Just remember to adjust this to different countries, black in my country is definently not a good choice...A normal party and funerals, no weddings if possible..
I feel like it’s the case in most countries, under every single one of these videos I see people of various countries comment this (I have as well) The s in us is for strange sometimes
Just like in my country where in some weddings, the bride will not be wearing white so it's an okay colour to wear, but then there's this other wedding from a certain culture where red is the bride and groom's colour so no one else should be wearing it. So, yeah, definitely adjust to the type of wedding and where you live.
Step 4 pay attention to the wedding you were going to and dress accordingly... I helped a bride plan a white party for her wedding, she wore a beautiful dusty rose wedding dress. No one was allowed to wear pink.
@@ladyinsomnia7951 The color white symbolizes new life and beginning (unstained by life events), where black is the color of death and mourning. Wearing black to a wedding can mean you believe the couples relationship is dying - or that it is something for the families to grieve instead of celebrating (the whole point to the wedding!) Disclaimer this is just what it means in my area and culture. Different for everyone!
@build a b*tch yeah i agree people don't wear their wedding dresses to other people's wedding.. But i think what she is trying to say is that.. They can.. It's not a big issue.. Another thing is.. the weddings have many functions.. maybe people won't wear their exact wedding day dress but i see people their engagement dresses or haldi dresses or Sangeet dresses to other functions all the time
I agree in India people wear colorful wedding dresses, they are shiny and jewelry is also very important plus a bride wears different make up like bindi on forehead and mehndi and different jewelry, that is how a bride stands out than rest of the guests. I know many women who wore their wedding saree in some else's wedding just not with that much makeup or jewelry.
In my culture, wearing black clothes in the wedding is not appropriate (unless it's the theme) most weddings I've been to either have themes or i'd just ended up wearing what I think is appropriate for a wedding. And ofc my mom also told me to never wear white dresses at any wedding.
I LOVE Indian weddings. I want something similar but not the exact thing because I am not Indian. Everyone dressed so nice and happy. I think THAT'S how a wedding should be. Not focusing on having all the attention to yourself but rather being happy and having fun.
I was taught not to wear black to a wedding, it's old fashioned but some might definitely be offended so better to avoid it unless the bride specifically says it's alright!
@@violetkalico It's not about being a death omen, it's just considered rude in many cultures, including traditional American culture. Do with the facts what you will. 🤷🏻♀️
Seasonally appropriate means the colours that are common in nature at the time of the wedding. Think of flowers, foliage, etc. In spring time you can wear any pastel. In summer opt for bright colors. In autumn jewel tones are great. Winter is the least colourful season, which means you can wear any colour you want. But wear whatever you want, just avoid white and you will be fine :)
For Spring and Summer you will usually find dresses in lighter and brighter colors: pastels, bright orange, yellow, lime... Lighter and flowier textiles too. For Autumn and Winter you will tipically find darker and richer colors. More structured dresses, heavier cloth... Of course these are general (and in my opinion, good) advice and you can do whatever you want or whatever the bride/groom asked in the invitation hehe. But if you are ever unsure about what to wear to a wedding, this is a good start :) Also, midi length is the safest option. Only wear long (long as in covering your feet) gowns if the wedding is at night. Short, knee length and midi are okay for day and afternoon.
Don't dress too much like you're going out or to a club. I've seen a lot of blues, greens and purples at weddings. I'd tend to avoid white, black, red and pink and anything flashy or layered.
I specifically requested that everyone wear shades of black, white, and gray to our wedding. (It was a courthouse elopement with just our parents and kids in attendance so it's not like I was making a ridiculous bridezilla request lol) My mom and MIL both wore white/ivory and they looked BEAUTIFUL! It's not for everyone, but if you're planning a wedding, consider allowing white! The pictures with all the white look absolutely dreamy.
i am from India. Well India is known for its diverse culture. The bride usually wears bright red bridal lehenga and we also wear vibrant colours it can be a long one piece or a lehenga with good amount of make up and heavy jewellery and high heels. Even after getting this much ready the bride stands out with most beautiful and heavy lehanga,jewellery,make up and makeup. India is also known for its diverse food so after the wedding ceremony we also have a grand feast...........Anyway indian weddings are almost so fun
Lower Franconian German here! **traditional** Wedding dresses here are incredibly colourful and sparkly with tones of ornamentation, wear whatever you want you can’t outshine the bride 😂
I wouldn't wear a black dress to a wedding. Maybe a skirt. I wouldn't wear super bright colors either. It might be different depending on the family though.
Omg I can't wait to get married and have a wedding with no dumb rules 💞 my wedding dress probably won't be white so anyone can wear whatever color they want, even if it's a brighter and prettier version of the color of my dress. You have a specific style you're afraid might not be allowed at my wedding ? Well, that's silly ! I invited you knowing how you dress so why would I expect you to dull your shine for my wedding ?? Of course I want it to be my perfect day but it should be fun for everyone...
Yeah same, I like to think of a wedding as a big fancy party with all the people I love. Even if someone "stole" my spotlight, I wouldnt care, I dont like it anyways lol
To each their own I suppose. As a bride, I couldn't give a shit what anyone wears. I genuinely won't notice because I'll be staring at my husband 😍😍😍 and my own dress. Good luck taking my spotlight when the only eyes I care about are my husbands. I'm not even being facetious, I just want everyone to be happy and comfortable without rules.. because I won't notice their clothes anyway 😂.
I love that I found your comment. I hope my cousin feels this way too because the only flattering dress I could find was a black dress. It doesn’t look like a I’m going to a funeral dress… and of course I meant to disrespect. Im exited to attend her wedding.
Good tips! Only one I disagree with is the shoes. that’s the perfect time to wear uncomfortable shoes, cause I’ll look dope for pics, but I’ll take ‘em off after for the dance floor
Every culture is different though. Where I'm from we can wear white cause the bride doesn't feel threatened or insecure. In fact, the bride might even get angry if you look basic.
I’d say it just depends on the wedding. If I ever get married i’m gonna be wearing dark purple because i’ve sworn to myself for all important events in my life i’m gonna wear purple. The reason is because it’s the colour of my dress that i wore to my parents wedding and it’s really important to me. If i get married no one’s allowed to wear purple because it’s my colour kinda thing, like the white dress stuff but with purple.
Honestly, I don't think most weddings are this strict. And in the end, it depends on the wedding. I wore a long black dress (with little flowers tho) and monster heels to a friends wedding. Did anyone care? Absolutely not. Her sister wore a black, revealing dress. Did anyone care? No. All eyes were on her, because that's how weddings usually work. Or maybe the US handles weddings way more serious than my culture
@@Moonlight_Shad0w I have to assume it's a bigger deal here in America. Obviously most people are pretty chill, but way too many people turn into selfish monsters. It's crazy!
Sorry to say but your choices are what make weddings look cheap or disjointed. Black is not a good choice unless is the theme as many here say and in my Mexican culture long dresses is what’s appropriate. A wedding is one of the most important milestone in a person’s life, it’s a special day so guest need to wear a special attaire
I'm having a vampire royalty themed goth wedding because me and my partner are both goth. The colors for our wedding we've already decided we'll be red, black, and gold. I'm just decided to tell everybody to wear something formal so they all look nice, and just wear black. They can wear dark makeup or natural makeup if they want to, they can wear jewelry, and as long as they're wearing something formal and not like a ripped up t-shirt and muddy jeans or boots, then it's fine. Besides, black is a flattering color no matter what kind of style you wear. Whether it's goth, any type of suit or dress or jumpsuit, just black is so flattering and it goes with everything. And they compare it with any color they want if they want to. If they want to wear just pure black and natural makeup and go for a clean girl look, I said go for it. They want to get gossed up in a different style, let them. As long as they're wearing something formal and black. As long as they're wearing something nice and flattering, and it's black, I don't care about the rest. As far as I'm concerned, as long as it's appropriate and black, I don't care if the men come and kills, or the women come and jumpsuits or pantsuits. I don't care who's wearing a dress and heels, I don't care who's winning the suit, they can do what they please.
@@violetkalico me and my partner are not engaged, but this was basically one of our agreements. Like we had a few agreements about only a few rules like no kids and no alcohol because my family gets rowdy when they're drunk and his brother is a recovering alcoholic. Also, no kids because kids make messes and our families are kind of dramatic enough that we don't need kids adding on to the stress. And basically everybody just wear black but wear something you would wear to a formal event like something nice. As long as no one shows up in muddy boots or ripped jeans or old NASCAR T-shirts from 1979, then we're fine with it. Fortunately, I have someone who is a very chill person.
More people need to see this…some people will actually “try” to compete with bride. Tip-if you feel you have to compete with the bride, then don’t go to the wedding…remember karma.
@@Moonlight_Shad0w by embarrassing themselves and wearing too tight clothes, a super cleveage... You know... It does happen from time to time but the only result is being discretely disapproved by the rest of the guests
Don't wear red because in some places that means you slept with the groom. Black is sort of a funeral color so maybe not. Anything too flashy may distract from the bride. Basically dress like you are going to church or Sunday brunch. And, this is the most important part, ALWAYS follow the dress code that the bride(s) and/or groom(s) have laid out for the guests. If their dress code contradicts the first few rules, then respectfully do what they say. This is their day and you should do your part to make it as magical as possible and keep all the attention on the couple.
The wearing red thing is just an internet rumor and frankly if anyone did actually believe that, i would judge them for it not the person who wears red. To be fair, i do think red is a little too flashy for a wedding
So what I am getting is not to go to a ridiculous wedding like this? Y'all just follow these traditions just to follow a tradition. And they suck. Seriously? Red for sleeping with the groom? SERIOUSLY?!
I went to a wedding where it was the complete opposite, the bride wore an all black dress, so no one was allowed to wear black, so instead, she had all the guests wear white, it was really cool. It usually depends on what the bride wants, yes, white is normally what brides would go with, but it’s usually best to check with the bride.
Just remember this is only for specific weddings, for example in my culture the bride doesn't wear white 99% of the time because it's seen as "plain" here, they wear colourful dresses with different patterns so anything that is not too explicit is ok...and black is NEVER worn on any "good" or "special" days cause it is a "bad" colour or luck
In Germany, red is also not the best choice if it's a traditional wedding / people with traditional believes are invited. There's this saying that if a lady wears red to a wedding, she had an affair with the groom.
Talk to the bride or her friends ahead of time to get a sense of what to wear (or not to). I once wore a floral tea-length dress to an afternoon garden party wedding in spring and was quite surprised to find everyone else wearing black. 🤷 I thought it was awfully formal for afternoon and somber for a wedding, but apparently that was what I should have gone with.
My aunt did at my uncle's wedding (when I say aunt I mean my uncles sister, not the woman he was marrying). Unless wearing black at a wedding is a fashion faux pas in your country like some people are saying in the comments, you should be able to wear what you want at a wedding as long as it's within the realm of reason and you're not taking attention away from the bride a groom cause its meant to be their day. That's just my opinion though.
Fun story: My mom and I had gone dress shopping and I had gotten this really nice lilac colored dress. Well, turns out that that was the color of the bridesmaids dresses. My cousins were all like “Hey, were matching!!”
Actually wearing black to a wedding is also inappropriate, because it is the colour of grief. In our country red shouldn't be worn either because it is the colour that the bride changes into for the dance around midnight where they "sell" the bride for a couple of dances to the guests who can give money to the couple in exchange. ( I live in Hungary it is a tradition here. Weddings turn into a huge party after the ceremony and the dinner, that lasts till the morning :D )
Wearing black to a wedding is inappropriate in my opinion, I know others might disagree but personally I think when in doubt you should check because I've met just as many people who think it's inappropriate as people who think it is appropriate to wear to weddings.
At my partner and I‘s wedding, we’ve specifically said we don’t give a fuck. Just show up well groomed, in nicer clothes than normal (that are a little less revealing than a classic frat party outfit), ready to celebrate. I promise that absolutely none of our guests will forget who’s getting married. And since we don’t play those weird ass “which color jelly-bracelet means you’re horny and which one means you’re crushing on someone”, luckily we won’t be assessing our loved ones for ulterior motives. So there’s very little riding on the colors our loved ones wear since thankfully, our relationship is stronger than a cousin in a cream top.
Lol in my country the bride's sisters and the groom's sisters all wear their own wedding dresses also there's no restricted colour and everyone dresses up like there's no tomorrow
An alternative to the little black dress is a navy dress. I just got a midi length 3/4 sleeve lace navy dress for a wedding my husband and I will be attending next week.
I grew up in California and the only rule I was taught was don’t wear white. Of course I usually went with floral prints but have never been to a really fancy wedding.
These are good tips if you are doubtful. I would add that a navy blue midi dress is probably something you can never go wrong irrespective of the season of time of the wedding.
Just to be safe don't wear white, black, or red to the wedding. Those are reserved for funerals or the bride depending on culture. That leaves plenty of other colors!
This is good base line. Also I think if the bridal / groom's party care that much they should put that on the invitation. I'm gonna do that if I get maried.
So i got married 1976 & my husbands-brothers-wife wore a solid white jumpsuit(pant). It had lining but it got warm at reception so she took liner off. So now shes a shapely blonde wearing a see-through white outfit. Seriously
I also learned not to wear vibrant red or pink because were I'm from that's either for the bride to wear or would take focus from the bride. Also, it helps to call the couple holding the wedding and ask about possible dress codes if it's not included in the invitation. My eldest sister actually made someone leave because they came in a red dress when it was said not to. It's their special day and you should always remember that.
My wedding dress is gonna be black so wear black if you want. Wear white. Go off. I don’t care as long as you’re dressed for the occasion. Edit: the amount of people who were offended (Americans) when people wore black to their wedding is amazing lol. I’m sure your day couldn’t have been that ruined.
Also try to find out what color/style the bridesmaids are wearing... i'm scarred for life because I looked exactly like the bridesmaids. Biggest freak accident of my life lol.
I'm goth and even I know to not wear black to a wedding unless I was specifically allowed to xD My brother for example didnt care so I could wear black but my ex boyfriends stepmother asked me to not wear black, which is fine, I get that people dont necessarily want someone wearing black at their wedding.
I went to my cousin’s wedding and was her flower girl and just so happened to pick out a dress that was the same colour as the bridesmaids dresses without knowing what colour their dresses were going to be. It was perfect and my cousin loved it since I fitted in perfectly with her bridesmaids.
I was always told to never wear black to a wedding. I'm goth so I pretty much only have black dresses. When I tell you I was freaking tf out about what to wear for my brother's wedding bc I didn't want to bring bad luck to them by wearing a bla k dress
Reading comments, I had forgotten about a few things to not wear as a guest…very helpful as I will be attending one in a month 😯 wow that time is gonna fly
Lol I'm probably gonna wear a light blue or light pink wedding dress, because in my opinion, white looks bad on me, but any shade of blue and pink look just fine.
Hi, I’m genderfluid and generally present more masc, and my cousin is getting married this fall. The dress code in jeans, but I have no idea what to wear. My daily outfit is usually cargo pants and neutral graphic t-shirt with a hoodie. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas?
Is the don't wear white thing only for if the wedding party is wearing white or is it for every color. I would want to wear a black wedding dress because goth so would everyone else not get to wear black but they could wear white? Because that seems a little depressing.
I went to a wedding where the grooms sister wore a full Gucci track suit (i think but it was a two piece), a gucci bag, black hat and black tennis shoes, the most odd dressed person there and it wasn't super formal looking
try to have a color palette for at least the family members. photos will be STUNNING!!! we all wore navy, violet or a deep blush color and the colors complimented each other sooooo well!!! my mom had an orange flower arrangement that was the perfect pop of color. the pictures are just amazing. if you are just a friend it might not be necessary, but if you guys can and care about the pictures, try to implement a color palette 😊 and black is a no no in my country.
When it doubt, just ask the bride or someone else in the wedding (like a bridesmaid) if the color you’re planning is okay! More often than not they’ll appreciate that you care about making their day go smoothly and you’ll avoid any bad confrontations if you pick the wrong thing
Someone wore a short romper to my formal wedding and ruined the group reception photo by standing next to us posing with her guy with her leg in the air …Now I’m happily divorced and she’s now married to that groomsmen …so who cares but still, tactless lol
Guys, wearing a black dress to a wedding is also pretty rude. When everyone does this it looks like a funeral. Just because it's the easiest thing to do for you doesn't make it an appropriate choice! 🙈
I think it’s so beautiful to have a black and white wedding where guests wear white (it’s a personal opinion), I’m always confused with these videos because people usually requests/suggest what guests wear and if people get confused you can ask, it isn’t a crime to not know what’s appropriate as everyone has different tastes. Saying “hey, is this appropriate for your wedding?” seems way more logical then just guessing and going of a random persons idea, especially if it’s a wedding from a culture you’re not familiar with.
Also, I’ve seen loads of wedding photos of men wearing very similar suits to the groom and no-one bats an eye but if a single woman wears white it’s deemed disrespectful (I can see why, don’t misunderstand me) just always been a bit odd in my mind
Myself and my partner went to his ex wife's wedding and her husband's daughter wore a skin tight catsuit and had hair extensions fitted. The wedding was very memorable 😂
Also make sure what colors you should actually wear! sometimes you can wear white or cream colors if the bride is going to be wearing a wedding dress that's a different color! like some brides want black dresses, some want purple, etc...! you don't want to go in black if that's what the bride will be wearing!
Off topic but when I planned my graduation party I chose a Star Wars theme. I put on my invites “ Sunday best or Star Wars costumes. “ so many people showed up to my party in costume.
This all depends on the country. In my country everyone is supposed to wear white as the theme but you don't have to if you don't want to. It's basically open ended bit better if you all wear light or monocromatic colors
Man, when I was growing up and even at my wedding... floor length maxi dresses and skirts were everywhere. And they definitely didn't overshadow anything, because they are that classic casual look. Just maybe not the iconic black and white chevron haha. But the straight skirt (NOT the tight) with knit fabric in no one way screams "Look at me!"
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Just remember to adjust this to different countries, black in my country is definently not a good choice...A normal party and funerals, no weddings if possible..
I feel like it’s the case in most countries, under every single one of these videos I see people of various countries comment this (I have as well)
The s in us is for strange sometimes
Just like in my country where in some weddings, the bride will not be wearing white so it's an okay colour to wear, but then there's this other wedding from a certain culture where red is the bride and groom's colour so no one else should be wearing it. So, yeah, definitely adjust to the type of wedding and where you live.
In my country black is a no-no, if a woman dresses in black for a wedding people say she was in love with the groom
plain black or white are definitely not something you should wear to an indian wedding...just don't
In my country we wear white in funerals and Red/bright Gowns in weddings..
Step 4 pay attention to the wedding you were going to and dress accordingly... I helped a bride plan a white party for her wedding, she wore a beautiful dusty rose wedding dress. No one was allowed to wear pink.
Video's like these are so like 1 sided
There are the things you say
There are things people say : in my country no black on weddings
Etc...
@@carmengrauwels hi where is your country why no black dress at weddings?
@@ladyinsomnia7951 The color white symbolizes new life and beginning (unstained by life events), where black is the color of death and mourning.
Wearing black to a wedding can mean you believe the couples relationship is dying - or that it is something for the families to grieve instead of celebrating (the whole point to the wedding!)
Disclaimer this is just what it means in my area and culture. Different for everyone!
@@rosalien6942 sometimes that’s what is available at the last minute that is a outfit that fits me.
That wedding sounds gorgeous
Just remember that if you’re in South Asia you can literally wear your own wedding dress to someone else’s wedding and you won’t be the only one
I wish this was a thing in the west lol. Wedding dresses are so pretty
@build a b*tch you can see the saree Alia wore on her wedding day.
She can easily wear it to another wedding?
@build a b*tch yeah i agree people don't wear their wedding dresses to other people's wedding..
But i think what she is trying to say is that.. They can.. It's not a big issue..
Another thing is.. the weddings have many functions.. maybe people won't wear their exact wedding day dress but i see people their engagement dresses or haldi dresses or Sangeet dresses to other functions all the time
I agree in India people wear colorful wedding dresses, they are shiny and jewelry is also very important plus a bride wears different make up like bindi on forehead and mehndi and different jewelry, that is how a bride stands out than rest of the guests. I know many women who wore their wedding saree in some else's wedding just not with that much makeup or jewelry.
True! In Malaysia as well as some of us opt for simpler wedding dress so we can wear them anytime anywhere we want 😂
In my culture, wearing black clothes in the wedding is not appropriate (unless it's the theme) most weddings I've been to either have themes or i'd just ended up wearing what I think is appropriate for a wedding. And ofc my mom also told me to never wear white dresses at any wedding.
Damn I'm glad im Indian and I can go to a wedding in the most extra way possible if I wanted to
I LOVE Indian weddings. I want something similar but not the exact thing because I am not Indian. Everyone dressed so nice and happy. I think THAT'S how a wedding should be. Not focusing on having all the attention to yourself but rather being happy and having fun.
Same!!. A desi bride CANNOT be outdone
Couldn’t wear a mini dress though?
No matter what you wear and do, remember that the bride is the star on her wedding. 😊
sometimes the bride is ugly tho
The bride and the groom ☺☺
Indian....here......we go to wedding looking like brides. But it's like a culture. And the queen of the day will be the queen of day.
I was taught not to wear black to a wedding, it's old fashioned but some might definitely be offended so better to avoid it unless the bride specifically says it's alright!
I wore black to my friends wedding and she didn’t die so I’m assuming she’s fine.
@@violetkalico It's not about being a death omen, it's just considered rude in many cultures, including traditional American culture. Do with the facts what you will. 🤷🏻♀️
"Seasonally appropriate color!?"
I'm too autistic for these arcane social puzzles.
Summer= yellow, anything bright
Fall= brown, orange, dark
Winter= blue (I think?)
Spring= green, pink, anything bright especially with flowers
@@user-bo7ob1ek2x specifically more pastel for spring
Color’s don’t matter for the season lol
I’ll show up to a wedding in my pastel flower print dress and puffy coat in winter if I want to! 😂
Seasonally appropriate means the colours that are common in nature at the time of the wedding. Think of flowers, foliage, etc.
In spring time you can wear any pastel.
In summer opt for bright colors.
In autumn jewel tones are great.
Winter is the least colourful season, which means you can wear any colour you want.
But wear whatever you want, just avoid white and you will be fine :)
For Spring and Summer you will usually find dresses in lighter and brighter colors: pastels, bright orange, yellow, lime... Lighter and flowier textiles too.
For Autumn and Winter you will tipically find darker and richer colors. More structured dresses, heavier cloth...
Of course these are general (and in my opinion, good) advice and you can do whatever you want or whatever the bride/groom asked in the invitation hehe. But if you are ever unsure about what to wear to a wedding, this is a good start :)
Also, midi length is the safest option. Only wear long (long as in covering your feet) gowns if the wedding is at night. Short, knee length and midi are okay for day and afternoon.
Don't dress too much like you're going out or to a club.
I've seen a lot of blues, greens and purples at weddings.
I'd tend to avoid white, black, red and pink and anything flashy or layered.
I specifically requested that everyone wear shades of black, white, and gray to our wedding. (It was a courthouse elopement with just our parents and kids in attendance so it's not like I was making a ridiculous bridezilla request lol) My mom and MIL both wore white/ivory and they looked BEAUTIFUL! It's not for everyone, but if you're planning a wedding, consider allowing white! The pictures with all the white look absolutely dreamy.
If you are considering a wedding also consider not following the boring traditions just because they are traditions. They are old and outdated.
i am from India. Well India is known for its diverse culture. The bride usually wears bright red bridal lehenga and we also wear vibrant colours it can be a long one piece or a lehenga with good amount of make up and heavy jewellery and high heels. Even after getting this much ready the bride stands out with most beautiful and heavy lehanga,jewellery,make up and makeup. India is also known for its diverse food so after the wedding ceremony we also have a grand feast...........Anyway indian weddings are almost so fun
I'm American and at least in my family it's rude to wear black to a wedding too.
Yeah.
I was insulted when my all sisters wore black to my wedding.
Same in Sweden!
In italy too. Black is a no no at a wedding
@@lucindasavona2278 Well then that's your fucking fault for not giving a dress code.
@@askinredroads5132 To wear black is to wish the couple dead.
In our country we dress up really fancy like REALLY FANCY
I wish we did that in Canada and USA. But you don't want to out-dress the bride.
where are you from?
Lower Franconian German here! **traditional** Wedding dresses here are incredibly colourful and sparkly with tones of ornamentation, wear whatever you want you can’t outshine the bride 😂
I wouldn't wear a black dress to a wedding. Maybe a skirt. I wouldn't wear super bright colors either. It might be different depending on the family though.
Omg I can't wait to get married and have a wedding with no dumb rules 💞 my wedding dress probably won't be white so anyone can wear whatever color they want, even if it's a brighter and prettier version of the color of my dress. You have a specific style you're afraid might not be allowed at my wedding ? Well, that's silly ! I invited you knowing how you dress so why would I expect you to dull your shine for my wedding ?? Of course I want it to be my perfect day but it should be fun for everyone...
Yeah same, I like to think of a wedding as a big fancy party with all the people I love.
Even if someone "stole" my spotlight, I wouldnt care, I dont like it anyways lol
To each their own I suppose. As a bride, I couldn't give a shit what anyone wears. I genuinely won't notice because I'll be staring at my husband 😍😍😍 and my own dress. Good luck taking my spotlight when the only eyes I care about are my husbands. I'm not even being facetious, I just want everyone to be happy and comfortable without rules.. because I won't notice their clothes anyway 😂.
Exactly !! 💞
EXACTLY! This actually sounds like a FUN, LIVELY, AND GOOD wedding.
YES! Thank you
Love the spirit✨
I love that I found your comment. I hope my cousin feels this way too because the only flattering dress I could find was a black dress. It doesn’t look like a I’m going to a funeral dress… and of course I meant to disrespect. Im exited to attend her wedding.
Good tips! Only one I disagree with is the shoes. that’s the perfect time to wear uncomfortable shoes, cause I’ll look dope for pics, but I’ll take ‘em off after for the dance floor
Every culture is different though. Where I'm from we can wear white cause the bride doesn't feel threatened or insecure. In fact, the bride might even get angry if you look basic.
In Poland wearing black dress for wedding is HUGE no no- it means that you dont wish well to the couple. It is for funeral.
Just remember this is for a white Christian wedding. This changed for other religions and countries
I’d say it just depends on the wedding. If I ever get married i’m gonna be wearing dark purple because i’ve sworn to myself for all important events in my life i’m gonna wear purple. The reason is because it’s the colour of my dress that i wore to my parents wedding and it’s really important to me. If i get married no one’s allowed to wear purple because it’s my colour kinda thing, like the white dress stuff but with purple.
weddings are the only time I get to wear my really pretty shoes. I'm definitely gonna wear and change later on. But I'm aware of the consequences lol
Save some flats in the car! Or stuff them in your purse like the roll up ones are perfect for that
And this is why I don't go to weddings. So many stupid rules. Plus let's be honest, no one likes weddings unless it's your own.
Nobody likes weddings.
Honestly, I don't think most weddings are this strict. And in the end, it depends on the wedding. I wore a long black dress (with little flowers tho) and monster heels to a friends wedding. Did anyone care? Absolutely not. Her sister wore a black, revealing dress. Did anyone care? No. All eyes were on her, because that's how weddings usually work. Or maybe the US handles weddings way more serious than my culture
@@Moonlight_Shad0w I have to assume it's a bigger deal here in America. Obviously most people are pretty chill, but way too many people turn into selfish monsters. It's crazy!
Sorry to say but your choices are what make weddings look cheap or disjointed. Black is not a good choice unless is the theme as many here say and in my Mexican culture long dresses is what’s appropriate. A wedding is one of the most important milestone in a person’s life, it’s a special day so guest need to wear a special attaire
my biggest flex is i went to a really long wedding in 5-inch heels, and did a cartwheel, and never took them off
I'm having a vampire royalty themed goth wedding because me and my partner are both goth.
The colors for our wedding we've already decided we'll be red, black, and gold.
I'm just decided to tell everybody to wear something formal so they all look nice, and just wear black. They can wear dark makeup or natural makeup if they want to, they can wear jewelry, and as long as they're wearing something formal and not like a ripped up t-shirt and muddy jeans or boots, then it's fine.
Besides, black is a flattering color no matter what kind of style you wear. Whether it's goth, any type of suit or dress or jumpsuit, just black is so flattering and it goes with everything. And they compare it with any color they want if they want to.
If they want to wear just pure black and natural makeup and go for a clean girl look, I said go for it. They want to get gossed up in a different style, let them. As long as they're wearing something formal and black. As long as they're wearing something nice and flattering, and it's black, I don't care about the rest.
As far as I'm concerned, as long as it's appropriate and black, I don't care if the men come and kills, or the women come and jumpsuits or pantsuits. I don't care who's wearing a dress and heels, I don't care who's winning the suit, they can do what they please.
I absolutely love this. Favorite comment. This is similar to what I have in mind.
@@violetkalico me and my partner are not engaged, but this was basically one of our agreements. Like we had a few agreements about only a few rules like no kids and no alcohol because my family gets rowdy when they're drunk and his brother is a recovering alcoholic.
Also, no kids because kids make messes and our families are kind of dramatic enough that we don't need kids adding on to the stress.
And basically everybody just wear black but wear something you would wear to a formal event like something nice. As long as no one shows up in muddy boots or ripped jeans or old NASCAR T-shirts from 1979, then we're fine with it. Fortunately, I have someone who is a very chill person.
More people need to see this…some people will actually “try” to compete with bride. Tip-if you feel you have to compete with the bride, then don’t go to the wedding…remember karma.
Nobody is trying to compete with the bride. Stop acting like women are all out there to stab eachother in the back. It’s weird and just not reality
@@eeveum yeah, right? How does someone outshine the bride, when every single guest knows her and all attention will be on her...
@@Moonlight_Shad0w by embarrassing themselves and wearing too tight clothes, a super cleveage... You know... It does happen from time to time but the only result is being discretely disapproved by the rest of the guests
You can wear white if it's approved by the hosts, e.g. it might be a wedding with 2 grooms and they are fine with white dresses.
Don't wear red because in some places that means you slept with the groom. Black is sort of a funeral color so maybe not. Anything too flashy may distract from the bride. Basically dress like you are going to church or Sunday brunch. And, this is the most important part, ALWAYS follow the dress code that the bride(s) and/or groom(s) have laid out for the guests. If their dress code contradicts the first few rules, then respectfully do what they say. This is their day and you should do your part to make it as magical as possible and keep all the attention on the couple.
The wearing red thing is just an internet rumor and frankly if anyone did actually believe that, i would judge them for it not the person who wears red. To be fair, i do think red is a little too flashy for a wedding
That's silly. Red is a great colour for a wedding.
So what I am getting is not to go to a ridiculous wedding like this? Y'all just follow these traditions just to follow a tradition. And they suck. Seriously? Red for sleeping with the groom? SERIOUSLY?!
I went to a wedding where it was the complete opposite, the bride wore an all black dress, so no one was allowed to wear black, so instead, she had all the guests wear white, it was really cool. It usually depends on what the bride wants, yes, white is normally what brides would go with, but it’s usually best to check with the bride.
Just remember this is only for specific weddings, for example in my culture the bride doesn't wear white 99% of the time because it's seen as "plain" here, they wear colourful dresses with different patterns so anything that is not too explicit is ok...and black is NEVER worn on any "good" or "special" days cause it is a "bad" colour or luck
Finally!!!! Congratulations for having common sense and good taste!
In Germany, red is also not the best choice if it's a traditional wedding / people with traditional believes are invited. There's this saying that if a lady wears red to a wedding, she had an affair with the groom.
Cool maybe do a video on “appropriate” wedding attire 😊
Talk to the bride or her friends ahead of time to get a sense of what to wear (or not to). I once wore a floral tea-length dress to an afternoon garden party wedding in spring and was quite surprised to find everyone else wearing black. 🤷 I thought it was awfully formal for afternoon and somber for a wedding, but apparently that was what I should have gone with.
In my country, the wedding outfits are smth else. MAN THEY ARE MESMERISING
(Pakistan)
No one wears a little black dress to a wedding!! Ever!!!
this is like saying you're conservative without saying you're conservative
My aunt did at my uncle's wedding (when I say aunt I mean my uncles sister, not the woman he was marrying). Unless wearing black at a wedding is a fashion faux pas in your country like some people are saying in the comments, you should be able to wear what you want at a wedding as long as it's within the realm of reason and you're not taking attention away from the bride a groom cause its meant to be their day. That's just my opinion though.
Instad a beautifull navy blue with lighter blue accessoires or dark green with light green accessoires or a contrast color (Instad of black)
I wore a black knee length dress to my best friends wedding. It was a Catholic wedding too. I received permission & no one cared.
@@annaw27 You needed to ask permission? Alarm bells ringing.
Fun story: My mom and I had gone dress shopping and I had gotten this really nice lilac colored dress. Well, turns out that that was the color of the bridesmaids dresses. My cousins were all like “Hey, were matching!!”
Actually wearing black to a wedding is also inappropriate, because it is the colour of grief. In our country red shouldn't be worn either because it is the colour that the bride changes into for the dance around midnight where they "sell" the bride for a couple of dances to the guests who can give money to the couple in exchange. ( I live in Hungary it is a tradition here. Weddings turn into a huge party after the ceremony and the dinner, that lasts till the morning :D )
I always think Black is really for funerals, not weddings. Black does not celebrate the occasion properly, but you look good in everything!
Why not? Black is very classy!
@@kailee_c It is tradition. Black for funerals, but not weddings. That's just the way it is.
@@Surferess not everywhere tho! White is the color of funeral in our country
That's your opinion. I, however, would always choose black over white because it is more sober, elegant and timeless.
@@Surferess For you. In other cultures people wear white to mourn the deads, or even bright colourful clothing.
Wearing black to a wedding is inappropriate in my opinion, I know others might disagree but personally I think when in doubt you should check because I've met just as many people who think it's inappropriate as people who think it is appropriate to wear to weddings.
At my partner and I‘s wedding, we’ve specifically said we don’t give a fuck. Just show up well groomed, in nicer clothes than normal (that are a little less revealing than a classic frat party outfit), ready to celebrate. I promise that absolutely none of our guests will forget who’s getting married. And since we don’t play those weird ass “which color jelly-bracelet means you’re horny and which one means you’re crushing on someone”, luckily we won’t be assessing our loved ones for ulterior motives. So there’s very little riding on the colors our loved ones wear since thankfully, our relationship is stronger than a cousin in a cream top.
Lol in my country the bride's sisters and the groom's sisters all wear their own wedding dresses also there's no restricted colour and everyone dresses up like there's no tomorrow
That black midi dress is so nice
An alternative to the little black dress is a navy dress. I just got a midi length 3/4 sleeve lace navy dress for a wedding my husband and I will be attending next week.
I grew up in California and the only rule I was taught was don’t wear white. Of course I usually went with floral prints but have never been to a really fancy wedding.
I'd add - find out what the wedding colours are and avoid those. You don't want to look potentially like a bridesmaid when you aren't one.
Hahaha! I always want to match the wedding to not clash in pictures and to honor their color scheme. That's what I asked our guest to do too!
These are good tips if you are doubtful.
I would add that a navy blue midi dress is probably something you can never go wrong irrespective of the season of time of the wedding.
Just to be safe don't wear white, black, or red to the wedding. Those are reserved for funerals or the bride depending on culture. That leaves plenty of other colors!
Thankfully non of this applies to South Asian weddings
Red is what most brides wear wher i live
but also, if the bride is wearing a color other than white, don't wear that either.
This is good base line. Also I think if the bridal / groom's party care that much they should put that on the invitation. I'm gonna do that if I get maried.
So i got married 1976 & my husbands-brothers-wife wore a solid white jumpsuit(pant). It had lining but it got warm at reception so she took liner off. So now shes a shapely blonde wearing a see-through white outfit. Seriously
I'm probably not going to a wedding any time soon, but thanks for the tips!
I also learned not to wear vibrant red or pink because were I'm from that's either for the bride to wear or would take focus from the bride. Also, it helps to call the couple holding the wedding and ask about possible dress codes if it's not included in the invitation. My eldest sister actually made someone leave because they came in a red dress when it was said not to. It's their special day and you should always remember that.
My wedding dress is gonna be black so wear black if you want. Wear white. Go off. I don’t care as long as you’re dressed for the occasion.
Edit: the amount of people who were offended (Americans) when people wore black to their wedding is amazing lol. I’m sure your day couldn’t have been that ruined.
Also try to find out what color/style the bridesmaids are wearing... i'm scarred for life because I looked exactly like the bridesmaids. Biggest freak accident of my life lol.
I'm goth and even I know to not wear black to a wedding unless I was specifically allowed to xD My brother for example didnt care so I could wear black but my ex boyfriends stepmother asked me to not wear black, which is fine, I get that people dont necessarily want someone wearing black at their wedding.
I went to my cousin’s wedding and was her flower girl and just so happened to pick out a dress that was the same colour as the bridesmaids dresses without knowing what colour their dresses were going to be. It was perfect and my cousin loved it since I fitted in perfectly with her bridesmaids.
I was always told to never wear black to a wedding. I'm goth so I pretty much only have black dresses. When I tell you I was freaking tf out about what to wear for my brother's wedding bc I didn't want to bring bad luck to them by wearing a bla k dress
I like that more and more people are aware of the white color thing
Reading comments, I had forgotten about a few things to not wear as a guest…very helpful as I will be attending one in a month 😯 wow that time is gonna fly
While in India you can dress as heavy and extravagant as the bride and nobody would have any problem
These are really good tips! Thank you!🤍
your colorful dresses are so pretty i just wish i had the tan ness to pull them off 😭😭😭
Lol I'm probably gonna wear a light blue or light pink wedding dress, because in my opinion, white looks bad on me, but any shade of blue and pink look just fine.
That's good advice all round. not just for weddings.
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Hi, I’m genderfluid and generally present more masc, and my cousin is getting married this fall. The dress code in jeans, but I have no idea what to wear. My daily outfit is usually cargo pants and neutral graphic t-shirt with a hoodie. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas?
All of ur dresses are too cute! Where’d you get them??? 😭😭
Literally the schools dress code-
I feel like Navy is honestly the safest color. It's basically the LBD without being too funeral-esque
so you can wear black to a wedding? im going to my uncles wedding in april next year which would be summer to autumn andddd i need help with my outfit
Ask the bride and groom if there are specific colours they do not want you to wear too
In Germany it’s the only place where I can wear heel’s so I definitely use high one, as otherwise I will never have possibility to wear them😅
Is the don't wear white thing only for if the wedding party is wearing white or is it for every color. I would want to wear a black wedding dress because goth so would everyone else not get to wear black but they could wear white? Because that seems a little depressing.
Lol I would suffer through and even lose my feet but won't take the heels off mid-function.
I went to a wedding where the grooms sister wore a full Gucci track suit (i think but it was a two piece), a gucci bag, black hat and black tennis shoes, the most odd dressed person there and it wasn't super formal looking
Question, what if the bride wants a different color that isn’t a white is that color now off limits and white too?
try to have a color palette for at least the family members. photos will be STUNNING!!! we all wore navy, violet or a deep blush color and the colors complimented each other sooooo well!!! my mom had an orange flower arrangement that was the perfect pop of color. the pictures are just amazing. if you are just a friend it might not be necessary, but if you guys can and care about the pictures, try to implement a color palette 😊
and black is a no no in my country.
When it doubt, just ask the bride or someone else in the wedding (like a bridesmaid) if the color you’re planning is okay! More often than not they’ll appreciate that you care about making their day go smoothly and you’ll avoid any bad confrontations if you pick the wrong thing
Someone wore a short romper to my formal wedding and ruined the group reception photo by standing next to us posing with her guy with her leg in the air …Now I’m happily divorced and she’s now married to that groomsmen …so who cares but still, tactless lol
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Guys, wearing a black dress to a wedding is also pretty rude. When everyone does this it looks like a funeral. Just because it's the easiest thing to do for you doesn't make it an appropriate choice! 🙈
It was appropriate for my best friend’s Catholic wedding 🤷🏻♀️
I think it’s so beautiful to have a black and white wedding where guests wear white (it’s a personal opinion), I’m always confused with these videos because people usually requests/suggest what guests wear and if people get confused you can ask, it isn’t a crime to not know what’s appropriate as everyone has different tastes. Saying “hey, is this appropriate for your wedding?” seems way more logical then just guessing and going of a random persons idea, especially if it’s a wedding from a culture you’re not familiar with.
Also, I’ve seen loads of wedding photos of men wearing very similar suits to the groom and no-one bats an eye but if a single woman wears white it’s deemed disrespectful (I can see why, don’t misunderstand me) just always been a bit odd in my mind
Excellent advice❗😌👍
Ty I have a wedding coming up . This helped alot.
Myself and my partner went to his ex wife's wedding and her husband's daughter wore a skin tight catsuit and had hair extensions fitted.
The wedding was very memorable 😂
Also make sure what colors you should actually wear! sometimes you can wear white or cream colors if the bride is going to be wearing a wedding dress that's a different color! like some brides want black dresses, some want purple, etc...! you don't want to go in black if that's what the bride will be wearing!
Off topic but when I planned my graduation party I chose a Star Wars theme. I put on my invites “ Sunday best or Star Wars costumes. “ so many people showed up to my party in costume.
This all depends on the country. In my country everyone is supposed to wear white as the theme but you don't have to if you don't want to. It's basically open ended bit better if you all wear light or monocromatic colors
Which heels would you wear out for comfort & walking
no white , no black, no red or purple in italy. You are welcome
but what if you are the bride and you don't wear white or cream but for example red or black dress??
Where I come from, black dresses are a big faux pas at wedding as it is for mourning. So all the colors are good except white and black.
Man, when I was growing up and even at my wedding... floor length maxi dresses and skirts were everywhere. And they definitely didn't overshadow anything, because they are that classic casual look. Just maybe not the iconic black and white chevron haha. But the straight skirt (NOT the tight) with knit fabric in no one way screams "Look at me!"
The dress I’m wearing to my cousins wedding makes me look like I’m going to a prom in the 2000s💀🖐🏼
In our culture u can wear anything. BRIDE is BRIDE no one will take the show away from her
EXACTLY!
I’m glad for this guideline … my mom is confuse what to wear to my brother wedding … does anyone knows of place where she can shop for a dress …
Shein formal dresses, make sure to look at the reviews for pics
Thanks! I have 3 weddings to attend next year