@@OzzyDrixClayin what world are you living? 😭 anyone who doesn’t get the custody, has to pay the child support, no matter which gender 💀 I hope I misunderstood you
@@shaktimishra9710 no hate 💖 we simply 🎀ignore🎀 malicious bare minimum low effort men :) good men are welcome in the human society just like any other good human being.
I've introduced my mom to your content ❤ she *LOVES* you & she's lived a lot of what you talk abkut. She thinks you're smart & gorgeous, and I agree 😊 Wanted to let you know your content resonates w/ women accross generations
My fiancé has told me that him communicating with me, respecting my space, and providing for me IS the bare minimum. And that loving me is a privilege he gets to indulge in, not a chore.🥺 He knows I don’t enjoy jewelry (I have autistic sensory issues against metal) but I really enjoy physical touch, and boy does he provide physical touch! He pets my hair, cracks my back, gives me massages and cuddles, and always makes downtime for me. We go on sensory-friendly “quiet dates” to libraries, art galleries, and museums. He often compares me to Venus or Aphrodite.💖💗💕✨ Sisters, save your precious time and space for a man that loves you how *you* want to be loved! This is princess treatment💖👑✨
Ahhhh sis you’re living my dream ❤ I’m also not a jewelry girlie bc sensory issues/allergies but I love physical touch and quiet dates. Like take me to dinner, on a spa day, let’s take a bath, read together, watch a movie, I don’t want to be out in a crowd or where there’s too many loud sounds/bright lights. So happy for you!!
@@kaahfee I know, but no one really knows what happens in a relationship. Sometimes we judge by what we see from the outside and not all that glitters is gold.
@@decoraqueena6413 a woman with high self worth And love wont tolerate a man treating her any type of obvious bad way. She knows she doesn't deserve that treatment. You calling it bs is quite wild.
One of the most protective things you can do for your girlfriends is to treat them like princesses. A woman who is treated well by her community is less likely to allow a sub-par male to access her.
True. A community of women who sincerely care for each other deeply are very unlikely to want anything to do with a man who does not have stellar character and his life in order.
@@LotusesGalaxyOcean a man with stellar character and his life in order comes along once every 20 lifetimes 😂 You're right that we should have our own community support and also love and respect for ourselves. That's the only reliable love we have in our lives.
I recently met a guy who gives me princess treatment ♡. He even cares about my health and paid for a blood analysis that I couldn't afford. He's empathic and very masculine at the same time. Before that I was voluntarily single for 4 years and didn't even know men like him exist ♡♡ I'm super blessed and grateful and it's true: those men are rare and like a status symbol.
Because of you I’m no longer afraid to admit I want a cushy lifestyle. I want to be taken care of and not have kids. I want to pursue hobbies and travel and have fun in life. And I want to do that with someone.
Yup!! I got married and want no kids. It’s a cushy lifestyle that many people look down in. While my husband would like a child, I told him before dating that I’ll never want one. And he’s okay with it… I wanna keep it this way. I’m at peace.
Here to brag about my bf for a second 💅🏼 went out for a special dinner at a very fancy restaurant with my family and this man got to the restaurant early to put his card in to pick up the tab. I’ve never seen my dad so confused as he’s very successful and no one has ever thought twice about giving him the bill. This is coming off an ex fiancé that only worked part time and had me convinced on not only a 50/50 life, but basically a 70/30 life. Being cared for in a relationship has also given me even more time to kick ass at my job and my charity organizations. I hope all women find out you CAN have it all ❤
just today i saw i license plate cover that said “blessed by God, spoiled by my husband” and it actually gave me hope that there are spoiled girlies (young and old) out there 😭
Another absolute sermon. Ladies, we must stand united to reject men's treatment of us as a status symbol. How a man treats you shows HIS worthiness, not yours! WE are the prize! Every guy is just some guy. The LEAST he can do is treat you like the queen you are!
Women will say things like “Every guy is just some guy.” “We are the prize!” And then get mad when they get cheated on . Such an obnoxious narcissist mindset , if I as a man went “Every girl is r some girl” then y’all would label me as a misogynist
As I was in those situations, I wanted love and acceptance. I have trauma upon trauma and still healing and still make mistakes because I don't know what actual love is. I was abused from childhood, if course I will accept shitty treatment. But I don't need others guilting me and making me feel even worse after the fact. Men already did that.
I am loving the nuance here - women are still the prize even when there’s a current shortage of men who realize that and who are prepared to respond appropriately. Don’t budge until the boys wake up too!
"The better you get at pattern recognition, the better you'll get at breaking dysfunctional patterns." 👏🏾 That's a word! I love that you always bring in discernment as well 🙏🏾
@@nyxythebaddieWomen who know their worth never get humbled✨ They’re smart enough to make the opportunities for their standards to be met. I’m sorry that you’ve been humbled enough to have to disagree with us.
My boyfriend took years and didn't manage to propose and I am fed up with it. Today I told him I will leave and rent a new apartment for the next few weeks. Now I am home and seeing this. Thanks bestie!
Congratulations lady! Pls stay safe, some men switch up when you leave even those you least expect. Sending you love and light on your next chapter!! ✨
In just about any relationship I have been in I have always been the provider so much so that I used to spend up to 70% of my income just on bills so that my partner could save up money for us to build a future and it turns out he never wanted to build a future with me in the first place he ended up kicking me out and let his guy friends stay with him. Provider men are essential in a woman's survival because otherwise men are malicious enough to leave you with nothing and take everything you have
I agree. My ex had an 80k salary job but when he had to be the breadwinner for me and 2 puppies because I'm a teacher he "couldn't handle it" and got a less paying job but then gaslit me for not being able to afford the lifestyle he wanted. The amazon packages still came. Hummmm.... now I'm in debt and alone with 1 dog because I tried to keep a roof over all our heads. It's just us girls and eventually I'll pay this debt off and we can be free together at the dog park ha ❤️
The bar is so low that the princess treatment looks like a dream, I was so used to the emotional abused from my ex that when my now partner started to treatment like a human being it felt sooo nice, and now that he treats me like a real princess I cant compute going back to a mediocre man, I gave so much for that asshole, acting like an ant and begging for leftovers of love
I agree, glad you move on from your ex. There are women happily to tell me that men took them to McDonald's on first date and they accepted it because they don't want to be "any spoiled girl or look like a gold digger." 😅
@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke Don't you see the red flag here? Everybody knows McDonald's is not the healthy food out there and not a place to "date." Coffee shop is better for space and drinks to get to know a person. The guy is either having problems with his finance and likely will drag you down too or trying to test a woman. What they are willing to take you in the first date is how they feel about you. Unless they are teenagers then sure. I do like McDonald's ice tea. I don't lie about it. However, taking a person to eat fried junk food on the first date, ughh... Similar theory, when guests come to your house. Most of us would make homemade meals or buy pastries for guests. If you do this consistency and when they know you come to their' house instead but decline to treat you everytime. Oh well, sorry that's how they feel about you too. Every relationship, if not related by blood, are pretty much having mutual benefits.
But now you’re back, baby. How freeing is it to come to conclusions and eventual healing? Now it’s time to live your life- which still has love and fulfillment, because you are present and it’s yours. ❤
As a spoiled girlie I enjoy these conversations but many of these statistics need nuances themselves. As a black woman married to a korean man we’ve learned to “chew the meat and spit out the fat” with statistics. I’ve also experienced not as many are happy to see a spoiled girly who is black married outside of her race. Just some nuance to think about. Also, it’s important to note that it’s not women who “make these choices” with family/work….its our misogynistic government that leaves some with no choice. This is why it’s important for women to support each other no matter the lifestyle.
I understand all men all share this view, but a lot of BM in particular hate seeing BW who are high maintenance or invest a lot of money and time into their looks. But I also see more BM accepting a woman like that if she’s not black or look ambiguous. The same way a lot of BM claim BW have an “attitude” but will willingly seek out and try to be with Latin women who they say have “spicy” personalities. I think a lot of BM and men in general hate how high women’s standards are getting, it shows them they have to do more than the bare minimum. Men know they have to be all around a great partner if they wanna increase their options within dating/marriage. Men have been told their whole life that they’re the prize, when in reality, that’s far from the truth. Women have always been the prize and more important.
@@EsRa-ud5vv I think those men feel they have the default claim to women of their own ethnicity, and when those women are stuck beneath those men, the men feel like they always have an easy sure thing to go back to. Which allows them the confidence to go outside their ethnic group and pursue women they actually respect, because they don’t see those women as being beneath them. But when those original women get fed up, the men go crazy cause they no longer have a sure thing waiting for them when they’re done playing around.
In my 40s, I’ve noticed a significant shift in attitudes surrounding post-secondary education over the past few decades. I wonder if the fact that it’s become a female-dominated space plays a role in that? It’s an interesting consideration.
In my country most people in STEM are women and guess what, it's not a glamorous high paying job, taxi driver can provide more than certain laboratories, so people usually work there for the idea, interest, good of mankind, you name it. The opposite how IT went from "Code Girls" to "Tech Bros" and suddenly the profession is lucrative and prestigious. I don't know what comes first, men chasing status and luxury or their labor being noticed and having to have accolades unlike the invisible women, hence boy clubs = value, but societally I find it kinda sad how devalued nurturing is along with what is "women's spaces" during that blip of history and why men tend to bully and harass women away from certain fields probably partially to this. And when women overcome hurdles, they just give up without having status delivered on silver platter instead of adapting or being ok being equal, it's crazy.
Well, there's that theory. Another theory is that dumber, less educated people are more programmable. There is Van Life, Anti-Gold Digger and other trends trying to normalize poverty. All while promoting staying at home. There is a theory that those overlap for a reason. What do you think?
You know I'm in final year of engineering, and I'm like so stressed because I have to find a job, but your voice is sooo sweetz I listen to you while studying✨✨
Congrats 🎉 keep pushing, i know how hard it is but it’s worth it. I graduated with a degree in aerospace engineering despite overcoming many health challenges. It’s one of my accomplishments that I am very proud of (not the only one though).
14 years in a relationship where I was the main caretaker. Literally acting as a stand-in MOM for my ex. We're talking cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, etc. And we both worked 40hrs a week. Now I found a man who treats me right, who does his best for me, who buys me flowers and thanks me when I end up cooking a bit more often that he does.
I’m so glad you leave him and found someone better.. a lot of women because of their culture, ideology or society shame, don’t leave their spouses and end up miserable all the rest of their lives..
@@VelvetRed-rz8ur Lucky for me we weren't married. He bought a condo with his dad's money and I'm SO GLAD I didn't put my name on that. That would have made things so much more complicated. And yes, lucky because I live in a country where this is completely normal.
I'm just curious. What is the bare minimum a woman has to be for a "provider man?". If a woman gets princess treatment, does the man get his "king treatment", or is he just a peasant meant to serve the princess?
I'm outearning the average man my age so much even though I started my career late I Almost feel sorry for them. To me how much a man earns doesn't matter as long as he isn't a bum. The true deficit is the emotional deficit. Men that see women as people, men that are emotionally intelligent, men willing to work on their issues rather than building resentment for not being given things, men willing to make their partner feel special.
And so many men are failing in all of these areas. It's one thing for women to be surpassing them academically and financially, but for them to still see us as inferior is just insane.
@@WeShareTheSameAffliction the vast majority of sensitive, kind men are in lower earning fields. Also I earn enough to have a stay at home husband and I'm not against it because I never see myself as a stay at home mom despite wanting kids. Also watch the video "You don't need a rich man you need a GENEROUS man"
The past week I've been thinking that there's no regular degular men around me and I got so sad about that. So now I'll just continue focus in myself and if I find a worthy partner through my journey, that's good! If I don't, well, I prefer aging with dignity and peace. Being accompanied with good people or being alone with peace are two choices that sounds good to me. Thank you Ell, for spread awareness and taught us discernment, we love you so much!!! 💗💗💗
Women who are being taken care of financially need to use their position of power to take care of other women who aren’t as fortunate - start a business and hire them, donate as much as you can to women’s causes and shelters - showing off on Instagram isn’t do anyone any good. Do some actual good for women in need with your new status. You don’t need the 5 carat diamond, that donation could fund an entire women’s shelter for a good period of time! Spread the wealth. Create economic empowerment for other women so they can level up and avoid men* and provide for themselves until they find (or don’t, everyone’s choice) someone who can take care of them the way they deserve
And - if you don’t have big $ but you have time - spend it volunteering for other women or start a side hustle to be able to help even more. We have the ability to create sisterhood from scratch.
I don't know about that. I have helped a woman and she still owes me money after years. I know two women who often spend money on men but then they'd ditch their own family members for everything else from food and stuff. They hate to see you live a better life than them; however, all of their money is wasted on men. Mentality is everything. You can't change anyone unless they want to change. I say if you want to, then donate to women shelter and spread online words. Don't go extra miles in this cold cruel world to get unnecessary drama and stress.
ALSO, instead of having the sons and spending all of your energy, time, health, money on raising our own oppressors, we need to spend it on each other and on girls
I'm so early!! Elle could please make a video on exactly how we can know when a man has provider mindset, and also the immediate red flags that could be recognised in early stages? I love your videos sm! 💕
You will know. He is a provider when he doesn't let you pay anything for meals and entertainment between dates when he asks you out. However, if it's related to your personal stuff, don't expect him to pay for it. Red flags: 1) Watch his closed friends. If his friends rely on women's support and money, yeah he is not a provider and rather a soul digger. 2) I always suspect the term those men call women "if she is a real woman, she will stay with you when you have nothing." BULL. Every biological woman is a real woman, just because they can not take advantage of the women, doesn't mean they aren't real lol. 3) I can tell you almost 99% of men never date for any "potential" in women. They date because their women have all the benefits they want at the current time. So, don't fall for potential thing in men because everyone has potential. What you see the potential in him, he may not see it nor work toward it. 4) Stay away from broke men or men always blame women, they are MGOTW whatever. Those type of guys will ask you to slit 5050 scam in everything and look for financial independent women but hate feminists and want traditional women for nothing. 5) When I was single, I'd stay away from any man having a messy family or crazy family members that he was living with or be super closed to. Because if you marry one, your life would be hell. That was what I thought so I tried to detach myself from a man I started to like a little. It's maybe not fair in your book, but I'm not looking for drama so that was just me. Remember, a married woman doesn't just please a husband but also his family members, too.
I think the scientists forgot to mention that men are below women intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. And until they don’t catch up, we will remain uninterested.
I was watching a WW2 documentary a couple months ago. In it, a higher up in the intelligence agencies was asked why he hired all women to work in the code department. He said because women are smarter and more focused. This was in WW2!
@@JoelEmmettMcGarrity a lot of the comments promote female entitlement and, like this one, even female chauvinism. I can feel my faith in humanity slowly slinking away
@ParletPage oh they are not cowardly! They are comfortable recieving the benefits of having that woman around! They may hate her, but they would hate having to wash the dishes or cook meals or do the laundry or cleaning or child rearing or bill paying for themselves. And lets not forget, to men like that, annoying punani is better than no punani. I'd say intimacy but there is nothing inimate about it, these men are transactional and treat women like a vending maching.
My standards are astronomical and my husband meets them every day. I met him when I was in a place where I could give or take a relationship, ladies I'm telling you it makes all the difference when they know you arent hinging everything about your entire life on them.
Based off the numbers and trends, we need to start encouraging young women to save and invest heavily in their early career. We also really need to value the work of women dominated fields, especially in the care sectors, and pay appropriately for that work. I went to school for early childhood education (infant - preschool) but when I tried to get a job in the field I quickly realized it paid less than retail, even with a degree! Forget living wage, I couldn't even afford childcare for my kid on what I was paid.
Your videos made me realise so many things about myself and what I want and how I feel, I had many discussions with my partner about all of that, and that made our relationship so much better. I never imagined anyone would give me princess treatment, but back then he heard me and now princess treatment is all I get - nothing less. Our relationship mutually has developed into something so precious and beautiful.
Because they show they are awful and you still choose them. It's not like you are obligated to choose a man and the bad ones are the only ones available. As women we need discernment and patience to choose the right men and not the first ones who appears.
@@firstsunray Exactly, but they don’t want to hear this. We can’t make men change, but we are absolutely responsible for choosing to still be with them.
@firstsunray lol you think women choses the men who first appears? 😒🤦🏻♀️ If thars your case ok but don't say women.Those men don't show their true colors.. narcissists are pro manipulators. Some of them wait till you get married. There are numerous of women who have said that the "change" in them literally happens overnight. How is that women's fault? What they could do to prevent this? Seeing and acknowledging red flags it's important. But a lot of times they are not clear.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809"they don't want to hear it" THEY KNOW IT. Stop looking down on women with passive aggressiveness and superiority. What about women who can't just leave because men it's threatening her? Is it again her fault that she isn't superwoman or any fake movie trope? Such women seek help outside but guess what.. a lot of times they don't get it. Unless in my country it's like that. Institutions that are there to help women in need are not really helping. Can we take responsible them for once?
It’s important to recognize what is being love bombed by an ab*ser and what is being truly treated beautifully by a good partner. Often that comes with time and observing red flags, rather than being caught up in the whirlwind. My ex husband duped me as the amazing boyfriend and fiancé, but as a husband he took off the mask and showed his true abus*ve self. The way he treated me was his responsibility, it was not my fault. HOWEVER, I learned to observe and take my time. Now when I’ve dated someone who tries to love bomb me or ab*se me, I catch them quicker and leave them immediately. I’m also better at spotting green flags and true good treatment.
Nate gave her princess treatment so he could get inside her skin before showing his true colors. She stayed for the abus3 because she thought underneath that was this old guy (which never existed) that gave her good treatment.
I WAS LITTERALLYYYY LISTENING TO ANOTHER EPISODE ON SPOTIFY WHEN I DECIDED “Let me see my bestie’s beautiful face “ AND I SAW YOU POSTED ANOTHER EPISODE! GIRL ILY
Be careful of avoiding “love boombing” Prince Charming pretenders tho.. a Gucci bag it’s not worth your dignity.. let’s not feel entitled to their money so they don’t feel entitled to your body; your love and his generosity shouldn’t be transactional but genuine and voluntary.. *EVEN IF HE TREATS YOU LIKE A PRINCESS YOU DONT OWN HIM ACCESS*
@VelvetRed-rz8ur true. That's why my rule of thumb is: date for at least one year and know your divorce laws. Here in Germany, you can divorce for free within the first 3 months. Alimony is only being paid if you were married for more than 3 years, the separation stage during divorce not included.
Girlies I’m finally with a man who DOES not expect S from me and will get me everything I want and surprised me with gifts 😭 Honestly watching her and realizing how BUMs legit let you THE WOMEN pay for things and in some cases alll and so much more! But LISTEN girly the whole world already knows your independent but you do not have to show these males you are one of themmm! You deserve to relax and get spoiled!
Girl me too! It came right after an emotionally abusive relationship with a sociopathic cheater. It’s like whiplash! I’m taking it slow but he’s got a literal princess fetish, it’s like he compulsively HAS to spoil me 😂
“Instead of exclude, we should include…” I swear I love your channel so f much. It feels like someone putting all my thoughts into order and preaching goodness. Everyone should watch this. I love the goal of including all women, instead of making this another fight inbetween us.
I like to think to myself that I've found a man who worships me, and i worship him. We spend our lives loving and serving each other with equal fervor and i think more people should think from this perspective.
Wow you really blew me away with just the intro!! It was so well thought out & articulated 🙀🧠 (pretty wild that was all in only the first 11 seconds??) Thanks bestie !! 🥰
Would love a video about differentiating between love bombing (a form of manipulation by an ab*ser) versus true princess treatment because I think a lot of people miss the red flags ❤
YES PLEASE.. I’m so worried about the young teenage girls who are to naive to know the difference and end up getting exploited and abuse for the guild trip men pull off once they have invested in them.. if you feel entitled to their wallets, they feel entitled to your body.. Both the love you give and the generosity they show you; should be willingly and genuine.. not a demand or transaction
Don't give "ses" before marriage in all situations, then you won't regret even if they leave. Simple. Men who love you will wait or propose within 2 years.
@@LoveLife-oo9cz that’s not foolproof either. I grew up Mormon, celibacy before marriage is the norm and there is still rampant ab*se after marriage, that’s what happened to me. Also, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not being celibate before marriage, now I wouldn’t even consider marriage without knowing if I’m s*xually compatible and safe with them.
i think that the thing that makes it love bombing is the emotional manipulation. if you suspect that a partner is love bombing you, disagree with them or argue. if the affection continues, they're just affectionate. if it stops and only starts again when you agree with them, it's love bombing
I don’t know I just want a guy to show up before I think of princess treatment 😂🤦🏼♀️😑 I’ve been stood up where before I can even think of princess treatment I need a guy to not cancel last minute on a date
Girlie you deserve the kind of man who doesn't cancel last minute (esp early on!) and that is the BARE MINIMUM. If he can follow a schedule for a job he can show up for you. Sounds like you have figured out what the first part of princess treatment sounds like to you ❤ ily + I believe u can find happiness
I’m aware that I have to get a membership before getting direct messages but I thought it’d be such a beautiful idea to discuss not only discernment for the type of people we bring into our lives but the discernment to introspect and becoming the person that enables the lives we wish for; if there’s anyone here that can push this suggestion that’d be nice 🥹 I recently got into an argument fully convinced the other person was in the wrong (he was but besides the point) it could’ve been handled in a different way if I communicated my thoughts more frankly without fear of confrontation which made me realize that sometimes I really have to check myself because the road to hell could really be paved by virtue lol
I don't know if I'm raising my standarts or just being delulu, 'cause once I stopped accepting bellow-the-minimun-men, I never had anyone by my side again
Gotta be happy single. Build that love for solitude within yourself, do inner work and then put yourself out there because you can only grow so much when you're alone. You still need to be tested in your strength to stand in your newly acquired power
Ohkay but girls don't forget to be your own provider, hope for the best (and obviously you can manifest anything, litreally anything out of thin air) still don't forget to have a good backup by yourself. Get that degree, masters,PhD, buy that course, learn that skill, be market ready, better than these men, get that job, earn for your present, save and invest for your future, get all that financial wisdom, treat you little self like a princess as she's, Don't be miserable and wait for your prince Charming, be better, better than him cause you already are. I love you all girlies, bless you may you be guided to your best self and best interests.💞💞💞🙏🥺
Loved it so much!!! Can you please have a podcast on how signing a prenup from your perspective can be and advantage or disadvantage from women? I love your content so much!! Your really helped me look at the world from a mature perspective ❤
11:00 I totally understand the nuance of what you're saying, but just as an anecdote, when I worked at my first job at a fast food place, I found out that after a year of being shift lead, my male coworkers who had just started were making more than me. Same was true for my other female coworker that was similar to my age
I mean as a person who dates women this is ridiculous! This isn’t "princess treatment" this is how people act when they’re IN LOVE. I literally got my ex gf gifts and flowers daily!!! (Flowers once a week, little snacks and drinks daily) and I was 17! Straight couples are crazy.
My thoughts exactly. You can tell this channel caters to young people. This is just how people who are in love treat each other, and unlike what other commenters think, no person is going to provide for nothing in return. Idolizing this as a relationship standard is how women end up abused because they aren’t making sure they have their own before finding a partner who will provide for them. Just look at trad-wives.
Ok, here's one for you all. My 20 year old nephew is dating a very abusive (physically and mentally) woman. All of us, his friends and family, have encouraged him to break it off with her. And we've also expressed our concern that he thinks he deserves that kind of treatment. He admits that he thinks he deserves the bad treatment and that's why he attracted her. We've expressed the fact that she treats him like his mother treated him (alcoholic) and that he may be addicted to this type of treatment (dopamine hits). He says that he will probably addict to every girl he dates. My question is, what do you do when the person is fully aware of what they are doing but still do it anyway and it's hurting them? I'm concerned that he will get his heart trampled on and try to harm himself.
Same thing is happening with my older sister in a marriage and at this point we just got her off because otherwise it's just enabling. It's just like an addiction they are in denial and don't even understand. It is a self-worth love respect issue, it has nothing to do with the other person who is probably just the karmic partner to teach him the karmic lesson.
First, don’t force him to do anything or give him advice to do anything, their ego will not let you in. He is attached to this kind of a relationship because as a child the first one from whom he should receive love was his abusive mother. His body and mind thinks that this is love and it is normal and safe for him to be in that relationship. That has become his comfort zone. Now, the only thing that you could do is boost his self esteem that he worthy of being loved and respect too. Taking him to a therapist would be much better. Inspire him to be better and respect his decision even the bad one, have boundaries with him and be there for him if he ever decides to heal and ask for your help.
@@almatirkey7748 Good advice. He is going to therapy but I don't know if he is being honest with them. I hope he is but not every therapist is a good therapist.
@@spiritualBaddi Well, that's a good spin on it. I hope that he learns his lesson before she does something stupid, like getting pregnant to keep him or accuse him of rape (because every guy of the 20 or so she's dated before him "graped" her) and he's supposedly her first consensual partner she's had. She's a monster and he doesn't deserve this.
@@MMPutnam77 Yeah true. He doesn’t want to let his mother go. Because even if he breaks up with his girlfriend , he will get attached to someone similar. He needs to break the cycle. Right now he is afraid of being alone because he doesn’t love himself enough. He needs to learn to love himself more by having new hobbies, having positive thoughts and affirmations about himself, he has to believe in a higher power that will help him to overcome his fear of loneliness and unworthiness. If he wants to he will heal little by little.
That is so true.. having always been in my light energy it has been common to have attracted all sorts of people, I use people in my life to decide what i am to be and what I would rather not be. Who accesses you is what defines the trajectory of your life.
These videos have been so inspirational to me I told my therapist. It's really waking me up to the brainwashing of toxic , jealous friends and jealous loser men that secretly hate women and blame them for all of their problems. It solidified the need for me to walk away permanently from left/ right modern standards for women.
I'm 42. I feel like this is just b the cycle. The fashion has cycles from 80', 90's then 2000's. I graduated in 2000. In the 2000's it was cool to have a sugar daddy. Fashion was sparkly, and most things came with rhinestones. Halloween costumes began all coming with thigh highs. It's now new, it's just time.
I’m honestly so grateful to be bisexual. After my divorce I was so traumatized and afraid of men, I just couldn’t date them at all or even really be friends with new men. So I focused on myself and my healing, then after a few years I just started dating other genders. I’m so much happier surrounded by women and queer people. Being friends with so many queer men also helped heal a lot of that trauma and fear of men. I’m open to dating men but only if they’re queer too. Of course queer dating can be toxic too, but my experiences have been overwhelmingly positive, whereas being with cishet men was an overwhelmingly negative experience even before my marriage. Women and queer people are typically so much more loving, empathic, caring, good at communicating, love serving others, more in tune with their emotions, open to therapy, etc. Regardless, I refuse to settle for less than I deserve bc some queer folks can be ain’t sh*t too 😂
I started watching Manifestelle a few months ago. I wasn’t even looking for a partner, but I haven’t opened a door, paid for my nails or a meal since ⭐️ influencing the baddies for the better
(Being a NoNuance Nelly and commenting w/o finishing the vid yet) a HUGE problem for women who do want to marry and have a family is that now after accomplishing more than previous generations of women in terms of education, earnings and career, there's an expectation that men will rise from previous gens of men to meet women in terms of emotional and domestic support.....But they generally haven't. It's clear to see how this makes relationship to men a lot less attractive. And it's very harmful to women - for example - women who go into starting a family with a man under the impression that they are "life partners" and care deeply about the mental, physical and spiritual health of each other, then the woman is put in the vulnerable position of being pregnant and a new mom to a baby and often men fall really short in their expected role of deep care for the new mom. And since all new moms NEED deep care, and it's assumed she will get it from her husband instead of other women/family/"the village", she's isolated and in a way kicked when she's down. This hurts the kid to, so of course the loving feeling she had for him is damaged after he chooses selfishness in a time where he should be selfless.....We need more PSAs to women, such as "If he abandoned his other kid/s, he WILL abandon yours too!" A BIG problem when you get down to it is women assuming the men they're with are as compassionate, caring and loving as they are. I still think men can be those things, but it's often much less and more fickle than women, and even for the best men it's still different. To realize this helps women accept higher standards and more help from men, since how they love and help us is different (and more fickle). The big sister advice I needed was that only entertain good men (because him being cute and fun simply isn't enough of a benefit given the risks) and even the best men are different than you - they think, care and love differently and it benefits everyone - including them! - to be useful, striving and helpful (especially in terms of them working hard and being financially generous!). They don't burn out as easily as we do and they flounder without work and a selfless purpose - so LET them (don't make them) and support others!
The “empathy gap”.. yes unfortunately it’s a cliché for a reason.. we need to stop justifying them.. if they don’t know how to be caring, help around the house, and share the burden of raising kids then don’t even start a relationship with type of men, we need to get better at recognizing their lack of empathy and responsibility.. money isn’t enough (especially when you make your own)
I noticed a pattern in my life. I have motivation, goals, plans, I'm inspired, creative, I have a schedule, a general idea of a few years ahead. I'll be eating healthy, working out, doing the best I can in everything and reaping the rewards. And then alongggg comes a spider, a new friend always Christian, always. She'll see I'm single, that's a problem. It'll start small maybe my hair, maybe something about the way I look or talk, dress, the way I talk or interact with people. They just creep on in, and I'm a strong person and it's not weeks, it's months, years. They'll try to get me to date "good" guys and talk down one's I actually like (I am very resistant to this and haven't dated any of these forced men, luckily). One day I'll wake up depressed, I don't feel myself, my plans are lost, I feel self-conscious and like a failure and these friends will be sitting there telling me how capable I am, what happened, "you can do anything". I attract the worst possible friends who feed off me to benefit their own lives. They will be building their lives and homes from the bricks they stole from mine. Run, the ick warned me this time, and I feel like I cracked a code!
Sorry that you have had this experience, as a Christian girl myself, theres nothing wrong with being single, and you should get to choose who you date/how you are, some people are Christians in name only and/or need to become better Christians. Just focus on yourself and get some help if needed, I am rooting for you ❤❤❤
You are now on the family home screen for me, my 11 and 7 yo girls to learn from. When that 9 yo boy gets home he is also gonna go to class. Beautiful commentary girl thanks for being our big sister!
Can we also talk about how a lot of these men resent women that they think are doing better economically than them and bully them. It's happened to me before.
Tnx a lot for this video. I recently had this happen to me. I dated a guy, he didn't wanted to provide and then his best MALE friend told me to lower my standards to get a man. Get real...
I have been giving myself the princess treatment because there aren’t wealthy guys out there for everyone. I am getting older in my 30’s and I can’t find anyone that would treatment me like a princess.
My BFF dated and then married down. I was not happy for her. I see his reactionary effort now, and applaud her. He rose to the occasion of her love and has since become a provider man. Doubling his income and becoming independent when they were dating, doubling it again when she set the bar for marriage at buying a home, and by +25% when she agreed to have his child. She really is the prize.
@@LittleNepenthe what an embarrassing comment, your friend probably doesn’t like you. Are you so shallow that not being able to provide is enough for you to not support a relationship? What if they were truly in love? This attitude is horrendous, I hope you know you’ll never be truly happy in life with this mindset.
The gatekeeping of status symbols is interesting to me. A former coworker tormented the whole workplace with her relationship. Lording her man over everyone, with nonstop bragging and PDA. Acting like she was so ABOVE everyone there who was single and trying to rub their faces in it. Imagining others were jealous to make herself feel better. If she noticed anyone around her having chemistry with someone, she would say something to spoil it. She had her status symbol and didn't want anyone else to have it or something like it. Her man was good to her, but she treated him terribly. I'm all for princess treatment. But when the reward for princess treatment is abuse, it's more like slavery.
Me and my husband we are both doctors. He is also a chef and cooks every day and does the dishes because chefs clean their station. Now, I'm fat, my self esteem is on the floor, and I don't manifest... But I always refused to keep a man who's gonna treat me badly because I already have my father for that. The point is if I could so can you
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@@OzzyDrixClayin what world are you living? 😭 anyone who doesn’t get the custody, has to pay the child support, no matter which gender 💀 I hope I misunderstood you
@@shaktimishra9710 no hate 💖 we simply 🎀ignore🎀 malicious bare minimum low effort men :) good men are welcome in the human society just like any other good human being.
I've introduced my mom to your content ❤ she *LOVES* you
& she's lived a lot of what you talk abkut. She thinks you're smart & gorgeous, and I agree 😊
Wanted to let you know your content resonates w/ women accross generations
I can't trust men anymore, so I'm giving myself the princess treatment. Thanks bestie!
I think us girlies and femmes should give princess treatment to each other.
@@Piggyinahatyes!!!! Omgg omg i love taking care of women and being taken care of by women . Im not gay but its so comforting
@@SillyLittlePookiethis was suppose to be a plan. Until patriarchy divided and concoured women.
I did this for 2 years until one fell into my lap ☺️💃🏻❤️🥹
As you should, focus on yourself and don't seek out men.
My fiancé has told me that him communicating with me, respecting my space, and providing for me IS the bare minimum. And that loving me is a privilege he gets to indulge in, not a chore.🥺
He knows I don’t enjoy jewelry (I have autistic sensory issues against metal) but I really enjoy physical touch, and boy does he provide physical touch! He pets my hair, cracks my back, gives me massages and cuddles, and always makes downtime for me. We go on sensory-friendly “quiet dates” to libraries, art galleries, and museums. He often compares me to Venus or Aphrodite.💖💗💕✨
Sisters, save your precious time and space for a man that loves you how *you* want to be loved! This is princess treatment💖👑✨
Ahhhh sis you’re living my dream ❤ I’m also not a jewelry girlie bc sensory issues/allergies but I love physical touch and quiet dates. Like take me to dinner, on a spa day, let’s take a bath, read together, watch a movie, I don’t want to be out in a crowd or where there’s too many loud sounds/bright lights. So happy for you!!
not you describing my autism-friendly dream relationship 😍 hi autie bestie btw 👋
You deserve it girl
@@marixlife yeah this type of relationship and dates is _exactly_ what I want. 💓Manifesting💓 but focusing on myself in the meantime.
So does he actually provide for you aside from the back rubs?
You can tell how much a woman loves herself by seeing the partner she chooses for herself. 💯
A Word ✨✨
@@ZAKATARZ seeing them as in seeing them as a person,their character and actions not how they look. obviously
BS! Even a woman with high self esteem can end up with the wrong man.
@@kaahfee I know, but no one really knows what happens in a relationship. Sometimes we judge by what we see from the outside and not all that glitters is gold.
@@decoraqueena6413 a woman with high self worth And love wont tolerate a man treating her any type of obvious bad way. She knows she doesn't deserve that treatment. You calling it bs is quite wild.
One of the most protective things you can do for your girlfriends is to treat them like princesses. A woman who is treated well by her community is less likely to allow a sub-par male to access her.
🏆 ❤️ 👏 👏 👏
Such a good point!
YESSSSS ❤ My friends are all goddexxes and I will make for damn sure they feel that from me.
True. A community of women who sincerely care for each other deeply are very unlikely to want anything to do with a man who does not have stellar character and his life in order.
@@LotusesGalaxyOcean a man with stellar character and his life in order comes along once every 20 lifetimes 😂
You're right that we should have our own community support and also love and respect for ourselves. That's the only reliable love we have in our lives.
Ladies, don't be afraid of demanding respect in every one of your relationships. If people value you, they will respect you
Exactly
Also ladies stop pAYING VOOMING CLEANNING DOING EVERYTHING relax IF they are the one they will do it all BC the want to
I’m not sure we all understand just how powerful a “No,” can be. It’s transformative!!
"No" is a complete sentence.
Preach 🙌
"I got a good man* because I'm an amazing woman" 🚫
"We're all amazing so we all deserve amazing men*" ✔️
*Or whichever partner you choose!
Factss
Real.
Yesss
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I was about to say I'm gay but nvm
I recently met a guy who gives me princess treatment ♡. He even cares about my health and paid for a blood analysis that I couldn't afford. He's empathic and very masculine at the same time. Before that I was voluntarily single for 4 years and didn't even know men like him exist ♡♡
I'm super blessed and grateful and it's true: those men are rare and like a status symbol.
Happy for you .
@@serenesrn3827 thank youuuu ♡
@@serenesrn3827 thank youuuu ♡
Happy to hear 🎉🎉. Glad you find love again.
Happy for you!! You deserve to be taken care of!!
Because of you I’m no longer afraid to admit I want a cushy lifestyle. I want to be taken care of and not have kids. I want to pursue hobbies and travel and have fun in life. And I want to do that with someone.
Soul sister 🫶🏽
YESSS i love this for us and i love elle for speaking openly about this!!
Exactly sis!
Yup!! I got married and want no kids. It’s a cushy lifestyle that many people look down in. While my husband would like a child, I told him before dating that I’ll never want one. And he’s okay with it… I wanna keep it this way. I’m at peace.
Same!
Here to brag about my bf for a second 💅🏼 went out for a special dinner at a very fancy restaurant with my family and this man got to the restaurant early to put his card in to pick up the tab. I’ve never seen my dad so confused as he’s very successful and no one has ever thought twice about giving him the bill. This is coming off an ex fiancé that only worked part time and had me convinced on not only a 50/50 life, but basically a 70/30 life. Being cared for in a relationship has also given me even more time to kick ass at my job and my charity organizations. I hope all women find out you CAN have it all ❤
I love this for you, bestie!!
You left your job?
Yessss love that for you!! ❤
How did y'all meet? Love this for you ❤
just today i saw i license plate cover that said “blessed by God, spoiled by my husband” and it actually gave me hope that there are spoiled girlies (young and old) out there 😭
😂 loved that line. Hope we one day say the same.for ourselves ❤🎉
Would you react the same to a man publicly admitting that he's spoiled by his much higher earning wife?
I saw that same license plate cover the other day hahaa - old pick me would have found it disgusting... but now I've learned to value myself and women
Another absolute sermon. Ladies, we must stand united to reject men's treatment of us as a status symbol. How a man treats you shows HIS worthiness, not yours! WE are the prize! Every guy is just some guy. The LEAST he can do is treat you like the queen you are!
AMEN!!!!!❤
No kidding, can well just rally already? ❤
Preach.
Women will say things like “Every guy is just some guy.” “We are the prize!” And then get mad when they get cheated on . Such an obnoxious narcissist mindset , if I as a man went “Every girl is r some girl” then y’all would label me as a misogynist
@@larinanne Why do you think you’re the prize exactly? Being attractive doesn’t make you the prize, you realize that right?
How he treats you represents him, but if you accept that treatment and are with him- give him access to you on a regular- that is on you.
Well said.
Damn girl, that’s so on point. Thanks for sharing
That's a very painful but necessary realization.
As I was in those situations, I wanted love and acceptance. I have trauma upon trauma and still healing and still make mistakes because I don't know what actual love is. I was abused from childhood, if course I will accept shitty treatment. But I don't need others guilting me and making me feel even worse after the fact. Men already did that.
I am loving the nuance here - women are still the prize even when there’s a current shortage of men who realize that and who are prepared to respond appropriately. Don’t budge until the boys wake up too!
Exactly
Ate✨️
Absolutely ladies. We are the prize in the world and in a man's life. Love this community ❤
@@marte1376when we treat y'all as the prize, y'all use us! We men ain't simping for a woman who is most likely going to sleep with our friend 😂
@@KanjiEngKorean if that's how you choose to view women, you deserve to be alone. easy. :)
"The better you get at pattern recognition, the better you'll get at breaking dysfunctional patterns." 👏🏾 That's a word! I love that you always bring in discernment as well 🙏🏾
i’m glad women are understanding the power they hold.
Me too❤
You're going to get humbled soon 💀
@@nyxythebaddieWomen who know their worth never get humbled✨ They’re smart enough to make the opportunities for their standards to be met. I’m sorry that you’ve been humbled enough to have to disagree with us.
My boyfriend took years and didn't manage to propose and I am fed up with it. Today I told him I will leave and rent a new apartment for the next few weeks.
Now I am home and seeing this.
Thanks bestie!
DO IT!!! It will be hard at first, but give it three months, and I PROMISE you will never look back. Sending you strength, Queen!
@@larinanne Thanks, my love.
It's not hard at all actually. I've been emotionally checking out for months lol. Doesn't hurt at all now to do the jump.
@@chrissi975I'm so happy for you! I hope you have so much fun in your new place!! 😁❤
Congratulations lady! Pls stay safe, some men switch up when you leave even those you least expect. Sending you love and light on your next chapter!! ✨
Yessss sis!!!!! Being willing to walk away is THE way to gain his respect. W o respect, there is NO love. We are here for you boo, good for you 💯🤌💯
In just about any relationship I have been in I have always been the provider so much so that I used to spend up to 70% of my income just on bills so that my partner could save up money for us to build a future and it turns out he never wanted to build a future with me in the first place he ended up kicking me out and let his guy friends stay with him. Provider men are essential in a woman's survival because otherwise men are malicious enough to leave you with nothing and take everything you have
Ugh relatable. But I met someone the opposite of that 🤭🤭
I agree. My ex had an 80k salary job but when he had to be the breadwinner for me and 2 puppies because I'm a teacher he "couldn't handle it" and got a less paying job but then gaslit me for not being able to afford the lifestyle he wanted. The amazon packages still came. Hummmm.... now I'm in debt and alone with 1 dog because I tried to keep a roof over all our heads. It's just us girls and eventually I'll pay this debt off and we can be free together at the dog park ha ❤️
You are not Barb The Builder! The money you save him, he will spend on the woman he actually wants.
Never build a man!
My mother always told me, the money a man is not spending on You, he Will spend it in other girl, NEVER EVER save men money 😂....and she is right
I'm so glad we all are learning/know better now 🧘♀️ what we allow is on us, as a lesson to level up. I'm proud of you boo 💁♀️
The bar is so low that the princess treatment looks like a dream, I was so used to the emotional abused from my ex that when my now partner started to treatment like a human being it felt sooo nice, and now that he treats me like a real princess I cant compute going back to a mediocre man, I gave so much for that asshole, acting like an ant and begging for leftovers of love
I agree, glad you move on from your ex. There are women happily to tell me that men took them to McDonald's on first date and they accepted it because they don't want to be "any spoiled girl or look like a gold digger." 😅
@@LoveLife-oo9cz
No wrong with Macdonald's if he is the one who pays
@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke Don't you see the red flag here? Everybody knows McDonald's is not the healthy food out there and not a place to "date." Coffee shop is better for space and drinks to get to know a person. The guy is either having problems with his finance and likely will drag you down too or trying to test a woman. What they are willing to take you in the first date is how they feel about you. Unless they are teenagers then sure. I do like McDonald's ice tea. I don't lie about it. However, taking a person to eat fried junk food on the first date, ughh...
Similar theory, when guests come to your house. Most of us would make homemade meals or buy pastries for guests. If you do this consistency and when they know you come to their' house instead but decline to treat you everytime. Oh well, sorry that's how they feel about you too. Every relationship, if not related by blood, are pretty much having mutual benefits.
@@LoveLife-oo9cz Well thanks for the explanation, I'm not American and we don't have this restaurant in my country I only heard about it from the ads
But now you’re back, baby. How freeing is it to come to conclusions and eventual healing? Now it’s time to live your life- which still has love and fulfillment, because you are present and it’s yours. ❤
I'm currently in my princess era...just lost my job and my husband says it's not a big deal whatsoever, he can provide for us
Careful with that. Men love saying this till a couple months pass by and the funds start to decrease.
Use this time to find wha makes YOU fulfilled, he won’t leave or hinder your evolution if he’s the real deal. Trust yourself in this moment.
As a spoiled girlie I enjoy these conversations but many of these statistics need nuances themselves. As a black woman married to a korean man we’ve learned to “chew the meat and spit out the fat” with statistics. I’ve also experienced not as many are happy to see a spoiled girly who is black married outside of her race. Just some nuance to think about. Also, it’s important to note that it’s not women who “make these choices” with family/work….its our misogynistic government that leaves some with no choice. This is why it’s important for women to support each other no matter the lifestyle.
I understand all men all share this view, but a lot of BM in particular hate seeing BW who are high maintenance or invest a lot of money and time into their looks. But I also see more BM accepting a woman like that if she’s not black or look ambiguous. The same way a lot of BM claim BW have an “attitude” but will willingly seek out and try to be with Latin women who they say have “spicy” personalities. I think a lot of BM and men in general hate how high women’s standards are getting, it shows them they have to do more than the bare minimum. Men know they have to be all around a great partner if they wanna increase their options within dating/marriage. Men have been told their whole life that they’re the prize, when in reality, that’s far from the truth. Women have always been the prize and more important.
As a spoiled girlie who’s black & married to a white man, I couldn’t agree more!! ❤
@@rattgod huh... Middle eastern men are the same regarding middle eastern women.. You were describing them to a T, sheesh...
@@EsRa-ud5vv I think those men feel they have the default claim to women of their own ethnicity, and when those women are stuck beneath those men, the men feel like they always have an easy sure thing to go back to. Which allows them the confidence to go outside their ethnic group and pursue women they actually respect, because they don’t see those women as being beneath them.
But when those original women get fed up, the men go crazy cause they no longer have a sure thing waiting for them when they’re done playing around.
In my 40s, I’ve noticed a significant shift in attitudes surrounding post-secondary education over the past few decades. I wonder if the fact that it’s become a female-dominated space plays a role in that? It’s an interesting consideration.
In my country most people in STEM are women and guess what, it's not a glamorous high paying job, taxi driver can provide more than certain laboratories, so people usually work there for the idea, interest, good of mankind, you name it. The opposite how IT went from "Code Girls" to "Tech Bros" and suddenly the profession is lucrative and prestigious. I don't know what comes first, men chasing status and luxury or their labor being noticed and having to have accolades unlike the invisible women, hence boy clubs = value, but societally I find it kinda sad how devalued nurturing is along with what is "women's spaces" during that blip of history and why men tend to bully and harass women away from certain fields probably partially to this. And when women overcome hurdles, they just give up without having status delivered on silver platter instead of adapting or being ok being equal, it's crazy.
THIS!!!! THIS ALL DAY
Well, there's that theory.
Another theory is that dumber, less educated people are more programmable.
There is Van Life, Anti-Gold Digger and other trends trying to normalize poverty.
All while promoting staying at home. There is a theory that those overlap for a reason.
What do you think?
💯 the more women began to be educated all of a sudden it's "just a piece of paper". You see rightly!!
@@lorettaknoelk3475 you're on to something woman. Very insightful.
Take care, bestie! ❤
Girls do not settle for bare minimum. Find yourself a good man and then grow together as a couple to new heights. ❤
@@OzzyDrixClay I am doing that.
Of he doesnt treat you right its a reflection of him but also how he feels about you
You know I'm in final year of engineering, and I'm like so stressed because I have to find a job, but your voice is sooo sweetz I listen to you while studying✨✨
Congrats 🎉 keep pushing, i know how hard it is but it’s worth it. I graduated with a degree in aerospace engineering despite overcoming many health challenges. It’s one of my accomplishments that I am very proud of (not the only one though).
@@MDWhite-qg6yb congratulations and thanks alot✨ we'll wishes for future 🎀
Keep going sis!! We are soooo proud of you 👏👏👏
Proud of you!!
14 years in a relationship where I was the main caretaker. Literally acting as a stand-in MOM for my ex. We're talking cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, etc. And we both worked 40hrs a week.
Now I found a man who treats me right, who does his best for me, who buys me flowers and thanks me when I end up cooking a bit more often that he does.
I’m so glad you leave him and found someone better.. a lot of women because of their culture, ideology or society shame, don’t leave their spouses and end up miserable all the rest of their lives..
@@VelvetRed-rz8ur Lucky for me we weren't married. He bought a condo with his dad's money and I'm SO GLAD I didn't put my name on that. That would have made things so much more complicated.
And yes, lucky because I live in a country where this is completely normal.
I watch u very frequently and u have made me realize that its very important for women to say no to things they dont want to do
"Provider men are the bare minimum" will make it a daily reminder on my phone 😭😭😂😂😂😂.
I'm just curious. What is the bare minimum a woman has to be for a "provider man?". If a woman gets princess treatment, does the man get his "king treatment", or is he just a peasant meant to serve the princess?
That creates a patriarchal framework
@@kassaken6521 Replying so I get to see how OP responds to this...
@@priscillapimentelsanchez1198 You realize this means submissive women are the bare minimum too right? Can’t only have it one way
I will not accept a life I do not deserve!
Mia Goth quote!
"how he treats you is a reflection of him, not you..." best take away here!
It 's so sad how many women didn't grow up with the princess treatment from their dad :(
I'm outearning the average man my age so much even though I started my career late I Almost feel sorry for them.
To me how much a man earns doesn't matter as long as he isn't a bum. The true deficit is the emotional deficit. Men that see women as people, men that are emotionally intelligent, men willing to work on their issues rather than building resentment for not being given things, men willing to make their partner feel special.
And so many men are failing in all of these areas. It's one thing for women to be surpassing them academically and financially, but for them to still see us as inferior is just insane.
Nah how much he earns definitely matters a lot.
@@WeShareTheSameAffliction the vast majority of sensitive, kind men are in lower earning fields. Also I earn enough to have a stay at home husband and I'm not against it because I never see myself as a stay at home mom despite wanting kids.
Also watch the video "You don't need a rich man you need a GENEROUS man"
The past week I've been thinking that there's no regular degular men around me and I got so sad about that. So now I'll just continue focus in myself and if I find a worthy partner through my journey, that's good! If I don't, well, I prefer aging with dignity and peace. Being accompanied with good people or being alone with peace are two choices that sounds good to me. Thank you Ell, for spread awareness and taught us discernment, we love you so much!!! 💗💗💗
100% agree.. same
Women who are being taken care of financially need to use their position of power to take care of other women who aren’t as fortunate - start a business and hire them, donate as much as you can to women’s causes and shelters - showing off on Instagram isn’t do anyone any good. Do some actual good for women in need with your new status. You don’t need the 5 carat diamond, that donation could fund an entire women’s shelter for a good period of time! Spread the wealth. Create economic empowerment for other women so they can level up and avoid men* and provide for themselves until they find (or don’t, everyone’s choice) someone who can take care of them the way they deserve
And - if you don’t have big $ but you have time - spend it volunteering for other women or start a side hustle to be able to help even more. We have the ability to create sisterhood from scratch.
I don't know about that. I have helped a woman and she still owes me money after years.
I know two women who often spend money on men but then they'd ditch their own family members for everything else from food and stuff. They hate to see you live a better life than them; however, all of their money is wasted on men. Mentality is everything. You can't change anyone unless they want to change. I say if you want to, then donate to women shelter and spread online words. Don't go extra miles in this cold cruel world to get unnecessary drama and stress.
@@LoveLife-oo9cz I meant doing it through legal channels like a non-profit organization. Not suggestion you just hand people $
YES, THIS!!!
ALSO, instead of having the sons and spending all of your energy, time, health, money on raising our own oppressors, we need to spend it on each other and on girls
I'm so early!! Elle could please make a video on exactly how we can know when a man has provider mindset, and also the immediate red flags that could be recognised in early stages? I love your videos sm! 💕
Ask him to go out if his way for you/spend his time/money/resources. He will SHOW you. Actions speak louder than words. You got this 😘
@@spiritualBaddi haha thx for the advice love 😘
You will know. He is a provider when he doesn't let you pay anything for meals and entertainment between dates when he asks you out. However, if it's related to your personal stuff, don't expect him to pay for it.
Red flags:
1) Watch his closed friends. If his friends rely on women's support and money, yeah he is not a provider and rather a soul digger.
2) I always suspect the term those men call women "if she is a real woman, she will stay with you when you have nothing." BULL. Every biological woman is a real woman, just because they can not take advantage of the women, doesn't mean they aren't real lol.
3) I can tell you almost 99% of men never date for any "potential" in women. They date because their women have all the benefits they want at the current time. So, don't fall for potential thing in men because everyone has potential. What you see the potential in him, he may not see it nor work toward it.
4) Stay away from broke men or men always blame women, they are MGOTW whatever. Those type of guys will ask you to slit 5050 scam in everything and look for financial independent women but hate feminists and want traditional women for nothing.
5) When I was single, I'd stay away from any man having a messy family or crazy family members that he was living with or be super closed to. Because if you marry one, your life would be hell. That was what I thought so I tried to detach myself from a man I started to like a little. It's maybe not fair in your book, but I'm not looking for drama so that was just me. Remember, a married woman doesn't just please a husband but also his family members, too.
I think the scientists forgot to mention that men are below women intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. And until they don’t catch up, we will remain uninterested.
I was watching a WW2 documentary a couple months ago. In it, a higher up in the intelligence agencies was asked why he hired all women to work in the code department. He said because women are smarter and more focused. This was in WW2!
@@blikskaters you mean the men on the battlefield?
You forget to mention that men invented 95% of the modern commodities we use in society. Without men, society would crumbel
Because misandry is cool nowadays I guess /s
@@JoelEmmettMcGarrity a lot of the comments promote female entitlement and, like this one, even female chauvinism. I can feel my faith in humanity slowly slinking away
Princess treatment is so scarce that influencers who cosplay this gets a lot of views, just like watching a luxury house tour
keep an abundance mindset! it’s more common than you think. ❤
Pressed that like 1 second into the video because I already know how good this is going to be 👌👌👌
I am glad more people are valuing themselves, no matter what whether he is wealthy or not if he wants to he would.
Exactly! It is crazy a lot men hate their partners but too cowardly to break it off.
@ParletPage oh they are not cowardly! They are comfortable recieving the benefits of having that woman around! They may hate her, but they would hate having to wash the dishes or cook meals or do the laundry or cleaning or child rearing or bill paying for themselves. And lets not forget, to men like that, annoying punani is better than no punani. I'd say intimacy but there is nothing inimate about it, these men are transactional and treat women like a vending maching.
Thank you! Princess Treatment for all girlies!
My standards are astronomical and my husband meets them every day. I met him when I was in a place where I could give or take a relationship, ladies I'm telling you it makes all the difference when they know you arent hinging everything about your entire life on them.
Based off the numbers and trends, we need to start encouraging young women to save and invest heavily in their early career. We also really need to value the work of women dominated fields, especially in the care sectors, and pay appropriately for that work.
I went to school for early childhood education (infant - preschool) but when I tried to get a job in the field I quickly realized it paid less than retail, even with a degree! Forget living wage, I couldn't even afford childcare for my kid on what I was paid.
Your videos made me realise so many things about myself and what I want and how I feel, I had many discussions with my partner about all of that, and that made our relationship so much better. I never imagined anyone would give me princess treatment, but back then he heard me and now princess treatment is all I get - nothing less. Our relationship mutually has developed into something so precious and beautiful.
But why is it always 'Why do you have such bad choice in men' while it's the men who chose to be awful???
Because they show they are awful and you still choose them.
It's not like you are obligated to choose a man and the bad ones are the only ones available.
As women we need discernment and patience to choose the right men and not the first ones who appears.
@@firstsunray Exactly, but they don’t want to hear this. We can’t make men change, but we are absolutely responsible for choosing to still be with them.
Honestly i still dont choose them becaise they lie so much in relationship
@firstsunray lol you think women choses the men who first appears? 😒🤦🏻♀️ If thars your case ok but don't say women.Those men don't show their true colors.. narcissists are pro manipulators. Some of them wait till you get married. There are numerous of women who have said that the "change" in them literally happens overnight. How is that women's fault? What they could do to prevent this? Seeing and acknowledging red flags it's important. But a lot of times they are not clear.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809"they don't want to hear it" THEY KNOW IT. Stop looking down on women with passive aggressiveness and superiority. What about women who can't just leave because men it's threatening her? Is it again her fault that she isn't superwoman or any fake movie trope? Such women seek help outside but guess what.. a lot of times they don't get it. Unless in my country it's like that. Institutions that are there to help women in need are not really helping. Can we take responsible them for once?
just realised Maddy Perez fell for Nate's princess treatment and stayed for the ab*se
It’s important to recognize what is being love bombed by an ab*ser and what is being truly treated beautifully by a good partner. Often that comes with time and observing red flags, rather than being caught up in the whirlwind. My ex husband duped me as the amazing boyfriend and fiancé, but as a husband he took off the mask and showed his true abus*ve self. The way he treated me was his responsibility, it was not my fault. HOWEVER, I learned to observe and take my time. Now when I’ve dated someone who tries to love bomb me or ab*se me, I catch them quicker and leave them immediately. I’m also better at spotting green flags and true good treatment.
Nate gave her princess treatment so he could get inside her skin before showing his true colors. She stayed for the abus3 because she thought underneath that was this old guy (which never existed) that gave her good treatment.
It was too late for her.. she was already deeply inlove with him.
Love you girl, you changed me. ❤
I WAS LITTERALLYYYY LISTENING TO ANOTHER EPISODE ON SPOTIFY WHEN I DECIDED “Let me see my bestie’s beautiful face “ AND I SAW YOU POSTED ANOTHER EPISODE! GIRL ILY
@15:38 - "Only men who give you princess treatment can access you" 🎯 💯
Be careful of avoiding “love boombing” Prince Charming pretenders tho.. a Gucci bag it’s not worth your dignity.. let’s not feel entitled to their money so they don’t feel entitled to your body; your love and his generosity shouldn’t be transactional but genuine and voluntary.. *EVEN IF HE TREATS YOU LIKE A PRINCESS YOU DONT OWN HIM ACCESS*
@VelvetRed-rz8ur true. That's why my rule of thumb is: date for at least one year and know your divorce laws.
Here in Germany, you can divorce for free within the first 3 months. Alimony is only being paid if you were married for more than 3 years, the separation stage during divorce not included.
Girlies I’m finally with a man who DOES not expect S from me and will get me everything I want and surprised me with gifts 😭
Honestly watching her and realizing how BUMs legit let you THE WOMEN pay for things and in some cases alll and so much more! But LISTEN girly the whole world already knows your independent but you do not have to show these males you are one of themmm! You deserve to relax and get spoiled!
Girl me too! It came right after an emotionally abusive relationship with a sociopathic cheater. It’s like whiplash! I’m taking it slow but he’s got a literal princess fetish, it’s like he compulsively HAS to spoil me 😂
Happy for you both!! ❤
YES!!! In addition to sometimes needing a bad example, you are ATTRACTIVE. You attract EVERYONE. You GET to decide who gets the privilege of staying.
“Instead of exclude, we should include…”
I swear I love your channel so f much. It feels like someone putting all my thoughts into order and preaching goodness. Everyone should watch this. I love the goal of including all women, instead of making this another fight inbetween us.
Idk why but I do know why
At the end of this video I just busted out in tears. I am am happy you made this channel girly. I am so glad I found it
You deserve the best, bestie ❤
I like to think to myself that I've found a man who worships me, and i worship him. We spend our lives loving and serving each other with equal fervor and i think more people should think from this perspective.
Really needed this today, thank you so much
I'd like to know about your opinion of the Ballerine farm Case , Thanks Manifestelle for all your work and videos
Wow you really blew me away with just the intro!! It was so well thought out & articulated 🙀🧠 (pretty wild that was all in only the first 11 seconds??) Thanks bestie !! 🥰
Would love a video about differentiating between love bombing (a form of manipulation by an ab*ser) versus true princess treatment because I think a lot of people miss the red flags ❤
YES PLEASE.. I’m so worried about the young teenage girls who are to naive to know the difference and end up getting exploited and abuse for the guild trip men pull off once they have invested in them.. if you feel entitled to their wallets, they feel entitled to your body.. Both the love you give and the generosity they show you; should be willingly and genuine.. not a demand or transaction
Don't give "ses" before marriage in all situations, then you won't regret even if they leave. Simple. Men who love you will wait or propose within 2 years.
@@LoveLife-oo9cz that’s not foolproof either. I grew up Mormon, celibacy before marriage is the norm and there is still rampant ab*se after marriage, that’s what happened to me. Also, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not being celibate before marriage, now I wouldn’t even consider marriage without knowing if I’m s*xually compatible and safe with them.
i think that the thing that makes it love bombing is the emotional manipulation. if you suspect that a partner is love bombing you, disagree with them or argue. if the affection continues, they're just affectionate. if it stops and only starts again when you agree with them, it's love bombing
thank you for not shaming us for making mistakes and showing compassion towards women who are and are not treated well.
I listen to you while I work out and it find myself working harder while I do.
I cry Every. Single. Time. She says "bestie, wake up". I feel the love burn ❤
This video came at such good timing for me, holy moly...
I don’t know I just want a guy to show up before I think of princess treatment 😂🤦🏼♀️😑 I’ve been stood up where before I can even think of princess treatment I need a guy to not cancel last minute on a date
Girlie you deserve the kind of man who doesn't cancel last minute (esp early on!) and that is the BARE MINIMUM. If he can follow a schedule for a job he can show up for you. Sounds like you have figured out what the first part of princess treatment sounds like to you ❤ ily + I believe u can find happiness
Bestie, you deserve BOTH
I’m aware that I have to get a membership before getting direct messages but I thought it’d be such a beautiful idea to discuss not only discernment for the type of people we bring into our lives but the discernment to introspect and becoming the person that enables the lives we wish for; if there’s anyone here that can push this suggestion that’d be nice 🥹
I recently got into an argument fully convinced the other person was in the wrong (he was but besides the point) it could’ve been handled in a different way if I communicated my thoughts more frankly without fear of confrontation which made me realize that sometimes I really have to check myself because the road to hell could really be paved by virtue lol
I don't know if I'm raising my standarts or just being delulu, 'cause once I stopped accepting bellow-the-minimun-men, I never had anyone by my side again
Gotta be happy single. Build that love for solitude within yourself, do inner work and then put yourself out there because you can only grow so much when you're alone. You still need to be tested in your strength to stand in your newly acquired power
You’re a whole movement, Manifestelle! I’m older than you and I learn from you every single time… you’re a true thought leader!
Bestie, we need your take on the newest Ballerina Farm situation
Ohkay but girls don't forget to be your own provider, hope for the best (and obviously you can manifest anything, litreally anything out of thin air) still don't forget to have a good backup by yourself. Get that degree, masters,PhD, buy that course, learn that skill, be market ready, better than these men, get that job, earn for your present, save and invest for your future, get all that financial wisdom, treat you little self like a princess as she's, Don't be miserable and wait for your prince Charming, be better, better than him cause you already are.
I love you all girlies, bless you may you be guided to your best self and best interests.💞💞💞🙏🥺
I love your content. So many women think they don't deserve to be treated well.
I’m 34, and your videos make me SO happy to see a real girl’s girl. Keep it up ❤
💯💯💯 It’s not you attracting the wrong people. It’s you attracting and then, it’s you discerning.
Loved it so much!!! Can you please have a podcast on how signing a prenup from your perspective can be and advantage or disadvantage from women?
I love your content so much!! Your really helped me look at the world from a mature perspective ❤
Elle, I love how you say "so annoying" :) You are like perfect anime girl, but in live action
11:00 I totally understand the nuance of what you're saying, but just as an anecdote, when I worked at my first job at a fast food place, I found out that after a year of being shift lead, my male coworkers who had just started were making more than me. Same was true for my other female coworker that was similar to my age
This was like a couple of years ago too
I mean as a person who dates women this is ridiculous! This isn’t "princess treatment" this is how people act when they’re IN LOVE. I literally got my ex gf gifts and flowers daily!!! (Flowers once a week, little snacks and drinks daily) and I was 17! Straight couples are crazy.
My thoughts exactly. You can tell this channel caters to young people. This is just how people who are in love treat each other, and unlike what other commenters think, no person is going to provide for nothing in return. Idolizing this as a relationship standard is how women end up abused because they aren’t making sure they have their own before finding a partner who will provide for them. Just look at trad-wives.
I'd love to see an analysis of Jia Song('s behaviour) on the Korean dating series Singles Inferno !
YES I AGREE
okay then watch one
Ok, here's one for you all. My 20 year old nephew is dating a very abusive (physically and mentally) woman. All of us, his friends and family, have encouraged him to break it off with her. And we've also expressed our concern that he thinks he deserves that kind of treatment. He admits that he thinks he deserves the bad treatment and that's why he attracted her. We've expressed the fact that she treats him like his mother treated him (alcoholic) and that he may be addicted to this type of treatment (dopamine hits). He says that he will probably addict to every girl he dates.
My question is, what do you do when the person is fully aware of what they are doing but still do it anyway and it's hurting them? I'm concerned that he will get his heart trampled on and try to harm himself.
Same thing is happening with my older sister in a marriage and at this point we just got her off because otherwise it's just enabling. It's just like an addiction they are in denial and don't even understand. It is a self-worth love respect issue, it has nothing to do with the other person who is probably just the karmic partner to teach him the karmic lesson.
First, don’t force him to do anything or give him advice to do anything, their ego will not let you in. He is attached to this kind of a relationship because as a child the first one from whom he should receive love was his abusive mother. His body and mind thinks that this is love and it is normal and safe for him to be in that relationship. That has become his comfort zone.
Now, the only thing that you could do is boost his self esteem that he worthy of being loved and respect too. Taking him to a therapist would be much better. Inspire him to be better and respect his decision even the bad one, have boundaries with him and be there for him if he ever decides to heal and ask for your help.
@@almatirkey7748 Good advice. He is going to therapy but I don't know if he is being honest with them. I hope he is but not every therapist is a good therapist.
@@spiritualBaddi Well, that's a good spin on it. I hope that he learns his lesson before she does something stupid, like getting pregnant to keep him or accuse him of rape (because every guy of the 20 or so she's dated before him "graped" her) and he's supposedly her first consensual partner she's had.
She's a monster and he doesn't deserve this.
@@MMPutnam77 Yeah true. He doesn’t want to let his mother go. Because even if he breaks up with his girlfriend , he will get attached to someone similar. He needs to break the cycle. Right now he is afraid of being alone because he doesn’t love himself enough. He needs to learn to love himself more by having new hobbies, having positive thoughts and affirmations about himself, he has to believe in a higher power that will help him to overcome his fear of loneliness and unworthiness. If he wants to he will heal little by little.
I was So happy to see your newest post. Holy s**t, sis. Thank you. I shall share this class with my little sis, so she and I can hopefully Wake Up❤
That is so true.. having always been in my light energy it has been common to have attracted all sorts of people, I use people in my life to decide what i am to be and what I would rather not be. Who accesses you is what defines the trajectory of your life.
Wake up babe manifestelle just posted
Perfect video and commentary on modern dating culture, thanks as always ❤
i loved the Sabrina Carpenter at home! 😂❤
These videos have been so inspirational to me I told my therapist. It's really waking me up to the brainwashing of toxic , jealous friends and jealous loser men that secretly hate women and blame them for all of their problems. It solidified the need for me to walk away permanently from left/ right modern standards for women.
I'm 42. I feel like this is just b the cycle. The fashion has cycles from 80', 90's then 2000's.
I graduated in 2000.
In the 2000's it was cool to have a sugar daddy. Fashion was sparkly, and most things came with rhinestones. Halloween costumes began all coming with thigh highs.
It's now new, it's just time.
I’m honestly so grateful to be bisexual. After my divorce I was so traumatized and afraid of men, I just couldn’t date them at all or even really be friends with new men. So I focused on myself and my healing, then after a few years I just started dating other genders. I’m so much happier surrounded by women and queer people. Being friends with so many queer men also helped heal a lot of that trauma and fear of men. I’m open to dating men but only if they’re queer too. Of course queer dating can be toxic too, but my experiences have been overwhelmingly positive, whereas being with cishet men was an overwhelmingly negative experience even before my marriage. Women and queer people are typically so much more loving, empathic, caring, good at communicating, love serving others, more in tune with their emotions, open to therapy, etc. Regardless, I refuse to settle for less than I deserve bc some queer folks can be ain’t sh*t too 😂
My life has been so hard. I can't even imagine what is a princess treatment.
I started watching Manifestelle a few months ago. I wasn’t even looking for a partner, but I haven’t opened a door, paid for my nails or a meal since ⭐️ influencing the baddies for the better
(Being a NoNuance Nelly and commenting w/o finishing the vid yet) a HUGE problem for women who do want to marry and have a family is that now after accomplishing more than previous generations of women in terms of education, earnings and career, there's an expectation that men will rise from previous gens of men to meet women in terms of emotional and domestic support.....But they generally haven't. It's clear to see how this makes relationship to men a lot less attractive. And it's very harmful to women - for example - women who go into starting a family with a man under the impression that they are "life partners" and care deeply about the mental, physical and spiritual health of each other, then the woman is put in the vulnerable position of being pregnant and a new mom to a baby and often men fall really short in their expected role of deep care for the new mom. And since all new moms NEED deep care, and it's assumed she will get it from her husband instead of other women/family/"the village", she's isolated and in a way kicked when she's down. This hurts the kid to, so of course the loving feeling she had for him is damaged after he chooses selfishness in a time where he should be selfless.....We need more PSAs to women, such as "If he abandoned his other kid/s, he WILL abandon yours too!" A BIG problem when you get down to it is women assuming the men they're with are as compassionate, caring and loving as they are. I still think men can be those things, but it's often much less and more fickle than women, and even for the best men it's still different. To realize this helps women accept higher standards and more help from men, since how they love and help us is different (and more fickle). The big sister advice I needed was that only entertain good men (because him being cute and fun simply isn't enough of a benefit given the risks) and even the best men are different than you - they think, care and love differently and it benefits everyone - including them! - to be useful, striving and helpful (especially in terms of them working hard and being financially generous!). They don't burn out as easily as we do and they flounder without work and a selfless purpose - so LET them (don't make them) and support others!
The “empathy gap”.. yes unfortunately it’s a cliché for a reason.. we need to stop justifying them.. if they don’t know how to be caring, help around the house, and share the burden of raising kids then don’t even start a relationship with type of men, we need to get better at recognizing their lack of empathy and responsibility.. money isn’t enough (especially when you make your own)
Choosing to continue a man's legacy is a PRIVILEGE not all men deserve. Ladies flex your discernment 💪
Thank you for helping me rebuild my self esteem and my ability to set healthy boundaries.
I noticed a pattern in my life.
I have motivation, goals, plans, I'm inspired, creative, I have a schedule, a general idea of a few years ahead. I'll be eating healthy, working out, doing the best I can in everything and reaping the rewards.
And then alongggg comes a spider, a new friend always Christian, always. She'll see I'm single, that's a problem. It'll start small maybe my hair, maybe something about the way I look or talk, dress, the way I talk or interact with people.
They just creep on in, and I'm a strong person and it's not weeks, it's months, years. They'll try to get me to date "good" guys and talk down one's I actually like (I am very resistant to this and haven't dated any of these forced men, luckily).
One day I'll wake up depressed, I don't feel myself, my plans are lost, I feel self-conscious and like a failure and these friends will be sitting there telling me how capable I am, what happened, "you can do anything".
I attract the worst possible friends who feed off me to benefit their own lives.
They will be building their lives and homes from the bricks they stole from mine.
Run, the ick warned me this time, and I feel like I cracked a code!
Sorry that you have had this experience, as a Christian girl myself, theres nothing wrong with being single, and you should get to choose who you date/how you are, some people are Christians in name only and/or need to become better Christians. Just focus on yourself and get some help if needed, I am rooting for you ❤❤❤
It's great that you recognise this. Now focus on changing it!
They pay women less because they value women less, the same way you would pay more for Dior than Flower Knows.
Exactly! That's why we say when guy takes you to McDonald's or sitting restaurant for the FIRST date is how they feel about you at that time.
I can feel new braincells growing whenever I watch your videos. Love you!!
Have you ever done a passport bros video? That would be a good topic to discuss.
You are now on the family home screen for me, my 11 and 7 yo girls to learn from. When that 9 yo boy gets home he is also gonna go to class. Beautiful commentary girl thanks for being our big sister!
Can we also talk about how a lot of these men resent women that they think are doing better economically than them and bully them. It's happened to me before.
Tnx a lot for this video. I recently had this happen to me. I dated a guy, he didn't wanted to provide and then his best MALE friend told me to lower my standards to get a man. Get real...
I have been giving myself the princess treatment because there aren’t wealthy guys out there for everyone. I am getting older in my 30’s and I can’t find anyone that would treatment me like a princess.
Yes you can. Believe it. You deserve it Queen 👑 we believe in you boo 😘
My BFF dated and then married down. I was not happy for her. I see his reactionary effort now, and applaud her. He rose to the occasion of her love and has since become a provider man. Doubling his income and becoming independent when they were dating, doubling it again when she set the bar for marriage at buying a home, and by +25% when she agreed to have his child. She really is the prize.
@@LittleNepenthe what an embarrassing comment, your friend probably doesn’t like you. Are you so shallow that not being able to provide is enough for you to not support a relationship? What if they were truly in love? This attitude is horrendous, I hope you know you’ll never be truly happy in life with this mindset.
The gatekeeping of status symbols is interesting to me.
A former coworker tormented the whole workplace with her relationship. Lording her man over everyone, with nonstop bragging and PDA. Acting like she was so ABOVE everyone there who was single and trying to rub their faces in it. Imagining others were jealous to make herself feel better.
If she noticed anyone around her having chemistry with someone, she would say something to spoil it. She had her status symbol and didn't want anyone else to have it or something like it.
Her man was good to her, but she treated him terribly. I'm all for princess treatment. But when the reward for princess treatment is abuse, it's more like slavery.
Me and my husband we are both doctors. He is also a chef and cooks every day and does the dishes because chefs clean their station. Now, I'm fat, my self esteem is on the floor, and I don't manifest... But I always refused to keep a man who's gonna treat me badly because I already have my father for that. The point is if I could so can you