"Goofus and Gallant"-style film on the misadventures of a teenage girl who is a victim of her own bad habits, with a harrowing and patronizing narration.
That's because Helen plans all of her breathing ahead of time. That way she's never surprised by having to breathe spontaneously. Also, Helen has never colored outside of the lines, in her entire life. 😂😂😂
Oh, I don't think Helen is necessarily smug. It's confidence. Like the way I feel inside- but would never say- when I've planned an outfit and other women are running around looking and probably feeling scruffy. I bring a clean outfit to change into after my work shift. That way if I decide to go on an impromptu outing or I get invited last-minute to a friend's house, I don't have to feel unkempt. When we have the habit of planning in advance like Helen, we usually look better and feel confident about making a good impression. As for her not 'defending' Barbara at the party, some women are just like that. They feel that others can 'hold their own'.
Dead Woman's Grave - Except they taught it all in the most patronizing, negative, micromanaging way possible. The main idea about habits is good, but the anxiety so many would take away is so damaging.
Kim Duclos - I really feel like this video was beyond “blunt”. It sends the message that everyone is noticing and judging you on the tiniest things. The big “disaster” is all in Barbara’s head. It was just a couple of awkward moments. The benefits of being blunt probably have to do with being honest. I feel like a narrator isn’t being honest when she implies that Barbara is being judged on the dirt under her fingernails, for example.
@Sally actually having a good routine/pattern/habits (whatever you wanna called it) as been proven to reduce anxiety even if its micromanaging, in fact that'd probly help people with OCD. Having a routine helps you being grounded aka knowing where you are in the world at said time which helps a lot when you have anxiety. also im not sure what was negative in this, the video showed perfect and realistic examples even for 2019.
also the narrator isnt implying that barbara is being judged, barbara herself feels judged because she knows her fingernails arent clean. have you never went out to eat and had ketchup on your shirt or something and it bothered you all day knowing people could see it? if not that'd be weird but if so then thats what barbara is feeling.
I would have loved this advice when I was a teenager. The lack of good habits, tidiness and organization still makes my life messy. I'm anxious and insecure but this narration didn't bother me. It has a loving tone, like someone who cares about you enough to tell you the truth. Plus, the video is not comparing people but habits. It showing how anyone can achieve good habits that make you grow better, feel better in your skin and face daily life with more confidence. Consistency is the hardest thing for me and because of this I wasn't able to focus on my passions and projects for years, and I never got to experience the satisfaction of reaching goals through a long time of training and discipline.
Mary J, in all sincerity I must tell you that the narrator of this 1954 educational video does not have a loving tone. Not at all. It possesses a shaming tone, of extreme destructive condescension. The best way to get yourself organized - or to break from a bad habit or addiction no matter how vicious - is to become aware of it - and your place in it. Besides having the hot desire to change - you have to hold yourself in a moment of observation where you no longer allow a paralysis of shame. Then... you’re free.
@Zazu Zazz Yes but sometimes a little shaming that’s good because when you don’t have any shame you don’t feel the need to change anything even if it’s hurting others and yourself
@@sofiabravo1994 and not everyone is equipped to handle shame, the tone the narrator used would definitely make a situation worse.
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This film was the basis for Carrie. Barbara got so fed up with being ignored, picked on and not fitting in that she used her newly discovered telekinetic powers to kill everyone at the prom.
As a teenage girl, I can definitely relate to some of the bad habits Barbara shows us. But, that’s why I value these educational videos. This one points out practical things that I will definitely make an effort to execute in my life!
Actually, this was shown to me in school and it changed my life. In a good way. My mother nagged me to death about my lack of preparation, but this other voice really made me aware of the mistake I was making, and the other girls in school looked different from me for a reason. Self-discipline is a good habit, and people telling us we don't need us do us no favors.
Gosh, everyone is so sensitive. If you'd take time to look at the essence of her message you'd understand that she meant everyone who spend all their time on the internet doing unproductive things. It really isn't that hard to understand, yet you all resort to name calling. Really, very shameful.
I set mine at least 20 minutes ahead bc I can’t be trusted to get up😂 I think I can trick myself into thinking I’m going to be late …I hurry but it doesn’t help. I feel Barbara 😂
I'm the opposite. I set my alarm for the latest possible time I can get up and know I have to get up when it goes off. I don't want the snooze waking me up again for 40 minutes. I want to sleep in peace as long as possible.
I feel like I have learnt more from these videos about personal lifestyle from the 50's and it was more constructive than any youtubers unrealistic daily habits or morning/night routine.
I can see this being helpful because sometimes we just need to be told. When I first met my therapist at 30 years old, she was the first one to ever (kindly) point out that I looked a bit disheveled. She wasn’t wrong, and I really wasn’t offended. I wore moccasin slippers with socks, leggings which may have had holes, and usually some type of hoodie with a messy bun. Yes, I was diagnosed with adhd but besides that, it was really helpful to realize how I was coming across. Sadly I never thought about it before that. I tried dressing up or putting in effort when it was appropriate, but it feels really good to look presentable no matter the occasion.
Except for the part where the narrator suggests that she should do anything so that those girls like her and feel bad if they don't. Those girls suck! Just find a different friend group.
Barbara got married after high school but divorced her husband after tripping acid in the 60s. She became the mother hen in a hippie commune before becoming an evangelical christian in the late 70s. She remarried and died in 2003.
As a 14 year old, i can still definitely relate to most of these bad habits, so thats why these videos are very important to me. I really like how sophisticated yet simple things used to be, so I am going to try and impliment these into my own life.
As a young woman I wish I had seen this video when I was in middle school. I always showered and brushed my teeth daily but I wasn’t as groomed and prepared as I could have been. Now that I have a son I will make a conscious effort to teach him to do better than what I did.
Couldn't help thinking right in the beginning when Barbara was crying her eyes out and the narrator was saying you knew this day would come and you should have prepared for it I thought..yup her friend has finally arrived for her years and years and years to come monthly visit.
omg.. the part where Helen puts worn clothes to the back is so smart!! I always forget when the last time was, that I wore the item and I don't want there to be clothes that I never wear.
@@jasamkojajesam6108 yes it is you can literally see the uncooked clear asf ass egg whites on the top, egg whites are supposed to be white, that's how you know it's done
Honest, to the point, blunt and only meant to be helpful. We need so much more of this today. They were not about coddling back then and I’m here for it.
Incredible how true all of this is. I know some people are kind of annoyed or offended with the tone of voice of the narrator. But the content is absolutely 100% accurate and needed right now more than ever before.
THIS. So much this. I agree with you - I'm tired of ppl over analyzing and saying "what if she has a disorder" - etc. She really isn't a nice person. She lies, is disrespectful to her parents, dirty, brags about social status, monopolizes the conversation, and doesn't care about school. Life was hard in the 50's and even harder with an attitude like hers - what happens when she goes into the real world? It's not clever or cute to make excuses for her - it's just lame.
Fun fact, this actress starred in Night Of The Living Dead 14 years later, also as a character named Barbara. So maybe she was training for the upcoming zombie apocalypse
Oh jeez I could be Barbara, and I’m 37 years old. The “where’s your hairbrush?” And the random crap piled on the table is eerily similar to my everyday life.
This video is literally the definition of female ADHD. Barbara had: Trouble organizing Trouble finishing projects she started Interrupting conversations Being late Among many other traits. I don’t know if they meant to show this, but it’s so spot on
Accurate but for both sexes. The biggest tell is trouble 'conforming' to the 16 hours awake, 8 hours asleep pattern. Not awake at 6 am every day? Utterly un-American!
Meh. This video describes me when I'm in a bad way, but I've not got ADHD. I'm able to get good habits together, I just fall out of them again when I move home between university terms.
@@ffy0000 nothing to be embarrassed about but you may want to look into sleep studies, could have sleep apnea? You could really wake up feeling refreshed!?
All the people commenting that Barbara has ADHD are part of the problem. Whether she does or not is irrelevant, we all must learn habits to be neat, punctual, polite and polished. For some it comes more easily than for others but you can’t just say ‘I have ADHD’ and be done with it. ADHD is an explanation, not an excuse. You may find it harder to get up on time, so set more alarms, incentivise yourself to get up, get organised the night before so you can sleep in longer. These are all habits that can help you but the modern mindset is ‘I have ADHD, I’ll always be late’. It’s appalling.
as someone with ADHD i completely agree it’s not an excuse. It does make some aspects of my life harder but learning to use tools and habits is how you can learn to live with it. Definitely no excuse.
I was so engraved into this film that when it ended. I had forgotten that I'm living in 2019 and felt like I had time travel to the future lol Times have really change in the way we do things but the moral good of good living basic never change.
It's like the exact opposite of what any modern day teen movie would teach you. These days they would tell you to forget the mean girls, be yourself and find people like you to hang with. This one? "DO EVERYTHING SO THAT THE MEANIES LIKE YOU"
@@michaelpryor78 what Joanne's commend had to do with it, is the fact that back then the likes of depression and so on were overlooked, and these videos would be pushed into school's societies to ensure that regardless of how you'd feel, you'd be doing these anyway else you'd let your family down. Back then the mental health and the whatnot weren't discussed, and so yes, it is outdated. This would be, if in today's society, changed to relate to multiple mental health problems, and also physical disabilities.
The thing is, yes it’s old but the messages in it are absolutely timeless. Another difference is the orderly routine of the home, the parents. The foundation was there that for many kids is not now. None of the girl’s problems are that rare for teens and they can be overcome with help.
Sometimes it isn't neurological divergence, sometimes it's just poor habits that don't serve us. Neurologically divergent or not, the tips offered can definitely aid one in building routine and getting along socially.
They aided me for certain. I developed better habits *after* watching this short film. I can see why people would want to diagnose Barbara with ADHD or something, but that ironically rids her (and those with ADHD) of their agency. Sometimes, people can have bad habits simply because they have bad habits. I used to have a messy room, was rude during conversation, etc. That wasn't because ADHD or even my diagnosed autism. I just simply had bad or nonexisting good habits. Many people do. Bad habits aren't a sign of a mental disorder.
Honestly? This is actually very accurate and still very relevant. It's somewhat... harsh... but the message is there. I love the 50s videos because they're informative, sensible and pack a punch. The message from this video? Get up on time, be kind and courteous to those who do nice things for you, eat properly, wear clean clothes, have a breakfast, be on time, do your work, pay attention at school, don't be a gobshite, do your work, be organised, get enough rest and wash. I was a Barbara throughout high school and I fucking hated it. I could have been more Helen if I'd have tried.
harsh? come on. truth it not HARSH. it's helpful. people need to grow a thicker skin. too many weak-minded people with these mindsets out there and it's keeping society down.
This video should be titled - successful mature people versus immature unsuccessful people. Great info for us all!!!! I’m married to a Helen. I have ADD and lived as a Barbara until working on it for years now. The Helen’s in life are far less stressed out and far more successful. I wish I had seen this in my teens.
Well this explains a lot!! This must be the narrative tape that ran in my mother's head as she berated me on the daily for the least infraction. My drawers still look like Barbara's....I still have the half-finished afghan LOL
I think my mom was raised on these things. It's tough for a natural Barbara to have a Helen mom. They don't actually help you in life, just tear you down slowly with passive aggressive comments about what's wrong with you and how you could be better. Thanks mom.
No, that’s also not her. There is no definite info on who this young lady is. Garner would have been older than this girl at the time this was made, and they don’t look alike. The girl playing Barbara was in this and one other episode for Knickerbocker Productions, but there are no credits that give her name.
Dang that really made me feel identified in the worst way, I will begin to change the patterns I created and take back control of my life. I HOPE ANY ONE READING THIS DOES TOO!!!
Ironic that Helen died from heart disease when she was 47 b/c she was jolted awake by alarm clocks; ate high cholesterol breakfasts; and never developed good exercise habits b/c she was driven to school every day. Barbara, on the other hand, woke up gradually; practiced intermittent fasting; and jogged to school. She's still alive and well.
Hey kids, you know all your little insecurities about your looks and popularity? They’re all true, everyone can see them and you should worry about them!
@@HereIAm247 Another comment just drew me back to this video. Your comment is reasonable, but it doesn't reflect what the narrator said. Yes, they sort of touch on the how after berating the main character. And I realize why this bothers me so much is because I have spent a lot of time in therapy trying not to berate myself like the narrator. Ironically, self talk was a habit I had to learn, but I didn't need shame to learn it.
I watched this video in middle school back in the day and it left a real impression. I started hanging my clothes as Helen did. It was a good way to rotate my outfits.
This all sounds a lot like my experience in camp. When I was in camp, I shared a room with another girl my age and I woke up super early to get extra time to bath, clean, dress and read. It felt really good to have a fresh start like that everyday. However, my roommate woke up late everyday and got panic to find her underwear and clothes and to make it in time, which were thrown under the bed.
This may be old fashioned now 2020 but the same things still resonate, basically we all have the same social hopes and fears whatever era we happened to be young in.
Actionable Summary: 🙂 - When you wake up, then establish a morning routine that includes grooming and a healthy breakfast. - When selecting your clothes, then make sure they're clean and properly matched. - When leaving for school or work, then be on time and well-prepared. - When planning your day, then consider the special events that might take place and prepare accordingly. - When engaging in conversations, then listen actively and participate in a way that adds value instead of just talking about yourself. - When maintaining personal hygiene like cleaning fingernails, then make it a regular habit to avoid being caught unprepared. - When handling your clothes after wearing them, then check them for cleaning requirements and hang them properly for further use. - When planning for the next day, then make the habit of organizing your clothes and tasks in the right order. - When you realize you have bad habits, then recognize the need for change and make conscious efforts to establish better habits in their place. - When you end your day, then ensure you get proper rest by sleeping at reasonable hours.
Within the ten ensuing years after the release of this film our Barbara will be out on the road living the quintessential epic, “Rebel Without A Scarf.”
Actually fun fact, 14 years after this short the actress who played Barbara went on to play another Barbara in the classic zombie movie Night Of The Living Dead
Back then, there were no social media distractions, and you couldn't create a fake persona on line to hide behind. Kids got together regularly to socialize face to face, and to develop their social world. So it was important to fit in, and demonstrate that you could get along in that world.
Neurodivergent teen here! I think habit patterns and planning is very important and stress relieving. It can be difficult at the start but in the end it’s very helpful, beneficial, AND it saves a lot of anxiety. Start off small. One step at a time. It’s all about progress. Remember, everyone; you got this! ❤❤
Just discovered these movies .....what a gem they are. I have to laugh my head off. Think of it....20 years later everybody is smoking grass and having wild sex with every one.....and it looks like Barbara’s generation
yes just like back then nobody was incredibly misogynistic or racist and everyobody was white and neat and there were no social issues at all are you so stupid as to base your perception of a time period and its people off a scripted film
@@tensugarcubes Why can't we have the best of both worlds? Organized lives, proper values, and no hatred for otherkinds? Both are bad in different ways.
G W same with me, I don’t cuss, I use manners, people might think that’s boring but they need to remember, the world was like that before things change, I also don’t listen to rap or anything like that
Social organization for teens in school and community much much healthier then. Pleasant conversation skills, dressing appropriately for different situations, polite manners need to be taught and kids given safe fun opportunities to practice them.
Narrator: "It's a little late for tears, isn't it, Barbera?" Barbera: "You're right. I should have had the forsite to cry sometime BEFORE the worst day of my life you judgmental voice!"
“Go to bed early for a change.”
Then there’s me watching this video at midnight.
try 4:00am
Ya me too lol 11:57pm
Yep 2am for me lol
Edward, you're a creature of habit. Bad habit.
Your peers are all going to heaven, but you're going to hell!
00:23 PM
“It’s a little late for tears Barbra” 😂😂 I died laughing
Brutal! 🤣
The narrator’s a huge B!!!
@@crazysingingchick This reminds me of the narrator from The Stanley Parable.
Strange Paradise I’m gonna have to go look that up now!
Strange Paradise I see what you mean 😂
The narrator sounds EXACTLY like my anxiety
Watching it now and oh my gosh it DOES
Yes, the negative self talk counselors help you avoid.
Your anxiety needs a firm slap.
Bruh exactly my thoughts
Omfg seriously
Barbara: *breathes*
Narrator: Helen would have done it better
“Helen has REGULAR breathing patterns. Try it out, Barbra.”
That's because Helen plans all of her breathing ahead of time. That way she's never surprised by having to breathe spontaneously. Also, Helen has never colored outside of the lines, in her entire life. 😂😂😂
Helen’s a robot
Lol lol 🤣🤣🤣
👍🎯
Since everything was black and white back then it was easier to pick out clothes.
It really is amazing how the world has changed since they invented color!
You guys do know that it was just the camera film in black and white not the entire world, right?
@@bonnieyoung8720 r/wooosh
@@hannahfiedler7096 RIGHT!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
Bonnie Young what are you talking about
Ive been watching old 50's educational videos for over an hour now...HELP ME!
😂
Join the club babe.. You're in good company!!😉
Follow all the habits and you'll have a good life!
Humpy And Bex me too 😂😂😭😭
Humpy And Bex can’t stop watching! The 50s were so interesting
the shade thrown is darker then the monochrome film style
🤣
Ikr the classy sass 💅🏽⚫✒🔲💅🏽
Literally nobody:
Narrator: Helen would’ve done it better
Venus Zambrana think we should all look up to Helen. Be like “What would Helen do?” 😂
Helen is a smug little Madam. And her father Mr Elliot, looks exactly like Dr Crippen. In fact he probably is.
Oh, I don't think Helen is necessarily smug. It's confidence. Like the way I feel inside- but would never say- when I've planned an outfit and other women are running around looking and probably feeling scruffy. I bring a clean outfit to change into after my work shift. That way if I decide to go on an impromptu outing or I get invited last-minute to a friend's house, I don't have to feel unkempt. When we have the habit of planning in advance like Helen, we usually look better and feel confident about making a good impression. As for her not 'defending' Barbara at the party, some women are just like that. They feel that others can 'hold their own'.
@@sskogsraa s
@@pennypay1 That is Karen..not..Helen lol.
This video is actually kind of helpful to be honest.
Dead Woman's Grave - Except they taught it all in the most patronizing, negative, micromanaging way possible. The main idea about habits is good, but the anxiety so many would take away is so damaging.
@@sallyvillarreal4294 That makes sense tbh I can see how that would happen.
Kim Duclos - I really feel like this video was beyond “blunt”. It sends the message that everyone is noticing and judging you on the tiniest things. The big “disaster” is all in Barbara’s head. It was just a couple of awkward moments.
The benefits of being blunt probably have to do with being honest. I feel like a narrator isn’t being honest when she implies that Barbara is being judged on the dirt under her fingernails, for example.
@Sally actually having a good routine/pattern/habits (whatever you wanna called it) as been proven to reduce anxiety even if its micromanaging, in fact that'd probly help people with OCD. Having a routine helps you being grounded aka knowing where you are in the world at said time which helps a lot when you have anxiety. also im not sure what was negative in this, the video showed perfect and realistic examples even for 2019.
also the narrator isnt implying that barbara is being judged, barbara herself feels judged because she knows her fingernails arent clean. have you never went out to eat and had ketchup on your shirt or something and it bothered you all day knowing people could see it? if not that'd be weird but if so then thats what barbara is feeling.
Forget modern day self-improvement podcasts. Our grandparents are the real OG's
You got that right...❤❤❤❤
This video roasted me.
i spilled lipstick in your valentino bag I am Barbara.
Me too
Good, I'm not the only one.
Say what? You felt roasted, I felt like Barbara with the narrator and everything! And I'm getting into my 30s soon... 😓
Me too, except I'd a burned that sweater.
Plot twist: The passive aggressive narrator is Barbara's mom
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh
OMG XD I JUST RELIZED YOU'RE RIGHT! This is exactly the shit that a passive aggressive mother would say while comparing her kid to some other kid
For REAL??
LOL RIGHT?!
😂
Dang...the narrator has NO chill!!
Lmfao I swear I was just thinking that same thing.
Narrator is snarky! LOL
It's called being honest.
Nowadays people cant even handle honesty or truth without taking it as an insult
sharpaycutie2 Dude it’s a joke. But the narrator needs, in fact, to chill a little.
@@sharpaycutie2 Relax. It's ok. We'll all be ok. Barbara will be ok. And you will be ok.
I would have loved this advice when I was a teenager. The lack of good habits, tidiness and organization still makes my life messy. I'm anxious and insecure but this narration didn't bother me. It has a loving tone, like someone who cares about you enough to tell you the truth. Plus, the video is not comparing people but habits. It showing how anyone can achieve good habits that make you grow better, feel better in your skin and face daily life with more confidence. Consistency is the hardest thing for me and because of this I wasn't able to focus on my passions and projects for years, and I never got to experience the satisfaction of reaching goals through a long time of training and discipline.
Mary J, in all sincerity I must tell you that the narrator of this 1954 educational video does not have a loving tone. Not at all. It possesses a shaming tone, of extreme destructive condescension.
The best way to get yourself organized - or to break from a bad habit or addiction no matter how vicious - is to become aware of it - and your place in it. Besides having the hot desire to change - you have to hold yourself in a moment of observation where you no longer allow a paralysis of shame. Then... you’re free.
@Zazu Zazz Yes but sometimes a little shaming that’s good because when you don’t have any shame you don’t feel the need to change anything even if it’s hurting others and yourself
@@zazuzazz5419 that’s what our present day society lacks, a generous dose of shaming. We need to bring shaming back.
@@owamuhmza honestly
@@sofiabravo1994 and not everyone is equipped to handle shame, the tone the narrator used would definitely make a situation worse.
This film was the basis for Carrie. Barbara got so fed up with being ignored, picked on and not fitting in that she used her newly discovered telekinetic powers to kill everyone at the prom.
😁😁😁😁😁
😂
Great plot twist!
As a teenage girl, I can definitely relate to some of the bad habits Barbara shows us. But, that’s why I value these educational videos. This one points out practical things that I will definitely make an effort to execute in my life!
God bless
AMEN TO THAT ONE FOR SURE. MAY MY BEAUTIFUL WONDERFUL LORD JESUS CHRIST ALWAYS BLESS YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS. @@jesussaves21
“Looking for your hairbrush, can’t remember where you left it?”
Me, literally every single morning.
🙃
That's why I have 3 Tangle Teasers, 2 Hairbrushes, and 2 wide-toothed combs, lol.
Same
still in the back of my head from yesterday!!
I went to work with unbrushed hair the other day. 😄
Actually, this was shown to me in school and it changed my life. In a good way. My mother nagged me to death about my lack of preparation, but this other voice really made me aware of the mistake I was making, and the other girls in school looked different from me for a reason. Self-discipline is a good habit, and people telling us we don't need us do us no favors.
Just goes to show how a kind and gentle voice reasonably explaining something can work better than nagging.
Feeling personally attacked 😂😂😭
*my sad little life*
For real
😂😂 Me too girl me too.
LOL!
If you are a beautiful blond you will find a stupid guy (like this comment writer) who loves you even if you are the laziest girl in the world.
Of course her eggs were cold. They never were cooked. Maybe chronic salmonella is the reason Barbara can't seem to focus.
P J This has my mother and I absolutely rolling 🤣🤣🤣 bravo 👏 my dude
I’m dying laughing 😂😂😂
LMAO!
Sunny side up fried in bacon grease, Yum! My favorite.
Sunny side up the way I like them
People who have there life together vs people on the internet
their not there
So says this stupid bitch who typed this on the internet. 😒 💻
@@ingriddubbel8468 That's "They're not there," stupid! 😠
Lol~ i know, right!
Gosh, everyone is so sensitive. If you'd take time to look at the essence of her message you'd understand that she meant everyone who spend all their time on the internet doing unproductive things. It really isn't that hard to understand, yet you all resort to name calling.
Really, very shameful.
For the first minute, based on the narration and the crying, I thought Barbara’s problem was her first visit from Aunt Flow.
I did too! Either that or a boy dumped her bc she said something “silly”
I thought she was preggers😂🤷🏼♀️
Yes! Lol
Or she was pregnant
As someone with ADD, Barbara spoke to my entire soul..
Ikr! 😭❤️
Same lol
Same. 😅
Haha I came into the comments about to say the exact same thing. My god
Same. That get up for school routine her and mom did came right out of my childhood 😂😂
You're alright Barbara.
My room is also a disaster.
We just need better habits.
She wakes up when the alarm sounds BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT SHE HAD IN MIND WHEN SHE SET IT! dang geez you don't have to attack me like that
Chronic snoozer? Me too 😅
I'll sometimes set my alarm earlier then when I need to wake up because I know I'll probably just hit the snooze button a few times lol
I set mine at least 20 minutes ahead bc I can’t be trusted to get up😂 I think I can trick myself into thinking I’m going to be late …I hurry but it doesn’t help. I feel Barbara 😂
I have in mind to stay sleeping for another 30-40 minutes when the alarm goes off.
I'm the opposite. I set my alarm for the latest possible time I can get up and know I have to get up when it goes off. I don't want the snooze waking me up again for 40 minutes. I want to sleep in peace as long as possible.
This narrator came for my whole life. If someone over 60 years is talking about your bad qualities, that’s a sign to get your life together.
Elizabeth Montgomery 🧙
My hair is ALWAYS in a tizzy.
All mine is falling out
I am a tizzy
My tizzy is always in my hair.
My tizzy is always in a tizzy!
I tizzed
I feel like I have learnt more from these videos about personal lifestyle from the 50's and it was more constructive than any youtubers unrealistic daily habits or morning/night routine.
No kidding right? Same.
Seriously.
Barbara's pajamas at the end are adorable.
@@sskogsraa She's dead
Narrator: Helen would've worn it better. 😅
That scarf does NOT cover that stain, girl just wear a different shirt it’s not hard
Probably all her clothes are in the laundry.
Back then they didint have as many clothes as we do today, Helen's dresser was basic empty.
she can wear it from the other side so the spot can be covered with the hair
her lazy a$$ had nothing clean
Omg I've got to stop watching these videos and clean up my room 😆
Same
You see, Helen has made a habit of cleaning her room. She knows where the tools she needs are, she has a routine.
See helen would be cleaning her room while listening to these video
I'm listening to these while cleaning my apartment.
I can see this being helpful because sometimes we just need to be told. When I first met my therapist at 30 years old, she was the first one to ever (kindly) point out that I looked a bit disheveled. She wasn’t wrong, and I really wasn’t offended. I wore moccasin slippers with socks, leggings which may have had holes, and usually some type of hoodie with a messy bun. Yes, I was diagnosed with adhd but besides that, it was really helpful to realize how I was coming across. Sadly I never thought about it before that. I tried dressing up or putting in effort when it was appropriate, but it feels really good to look presentable no matter the occasion.
Yes, we often are not aware of how we are coming across or the image we're giving off, and it takes a brave person to mention it.
All in all . . . . Not bad advice.
Trrevor Lewis (except from the anxiety it teaches you, and the way it demeans people)
Except for the part where the narrator suggests that she should do anything so that those girls like her and feel bad if they don't. Those girls suck! Just find a different friend group.
@@tacocatt6808 Oh, please. Don't be pathetic. If you're bad, you should feel bad.
@@GTA5Player1 Those were the girls that SHE liked, though.
@@genli5603 We,, maybe she shouldn't considering how different they are.
Barbara feels so relatable.While the other girls are so sophisticated and mature.Barbara just feels out of place among them.She's just like a kid.
That's because she is a kid. High expectations for maturity and sophistication are no good for a kid. And this is coming from one
Barbara got married after high school but divorced her husband after tripping acid in the 60s. She became the mother hen in a hippie commune before becoming an evangelical christian in the late 70s. She remarried and died in 2003.
What about Helen?!
Steven Birn I-I was born in 2003
@@lascar327 Helen joined the Hells Angels and had numerous tattoos. Never married, she died in a motorcycle crash in 1987.
You're hilarious 🤣
@ nope she isn't. I do not see her alike.
As a 14 year old, i can still definitely relate to most of these bad habits, so thats why these videos are very important to me. I really like how sophisticated yet simple things used to be, so I am going to try and impliment these into my own life.
As a young woman I wish I had seen this video when I was in middle school. I always showered and brushed my teeth daily but I wasn’t as groomed and prepared as I could have been. Now that I have a son I will make a conscious effort to teach him to do better than what I did.
Amazing 🤩 teach him to be a gentleman
These days the world has an anything goes attitude, but the lack of structure puts all the pressure on youth to figure out everything for themselves.
Where WAS this when I was younger? The pieces on living in your imagination about what others may or not be saying is spot on
I wished I’d known this when I was younger
Couldn't help thinking right in the beginning when Barbara was crying her eyes out and the narrator was saying you knew this day would come and you should have prepared for it I thought..yup her friend has finally arrived for her years and years and years to come monthly visit.
Same
Yeah, 'swhat I thought, but instead she chose to wear a sweater with a Friend-Sized Stain
😨
Yep.. You be a woman now…
I thought she was pregnant... Although I guess teen pregrancy would be too controversial for these.
Me too! Lol
omg.. the part where Helen puts worn clothes to the back is so smart!! I always forget when the last time was, that I wore the item and I don't want there to be clothes that I never wear.
I have two very important comments:
1. We gotta bring those outfits back😍
And more importantly..
2. Those eggs are damn uncooked
Natalie Putnam it’s supposed to be runny it’s a fried egg 😑
@@geoffreymelkonian2479 even for a fried egg that shits too runny, you'd be stuck on the toilet ten minutes after eating that.
@@daniels1293 No its not, news flash; not everyone likes eggs like u.
@@jasamkojajesam6108 yes it is you can literally see the uncooked clear asf ass egg whites on the top, egg whites are supposed to be white, that's how you know it's done
I love the outfits from back then. That's why I mostly purchase vintage as much as I can. People care more for trends than quality
Honest, to the point, blunt and only meant to be helpful. We need so much more of this today. They were not about coddling back then and I’m here for it.
Not me, I had it and now I’m 71 and still have my bad habits.
Incredible how true all of this is. I know some people are kind of annoyed or offended with the tone of voice of the narrator. But the content is absolutely 100% accurate and needed right now more than ever before.
THIS. So much this. I agree with you - I'm tired of ppl over analyzing and saying "what if she has a disorder" - etc. She really isn't a nice person. She lies, is disrespectful to her parents, dirty, brags about social status, monopolizes the conversation, and doesn't care about school. Life was hard in the 50's and even harder with an attitude like hers - what happens when she goes into the real world? It's not clever or cute to make excuses for her - it's just lame.
bro my entire existence was insulted,distroyed,and re structured by this video.
I feel personally attacked by this video.
Same sis :(
That was oooh!
Dude
Lol
Well maybe learn some, idk, good habits
How do you even end up with that big of a stain ? Was she stabbed in the chest last time she wore that sweater ?
Fun fact, this actress starred in Night Of The Living Dead 14 years later, also as a character named Barbara. So maybe she was training for the upcoming zombie apocalypse
@@JustAPrayer hmm. Google is questionable, I googled her, it says she was 9 at the time of filming this.
Looks like she spilt a drink down herself imo - missed her mouth when she tipped the glass!
Koolaide is my guess or Tang…
Maybe her kid brother spilled some soup or something like that on it.
Or, maybe he was sick and puked all over it.
Oh jeez I could be Barbara, and I’m 37 years old. The “where’s your hairbrush?” And the random crap piled on the table is eerily similar to my everyday life.
Hu? What do you think they said?
This video is literally the definition of female ADHD.
Barbara had:
Trouble organizing
Trouble finishing projects she started
Interrupting conversations
Being late
Among many other traits.
I don’t know if they meant to show this, but it’s so spot on
So sick of this ADHD bullshit. Why pathologise everything? Convenient excuse for you?
Accurate but for both sexes. The biggest tell is trouble 'conforming' to the 16 hours awake, 8 hours asleep pattern. Not awake at 6 am every day? Utterly un-American!
@@spinynorman1562 Actually do some research before you continue making yourself look stupid.
Meh. This video describes me when I'm in a bad way, but I've not got ADHD. I'm able to get good habits together, I just fall out of them again when I move home between university terms.
@@spinynorman1562 adhd is real
The alarm doesn't even wake me up. It blares for a good hour but I still sleep.
Sir And you’re not embarrassed admitting that? Deeper problems.
@@unlokia What's embarrassing about it?
@@ffy0000 nothing to be embarrassed about but you may want to look into sleep studies, could have sleep apnea? You could really wake up feeling refreshed!?
Same, once I even get sit and walk with my mom while still sleeping 😂
Get rid of the alarm.. Get a pet! I guarantee you wont sleep in!
Narrator: Helen is a perfect angel :')
Also narrator: JESUS CHRIST BARBRA WTF
Please, stop using God's name in vain.
All the people commenting that Barbara has ADHD are part of the problem. Whether she does or not is irrelevant, we all must learn habits to be neat, punctual, polite and polished. For some it comes more easily than for others but you can’t just say ‘I have ADHD’ and be done with it. ADHD is an explanation, not an excuse. You may find it harder to get up on time, so set more alarms, incentivise yourself to get up, get organised the night before so you can sleep in longer. These are all habits that can help you but the modern mindset is ‘I have ADHD, I’ll always be late’. It’s appalling.
as someone with ADHD i completely agree it’s not an excuse. It does make some aspects of my life harder but learning to use tools and habits is how you can learn to live with it. Definitely no excuse.
I wish they would show these in school today...they are classic.
I was saying that...!!! Some of them are genuinely helpful and the kids can see they are no uniquely picked upon, kids in 1950 had similar problems.
The teachers would forever be pausing the video to explain...that's a wind up clock...that's called a book....
@@johenderson3742😂
I was so engraved into this film that when it ended. I had forgotten that I'm living in 2019 and felt like I had time travel to the future lol
Times have really change in the way we do things but the moral good of good living basic never change.
So right you are. Good values and morals NEVER change.
So weird, I’m having the same experience. I walked into Walmart feeling like I walked into the future and it’s a mess.
Yes, Barbara, get your act together, so you can join the Mean Girls Club, instead of being someone the Mean Girls are mean to.
oh common Brookie Pooh. be nicey goo.
Lol 😆😂
Its like “Be killed or kill”
It's like the exact opposite of what any modern day teen movie would teach you. These days they would tell you to forget the mean girls, be yourself and find people like you to hang with. This one? "DO EVERYTHING SO THAT THE MEANIES LIKE YOU"
@@GTA5Player1 How were they mean? They literally invited her to their house and to the party and were polite to her even though she was rude.
The narrator is giving me serious flashback of my convent school experience!
Barbra is my daily mood except my clothes aren't dirty.
As someone with depression, this day seems like a war to me.
This is so outdated.
@@joannelarose8198 Not sure what that has to do with what I said, but ok...
@@michaelpryor78 don't be ludicrous that's ain't real
@@michaelpryor78 what Joanne's commend had to do with it, is the fact that back then the likes of depression and so on were overlooked, and these videos would be pushed into school's societies to ensure that regardless of how you'd feel, you'd be doing these anyway else you'd let your family down.
Back then the mental health and the whatnot weren't discussed, and so yes, it is outdated. This would be, if in today's society, changed to relate to multiple mental health problems, and also physical disabilities.
The thing is, yes it’s old but the messages in it are absolutely timeless. Another difference is the orderly routine of the home, the parents. The foundation was there that for many kids is not now. None of the girl’s problems are that rare for teens and they can be overcome with help.
While the world falls apart all around me, I seek solace in these Coronet films.
Sometimes it isn't neurological divergence, sometimes it's just poor habits that don't serve us. Neurologically divergent or not, the tips offered can definitely aid one in building routine and getting along socially.
They aided me for certain. I developed better habits *after* watching this short film. I can see why people would want to diagnose Barbara with ADHD or something, but that ironically rids her (and those with ADHD) of their agency. Sometimes, people can have bad habits simply because they have bad habits. I used to have a messy room, was rude during conversation, etc. That wasn't because ADHD or even my diagnosed autism. I just simply had bad or nonexisting good habits. Many people do. Bad habits aren't a sign of a mental disorder.
they deadass left her out though
Right? There was only one person who asked her a question to try and include her.
Honestly? This is actually very accurate and still very relevant.
It's somewhat... harsh... but the message is there. I love the 50s videos because they're informative, sensible and pack a punch.
The message from this video?
Get up on time, be kind and courteous to those who do nice things for you, eat properly, wear clean clothes, have a breakfast, be on time, do your work, pay attention at school, don't be a gobshite, do your work, be organised, get enough rest and wash.
I was a Barbara throughout high school and I fucking hated it. I could have been more Helen if I'd have tried.
I still tryna to be helen
Honestly I agree. This like just one of the very few films of this era still relavent.
Life is harsh tho! If we soften up too much itll eat us alive
harsh? come on. truth it not HARSH. it's helpful. people need to grow a thicker skin. too many weak-minded people with these mindsets out there and it's keeping society down.
@@SpaceMuffin Your name is Space Muffin and you're in a UA-cam comments section. You can't talk about keeping society down lmao.
I love what she's done with her hair is that the Tizzy look
This video should be titled - successful mature people versus immature unsuccessful people. Great info for us all!!!! I’m married to a Helen. I have ADD and lived as a Barbara until working on it for years now. The Helen’s in life are far less stressed out and far more successful. I wish I had seen this in my teens.
Who liked this video before watching it? *habit*
Your Solar Girl good job helen :}
Well this explains a lot!! This must be the narrative tape that ran in my mother's head as she berated me on the daily for the least infraction. My drawers still look like Barbara's....I still have the half-finished afghan LOL
I think my mom was raised on these things. It's tough for a natural Barbara to have a Helen mom. They don't actually help you in life, just tear you down slowly with passive aggressive comments about what's wrong with you and how you could be better. Thanks mom.
The lead actress was in the movie A Tree Grows In Brooklyn! She is such a good actress! She was so good in this too!
Missy Glitter Vlogs what’s her name?
I believe she's referring to Peggy Ann Garner, although there is no mention of this film (Habit Patterns) on her wikipedia page.
No, that’s also not her. There is no definite info on who this young lady is. Garner would have been older than this girl at the time this was made, and they don’t look alike. The girl playing Barbara was in this and one other episode for Knickerbocker Productions, but there are no credits that give her name.
Actually the actress who played Barbara was Judith O’Dea, and she went on to play another Barbara in the classic zombie movie Night Of The Living Dead
@@JustAPrayerGoogle it and her DOB is 1945 I don't think it's true because she does not look 8-9 year old in this movie
Barbara's real problem is the wallpaper in her bedroom.
Story of my life. I think Barbara and I could be good friends.
Everly Green failing friends
John Queenie Lajot failing friends 🤝🤠
Dang that really made me feel identified in the worst way, I will begin to change the patterns I created and take back control of my life. I HOPE ANY ONE READING THIS DOES TOO!!!
Annes dress has pockets!!!!!
I love pockets on dresses and skirts
I noticed that too, very cool!!
Pockets!!!
This video is actually an excellent guide for today's society as well. I love all these old PSA films.
ADD vs. OCD...
Lol
TEA
truth! I think that Barbara may also have Nonverbal learning disorder (NVLD/NLD) bc she's not great with social skills (like me, who also has NVLD).
😄 adhd still into adult hood probably worse now tbh
Ironic that Helen died from heart disease when she was 47 b/c she was jolted awake by alarm clocks; ate high cholesterol breakfasts; and never developed good exercise habits b/c she was driven to school every day.
Barbara, on the other hand, woke up gradually; practiced intermittent fasting; and jogged to school. She's still alive and well.
It's all about perspective!😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hey kids, you know all your little insecurities about your looks and popularity? They’re all true, everyone can see them and you should worry about them!
😂
Mark Lanton you should look up the word “sarcasm” old man.
*They are true, but you can do something about them - here is how.
@@HereIAm247 Another comment just drew me back to this video. Your comment is reasonable, but it doesn't reflect what the narrator said. Yes, they sort of touch on the how after berating the main character.
And I realize why this bothers me so much is because I have spent a lot of time in therapy trying not to berate myself like the narrator. Ironically, self talk was a habit I had to learn, but I didn't need shame to learn it.
I love how Helen and her mom enjoy Helen's dad's opinions on the news.....
@@mishasunne9512 true 😂😂😂😂😂
Well, maybe Barbara doesn't have that option.
This is why they created school uniforms! No need to spend ages matching an outfit every day.
Well back then it didn't take as long because everything was black and white and matched.
Just plan the night beforehand
It doesn't take that long, they started uniform because not everyone can afford new clothes
@@ericag5346 it was also do much easier to make conversation before this because you didn't even have to speak words, just subtitles.
@@randomPerson-ul1jq oh you're right! There were silent movies before sounds and words! Good call! 😆
I watched this video in middle school back in the day and it left a real impression. I started hanging my clothes as Helen did. It was a good way to rotate my outfits.
You're still the hottest one at the party, Barbara, so there's that...
No lies
True lol
This all sounds a lot like my experience in camp. When I was in camp, I shared a room with another girl my age and I woke up super early to get extra time to bath, clean, dress and read. It felt really good to have a fresh start like that everyday. However, my roommate woke up late everyday and got panic to find her underwear and clothes and to make it in time, which were thrown under the bed.
Thanks for that tip, Helen.
I was your roommate😅
This may be old fashioned now 2020 but the same things still resonate, basically we all have the same social hopes and fears whatever era we happened to be young in.
Actionable Summary: 🙂
- When you wake up, then establish a morning routine that includes grooming and a healthy breakfast.
- When selecting your clothes, then make sure they're clean and properly matched.
- When leaving for school or work, then be on time and well-prepared.
- When planning your day, then consider the special events that might take place and prepare accordingly.
- When engaging in conversations, then listen actively and participate in a way that adds value instead of just talking about yourself.
- When maintaining personal hygiene like cleaning fingernails, then make it a regular habit to avoid being caught unprepared.
- When handling your clothes after wearing them, then check them for cleaning requirements and hang them properly for further use.
- When planning for the next day, then make the habit of organizing your clothes and tasks in the right order.
- When you realize you have bad habits, then recognize the need for change and make conscious efforts to establish better habits in their place.
- When you end your day, then ensure you get proper rest by sleeping at reasonable hours.
They were talking about themselves, and their activities too. But when she tried it, they made her more of an outcast.
Within the ten ensuing years after the release of this film our Barbara will be out on the road living the quintessential epic, “Rebel Without A Scarf.”
Actually fun fact, 14 years after this short the actress who played Barbara went on to play another Barbara in the classic zombie movie Night Of The Living Dead
Even in the '50s they had 'THE' chair with the clothes.
Wow who could believe the habits of the 50s still apply for today’s teenagers as they said a good habit takes time but worth it 👍❤️🇺🇸
Back then, there were no social media distractions, and you couldn't create a fake persona on line to hide behind. Kids got together regularly to socialize face to face, and to develop their social world. So it was important to fit in, and demonstrate that you could get along in that world.
I laughed when she put her slippers back on simply to walk to the end of the bed and pick her gown back up off the floor.
Neurodivergent teen here! I think habit patterns and planning is very important and stress relieving. It can be difficult at the start but in the end it’s very helpful, beneficial, AND it saves a lot of anxiety. Start off small. One step at a time. It’s all about progress. Remember, everyone; you got this! ❤❤
Just discovered these movies .....what a gem they are. I have to laugh my head off. Think of it....20 years later everybody is smoking grass and having wild sex with every one.....and it looks like Barbara’s generation
Yeah things are so much better now that everyone is useless and lazy without any guidance or assertion.
OOF
yes just like back then nobody was incredibly misogynistic or racist and everyobody was white and neat and there were no social issues at all
are you so stupid as to base your perception of a time period and its people off a scripted film
Well, teens back then did some of those things too, but they didn't have cellphones to record it.
@@tensugarcubes Why can't we have the best of both worlds? Organized lives, proper values, and no hatred for otherkinds? Both are bad in different ways.
When your depression/anxiety sounds exactly like the narrator.
Holy moly, McGraw-Hill!? Our history textbook is from this company! I didn't know they're that old!
McGraw-Hill was founded in 1888. Yeah, they're "that old."
Helen isn't nearly as prepared for a collision with chaos as Barb is.
"She keeps her clothes clean and mended", when people were fixing things instead of throwing out and get another.
Currently watching this at 1:36 AM on a school night, oh dear.
Did you develop any habits now?
They need to make these videos again. Many people would benefit from the advice in all these old vids.
I love these videos. People were so fancy and proper back then.
I wish these mannerisms were still around today
@@gw437 that's a beautiful thing!
G W same with me, I don’t cuss, I use manners, people might think that’s boring but they need to remember, the world was like that before things change, I also don’t listen to rap or anything like that
... And white!!!
Social organization for teens in school and community much much healthier then. Pleasant conversation skills, dressing appropriately for different situations, polite manners need to be taught and kids given safe fun opportunities to practice them.
Love the Iris wall paper in Barbara's room
Thank you! There’s some comments that keep dragging the wallpaper through the mud 🥲
Narrator: "It's a little late for tears, isn't it, Barbera?"
Barbera: "You're right. I should have had the forsite to cry sometime BEFORE the worst day of my life you judgmental voice!"
Helen stays ready, so she doesn’t have to get ready
Y’all really self diagnosing people in these comments. Maybe she’s just sloppy 🤦🏽♀️