Healing After a Traumatic Event - Esther Perel & Julia Samuel
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- Опубліковано 11 гру 2018
- In the wake of a traumatic event, what is important for us to understand about grief and healing?
I spoke with Julia Samuel, author of Grief Works: Stories of Life, Death, and Surviving about the best way to support those who are in pain.
This clip is a part of a longer conversation with Julia Samuel for Sessions, my online community for therapists, clinicians, and coaches. Each month on Sessions, we tackle an important, challenging issue with recognized experts in the field.
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Oh my goodness, these women have the most gorgeous voices. I just want them to read me a book.
JoJo buy her book on audible, she reads it to you. She also has free episodic books there as well
@@nonsoville I totally did : )
Yes amazing
Beautifully said. I loved her in The Sound of Music.
The most traumatic experience that has ever happened to me was being in a sexless and emotionally abusive marriage for 7 years. I did all I could but he would never change. Eventually I had to go as my own heart was crushed. During the divorce I discovered that he was dressing up like a female prostitute/taking drugs and doing other things. His reasoning was that he created a woman from himself for himself who would never leave him or answer back etc
There was some strange logic due to his childhood that he would never address…as I said I did all I could to help him even though the divorce I hoped for reconciliation and to find out what was really happening in his heart.
Now 6 years later I’m marrying a beautiful man in May who I feel I’ve known all of my life and we are so connected on every level and we are so open and honest with each other it’s such a blessing.
Trauma can help you to grow and change your perspective and help you to appreciate the beauty that comes later.
Great video. Thank you x
I don't understand why you don't have more subscribers. Your amazing. You have a really calming relaxing voice.
I could listen to them all day. I have been reading up on Gurdjieff for a couple of years now, he spoke about a lot of things, but one thing he focused on was the expression of negative emotion...and that most people always express negative emotions and he saw it as a type of weakness -- you can still express the emotion but it doesn't mean you'll never be angry again -- as to what he said about crying, I'm unsure. So he said not to supress the feelings, but just acknowledge them and observe them. We all know someone who constantly bitches and moans about things and how it zaps our energy; people underestimate the power their energy can have on others.
Love you Esther!!!
Great material, as always! Thank you .... 😎
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I'd like to hear your thoughts on erection/lubrication guilt during and after rape as a child or adult and how it affects the psychosomatic response when having consensual sex later in life.
Did you ever get answers? I have never been in such a situation and I cannot imagine how difficult it must be to deal with the conflicting emotions and physical response but I'd like to understand.
There's so much going on....we'll let me introduce you to 2020!
Shortly before my husband of 20 yrs died of brain cancer I discovered he was conversing with a woman on his phone. She called I answered. I told her please i love my husband and he’s dying please dont call. He was angry at me . I never knew anything was going on before that. Our lives were happy together. But he was a sexual and had said God said it was for procreation. Every night i would cry myself to sleep for seven yrs. now he’s gone
Arline Robertson I’m so sorry. I can imagine the loss and grief of the relationship you thought you had compounds the loss and grief you feel over his death. Sometimes the best way to honor someone you love is to come to terms with they ways in which they were flawed and appreciate the gifts they brought into your life. Life is hard in so many unexpected ways. Gratitude for the happiness is the only way to get through.
I’m sorry hope you are doing well
I’m so sorry and I hope that you have found some healing and growth from such a traumatic time.
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You talk alot about infidelity and how to approach healing process from both sides. But what if the betrayed partner has become violent, agresive and abusive, reliving over and over the trauma and making it only about himself, not being aware of the consequences of his own actions or the betrayal and trauma he caused by violating the space of the partner who commited betrayal? This theme is highly unspoken and I'm hoping that you would give us some input on where is the limit and how much does a person has to invest in order to save the relationship but not at the cost of destroying oneself and just feeding the rage and the destruction of the betrayed.
Venus Node Venus Node they have PTSD and need therapy and you may benefit from therapy as well. PTSD is like an injury to the brain from an intense experience that was so overwhelming and horrific that your brain couldn’t process it. that causes all sorts of changes that you cannot really control, and it’s really best to get into treatment as soon as possible rather than waiting for some line to be crossed.
you’re definitely overextending yourself trying to help him, and it’s clearly wearing you down and draining your empathy. so this is the point where you take a step back. you cannot love the PTSD away. you’ll get sick of trying and if he doesn’t pick up on your obvious resentment yet, he definitely will soon.
then, that will make his mental state even worse bc it will feel like confirmation for his distrust/paranoia/hyper-vigilance. this problem is not the kind you’ll solve from youtube videos, unfortunately.
@@lithiumkid This makes sooo much sense to me right now as i am walking away from the love of my life who is suffering from PTSD.
You just cannot love PTSD away. 💔
You sound Like youre victim blaming. I wouldnt accept your apology. Very egoistical to betray and still think like that. That person is never loved by you. Theater.