As someone who lost her mom unexpectedly. I changed my whole life when it came to career and happiness and it made such a difference in my life. You are only stuck if you believe you're stuck. Good luck to all!!! Happy Sunday
I actually was unaware that you were retired. But I definitely get it. People can be very insensitive and entitled when you've always just been available and you are going through things. Sure those things may feel small to others, but it wasn't small to you or your spirit. I'm sorry for your loss, I'm sure your Mother is proud of you following your heart.
Deeper than hair, became one of the best hairdressers, in my book, when I first watched her video, a few years back, where some bully girls, had cut a chunk of hair out this little girls hair. She was such a sweet looking little girl, and you could tell her joy was gone, behind that. I saw, and felt the tender loving care Deeper Than Hair did on caring for her hair, and made her hair so beautiful, the little girl had the prettiest, widest smile, and her joy was restored. After then, Deeper Than Hair became the best, to me. I just saw her beautiful heart.
Love your comments. I lost my sister in July. My job did not care. I buried her in a Monday and was back working on a Wednesday. My doctor write me off for anxiety and depression. I am now trying to figure out how to leave Corporate America. I should have made the move before she died. Thank you for your story. I'm sorry for your loss. I know what it is to lose both parents. It's hard and you feel orphaned. I will be praying for you. God Bless
Sorry for your loss. My moms job called her to come in THE DAY OF her mother’s funeral because they “ needed” her. Looking back she said she should have told them eff themselves. You matter, your grieving is a process jobs will go on without us they can figure it out.
@@cleocatra9324 I remember when I was a senior in high school (2014) I had just finished my finals and my mom told me my grandma just passed from cancer and we were leaving to go see her. I had to call into my $7.80/hr retail job crying to say I wasn’t coming in because of my grandma passing and the manager literally goes “well did you find someone to cover your shift?” Corporate America is the devil sometimes.
@@nahmastay3300 im sorry. Yeah they sure dont have much empathy in many places. Remember you could drop dead tomorrow and your job will replace you, but your family cant.
Thank you for your inspirational message. I keep reminding myself, God wants the best for me. I'm pivoting. Cancer in '16, treatment in '17, job ended in '17, Dad passed on Thanksgiving in '18, took care of Mom & she passed in 10/21. It's a lot. But, I'm looking forward to a new chapter in 2023!
Those of us who are always there for everyone else often find that when we really need support--it's just not there. The same people who say, "Oh you know you can call me any time" but when we do, all we get is a handful of excuses. You end up feeling stupid because you believed what they said, and you end up dealing with the situation alone. Then when you see that person somewhere they're like, "Girl, where have you been?" Yeah, I been dealing with my life. Where have YOU been?
I lost my son two weeks after they told me he had cancer so your words really rang true to me. Losing someone you love so much really puts everything in perspective. I wish you the best ❤
Gloria Landolfi, I am so sorry for your loss, I lost a child at 36 weeks, and although she was an infant, 45 years later, I am still grieving her loss. I lost my best friend of 24 years to cancer and six months later, my mother died of cancer. But that old devil wasn't through, a year later my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal colon/rectum cancer and I had had enough. I cried out to God in such a wail that He heard from heaven and came to my rescue, to make a long story short, after over 25 years, my husband is still alive, AIN'T GOD GOOD?
I’ve been a nurse 25 years and yes the switch up is very necessary. The last 2 years I stepped away from bedside and it’s been uplifting. I feel like a person again.
I’m an RN as well and this month makes 27years of bedside nursing, I’m exhausted and in need of a change……… It’s been so mentally challenging that am ready to throw the towel in but reality hits unfortunately… responsibility and Bills Bills Bills……😆 It’s great that some people can step away and find another vocation or even business idea/
I lost both parents as a child and had a baby at nineteen years old. God gives us beauty for ashes and gives us strength. I love your channel and I respect your vulnerability. We will survive,
i love the quote at the beginning so so true. so many people feel guilty for putting their needs first, but, the only way you can truly help others is by helping yourself first.
Don't build a home on a bank of sand, it's the same principle. If you cannot stabilize yourself, you'll only end up bringing those down you try to help
The only problem I have with it is that sometimes what's best for you might actively hurt someone else. It's just that people can use a quote like that to push someone else down to lift themselves up, because that's what's best for them. That wasn't the intent of the quote, just gotta watch out for people who will misconstrue it.
This beginning quote is very relevant to where I am in my life. I quit teaching after 10 years because I was totally unhappy and stressed beyond belief. I left and didn’t really have a plan but Good works it all out for our goods so now I work from home. Love it. Less money but I have peace and joy! Money can’t buy those.
I am in that situation now. I was working as a teacher for a few years, but the job is so incredibly tough and mentally draining for me. So I've gone back to uni to change professions, and I'm way happier now. Sending hugs to you and everyone else in the same or a similar situation! :-)
I also quit after 10 years. I’m a substitute teacher into my twenty-fifth school year. It’s much less stressful than being a regular teacher. I could work when and where I’d like.
We are all battling something right now … some more aware than other. I pray for healing and happiness … genuine happiness for you all . May you find the voice within yourself and know that’s it’s ok to not be ok 🙌🏾🙏🏾❤️🩹
I can understand the burn out completely. I was a gymnast for 17 years and tried to be judge for about 4 years after I quit gymnastics and I still was just so burnt out with it. It’s okay to take a step back and watch others meet goals with it and cheer them on it’s just as fulfilling to see ❤
@@missccarr89 More than likely the burn out wasn't similar to the twisties. It sounds like Lindy has been in the sport for over 2 decades and has constantly been engaged in the sport, which can be really draining once the season starts it takes a toll physically on someone's body. Once gymnastics season starts gymnasts are constantly practicing, even judging competitions takes a toll because they have to provide constructive feedback to the athletes, score them, competitions last for hours, and they're constantly going on during comp season. Judges aren't really getting breaks once they have to start working.
I feel the same way now . Been working in warehouses (in clouding the post office ) for eight years . I found a job .. it’s not a warehouse but we still on our feet for 12 hours with rotating shifts . I’m just over getting up going to work tbh . I’m tired
@@dawnssful we practiced year round during summer we would have 8hour practices everyday it’s a very mentally and physically draining sport. And judging it was tiring just trying to work with coach’s about why gymnasts got the scores they did. It’s a lot of advocating not only for yourself but others too.
Thank you for sharing your story because sometimes grief can be isolating. I lost my mom in 2017 and my dad went in to hospice and passed shortly after. I worked hard for my company and every time they needed me I was there. After my first loss I went back and didn’t even get a sympathy email. In fact I had my boss email me about taking too much time off the phone. I went on leave and then had them question how I could care for my kids and my sick father if I was so depressed. I let my leave run out and I never returned. I’m working again for another company that seems to be better but at the first sign of bs I’m out. My sanity is worth so much more than being stuck serving that which doesn’t serve me. My whole outlook is different now. 💜
I love your honesty and spirit so much. I lost my Mom in 2017 and my Dad in 2018. I am not the same person. It is literally the hardest thing that I have ever had to endure. Thank God for sending the right people and situations just when we need it! Don’t you ever give up! This world needs you! Much love from Texas!❤
Maksmakomo, I know it's hard. I lost my Mom 20 years ago, and it's still hard. However, it does help to talk to an empathetic professional therapist. It helped me to get through it. Much love and concern for you. 💜💜
I appreciate when you tubers decide to share personal information with the viewers. You all are faced with constant commentary, judgment, and unnecessary negativity….. choosing to be vulnerable on these platforms gives warrior vibes! I’m always grateful for the insight. Thank you❤
Though always be careful to not fall prey to a para-social relationship. We know things about the people online. We do NOT actually know them. At the end of the day, we're all still strangers to each other. But empathizing and relating to that person online is perfectly fine. And I bring that part up because I think those people who felt they had some kind of right to snap her picture secretly despite her saying she wasn't in a good space to want to take pictures were probably such parasitic people who thought they "knew" her.
Lovey I lost both my parents in 2018, eight months apart. It changed my life in so many ways. All I can say is that there's never a good age to be an orphan. That feeling of "now it's just me" pushes you into such a different direction, and if you're not feeling altogether safe in your situation, that feeling will drive you to make the changes you need to make. Don't wait until your loved ones are gone to find where you are safe to stretch and grow.
This is a task. I’m realizing a safe space for me is non-existent. I just had a birthday this month and I’m 37. My parents are alive and we all live in three diff states 800 mi apart. It’s such a weird and unsettling feeling to have them, but to also not because I know now that they can’t give me that sense of belonging. 😩 It’s taken this long, but I finally see it’s not their job. It’s mine.
I really appreciate this comment. I lost my dad in 2020 due to Covid. I’m so grateful my mom is still here but I cannot get over the fear of losing her or what my life will be like without my mom. I’m really trying to figure out my purpose and direction, and how to do things on my own because for all my life, my parents have always been there for me in every way imaginable. The fact that I am this fearful really makes me want to figure it out while she still here..
@@MsEllee God bless you lovey. I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't count out the unconventional directions either. My personal process caused me to dump everything and go be an artist and live on a beach in Spain There are a million ways to do life - none of which were taught to you by your parents. You don't have to have it all figured out, just take yourself in the direction that makes you feel safe and good, and continue to get rid of the things that make you feel the opposite. Money isn't always necessary. I met a dude last night who said "It will be ten years before I can move here" I said "TEN YEARS? We could all be dead in ten years. Come here NOW!" He really believes he has to have everything in perfect order. Life doesn't work like that. Perfect plans die on the drafting table. Make the first step and just keep going. I wish you every happiness.
When Covid started, my boss at the barbershop I was working at was charging us $1000 a month to work for him then when c19 happened & we couldn’t work at the shop anymore, he could care less that all I had was $70 to my name he wanted those $70 because I worked that week and he told me that I was getting a deal from him and then I told him well I can give you the $70 or I can buy my family groceries he did not care at all about me even though I’ve already given him $12,000 to work for a year before that! Ever since then I have never been in a shop and I will never go to a barbershop ever again.
I'm a salon owner and I had a booth renter in my salon. We were out of work during Covid for 8 weeks. I didn't charge her booth rent at all. But guess what? I was still obligated to pay my rent for the salon to the owner of the building. Also the booth renters took an extra 2 weeks off to decide if she wanted to come back. I still didn't charge her. That's 10 weeks free. Come to find out while I was trying to be fair and have a good heart, she was doing hair from home getting paid while I was giving her free booth rent. Life isn't fair and I often wonder why those who don't treat people right have good stylists working in their salon. I have space in my salon and no good stylists to work there.
@@MsBlacMusicButterfly Hopefully your kindness is rewarded in another way. Like I said, COVID showed what some employers really are, and you sound like you are fantastic. Unfortunately it also showed what some people will do to take advantage.
Thank you for the inspiration. After doing hair for 41 years. Customers had become heartless it was all about them. If I was sick , death in the family they were like but I still want hair done. I had to put it to a end. To make a long story short. I started a new chapter in my life.
I honestly believe that having your hair done by you would be such a lovely and relaxing experience ☺️☺️ the way you handle your customers hair is so relaxing to watch 😌
I think you’re a wonderful hairstylist. I honestly can watch your videos straight through without skipping through because I want to hear what you have to say. I believe your voice is your gift.
I am 74 yo my mother died 36 years ago life changed for me even today I can't go through a Holiday the same Mom always made everything better. I love and miss you Mom
I had some envious people in my close circle that I had to let go. I didn’t want to believe it but the signs were there. What you said about discernment and accepting the signs 👏🏾
First, I want to say that I am sorry to hear about the lost of your mom. I remember in several of your videos you talked about your parents and how close you all were. I pray you receive the love, compassion, and support you need. Healing is a process and there is no timeline when working through grief and loss. With that said, congrats on having the freedom to retire and do what you love the way that makes you happiest! Finally, I am sorry that some people can’t except that no is a complete sentence (thanks Oprah for teaching me that one). Giving an explanation on why should not be necessary. Hopefully, people with respect your boundaries moving forward.
I didn't expect to get that story when I saw the title! I commend you on knowing your worth and pivoting on faith! I was going to therapy for years after my mom passed just to get time off work. It became a pattern every year! As soon as I worked enough hours to build my time, I would call out again. I didn't care. Until one day a manager, who I considered a friend, asked " whats going on with you?" The question came from a place of concern, but mostly from a place of business. "You're here to do a job, and while you're here you have to do your job" - she said. At that moment I remember thinking - what if I wasn't here - That question was so packed w emotion that I went to my car and cried my entire lunch hour in the parking lot. It was the first time I considered taking my life. Thats when I knew my time was up. I was paid very well. Had a "good job w benefits". The job itself was relatively easy because had acquired so much experience and knowledge, but I had to go. It was serving no purpose. I could no longer work 10 hours a day to pay bills and cry in my car for an hour. The worst part was I never knew when that feeling was going to hit, but then I began to see the signs of despair. I used to wake up feeling it. Then jokingly tell my friends, let me apologize Now, because I Know I have an attitude!! We would laugh , but I was very serious. In hindsight I actually appreciate my manager's words because it opened my eyes. I'm not in a better place... but i'm not crying in my car either. 🙏
What you described is what I feel makes us fear success sometimes. What it brings out of other people is shocking. You really do have to pivot and re-think it all. So glad you are educating us. In my decades of going to stylists, this wasn't done. now with UA-cam, they probably do it more. Haven't been to one in years. Desperately need to.
AMEN! Going through something similar right now. Just lost a parent & still caregiving for another. People can be so inconsiderate and uncaring and will attempt to suck all the life out of you when you're down. I don't mind saying no anymore. In fact, I don't wait for them to even ask anything of me, it's an automatic NO! Glad you pivoted and found another path within your industry to follow. I'm currently re-assessing doing the same myself. Prayers and continued well wishes to you.
You did the right thing for you, my mam died many years ago, it was the worst day of my life I still miss her every day of my life. , you are so talented and education is such a giving thing I just know she is so proud of you. ❤
You've come a long way lady. I've been watching you for a while. I very rarely comment. You have grown in faith and wisdom. May God continue to bless and keep you, may his face shine down on you and give you peace.
I lost my mom unexpectedly as well and it completely shattered my life. I didn't go back to work for 2 months. It was so hard everyone offering condolences but didn't really care. I ended leaving that job. I am still struggling and she passed in 2011. Sometimes you have to do what's best for you!
I absolutely understand what you mean sis...when God gifts you to be a giver it's never easy. Giving comes easy when it's naturally in you but it's when you need to be given to that you see that most people aren't willing to give in the same way you have and it hurts. I'm so very glad that you've decided to make the choices that fulfill you most and God's will is still going forward because you're STILL blessing others with knowledge and skill while operating in things that bring you joy, thank you 🙏🏽!
When your parents pass perspective changes! Been there and I made big changes in my life that are good for me. Women are often the caretakers of all the people that surround them and suffer from burnout I think especially as you get older. Self-care is so important!!!
It is GREATLY appreciated by me that you decided to continue to do educational videos on UA-cam. I haven’t been on here much except to watch what you do next. Sometimes (more than we’d like to admit) it’s all about what someone can “do for me” and not take the time to open their eyes and notice that someone may be going through something. Always take the time you need FOR YOU because you have to! PERIOD! You shouldn’t need to apologize or explain. Sending prayers and condolences….🙏🏾💜 Rae❤
Too cute!!!! How I wish I had your guts. I did hair for 44 years before I threw in the towel. The pandemic helped me make that final decision. Loved it for a long time but in the end, it was the money that kept me there!!! It was a good living, but I have to be honest, I do not miss it in any way, shape or form!!! I do miss some of the clients, I was fortunate to have some real gems!! Thanks for sharing your knowledge and your story!!! Blessing to you!
On July 8 of this year, I lost my mom. I can relate to your story. The world keeps going. Thank you for sharing your journey. Truly deeper than hair. Be blessed Sis.
I look forward to your videos so much, I know you've going through it but PLEASE don't doubt yourself or undermine yourself! You are a wonderful human being and a light for us all! If another person pushes you into the light, I hope you won't shy away because you deserve it!!
I may never meet you in this lifetime or ever be granted the privilege to sit on your chair. However I love you & Thank you for being so selfless to all of your subs here on UA-cam. May God continue to bless you through your journey of adjustment of unfortunate circumstances 🙏
My "Philly Sista," you touched my heart today. Thank you for these beautiful words. I understand your pain. I lost my grandmother in 2009 who was my mother, best friend, and the most precious person God has given to me. When my grandmom went home to glory I pivoted the hell out of Philly to Las Vegas, NV for seven years. Then I returned to Philly in 2017 due to a family issue. Now I going to pivot into a new and exciting role in my life. I'm in college pursuing a new career. Planning on moving out of state again. And redesigning my life! You are so right when things don't go the way you want "PIVOT" in another direction. Change is good for the soul! Also, the young lady's hair is fabulous. As always your work is a masterpiece. Keep up the awesome work!
That one two punch of loosing your parents had to have been hard and I remember watching you before, during and after both events. You are still standing and I hope thriving no matter the curve balls this life can and does throw. Thanks for not letting the selfishness of others stop you from sharing your heart and your talent.
I’ve been hustling for 8 years, and have recently decided to go back to college . Im totally burned out from hustling…Just being on campus, thinking about a real career now makes me happy! I feel u🙏🏽❤️
Wonderful Wise Woman…my name is Carla..I came for the hair because I am going bald at 74 years old. I grow hair everywhere but my head. But I became engrossed in your story and you lifted my soul. I got the better part of you. You are a chance gift from the great spirit. THANK YOU AND THANK GOD
You are such a Beautiful and Gentle Soul. Your Spirit is so inspirational and I thank God for placing that in you. You are an example of what the Word speaks of "Being made in His Image. Surely I can see and feel God's reflection in you my Sister. You are 💜👑💜. Blessings 💞
I'm sorry what you've been thorugh, and grateful you've shared it with us. I am actually going through a difficult moment related to business as well, I just got fired after working for only a month. Didn't even get the chance to show how I work. And that just comes to show that business market is just like that unfortenately. But your speech just made me feel courage to keep going on. Love your content
Can I tell u how much u inspired n helped me today...truly u were a GOD SEND...n I'm usually the one helping people...which I luv to do....I woke up this morning feeling so heavy...which is unusual... very unusual...I'm a nurse of 22 years in newyork...my son David just graduated Harvard Medical school, M.D., M.P.H....I'm 53 n life is blessed...but today the weight of ministry..n my profession just layed on me so heavy...I know attacks of the enemy...n surely it was an attack...but you just blessed me soooooo much...I mean that...thk u...u are such a blessed , pure soul...that's rare....may the LORD continue to bless u n ur family in all ur endeavors..n may his angels keep watch n protection as always...in JESUS MIGHTY UNMATCHABLE NAME....thk u....I just needed to hear...I don't need to be perfect...n it's ok...yep even when ur blessed to feel a little down...n its ok to do whats best for me sometimes...rather than continue to pour when ur empty....we always get back up..tears were rolling n cleansing today...u r a very strong woman....GOD BLESS U
I just moved back to PA after 10 years, and got so frustrated because my FHI iron got damaged in the move and had trouble finding other reliable flat irons online, until I remembered YOU had some on your site. Decided to learn more about your salon and found out where it was and was happy to see I'm a nice drive away! Although I'm bummed you're no longer behind the chair, I'm happy you're doing what's best for you. Still plan on making an appointment in December. It's been awhile since I've had my hair straight , its darn near waist length and my arms are fatigued from doing it in twists and box braids lol So what better place to trust my tresses with than your business! So excited. I wish you oceans of love and peace ❤️ also, I adore your message as someone who is transitioning from a safe career in STEM that isn't fulfilling, to writing fiction. It definitely resonated and reminded me to keep going. ❤️
Great video!! I was a stylist for 10 years with a full book and made great money... But I lost that spark of joy that I had for the first several years and decided to move on to an entirely different career. Was VERY scary but ended up being a great move! Thanks for your great content!
My God. I didn't know you retired. God is good. Bless you on this next chapter and journey in your life. It has been truly a blessing to watch you do clients hair. You really care and have the patience. Sorry for your loss. I feel you on your decision and thank you for sharing. This really resonate for me. I left the beauty industry as well for over 20 years and this new chapter is not easy.
Your story hit so hard. Sometimes we have to be selfish and do things to just benefit ourselves. It seems selfish I guess but you can't just give give give all the time especially when at the end of the day the takers and users- no matter how nice they are- dont care about you. That's something i had to realize for myself. Also burnout is real! Thank you so much for this
Za and her hair are beautiful. Sometimes this world will chew you up and spit you out, but we have to find strength to keep moving. You are right do what makes you happy and bring you joy. You may also loose some people finding that happiness. I’m glad you’re feeling better and doing what makes you happy 💜💜💜
Key I needed this. I’ve been doubting my recent decision to leave my job. I did love it but it’s gotten to take up too much of my life. Work-life balance is a real thing. Especially when you “give so much of yourself to the game and get nothing back.” I feel you. I’m pivoting and I don’t feel guilty! You are a huge inspiration to me. Thank you for this video, thank you for being you, and thank you for choosing you. God bless. 💕
I absolutely feel like this video was meant for me to see ! Man 😢😢😢😩😩😩I’m over here in tears because I feel your every word. I’m a hairstylist and have been one for over 22 years. I lost my18 year old son (Shad) now 19 years in heaven . My Angel now .❤ I have had similar feelings about my time as a hairstylist, especially after losing my son. I feel unappreciated and going through something so traumatic as losing my son to cancer. Coming back to the salon doesn’t feel the same. I am not feeling it as much. Love my clientele & love what I do,but I feel it’s not reciprocated. Listening to you made me feel like it’s ok to feel the burnout and want to go to the next level. Not sure what this is but I don’t feel like completely leaving the salon scene! I appreciate you and love your work and honesty. You have given me a different outlook regarding stylist burnout and when it’s time to go. And being ok with your decision. Thank you and I’m sure my son would be so proud of me. Love you Shad 🤍🕊
This may be late to respond you may not never see this. I can differently relate. I am a Registered Nurse for over 22 years. Lost my mom in 2007 and life never been the same. One would think after all those years I would gotten better but it still hurts. Life continues to throw curve balls and the one person, my mom, I think can only help me through is not here. It’s hard. As for you keep pressing, stay strong and positive as I would do as well.
Hope everything is okay and pray that the lord heal, and renew you again. Life is not easy but keep pushing you are not alone. Thank you for helping others despite, your own struggles ( nurse is not easy)
I don't know you, and you don't know me. I just came across your channel for the first time. Yet, I feel it's important in this moment for me to say, "Thank You!" for sharing from your heart. You are a warrior and your words resonated deep in my soul. My sincerest condolences for the loss of your mother. The loss of a loved one is hard no matter what, but there's something about when your momma dies (close or not) that causes us to see things differently: more clearly. Thank you for doing what you needed to do for yourself in a mature, responsible manner and for encouraging others to do the same. Feeling inspired by your courage and strength to be your authentic self. Blessings on your whole life!
Many Blessings to you Kee...you must do what is best for you!! Anyone who can't understand that...tell them too keep living and they'll find out. Momma and Daddy used too say.."All money ain't good money and money is not your Saving Grace..God is".💪🏾🙏🏾💝
I lost my mom last yr in October and I'm still grieving 😔. I think about my mom everyday. I'm going to pray with you that things get better for you and that in your retirement you take care of self. I know I am. 💯💪🏾💞
Babe girl you said a mouth full. I've been there talking myself out of blessings but when God has something for you it's just that. I love how you have been so transparent on your channel.
I personally think curly cuts work out if you never wear your hair straight like me I never flat iron my hair and don’t plan on it so I want my hair cut in it’s curly form so I know what it’s gonna look like the next time I wash my hair
Sis, my condolences for your loss. Listen......losing your mother is a different feeling than losing anyone else. The grieving process is different for everyone. I left a job I worked at for 20 years because they stopped caring and I was burnout and when I left, I had no plan. Assured, my God who has always taken care of me never stopped. It was the best decision I ever made. It sometimes takes stepping back in order to know which way you need to pivot, as you say. Wishing you well on your next journey.❤
i love how you take your time. i got some much backlash from people in my life for taking my time so i thought i had to rush my hair to show i can do hair. but seeing you take your time & give that tlc made me realize nothing's wrong with it at all.
I am so sorry for your loss! Words never seem like enough in these times. But know that your videos and the wonderful words You use, from the inspirational quotes at the start, to the education given about hair care and styling means so much to so many people. I am truly sorry you were mistreated, but now you are on a better path. Thank You for your kindness and continuing to share your wealth of knowledge, it's very inspiring. Sending you love and peace! 💞
I admire you and your decision ... I live in ny I retired in March 2020 Before the shut down. I was a MAHU for 22 years in the entertainment industry. Famous clients whole 9. I was so unhappy with the type of talent that was coming into my field and the lack of understanding of the basics of hair and especially makeup for black women, working tirelessly doing 12 to 16 hr days it wore me out... also not getting paid my FULL WORTH. I am happier than I have ever been and so many people have given me shade for RETIRING... I don't get it however Godspeed to them... I am an herbalist I own 2 businesses helping heal peoples bodies and my own ... Always walk YOUR path Let no one else do the work that was meant for you!
I love the quote from the beginning of this video. Keep doing you. Recharge and keep going. Your health is more important than anything. Much success. Mental health
Kee, you probably won't see this, but I've been watching your videos for a long time now (somehow missed this one), and appreciate your positive energy so much that I wanted to say something. I'm so sorry that you were treated that way after your mom passed away. So many people can be absent minded, and empathy seems to be very lacking these days. I'm glad you made the decision that was best for you. You've taught me so much about hair, and I now have an appreciation for my own that I didn't before. It's straightened in my photo because my stylist had just put pink colour in it for my 50th birthday, but I have a combination of 2a - 3b hair that loves to frizz. I tried wearing it curly in high school, but was teased because of it, and hated it from then on. For the past 3 years, I've been seeing it in a different light, and that has a lot to do with you. I'm grateful for your presence on UA-cam, and send you a big hug from Vancouver, BC, Canada 💜
I LOVE that small ponytail base -- it looks like that is her actual hair! If I ever had this done, I would want you to stop right at that point. Too cute!
I love the way you took the time to include everyone's belief systems when you were talking about God having your back by praying, or meditating, or whatever you do . Thank you for that respect
We care about you Kee, in my head we are family. You are amazing at what you do, but if you need a break.....WE UNDERSTAND!!!! I will definitely be praying for you, sorry for your loss, sorry for your experience 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 just know that we love & appreciate you!!!
I...really needed to hear THIS. Thank you sincerely. 🤲🏽 Continue to be blessed & be a blessing. 🙏🏽🌻💚 *caregiver fatigue *empowering referrals only *retiring family advocate 🥳💃🏽
I have curly hair, I got a curly hair cut and it was more taken off than I wanted. So neg to curly cuts. Blow it out then you can see what really needs to be done. Love your videos too! You are bomb! One of my top 4 favorites 😉
Blessings to you, and thank God for self-awareness. Losing a parent changes you but losing two and then go through a Pandemic, I can’t even imagine. Your strength is amazing.🙏❤️🙏
I completely understand how you feel. I was with my last job for four years before I left. I was a flood victim and my boss never called one time to see if I was okay and the district manager only offered me three days off. I ended up taking three weeks off unpaid because my job refused to pay me. I came back, work for a week and quit. I’m still upset that I stayed with that company for so long for them to treat me like that.
I hate that!! It's like you give so much to them and they literally treat you like a number. You don't deserve that. I pray you get something you love asap!
You spoke a word! My job was taking everything from me. I was have absence guilt with my family. One day I just left and never looked back. Best decision I’ve made and I was given the opportunity to get into a field I was not qualified for. I’ve been excelling in for two years now.
You’ve inspired my mom as she retired from hair 11 yrs ago. She’s a true OG like you who really does hair not quick styles. I appreciate your content and your inspirational messages.
It was meant for me to hear this. I hadn’t watched your UA-cam channel in a while because my mom was courageously battling cancer and she died September 19. The services are October 1. I pivoted last year away from negative people in my life, including some family members who I thought had my back, it feels so good to get rid of that kind of energy and to move on to things that serve me better so I can identify with you in some ways and I appreciate you telling your story, thank you. I have a relaxer I think he only do natural hair.❤❤❤
This channel is more than hair care for me it’s soul care. I love what you do for us and appreciate you. 💖💖💖 Many blessings to you on your life journey.
As someone who lost her mom unexpectedly. I changed my whole life when it came to career and happiness and it made such a difference in my life. You are only stuck if you believe you're stuck. Good luck to all!!! Happy Sunday
My deepest condolences for the loos of your mom
Same here. Lost my mother then two months later my sister unexpectedly passed away. It really change your life.
Lost my grandma, mom, and sister last year. It definitely propels you to evaluate everything and everyone!
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@@mswestmoreland11 I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I actually was unaware that you were retired. But I definitely get it. People can be very insensitive and entitled when you've always just been available and you are going through things. Sure those things may feel small to others, but it wasn't small to you or your spirit. I'm sorry for your loss, I'm sure your Mother is proud of you following your heart.
So true
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Deeper than hair, became one of the best hairdressers, in my book, when I first watched her video, a few years back, where some bully girls, had cut a chunk of hair out this little girls hair. She was such a sweet looking little girl, and you could tell her joy was gone, behind that. I saw, and felt the tender loving care Deeper Than Hair did on caring for her hair, and made her hair so beautiful, the little girl had the prettiest, widest smile, and her joy was restored. After then, Deeper Than Hair became the best, to me. I just saw her beautiful heart.
@love I know, that's how that video had me tearing up.
Love your comments. I lost my sister in July. My job did not care. I buried her in a Monday and was back working on a Wednesday. My doctor write me off for anxiety and depression. I am now trying to figure out how to leave Corporate America. I should have made the move before she died. Thank you for your story. I'm sorry for your loss. I know what it is to lose both parents. It's hard and you feel orphaned. I will be praying for you. God Bless
I'm praying for you strength and sense of direction. I'm also sorry for your losses. 💜
Sorry for your loss. My moms job called her to come in THE DAY OF her mother’s funeral because they “ needed” her.
Looking back she said she should have told them eff themselves.
You matter, your grieving is a process jobs will go on without us they can figure it out.
@@cleocatra9324 I remember when I was a senior in high school (2014) I had just finished my finals and my mom told me my grandma just passed from cancer and we were leaving to go see her. I had to call into my $7.80/hr retail job crying to say I wasn’t coming in because of my grandma passing and the manager literally goes “well did you find someone to cover your shift?” Corporate America is the devil sometimes.
@@nahmastay3300 im sorry. Yeah they sure dont have much empathy in many places.
Remember you could drop dead tomorrow and your job will replace you, but your family cant.
@@nahmastay3300 The answer would have been, yes you and thank you very much.
Thank you for your inspirational message. I keep reminding myself, God wants the best for me. I'm pivoting. Cancer in '16, treatment in '17, job ended in '17, Dad passed on Thanksgiving in '18, took care of Mom & she passed in 10/21. It's a lot. But, I'm looking forward to a new chapter in 2023!
Many blessings along your journey 💯🤞🏾
RIP to your father and mother 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🤍🕊🕊
@@DeeperThanHairTv, Thx!
@@leolove247, Thx!
Continued Grace and peace, keep looking forward😊
Those of us who are always there for everyone else often find that when we really need support--it's just not there. The same people who say, "Oh you know you can call me any time" but when we do, all we get is a handful of excuses. You end up feeling stupid because you believed what they said, and you end up dealing with the situation alone. Then when you see that person somewhere they're like, "Girl, where have you been?" Yeah, I been dealing with my life. Where have YOU been?
Word. God bless.
Gurl!!!! I feel every word of this!!!❤
This🙌🙌🙌🙌
I lost my son two weeks after they told me he had cancer so your words really rang true to me. Losing someone you love so much really puts everything in perspective. I wish you the best ❤
I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish you the best as well!
😢 i am so sorry
Gloria Landolfi, I am so sorry for your loss, I lost a child at 36 weeks, and although she was an infant, 45 years later, I am still grieving her loss. I lost my best friend of 24 years to cancer and six months later, my mother died of cancer. But that old devil wasn't through, a year later my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal colon/rectum cancer and I had had enough. I cried out to God in such a wail that He heard from heaven and came to my rescue, to make a long story short, after over 25 years, my husband is still alive, AIN'T GOD GOOD?
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@@barbarapeller Beautiful testimony. 🙏🏾❤️
I’ve been a nurse 25 years and yes the switch up is very necessary. The last 2 years I stepped away from bedside and it’s been uplifting. I feel like a person again.
Amen!
Getting laid off from my NP job was a blessing in disguise. I was miserable.
@@Talkfliptome leaving my np job was a blessing in disguise for me. All the best to you.,
I’m an RN as well and this month makes 27years of bedside nursing, I’m exhausted and in need of a change……… It’s been so mentally challenging that am ready to throw the towel in but reality hits unfortunately… responsibility and Bills Bills Bills……😆 It’s great that some people can step away and find another vocation or even business idea/
Shiiii I just started my prerequisites to even get accepted into the LPN program! U should make UA-cam videos on your nursing experience 🙏🏼
I lost both parents as a child and had a baby at nineteen years old. God gives us beauty for ashes and gives us strength. I love your channel and I respect your vulnerability. We will survive,
..and thrive. Blessings to you and yours🙏 ❤
@@yuhz1m1 Thanks. Likewise.
i love the quote at the beginning so so true. so many people feel guilty for putting their needs first, but, the only way you can truly help others is by helping yourself first.
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Don't build a home on a bank of sand, it's the same principle. If you cannot stabilize yourself, you'll only end up bringing those down you try to help
@@EsiriE 🙏🏻
@@thatperson278 very well summarized straight to the point 💪🏻🔥
The only problem I have with it is that sometimes what's best for you might actively hurt someone else. It's just that people can use a quote like that to push someone else down to lift themselves up, because that's what's best for them. That wasn't the intent of the quote, just gotta watch out for people who will misconstrue it.
This beginning quote is very relevant to where I am in my life. I quit teaching after 10 years because I was totally unhappy and stressed beyond belief. I left and didn’t really have a plan but Good works it all out for our goods so now I work from home. Love it. Less money but I have peace and joy! Money can’t buy those.
14 years ago I was in the exact same space - man, what a blessing to be on this side!
I am in that situation now. I was working as a teacher for a few years, but the job is so incredibly tough and mentally draining for me. So I've gone back to uni to change professions, and I'm way happier now. Sending hugs to you and everyone else in the same or a similar situation! :-)
I also quit after 10 years. I’m a substitute teacher into my twenty-fifth school year. It’s much less stressful than being a regular teacher. I could work when and where I’d like.
So happy for you!!! 🙌🏼 Peace and Joy 😩 that’s what I desperately need.
We sometimes forget money and wisdom solve our problems. Yet, there has to be the balance.
I realized we always feel we need to explain things. If I want to do to something I don’t care what others think. I just do it. Enjoy ur retirement.
We are all battling something right now … some more aware than other. I pray for healing and happiness … genuine happiness for you all . May you find the voice within yourself and know that’s it’s ok to not be ok 🙌🏾🙏🏾❤️🩹
I can understand the burn out completely. I was a gymnast for 17 years and tried to be judge for about 4 years after I quit gymnastics and I still was just so burnt out with it. It’s okay to take a step back and watch others meet goals with it and cheer them on it’s just as fulfilling to see ❤
Wowww that's so great and sounds fun! Is your burn out similar to twisties or something else? Wish I could do that but I'm not athletic at all.
@@missccarr89 More than likely the burn out wasn't similar to the twisties. It sounds like Lindy has been in the sport for over 2 decades and has constantly been engaged in the sport, which can be really draining once the season starts it takes a toll physically on someone's body. Once gymnastics season starts gymnasts are constantly practicing, even judging competitions takes a toll because they have to provide constructive feedback to the athletes, score them, competitions last for hours, and they're constantly going on during comp season. Judges aren't really getting breaks once they have to start working.
I feel the same way now . Been working in warehouses (in clouding the post office ) for eight years . I found a job .. it’s not a warehouse but we still on our feet for 12 hours with rotating shifts . I’m just over getting up going to work tbh . I’m tired
@@dawnssful we practiced year round during summer we would have 8hour practices everyday it’s a very mentally and physically draining sport. And judging it was tiring just trying to work with coach’s about why gymnasts got the scores they did. It’s a lot of advocating not only for yourself but others too.
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Thank you for sharing your story because sometimes grief can be isolating. I lost my mom in 2017 and my dad went in to hospice and passed shortly after. I worked hard for my company and every time they needed me I was there. After my first loss I went back and didn’t even get a sympathy email. In fact I had my boss email me about taking too much time off the phone. I went on leave and then had them question how I could care for my kids and my sick father if I was so depressed. I let my leave run out and I never returned. I’m working again for another company that seems to be better but at the first sign of bs I’m out. My sanity is worth so much more than being stuck serving that which doesn’t serve me. My whole outlook is different now. 💜
I can relate to this
Good for you!
I love your honesty and spirit so much. I lost my Mom in 2017 and my Dad in 2018. I am not the same person. It is literally the hardest thing that I have ever had to endure. Thank God for sending the right people and situations just when we need it! Don’t you ever give up! This world needs you! Much love from Texas!❤
so incredibly sorry for your loss. ❤
@@ibuprofriends thank you.
@Queen Nikki thank you.
Maksmakomo, I know it's hard. I lost my Mom 20 years ago, and it's still hard. However, it does help to talk to an empathetic professional therapist. It helped me to get through it. Much love and concern for you. 💜💜
😔😢🥺I lost both my parent too. Im sorry.
I appreciate when you tubers decide to share personal information with the viewers. You all are faced with constant commentary, judgment, and unnecessary negativity….. choosing to be vulnerable on these platforms gives warrior vibes! I’m always grateful for the insight. Thank you❤
Though always be careful to not fall prey to a para-social relationship. We know things about the people online. We do NOT actually know them. At the end of the day, we're all still strangers to each other. But empathizing and relating to that person online is perfectly fine.
And I bring that part up because I think those people who felt they had some kind of right to snap her picture secretly despite her saying she wasn't in a good space to want to take pictures were probably such parasitic people who thought they "knew" her.
@@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley think *
They're danged if they do, danged if they don't, though
Lovey I lost both my parents in 2018, eight months apart. It changed my life in so many ways. All I can say is that there's never a good age to be an orphan. That feeling of "now it's just me" pushes you into such a different direction, and if you're not feeling altogether safe in your situation, that feeling will drive you to make the changes you need to make. Don't wait until your loved ones are gone to find where you are safe to stretch and grow.
This is a task. I’m realizing a safe space for me is non-existent. I just had a birthday this month and I’m 37. My parents are alive and we all live in three diff states 800 mi apart. It’s such a weird and unsettling feeling to have them, but to also not because I know now that they can’t give me that sense of belonging. 😩 It’s taken this long, but I finally see it’s not their job. It’s mine.
I really appreciate this comment. I lost my dad in 2020 due to Covid. I’m so grateful my mom is still here but I cannot get over the fear of losing her or what my life will be like without my mom. I’m really trying to figure out my purpose and direction, and how to do things on my own because for all my life, my parents have always been there for me in every way imaginable. The fact that I am this fearful really makes me want to figure it out while she still here..
@@MsEllee God bless you lovey. I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't count out the unconventional directions either. My personal process caused me to dump everything and go be an artist and live on a beach in Spain
There are a million ways to do life - none of which were taught to you by your parents. You don't have to have it all figured out, just take yourself in the direction that makes you feel safe and good, and continue to get rid of the things that make you feel the opposite.
Money isn't always necessary. I met a dude last night who said "It will be ten years before I can move here" I said "TEN YEARS? We could all be dead in ten years. Come here NOW!"
He really believes he has to have everything in perfect order. Life doesn't work like that. Perfect plans die on the drafting table. Make the first step and just keep going.
I wish you every happiness.
When Covid started, my boss at the barbershop I was working at was charging us $1000 a month to work for him then when c19 happened & we couldn’t work at the shop anymore, he could care less that all I had was $70 to my name he wanted those $70 because I worked that week and he told me that I was getting a deal from him and then I told him well I can give you the $70 or I can buy my family groceries he did not care at all about me even though I’ve already given him $12,000 to work for a year before that! Ever since then I have never been in a shop and I will never go to a barbershop ever again.
That is ridiculous. Covid showed what some employers really are. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
I'm a salon owner and I had a booth renter in my salon. We were out of work during Covid for 8 weeks. I didn't charge her booth rent at all. But guess what? I was still obligated to pay my rent for the salon to the owner of the building. Also the booth renters took an extra 2 weeks off to decide if she wanted to come back. I still didn't charge her. That's 10 weeks free. Come to find out while I was trying to be fair and have a good heart, she was doing hair from home getting paid while I was giving her free booth rent. Life isn't fair and I often wonder why those who don't treat people right have good stylists working in their salon. I have space in my salon and no good stylists to work there.
@@MsBlacMusicButterfly Hopefully your kindness is rewarded in another way. Like I said, COVID showed what some employers really are, and you sound like you are fantastic. Unfortunately it also showed what some people will do to take advantage.
@@mnels5214 Thank you. Yes Covid opened a lot of people's eyes..
@@MsBlacMusicButterfly This is what I ALWAYS SAY: There is ALWAYS another side of the coin.
The Bad ones ALWAYS F^$& it up for the Good Ones. 🙄
Thank you for the inspiration. After doing hair for 41 years. Customers had become heartless it was all about them. If I was sick , death in the family they were like but I still want hair done. I had to put it to a end. To make a long story short. I started a new chapter in my life.
I honestly believe that having your hair done by you would be such a lovely and relaxing experience ☺️☺️ the way you handle your customers hair is so relaxing to watch 😌
I think you’re a wonderful hairstylist. I honestly can watch your videos straight through without skipping through because I want to hear what you have to say. I believe your voice is your gift.
Man, I can relate, that's why I got off the clock the summer of 2021. ❤
Za has such gorgeous hair! I love her curl pattern 😍
Man! Retired??? I haven’t had the chance to get in your chair 😢
Shoot your Shot!!!
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I am 74 yo my mother died 36 years ago life changed for me even today I can't go through a Holiday the same Mom always made everything better. I love and miss you Mom
I had some envious people in my close circle that I had to let go. I didn’t want to believe it but the signs were there. What you said about discernment and accepting the signs 👏🏾
First, I want to say that I am sorry to hear about the lost of your mom. I remember in several of your videos you talked about your parents and how close you all were. I pray you receive the love, compassion, and support you need. Healing is a process and there is no timeline when working through grief and loss.
With that said, congrats on having the freedom to retire and do what you love the way that makes you happiest!
Finally, I am sorry that some people can’t except that no is a complete sentence (thanks Oprah for teaching me that one). Giving an explanation on why should not be necessary. Hopefully, people with respect your boundaries moving forward.
I love your response and agree with you. I also recently heard someone say, NO=Next Opportunity. I'm embracing this wholeheartedly. 😊💜
@@peytonwright5346 OMG that is an amazing quote I'm going to keep that in mind thank you for sharing.
@@peytonwright5346 That might be what the woman was thinking when Kee said No to the picture 🤦🏻♀️ She used her next opportunity to snap one anyway.
This response!!!! My thoughts exactly. Spot on. Some people just don't have the emotional intelligence to understand.
I didn't expect to get that story when I saw the title! I commend you on knowing your worth and pivoting on faith! I was going to therapy for years after my mom passed just to get time off work. It became a pattern every year! As soon as I worked enough hours to build my time, I would call out again. I didn't care. Until one day a manager, who I considered a friend, asked " whats going on with you?" The question came from a place of concern, but mostly from a place of business. "You're here to do a job, and while you're here you have to do your job" - she said. At that moment I remember thinking - what if I wasn't here - That question was so packed w emotion that I went to my car and cried my entire lunch hour in the parking lot. It was the first time I considered taking my life.
Thats when I knew my time was up. I was paid very well. Had a "good job w benefits". The job itself was relatively easy because had acquired so much experience and knowledge, but I had to go.
It was serving no purpose. I could no longer work 10 hours a day to pay bills and cry in my car for an hour. The worst part was I never knew when that feeling was going to hit, but then I began to see the signs of despair. I used to wake up feeling it. Then jokingly tell my friends, let me apologize Now, because I Know I have an attitude!! We would laugh , but I was very serious.
In hindsight I actually appreciate my manager's words because it opened my eyes.
I'm not in a better place... but i'm not crying in my car either. 🙏
What you described is what I feel makes us fear success sometimes. What it brings out of other people is shocking. You really do have to pivot and re-think it all. So glad you are educating us. In my decades of going to stylists, this wasn't done. now with UA-cam, they probably do it more. Haven't been to one in years. Desperately need to.
🤗 you deserve peace, healing, and the process beyond your business, sis. Much 💕 love and your words are healing others ❣️
AMEN! Going through something similar right now. Just lost a parent & still caregiving for another. People can be so inconsiderate and uncaring and will attempt to suck all the life out of you when you're down. I don't mind saying no anymore. In fact, I don't wait for them to even ask anything of me, it's an automatic NO! Glad you pivoted and found another path within your industry to follow. I'm currently re-assessing doing the same myself. Prayers and continued well wishes to you.
God bless you along your journey 💜💜🙏🏾
We love and adore you. Thank you as always. 🪷🪸🪨🌾🌼🌞🍄💐🐚🌚🌝✨⛈☃️⛄️💧🫧🥝
You did the right thing for you, my mam died many years ago, it was the worst day of my life I still miss her every day of my life. , you are so talented and education is such a giving thing I just know she is so proud of you. ❤
You've come a long way lady. I've been watching you for a while. I very rarely comment. You have grown in faith and wisdom.
May God continue to bless and keep you, may his face shine down on you and give you peace.
I lost my mom unexpectedly as well and it completely shattered my life. I didn't go back to work for 2 months. It was so hard everyone offering condolences but didn't really care. I ended leaving that job. I am still struggling and she passed in 2011. Sometimes you have to do what's best for you!
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I absolutely understand what you mean sis...when God gifts you to be a giver it's never easy. Giving comes easy when it's naturally in you but it's when you need to be given to that you see that most people aren't willing to give in the same way you have and it hurts. I'm so very glad that you've decided to make the choices that fulfill you most and God's will is still going forward because you're STILL blessing others with knowledge and skill while operating in things that bring you joy, thank you 🙏🏽!
When your parents pass perspective changes! Been there and I made big changes in my life that are good for me. Women are often the caretakers of all the people that surround them and suffer from burnout I think especially as you get older. Self-care is so important!!!
Blessing blessing and more blessing, in your journey, I thank God for giving you a PEACE OF MIND
It is GREATLY appreciated by me that you decided to continue to do educational videos on UA-cam. I haven’t been on here much except to watch what you do next. Sometimes (more than we’d like to admit) it’s all about what someone can “do for me” and not take the time to open their eyes and notice that someone may be going through something. Always take the time you need FOR YOU because you have to! PERIOD! You shouldn’t need to apologize or explain. Sending prayers and condolences….🙏🏾💜
Rae❤
Too cute!!!! How I wish I had your guts. I did hair for 44 years before I threw in the towel. The pandemic helped me make that final decision. Loved it for a long time but in the end, it was the money that kept me there!!! It was a good living, but I have to be honest, I do not miss it in any way, shape or form!!! I do miss some of the clients, I was fortunate to have some real gems!! Thanks for sharing your knowledge and your story!!! Blessing to you!
Congratulations to be retired. Will miss you doing hair. 🎉🎊👸💐🙏❤❤❤❤🙏👍🥰
Za's got the best smile I've ever seen. Thank you for your story.
On July 8 of this year, I lost my mom. I can relate to your story. The world keeps going. Thank you for sharing your journey. Truly deeper than hair. Be blessed Sis.
Wow I lost my dad on July 8th of this year, what a crazy coincidence. My condolences to you❤️
@@laybanks_ my condolences to you to as well.
Deepest condolences to you both 🙏🏾
Yes!!! Beautiful lady & powerful, encouraging testimony!
I look forward to your videos so much, I know you've going through it but PLEASE don't doubt yourself or undermine yourself! You are a wonderful human being and a light for us all! If another person pushes you into the light, I hope you won't shy away because you deserve it!!
I may never meet you in this lifetime or ever be granted the privilege to sit on your chair. However I love you & Thank you for being so selfless to all of your subs here on UA-cam. May God continue to bless you through your journey of adjustment of unfortunate circumstances 🙏
My "Philly Sista," you touched my heart today. Thank you for these beautiful words. I understand your pain. I lost my grandmother in 2009 who was my mother, best friend, and the most precious person God has given to me. When my grandmom went home to glory I pivoted the hell out of Philly to Las Vegas, NV for seven years. Then I returned to Philly in 2017 due to a family issue. Now I going to pivot into a new and exciting role in my life. I'm in college pursuing a new career. Planning on moving out of state again. And redesigning my life! You are so right when things don't go the way you want "PIVOT" in another direction. Change is good for the soul! Also, the young lady's hair is fabulous. As always your work is a masterpiece. Keep up the awesome work!
God bless you, beautiful 💜💜
I love story time and the way you interrupt yourself to change the subject and then back again. Just love it
LOL! thanks so much!
That one two punch of loosing your parents had to have been hard and I remember watching you before, during and after both events. You are still standing and I hope thriving no matter the curve balls this life can and does throw. Thanks for not letting the selfishness of others stop you from sharing your heart and your talent.
Taking care of our ownself is always, ALWAYS, always the right thing to do.
You are one of my heroes! Rock on, dear.
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I’ve been hustling for 8 years, and have recently decided to go back to college . Im totally burned out from hustling…Just being on campus, thinking about a real career now makes me happy! I feel u🙏🏽❤️
Wonderful Wise Woman…my name is Carla..I came for the hair because I am going bald at 74 years old. I grow hair everywhere but my head. But I became engrossed in your story and you lifted my soul. I got the better part of you. You are a chance gift from the great spirit. THANK YOU AND THANK GOD
God will send an angel to help you heal and restore. Glad you shared this with us.
You are such a Beautiful and Gentle Soul. Your Spirit is so inspirational and I thank God for placing that in you. You are an example of what the Word speaks of "Being made in His Image. Surely I can see and feel God's reflection in you my Sister. You are 💜👑💜. Blessings 💞
I'm sorry what you've been thorugh, and grateful you've shared it with us. I am actually going through a difficult moment related to business as well, I just got fired after working for only a month. Didn't even get the chance to show how I work. And that just comes to show that business market is just like that unfortenately. But your speech just made me feel courage to keep going on. Love your content
Can I tell u how much u inspired n helped me today...truly u were a GOD SEND...n I'm usually the one helping people...which I luv to do....I woke up this morning feeling so heavy...which is unusual... very unusual...I'm a nurse of 22 years in newyork...my son David just graduated Harvard Medical school, M.D., M.P.H....I'm 53 n life is blessed...but today the weight of ministry..n my profession just layed on me so heavy...I know attacks of the enemy...n surely it was an attack...but you just blessed me soooooo much...I mean that...thk u...u are such a blessed , pure soul...that's rare....may the LORD continue to bless u n ur family in all ur endeavors..n may his angels keep watch n protection as always...in JESUS MIGHTY UNMATCHABLE NAME....thk u....I just needed to hear...I don't need to be perfect...n it's ok...yep even when ur blessed to feel a little down...n its ok to do whats best for me sometimes...rather than continue to pour when ur empty....we always get back up..tears were rolling n cleansing today...u r a very strong woman....GOD BLESS U
Thank you for sharing your story. You have spoken to my heart more than once. I’m not surprised you did it again ❤
God has put you in my path.
Blessings to you!!
I just moved back to PA after 10 years, and got so frustrated because my FHI iron got damaged in the move and had trouble finding other reliable flat irons online, until I remembered YOU had some on your site. Decided to learn more about your salon and found out where it was and was happy to see I'm a nice drive away! Although I'm bummed you're no longer behind the chair, I'm happy you're doing what's best for you. Still plan on making an appointment in December. It's been awhile since I've had my hair straight , its darn near waist length and my arms are fatigued from doing it in twists and box braids lol So what better place to trust my tresses with than your business! So excited. I wish you oceans of love and peace ❤️ also, I adore your message as someone who is transitioning from a safe career in STEM that isn't fulfilling, to writing fiction. It definitely resonated and reminded me to keep going. ❤️
Great video!! I was a stylist for 10 years with a full book and made great money... But I lost that spark of joy that I had for the first several years and decided to move on to an entirely different career. Was VERY scary but ended up being a great move!
Thanks for your great content!
My God. I didn't know you retired. God is good. Bless you on this next chapter and journey in your life. It has been truly a blessing to watch you do clients hair. You really care and have the patience. Sorry for your loss. I feel you on your decision and thank you for sharing. This really resonate for me. I left the beauty industry as well for over 20 years and this new chapter is not easy.
Your story hit so hard. Sometimes we have to be selfish and do things to just benefit ourselves. It seems selfish I guess but you can't just give give give all the time especially when at the end of the day the takers and users- no matter how nice they are- dont care about you. That's something i had to realize for myself. Also burnout is real! Thank you so much for this
This resonated with me on So many levels,TFS BLESSINGS 💞 Pony is giving LIFE,😍
Za and her hair are beautiful. Sometimes this world will chew you up and spit you out, but we have to find strength to keep moving. You are right do what makes you happy and bring you joy. You may also loose some people finding that happiness. I’m glad you’re feeling better and doing what makes you happy 💜💜💜
"PIVOT" ... I felt that. Thank you for sharing your truth & much peace & prosperity 🤗
Same to you 💜
Key I needed this. I’ve been doubting my recent decision to leave my job. I did love it but it’s gotten to take up too much of my life. Work-life balance is a real thing. Especially when you “give so much of yourself to the game and get nothing back.” I feel you. I’m pivoting and I don’t feel guilty!
You are a huge inspiration to me. Thank you for this video, thank you for being you, and thank you for choosing you.
God bless. 💕
Your videos always make me feel better. Thank you for sharing your gifts and your honest heart.
I absolutely feel like this video was meant for me to see ! Man 😢😢😢😩😩😩I’m over here in tears because I feel your every word. I’m a hairstylist and have been one for over 22 years. I lost my18 year old son (Shad) now 19 years in heaven . My Angel now .❤ I have had similar feelings about my time as a hairstylist, especially after losing my son. I feel unappreciated and going through something so traumatic as losing my son to cancer. Coming back to the salon doesn’t feel the same. I am not feeling it as much. Love my clientele & love what I do,but I feel it’s not reciprocated. Listening to you made me feel like it’s ok to feel the burnout and want to go to the next level. Not sure what this is but I don’t feel like completely leaving the salon scene! I appreciate you and love your work and honesty. You have given me a different outlook regarding stylist burnout and when it’s time to go. And being ok with your decision. Thank you and I’m sure my son would be so proud of me. Love you Shad 🤍🕊
Sorry for your loss xxx
I'm sorry for your loss& thank you for sharing❤
@@braysmommy14 thank you🙏🏽
You have a lot of talent and techniques with hair. Please don't don't stop.
This may be late to respond you may not never see this. I can differently relate. I am a Registered Nurse for over 22 years. Lost my mom in 2007 and life never been the same. One would think after all those years I would gotten better but it still hurts. Life continues to throw curve balls and the one person, my mom, I think can only help me through is not here. It’s hard. As for you keep pressing, stay strong and positive as I would do as well.
Hope everything is okay and pray that the lord heal, and renew you again. Life is not easy but keep pushing you are not alone. Thank you for helping others despite, your own struggles ( nurse is not easy)
I don't know you, and you don't know me. I just came across your channel for the first time. Yet, I feel it's important in this moment for me to say, "Thank You!" for sharing from your heart. You are a warrior and your words resonated deep in my soul. My sincerest condolences for the loss of your mother. The loss of a loved one is hard no matter what, but there's something about when your momma dies (close or not) that causes us to see things differently: more clearly. Thank you for doing what you needed to do for yourself in a mature, responsible manner and for encouraging others to do the same. Feeling inspired by your courage and strength to be your authentic self. Blessings on your whole life!
I'm a hairstylist. I keep going back. Your message definitely fed me.
Many Blessings to you Kee...you must do what is best for you!! Anyone who can't understand that...tell them too keep living and they'll find out. Momma and Daddy used too say.."All money ain't good money and money is not your Saving Grace..God is".💪🏾🙏🏾💝
So sorry for your loss. I lost my mama 9 months ago so I get it. You did what was best for you and that’s what really matters!
I lost my mom last yr in October and I'm still grieving 😔. I think about my mom everyday. I'm going to pray with you that things get better for you and that in your retirement you take care of self. I know I am. 💯💪🏾💞
Take your time sharing whatever you’re going to share. We love you no matter what even if you don’t ever share what it was. ❤❤❤
Thank you!
Babe girl you said a mouth full. I've been there talking myself out of blessings but when God has something for you it's just that. I love how you have been so transparent on your channel.
I personally think curly cuts work out if you never wear your hair straight like me I never flat iron my hair and don’t plan on it so I want my hair cut in it’s curly form so I know what it’s gonna look like the next time I wash my hair
She JUST said that exact same thing already 🤣😂
You’re just repeating what she already said.
@@CC-rm9uq the issue?
Sis, my condolences for your loss. Listen......losing your mother is a different feeling than losing anyone else. The grieving process is different for everyone. I left a job I worked at for 20 years because they stopped caring and I was burnout and when I left, I had no plan. Assured, my God who has always taken care of me never stopped. It was the best decision I ever made. It sometimes takes stepping back in order to know which way you need to pivot, as you say. Wishing you well on your next journey.❤
Can’t wait to hear your story, I’ll be here for it. 💕
i love how you take your time. i got some much backlash from people in my life for taking my time so i thought i had to rush my hair to show i can do hair. but seeing you take your time & give that tlc made me realize nothing's wrong with it at all.
I am so sorry for your loss! Words never seem like enough in these times. But know that your videos and the wonderful words You use, from the inspirational quotes at the start, to the education given about hair care and styling means so much to so many people. I am truly sorry you were mistreated, but now you are on a better path. Thank You for your kindness and continuing to share your wealth of knowledge, it's very inspiring. Sending you love and peace! 💞
I admire you and your decision ... I live in ny I retired in March 2020 Before the shut down. I was a MAHU for 22 years in the entertainment industry. Famous clients whole 9. I was so unhappy with the type of talent that was coming into my field and the lack of understanding of the basics of hair and especially makeup for black women, working tirelessly doing 12 to 16 hr days it wore me out... also not getting paid my FULL WORTH. I am happier than I have ever been and so many people have given me shade for RETIRING... I don't get it however Godspeed to them... I am an herbalist I own 2 businesses helping heal peoples bodies and my own ... Always walk YOUR path Let no one else do the work that was meant for you!
How did you get into doing hair/makeup for the entertainment industry? I do hair and want to do that but don’t know how to start.
I love the quote from the beginning of this video. Keep doing you. Recharge and keep going. Your health is more important than anything. Much success. Mental health
Kee, you probably won't see this, but I've been watching your videos for a long time now (somehow missed this one), and appreciate your positive energy so much that I wanted to say something. I'm so sorry that you were treated that way after your mom passed away. So many people can be absent minded, and empathy seems to be very lacking these days. I'm glad you made the decision that was best for you. You've taught me so much about hair, and I now have an appreciation for my own that I didn't before. It's straightened in my photo because my stylist had just put pink colour in it for my 50th birthday, but I have a combination of 2a - 3b hair that loves to frizz. I tried wearing it curly in high school, but was teased because of it, and hated it from then on. For the past 3 years, I've been seeing it in a different light, and that has a lot to do with you. I'm grateful for your presence on UA-cam, and send you a big hug from Vancouver, BC, Canada 💜
I LOVE that small ponytail base -- it looks like that is her actual hair! If I ever had this done, I would want you to stop right at that point. Too cute!
Sorry for the loss of your mom. May you be blessed with knowing she is still with you.
So sorry and my deepest condolences to you and your family for the loss of your beloved mom. May she rest, peacefully 💜 🕊 💜
I love the way you took the time to include everyone's belief systems when you were talking about God having your back by praying, or meditating, or whatever you do . Thank you for that respect
Absolutely 💜💜💜
We care about you Kee, in my head we are family. You are amazing at what you do, but if you need a break.....WE UNDERSTAND!!!! I will definitely be praying for you, sorry for your loss, sorry for your experience 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 just know that we love & appreciate you!!!
I...really needed to hear THIS. Thank you sincerely. 🤲🏽 Continue to be blessed & be a blessing. 🙏🏽🌻💚
*caregiver fatigue
*empowering referrals only
*retiring family advocate 🥳💃🏽
I have curly hair, I got a curly hair cut and it was more taken off than I wanted. So neg to curly cuts. Blow it out then you can see what really needs to be done. Love your videos too! You are bomb! One of my top 4 favorites 😉
Blessings to you, and thank God for self-awareness. Losing a parent changes you but losing two and then go through a Pandemic, I can’t even imagine. Your strength is amazing.🙏❤️🙏
I completely understand how you feel. I was with my last job for four years before I left. I was a flood victim and my boss never called one time to see if I was okay and the district manager only offered me three days off. I ended up taking three weeks off unpaid because my job refused to pay me. I came back, work for a week and quit. I’m still upset that I stayed with that company for so long for them to treat me like that.
I hate that!! It's like you give so much to them and they literally treat you like a number. You don't deserve that. I pray you get something you love asap!
💕💕💕💗💞💖 Sending you lots of love. I'm so sorry you were made to feel that way.
You spoke a word! My job was taking everything from me. I was have absence guilt with my family. One day I just left and never looked back. Best decision I’ve made and I was given the opportunity to get into a field I was not qualified for. I’ve been excelling in for two years now.
Sorry for your loss and thank you for all that you've done to educate us. I'm so sorry you were treated that way. Take care and much love to you.
I am so sorry to hear of your mother’s transition. Thank you so much for sharing your talents and skills with us.♥️
You’ve inspired my mom as she retired from hair 11 yrs ago. She’s a true OG like you who really does hair not quick styles. I appreciate your content and your inspirational messages.
It was meant for me to hear this. I hadn’t watched your UA-cam channel in a while because my mom was courageously battling cancer and she died September 19. The services are October 1. I pivoted last year away from negative people in my life, including some family members who I thought had my back, it feels so good to get rid of that kind of energy and to move on to things that serve me better so I can identify with you in some ways and I appreciate you telling your story, thank you. I have a relaxer I think he only do natural hair.❤❤❤
This channel is more than hair care for me it’s soul care. I love what you do for us and appreciate you. 💖💖💖 Many blessings to you on your life journey.