Video idea: I am testifying as a witness for a restraining order hearing. I was wishing for some sample questions so I could practice answering yes/no without explanation and some sample narrative questions that I could practice answering briefly. I am the only witness who has come forward in this complaint so there is a large burden on me to not make an error.
Hello, I had a question. The petitioner filed a dvro and put specific things on the description of abuse so I prepared a defense for those however in the acc hearing they used very little of what was said and now my defense was weakened astronomically. They didn't provide evidence on the new allegations either btw
Im in a tro thats gitting trial that has absolutely no physical implications. Her argument is that she "feels" that I was dangerous and that I contacted her workplace , in which I have my phone records and none of them show me calling her workplace so besides my phone record copies that I need to bring should I even be worried?
This is such a great question. I made you a video on it: ua-cam.com/users/shortsGNFtJZKejAQ?feature=share (The video is based on CA law; hopefully that applies to you.) Be careful not to underestimate your opponent and not to assume that the law/legal system is fair or intuitive. (Like, the coercive control is a bit… vague, to say the least.)
What do you do when the judge doesn't follow the law? My brother's bond was revoked for calling her but he didn't call her. They have no evidence and we have proof he couldn't haven't called her. The judge didn't care so what can I do now?
Hi again… I go to court on Monday to fight an order of protection that my son has issued. Can you briefly tell me how the hearing will go? Who speaks first? Since I asked for the hearing to dismiss, do I get to talk first? And there was basically one incident… And my son hasn’t spoken to me for three years, so there’s been no harassment as such and I haven’t called or texted him in three years so I don’t know how the judge can not dismiss it…. Thank you
Hi, especially if you are in California, go here and take the free first class: DEFEATtheDVRO. (The free class is the first video of the course, not a separate sales pitch. It goes over what the judge is looking for and the general process.) It will tell you way more than I can on a UA-cam comment and will at least orient you a bit on what to expect on Monday. The judge has a lot of discretion overall and usually will just have each side explain their side of the story and show and evidence (usually very briefly and no more than 30 minutes total for the entire hearing). It is more like Judge Judy than anything you'd see in the Practice or Law and Order. The petitioner generally speaks first. I'm not sure how the motion to dismiss is calendared, but possibly the judge will want to hear that first to hear why it should be dismissed. The judge might also just want to hear all of it at the same time, depending on the reasons for the motion to dismiss and if they overlap with the allegations in the DVRO. Remember my previous comment about the judge imagining their treatment of their own children, etc. Most of my videos on DVROs are geared towards ex-romantic partners. You can usually be a little harsher in how you speak to the judge about the situation when it's an ex-romantic partner vs. your child.
Also watch this to learn about objections. It summarizes them briefly and is not in the free class video. (Sorry, it's TikTok; I don't think I posted this on UA-cam. You should be able to view it in your browser without downloading TikTok if you don't have it): www.tiktok.com/t/ZP81Gn7cw/ Just be gentle with the objections if you use them, and if the judge seems annoyed or keeps overruling them, then stop. And keep in mind that this is just a very short summary of them with little explanation. Best of luck with your hearing!
@@veronicatbartonesq Thank you sooo much for your time and effort. I guess I won't offer to not see or contact him again....I just though he may want to hear it, especially if I tell him why....That having it on my record would be detrimental to my career. Thank you...I'll let you know.
Well, had my hearing....judge let the plaintiff go first even though it was me who was contesting the Protective order. I objected to more than half of the exhibits he wanted to submit....she told him some of those had no bearing on the issue, and even when they didn't, she still said the court would keep them....even though she would not consider them in her decision. He was getting flustered for sure....your advice on how to conduct myself, how to object, what to say was really VALUABLE!! Alas, even with NO history at all of harassment or contact, the fact that I stayed at my sons door and rang the bell for 5 minutes, the fact that I admitted hearing him say,"go away," the judge said THAT was an act of domestic violence." Even though he lied several time about me "yelling and screaming," I ultimately "lost." Should I appeal??? Thank you again for you helpful advice.
Is your case in California? Was there a court reporter present? Did the judge say why that was an act of domestic violence (it disturbed his peace, etc.)?
In my case the petitioner is submitting into evidence screenshots of writings with time and dates. BUT anyone can manipulate the times and dates. Also the writings do not include where they came from nothing with my name, face, cell or email. So I wish to deny authenticating the Exhibits based on lack of foundation. Correct?
One day, I picked up my daughter, and she had a bad busted lip after not getting a clear answer on how it happened. I called child services to take a closer look on what happened , the next day after they went to my ex wife's house to do a fell fare check, the ex wife filed a RO on me it's been 3 months 3 court days all 3 times have been moved because they have not been able to service me I haven't been able to see my daughter or talk to her what can I do ?
Video idea: I am testifying as a witness for a restraining order hearing. I was wishing for some sample questions so I could practice answering yes/no without explanation and some sample narrative questions that I could practice answering briefly. I am the only witness who has come forward in this complaint so there is a large burden on me to not make an error.
Thank you so much. You help me win my case ❤
I been going through a lot right now thank you
Awesome intro! 😇 Thx for sharing ur secrets Veronica 🫶🏼
Thank you, Angel!
Can you show us one your binders as an example please@@veronicatbartonesq
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
❤very informational
Do u have any videos of info on what to do after the hearing has happen
Hello, I had a question. The petitioner filed a dvro and put specific things on the description of abuse so I prepared a defense for those however in the acc hearing they used very little of what was said and now my defense was weakened astronomically. They didn't provide evidence on the new allegations either btw
Can someone file a retraining order for an incident that happened over a year ago?
Im in a tro thats gitting trial that has absolutely no physical implications. Her argument is that she "feels" that I was dangerous and that I contacted her workplace , in which I have my phone records and none of them show me calling her workplace so besides my phone record copies that I need to bring should I even be worried?
This is such a great question. I made you a video on it:
ua-cam.com/users/shortsGNFtJZKejAQ?feature=share (The video is based on CA law; hopefully that applies to you.)
Be careful not to underestimate your opponent and not to assume that the law/legal system is fair or intuitive. (Like, the coercive control is a bit… vague, to say the least.)
What do you do when the judge doesn't follow the law? My brother's bond was revoked for calling her but he didn't call her. They have no evidence and we have proof he couldn't haven't called her. The judge didn't care so what can I do now?
Do The questions allowed to ask the petitioner do they have to be about the incidents listed only?
Is breaching the curtilage one time during exclusive possession of the marital home during divorce proceedings worthy of a restraining order?
How about he/she calls you and says they're not going to press charges but they are gonna tell the judge what happened in her words
Hi again… I go to court on Monday to fight an order of protection that my son has issued. Can you briefly tell me how the hearing will go? Who speaks first? Since I asked for the hearing to dismiss, do I get to talk first? And there was basically one incident… And my son hasn’t spoken to me for three years, so there’s been no harassment as such and I haven’t called or texted him in three years so I don’t know how the judge can not dismiss it…. Thank you
Hi, especially if you are in California, go here and take the free first class: DEFEATtheDVRO. (The free class is the first video of the course, not a separate sales pitch. It goes over what the judge is looking for and the general process.) It will tell you way more than I can on a UA-cam comment and will at least orient you a bit on what to expect on Monday.
The judge has a lot of discretion overall and usually will just have each side explain their side of the story and show and evidence (usually very briefly and no more than 30 minutes total for the entire hearing). It is more like Judge Judy than anything you'd see in the Practice or Law and Order.
The petitioner generally speaks first. I'm not sure how the motion to dismiss is calendared, but possibly the judge will want to hear that first to hear why it should be dismissed. The judge might also just want to hear all of it at the same time, depending on the reasons for the motion to dismiss and if they overlap with the allegations in the DVRO.
Remember my previous comment about the judge imagining their treatment of their own children, etc. Most of my videos on DVROs are geared towards ex-romantic partners. You can usually be a little harsher in how you speak to the judge about the situation when it's an ex-romantic partner vs. your child.
Also watch this to learn about objections. It summarizes them briefly and is not in the free class video. (Sorry, it's TikTok; I don't think I posted this on UA-cam. You should be able to view it in your browser without downloading TikTok if you don't have it): www.tiktok.com/t/ZP81Gn7cw/
Just be gentle with the objections if you use them, and if the judge seems annoyed or keeps overruling them, then stop. And keep in mind that this is just a very short summary of them with little explanation. Best of luck with your hearing!
@@veronicatbartonesq Thank you sooo much for your time and effort. I guess I won't offer to not see or contact him again....I just though he may want to hear it, especially if I tell him why....That having it on my record would be detrimental to my career. Thank you...I'll let you know.
Well, had my hearing....judge let the plaintiff go first even though it was me who was contesting the Protective order. I objected to more than half of the exhibits he wanted to submit....she told him some of those had no bearing on the issue, and even when they didn't, she still said the court would keep them....even though she would not consider them in her decision. He was getting flustered for sure....your advice on how to conduct myself, how to object, what to say was really VALUABLE!! Alas, even with NO history at all of harassment or contact, the fact that I stayed at my sons door and rang the bell for 5 minutes, the fact that I admitted hearing him say,"go away," the judge said THAT was an act of domestic violence." Even though he lied several time about me "yelling and screaming," I ultimately "lost." Should I appeal??? Thank you again for you helpful advice.
Is your case in California? Was there a court reporter present? Did the judge say why that was an act of domestic violence (it disturbed his peace, etc.)?
In my case the petitioner is submitting into evidence screenshots of writings with time and dates. BUT anyone can manipulate the times and dates. Also the writings do not include where they came from nothing with my name, face, cell or email. So I wish to deny authenticating the Exhibits based on lack of foundation. Correct?
Those can be verified...but if they really came from u and it's on their phone or etc ur goose could be cooked.
One day, I picked up my daughter, and she had a bad busted lip after not getting a clear answer on how it happened. I called child services to take a closer look on what happened , the next day after they went to my ex wife's house to do a fell fare check, the ex wife filed a RO on me it's been 3 months 3 court days all 3 times have been moved because they have not been able to service me I haven't been able to see my daughter or talk to her what can I do ?
What about VERBAL abuse? How do I get a RO against VERBAL abuse?
Who is going to certify or authenticate audio transcript?
What if they fake you agreeing to video or voice record you. 14:41
Can you change your abuse order to a harassment order?
Good morning, Tomorrow,I have to go to court. I was arrested for domestic violence. What should I do?
Hello how did it go . My cousin is going trough the same thing
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"the other parties abuse of you is not relevant" that's the biggest load of horse manure of a rule of if I've ever heard of one.
That’s the law for you. It isn’t intuitive. File a counter DVRO if you were abused; then their abuse of you will become relevant.
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