Thank you for the valuable insight. I’ve definitely noticed a lot of tension in my body that I never really addressed; now I’m learning that it’s from unconscious repressed emotions that I haven’t processed. The moment you mentioned to eat for nutrition and not to eat to escape and avoid I was like “dang, I really do eat to avoid and distract myself” I was about to buy a whole tres leche cake just to eat by myself 😭 lol
thank you for this. The timing is perfect. Got a text from a friend who’s out of town staying with someone for the night and he said something about her that although completely harmless, triggered feeling less than or like I needed to compare or compete with this person he is visiting with on vacation. so silly.
I have this problem a lot in my everyday life unfortunately. I just have never felt like I have this popular face despite being told I’m good looking or whatever.. of course these feelings also root back to bad experiences of being unwanted, compared, abandoned etc.. so I’ll notice what I do is I will impulsively compliment someone who makes me feel insecure about my image, I believe it helps? I enjoy seeing people’s face light up after receiving a compliment or just seeing how rude they could be (I guess that also helps show not everyone’s as beautiful as they seem) I’ll usually forget about me comparing myself after I do this . Just a habit I’ve randomly retained. Thoughts? But Nice video Lucas. Can’t wait for your video on psilocybin.
Also Free of all social media except tumblr and UA-cam. Been about 7 months Helps a lot Social media sucks . Who cares what anyone else is doing! It’s all fake And often overly exaggerated. Fuck people pleasing apps sorry I said what I said. Also social medias hiatus show you who genuinely cares and sees you for who you really are by checking up etc.. JMO.
The emotion gets stuck in our body, which perpetuates various patterns. The emotion is the driving force behind the action and motivation to do the action. Process the emotion, ground yourself in the body, and the pattern dismantles itself.
People who tell you they do not compare themselves to others are LIARS. It is human nature to compare. Everyone does it. The key is to not allow those comparisons to define and control you and to drag you down. But you will do it, and you will do it forever.
This is really vulnerable but listening to this, i imagined the pain i feel when another pretty girl walks in and im with somebody i want. I was aware with the feeling and noticed its a recent pain thats come up in just the last year or two. I instantly cried. It comes from my ex/situationship. He would try to make me feel like im not enough, so that he feels im more on his level or something, so that i feel lucky to be with him. Yeah its interesting. Thanks i really appreciate your videos and insights. You come from a real place. Its refreshing.
It's really hard not to. Even when i feel powerful. I just forgive myself when I do it and refrain from being negative towards the other person im comparing myself to. I also think I do it because my mom always compared me and herself to others. It could be a trauma response. What you say is healing. I think people would treat each other ALOT better if they didn't compare themselves so much to others and realized how powerful they are just by being themselves, authentically of course.
This was one of the videos that I saved before I watched it LOL. I just knew it would be helpful. So, basically, you only compare yourself, when you don't know yourself (lack self-awareness)???
Yes, not knowing oneself, lack of presence in oneself, unprocessed energies and emotions in the body, and certain beliefs all lead to an unhealthy form of comparison.
I am listening to this but the problem is that i don't know what self work and listening to self i don't know how to meditate it's not all about just sitting right? I feel stuck for a very long time I'm crazy about outside stuff the person who I'm always thinking about. I don't even know how to move myself and how to get motivated. I have beliefs that get me into nihilism and trap me into false beliefs about why I shouldn't do this or that it's very complicated. It just doesn't feel that the path of my self research is more important than comparing others to myself and I'm waiting to feel motivated and get started. The comparison habit gives me really bad days man so how it's possible im listening and don't get it like a feeling level
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Thank you for the valuable insight. I’ve definitely noticed a lot of tension in my body that I never really addressed; now I’m learning that it’s from unconscious repressed emotions that I haven’t processed. The moment you mentioned to eat for nutrition and not to eat to escape and avoid I was like “dang, I really do eat to avoid and distract myself” I was about to buy a whole tres leche cake just to eat by myself 😭 lol
thank you for this. The timing is perfect. Got a text from a friend who’s out of town staying with someone for the night and he said something about her that although completely harmless, triggered feeling less than or like I needed to compare or compete with this person he is visiting with on vacation. so silly.
Found your channel today, these videos are incredibly helpful brother thank you🙏🏽
SUCH a good video. Resonates very well 🫶🏽
Ofc love thank you 🧡
I have this problem a lot in my everyday life unfortunately. I just have never felt like I have this popular face despite being told I’m good looking or whatever.. of course these feelings also root back to bad experiences of being unwanted, compared, abandoned etc..
so I’ll notice what I do is I will impulsively compliment someone who makes me feel insecure about my image, I believe it helps? I enjoy seeing people’s face light up after receiving a compliment or just seeing how rude they could be
(I guess that also helps show not everyone’s as beautiful as they seem)
I’ll usually forget about me comparing myself after I do this . Just a habit I’ve randomly retained.
Thoughts?
But Nice video Lucas. Can’t wait for your video on psilocybin.
Also Free of all social media except tumblr and UA-cam. Been about 7 months Helps a lot
Social media sucks . Who cares what anyone else is doing! It’s all fake
And often overly exaggerated. Fuck people pleasing apps sorry I said what I said.
Also social medias hiatus show you who genuinely cares and sees you for who you really are by checking up etc.. JMO.
The emotion gets stuck in our body, which perpetuates various patterns. The emotion is the driving force behind the action and motivation to do the action.
Process the emotion, ground yourself in the body, and the pattern dismantles itself.
Thank you, this was uploaded at a perfect time for me
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People who tell you they do not compare themselves to others are LIARS. It is human nature to compare. Everyone does it. The key is to not allow those comparisons to define and control you and to drag you down. But you will do it, and you will do it forever.
This is really vulnerable but listening to this, i imagined the pain i feel when another pretty girl walks in and im with somebody i want. I was aware with the feeling and noticed its a recent pain thats come up in just the last year or two. I instantly cried. It comes from my ex/situationship. He would try to make me feel like im not enough, so that he feels im more on his level or something, so that i feel lucky to be with him. Yeah its interesting. Thanks i really appreciate your videos and insights. You come from a real place. Its refreshing.
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8:45 is a hard pill to swallow! You’re so wise thank you❤
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It's really hard not to. Even when i feel powerful. I just forgive myself when I do it and refrain from being negative towards the other person im comparing myself to. I also think I do it because my mom always compared me and herself to others. It could be a trauma response. What you say is healing. I think people would treat each other ALOT better if they didn't compare themselves so much to others and realized how powerful they are just by being themselves, authentically of course.
Thank you, pegnuinzxo.
This was one of the videos that I saved before I watched it LOL. I just knew it would be helpful. So, basically, you only compare yourself, when you don't know yourself (lack self-awareness)???
Yes, not knowing oneself, lack of presence in oneself, unprocessed energies and emotions in the body, and certain beliefs all lead to an unhealthy form of comparison.
I am listening to this but the problem is that i don't know what self work and listening to self i don't know how to meditate it's not all about just sitting right? I feel stuck for a very long time I'm crazy about outside stuff the person who I'm always thinking about. I don't even know how to move myself and how to get motivated. I have beliefs that get me into nihilism and trap me into false beliefs about why I shouldn't do this or that it's very complicated. It just doesn't feel that the path of my self research is more important than comparing others to myself and I'm waiting to feel motivated and get started. The comparison habit gives me really bad days man so how it's possible im listening and don't get it like a feeling level
Love your videos. Have you read Nietzsche?
Glad you enjoy the content.
Seg + Eren.... Oh
Jesus 2.0
haha