Milliane played a part in becoming a victim through her questionable actions. I'm not are if you know that in New Zealand prostitutes often use the site. Milliane used
Dr. Grande is starting to live in my head. He has a running narrative accompanying even the most mundane activities I engage in. "He told his wife he had to go uptown to get the mower blade sharpened. She asked when he would be back, he said it wouldn't be long. He then got in his vehicle, a 2011 Chevrolet Impala and drove away from the house....etc etc." If I ever hear "this brings us to (current date)," I'll know I'm in trouble.
How many of us put Dr. Grande on to fall asleep? His voice is such an even tone it makes my sensory overload from the day chill out. It feels like ASMR for me. I mean I am here for the content all day, but it's always my night time noise.
I actually do listen to him to fall asleep. He seems to be able to talk the horror out of any event. I find that really really calming... and relaxing and reassuring.
@@leeanncrowley-davies7628 Well, she didn't exactly like vanilla-plain sex, did she? She played with fire. I feel sorry for the dad, too. What a way to go.
The most compelling rebuttal of this defense I have ever seen was where the prosecution just straight up stood there for the length of time it actually takes to strangle a person. People act like this happens in 10 seconds (and 10 seconds would be a long time to fail to notice you were killing someone, lets be real) and they had no idea and it was just an accident, but the prosecutor stood there, punctuating the silence only with updates like “at this point, the victim would likely lose control of their bladder“, “at this point, the victim would no longer be responding, playfully or otherwise“. It was a startlingly long time.
I am not trying to defend sexual predators in any way. I am just an athlete, who participated in Judo competitions up to the national level. As such I have plenty of real life, first hand experience in strangling people, who even also tried to defend themselves, since this is a legal technique in Judo. There are two kinds of strangulation: In the first one you cut off the air intake of the whole body by blocking the windpipe.Which takes some time. The other kind of strangulation: you block the carotid arteries in the neck and you stop the direct blood flow from the lungs to the brain. I never used a stopwatch :-D. But I would estimate it takes four seconds for a man to become unconscious. And in contrast to EPs post, the strangling motion itself also takes nearly no force, if you are able to hold down the other person with your bodyweight. I obviously never strangled somebody to death. So I cant tell you how long this takes. But it wouldnt be logic, if this would take very long. But this even supports your point: it sounds very strange (specially for me) but as a Judoka you are actually in the same situation as someone non criminal, "non violent" who participates in consensual strangling sex: you want to go to a point close to/of unconsciousness. But not to a point of death. And its possible: I have never heard of a fatal accident in Judo or Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, while plenty of people got choked out in competitions over time.
@@melodi996 I can only repeat myself: "I obviously never strangled somebody to death. So I cant tell you how long this takes. But it wouldnt be logic, if this would take very long." Again you have to differentiate between choking: restricting the air intake and choking: restricting the bloodflow to the brain. I mean: if you restrict the blood flow, the brain shuts down, because the cells dont get enough oxygen to work. So there is no oxygen left. And the brain cells also need oxygen to exist.... The state of the art rule for first aid is nowadays, that you keep compressing the heart to keep the blood flowing, while you dont breath into the persons nose or mouth any more. Because the oxygen in the blood of the whole body is enough to survive until the medics arrive. So the amount of oxygen in the body seems to be sufficient for 6 or up to ten minutes. That means, if you only stop the air intace of a person, this person will survive for quite some time on the oxygen in the body. Which seems not to be the case, if the brain is not provided with oxygen via bloodflow: because thats the only reason why you have to administer the compression: because without chest compression the person would die much faster and before the medics arrive. There you have it: without bloodflow to the brain you die much faster than 6 or seven minutes.... Cant tell you how long exactly . I would assume in less than a minute.
I think anyone who saw George, Floyd's death would know how long it takes to asphyxiate someone. And Mr Floyd was choked to death by being knelt on so it probably took longer than if he'd been strangled with both hands round his neck. After about a full sixty seconds to two minutes it would become intentional rather than accidental, imo.
The fact that he took pictures of the body and watched porn after indicates to me that he intended on killing her. Like killing someone was a fantasy for him. But idk. This case reminds me of that other case where the ex cop killed women during sex and put them in suitcases. The ex cop also said he didn’t mean to kill them.
The problem with blaming the victim is that it’s obvious when something like choking someone is being taken too far, I doubt that someone is so into the moment that they accidentally don’t notice someone struggling or passing out.
@@JiveDadson it’s ok if people like rough sex, and some people have a kink for choking..but that sort of choking isint supposed to be deadly. It’s not like the goal is to crush the persons neck..it’s like light-medium squeezes for maybe 10-20 seconds or less. Not sitting there for 5 minuets plus feeling someone stop breathing and struggle for their life. So it’s a pretty sharp contrast.
She was his first kill and hopefully his last. Personally I have to know someone really well before I commit to a relationship. But not everyone is boring like me🙂. Grace had a lovely family so took everyone at face value.
I'm not sure how sophisticated the notion of legal 'consent' is. But this kind of defense seems to neglect the fact that, at least socially, consent can be withdrawn at any time. It's not just a blanket, one-time consent to sex or whatever, but something that may be revoked as the activity progresses. Presumably when someone is being killed, it has gone past the point of their consent...
Exactly. People engaging in BDSM usually have a pre-arranged code word for the sub that signifies they want the sadistic activity to cease, such as for example if the sub shouts "red" that is a signal for the dominator to immediately stop and desist. I don't personally indulge in this kind of thing, so I wouldn't know if there's a reason why someone being strangulated can't perhaps slap like is done in strangleholds in Judo, which means that the person performing the strangulation, should stop. But it would make sense to me that there would be such a failsafe that the strangled person can employ to signal that things are going too far. A possible complicating factor might be, I suspect, that strangulation and orgasm might have a link - after all, it does produce a similar kind of dizzyness, which would maybe make the person being strangled not realize that they are about to lose consciousness, but surely the person doing the strangling should realize that he/she is going too far and that the other person has passed out. No, my gut tells me that Dr Grande is quite right in that in a case like this one, it's got to be murder. Especially with the added component of the accused not showing remorse or anguish over the death. There might be another side to that story, though, that I'm failing to see.
@@jenniferh7020 Thanks Jennifer. I was casually reading the comments and it struck a chord with me. The whole "choke me" thing, I never really got but I am surprised by the amount of women that ask for this... I had a girlfriend that for her, this was a deal-breaker in terms of sexual fulfillment. I tried my best but just felt really uncomfortable with it - it's not 'sexy' or anything when you have a naked unconscious woman in your bed! Couldn't do it anymore and we split up. I just hope she found someone who could fulfill her needs and that she is happy.
@@dbcooper8927 Asphyxiation play during sex is very common and it can strengthen orgasms. But if you are uncomfortable being on the giving or receiving end you don’t need to do it. Also even if people are into it there needs to be a limit and don’t cut off the airway just cut off the blood flow
@@digitaluser1255 as said before. If it’s consensual and done with respect then it dosnt matter. If there is safe words and checking in on each other ect then the chance for murder is lowered.
@@puccipuu1797 There should be zero chance of homicide. If one person is in distress due to an accident, the other would immediately call paramedics and begin resuscitation --- if it was an accident. But a diabolical killer might do that to make a murder look like an accident. Maybe Dr. Grande is right. Forget the choking part.
@@l.w.paradis2108 Quite right.It's been 28 years since it was adjudicated that a person cannot legally consent to actual bodily harm because bodily harm with the intent to do that is absolutely illegal.
Thank you for reminding us that serial killers do not add value to any situation and are universally destructive. You’re a real peach Dr. Grande! 🍑 How the heck you say these things with a straight face I’ll never know…
The most interesting thing about this case is that everything except the murder was recorded by cctv. The tinder date. The taxi back to the hotel. The elevator to the room floor. His 2d tinder date. Buying the suitcase. Taking her body out in the suitcase.
Yes that did stand out - so many cases in the US fall down because of grainy or non existent CCTV where there should have been coverage. Some people don't like that they're being videoed but this case shows it is worth it and if it catches out just one creep like Kempson it is worth it.
Dr. Grande's ASMR voice + his wit + the unconventional topic = me feeling guilty for laughing this hard considering it's a murder video. Also, I like the new glasses.
I need the tension release, and the sense of having some power over my fate. These types of criminals haunt me. I know it could happen to anyone. Knowledge gives us some power. Laughing breaks up the shiver going down my spine.
Don’t use Tinder or suchlike things. Date people who you know from some broader context, people who have connections . Meeting people like two random atoms is dangerous.
Not really interesting to the family is it? Did you see the dad at the press conference he had a nervous breakdown due to overwhelming grief. Something a bit distasteful about this. Feels like it’s just entertainment, Grande smiling on the thumbnail with the rough sex caption. It’s a bit sick.
@@katiemiaana I can’t even imagine what her family is going through. For me, these videos are “interesting” in the sense that they attempt to explain what is going on in the perpetrator’s head, what makes someone do such horrendous things. If a story like this is in the news, it’s most likely been sensationalized to the point of being extremely upsetting. It’s “interesting” for me to hear a calmly explained, well informed analysis of these horrendous cases. Over the months of watching, these videos have also helped me make sense of what might be going on with difficult patients I’ve had to deal with (I’m in healthcare) as mental health training is greatly lacking. And my comment should probably read “I appreciate your analysis” instead of using the word “interesting”. I do see your point. Thank you.
@James Rossi I like Dr Grande. But he does make jokes at the expense of young female crime victims. Which is distasteful, this is a pattern I've noticed with Dr Grande.
@@leonieromanes7265 He makes jokes about the KILLERS and not the victims, which is in my opinion nto a horrible hting because a lot of these morons actually take '' pride '' in their '' work '' because people end up making documentaries about them, when instead they should be mocked for being sick losers who can only get off to hurting others. Maybe if they would be known and laughed at as disgusting losers it would change some people's minds
Thank you for this. Side note, this case and others of violence of a partner (dating or committed) against a woman, led to new anti domestic violence laws recognising strangulation as a key indicator that the offender is more likely to escalate, continue violence or kill a partner, and where strangulation is attempted or happens, the sentence is harsher.
This has to be your best video to date (in my opinion anyway), extremely concise and educational with a superior analytical approach that even the layman can understand and I agree 100% with your analysis. I hadn't heard of this case prior to watching this video and feel you have it totally wrapped up! Keep up the good work Sir 👍.
Thanks doctor grande! Maybe consider this topic: how does narcissism relate to insight and mindfulness? Many narcissists ive dealt with claim to be “highly” mindful and insightful, when in reality the case is quite different, and reality seems to be distorted. Maybe a video about this construct? I love your more technical, nitty gritty videos on mental health topics like that. Best, Dr. G! Mitch Rothstein
I think they're highly skilled at reading and manipulating people, for their own gratification. Perhaps that's what they mean by mindfulness. Narcissists do like to portray themselves as special, it's a large part of their disorder.🙂
@@joannecraft9842 I have watched but I would like a more in depth narrow video about insightfullness and mindfullness/DBT effectiveness on certain type of disorders. Narcissism is just easiest to notice. the presentations can be fairly pronounced
How sad for her😔. I tried dating sites 10 yrs ago & found 9 of 1900 profiles decent. Tinder and the rest are magnets for narcissists...would not do it again. Thanks Dr G💚💛
Isn’t it a shame that she was the victim and yet she got dragged for her sexual tendencies and her parents and the whole world got to hear about it? Wouldn’t it be obvious if someone was dying during rough sex? Even without a safe word , there has to be a difference between pleasure and torture
@Pois Chiche It's more like she shouldn't have put herself in the position to be vulnerable like that with someone she had almost zero history with. Her "fault" in this is NOT that she was into BDSM. Two consenting trusting people can have whatever relationship they want. The issue with what she did is that she essentially offered herself up on a platter to a stranger who in a way was her preferred highest bidder. Have you even seen the Hostel movies? Kind of reminds me of that. Yes, he may not have paid for her, but he ticked all the right boxes in the right places for her, and then it was off to the races (or gallows)!
@Pois Chiche Well, I am assuming that you never have NOR ever will fornicate at all since you cast that stone, so that's good for you. Otherwise that would be hypocritical. Yes, she seemed to be a dim-witted and slutty individual, but she did not deserve to be executed for that. However, in the end it does not matter one iota. She paid a heavy price for her lust and desire for attention. But it is not our role to judge. Humans have no legs to stand on.
I can listen to these horrifying cases only when Dr. Grande explains them. I cannot bear sensationalized accounts of what is already shocking and tragic. I need a calm, balanced voice and person to explain something like this. I learn so much this way, because I might never be able to listen to accounts of these events otherwise.
@@dannycarrington1601 Yeah, except you can poll 5 million people from any random country, and i imagine all of them would give a hard 'no' in regards to being cannibalized. Did something that flimsy actually get taken seriously?
@@mc_zittrer8793 Armin Meiwes, the cannibal, was originally only convicted of manslaughter and sentenced to 8 1/2 years. He was later retried, convicted of murder and sentenced to life imprisonment. This case was in Germany where retrying a convict for a more serious offense is legal, this would not have been allowed in the U.S. When Meiwes was featured in the German press there were many personal ads placed by people either wanting to be cannibalized or seeking victims.
But accidents do happen. People accidentally kill their selves when trying to choke their selves while masturbating. Not saying that happened with this case but it is entirely possible.
I'm not sure what the point would be of a psychological examination of those two. An examination of the evidence in, say, the Venona files would be more useful.
Dr. Grande : This is off topic but I think that hearing from you on the matter of Jason Padgett who after being a victim of a physical beating to his head he became a math genius. He also sees patterns in everything and apparatus saw time moving through space like a film reel. I’m not sure about any of this and that is why I would like to hear about it from you. Somehow you make very complicated stories more understandable and helps make sense of them. TY!
Would love you to do Marlon Brando. His childhood was monstrous, and he suffered not only from PTSD, but acute anxiety, paranoia and depression. Yet he was one of the most magnetic and talented actors of our time. He could seduce anyone. He is fascinating.
Bizzare childhoods and acting go together I think. There is some connectionn between the ease of becoming another person and the dissociation of childhood PTSD.
I know people will find me narrow minded but I want to write my thoughts. You can never know who will come across with an online dating app. Please do not go around having s.x with strangers. These times we live in are extremely dangerous times. Take good care of your self and your loved ones and be safe! Thank you for the video Dr. Grande 🤗
I remember this case very well. It hit the news cycles quite massively over here in the United Kingdom. I empathise with her deeply. A young lady on a gap year just looking to have a nice time. I remember the look on her poor father’s face. The family was dragged through a harrowing trial where they had to listen to their now deceased daughter’s sexual habits being played out in open court. Deplorable. Strangulation and BDSM is not something I understand but, each to their own. No judgment. The suggestion that that sociopath could be back walking the streets of any city in about 15 years is absolutely unimaginable. I would hope that the NZ parole authorities would do the needful.
I wonder if it would have been possible to give him a longer non-parole period, and, if so, why didn’t the judge give him the maximum. Also, Jesse was initially given a lot of leeway in this case, for example, his name and face were initially withheld from the public by the media even though he wasn't a minor. His parents/family must have connections (the usual intel community connections).
I’m from New Zealand and when this story hit the country was so shocked and saddened that one of our own could have done something like this. You brought shame to our country.
If a woman is responsible for knowing the risks, so her partner. There is equal responsibility to keep things safe, that's part of consent. It's not an excuse.
Thank you Dr. Grande for such great content. We are thrilled to be publishing your first-ever book, The Psychology of Notorious Serial Killers, coming out May 18th and your first crime novel, Harm Reduction later this year.
I feel like you may be stalking my internet history, you always manage to discuss cases I'm currently or have recently researched! Great minds think alike? 😁
Regarding BDSM or kinky sex, people who participate in BDSM activities responsibly don’t do extreme or risky practices on a first date or with someone they don’t know, EVER. They also get to know partners over time so they know they can be trusted to be safe, and they negotiate what can and absolutely cannot be done before anything happens. Consent must be given, and safe words used if things become too uncomfortable for either person. The type of “rough sex” he attempted is not what BDSM or kink is about, and gives the practice a negative reputation.
There are all types of "players" and unfortunately just because you say you're careful doesn't mean half pr even most of "the community" is careful. There's entire groups where their fantasy is rough sex with strangers. So...
I flamed your Travis Walton video the other day but then I decided to give your channel a chance. I'm really enjoying it! Lots of good topics I haven't heard yet and good analysis. Keep it up!
One of the lessons learnt is that you should never sleep with a stranger who you have met that day. Never sleep with someone on the first date because you don't know who they are.
Dr Grande, very interesting assessment. I was really hoping you might speculate on the serial killer the Netflix ‘Serpent’ was based upon, Charles Sobhraj. Thank you.
Personally, I would not want someone who is into violent sex in my house. If they get worked up at the thought then they are more likely to get too worked up. If he doesn't want to hear your safe word he won't.
Another interesting analysis, Dr Grande. I wonder if you could cover the recent arrest of Josh Duggar as well as the cult this family follows - The Institute In Basic Life Principals (IBLP).
I've known women who are into pretty hardcore BDSM (simulated abduction, physical restraint using ligatures, erotic asphyxiation, simulated rape scenarios...). I really don't get it, and to seek that sort of thing out on Tinder? With complete strangers?! No way...
@@infamousla815, quite the opposite, actually. These were extremely confident, assertive, "Type A" individuals in their daily lives. It was almost as though being dominant over others so effortlessly in everyday, "normal" life made them attracted to being the exact opposite (by extremes) in their sex lives. It was weird...
@@thatpointinlife hard to believe. Maybe they were covering their innate insecurity from you. But I do believe that's been your experience. Not mine though..lol..
15:34 "It's also a good idea to avoid serial killers. This is good advice regardless of the activity." 🤣 This is why I'm a fan, Dr. Grande. I love your sense of humor! 🧠
Paused, Before watching Dr. G's video. Every serial killer interview I've ever seen. When Strangulation is involved. They all say "it takes a long time to strangle someone" - Ted Bundy -Fred West - Boston Strangler -BTK It doesn't just happen with no indication. Fred West said: "it took 30 to 40 minutes to strangle her" He was talking about his teen daughter at the time.
What you are actually supposed to do is cut off the carotid artery’s blood flow not the air supply of the Trachea. So the person will become lightheaded dizzy and with restricted blood flow more will go to the genitalia’s causing them to become more sensitive and and more powerful orgasm. Also just releasing it allows the blood to return and recovery in just a few seconds
"I like this product. Does it come with strangulation?" HAHA. Love the illustrations created to prove points in your videos. I always look forward to them but this one was special! You're the best Dr. Grande!
When I had a city centre apartment in the early 90s; bodies were always being found in the canal. This was linked to gay men seeking strangers for dangerous (violent) sex. It was really niche and shocking then - pre internet. One of my friends; Dean; was beaten to death doing this. I can't believe a nice pretty young girl is now doing the same thing. What the hell is happening to us? This is dangerous and long been known to be so for men; let alone young women.
Can you analyze the life of Vincent Van Gogh, and the movies “Bug” with Ashley Judd and “Jacobs Ladder” with Tim Robbins. I love your channel ! Thanks for all the hard work and research!
Reminds me of the 'Robert Chambers defense'. He might have been the first one to use the 'rough sex' argument in court after he murdered Jennifer Levin. He pled guilty to manslaughter and only got 15 years. That would be an interesting one to cover. After he got out there was a video with him choking barbie dolls, joking and laughing.
The NZ Police did a splendid job with this case, they had spectacular CCTV footage basically mapping out his movements - even to the point of him buying boxes and bags in which he disposed of the body.
Thankyou for today's video Dr. Grande. Reinforces to me, why Australians , don't particularly like kiwis, Dr. Grande . It's the : "Once We're Warriors" thing that they have going on culturally. The whole "trend" of perceiving sex as violent being, defended, or a preference criteria , or desired ; wanting to be "slammed" etc, isn't, worth me perplexing my own faculties on trying to, think about or comment on Dr. Grande, as, I don't know how to verbalise or even want to think about , other than, already knowing , I don't understand these things, nor identify with it. My mind doesn't register it. And doesn't want to go there. Won't go there. Because I don't understand it, and there's no point me trying to .
I agree. Some people don't value their life. I was also annoyed at all the tearful vigils, etc, here in NZ. They do this for tourists that die, but not local women!
thanks for all your fine work. could you do a video on Dr. abraham low, m. d. a psychiatrist from chicago who started recovery, international, a self help organization. he was a pioneer in cognitive beheavior therapy but is not well known. I think you would enjoy researching his life and work. It is good to give time and attention to people who have contributed to society instead of those who are criminals and other low lifes.
I appreciate how specific and careful you were in not victim-blaming Grace in this video. Thank you for the sensitivity, Dr. Grande
Milliane played a part in becoming a victim through her questionable actions. I'm not are if you know that in New Zealand prostitutes often use the site. Milliane used
Dr. Grande is starting to live in my head. He has a running narrative accompanying even the most mundane activities I engage in. "He told his wife he had to go uptown to get the mower blade sharpened. She asked when he would be back, he said it wouldn't be long. He then got in his vehicle, a 2011 Chevrolet Impala and drove away from the house....etc etc." If I ever hear "this brings us to (current date)," I'll know I'm in trouble.
Lol!!! 😂😂
Yes 🙌🏼
This is excellent. :0)
You are Hilarious!!! 😂
You need a dry dad joke in there too, like "I suppose his favorite TV show is Lawn and Order" as only our good doctor can manage.
“Serial killers don’t add value to any situation “ - Dr. Grande....best quote ever 😂
Lifetime movies?
Certainly not to a date!
Yes many gems this time.
What about Dexter? Lol
They did in the middle ages idiot, do your research.
How many of us put Dr. Grande on to fall asleep? His voice is such an even tone it makes my sensory overload from the day chill out. It feels like ASMR for me. I mean I am here for the content all day, but it's always my night time noise.
I actually do listen to him to fall asleep. He seems to be able to talk the horror out of any event. I find that really really calming... and relaxing and reassuring.
@@annenextdoor612 He is so calm and measured when talking about shovels and burying bodies. Remarkable.
I used his videos to fall asleep my entire pregnancy lol and now too
I don’t like ASMR but fall asleep to old Dr Grande videos. Never the new ones!
I do this too
Her father dying of cancer before the sentencing was so heartbreaking. This case will always be remembered in NZ
And the fact that her mother couldn't come to NZ with her husband when Grace was missing because she was battling cancer too at that time.
I didn't realise this, god how sad, and how awful to hear suggestions that your daughter liked "rough sex" xx
it must have been so painful for cancer ridden parents to let her travel for rough sex.
@@leeanncrowley-davies7628 Well, she didn't exactly like vanilla-plain sex, did she?
She played with fire. I feel sorry for the dad, too. What a way to go.
So heartbreaking I rember this so vividly watching from Australia and just apologising in my mind to
The family
The most compelling rebuttal of this defense I have ever seen was where the prosecution just straight up stood there for the length of time it actually takes to strangle a person. People act like this happens in 10 seconds (and 10 seconds would be a long time to fail to notice you were killing someone, lets be real) and they had no idea and it was just an accident, but the prosecutor stood there, punctuating the silence only with updates like “at this point, the victim would likely lose control of their bladder“, “at this point, the victim would no longer be responding, playfully or otherwise“. It was a startlingly long time.
It also takes a lot of strength to strangle someone to death. So he wasn't doing it lightly in the slightest.
I am not trying to defend sexual predators in any way.
I am just an athlete, who participated in Judo competitions up to the national level. As such I have plenty of real life, first hand experience in strangling people, who even also tried to defend themselves, since this is a legal technique in Judo.
There are two kinds of strangulation: In the first one you cut off the air intake of the whole body by blocking the windpipe.Which takes some time.
The other kind of strangulation: you block the carotid arteries in the neck and you stop the direct blood flow from the lungs to the brain. I never used a stopwatch :-D. But I would estimate it takes four seconds for a man to become unconscious.
And in contrast to EPs post, the strangling motion itself also takes nearly no force, if you are able to hold down the other person with your bodyweight.
I obviously never strangled somebody to death. So I cant tell you how long this takes. But it wouldnt be logic, if this would take very long.
But this even supports your point: it sounds very strange (specially for me) but as a Judoka you are actually in the same situation as someone non criminal, "non violent" who participates in consensual strangling sex: you want to go to a point close to/of unconsciousness. But not to a point of death.
And its possible: I have never heard of a fatal accident in Judo or Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, while plenty of people got choked out in competitions over time.
@@scheisstag well, there's a big difference between just unconscious and dead, it takes much more time to kill the brain.
@@melodi996 I can only repeat myself: "I obviously never strangled somebody to death. So I cant tell you how long this takes. But it wouldnt be logic, if this would take very long." Again you have to differentiate between choking: restricting the air intake and choking: restricting the bloodflow to the brain. I mean: if you restrict the blood flow, the brain shuts down, because the cells dont get enough oxygen to work. So there is no oxygen left. And the brain cells also need oxygen to exist....
The state of the art rule for first aid is nowadays, that you keep compressing the heart to keep the blood flowing, while you dont breath into the persons nose or mouth any more. Because the oxygen in the blood of the whole body is enough to survive until the medics arrive. So the amount of oxygen in the body seems to be sufficient for 6 or up to ten minutes. That means, if you only stop the air intace of a person, this person will survive for quite some time on the oxygen in the body. Which seems not to be the case, if the brain is not provided with oxygen via bloodflow: because thats the only reason why you have to administer the compression: because without chest compression the person would die much faster and before the medics arrive. There you have it: without bloodflow to the brain you die much faster than 6 or seven minutes.... Cant tell you how long exactly . I would assume in less than a minute.
I think anyone who saw George, Floyd's death would know how long it takes to asphyxiate someone. And Mr Floyd was choked to death by being knelt on so it probably took longer than if he'd been strangled with both hands round his neck. After about a full sixty seconds to two minutes it would become intentional rather than accidental, imo.
The fact that he took pictures of the body and watched porn after indicates to me that he intended on killing her. Like killing someone was a fantasy for him. But idk. This case reminds me of that other case where the ex cop killed women during sex and put them in suitcases. The ex cop also said he didn’t mean to kill them.
They will say that to try to escape severe sentencing, but he went on another date after killing grace
Yeah, those actions reveal his motive.
The problem with blaming the victim is that it’s obvious when something like choking someone is being taken too far, I doubt that someone is so into the moment that they accidentally don’t notice someone struggling or passing out.
I think that as choking goes, "too far" means "at all".
@@JiveDadson it’s ok if people like rough sex, and some people have a kink for choking..but that sort of choking isint supposed to be deadly. It’s not like the goal is to crush the persons neck..it’s like light-medium squeezes for maybe 10-20 seconds or less. Not sitting there for 5 minuets plus feeling someone stop breathing and struggle for their life. So it’s a pretty sharp contrast.
I think you underestimate the power of an orgasm.
Think you probably need to do some research and see what the young ones (and others) are into these days.
@@BellaLeoLicorice You mean squat cobbler?
"Some people are not good at setting limits." Truer words have never been spoken. Very interesting...and great advice.
I love where he says "Avoid serial killers.." XD
@@jenniferh7020 I know. Right. He's hilarious.🤣
You may relate to that statement but I'll politefully suggest there have been words spoken more true
"Leave out the dying part!" "Avoid serial killers!" Good advice.
She was his first kill and hopefully his last. Personally I have to know someone really well before I commit to a relationship. But not everyone is boring like me🙂. Grace had a lovely family so took everyone at face value.
Richard - I agree :)
I'm not sure how sophisticated the notion of legal 'consent' is. But this kind of defense seems to neglect the fact that, at least socially, consent can be withdrawn at any time. It's not just a blanket, one-time consent to sex or whatever, but something that may be revoked as the activity progresses. Presumably when someone is being killed, it has gone past the point of their consent...
100% absolutely
This comment makes the most sense out of all of them. Great point! 👍
Exactly. People engaging in BDSM usually have a pre-arranged code word for the sub that signifies they want the sadistic activity to cease, such as for example if the sub shouts "red" that is a signal for the dominator to immediately stop and desist. I don't personally indulge in this kind of thing, so I wouldn't know if there's a reason why someone being strangulated can't perhaps slap like is done in strangleholds in Judo, which means that the person performing the strangulation, should stop. But it would make sense to me that there would be such a failsafe that the strangled person can employ to signal that things are going too far. A possible complicating factor might be, I suspect, that strangulation and orgasm might have a link - after all, it does produce a similar kind of dizzyness, which would maybe make the person being strangled not realize that they are about to lose consciousness, but surely the person doing the strangling should realize that he/she is going too far and that the other person has passed out.
No, my gut tells me that Dr Grande is quite right in that in a case like this one, it's got to be murder. Especially with the added component of the accused not showing remorse or anguish over the death. There might be another side to that story, though, that I'm failing to see.
@@jenniferh7020 Thanks Jennifer.
I was casually reading the comments and it struck a chord with me.
The whole "choke me" thing, I never really got but I am surprised by the amount of women that ask for this...
I had a girlfriend that for her, this was a deal-breaker in terms of sexual fulfillment. I tried my best but just felt really uncomfortable with it - it's not 'sexy' or anything when you have a naked unconscious woman in your bed!
Couldn't do it anymore and we split up.
I just hope she found someone who could fulfill her needs and that she is happy.
@@dbcooper8927 Asphyxiation play during sex is very common and it can strengthen orgasms. But if you are uncomfortable being on the giving or receiving end you don’t need to do it. Also even if people are into it there needs to be a limit and don’t cut off the airway just cut off the blood flow
The Rough Sex defense has been officially banned in UK courts. Hopefully that will bring some comfort to the victims' families.
They seem ahead of the U.S as far as that sort of thing goes.
@@digitaluser1255 as said before. If it’s consensual and done with respect then it dosnt matter.
If there is safe words and checking in on each other ect then the chance for murder is lowered.
@@puccipuu1797 There should be zero chance of homicide. If one person is in distress due to an accident, the other would immediately call paramedics and begin resuscitation --- if it was an accident. But a diabolical killer might do that to make a murder look like an accident. Maybe Dr. Grande is right. Forget the choking part.
@@l.w.paradis2108 Quite right.It's been 28 years since it was adjudicated that a person cannot legally consent to actual bodily harm because bodily harm with the intent to do that is absolutely illegal.
It's not in New Zealand tho where this happened!
Thank you for reminding us that serial killers do not add value to any situation and are universally destructive. You’re a real peach Dr. Grande! 🍑 How the heck you say these things with a straight face I’ll never know…
The most interesting thing about this case is that everything except the murder was recorded by cctv. The tinder date. The taxi back to the hotel. The elevator to the room floor. His 2d tinder date. Buying the suitcase. Taking her body out in the suitcase.
I think it showcases the guy's arrogance. He probably expected to get away with it.
Yeah, they showed all of that on a true crime channel a few weeks ago. His defence was disgusting.
Yes that did stand out - so many cases in the US fall down because of grainy or non existent CCTV where there should have been coverage. Some people don't like that they're being videoed but this case shows it is worth it and if it catches out just one creep like Kempson it is worth it.
It was almost as though his every move was being filmed. A frightening level of public surveillance.
@@Seabird41 What he did was frightening not the public surveillance.
Dr. Grande's ASMR voice + his wit + the unconventional topic = me feeling guilty for laughing this hard considering it's a murder video. Also, I like the new glasses.
I need the tension release, and the sense of having some power over my fate. These types of criminals haunt me. I know it could happen to anyone. Knowledge gives us some power. Laughing breaks up the shiver going down my spine.
Thanks so much for doing this one Dr Grande. This case absolutely haunted us her in NZ. Rip beautiful Grace 😔
Im so glad you have children, Dr. grande. You're perfect for that; calm and collected, empathic and kind.
She was so goregous just such a shame. I'm so sorry for her loss RIP precious one❤
Don’t use Tinder or suchlike things. Date people who you know from some broader context, people who have connections . Meeting people like two random atoms is dangerous.
Justine Brown's Bookshelf, True, especially when looking for a choking partner. Not putting blame on her, of course, but just as a general suggestion.
Lol friends of friends can still be psycho
@@tessajones9393 Obviously, what I suggest is not a panacea. But it will hugely improve the probabilities.
@@tessajones9393 , Yeah, maybe some slightly lighter form of kink on the first date might be wise also.
@jojofromtx As always, the exception proves the rule.
Your consistent uploads on such trending topics are amazing
You deserve a million subs asap, Dr. Grande!
This awesome video has convinced me that I had good instinct to stay far away from dating via Tinder.
Thank you, as always, Dr. Grande!
Well this is a title I never thought I’d see from Dr. Grande! 😂 Thank you for yet another fantastic analysis, Dr. G!!
The "what ifs" that the girl who went out with him the next night must have felt...and still feels to this day, I imagine.
A life changing experience I’m sure
Oh boy. This guy is scary. If not caught, sounds like he could have easily become a serial killer! 😳
Very Interesting. 💗💖💗👍🏼
Not really interesting to the family is it? Did you see the dad at the press conference he had a nervous breakdown due to overwhelming grief. Something a bit distasteful about this. Feels like it’s just entertainment, Grande smiling on the thumbnail with the rough sex caption. It’s a bit sick.
@@katiemiaana I can’t even imagine what her family is going through. For me, these videos are “interesting” in the sense that they attempt to explain what is going on in the perpetrator’s head, what makes someone do such horrendous things. If a story like this is in the news, it’s most likely been sensationalized to the point of being extremely upsetting. It’s “interesting” for me to hear a calmly explained, well informed analysis of these horrendous cases. Over the months of watching, these videos have also helped me make sense of what might be going on with difficult patients I’ve had to deal with (I’m in healthcare) as mental health training is greatly lacking. And my comment should probably read “I appreciate your analysis” instead of using the word “interesting”. I do see your point. Thank you.
@James Rossi I like Dr Grande. But he does make jokes at the expense of young female crime victims. Which is distasteful, this is a pattern I've noticed with Dr Grande.
@@leonieromanes7265 He makes jokes about the KILLERS and not the victims, which is in my opinion nto a horrible hting because a lot of these morons actually take '' pride '' in their '' work '' because people end up making documentaries about them, when instead they should be mocked for being sick losers who can only get off to hurting others.
Maybe if they would be known and laughed at as disgusting losers it would change some people's minds
@@katiemiaana Graces Dad got cancer after her death and he died a week before sentencing
How is no one talking about “avoid serial killers” I LITERALLY LAUGHED SO HARD
Seconded haha!!!
I know a lot of people are interested in murder stories and stuff but, if we would actually watch murder videos, would people feel the same thing?
Thank you for this. Side note, this case and others of violence of a partner (dating or committed) against a woman, led to new anti domestic violence laws recognising strangulation as a key indicator that the offender is more likely to escalate, continue violence or kill a partner, and where strangulation is attempted or happens, the sentence is harsher.
Yup! The motivation to strangle a woman during sex is the same motivation to eventually kill her.
that woman he dated afterwards must have felt so ill when she found out. 💔
I would lose my absolute shit if that was me
This has to be your best video to date (in my opinion anyway), extremely concise and educational with a superior analytical approach that even the layman can understand and I agree 100% with your analysis. I hadn't heard of this case prior to watching this video and feel you have it totally wrapped up!
Keep up the good work Sir 👍.
"They need to leave out the dying part," and other famous one liners by Dr.G
xDDDD
Thanks doctor grande! Maybe consider this topic: how does narcissism relate to insight and mindfulness? Many narcissists ive dealt with claim to be “highly” mindful and insightful, when in reality the case is quite different, and reality seems to be distorted. Maybe a video about this construct? I love your more technical, nitty gritty videos on mental health topics like that. Best, Dr. G!
Mitch Rothstein
He has many videos on this topic. Look at his older videos. 🙂
I think they're highly skilled at reading and manipulating people, for their own gratification. Perhaps that's what they mean by mindfulness. Narcissists do like to portray themselves as special, it's a large part of their disorder.🙂
@@joannecraft9842 I have watched but I would like a more in depth narrow video about insightfullness and mindfullness/DBT effectiveness on certain type of disorders. Narcissism is just easiest to notice. the presentations can be fairly pronounced
Rock on, Dr. G. Truly a gentleman and a scholar.
How sad for her😔. I tried dating sites 10 yrs ago & found 9 of 1900 profiles decent. Tinder and the rest are magnets for narcissists...would not do it again. Thanks Dr G💚💛
Isn’t it a shame that she was the victim and yet she got dragged for her sexual tendencies and her parents and the whole world got to hear about it? Wouldn’t it be obvious if someone was dying during rough sex? Even without a safe word , there has to be a difference between pleasure and torture
But for sadists and narcissists "torture" is pleasure. Definition of such term is subjective. So who wins in toeture and pleasure definition?
No shit Sherlock!
@Pois Chiche It's more like she shouldn't have put herself in the position to be vulnerable like that with someone she had almost zero history with. Her "fault" in this is NOT that she was into BDSM. Two consenting trusting people can have whatever relationship they want.
The issue with what she did is that she essentially offered herself up on a platter to a stranger who in a way was her preferred highest bidder.
Have you even seen the Hostel movies? Kind of reminds me of that.
Yes, he may not have paid for her, but he ticked all the right boxes in the right places for her, and then it was off to the races (or gallows)!
@Pois Chiche Well, I am assuming that you never have NOR ever will fornicate at all since you cast that stone, so that's good for you. Otherwise that would be hypocritical.
Yes, she seemed to be a dim-witted and slutty individual, but she did not deserve to be executed for that.
However, in the end it does not matter one iota.
She paid a heavy price for her lust and desire for attention.
But it is not our role to judge. Humans have no legs to stand on.
@@GeistInTheMachine so you're saying this was her fault. Not the muderer's fault.
I can listen to these horrifying cases only when Dr. Grande explains them. I cannot bear sensationalized accounts of what is already shocking and tragic. I need a calm, balanced voice and person to explain something like this. I learn so much this way, because I might never be able to listen to accounts of these events otherwise.
"I don't know how else to put this, strangulation is dangerous"--Dr Grande
That rough s*x defense is a joke and should be illegal to use. No one consents to being murdered.
Unfortunately there have been a couple cases where someone did. There was the case of Bernd Brandes who consented to being eaten by a cannibal.
@@dannycarrington1601 Yeah, except you can poll 5 million people from any random country, and i imagine all of them would give a hard 'no' in regards to being cannibalized. Did something that flimsy actually get taken seriously?
@@mc_zittrer8793 Armin Meiwes, the cannibal, was originally only convicted of manslaughter and sentenced to 8 1/2 years. He was later retried, convicted of murder and sentenced to life imprisonment. This case was in Germany where retrying a convict for a more serious offense is legal, this would not have been allowed in the U.S. When Meiwes was featured in the German press there were many personal ads placed by people either wanting to be cannibalized or seeking victims.
Correction: some people do sometimes consent to being killed.
But accidents do happen. People accidentally kill their selves when trying to choke their selves while masturbating.
Not saying that happened with this case but it is entirely possible.
Grace was my cousin and I was scrolling on UA-cam and when I saw thus video my heart sunk. May you rest in perfect peace our beautiful grace❤️
Rough sex isn’t a defence in the UK, rightly so. Rest in peace grace. X
@@christophekeating21 what are you on about? What’s that got to do with this? Why even bring it up?
@@gurutruecrimeguru1405 I know.
Rough sex defence is literally “she was asking for it”
I will not defend that defense, but that's not what it is literally or (more accurately) figuratively.
yea , ive heard from someone who killed by choking and he said that it was harder then he thought to kill them.
this guy definitly knew
@@rockyevans1584 uh yeah it is.
@@beefortebrea9386 not at all, if you care to clarify your position I'm all ears. That's nonsense tho, don't be so emotional
Please cover Julius & Ethel Rosenberg. Thanks Dr. Grande.
I'm not sure what the point would be of a psychological examination of those two. An examination of the evidence in, say, the Venona files would be more useful.
"Serial Killers do not add value to any situation", Love this guy :D
Dr. Grande : This is off topic but I think that hearing from you on the matter of Jason Padgett who after being a victim of a physical beating to his head he became a math genius. He also sees patterns in everything and apparatus saw time moving through space like a film reel. I’m not sure about any of this and that is why I would like to hear about it from you. Somehow you make very complicated stories more understandable and helps make sense of them. TY!
Oscar The Yucca is on assignment for Dr. G's next subject ... and the big cactus is back from vacation.
Would love you to do Marlon Brando. His childhood was monstrous, and he suffered not only from PTSD, but acute anxiety, paranoia and depression. Yet he was one of the most magnetic and talented actors of our time. He could seduce anyone. He is fascinating.
Bizzare childhoods and acting go together I think. There is some connectionn between the ease of becoming another person and the dissociation of childhood PTSD.
Yes he had it rough that's for sure, never able to form interpersonal relationships well
I know people will find me narrow minded but I want to write my thoughts. You can never know who will come across with an online dating app. Please do not go around having s.x with strangers. These times we live in are extremely dangerous times. Take good care of your self and your loved ones and be safe!
Thank you for the video Dr. Grande 🤗
I remember this case very well. It hit the news cycles quite massively over here in the United Kingdom. I empathise with her deeply. A young lady on a gap year just looking to have a nice time.
I remember the look on her poor father’s face. The family was dragged through a harrowing trial where they had to listen to their now deceased daughter’s sexual habits being played out in open court. Deplorable. Strangulation and BDSM is not something I understand but, each to their own. No judgment.
The suggestion that that sociopath could be back walking the streets of any city in about 15 years is absolutely unimaginable. I would hope that the NZ parole authorities would do the needful.
I wonder if it would have been possible to give him a longer non-parole period, and, if so, why didn’t the judge give him the maximum. Also, Jesse was initially given a lot of leeway in this case, for example, his name and face were initially withheld from the public by the media even though he wasn't a minor. His parents/family must have connections (the usual intel community connections).
At least tbis is the only channel that we can express own opinion or feeling.
Kudos to Dr Grande
This is why it's important to know the person
I’m from New Zealand and when this story hit the country was so shocked and saddened that one of our own could have done something like this. You brought shame to our country.
Why is Dr. Grande a savage? Because he says shit like “ he was so disgusted and sorry about the thing he continued to do.“
Description of Me every time I watch porn
@@mysteryjunkie9808 description of us all every time we watch porn 😂😂😂😂
@@pembrokelove if you're feeling the need to apologize for the porn you watch, you should seek therapy.
If a woman is responsible for knowing the risks, so her partner. There is equal responsibility to keep things safe, that's part of consent. It's not an excuse.
It is never safe to restrict someone's breathing.
Thank you Dr. Grande for such great content. We are thrilled to be publishing your first-ever book, The Psychology of Notorious Serial Killers, coming out May 18th and your first crime novel, Harm Reduction later this year.
"I like this product. Does it come with strangulation?" That one got me!
Can society please stop blaming the victim? After I was choked by my ex, I was told by someone "well, you should have made better choices".
I feel like you may be stalking my internet history, you always manage to discuss cases I'm currently or have recently researched! Great minds think alike? 😁
Regarding BDSM or kinky sex, people who participate in BDSM activities responsibly don’t do extreme or risky practices on a first date or with someone they don’t know, EVER. They also get to know partners over time so they know they can be trusted to be safe, and they negotiate what can and absolutely cannot be done before anything happens. Consent must be given, and safe words used if things become too uncomfortable for either person. The type of “rough sex” he attempted is not what BDSM or kink is about, and gives the practice a negative reputation.
Not in my experience...
There are all types of "players" and unfortunately just because you say you're careful doesn't mean half pr even most of "the community" is careful. There's entire groups where their fantasy is rough sex with strangers. So...
I think it's completely ok to be kinky but probably not with some stranger from tinder.
I flamed your Travis Walton video the other day but then I decided to give your channel a chance. I'm really enjoying it! Lots of good topics I haven't heard yet and good analysis. Keep it up!
One of the lessons learnt is that you should never sleep with a stranger who you have met that day. Never sleep with someone on the first date because you don't know who they are.
He’s the quiet riot (Dr Grande) I love the subtle joke slip-ins
Dr Grande, very interesting assessment. I was really hoping you might speculate on the serial killer the Netflix ‘Serpent’ was based upon, Charles Sobhraj. Thank you.
Life is Grand with Dr. Grande!
Dr Grande is the only person on this earth who can tell me a chilling murder story, yet have me rolling on the floor laughing.
I know right😅
He and Mike Oh from That Chapter. Dry, droll and laconic. Love it
Here from NZ, the guy was a creep but the last IG she left sent shudders up my spine.
Now I'm curious , what did it say??
@@FreeminderXIII Something like '2 can keep a secret when one of them is dead'
@@katyr2382 wow that's a strange thing to say regardless of what happened
@@FreeminderXIII agreed. That’s quite disturbing
How do you know that she left it? Maybe he used her phone to post it.
Tell me more, Doctor. I'd like to request an analysis of HG Tudor, please.
Yessss please!!!! Good request
It’s important to keep both feet firmly planted in reality in these type relationships.
Personally, I would not want someone who is into violent sex in my house. If they get worked up at the thought then they are more likely to get too worked up. If he doesn't want to hear your safe word he won't.
Excellent analysis Dr. Grande. Thank you.
Thanxs A lot Sir. Dr.Todd Grande 👍👍👍👍💖💞☝☝✌Love to watching this program. ..
Another interesting analysis, Dr Grande. I wonder if you could cover the recent arrest of Josh Duggar as well as the cult this family follows - The Institute In Basic Life Principals (IBLP).
Chris Williams (UA-cam) said ‘Tinder is like looking for a streak of piss in a pile of s#!t’. I’ve never used it, but it does sound seedy af
I've known women who are into pretty hardcore BDSM (simulated abduction, physical restraint using ligatures, erotic asphyxiation, simulated rape scenarios...). I really don't get it, and to seek that sort of thing out on Tinder? With complete strangers?! No way...
Very low self esteem women...
@@infamousla815, quite the opposite, actually. These were extremely confident, assertive, "Type A" individuals in their daily lives. It was almost as though being dominant over others so effortlessly in everyday, "normal" life made them attracted to being the exact opposite (by extremes) in their sex lives. It was weird...
@@thatpointinlife hard to believe. Maybe they were covering their innate insecurity from you. But I do believe that's been your experience. Not mine though..lol..
It's not just women. There are men also who enjoy violent submission.
@@nighttrain1236, different strokes for different folks...
The consistency of your uploads! Wow.
Excellent video Dr.Grande!
15:34 "It's also a good idea to avoid serial killers. This is good advice regardless of the activity."
🤣 This is why I'm a fan, Dr. Grande. I love your sense of humor! 🧠
Dr. Grande, thank you for all you do!
Can you cover Josh Duggar and/or the Duggar family in general?
Great analysis!Thank you Dr.Grande.
Meeting up with someone on Tinder is like playing Russian Roulette with your life.
Paused, Before watching Dr. G's video.
Every serial killer interview I've ever seen. When Strangulation is involved. They all say "it takes a long time to strangle someone"
- Ted Bundy
-Fred West
- Boston Strangler
-BTK
It doesn't just happen with no indication.
Fred West said: "it took 30 to 40 minutes to strangle her"
He was talking about his teen daughter at the time.
Can you analyze why I've been watching you daily for years, and just today I thought " Oh what the hell, I'll subscribe?"
I’m so so sad for her family😔 Praying for her and them🙏
Never constrict somebody's breathing, or your own. Bad things can happen.
What you are actually supposed to do is cut off the carotid artery’s blood flow not the air supply of the Trachea. So the person will become lightheaded dizzy and with restricted blood flow more will go to the genitalia’s causing them to become more sensitive and and more powerful orgasm. Also just releasing it allows the blood to return and recovery in just a few seconds
@@mysteryjunkie9808 It's still unsafe, there is no safe way of choking/strangulation. it's a risky kink.
I'd say using Tinder is a much bigger risk.
An extremely dangerous practice that has now become common practice due to the over consumption of porn.
"You may want to avoid serial killers, just in general..." Thanks for the advice Dr G!
"I like this product. Does it come with strangulation?" HAHA. Love the illustrations created to prove points in your videos. I always look forward to them but this one was special! You're the best Dr. Grande!
Really interesting and thought provoking as usual Doc xx
New glasses are very nice.
Great analysis Dr
*universally destructive 🤣😂
When I had a city centre apartment in the early 90s; bodies were always being found in the canal. This was linked to gay men seeking strangers for dangerous (violent) sex. It was really niche and shocking then - pre internet. One of my friends; Dean; was beaten to death doing this. I can't believe a nice pretty young girl is now doing the same thing. What the hell is happening to us? This is dangerous and long been known to be so for men; let alone young women.
I wonder if there was even a strong attempt to catch the murderers of the gay men back then.
Could you give your analysis and opinion on the Steven Stayner abduction? I'm really interested in his problems adjusting. It's heartbreaking.
Can you analyze the life of Vincent Van Gogh, and the movies “Bug” with Ashley Judd and “Jacobs Ladder” with Tim Robbins. I love your channel ! Thanks for all the hard work and research!
😂😂😂 damn bruh....that's a whole lot of wishes. Van Gogh is a great one though. Love Jacob's Ladder (find a breakdown of it)
Came to hear a true crime case analysis, stayed for Dr. Grande giving me BDSM tips. 👌👌👌
Reminds me of the 'Robert Chambers defense'. He might have been the first one to use the 'rough sex' argument in court after he murdered Jennifer Levin. He pled guilty to manslaughter and only got 15 years. That would be an interesting one to cover. After he got out there was a video with him choking barbie dolls, joking and laughing.
Hi Dr Grande, how about an analysis of Boris Johnson? :)
He's definitely an odd character.🙂
Yaaas
Such a great analysis with an ending joke 🤣🤣
It is not a joke and sometimes a accident can happen. His actions where not consistent with accident
Hope I’m becoming a familiar face in your comments doc 😊 content is amazing. About to sign up for the Patreon.
wow it's been a minute, since i watched your videos.
The NZ Police did a splendid job with this case, they had spectacular CCTV footage basically mapping out his movements - even to the point of him buying boxes and bags in which he disposed of the body.
What are you going to do for 700K subscribers Dr. G? You’ve done favorite movies, favorite TV shows, favorite bands - how about favorite books?
Lol! I can't remember the last time I read a book!😁
@@monacoofthebluepacific2571 that’s a bit sad 😂
@@mistym0rning True that!
Thankyou for today's video Dr. Grande.
Reinforces to me, why Australians , don't particularly like kiwis, Dr. Grande .
It's the : "Once We're Warriors" thing that they have going on culturally.
The whole "trend" of perceiving sex as violent being, defended, or a preference criteria , or desired ; wanting to be "slammed" etc, isn't,
worth me perplexing my own faculties on trying to, think about or comment on Dr. Grande,
as, I don't know how to verbalise or even want to think about , other than, already knowing ,
I don't understand these things, nor identify with it. My mind doesn't register it.
And doesn't want to go there.
Won't go there.
Because I don't understand it, and there's no point me trying to .
Sex with a stranger is bad enough but to engage in dangerous sex practices is just beyond reckless.
I agree. Some people don't value their life. I was also annoyed at all the tearful vigils, etc, here in NZ. They do this for tourists that die, but not local women!
thanks for all your fine work. could you do a video on Dr. abraham low, m. d. a psychiatrist from chicago who started recovery, international, a self help organization. he was a pioneer in
cognitive beheavior therapy but is not well known.
I think you would enjoy researching his life and work.
It is good to give time and attention to people who have contributed to society instead of those who are criminals and other low lifes.