all the bother of asking a woman out without being a creep, it has to be worth it. What makes women worth all that hassle? It’s about time women pondered that question.
It's mostly a means to an end. Being a Dad seems amazing and a good wife is needed to have the best chance of raising kids in stable, healthy home.
If I had no interest in having kids I think I would give up women entirely and live the rest of my life celibate.
They’re like Put Options: Good opportunity to make a tidy little profit, but downside potential is MASSIVE if things go against you.
you'll never know if she's worth it or not if you don't try and find out. there's a lot of genuine kind women out there and they won't initiate because they're more traditional.
@@laniyamamoto6693 Statistically this is fact, although perhaps hard to find depending on where you live and look for her.
@@vincer7824 small towns & the south is my recommendation. your local church sometimes is a good place to start
For guys who are confused by women saying approach me after years of saying they dont wanna be approached. They aren't talking to you. They are talking about Chads.
And Tyrone.
X2 😎
facts
"They are talking about Chads." specifically the chads making 100K a year, over 6 feet tall, with the body of a stunt double from 300....
But those women aren't getting those type of men though it's all a delusion and even if they were, the top 1% of men are using those girls for a quick pump and dump
I was 18 when I started using dating apps. At first, I didn't know how to make myself look attractive and would go months without getting matches. After a few years of putting myself together (ie. working out, getting a well paying job, getting my own place, and overall working on myself) I found that I could actually get some women to talk to me and go on dates. However, lately it seems like no matter what I do nothing works. I've gotten tons of matches and went on several dates, and still nothing. It feels like no matter what I do nothing works.
I've spent a lot of time feeling inadequate and invalidated, but lately I've changed my attitude. The most important thing I can do is respect myself for the progress that I have made so far on my life.
You don't need dateing apps to feel validated.
Remember guys, woman only cry about a guy she can’t have while ignoring the multiple men she rejected
facts! XD
They only cry, because chad didn't commit.
I met my husband on a dating website in 2009. People were more sincere back in those days. It's sad to see what the youth have to deal with nowadays😢
Hey, yall chose the bear, made ick lists, and made guys feel gross for not being 6'5" and up with a 7 figure salary. Made your bed, now sleep in it... Alone. 😅
Yep, idk why women are complaining now and making these videos
@UserRobot215 Like I do understand it's not ALL women, just like it's not ALL men. However, they say the loudest opinions tend to be heard.
Do you guys not complaining that a woman is not fit and fake like an insta model? Don't you? If she has glasses, a big nose, large hips, short legs... not to mentions skin color.. do you even look at her?? Yes, now why women have to accept courtship of men short and ugly? Men who clearly don't go to Jim and don't improve themselves, while we try diet, exercise, make up, hairstyle etc.?
Or God forbid, we don't have a 6 pack.
I met my now fiancé, future husband, as a coworker last year. He’s the love of my life and we are both each others number one fan and can’t wait to raise a family and spend the rest of our lives together. It can happen, be bold, be respectful, and be patient ❤
Screw it. Just be creepy and give em hell.
Woman crosses the street as I approach? More sidewalk for me!😆
@@fredfredburger5150 A woman starts running in the opposite direction from me at night? Better catch up to her and ask her what we are running from!
You must be a woman because being creepy is not the only danger.
Do the creep! ua-cam.com/video/tLPZmPaHme0/v-deo.html
😂 😂
If it’s woman constantly saying don’t approach and that’s causing the main problem, then why is it men’s responsibility to fix this issue?
Shouldn’t those who caused it, right the wrong?
Agreed. Modern women in general don't zero accountability. The videi of this girl trying to suggestd how we women can social engineer and force men to ask us out again. Seriously? Just starting doing the damn asking yourself! Why are we playing these games as adults?
3 simple rules for men to not be creepy.
1. Be attractive
2. Be attractive
3. Be attractive
or go for women below your attractiveness, I know, shocker right?!
@@Alison2436
No no.
Literally date gold mine 1!
“Hey beautiful! I thought you were stunning and wanted to get your number to set up a date sometime!” - number is a win, everything else is a bust.
that's only true if you're dealing with a shallow girl. women are social creatures, meaning we usually place more value on your personality and how you interact with our friends and family.
Good, point. American women aren't worth the effort.
No, even then you can be seen as creepy...
Honestly, just don´t be wierd.
And if she is wierd, or just answers with nothing answer.. Just give up on her, and move on to next.
And despite @alison2436 being dumb with that comment, she is kinda right.. Often less attractive women, have more common sense and might be sweet..
“Don’t ask her out immediately, try to get to know her first.”
Good advice on paper but in practice that’s how you end up as a friend she will never see as a potential dating partner. Men really are damned if they do, damned if they don’t in today’s dating world.
That is the worst possible advice. You get in or out of the friend zone right away. Make your intentions known as quickly as possible without being creepy. I like something like a sly "you know I'd probably let you drag me home if you brought me a few drinks first..."
@@theminister1154A wife will know you for years so that she can trust you. Not cheekily appreciate a flirtatious comment and give it all up...
@@wehumansmayglow you can use something a little smaller caliber if you want. But you better let that girl know you find her cute right away. Otherwise you're a damn fool. Do not let her slot you in the friend category.
Also of course wife material is going to make you take her out a couple times first. You have a lot more chance making it from where I start then from where the dumbasses who play friend game start. It is in fact dishonest and sleazy to pretend to be a girl's friend wonder what you want is more.
@@wehumansmayglowhuh?
Personally, if i ever have a crush on a boy, first, i will try to be his friend. Simply because i would like to know him more, know more about his personality, hobbies, etc... if i liked his behaviors/personality, i would ask him out. If not, i wouldn't ask him anything. I only do that because for me being a respectful and decent huma is a must, so if i see he behaved in a disrespectful way to anyone, it's an immediate Nope he's not the one. So friends first, then we will see how it goes.
Not buying it. The only difference between mysterious and creepy is a woman's opinion of your appearance. Ive seen it firsthand with my own eyes out in the field doing the eyeball observational research. If she thinks you're hot, she finds it alluring and flirtatious. If she thinks you're ugly, your're just a weird creeper. Men have no idea which bucket bin they fall into until after she responds. My advice for women: if you want to meet men, why not actually do some of the heavy lifting for a change and meet them halfway by introducing yourself. That you think you can just sit back and field offers like a movie star is quite narcissistic. People cannot read minds. If you are interested in someone its up to YOU to do the outreach.
Correct. Sometimes you can tell though the way they look at you as you approach, giving you the "Oh God no is he coming towards me?" look.
It's partly true however it's not that the hot guy is NOT creepy , sometimes they are very creepy its just that the girl doesn't care cuz she wants a one night stand with him
Some socially awkward people or people that seem too desperate and are looking at your body too much, very much come off as creepy, whether hot or not.
I knew a guy who looked at children in this way. He ended up being a pedophile and going to jail. So yeah, there is a creepy behavior. It's not completely about looks but a hot guy can get away with being a creepy pervert, that's the only difference.
Never let a woman tell you how to attract women.
@@Hunter-2689 You are right theres a minority of dudes like that. Better to never approach then though, at all, and just keep your mental well-being unharmed.
Rejecting men isn't new, but now unless you're a top tier man, good job, good looks, good humor, you don't stand a chance, mid men can't pull mid women because we gaslight women into thinking they should all get top men and top men have so many options they have no reason to settle with just one
Agree with most, but I don’t think gaslight is the right word for this though.
The conundrum accurately described in one run-on sentence.
Yes
@@Jordanthecool7true. they light themselves up not us. those NPC beatches under their photos and videos going "slaay, queen, 🔥" for the basic stuff is one of millions of reasons.
Rejection isn't the problem. Daddy Govt holding a gun to your head, because she decided your mere existence is SH... that's the problem.
Near the end of the video Brett mentions 'getting to know her first', I highly disagree. That is how you get friendzoned. If you're attracted to her and the chit-chat goes well, ask her out on a date (make sure you use the word DATE).
You are right. Brett's advice was particularly bad.
You are both wrong.
A friend zone can be a great place. It's not forever. I had all my 3 relationships start like this and I'm now married. I would not consider going on a date unless I knew the guy first. Getting to know someone without the pressure of a date is a great way to become comfortable with each other.
But keep whining. I'm sure that'll work
@@janelleg597 I don't believe you, because I have encountered a man who said he was in the Friend-Zone first and then got the girl when she was in her prime.
You also engage in typical fmnsts anti-male shaming that men by speaking are "whining" and that the "whining" is the reason they are not getting girls and that they are not getting girls. (So an Andrew Tate or Myron would give the same advice, even though they obviously do get girls.)
I am open to hearing more details and being proven wrong (if I can believe your story), but my assumption based on my experience and your rude comment is that you are a liar.
And if you rush into it and didn't see the red flags, you'd be screwed especially if u married her.
@@janelleg597 Typiclal fmnst anti-male shaming tactics: "You don't have women because you disagree with me."
They're not looking for men. Brett. They're looking for the top 20% the top 10%. Not looking for a good old fashioned apple pie, blue collar boy. And social media validating all these cringe women's feelings is nonsense. Just because you feel something doesn't mean it's correct or good
This needs more likes immediately.
Actually, I'd love a good old fashioned apple pie blue collar boy. Most of the guys who are the top 10 or 20% are complete dirtbags who could care less about women. They just use them. Good old fashioned country boys with Christian values are what good girls desire, we just don't know where to find them exactly.
when every move you make has a high chance of getting called "s***** harassment",
there are no merits of doing it anymore
Yup even the male models and movie stars are affected too. The "perfect" pretty men are feeling the burn too now.
I agreed to show a Canadian girl around the UK as a favor to my cousin, who was her housemate. The second night she informed me, after a few drinks, that we were going to get married! I thought' Woah! Bunny boiler alert!' But she was right- happily married for 15 years.
LOL! After a few dates with one of my sons my future DIL told his brother , “well, I guess you’re going to be my brother-in-law, great!!!” That son responded, “OK then--here, have a whiskey!” His brother proposed two months later 😂😂
@baseballmomof8 When you know, you know I guess?
I tried asking girls out in highschool and got turned down every single time. Cold approaches, getting to know them and hanging out didnt work for me at the time. Now im more worried not having any experience dating at 26.
It's a numbers game, which is what makes it exhausting.
What I mean is if you want results you need to approach as many girls as you can everyday.
Start with one everyday for a month and eventually work your way up to the max your schedule will allow, hopefully something like 10 or more per day.
So roughly 70 per week (it can take months or a year to work up to this many). About 280 per month.
Even if your chances are 1% you'll get about 3 positive responses. Rejection will become your familiar friend but it will build confidence over time.
Work these approaches into your natural schedule so you're always on your way somewhere and not just hanging around aimlessly.
Hopefully you live in a larger city to hit those numbers.
I had my first date at 26, and then I had trouble because women in America thought I was strange since I didn't have experience. Move to Europe....
I'd prefer women just say no instead of giving hints, it shows a sign of respect that she is willing to give me an honest answer.
Basically HAVE 6 PACK ABS! I guarantee you no man with abs has ever been called “creepy”.
“Creepy” is a short way of saying “you do not meet my shallow physical requirements”
I'm a gym rat. I'll admit i've never been called creepy, but have always ultimately been rejected. So idk if it makes much of a difference. It's probably my face! lol
There was this homeless guy who was harmless but creepy. He had crazy abs cause he obsessively did sit ups.
He would walk around the street lifting up his shirt and showing his abs to college girls. While approaching them out of nowhere.
That guy was legitimatly creepy.
@@Krunchtastic727 liar
@@luket3452 lol I spent many of nights just chilling on my 3rd story balcony watching over the streets. That dude would work out in the ally way constantly. He never said anything he just kinda grunted a groaned. Man he had such bad posture I wonder if he had some sort of kyophosis or something. Oh I guess the other part I'm not saying is the guy was short. 5'4 or 5'6. So maybe it was his height that women were creeped out on. Lol. Not his sweet abs.
Sweet abs is what we called him. And on weekend nights when the ladies were out he would lift up his shirt just enough to show his abs and dart forwards towards the 20 something girls (he was in his 40's) with his head bobbed down due to his bad posture and purposefully walked towards his goal. I'm really only putting all this out here because I fondly remember they guy laughing at his always failing tactics.
Got to give the man credit where credit is due he never gave up and I hope to this day he found the lady of his dreams where they both walk purposefully forward showing their sweet abs together. Not talking just kinda grunting at each other.
Nah if the guy is short and bald he still will be a creep. muscle helps but they don’t fix those issues
My sister a couple of years ago, after a few drinks with me and our older brother, we asked her what was up in that she was 26 and had never had a boyfriend, and she listed off her criteria for a guy and it’s the same thing, either he doesn’t exist, or with one of the criteria being having an in touch sense of fashion and being up to date on the latest tends in fashion, then he’s probably gay!
Gentlemen, if you want to get women, ask a man who gets women. Don’t ask another woman. If you want to catch fish, you ask the fisherman.
I really like that point: A lot of women think they are 10 when they are 5
Yea thats the problem, but also... I'm meeting a girl who is a ten and she knows it, she is not egoistic about it
Sorry, Brett, but I’m not letting women tell me how to not be creepy, when so many of them CHOOSE to be offended over everything men do.
She's 20 and found a dude to marry her, so here she goes with the ”master of dating” content. Every person online who's managed to find a partner for 5 minutes, somehow has the answer to everyone's dating situation, and of course of course about it.
Oh stop! She’s been advocating these same idea’s basically since her show started. She isn’t trying to be a “master of dating”, she’s just giving some advice... including how she found her husband. Take it or leave it! She never claimed it would work for everyone or every time. The dating world had become much harder to navigate, and she’s just pointing out the problems.
@@sb7394 she's lying and downplaying the huge problems being created by women. She is a TradCon gynocentric feminist, telling men that their lived experience isn't real.
Any man that takes a woman's advice on dating is a fool or a simp.
@@sb7394 Guess you didn’t read what I said. Not taking advice on how to not be creepy or even dating advice in general from women. Y’all are illogical individuals that don’t know what you want, except for everything that’s wrong for you.
Women can't find men to date because 80% of men are invisible to them.
And those 80% might as well face facts: You save up money, go to foreign country for a long vacation and date women until you find waifu.
"80% of men are invisible to them" - the percentages change somewhat as they approach collision with a particular vertical object.
@@Doberman_6773 Never be the guy she "settles for"; as if you're beneath her. She wouldn't give you the time of day if you weren't making more money than her, had your life together, etc.
Women who land in that situation and find a simp grow to resent him within a few years, and divorce around the 10 year mark. How convenient they always wait for that magic 10 years, where most states hand out lifetime alimony and she gets the house outright. And then he's either an indentured servant for the rest of his life, or self-deletes.
@@Doberman_6773 yeah but then we have to settle for her settling for us. I personally don't want to be someone's 2nd best
Hey, men ignore 80 percent of women too. All true.
No Brett, we are not doing this. Men didn't create this issue. Women screamed at the top of their lungs for men not to approach them in public. Women need to approach men and ask them out. It is the only method that will provide 100% clarity.
Thank you I was like whatbis with these videos she is doing recently like, don't give men or women excuses, we call out shit behavior and delusions, guess this channel ain't for me anymore
Liberal women are responsible for this situation. You can still meet conservative women in places like church. If you wait for a woman to approach you, you might only attract those who support the 'woke' culture. Conservative fathers often teach their daughters not to pursue men, but to be feminine and let men make the first move. Be careful, as you might miss out on these women.
Why ? Is not a "masculine role"?😂
Men can still be the ones to ask for the date, but women need to start those random conversations just as often as men need to. That's where Brett went wrong in this video - she didn't give the same prescription to women. No reason why the woman in that scenario couldn't be the one to say "where did the bartender go?"
Ofc she's gonna side with the women she's one herself considered me shocked
16:05 our biggest “GO TOUCH GRASS!” advocate 😂
Meeting people in person is just as broken as the apps for the same reason. Women's standards are so insanely high, by the time a man meets them, he'll be so much greater in value in her that there is no way he'll ever be interested in anything committed.
Also bing rejected in person by women beneath you is insanely discouraging. Men aren't going to approach when women's standards are this delusional.
The makeup is also a huge turnoff. No clearer sign of narcissism. Women like to say all men are ugly, but realistically speaking... if you need to spend that much money on product every month... you're either ugly or insanely insecure and a headcase.
The two stakes in the vampire's heart of dating are - 1) Feminism, and 2) Social media. The two combined are the death knell of our society, and is being played out in real time right in front of our eyes.
Man I could use a steak right now...
I'm not single by choice, I've just accepted it and decided to stop wasting effort on something doomed to failure from the start. Getting off the app won't bring me back.
My girlfriend told me about her favorite pick up line of all time. Maybe someone here could use it and see how it goes. The guy walked up to her, held out his closed hand and said "This is my pick up lime" when he opened his hand it was a lemon. She laughs her ass off at that story.
This all just doesn't seem worth it.
It ain't.
only winning move is to not play
It's not. Been married almost 30 years. Women are very boring creatures. Most of my gorgeous friends have been through bad divorces. I'm a bit of an asshole. Women seem to like that.
Happiness is always worth it.
@@Dante02d12oh you one of those "happy wife happy life" kooks
I am 74 yo HSM and absolutely love your show for a year now. I love your energy, your common sense and humour. As to dating, I am glad I don't have to date anymore.I have seen for so many years how women changed. They are aggressive, have unreasonable expectation, complain and denigrate man constantly and playing victimhood when it suits them. I used to open doors for women, bought flower when I had a date, paid for dinners and never forced anyone to have sex. When a women told me off after I opened the door for her few years back, that was a last straw for me. No more gentleman behaviour from me. I know exactly why you men are not hurrying to date.
Cover the story about the man in Middletown PA who was charged with attack and attempted grape by a woman who lied about the whole story because she thought he was a creepy looking guy she saw in a parking lot. The man wasn't even in the parking lot that night and she told the police she made up the whole story. She was just jailed. Men have to actually think this could happen to them at any point these days. Or on a lesser level be publicly called creepy simply for attempting a conversation with the wrong female. I've seen that in a target, a poor guy getting publicly shamed loudly and workers being alerted that "a creepy man" was following her and tried to get her number, and I heard the guy approach her, he was not being weird he just didn't look to her standard and she was a terrible human.
He should have pressed charges against her and sued
@@harsh3948he probably will, it just happened so it's ongoing
For Lent, I gave up dating apps after going on a few dates at the beginning of the year, went back on after Easter, and have given it up since. Made me remember how good it feels to wait for something "real" and in person, even if it'll take a while. God is good and His mercies are new every morning.
How to not be creepy... Look like Chris Hemsworth.
I know the blame goes both ways, as far as gender is concerned, but I personally experienced an environment a few years ago where this concept rang loud and clear for the men's point of view. I was part of a college-aged group (at a church, for crying out loud) where many of the young girls (not all of them, but enough) would trash-talk nearly any guy who had the audacity to be friendly. The only way to "pass the test" was for the girls to already be interested in him solely based on physical appearance. It left nearly all the men terrified to approach any of the girls, even in a platonic sense. Why set yourself up to become the next gossip victim? It nearly ruined the fellowship of our group.
Ya, so, biblically speaking, all those women were jezebelian and probably did not have true intimate relationship with Jesus Christ.
Yup---girls reject you if you show interest first.
rule one of dating never take dating advice from women i might be 41 and out of the market but i do know that much
Bingo... if you want to learn how to catch a fish, you don't ask a fish... you ask a fisherman
Have a job, be in shape, have a future.. and be opinionated (most important) thats how you get a woman. (Used to be Lesbian) Got plenty of girls in person and on/off apps.
@@rrrealqueen and yet young men who do all that still cant get a date it is almost as if there is lower expectations of you is it not food for thought
lol I watch to see how far off the plot whamin are and see if there's any progress on realizing they have to change and stop blaming men for their attitude and behaviour.
So far, nothing. They keep going further away from reality
As a man who is 6’3” runs an 5:15 mile weighs 195, lives at the beach works as a wildland firefighter and retired from the spec war community. I STILL get nothing (from the women I’m interested in). I surf dance and do MMA for hobbies. I volunteer at animal homeless shelters, sing in my church choir and play the piano and guitar. I want to be with a pretty kind woman. I don’t mind paying all the bills when we get married, all the women in church are old or overweight. I just want a woman who is pretty and kind. How is that so hard to find?
Get a passport, theres a lot of intelligent, classy ladies around the world.
@@chandraray7798 working on becoming a commercial pilot
@@chucksolutions4579 Yeah bro that's ur solution right there. Ur good to go.