I've felt like this for so long and it's a hard feeling to describe really, after wanting to be a "man" for so long and finally getting to that point where no one questions your gender you assume that you're done now and you can finally be yourself, until you realise that being trans and assuming your transness was part of who you were all along, it's a hard line to walk on and something I'm still managing
I think it's okay to want to be stealth as long as you're aware that you are always a trans man, never a cis man and that's okay and important to embrace. I know so many trans men who go stealth and start to feel ashamed of the trans part of themselves because they ignore it, but the truth is what it is. We shouldn't aspire to cis requirements of manhood/gender simply because we will never have it. As long as you've come to terms with that and are not just coping out of fear or insecurity, then it's fine. Being stealth for safety in conservative areas is also completely fair.
It's def ok to be stealth, but not telling people on the first date in my opinion is not okay, because then you are keeping something away from someone that might not be okay with it and someone you might have a future with.
I don't think that be a trans man it's bad or something, but just call yourself a man omitted the trans part doesn't have to be a problem at all. I think that be transgender it is a part of our lives but we don't need to feel obligated to feel proud about it, we just can live a normal life passing as cis man and don't put a lot of attention to "the trans part". Be trans could be (and is) a really important part of our lives, something to remember, but it doesn't significate that we are obligated to think a lot about
I've felt like this for so long and it's a hard feeling to describe really, after wanting to be a "man" for so long and finally getting to that point where no one questions your gender you assume that you're done now and you can finally be yourself, until you realise that being trans and assuming your transness was part of who you were all along, it's a hard line to walk on and something I'm still managing
I think it's okay to want to be stealth as long as you're aware that you are always a trans man, never a cis man and that's okay and important to embrace. I know so many trans men who go stealth and start to feel ashamed of the trans part of themselves because they ignore it, but the truth is what it is. We shouldn't aspire to cis requirements of manhood/gender simply because we will never have it. As long as you've come to terms with that and are not just coping out of fear or insecurity, then it's fine. Being stealth for safety in conservative areas is also completely fair.
I think wanting to be stealth is normal. Not wanting to be seen differently than other men is 100% valid, but unfortunately not always easy.
It's def ok to be stealth, but not telling people on the first date in my opinion is not okay, because then you are keeping something away from someone that might not be okay with it and someone you might have a future with.
it depends on how the dates going. if i can tell im in a safe situation i always tell them, but if not then i dont and dont have a second date.
I don't think that be a trans man it's bad or something, but just call yourself a man omitted the trans part doesn't have to be a problem at all. I think that be transgender it is a part of our lives but we don't need to feel obligated to feel proud about it, we just can live a normal life passing as cis man and don't put a lot of attention to "the trans part". Be trans could be (and is) a really important part of our lives, something to remember, but it doesn't significate that we are obligated to think a lot about