im autistic, and i was rlly awkward/nerdy as a preeteen/kid! when i was awkward i made friends easily, but when i got pretty in high school things have become sm harder. there have been many occasions where i've had an emotionally charged conversations with ppl, and i didn't realize they were triggered by me, trying to tear me down, romantically interested in me all for literally existing until later. it hurts bc u think people are your friend, and then you realize they only want to be with you for their own egos. when ur autistic and attractive, ur given sm less grace for struggling with understanding social interactions.
thanks for sharing your story, Im sorry to hear that! I understand the difficulty that comes with accepting that sometimes you think people are being genuine and they're not, especially when they have hidden motives. But from personal experiences, with understanding, building your discernment over time, situations become easier to maneuver. Whatever you do, just try not to internalize people's projections! Even if they bother you, acknowledge the feeling but let it bounce right off of you! & just take your time when engaging with people until you are sure it's a safe space for you.
As someone who works as a waitress, usually when we are kinda blunt with someone and seem like in a bad mood it's because the customer before you was downright rude and agressive/pushy towards us and we are still just processing that interaction so find it hard to "stay happy" in a sense for the next person and sometimes it's so bad we are just in shock. It isn't always personal :) For sure as an attractive person in my job I get rude customers (usually females but sometimes males too) that give me a dirty looks and are short and funny with me. I just speak to them the way I speak to everyone and do my job the best I can. People for sure make the judgment that you have it easy in life when it's not the case at all! So many people treat you like dirt and use you. I went through a lot of it as a teen but as an adult I've learned all the signs. One time I had a co-worker try and sabotage me anyway she could because she was so insecure she took it all out on me. She tried to make me lose my job, but she ended up leaving herself thank goodness. She always made comments on what I was wearing or what I looked like.
I feel very validated. It's also something we aren't allowed to talk about. How you look and what it triggers in other people DOES AFFECT THE WAY YOU ARE TREATED!
im autistic, and i was rlly awkward/nerdy as a preeteen/kid! when i was awkward i made friends easily, but when i got pretty in high school things have become sm harder. there have been many occasions where i've had an emotionally charged conversations with ppl, and i didn't realize they were triggered by me, trying to tear me down, romantically interested in me all for literally existing until later. it hurts bc u think people are your friend, and then you realize they only want to be with you for their own egos. when ur autistic and attractive, ur given sm less grace for struggling with understanding social interactions.
thanks for sharing your story, Im sorry to hear that! I understand the difficulty that comes with accepting that sometimes you think people are being genuine and they're not, especially when they have hidden motives. But from personal experiences, with understanding, building your discernment over time, situations become easier to maneuver.
Whatever you do, just try not to internalize people's projections! Even if they bother you, acknowledge the feeling but let it bounce right off of you! & just take your time when engaging with people until you are sure it's a safe space for you.
As someone who works as a waitress, usually when we are kinda blunt with someone and seem like in a bad mood it's because the customer before you was downright rude and agressive/pushy towards us and we are still just processing that interaction so find it hard to "stay happy" in a sense for the next person and sometimes it's so bad we are just in shock. It isn't always personal :)
For sure as an attractive person in my job I get rude customers (usually females but sometimes males too) that give me a dirty looks and are short and funny with me. I just speak to them the way I speak to everyone and do my job the best I can. People for sure make the judgment that you have it easy in life when it's not the case at all! So many people treat you like dirt and use you. I went through a lot of it as a teen but as an adult I've learned all the signs.
One time I had a co-worker try and sabotage me anyway she could because she was so insecure she took it all out on me. She tried to make me lose my job, but she ended up leaving herself thank goodness. She always made comments on what I was wearing or what I looked like.
I feel very validated. It's also something we aren't allowed to talk about. How you look and what it triggers in other people DOES AFFECT THE WAY YOU ARE TREATED!
thank you!
of course!!
Lmao, please dont tell me you're talking about yourself 😂😂
It's always the accounts with no picture hating 🥱
@almasarai4768 I'm ugly as fcuk. But I'm not delulu.
You, CLEARLY are, 🤣🤣