The Power of Self Acceptance Jerry Wise
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Have you ever thought self-acceptance is a powerful way to heal, recover, and gain calmer self-differentiation? Jerry Wise shares his 40+ years of coaching and therapy with his viewers about this topic. Jerry gives his viewers his unique, family systems approach to self acceptance. Learning self-acceptance is the key to change and to happiness. Most people tend to work on change before they work on acceptance. This will derail healing.
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Everyone on this thread pls pray for those who must stay w/their abusers under the quarantine.
Yes I certainly will pray for them
And remember to thank joe and the cd c for such amazing lockdowns!!
@@mikewallis2987 I live in ATL would you like me to do so personally? 😡 And if you could contribute towards parking, that would be great it's an issue here, thx 🙏😊🤪
@@mikewallis2987 the rest of the world has quarantined. Americans are the only ppl that thinks the word revolves around them.
"When did I start believing I should feel shame when I get criticized?" ....Brilliant! When you drop wisdom nuggets like that I realize, God I have a lot of work to do lol. So thankful to be on this healing journey and that people like you share this wisdom!
"We get rid of the bullet and go to the spa."
BEAUTIFUL and so true - quite literally in my case (Father almost shot us all 🤷♀️) People noticed as an adult how I cared for myself so lovingly. One of my friends said no one spoiled me, so I spoiled myself. It's true! Still do 💋🌹😘
So many gems here. ...The part about accepting one's parent as the jerk that they are rings so VERY true for me. Narcissists in fact NEED to be cut off. Nothing else will ever cause them to show even basic respect for their scape goat. It took me ages to be able to finally do this. Years of pain and repeat abuse, especially gaslighting to destroy my sense of confidence in my own perception and goodness. The penny dropped when faced with a truly over the top gaslighting abuser. And i traced it back to my Father, who had been emotionally abusing me in the same way for years (with the support of the rest of my family). One of my greatest accomplishments to this day has been to write my Father off as the immature ahole that he actually is. And at long last decide that I deserve respect. The fact that he put me in the position where i had to choose between wanting a relationship with him, versus believing in my own worth as a person, speaks volumes about HIS worth as a person. So grateful the penny finally dropped. So saddened that it took so very many years to...
I got a good dose of your self-acceptance videos today.. Thank you..
Jerry i passed through this stage, but i am where i meet my baby me,and take care of her instead of running away from her...most powerful reward feeling ever😘😘😘
Keep it up Ange, give baby you and adult you all the love they both need to get along ❤️
Thank you Jerry. Very helpful
Loved this one so much, needed to revisit this morning. 👍💐😘
So glad it was a help
Jerry
Love your life's work! It's helping me to stay on my side of "the tennis court!" Thank-You! In gratitude... ♥️😎
Listening to your show is a highlight of my day. Sorry I was asleep here in Wiesbaden, Germany when you started....hopefully soon I’ll be home in America AND hopefully in the same time one as you....keeping my fingers crossed for Texas as
our next duty station!!
You Jerry have helped me so much with your videos. I thank you God is working through you.
Great info, really applies to me
I'm glad it resonated Lynne ❤️
Thank you, Jerry! This is enlightening and cheering me up! So thorough and profound! Made tone of notes. I wonder how these videos of yours make so little likes and comments. They are most useful material for growth I discovered in my life! Helped me regulate so many of my relationships!
Dmytro Prydatko Totally. He’s the best!
@ Dmytro Prydatko I agree, Because people don’t have patiance. Today, everything is instant. Instant boyfriends, girlfriends, food, friends. People want everything now. People want instant answers and instant fix. That’s why. This men is Genius
Thank you! Much love from Belgium.
Awesome. Thank you Jerry
Jerry, Found this video helpful and encouraging today. I will enjoy watching it again in the near future. Thanks for sharing!
Glad it was helpful!
Jerry 😊 so thankful, this is Golden apply's to myself exceptance
This is really good!!Jerry Thanks for all the info you post 🌸
This is wonderful here this is so refreshing to hear this is positveand I will wake up tomorrow a new person.
Thank you very very much Jerry. This was very useful.
Dr. Wise thanyou so much for all your avise and honesty. After watching this video i started thinnking in maybe the ways in which ways we reflect de Sony love ourselves and lake a plan to replace
Thise habits
Thank you Jerry
You are welcome
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5:53 very very accurate
Starts at 4.56
To Be or Not to be.... In Shakespeare's “Hamlet,” when Hamlet was contemplating suicide, he said, ““To sleep; perchance to dream: ay there's the rub: for in that sleep of death what dreams may come?” But, what does “the rub” mean and from where did it originate? “Rub” in this sense means drawback or impediment. Your work shows us how to change our false beliefs about self! Awesome, Jerry! ♥️
Hi Jerry!
resonate
Acknowledging where we Learn things 30:58
Acceptance 48
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Maybe Jay Haley someday.
I've been rejected by everyone that I've ever been involved with whether it's family, friends or partners. Nobody ever has told me exactly what it is about me that they don't like
Have you been rejecting yourself as well?
If we reject ourselves why shouldn’t others🤍
@@jerrywise I don't know
Do you do one on one therapy online
Yes.
You can schedule a sessions with me here- www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/contact
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When is your next workshop? Any in 2022 ??
Yes were planning it when I get to my home office 12/20. And we will do a workshop this first quarter of 2022
What topic would YOU like?
Probably I have found some answers to the how question : m.ua-cam.com/video/W0jHJR_yX7E/v-deo.html
What do You think?
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Blessings from Australia Jerry, thank you for your gifts, and your warm, funny "humanness"
Jerry,
You seem so quick to automatically validate those who may in fact be narcissistic parents who blame their kids for their relationship problems.
I am dissappointed that you don't push back on these questioners and ask them to consider if maybe they might indeed have "munchausens by proxy" or something. You seem to just take them at their word that their child, who they raised, is just "lying".
Perhaps you retain the support of these viewers by validating them, but it seriously harms your credibility with neutral viewers such as myself (a parent of adult children and former child).
I used to watch your videos regularly, but stopped when I noticed this trend of unquestioned validation of those who blame their children.
I watched this entire video after a long break and I thought it was great up until the end when I was reminded why I stopped watching you before.
Most of your advice is great, but the failure to challenge advice seekers seems to foster blame-habits and victim-mentality more than help them.
I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this critique.
Thanks.
I'm sorry i do not have the luxury of investigating every questioner or their situation. I can only answer the question I am given. You are correct some questioners may be in denial or narcissist, but it does not seem wise to question everyone's motives about every question. I only know the scenario that I am given and answer them as best I can. Often narcissistic parents do not follow me and I have had many situations in which children do cause narcissistic problems for parents. Sorry for the disappointment. Thanks for the comment.
@@jerrywise I guess it's possible that a child be narcissistic, but that did not seem to be the case with questioner today. The evidence she gave seemed weak. I know that anyone can scapegoat a family member, and anyone can be scapegoated by a family member, but it does seem quite relevent that *there is a significant power imbalance between parents and children,* so it seems far more likely that it is the parent that is responsible for the dysfunction in the relationship rather than the child. Perhaps the child is indeed dysfunctional, but parents need to take responsibility for raising them and for being the adult in the formative relationship. I'm sure there are exceptions for extreme circumstances, but the questioner in this q&a seemed to me to be scapegoating her daughter for what was most likely a very deep-rooted dysfunctional relationship who's origin was in the daughter's childhood at a time when the mother had all the power in the relationship. Perhaps I am wrong, and I appreciate your insights, but this is how it seems to me.
Speaking of scapegoating, have you studied the work of René Girard? It seems his work would enrich your practice if you haven't read it already.
@@livingbeings I hope you are aware that I am only talking about adult-children, not dependent or minors in my videos. I do not label a minor with an adult diagnosis.
@@jerrywise Yes of course, but there needs to be a balance between labeling those adult children as narcissists and *taking responsibility* for raising those adult children to be narcissists, or for being otherwise dysfunctional, because that is probably the case.
Thank you for saying this. The parents are perpetuating the family system and conditioning their children, so it would seem prudent to advise parents to look inwards and take accountability for the dysfunction they perpetrated.
My parents are to blame *and* it's my responsibility to heal the damage they did. If they don't reflect on the damage they caused, acknowledge it, and change their behaviors then there is no chance at a relationship between two "adults" bc the old ruptures in attachment remain unresolved.