Wow the wife Janelle (I think her name is) sure looks different in their home videos. I guess because she's using a filter. She really looks like a totally different person.
If you care THAT much about your family, about not teaching your children that infidelity is normal (& thus warping their perceptions of relationships), then use your fricken hand when necessary.
How long are u supposed to use ur hand ????? Fucling ridiculous that woman think it's OK to just leave thier partner hanging... and expect to just wait for years on end ... if u love ur husband u wouldn't put him in a position to need intimacy with someone else...
@@frenchfactorygenetics8866 Easy. Not all women think that way far from it. And often enough when women DO think that way its because the man is terrible in bed. Terrible in bed+Frigid=Happy Divorce Lawyers.
Cheating is 100% fault of the person who cheated. Nobody else but them. It doesnt matter whatever is going on in the relationship, cheating is something that is a choice and done intentionally. If the relationship is having issues or it's not what you want anymore, you either discuss it with your partner to fix it together, or you leave the relationship entirely and not waste anyone's time. This guy doesnt want to be an adult and take responsibility for anything he does or has done. Just throw the whole man away, a partner is not supposed to bring a whole new set of stress into your life.
That's incorrect, if one partner is abusive (many ways to be abusive) the other may seek comfort from another. If breaking up was as easy as people say then you could argue that. When children and money/property are involved it becomes more complicated.
My husband had a long term affair with one of my relatives and I found out. Not sure why they decided to ruin my life that way because my husband and I were always intimate. To this day, I hate them both.
@@karlagordon4555 we divorced. His coworkers were actually disgusted with his behavior and a few of them came forward. No, no need to speak to evil people like them.
It is very sad when wives withholding from thier husband's it's understandable though not right what he did. It is an important part of a marriage, and women use it as a weapon.
He is downplaying everything he has done, while saying what he knows she wants to hear. Run girl, RUN! I've been there. The time is coming when he is tired of acting, and just becomes plain mean to her...(unless she drops the issue real soon). His heart is not in it anymore, or he wouldn't be cheating and lying. At this point he is trying to keep his money, not his wife or kids.
@@avery1964 THANK YOU I see more and more every day how blessed I am to be alive and away from the domestic violence and narcissistic abuse, his alcoholism and neglect of his family!
He obviously does not respect his wife. Unfortunately, when we stay with someone who doesn’t respect us they’ll continuously do things because we allow them to do so.
Exactly......imagine if this script has flipped genders. The women here would be losing their minds that he wasn't satisfying her in bed and would justify her cheating.
Sorry not true, know so many women who catered to their man's everything and they still cheat....why....cause they bored, it's boring at home....ugh...
The problem is that men like this get so much more attractive and successful with age. It awakens something in them and they no longer want to be committed.
Marriage is a contract people WITH VOWS, let us NOT forget that crucial detail...u must get out of your marriage FIRST before hooking up with randos....say what u will about the wife but he was still legally marrief...so legally is OFF LIMITS....i teally wish people could be sued for being in an affair 😂😂😂
Not divorcing him. He already has no respect for you. He is doing everything so you can divorce him. He is just too coward to come out and say it. Wants single life but someone to wash, clean etc
Sounds like narcissistic behavior. He says he should have realized it was their anniversary as if that's the only reason to not cheat (not to mention not remembering the anniversary). Then he blames everything on her for not giving intimacy meanwhile the wife says they were sleeping together so that excuse is out the window. Truth is he wants to cheat in peace and then have a faithful wife to go home to, while acting as if she's bothering him with her marital boundaries.
You're super toxic and if you think demeaning men in your other comments by their height is a good example for your son, come back to this comment in ten years when he resents you for your rude and cruel energy.
@@paddycraig I love my husband. Sorry you are so attached to this story. I find this guy pretty disgusting. WE would be very upset if our child ended up like that WEAK entitled sexual addict weirdo.
Ok so here's the part that is missing because the guy obviously is taking no accountability. Cheating is a choice. 100%. It's the brain's way to escape from trauma and isolation. Cheating on your spouse is a side effect of the relationship being dead. He's right about that. The part he is missing is that he would have turned to another source of escape. He's broken. Had there been a solid intimate relationship, he would have turned to gambling, drugs, alcohol, social media, gaming, shopping, etc. His brain is trying to cope with trauma in an unhealthy manner because he has no good coping mechanisms. He is broken. Why do I know this? Because I used to be like this. I had an emotional affair years ago and it took me years of healing to understand this.
@@brandonjones557 I can guarantee he will marry again, but the same cycle will happen to him and his next partner unless he gets therapy. Both of them need to sort themselves out. If he's unhappy he'll simply cheat once again and just blame the next partner for the reason for cheating. No remorse, no guilt, zero accountability, always seeking attention elsewhere, entitlement wherein the law applies to all except them. People like that are never happy. They can pretend they are, but they're not. Chameleons never change, they adapt. :D
They are likely both at fault. People. Don't cheat on your spouse. Withholding intimacy IS infidelity, and it will either break your marriage or break your spouse. Probably both. Not to mention you are denying your own needs for connection.
There's never a reason to cheat. If you don't want to be with someone, end it properly that way you spare your partner the lies and years of pain. If you really can't help yourself, then don't marry someone in the first place. You're obviously not ready to settle down and commit to someone yet :(
Wow the wife Janelle (I think her name is) sure looks different in their home videos. I guess because she's using a filter. She really looks like a totally different person.
Some woman do this to their spouse and deflect it on them while the guy tries to provide for the home and them. And so would a woman would do. If theres no passion, intimacy, or spark in your relationship/marriage, communicate with your spouse about it and if that doesnt work, end it all dont cheat and justify it that makes you a child and not a grown up. Thats not paranoia, thats the truth.
Sometimes women just want affection and will "put out" just to be held and loved, however, there has to be pleasure given and received for a satisfactory relationship to survive. IMHO the biggest difference between women and men is: Women are almost 100% emotional and men are 100% physical. Women will give and give just for a few minutes of affection but too often men do not want to give that spark of affection :/ Very SAD .. he should ask himself why she is not so receptive to his desires and find out what she needs from him.
LOL why does the world needs to know that this guy cheated on his wife? Does it matter?? Do I care? He cheated and thats it. Dr phill show is great in most cases but then there are these guys that come to the show just for like.
So basically the husband hurt her and ruined their marriage because he was a horndog. It is not the women that are problem it is the husband because he thinks with his bottom head
She sent her man out into this lustful world in a vulnerable state. Nobody is perfect. Don’t make life harder than it is. He didn’t feel the intimacy. Fix it.
Lol no, he is a grown man with self control. This isn't all on her. He should've been much more dedicated to communicating his needs to her, and pushing for counseling. He broke his vows easily. On top of that he WAS having intamacy with her, just not the exact type/frequency. Stop trying to make this only the woman's fault.
He didn't feel the intimacy..so you'd think he would communicate and express that to her as well as try to fix the relationship? Not go out and cheat...he knew exactly what he was doing, stop making excuses for cheaters. 💀
this guy literally has kids and is supposed to be committed to the relationship. intimacy is not as huge as everything else in a relationship to everyone, so that doesn’t excuse it
I don’t blame everything on her but yes if you’re Not intimate with your partner and the partner will find it somewhere else. Same thing happened to me my wife wasn’t intimate with me when we were In our early 20s And yes I found it somewhere else. She was like an old lady in our early 20s months will go by I couldn’t even touch her. So yes I did find it somewhere else. And yes I did end up leaving her
That wife- I would cheat on her, too! Trying to stay with that unfaithful husband and blaming the other woman. Having her shamed and lose her job when your man is the problem!! Idiot woman blaming the wrong person.
These two look more like twins than my twins lol
Ouch, the truth
Wow the wife Janelle (I think her name is) sure looks different in their home videos. I guess because she's using a filter. She really looks like a totally different person.
Yikes, I feel more embarrassed about his behavior than he does.
He is super cringe but his feelings are valid
@@paddycraig lol no they aren't
@@phoenixdown5181Yes they are
Same goes for her too
He takes zero responsibility. He's not marriage material. Get rid of him he does not care about you.
He's in the dark for how he should treat women, with that he surely does not have somebody special at home. They deserve each other.
@@rayc9899 He wouldn care much, dear. Marriage is where men's lives die.
If you care THAT much about your family, about not teaching your children that infidelity is normal (& thus warping their perceptions of relationships), then use your fricken hand when necessary.
Mmmm, there are limits.
How long are u supposed to use ur hand ????? Fucling ridiculous that woman think it's OK to just leave thier partner hanging... and expect to just wait for years on end ... if u love ur husband u wouldn't put him in a position to need intimacy with someone else...
@@frenchfactorygenetics8866 Easy.
Not all women think that way far from it.
And often enough when women DO think that way its because the man is terrible in bed.
Terrible in bed+Frigid=Happy Divorce Lawyers.
@@FranSanTeeth90 so thier for they shouldn't complain when it's gotten somewhere else
@@frenchfactorygenetics8866 I agree!
Robin's face says it all, "Ya, I'm not buying your excuse, buddy."
What the guys won’t say is 90% agree with him, we might pretend it’s abhorrent but the truth is we would take his side.
Not being an honorable man is not something to be proud of.
They’re scared of pushback in the comments I a agree with this guy
Cheating is 100% fault of the person who cheated. Nobody else but them. It doesnt matter whatever is going on in the relationship, cheating is something that is a choice and done intentionally. If the relationship is having issues or it's not what you want anymore, you either discuss it with your partner to fix it together, or you leave the relationship entirely and not waste anyone's time.
This guy doesnt want to be an adult and take responsibility for anything he does or has done. Just throw the whole man away, a partner is not supposed to bring a whole new set of stress into your life.
How long you have to wait lol forever?
PREEEEACH
Women who give and withold intimacy as a form of punishment and reward are setting up their partners for these situations
That's incorrect, if one partner is abusive (many ways to be abusive) the other may seek comfort from another. If breaking up was as easy as people say then you could argue that. When children and money/property are involved it becomes more complicated.
My husband had a long term affair with one of my relatives and I found out. Not sure why they decided to ruin my life that way because my husband and I were always intimate.
To this day, I hate them both.
iam so sorry for you...that must hurt so much...
stay strong.😓😓😓
@@mikivanduyn9630 it was terrible. I still have nightmares.
Thank you for being kind.
@@beaglemama7928 😘😘😘
Did you stay with him? I'm so sorry. Do you speak to them both and how did you find out
@@karlagordon4555 we divorced. His coworkers were actually disgusted with his behavior and a few of them came forward.
No, no need to speak to evil people like them.
This woman doesn’t care about her dignity or self respect, she cares about being right
Makes sense. If you’re not getting it, of course you’ll go where it’s given!
It is very sad when wives withholding from thier husband's it's understandable though not right what he did. It is an important part of a marriage, and women use it as a weapon.
a divorce would help this situation
Yes, I have been cheated on. I don't understand how this woman can stand being in the same space as this guy.
@@beaglemama7928 she is desperate & that's never a good look on anybody
@@pretty_troll you're right!
If he is not dumping his load in you, he's dumping it in someone else. If you don't want your spouse to cheat, don't weaponize intimacy.
The more he tries to justify his actions the deeper the hole he digs for himself.
No he’s just not intelligent enough to explain himself correctly
He is downplaying everything he has done, while saying what he knows she wants to hear. Run girl, RUN! I've been there. The time is coming when he is tired of acting, and just becomes plain mean to her...(unless she drops the issue real soon). His heart is not in it anymore, or he wouldn't be cheating and lying. At this point he is trying to keep his money, not his wife or kids.
My EX had a very UNrealistic expectation of sexual and it was “all (my) fault!” per him
Glad you got out
@@avery1964 THANK YOU
I see more and more every day how blessed I am to be alive and away from the domestic violence and narcissistic abuse, his alcoholism and neglect of his family!
He obviously does not respect his wife. Unfortunately, when we stay with someone who doesn’t respect us they’ll continuously do things because we allow them to do so.
Leave him. He doesn't love you.
She clearly doesn’t love him if she’s indifferent to his needs. Sounds like you settled.
@@RedFlagCoalitionpeople, even when married have free will, they’re not slaves to each other. Sounds like you believe otherwise.
She should run from this man. She deserves better. He’s self-centered.
So's she! They're perfect for each other!...
self centered for wanting to intimate with his wife.
wake up ladies! this is happening alot more than you realize. this could be you…
The husband deserves better. Get your freedom brother.
I'm leaning towards being on his side. Though not enough info. I will say this: you can't deprive your spouse without consequences.
Exactly......imagine if this script has flipped genders. The women here would be losing their minds that he wasn't satisfying her in bed and would justify her cheating.
Agreed. 👍
Who wants to be intimate with a cheater?
Feed a man and keep him empty and he'll have no reason to stray...
Sorry not true, know so many women who catered to their man's everything and they still cheat....why....cause they bored, it's boring at home....ugh...
He reminds me of the guy who walked into a Chris Hansen/ Dateline sting and later blamed his wife for "lack o' intimacy" for his predicament!
They look like siblings wtf
The problem is, the truth can never be uncovered in a 15 min Dr Phil slot.
= It's not his fault.
Narcissist.
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!
If your at the bar then you dont need to be married
The problem is that men like this get so much more attractive and successful with age. It awakens something in them and they no longer want to be committed.
May be the wife withholds intimacy
Ego boost for sure!
Exactly...he doesn't love her anymore and wants her gone...making it easier to leave her
You’re telling me these aren’t the same people? I saw the thumbnail and thought they were the same person…
At least his being honest.
exactly
Once a cheater always a cheater!!!!
Marriage is a contract people WITH VOWS, let us NOT forget that crucial detail...u must get out of your marriage FIRST before hooking up with randos....say what u will about the wife but he was still legally marrief...so legally is OFF LIMITS....i teally wish people could be sued for being in an affair 😂😂😂
Not divorcing him. He already has no respect for you. He is doing everything so you can divorce him. He is just too coward to come out and say it. Wants single life but someone to wash, clean etc
Sounds like narcissistic behavior. He says he should have realized it was their anniversary as if that's the only reason to not cheat (not to mention not remembering the anniversary). Then he blames everything on her for not giving intimacy meanwhile the wife says they were sleeping together so that excuse is out the window. Truth is he wants to cheat in peace and then have a faithful wife to go home to, while acting as if she's bothering him with her marital boundaries.
He would all the cards in saying he felt used if he didn't cheat.
This wife is not going to find love. She is awful. Her husband is the player not the other woman. James is such coward. They will divorce
Im available lol 😝 I don't cheat
What a jerk, how can she stand him? He doesn't love her.
His wife needs to have more respect for herself.
He should have left her the first time she denied him...
I hope I'm not like this in the future 💀
I can't believe she would stay with a man like that, she should leave.
EWWWWW... UM TROLL Man child boy..... vs. total beautiful woman. LOVE AND LIGHT... TO HER AND ANYONE INFECTED BY THIS WASTE OF SPACE
Well stated 😂
@@Eilhea Amen
You're super toxic and if you think demeaning men in your other comments by their height is a good example for your son, come back to this comment in ten years when he resents you for your rude and cruel energy.
@@paddycraig I love my husband. Sorry you are so attached to this story. I find this guy pretty disgusting. WE would be very upset if our child ended up like that WEAK entitled sexual addict weirdo.
Girl get rid of him run
He is still lying
He’s a total narcissist.
She's in denial....she won't let go....she should leave his butt alone
Husband's shouldn't be hanging out at pick up bars especially alone wtf
If you're in a sexless marriage, divorce her!
Cheating women do the same thing.
Dr. Phil, how many more times you going to post these videos.
Ok so here's the part that is missing because the guy obviously is taking no accountability. Cheating is a choice. 100%. It's the brain's way to escape from trauma and isolation. Cheating on your spouse is a side effect of the relationship being dead. He's right about that. The part he is missing is that he would have turned to another source of escape. He's broken. Had there been a solid intimate relationship, he would have turned to gambling, drugs, alcohol, social media, gaming, shopping, etc. His brain is trying to cope with trauma in an unhealthy manner because he has no good coping mechanisms. He is broken. Why do I know this? Because I used to be like this. I had an emotional affair years ago and it took me years of healing to understand this.
What’s wrong there 15 mins. of fame didn’t work out for them.
Dr Phil will even ruin everything, they are adults should handle their business, we all got downs
Steroid abuse
Sucks when the wife stops being intimate for shore but I believe that you have 2 choices to break it off of stay and work things out
I predict that this comment section is going to be cursed
Can you check on them in five years? She needs to leave him. Someone else will love her more. She's losing out on a happy life.
I can guarantee you in five years he will be married and happy. And she will be alon or remarried and the other guy does the same. She is a problem
@@brandonjones557 I can guarantee he will marry again, but the same cycle will happen to him and his next partner unless he gets therapy. Both of them need to sort themselves out. If he's unhappy he'll simply cheat once again and just blame the next partner for the reason for cheating. No remorse, no guilt, zero accountability, always seeking attention elsewhere, entitlement wherein the law applies to all except them. People like that are never happy. They can pretend they are, but they're not. Chameleons never change, they adapt. :D
Wow this reasoning is so familiar, every time he (here it is) made a mistake 😳it was her Fault 😢
Why is he going to a bar on an Anniversary🙂??¿
Let them get divorced. Next!..
No healthy relationship has cheating
The man is a top G people who are disgusted with him are actually jealous they wish they were him
U can tell by her face she knows it's her fault
He looks kind of like will ferrel in the eyes sometimes 😂
I don't know why he would go on Dr Phil. Surely he would know that he is going to be framed as the baddie.
Don't think he is worth worrying over r her either
Leave her!! She doesn’t love you
Thank you
They are likely both at fault. People. Don't cheat on your spouse. Withholding intimacy IS infidelity, and it will either break your marriage or break your spouse. Probably both. Not to mention you are denying your own needs for connection.
Woman number #1
Woman number #2
Woman number #3 #4 #5
He still blames his wife!
There's never a reason to cheat. If you don't want to be with someone, end it properly that way you spare your partner the lies and years of pain. If you really can't help yourself, then don't marry someone in the first place. You're obviously not ready to settle down and commit to someone yet :(
Woman's opinion. If he did that he'd lose half his stuff and pay alimony. Women want equality except in the courtroom.
I understand where hes coming from
Western women lure the man to marry and have children, and then he denies intimacy and when she does she gives a favor
He is bad...just leave him...he does not know what real love is....he is just a boy.
Blah blah blah - actions speak louder
Wow the wife Janelle (I think her name is) sure looks different in their home videos. I guess because she's using a filter. She really looks like a totally different person.
He should of just left her amd not cheated.
Some woman do this to their spouse and deflect it on them while the guy tries to provide for the home and them. And so would a woman would do. If theres no passion, intimacy, or spark in your relationship/marriage, communicate with your spouse about it and if that doesnt work, end it all dont cheat and justify it that makes you a child and not a grown up. Thats not paranoia, thats the truth.
I really believe more relationships could be understood and fixed by watching/reading Dr John Gray (that's doctor, not pastor)
The pastor that cheated on his wife?…3x?
@@chingsinjani3963 No. Just shares a name
My guy has his priorities in check.
It's cuz his mistress made him feel alive...wife didn't...fact
Oh poor buddy wasnt gettin any. Was he goina die?
Sometimes women just want affection and will "put out" just to be held and loved, however, there has to be pleasure given and received for a satisfactory relationship to survive. IMHO the biggest difference between women and men is: Women are almost 100% emotional and men are 100% physical. Women will give and give just for a few minutes of affection but too often men do not want to give that spark of affection :/ Very SAD .. he should ask himself why she is not so receptive to his desires and find out what she needs from him.
"Men are 100% physical"
Not even close.
Ok boomer
This is such a reductive take.
No.
Cheater
LOL why does the world needs to know that this guy cheated on his wife? Does it matter?? Do I care? He cheated and thats it. Dr phill show is great in most cases but then there are these guys that come to the show just for like.
So basically the husband hurt her and ruined their marriage because he was a horndog. It is not the women that are problem it is the husband because he thinks with his bottom head
She sent her man out into this lustful world in a vulnerable state. Nobody is perfect. Don’t make life harder than it is. He didn’t feel the intimacy. Fix it.
You're trying to make excuses for him cheating.
Lol no, he is a grown man with self control. This isn't all on her. He should've been much more dedicated to communicating his needs to her, and pushing for counseling. He broke his vows easily.
On top of that he WAS having intamacy with her, just not the exact type/frequency. Stop trying to make this only the woman's fault.
@@ScreamingDucksShotMyMother Thank you! This is exactly it! People are victim blaming, it needs to stop. He is making excuses for his actions.
Can't fix ugly and short
He didn't feel the intimacy..so you'd think he would communicate and express that to her as well as try to fix the relationship? Not go out and cheat...he knew exactly what he was doing, stop making excuses for cheaters. 💀
I mean he isn’t completely wrong. If you’re not satisfying your man in the bedroom then Expect him to find it elsewhere vice versa
this guy literally has kids and is supposed to be committed to the relationship. intimacy is not as huge as everything else in a relationship to everyone, so that doesn’t excuse it
@@microwavablegerbil exactly when you have kids things change
Pretty sensible considering you are following the devil's guidance
Why take Vows
He’s telling the truth but he’s still in the wrong.
Well, I understand his needs but he should have been honest with her about his feelings BEFORE he cheated. But hey...maybe he didn't know yet
Interesting
🙏🏼
Isabel you always have to get there first
Women don’t get mad. Cheat back. Get even.
Cheating back on the one that cheated on you is not the answer just leave or forgive is the answer
That would make her equally as pathetic as him.
@@suzannerust8658 she's already a pathetic TikTok attention addict
That just makes you a cheater too lol. By doing that, you stoop to their level & effectively sacrifice any claim to the moral high ground.
@@paddycraig the whole TikTok thing is irrelevant to this situation.
If he’s a good husband and provider
Give him what he wants and fulfill your duties AS A WIFE NOT A ROOMMATE
She should cheat on him in their bed and then divorce him.
ALWAYS the mens fault 🙄 he is right.I don't care what anyone says.
Exactly
Should be taking ur wife out… not staying home with her… so it’s up to her to keep it fresh when ur out at bars. This Pos won’t stop cheating ever
It’s called mid-life crisis
I don’t blame everything on her but yes if you’re Not intimate with your partner and the partner will find it somewhere else. Same thing happened to me my wife wasn’t intimate with me when we were In our early 20s And yes I found it somewhere else. She was like an old lady in our early 20s months will go by I couldn’t even touch her. So yes I did find it somewhere else. And yes I did end up leaving her
That wife- I would cheat on her, too! Trying to stay with that unfaithful husband and blaming the other woman. Having her shamed and lose her job when your man is the problem!! Idiot woman blaming the wrong person.