I totally agree with your view on the state of the world being a factor in deciding to whether have children. It is great that you are being aware and taking time to decide. Bringing a person into food scarce and over populated world when current country policies don't support it, finances maybe stretched thin, social media impacts on child development etc. Being able to have children and raise them in the state of the world is a privilege. I wished the norm was 'why do you want to have kid(s)?'
This is so idiotic and childish, and quite frankly "privileged". It's privilege that grants you unlimited birth control. If you think the world you live in today is worse off then when your parents or grandparents procreated, you're kidding yourself. The world is not overpopulated, and "food scarce" (it may be scarce to the foods you like but it's not scarce).
We aren’t food scarce or overpopulated those are just myths by the way, you just have to research it. It’s fine she doesn’t want kids just cuz she doesn’t want them.
Weylie, I relate to you so much. I’m 27 and have been with my boyfriend since we were both 14. I never really cared for marriage and kids either. Just wanna travel and be with our fur babies right now! 🫶🏻
Omg we are exactly the same!! I’m also 27 and have been with my bf since 14 too! We’re also not married yet because we are still in school and enjoying life as it is. 🥰
Omg me too my man and I been together almost a decade now never cared for marriage or kids I just want to travel the world and try and do new things. Settle down life not in the cards for me.
Is it strange that we’re all 27 (26 but 27 at the end of this month) and have also been with my boyfriend since 14. Seeing this thread gives me reassurance that I’m not alone and our relationship isn’t “strange” like the people in my life have said urging us towards marriage. We love our life currently and plan for marriage we have no dates planned because we’re just trying to live in the moment.
I'm also 27, I've been with my bf for 6 years. I knew since I was 14 that I don't wanna have children! Over the past years I always had to defend my decision and I was met with "You'll change your opinion, you will see". Now we are looking into "terminal protection" since we just wanna spent time with our dog and enjoy our life to the fullest!
I’ve been with my bf for over 10 years and I haven’t reached 30 y/o yet. It’s so exhausting having to explain to people, especially the older Asian parents, why I’m not married, have kids, work this kinda job, or living away from parents. I’m not interested following anyones timeline except my own!!! My parents came here to give me a better life and this is the way I want to live 🤷🏻♀️
I think you're committed to more than you gave yourself credit for at @5:07 Ive been following along with you and journey for about 10 years now or even a little over (ever since you taught how to put on a tampon-- it was a monumental turning point in my life) so you've been like a big sis to me ever since- Ive learned at you age what means to own my own femininity through the ways you've shown up, taught, lead and embraced within yourself. Now I'm rn I feel like I wanna return favor 10 fold and just say girl you are committed!! - to your relationship with Wah - to the animals you nurture - you are committed to your health, - to this channel - your daily routine - Taking care of yourself, your home and this just from the outside looking in I've noticed that also committed to being a friend to people - I mean, you've been friends with some of the same people for how long now? girl you are L O Y A L, dependable, nurturing !! Not only to friends and to those you're in relationships with (platonic or romantic) but also to and within the relationship you have with yourself to living a genuine and true life. I noticed even, you lead from a place a love. thats a commitment to certain values you have. and yeah as people, we all have duality, strengths in one areas, challenges in another. All are valid and worthy. I think even if you are/have struggled to commit to certain aspects of life, give yourself the credit you deserve for doing a damn good job at committing in the other areas. Because truly, you're doing a great job even if it doesn't always feel like it It's important we big each other up and put respect on each others names, but its just as important to big ourselves up & be gentle with ourselves in the process-- something you've taught me. Thank you, Weylie. I am much more gentle and forgiving with myself because of your authentic and self compassionate way of exciting. I appreciate you Weylie and I am so grateful you exist. You've taught me a lot a lot ❤🔥🌱✨
People need to seriously stop asking these type of questions, this isn’t the 1940’s, nobody has to get married or have kids at certain age. Everyone has a different lifestyle, what works for you doesn’t mean will work for others. Weylie you do you girl, don’t let anybody else tell you otherwise! ♥️♥️♥️
gurrrll! you do you. i didn’t get married until i was 39 & my dogs are my children. just minimize exposure to people who keep asking. its no ones business. i am sorry to hear about Michi. Its hard watching our pets grow old & leaving us.
I'm 31 years old and still single and no kids. I'm still 50/50 if I want to get married and have kids. I just don't want to regret not having any as I get older but at the same time, I'm enjoying life right now. I just don't know if I'll ever think if it's the right time
I recently had a conversation with some girlfriends about freezing my eggs. I'm also not 100% sure what I want to do, but also do not want regrets in the future. If that is a possibility, maybe you can check with your doctor if freezing your eggs could be an option? Good luck to you ❤
I’m 31, married with no kids. I didn’t even realize it was an option to not have kids because of how society pushed the idea. One thing that solidified my decision to not have kids is that I’d rather regret not having kids later on than regret having them. I love my life currently and i have nieces to spoil and cats to love on and cuddle 🥰
I feel you except I'm 30 and single. Every conversation with my relatives involves asking me "do you have boyfriend? It's time to get married and have children." This traditional Chinese thinking used to really trigger me that I would argue back. Now I realized that their opinion doesn't matter and I don't need to engage, so I just say OK and keep repeating OK until they change the topic. I acknowledge I hear their thoughts (honestly I think they just want to feel like heir thoughts have value) but I don't care about what they think and they can't put a gun to my head to make me get married and have children. So yeah do you, live your life as you want girl. You 100% deserve it!!!
always love hearing your progressing thoughts about marriage & children. i’m in the same boat and it’s nice & helpful to hear someone who feels the same way about these topics
To clarify before I comment on this topic, Weylie, I am an older woman, happily married with children. However, I cannot believe that anyone would have the audacity to ask another person , male or female, whether or not they are going to get married/have children, even if it is disguised as ‘what are your thoughts on marriage/having children.’ It is none of their business, ever! Live your life according to your own compass, Weylie. Simply love your blogs!
Been with my bf for 15 years now. For most years I was helping my family out and finishing college, I’m 29 now as well and we are both now talking about marriage and babies now that we graduated from college, and my dad is getting the medical attention he needs.
I haven’t been really been keeping up with your vlogs for a while cuz of life and everything but I’ve always adored Michi and always felt like she is the best sweetest dog I’ve ever seen in my life and hearing about her illness is so heartbreaking. I really hope she gets better ❤️
I don't know why people have to ask influencers if they ever want to get married or have kids. I'll admit, I do get curious but I keep that to myself because whatever an influencer I like does with their life, it's none of my business.
Currently 28, been with my partner for 7 years. I don’t really see kids in our future marriage anytime soon. My family keeps giving me talk about how stressed they are for new but meanwhile I’m happy and thriving living my life how *I* choose to. ☺️
I can completely connect with you on the children subject. I am 35 and still don’t want children and neither does my husband. My fur babies will forever be my children🐾🫶🏽
Not only asian, as an african woman my family also put pressure on me to get married otherwise « my man would marry someone else ». It sucks that our peers don’t see the vision but we must continue to do what makes us happy. Rooting for you Weylie ❤️
I’m a 30 year old asian woman who isn’t married and doesn’t have children. I totally understand not feeling ready especially with the state of the world. Getting married and having children is a huge commitment and it doesn’t matter how long you have been with Wah. You are not on anyone else’s timeline. The thought of having a child and also caring for all your pets is just so overwhelming to think about because each life deserves so much time and care and you seem like the type who wants to put 100% into every single baby!!! It’s STILL okay to do your own thing and it’s not at all toxic to be living how you want to as long as you aren’t hurting anyone. 🤗
I love your honesty with the marriage and kids topic. I have 2 kids and I had my first at 30. I’m 34 now and it’s true you’re never truly ready, you just get ready haha. I think if I was in the now with no kids I wouldn’t have kids either and it’s only cause of this crazy world. There is so much crime, gun violence, inflation. I think about their future all the time and it scares the heck out of me. Just do whatever is right in your heart. Nobody should be shaming you for the way you want to live your life.
I used to want that life.. married with kids.. but the limitations brought about by my father leaving, having no money for school, growing up in a third world, just migrating to a first world in my 30s… it’s like I’m just starting to experience how life can be all over again and i cannot imagine bringing a child into this world only to not give them a beautiful, comfortable life because I do not want them to have to go through what I did… and should i not be able to reach any of my goals because of a child (focus, priorities, finances), and then project my resentment or frustrations on to them will be unfair for them.
I relate to this so much. I've expressed to my family that I'm not really on the child path in my life, and my mom dismissed what I said and quote, "Oh you just haven't met the right man" Listen, live your life the best way that fits you and I adore how you stand up for yourself on what you want. Also Attorney Woo is one of the best K Dramas I've ever watched!
I thing we have to remember is 1, when people ask these questions they are looking out for you. 2, its a convo starter, and 3, its old fashioned mind thinking BUT we have to remember we dont all think the same so we cant not get offended because sometimes we do or ask the same thing without thinking really. I realize as i am 30 no one is like me i cant be picky when it comes to people's way of thinking or life. I have to understand thats how they are and i cant change that. I use to judge small things about people but i realize i too am being judged for being me. So i do my thing and i remind myself to NOT get offended when being asked a question. No ones perfect 👌 you live your life as you want and dont mind others opinions.
This is so relate!!! The past weekend we just celebrated our 7 years of dating anniversary. We are 24/25, high school sweethearts. We got those kind of questions a lot and up to the point we don’t even wanna explain that we just want to follow our time zone and finish what we considered as priorities first. can’t agree more with your thoughts!!
Hi Weylie!! I swear your videos are so timely and just the things I needed to hear :) the late 20s has been such a confusing and uncertain stage of life for me, it’s been so reassuring and comforting to hear your perspective on many similar things I’ve also started to wonder about. Appreciate you sm and keep being you 💕
Here to let you know you’re not alone and I read your message at the right time too.. Feeling reassured that others are on the same boat as me during this time of my life 🤍 wishing you clarity and all the best on your journey
Weylieeeeee I used to watch you 10 years ago and I just thought of you the other day and rediscovered you!! So glad to see you doing well. You look fabulous 💓💓💓
Weylie I’m so proud of you and I admire your perspective on so much that’s hard to put into words as it is. I started watching you waaaaay back to them “ remember to lock your door” days w a close family member, who unfortunately passed in 2017. Seeing a snippet of your life reminds me how fast time flies, and really, how precious life is. Even though we are living in uncertain times, I admire your ability to pour your soul into what you have now. You’re strong, and Asia will be beautiful!! Ima really try to manifest meeting you before you leave lol🤞🏽
I instantly cried when you cried. Thank you for being such a positive light even when you are going through a lot. Just remember to take time to yourself when you need to. Much love.
tysm for this very relatable conversation about marriage and having children 😭 me and my bf have been together since 2011 (anniversary twins!) (I'm 25 he's 27 yes we were babies when we got together haha high school sweethearts) and every time we get hit with the "when are y'all getting married?" or even "are y'all getting married?" it just rubs me the wrong way every time and it's so frustrating! but I'm also slowly learning to let go and not care about these questions or remarks, and accept that it's not my responsibility to teach people that my relationship is none of their business ❤️
I absolutely agree with you on marriage/children. I’m 34 and have a son with my boyfriend of almost 19 years. No matter how much everyone wants us to get married, it’s literally not up to them. We’re happy the way things are. You would think they’d be happy as long as we are. Everyone has to prioritize they’re life based off their wants/needs, no one else’s.
While I know the question about marriage and kids can seem annoying, I love each time you talk about it because I start feeling like my thoughts change on the topic too. In my hispanic household, the woman is supposed to cook and clean and bare children and while the man works, I have also fought this way of living. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years and I’m 23 and i’ve had that “you’re expiring” talk as well. There is a lot of pressure from his side of the family since he has cousins who are younger or the same age as of having children. Always do what’s best for you, because at the end of the day marriage and children is a HUGE responsibility that only YOU know how much you can handle.
Hey Weylie,I just want to say that your videos/vlogs always make me feel better. When I come home from work tired and disscouraged or just feel not good,your videos always make me feel better and comfortable! Hugs from Germany! ❤️
Idk why people always say the phrase “marriage and children” as if both have to exist if you have the former. I’m married, been so for 6.5 years now, and children are not part of it. They never will be. Marriage doesn’t HAVE to bring children. It’s just a piece of paper that gives you better legal and financial benefits with your partner. (Not saying you have to get married though. Lots of people are perfectly happy without tying the knot.) Also, if anyone ever asks us when we’re going to start a family, my answer is: “We became a family the day we got married. Not having kids doesn’t make us any less of a family.” We and our four cats are perfectly happy as we are.
It's not problematic. I hate living up to other's expectations. I totally understand your wanting to move for your safety. It's so sad what is happening here in the US.
I’m 29 and I’m in similar space in terms of how I feel about marriage/kids. I just want to fully enjoy my life with my 2 doggies before fully dedicating myself to that commitment. It’s really nice to see someone in a similar space. Love this content Weylie!
Weylie, you always have helped me through so many confusing times in my life and I appreciate your content and voice so much~ I am a dog mom and dedicate a lot of my life to them so I appreciate the love and care that you show your fur babies
I am 29 and I dont want to be a mom, I realized I would probably be a great mom but it is so much work. I also think about the school systems being defunded and the school shootings, having kids in america is another level of concern I think
I relate so hard to the not being married by 30 stigma. I just turned 27 and my mom has already brought this up a couple of times and I get so stressed out and pressured by it. My mom is also the stubborn type. I am nowhere near ready and I mainly want to focus on my career for now.
Haven’t been here in awhile and came to see how you’re doing. Just want to say that I think your relationship and the life you’ve built for yourself are beautiful. Other people want things for us that they want for themselves, because they can’t imagine being happy without them. It’s okay if happiness looks different for us 💗 Love that you stay true to yourself and to your heart, and want to let you know I have always admired you.
i know for a fact if you were to even meet that special someone, and he actually proposed you would say yes. wah is s good guy, but maybe he is holding you back on finding the love of your life. 10 years is a loong time. in spanish we call it “costumbre”.
Huh?? It’s perfectly normal to not want to get married right now, it doesn’t matter who the guy is. It’s a personal preference, and it seems that they’re happy enjoying life together right now.
Not saying you need to get married, but marriage does give you certain rights (for example, if your husband were to go into a coma, you would have first right to make medical decisions for him). A wedding isn’t necessary, but I do think if you are sure about your significant other, being married (on paper) offers very important benefits that many don’t realize until they end up in a sticky situation.
I totally support your decision in doing what makes you happy and doing what's best for your relaitonship. Nobody has the right to pressure you into doing what they think you should do because no one can live your life for you.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years. We love our furbabies and that’s all we really want at this moment. My dog also had a tumor and was given 6 months to only live. We spent so much on his surgery and am starting him on chemotherapy. He’s getting care from the best facility, UC Davis, but there’s only so much we can do. Having senior dogs is really difficult and heartbreaking. I hate that it’s apart of life, but I really hope Michi will be okay. You guys are such great dog parents. Spend as much time as you can with your furbabies. 💗
Good luck with everything Weylie, whatever you decide will be ok, trust yourself and be as happy as you can 💛 you and Wah would be amazing parents and would have the cutest babies ever but don’t ever feel pressured to do anything. Been watching you since I was in 6th grade and I’m so proud to see how much you’ve grown and succeeded in!
Very much can relate to this! I'm 30 now and I've been married for 8 years, and we don't have children and we are not sure if we will have either. We have decided to leave it for now and perhaps chat about it again in a few years. Times have changed sooo much and we don't need to have 2.5 kids by 25 anymore LOL. So refreshing to not feel alone in this though! xx
It's crazy to see how time flies by so quickly. I remember I was like in elementary or 6th grade when you taught me how to use a tampon! HAHA. And now I'm graduating college watching you talk about the possibility of motherhood. You have always been like an older sister to us and listening to you talk again has brought so much nostalgia. I hope that you continue to do what makes you happy!
Thank you for sharing Weylie. We support you 200% and your words mean a lot to me as a female Asian American who is yet to be married. I want to have a family and at least 1 child one day, but for me personally, I need to be able to be stable enough in my life (e.g. emotionally, financially), so that I can give my future family a good quality of life.
I’m 29 this year and about to give birth to my 2nd child in a few weeks. I still don’t think I’ll ever be truly ready. 😂 Nobody really is tbh. How does one person be ready for the unknown? If I didn’t have kids rn, I probably still wouldn’t be ready either. It’s a huge process and it really helps when other parts of ur life feels more settled. Also, u never have to explain the dynamics of ur relationship to anyone. ❤️
I literally loved your response on the marriage/kids questions. At the end of the day someones opinion and choice on that should be theres and not pushed onto others around them. I also think its a lot of maturity to sit down and think about the pros and cons of having children and not just thinking "oh Im a women and im this age so I should just go ahead and do it." P. S. Please don't forget about your American followers when you move to Asia 😭
getting a first glimpse of you talking about michi getting older made me emotional 🥺🤍 can't believe it's been over 10 years of me watching you all grow up together!!
I really agree that being an Asian we kinda have this "rule" created by however that we should settle down before 30. I even have this thought in mind before that I should be married once I turn 25 and now I'm 26 and still consider myself a child (childish?? haha) and can't imagine raising my own kids haha. I'm in a relationship for 5 yrs now, and currently hearing the "when are you going to have kids/ when are you getting married?". I still want to enjoy life and it should not be bounded by age.
Weylie you are my favorite UA-camr! 😊 I've also been in a long relationship, for 10 years to my highschool sweetheart, and we are engaged but we are sooo not ready to get married or have kids lol so I feel you girl, this world is so bad nowadays that it is scary to raise a child. But also, we don't wan to be rushed either. But I TOTALLY agree with you, no rush into anything unless you are happy 😁👍❤️
I think the best thing we can do is create the family space that we wanted with our children- like I grew up in a toxic family environment - my goal is to create the best loving family. The best way we can help is having kids and creating better and kinder human beings, creating a better generation for the future. The kind of world we want for our species.
If marriage is a thing you want it’s weird to see someone be in relationship for years not be married yet it’s telling about the people and relationship involved. That said i don’t think marriage is for everyone and not everyone wants it and that’s ok !!! Like that’s an option. But a man that stays with a woman for ten years with no marriage but does want marriage itself is definitely red flag
It's weird because if you listened closely to the video she states their relationship may not look like the "traditional" relationship everybody expects. Tell me, what is it telling about a person in the relationship? And how is it a red flag? Because there are many cultures and even people today who been together decades before they decide to get married or end up not doing so due to timelines 🤷🏽♀️ this is exactly why I get Weylie is so tired of bringing up the marriage and children topic because it puts so much pressure from society and it becomes redundant. At the end of the day, it's their relationship not yours. People can change their views on marriage/children over time as she said per video as she's getting older she's becoming more open and tbh, with marriage and children comes with great deal of responsibility. Yes, It's not for everybody! So if she changes her mind again later down the line, don't be so surprised. Marriage is not their main priority right now I don't get how hard is that to understand.
I'm 29, and while I'm married, I'm not sure I want to have kids. My husband feels the same way. With the world as crazy as it is and me still processing generational trauma, I don't feel confident that I could give a child the life they deserve. And, also, I'm finally starting to take care of myself, and I don't think I could continue to do that in the same way if I had kids. Once you have kids, they are (rightfully) the priority.
OH MY GOSH. On the crazy stuff going on in the world, I feel that about having kids in the future and especially right now!!! I thought I was weird for thinking like that. THANK YOU FOR BEING SO OPEN ABOUT THIS!
I have to say, you’re so mature of how you handle people asking you these questions over & over again. Especially the ones that say (to piggy back what you said), “being Asian, you should be married & have children by now.” It sucks that people have to act that way & they think they have control of what you do 😣 Even though we’re not the same race, I went through the same thing. Family questioned when we’ll get engaged. Once we decided to do so, then we were asked about the wedding date & kids. It’s like y’all need to chill! 🤣 we’re just enjoying each stage that was a huge decision for us.
Just came back to your channel after about 4 years or so and it makes me so happy to see you and the pups and knowing that you and Wah are still together. You have always been a part of my life in some way and it still feels so comfortable to see your vlogs. I wish you all the best and thank you for being here. 🧡
The topic of marriage and kids is so relatable. I’m 28 and single. Anytime I attend a family gathering, the hot topic is “when are you getting married” and it’s just so frustrating because in their mentality, “something is wrong with me” if I’m not following tradition and starting a family by my late 20’s. I don’t know how to tolerate these comments any longer. It also makes me think something is wrong with me even though I know there isn’t
I am in the same boat about marriage and children with you. It’s not a priority for me, and it never was. I’m open to it if it presents itself to me but I am so content with my life as it is. :)
hi weylie ive watched you since i was in middle school & im abt to finish college. i think of you & look up to you & wahs relationship. i commend you guys for being open to share your lives with us & i love to hear the updates on you guys and the strong connection you guys still hav. It’s inspirational ily
Happy anniversary weylie! Hope you get into a relationship that serves you because you deserve it. P.S. Please tell Wah to stop filming his face so close while eating. No one wants to see him (and his mouth) that close. Thank you.
Hi Weylie! I rediscovered your channel recently and was binge watching all of your videos and this one really resonated with me for where I am in life right now. Thank you so much for posting it! :)
I just started and JUST FINISHED Extraordinary Attorney Woo too! LOVED IT SOOOOOOO MUCH!!! I can’t wait for season 2. And Weylie, you don’t need our reassurance but as your followers who have grown up with you as a sistah, we love you for you and seeing you live the life you want that’ll make you the most happy and fulfilled is all we want. You are genuine and human. You need not be anyone’s role model but you inspire me to live my life simply by learning and growing to be a better version of me through whatever phase life puts me in. So thank you.
Wah is using her as a placeholder and shes tryna normalize it. Ever since she told us her doctor thought she had an std tht wah could of given her yrs ago plus his supposed work trips i dont trust him. The fact tht if not pushed wah will not even propose is ridiculous. And it sucks cause i really love weylie i been around since the tampon video days. We all been there sis.
Weylie I completely agree with you. I am not sure if I want to bring a child into this world until I believe that I can handle everything that comes with it well. Whatever feels right for you! The right time will come.
Glad to see you still working with Neiwai! I bought the barely there zero bra from them originally when you were promoting with them and I LOVE IT SO MUCH!!! And I’m a 32DDD. I was hesitant seeing a lot of thinner influencers promote them, but the sizing worked out great for me. Thanks so much for always putting thought and care into what you recommend to us
agree with the marriage/kids part. it's so personal and anytime you deviate slightly from social expectations (not being married by a certain age, not being baby crazy) people feel threatened or something and want to persuade that your choice is wrong (like when you say you're vegetarian and they'll ask you WHY, and point all the "good" things you are missing out), there are certainly tons of valid reasons NOT to have children but you certainly don't have to explain yourself.
I‘m curious about your plans on asia… i‘ll pop a few questions in here but obviously feel free to answer as many or little as you want! 🥰 - why do you want to move to asia and what are your plans with the new house you just moved in etc - did you already choose where you would want to move and why there - how does it feel knowing to leave your friends and families - what about navi and sesame I guess that‘s it 🙊 hope you don’t feel bombarded now 🙊
Just clicked in but I saw a post recently: “Pets are the new kids and Plants are the new pets” Lmaoooo the way I looked over at my problematic bougainvillea and my cat
Weylie, I related to this so much! I feel like you have always been the big sister I’ve never had through the years. I realized that we have many likes/hobbies in common from dogs to gardening. I got so hyped when I saw you climb. I’ve been climbing for a year now and feel like I unlocked another level of love for you 😂 as for the keyboard…. Def the same toxic trait I have. You and Wah are my favorite couple and I’m not sure why people get upset over the marriage and kid thing lol. At the end of the day, you still choose each other and can make your own best judgment. Thank you for always being you.
Aww watching you get all sad because of michi!! You are a great dog mum and you do you. I think it's awesome to know what you want! Tricky when you can't figure out what's right for you. But you have so and you can or may not change whenever works for you
I admire you for being so thoughtful about marriage and children. Also for taking good care of your aging pets and being there for them. My husband and I have been together for 11 years and married for 6 of those years. We get a ton of questions about having kids. My response the past few years is “we’re happy without kids” because how can people argue about your happiness right? Wrong lol. People will argue and try to persuade you regardless. I still give this answer though because it’s not an explanation, which can be very personal.
Girl live your life you’re still young. When God blesses you with a bby and marriage then you will know it’s that time. Do you girl and live your wonderful life !!🫶🏻
hey Weylie! If you are thinking about moving to HK, please dont do it. Its expensive, stressful and definetly not as glamorous as you imagined. I live here and I'd kill to live in LA.
That’s so crazy to here. Reminds me of Karen from Kareno move to HK bc she couldn’t bare to live in Cali anymore due to the stress and Asian hate. I hope she’s doing fine there and that things get better for you as well
Been watching your channel for a while and this is the first time writing a comment. There going the saying that if other people have expectations for you, it is their problem. If you try to live up to that expectation, it's your problem. We did not come to this world to fulfill other people's expectations/social norms and etc. We came to this world to be the best of ourselves. Continue to grow and evolve and enjoy life, Weylie! Will always love and support you!
It must be very frustrating to always be asked about such a personal thing in your life, but I am very grateful that you chose to share your thoughts and life with us. I'm sure there are many people like you who have those same thoughts. The pressures of every single person living ONE certain way is crazy. I definitely have had the same thoughts on if I want to bring life into a world that is so dark and scary. Growing up, I always thought I wanted to be a mom and have a family, but that was before I learned about how the world really is. It's truly crazy and scary. However, I also thought about how I am adopted. I was abandoned at a police station in Nanning, China and adopted from mid 40-year-old American parents at 8 months. My two younger sisters are also adopted from other countries in Asia. Like every other human, I've experienced so many good and bad things in the world. But I do feel lucky and thankful to have the life I was given. I can't imagine what my life would be like if my parents had not adopted me. I know there are many different views on adoption, but from my perspective, my family truly feels like my family. I've known nothing else, and I'm so grateful for my life, despite this crazy world. I feel like often times, people go through many struggles with deciding on having kids, trying to have kids, etc. and I often wonder why adoption isn't talked about as often. Maybe the idea of giving a loving life to someone who is alone and needing a loving family - could be an option for people to think about as well ❤ I will always respect you, Weylie! You are so thoughtful and caring. I am always rooting for you and your happiness/fulfillment.
Nothing wrong with not wanting kids or not wanting marriage etc. The reason women need to think about kids if and only if they may want one is that over 30 fertility is decreased and over 35 again it drops massively. Over 30 is classed biologically as an old Mum. Yes many people do have healthy pregnancies and babies but many do not. Getting pregnant, staying pregnant and risks to Mum and baby short and long term are much higher when you are older hence if you want kids don't wait too long.
@@indimist390 Biology is biology I am afraid. Risks to Mum and baby over 30 are higher and over 35 higher again. Yes people have kids bit getting pregnant and staying pregnant is harder and risks higher. They are facts
it's interesting to hear how your thoughts on marriage and kids have evolved. i'm going through family stuff at the moment that makes me hesitant/scared to believe or expect having my own happy family in the future.... kinda nice to hear someone (you) whose views on building own family was affected my family drama
Your relationship/life isn't a community project, it doesn't need to make sense or be approved by anyone else.
I love this, thank you!
Your eggs have an expiry date.
@@AnimeBeefRandoms thank god for egg freezing and options :)
this!!!
100% AGREE WITH THIS COMMENT!
I totally agree with your view on the state of the world being a factor in deciding to whether have children. It is great that you are being aware and taking time to decide. Bringing a person into food scarce and over populated world when current country policies don't support it, finances maybe stretched thin, social media impacts on child development etc. Being able to have children and raise them in the state of the world is a privilege. I wished the norm was 'why do you want to have kid(s)?'
Yes yes yes!
This is so idiotic and childish, and quite frankly "privileged". It's privilege that grants you unlimited birth control. If you think the world you live in today is worse off then when your parents or grandparents procreated, you're kidding yourself. The world is not overpopulated, and "food scarce" (it may be scarce to the foods you like but it's not scarce).
We aren’t food scarce or overpopulated those are just myths by the way, you just have to research it. It’s fine she doesn’t want kids just cuz she doesn’t want them.
LMAO FOOD SCARCE LOL
Your last statement AND question is SOOOO IMPORTANT!
Weylie,
I relate to you so much. I’m 27 and have been with my boyfriend since we were both 14. I never really cared for marriage and kids either. Just wanna travel and be with our fur babies right now! 🫶🏻
Omg we are exactly the same!! I’m also 27 and have been with my bf since 14 too! We’re also not married yet because we are still in school and enjoying life as it is. 🥰
Omg me too my man and I been together almost a decade now never cared for marriage or kids I just want to travel the world and try and do new things. Settle down life not in the cards for me.
Is it strange that we’re all 27 (26 but 27 at the end of this month) and have also been with my boyfriend since 14. Seeing this thread gives me reassurance that I’m not alone and our relationship isn’t “strange” like the people in my life have said urging us towards marriage. We love our life currently and plan for marriage we have no dates planned because we’re just trying to live in the moment.
I'm also 27, I've been with my bf for 6 years. I knew since I was 14 that I don't wanna have children! Over the past years I always had to defend my decision and I was met with "You'll change your opinion, you will see". Now we are looking into "terminal protection" since we just wanna spent time with our dog and enjoy our life to the fullest!
@@looseeemvoo omg that is such a weird coincidence!! I love this space 🥹🫶
I’ve been with my bf for over 10 years and I haven’t reached 30 y/o yet. It’s so exhausting having to explain to people, especially the older Asian parents, why I’m not married, have kids, work this kinda job, or living away from parents. I’m not interested following anyones timeline except my own!!! My parents came here to give me a better life and this is the way I want to live 🤷🏻♀️
I think you're committed to more than you gave yourself credit for at @5:07
Ive been following along with you and journey for about 10 years now or even a little over (ever since you taught how to put on a tampon-- it was a monumental turning point in my life) so you've been like a big sis to me ever since- Ive learned at you age what means to own my own femininity through the ways you've shown up, taught, lead and embraced within yourself. Now I'm rn I feel like I wanna return favor 10 fold and just say
girl you are committed!!
- to your relationship with Wah
- to the animals you nurture
- you are committed to your health,
- to this channel
- your daily routine
- Taking care of yourself, your home
and this just from the outside looking in
I've noticed that also committed to being a friend to people - I mean, you've been friends with some of the same people for how long now? girl you are L O Y A L, dependable, nurturing !!
Not only to friends and to those you're in relationships with (platonic or romantic) but also to and within the relationship you have with yourself to living a genuine and true life. I noticed even, you lead from a place a love. thats a commitment to certain values you have.
and yeah as people, we all have duality, strengths in one areas, challenges in another. All are valid and worthy. I think even if you are/have struggled to commit to certain aspects of life, give yourself the credit you deserve for doing a damn good job at committing in the other areas. Because truly, you're doing a great job even if it doesn't always feel like it
It's important we big each other up and put respect on each others names, but its just as important to big ourselves up & be gentle with ourselves in the process-- something you've taught me. Thank you, Weylie. I am much more gentle and forgiving with myself because of your authentic and self compassionate way of exciting.
I appreciate you Weylie and I am so grateful you exist. You've taught me a lot a lot ❤🔥🌱✨
People need to seriously stop asking these type of questions, this isn’t the 1940’s, nobody has to get married or have kids at certain age. Everyone has a different lifestyle, what works for you doesn’t mean will work for others. Weylie you do you girl, don’t let anybody else tell you otherwise! ♥️♥️♥️
gurrrll! you do you. i didn’t get married until i was 39 & my dogs are my children. just minimize exposure to people who keep asking. its no ones business. i am sorry to hear about Michi. Its hard watching our pets grow old & leaving us.
I'm 31 years old and still single and no kids. I'm still 50/50 if I want to get married and have kids. I just don't want to regret not having any as I get older but at the same time, I'm enjoying life right now. I just don't know if I'll ever think if it's the right time
I recently had a conversation with some girlfriends about freezing my eggs. I'm also not 100% sure what I want to do, but also do not want regrets in the future. If that is a possibility, maybe you can check with your doctor if freezing your eggs could be an option? Good luck to you ❤
I’m 31, married with no kids. I didn’t even realize it was an option to not have kids because of how society pushed the idea. One thing that solidified my decision to not have kids is that I’d rather regret not having kids later on than regret having them. I love my life currently and i have nieces to spoil and cats to love on and cuddle 🥰
Bout to be 30 single no children and lol same pressure for Mexicans. Of being expired like whatever, just let me be 😂
I feel you except I'm 30 and single. Every conversation with my relatives involves asking me "do you have boyfriend? It's time to get married and have children." This traditional Chinese thinking used to really trigger me that I would argue back. Now I realized that their opinion doesn't matter and I don't need to engage, so I just say OK and keep repeating OK until they change the topic. I acknowledge I hear their thoughts (honestly I think they just want to feel like heir thoughts have value) but I don't care about what they think and they can't put a gun to my head to make me get married and have children. So yeah do you, live your life as you want girl. You 100% deserve it!!!
Love this. Whatever you think is best for you
I feelssss you! I think most of the time it's harmless, but they just could not stop asking that question!
always love hearing your progressing thoughts about marriage & children. i’m in the same boat and it’s nice & helpful to hear someone who feels the same way about these topics
To clarify before I comment on this topic, Weylie, I am an older woman, happily married with children. However, I cannot believe that anyone would have the audacity to ask another person , male or female, whether or not they are going to get married/have children, even if it is disguised as ‘what are your thoughts on marriage/having children.’ It is none of their business, ever! Live your life according to your own compass, Weylie. Simply love your blogs!
Been with my bf for 15 years now. For most years I was helping my family out and finishing college, I’m 29 now as well and we are both now talking about marriage and babies now that we graduated from college, and my dad is getting the medical attention he needs.
Girl you do you !!! Marriage ain't everything! You are happy that's the most important thing !
I haven’t been really been keeping up with your vlogs for a while cuz of life and everything but I’ve always adored Michi and always felt like she is the best sweetest dog I’ve ever seen in my life and hearing about her illness is so heartbreaking. I really hope she gets better ❤️
I don't know why people have to ask influencers if they ever want to get married or have kids. I'll admit, I do get curious but I keep that to myself because whatever an influencer I like does with their life, it's none of my business.
Currently 28, been with my partner for 7 years. I don’t really see kids in our future marriage anytime soon. My family keeps giving me talk about how stressed they are for new but meanwhile I’m happy and thriving living my life how *I* choose to. ☺️
I can completely connect with you on the children subject. I am 35 and still don’t want children and neither does my husband. My fur babies will forever be my children🐾🫶🏽
I couldn’t agree with you more about marriage and kids…also I LOVED ‘Extraordinary Attorney Woo’ it’s such a feel good show!
I LOVED 😍 that show too!!! It had me bawling each episode!
Not only asian, as an african woman my family also put pressure on me to get married otherwise « my man would marry someone else ».
It sucks that our peers don’t see the vision but we must continue to do what makes us happy.
Rooting for you Weylie ❤️
I’m a 30 year old asian woman who isn’t married and doesn’t have children. I totally understand not feeling ready especially with the state of the world. Getting married and having children is a huge commitment and it doesn’t matter how long you have been with Wah. You are not on anyone else’s timeline. The thought of having a child and also caring for all your pets is just so overwhelming to think about because each life deserves so much time and care and you seem like the type who wants to put 100% into every single baby!!! It’s STILL okay to do your own thing and it’s not at all toxic to be living how you want to as long as you aren’t hurting anyone. 🤗
I love your honesty with the marriage and kids topic. I have 2 kids and I had my first at 30. I’m 34 now and it’s true you’re never truly ready, you just get ready haha. I think if I was in the now with no kids I wouldn’t have kids either and it’s only cause of this crazy world. There is so much crime, gun violence, inflation. I think about their future all the time and it scares the heck out of me. Just do whatever is right in your heart. Nobody should be shaming you for the way you want to live your life.
I used to want that life.. married with kids.. but the limitations brought about by my father leaving, having no money for school, growing up in a third world, just migrating to a first world in my 30s… it’s like I’m just starting to experience how life can be all over again and i cannot imagine bringing a child into this world only to not give them a beautiful, comfortable life because I do not want them to have to go through what I did… and should i not be able to reach any of my goals because of a child (focus, priorities, finances), and then project my resentment or frustrations on to them will be unfair for them.
I relate to this so much. I've expressed to my family that I'm not really on the child path in my life, and my mom dismissed what I said and quote, "Oh you just haven't met the right man"
Listen, live your life the best way that fits you and I adore how you stand up for yourself on what you want. Also Attorney Woo is one of the best K Dramas I've ever watched!
I thing we have to remember is 1, when people ask these questions they are looking out for you. 2, its a convo starter, and 3, its old fashioned mind thinking BUT we have to remember we dont all think the same so we cant not get offended because sometimes we do or ask the same thing without thinking really.
I realize as i am 30 no one is like me i cant be picky when it comes to people's way of thinking or life. I have to understand thats how they are and i cant change that. I use to judge small things about people but i realize i too am being judged for being me. So i do my thing and i remind myself to NOT get offended when being asked a question. No ones perfect 👌 you live your life as you want and dont mind others opinions.
This is so relate!!! The past weekend we just celebrated our 7 years of dating anniversary. We are 24/25, high school sweethearts. We got those kind of questions a lot and up to the point we don’t even wanna explain that we just want to follow our time zone and finish what we considered as priorities first. can’t agree more with your thoughts!!
Hi Weylie!! I swear your videos are so timely and just the things I needed to hear :) the late 20s has been such a confusing and uncertain stage of life for me, it’s been so reassuring and comforting to hear your perspective on many similar things I’ve also started to wonder about. Appreciate you sm and keep being you 💕
Here to let you know you’re not alone and I read your message at the right time too.. Feeling reassured that others are on the same boat as me during this time of my life 🤍 wishing you clarity and all the best on your journey
Weylieeeeee I used to watch you 10 years ago and I just thought of you the other day and rediscovered you!! So glad to see you doing well. You look fabulous 💓💓💓
Weylie I’m so proud of you and I admire your perspective on so much that’s hard to put into words as it is. I started watching you waaaaay back to them “ remember to lock your door” days w a close family member, who unfortunately passed in 2017. Seeing a snippet of your life reminds me how fast time flies, and really, how precious life is. Even though we are living in uncertain times, I admire your ability to pour your soul into what you have now. You’re strong, and Asia will be beautiful!!
Ima really try to manifest meeting you before you leave lol🤞🏽
I instantly cried when you cried. Thank you for being such a positive light even when you are going through a lot. Just remember to take time to yourself when you need to. Much love.
tysm for this very relatable conversation about marriage and having children 😭 me and my bf have been together since 2011 (anniversary twins!) (I'm 25 he's 27 yes we were babies when we got together haha high school sweethearts) and every time we get hit with the "when are y'all getting married?" or even "are y'all getting married?" it just rubs me the wrong way every time and it's so frustrating! but I'm also slowly learning to let go and not care about these questions or remarks, and accept that it's not my responsibility to teach people that my relationship is none of their business ❤️
I absolutely agree with you on marriage/children. I’m 34 and have a son with my boyfriend of almost 19 years. No matter how much everyone wants us to get married, it’s literally not up to them. We’re happy the way things are. You would think they’d be happy as long as we are. Everyone has to prioritize they’re life based off their wants/needs, no one else’s.
While I know the question about marriage and kids can seem annoying, I love each time you talk about it because I start feeling like my thoughts change on the topic too. In my hispanic household, the woman is supposed to cook and clean and bare children and while the man works, I have also fought this way of living. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years and I’m 23 and i’ve had that “you’re expiring” talk as well. There is a lot of pressure from his side of the family since he has cousins who are younger or the same age as of having children. Always do what’s best for you, because at the end of the day marriage and children is a HUGE responsibility that only YOU know how much you can handle.
Hey Weylie,I just want to say that your videos/vlogs always make me feel better. When I come home from work tired and disscouraged or just feel not good,your videos always make me feel better and comfortable! Hugs from Germany! ❤️
Sending you a hug back! ❤
Idk why people always say the phrase “marriage and children” as if both have to exist if you have the former. I’m married, been so for 6.5 years now, and children are not part of it. They never will be. Marriage doesn’t HAVE to bring children. It’s just a piece of paper that gives you better legal and financial benefits with your partner. (Not saying you have to get married though. Lots of people are perfectly happy without tying the knot.) Also, if anyone ever asks us when we’re going to start a family, my answer is: “We became a family the day we got married. Not having kids doesn’t make us any less of a family.” We and our four cats are perfectly happy as we are.
It's not problematic. I hate living up to other's expectations. I totally understand your wanting to move for your safety. It's so sad what is happening here in the US.
I’m 29 and I’m in similar space in terms of how I feel about marriage/kids. I just want to fully enjoy my life with my 2 doggies before fully dedicating myself to that commitment.
It’s really nice to see someone in a similar space. Love this content Weylie!
Weylie, you always have helped me through so many confusing times in my life and I appreciate your content and voice so much~ I am a dog mom and dedicate a lot of my life to them so I appreciate the love and care that you show your fur babies
I am 29 and I dont want to be a mom, I realized I would probably be a great mom but it is so much work. I also think about the school systems being defunded and the school shootings, having kids in america is another level of concern I think
I relate so hard to the not being married by 30 stigma. I just turned 27 and my mom has already brought this up a couple of times and I get so stressed out and pressured by it. My mom is also the stubborn type. I am nowhere near ready and I mainly want to focus on my career for now.
Girl, I just realized that I have been watching your channel for so long. Thanks for being a great influence as we grow older :)
Haven’t been here in awhile and came to see how you’re doing. Just want to say that I think your relationship and the life you’ve built for yourself are beautiful. Other people want things for us that they want for themselves, because they can’t imagine being happy without them. It’s okay if happiness looks different for us 💗 Love that you stay true to yourself and to your heart, and want to let you know I have always admired you.
i know for a fact if you were to even meet that special someone, and he actually proposed you would say yes. wah is s good guy, but maybe he is holding you back on finding the love of your life. 10 years is a loong time. in spanish we call it “costumbre”.
Huh?? It’s perfectly normal to not want to get married right now, it doesn’t matter who the guy is. It’s a personal preference, and it seems that they’re happy enjoying life together right now.
@@ooooo3624 i never said it wasn’t normal. 10 years is a whole decade. they’re just used to each other’s company at this point.
Not saying you need to get married, but marriage does give you certain rights (for example, if your husband were to go into a coma, you would have first right to make medical decisions for him). A wedding isn’t necessary, but I do think if you are sure about your significant other, being married (on paper) offers very important benefits that many don’t realize until they end up in a sticky situation.
Weylie, I love your response. I also agree, just welcome to the idea. Thank you for always being honest. We love you so much!
I totally support your decision in doing what makes you happy and doing what's best for your relaitonship. Nobody has the right to pressure you into doing what they think you should do because no one can live your life for you.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years. We love our furbabies and that’s all we really want at this moment.
My dog also had a tumor and was given 6 months to only live. We spent so much on his surgery and am starting him on chemotherapy. He’s getting care from the best facility, UC Davis, but there’s only so much we can do.
Having senior dogs is really difficult and heartbreaking. I hate that it’s apart of life, but I really hope Michi will be okay. You guys are such great dog parents. Spend as much time as you can with your furbabies. 💗
Good luck with everything Weylie, whatever you decide will be ok, trust yourself and be as happy as you can 💛 you and Wah would be amazing parents and would have the cutest babies ever but don’t ever feel pressured to do anything. Been watching you since I was in 6th grade and I’m so proud to see how much you’ve grown and succeeded in!
Very much can relate to this! I'm 30 now and I've been married for 8 years, and we don't have children and we are not sure if we will have either. We have decided to leave it for now and perhaps chat about it again in a few years. Times have changed sooo much and we don't need to have 2.5 kids by 25 anymore LOL. So refreshing to not feel alone in this though! xx
It's crazy to see how time flies by so quickly. I remember I was like in elementary or 6th grade when you taught me how to use a tampon! HAHA. And now I'm graduating college watching you talk about the possibility of motherhood. You have always been like an older sister to us and listening to you talk again has brought so much nostalgia. I hope that you continue to do what makes you happy!
Thank you for sharing Weylie. We support you 200% and your words mean a lot to me as a female Asian American who is yet to be married. I want to have a family and at least 1 child one day, but for me personally, I need to be able to be stable enough in my life (e.g. emotionally, financially), so that I can give my future family a good quality of life.
I’m 29 this year and about to give birth to my 2nd child in a few weeks. I still don’t think I’ll ever be truly ready. 😂 Nobody really is tbh. How does one person be ready for the unknown? If I didn’t have kids rn, I probably still wouldn’t be ready either. It’s a huge process and it really helps when other parts of ur life feels more settled. Also, u never have to explain the dynamics of ur relationship to anyone. ❤️
I literally loved your response on the marriage/kids questions. At the end of the day someones opinion and choice on that should be theres and not pushed onto others around them. I also think its a lot of maturity to sit down and think about the pros and cons of having children and not just thinking "oh Im a women and im this age so I should just go ahead and do it."
P. S. Please don't forget about your American followers when you move to Asia 😭
getting a first glimpse of you talking about michi getting older made me emotional 🥺🤍 can't believe it's been over 10 years of me watching you all grow up together!!
I really agree that being an Asian we kinda have this "rule" created by however that we should settle down before 30. I even have this thought in mind before that I should be married once I turn 25 and now I'm 26 and still consider myself a child (childish?? haha) and can't imagine raising my own kids haha. I'm in a relationship for 5 yrs now, and currently hearing the "when are you going to have kids/ when are you getting married?". I still want to enjoy life and it should not be bounded by age.
Weylie you are my favorite UA-camr! 😊 I've also been in a long relationship, for 10 years to my highschool sweetheart, and we are engaged but we are sooo not ready to get married or have kids lol so I feel you girl, this world is so bad nowadays that it is scary to raise a child. But also, we don't wan to be rushed either. But I TOTALLY agree with you, no rush into anything unless you are happy 😁👍❤️
feeling so much for you when it comes to michi and her health. sending so much love and light to you all
I love your vlogs like this! it feels very personal :) Thank you for always being so open and vulnerable
Samee
I think the best thing we can do is create the family space that we wanted with our children- like I grew up in a toxic family environment - my goal is to create the best loving family. The best way we can help is having kids and creating better and kinder human beings, creating a better generation for the future. The kind of world we want for our species.
If marriage is a thing you want it’s weird to see someone be in relationship for years not be married yet it’s telling about the people and relationship involved. That said i don’t think marriage is for everyone and not everyone wants it and that’s ok !!! Like that’s an option. But a man that stays with a woman for ten years with no marriage but does want marriage itself is definitely red flag
It's weird because if you listened closely to the video she states their relationship may not look like the "traditional" relationship everybody expects. Tell me, what is it telling about a person in the relationship? And how is it a red flag? Because there are many cultures and even people today who been together decades before they decide to get married or end up not doing so due to timelines 🤷🏽♀️ this is exactly why I get Weylie is so tired of bringing up the marriage and children topic because it puts so much pressure from society and it becomes redundant. At the end of the day, it's their relationship not yours. People can change their views on marriage/children over time as she said per video as she's getting older she's becoming more open and tbh, with marriage and children comes with great deal of responsibility. Yes, It's not for everybody! So if she changes her mind again later down the line, don't be so surprised. Marriage is not their main priority right now I don't get how hard is that to understand.
EXACTLY
I'm 29, and while I'm married, I'm not sure I want to have kids. My husband feels the same way. With the world as crazy as it is and me still processing generational trauma, I don't feel confident that I could give a child the life they deserve. And, also, I'm finally starting to take care of myself, and I don't think I could continue to do that in the same way if I had kids. Once you have kids, they are (rightfully) the priority.
@5:49 lol the 'bong' interjection is so cute
OH MY GOSH. On the crazy stuff going on in the world, I feel that about having kids in the future and especially right now!!! I thought I was weird for thinking like that. THANK YOU FOR BEING SO OPEN ABOUT THIS!
FRFR
Does wah want kids and marriage?
not with her
I have to say, you’re so mature of how you handle people asking you these questions over & over again. Especially the ones that say (to piggy back what you said), “being Asian, you should be married & have children by now.”
It sucks that people have to act that way & they think they have control of what you do 😣
Even though we’re not the same race, I went through the same thing. Family questioned when we’ll get engaged. Once we decided to do so, then we were asked about the wedding date & kids. It’s like y’all need to chill! 🤣 we’re just enjoying each stage that was a huge decision for us.
That typewriter keyboard looks so pretty.
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Just came back to your channel after about 4 years or so and it makes me so happy to see you and the pups and knowing that you and Wah are still together. You have always been a part of my life in some way and it still feels so comfortable to see your vlogs. I wish you all the best and thank you for being here. 🧡
Extraordinary Ordinary Attorney Woo is an amazing drama!! It made me laugh and cry - such a beautiful storyline with phenomenal acting.
The topic of marriage and kids is so relatable. I’m 28 and single. Anytime I attend a family gathering, the hot topic is “when are you getting married” and it’s just so frustrating because in their mentality, “something is wrong with me” if I’m not following tradition and starting a family by my late 20’s. I don’t know how to tolerate these comments any longer. It also makes me think something is wrong with me even though I know there isn’t
I am in the same boat about marriage and children with you. It’s not a priority for me, and it never was. I’m open to it if it presents itself to me but I am so content with my life as it is. :)
hi weylie ive watched you since i was in middle school & im abt to finish college. i think of you & look up to you & wahs relationship. i commend you guys for being open to share your lives with us & i love to hear the updates on you guys and the strong connection you guys still hav. It’s inspirational ily
Generational trauma is a legit good reason not to want to bring any kids in the world
THIS!!!!
Agree
Happy anniversary weylie! Hope you get into a relationship that serves you because you deserve it.
P.S. Please tell Wah to stop filming his face so close while eating. No one wants to see him (and his mouth) that close. Thank you.
Hi Weylie! I rediscovered your channel recently and was binge watching all of your videos and this one really resonated with me for where I am in life right now. Thank you so much for posting it! :)
I just started and JUST FINISHED Extraordinary Attorney Woo too! LOVED IT SOOOOOOO MUCH!!! I can’t wait for season 2. And Weylie, you don’t need our reassurance but as your followers who have grown up with you as a sistah, we love you for you and seeing you live the life you want that’ll make you the most happy and fulfilled is all we want. You are genuine and human. You need not be anyone’s role model but you inspire me to live my life simply by learning and growing to be a better version of me through whatever phase life puts me in. So thank you.
Wah is using her as a placeholder and shes tryna normalize it. Ever since she told us her doctor thought she had an std tht wah could of given her yrs ago plus his supposed work trips i dont trust him. The fact tht if not pushed wah will not even propose is ridiculous. And it sucks cause i really love weylie i been around since the tampon video days. We all been there sis.
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Weylie I completely agree with you. I am not sure if I want to bring a child into this world until I believe that I can handle everything that comes with it well. Whatever feels right for you! The right time will come.
Thanks for sharing and being genuine. This message came in the right moment of how I’m currently feeling.
Glad to see you still working with Neiwai! I bought the barely there zero bra from them originally when you were promoting with them and I LOVE IT SO MUCH!!! And I’m a 32DDD. I was hesitant seeing a lot of thinner influencers promote them, but the sizing worked out great for me. Thanks so much for always putting thought and care into what you recommend to us
thank you for sharing and being vulnerable 🤍 just made my first neiwai purchase !! 🥹 love your videos, they bring me so much joy 🌿
agree with the marriage/kids part. it's so personal and anytime you deviate slightly from social expectations (not being married by a certain age, not being baby crazy) people feel threatened or something and want to persuade that your choice is wrong (like when you say you're vegetarian and they'll ask you WHY, and point all the "good" things you are missing out), there are certainly tons of valid reasons NOT to have children but you certainly don't have to explain yourself.
I‘m curious about your plans on asia… i‘ll pop a few questions in here but obviously feel free to answer as many or little as you want! 🥰
- why do you want to move to asia and what are your plans with the new house you just moved in etc
- did you already choose where you would want to move and why there
- how does it feel knowing to leave your friends and families
- what about navi and sesame
I guess that‘s it 🙊 hope you don’t feel bombarded now 🙊
Just clicked in but I saw a post recently: “Pets are the new kids and
Plants are the new pets”
Lmaoooo the way I looked over at my problematic bougainvillea and my cat
I've been watching you for so long & I still get butterflies every time you upload a new video! 🥲😍🦋❤
Ooo seeing Michi getting old breaks my heart ❤️
Weylie, I related to this so much! I feel like you have always been the big sister I’ve never had through the years. I realized that we have many likes/hobbies in common from dogs to gardening. I got so hyped when I saw you climb. I’ve been climbing for a year now and feel like I unlocked another level of love for you 😂 as for the keyboard…. Def the same toxic trait I have. You and Wah are my favorite couple and I’m not sure why people get upset over the marriage and kid thing lol. At the end of the day, you still choose each other and can make your own best judgment. Thank you for always being you.
Aww watching you get all sad because of michi!! You are a great dog mum and you do you. I think it's awesome to know what you want! Tricky when you can't figure out what's right for you. But you have so and you can or may not change whenever works for you
If he wanted to he would.
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I admire you for being so thoughtful about marriage and children. Also for taking good care of your aging pets and being there for them. My husband and I have been together for 11 years and married for 6 of those years. We get a ton of questions about having kids. My response the past few years is “we’re happy without kids” because how can people argue about your happiness right? Wrong lol. People will argue and try to persuade you regardless. I still give this answer though because it’s not an explanation, which can be very personal.
Girl live your life you’re still young. When God blesses you with a bby and marriage then you will know it’s that time. Do you girl and live your wonderful life !!🫶🏻
I'm the same age and no children yet either. so glad to hear your input!
You truly are a joy Weylie and your sweet family is so fun to watch! Have a fun labor day weekend!! 🌈🌞💜💙💚💛🧡❤🥳
hey Weylie! If you are thinking about moving to HK, please dont do it. Its expensive, stressful and definetly not as glamorous as you imagined. I live here and I'd kill to live in LA.
That’s so crazy to here. Reminds me of Karen from Kareno move to HK bc she couldn’t bare to live in Cali anymore due to the stress and Asian hate. I hope she’s doing fine there and that things get better for you as well
always love your videos, editing and music in your videos. Its always a nice treat when you upload a new video.
Been watching your channel for a while and this is the first time writing a comment. There going the saying that if other people have expectations for you, it is their problem. If you try to live up to that expectation, it's your problem. We did not come to this world to fulfill other people's expectations/social norms and etc. We came to this world to be the best of ourselves. Continue to grow and evolve and enjoy life, Weylie! Will always love and support you!
Thank you for this comment! It means so much to me!
It must be very frustrating to always be asked about such a personal thing in your life, but I am very grateful that you chose to share your thoughts and life with us. I'm sure there are many people like you who have those same thoughts. The pressures of every single person living ONE certain way is crazy.
I definitely have had the same thoughts on if I want to bring life into a world that is so dark and scary. Growing up, I always thought I wanted to be a mom and have a family, but that was before I learned about how the world really is. It's truly crazy and scary.
However, I also thought about how I am adopted. I was abandoned at a police station in Nanning, China and adopted from mid 40-year-old American parents at 8 months. My two younger sisters are also adopted from other countries in Asia. Like every other human, I've experienced so many good and bad things in the world. But I do feel lucky and thankful to have the life I was given.
I can't imagine what my life would be like if my parents had not adopted me. I know there are many different views on adoption, but from my perspective, my family truly feels like my family. I've known nothing else, and I'm so grateful for my life, despite this crazy world. I feel like often times, people go through many struggles with deciding on having kids, trying to have kids, etc. and I often wonder why adoption isn't talked about as often. Maybe the idea of giving a loving life to someone who is alone and needing a loving family - could be an option for people to think about as well ❤
I will always respect you, Weylie! You are so thoughtful and caring. I am always rooting for you and your happiness/fulfillment.
Nothing wrong with not wanting kids or not wanting marriage etc. The reason women need to think about kids if and only if they may want one is that over 30 fertility is decreased and over 35 again it drops massively. Over 30 is classed biologically as an old Mum. Yes many people do have healthy pregnancies and babies but many do not. Getting pregnant, staying pregnant and risks to Mum and baby short and long term are much higher when you are older hence if you want kids don't wait too long.
Oh give me a break. Most people have kids over 30 nowadays
@@indimist390 Biology is biology I am afraid. Risks to Mum and baby over 30 are higher and over 35 higher again. Yes people have kids bit getting pregnant and staying pregnant is harder and risks higher. They are facts
I really appreciate how honest and open you are,thank you so much for sharing,🥰
All I’m gonna say is take your time and I completely agree and feel you. It’s different times now, but I hear you love💕
it's interesting to hear how your thoughts on marriage and kids have evolved.
i'm going through family stuff at the moment that makes me hesitant/scared to believe or expect having my own happy family in the future....
kinda nice to hear someone (you) whose views on building own family was affected my family drama